Popular TikTok Bartender Overshares Her Marriage Drama
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- Опубліковано 8 жов 2023
- michelle belle charlotte bartender is a popular tiktok creator who makes drinks and tells stories online. but today she told a bit too much because now everyone wants her to get divorced and oooohhh she's so mad. anyways
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sorry guys i lied about people complaining about dev i thought it would be funny and it was pretty funny
wow nick is not truthful
AWWW HELL NAW💀 can't even trust nickisnotgreen these days
it was not very funny i felt bad
What the fuxk 😠
Not funy almost diedg
i blacked out once and put eggo waffles in the toilet and my relatives were more pissed at me than this woman is and should be at her husband lol
Why were they mad you just streamlined the digestion process
😂😂
Don't waste eggos ever, justified
@@blakewhite3131 LMFAOOO
Knew someone who got drunk and tried to make food- only problem was they used the dishwasher, not the oven haha
This is soo common. Mothers and wives will complain about their bum ass husbands on social media and when people condemn the men, the women do a 180 like “there are no red flags in my marriage everything is wonderful!!!” It’s like they want someone to recognize their pain (bc their husbands don’t) but don’t actually want to acknowledge how serious the issue is. It’s similar to how victims of domestic abuse try to rationalize their abuser’s actions
Its so sad to me, because even when their concerns are validated, and people tell them "hey you deserve better" they've already resigned themselves to the relationship, so they try to rationalize to the internet why their partner is actually great. The internet will disagree, and then they'll likely never trust the opinions of the comments again, because they've been "proven" wrong before.
10000s of years of being told you need a man/your life's worth is tied to one has done some damage😅. patriarchy is a hell of drug.
i can't wait until more girls & women snap tf out it. maybe the bartender lady's story will help someone lol
Sounds like shannon from rhoc
Literally it’s like “look at my husband being a bad husband/father” “oh wow your husband is a bad husband/father” “guysss stop saying he’s a bad husband/father!!”
They talk like abuse victims because they are. These wives youre talking about are often abused even if its not phisical. Its pretty common for victims to defend their abusers because abusers break their victims down, they make them believe they are their only friend/love, that nobody loves or cares about them and that they are the worst scumm of the earth and should be grateful for the crumbs they give amongst the abuse.
We tend to think about abuse like its "oh broke her arms and gave her a black eye in a fit of rage" but abuse is not black and white and there is a lot in between like "he slowly normalized his alcoholism till the point she didnt bat an eye when he took her credit card, got drunk and came back home with a robber"
As someone who's over 12 years sober from alcohol, the husband needs to admit he's an alcoholic and get some treatment, and she needs to admit he's an alcoholic and stop enabling him. There's a saying in AA that sounded exactly like how she described his drinking, "1 is too many. 1,000 is never enough."
Five years here, I was like him when I was drinking too. I'm very thankful I wasn't responsible for a child and a family when I was drinking, he really needs to get sober
@@GetOfflineGetGoodcongrats to the both of you being sober i hope your life goes well
When the video first started I thought “hmm, she could’ve just said he’s a recovering alcoholic instead of that whole long analogy about having to drink everything”… then realized she said all that because neither of them have admitted he’s an alcoholic and he’s certainly not recovering
Which is odd to me because I’ve watched this creator before and she makes a lot of scenario videos about dealing with alcoholics so she knows how to deal with them/how serious it is
3.5 years alcohol-free here. Her repeated emphasis on how she only had one beer makes me think they are both in some kind of denial. If she reckons with his alcoholism then her relationship with alcohol might be up for discussion too.
It amazes me that a bartender could be so in denial about their loved ones alcoholism. I understand the shame and embarrassment that comes with it but for God's sake why are you keeping alcohol in the house and/or letting people bring it over??
I wholeheartedly believe that the only reason this woman wasn't robbed is because she saw the guy. most of the time, burglars don't give up once they find out that the target has a child. what probably happened is that she saw the dude's face and he realized that she could identify him without an issue to the police, so he went "well the jig is up" and didn't do it
That and the dogs that would alert anyone in the house or possibly neighbors about a stranger’s presence or even pose a physical threat.
srsly. she's lucky he didn't hurt her after he realized she was there.
@ItzSyakirinnThe clickbate is wild
@@gobsmrher husband was also there, he still poses as a threat even when wasted. He wouldn’t have the eliment of surprise that he would of he broke in while people were sleeping but if he just wanted to rob the place and not hurt anyone then they'll case it out and figure out their schedules then show up when they arent home
ykw thats a good point and PROBABLY why he was texting someone to tell them to hold off
She's in a bad relationship with an alcoholic and she can't see how bad it is. She thinks she's just sharing a story, but this is extreme. She needs some perspective and they need counseling
Also like she is a bartender so drinks are her bread and butter. She's not really thinking about the fact that he actually has a really serious problem because she's used to seeing people with these exact same problems from the people that she is serving alcohol to everyday
@@BelindaShortMy bet is that both partners were alcoholics at some point.
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It’s not even just perspective, it’s somebody, reaching with your hand out and tugging on her sleeve letting her know hey, when you’re ready to go, let’s go and we’ll take care of you.
