I think some of the commentors are missing the point. She is not in the US but in Bali or an island similar to Bali. It doesn't take much USD to achieve an easy carefree lifestyle like this if you put your mind to it and work hard for a few years. You could work and save and invest or work remote and live on a wonderful island with all the nomad visa options available. If you want to stay in the rat race that is part of the US culture, it's your choice but being free and relaxing like she is showing in this video is really possible if you want it.
Well said. That's the only real currency we have in life. Time. Make the most of it doing what you love. You can live a good life anywhere but definitely Bali is a slice of heaven. Not sure how affordable it is as inflation has driven prices up everywhere but you can find affordable places to live outside of big cities. Like in America if you live in the NYC San Fran and big cities it's expensive but if you move further out into suburbs and smaller towns you can find affordable housing and your own little slice of heaven without a mortgage noose and enjoy life a little. But she touched on a very important point. Live below your means. Control your spending. I see alot of people make good money working long hours to pay for the big house Mercedes Hermes handbag and all the materialism of the modern world. And there's nothing wrong with that if you have the money and it brings you joy. So I think it comes down to pursing what you love and managing your money wisely.
@@proceduralcoffeeThere are a lot of gems in this video regardless. I live in a one bedroom apartment in a city/country I hate, everybody I love is an ocean and an ‘impossible’ visa process away, but there’s things I can do to be present and prioritize contentment over the rat race many find themselves in. I can choose to spend less time on my phone doom scrolling, to take my time to really taste the food, to go on a walk while I talk to my friend instead of rotting in bed, be in nature more, pause to smell the flowers. The view from my room is grey and hideous but I still enjoy the sunrise from my bed. Yes, circumstances can suck compared to this lady’s, but *you* gotta make the best of what you got. You’d be surprised how many people make all the money you dream of, but never spend it, because they’re stuck mentally just like the rest of us.
or spend it on meaningless things and then always strive for more while feeling empty. I knew someone very wealthy who was buying his 7th sports car but admitted he feels empty. I kept telling him he can just leave instead of competing with his Calabasas neighbors, but they’re just as mentally trapped. Trust me.
Being a 55 year-old guy, there are only three things I value now - inner peace, health and time. You get to a certain age when you realized what really matters in life.
I would say that what really matters in life is the truth ABOUT life. And what really matters in life is understanding why we live, breath, move and have our being, and responding accordingly. As the Bible says, God is the Potter and we are the clay, and there is no way a clay pot can properly define itself by denying its maker and looking in the mirror all day long. To be rich in God, in good works, in virtue, in faith, love and service toward others, and in the hope of eternal life, etc, is to be rich where it matters most. You don't want to die like the farmer in the Bible who, after yet another bumper crop, only built bigger barns to store his increase. He died a fool, being only rich in himself but poor where it mattered most.
I have been saying this for awhile now. I moved to Thailand when I was 23 because I didn't want to conform to the norms of society. I am 70 now and still here in Thailand living a life filled with love and good health.🙏
@@scotlan9144 Teaching was the first thing I did but basically I did anything which provided me with a visa. I never actually looked for work but people I met offered me opportunities. I lived on whatever I made but did not touch savings and longterm investments back home. My history of saving is a longer story than I want to get into here. That was all so long ago that it is not relative to what is available today.
Realistically she will regret the idea of not having kids is dangerous. if simply 1 million people each year decided to not procreate children coneceivng human future it would lead to collapse. She must conceive children with her male mate. She is not truly full filled. That isn't for me to say. Its for me to point and say truth. She doesn't need corporate Job no woman needs it but she can when she wants becoming depressed when she doesn't want it. But those are the consequences of your bad decisions wetheryou realize they're bad at the moment not. God bless all they regret their mistakes for me It hurts a lot and id learn that way. as male if I don't have children stage 21 I'm really losing as she and her husband are double my age. its not good for their mental health at all.
@@IsraelCountryCube it’s totally fine, extinction is a part of life. We are not god. God gave us free will and choosing not to have children is a part of that. I met plenty of childless elderly men and women and they are just like everyone else. Depression affects everyone and actually affects people with children more than those without children.
She doesn't have kids. Maybe she is a citizen of a country with universal healthcare also. But just the fact that she is living for herself with no dependents allows her to have this mentality. Not everyone can.
@@meself349 Absolutely, kids ruin god damn all of these retirement plans. And if you have kids at 20 nowadays and you are poor, your life is basically ruined.
The "not interesting" people are usually the deepest wells of wisdom - the hidden gems of society that are a gift to be lucky enough to be friends with
So True That! I am grateful to have a few of those " not interesting" people in my life! They are the REAL FRIENDS ,they are there for you when you need them!! because they are " not interested" in the superficiality of life that all others are - getting busy to follow trends and nonsense, then those interesting and egocentric friends are not there for us.
I noticed it too, I don’t know if it’s always true but among my friends the ones that are the simplest, « not interesting », are the most resilient, wise and at peace. While those that are are obsessed with societal goals are the most depressed and anxious
True makes me so sad to think about my father never could relax, he would come home grinding his teeth and he was the most patient loving man and yet societal pressures would do him in and it used to hurt me watching him so stress at home. Dealing with the crap at work and then coming home and dealing with my selfish narcissistic and inconsiderate mother and all us kids, the constant grind. I cry when I think about him. He's at peace with God now. How the matrix programmed that generation into the next
As a woman who became officially disabled in 2018, I have really been bothered by the notion that you're only worth as much as you make. It's been a whole different mental challenge to feel my value, to understand my worth of I didn't have a career. I'm home every day and survive on a small amount of money. But it allows me to slow down and notice things that others don't care about in their rush. And I love the stillness. There's so much beauty and grace in the stillness. I read, cook, journal, write letters to family, take care of the cat and dog. And I am working towards having an online business with my daughter, selling vintage and antiques, which is my great passion. I am never bored. I have begun to find the good in this imperfect body. Thank you for sharing this. A simple life is all I aspire to. So nice to meet like-minded people! UPDATE: Just wanted to thank everyone for their comments. It's been very uplifting in a sense to connect with others and I'm grateful for each of you who bother to read my "essay" ☝️lol Bless you all 🙏
I'm 62, visually-impaired to the point of not being able to drive, and I also believe I have other undiagnosed disabilities which have made it next to impossible for me to keep a FT job. (Not get, but keep) I was dumped by my ex-wife after 20 years because I could never be the PWE she was looking for, and she was tired of having her whole life consumed with worrying about me - to the point where she couldn't even be herself. Probably a good reason to divorce someone, but I've been forced to accept and love myself with the knowledge that I have "failed" first myself, and then other key family members, because I couldn't provide for them. Let alone, the idea that I'm not "crushing it" at life! It's a hard thing to live with in a society that places a price tag on the value of everything and everyone. But I also feel down deep that that is all bs, and I am just as much a quality person as anyone, regardless of my w2's! After all, this is the same society that treats homeless people like garbage, and when they walk by them, acts like they don't even exist!! I'm still fighting to some degree, but I am very tired of having to beg for my subsistence. And now that I have my Social Security, I pick and choose which jobs I do to make ends meet, realizing that the simpler a lifestyle I lead, and the less "stuff" I acquire, the less dependent I have to be on others to employ me. But in general, I have given up on the standard 9-5 ever working for me, as it never has. That's why this video so appealed to me.
@@BeingHuman-pl8sm you realise that as a human everything single thing is temporary. all this control over the mind stuff all goes away when you die. so your argument against this is contradicting
@@BeingHuman-pl8sm I don't work, I take money from people, couldn't be happier right now, that working to have a purpose believers are a joke and all wrong, there is no difference on me working or not working, I'm just 1 person, realistically I make no difference in society, not that I ever wanted to make a difference 😂
Yet white people come to completely different conclusions when judging Polynesian villages and African villages. Africans are lazy and undeveloped. Polynesians are free thinking and connected to nature. This is the dideased thinking of te white man.
Bro you realize even in USA people work three jobs to live in an apartment? Looks like she has a huge home in some tropic paradise and she doesn't work? What does she do to get all that?
@@Lion-rf8xi She was a well paid lawyer in Singapore. Currently has rental properties in Singapore and living cheap life close by in Bali, Indonesia. She has an absolutely amazing life right now and is part of the 1% in the world. However definitely not relatable at all.
@@silverwolf2643especula con los pisos aprovechándose de mucha gente que vive una vida de mierda en los trabajos, justamente lo que a ella no le gusta y dejó. Que hipocresía por favor. Por muy dulce que quiera parecer, debajo de todo está toda la maldad de nuestra sociedad.
Freedom was the day I stopped caring what others thought of me. Joy and happiness is an inside job. No matter where you, go or what you do, you take yourself with you.
But how can you learn to do that? I love my family a lot but I'm afraid I will let them down if I don't become very successful in life and it scares me exactly because I care about them.. I am tired feeling this way but I don't know how to overcome it
I work part time, I walk through the woods, I eat what I like, I watch the people around me who are stressed to the limit. I have some stress, but I'm working to simplify and purge everything unnecessary. You have a full life, Jean.
I’m literally crying watching this on repeat. Living the corporate America rat race now and I feel so suffocated. This life you talk about has been my dream for the past 3 years. Praying that God will grant me the courage the make the change and live a simple and uncomplicated life. Thank you for the inspiration! 🙏💕 To all my friends here, thank you very much for all the support and advice. I’ve created a plan for a more simple way of life and will be working to achieve this goal in the next year. Thanks again and all the best to you all. Hope all your dreams come true! 💕
@@chantalboileau7692 Just. Do. It. I sold all and left US 19 yrs ago for Southeast Asia. Zero regrets. Learned a LOT about myself that no school could teach you. I live very simply, and enjoy the simple things like beers or coffees with friends, exercising, watching movies, writing. Go somewhere for a visit, and connect with other expats. You may find your place in the sun. Best luck dear!
I’ve grown up around people who are so obsessed with working overtime and making money and buying the latest gadgets that it makes me despise these things…the best things in life are free and out there….you can find happiness out there without lots of money…we just need to slow down and enjoy life….our mental health is most important
I used to think there was something wrong with me for not being ambitious. Now I realise that ambition is causing you to project your mind in to the future when the best place to be is in the present moment. In fact, it's the only thing that exists!
“It’s okay to not be interesting” I’ve never heard that before. But it was refreshing. It’s like saying “you’re enough as you are”. ❤ Those words were surprisingly comforting. Thank you 🙏
I love it!! I am a very spiritual person and my ex wife wanted it all. She told me 'I am the world's most boring person.' I am not, just not super career and money motivated. We are all heading to a box in the ground and a spiritual forever I believe, not interested in temporary gains. Looks like these folks in the video made theirs and then got out.
I wish I had known this as a young mother. I too am an introvert, I like to stay home, I liked raising children, but I always felt tremendous guilt for not being out in the world, not earning a living and not contributing to society. Constantly kicking yourself for things you are good at that society doesn't value is a losing game. I realize now that although we didn't have much , I could have pared down my wants a little more and still have been content. My kids would have still been well cared for . I could have been an example of peace, contentment and wisdom, instead of a frustrated person who worried entirely too much about what people thought.
This is what it means to be HUMAN. We don’t need the latest brands, corporations, social media, selfish governments, luxury cars, stress, hate or envy if we just understand that all we need is the simple things that are shown in this video.
