3 tips to boost your confidence - TED-Ed

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  • Опубліковано 5 жов 2015
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    When faced with a big challenge where potential failure seems to lurk at every corner, you’ve probably heard the advice, “Be more confident!” But where does confidence come from, and how can you get more of it? Here are three easy tips to boost your confidence.
    Lesson by TED-Ed, animation by Kozmonot Animation Studio.

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  • @novii22
    @novii22 7 років тому +22080

    Don't think of "FAIL" as "FAIL", think of it as "F.A.I.L." = First Attempt In Learning.

    • @RobinOnYew
      @RobinOnYew 7 років тому +167

      i think of success as a series of fails intill you success cause it uselly is that way and if you think its either going to be success or failure then you will more likely grow to be a loser because you start something fail and then start something else

    • @RobinOnYew
      @RobinOnYew 7 років тому +23

      english please and did you noiced i didnt write it as eeennnglishpleasse

    • @bideev
      @bideev 7 років тому +10

      That is NOT what i think of it as...

    • @think_fool
      @think_fool 7 років тому +73

      what if i failed the same course 4 times?

    • @novii22
      @novii22 7 років тому +37

      Damian Small Well, just check back and think about what you could've done better. Don't look back and think, "Wow. I'm stupid", because you're not. It's just there's one or two things you didn't understand, or misunderstood.

  • @letsthink4281
    @letsthink4281 4 роки тому +7898

    In nutshell:
    1: Picture yourself for future
    2: Believe in yourself to improve
    3: Keep trying

  • @WeGrowPeople
    @WeGrowPeople 3 роки тому +2666

    Confident people:
    • Take initiative
    • Volunteer for new things
    • Take risks
    • Sincerely compliment others
    • Maintain composure in difficult situations
    • Solve problems
    • Speak clearly and calmly
    • Take pride in appearance
    • Have good manners
    • Ask questions and listen well

    • @piyo746
      @piyo746 3 роки тому +6

      Yes.

    • @aur9035
      @aur9035 2 роки тому +72

      Basically just fake it until you make it

    • @tausifshaikh2864
      @tausifshaikh2864 2 роки тому +6

      Can u eleaborate take pride in appearance?

    • @aur9035
      @aur9035 2 роки тому +36

      @@tausifshaikh2864 do things that makes you feel good about your physique. For me its skincare (glowing skin, always attractive on no matter who, with scars, freckles, etc), and dressing up as if im the person i aspire to be :) hope this helps

    • @tausifshaikh2864
      @tausifshaikh2864 2 роки тому +3

      @@aur9035 Yeaaa thx I kinda get it

  • @iraqpestcontrol
    @iraqpestcontrol 3 роки тому +3985

    *Dear stranger whoever reads this: I hope all your dreams come true!.* 💙

  • @rumaisa3594
    @rumaisa3594 4 роки тому +8869

    i don’t think i can fix social anxiety with videos like these but i’ll try

  • @goldbristow7239
    @goldbristow7239 8 років тому +3032

    I feel like alot of people don't give you time to fail and improve. Especially with how school goes. There's only so much time. But I'll keep trying.

    • @bethpitcher3079
      @bethpitcher3079 8 років тому +185

      Everyone around you at school is trying to convince you that every grade, every quiz, every competition is the be all and end all of your life and that school is everything and means so much but that's really not true. Its hard in that environment like the vid says, but honestly believe me when I say school is the time to mess up and no one will even look at your school results once you have a higher qualification etc, there's always another chance, just go one step at a time. :)

    • @krhodes02
      @krhodes02 7 років тому +9

      +Beth Pitcher thanks for opening my eyes to that

    • @timmyturner7522
      @timmyturner7522 7 років тому +7

      +Beth Pitcher OMG you just blew up my mind

    • @queeneva9659
      @queeneva9659 7 років тому +1

      ikr!!! I was thinking the exact same thing!!!

    • @richardshibu8452
      @richardshibu8452 7 років тому

      Kokoro cala

  • @claudekingstan4084
    @claudekingstan4084 3 роки тому +201

    I have a learning disability called Dyslexia. It is so severe that when I was finally diagnosed post graduating from medical school that my doctors said I should not have been able to pass high school, let alone medical school. I have suffered from a lifelong academic failure and have failed more than anyone I have ever known in a university or medical school. I have been told my teachers, advisors and colleagues that I am a failure, a waste of time, and I can never make it. Somehow I graduated without disability accommodations. Even the government for the disabled refused to grant me accommodations because they do not believe someone with my condition could have ever passed high school, so I must have cheated. The government department for the disabled refused to accommodate a disabled. And after all this, now I get to help save lives during the world’s Covid-19 pandemic, so do not ever let anyone talk you out of your dream. My dream started when I was 5 and people are alive because this 5 yr old boy never knew how to quit. And I am now a new father and my son was born during the year of the pandemic 2020. I will teach him how to never quit.

  • @arizleidapetunia5753
    @arizleidapetunia5753 3 роки тому +526

    00:04 - 00:45 What is confidence?
    00:46 - 01:33 Where does confidence come from and what factors impact confidence?
    01:34 - 01:57 Tip #1.
    01:58 - 02:56 Tip #2.
    02:57 - 03:58 Tip #3.
    03:59 - 04:16 Ending.

    • @donovanwilson4672
      @donovanwilson4672 2 роки тому +7

      This helps!!🗣🎯💯

    • @rusttynail77
      @rusttynail77 2 роки тому +14

      Lol I've never seen a timestamp breakdown for a 4 minute video. Are peoples attention spans that short?

    • @arizleidapetunia5753
      @arizleidapetunia5753 2 роки тому +11

      @@rusttynail77 Yeah, also I did it to help out people if they were assigned this for classwork ( I was ) and they didn't have time or didn't want to watch the whole thing

    • @05.tranthanhbinh95
      @05.tranthanhbinh95 2 роки тому

      may work for exercise

    • @boomboone47
      @boomboone47 Рік тому

      Thx m8

  • @MrYass24
    @MrYass24 7 років тому +3179

    Confidence is when you walk into a room assuming everyone already likes you!
    This quote helps every time I want to talk to strangers or have a presentation in class.

