Memory and Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD): How They Impact Each Other?
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- Опубліковано 29 вер 2024
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Memory is influenced by emotional content. Research suggests that emotional information interferes more strongly with information processing and learning in individuals with BPD than in non-BPD individuals.
Memory and negative info
In general, individuals with BPD do not seem to differ from those without BPD in their ability to memorize emotional information, but they do tend to have specific difficulties forgetting negative information. (BPD proneness to negative info and negatively skewed info - downward spirals).
Also, BPD patients seem to recall autobiographical, particularly negative events with stronger arousal than individuals without BPD. Generally speaking, a depressive mood seems to both deteriorate and negatively bias information processing and memories, and there is evidence that dissociative symptoms impair learning and memory independently of the type, regards if it’s good, bad, happy, sad, frightening, etc.
Recalling memories
Individuals with BPD have difficulties recalling specific autobiographical memories. These difficulties are related to their tendency to dissociate and may help them to avoid episodic information that would evoke a negative emotional response.
What can you do about it?
Remember the tendency to skew negatively and push back on those tendencies. Have positive pictures, and make happy slideshows on your phone to help you remember positive information. Is this magically going to flip your mood from negative to positive or improve your memory, no, but it will significantly increase the probability you’re happier and can utilize a less skewed frame of reference, which may increase your ability to encode new information easier and more accurately.
Daniel J. Fox, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist in Texas, international speaker, and a multi-award-winning author. He has been specializing in the treatment and assessment of individuals with personality disorders for over 20 years in the state and federal prison system, universities, and in private practice. His specialty areas include personality disorders, ethics, burnout prevention, and emotional intelligence.
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Wow I never knew my bad memory was due to bpd. My whole life feels like a blur, and I can’t even remember what I did last week much less yesterday
Me too!
Me too!
My husband too 😢
Same here!
It's the same for me. It's so frustrating... I have not been diagnosed with BPD, but I have the same memory problems as what you said.
A few things to say:
-I forgot the most hurting comment my partner told me. Like, it was so painful that my mind decided to delete it.
-I have an excellent memory and can recall an extraordinary amount of things. My memory has always being very good since I'm an infant.
-Years ago I started what I call a happy journal, only writting the happy things of everyday along with the gratitud and after a while it works wonders. Actually keeping a journal and writing bad stuff just makes it worst.
-I would like to have a session with you Dr Daniel
A girl I know is stuck with a narcissist. I worry she may only convince herself she has happy memories with him and forgets the mean and manipulative stuff he does with her
A happy journal sounds wonderful!
Omg I can't remember my past at all. When I look back it's like one big pile of garbage. I remember some specific things Things here and there. But I can't tell you much, especially during these past years.
Memory has been poor since 9. At 60 when I search for something, say a flashlight, it hides from me. It appears the moment I stop looking. It can be RIGHT in front of me the entire time. My mind blocks out things I seek. It very disturbing. Is this connected to my cluster B mind party?
Wow sounds like I'm effed
I feel like the trauma experienced in 8 years of a relationship with a partner who was unsympathetic, (spiteful and even vicious while I was melting down) has affected my memory. I used to have great memory recall. It's a shadow of what it used to be.
I think the same (had really similiar situation, also 8 years)
you have BPD and you are attributing your memory problems to your partner's behavior while you were melting down?
@proactivex no. I'm attributing the trauma to my ex partners behaviour. I was undiagnosed for the majority of the relationship. He would call me a stupid crazy bitch when I was hiding in my room with the door closed begging him to leave me alone.
This trauma has affected my memory.
It quite likely has affected your memory. Trauma impacts the brain’s ability to encode and retain memory, both while experiencing the trauma and after when people are still affected by the trauma. I have PTSD from military service, and it has definitely affected my memory. But something I have both heard, and I’m now starting to experience myself, is that working through the trauma with therapist who specializes in trauma can help improve a persons memory. There are chunks of my children’s lives that are just a blur… And it breaks my heart, but now that I am starting to heal I’m starting to remember little things.
