The biggest lesson I got from this is the need to break free of recreating nostalgia and fulfilling the distorted dreams we had as children. Not every present action needs to be in retaliation to or a repudiation of our past misery. Our actions must always be in response to the needs of today. Instead of toxic thoughts controlling our actions like: "I'm buying this because I was a laughing stock when I was 12. Where are the snobs now? Are they still mocking me over what I didn't have? Am I still a joke to them? Not after this." We should instead think: "I don't need this right now. Who cares what people think about me. Who cares what they ever thought." Somehow we internalised others' negative opinions as personal truths and live our lives controlled by this toxicity. We're better at deflecting it as adults, but when we were young and seeking trusted guidance in the world, we absorbed a lot of it that now controls us.
@@seabreeze4559Because the environment forces us to do so; if we go back to a couple thousand years ago when we used to live in tribes and clans, being outcasted by the people would most likely result in death, thus it's a survival mechanism. It would also explain why when someone moves to a different part of the country, the accent and vocabulary changes to some degree to fit the new standards of that location.
@@thekantedkalcedony But narcissists would use the exact same quote. So, I believed it should be rephrased. Otherwise, you have no way of telling why someone is using this quote.
I love how the entire video is just one take rather than the usual multiple snippets edited in together. This feels far more genuine and much closer to a conversation than most content out there. Thank you! Keep up the true work.
Palette is related to art and pertains to colors and painting. Pallet is linked to logistics and denotes a platform for goods transportation. Palate is connected to our mouth and taste, both literally and metaphorically.
@@user-st6zi6lt8u I think it's more so that we can fulfil an idea that we have. We feel more achieved once we have hit or excelled expectations created by ourselves.
The problem now is the sheer increase in cost of basic necessities. I agree the priorities are off with things like fancy cars - but even a modest used car now is way too much. People who constantly want more more more things are usually empty inside anyway- it’s a dead end. My problem isn’t in the wanting of excess - I want basic needs met without costing me 3k a month, ya feel me?
I believe the unnecessary luxury comes mainly when people give up on their primary goals and start relying on petty pleasures for some sense of fulfillment
By procrastinating, life passes us by. And then we no longer dare and everything becomes difficult, far and heavy. Love your videos, thanks for posting this one today.
@@user-uq8xv2fp2l i use this analogy literally every day. my dad will often be in a rush to go through a traffic light he has no hope of making before it will turn red, and i'll say all the time "you're rushing just to get to a red light..." this even happened within 20 minutes of the time i'm typing this.. literally. i'll see other people do this all the time too, speeding up past me on the road going at my chill pace, only for us to meet up again at the red light. obviously the analogy is a bit different when there are no traffic lights and you can just keep going, sort of like you can in life, but i do feel like it's a good visual for people who are in a rush to get to the finish without enjoying the race.
"I travel faster by foot than you by train..." That really captivated me. I'm so glad to find your channel! You have a very calming voice. Like nighttime radio. 📻 I'll be listening at night to wind down.
It's not a mystery. We postpone ourselves because of 1) fear of failure, 2) not enough resources to pursue our dreams as we toil away at useless, pointless jobs.
Heavy on not enough resources. There are so many things I want to do and so many things I am capable of doing but I came from a low income background and have yet to breakthrough to a better financial situation. It’s discouraging because I’m getting older and my years are passing me by but also, I want to do the things that inspire me and the things I’ve always dreamed of doing
@@aliceandappetizers This sounds pollyannish, but your only real choice is to keep trying and keep the faith. I wish I could hand every starving artist a million bucks. Lots of people make it later in life.
Exactly!! I'm not "waiting" to create, I don't have time because I don't have $ and I don't have $ because I'm wasting my time working jobs that I hate instead of drawing/painting which will make me way more money in the long run. It's a horrible catch 22 and I'm starting to feel like I'm going to have a nervous breakdown if this doesn't change.
we postpone our selves because we have lack of relationships, long term connections with other people are no longer a thing! Plus we can't afford anything because society has made it difficult to attain, so we don't invest in our society and even in ourselves.
People look down on my $4000 car, like they feel bad for me. But the freedom of being able to buy another one, in cash, if something happens to it is what people who want “financial freedom” are looking for. Lovely video
Thank you. I found you the day after I made the decision to stop postponing my life, by deciding to retire from teaching. Everything you said resonated with me so much that it made me cry.
Needed this. Perfect timing. 2 days ago I quit a job that was causing me to waste away. I was being treated horribly and just sticking it out because I thought I had to. I didn’t. I came to a breaking point with some of the horrible emails my boss was sending me. I worked hard and I gave them the best I could, but that man is sick. I took a risk and quit on the spot. I couldn’t do it anymore. I feel a lot freer… doesn’t feel real yet… and I need another job. But… I think, despite all of the social constructs that make me feel like it was stupid, it wasn’t and I’m going to be okay. Everyone close to me saw how it was impacting my quality of life and were all very supportive. I didn’t expect that. They called me courageous, each independently of one another. I guess they’re right. I get one life. I want to enjoy it.
Proud of you and very happy that you have such a supportive circle of people around you. Forget what the constructs shout at you and believe yourself! You got this!
I am lost in the sea of noise. Past mistakes, current success of others, depression, procrastination. It's healthy to slow down, stop consuming ( literally and metaphorically) and maybe think about more important things in life. Thank you for this video which momentarily stopped me from mindless scrolling and maybe made me reflect on some things in my life. I think we humans should have moments like theses regularly, like a mind calming excercises. Looking for your next videos.
This is great. My life's been better ever since I adopted a mindset similar to this about a year ago, doing what I want to do in the moment rather than waiting for the "best time" to do it. E.g. going for that bike ride now, rather than waiting for the perfect weather that will never come, or waiting for other people to join in. I found living cheaply was much easier once I found these things that I really enjoy. Waiting for money, other people, or nice weather just leads to doing nothing at all. Live in the moment, cause the future is exactly that, always in the future
I have always known this and done this until society expected of me to be like everyone else. Expectations and lots of them. I lost my joy of life, health and motivation. Now I am struggling to find my way back to the colorful happy person I once was. Today I am a pale, sick shell of my old self. I look in the mirror and hardly recognize who I have become. I have stopped caring about everything that once meant something. I find that even worse to have known it but to have lost it. Knowing what makes you happy but letting society's expectations to ruin and run your life. I'm happy you have found it. It's never too late. Run with it.
This I’d so refreshing: just a friendly human being, pleasant voice, a deep message, no music, no fast cuts, no unnecessary intros/outros, no plea to subscribe or course or limited time offer… JUST A DEEP RANDOM chat with a person. Thank you! THANK YOU.
