Same here, but the Spirit of God spoke. God gave us a name a long time ago!! I'm his covenant child. 🌈🌈 Everytime I see a rainbow, it reminds me of his promises. Nobody can live up to what he is to me 🙌🏼 his word is bond!!!
Stories like this has really made me view the world differently. I use to be in love with romantic stories and fairytales. I realise the best way to love yourself is by saturating yourself with the Word, investing in yourself (education) and healing your trauma because no one will truly love you the way you feel you need to be loved, other than yourself. Thank you Tony. I’m 20 and you’ve protected me from falling victim to my foolish heart
Thank God you found him early and can avoid many pitfalls of looking at the world thru rose tinted glasses, some of us are still recovering from the traumas we incurred while we had that mindset. The world is a mean place for the unsuspecting.
@@mango-xorbet Thank God you found him early and can avoid many pitfalls of looking at the world thru rose tinted glasses, some of us are still recovering from the traumas we incurred while we had that mindset. The world is a mean place for the unsuspecting.
If you truly Love him you gotta leave him. This scenario and dialogue is like a sad script from a movie. My prayers for you sista. Self Love and go on bout your business.
@@deshaqueen706 right now she has to put her time and energy in finding her purpose and using the time also to focus on her child’s upbringing...seek God and he will direct her path
This man is going to drive her crazy! She definitely needs to divorce him. It’s certain things that married men should not do! Staying out all night is definitely not cool.
@@Dr.Elaine1 Trust me I do. I’ve been following him for 4 years now and watch every video. Tony was hired by many men to speak around the world at men conferences, so I’m saying they should continue to do so. That has nothing to do with me not understanding who he called by God to help. Stop reaching!
I told this to a friend of mine before (she's actually the first lady of a church and her husband is pastor). He is unfaithful. I never told her to leave him but I did share with her that God forgives divorce if the mate is unfaithful to the union and if he is abusive. I've read that in the Bible. And she told me I was wrong and that it does not say that. I knew then she wanted to stay. So I stopped listening and I honestly I detached because I was looking for a faithful man.
The route to self-love can be seen in this scripture: Matthew 22:37-40. When you love God, He will teach you how to love yourself and what it looks like.
The Spirit has spoke sister. It might look frightening to you right now because it has been so long. But this situation is slowly killing the essence of who you are. The daughter of the Most High God👸🏾. Your current husband is not the reason why you are on earth. You and your son will be fine, i promise.The joy of the Lord is your strength🙏🏾
Ladies stop letting men make a fool of of you. It's time to leave. He then broke all deal breakers and you still there. Ladies stop staying pass time cause you will become bitter and have luggage and will be hard to date. Just cause you choose to stay in a broken relationship.
This was unbelievable one of the most powerful sermons/ lessons ever spoken. You have to have self love...it is not your responsibility to save another grown adult. Love yourself enough to leave.
Please put her in your prayers, that she has the strength to leave, because I'm scared for her physically. These were the same characteristics of my stepdad. Mother stayed now she is in the ground.
Self love over everything!!! Sister you have to leave him, you are allowing a lifetime of mental, emotional, financial damage to you and your child. Believe in yourself you deserve better.
Sister please leave, save yourself, save your life, think about your son, he deserves a whole mom, he doesn't deserve to deal with the trauma of losing his mum young to abuse from his dad or a mother that's abused raising him, traumatizing him, because all his dad is doing to you is and will definately continue to affect your mental health and outlook towards life.
Oh wheeee girl, Tony is telling the truth!!! I used to be this woman, but I held on for 20 years, with 3 kids. I had to love myself enough to leave & never look back. Being a single Mom is challenging but get plugged into a church where the people love you & your child. It's been 7+ years and I'm growing stronger in the Lord, in self love, in self care. My kids are thriving and we are blessed! Be encouraged my Sister, you can do it!
She is what you call an enabler. I learned that by having a alcoholic husband. I finally left him after enabling him to do what he was doing. He told me that he thought I would never leave him. I had to for my sanity. He passed away a few months later. I couldn’t help him no matter how hard I tried.
My sis is an enabler. I pray she opens her eyes one day. This man will drink a whole bottle of Hennessy IN A DAY. He don’t go anywhere without going to a liquor store for bottles of alcohol. It’s sad and disgusting
God cover this woman and be her guide through his situation..let her make the best decision for her family according to your will. May she look to you and find the grace and mercy available to her. Keep her and love her as you done for me in Jesus name Amen. God sometimes will break your heart to save your soul. He’s done it for me and he will do it for you.Don’t be afraid to follow where the spirit leads you he’s got u❤️🙏🏽❤️
My ex narc's vice is paying for prostitutes so he can feel better about himself, self loathing, toxic self sacrifice for all the wrong reasons, medication addictions, smoking, laziness, , lost, no direction, yep he always feels less than, extreme mummy's boy syndrome...... one day he asked me, you always have money and you can get manifest/ anything you want, im like yeah well I'm not paying to put my head in someone's dumb ass, My head is up high educating myself and making money, improving my life step by step, I respect my money, my hard work and struggle, I love myself , he was just silent. Toxic man I so happily left him, god didn't sanction that relationship and so glad I saw it for what it was and I left. God saved me! Everything you say, is 2000% correct, men have to come to a near death experience to actually change, right on the money 👍
I’m so happy he came at her with compassion and sympathy for her. You could tell from her letter this is a broken woman who is TRUELY hurting!! This was well delivered and you could really tell you were talking to this woman if she was on of your relatives that you really cared about. May God bless this women and her journey/healing❤️ I’m sooooo sorry Queen and I’ll be praying for you💕
This describes my soon-to-be-ex-boyfriend to a T. He has taken from me some money and manipulated me into signing a one year lease with him, because he couldn't afford full rent. He is a drinker, gambler, possible cheater and possible drug user, liar, manipulator, and has no goals. I want to work on my own self-love so I can get him to leave our home. My landlord is willing to get him out of our house as long as I approve.. He is a father of 2 and it's hard for me to throw him into the street in the winter, because I know he cannot afford his own place alone. Tony, thank you so much for all of your videos. This one truly speaks to me. God bless you for all you do and sharing your gifts to the world. Happy Thanksgiving!