That is the same thing for me. My narcissistic husband really hurt my memory.
I have bpd, cptsd alongside autism and adhd. I have as close to a photographic memory as someone can have. I remember every conversation I've ever had since the age of 6
I can see how that would be both absolutely amazing (from an artist standpoint,) and also...terrible. But! Even negative things can be viewed in a different way. I hope you love and accept yourself. 😌
For Real?
@@vinnytnecniv yup
Wow, you are the first person. I have come across that has the same diagnoses as me.
Yes, this is my story. My memory has gotten better, but remembering my past is very difficult. Going forward though, I am trying to stay present so I will have more positive memories that are accessible to me. Thank you for the Great Video and explanation.
Well before I started to explore my mental health and BPD traits, I noticed my life had always been very episodic based around negative experiences. Whenever a negative experience would throw me into a new episode of my life, I found myself actively suppressing most memories from the previous periods of my life due to negative associations, even if they are wholly unrelated.
Thank you for this video! I spoke with my psychologist about having bad memory and he was actually surprised because I’m young. I kinda concluded it’s because I dissociate a lot and felt like my brain makes me forget things to prevent triggers
And YES the negative memories and skewing towards the negative. I’m always thinking others don’t like me or are experiencing some negative emotions when actually it’s neutral
I’ve noticed after a breakdown that I just don’t form memories. I don’t have a past I’m just here now. But not in the zen sense 😅
😂😂
Hi Dr Fox. I hope you read this. I could really use a "like" aknowledgement in support. I had a traumatic brain injury as an infant. It's been argued that my learning/focus/memory problems are from that or from my psychological issues. Anyway, I ordered your workbook long ago (and eventually Ill order your complex BPD one) but I had a real problem with the stigma of BPD and my believing that labels hurt people. However, it's come to my personal awareness that with or without labels, I've suffered in life and am. I'm okay sometimes but I'm fooling myself if I say I'm really wholly okay just because I don't want a label. So, I'm going to use your workbook now. I am so glad that there is a supportive and understanding person like you out there that's on our side. And that you aim to stomp out stigma. There are some nightmarish people out there, and certainly they're deserving of empathy and help. But we are not all bad people. I speak for myself that I'm someone who endured deeply unfair experiences and a position in life that have taken alot of strength to live with. Anyway, I had a bad couple days. The reason why is because I have been stuck enough where I did the unthinkable and applied to a local therapy. Well, their office initially said the therapist was accepting new clients but when I gave them my back story. They then sent me a message that they were no longer taking anyone. (Mind you, I have limited therapy access because I'm on state insurance.) They then asked if I'd like to see this other person. I didn't like how I felt already about their responses, but I decided to be open. Well! After filling out all of their forms including a very personal and detailed questionnaire that explored my issues and life long history. Which left me feeling entirely vulnerable, even though I am an open person. Because I don't know these people but now they know everything horrible and personal about my past. Well guess what? When it was time for our intake appointment, the therapist didn't respond or send me a link. I then send the manager an email letting them know. And they said they'd find out what was going on. Only for me to not at all hear back from them again. Not only did I not sleep that night from anxiety meeting with them....but after they set me up and left me hanging...I spent two days frozen in anxiety.... checking over and over again my emails to see if they responded. Well, I finally let it go somewhat but it's still imprinted on my mind. And, impulsively I want to check my emails again. Even though....I should have known better perhaps. I mean, I have too many traumatic experiences and negative associations with the mental health system. So! I'm done. I'm going to go it alone. I don't need that. I have your workbook, and I ordered an additional book titled Anxiety Rx, by an MD with great empathy as well. On top of this, I started yoga. Now, I have literally no family and only one friend...but it's a bit of a codependent relationship. And, I quit my last three jobs because I couldn't handle being condescended to by my supervisor... however, so far, it was great to go to yoga where the focus was positive and active. It felt like a place of belonging and a form of connection. More so because it turns your sense of belonging inward into yourself. And now I must look for a job again and put together a structure around my other goals I've avoided. The other thing too is that the other day I was triggered because I got a care2petition notice about this guy in my state that was let free after horrifically abusing a couple animals and then torturing and killing a cat. (Let free) Well! One of my step fathers abused and then eventually killed my cat. She and I had no justice for it!!!!!!! And more.... so I went on a trip of sharing about this guy and this petition all over the internet! Thinking I was doing a good thing. Then when my friend could care less about it...I extended my upset to Peta animal abuse posts. Then this morning I impulsively wanted to know about the latest mass shooting. (And it certainly is getting scary with that.) But then....I thought about it once and for all.... and I realized that while it's good to sign petitions and it's good to care. For someone like me, who isn't well....I can't let myself run with that. I have got to limit that stuff because of the way I am. It's not good for me, so why do it? I used to think...well, I'm passionate and that makes me someone who stands up for what isn't right. But now I'm realizing that I need to heal what's not right within myself. I need to prioritize healing my life long suffering. Thanks.