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I think it's so weird that she put so much emphasis on home security in her responses as if people were telling her "invest in a lock" and not "your husband has a problem that puts your family in danger"... she doesn't have to divorce him, but dismissing his alcoholism as a rare mistake is INSANE and a surefire way to make sure it happens again. You don't need 10 cameras in your home, your husband needs to get sober.
Exactly! He literally let the people into the house. What is a security system going to do when he's over here like "door's open, come on in"?
Like you said, he's unfortunately the issue here. I know addiction is brutal, but he needs to figure out his priorities.
Security experts will tell you never to SHOW How your security works- butShe's broadcasting all the cheat codes! The fact Hernandez the security guy didn't emphasize that to her Blows My Mind.
If I recall her story correctly too, she married her husband within a month. She met him as a bar fly. She also has a dumb history of doxing herself and her work. It’s not weird she puts this much effort in it; she makes her dumb decisions sober.
I'm the child of an alcoholic, she is 100% not thinking about her child and that scares me. It'll only get worse as time goes on, I guarantee her that almost getting robbed will not be his rock bottom.
Yep, was married to a black out drunk, he’d be sorry after huge mistakes and then do something worse. He didn’t stop even after I made him move out. His family’s safety was an afterthought. (He’s sober now and we are divorced).
Same here. The shock will fade, and this guy will probably decide he can have a drink one night. Then he’ll end up getting blacked out again.
Neither of them are, it’s crazy. Her main concern wasn’t her child’s safety, she saw no issue with this random dude walking around her house while she has a toddler there? Why was her focus on scolding him and not getting that random guy out. Scold him when he’s sober, safety should be the first priority.
It seems like being a bartender and being around drunk people a lot has caused her to normalise alcoholism.
I especially feel for that kid. One of my coworkers got piss drunk at our bar at the beginning of the evening. They haven’t worked there long and showed they got a mad drinking problem relatively early. They’ve got kiddos, too. I’ve talked to them about it, admitted I snitched about the behavior. The behavior resulted in a car crash later anyways! I told the person that this shit becomes core memory for their kids. Once they recognize it and if it doesn’t change, they wear the kids wear the trauma on their chest. I got an alcoholic parent and people figure out quickly my past because any answer I can ever give to questions about my family lead to more. If it’s not about the bad decisions now, alcoholics need to think about the conversations later.
“he doesnt drink” is just a way for her to feel better about not realizing he needs help, someone who cant just have one beer and feels like they need to keep drinking? thats an alcoholic (speaking from past experience)
i think the alchie part is choosing to do it while sober in the first place. making bad choices on booze is just inherent to the drug, like its the point. it's gross but look at bar culture, this is what at least for my gen where you go to meet women. like why tho. why rely on that drug? our culture has an alcohol problem. the govt encourages imo. fuck them tho i smoke weed and never raped anyone
Not 100% because some just don't drink often and when they do they don't really know their limit because they don't have a tolerance, idk I somewhat didn't when I use to and I'm not addicted hell I haven't drank in 2 months but I coukd be wrong 🤷🏾♀️🤷🏿♀️idk
@@yassine8935 I think it's less about not knowing your tolerance and mistakenly thinking you can handle more than you can, and more about feeling like you HAVE TO after just 1, or going "Just one more" and then ending up having like 8 beers the next thing you know, that's an alcoholic.
yep. whenever i hear someone at a party saying “i don’t drink”, regardless of how old they are, i want to watch them from the corner of my eye the whole night making sure they’re safe and that no one pressures them to drink…perks of living with an alcoholic dad i guess lolol
@@yassine8935binge drinking is a form of alcoholism that is characterized by how much you drink, not how often. Be safe and be well ❤
If he was committed to the marriage and they’re as Biblical as she’s trying to appear, why isn’t he in AA if they both know he has substance abuse issues?
I feel like some don’t even believe in those type of things yk
The probably believe God will fix his addiction without him having to put any effort forth to actually fix himself.
@@user-tr1yp5tx8k AA is super religious and rooted in finding god, like the half of the 12 steps mention god and prayer
AA is a fucking cult
@@steph1802it relies on one’s own definition of god/a higher power - you don’t have to be religious at all to participate
bro my dad is an alcoholic and one night decided to "go for a drive" around the block and then almost hit two people after hitting a lightpost all while my mom sister and i were sleeping at home - my mom went to start the divorce the next day. how do people get so defensive over their clearly obvious problems that THEY CHOSE TO SHARE on the internet??????
slay
major mom W
The way she ACTS OUT how she had to scold her husband like a puppy that just pissed on the carpet, and think thats someone whos capable of being a father to your child
Oh my god yes why is she switching to that baby sorts voice it’s so uncomfy
He already IS a father though. And people DO make mistakes.
@@cicilgbut THAT isn’t a mistake. it’s a pattern of behavior that he KEEPS repeating, KNOWINGLY.
he’s blatantly and knowingly putting his family in danger by continuing to drink.
i think the biggest issue is the way she describes her husband's clearly severe addiction as if it's just a bad habit, i'm afraid neither of them are taking it seriously enough to create a safe home for a child. if he's not able to seek help for his addiction, i really hope she realizes that she needs to put their child's safety first
"this is why he doesn't drink!!!!! 🤪🤪" as if he's a silly little kid not a dangerously reckless man (who is obviously actively drinking) supposedly raising a child with her. Yikes.