I stumbled upon this notion a year ago and have been working towards it since. Essentially, as adults, we typically get up in the morning to 👉🏼 get ready for work. However, I'm advocating for a shift towards getting up in the morning and, 👉🏼 getting ready for play. And now, play can be whatever you do to keep that fire inside you turned on. ✨ Unlike work, which for a lot of us, dims our light. -- Before this realization, I was a strong proponent of working nights whenever possible. 🌙 Trust me, scheduling your day this way, prioritizing your own work in the morning before doing work for in someone else’s name, results in much higher energy levels. It may feel like when you rearrange a room and you see that you have so much more space, and without having gotten rid of anything! 😉
I completely agree. We burn ourselves out for *someone* *else* and we are slaves to the system. Meanwhile, our lives tick by without ever having the opportunity to live them- unless we’re lucky enough to make it to old age, in which case, we are too old and feeble to truly live out our dreams. I’ve learned that hard lesson after being a workaholic, only to become disabled by that job at the age of 37, and that workplace that I gave so much of my hard work, energy, and dedication, where are they now? They don’t care about their employees, they care about the bottom line. When I got hurt, they treated me like a problem they were trying to make go away. And although I truly loved my job, I wasn’t making great money to be there. And now my body is destroyed, in my prime, and for what? Live your life, don’t put yourself last. Don’t procrastinate in your true journey of becoming you. We all think that there will always be plenty of time “someday,” but what happens when you’re unable to use that time to good purpose when it comes? I spend most of my day in bed, even unable to read most times because it’s too painful and difficult to sit up enough to read. I have a lot of time on my hands, but it is spent in pain and immobility, and spent waiting for something that will never come. I don’t say this for anyone to feel sorry for me, I don’t want pity. I am saying this because it is imperative that you enjoy your life *today.* Do the things you want *today.* Life the life you deserve *today.* Because tomorrow may not come in the way you think it should. I’m so grateful that I have UA-cam and that I get to discover phenomenal individuals like this man here. This was one of the best things I’ve ever watched on the importance of living your life, I just wished I would’ve seen it sooner, but I would’ve been busy living life to make other people happy. Live your one precious life. Live it *today.*
Can we please have more videos on this topic? I feel like we as a society are so much trying to become a perfect "ideal" of a high functioning "nothing". We are all caught up in this high performing "successful person idea" but we don't ask ourselves where we are going. It's like our "direction vector" is not present but we're full-speed jumping into the abbyss.
Thank you for sharing in this observation with me. I’ve been feeling judged because I’m not status or wealth seeking. It seems I was on an upward trajectory back there, but not for MY PURPOSE. So I had to learn some new skills, which meant taking a step back from the hustling and instead, studying. Now that I’m essentially starting over, I can literally hear the judgement (I’m clairaudient.) It's inspiring to find others who refuse to be mere participants in the rat race, even in an age where it's conveniently packaged within the palm of our hands. Here's to those who value meaningful pursuits over the mindless hustle. 🥂✨
Success is bs. ALl forms of it. I knew as a kid that the life offered to me was BS, but even the more conscious humans subconsciously pass this sense onto you you are nothing if you are not doing something. Life isn't homework. Life is YOUR experience. It's MY experience. I do what I want with it......and there's millions of ways of doing it. Running around like a headless chikcen chasing thigns, or being a harsh critic of mysel sound very dumb. To what end? Death's only cool thing is that it helps put time in prespective. When I die I won't care one bit what I accomplished. I don't intend to take the judgements of this world with me to my personal heaven.
@@jeanjacqueslundi3502 yes but if you aren't doing anything, at any point, then who are you? How can you have no ambition, or will to do something good with your life?
@@benjaminmitchell6016 How do kids go through life? Is it ambition, or enjoyment that drives them? And I didn't say I don't have my desires and ideals....just that they have nothing to do with you or the programming of the world. And I don't have to make myself feel like "sh*t" if I don't manage them. Unless they are moral....but I got those covered WITHOUT playing into the world's idea of ambition.
@@jeanjacqueslundi3502the role that corporations play in this should not be ignored. We are not meant to work 50+ hours a week at a retail or office job just to be able to afford to have a shelter. If our time at work was limited then we would have more time for ourselves
Excellent commentary. It takes a strong and self-assured personality to undertake the suggestions you make here. Going "against" societal AND parental expectations will be the hardest task you will ever undertake. We are programmed from our earliest days to "fit in" to societal expectations by parents who have embraced societal expectations. Be prepared to be alone--a lot. Be prepared to be pressured to "give up" your silly childish desire to be authentic. Your Mom will want a grandchild. Your Dad will want to boast about your career. Your siblings will want to compare themselves to you. Your potential "wife" WILL want to big house, the nice car, the Hawaii vacation, and 2 children. All those things said, the very best thing a person can do is go their own way.
At this point in my life, I really need a friend like you.🙏 You are a good person who shares wisdom and give us really positive energy. Wishing you all the best ❤️
In my own experience it has proven to be helpful to actually know what it is that I want and just do it. Simple things like having a coffee on my balcony in the mornings when it’s warm outside - taking care of a beautiful plant - having kind and insightful conversations with my partner. As I continually find myself naturally living a life that I find fulfilling, I continually find that I ALWAYS have ALL of the resources to support that life. The momentum built up in the so called small things evolves into much bigger things in an organic way.
@@hangloosejanjucI consider it a cross section between many different philosophies. Mentalism, Buddhism, Stoicism, Taoism, etc. I typically navigate the paths of awe and wonderment. I think that I understand your question though…and I can answer that with a yes, but among other things as well.
HIlariously I left this open in a tab for weeks before finally getting around to watching it. I feel like I live in line with these ideas more than many of those around me, but the messaging from society has gotten so strong that I find myself constantly questioning my values. It's always nice to be reminded of these values through the reflection of others. Thanks!
I have to say that I love everything about your videos, and about your channel in general. You are so honest, kind, erudite and calm. Your videos are so simple in visual or sound effects yet they are fascinating to watch and full of wisdom and warm, secure, positive energy ❤
Needed this so much today, thank you.❤ I took the day off of work (2nd day in a row) and felt so guilty about it. I just wanted time for me, I didn’t want to “perform”, I just wanted to be. I am going to be 32 this year and haven’t gotten around to all the things I want to do in my life because I have been in the mindset of “if I just work for a little longer then I’ll start on my passions” I’m already about to be 32 and I’ve had this mindset for ten years and it’s time to reevaluate what is truly important. Thank you ✨
Thank you for your thoughts - pretty inspiring! I’ve put myself last for many years - was disconnected from me *and* was there for others. Over the past months, I’ve turned the tables and am now happy for finally choosing me and am sad about losing people around me. Here’s to this new exciting chapter that is called growth🤗✨
I wish this video was posted a month earlier. I’ve grinded myself into depression, almost deleted myself from existence trying to accumulate more money, trying to create a place to be happy with my beloved girlfriend in a future. I’ve completely forgot that I’ll never be in a future, here&now is all that I’ll ever experience. Now I don’t have a girlfriend. I’ve ruined everything. Paradoxically, after some time of mental agony, after I’ve lost my dream, I’m awake as I’ve never been. Just trying to become the best possible version of myself. Better late than never)
if you sometimes get the feeling things are falling apart, maybe they are just falling into place... your suffering is not created by your circumstances, but rather by your resistance. keep your head up bro, this too shall pass.
At what point did you realize you were overextended yourself for money ? I,myself am trying to have enough money to pursue my dream, but I keep wondering at what point does it become destructive instead of freeing ?
For me it was the moment when I realized that I think about my job almost every single hour. Either what to do with this or that particular nuisance, or what am I doing wrong, or what if it’s not “my type” of job. Now I clearly see that the common denominator of all my career choices and mistakes and problems was me. Of course, it’s (probably?) cool when your job is so meaningful and exciting that you can think about it all day long; but now I try to distance myself from my job. It’s not me. No matter how hard am going to f*ck things up - it’s all out there. I’ve done what I can out of what I should - and that’s it.
I realized many years ago that it made no sense to give any other human power over our happiness. Although I have been married 30 years now and would prefer that my partner continues to grow older with me, his physical absence couldn't diminish the beauty of life. I hope you always know that too.
You’re lucky you weren’t married to her or she would have taken with her half the money you made trying to impress her, and she’d now be spending it gleefully with her next boyfriend(s). All guys should insist on prenuptial agreements before getting married, no matter how poor they are, unless it’s an extremely rare case where the woman is wealthy and they guy is not.