You need to be honest with yourself why you don't want to throw him out. If a man was doing all of these things you described to your mom or sister or your best friend, you wouldn't hesitate for a second. Wishing you strength. I kicked out a man like that two years ago, it was painful for over a year and now I cannot believe I would let someone treat me like that. Just do it and deal with the pain one day at a time. A year from now you'll thank yourself.
This kinda spoke to me cuz 5yrs ago I had a brain aneurysm that I had to relearn how to walk, had to have my vocal cord replaced,was in a coma and when I saw how God gave me another chance after a year, I decided to change and serve Him❤🙏💯 I also use to be that woman that put up with so much mess from a man. I didn't know my worth. I've endured all kinds of abuse. Plus my kids saw and heard toxic stuff. God used someone else who wasn't meant in my life to get me to move. The best thing I ever did🙌
Praying for her ....Lord work in leaps and bounds of strength and love. Please provide her a way out and shower her with grace. Open her eyes to see and be obedience when you speak. In Jesus holy name Amen
Thank you Tony. I've already terminated my marriage with my husband and his "vices" since early July but I still needed to hear this. I listened 3 times in a row!
Wow. This lady's husband sounds exactly like my ex boyfriend. Im so thankful he decided I didn't have enough money for him to keep me around. That rejection has set my feet upon the path to self value and self knowledge. Thank you, Mr. Gaskins!!! I praise God for this knowledge!! 🙌
Wow! Look how much God loves you sister . What a precious word spoken over you . God always leave the 99 to go after his one that so desperately needs a word from him ! ❤️ 🙏❤️🙏 I’ll be praying for you !
"Your presence sanctions the behavior, you gotta remove yourself" TRUTH! I wish more women would hear this! Thank you Tony for caring, I could feel the "come to Jesus," call as you spoke!
Tony that was a blessing for that woman. I truly wish I could have shared it with my cousin who has been married to a man for 28 years. Since this pandemic I had to go see her in ATL because she basically had a nervous breakdown. She has two handsome sons 14 & 16 and her husband is a want to be actor. She is the bread winner. I have come to a conclusion that she is going thru a Stockholm Syndrome, this message was for her. I will continue to pray for her and her sons
This woman’s story is that if a number of married women. I have a relative who is in year 40 of being married to a man with vices. She looks twice her age, with bags under her eyes. She has no self worth and is so broken, she doesn’t even care about his mistress. Sad!! This woman better get the courage and run, because she will end up in jail or the crazy house w a loser husband like this...
Thank you so much for this video ! Honestly this sounds so much like my situation. I left my Husband after 4.5 yrs of marriage and 9years in total of being together . He had vices and you don’t know how many people condone you staying together and saying that if you pray for him he could change . I finally left because I felt like he was not going to change for me . I also have a son and I could not bare to have my son be raised around someone who will talk and treat his mom that way . I had to show my son this is not a way a man do his family . I also recommend for this lady to listen to your video “ is it time to leave”. That video also confirmed that I was doing the right thing by leaving . Thank you for all you do !
Leave baby girl....and just know that there's better out there. You have to believe it!! Your situation will NEVER get better and your son does not need to & should not be living in this toxic environment. I really hope you get this message before it's too late!
Unfortunately my ex has had 2 near death experiences and still pounding the payment. I was so lost in what I thought was love. He he don't love himself he can't love you. Got to keep it moving.
That person that was booked for 3 sessions that he never followed through with was my ex boyfriend....when you say a man will do ANYTHING to keep access to his addiction, you were so right! I'm glad you got the blessings regardless! Thank you for allowing God to use you in this ministry.
Tony this one made me cry, I've moved out, 7 mths ago but changing all of my defaults is like going against what's natural to me. This is uncharted waters but I treading for my LIFE!!!!!
Oh. I feel for this woman. My childs dad had gambling issues. I didn't marry him nor didnt want to. but I did try to stay close to his family for my child. Even worse! Nasty Uncle, his sisters husband. & his friends were around my daughter in THEIR home when my child father was present ! I got a Stay away order & i stopped trying "to do the right thing" in the devils environment.