Is there hope to heal from Bpd?
My mother is a fucking psycho and my father condones it.
I have BPD and my mother literally believes anything that I say never happened.
I could tell her that she threw knives, heavy books, scissors at me as a child in one of her episodes... and she has the nerve to always say... that never happened to you that happened to me, or she'll flat out say it's not true it never happened.
She called me names, left me places, hit me, fought with everyone,
She even always told me it was my fault she had a scar on her stomach from a C-section cuz I was upside-down and she almsot died everytime she was in a rage.... when i bring that up now in my 30s... she is alarmed and tells me its from her gallbladder removal and she never said that... and my father backs her up everytime even if he wasn't there to know anything or hear it.
My dad was also the one who told me as a kid that he never chose me and that he chose her. He also told me that he had to chose between saving me or letting her die at birth if anything happened...
And my mother said that never happened the doctors never said that
So they're both fucking horrible lying assholes, who did nothing but like to hurt me.
I now learned from my therapist they exhibit Narcissistic traits and other shit. So here I am full BPD, Depression and different anxieties cuz of their serious issues.
I FUCKING REMEMBER EVERY SINGLE HORRIBLE THING THAT HAS HAPPENED SINCE I WAS 6. The words, the feelings, the situation... I remember all negative shit, i donno positive memories, not even in my relationships and I apparently chose toxic people who turned out to mimic my parents... which nowbim 40 and super messed up.
I'm sorry that happened to you. NPD survivors and endless years of trauma is hard to let go.
Wow sounds almost identical to me and my life…😧😥😔 I’m very sorry to hear you’ve had to go through all that, none of it is fair or deserved. I genuinely hope things start to get better
This explains a lot! I literally have almost no memory of my childhood, teen years, and most of my adult life. I’m now in my 50s and have a very poor long and short term memory. I have C Ptsd and wonder if I may also have bpd as all of your videos seem to relate to my symptoms.
Finally, something explains why I still know the full names of all my bullies and why I still want them to suffer. This hate never decreases and I wondered so long why everybody talks about things like “why does it bother you still” or “this was 5 years ago just let it go”. And I never understood how people would hate someone less after time passed and that person did nothing to change your opinion of them (like being nice, apologising etc.). Now that I have an explanation I am maybe a little more able to understand people that just stop hating someone after a while… god it still feels so wrong to just “let go” of something. When you let something go, you let your guard down and that person can harm you again. It feels really unsafe to think about handling things with forgetting.
Part of the issue is that repetition+emotion.
Repetition+emotion is a huge part of neuroplasticity, conditioning our brain with certain programs.
Our subconscious has many of these programs in our subconscious.
Basically, you are entrenching deeper hate programs, every time you go over and over this in your mind. BPD has a lot of emotional dysregulation and a lot of rumination...the very programming tools to cement something into the brain. This works on anything, true or not, useful or not.
This space, time, energy, is a form of self bullying, self abandonment...as those bullies likely don't give you one thought now, yet they still have power over your mind. You play it over and over, to your own detriment. It is self destructive and an ultimate self betrayal. To become empowered, would to be to rewire those programs and use that time elsewhere.