It’s appalling behavior from someone who uses “bartender” as their identity
it's the way she said "my husband DOESNT drink", no he does he's just probably aware of how bad it gets but i don't see any effort on his side or hers to get him to stop.
i've already had my parents overshare the drama of their failing marriage, now this? 😒
Right? I almost got out of the car on the interstate in North Mississippi as a teenager because of my parents arguing.😂
My parents aren't even divorced, yet this is so relatable
@pastelsheeepywhy so serious 🤨
Can’t get enough of it Oml
@@STAY5161 bro at this point I'm praying mines devorce but no they keep fighting and keep oversharing it's embarrassing
I used to follow this bartender on tiktok for the drink advice but she started to have a problem with boundaries a while ago like sharing where she works and her shifts so people could meet her which is SO dangerous especially when you have a young child! Its sad to see she is clearly in denial about her husband being an alcoholic ive seen that kind of framing myself, you have to be able to see for what it is and label it or the problem will continue.
YIKES! Definitely hasnt learned the stranger danger lesson
@@blakewhite3131it’s so ironic that the reason why she decided to post the first tiktok (that Nick showed) IS about “stranger danger”😭
I used to follow her a longgg time ago too. I really don't drink much but when I do go to a bar, I feel like I never know of anything interesting to order, so I was following her for that reason mainly. I do remember when she became pregnant, and I can't remember why I stopped watching her content but it was relatively soon after announcing her pregnancy. I don't remember her being THIS condescending and moody, but she definitely seems to be nowadays. Maybe it's because of stress from the new baby, her lousy husband and moving, idk.
This woman really tried to justify her grown husband's drunk behavior which led to them possibly getting stalked for a robbery??? whole new level of delusional
Delusions is not a cool way to call out someone you don't like , it's the same shi with narcissistic behavior, these are mental disorders that should only be diagnosed by well educated people with said behavior, loving family/friends, well trained mental professionals not random azz ppl online , just stop its Hella abelist like these are me tal disorders that are basically becoming "online dunks " .
Or maybe she's a victim of abuse?? Not physical but it could be emotional/psychological??? From the way she spoke about it, it sounds like her husband was some man-child and being a grown woman in a relationship with a man-child and trying to get him to understand to stop drinking, could really take a toll on someone. We don't know.
@@nr.1txtstanyall crazy lmao
This is not her first controversy, she said some bad takes about abortion and a few other things. I’m surprised nobody else is bringing those back up
She also said that people in section 8 housing are too poor to afford phones and when called out she backpedaled. She also told people that if a card declines right it in as a tip and it forces to go through. And more
Yeah, just from her tone I get major Karen vibes and it wouldn't surprise me if she seriously doesn't have anyone to talk about her marital problems with. I've met ladies like this before and it's either you agree 100% with everything they say or you are now The Opposition and everything you do from then on is either not worth listening to, or some kind of calculated attack against them. Genuinely have no idea how people don't drive themselves crazy thinking that way
I feel like I remember her saying something distasteful about a transgender woman, I’m pretty sure I unfollowed her when it happened but I don’t remember it very well. I’m sure it could be found on like a Reddit snark page or something
@@benjaminotalora363she gave everyone every detail about her security system except for the password/pin. She's obviously crazy, it's like she's just challenging people at this point.
Yep I used to be mutuals with her and then she started saying stuff trans people 🙄
the casually avoidant way she described her husband’s alcoholism _screams_ enabler
Yeah my dad was like this. Would get drunk, come home leave the car on walk into the house, leave everything open and then go to bed and pass out, while my sisters, my mother and I were all sleeping. We were robbed twice. Everytime was a 'wakeup call' but it never sticks. Unless he stops drinking and becomes sober because he wants to, nothing will change. The whole "He can't drink." sounds more like she's keeping the drinks away from him, and not him actively being sober. He will find a way to drink if he wants to. Unfortunately it's not as easy as just divorcing him. I'm sure her and the kid are financially dependant on him.
she’s lowkey trying to paint this as one of those “h a ha my husband is so dumb” situations where women will post their inept husbands and then get mad when ppl point out that their husbands should be doing more
fr and on top of that there's a BABY dependant on him. awful. people need to make better decisions before choosing who to procreate with.
Does she not realize how many robberies end up botched with people dead when there’s a wife who’s seen someone’s face they weren’t supposed to? That whole family could have wound up dead because he cannot control his drinking. If she couldn’t handle posting this information on a platform with some of the most judgmental viewers, she should have handled her business in private. She just outed her family even more by posting it and now she feels like she has to prove that they are taking measures to secure the house in a very matter of fact way and it’s making it worse!
Also robbers if armed would 100% take the dogs out first and since she saw his face he's not gonna back down bc he'll get caught. No, he'll definitely kill you next time he decides to rob the place with his friends.
She also needs to stop hiding behind the, "robbers won't harm us if we had kids". Literally just read a case where a lady and her very young daughter were brutalized by home invaders. No one's safe.