    • @samumohacsi
      @samumohacsi 7 років тому +107

      TheMaster-Y nope, that's called over-confidence or in other words, narcissism.

    • @landenhord6155
      @landenhord6155 5 років тому +61

      Lord Bumbo it is unless you have really low self esteem

    • @aletaris
      @aletaris 5 років тому +5

      Good thing, all should try

    • @SuperKronas
      @SuperKronas 5 років тому +259

      Nope confidence is if they dont like me I'll still be fine!

    • @nawalalware5882
      @nawalalware5882 5 років тому +1

      Hmm good way to remind ourselves.....thanx

  • @cheeseca7529
    @cheeseca7529 7 років тому +949

    "Practice failure"
    Bruh, I'm already nailing it!

  • @kimito7521
    @kimito7521 2 роки тому +150

    I like the last part that says "Whatever the results... you'll have gained greater knowledge and understanding." Learning to appreciate the growth journey and reframing outcomes that seem different from our expected results may really help in taking on unfamiliar challenges we find uncomfortable with. It's like 'playing the game, for the game itself'.

  • @geeayejoe2411
    @geeayejoe2411 2 роки тому +6

    I so love this video. Even though I have achieved here and there, I still suffer from self-doubts and debilitating thoughts. Growth mindset and small wins help me a lot!

  • @xxtravisxxify
    @xxtravisxxify 5 років тому +766

    Lol I remember everyone laughed at me at school because I couldn't speak English but did some gestures instead. Now I can speak English better than any of my friends and I went abroad alone. This is how we get succeed after failing lots of times.

    • @taniyabhasin5283
      @taniyabhasin5283 3 роки тому +3

      How did you improve?

    • @xxtravisxxify
      @xxtravisxxify 3 роки тому +44

      @@taniyabhasin5283 online pc games and movies at first, was trying to listen well and copy. I also started to think in English, then I've visited European countries and was speaking to people. It's important to be exposed that foreign language you try to learn, and then you actually master how to learn a new language.

    • @nagendran2591
      @nagendran2591 3 роки тому

      How to think in English for native speakers

    • @Poetry4Peace
      @Poetry4Peace 3 роки тому +2

      @@xxtravisxxify where u originally from?

    • @Poetry4Peace
      @Poetry4Peace 3 роки тому +3

      @@katekiti yh its always good to have some light heartedness with funny/imperfect grammar its jus pure life as its not perfect and amplifies chill

  • @s-ohno-phia
    @s-ohno-phia 7 років тому +2920

    When I face a challenge I:
    1. Panic
    2. Wonder how I can overcome this challenge
    3. Ask for help
    4. Ignore everything they said
    5. Do it my way
    6. Fail
    7. Wonder why I do these things

    • @smiththedankmyth7009
      @smiththedankmyth7009 7 років тому +36

      Sophia Dula how to be good at life 101

    • @htdjc1341
      @htdjc1341 7 років тому +1

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    • @s-ohno-phia
      @s-ohno-phia 7 років тому +8

      Madskill Pro I'm passing with an A+

    • @kiraknight2951
      @kiraknight2951 7 років тому +3

      right.

    • @jam.lob.
      @jam.lob. 7 років тому +24

      i ask for advice, follow it and then they say "no youre doing it wrong"

  • @rizz0410
    @rizz0410 Рік тому +7

    It's six years after the video released, still love how to be more confident, thanks for your tips

  • @sejucreampie9246
    @sejucreampie9246 2 роки тому +12

    this is actually one of the most inspiring Ted Ed I've watched so far. thank you

  • @thewormybookworm421
    @thewormybookworm421 3 роки тому +3495

    When I face a challenge I:
    1. Panic
    2. Overthink
    3. Panic some more
    4. Go to the bathroom and wipe my tears
    5. Play soothing nature sounds to relax
    6. Meditate
    7. Give up and ask my mom for help

  • @Cheetosboy12354
    @Cheetosboy12354 4 роки тому +1875

    Girl:“Hey”
    Confidence: *BYE*

  • @asmakpoo1605
    @asmakpoo1605 3 роки тому +17

    I failed many times and I am still okay because I know It's a part of growing. Thanks TED ☺️ I feel more confidence after watching this video, I really love the message xoxoxo Keep trying, keep fighting keep & praying 💪💪

  • @shimaradata4392
    @shimaradata4392 2 роки тому +11

    Growing up, I didn't know this "You can improve mindset" that's why I was always afraid of taking risks. Now I am trying to change for the better. Fighting to all the people that are in the same situation as me.

  • @narwhalicorn934
    @narwhalicorn934 7 років тому +630

    I wanna learn how to talk to someone without having a brain spasm

    • @sammyt5196
      @sammyt5196 7 років тому

      me too ;-;

    • @maniwayyyy
      @maniwayyyy 7 років тому

      same

    • @allcookies4me534
      @allcookies4me534 7 років тому +14

      What I came for.

    • @stickmanymickmany
      @stickmanymickmany 7 років тому +35

      Gotta keep talking to new people all the time. You'll get calmer and more confidence with each new person. :) Might not feel like anything's happening sometimes, but it eventually will.

    • @andrewpotapenkoff7723
      @andrewpotapenkoff7723 7 років тому +26

      Try read more and also try writing complex thoughts or esses. That will teach you how to automaticaly construct phrases in interesting and useful way. I did it for myself and now everyone tells me that i am an interesting person to talk to.
      Also you'll benefit from increasing ability to manipulate people (in good or bad way - your choice), tell 100% proof lies and so on.

  • @milladd
    @milladd 4 роки тому +894

    A champion is not defined by the amount of wins they have achieved, rather it is the amount of times they had recovered when they fell.

  • @luzivannagaraycocheaavila
    @luzivannagaraycocheaavila 3 роки тому +55

    "Confidence is when we think we are valuable, capable, optimistic and after a failure, we have come great knowledge and understanding". "It turns doubts into action" Thanks for this fantastic video :) Regards from Peru.

  • @damonm4156
    @damonm4156 10 місяців тому +3

    For someone who has lacked confidence all my life i am 40 now and i thought we can not keep repeating that lack of. I am grateful for the internet and videos like this that really give so much value on how to boost your confidence. Not to put anyone down but i think alot of society can gain from learning to be more confident.