Thank you for talking about these vices. I recently met a dude that didn't have any of those vices, BUT he smoked. Smh. (A part of me wanted to brush it off since it was only that one thing, but I had to let it go. That is something I don't feel like I could deal with.
@@MiyzP Thank you, because sometimes the enemy will try to creep in and make me think that I am making too big of a deal out of something so "SMALL". There is nothing small about Miss Mary Jane.
@@NekeishaWise yes , men who smoke never end up anywhere in the long run, it keeps them stuck in all the things of the " world " girls, porn , addiction, just grown boy antics. I will never be with a weed smoker again , period
Whew!! Who ever this woman is; I hope she listens to this again, and begins to learn her worth. Leaving a toxic relationship can be a hard thing to do, I understand. Staying in one though; is even harder, stressful and draining. Not to mention, you forfeit your blessing of peace.
Self love is the highest form of love..love yourself first, for if you don't, no one else can and will because you're going to allow someone to not love you...and you can't give what you don't have.
Self love is key. It took me several years to figure this out. It's so easy to have high self esteem and not self love. Self love takes inner work. I learnt this the hard way and wish women would get it sooner. I speak a lot about self love and even wrote a guide to support women on their journey.
The moment Tony began reading this young ladies letter, I stopped and began to lift her up in prayer. Cause she needs the Father like none other before.
Sister... Tony is so right!!! It will have to take an act of God to shake that brother out of his nasty skin... The sooner you get out, the better. For your sanity and your boy!!! Plz. But you are the one that is going to have to take that step. Nobody but you can take the action. He will beg, he will weep and even embarrass himself in public when he gets desperate just to get you back to further enable him for his habits and addictions. Most importantly, your son doesn’t have to go through that blatant rejection growing up. If that man does not love himself, how on earth is he able to love anything or anyone else... It hurts, but it’s true. But the truth sets you free. It is not love that is making you stay because you end up resenting them anyhow. You have to forgive him ... which is hard!!! And a process, cause the anger returns every now and then, until you heal. But you need to for your own good... Tony has done a video on forgiveness... and you will need to get therapy or rather coaching... I would say from Tony as he knows what he is talking about. YOU NEED SOMEONE LEGIT... not just someone that’s gonna take your money for nothing. It’s the soul tie that’s keeping you there... and that needs to be severed as sometimes the sex has been so good... you know what I mean... that it keeps its claws hooked in you ... smh ... and you know the rest. Whilst you are at it, keep safe... but don’t fear... cause sometimes fear motivates you to go back. Get restraining orders and supervised visits if you need to when the time comes, but don’t be ignorant of the wicked devices that can be used. They even try to use the children to get back at you. This is like living in Satan’s camp itself. It’s hard Sista... but worth it in the end!!! And forgive yourself and stop blaming yourself also as they brainwash you into thinking that you are the one that caused the situation... and that’s a lie. But we have to take responsibility for our choices. And in time, we learn to love and value ourselves more. There is more to life than being abused. A huge hug from me. Get well and stay well!!!! Happy Thanksgiving 🤗🤗🤗 ... Love you in Christ!!! ✝️💜💐
I just want to BLESS THE MOST HIGH for Using you to bring forth this message! HalleluYah, HalleluYah!! Tony Gaskins and Family, Bless you. You just saved my Life. Your Message is ALL the confirmation that I have been needing to hear these past 3 to 4 days and The Most High seen it fit for you to relay his message. I watch your videos in Respect and subjection for the message. Thank you for the Conviction and the support for your sisters in the battle 🙌🏽 Ahkoti ( sister ) and Ahki ( brother ) I humbly appreciate you.
Happy Thanksgiving Tony and your family!!! May you be blessed beyond what your imagination has ever been. I am Thankful to Jesus for coming across your vids somehow! You are a blessing and bringing understanding and healing to so many. It is by knowledge that we gain understanding and in understanding we gain wisdom. Thank you to you, your wife and kids for putting yourselves out there to bring healing and empowerment to many!!! God Bless you!!!
Sister, don't deceive yourself. Homosexual activity is what is going on in the open theatre. Women don't hang out there, PERIOD! I'm going through exactly what you are, but I'm coming out very soon. My husband doesn't gamble, but he's a lying drunk. He stopped working and is basically a leech right now. Enough is enough. I hope you get it while you can like I'm doing. You can't change him and until he wants to change himself, this is what you've got and all you'll have.
Vices of men in my perspective : porn , phone sex , too much eating , too much drinking , selfishness, ..... addicted on social media , pretty much everything that is praised in the American society!!!! Pace and love to all the people !!!
You deserve to love yourself Sis! I wish there had been a Tony Gaskins when I was in my 20's and 30's!!! I stayed too long even though I divorced him 21 yrs ago! You will be just fine Sis!
Thank You! What I'm Grateful for are YOU AND YOUR FAMILY! God allowing you to speak to us with the upmost truth! I'm thankful for Mrs. Gaskins for giving you the time necessary to show your gifts and compassion for the love of your calling. You've made so many messages for us to gain the knowledge on Thanksgiving Day. As a conclusion, my family and I are elated. Enjoy your family. Much gratitude 🙏 to you.
