Planning A $12K Wedding In Santa Barbara, CA | Millennial Money
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- Опубліковано 22 сер 2024
- Kayla, 29, and Andrew Picciuto Elia, 33, spent just over $12,000 for a 18-person wedding that had a sticker price of $40,000. They got married on July 17th, 2020 in Santa Barbara, CA. The couple asked friends and wedding industry colleagues to donate or trade their services to save money on their big day.
This story is part of CNBC Make It’s Millennial Marriage series, which profiles couples around the world and details how they planned and paid for their wedding.
When Kayla and Andrew Picciuto Elia got engaged in February 2020, they dreamed of a 300-person Memorial Day wedding, complete with numerous musical acts, an epic dance floor and free-flowing wine.
But when the pandemic hit in early 2020, they knew they had to change their plans. The Santa Barbara residents decided to cancel their big May wedding in favor of an intimate ceremony and dinner with just 18 family members in July. It was still “glamorous” and “divine,” Kayla, 29, says.
The small size and mid-pandemic timing weren’t the only things that made the couple’s big day unique. They spent just over $12,500 for a wedding that had a sticker price of $40,000, thanks to help from their friends and connections in the wedding industry.
“At the end of the day, what we realized was important was family, togetherness and also food,” Andrew, 33, tells CNBC Make It. “Sharing a meal and celebrating with family and breaking bread with family were all the key elements that we wanted to include.”
Pivoting wedding plans amid a pandemic
Andrew first noticed Kayla in 2015 when she took “his” seat in a coffee shop they both frequented. But she was the one who finally broke the ice months later when the coffee shop was evacuated due to a fire alarm. “So what are you reading right now?” she asked as they stood on the sidewalk outside. (His answer: “East of Eden” by John Steinbeck.)
They quickly became close friends and started dating in July 2017. “He spoke the unspeakable and asked if I was in or out,” Kayla remembers. She was all in.
They also started a business together, Party Proper, in December 2017, providing DJ and sound services for weddings in the Santa Barbara area, which they run full-time.
At the end of 2019, they decided they were ready to get married and made vague plans for a wedding at the end of 2020. But when they found out Kayla was pregnant, they decided to speed up the timeline. “We felt an added urgency and excitement to get married as soon as possible,” Andrew says.
“We just did things in our own order, and I’m fine with it,” Kayla says.
They sent out invitations in early March for a Memorial Day celebration. But less than a week later, their home state of California went into lockdown in order to slow the spread of Covid-19. Within a few weeks, it became clear that their big wedding wasn’t going to happen.
They still wanted to get married before the baby arrived. While they knew they could easily go to the courthouse and call it a day, they weren’t sure they wanted to go that route. Would they be disappointed by a smaller guest list? Would a stripped-down version of their vision be just as meaningful?
Ultimately, they decided the wedding was about celebrating their love for each other and pivoted to a small, family-only ceremony and dinner before the arrival of their baby. They hope to be able to plan a bigger party later on. The inspiration for the event went from a music showcase with a crazy dance floor to “a desire to showcase our love for each other,” Andrew says.
“We focused on our baby. We focused on each other. We focused on togetherness,” Kayla says. “These were always values for us, but they had new significance because of the intimacy of our smaller wedding.”
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Hey CNBC! Jenelle and I still haven’t had a wedding yet. Should we apply?
$1k for my wedding, party of 3 (including our dog). $90 for the venue. But that was our preference. We were saving up for our first house, plus I didn't want any family there to stress us out lol. I'll have to make a video about it on my channel, hmmm.
Excellent job, guys. We also spend around $10,000 on our wedding including honeymoon and ring as well. My mother donated her ring to my wife. I believe the average cost for a wedding in Korea is around $50,000 as well. Since my wife and I are Christian, we got married at a church building. It is a lot more expensive to get married in a wedding hall. I honestly don't understand why anyone hates to get married in a church. I think a wedding hall is at least another $10,000 more. This is how we paid off our one bedroom home in the state of California before our kids were born. Yes, our one bedroom home at Lake Forest, CA. Since I did not get accepted to Stanford and went to Berkeley instead, my parents paid off their home at Irvine, CA. I believe the average 3 bedroom home in Irvine, CA is under $300k during the 1990's. In 2020, I believe Berkeley is cheaper than Stanford by under $300k.
@@NefariaAdventures I am sorry that your friends and family are not happy for you. Maybe, you made the right decision not to invite them. Is there any hope for any reconciliation?
Sooo it was a budget because they work in this industry and had connections? I would have liked something that showed what more people could do to make their wedding affordable
Right. I feel like asking people to donate their services feels a bit tacky to me. Everyone deserves to get paid for their trade. Especially since the wedding industry took such a big hit, I’m sure those vendors could’ve used that $.