  • @rolfathan
    @rolfathan 7 років тому +355

    So I actually tend to just open a new tab and listen to these TED-ed videos because, while the animation is pretty, I'm multi-tasking here. All the advice was entirely valid and logical. Well, I scroll down to the comment, and I see all these guys saying "Why is this for GIRLS ONLY?" and I had no idea what they were talking about. Scrubbed the timeline and saw that the artwork was of girls.
    How daft is my fellow man that just having the avatar be a woman means that it does not apply to him just the same?

    • @cyrus5958
      @cyrus5958 7 років тому +7

      I wasn't angered by just the girls, I was more annoyed by the bit at 0:14 where all the things laughing at the girl where the gender symbol for men (they changed them to Failure now)

    • @rolfathan
      @rolfathan 7 років тому +1

      Oh, what? That's really odd.

    • @theotryhard8651
      @theotryhard8651 7 років тому +9

      DID YOU JUST ASSUME THE GENDER OF THAT CHARACTER??!?!?!?!?

    • @ceemurda5721
      @ceemurda5721 7 років тому +2

      shut the fuck up

    • @rolfathan
      @rolfathan 7 років тому

      I did, until you responded to my message, which brought my attention back to this video. Are you happy with yourself now?
      I think I'm ~[TRIGGERED]~ someone, call the internet police, someone said fuck.

  • @GraceJones1
    @GraceJones1 7 років тому +370

    Anything is possible, once you start to understand the power of the human mind. I overcame my dad molesting me, being drugged and raped, amongst many other challenges, by understanding Neuroplasticity. And how we can rewire our neurons, to change the way we think. Once you start to understand the power of the human mind, you can overcome PTSD, depression, addiction and so much more ❤

    • @_ahmir_
      @_ahmir_ 6 років тому +21

      wtf

    • @jasonmatthews4449
      @jasonmatthews4449 6 років тому +11

      Tell us your secret please.

    • @BonkersBerserk87
      @BonkersBerserk87 5 років тому +30

      I'm really sorry for everything you had to go through. But that's why you are strong today. I wish you the best in life, you deserve nothing less.

    • @BonkersBerserk87
      @BonkersBerserk87 5 років тому +2

      Prince Hans No sir, I mean it from the bottom of my heart

    • @ax9302
      @ax9302 5 років тому +4

      Kyung Jones Wow your a beautiful person xx

  • @AdityaKumar-ij5ok
    @AdityaKumar-ij5ok 3 роки тому +13

    2:01 that's where people go wrong, it's "believe in your ability to IMPROVE" and not what most of us usually remember "believe that you are the best", it takes practice and time to be the best, you can never know when you become the best.

  • @fusion1814
    @fusion1814 2 роки тому +2

    I always do these things whenever I need confidence, they're really helpful 💛

  • @ReddoX30
    @ReddoX30 6 років тому +586

    For me, fear of failure is stopping me from achieving what I want.
    If you have this problem too, keep on trying! Most of the times, you learn more from failure than from success!
    And with that newfound knowledge you can do better next time!

    • @alyrainnee4939
      @alyrainnee4939 5 років тому +4

      aww same

    • @hik225
      @hik225 4 роки тому +5

      For me, fear of failure motivates me every single day.

    • @emery6049
      @emery6049 4 роки тому +4

      Thank you so much, I’m struggling in basketball because I get rid of the ball the second I get it and I’m a good ball handler and a shooter but I don’t do any of it because I’m afraid I’m gonna embarrass myself or make a mistake

    • @ksksdjjd2254
      @ksksdjjd2254 4 роки тому +2

      id say ppl fear success more

    • @thewormybookworm421
      @thewormybookworm421 3 роки тому +4

      The problem for me is that I don't like trying and my mind doesn't believe me when I say I can do it and the more I try and fail, the more I'm convinced I can't do it

  • @QuestionEverythingButWHY
    @QuestionEverythingButWHY 4 роки тому +555

    “The greater the obstacle, the more glory in overcoming it.”
    ― Molière

    • @Pharaoh_Tutankhamen
      @Pharaoh_Tutankhamen 2 роки тому +1

      Who that?

    • @Randomperson-dj8yu
      @Randomperson-dj8yu Рік тому +2

      @@Pharaoh_Tutankhamen answering late but its a very well known french author in the 1600s who has written some of the most famous theatrical works in french history .
      French people know him very well 😁

  • @yatharthvyas
    @yatharthvyas 3 роки тому +4

    Hands down, this is one of the top Ted-Ed videos which I will save and definitely rewatch multiple times throughout my life

  • @YourFavOwlPuppet
    @YourFavOwlPuppet Рік тому

    1:35 is the best part of the video, it starts off with tips and i just listened to those tips and went through my day feeling *+confident+*.

  • @Willpower360
    @Willpower360 7 років тому +861

    That moment when I am confident that I can do a back flip, I break my neck and go to the emergency room.

  • @nikki1339
    @nikki1339 7 років тому +148

    Tbh, idk why I'm watching this because I honestly do these things everyday. I just have low self esteem, but not low confidence. Like, I think I'm ugly or awkward, but I don't care that much if I fail.

    • @danielkhan1
      @danielkhan1 7 років тому +1

      same

    • @vibodhj349
      @vibodhj349 7 років тому +12

      I think they are interconnected. I had a low self esteem but high confidence in the first place but the habit of having a inferior complex gradually resulted in a false understanding that others will always be better than me and an internal conflict started. The tussle between the two concepts led to a realization that- Others are better than me because they do better than me. And I lost the confidence as well.

    • @breadgenie9640
      @breadgenie9640 7 років тому +1

      Vibodh Jadhav same here 😔

    • @vibodhj349
      @vibodhj349 7 років тому +10

      I have realized that confidence is gained by experience and it isn't related to self esteem. I think confidence is more closely related to curiosity, the habit of trying out stuff because We are CURIOUS!