Back in my late 20s I decided to get married and have a family. When you make that decision you also take on the responsibility of providing for the needs (and wants) of your family. So my time isn't necessarily my own anymore. That adds another layer that separates you from taking care of your own personal goals. I don't regret my decision to have a family, but sometimes I do wish I had more time to focus on myself. I have found myself being more forceful with taking that time recently, but it is difficult to do (and even more so when you have a family). But it is quite easy to fall into the "Well when I retire I'll have that time" mindset. But when I think back on my father, he maybe had 2 good years after he retired before health problems closed in. So, my suggestion to you is make sure your family knows that you need your own time and that their needs can't always be paramount. Be equally forceful in regards to yourself - don't allow the eternally expanding to-do list to take over your life.
beautiful message. I heard this today: "You can get everything you want, but not until you say with your full chest that you want it". Reminded me of exactly what you are saying. Thank you
Thank you for this. Not too long ago I felt like I needed to build up two multimillion dollar businesses in order to persue my indie artist career. Then I realized I wouldn’t have the time for my music if I was busy running businesses. I quit my cushy factory job, moved out of my 2BR apartment, into my car that I own, and ran my business out of a storage unit. Once I decided to get an RV I saved up $1200 and got a fixer upper to live in. It’s beautiful and I couldn’t be happier. Now that I’m not working to live, living to work, I am putting all my money into my music career. This is an amazing realization thank you for speaking on this
i’ve found myself stumbling upon stoicism so often recently. something that has always deeply resonated with me, but i push to the side in pursuit of the comfort of what i know to be “easier”. i’ve struggled to remain focused on many things recently, but this video really spoke to me. thank you for this.
This video came at exactly the right time for me. I have been feeling a lot of lower emotions recently. I have been feeling very deeply that its time to stop holding back on myself and what I feel called to in this life. I can see the person I can become and the things I want to bring into the world. But I keep holding back and 'postponing' myself. Ive been doing it almost all my life. 'Waiting' for the right moment to step into the person I feel is inside me. And the value I can bring to the world. Ive recently passed 30 years old. And starting to feel like time is passing me by and I can no longer hold back on these things. Some might say thats young and laugh. But to me having had these dreams and calling for years now. It feels like a long time to delay. Anyway I just randomly opened UA-cam tonight after feeling all these emotions the last few weeks and especially the last few days. I felt so present watching this video. And it hit me very deeply. It then led me to being reminded of this quote below. I cried when I read it. Thank you for this video. Its exactly what I needed right now. This is the quote: "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others"
I don’t know if this was intentional, but your voice is so relaxing that i found it much easier to focus and absorb what you’re saying. It calmed me down from the usual fast-paced, rapid attention span style of advice that is so prevalent in social media now, specifically youtube shorts & instagram reels. I felt like it was a calm & steady lecture that forced my attention span to slow down and be present with, instead of having fast, efficient snippets of advice being thrown at me for sake of saving time. Thank you for making this video 🩷
I’m very glad to have found this video. I’ve been needing to hear something like this for a very long time, and known it as well. This is the first video I’ve ever come by of yours and it won’t be the last, your content seems genuine and refreshing, thank you for sharing.
Having spare time for reading - that's the privelege Never thought I'll grow up and the sick mad world will take this away from me Tomorrow I'll see if I'm able to put it as priority at 6 am
Great video 👌🏼🔥 I think it very much depends on what you want in life, sometimes you have to ‘postpone yourself’ and do the hard graft first in order to achieve it. ‘nothing in life is handed to you’ for most of us in life this is the truth. You are definitely right about cutting out the BS like social media, procrastination and pointless distractions though that’s universal!
my principle is: love made me like itself; I am love . in the face of that brilliance, I easily see, for example, how putting myself down is _not_ love
As much as I’d love to agree with this, and good points are made, I live in minimalism and still have to work my ass off for bare survival. Of course being poor is expensive (the boots tale is a good one) but at the end of the day u must pursue ur passion relentlessly, but manage to make urself strong enough to balance it all.
Good video! This is exactly what I've been struggling with in recent months and what you talk about is exactly what I need to hear. Thanks for making content like this.
I'm at 2:28 and already mindblown! My version is: I need to first heal my difficult health condition (and trauma etc) and then I can do all these things that make me happy.
Read the book cured - the science of spontaneous remissions Often remissions from health issues happen when people completely redecorate their life and alter their routines Joe Dispenza has great books on the topic titled You are the placebo, breaking the habit of being yourself, and becoming supernatural
@@AaronLyons Thank you! I will check this book out. I feel much better and my MS is not as bad once I left my evil husband. Same for my chronically ill daughter. We both still go through so much, but with that evil man living with us, we are much better after 4 years.
This video randomly showed up on my feed. Really appreciate you taking the time to put this out there. I didn’t realize how much I needed to hear this.
I stayed watching because the way you speak seems genuine and you're sharing knowledge in a way that's easy to understand, thank you for sharing to others important lessons on this plataform!
Wow! What an insightful video! 1. First off I loved that this video was short but not too short and to the point 2. I loved your calm demeanor and in general, your aura This really has made me reflect this morning. I come from an immigrant family, where the focus was education, wealth, degrees, and physical beauty. These are the things that are valued by my family. And growing up, this had a severe (and still does) impact on my mental health. I often sometimes wakeup and feel like a worthless human being, but this video gave me hope. I am on a journey of spirituality and lately I have been (as you said in your video) getting up late, going to work and then not having time or energy to do what I really want (connect to a higher power, read, make art etc.) - I also feel that if I tell people in real life this are the things I want to do - I will get laughed at and called a 'hippie.' But anyways, this was a lot of food for thought. THANK YOU
You should consider giving a tour of your personal library/bookshelf. I think a good deal of us viewers would be greatly interested in such a video considering the depth of knowledge you seem to possess. Looking forward to the next video regardless!
That's what this guy looks like! I'm just listening without looking at the video and even the way he talks, wording choice and cadence, is all Gabor Mate.
Thank you 🙂🙏🏼 felt like a great reminder and a conversation or genuinely listening to someone than watching a video on UA-cam for self-help as a guy who's got a lot to figure out all by himself
i usually dont comment but im going to cry, thank you for this video and this channel and all the things you said and your narration. the one thing i promised myself to do this year was to start living actively and to get into stoic philosophy, and this is exactly the push i needed. i dont know, i just feel so grateful, thank you so much;'(((
You know what's more expensive than a car though? Dependents. Unless you are fine with letting them grow up in poverty and letting them figure out how to fund college (or to not and have their career options severely limited). And, if you work less on improving your earning power in a career, you will end up spending more hours at work to fund a basic lifestyle because you are paid less per hour. It's not like you can decide you are no longer materialistic and just stop working, have all this free time. I agree that it is important to know what is really important in life and put that first. That doesn't support the claim that the answer is to 'desire less, earn less, spend less'. That applies in a minority of cases where somebody is putting in overtime at work in order to buy luxury goods, and they could stop putting in that overtime. I believe your observation here was helpful, but the conclusion rang hollow, was not sufficiently thought out. Edit: I think that a better conclusion would be to have more clarity on personal values and how those translate into action. I think if you asked most people what their deepest values were, their answers would be vague at best. Certainly not developed enough to live out. That would be a good place for most people to start.
well put, while the wisdom he shares is undeniable, he is a young man living well in his twenties in a rich country, and it seems obvious he comes from a good family, so his advice doesnt apply to all people or even most people
This is a very good comment. Earning a good salary means your kids can grow up in a safer environment that fosters growth, and attend schools with more thoughtful teachers and students (ironically, they will spend time with people who are NOT glued to a tablet or an ipad all day). Having money also allows your kids to pursue fine arts, sports and cultural activities. I have lived amongst the underclass and it is not something to be glorified
Indeed this title spoke to me. There are many ways this title can be interpreted. For me, I’m at a point in my life where keeping my word to myself is my top priority. Why? Because I have not kept it for years now. This has affected my self-esteem, confidence, and ability to trust myself. My current life circumstances are also a result of postponing myself. Regarding the phrases “throw it all away” or “untie the knot” a phrase I also use is “burn the boats”. They all have the same meaning. Brilliant video and one that resonates exactly with this point in my life. Thank you sir.