I had a few of my friends that did their weddings in their backyards, but they had really good wedding planners with amazing setups.
Agreed! I was hoping that was what this video was going to be about
@@lacasavloga3997 since they are in the industry I would assume they will also be sending folks their way for business 🥴🤷🏽♀️ but yes people should be paid for their services
@@lacasavloga3997 I agree. It is.
$12,000 for an 18 person wedding (plus the couple and the kid) is still $570 per person. That would come out to over $80,000 for 150 guests.
I got married for $250 at Circus Circus in Las Vegas. The rings were maybe $100, bought downtown in the wholesale jewelry district of LA. I had just finished my doctorate. We sold all our possessions and took the money to travel around the world for 3 years. It was awesome. Wouldn't exchange that to host an event.
Best way to do it ever!
I know a couple that had a 35k wedding. The husband wanted to have a cheap beach wedding but the wive had something to prove towards her family. They were broke and miserable after the wedding because they used all their savings.
Brilliant
That sounds wonderful! We went to the courthouse with two witnesses ($237) and had 3 honeymoons. One local, the other two in different countries. Ten years later it's still working out.
Awesome Spunkymunky! I heard that their steak house is very good.
They found love in a coffee shop, it’s hard seeing other people living you dreams
I got married for $2,400 at a resort in Mexico!! Well done you two!
Every family has a person who breaks the chain of poverty. I hope you will be that person!
Stop copying this comment...
Everyone here wants a cheap wedding. I want a big wedding with all my friends and family. I think you should do what suits you. But shouldn't be judged for wanting a big wedding either. It's a culture thing too. It brings all your friends, family and community joy and closer together. You get to celebrate your love and bring so much joy. A special day with good food, beautiful clothes, dance and song, flowers and gifts, color and sweets and family and friends.
I'm ok with a big wedding if you can afford it and still have enough savings afterwards.
I think it's fine as long as you can afford it. People that ask others to pay for their plates, expect vendors to give them freebees. go into huge debt or give up their house deposit are concerning
They spent $333 per person on food. That is astronomical.
this is honestly very misleading.. I thought I would be able to relate to this couple having the same budget.. but not even close..
Is it me but does 12k for a wedding seem "fair" now a days ?
Not for 18 guests 😅
@@cara4996 Yeah aha. True.
No I find this really expensive.
If you're reading this you have potential to create great things. Yes. You.
Hmm so you had help from your parents and still paid $667 per guest at $12k. For $40k people usually have 150-200 people, that’s $200-$267 per head.
We had everything listed for our wedding but paid no where close to the “real value” these guys listed lol. Their value at $40k is wayyyy offf
This is not impressive #s for any one who has a brain and can do simple math. Their 5 course meal averaged to $272 per person and the total wedding expenses averaged to $545 per guest. That's a lot to me. I hope Graham Stephan reacts to this video. I would love his thoughts.
basically we got other people to absorb or fund the cost of our overpriced wedding
Weddings are unnecessarily expensive due to venues and vendors overcharging. I spent $1k on my wedding, party of three lol (including our dog). Bridal makeup was advertised as $160, but a regular full face of makeup was advertised as $70 - there's no difference between the two, but places know they can charge 2-3 times the prices when they throw in the word "wedding" or "bridal".
Very happy they only spent 12.5k on the wedding instead of 40k. 40k invested would grow to $160k by the time the child is 18, enough for college, to start a business, and more. Don't throw away your child's future for a wedding day. Don't do a second wedding. Put that money towards your own and child's future.
Okk granpa
Yeah but they don't have 40k 😊
They keep acknowledging covid but any crowd footage shows people right next to each other & no masks....So you should really add on the hospital bills to the cost of this wedding.
Is 12k considered small for a wedding? My wedding in total cost around 14k and I considered it my “big” dream wedding. Around 200 guests. Buffet food. No DJ but a great playlist with great speakers. Pretty poofy white dress. Photographer and videographer. I was planning to spend less but costs add up, but I consider anything over 10k a lot. I’m from Ontario.
depends on when and where you got married. The average cost is 30k and about half of that is catering/venue costs. A buffet is cheaper than a food drop.
I’m cheap. Take pictures and go on a vacation.
They did it, MILLENNIAL MARRIAGE
What I liked about this the most is that they leaned into their resources and asked for help. I had a non traditional wedding in 2014, so many offered to help us make it great. Our wedding was a two day event that cost us $3k and had approx 80 guests.
Good for you. 3K seems much more reasonable.
That’s still way more than I would spend on a wedding, but as long as they didn’t go into debt to pay for it, good for them. The fact that they want to do it again in 2021 is a bit much IMO-that money could be put to much better use. But like I say, as long as it’s their money....