    • @primonter6215
      @primonter6215 6 років тому

      Me too ):

  • @DrJonTam
    @DrJonTam 2 роки тому +64

    Timestamps
    1:38 Tip 1: Try a quick fix
    1:59 Tip 2: Believe in your ability to improve
    2:58 Tip 3: Practice failure

  • @mrbabypig1019
    @mrbabypig1019 3 роки тому +22

    When I was little, I would get yelled at every day for no reason and I went mute in public. After a few years since then, I have boost my confidence but still don’t talk. I am looking for something to help me because in middle school you need to talk a lot. My biggest insecurity is my voice. It is very hard to understand me so that is another reason I don’t talk. I have been in speech from kindergarten up to third grade and it helped me talk but didn’t change how people understand me.

    • @Noika
      @Noika 3 роки тому +2

      I have an amazon code to get a book that helps against anxiety. I can give it to you if you want

    • @tiemi130
      @tiemi130 3 роки тому +1

      i am NOT an expert or smth, but what if you try to read some books you like out loud, or find something that you really like, for example some music or a show and talk about it with your friends or family? you can also try to record your voice, so you can like get comfortable with it while hearing it more and more and also when you hear you can get better at your pronunciation if that's what makes the others don't understand what you are talking! :) i hope i could help you in some way, and i wish you the best! good luck! i know you can! i believe you!

    • @mrbabypig1019
      @mrbabypig1019 3 роки тому

      @@tiemi130 I will definitely try this thank you so much

    • @AdventuresInReach
      @AdventuresInReach 3 роки тому +1

      Trauma is tricky and going mute sounds like it was a coping mechanism. For that I would look up "resiliency steps" and "resiliency assets". If you don't use or practice anything it won't improve...so make sure you do speak (I like the suggestion of reading out loud), sing, seriously schedule and practice the exercises your speech teacher gives you, and talk with the closest people who have been encouraging you to speak the most. If there's one teacher who seems genuinely interested, maybe ask them to meet individually to talk and tutor.

  • @NerdSyncProductions
    @NerdSyncProductions 8 років тому +1163

    This comment section is really disappointing.

    • @skykawano3277
      @skykawano3277 8 років тому +69

      +NerdSync 1:00 in what way is this comment section "disappointing"? If people are commenting about the clear sexism towards a group of individuals which is based out of misguided and outdated feminist generalizations, then it's positive. Sexism should not be tolerated in our modern society. Equality is what we all strive towards.

    • @henryj7725
      @henryj7725 8 років тому

      yep

    • @henryj7725
      @henryj7725 8 років тому +3

      +Henry J welcome to UA-cam

    • @NerdSyncProductions
      @NerdSyncProductions 8 років тому +41

      Sky Alderson The message of this video applies to everyone.

    • @Tyronejizz
      @Tyronejizz 8 років тому +46

      +NerdSync yeah it does. so why only focus on women? why only show one guy in the video who is one of the obstacles the main caracter has to pass? why let her be attacked by male gender symbols?
      the message does apply to all so the sexism the depiction of man as obstacles and destroyers of confidence is wrong, and it should be pointed out.

  • @r34p3r8
    @r34p3r8 7 років тому +891

    I love how they show this to be confidence for some physical bullshit, like a sport or some shit like that, whereas what I'm using this for is just talking to people without being awkward as fuck XD

    • @circleman40
      @circleman40 7 років тому

      😎

    • @elissammi5696
      @elissammi5696 7 років тому +15

      Ikr thts y im here but i guess it didnt help

    • @sugambhatia9930
      @sugambhatia9930 7 років тому +37

      that confidence will translate into everything you do, it's a lifestyle change.

    • @notoriouswhitemoth
      @notoriouswhitemoth 7 років тому +19

      Confidence comes from experience. The way to develop that experience is to celebrate *effort* instead of *achievement*. The Persians found a way around the blockade at Thermopylae thanks to the help of a spy, and the Spartan defenders were slaughtered to the last man, but their defeat is celebrated while that more successful defense of Athens is mostly forgotten - because success isn't ultimately what's important.

    • @pointlessmike
      @pointlessmike 7 років тому +11

      Be selfish. Be crude and mean to people. Express the weirdest shit that comes to your mind in any way you wanna. Imitate people who don't give a fuck. These all seem like bad ideas, but they do counter social anxiety. If it becomes a way of life, you won't feel bad. If it doesn't, then it'll just be a phase. The end result should be the same : being comfortable with yourself in social situations.

  • @zsuzsannaszucs4473
    @zsuzsannaszucs4473 8 місяців тому +2

    I looooove the illustration!!! :D I will make a hero-picture of myself, and will look at it when I feel to hard to practice a harder song on my saxophone.🎷

  • @user-mu3iy8fq3d
    @user-mu3iy8fq3d 5 місяців тому

    The emphasis on developing a mindset of gratitude in this video was eye-opening. Cultivating gratitude for the small joys in everyday life has become a crucial aspect of enhancing my self-esteem.

  • @zandrewmorano10
    @zandrewmorano10 7 років тому +109

    i lm always shy... sometimes when im not shy, the next day will be more.shy

    • @myaccount0307
      @myaccount0307 4 роки тому +2

      I am like this too I recommend trying to step out of your comfort zone and do new stuff that scares you I recently started wearing clothes I feel awkward in and with in a week I felt proud that I did it even when it scares me and now I feel much more confident

  • @reevewilde4387
    @reevewilde4387 7 років тому +91

    I just noticed that none of the Ted-Ed videos have ads! Yay!

  • @esteemity5405
    @esteemity5405 3 роки тому

    I'm really glad you pointed toward optimism. It can be learned and developed.

  • @irenemilcah
    @irenemilcah 3 роки тому +1

    THIS VIDEO IS EXCEPTIONALLY WELL-MADE. THE SCRIPT, THE VOICE OVER, THE ANIMATION. EVERYTHING

  • @morningawesome
    @morningawesome 4 роки тому +364

    Short-term help:
    Picture your success when you’re beginning a difficult task
    Listening to music with deep bass can promote power
    Give yourself a pep talk
    Make a power pose
    Long-term help:
    Believe in your ability to improve
    Don’t have a fixed mindset, thinking that if you’re not good at something you’ll never be good at it. Have a growth mindset. Keep growing.
    Those who fail regularly and keep trying anyway are better equipped to respond to challenges and setbacks in a constructive way.
    Realise it’s not gonna be easy.
    Accept that you’ll make mistakes.