Dear sister, please plan your exit strategy. Save yourself so you can save your son. If something happens to you who will be responsible for raising your son. You have to set an example for your son. You do not want your son to see and experience the bad example that is being set by his father. You want better for your child than you have set forth for yourself. I can testify to this because I had to do this myself.
We went through drugs and everything together it was very ugly we both got clean and tried to get I've never seen such a relationship but it was towed Taxi taxi in Davison Madison Adidas the medicine medicine if I said blue instead of going to be free if I said that it was Blue Chico set a screen he counts it is green can't talk with Lee sorry weather is tomorrow flight I can like that and we hurt too he heard me real bad but I thank God trouble don't last always
Queen forgive yourself that man took that many years from your life. Be encouraged your destined for greatness. Go on a solo trip, get counseling and bounce back! It will all turn around
After 7 months he planning on marrying his new fiance December 7th I'm already planning to get drunk and they hurt y'all remember me December 7th what is woosah how he did it not what he did but house deed didn't know no better
Oh my goodness Brother Tony you preached that word not only for her but for all the other women who heard this strong advise and REAL TALK with no chaser that needed to have confirmation that they’ve done the right thing in leaving or they needed to hear for the final straw for confidence to leave. God bless you and yours!
This made my heart hurt. Women deal and accept to much. Been there done that. Never again,ImGods daughter.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Gods daughter, we say no to foolishness
Amen
We really do, & because we love them we feel the need to stay but hell na. “Love yourself”
HalleluYah 😩💖
Same here, but the Spirit of God spoke. God gave us a name a long time ago!! I'm his covenant child. 🌈🌈 Everytime I see a rainbow, it reminds me of his promises. Nobody can live up to what he is to me 🙌🏼 his word is bond!!!
Stories like this has really made me view the world differently. I use to be in love with romantic stories and fairytales. I realise the best way to love yourself is by saturating yourself with the Word, investing in yourself (education) and healing your trauma because no one will truly love you the way you feel you need to be loved, other than yourself. Thank you Tony. I’m 20 and you’ve protected me from falling victim to my foolish heart
Amen! At 19 it's completely changed my outlook towards love and life
Thank God you found him early and can avoid many pitfalls of looking at the world thru rose tinted glasses, some of us are still recovering from the traumas we incurred while we had that mindset. The world is a mean place for the unsuspecting.
@@mango-xorbet Thank God you found him early and can avoid many pitfalls of looking at the world thru rose tinted glasses, some of us are still recovering from the traumas we incurred while we had that mindset. The world is a mean place for the unsuspecting.
Be blessed.
Do you know how blessed you are, to know this at 20!. I wish I was this knowledge at 20 years young.
It is better to be alone than with bad company.
Doreen Lane Facts
Facts💯...but IF only more women thought like this, it wouldn't be these sad emails😩
Perfect timing as I JUST finished crying myself ugly about being lonely while living that quote for the last decade! 😫
Lord help her! She is worthy of love! Love yourself, sis.
“You say you want to understand vices, but what you really need to understand is self-love.” TG
Real talk.... I hope she gets some therapy or coaching to help her through...
Truth bomb!
When a man has a vice he has to come to a near death experience to change.
And still...it’s not enough unimaginably
It’s crazy how it takes men to that extent or so many years to want to change.
"As long as you there, he does not NEED you...A man can't LEARN a lesson when you, are, THERE!"
You betta tell it, Tony!! Spot on Truth!! 😔💯🎯
No lies told 🗣🗣🗣
I learned that with my ex. He’s still doing bad but not as bad. He was horrible when we were together.
Biggg facts
If you truly Love him you gotta leave him. This scenario and dialogue is like a sad script from a movie. My prayers for you sista. Self Love and go on bout your business.
Amen
Not even him really. If she really love herself and child.
@@deshaqueen706 right now she has to put her time and energy in finding her purpose and using the time also to focus on her child’s upbringing...seek God and he will direct her path
These emails lately are getting sadder each time...😒 Toxic love will drive a person insane.
This man is going to drive her crazy! She definitely needs to divorce him. It’s certain things that married men should not do! Staying out all night is definitely not cool.
She has yet to realize that she's already a single mother. 🤷🏾♀️
Girl. A lot of these married women be single
Tony is absolutely right !!!
Been there and got the 10 year trophy 🏆...
Thank God that there’s New life after self love and learning self worth . 😉
They should hire Tony for more men coaching and conferences once the pandemic 😷 is over.
Very true sis
Been needed it okay 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Men don’t listen to other men. Tony has spoken about that before. That’s why most of his audience are women.
Tony says God called him to women; we, women call Tony to men. We still don’t truly understand what Tony means when he says “a woman’s influence”.
@@Dr.Elaine1 Trust me I do. I’ve been following him for 4 years now and watch every video. Tony was hired by many men to speak around the world at men conferences, so I’m saying they should continue to do so. That has nothing to do with me not understanding who he called by God to help. Stop reaching!
She had biblical grounds for divorce since a long time! No woman is obligated to stay loyal/faithful/"ride or die" to a man who's committing adultery!
I told this to a friend of mine before (she's actually the first lady of a church and her husband is pastor). He is unfaithful. I never told her to leave him but I did share with her that God forgives divorce if the mate is unfaithful to the union and if he is abusive. I've read that in the Bible. And she told me I was wrong and that it does not say that. I knew then she wanted to stay. So I stopped listening and I honestly I detached because I was looking for a faithful man.