It's not their money. The video says they had financial 'help.'
So they didn't save, they just let others pick up the tab, lame!
We’ve had to postpone our wedding 3 times because of travel restrictions 😂
Planning my wedding at the moment 🙋🏻♀️ 👰🏻♀️
@@tamararene5913 Thanks a lot! ❤️
Congrats!! Me as well:)
@@Iamjessicakouassi Thank you and congratulations to you, too! 🥰
Yes!! Please do more budget wedding videos. My husband and I had no connections but were able to do an immaculate wedding in Estes Park Colorado for $14,000. We had everything one could want at a wedding and it was at the base of Rocky Mountain national Park. Please focus more on ways that couples can cut costs!
I feel like if I do get married I would skip the wedding or at least do one for super cheap
Just go to city hall
Graham, whenever you're ready.
We were going to have a cruise wedding in March. 2 days before we were supposed to set sail, Cruise lines were paused. Our families and friends ended up helping us plan a wedding in central FL for less than $2,000 and I wouldn't have had it any other way.
Spent $300 on our wedding. 200 out 300 was for the food we got for 9 ppl, 100 was for my dresses. Didn't get rings right away cuz we're aware of the diamond industry. Waited for 1 yr to get rings made out of recycled metal. So $700 on rings for both of us. In total, $1000 package.
CNBC did the cameraman's job 😂
$12,000 for 18 people BAHAHAHAHAHA
This was beautiful! I loved (and completely teared up) at the vows to their baby! That was so sweet! Congratulations!!
Im from the Boston Area currently planning a 20k wedding for about 9k and actually finding ways to lower the cost
1st tip guys, PAPERLESS INVITES.......trust me
Definitely would not spend $12,000 on the wedding though!
Great friends & a beautiful family. That baby's face could cause world peace - so adorable!
A livestreamed, smartphone filmed wedding on a budget? Brilliant.
Nice for the guests unable to attend.
Can you make some more of these videos??? Everyone from 2020 is trying to get married and we don’t have deep pockets.
Fellow introvert here. I am also waiting for the day a women approached me and asks what type of book I am reading 😊
Graham gonna have a heart attack hearing this. He would make it $1
OHHH I HOPE Graham reacts to this!!!! I would love to hear his view on weddings and how much people blow on them!
Yaaaaaassssss!!!! This series!!!!!!
So I think they did fairly good except for the food costs… Until I saw at the end they are planning on throwing a bigger wedding later this year... I don’t see a reason for it tbh, your potential guests, understand the circumstances... no need to try and prove yourself
Because of covid, none of our families could come to the US. So it was just us and one witness. Got the rings of Etsy and reused clothes we already had. We went to eat well afterwards. Total maybe 250$.
We're still planning on some sort of celebration after all the pandemic situation is over tho.
They saved a ton of money!🙌🏾
Love this channel so much!!
Pandemic did not happen days after March lmfao don't try to rewrite history to avoid backlash
Coffee shop lovers.
Now full time family.
Congratulations!
We spent like 6k on our wedding including dress decor everything, had the reception with 50 people at a friend's backyard. Did the reception with 200 people at my husbands church gymnasium so we did not pay for a venue. we borrowed decor and or bought them second hand from Facebook marketplace. Got a taco truck and fed only thr 50 people at our wedding and just served cookies sweets from Costco plus wedding cake to the other 200 at reception, no alcohol, just sodas and my brother in law dj'd for free. reception was 2 hours and all cleaned up by 10pm. So grateful we didn't spend an outrageous amount on literally less than 1 day of our marriage
I got married last year it was epic and expensive. I make $35k in two weeks while trading so I couldn't bother spending somewhat $40k above. I don't regret it.
Getting married in Las Vegas. Probably spending 18-20k for a 185 people.
Living in Santa Barbara is expensive
People still chose to get married?
$200 was the ACTUAL price for her HAIR!
Excellent job, guys. We also spend around $10,000 on our wedding including honeymoon and ring. I believe the average cost for a wedding in Korea is around $50,000 as well.
Invites were pretty. I’d feel bad running it though a shredder. Send me a txt or email to save money
Lol
that's tacky. But I see nothing wrong with electronic invites
Love this!! We have a friend that enjoys baking. We asked her to make our cake. Another friend who enjoys photography, she took our pictures. Another friend made my dress. We found a restaurant that is open for brunch only on Sundays, and asked if they would stay open for a couple hours after. They agreed. We used the floral table arrangements they already had out for brunch. We asked the flamingo guitarist to stay after brunch and payed him for the background music and asked him if we could use his mic and speaker system for the wedding. Because we got married at 2 in the afternoon, we only did a champagne toast, no other alcohol. The marriage took place within the restaurant in front of a beautiful water feature. The guest could choose from 3 light meals. A pasta, salad or gourmet sandwiches. 60 guests $4000 was our total expenses for a beautiful wedding in Ventura CA!!💕. It can be done!