Who is this good looking person and articulate literate machine? On you youtube?! There is so much wisdom behind your words (and Senecas of course) Thank you so much for sharing your clear intelectual and personal insights on youtube and for the algorithm to deliver it !!!🙏
this is a really nice comment and i dont mean to disparage it at all but it just made me think that in the future people will literally worship algorithms. giving thanks when the algo returns good, offering penance when it returns bad
It’s a 2000 years old quote, and still I stumble upon this video about it right after a therapy session reflecting on that specific experience that has been going on for my entire adult life. Impressive one, universe lol
So true. I've tried to live by this most of my life. Drive a beater car that I own, no payments. Don't own a home or any of the toys that might get in the way of being free to pursue my dreams and compromise my time and energy too much. Tho I can always do better with this. Thanks for the inspiration!
Love my older car, no payment, not even 100k mileage on it (it's 18 years old!). If I can't afford to fix I'll sell it as I don't commute to work, luckily it's only a recreation car (and I don't even use it much for that lol). I'm "boring" but have space for things like reading, taking walks, hobbies, etc! I also live somewhere others may poo-poo (a mobile home park) but again it's the cost of "my life" that I factor in, no big mortgage means I'm more free...
Less is more (nothing can be more truer and life-changing than this) I really needed this reminder. This push. It's been hitting me hard. Nothing excites me anymore. Esp the 9-5. My dreams are yelling at me to get started so I can truly live the life I've envisioned. No more procrastanating, contemplating and putting myself off. Thank you ❤
What this fails to address is that even living within or below your means, forgoing all possible luxuries, you still require an amount of money that would take the average person over 30 years to accumulate, in order to be truly financially independent.
Wow, this video really hit me hard. I regret spending years of my life doing something I was not passionate about and did not serve me. Its only purpose was money and it didn’t really fulfill my needs. Thanks for this reminder to prioritize 🙏🏻
So what I gathered is to take precious care of the opportunity each day brings, and the choices within it. Also the priority and investment in actions with consistency lead to a stronger outcome. so if I cut loose what unimportant things bleed my limited time and energy, and focus that energy into what I value most, my life will change in that direction. Thanks, makes sense
Damn, somehow the algorithm brought us all together and here we are all listening to this most profound powerful message. I am currently in bed delaying getting up, first thing i did this morning was grab my phone. Well done, sir.
you shook me up. I needed to hear that. I am struggling with a decision. Actually my heart knows what to do but I am postponing it. you are so right. I hope to have the courage to listen to my heart.
The key to being happy is so simple but many people want to be someone they are not, many people care WAAY TOO MUCH about what others think of them. Great video
I have been on this journey for a very long time, but somehow this morning I felt lonely, and my energy was down. I decided to go for a walk before work and listened to your video. You cannot imagine how grateful I am that I found you; my energy shifted greatly. I wish you could somehow sense the shift in my energy to understand the profound impact your thoughts and words have had on me. I am sending you an abundance of gratitude for your openness and kindness in sharing your insights with us.
This video found me at the perfect time. After experiencing symptoms of depression last few months, I realised cause it is that I’ve developed a workaholic addiction. It’s not that I work all the time , in fact, I actually work a lot less than the majority of people. But it’s that I’ve made my work into the most important and number one thing. It’s started to suck the happiness and satisfaction out of every other thing I do. I’m starting to see clearly again now. Thank you
“The fool does at last what the wise man does at once.”
Le sage fait immédiatement ce que l’imbecile finit par faire. Nicolas Machiavel.
Yup. Procrastinated on my fitness brand for years. Only to arrive to the question: ”what am I am waiting for”. Now I’m all in.
😂😢
As a fool I can confirm that I procrastinate
@@80X20FitnessXFinancebest of luck my friend
I’m glad Cillian Murphy is sharing his knowledge with normal people.
I thought the same exact thing
He looks more like Matthew gray gubler lol
Thought the same!@@imogen4535
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@@imogen4535this is the right answer
Not me clicking on 'save to watch later' 😭
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I literally did that 😭😭 but I’m watching it rn so that’s what counts
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
fr i did that and immediately checked myself
😂LOL.
living a soft and slow life in this fast paced world is the revolution 🙏🏼✨
That's very true 😮
The biggest lesson I got from this is the need to break free of recreating nostalgia and fulfilling the distorted dreams we had as children. Not every present action needs to be in retaliation to or a repudiation of our past misery. Our actions must always be in response to the needs of today.
Instead of toxic thoughts controlling our actions like: "I'm buying this because I was a laughing stock when I was 12. Where are the snobs now? Are they still mocking me over what I didn't have? Am I still a joke to them? Not after this."
We should instead think: "I don't need this right now. Who cares what people think about me. Who cares what they ever thought."
Somehow we internalised others' negative opinions as personal truths and live our lives controlled by this toxicity. We're better at deflecting it as adults, but when we were young and seeking trusted guidance in the world, we absorbed a lot of it that now controls us.
why do I respect their opinion of me, more than my own opinion of me?
really good comment on a really good video. I will try to think about what you wrote every time I need it. Thannk you and have a good life ! :)
@@seabreeze4559Because the environment forces us to do so; if we go back to a couple thousand years ago when we used to live in tribes and clans, being outcasted by the people would most likely result in death, thus it's a survival mechanism. It would also explain why when someone moves to a different part of the country, the accent and vocabulary changes to some degree to fit the new standards of that location.
Train the subconscious mind. Reboot it is a machine it believes everything you tell it as fact.
This hit me to my core. Really hard to let go of these thought patterns as somebody extremely stubborn and hard headed.
"How long are you going to wait before you demand the best for yourself?" - Epictetus
Thats pretty good.
That's also what Karens think. What about demanding the best for others?
@@brinckauyou indirectly demand the best for others by being your best self.
@@thekantedkalcedony But narcissists would use the exact same quote. So, I believed it should be rephrased. Otherwise, you have no way of telling why someone is using this quote.
Forever
I love how the entire video is just one take rather than the usual multiple snippets edited in together. This feels far more genuine and much closer to a conversation than most content out there. Thank you! Keep up the true work.
Exactly.
the difference between real knowledge, and youtube knowledge, i'spose?
Thank you for pointing out this observation.
“Hunger is cheap, the pallet is what’s expensive” 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Palette is related to art and pertains to colors and painting. Pallet is linked to logistics and denotes a platform for goods transportation. Palate is connected to our mouth and taste, both literally and metaphorically.
"life passes most people by while they make great plans for it"
I love making plans more than anything 😆
@@user-st6zi6lt8u I think it's more so that we can fulfil an idea that we have. We feel more achieved once we have hit or excelled expectations created by ourselves.
I do neither
@@dylanphelan3010 "life is what happens to you when your busy making other plans" John Lennon - beautiful boy
LIVE, LEARN, DIE....CRUEL TWIST OF TIMING.
Society teaches us to think this way, to postpone ourselves, put work first and then play. It starts from school.
You are responsible for yourself, not society.
@@marlonjormungand7845both can be true
@@marlonjormungand7845 Society is composed of selves. We are all responsible for everyone and everything.
@@marlonjormungand7845 It's called social conditioning.
@@zx3227 yes both can be true, yet one aspect is in your hands the other one isnt. So where do you begin your change?
The problem now is the sheer increase in cost of basic necessities. I agree the priorities are off with things like fancy cars - but even a modest used car now is way too much.
People who constantly want more more more things are usually empty inside anyway- it’s a dead end.
My problem isn’t in the wanting of excess - I want basic needs met without costing me 3k a month, ya feel me?
Great presentation. Great message. Straight to the point, no distracting music or edits. Just a man, his books, and philosophy. I just subscribed.
You wrote what I was thinking. I subscribed too.
And he’s so handsome gosh
Same!