  • @KnotApps
    @KnotApps 7 років тому +509

    'keep trying' is what you say, but our current system doesn't really provide much opportunities for that.
    You fail the uni entrance exams, you are done for. Only a very small limited number of failures are accepted in school before you are expelled. One mistake might kick out of the company just before your idea could have turned you into a millionaire. How. Are. We. Supposed to keep trying?

    • @pieman8957
      @pieman8957 7 років тому +7

      so what you're saying is that everyone should just not try to better themselves or try to study for tests in subjects that they aren't good at.

    • @moonbrushdarkkirin6088
      @moonbrushdarkkirin6088 7 років тому +5

      +Angelisa Hassan *sarcastically* yeah. because I should totally try having the same exact conversation every day with the girl I'm trying to talk to. *rolls eyes* that'll totally work and she won't just think I'm a creepy stalker

    • @tommytucker5464
      @tommytucker5464 7 років тому +20

      But that's exactly what you need to do because once you give up you fail. There is no time limit to a degree, you can always resit, what's important is to learn from the mistakes so you can improve yourself. It's only when you blame others or have the victim mindset and stop trying is when you have truly failed. You must control your mindset, stay focused and keep working hard relentlessly. That is how you keep trying.

    • @danikanutter6749
      @danikanutter6749 7 років тому +11

      I don't know what country you're in but in the States there isn't time limits for degrees. The credits you do earn stay in the system. My mom finished her two year degree twenty years later. It took a couple times of her trying to go back to school and failing. But now my mom has her degree and I'm really proud of her.

    • @michelenintricepsi6529
      @michelenintricepsi6529 7 років тому

      Danika Nutter Europe isn't somewhere like states. Get your head out of your ass dude.

  • @myatthiri2535
    @myatthiri2535 2 роки тому +1

    this was uploaded 7 years ago and still the facts are solid :) I had been struggling to be confident for years but now , i dare to face it.
    THANKS ALOT TED TALK.

  • @Kangseoyun63
    @Kangseoyun63 2 роки тому

    I lost hope yesterday but..today this vid show up and i just watch it..it makes me feel confident..and i feel that i will be able to do what i want and cross the path to my goal

  • @doughnutdevil5079
    @doughnutdevil5079 7 років тому +100

    My self esteem is so low I can step on it

    • @dogelord8850
      @dogelord8850 7 років тому +1

      Doughnut Devil why was the characters changing all girls?

    • @brightlight4212
      @brightlight4212 7 років тому

      +Doge Lord88 it was made in partnership for a campaign that is about making young girls feel confident in themselves

    • @lmao2302
      @lmao2302 7 років тому

      Tstk tstk my self esteem is so low I can't even see it.

    • @doratheillegalalien9183
      @doratheillegalalien9183 5 років тому

      my turds are so tall i have to step off them

  • @HassanuddinKasim
    @HassanuddinKasim 7 років тому +320

    i rarely leave a comment, because i always think what other would think. so to practice failure i must comment, hahaha

    • @renze7133
      @renze7133 7 років тому +40

      Hassanuddin Kasim Well, because you want too practice failure, I completely disagree with your comment

    • @sunnymartina935
      @sunnymartina935 6 років тому +8

      no one knows who u r and where u from. so why scared then? it is not like face to face conversation.

    • @user-lc7ku6je1o
      @user-lc7ku6je1o 5 років тому +5

      So, your comment got to the top. You don't have to be afraid of failure so much.

    • @dioncheung5891
      @dioncheung5891 5 років тому

      Well now u got a lot of likes

    • @adrikahaha9954
      @adrikahaha9954 5 років тому +1

      Me too

  • @mominaabid9142
    @mominaabid9142 3 місяці тому

    its very rare for me to comment on any channel but the tips u gave very simple but useful.Thank you so much you helped me a lot

  • @kajal55772
    @kajal55772 2 роки тому +3

    Needed to hear this. UA-cam recommended me this video at the perfect timing. Thankyou❤️

  • @liangyuwu8580
    @liangyuwu8580 5 років тому +501

    when I face a challenge I:
    1. think
    2. study
    3. get confused in some way
    4. releave self
    5. eat
    6. sleep more
    7. panic
    8. fail
    9. think
    10. let it go~~~~~~

    • @iya1989
      @iya1989 4 роки тому +10

      I go from 1-10 in the exact order you've numbered them.

    • @iya1989
      @iya1989 4 роки тому +2

      I go from 1-10 in the exact order you've numbered them.

    • @kepspark3362
      @kepspark3362 4 роки тому +1

      Perfectionist??

    • @kenramsey7439
      @kenramsey7439 4 роки тому +1

      No

    • @neelotpola-emotionalfitnes4920
      @neelotpola-emotionalfitnes4920 4 роки тому +1

      @@iya1989ua-cam.com/video/bteDSGvrMQ4/v-deo.html

  • @ronborneo1975
    @ronborneo1975 7 років тому +52

    That part when she was tripping over rocks and kept going is inspirational

    • @dioncheung5891
      @dioncheung5891 5 років тому

      She might sprain her leg or something

  • @mzee340
    @mzee340 9 місяців тому +6

    Fantastic video 👏
    3:17 "Studies show that those who fail regularly and keep trying anyway are better equipped to respond to challenges and setbacks"

  • @Angel-ut6tw
    @Angel-ut6tw 2 роки тому

    I don't know why but this is comforting. Almost made me cry. Yes, I must cultivate my confidence. UA-cam somehow speaks to me through recommending videos to watch. Thank you so much x

  • @chainslock_
    @chainslock_ 5 років тому +13

    This helped so much. I was on the verge of giving up, given that I’m uncertain of my own capabilities + the pressure + failure. But this video lifted my spirits. Thank you, Ted Ed!

  • @boy638
    @boy638 8 років тому +86

    what bout physical confidence? what if one is born ugly or misfigured?

    • @tktktktktk826
      @tktktktktk826 8 років тому +117

      Your ancestors looked like you and they all got laid

    • @rolan638
      @rolan638 8 років тому +15

      Ever heard of gene mutation? Radioactivity?