You have a partner and a dog that's a lot! I've lost my ambitions at 33, could no longer compete for a raise or a better job, try being best at everything. Now I live a slow life taking care of pets and my husband, I paint I play instruments and take long walks in nature, society's standards don't apply to me. I hardly go out shopping other than for groceries, I think it's a waste or time. I wish everyone can slow down and realise the best things in life don't require you put yourself in overdrive ❤
You couldn't have said it any better! Your words resonated alot with me. I also lost my career ambitions 5 years ago at 40. I used to be a really ambitious career driven woman with jobs that everyone envied. At 40 , i lost my business & my entire life savings, chronic pain & illness overtook my life. Now I am a full time house & pet sitter. I have a chronic health condition that gives me daily pain so i don't have the capacity to get a job, despite having multiple university degrees and a coveted resume. I am single, no partner nor children. I am working through my unresolved trauma, trapped in my mind and body. Friends and family are not that supportive of my "alternative lifestyle", asking me when am i going to come back to reality and resume my life & career. To be honest, i don't have the drive anymore nor the capacity at the moment. Thesedays i am happy when i have a pain-free, drama-free mundane day, with a nice meal, walk in nature and netflix.
@@heal2311 oh how I'm hoping you get through the pain, I only realised when you mentioned about your health that my societally imposed ambitions left me after I had a tumor, I've got some autoimmune issues going on post trauma, it was a bit of a wake up call. This makes so much sense to me now, thank you for sharing your story, I hope you find a good bunch of friends who will understand your choices and how you live your life, I admit, not many people around me are supportive but that's ok, I always think it's better to sit and enjoy nature and pets than have a forced conversation with someone who can't or doesn't want to see how trapped they are in the daily hustle the world around us expects. All the best 💕
@@heal2311Hi, I found Dan Buglio on UA-cam very helpful for chronic health conditions. I have overcome some. I also love to know that I don't have to mold to the way the world sees success. All the best!
I “dropped out” right after 911. I was 35 and single without children. I sold my house in the city and most of my belongings and set out by myself to make a new life. My friend asked, “are you gonna get a job and find a house?” I replied that I was going to find a place, and make a new life, and that’s exactly what I did. I moved to the middle of nowhere all by myself, but with my dog. My dad called it voluntary simplicity which I think just helped him explain me to his peers, but I joke I’m a classic underachiever. I live a simple life but have time for my friends and interests. No regrets here. I respect this slow and thoughtful existence. Thank you for this lovely video. I respect your lifestyle and thanks for helping people understand.
I live alone but does that make me selfish? I tend to think having children is more “me me me me”. To each his own friend. Luckily we’re not all alike.
Why would this be a description of an "underachiever". Ambition is little more than the drive to reach a goal, your goal was to find your own place outside of typical society and you seem to have managed just that. The societal norm of what 'ambition' is is more than skewed. Don't sell yourself short, seems like you're doing a lot better than most in terms of acceptance, being content and probably even happiness.
Judging by the wealth demonstrated in this video I would venture to say that many of your material ambitions have _already_ been realized and you are satisfied not in a world free of possessions, but with a relative opulent lifestyle that is your current environment. "Success" is a relevant term as it generally involves things beyond the most essential elements of existence and you've certainly achieved that.
LOL. This is a show off video to beat show off videos! While it laughably pretends to be about the self effacing retreat from vanity and materialism by an enlightened and humbled every man, it bellows at the top of its lungs: "Look at me! Look at my wonderful place and things! Don't I have a great life! Aren't I special!" Paul Fussell defined "bad" as something palpably unpleasant (like vanity) and "capital bad" as when that bad thing is presented as something good or great. Most vanity videos are merely bad. This one is capital BAD.
Im 39 and a debilitating health crisis forced me into this path 3 years ago.. my life has changed for the better.. I doubled down on the value system I believe I always had, but that I was suppressing .. i have a chronic condition and am still transitioning trying to figure out how to navigate the harsh realities of this. I’m excited however to design my life and my path around what brings joy and allows me to be fully present and enjoy the richness of life - nature, stillness, feeding my curiosities with adventure, romantic love.. my injury broke me down to my core and now I’m building me back up and leaving all the trash behind.. it’s freeing and I’m so grateful 🙏🏽
You're not alone. Unfortunately, for most people, it takes a tragedy for them to revalue what's important in their lives. I'm happy you're on the way back to well-being and feeling good again.
This is faux enlightenment. She's 41 and still thinks "society judges you by your corporate ladder climb"... Literally no one cares. No one thinks about you. Even your close friends spend very little time thinking about you and your life. Shedding all responsibility so she can "eat and sleep" is just laziness. Short-term gratification over everything is literally the opposite of enlightenment.
‼️👎 This laydee said it all @7:22 - "But if we have already reached a stage where scaling back is possible " They probably out right own their home and because of that - have no financial threat, = Fake 👎‼️ NEWCASTLE CALIFORNIA,USA 🇺🇸
This is exactly the route that I took. I retired at 52 when society expected to see me productive until the age of 67 y.o. I decided to heal myself from so much fear and desires that society and families imposed on me. I wanted to be no one, to find my real identity and not the one dictated by a career. I discover little by little that what I really are is love, and the idea of lacking it made me a slave.
“Desirelessness is the greatest bliss.” -Buddha you are an inspiration dear. I’m 42, no kids, not married, and even though I’m an elementary school teacher, sometimes my days are filled with stress and frustration, especially in regards to behavior, unrealistic expectations and demands from the profession, and just living in survival-mode every day. My health also horribly declined in the past years, and I’m asking the universe to point me in the right direction. I wish you an ocean 🌊 of blessings and continued joy ☀️.
Thank you for this video. I’m 28 and got my heart broken by someone who I really cared for because I wasn’t “ambitious enough” I live in my own and take care of my bills and have my own car and I take care of my dog. But still wasn’t worthy. I believed for a few days he was right but you helped me understand they are different paths. My soul is happy and I love genuinely.
If you are just 28, you need to increase your income, save, invest so that it can compound to something meaningful later so that you can have this life....sorry it sounds hard but you dont need to stop being who you are along the way
You are inherently worthy! You don't require anyone's judgement or permission. You are a sacred, worthy, luminous being. You are love. And your love is for giving.
I am 28 also. I live on my own, am single & financially stable. I enjoy the simple things… eating good food, walks in nature, and having a calm, happy home. I’ve been afraid that in my next relationship, someone will see me as “not ambitious” as well, or “too boring.” …. But that’s not the case, even if someone else were to believe that. People just find joy in different things and that’s okay. Maybe you 2 weren’t compatible but that doesn’t mean you are any less worthy, and it doesn’t mean you aren’t a great match for someone else :)
This is exactly what I want. I thought I was weird and everyone around me tells me I’m just lazy for not wanting to achieve so much. But you explained the exact way I feel about life and just living.
This woman was incredibly ambitious though, she was a lawyer who made enough with her husband to retire early - go out there and get a high powered job so you can do the same!
Hi, erm, as per my pinned comment to the video cos of all the misconceptions, just to clarify, yes I was a lawyer 12 years ago, yes I made a lot once upon a time, but I also spent a lot n when I walked away from the job, I actually didn’t have significant savings, cos back then I didn’t understand the value and importance of money. The bulk of our passive income was created and set up in the 4+ years before we retired in 2021, from our business together in Vietnam.
I am in my sixtys and I can tell you that you have wisdom beyond your years. We are all veiwed as nothing more than grease to lubricate the giant machine that we all keep from grinding to a halt. But the machine is so monstrous no one person can see how big it all is.
You did that! Well said, all the way around. I retired at 41 from the Army, everyone wanted me to go and get a job. I was like the point, when I was 14yrs old, was to be retired after my 20 years in the Army. When in the Army, I had to get up before the sun was up and really never got to enjoy Beautiful Morning Sunrises, unless on the weekends. There were too many days, over the 20+ years, that I just wanted to sit and enjoy the birds and not have any concern for my duties. I got that at 41 and have not let others influence me to get back into the rat race. Much Love to you and yours.
You articulated exactly how I've been feeling for years but have been too afraid to admit it. I'm a slow living girl at heart. I'm exhausted from even wanting big dreams that I am nowhere close to achieving. Thank you for this video!!! 💛
From my perspective, I see you’re living as if you guys are wealthy. You have a beautiful home and live in a beautiful environment. These do not come without hard work and sacrifice. Somewhere, somehow, there are more than adequate resources coming into your life. You reap what you sow. You are very fortunate and thanks for sharing.
LOL. This is a show off video to beat show off videos! While it laughably pretends to be about the self effacing retreat from vanity and materialism by an enlightened and humbled every man, it bellows at the top of its lungs: "Look at me! Look at my wonderful place and things! Don't I have a great life! Aren't I special!" Paul Fussell defined "bad" as something palpably unpleasant (like vanity) and "capital bad" as when that bad thing is presented as something good or great. Most vanity videos are merely bad. This one is CAPITAL BAD.
@@prestogerman6862cant agree more with you. I lead a simple and slow life too but I am too slow too even make a video, doing the editing and put on youtube. If I do all that, it would kill my definition of slow living cause to produce a content need a lot of work. I was like, screw that and continue practicing the real slow living in my not so cool accommodation cause I am not “I used to make a lot of money and now I am retired”…. I always not making enough and still I said screw that. Hahaha
OMG😭 Just quit my job in a so-called “big name company” to pursue a career in an animal rescue NPO and the warm message you send with this video really came in time! I really need this. Very beautiful work you’ve done. Thank you!🥺
Trust me, you did everything right. I respect you for that. I've been saying for years that I want to quit my job and do something I love, but I'm still sitting here because I'm too afraid.
Hi everyone! Thank you for sharing your thoughts in the comments. My husband & I are so incredibly grateful that we were able to F.I.R.E & retire over 2 years ago to live in beautiful yet affordable Bali, Indonesia (where this video was shot). This had been our dream since ≈ 2016 - and through dedicated years of working, saving and investing, we were able to actualise our dream in 2021. If you'll like to find out more about this there's more information here ua-cam.com/video/8JLn2d43Wfw/v-deo.htmlsi=i1v3Ufus1mMnRegZ. There have been many comments regarding how we are able to afford our slow living beach lifestyle, so I just wanted to clarify. Everyone walks a different path in life. For many years, when i was still struggling as a "surfer trapped in the body of a lawyer" in Singapore, I was deeply conflicted & upset that my peers all seemed to be happy living the normal conventional life in Singapore, working, getting successful, being with their friends and family. Why on earth was it so difficult only for me? It's been an emotionally and physically challenging journey for me to build the life I have today, brick by brick. It's taken over 12 years, and I can't claim all the credit. Providence has been so kind as to reward all our risk taking and hard work... I'm very fortunate to have started from a fairly privileged position in life - few debts, no dependents... and the universe also sent me my husband to share my dreams and my burdens. If you'd asked me at 29 (when I quit my job) what I thought my life would be at 38 (when we retired), I never would have imagined even anything remotely akin to our reality now. So for everyone out there who shares similar dreams to V & I, I just want to encourage you to tune out the external noise, listen to your internal voice and follow your own compass. Take it one step at a time, and you might be there sooner than you realise. I just wanted to share my thoughts on this. Thanks for watching :)
I'm so very proud of you. The planet needs more calm and people living simply yet with such appreciation that you have shown to be possible. Nature has taught me so much... Thank you 🙏🏽
VERY BRAVE & COURAGEOUS,OUTSTANDING VIDEO THANK YOU FOR SHARING YOUR STORY...IM SOON TO RETIRE AND LIVE THE SAME AS YOU...LIFE ISNT ABOUT STUFF..TRUE SUCCESS IS REAL.PEACE ,TRANQUILITY CONTENTMENTAND ANXIOUS FOR NOTHING.
You have more then so many have. A loving partner, a dog, a beautiful house, and the things you do, living at the beach etc. you earn enough to have such a beautiful life. I wished I had achieved that much. Congratulation on having so many things and people in your live that are so beautiful. You have more then most who struggle to have even a decent life with less than you have.