That type of vengeful hate causes cancer, autoimmune issues, and more. That's why letting go serves you.
I was bullied in school also. I'm 47 now and still think about it everyday. It's because of them that I have bpd. I'm sure they say it was in high school, she'll get over it.
But no. It doesn't work that way. They really don't know the damage they did. I don't have friends because I don't know how to socialize with people. They made me afraid of people and extremely low self-esteem. I think about suicide a lot. That's my life. Not a good one. I can't wait to die. I imagine my doctor telling me I have cancer or something and just not getting treated for it etc... stuff like that.
@@mireilleclement6385I'm so sorry that you had to endure that. Some people are horrible. 😢
What a relief. Sigh. I was diagnosed with both bipolar and BPD so your description is spot on. It's so frustrating when my fiance doesn't get it that I don't process information the same way. Thank you!
It’s not you it’s him I was told when a guy dated a girl with things there something wrong with them and yep bpd attract another bpd .. usually and males tend to have narc ligh qualities like grandiose and hence accepting you have needs or not what fits his fantasy he doesn’t want to accept
I also have BPD and Bipolar 1, and this helps to explain why my memory is so horrible of my past.
@@Pursuit4happiness bro what? Can you retype that better please it made no sense.
Hello! I have been watching your videos for a few years now. I was wondering if you would be willing to do a video on bpd and pregnancy. I'm finding my symptoms very hard to cope with more than usual. Please help
Interesting topic, thanks.
thank you Doc , seriously your videos on bpd has helped me so much. i just wish there were psychologist's like you in the uk because you seem to be way more on it than anyone else ive seen
You're very welcome. I'm glad the video was helpful. Be well.
Is sense of time also affected? I really can not distinguish 5 min from 1 hour.
More research needs to be done for individuals becoming senior citizens with BPD or traits. Professional may confuse what's senior aging process or BPD symptoms. (Remembering core issues and questioning burn out of symptoms).
Yep.
Excellent video. It totally matches my daughter unbelievable state of mind.
Therapists think it is neurological dysregulation, extreme one.
Thanks for sharing!
The ups and downs happen so often that when you’re up, you don’t care about what happened when you were down and when you’re down, you don’t care about what happened while you were up. I have a tendency to remember what was done to me but a hard time remembering what I do sometimes. I remember things from childhood but something from last week or 2 years ago I might have disassociated with but I definitely have a reason if I can remember the incident.
Very well said. My brain process the same way as you.
We are not alone!
Yes I like this video on memory & bpd. I recognise hard to let go of negative memory. In starting to write my memoir I've knowingly confabulated to some extent. I question the truth and lies fed to me, and start to understand my own confusion and trace the probable origins of my bpd symptoms. Thank you for this useful video
Thank you, very informative video. I'm 24 and I don't remember most of my childhood and I have really episodic, cut memories of being teenager until 16. I'm really cured in many ways (thanks to CBT therapy with SFT, your YT channel and group therapy), but if I recall something new from my childhood it's some places where I was left alone waiting. I wish I could know what exactly was happening when I was with my mother and their friends while they were drinking. I need to make sense from my life, but it has a gap
The struggle letting go of things is very real. My brain latched onto significant traumas that are decades old and getting a grip of that maladaptive behavior took a ton of effort. It turns into a loop of revisiting the terrible stories very quickly.
The "science" of this is profound. Thank you
Yes. I had a bpd friend from high school who flipped out on me completely out of the blue and unprovoked because of something from high school…to put it into perspective we were both 38 at the time so high school was a long time ago. We had also been close friends for all that time after high school so for her to suddenly get so upset about something so long ago, despite all the years of friendship afterward seemed really unhinged to me. It was literally 20+ years ago. And to demand that at 38 you repent for things you said at age 16 is completely absurd. She had a week long meltdown over it. I started distancing myself from her after that because it was clear she was making me her target of blame and I just did not want to play into or be part of her false narrative. It’s like go ahead and think what you want, but I’m going to remove myself from this unnecessary drama.✌️
So much for that 20 year relationship.......... The past is very much vivid for those us with BPD.