I think that's great. It's the people that demand freebees from friends or expect a gift after getting the freebee that I don't like. But I was in a DIY wedding years ago. Cousin's backyard, dresses from Kmart, close friends and relatives brought things like salad and bread rolls, cousin put on a bbq and the couple's expense and provided wine and beer, slab cake from a bakery with some flowers. Not sure how much it cost but pretty cheap
weddings must be very expensive in the US...we did a 4,000 USD wedding with 450 people in 2014
Where?
LOL I did my entire wedding in Canada for 32k, 190 guests. While I know a bride who has been waiting to get married and paid precovid JUST FOR A VENUE FOR 34K 😂 they aren’t allowed to break their venue contract because they’ll only receive 30% back if they do. Weddings are a rip off. Best advise to save money on a wedding is not to spend money on real flowers, just order silk bouquets etc. Most companies let you keep them afterwards
it`s really hard to guess who rang the alarm bell?really really hard.
@cnbc: Allmost very minute commercial advertisement?
Can't wait for Graham to react!
dude in 10 years is going to regret it.
original 6.5k for the videographer? then they just shot on some iphones??! nahh
Asking friends to donate is fine but not everyone can do that and not every vendor rightfully so, is willing to work for free or wants you to set the example to ask them for free. Plus they got family help to hide the true cost.
I'd also be a little worried about getting married so pregnant. What if you feel sick on the day or don't want to stand that long or if there are complications?
Awww this kind of reminds me of Alexis and Serena’s love story
Graham will go to town on this one
I wonder when they had the wedding and how they were allowed given that restaurants were closed? Out door seating I guess? Maybe they had connects with local government officials?
it says they had 18 people. So maybe the restriction was that venues could cater to less than 20 people
I wish I could have a wedding in Santa Barbara...
I hope Graham sees my comment.
300 guests? Ew
9/10 chance that is not his kid. This is soooooooo pathetic
Why would they want to do a big wedding? This looks gorgeous!! Maybe a vow renewal but they def. got a lot of value out of there vendors.
Now do divorce
12,000? No, thanks. In Covid times they could have spent way less than that.
😍😍😍this video got me emotional
If they're going to have Millennial Money Marriage episodes the next steps should be Millennial Money Child Bearing episodes followed by Millennial Money Divorce episodes. Considering the statistics, you could have the same couples for each of these versions.
We also have a cocker spaniel!💓
That duster😻
I liked it and the face mask to go along.
Our wedding was also in SB, $25k 50 people, so this video is nbd.
thats a cheap wedding in india , people here spend about 50- 70 k on a wedding
in India they invite the entire address book and it's a multi day event. But I would assume the whole family pitches in.
Nice work 🌠✨🎆
I love a shotgun wedding!
He said "we got pregnant " what he want to tell by we . His wife got p...not he
No, they got pregnant.
Graham won't agree with you
NO WAY she is 28!!! NO WAY!!!! More like 40 or even older!!!!!!!
Can’t wait for Graham to see this!
This was misleading because it was a tiny a** wedding. 12k for 18 wedding guests is A LOT of money. Not even going to bother finishing the video.
Deuces!
@grahamstephan
It only costs $250 to get married,
Spent zero on photographer yet $2k on engagement ring. Oh well. Glad that I'm not having same brain like them. I'm planning to get married overseas, hire decent photographer, get a cheap ring ans travel a lot. No wedding party maybe just a nice dinner with our families to celebrate.
2k is a pretty cheap for a ring
They spent zero on photographer because the person was most likely their friend.
2:11 they were pregnant???
What’s the question here? It’s normal for a couple to announce “they” are pregnant or expecting. Of course she is carrying the child but she didn’t get pregnant on her own.
@@diamondanderson7294 things can be normal and trendy but not accurate, that's what I'm saying when u get a massage and get charged up the therapist don't say we got charged up even though he/she charged u up
@@himmelsamuel4749 what?? You’re reply is irrelevant.
What's the point of bragging about having a cheap small wedding when you plan on having a bigger wedding the following year? What a waste.
TBH, the wedding was also kinda cheaper because she was 29 years old and went into panic mode 😂😂🤣
Plot twist: next to wedding place, there is homeless camp.
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40k 😂 yeah I don’t think so especially with that wedding attire especially the bride HIDEOUS and those flowers look incredibly cheap .
Trapped him!
Sorry but this is not impressive.
They're made for each other 🙄
Envious?