LOL. This is a show off video to beat show off videos! While it laughably pretends to be about the self effacing retreat from vanity and materialism by an enlightened and humbled every man, it bellows at the top of its lungs: "Look at me! Look at my wonderful place and things! Don't I have a great life! Aren't I special!" Paul Fussell defined "bad" as something palpably unpleasant (like vanity) and "capital bad" as when that bad thing is presented as something good or great. Most vanity videos are merely bad. This one is CAPITAL BAD.
Partner is near impossible. Casual sex hookup culture. Selfishness and throwaway culture. There isnt even "dating" anymore let alone stable relationships.
@@prestogerman6862 You cut and pasted three times. Agenda much? They do this on tiny home videos too. Banksters of America? The cabal wants people enslaved with mortgages. They send shills to shit-post on these types of videos to plant doubt.
@@prestogerman6862To Mr Givins Nhe no humans can show off are flaunt to me wealth as I'm accomplished in ways people can fathom with my girl globes educational products over every government college business media religion forever!😊❤
The best definition of happiness I heard was from Alfred Hitchcock. In an interview a long time ago he said, "Happiness is a clear horizon." It seems too many people allow society to guide their lives. You've learned, and I hope I've learned, that the best life is when we are spontaneously propelled from within -- not from without.
I finished university in 2022,i haven't been able to secure a job since then and it had taken a great toll on me, recently i come to a realisation that i only felt that way because that's what is expected of me in this day and age. I have come to a deeper realisation that i want a simple life, i am now trying to accept my worth regardless of not having all that, i must say i am pretty excited thank you for confirming my deep desire 😍♥️
Bruh it’s been 2 years, you could’ve been a server or many other things in that time to make some money and gain experience. You are unemployed by choice
The idea of trying to achieve big goals is so overrated. I think just living your best happy life is so underrated. Thank you for this video, really enjoyed it
Your message resonates so much with me, Jean. I have been grinding in academia and corporate America for decades, working every waking hour. Making the most money possible, growing a UA-cam Channel, collecting graduate degrees and it seems there is no end insight. Life is the delusion of enjoyment and it's never enough! I always thought of leaving everything, slowing down, and living a simple, relaxing life in Bali, away from the West. Maybe this moment will come one day!
Hi, I'm amazed how you grew your channel subscribers form 30,000 in early November last year to over 250k now in just over 3 months?? Your views aren't amazing apart from one or 2 videos It seems you may have got the influx from the 1% secret AI tool video that did very well. It's not easy generating regular decent views to make UA-cam a proper income source.
It takes a lot of courage and selfknowledge to give up unrealistic standards, worship of false images, materialism and superficiality, competition and concern for what others may think of you.
People think it's easy to step away from all the racing rats competing outdoing each other to race up the corp ladder - the courage to stand alone not move with the crowds is admirable
This totally resonated with me ❤ I used to be one who wanted it all. I thought it was how life should be. Today I don't have much, but I'm happy with the simple things in life. It took many deaths in my life for me to realize what's important to me. People are constantly hustling and I'm just tired of chasing money. I just go with the flow and do what I can/what's for me to earn. I know I'll always have enough money to live life my way because I'm resourceful and I can manage money well from my struggles in life. Thanks for sharing! ❤
I started to feel exactly the same way around 40/41 and didn't have the courage to admit it or explore the "no ambition" life style. Throughout my life, I've been asked "well don't you want more" in some form or other. As though my mere existing, paying my own bills, taking care of my self, keeping to myself was some kind of crime against nature. I'll be 50 this year and decided to devote however many years that I have left to being my authentic self, only nurturing healthy, loving relationships even if those are few. Disconnecting from people that hurt me in the name of love/family, not chasing down the high visibility job. I love that this video crossed my feed because I'd been wondering if I was crazy for "lacking ambition" or just wanting to live a quiet but happy, fulfilled life. Thank you for sharing your journey and this message because so many of us needed this confirmation✨️💕🙏🏽
Right there with you, I was early 40s when I realized that the hustle life was never going to be for me, despite so many around me bragging about how much they worked and how exhausted they were all the time. Now when my peers go on about climbing the ladder or buying a new sports car, I reply that my ambitions are to minimize stress and stay physically/emotionally fit. I'm early 50s now, and working a low level warehouse job that lets me walk around all day, drive a forklift and leave the job behind after 8 hours. I'm not quite able to retire yet, but aiming for 60 Life is so much better when you live it authentically.
@Recneps27 I love this so much for you! Same, I'm aiming to retire at 60 as well but to also live a low stress, happy healthy life until I can retire fully. That hustle mentality almost killed me in my 20s and 30s and to add injury to insult, not only did I feel crazy for not being able to maintain it, others echoed that sentiment. Wishing you the absolute best on this journey of being our authentic selves🙏🏽💕
@GregPopabich I was listening to something earlier this week, and the phrase "what you seek is seeking you." You/I/ we will have the peace and happiness that we are seeking 🙏🏽💕
This was great. Thank you for sharing. You saying “be horrible at my hobbies” helped me realize that I’m looking at hobbies all wrong. I’ve never had one because I feel like I suck at everything but I’m so interested in so many things despite my lack of talents. I should just do them anyway because it might make me happy
I love this comment. Do it! I think these days, because of social media, even hobbies are viewed as something to turn into a side hustle, competition or thing to brag about, when they exist first and foremost to be enjoyed.
New subscriber here, I just found your channel and I'm 💯 percent in agreement with you. I quit my stressful job, got some chickens, and live simply with my family. I'm so much more happier now. Thank you for sharing.
Oh gosh, thank you so much. Your voice alone is so soothing and it makes me want to slow down and live!!!!! I just retired and I don't want to live to compare to other's lives, I want to take time to enjoy and learn a hobby, look at sunsets. I don't want to have to prove myself to anyone anymore. Thank you soooo much for this enlightening video!
@@chrisschneiders6734 She is living an absolutely awesome life. She is not relatable at all though to the 95% of people as she claims. She is part of the 1%.
@@edfast5893 The hell kinda nonsense is that? I am actually like her to a high degree and that's why I can say that her words are lies. She is not relatable at all, she has rental income from properties in Singapore and lives cheap life in Bali, has all the time in the world, surfing everyday. The life she has right now is ambitious af, way more so than climbing the corporate ladder. It's not "uhh I just gave up on certain things cause I found more meaning in simple stuff and relationships". That's why she should not be trying to seem relatable cause she is not. 90% of people have to work in order to survive.
You're right. I never follow anything or anyone. They take the low road and I take the high untraveled road and do it my way. Everything starts in my mind as a dream. Then make that dream a reality. In my time of being alone is where I found my greatest strength. Happiness only comes from within.
I agree... I have lived my life being free, creative, and living in peace and tranquility as much as possible. In my last ten years, I have been guided by Daoist and Epicurean philosophies that resonated with my already-established way of life. In a few words, it confirmed the choices of my life to go with nature and live with pleasure. For me, nothing is more important than peace of mind, tranquility, and creativity in living. ...I follow my bliss and simply live my way.
I am a self employed, low level ambitious artist boomer, still making art and enjoying it. I’ve had lots of time to live a slow life besides work. Highly recommend.
Yep I get you. Turning 55 this year over 30 years in corporate. Ready to make a leap to make the best of whatever time that is left and live a life that is truly meaningful to me.
Chasing money is like chasing the wind and trying to keep money in your hands is like trying to hold water in your hands it’s useless we must just aim to be happy and count our blessings if we are healthy thank you jean for your video
Money won't buy happiness in your later life when your loved ones are gone and you are left alone with your pile of money , don't wait until it's too late to spend time with loved ones as time passed quickly and you will realise you have given your soul to your employer who really doesn't care much about you in the end you are disposable to them but not your family loved ones remember that always
Money today is actually currency and acts and behaves as such. Currency flows in and out like electric currents. That's how money works. In your hands and out the other..
I retired early and 13 years later … absolutely no regrets. Keeping it simple by riding my bicycle, sailing my little skiff, reading and capturing minimalist landscape photo images is very satisfying. Thanks for this fine video. 📷🚴♂️⛵️🌞
Absolutely, Jean. You've articulated a beautiful truth - that a life of purpose and meaning can be found outside the relentless pursuit of achievements. It's about cherishing the present moment, finding joy in simplicity, and cultivating deep connections. This resonates deeply. ❤💚💜
Thank you for reaffirming what I've been feeling. I thought there was something wrong with me for not having ambitions and to just slow down and enjoy the simple things in life. I'm glad I'm not the only one
Singaporean here... At the age of 40, I share the same sentiments. I no longer strive for wealth, prestige and career advancement... Grown tired of the rat race and decided to settle on a part-time job in order to spend more time with loved ones. I also have time to exercise and take care of myself. I was just too unhappy with the fast paced, cutthroat environment that I was working in. Hopefully I can eventually move to a place with plenty of nature like where you are now.
Hi Jeb, thanks for leaving this note. We have similar stories! I quit my legal career back at age 29 and then drifted thru years of part time/free lance gigs across many different places travelling - it was a radically different paradigm but it suited my nature much better and i was so much happier than in corporate. I'm lucky my path eventually led me to my life today. I'm sure you're on the path to your own happiness as well. All the best 🌻
I have left Singapore because of the rat race. I used to pay 14k/ month rent in Singapore, I worked so hard to pay for a very expensive lifestyle there and I wasn't happy. I left to live by the beach with lots of nature and smiley faces around me. I get to do yoga and walk on the beach and meet interesting people everyday which I didn't have time to do when I was living in Singapore. Family and friends might think I have no ambition and they think I'm crazy leaving behind a great paying job but now I live for myself and I do want what I want, not following the social nom. Thanks for the great video.
Your actual ambitions are to be happy, enjoy life and spend time with your loved ones 😊 I’m 39 single work as a bellman at a hotel and decided to stay as one I don’t need to bring stress in my life. But I’m retiring in 1-2 years
Wow, congrats on brilliant decisions! I'm a 38 retired businessman. After 12 years in business, I have realized that I could have achieved the same by doing a simple job without all that stress of managing people, etc. And by investing, of course. I admire your smart and self-aware approach. Have a fantastic retirement!
I am in tears listening to this. I have wanted for so long to just vanish from the hustle and the many attempts to reach sociatal and familial notions of nirvana. So happy for you.
You have more than enough, and maybe more than the rest of us...I never really have time to enjoy myself, while trying to keep-up in society... you're on the right path
I have lived through much, and now I think I have found what is needed for happiness. A quiet secluded life in the country, with the possibility of being useful to people to whom it is easy to do good, and who are not accustomed to have it done to them; then work which one hopes may be of some use; then rest, nature, books , music, love for one's neighbor - such is my idea of happiness. And then, on top of all that, a wife, and children, perhaps - what more can the heart of a man desire? -Leo Tolstoy
This is exactly how I feel and think everyday. It’s nice to know there are others out there like me. Thank you for putting my thoughts into words. Take care
Girrrrrrrl. I am you💕I am a stay at home Mom of two daughters & have a happy marriage of 22 years❤️ I eat healthy & keep in shape. I would rather stay at home & cook for my family 💕 I too live at the beach in California. My husband is driven & I enjoy supporting him in the shadows 😘💕
Same here! I'm dentist by vocation and have worked for couple of years in several private dental officies and decided to just be a Mom! I live in Serbia, and yes it ia so hard with one income but I menage it ❤
I agree... I have lived my life being free, creative, and living in peace and tranquility as much as possible. In my last ten years, I have been guided by Daoist and Epicurean philosophies that resonated with my already-established way of life. In a few words, it confirmed the choices of my life to go with nature and live with pleasure. For me, nothing is more important than peace of mind, tranquility, and creativity in living. ...I follow my bliss and simply live my way.