As someone who was raised by an alcoholic father and mother who could never bring herself to leave no matter what he did, I just feel bad for the kid.
that husband probably shared that he had a wife and a kid at home those people 100% did not suddenly grow a conscience and decide not to rob you cmon now. they were planning on taking advantage of a drunk person. who needs enemies when you have a HUSBAND like that
when you choose to publicly post a tiktok about a very dramatic situation and then the public has the nerve to respond !!! 😧🙄
If i was her I would be so done with that man hes obviously a alcoholic which is fine to a point they're means to help him but he's threatening your kids safety at this point
That's what I was thinking-when she chalked it up to "a simple mistake" I was like-UM, no- it sounds like he needs help- he needs an intervention and/or she needs to consider divorce because he let a complete stranger into their house at 3 am- who knows what could've happened. I have generalized anxiety so my brain always goes to Worst-Case-Scenario Land but a burglary would be the least of my concerns.
@@kassandradavis3314 yes definitely robbery is one of the better things that could've happened luckily nothing did but they're lots of things that could've happen to them which is what is scary bout that situation and I honestly wouldn't ever trust him again
I just feel like her husband doesn't care about her and their kid. Like he had enough sense to Uber himself to the bar, use her credit card for drinks, refuse an uber but not to kick a stranger out who could harm his family. Also she said he "couldn't sleep" because of what he did, so did he put up the security system. Also being a parent and living as an adult is stressful. He can't just get wasted everytime he's a little stressed.
Security cameras aren’t going to do much when Jared walks them through the front door 😂
Oof……
I looooved this lady when I was bartending. Then I unfollowed when she announced her pregnancy. This is where this ALWAYS tends to go… At this point I would love for any of these influencers to prove me wrong for once 😭
Keep-your-business-and-your-personal-life-separate Challenge😍😍😍
TikTok takes up so much time, when you start a family I guess there’s pressure to morph your good content to shoehorn in the hubby and kids. Hate to see it
I only saw her Bartending content especially on yt shorts
I like her Bartending content too.
@ItzSyakirinnwhere/when and what was the context
@@lexiright5609its a bot
If you can't drink because one beer will turn into running the place dry, you have an addiction and you need help. It's absolutely wild how hard she's denying it.
I think this is an interesting issue because addiction can make people do all kinds of horrible things, and while the husband is still in the wrong here it's a more complex issue than just "oh hes a bad dude"
addiction doesnt make a person do something.. it’s incredibly rare that a person isn’t consciously deciding what their actions will be even while having an addiction and even being actively inebriated. People go back to their addictions intentionally because its far easier than walking away, its far easier for them to dissociate from those around them so they do, its far easier than addressing the underlying problems they refuse to feel. But remember they actively and consciously know this, they are actively deciding that route, addiction is hard to break but never impossible and only doable by choice, that is why addiction can only end if the addict alone decides to stop. Have empathy but have understanding too, they are victims of their addiction but they are not victims of their actions, they are still responsible for them.
exactly. there’s more to this conversation that’s getting overlooked unfortunately
This is so true. If you’re someone’s partner you should be supporting them. If they’re abusive then fuck them but this sharing is a form of betrayal. It really is. She should have the right to vent to ppl *in her personal life*. In private. Not publicizing this stuff. It doesn’t help her husband one bit. She already said he was remorseful for it, he doesn’t need public shaming to *actually* heal and what the partner should do is tell him how to take steps to right his wrongs etcetera
Addiction doesn't make you do anything at all, period. Even under the influence. He made that choice and he's responsible for his actions.
- an addict
It’s his responsibility to treat his addiction which he obviously hasn’t done so he is responsible for this.
I think maybe his behavior is normalized for her. As she obviously hinted at multiple times by saying “he drinks everything in sight”. So to her this story is like a level 2 bad but for people who aren’t used to that behavior at all, it would be a level 10!
And maybe she’s realizing it? And reacting to it.
Also Charlotte NC Represent!!
exactly. it can be difficult to recognise the extent that a loved one has a problem, and is even harder to come to terms with. laughing at her for being ignorant isn't the right way to go about this imo
I’m always commenting on her channel because she’s always drinking at work, she’s a bartender that thinks it’s okay to get drunk on the clock.
Damn, so she's messy, messy. Yikes. 😬
She is also most likely an alcoholic, just a functional one. Unfortunately most bartenders are (not a lot of jobs out there where you can take shots at work). It's the reason she can't say anything about him being an alcoholic, because it would be the pot talking to the kettle. Supporting him through the early years of sobriety would mean she can't drink at home anymore, or talk about work, and definitely not come home from work drunk and expect her husband to be okay with tequila kisses. There is no fixing an alcoholic who is married to a bartender, without the bartender cutting out all work talk, and booze at home. Something most bartenders would never be willing to do, as booze is literally fundamental to the way they live their life.
@@sonofabatchobrowniesyou are so right. I struggle with alcoholism and also worked as a bartender and EVERYONE I worked with was also an alcoholic. Some tried to hide it some were up front about it. Its the same with the "regulars". Some will embrace their alcoholism, some try to pretend they just go for the social aspect etc. It's extremely hard to work in a bar and not get into that lifestyle for a lot of people, and a lot of times their families end up hanging out in the bars were they work often as well.