    • @boy638
      @boy638 8 років тому +8

      exactly, mutation or illness can disfigure a person

    • @SelectiveStreets
      @SelectiveStreets 8 років тому +1

      +DankLord420 His ancestors may have been good looking sons of bitches

    • @writerconsidered
      @writerconsidered 8 років тому

      +DankLord420 epigenetics plays a role in gene referencing and face symmetry.

  • @manuelmiddleton157
    @manuelmiddleton157 Рік тому

    You don't have idea of how much helpful this was for me!!! Thank you so much 😊

  • @mariellaferrer8597
    @mariellaferrer8597 3 роки тому

    This is hard to do if you don't know who will support you but still I would do my best to do it. Thank you for this wonderful message

  • @franciscozattoni
    @franciscozattoni 8 років тому +294

    Oh man I was needing that, because recently I accepted the challenge of learning Japanese within a year ahahaha

    • @franciscozattoni
      @franciscozattoni 8 років тому

      +lizzy_ Thank you bro!

    • @OwNeD05
      @OwNeD05 8 років тому +4

      +Francisco Zattoni Good luck with that.

    • @GraverFILMS
      @GraverFILMS 8 років тому +3

      Duolingo is a pretty decent app for that
      I learned a bit of Italian within a few weeks but then I stopped because I'm lazy. Maybe you'll have better motivation

    • @Coxy002605
      @Coxy002605 8 років тому +1

      +Francisco Zattoni Spaced repetition is really useful, especially because Japanese doesn't have an alphabet.

    • @franciscozattoni
      @franciscozattoni 8 років тому +1

      +lizzy_ Yeahhh I think I have to! Focusing all my brain's intellectual capacity into it, live with it, dream with it, being it, no kidding lol. But for sure I have to put a lot of effort on it.

  • @jazz4dayz543
    @jazz4dayz543 7 років тому +211

    Did this animation just tell me I can become a bat?! Awesome!!

    • @over50iqeq49
      @over50iqeq49 7 років тому +2

      Yup. A baseball bat.

    • @jazz4dayz543
      @jazz4dayz543 7 років тому

      Over 50 ^IQ ?EQ *NO* >:(

    • @over50iqeq49
      @over50iqeq49 7 років тому

      A basketball bat?

    • @jazz4dayz543
      @jazz4dayz543 7 років тому

      Over 50 ^IQ ?EQ No, a sex bat, duh!!

    • @over50iqeq49
      @over50iqeq49 7 років тому

      What? An ex-pat? Or maybe you're just batty.

  • @problyNotJava
    @problyNotJava 3 роки тому

    It's sometimes nice to watch these kinds of videos, because they show me I'm not a genius, I just did everything right every single time, on accident. And that feels great, because then I can just tell everyone I'm not a big deal, and actually guide them to victory with the knowledge aquired here. There are so many people I know that are better than me at stuff, older than me, but that consider me their "mentor" because I guided them to what they are now.

  • @abdullahaljubaer338
    @abdullahaljubaer338 2 роки тому

    The combination of music,editing, animation and that perfect voice in the intro is just mind boggling

  • @1212zeek1212
    @1212zeek1212 7 років тому +251

    This isn't an easy thing to do, huh?
    For many people, it's not easy to wake up and go to work every day, but they do. For many people, it's not easy to deal with relationship problems, but they do. Sad thing is, many people go through a lot of un-productive pain. Pain that happens, and leads to no improvements. Nothing gets better from the pain.
    We are all going to experience pain no matter what (unless we literally stay high 24/7, or intensely distract ourselves, in either case we will eventually come down from the high and still have all the same problems we used to have). But there is productive and unproductive pain.
    There is pain that is worth your time, that will help you create the kind of future *you* want, and unproductive pain, that adds nothing to your life.
    Since we will all experience pain no matter what, we might as well make sure the pain we do experience is leading us to something better - something that we actually want - in the long run.
    Whether something is easy or hard rarely goes through my mind, actually. All I care about is what I want to do. When I find something I want to do, it doesn't matter if it's hard, I'm going to do it. Through doing it, I'll learn how to more efficiently do it. Take push ups for example. My form was wrong for a month. Then I learned the right way and now experience less pain and build muscle more efficiently. Working out is now easier.
    Figure out a goal that really speaks to you (if you don't have one - then make your goal figuring out what your passions are). Set your sights on it. Remove can and can't from your vocabulary. There is only will try or won't try. And start going after it. There was a time where scientists believed it was impossible to run a mile in under 4 minutes. Until a runner did it. Do you think the runner said "I can do this" or "I can't do this"? He can't tell the future, and neither can any of us. Instead he decided "I am going to try." And he kept trying till he made it.
    Make mistakes. Fuck it up. Try over and over again. Realize it's not what you're passionate about. Go back to the drawing board and figure out another passion. Try again. Make more mistakes. Fuck it up. Learn from it. Change your approach. Keep trying until you win.
    If you find something you want badly enough, you can decide "Either I'm going to accomplish this, or I'm going to die trying."

    • @sillau9
      @sillau9 5 років тому +6

      Zeek1212 that was beautiful and encouraging..thank you.. 😊🤗

    • @zellleonheart7355
      @zellleonheart7355 5 років тому +4

      Thank you a fck lot guy !

    • @saviralarasati9514
      @saviralarasati9514 5 років тому +3

      thank you so so so so much. I believe that you inspire so many people by writing this comment.

    • @aletaris
      @aletaris 5 років тому +2

      Amen

    • @robluiz4848
      @robluiz4848 5 років тому +2

      I loved your aprooach.

  • @FreedomKingdom
    @FreedomKingdom 7 років тому +419

    Love this video. For some reason it keeps showing on my suggested videos...haha

    • @argirismavrommatis174
      @argirismavrommatis174 6 років тому

      Freedom Kingdom oh my god.....I feel strong and ready....thanks ☺😮❤

    • @najibcasa2745
      @najibcasa2745 6 років тому +3

      There are several tips to try
      Work out why you suffer from shyness - the first step in solving a problem is to understand why it is there.
      Be at ease about yourself - this makes it less difficult when you meet others.
      Challenge youself - you will become more confident by taking action - especially by doing activities which stretch your boundaries.
      (I read these and more tips on sebs shyness tactic website )

    • @trieucao2328
      @trieucao2328 5 років тому

      Just wonderful, been searching for "confidence builder" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you heard people talk about - Hanhristian Ganuhammad Blueprint - (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now ) ? Ive heard some unbelievable things about it and my partner got amazing results with it.