Natasha Helwig “You are here to live. Not to earn, not to stress, not to prove, not even to please. Just to live.” exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you x
I moved to Bali from Jakarta two years ago, and for the first time.. I felt peace and contentment. I learned to live with less, and yet I feel more fulfilled and content than I have ever been. It dawned upon me that I have lived most of my life worrying how others would perceive me, and that I haven't been living fully for myself or my loved ones. It's liberating to finally have my priorities straight.
we need space, physical and mental, to sort those kinds of thoughts out. Jakarta, like Singapore, is probably a difficult place to sort out our minds about who are inside cos of all the pressures and distractions. Glad things worked out for you :)
Yeah let's all sit still and not harvest crops etc. and see how long we'll last before we will die of starvation. Will be a good thing for the planet though. 😉
Doing will never replace being? Really ? Is it also true for the surgeon who will operate on you? Also, ambition isn't necessarily money-oriented. You can have the ambition and work you ass off to be the best pediatrician possible! This philosophy seems very self-centered and complacent to me: it gives work and efforts the worst motivations possible, to better justify avoiding them. How convenient! That state of mind limits the human spirit to only work to service of our physical needs. How sad!
"Most people bring the best of themselves to work, and then bring the leftovers back home". Wow, this single sentence is an eye opener, all essence of an average person's working life is captured in this short sentence. Thanks for the amazing clarity of thought you bring on your channel.
I feel you 🙏🏼❤️ Thank you so much for this video. It's always nice to be reminded by likeminded peole that our slow lifes with less are as worthy and beautiful as those with "more". When I find myself surrounded by family members who are constantly busy I tend to think of me as boring or not ambitious enough. Especially when I get asked "so what's new in your life? what have you been up to?" and I don't have exciting stories or achievments to share. But when I'm back "home" with my husband going on our daily walks I feel content and peaceful inside. I know the slow and mindful way of life are what make me truly happy, but in this society where everything and everyone get judged by their achievments it's not always easy beeing the one with "no ambitions". So thank you, dear Jean and Vitali for showing up just the way you are and sharing your thoughts with us.❤️ Wish you all the best. Nastja
Hi Nastja, thank you for sharing your story with me too. I know that feeling of inadequacy when amongst company, especially my former peers in Singapore. It's not easy keeping the self-doubt from creeping in. But like you say, when i leave the social circle and am back home with Pam and Vitaly, the happiness and peaceful beauty of our everyday reality makes it very clear we have made the right choices for us. I'm glad to see the self-assurance in the words you wrote xoxo.
Thank you for your great video! I've been feeling unhappy for the past few days because I can't find a job yet. But your lovely video reminds me that what truly matters to me. I know that getting a job is still important since it helps to support one financially, but I also reaalize that I don't need to scacrifice my life/good mood for a job. Thank you again. Sending lots of love!
Hi Jean Your a lightworker, these are the traits of a lightworker. I also have little ambitious... sometimes I feel like I'm too lazy. I know my purpose here, and I know I'm following my path. So happy to have come across this UA-cam video...blessings to all who feel this way also. Follow your ❤
Thank you! This video is confirmation for me that it’s okay to just ‘be’. Just last night I pondered this idea and asked why I don’t have ambition in life and why I’m content just being me. Your story is just what I needed today ❤
Thankyou so much for having the courage of sharing your personal journey. As the under achiever in my family , this helped me to put my life into perspective! I relate to you on so many levels and can really appreciate about just living in the moment! Many blessings for being so raw and candid!
A simple but profound message. My only concern is that of the 8 billion+ people on this planet, there are many people that want to take away our land, food and joy through manipulation and force.
I love this. I want a simple and uncomplicated life as well. I’m 44 and no kids and find joy in just being and enjoying the simple things and my hobbies like writing ✍🏻
Interesting message but the video shows beautiful beaches, beautiful home. These are luxuries the normal person dreams about. To match your message you should have a low income house in a bad neighborhood and then show the beauty there. Your message says you gave up on ambition but there is vanity in this video. It's like you're saying I gave up but I still won. A universal message is be in the now. Reveal to yourself the illusion of time. Love yourself Meditate Avoid the dangers of collectivism and begin searching internally rather than finding fulfillment externally Be Forgive Love Now
Ach ach ga 10 hoog wonen in een achterstandswijk Daar willen mensen werken om.ook.zo te leven Het is niet weggelegd voor 80 procent van de wereldbevolking. En verder.... ..............mmm
I like it. You seem to have a rich lifestyle already. One issue for many is high cost societies with many living from payday to payday. Not everyone has an easy opportunity to move to lower cost locations in SE Asia or similar.
This yes, and she thinks that she is part of the 95% lmaooo maybe before yes, definitely not now. Rental income from properties in Singapore and living in Bali, surfing everyday. She is not relatable at all.
. I agree. Its complicated. But possible. You can move somewhere like this. Where it doesn't require much to live. Have a low cost of living in a cheaper country. And have what she has. Or. You can go hard for a few years find a way to have guaranteed passive income. And then live somewhere cheaper out of country or even in country These are only two options. But there is more than that.
I hit the biggest achievement of my career in 2020, which I worked hard for, then came to find out I still wasn't happy. It's the same idea for chasing girls, money, cars, etc. I ended up leaving my job two years later because I burned myself out. I'm starting to realize a lot of what Jean is saying. I still do the same type of work but without the inflated ego and high roller mindset I once had. Slow is smooth, smooth is fast. Embrace it all.
You have described how the majority of people want to live in Europe in general. More importance is given to private life, than chasing ambitions at work. I too chose to have left over energy to spend with my kids instead of giving all of me to work. I sometimes question that decision when I see where my classmates and peers are achieving, on LinkedIn. On one of those days, I will watch your video again to validate my life decisions. Thanks a lot for this video.
Linkedin is toxic. Linkedin is helpful to drive this narrative that your personal identity is locked up within corporate/professional life. It's simply corporate propaganda. It's essentially a public HR firm that you pay for with your information.
The problem with having a European mindset is that your manager is still going to speak badly of you until you work at the rate and speed that they want you to work to make the manager and the shareholders happy. The best thing is to work for yourself.
I normally don't leave comments on yt but wow what a breath of fresh air. To hear a similar sentiment to how I feel about the world today. 'I just want to live a small and simple life.'
No matter what a person will achieve in life, there will always be plenty of people around who will act as this would mean nothing, who will want to let you know how small you seem in their eyes. These are just games and it's up to us if we choose to dive into or push them away. So live only for yourself and for those who really love you. I think this only can be the best achievement in life.
I think some of the commentors are missing the point. She is not in the US but in Bali or an island similar to Bali. It doesn't take much USD to achieve an easy carefree lifestyle like this if you put your mind to it and work hard for a few years. You could work and save and invest or work remote and live on a wonderful island with all the nomad visa options available. If you want to stay in the rat race that is part of the US culture, it's your choice but being free and relaxing like she is showing in this video is really possible if you want it.
This! Thanks for this note I’m gonna pin it! It’s so frustrating seeing some of the other comments really… thanks! 🙏🤗✨
Well said. That's the only real currency we have in life. Time. Make the most of it doing what you love. You can live a good life anywhere but definitely Bali is a slice of heaven. Not sure how affordable it is as inflation has driven prices up everywhere but you can find affordable places to live outside of big cities. Like in America if you live in the NYC San Fran and big cities it's expensive but if you move further out into suburbs and smaller towns you can find affordable housing and your own little slice of heaven without a mortgage noose and enjoy life a little. But she touched on a very important point. Live below your means. Control your spending. I see alot of people make good money working long hours to pay for the big house Mercedes Hermes handbag and all the materialism of the modern world. And there's nothing wrong with that if you have the money and it brings you joy. So I think it comes down to pursing what you love and managing your money wisely.
@@proceduralcoffeeThere are a lot of gems in this video regardless. I live in a one bedroom apartment in a city/country I hate, everybody I love is an ocean and an ‘impossible’ visa process away, but there’s things I can do to be present and prioritize contentment over the rat race many find themselves in. I can choose to spend less time on my phone doom scrolling, to take my time to really taste the food, to go on a walk while I talk to my friend instead of rotting in bed, be in nature more, pause to smell the flowers. The view from my room is grey and hideous but I still enjoy the sunrise from my bed.
Yes, circumstances can suck compared to this lady’s, but *you* gotta make the best of what you got.
You’d be surprised how many people make all the money you dream of, but never spend it, because they’re stuck mentally just like the rest of us.
or spend it on meaningless things and then always strive for more while feeling empty. I knew someone very wealthy who was buying his 7th sports car but admitted he feels empty. I kept telling him he can just leave instead of competing with his Calabasas neighbors, but they’re just as mentally trapped. Trust me.
@@proceduralcoffee you sound mad
"Most people bring the best of themselves to work and then bring leftovers back home". This sentence deserves to be here.
I am kinda offended by this statement.
This hit home! She is so spot on with this statement.
Reminder to us all
I love this and it is often true.
@@shairunoyou will be okay
Being a 55 year-old guy, there are only three things I value now - inner peace, health and time. You get to a certain age when you realized what really matters in life.
so true. all 3 things are what we spend most of our youth neglecting and wasting away lol
What about God?
Because at 55 your health is declining and you're running out of time... This is why you believe this is most important.
I would say that what really matters in life is the truth ABOUT life. And what really matters in life is understanding why we live, breath, move and have our being, and responding accordingly. As the Bible says, God is the Potter and we are the clay, and there is no way a clay pot can properly define itself by denying its maker and looking in the mirror all day long. To be rich in God, in good works, in virtue, in faith, love and service toward others, and in the hope of eternal life, etc, is to be rich where it matters most. You don't want to die like the farmer in the Bible who, after yet another bumper crop, only built bigger barns to store his increase. He died a fool, being only rich in himself but poor where it mattered most.
As long as you are healthy and without constant pain , you are already living the dream.
little blessings :)
I have been saying this for awhile now. I moved to Thailand when I was 23 because I didn't want to conform to the norms of society. I am 70 now and still here in Thailand living a life filled with love and good health.🙏
How did you support yourself in Thailand at 23 year old... As you were to young for a retirement visa
@@scotlan9144 Teaching was the first thing I did but basically I did anything which provided me with a visa. I never actually looked for work but people I met offered me opportunities. I lived on whatever I made but did not touch savings and longterm investments back home. My history of saving is a longer story than I want to get into here. That was all so long ago that it is not relative to what is available today.
Realistically she will regret the idea of not having kids is dangerous. if simply 1 million people each year decided to not procreate children coneceivng human future it would lead to collapse. She must conceive children with her male mate. She is not truly full filled. That isn't for me to say. Its for me to point and say truth. She doesn't need corporate Job no woman needs it but she can when she wants becoming depressed when she doesn't want it. But those are the consequences of your bad decisions wetheryou realize they're bad at the moment not. God bless all they regret their mistakes for me It hurts a lot and id learn that way. as male if I don't have children stage 21 I'm really losing as she and her husband are double my age. its not good for their mental health at all.
@@IsraelCountryCube it’s totally fine, extinction is a part of life. We are not god. God gave us free will and choosing not to have children is a part of that. I met plenty of childless elderly men and women and they are just like everyone else. Depression affects everyone and actually affects people with children more than those without children.
@@scotlan9144 He made his fortune at 23 the old fashioned way.... inherited it.
"Food is food, beach is beach."
Couldn't agree more
Try funding your trip there.
@@jerseyjoe82364 love the optimism, but the point went over your head.
i have food and beach where i live too so...
no need to "fund" "trips"
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She doesn't have kids. Maybe she is a citizen of a country with universal healthcare also. But just the fact that she is living for herself with no dependents allows her to have this mentality. Not everyone can.
@@meself349 Absolutely, kids ruin god damn all of these retirement plans. And if you have kids at 20 nowadays and you are poor, your life is basically ruined.