I don't usually subscribe but 10 seconds in and I was like "damn I need to check out all his videos''
same! i subbed as well and this is the first video of his i've watched
“They try, in their adult life, to live up to a child’s fantasy.”
I believe the unnecessary luxury comes mainly when people give up on their primary goals and start relying on petty pleasures for some sense of fulfillment
I saw a quote and since then it becomes my motivating nuggets it says: Don't postpone Joy. Joy is one of the fruits of holy spirits.
@@zensvlognotapro Amen.
@@zensvlognotapro Tripe
@@johngilmore697 meaning?
By procrastinating, life passes us by. And then we no longer dare and everything becomes difficult, far and heavy. Love your videos, thanks for posting this one today.
What are you chasing? The starting line ? When all roads lead to finish line .
ooh I felt that.
@@user-uq8xv2fp2l i use this analogy literally every day. my dad will often be in a rush to go through a traffic light he has no hope of making before it will turn red, and i'll say all the time "you're rushing just to get to a red light..." this even happened within 20 minutes of the time i'm typing this.. literally.
i'll see other people do this all the time too, speeding up past me on the road going at my chill pace, only for us to meet up again at the red light. obviously the analogy is a bit different when there are no traffic lights and you can just keep going, sort of like you can in life, but i do feel like it's a good visual for people who are in a rush to get to the finish without enjoying the race.
@@tylerhawksmoor9601you people?
Powerfull
"I travel faster by foot than you by train..." That really captivated me.
I'm so glad to find your channel! You have a very calming voice. Like nighttime radio. 📻 I'll be listening at night to wind down.
It's not a mystery. We postpone ourselves because of 1) fear of failure, 2) not enough resources to pursue our dreams as we toil away at useless, pointless jobs.
Heavy on not enough resources. There are so many things I want to do and so many things I am capable of doing but I came from a low income background and have yet to breakthrough to a better financial situation. It’s discouraging because I’m getting older and my years are passing me by but also, I want to do the things that inspire me and the things I’ve always dreamed of doing
@@aliceandappetizers This sounds pollyannish, but your only real choice is to keep trying and keep the faith. I wish I could hand every starving artist a million bucks. Lots of people make it later in life.
Exactly!! I'm not "waiting" to create, I don't have time because I don't have $ and I don't have $ because I'm wasting my time working jobs that I hate instead of drawing/painting which will make me way more money in the long run. It's a horrible catch 22 and I'm starting to feel like I'm going to have a nervous breakdown if this doesn't change.
we postpone our selves because we have lack of relationships, long term connections with other people are no longer a thing! Plus we can't afford anything because society has made it difficult to attain, so we don't invest in our society and even in ourselves.
@@Lauren_bex Sounds like a culture in decline.
Hunger is cheap, the pallet is expensive... wow I love that.
Palate
Pallets are cheap….
@gregorymoats4007 Good quality pallets are expensive too
@@NygmaNL “Hunger means nothing to the cheap skate…”
Makes sense delivering food could be more expensive depending where it is being delivered to
People look down on my $4000 car, like they feel bad for me. But the freedom of being able to buy another one, in cash, if something happens to it is what people who want “financial freedom” are looking for. Lovely video
How reliable is that 4000 dollar car buddy
Rubbish click bait
Who doesn’t love a good ShitBoxCar
@@adaharrisonn not bad. It’s a Toyota. Hasn’t stranded me since I got it 3 years ago (knock on wood). I take good care of it tho.
"Don't buy anything you can't replace."
Thank you. I found you the day after I made the decision to stop postponing my life, by deciding to retire from teaching. Everything you said resonated with me so much that it made me cry.
Needed this. Perfect timing. 2 days ago I quit a job that was causing me to waste away. I was being treated horribly and just sticking it out because I thought I had to. I didn’t. I came to a breaking point with some of the horrible emails my boss was sending me. I worked hard and I gave them the best I could, but that man is sick. I took a risk and quit on the spot. I couldn’t do it anymore. I feel a lot freer… doesn’t feel real yet… and I need another job. But… I think, despite all of the social constructs that make me feel like it was stupid, it wasn’t and I’m going to be okay. Everyone close to me saw how it was impacting my quality of life and were all very supportive. I didn’t expect that. They called me courageous, each independently of one another. I guess they’re right. I get one life. I want to enjoy it.
Proud of you and very happy that you have such a supportive circle of people around you. Forget what the constructs shout at you and believe yourself! You got this!
I am lost in the sea of noise. Past mistakes, current success of others, depression, procrastination. It's healthy to slow down, stop consuming ( literally and metaphorically) and maybe think about more important things in life. Thank you for this video which momentarily stopped me from mindless scrolling and maybe made me reflect on some things in my life. I think we humans should have moments like theses regularly, like a mind calming excercises. Looking for your next videos.
That's ADHD 101, look into it. Medication is not magic but can help a lot.
@@TiagoReganhai am not sure, never was diagnosed with anything. Noone cared back then.
I asked myself: "maybe do women in general think this guy is handsome? I have no idea but suspect so..." lol thanks
This is great. My life's been better ever since I adopted a mindset similar to this about a year ago, doing what I want to do in the moment rather than waiting for the "best time" to do it. E.g. going for that bike ride now, rather than waiting for the perfect weather that will never come, or waiting for other people to join in. I found living cheaply was much easier once I found these things that I really enjoy. Waiting for money, other people, or nice weather just leads to doing nothing at all. Live in the moment, cause the future is exactly that, always in the future
I agree with you 100%
abraham hicks and the concept of being in the vortex
It took me 40 years to learn this lesson. Thanks for sharing and reminding me of my focus.
I have always known this and done this until society expected of me to be like everyone else. Expectations and lots of them. I lost my joy of life, health and motivation. Now I am struggling to find my way back to the colorful happy person I once was. Today I am a pale, sick shell of my old self. I look in the mirror and hardly recognize who I have become. I have stopped caring about everything that once meant something. I find that even worse to have known it but to have lost it. Knowing what makes you happy but letting society's expectations to ruin and run your life. I'm happy you have found it. It's never too late. Run with it.
This I’d so refreshing: just a friendly human being, pleasant voice, a deep message, no music, no fast cuts, no unnecessary intros/outros, no plea to subscribe or course or limited time offer…
JUST A DEEP RANDOM chat with a person.
Thank you!
THANK YOU.
I stumbled upon this notion a year ago and have been working towards it since.
Essentially, as adults, we typically get up in the morning to
👉🏼 get ready for work.
However, I'm advocating for a shift towards getting up in the morning and,
👉🏼 getting ready for play.
And now, play can be whatever you do to keep that fire inside you turned on. ✨
Unlike work, which for a lot of us, dims our light.
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Before this realization, I was a strong proponent of working nights whenever possible. 🌙
Trust me, scheduling your day this way,
prioritizing your own work in the morning before doing work for in someone else’s name, results in much higher energy levels.
It may feel like when you rearrange a room and you see that you have so much more space, and without having gotten rid of anything! 😉
Thank you for this reframe! 🙌🏾
... wow , thats clear , thx alot , got it
i could argue with you
but I would be wrong..
Wow!! Thank you, so much. Your post is the BEST thing I've read this week....or maybe far longer. Thank you!! Yes!!😎✌🏻❤️✨🌻
I completely agree. We burn ourselves out for *someone* *else* and we are slaves to the system. Meanwhile, our lives tick by without ever having the opportunity to live them- unless we’re lucky enough to make it to old age, in which case, we are too old and feeble to truly live out our dreams.
I’ve learned that hard lesson after being a workaholic, only to become disabled by that job at the age of 37, and that workplace that I gave so much of my hard work, energy, and dedication, where are they now? They don’t care about their employees, they care about the bottom line. When I got hurt, they treated me like a problem they were trying to make go away. And although I truly loved my job, I wasn’t making great money to be there. And now my body is destroyed, in my prime, and for what?