    • @georgiosantonopoulos7893
      @georgiosantonopoulos7893 5 років тому

      Cheers for this, I've been looking for "how to get confident" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you heard people talk about - Hanhristian Ganuhammad Blueprint - (should be on google have a look ) ? Ive heard some awesome things about it and my friend got cool success with it.

    • @kuneeyakanna9041
      @kuneeyakanna9041 5 років тому

      Just wonderful, been searching for "how to gain more confidence" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you ever come across - Hanhristian Ganuhammad Blueprint - (do a search on google ) ? Ive heard some decent things about it and my colleague got cool success with it.

  • @debarunkumer2019
    @debarunkumer2019 3 роки тому

    Certainly this video is going on my watchlist. Vitalizing oneself on the grounds of physical, mental and emotional strengths is how I would like define to define confidence.

  • @fairies6577
    @fairies6577 8 місяців тому +1

    The last line boosted my confidence that is whatever the result might be you have gained greater understanding and knowledge

  • @mousanyaltalukdar828
    @mousanyaltalukdar828 5 років тому +30

    It's so cute how her ponytails droop like a puppy's ears.Very sweet character 🙂😍

  • @BLTspace
    @BLTspace 8 років тому +555

    What if i'm a guy?

    • @ShermanistDruid
      @ShermanistDruid 8 років тому +28

      In this day and age we're fucked

    • @christinakang8099
      @christinakang8099 8 років тому +35

      +Aw3someSauce that is not feminism, that's just a misandrist talking crap.

    • @TheThreatenedSwan
      @TheThreatenedSwan 8 років тому +11

      +christina kang Some feminists are like that. It gets old hearing feminists, say no real feminist are like that, but the reality is feminism has no single definition

    • @Tinkeroftime
      @Tinkeroftime 8 років тому +10

      +BLTspace The same reasons apply to you. I have a lot of guy heroes I idolize. And even though I'm a girl, I still take their awesome traits and try to mimic the traits.

    • @the_gaming_killer2083
      @the_gaming_killer2083 8 років тому +3

      +Mical hahahahhahaha fucking sexiest

  • @luvforgs8630
    @luvforgs8630 3 роки тому +1

    this made me cry,,, i feel really motivated now thank you

  • @hannara566
    @hannara566 3 роки тому

    Anything you say! Confidence make me develop myself and callenge me to do better. I think it seems to be something that all of us can attain. I will try not to loosing my confidence!🔥

  • @eliTUNE
    @eliTUNE 7 років тому +63

    Great video!
    Another point to add, which I find very useful. Instead of wondering, "Do I have confidence?" or "How to get confidence/be confident?", just don't think about it. You already have confidence inside of you, and whenever you don't feel confident, it's because you are throwing your confidence away. Don't think so much about whether you are confident, or whether you can do it. Just try. Just go for it. JUST DO IT. (not sponsored by Nike)

  • @user-yt9wt1xx9z
    @user-yt9wt1xx9z 7 років тому +61

    i dont know why but i got emotional

    • @armartin0003
      @armartin0003 7 років тому +6

      Same here. Just suffered a set back. This helped, but made me tear up in the process.

    • @annoyingsubscriber3257
      @annoyingsubscriber3257 5 років тому

      I understand I always cry when talking about anxiety and lack of confidence

  • @aiwaii.111x
    @aiwaii.111x 3 роки тому +33

    Some of my advice:
    1. Listen to some music, make your own baddie, confidence boosting playlist.
    2. Try and say yes to a challenge, even if its just going outside. Its best to try and enjoy life to its limit ♡
    3. Try and connect with some old friends, or some family. Having some conversations with anyone really helps boosting social skills.

    • @AdventuresInReach
      @AdventuresInReach 3 роки тому +2

      Absolutely. I like the new challenge and personally try to get people doing outdoor adventures at whatever level is appropriate for them. Rappel down a stairway, get "lost" in a small section of woods, tip a canoe over in shallow water... Seems to be a fast track to confidence and a building block to more adventure...and more confidence.

  • @taxxon_
    @taxxon_ 4 місяці тому

    Nice to know this video agrees with some of the stuff I've figured out alone
    The "Ask for help" bit I really like because I struggle with that a lot

  • @PencilFull0fLead
    @PencilFull0fLead 8 років тому +212

    GUYS CALM DOWN. the reason the vid only features girls is because - as it says in the description - it was "Made in partnership with the Always #LikeAGirl campaign." .......

    • @PencilFull0fLead
      @PencilFull0fLead 8 років тому +10

      because it happens that they're the ones who actually helped make it. on this occasion. this video.

    • @pennydimedime
      @pennydimedime 7 років тому +65

      DO we really need a 'reason'? Let's try focusing on the message.

  • @juliapplefreak
    @juliapplefreak 7 років тому +381

    "When you need confidence to talk to the guy you like so you binge watch confidence videos"

    • @ryancox8717
      @ryancox8717 7 років тому +1

      Juliapplefreak Good luck :)

    • @crossbowcarrol4408
      @crossbowcarrol4408 7 років тому +17

      thats the cutest thing ive ever heard

    • @uatafaka
      @uatafaka 7 років тому +21

      if a guy doesnt notice you, thats already a bad sign, bc men always go after what they like

    • @arabian2907
      @arabian2907 7 років тому +1

      Wake. P

    • @Flicka38
      @Flicka38 6 років тому +5

      Girl, just go for it! If he doesn't love you for you then FLIP him. Don't be scared to show him who you are. You can do this and I believe in u!!!! Goodluck fam!!

  • @keunjune8846
    @keunjune8846 3 роки тому +1

    here coz of my online classes but for Pete's sAKE! I've watched this before HAHA. i love ted ed videos so much that i binge watch them lol

  • @mrscout1234
    @mrscout1234 6 місяців тому +1

    Thank you for giving back my confidence on the pitch

  • @jessicawright701
    @jessicawright701 6 років тому +13

    The fact that over 3.4 million people have watched this video means you are not alone! You have the power over your confidence!🎉

  • @vemurivamshi4023
    @vemurivamshi4023 5 років тому +14

    "What others think???" This was what I was thinking till now...but I will try not to think about it....thx TED-Ed

  • @sarfrazhussain1180
    @sarfrazhussain1180 3 роки тому

    I love your channel. When ever I am free I listen to your lessons

  • @Mr_SSK
    @Mr_SSK 9 місяців тому

    A short one, but very effective. Thank you!