The route to self-love can be seen in this scripture: Matthew 22:37-40. When you love God, He will teach you how to love yourself and what it looks like.
I pray this woman gets the strength to leave.
The Spirit has spoke sister. It might look frightening to you right now because it has been so long. But this situation is slowly killing the essence of who you are. The daughter of the Most High God👸🏾. Your current husband is not the reason why you are on earth. You and your son will be fine, i promise.The joy of the Lord is your strength🙏🏾
Leave baby leave. I'm 52 year's old , Been through that. It don't get better. Leave
I agree. I went through that. I changes who you are. I pray she gets the strength to leave soon.
Me too.
Ladies stop letting men make a fool of of you. It's time to leave. He then broke all deal breakers and you still there. Ladies stop staying pass time cause you will become bitter and have luggage and will be hard to date. Just cause you choose to stay in a broken relationship.
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Absolutely! It's not worth it.
This was unbelievable one of the most powerful sermons/ lessons ever spoken. You have to have self love...it is not your responsibility to save another grown adult. Love yourself enough to leave.
Please put her in your prayers, that she has the strength to leave, because I'm scared for her physically. These were the same characteristics of my stepdad. Mother stayed now she is in the ground.
God Bless You
God Loves You
@@alicehardy8040 thank you sister, I'm practicing better habits.
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So sorry
Self love over everything!!! Sister you have to leave him, you are allowing a lifetime of mental, emotional, financial damage to you and your child. Believe in yourself you deserve better.
Sister please leave, save yourself, save your life, think about your son, he deserves a whole mom, he doesn't deserve to deal with the trauma of losing his mum young to abuse from his dad or a mother that's abused raising him, traumatizing him, because all his dad is doing to you is and will definately continue to affect your mental health and outlook towards life.
My goodness. That man ain’t worth fighting for. Cut your losses, and move on quick, fast, and in a hurry sis. 🏃🏾♀️
Oh wheeee girl, Tony is telling the truth!!! I used to be this woman, but I held on for 20 years, with 3 kids. I had to love myself enough to leave & never look back. Being a single Mom is challenging but get plugged into a church where the people love you & your child. It's been 7+ years and I'm growing stronger in the Lord, in self love, in self care. My kids are thriving and we are blessed! Be encouraged my Sister, you can do it!
"He cannot grow in your shade" That is a Word!
WORD!
She is what you call an enabler. I learned that by having a alcoholic husband. I finally left him after enabling him to do what he was doing. He told me that he thought I would never leave him. I had to for my sanity. He passed away a few months later. I couldn’t help him no matter how hard I tried.
Wow that's sad
Sorry for the loss. I hope you are whole or on your way.
Cindy you are gonna make me cry I'm in similar situation only I have left but he looks really bad but tries to make me feel bad I'm done
So sad I’m sorry for your loss.
My sis is an enabler. I pray she opens her eyes one day. This man will drink a whole bottle of Hennessy IN A DAY. He don’t go anywhere without going to a liquor store for bottles of alcohol. It’s sad and disgusting
God cover this woman and be her guide through his situation..let her make the best decision for her family according to your will. May she look to you and find the grace and mercy available to her. Keep her and love her as you done for me in Jesus name Amen. God sometimes will break your heart to save your soul. He’s done it for me and he will do it for you.Don’t be afraid to follow where the spirit leads you he’s got u❤️🙏🏽❤️
Yes!!!
Happy thanksgiving Tony and everybody in the chat!🍁
Happy Thanksgiving!
Same to you
Happy Thanksgiving & Thank you
Happy Thanksgiving sorry so late lol Be blessed
Happy Thanksgiving!
My ex narc's vice is paying for prostitutes so he can feel better about himself, self loathing, toxic self sacrifice for all the wrong reasons, medication addictions, smoking, laziness, , lost, no direction, yep he always feels less than, extreme mummy's boy syndrome...... one day he asked me, you always have money and you can get manifest/ anything you want, im like yeah well I'm not paying to put my head in someone's dumb ass, My head is up high educating myself and making money, improving my life step by step, I respect my money, my hard work and struggle, I love myself , he was just silent. Toxic man I so happily left him, god didn't sanction that relationship and so glad I saw it for what it was and I left. God saved me!
Everything you say, is 2000% correct, men have to come to a near death experience to actually change, right on the money 👍
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This reminds me of Lamar Odom. He nearly died and still can’t get it together.
Omg yes . I don’t get it like that is my question . He nearly died and still on the drug like why ? He must not care about his life
APTTMH...This was a WORD!
Sister's, if this relates to you, please take heed.
Father, restore Tony's spirit as he edifies us. HALLELUYAH!🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I’m so happy he came at her with compassion and sympathy for her. You could tell from her letter this is a broken woman who is TRUELY hurting!! This was well delivered and you could really tell you were talking to this woman if she was on of your relatives that you really cared about. May God bless this women and her journey/healing❤️ I’m sooooo sorry Queen and I’ll be praying for you💕
Keep these back to back videos coming Tony 👏🏽❤️
"I'm drained" AKA he smell that food. 😂
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We in here deep for the marathon!