More than you could ever know.
I'm sorry you both could not be there for each other
I literally can't remember anything pre 7.
Me 4, just a couple of traumas
same. i got adopted right before i turned 7 but i dont remember life before
There are chunks of memory missing from when I was a teenager. I’m still in my 20’s.
I’m right there with you. After my son passed away after open heart surgery, I basically have fragments of memory’s for 20 years. Before that, when I was younger I can’t remember much usually the negative stuff.
same here! i’m 24 and I had my first baby at 20. I don’t remember much of anything except negative memory stuff that’s been confabulated. I’m doing DBT now and i’m nervous for what i’m going to uncover, I’ve had some sad experiences.
Thank you. Struggling w my breakup n stuck on bad times only. Idek hw I cn look bk n think of the past w "fond memories" as my therapist calls it.
Always had a lot of memory problems and this made me realize that I forget a lot of things because im too much in my feelings and its making me unable to pay attention to whats actually going on around me.
I also really like Dr Fox. Hes not only knowledgeable but his demeanor and way of speaking is soothing to me, helping me a lot to listen and integrate the informations hes giving
I am a BPD sufferer of 30 years plus and have met a varied section of fellow sufferers. I would strongly disagree that this Doctor feels as if he can generalize that most of us have memory problems in fact I have Hyperthymesia ...the ability to recall every event in my life. I would say that due to BPD being caused by trauma usually and trauma is imprinted in the brain that it usually gives us an ability to store memory's better than others as our brains store our memory's differently to others almost in a PTSD way
My favourite saying is "who am I" to which my kids answer by telling me what I was trying to remember......lol
My long term memory is pretty poor- my siblings always tell stories and often I have little to no memory of the senarios in their anecdotes. Recently we had an hilarious conversation about there being a sweet shop next door to our childhood home......er, I couldnt recall, did I miss out on sweets?? :)
This is so helpful. Authenticity is reality and I’ve been striving for that.
I’m so glad you found the video helpful. I wish you all the best.
I have a friend that I believe has undiagnosed BPD. Before I heard much anything BPD, if he told me a story that just sounded exaggerated and absurd, I'd feel the need to interrogate him about what actually happened (since what he said made no sense to me). For most of these, I had no way to verify what was actually true. A few times I heard him talk about a situation that I witnessed and saw how far off his account was from mine (and certainly in my opinion reality)
I cant remember anything, nothing from my childhood, teens or early 20s, and im only 27. I can barely remember yesterday lol.
I have a pretty bad memory and i never thought that trauma could cause that.I thought it was just because i have Hashimotos an autoimmune thyroid issue..and do that does affect my memory negativity im starting to think i got this autoimmune disease due to the trauma i had with a narcissistic mother.But anyways i do suggest if anyone's having memory problems to not just get a regular tsh test but also an antibodies one.Because for me the tsh was always fine..but the antibodies did show i had it.
This is the kind of hard to find anywhere else make it all make sense content I come here for ..Thank you.
Totally understand what your talking about.
My mental health has incorporated a lot of difficult physical problems since 11/2020. Accepting physical problems and my depression is AWFUL.
It’s a GIANT trick to redirect my emotions,,, especially when dissociating is my strongest muscle
Dbt and your videos are really helping me learn new techniques to improve my mental state & most of all,, understand why I do what I do. 🥳🙃
Where's my confabulation? I just have a buncha gaps 😆
There's a strong link for sure between the memory loss and lack of rigid identity....those two symptoms go hand in hand
Sounds like this is part of my story, can’t wait!