They’re both alcoholics it seems.. poor kid.
i used to love watching her bar content and learning about different kinds of drinks on UA-cam Shorts. had no idea she was doing this, sharing too much online, especially problems between her and her husband, is just so not something i’ll ever comprehend.
Damn I knew I recognised her 😕
Sounds more like she's pissed and this is a lesson others can learn from. She's valid with everything she said.
These UA-cam Shorts are making me familiar with all the people in drama recently.. I do not have a TiKTok, I only see stuff on Shorts and I do not look up anything, I just see what the algorithm feeds me. I have seen so much of the Gel lady and now this bartender, plus the weird guy trying to sleep with the Onlyfans girls.
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LITERALLY SAME!!! I also have seen her UA-cam shorts about her bartending a while back. I had no clue this was all happening on tik tok.
“Have you never made a mistake when you were drunk?” ...is she saying she also made a comparable mistake while drunk?
Good point. I know I've never made a mistake like this drunk 😂 probably because by the time I'm this shit faced, I'm usually bent over the toilet for the rest of the night lol
To me a drunken mistake is trauma dumping on a random woman at the bar and waking up ashamed the next morning but maybe that's just me 😂
@@Oliviaandtrinaexactly that’s pretty much harmless. complete opposite of what this guy did.
Like no, I have in fact not made a mistake while drunk that affected the safety of anyone. "Making a mistake while drunk" excuses putting the TV remote in the fridge and eating too much ice cream, not bringing two strangers from the bar to your new house where your wife and child live
okay but she just admitted online that her husband as a substance abuse problem AND put the child in danger? the fact that she isn't even worried about CPS being called is mind boggling.
I feel like the issue is that they seem to treat it like it's this silly goofy little flaw of his to not be able to stop drinking until he's blackout drunk when in fact it seems pretty clear he's an alcoholic and needs to look at his relationship with alcohol more seriously. Like being an addict doesn't make someone a bad person or undeserving of being in a relationship, but if you know you behave in ways that can harm you/your family when you engage with that addiction, then you need to take it really seriously rather than acting like it was just a little oopsy
Absolutely. She says her husband "knows and didn't sleep" as if that makes up for it, but they're pretty clearly viewing it as a one time thing and not the start or continuation of a larger pattern. The problem isnt "I went to the bar and met someone with bad intentions, woah!" it's that he doesn't have self control and isn't doing anything internally to prevent it from happening again (like worrying about the home security system instead of getting him help)
ppl complaining about dev being in the videos is WILD, love u dev, it’s a treat to get extra content!!
sorry i kinda lied about that i didn’t really see anyone say that but i thought it was funny
@@greenisnotnick scoundrel.
@@greenisnotnickmessy as hell 😭😭😭😭
@@greenisnotnickure so mean 😭
@@greenisnotnickbetween you and Danny Gonzalez we're all gonna have major trust issues (it was funney joke)
I’ll never understand a “security system” making someone feel safe. Those cameras aren’t gonna stop anything
It’s just an extra precaution. The usual safety measures and privacy methods need to be followed as well, but the cameras/sensors provide a lil extra help. The footage can help with getting damage covered, or in custody disputes/divorce proceedings it helps to prove that certain things did happen. And any alarms on doors can help you know who’s coming/going in your home, especially for kids. Knowing when the kids open doors is helpful af. Having nanny cams for my dog eases my anxiety. Next is a front door alarm even if our building is safe.
its more about insurance or any criminal investigation, tho the cameras that have announements like you are being recorded definitely prevent petty crimes and crime of oppurtunity. if someone is desperate to rob you its gonna happen regardless.
The security system is pretty much useless now that she explained where everything is and how it works.
But then bestie revealed ALL the locations of the system 😭😭 like what
@@nt_partlycloudy21exactly what i was gonna say, like it’s REALLY useless now. actually, it’s probably useful to anyone who wants to rob her!
No bc I was up for the last five nights cringing about something I said in class and then this woman out here doing this. God bless her soul I’m going to sleep so well tn
I had a random encounter with a neighbor that made me remember the faux pas the last time we chatted and for days have been having dreams where I keep doing it, but she just keeps digging in on the cringe, I'm going to try for a nap asap now I have seen this. Yikesss. Emotionally exhausted through proxy.
LOL i’m the same way, love this for us
what do you mean?? elaborate?
a full grown man named Justin.....bwahahahaha...i laughed way too hard at that.......Also, an alcoholic married to a bartender....it was never gonna end well..
My thoughts exactly... dont marry the clientel!
As someone with an ex named Justin, I agree. He was icky
Nick subconciously imitating her face expression was so funny
There is absolutely no way that a very drunk man who “made friends” at the bar and got a ride home didn’t mention a wife and/or baby somewhere in the conversation. A drunk guy is gonna say “hey just try to be quiet cus my wife and baby are sleeping” when he’s fumbling for the keys or at least mention it once while talking to his new “buddies”. It’s evident with how she talked about it too because she never factually states that the men didn’t know about her and their child. So they definitely didn’t stop because they saw her. They were probably just scoping it out for another day or possibly waiting for her to go back to bed under the assumption that those guys are her husbands friends.
eh idk, he doesn’t seem to have much regard for the safety of his wife and child. i wouldn’t be surprised if he didn’t mention it. he probably wasn’t thinking about them at all.
i agree with the last half though. the kid wasn’t going to appeal to his moral character and make him reconsider robbing them.
technically, she _did_ say the man “didn’t realize that he was coming home to a wife and a kid and dogs.”