The "not interesting" people are usually the deepest wells of wisdom - the hidden gems of society that are a gift to be lucky enough to be friends with
So True That! I am grateful to have a few of those " not interesting" people in my life! They are the REAL FRIENDS ,they are there for you when you need them!! because they are " not interested" in the superficiality of life that all others are - getting busy to follow trends and nonsense, then those interesting and egocentric friends are not there for us.
I noticed it too, I don’t know if it’s always true but among my friends the ones that are the simplest, « not interesting », are the most resilient, wise and at peace. While those that are are obsessed with societal goals are the most depressed and anxious
"most people bring the best of themself to work and then bring the left over home"... well said!
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That’s why I quit my day job
True makes me so sad to think about my father never could relax, he would come home grinding his teeth and he was the most patient loving man and yet societal pressures would do him in and it used to hurt me watching him so stress at home. Dealing with the crap at work and then coming home and dealing with my selfish narcissistic and inconsiderate mother and all us kids, the constant grind. I cry when I think about him. He's at peace with God now. How the matrix programmed that generation into the next
What can be really bad is people bring home their anger that was cultivated at work and take it out on their family.
@@catzee4720 So true. And usually the soft kind people are the ones that get picked on by bullies.
As a woman who became officially disabled in 2018, I have really been bothered by the notion that you're only worth as much as you make. It's been a whole different mental challenge to feel my value, to understand my worth of I didn't have a career. I'm home every day and survive on a small amount of money. But it allows me to slow down and notice things that others don't care about in their rush. And I love the stillness. There's so much beauty and grace in the stillness. I read, cook, journal, write letters to family, take care of the cat and dog. And I am working towards having an online business with my daughter, selling vintage and antiques, which is my great passion. I am never bored. I have begun to find the good in this imperfect body.
Thank you for sharing this. A simple life is all I aspire to. So nice to meet like-minded people!
UPDATE: Just wanted to thank everyone for their comments. It's been very uplifting in a sense to connect with others and I'm grateful for each of you who bother to read my "essay" ☝️lol Bless you all 🙏
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Sorry for your lost.
Life is like this. When we lose something belong to us, we realise we miss a lot in our life
I loved reading your comment, what a beautiful state of mind. Much love to you ❤
@@jip7971 Thank you, friend. I appreciate your kind words 🙏
I'm 62, visually-impaired to the point of not being able to drive, and I also believe I have other undiagnosed disabilities which have made it next to impossible for me to keep a FT job. (Not get, but keep) I was dumped by my ex-wife after 20 years because I could never be the PWE she was looking for, and she was tired of having her whole life consumed with worrying about me - to the point where she couldn't even be herself. Probably a good reason to divorce someone, but I've been forced to accept and love myself with the knowledge that I have "failed" first myself, and then other key family members, because I couldn't provide for them. Let alone, the idea that I'm not "crushing it" at life! It's a hard thing to live with in a society that places a price tag on the value of everything and everyone. But I also feel down deep that that is all bs, and I am just as much a quality person as anyone, regardless of my w2's! After all, this is the same society that treats homeless people like garbage, and when they walk by them, acts like they don't even exist!! I'm still fighting to some degree, but I am very tired of having to beg for my subsistence. And now that I have my Social Security, I pick and choose which jobs I do to make ends meet, realizing that the simpler a lifestyle I lead, and the less "stuff" I acquire, the less dependent I have to be on others to employ me. But in general, I have given up on the standard 9-5 ever working for me, as it never has. That's why this video so appealed to me.
"YOU'RE HERE TO LIVE,NOT TO EARN,NOT TO STRESS,NOT TO PROVE,NOT EVEN TO PLEASE" I need to write it down so I will not forget ever again. Thank you 🙏
but maybe we're here also to give back! so selfish otherwise.
We need to earn a living otherwise how to live? If they didn't have money can they have this lifestyle?? Wake up!
@@BeingHuman-pl8sm you realise that as a human everything single thing is temporary. all this control over the mind stuff all goes away when you die. so your argument against this is contradicting
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I don't work, I take money from people, couldn't be happier right now, that working to have a purpose believers are a joke and all wrong, there is no difference on me working or not working, I'm just 1 person, realistically I make no difference in society, not that I ever wanted to make a difference 😂
This lady is so right. We need a home, food and clothes but we can live simply and get pleasure from friends and the environment that we live in.
Yet white people come to completely different conclusions when judging Polynesian villages and African villages. Africans are lazy and undeveloped. Polynesians are free thinking and connected to nature. This is the dideased thinking of te white man.
Bro you realize even in USA people work three jobs to live in an apartment?
Looks like she has a huge home in some tropic paradise and she doesn't work?
What does she do to get all that?
probably the boy friend@@Lion-rf8xi
@@Lion-rf8xi She was a well paid lawyer in Singapore. Currently has rental properties in Singapore and living cheap life close by in Bali, Indonesia. She has an absolutely amazing life right now and is part of the 1% in the world. However definitely not relatable at all.
@@silverwolf2643especula con los pisos aprovechándose de mucha gente que vive una vida de mierda en los trabajos, justamente lo que a ella no le gusta y dejó. Que hipocresía por favor. Por muy dulce que quiera parecer, debajo de todo está toda la maldad de nuestra sociedad.
Freedom was the day I stopped caring what others thought of me.
Joy and happiness is an inside job.
No matter where you, go or what you do, you take yourself with you.
But how can you learn to do that? I love my family a lot but I'm afraid I will let them down if I don't become very successful in life and it scares me exactly because I care about them.. I am tired feeling this way but I don't know how to overcome it
@@blackbullet4254their emotional well being is not your responsibility
I work part time, I walk through the woods, I eat what I like, I watch the people around me who are stressed to the limit. I have some stress, but I'm working to simplify and purge everything unnecessary.
You have a full life, Jean.
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I’m literally crying watching this on repeat. Living the corporate America rat race now and I feel so suffocated. This life you talk about has been my dream for the past 3 years. Praying that God will grant me the courage the make the change and live a simple and uncomplicated life. Thank you for the inspiration! 🙏💕 To all my friends here, thank you very much for all the support and advice. I’ve created a plan for a more simple way of life and will be working to achieve this goal in the next year. Thanks again and all the best to you all. Hope all your dreams come true! 💕
You are the creator of your reality..make it a master peace..your master peace...wish you love and happiness ❤️
Thank you for the encouragement! ❤
It may be time to walk away - before it's too late ... 💞✨️
@@chantalboileau7692 Just. Do. It. I sold all and left US 19 yrs ago for Southeast Asia. Zero regrets. Learned a LOT about myself that no school could teach you. I live very simply, and enjoy the simple things like beers or coffees with friends, exercising, watching movies, writing. Go somewhere for a visit, and connect with other expats. You may find your place in the sun. Best luck dear!
what's holding you back?
I’ve grown up around people who are so obsessed with working overtime and making money and buying the latest gadgets that it makes me despise these things…the best things in life are free and out there….you can find happiness out there without lots of money…we just need to slow down and enjoy life….our mental health is most important
Yeah... it takes consciousness to not follow the crowd and to form your own opinion against the tide, so kudos 🌻😊
House on the beach is free?
Ignore what everyone else is doing and put on the blinders. You do you, that's it.
@@mzivkovic84😂😂 and a good camera to create content not free too
@@SumatraIslandGirl You don't need those things to be free. 😉🤫 But keep making excuses for your enslavement. See where it gets you.
I used to think there was something wrong with me for not being ambitious. Now I realise that ambition is causing you to project your mind in to the future when the best place to be is in the present moment. In fact, it's the only thing that exists!
ooh I'm glad you pointed this out. It's very true it does detract from being present in the now 🌻
Yes, the present.. the gift.
Not true
❤❤❤ 🙏🏽Thank you. 🙏🏽❤️❤️❤️
so true
“It’s okay to not be interesting” I’ve never heard that before. But it was refreshing. It’s like saying “you’re enough as you are”. ❤ Those words were surprisingly comforting. Thank you 🙏
That's a good message 💚
though being ambitious doesn't automatically mean that they are also interesting.
I love it!! I am a very spiritual person and my ex wife wanted it all. She told me 'I am the world's most boring person.' I am not, just not super career and money motivated. We are all heading to a box in the ground and a spiritual forever I believe, not interested in temporary gains. Looks like these folks in the video made theirs and then got out.
I wish I had known this as a young mother. I too am an introvert, I like to stay home, I liked raising children, but I always felt tremendous guilt for not being out in the world, not earning a living and not contributing to society. Constantly kicking yourself for things you are good at that society doesn't value is a losing game. I realize now that although we didn't have much , I could have pared down my wants a little more and still have been content. My kids would have still been well cared for . I could have been an example of peace, contentment and wisdom, instead of a frustrated person who worried entirely too much about what people thought.
Wonderful message!! Thank you for pointing it out🙏
This is what it means to be HUMAN.
We don’t need the latest brands, corporations, social media, selfish governments, luxury cars, stress, hate or envy if we just understand that all we need is the simple things that are shown in this video.
You have a partner and a dog that's a lot!
I've lost my ambitions at 33, could no longer compete for a raise or a better job, try being best at everything.
Now I live a slow life taking care of pets and my husband, I paint I play instruments and take long walks in nature, society's standards don't apply to me. I hardly go out shopping other than for groceries, I think it's a waste or time.
I wish everyone can slow down and realise the best things in life don't require you put yourself in overdrive ❤
You couldn't have said it any better! Your words resonated alot with me. I also lost my career ambitions 5 years ago at 40. I used to be a really ambitious career driven woman with jobs that everyone envied. At 40 , i lost my business & my entire life savings, chronic pain & illness overtook my life. Now I am a full time house & pet sitter. I have a chronic health condition that gives me daily pain so i don't have the capacity to get a job, despite having multiple university degrees and a coveted resume. I am single, no partner nor children. I am working through my unresolved trauma, trapped in my mind and body. Friends and family are not that supportive of my "alternative lifestyle", asking me when am i going to come back to reality and resume my life & career. To be honest, i don't have the drive anymore nor the capacity at the moment. Thesedays i am happy when i have a pain-free, drama-free mundane day, with a nice meal, walk in nature and netflix.
Beautiful choice✨💖⭐️✨
@@heal2311 oh how I'm hoping you get through the pain, I only realised when you mentioned about your health that my societally imposed ambitions left me after I had a tumor, I've got some autoimmune issues going on post trauma, it was a bit of a wake up call. This makes so much sense to me now, thank you for sharing your story, I hope you find a good bunch of friends who will understand your choices and how you live your life, I admit, not many people around me are supportive but that's ok, I always think it's better to sit and enjoy nature and pets than have a forced conversation with someone who can't or doesn't want to see how trapped they are in the daily hustle the world around us expects.
All the best 💕
Same situation as a fellow 90s baby. The cruel realization is starting to slowly creep in.
It's sad.
@@heal2311Hi, I found Dan Buglio on UA-cam very helpful for chronic health conditions. I have overcome some. I also love to know that I don't have to mold to the way the world sees success. All the best!
I am 32 and I want to start living a slow life. Be content with what God has given me and blessed me.
Thank you for sharing your life. God bless!
👍🙏💙
I've lived in Miami ,, DC and now NYC and my life has never been fast! Busy but not fast so what is a fast life anyway!😊
"One day we will be doing something for the LAST time and we will rarely know when that is happening".... BARZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ!!!!
I “dropped out” right after 911. I was 35 and single without children. I sold my house in the city and most of my belongings and set out by myself to make a new life. My friend asked, “are you gonna get a job and find a house?” I replied that I was going to find a place, and make a new life, and that’s exactly what I did. I moved to the middle of nowhere all by myself, but with my dog. My dad called it voluntary simplicity which I think just helped him explain me to his peers, but I joke I’m a classic underachiever. I live a simple life but have time for my friends and interests. No regrets here. I respect this slow and thoughtful existence. Thank you for this lovely video. I respect your lifestyle and thanks for helping people understand.
me me me me
I live alone but does that make me selfish? I tend to think having children is more “me me me me”. To each his own friend. Luckily we’re not all alike.