I like you to talk about DID I no people have it and I no people fake it I have it but counliers don't seem to no how to work with it
Thanks for digging into this subject, I had mused about this on r/BPD a couple months ago and its great to have more than just my own anecdotes to support it. I was in my own head so much I don't think I noticed, let alone encoded, much of my surroundings
I was hoping you could discuss Growth vs Fixed mindsets? My doctor said I focus on goals but I don't know how to translate that to process/growth? Everything seems like linked goals ("I want a new career, so I need to study first, get better at asking for help, work on my resume, etc") It's frustratingly confusing.
how does he upload a video timed perfectly with such precision literal saint I swear
Thank you so much for this.
You’re welcome ☺️
So gaslight myself into happiness? 🤔
Might be worth trying as I can’t remember much.
Not exactly saying that. I'm so glad this video was helpful for you. I wish you well.
This explains a lot and is helpful. One Christmas at my daughter's house, my niece was talking about how she and her brothers enjoyed coming to stay at my house when they were little. My sister (whom I suspect of struggling with bpd) got up fast and headed outside. When she came back, she started asking her daughter (my niece) if it was true that her kids stayed weekends with me and how often. There was a look of shock on her face - my sister had been resentful of me for not helping her back then and accusing me of that....when I actually did quite a lot. Nothing I said made a difference though till her own daughter talked about it.
Does this explain why my brother whose done horrible things doesn’t remember events as they really happened. Such as consequences to actions or situations in which he forced others to take precautionary & protective measures against him?
Thank you for sharing your experience. It's not easy to talk about these things, and I appreciate your openness. Remember, you're not alone in dealing with challenging family dynamics.
I really need this. Can’t wait!
same lol i clicked so fast thinking it was already uploaded
I'm so glad this video was helpful for you. I wish you well.
I have an excellent memory. However, I have often wondered why every single memory I have has a negative slant to it?
This is your BPD lens
I have really bad memory I have wash my dishes thought I was done or got distracted worrying about something else & than I look later that I left the water on to the faucet
Can certainly happen, and thank you for sharing
I have BPD and I believe I'm also autistic and my memory has always been, I don't want to sound grandiose but it can be remarkable. It's because of that I struggle with the negative memories
Wow, this is one of the most important videos I've ever watched about bpd... Thank you so much for this, I feel partially relieved knowing, that my bad memory has actually a science explanation...
OMG OMG OMG ….. This is the video I was waiting for .. I have always wondered wtf was wrong with me. My husband and I even joke about my total lack of memories and how rare it is that I “have a memory”. I seriously think there’s something wrong with me. Everything is so vague for me.
This makes so much sense. Thank you
I have a couple of types of BPD, Cronic highlevel stress and Cronic highlevel anxiety... My memory sometimes make me fear that I am suffering early dementia, I have been asured though - that it is infact because of my fragile mind.
It's important to take care of your mental health. Have you tried any techniques or therapies that have helped you manage your conditions better?
@@DrDanielFox Well.. not really, because here in Denmark they keep cutting budgets on psychiatry. You get a few appointments, get your diagnosis, get offered group meeting, and then eventually (in my case) you get perscription for either antidepressive or antipsychotic medication (to make you tired and sleep better), and then sent out on your own. That is why I am SO happy and grateful for your channel existing, and I binge a LOT of your content. I learn much more here (also to understand ME and deal with my stuff), than any proffessional here in Denmark can provide.
This is going to sound funny, but I clicked on this video, then found out I already watched it, the whole thing, but didn't remember it.
Hi everyone. Does anyone can help me ? I'm a french canadian and i bought the workbook. Can someone explain to me what " let s-p yourself " mean ?
Thanks a lot. 🙏
My partner has been experiencing this... Is there a way to show her this without actually using the term "BPD"? that's a trigger for her because she has other mental issues and it's an alcoholic, so I think she's afraid to admit she's BPD because there's such a negative stereotype and she already has so much else going on. I think if she'd agree to receiving treatment for this, it would help with all the other things: the depression, anxiety, etc.
Wow...this is extremely incitefull. Revisiting this in future episodes may help so many! Going to try out this theory today. Thank you. Horrible memory issues and MDD with the BPD. Thank you!!