Or she made it up for clout
@@AC8X but she had no way to know that, that's just the assumption she made
@@EmissaryofWind i’m just responding to OP’s comment about what the woman said
I love watching Dev’s face and seeing her get sidetracked as Nick talks lmao
its so strange to me that she doesn't recognize her husbands clear alcoholism, even tho she works as a bartender and probably knows what it looks like
copium is a hell of a drug
She posted that security video like a challenge. This is the plot of a new Mission Impossible or Oceans.
So stupid. Also if people know the brand they can hack into it easily and disarm it. Dumb af.
I Will never understand airing so much personal business to the depths of the internet
Narcissism
And then being mad when the viewers have opinions lmao
Um that mistake shes talking about is one that could have quickly and easily resulted in her enitre family no longer existing after that night because her husband had zero consideration for his wife, child and dogs safety. Thats a donezo. Doesnt matter what he was experiencing, sadly he couldve just lost a friend and had this experience and this would still be beyond crossing a boundary. Red buzzers are buzzing 😢 shes gotta leaveee
i’ve been following her for a while and in the weeks leading up to her move she was telling sooooo much and i was like girl you have got to hold back so much of this. she would share her work schedule for fans to come see her which i guess is fun, but also doesn’t seem smart at all
& then she complains when people ordered a pizza to her job in her name. like .. GIRL ?!?!? and then some comments were like “you shouldn’t share your work schedule” and the. she got mad at the ppl commenting that. ugh lol this chick infuriates me. i used to follow her, but it just got way too much lmao
Only she can call him stupid, nobody else can agree with her lol
He definitely gaslit her to think and actually believe ‘it was just a one time little mistake’, you can see how she actually felt about it in the first video and afterwards he changed her mind
"You've never made a mistake while drunk?" No, actually, the mistake started when he picked up the first beer, knowing he has a substance abuse. At the very least I hope he gets help :/
This dude is the definition of a sociopath
The problem is that social media stopped being a place to share your life with friends and family and became a giant platform and everybody thinks they have to be an influencer and share everything significant that happens to them.
YOOO nick!! i saw you and dev lemons in santa ana on friday! absolutely loved how you guys performed. you're actually a REALLY good drummer and she's a great singer, good luck on the rest of ur tour!
thanks :-)
I’ve been married over 10 years, so I know all about forgiveness, giving and receiving. But either he stops drinking that night and we are both sober forever or I would be gone. I’d quit my job as a bartender and do something else to save our marriage if he truly wanted to get and stay sober. Jesus Christ dude. There is forgiveness and then there is just being delusional.
i love dev so much she should take over all your channels and become the new nick
Nick you've really cornered the market on talking about things I don't care about but doing it in a fun way so when a new vid is posted I'm like "oh hell yea"
why’s it that every time a woman complains about their husband/bf online, and people agree that the husband/bf royally fkd up, the woman then comes back to defend their man? they get annoyed too that people think they deserve better, when people wouldn’t even know about it if they never posted the complaint in the first place
yeah that's how abusive and toxic relationships work. maybe stop expecting gratitude from abused women when you blame them for being in those relationships, and just scroll. the last thing they need is for you to criticize their every decision, be it making a video or staying with that man in the first place. if you don't have anything genuinely helpful to say to them, then just leave them alone
@@mun_cpr when posting anything online, it’s to be expected that a variety of reactions/observations will occur. she may have not realized she’s in an abusive relationship before posting that video, but now that the internet reacted in the way that it did it’s now up to her to decide what she wants to do. we can’t help her if she doesn’t want to be helped.
@@mun_cpr exactly!!!!!!
@@rockabelle101 ok, this is just an fyi for abusive relationships (as the victim of an abusive relationship, child of an abusive relationship, etc.): if u know someone in an abusive relationship, the worst thing u can do is tell them to leave or that their partner is bad. It will just further isolate them, because already the abuser is already trying to do so. You can allow them to talk about particular bad patterns, such as in the video she opened with her talking about his drinking habits, but calling the behaviors “abusive” and telling the victim that they’re in an abusive relationship will only make them shut down.
Instead, invite them to talk about how they feel in the abusive relationship. Legitimize their feelings. Say that you’ll be there for support in case they ever need anything. A common abuse tactic is “us against them,” in where the abuser is already trying to cut off the victim’s friends and family by vilifying them and telling the victim that their friends want to split them apart.
This tiktok could teach people how to talk to victims of abusive relationships maybe!