Live your life, don’t put yourself last. Don’t procrastinate in your true journey of becoming you.
We all think that there will always be plenty of time “someday,” but what happens when you’re unable to use that time to good purpose when it comes?
I spend most of my day in bed, even unable to read most times because it’s too painful and difficult to sit up enough to read. I have a lot of time on my hands, but it is spent in pain and immobility, and spent waiting for something that will never come.
I don’t say this for anyone to feel sorry for me, I don’t want pity. I am saying this because it is imperative that you enjoy your life *today.* Do the things you want *today.* Life the life you deserve *today.* Because tomorrow may not come in the way you think it should.
I’m so grateful that I have UA-cam and that I get to discover phenomenal individuals like this man here. This was one of the best things I’ve ever watched on the importance of living your life, I just wished I would’ve seen it sooner, but I would’ve been busy living life to make other people happy.
Live your one precious life. Live it *today.*
Can we please have more videos on this topic? I feel like we as a society are so much trying to become a perfect "ideal" of a high functioning "nothing". We are all caught up in this high performing "successful person idea" but we don't ask ourselves where we are going. It's like our "direction vector" is not present but we're full-speed jumping into the abbyss.
Thank you for sharing in this observation with me.
I’ve been feeling judged because I’m not status or wealth seeking.
It seems I was on an upward trajectory back there, but not for MY PURPOSE. So I had to learn some new skills, which meant taking a step back from the hustling and instead, studying.
Now that I’m essentially starting over, I can literally hear the judgement (I’m clairaudient.)
It's inspiring to find others who refuse to be mere participants in the rat race, even in an age where it's conveniently packaged within the palm of our hands.
Here's to those who value meaningful pursuits over the mindless hustle. 🥂✨
Success is bs. ALl forms of it. I knew as a kid that the life offered to me was BS, but even the more conscious humans subconsciously pass this sense onto you you are nothing if you are not doing something. Life isn't homework. Life is YOUR experience. It's MY experience. I do what I want with it......and there's millions of ways of doing it.
Running around like a headless chikcen chasing thigns, or being a harsh critic of mysel sound very dumb. To what end? Death's only cool thing is that it helps put time in prespective. When I die I won't care one bit what I accomplished. I don't intend to take the judgements of this world with me to my personal heaven.
@@jeanjacqueslundi3502 yes but if you aren't doing anything, at any point, then who are you? How can you have no ambition, or will to do something good with your life?
@@benjaminmitchell6016 How do kids go through life? Is it ambition, or enjoyment that drives them?
And I didn't say I don't have my desires and ideals....just that they have nothing to do with you or the programming of the world. And I don't have to make myself feel like "sh*t" if I don't manage them. Unless they are moral....but I got those covered WITHOUT playing into the world's idea of ambition.
@@jeanjacqueslundi3502the role that corporations play in this should not be ignored. We are not meant to work 50+ hours a week at a retail or office job just to be able to afford to have a shelter. If our time at work was limited then we would have more time for ourselves
Excellent commentary. It takes a strong and self-assured personality to undertake the suggestions you make here. Going "against" societal AND parental expectations will be the hardest task you will ever undertake. We are programmed from our earliest days to "fit in" to societal expectations by parents who have embraced societal expectations. Be prepared to be alone--a lot. Be prepared to be pressured to "give up" your silly childish desire to be authentic. Your Mom will want a grandchild. Your Dad will want to boast about your career. Your siblings will want to compare themselves to you. Your potential "wife" WILL want to big house, the nice car, the Hawaii vacation, and 2 children. All those things said, the very best thing a person can do is go their own way.
At this point in my life, I really need a friend like you.🙏 You are a good person who shares wisdom and give us really positive energy. Wishing you all the best ❤️
In my own experience it has proven to be helpful to actually know what it is that I want and just do it. Simple things like having a coffee on my balcony in the mornings when it’s warm outside - taking care of a beautiful plant - having kind and insightful conversations with my partner. As I continually find myself naturally living a life that I find fulfilling, I continually find that I ALWAYS have ALL of the resources to support that life. The momentum built up in the so called small things evolves into much bigger things in an organic way.
I resonate with this.
beautifully put
Beautiful
Are you doing manifestation type work?
@@hangloosejanjucI consider it a cross section between many different philosophies. Mentalism, Buddhism, Stoicism, Taoism, etc. I typically navigate the paths of awe and wonderment. I think that I understand your question though…and I can answer that with a yes, but among other things as well.
HIlariously I left this open in a tab for weeks before finally getting around to watching it. I feel like I live in line with these ideas more than many of those around me, but the messaging from society has gotten so strong that I find myself constantly questioning my values. It's always nice to be reminded of these values through the reflection of others. Thanks!
I have to say that I love everything about your videos, and about your channel in general. You are so honest, kind, erudite and calm. Your videos are so simple in visual or sound effects yet they are fascinating to watch and full of wisdom and warm, secure, positive energy ❤
We all need more patience and less procrastination, we must believe in who we’re becoming instead of the fear of who we might truly be
Well said 🙌🏾
Live, Laugh, Love
Thank You! "you go to work, but THE WORK of LIFE, YOU HAVEN'T PUT A SINGLE MINUTE IN!" LOVE IT! Blessing and LOVE!
Needed this so much today, thank you.❤ I took the day off of work (2nd day in a row) and felt so guilty about it. I just wanted time for me, I didn’t want to “perform”, I just wanted to be. I am going to be 32 this year and haven’t gotten around to all the things I want to do in my life because I have been in the mindset of “if I just work for a little longer then I’ll start on my passions” I’m already about to be 32 and I’ve had this mindset for ten years and it’s time to reevaluate what is truly important.
Thank you ✨
Thank you for your thoughts - pretty inspiring! I’ve put myself last for many years - was disconnected from me *and* was there for others. Over the past months, I’ve turned the tables and am now happy for finally choosing me and am sad about losing people around me. Here’s to this new exciting chapter that is called growth🤗✨
I wish this video was posted a month earlier. I’ve grinded myself into depression, almost deleted myself from existence trying to accumulate more money, trying to create a place to be happy with my beloved girlfriend in a future. I’ve completely forgot that I’ll never be in a future, here&now is all that I’ll ever experience. Now I don’t have a girlfriend. I’ve ruined everything. Paradoxically, after some time of mental agony, after I’ve lost my dream, I’m awake as I’ve never been. Just trying to become the best possible version of myself.
Better late than never)
if you sometimes get the feeling things are falling apart, maybe they are just falling into place... your suffering is not created by your circumstances, but rather by your resistance. keep your head up bro, this too shall pass.
At what point did you realize you were overextended yourself for money ? I,myself am trying to have enough money to pursue my dream, but I keep wondering at what point does it become destructive instead of freeing ?
For me it was the moment when I realized that I think about my job almost every single hour. Either what to do with this or that particular nuisance, or what am I doing wrong, or what if it’s not “my type” of job. Now I clearly see that the common denominator of all my career choices and mistakes and problems was me.
Of course, it’s (probably?) cool when your job is so meaningful and exciting that you can think about it all day long; but now I try to distance myself from my job. It’s not me. No matter how hard am going to f*ck things up - it’s all out there. I’ve done what I can out of what I should - and that’s it.
I realized many years ago that it made no sense to give any other human power over our happiness. Although I have been married 30 years now and would prefer that my partner continues to grow older with me, his physical absence couldn't diminish the beauty of life. I hope you always know that too.
You’re lucky you weren’t married to her or she would have taken with her half the money you made trying to impress her, and she’d now be spending it gleefully with her next boyfriend(s). All guys should insist on prenuptial agreements before getting married, no matter how poor they are, unless it’s an extremely rare case where the woman is wealthy and they guy is not.