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Happy Thanksgiving everyone!
This describes my soon-to-be-ex-boyfriend to a T. He has taken from me some money and manipulated me into signing a one year lease with him, because he couldn't afford full rent. He is a drinker, gambler, possible cheater and possible drug user, liar, manipulator, and has no goals. I want to work on my own self-love so I can get him to leave our home. My landlord is willing to get him out of our house as long as I approve.. He is a father of 2 and it's hard for me to throw him into the street in the winter, because I know he cannot afford his own place alone. Tony, thank you so much for all of your videos. This one truly speaks to me. God bless you for all you do and sharing your gifts to the world. Happy Thanksgiving!
You’ve got to do it or else he gonna keep you sucked in there & you’re always going to feel bad for his ass and want to let him stay
You need to be honest with yourself why you don't want to throw him out. If a man was doing all of these things you described to your mom or sister or your best friend, you wouldn't hesitate for a second. Wishing you strength. I kicked out a man like that two years ago, it was painful for over a year and now I cannot believe I would let someone treat me like that. Just do it and deal with the pain one day at a time. A year from now you'll thank yourself.
Oohwee Tony you on the roll today! I'm spending TG alone this year, but your videos will definitely keep me occupied. Much love!
This is almost my FAVORITE video. And I watch you EVERYDAY... Okayyy, gotta go!.
You probably helped save this woman's life. She has a Lot to be thankful for, having received this message!
I totally agree. I'm sure he's reached more than just the one that wrote in...
@@kokoluv21 True! 🤗
This kinda spoke to me cuz 5yrs ago I had a brain aneurysm that I had to relearn how to walk, had to have my vocal cord replaced,was in a coma and when I saw how God gave me another chance after a year, I decided to change and serve Him❤🙏💯
I also use to be that woman that put up with so much mess from a man. I didn't know my worth. I've endured all kinds of abuse. Plus my kids saw and heard toxic stuff. God used someone else who wasn't meant in my life to get me to move. The best thing I ever did🙌
Praying for her ....Lord work in leaps and bounds of strength and love. Please provide her a way out and shower her with grace. Open her eyes to see and be obedience when you speak. In Jesus holy name Amen
Amen
Amen!
Amen
I really love the “you missed his signs” video that really went in depth about vices that is my go to video!
Happy thanksgiving to you Mr. Gaskin and your family! Thank you for your hard work. You are truly appreciated 🙏🏼 God bless you all
Whew is it CRACK? Was he on that stuff 👀
@A Bc for Anyone
Dang before I saw this comment I said he sound like he is on that stuff
@A Bc No I meant the selling stuff out of the house part! 😂
@@Zazajohnson1015 I’m telling you! I’ve never known a sober person to sell even the NEW stuff out of their house!
@@Amorantasia1 Me either. But God bless them both.
Happy thanksgiving to Tony and family and blessings to everyone on here from UK
Thank you 💞💞
Happy Thanksgiving!
I didn't send in the question but I'm leaving feeling like this was for me. I felt this. Please take heed
Thank you Tony. I've already terminated my marriage with my husband and his "vices" since early July but I still needed to hear this. I listened 3 times in a row!
Happy Thanksgiving to the Gaskins family💯🕊
Wow. This lady's husband sounds exactly like my ex boyfriend. Im so thankful he decided I didn't have enough money for him to keep me around. That rejection has set my feet upon the path to self value and self knowledge. Thank you, Mr. Gaskins!!! I praise God for this knowledge!! 🙌
The rejection of man is the protection of God.
@@mileyroe4877 yes ma'am!!! I'm crying and so thankful right now. God loves me so much!
Wow! Look how much God loves you sister . What a precious word spoken over you . God always leave the 99 to go after his one that so desperately needs a word from him ! ❤️ 🙏❤️🙏 I’ll be praying for you !
"Your presence sanctions the behavior, you gotta remove yourself" TRUTH! I wish more women would hear this! Thank you Tony for caring, I could feel the "come to Jesus," call as you spoke!
I wish i would’ve left, but he ended up leaving me after we had a child to be with someone else. Now i know it was a blessing in disguise.
Tony that was a blessing for that woman. I truly wish I could have shared it with my cousin who has been married to a man for 28 years. Since this pandemic I had to go see her in ATL because she basically had a nervous breakdown. She has two handsome sons 14 & 16 and her husband is a want to be actor. She is the bread winner. I have come to a conclusion that she is going thru a Stockholm Syndrome, this message was for her. I will continue to pray for her and her sons
The best thing you can do is get her into therapy to gain the strength to help herself 🙏
This woman’s story is that if a number of married women. I have a relative who is in year 40 of being married to a man with vices. She looks twice her age, with bags under her eyes. She has no self worth and is so broken, she doesn’t even care about his mistress. Sad!! This woman better get the courage and run, because she will end up in jail or the crazy house w a loser husband like this...
Smh. Have mercy. May she muster up the strength to escape before it's too late.
Whoa, Tony was in THE Spirit this evening!! 🤍
Yes! He was, I felt the vision!
Happy Safe Thanksgiving to the blessed tribe.
Happy Thanksgiving!