Exactly. I guess if they had small dogs and that led to them actually getting robbed then she would’ve taken it more seriously?? 🤔
I'm stuck on the image of a robber seeing kids toys and being like aw darn can't rob this one
she is notoriously so unsafe onine, she's shared where she bartends (actively, while she worked there) and her work schedule. it's insane and terrifying how unwilling she is to listen and understand online safety. like it's sincerely bad, i feel especially sorry for her child being raised in a household that clearly enables alcoholism and is so open to the internet...
who tf is complaining about dev content?? i love her
LOL yeah i lied sorry
jealous mfs tbh
@@greenisnotnick How could you 😭
In a lot of situations where someone has a toxic partner and others are telling them to leave their partner, they feel the need to defend them-even if they are the most horrible human being. They feel the need to justify whatever that person has done and justify why they are still with them. Sometimes telling someone to leave their toxic partner does the opposite and leads them to staying with their partner even after they have put them through hell and back.
So, with that being said, it makes sense to me why she rode for him so hard when a lot of people were telling her to get a divorce, even though she was very upset about the initial story.
Will you ever own up to the fact that you detracted from your friend's SA and intentionally lied saying Ryan and Matt made jokes about Daniel suicide? Or would you rather perpetuate the hurt and trauma you're actively causing?
wait what
I'm a recovering alcoholic/addict. I'm someone that can't drink because I don't have a limit. I will drink until blackout drunk and I went from happy drunk to violent drunk. Some of us can't drink socially. When we stop drinking it becomes kind of a warning or important message to let others know that if you can't cut yourself off then it will only get worse.
proud of your recovery ❤️
cannot get over her sharing the location of the cameras
You gonna apoligize for weaponizing a friends su1cide ?
She's sooo lucky that man didn't decide to SA her or do any other awful things to her and her kid
If she noticed him scoping everything out, why did she "think nothing of it"
Ikr… u noticed but… u didnt notice???
Imagine getting married only for your partner to share your private marriage problems to the world
True but also imagine getting married only for ur partner to welcome dangerous people into your house with your child
Say what you want but Skylar would NEVER.
@HeisenbergFam WHAT?! I mean yes it's not ideal to air your relationship grievances imo but the husband is absolutely in the wrong here like ?!?!?!
How does someone try and paint her as the villain here lol
AGAIN: it's super unhealthy to publicly detail all your relationship woes, I think. But still
I think venting about your issues is okay. I don't think complaining about this guy letting strangers into her house with a child is the issue. Maybe sharing stuff on the internet isn't too good but I think we should be focusing on the guy here.
@shroomtub oh gotcha lol. Sorry, we're on the same team 😂
When she started showing every aspect of her security system, I got anxious for this woman.
That’s why people responded that way to the first video. You do empathize with her and obviously want her safe!
she recently posted where she works, what she does, the address, and her schedule
oh my god 💀
I very much doubt the robbers are coming back. They probably abandoned the mission once they realized his sober wife was at home (he probably was texting his partner to cancel) - the whole point was to rob a guy who was black out drunk in their home so he wouldn't remember. Coming home would defeat the point and increase the risk like 500%. Dude's still a douche though... That said, his wife aint much better.
She reminds me of those cyber security people that dare people to steal their info online because they're "so secure" - and then they get their identity stolen... Never brag online how you're untouchable
Dev being a raw form of ADHD makes the video 10x funnier
I have a lot of feelings about this. My fiancé has alcohol abuse issues that stemmed from trauma and depression. It was hard AF on us both putting him through outpatient treatment but he’s been sober w/o relapse for almost a year now. I love him because there’s a great person that was extremely sick. He needed someone to help encourage him to fight for sobriety. I was never in danger because of my fiancés actions. This woman is in denial that her husband is an alcoholic & lacks self control. Everyone’s in denial if they think she needs to pursue another bartending job.
i’m not a mathematician
but a bartender and an alcoholic doesn’t seem like a good equation
Her personality is extremely grating. Why does she always seem like she's pissed and going off on us?!
I think it’s because she’s full of shit and trying to intimidate you into believing her
I need her to put the neck waggle away 😂
@@chadrificneck waggle lmfao 🤣
This definitely shouldn’t be aired on social media, but I do understand her struggle. It’s not always a simple “just leave,” and it seems she’s defensive and probably in denial about her situation. If anything I just feel bad for her, because I’ve been in her shoes; an alcoholic partner making your life miserable and putting (in my case) themselves in danger. You want to walk away and know you should, you feel like shit because you feel like a walking stereotype. The addiction sometimes comes out of nowhere, things were fine and then they weren’t. Being stuck with a very young child makes that all the worse. Should she get a divorce? Not for us to decide, but probably. But also that is very hard to do, mentally and physically and emotionally.
completely agree. a lot of the comments are having zero empathy and are being super misogynistic towards her, without realising how complicated relationships are with a partner who has perhaps unrealised issues with alcohol, ESPECIALLY if you have a kid together
I've ended many relationships. It's never easy but that's irrelevant.
Disagree. This lady clearly just doesn’t have much sense of safety as she is now posting the location of her new job and her brand new work schedule to her 4.3 million followers knowing she just almost got robbed and has a baby at home. This is more than just her standing by her husband, she is blatantly being irresponsible on her own having nothing to do with the husband.
I can’t feel too bad for her because, while the husband brought a stranger into their home at 3 am that probably planned on robbing him, SHE told millions of viewers about it AND that they had no security atm AND showed her house and all the security systems that were being set up. She’s as dumb as him, if not dumber. They deserve each other but not that kid.