Look, I'm a simple woman: I see a handsome guy in front of a bookshelf reminding me of ancient wisdoms, I click.
😂
😂 😊😊😊😊😊
Get a husband who loves God
Looks aren't important
@@alreadybanned-pe6seshe was not asking for his hand in marriage relax
@@alreadybanned-pe6se "looks aren't important" you must be fug
I haven't been this captivated by a UA-cam video in a long time. Love your demeanor and delivery.
I genuinely appreciate that you didn't edit this..I felt like I was sitting down with a friend and I needed to hear this. Thank you✨️
Well said!
Our luxuries cost us more than money, they come at the cost of time and the things we actually love.
opportunity cost?
Back in my late 20s I decided to get married and have a family. When you make that decision you also take on the responsibility of providing for the needs (and wants) of your family. So my time isn't necessarily my own anymore. That adds another layer that separates you from taking care of your own personal goals. I don't regret my decision to have a family, but sometimes I do wish I had more time to focus on myself. I have found myself being more forceful with taking that time recently, but it is difficult to do (and even more so when you have a family). But it is quite easy to fall into the "Well when I retire I'll have that time" mindset. But when I think back on my father, he maybe had 2 good years after he retired before health problems closed in. So, my suggestion to you is make sure your family knows that you need your own time and that their needs can't always be paramount. Be equally forceful in regards to yourself - don't allow the eternally expanding to-do list to take over your life.
I understand this ❤ i love my daughters and i want to provide so much for them.
beautiful message. I heard this today: "You can get everything you want, but not until you say with your full chest that you want it". Reminded me of exactly what you are saying.
Thank you
Thank you for this. Not too long ago I felt like I needed to build up two multimillion dollar businesses in order to persue my indie artist career. Then I realized I wouldn’t have the time for my music if I was busy running businesses. I quit my cushy factory job, moved out of my 2BR apartment, into my car that I own, and ran my business out of a storage unit. Once I decided to get an RV I saved up $1200 and got a fixer upper to live in. It’s beautiful and I couldn’t be happier. Now that I’m not working to live, living to work, I am putting all my money into my music career. This is an amazing realization thank you for speaking on this
The way you speak is so calming. I think a philosophy ASMR series would take off like mad.
This is fine. No need to be AMSR.
I find it boring
@@RM-ti8nfMaybe your attention span has already been killed?
I think he sounds incredibly similar to Dr. Gabor Maté (whose voice I love!)
I can’t stand the swallowing noises
i’ve found myself stumbling upon stoicism so often recently. something that has always deeply resonated with me, but i push to the side in pursuit of the comfort of what i know to be “easier”. i’ve struggled to remain focused on many things recently, but this video really spoke to me. thank you for this.
This video came at exactly the right time for me. I have been feeling a lot of lower emotions recently. I have been feeling very deeply that its time to stop holding back on myself and what I feel called to in this life. I can see the person I can become and the things I want to bring into the world. But I keep holding back and 'postponing' myself. Ive been doing it almost all my life. 'Waiting' for the right moment to step into the person I feel is inside me. And the value I can bring to the world. Ive recently passed 30 years old. And starting to feel like time is passing me by and I can no longer hold back on these things. Some might say thats young and laugh. But to me having had these dreams and calling for years now. It feels like a long time to delay.
Anyway I just randomly opened UA-cam tonight after feeling all these emotions the last few weeks and especially the last few days.
I felt so present watching this video. And it hit me very deeply. It then led me to being reminded of this quote below. I cried when I read it. Thank you for this video. Its exactly what I needed right now. This is the quote:
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others"
I don’t know if this was intentional, but your voice is so relaxing that i found it much easier to focus and absorb what you’re saying. It calmed me down from the usual fast-paced, rapid attention span style of advice that is so prevalent in social media now, specifically youtube shorts & instagram reels. I felt like it was a calm & steady lecture that forced my attention span to slow down and be present with, instead of having fast, efficient snippets of advice being thrown at me for sake of saving time. Thank you for making this video 🩷
I’m very glad to have found this video. I’ve been needing to hear something like this for a very long time, and known it as well. This is the first video I’ve ever come by of yours and it won’t be the last, your content seems genuine and refreshing, thank you for sharing.
Having spare time for reading - that's the privelege
Never thought I'll grow up and the sick mad world will take this away from me
Tomorrow I'll see if I'm able to put it as priority at 6 am
you're so comforting bro, book people always are, love you
Great video 👌🏼🔥 I think it very much depends on what you want in life, sometimes you have to ‘postpone yourself’ and do the hard graft first in order to achieve it.
‘nothing in life is handed to you’ for most of us in life this is the truth. You are definitely right about cutting out the BS like social media, procrastination and pointless distractions though that’s universal!
my principle is: love made me like itself; I am love . in the face of that brilliance, I easily see, for example, how putting myself down is _not_ love
It’s beautiful ❤
@@yosmuc you’re beautiful! :)
@@rmschindler144 😊🤗
Oh, I love this. How wonderful, thank you for this.
Women… Lol
i can tell you are a genuine person :) thank you for your words
Everyone clicked on this video bc this man looks like a legend
Of course he's not 🤣
Nope. He just looked like someone worth listening to to me.
Thats the first time I see you. I feel something very positive and benevolent coming from you. Thanks
As much as I’d love to agree with this, and good points are made, I live in minimalism and still have to work my ass off for bare survival. Of course being poor is expensive (the boots tale is a good one) but at the end of the day u must pursue ur passion relentlessly, but manage to make urself strong enough to balance it all.
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Good video! This is exactly what I've been struggling with in recent months and what you talk about is exactly what I need to hear. Thanks for making content like this.
Never acquainted with you before; so glad I found you now (at 74!). What a wise and thoughtful man you are. You inspire hope for the species.
Your voice is relaxing. Listening to you talk is therapeutic
I'm at 2:28 and already mindblown! My version is: I need to first heal my difficult health condition (and trauma etc) and then I can do all these things that make me happy.
Read the book cured - the science of spontaneous remissions
Often remissions from health issues happen when people completely redecorate their life and alter their routines
Joe Dispenza has great books on the topic titled You are the placebo, breaking the habit of being yourself, and becoming supernatural
@@AaronLyons Thank you! I will check this book out. I feel much better and my MS is not as bad once I left my evil husband. Same for my chronically ill daughter. We both still go through so much, but with that evil man living with us, we are much better after 4 years.
@@desiderata333 please check out Joe Dispenza work and committedly do the meditations
This video randomly showed up on my feed. Really appreciate you taking the time to put this out there. I didn’t realize how much I needed to hear this.
I stayed watching because the way you speak seems genuine and you're sharing knowledge in a way that's easy to understand, thank you for sharing to others important lessons on this plataform!
Wow! What an insightful video!
1. First off I loved that this video was short but not too short and to the point
2. I loved your calm demeanor and in general, your aura
This really has made me reflect this morning. I come from an immigrant family, where the focus was education, wealth, degrees, and physical beauty. These are the things that are valued by my family. And growing up, this had a severe (and still does) impact on my mental health. I often sometimes wakeup and feel like a worthless human being, but this video gave me hope. I am on a journey of spirituality and lately I have been (as you said in your video) getting up late, going to work and then not having time or energy to do what I really want (connect to a higher power, read, make art etc.) - I also feel that if I tell people in real life this are the things I want to do - I will get laughed at and called a 'hippie.' But anyways, this was a lot of food for thought. THANK YOU
You should consider giving a tour of your personal library/bookshelf. I think a good deal of us viewers would be greatly interested in such a video considering the depth of knowledge you seem to possess. Looking forward to the next video regardless!
Guy sounds like Gabor Maté when I look away!
Brilliant advice.
Looks like Spencer Reed from criminal minds when you look straight at him
a lot of people starting to sound like Gabor Maté on here 🤔
Huge compliment. Gabor mate is very intelligent, love him.