@@kevinwelsh7490yep yep yep yep yep
Why would this be a description of an "underachiever". Ambition is little more than the drive to reach a goal, your goal was to find your own place outside of typical society and you seem to have managed just that. The societal norm of what 'ambition' is is more than skewed. Don't sell yourself short, seems like you're doing a lot better than most in terms of acceptance, being content and probably even happiness.
@@shoelacedonkey thank you. ❤️
Judging by the wealth demonstrated in this video I would venture to say that many of your material ambitions have _already_ been realized and you are satisfied not in a world free of possessions, but with a relative opulent lifestyle that is your current environment. "Success" is a relevant term as it generally involves things beyond the most essential elements of existence and you've certainly achieved that.
I think that makes total sense
Word.
Well said. I was thinking something similar. Many people's ambitions must be to live the life depicted in this video.
Yes, I was thinking roughly the same while watching the video.
LOL. This is a show off video to beat show off videos! While it laughably pretends to be about the self effacing retreat from vanity and materialism by an enlightened and humbled every man, it bellows at the top of its lungs: "Look at me! Look at my wonderful place and things! Don't I have a great life! Aren't I special!" Paul Fussell defined "bad" as something palpably unpleasant (like vanity) and "capital bad" as when that bad thing is presented as something good or great. Most vanity videos are merely bad. This one is capital BAD.
Im 39 and a debilitating health crisis forced me into this path 3 years ago.. my life has changed for the better.. I doubled down on the value system I believe I always had, but that I was suppressing .. i have a chronic condition and am still transitioning trying to figure out how to navigate the harsh realities of this. I’m excited however to design my life and my path around what brings joy and allows me to be fully present and enjoy the richness of life - nature, stillness, feeding my curiosities with adventure, romantic love.. my injury broke me down to my core and now I’m building me back up and leaving all the trash behind.. it’s freeing and I’m so grateful 🙏🏽
You're not alone. Unfortunately, for most people, it takes a tragedy for them to revalue what's important in their lives. I'm happy you're on the way back to well-being and feeling good again.
Homebody and introvert here too. Happy after 43 years of laboring in construction. I want this peace too. Feels good.
You deserve it
Invest to escape
It’s time to focus on you :-)
We don’t have to go far, we can do it right where you are, just simplify your life and do what you love, and enjoy.
I never thought I would finally come across someone who thinks like me. You literally made me sigh with relief. Thank you for making this video.
When I listened to this lady one phrase came to mind: Enlightenment.
I agree ❤
This is faux enlightenment. She's 41 and still thinks "society judges you by your corporate ladder climb"... Literally no one cares. No one thinks about you. Even your close friends spend very little time thinking about you and your life. Shedding all responsibility so she can "eat and sleep" is just laziness. Short-term gratification over everything is literally the opposite of enlightenment.
Beautiful Message! Thank you for sharing it with the world.
Thanks for listening 🌻
your content is so addictive . is that alright jean ?
@@JeanVoronkova
OMG! 😃 Prince Ea commenting on your video!!! 🔥☯️🙏🏼
Indeed! Beautiful words of wisdom, Jean.
‼️👎 This laydee said it all @7:22 - "But if we have already reached a stage where scaling back is possible " They probably out right own their home and because of that - have no financial threat, = Fake 👎‼️
NEWCASTLE CALIFORNIA,USA 🇺🇸
This is exactly the route that I took. I retired at 52 when society expected to see me productive until the age of 67 y.o.
I decided to heal myself from so much fear and desires that society and families imposed on me.
I wanted to be no one, to find my real identity and not the one dictated by a career.
I discover little by little that what I really are is love, and the idea of lacking it made me a slave.
I guess it helps if you can afford to retire at 52.
Not so simple if you have a family later in life.
How did you manage it?
Beautiful 💚
You must've had enough money saved to be able to retire at 52.
Nowadays, even a "simple life" is not affordable by everyone.
“Desirelessness is the greatest bliss.” -Buddha
you are an inspiration dear. I’m 42, no kids, not married, and even though I’m an elementary school teacher, sometimes my days are filled with stress and frustration, especially in regards to behavior, unrealistic expectations and demands from the profession, and just living in survival-mode every day. My health also horribly declined in the past years, and I’m asking the universe to point me in the right direction. I wish you an ocean 🌊 of blessings and continued joy ☀️.
Thank you for this video. I’m 28 and got my heart broken by someone who I really cared for because I wasn’t “ambitious enough” I live in my own and take care of my bills and have my own car and I take care of my dog. But still wasn’t worthy. I believed for a few days he was right but you helped me understand they are different paths. My soul is happy and I love genuinely.
If you are just 28, you need to increase your income, save, invest so that it can compound to something meaningful later so that you can have this life....sorry it sounds hard but you dont need to stop being who you are along the way
@@sentipedeable didn’t sound harsh at all, it was solid advice and I appreciate it
You are inherently worthy! You don't require anyone's judgement or permission. You are a sacred, worthy, luminous being. You are love. And your love is for giving.
@@armenalexanian thank you so much! I really appreciate it
I am 28 also. I live on my own, am single & financially stable. I enjoy the simple things… eating good food, walks in nature, and having a calm, happy home. I’ve been afraid that in my next relationship, someone will see me as “not ambitious” as well, or “too boring.” …. But that’s not the case, even if someone else were to believe that. People just find joy in different things and that’s okay. Maybe you 2 weren’t compatible but that doesn’t mean you are any less worthy, and it doesn’t mean you aren’t a great match for someone else :)
I love this: "We can't all be sharks. You gotta have some trout."
Sharks don't eat trout (trout are fresh water). Sharks like seals, more fat.
@@ScentedHuman yea exactly trout live in a different world.
This is exactly what I want. I thought I was weird and everyone around me tells me I’m just lazy for not wanting to achieve so much. But you explained the exact way I feel about life and just living.
It’s not about having no ambition, it’s about having the right ambition. Beautiful message ❤
This woman was incredibly ambitious though, she was a lawyer who made enough with her husband to retire early - go out there and get a high powered job so you can do the same!
Hi, erm, as per my pinned comment to the video cos of all the misconceptions, just to clarify, yes I was a lawyer 12 years ago, yes I made a lot once upon a time, but I also spent a lot n when I walked away from the job, I actually didn’t have significant savings, cos back then I didn’t understand the value and importance of money. The bulk of our passive income was created and set up in the 4+ years before we retired in 2021, from our business together in Vietnam.
No, no, no. Ambition is never a good thing. ✌️
@@TikuVsTakuthis could be debated
@@TikuVsTakuno ambition at all means you can’t get out of bed. That would be the literal def of no ambition
I am in my sixtys and I can tell you that you have wisdom beyond your years. We are all veiwed as nothing more than grease to lubricate the giant machine that we all keep from grinding to a halt. But the machine is so monstrous no one person can see how big it all is.
You did that! Well said, all the way around. I retired at 41 from the Army, everyone wanted me to go and get a job. I was like the point, when I was 14yrs old, was to be retired after my 20 years in the Army. When in the Army, I had to get up before the sun was up and really never got to enjoy Beautiful Morning Sunrises, unless on the weekends. There were too many days, over the 20+ years, that I just wanted to sit and enjoy the birds and not have any concern for my duties. I got that at 41 and have not let others influence me to get back into the rat race. Much Love to you and yours.
enjoy
You articulated exactly how I've been feeling for years but have been too afraid to admit it. I'm a slow living girl at heart. I'm exhausted from even wanting big dreams that I am nowhere close to achieving. Thank you for this video!!! 💛
And such a so-called easy and simple life, is not the norm at all. It's expensive. VERY expensive.
Watch and listen but donr't let yourself getting caught in the illusion/maya.
Go after your simple dreams. Live your life authentic to who you are. It's your basic right.
You worded how I've been feeling all morning 😮💨
From my perspective, I see you’re living as if you guys are wealthy. You have a beautiful home and live in a beautiful environment. These do not come without hard work and sacrifice. Somewhere, somehow, there are more than adequate resources coming into your life. You reap what you sow. You are very fortunate and thanks for sharing.
LOL. This is a show off video to beat show off videos! While it laughably pretends to be about the self effacing retreat from vanity and materialism by an enlightened and humbled every man, it bellows at the top of its lungs: "Look at me! Look at my wonderful place and things! Don't I have a great life! Aren't I special!" Paul Fussell defined "bad" as something palpably unpleasant (like vanity) and "capital bad" as when that bad thing is presented as something good or great. Most vanity videos are merely bad. This one is CAPITAL BAD.
@prestogerman6862 I agree with your general premise although maybe not as strongly. "I used to make a lot of money and now I'm retired."
@@prestogerman6862cant agree more with you. I lead a simple and slow life too but I am too slow too even make a video, doing the editing and put on youtube. If I do all that, it would kill my definition of slow living cause to produce a content need a lot of work. I was like, screw that and continue practicing the real slow living in my not so cool accommodation cause I am not “I used to make a lot of money and now I am retired”…. I always not making enough and still I said screw that. Hahaha
What if she inherited
Yes it takes money to be able to live a beautiful life. I haven't figured out where this is that they live.
OMG😭 Just quit my job in a so-called “big name company” to pursue a career in an animal rescue NPO and the warm message you send with this video really came in time! I really need this. Very beautiful work you’ve done. Thank you!🥺
The animals are so much better company than humans!!! Good choice you made!! ❤😊
Trust me, you did everything right. I respect you for that. I've been saying for years that I want to quit my job and do something I love, but I'm still sitting here because I'm too afraid.
@@Paradise385 Thank you for saying that!!!😭 Just want to let you know that it’s never too late! 🥹
Cool! I hope you are finding joy in your new career! 😊
Hi everyone! Thank you for sharing your thoughts in the comments. My husband & I are so incredibly grateful that we were able to F.I.R.E & retire over 2 years ago to live in beautiful yet affordable Bali, Indonesia (where this video was shot). This had been our dream since ≈ 2016 - and through dedicated years of working, saving and investing, we were able to actualise our dream in 2021. If you'll like to find out more about this there's more information here ua-cam.com/video/8JLn2d43Wfw/v-deo.htmlsi=i1v3Ufus1mMnRegZ. There have been many comments regarding how we are able to afford our slow living beach lifestyle, so I just wanted to clarify. Everyone walks a different path in life. For many years, when i was still struggling as a "surfer trapped in the body of a lawyer" in Singapore, I was deeply conflicted & upset that my peers all seemed to be happy living the normal conventional life in Singapore, working, getting successful, being with their friends and family. Why on earth was it so difficult only for me? It's been an emotionally and physically challenging journey for me to build the life I have today, brick by brick. It's taken over 12 years, and I can't claim all the credit. Providence has been so kind as to reward all our risk taking and hard work... I'm very fortunate to have started from a fairly privileged position in life - few debts, no dependents... and the universe also sent me my husband to share my dreams and my burdens. If you'd asked me at 29 (when I quit my job) what I thought my life would be at 38 (when we retired), I never would have imagined even anything remotely akin to our reality now. So for everyone out there who shares similar dreams to V & I, I just want to encourage you to tune out the external noise, listen to your internal voice and follow your own compass. Take it one step at a time, and you might be there sooner than you realise. I just wanted to share my thoughts on this. Thanks for watching :)
Lovely sentiments with value, but, what do you produce? Contribute to others? Life is easy when others provide.
Just listening to you is calming and inspiring. You have a unique approach to life. . Thank you for you are sharing it with me. .
I'm so very proud of you. The planet needs more calm and people living simply yet with such appreciation that you have shown to be possible. Nature has taught me so much...