For instance i saw my therapist yesterday right she you seem really focused less interrupting more motivated (she never said that to me, she was really excited yet today a member i look up 2 dragged me in the mud it hurt so bad i feel like a huge dissapointment more so myself now, commitments tasks forget it,So dissociateing may be appropriate can't believe I'm actually on here saying this it not your problom). ....ps taking my diagnosis in slowly yet fast . I'm so tired of running from myself
..... but like my nighmare feel real so I'm still unsure in dreams and reality and vs. Which it is
I've always ascribed my poor memory with my gender dysphoria, because I felt like I could make better memories after getting on HRT. It's really interesting where gender dysphoria and BPD overlap, especially when you start to look at dysphoria as a type of trauma instead of a disorder in and of itself. I'd be interested in a video on BPD and trans people in the future!
Yes please!
So good, I experienced this in a very strong way, this summer. Very good point to work through with therapy. Trying to do alone ended me in a bad space for sure
This is so true. My partner is believed to have undiagnosed bpd and recalls mostly negative events that did not happen in the manner she believes. It is almost of fact to her and she can’t let it go and brings it up continuously in couples therapy.
The minute I think about
March 17th 2021 my whole day is gone!
Also could this be why I've lost so much white matter in my brain and cognitive function so much so that the doctor thought I might have MS?
My brother and I were homeschooled until I was 10. I have little to no recollection of anything at all before the age of 10. I was still homeschooled when I was 10, but I was enrolled in a theater program that took up more time than anything before that point had.
Thank you for sharing your experience. I wish you all the best.
This was very helpful Dr. Fox, thank you 😊
I remember how unworthy I felt yes for sure I remember not using my intuition as usual
For me it’s a symptom of dissociation which I do daily.
I had a man who beat me up first mental emotional abuse then he call me handi cap stupid etc
Good topic, imo. 👍🏻🧠. I cannot recall a time when I trusted psychological research from the 1950s. I could be wrong, however. 🤪
@@a.w.m.7783 Good point. I look at memory in my BPD as neurological amygdala brain function instead of as ambiguous mental illness. 🧠
Yea, I will never forgive myself for some of the things that I've said to other people.. And it is like, people could tell me "oh you were young and/or you're a different person now.." for me it is like I still said it...
And randomly remembering things is scary sometimes.
Like one of my impulsive behaviors was to sleep with people after a break up so I wouldn't be alone.. and still now, I randomly get a memory of someone I slept with and I am like.. "Oh yea, I forgot about that one.." :/ I have shame about it.
Also haha after listening to a song that I really like more than 3 times.. I am done. I couldn't imagine a whole movie 75 times. I would end up checking out, stuck in my own mind or on my phone. Especially since I have absolutely zero interest in Rocky.
I just feel like my brain is negative and there are only slivers of positive thoughts.. So today I just feel like I am too far gone..
I personally felt like I couldn't have positive thoughts anymore and I also felt "too far gone". It can get better over time and it takes a lot of effort to change our own mindset. I hope you're doing well and that things look up for you in life!
Is what you ‘re saying for cptsd or ptsd?
Really great video!!! Thank you!!!
I can't let go of the fact that I'm a peace of shit because I hurt the people that love me most 😢 I'm convinced I'm garbage. Nothing changes this conviction. I really messed up.
Resist that inner critic and shamer. I wish you well.
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Interesting
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These videos are answering so many years of questions
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Dr I was diagnosed with BPD in the past but I am completely healed after my spiritual awakening I'm no longer a prisoner to my negative emotions, can you talk about spiritual awakening the results in self forgiveness and compassion and melts shame down, being able to see life in a new perspective, we ( borderline diagnosed individuals and other neurodivergent people ) have a sensitive soul and sensitive nervous system and we haven't been able to love ourselves or meet our needs in a young age but once we do we heal
This really makes sense to me. Thank you for widening my understanding of my poor memory.
Thank you for watching and sharing your thoughts. I appreciate your support!
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Ever since I started watching your videos I am going now almost a week without a split 🪓🪓🪓