That's what this guy looks like! I'm just listening without looking at the video and even the way he talks, wording choice and cadence, is all Gabor Mate.
Thank you brother. I’m blessed from hearing this.
Thank you 🙂🙏🏼 felt like a great reminder and a conversation or genuinely listening to someone than watching a video on UA-cam for self-help as a guy who's got a lot to figure out all by himself
Actually I clicked on this video because I thought you were Cillian Murphy
Me too! 😅 but I love this person’s message
Genuine chuckle in the middle of all this stoical earnestness. Thank you!
this guy looks better than cillian tbh.
he looks like that guy from criminal minds
I thought it was Matthew gray gubler🤭
i usually dont comment but im going to cry, thank you for this video and this channel and all the things you said and your narration. the one thing i promised myself to do this year was to start living actively and to get into stoic philosophy, and this is exactly the push i needed. i dont know, i just feel so grateful, thank you so much;'(((
A beautiful man with a beautiful mind. Not something you come across everyday!
This is one of the most profound insights I have heard or watched. Thank you.
You know what's more expensive than a car though? Dependents. Unless you are fine with letting them grow up in poverty and letting them figure out how to fund college (or to not and have their career options severely limited). And, if you work less on improving your earning power in a career, you will end up spending more hours at work to fund a basic lifestyle because you are paid less per hour. It's not like you can decide you are no longer materialistic and just stop working, have all this free time. I agree that it is important to know what is really important in life and put that first. That doesn't support the claim that the answer is to 'desire less, earn less, spend less'. That applies in a minority of cases where somebody is putting in overtime at work in order to buy luxury goods, and they could stop putting in that overtime. I believe your observation here was helpful, but the conclusion rang hollow, was not sufficiently thought out.
Edit: I think that a better conclusion would be to have more clarity on personal values and how those translate into action. I think if you asked most people what their deepest values were, their answers would be vague at best. Certainly not developed enough to live out. That would be a good place for most people to start.
well put, while the wisdom he shares is undeniable, he is a young man living well in his twenties in a rich country, and it seems obvious he comes from a good family, so his advice doesnt apply to all people or even most people
This is a very good comment. Earning a good salary means your kids can grow up in a safer environment that fosters growth, and attend schools with more thoughtful teachers and students (ironically, they will spend time with people who are NOT glued to a tablet or an ipad all day). Having money also allows your kids to pursue fine arts, sports and cultural activities. I have lived amongst the underclass and it is not something to be glorified
I agree.
Indeed this title spoke to me. There are many ways this title can be interpreted. For me, I’m at a point in my life where keeping my word to myself is my top priority. Why? Because I have not kept it for years now. This has affected my self-esteem, confidence, and ability to trust myself. My current life circumstances are also a result of postponing myself. Regarding the phrases “throw it all away” or “untie the knot” a phrase I also use is “burn the boats”. They all have the same meaning. Brilliant video and one that resonates exactly with this point in my life. Thank you sir.
What a brilliant presentation. Simple and profound! Thanks a million for this! I SO needed to hear this...
That was incredibly affirming.
I knew it was the right thing to not be like my culture.
Cheers to those already doing everything he talked about.
Thank you for this. It really helps me reevaluate my own priorities and values.
Who is this good looking person and articulate literate machine? On you youtube?!
There is so much wisdom behind your words (and Senecas of course) Thank you so much
for sharing your clear intelectual and personal insights on youtube and for the algorithm to deliver it !!!🙏
this is a really nice comment and i dont mean to disparage it at all but it just made me think that in the future people will literally worship algorithms. giving thanks when the algo returns good, offering penance when it returns bad
I know people can be so up but 😂
It's a common message. What makes him so compelling is he is talking to us from the 1970's.
Appreciate the reminder. Follow the flow and react accordingly, for nothing is predictable 100%.
I've been posponing this video, but was deffo worth it. Thank you!
It’s a 2000 years old quote, and still I stumble upon this video about it right after a therapy session reflecting on that specific experience that has been going on for my entire adult life. Impressive one, universe lol
So true. I've tried to live by this most of my life. Drive a beater car that I own, no payments. Don't own a home or any of the toys that might get in the way of being free to pursue my dreams and compromise my time and energy too much. Tho I can always do better with this. Thanks for the inspiration!
Love my older car, no payment, not even 100k mileage on it (it's 18 years old!). If I can't afford to fix I'll sell it as I don't commute to work, luckily it's only a recreation car (and I don't even use it much for that lol). I'm "boring" but have space for things like reading, taking walks, hobbies, etc! I also live somewhere others may poo-poo (a mobile home park) but again it's the cost of "my life" that I factor in, no big mortgage means I'm more free...
@@vintage_violetI love your comment but by do you live in a port a potty?
Less is more (nothing can be more truer and life-changing than this)
I really needed this reminder. This push. It's been hitting me hard. Nothing excites me anymore. Esp the 9-5. My dreams are yelling at me to get started so I can truly live the life I've envisioned. No more procrastanating, contemplating and putting myself off. Thank you ❤
Taking time to watch this today was my work of life; I did what I wanted, then what I had to do, and then what I deserved.
the stuff touches the soul man - thank you for reminding us
What this fails to address is that even living within or below your means, forgoing all possible luxuries, you still require an amount of money that would take the average person over 30 years to accumulate, in order to be truly financially independent.
Ya this guy definitely comes from wealth lol
Great video, you have a wonderful quality to you and speak truth and empathy. I love the quotes you included.
Wow, this video really hit me hard. I regret spending years of my life doing something I was not passionate about and did not serve me. Its only purpose was money and it didn’t really fulfill my needs. Thanks for this reminder to prioritize 🙏🏻
So what I gathered is to take precious care of the opportunity each day brings, and the choices within it.
Also the priority and investment in actions with consistency lead to a stronger outcome.
so if I cut loose what unimportant things bleed my limited time and energy, and focus that energy into what I value most, my life will change in that direction.
Thanks, makes sense
Damn, somehow the algorithm brought us all together and here we are all listening to this most profound powerful message. I am currently in bed delaying getting up, first thing i did this morning was grab my phone. Well done, sir.
Hopefully tomorrow will be different
I was drawn to your aura & your concerned expression of your video picture 🙏🏽 your energy looks & feels so calming. ❤️
you shook me up. I needed to hear that. I am struggling with a decision. Actually my heart knows what to do but I am postponing it. you are so right. I hope to have the courage to listen to my heart.
man you are so attractive. your voice is so nice, makes me feel warm and safe
You are so intelligent. And you look like an ancient greek philosopher.you’re just perfect 😢
The key to being happy is so simple but many people want to be someone they are not, many people care WAAY TOO MUCH about what others think of them. Great video
THANK YOU! This was perfect and right on time! It gave me a relieving clarity.
I was about to postpone watching this video by throwing it in my “watch later”… then I thought, well I better just watch it now 😂
He is looking straight into my soul
I have been on this journey for a very long time, but somehow this morning I felt lonely, and my energy was down. I decided to go for a walk before work and listened to your video. You cannot imagine how grateful I am that I found you; my energy shifted greatly.
I wish you could somehow sense the shift in my energy to understand the profound impact your thoughts and words have had on me. I am sending you an abundance of gratitude for your openness and kindness in sharing your insights with us.
Very insightful and so true! I will put what I want to do first, when I start my day. 💙🙏
This video found me at the perfect time.
After experiencing symptoms of depression last few months, I realised cause it is that I’ve developed a workaholic addiction.
It’s not that I work all the time , in fact, I actually work a lot less than the majority of people. But it’s that I’ve made my work into the most important and number one thing.
It’s started to suck the happiness and satisfaction out of every other thing I do. I’m starting to see clearly again now.
Thank you