Thank you 🙏🏽
VERY BRAVE & COURAGEOUS,OUTSTANDING VIDEO THANK YOU FOR SHARING YOUR STORY...IM SOON TO RETIRE AND LIVE THE SAME AS YOU...LIFE ISNT ABOUT STUFF..TRUE SUCCESS IS REAL.PEACE ,TRANQUILITY CONTENTMENTAND ANXIOUS FOR NOTHING.
@@seandunn1128
What she produces and provides to others is the reason that brought you here on her channel.
You have an AMBITION. To be happy. I did the same at 50+ I'm living in Sicily and enjoying LIFE! ❤
Can I come visit. 😅 I have loved to visit Sicily from Betty White in golden girls 😂😂😂
same ☺
@@charmainewalker8627 Of course! I'm Living near Palermo... Let me know!
@@CrystalSicily I will be in touch for sure. 👍
Im 27 and have come to this realization. Thanks for sharing wise words.
Slowing down, living in the moment and seeing the beauty that is around you is a great accomplishment.
100% it's exhausting the constant chase just to get that next thing
😊
You have more then so many have.
A loving partner, a dog, a beautiful house, and the things you do, living at the beach etc.
you earn enough to have such a beautiful life.
I wished I had achieved that much.
Congratulation on having so many things and people in your live that are so beautiful.
You have more then most who struggle to have even a decent life with less than you have.
LOL. This is a show off video to beat show off videos! While it laughably pretends to be about the self effacing retreat from vanity and materialism by an enlightened and humbled every man, it bellows at the top of its lungs: "Look at me! Look at my wonderful place and things! Don't I have a great life! Aren't I special!" Paul Fussell defined "bad" as something palpably unpleasant (like vanity) and "capital bad" as when that bad thing is presented as something good or great. Most vanity videos are merely bad. This one is CAPITAL BAD.
Partner is near impossible. Casual sex hookup culture. Selfishness and throwaway culture. There isnt even "dating" anymore let alone stable relationships.
@@JenX422 And so it is! This is your affirmation to the Universe! Your words are your prayer!🙏
@@prestogerman6862 You cut and pasted three times. Agenda much? They do this on tiny home videos too. Banksters of America? The cabal wants people enslaved with mortgages. They send shills to shit-post on these types of videos to plant doubt.
@@prestogerman6862To Mr Givins Nhe no humans can show off are flaunt to me wealth as I'm accomplished in ways people can fathom with my girl globes educational products over every government college business media religion forever!😊❤
The best definition of happiness I heard was from Alfred Hitchcock. In an interview a long time ago he said, "Happiness is a clear horizon." It seems too many people allow society to guide their lives. You've learned, and I hope I've learned, that the best life is when we are spontaneously propelled from within -- not from without.
😊 you have found your happiness.
I finished university in 2022,i haven't been able to secure a job since then and it had taken a great toll on me, recently i come to a realisation that i only felt that way because that's what is expected of me in this day and age. I have come to a deeper realisation that i want a simple life, i am now trying to accept my worth regardless of not having all that, i must say i am pretty excited thank you for confirming my deep desire 😍♥️
Bruh it’s been 2 years, you could’ve been a server or many other things in that time to make some money and gain experience. You are unemployed by choice
The idea of trying to achieve big goals is so overrated. I think just living your best happy life is so underrated.
Thank you for this video, really enjoyed it
Exactly ..i feel the same .. unfortunately cant make anyone understand this. They are forcing to do the stressful works to earn
Your message resonates so much with me, Jean. I have been grinding in academia and corporate America for decades, working every waking hour. Making the most money possible, growing a UA-cam Channel, collecting graduate degrees and it seems there is no end insight. Life is the delusion of enjoyment and it's never enough! I always thought of leaving everything, slowing down, and living a simple, relaxing life in Bali, away from the West. Maybe this moment will come one day!
Hi, I'm amazed how you grew your channel subscribers form 30,000 in early November last year to over 250k now in just over 3 months??
Your views aren't amazing apart from one or 2 videos It seems you may have got the influx from the 1% secret AI tool video that did very well.
It's not easy generating regular decent views to make UA-cam a proper income source.
It takes a lot of courage and selfknowledge to give up unrealistic standards, worship of false images, materialism and superficiality, competition and concern for what others may think of you.
It takes loads of courage to step away from the rat race and society demands of you to live by their standards of what success is
People think it's easy to step away from all the racing rats competing outdoing each other to race up the corp ladder - the courage to stand alone not move with the crowds is admirable
This totally resonated with me ❤ I used to be one who wanted it all. I thought it was how life should be. Today I don't have much, but I'm happy with the simple things in life. It took many deaths in my life for me to realize what's important to me. People are constantly hustling and I'm just tired of chasing money. I just go with the flow and do what I can/what's for me to earn. I know I'll always have enough money to live life my way because I'm resourceful and I can manage money well from my struggles in life. Thanks for sharing! ❤
I started to feel exactly the same way around 40/41 and didn't have the courage to admit it or explore the "no ambition" life style. Throughout my life, I've been asked "well don't you want more" in some form or other. As though my mere existing, paying my own bills, taking care of my self, keeping to myself was some kind of crime against nature.
I'll be 50 this year and decided to devote however many years that I have left to being my authentic self, only nurturing healthy, loving relationships even if those are few. Disconnecting from people that hurt me in the name of love/family, not chasing down the high visibility job. I love that this video crossed my feed because I'd been wondering if I was crazy for "lacking ambition" or just wanting to live a quiet but happy, fulfilled life.
Thank you for sharing your journey and this message because so many of us needed this confirmation✨️💕🙏🏽
Right there with you, I was early 40s when I realized that the hustle life was never going to be for me, despite so many around me bragging about how much they worked and how exhausted they were all the time.
Now when my peers go on about climbing the ladder or buying a new sports car, I reply that my ambitions are to minimize stress and stay physically/emotionally fit. I'm early 50s now, and working a low level warehouse job that lets me walk around all day, drive a forklift and leave the job behind after 8 hours. I'm not quite able to retire yet, but aiming for 60
Life is so much better when you live it authentically.
@Recneps27 I love this so much for you! Same, I'm aiming to retire at 60 as well but to also live a low stress, happy healthy life until I can retire fully. That hustle mentality almost killed me in my 20s and 30s and to add injury to insult, not only did I feel crazy for not being able to maintain it, others echoed that sentiment.
Wishing you the absolute best on this journey of being our authentic selves🙏🏽💕
Comment really resonated with me
I could’ve wrote the comment myself! I will also be 50 this year, and I feel the exact same way. I just want to live in peace and love!
@GregPopabich I was listening to something earlier this week, and the phrase "what you seek is seeking you." You/I/ we will have the peace and happiness that we are seeking 🙏🏽💕
This was great. Thank you for sharing. You saying “be horrible at my hobbies” helped me realize that I’m looking at hobbies all wrong. I’ve never had one because I feel like I suck at everything but I’m so interested in so many things despite my lack of talents. I should just do them anyway because it might make me happy
I love this comment. Do it! I think these days, because of social media, even hobbies are viewed as something to turn into a side hustle, competition or thing to brag about, when they exist first and foremost to be enjoyed.
This really spoke to me, mostly because i would have written the same thing word for word!
New subscriber here, I just found your channel and I'm 💯 percent in agreement with you. I quit my stressful job, got some chickens, and live simply with my family. I'm so much more happier now. Thank you for sharing.
Oh gosh, thank you so much. Your voice alone is so soothing and it makes me want to slow down and live!!!!! I just retired and I don't want to live to compare to other's lives, I want to take time to enjoy and learn a hobby, look at sunsets. I don't want to have to prove myself to anyone anymore. Thank you soooo much for this enlightening video!
You are a lucky one that can afford to have such a carefree life with adequate resources to support a comfort life.
Lucky or full of bulls.it..she ain't sleeping in a car in the car park..
@@chrisschneiders6734 She is living an absolutely awesome life. She is not relatable at all though to the 95% of people as she claims. She is part of the 1%.
@@chrisschneiders6734 No she worked hard to get to where she is. You just don’t have a clue. Green eyed monster
@@silverwolf2643hey the fact that you are watching this mean you are in the top 20% and not relatable to the other 80%. Stay negative and you be happy
@@edfast5893 The hell kinda nonsense is that? I am actually like her to a high degree and that's why I can say that her words are lies. She is not relatable at all, she has rental income from properties in Singapore and lives cheap life in Bali, has all the time in the world, surfing everyday. The life she has right now is ambitious af, way more so than climbing the corporate ladder. It's not "uhh I just gave up on certain things cause I found more meaning in simple stuff and relationships". That's why she should not be trying to seem relatable cause she is not. 90% of people have to work in order to survive.
"There is plenty of joy in just living." Very true!
😊 breathing every single time
You're right. I never follow anything or anyone. They take the low road and I take the high untraveled road and do it my way. Everything starts in my mind as a dream. Then make that dream a reality.
In my time of being alone is where I found my greatest strength. Happiness only comes from within.
I agree... I have lived my life being free, creative, and living in peace and tranquility as much as possible.
In my last ten years, I have been guided by Daoist and Epicurean philosophies that
resonated with my already-established way of life.
In a few words, it confirmed the choices of my life to go with nature and live with pleasure.
For me, nothing is more important than peace of mind, tranquility, and creativity in living.
...I follow my bliss and simply live my way.
same
I am a self employed, low level ambitious artist boomer, still making art and enjoying it. I’ve had lots of time to live a slow life besides work. Highly recommend.
Me, too -happy artist here! 😊
I wish to do that.
Yep I get you. Turning 55 this year over 30 years in corporate. Ready to make a leap to make the best of whatever time that is left and live a life that is truly meaningful to me.
Chasing money is like chasing the wind and trying to keep money in your hands is like trying to hold water in your hands it’s useless we must just aim to be happy and count our blessings if we are healthy thank you jean for your video
Amen. So true🙏😇😊
Money won't buy happiness in your later life when your loved ones are gone and you are left alone with your pile of money , don't wait until it's too late to spend time with loved ones as time passed quickly and you will realise you have given your soul to your employer who really doesn't care much about you in the end you are disposable to them but not your family loved ones remember that always
all chases are more or less the same
@@davidchan9187 this is just another narrative and she is saying something else, if i am not wrong
Money today is actually currency and acts and behaves as such. Currency flows in and out like electric currents. That's how money works. In your hands and out the other..
I retired early and 13 years later … absolutely no regrets. Keeping it simple by riding my bicycle, sailing my little skiff, reading and capturing minimalist landscape photo images is very satisfying. Thanks for this fine video. 📷🚴♂️⛵️🌞
Absolutely, Jean. You've articulated a beautiful truth - that a life of purpose and meaning can be found outside the relentless pursuit of achievements. It's about cherishing the present moment, finding joy in simplicity, and cultivating deep connections. This resonates deeply. ❤💚💜
After watching this video, I felt like I am not alone. And someone, living on the other side of the planet, thinks likewise. We are friends 💙🙂
Hi.Same here
Struggling to fit into the norm of society also! Now I feel less alone too! Thanks!
This video is golden. It has been my mindset for a while but i felt uncomfortable expressing it. You're very brave.
Thank you for reaffirming what I've been feeling. I thought there was something wrong with me for not having ambitions and to just slow down and enjoy the simple things in life. I'm glad I'm not the only one
Singaporean here... At the age of 40, I share the same sentiments. I no longer strive for wealth, prestige and career advancement... Grown tired of the rat race and decided to settle on a part-time job in order to spend more time with loved ones. I also have time to exercise and take care of myself. I was just too unhappy with the fast paced, cutthroat environment that I was working in. Hopefully I can eventually move to a place with plenty of nature like where you are now.