Happy Thanksgiving Sista
Happy Thanksgiving 😊
Happy Thanksgiving!
You have to leave and never look back..-TG
Thank you so much for this video ! Honestly this sounds so much like my situation. I left my Husband after 4.5 yrs of marriage and 9years in total of being together . He had vices and you don’t know how many people condone you staying together and saying that if you pray for him he could change . I finally left because I felt like he was not going to change for me . I also have a son and I could not bare to have my son be raised around someone who will talk and treat his mom that way . I had to show my son this is not a way a man do his family . I also recommend for this lady to listen to your video “ is it time to leave”. That video also confirmed that I was doing the right thing by leaving . Thank you for all you do !
Leave baby girl....and just know that there's better out there. You have to believe it!! Your situation will NEVER get better and your son does not need to & should not be living in this toxic environment. I really hope you get this message before it's too late!
Unfortunately my ex has had 2 near death experiences and still pounding the payment. I was so lost in what I thought was love. He he don't love himself he can't love you. Got to keep it moving.
That person that was booked for 3 sessions that he never followed through with was my ex boyfriend....when you say a man will do ANYTHING to keep access to his addiction, you were so right! I'm glad you got the blessings regardless! Thank you for allowing God to use you in this ministry.
Happy Thanksgiving Everyone! ❤️
Yo you as well Sista
WE ARE THANKFUL FOR YOU TONY, GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY HAPPY THANKSGIVING!!!
Tony this one made me cry, I've moved out, 7 mths ago but changing all of my defaults is like going against what's natural to me. This is uncharted waters but I treading for my LIFE!!!!!
Keep going, I pray God gives you strength to make it over..I promise life gets better👑
Oh. I feel for this woman. My childs dad had gambling issues. I didn't marry him nor didnt want to. but I did try to stay close to his family for my child. Even worse! Nasty Uncle, his sisters husband. & his friends were around my daughter in THEIR home when my child father was present ! I got a Stay away order & i stopped trying "to do the right thing" in the devils environment.
I’m trying to understand but the typos are confusing me
@@alexa6260 no typos. Just didnt use apostrophes.
Happy Thanksgiving Everyone 🦃🍁🍂🥧
To you as well Sista
Thank you for talking about these vices. I recently met a dude that didn't have any of those vices, BUT he smoked. Smh. (A part of me wanted to brush it off since it was only that one thing, but I had to let it go. That is something I don't feel like I could deal with.
You did the right thing. Never compromise on your non-negotiable 🤝
@@MiyzP Thank you, because sometimes the enemy will try to creep in and make me think that I am making too big of a deal out of something so "SMALL". There is nothing small about Miss Mary Jane.
@@NekeishaWise amen and amen 👏🏾 be you and the world will have no choice than to adjust 🖤
@@NekeishaWise yes , men who smoke never end up anywhere in the long run, it keeps them stuck in all the things of the " world " girls, porn , addiction, just grown boy antics. I will never be with a weed smoker again , period
@@Themostmercifulrabb ❗❗❗🗣🗣🗣
Whew!! Who ever this woman is; I hope she listens to this again, and begins to learn her worth. Leaving a toxic relationship can be a hard thing to do, I understand. Staying in one though; is even harder, stressful and draining. Not to mention, you forfeit your blessing of peace.
Happy Thanksgiving Everyone 🦃🦃🦃
Happy Thanksgiving to you as well Sista
Oh...you preached this thing, Tony🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
"He can't grow in your shade."! Come on!!!
Do you really need advice? Girl you better do a boi bye!
Self love is the highest form of love..love yourself first, for if you don't, no one else can and will because you're going to allow someone to not love you...and you can't give what you don't have.
Happy Thanksgiving Everyone 🦃
Self love is key. It took me several years to figure this out. It's so easy to have high self esteem and not self love. Self love takes inner work. I learnt this the hard way and wish women would get it sooner. I speak a lot about self love and even wrote a guide to support women on their journey.
The moment Tony began reading this young ladies letter, I stopped and began to lift her up in prayer. Cause she needs the Father like none other before.
Happy Thanksgiving 🦃🍽 to you and your family!
Sister... Tony is so right!!! It will have to take an act of God to shake that brother out of his nasty skin... The sooner you get out, the better. For your sanity and your boy!!! Plz. But you are the one that is going to have to take that step. Nobody but you can take the action. He will beg, he will weep and even embarrass himself in public when he gets desperate just to get you back to further enable him for his habits and addictions. Most importantly, your son doesn’t have to go through that blatant rejection growing up. If that man does not love himself, how on earth is he able to love anything or anyone else... It hurts, but it’s true. But the truth sets you free. It is not love that is making you stay because you end up resenting them anyhow. You have to forgive him ... which is hard!!! And a process, cause the anger returns every now and then, until you heal. But you need to for your own good... Tony has done a video on forgiveness... and you will need to get therapy or rather coaching... I would say from Tony as he knows what he is talking about. YOU NEED SOMEONE LEGIT... not just someone that’s gonna take your money for nothing. It’s the soul tie that’s keeping you there... and that needs to be severed as sometimes the sex has been so good... you know what I mean... that it keeps its claws hooked in you ... smh ... and you know the rest. Whilst you are at it, keep safe... but don’t fear... cause sometimes fear motivates you to go back. Get restraining orders and supervised visits if you need to when the time comes, but don’t be ignorant of the wicked devices that can be used. They even try to use the children to get back at you. This is like living in Satan’s camp itself. It’s hard Sista... but worth it in the end!!! And forgive yourself and stop blaming yourself also as they brainwash you into thinking that you are the one that caused the situation... and that’s a lie. But we have to take responsibility for our choices. And in time, we learn to love and value ourselves more. There is more to life than being abused. A huge hug from me. Get well and stay well!!!! Happy Thanksgiving 🤗🤗🤗 ... Love you in Christ!!! ✝️💜💐
WOW!! Thank you!