@@angelicarivera9272 you realize both of those things can be true, right? Someone can be a bad person or make wrong choices but still be suffering. I see that in her, and while I don’t agree with her I do still have sympathy to a degree.
Ooof she's in it deep and I really feel for her. She genuinely thought this would be a 'life tip', talking about it so nonchalantly like many others experience husbands like hers. And then to top it off calling herself a bitch, belittling herself ... man :(
Sounds like at some point in her life she did a "dumb" thing and wanted to be forgiven for it, so shes so terrified of criticising other people for "making mistakes" because she doesn't want the same kind of telling off. Also feels like she has been conditioned to think that you gotta force a marriage to work purely because you like the other person, and no matter how fucked things get, to just KEEP going. Probably watched other people in her life have shit marriages that they desperately keep together to look good so she thinks its normal. I know I'm mainly assuming shit in this comment but these are really common scenarios ngl. Doesn't help that divorce can be a messy legal process. Another issue is that she's probably just as or almost as immature as her husband, just in different areas (like showing the whole internet her entire security system after making videos about her incompetent husband and how he probably wont be able to protect the house, or that the wife might be away at a job interview at some point and the house might be totally empty)
nick + dev collabs keep me alive
yeah who would complain abt that lmao, their energy matches perfectly and it always makes the vid more funny
@pastelsheeepyThis is what we call an inside thought.
If you see something you don't like, simply scroll past it :)
why is she showing us her entire security system??????
“For better or for worse”when she’s on her third marriage 🤭
NAAAW 💀
LMAOOOO like surely after the second divorce you'd like. Wait to get married. Or not get married again at all
Oh damn 😭
That is literally how my mom describes how she is with alcohol. she's an alcoholic.
Her literally showing us the features and where all of her cameras are was actually so funny to me.
Nick laughed at Matt getting punched but if Nick ever tried fighting Matt Nick would flail his pathetic noodle arms before getting smashed easily, we'd all love to see that
this is why you don’t make tiktoks in the heat of the moment. This could’ve been a simple “my husband got too drunk and was scouted by robbers” but majority of the story was about how horrible her husband was, what did she expect???
Edit: nick is completely right that seeing someone’s face is dangerous. I’ve listened to a lot of true crime and as soon as they take their mask off that’s when you need to worry about your life being in danger.
She's definitely lying about the bartender - she made that part up to "teach" husband a lesson and thought she was good enough to pull it off on a bigger scale, but she's not as mad as the internet cuz she KNOWS they're actually safe.
I bet she’d understand why Marc D’Amelio got a DUI with his daughter in the car, cuz it was just a mistake he made while drunk 🤷🏼♂️
is that Charlie and Dixie’s dad???
@@EzraHawk the guy in this video who the wife is mad at is not the father of those two girls, I only mentioned him bc Nick joked about it on a recent video where he watched their show. Marc D’Amelio is their dad but he is not featured in this video lol. Hope i clarified correctly lol
@@harrisonwhaley7872 oh no, i know!! 😂 i was asking if you were commenting about about Charlie and Dixie’s dad bc i never heard the story that he got a dui with them in the car lol but i’m actually not surprised. i also wasn’t sure what his name was, but their last name isn’t that common to me lol that’s why i asked
@@EzraHawk yeah apparently he did, Nick mentioned it and I googled it and it does appear that he has one lol
The way this lady tells the story is like... I used to work at a gas station and this is exactly how people would be spilling their whole drama on the phone in line. Like I feel like this is something I would overhear at the register and then talk about with my coworker ASAP when they left
a bartender married to an alcoholic sounds like the start of a bad joke
"This is why he doesn't drink."
Uhhh, no? This is why he SHOULDN'T drink. He literally took an Uber to go get shithoused at a bar. He does drink. 🙃
She is in a co-dependent relationship with an alcoholic. Yet she is a bartender. None of this is healthy. I bet they met in a bar.
her behavior is giving 'i was one of the popular girls in high school in 1998'
“Maybe I don’t have any legitimate arguments against you, so I will proceed with clips of you getting beat up for charity (I won’t mention the charity aspect)” -Nick
“He can’t drink bc he can’t…bc he can’t just drink one beer he has to drink them all…” soooo he’s an alcoholic 😂 is like she can’t say it
I appreciate dev being there, gives me some peace of mind when it comes to you having a safe community around you and people who love you and each other, thanks dev, thanks nick, wonderful video as usual, safe travels ❤
I am really bad for this. I will rant or complain about family to my friends, but as soon as they start saying anything I get really defensive.
Nick im only 1:41 in but i love the way dev went "awh 🥺" and you immediately went " 'awh' 😈" in just the most sarcastic, snarky way you could in the moment. I love it.
Honestly, the second video where she’s angry at the commenters might be because her husband is downplaying the issue and she latches onto that because of their unhealthy attachment. I see this all too often in my field. Victims of emotional manipulation will often aggressively defend their manipulator’s behavior cause that’s how toxic relationships work. Think about when she said “everyone makes mistakes when they’re drunk” (or something along those lines) Doesn’t this sound an awful lot like something that would come out of an abusive husband’s mouth after being confronted? It seems like she’s honestly just repeating things. That’s just speculation tho of course 🤷
I agree. It's so sad.