Hi Jeb, thanks for leaving this note. We have similar stories! I quit my legal career back at age 29 and then drifted thru years of part time/free lance gigs across many different places travelling - it was a radically different paradigm but it suited my nature much better and i was so much happier than in corporate. I'm lucky my path eventually led me to my life today. I'm sure you're on the path to your own happiness as well. All the best 🌻
I have left Singapore because of the rat race. I used to pay 14k/ month rent in Singapore, I worked so hard to pay for a very expensive lifestyle there and I wasn't happy. I left to live by the beach with lots of nature and smiley faces around me. I get to do yoga and walk on the beach and meet interesting people everyday which I didn't have time to do when I was living in Singapore. Family and friends might think I have no ambition and they think I'm crazy leaving behind a great paying job but now I live for myself and I do want what I want, not following the social nom. Thanks for the great video.
Your actual ambitions are to be happy, enjoy life and spend time with your loved ones 😊 I’m 39 single work as a bellman at a hotel and decided to stay as one I don’t need to bring stress in my life. But I’m retiring in 1-2 years
if i may ask how are u funding ur retirement?
Wow, congrats on brilliant decisions! I'm a 38 retired businessman. After 12 years in business, I have realized that I could have achieved the same by doing a simple job without all that stress of managing people, etc. And by investing, of course. I admire your smart and self-aware approach. Have a fantastic retirement!
I am in tears listening to this. I have wanted for so long to just vanish from the hustle and the many attempts to reach sociatal and familial notions of nirvana.
So happy for you.
You have more than enough, and maybe more than the rest of us...I never really have time to enjoy myself, while trying to keep-up in society... you're on the right path
'Live a quiet and uncomplicated life' ahhh, music to my ears. 🤗🤗
I have lived through much, and now I think I have found what is needed for happiness. A quiet secluded life in the country, with the possibility of being useful to people to whom it is easy to do good, and who are not accustomed to have it done to them; then work which one hopes may be of some use; then rest, nature, books , music, love for one's neighbor - such is my idea of happiness. And then, on top of all that, a wife, and children, perhaps - what more can the heart of a man desire?
-Leo Tolstoy
🌻😍
This is the future of humanity. It's no longer what you want to be but how you want to be.
This is exactly how I feel and think everyday. It’s nice to know there are others out there like me. Thank you for putting my thoughts into words. Take care
"Most people bring the best of themselves to work and then bring leftovers back home" What a line and so so true.
Wise words
Girrrrrrrl. I am you💕I am a stay at home Mom of two daughters & have a happy marriage of 22 years❤️ I eat healthy & keep in shape. I would rather stay at home & cook for my family 💕 I too live at the beach in California. My husband is driven & I enjoy supporting him in the shadows 😘💕
Same here! I'm dentist by vocation and have worked for couple of years in several private dental officies and decided to just be a Mom! I live in Serbia, and yes it ia so hard with one income but I menage it ❤
I agree... I have lived my life being free, creative, and living in peace and tranquility as much as possible.
In my last ten years, I have been guided by Daoist and Epicurean philosophies that
resonated with my already-established way of life.
In a few words, it confirmed the choices of my life to go with nature and live with pleasure.
For me, nothing is more important than peace of mind, tranquility, and creativity in living.
...I follow my bliss and simply live my way.
Natasha Helwig
“You are here to live. Not to earn, not to stress, not to prove, not even to please. Just to live.” exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you x
I moved to Bali from Jakarta two years ago, and for the first time.. I felt peace and contentment. I learned to live with less, and yet I feel more fulfilled and content than I have ever been. It dawned upon me that I have lived most of my life worrying how others would perceive me, and that I haven't been living fully for myself or my loved ones. It's liberating to finally have my priorities straight.
we need space, physical and mental, to sort those kinds of thoughts out. Jakarta, like Singapore, is probably a difficult place to sort out our minds about who are inside cos of all the pressures and distractions. Glad things worked out for you :)
What country do you think she is living in? She seems happy 😊 living a simple life.
I commend you and my wish is to be in Asia , Bali someplace where people are nice and genuine.
i got the chance to lived in Bali for couple of months and experienced Nyepi. dream come true for me
Her voice is so calming, I could listen to her talk all day.
Ambition is evil. Doing will never replace being.
Ignorance
Yeah let's all sit still and not harvest crops etc. and see how long we'll last before we will die of starvation. Will be a good thing for the planet though. 😉
Doing will never replace being? Really ? Is it also true for the surgeon who will operate on you? Also, ambition isn't necessarily money-oriented. You can have the ambition and work you ass off to be the best pediatrician possible! This philosophy seems very self-centered and complacent to me: it gives work and efforts the worst motivations possible, to better justify avoiding them. How convenient! That state of mind limits the human spirit to only work to service of our physical needs. How sad!
@@yarly3180 reductio ad absurdum
"Most people bring the best of themselves to work, and then bring the leftovers back home". Wow, this single sentence is an eye opener, all essence of an average person's working life is captured in this short sentence. Thanks for the amazing clarity of thought you bring on your channel.
I feel you 🙏🏼❤️
Thank you so much for this video. It's always nice to be reminded by likeminded peole that our slow lifes with less are as worthy and beautiful as those with "more".
When I find myself surrounded by family members who are constantly busy I tend to think of me as boring or not ambitious enough. Especially when I get asked "so what's new in your life? what have you been up to?" and I don't have exciting stories or achievments to share.
But when I'm back "home" with my husband going on our daily walks I feel content and peaceful inside. I know the slow and mindful way of life are what make me truly happy, but in this society where everything and everyone get judged by their achievments it's not always easy beeing the one with "no ambitions". So thank you, dear Jean and Vitali for showing up just the way you are and sharing your thoughts with us.❤️
Wish you all the best.
Nastja
Hi Nastja, thank you for sharing your story with me too. I know that feeling of inadequacy when amongst company, especially my former peers in Singapore. It's not easy keeping the self-doubt from creeping in. But like you say, when i leave the social circle and am back home with Pam and Vitaly, the happiness and peaceful beauty of our everyday reality makes it very clear we have made the right choices for us. I'm glad to see the self-assurance in the words you wrote xoxo.
@@JeanVoronkova 🙏🏼❤️
Thank you for your great video! I've been feeling unhappy for the past few days because I can't find a job yet. But your lovely video reminds me that what truly matters to me. I know that getting a job is still important since it helps to support one financially, but I also reaalize that I don't need to scacrifice my life/good mood for a job. Thank you again. Sending lots of love!
Hi Jean
Your a lightworker, these are the traits of a lightworker. I also have little ambitious... sometimes I feel like I'm too lazy. I know my purpose here, and I know I'm following my path. So happy to have come across this UA-cam video...blessings to all who feel this way also. Follow your ❤
Thank you! This video is confirmation for me that it’s okay to just ‘be’. Just last night I pondered this idea and asked why I don’t have ambition in life and why I’m content just being me. Your story is just what I needed today ❤
Thankyou so much for having the courage of sharing your personal journey. As the under achiever in my family , this helped me to put my life into perspective! I relate to you on so many levels and can really appreciate about just living in the moment! Many blessings for being so raw and candid!
😍🌻 no one underachieves, we're all just living life our own way in pursuit of our own beliefs. All the best :)
A simple but profound message. My only concern is that of the 8 billion+ people on this planet, there are many people that want to take away our land, food and joy through manipulation and force.
I presume that you live in Colorado. You live in the one and only country which dominates Earth with militarism.
True. Not everyone can live like this
And Vaxxxx-i-nation
Some steal the land by killing 13,000 children
You put it so succinctly in the first few words of your video. "To live a small, but happy life with enough money to pay the bills..."
Girl, you have no idea how much I’ve been feeling this-and feeling guilty about this- all my life. Thank you for putting in words what I couldn’t ❤❤❤
I love this. I want a simple and uncomplicated life as well. I’m 44 and no kids and find joy in just being and enjoying the simple things and my hobbies like writing ✍🏻
To be financially independent and being able to afford such a carefree life is a huge privilege to most or even an impossibility to many.
I wish I have the inheritance 😢
I thought about this too))
Exactly, she has a charmed life. You can only be that carefree and unambitious if you have no financial worries.
@@plummetplumand no children.
@@KevinNordstrom AGREED!! A mother of 2 myself … actually 3, how can I forget my 4-legged most dependent child! 🤣❤️
Interesting message but the video shows beautiful beaches, beautiful home. These are luxuries the normal person dreams about. To match your message you should have a low income house in a bad neighborhood and then show the beauty there.
Your message says you gave up on ambition but there is vanity in this video. It's like you're saying I gave up but I still won.
A universal message is be in the now. Reveal to yourself the illusion of time.
Love yourself
Meditate
Avoid the dangers of collectivism and begin searching internally rather than finding fulfillment externally
Be
Forgive
Love
Now
Time doesn't exist!
It's just divisions observers have derived from planet Earths rotation 😁😂
Ach ach ga 10 hoog wonen in een achterstandswijk
Daar willen mensen werken om.ook.zo te leven
Het is niet weggelegd voor 80 procent van de wereldbevolking.
En verder....
..............mmm
I like it. You seem to have a rich lifestyle already. One issue for many is high cost societies with many living from payday to payday. Not everyone has an easy opportunity to move to lower cost locations in SE Asia or similar.
This yes, and she thinks that she is part of the 95% lmaooo maybe before yes, definitely not now. Rental income from properties in Singapore and living in Bali, surfing everyday. She is not relatable at all.
What a great reminder to focus on enjoying life, not to maximize earning capacity. It really doesn’t take much to live a simple life.
it really doesn't! so glad the video made sense to you 😊
But she HAS much! Who can afford to live like that and not needing to work?
. I agree. Its complicated. But possible. You can move somewhere like this. Where it doesn't require much to live. Have a low cost of living in a cheaper country. And have what she has.
Or. You can go hard for a few years find a way to have guaranteed passive income. And then live somewhere cheaper out of country or even in country These are only two options. But there is more than that.
@@philipidoux6607don't believe everything that's on the Internet.
Maybe her boyfriend makes a lot of money so she can live an easier, simpler life.
I hit the biggest achievement of my career in 2020, which I worked hard for, then came to find out I still wasn't happy. It's the same idea for chasing girls, money, cars, etc. I ended up leaving my job two years later because I burned myself out. I'm starting to realize a lot of what Jean is saying. I still do the same type of work but without the inflated ego and high roller mindset I once had. Slow is smooth, smooth is fast. Embrace it all.
There is a deep satisfaction to living the simple life! Time has a way of slowing down when we are fully present in the now. Great video!
You have described how the majority of people want to live in Europe in general. More importance is given to private life, than chasing ambitions at work. I too chose to have left over energy to spend with my kids instead of giving all of me to work. I sometimes question that decision when I see where my classmates and peers are achieving, on LinkedIn. On one of those days, I will watch your video again to validate my life decisions. Thanks a lot for this video.
LinkedIn is a new headache in life, especially after lockdown...
Don’t regret and don’t compare
I agree with all of the above. I wish more of the world had European work-life balance
Linkedin is toxic. Linkedin is helpful to drive this narrative that your personal identity is locked up within corporate/professional life. It's simply corporate propaganda. It's essentially a public HR firm that you pay for with your information.
The problem with having a European mindset is that your manager is still going to speak badly of you until you work at the rate and speed that they want you to work to make the manager and the shareholders happy. The best thing is to work for yourself.
I normally don't leave comments on yt but wow what a breath of fresh air. To hear a similar sentiment to how I feel about the world today. 'I just want to live a small and simple life.'
No matter what a person will achieve in life, there will always be plenty of people around who will act as this would mean nothing, who will want to let you know how small you seem in their eyes. These are just games and it's up to us if we choose to dive into or push them away. So live only for yourself and for those who really love you. I think this only can be the best achievement in life.
Very beautiful and precious video I love your Beauty and compassion lovely dog also!