@@abigailpennington1747 God Bless you Sista.💜🙏🏽
I just want to BLESS THE MOST HIGH for Using you to bring forth this message! HalleluYah, HalleluYah!! Tony Gaskins and Family, Bless you. You just saved my Life. Your Message is ALL the confirmation that I have been needing to hear these past 3 to 4 days and The Most High seen it fit for you to relay his message. I watch your videos in Respect and subjection for the message. Thank you for the Conviction and the support for your sisters in the battle 🙌🏽 Ahkoti ( sister ) and Ahki ( brother ) I humbly appreciate you.
Happy Thanksgiving Tony and your family!!! May you be blessed beyond what your imagination has ever been. I am Thankful to Jesus for coming across your vids somehow! You are a blessing and bringing understanding and healing to so many. It is by knowledge that we gain understanding and in understanding we gain wisdom. Thank you to you, your wife and kids for putting yourselves out there to bring healing and empowerment to many!!! God Bless you!!!
Sister, don't deceive yourself. Homosexual activity is what is going on in the open theatre. Women don't hang out there, PERIOD! I'm going through exactly what you are, but I'm coming out very soon. My husband doesn't gamble, but he's a lying drunk. He stopped working and is basically a leech right now. Enough is enough. I hope you get it while you can like I'm doing. You can't change him and until he wants to change himself, this is what you've got and all you'll have.
Happy Thanksgiving Queens and Kings
Happy Thanksgiving Sista🤗
Vices of men in my perspective : porn , phone sex , too much eating , too much drinking , selfishness, ..... addicted on social media , pretty much everything that is praised in the American society!!!! Pace and love to all the people !!!
This was an awesome message, very deep and spiritual.
You deserve to love yourself Sis! I wish there had been a Tony Gaskins when I was in my 20's and 30's!!! I stayed too long even though I divorced him 21 yrs ago! You will be just fine Sis!
You know what you have to do Sis. I'm praying for you to find strength 💪 🙏.
Self love =loving God in the fullness thereof. Understanding God and knowing who you are in HIM. Letting God do all He wants in you.
This teaching is powerful...thank you, Tony!
Thank You! What I'm Grateful for are YOU AND YOUR FAMILY! God allowing you to speak to us with the upmost truth! I'm thankful for Mrs. Gaskins for giving you the time necessary to show your gifts and compassion for the love of your calling. You've made so many messages for us to gain the knowledge on Thanksgiving Day. As a conclusion, my family and I are elated. Enjoy your family. Much gratitude 🙏 to you.
Dear sister, please plan your exit strategy. Save yourself so you can save your son. If something happens to you who will be responsible for raising your son. You have to set an example for your son. You do not want your son to see and experience the bad example that is being set by his father. You want better for your child than you have set forth for yourself. I can testify to this because I had to do this myself.
Happy Thanksgiving 🦃
Thank you and same to you and your family.
To you as well Sista
Happy Thanksgiving Glam!
Thank , same to you
We went through drugs and everything together it was very ugly we both got clean and tried to get I've never seen such a relationship but it was towed Taxi taxi in Davison Madison Adidas the medicine medicine if I said blue instead of going to be free if I said that it was Blue Chico set a screen he counts it is green can't talk with Lee sorry weather is tomorrow flight I can like that and we hurt too he heard me real bad but I thank God trouble don't last always
Queen forgive yourself that man took that many years from your life. Be encouraged your destined for greatness. Go on a solo trip, get counseling and bounce back! It will all turn around
U preach tht thang Tony,I felt tht ,Bless u man if GOD!A real man of GOD!!!!!
After 7 months he planning on marrying his new fiance December 7th I'm already planning to get drunk and they hurt y'all remember me December 7th what is woosah how he did it not what he did but house deed didn't know no better
Wow! Mr.Tony, you really blessed us with the Black Friday Life Coaching course!!!🙏🏿❤GOD bless you!!
Amen. This spoke to me and I'm glad I changed my life around and chose Jesus and a peaceful life.
Oh my goodness Brother Tony you preached that word not only for her but for all the other women who heard this strong advise and REAL TALK with no chaser that needed to have confirmation that they’ve done the right thing in leaving or they needed to hear for the final straw for confidence to leave. God bless you and yours!
I expected you to take today off but we’re getting the opposite lol
C’mon in the room JESUS 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏💯💯💯💯💯
"Come to JES-US!!"
Tony you been a blessing ❤️ keep up the good work.
This message was straight from HEAVEN Tony! Thank God for you.