  • @danicagraceviray5868
    @danicagraceviray5868 4 роки тому +6

    Love the context.
    this video is a lot than i expected.

  • @spoilthatsong2544
    @spoilthatsong2544 5 років тому +5

    25 years old and still trying to be confident in myself, since I know that it's holding myself back and preventing me from being who I know I can be. Hopefully I will be able to turn confidence into a habit instead of self-doubt.

  • @maichind198
    @maichind198 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you for this video. It makes me get more power to be confident.

  • @monikasoni9605
    @monikasoni9605 Рік тому

    Thank you. I loved it and maximum times when i feel super depressed this video helps me.

  • @cucluu4157
    @cucluu4157 7 років тому +7

    Thanks a lot! This amazing video was posted with the admirable kind. This video is also a huge motivation which incredibly inspires me!

  • @AlgisKemezys
    @AlgisKemezys 8 років тому +4

    Thanks for the speedy delivery with all the good tips.

  • @youtubeuser188
    @youtubeuser188 Рік тому

    the animation is very uplifting and creative; just watching it makes me feel that I can become confident

  • @Panacea9
    @Panacea9 2 місяці тому +1

    It is not just confidence. It modifies focus and thinking even making obscure thoughts seem plausible. It could work much more subtly but very modifying in behaviors such as feeling dread when when thinking of attacks or many other things causing you to lose confidence, have fears created or lose directions.

  • @annescotts1819
    @annescotts1819 5 років тому +399

    May I ask...
    ·How do I give a speech without panicking? (if it's possible then tell me)
    ·How do I not be a nervous -wreck?
    Gosh! confidence is hard especially when you're an Introvert... and now I'm becoming a Pessimist... great! (sarcastic voice)

    • @reignwest7261
      @reignwest7261 5 років тому +75

      I usually look somewhere above the audiences heads to make it look like I’m paying attention but at the same time not. So you need to distract yourself by looking at a different area to make you panic less.
      If you are very nervous you should try going first if you continue to see people doing good jobs at speeches you may get even more nervous. Remember to practice before hand as well.
      (I’m aware this is late, I also hope your speech went well even without my tips. >:3)

    • @ShamsunNahar-nf1ty
      @ShamsunNahar-nf1ty 5 років тому +46

      Even though I'm introverted I had to give a speech on a group project and I still find it hard to believe but I won the thing coz it was good apparently. What I'm trying to say is if you really believe what you are gonna say and think it's necessary to be told, you can do it. (Also having a supporting teacher is a privilege)

    • @zeez1375
      @zeez1375 5 років тому +24

      i personally believe that to be confident, you must learn the aspects of it's antonym. That is fear. Fear of what the outcome is. It is always looking at the negatives with the word 'if.' All you gotta do is stay cool and calm. Think about the positives of giving the speech and be comfortable.

    • @stanbtsblackpinkmonastaxsu38
      @stanbtsblackpinkmonastaxsu38 5 років тому +18

      See its really easy . I was reallt nervous even when I wanted to answer a single word . But then I kept comforting myself and I tell myself that it would be okay and it will go well and also tell ur self it's better to explain to a group of people rather than explain to each one of them. Just tell ur self that u are excited to present

    • @human1258
      @human1258 4 роки тому +28

      Sorry I'm late and sorry for my poor English
      First I will offer you something, don't think of a red car don't ever imagine a photo of a red car.,
      Now even tho I asked you not thinking of a red car but you did think of a red car first ! .
      Well it is the same when it comes to speech and presentation, you probably telling your self
      don't panic don't panic but then you do CUZ your brain was busy thinking of panic.
      What you should do is before you do your speech imagine of yourself being confident
      and tell yourself I'll do it I'll be excellent speaker.

  • @RiffJam71
    @RiffJam71 8 років тому +15

    Loved it. Gonna play this for my kids tonight.

  • @Tripledashhh_
    @Tripledashhh_ 2 роки тому +2

    I been so mislead my whole life by my parents everytime I felt confident they called me arrogant so now whenever I have to be I just don’t know how. Which is why I searched up what is confidence and I saw this video. Watching this really made me remember that being confident is okay that it’s a good thing and that it’s not an arrogant way of feeling good about myself. I hope everyone who’s been in my situation can find it in themselves to finally be confident to face life head on!

    • @trevbeats77
      @trevbeats77 2 роки тому +1

      By you replying to this thread, you have got this, well done. Don't look for blame, maybe your folks had it hard back in the day. My Dad said to me: point a finger at someone and 3 fingers are pointing back at ya!...keep your faith..

    • @Tripledashhh_
      @Tripledashhh_ 2 роки тому

      trevbeats77 trust me I’m 24 i know my parents well. And I have nothing against them. But they were just not the model parents I had hoped for, which I seeked elsewhere.

    • @Youssef-hd5bl
      @Youssef-hd5bl Рік тому

      arrogance is simply exaggerating in feeling that you're better than people and looking down on them.

  • @AmeeshaSinha
    @AmeeshaSinha 5 місяців тому

    thank you ted-ed i really needed this, tears rolling down after watching this videos. i always fear what people might think, no one was here to pat my head saying you can do this... ....

  • @alykatequevasz4324
    @alykatequevasz4324 3 роки тому +185

    "Don't call it a failure, call it an education. Some of us are very educated." -Rick Warren
    We make mistakes but when we believe in ourselves that we can always improve----that's confidence.

  • @madrugafighters
    @madrugafighters 5 років тому +4

    Muito motivador, obrigado e parabéns pelo ótimo trabalho

  • @Lemon-ej4pn
    @Lemon-ej4pn 3 роки тому

    Actually now I have heard these philosophies and tips so many times that no talk can inspire me in any way.

  • @moved.6963
    @moved.6963 3 роки тому +2

    I'm coming out to my parents today, thank you for the confidence before that happens!!