“A man is NATURALLY going to reduce the role of another woman in his life, when he meets his WIFE” ... 💯❗️ and he definitely shouldn’t need to be told /asked to do so ❤️
He doesn't want to let the "Friend" go because she's on another level & has his mind open, while you only have his pants unzipped. True words spoken!! 🙌🏾💯
And he very well could be the daddy too! I don’t think any male “ friend” would want to be in the delivery room dealing with all that... there’s some funny business here
That’s what I did for male best friends when they got married... I backed all the way back to be respectful of their wives and marriages and they did the same
This is true I have lost some friends because they got married and you have to respect their relationship when I get married I’m not letting no other female around my husband either because I have lost best friends also so their is no excuses
amen!!! That is what a mature minded woman will do!! Insecure, petty woman will try to keep her position, trying to keep asserting herself in your man''s life, but a TRUE FRIEND will back up and also genuinely befriend you - his woman - and become more friend for you than she was to him...IF she is a true friend. She will respect the relationship and it will show.
Not some...most...most of us are fools and need constant guidance because men are so manipulative and we're so conditioned and incorrectly socialized in dealing with them...That's why men like Tony are so vital. I just hope she wakes up and sees what's happening in front of her....
@@Yna-u3g I totally agree. I have definitely had my foolish woman moment. But I leaned my lesson and I refuse to allow a grown boy in my life. Because, my cut off game is strong, once I smell BS it’s a rap for me. The sooner the better.
@@lekeshiacole9065 I swear and we definitely have to be seasoned in the game because grown boys are walking around in abundance...they're like flies!😷...
Omggggg.... that’s his baby 🤔 lady WAKE UP. Who wants to be in a delivery room for a baby who’s not his. Plus they lived together 😂. Don’t be 48 & naive.
@@Leelang931 Exactly he needs a Covid test to be in the delivery room. The hospitals are not even playing in this pandemic. That’s his baby and they moving in together again.
This man is not lying. If you even smell another woman on a guy you're dating Runnnnnn. Friends of the opposite sex ain't nothing to play with. There is no such thing as a veryyyy close friend of the opposite when you're in a relationship. Boundaries (most of the times) get crossed. That is nothing to play with. Wisdom should be practiced. Also, if someone is your husband you'll know.
@@handelnuremberg8757 even if you're not exclusive and you see that the person you're dating is very attached to a friend of the opposite sex (always on the phone with them, telling them your business, they are closer to them than you etc.) dont continue with that person. Trust me, I've been there and I'm sure that many people in the comment section can tell you that in their situation there was always a friend that their bf/gf/person they were dating told them not to worry about, only to find out that they were messing around with them. Sometimes after you break up they saw them together. If the person you're dating has aquaintaces of the opposite sex, that's different, your intuition won't have you second guessing their relation to each other.
In the past, I’ve been the “ female friend” in a situation like this. He 100% wants his friend and she probably doesn’t want him, that’s why he’s willing to stay her BFF he’ll take any title she will give him. And if she ever decides to upgrade their friendship, he’ll leave his girlfriend.
Very true. I have a similar situation with a friend. Every woman that he meets and really likes he starts telling them about me. Of course, the chick bounces.
THIS!!!! This is why the cycle continues. We become willing participants in our on pain and frustration because we refuse to learn and grow from our past experiences. We are responsible for our choices...why do you keep choosing like that??? That's on you boo...lol. Help Lord, cause once you deal with that root, you'll graduate.
A lot of times too women get into competition with the other woman trying to win instead of focusing on the issues the man have and that they really need to leave him.
Major lesson I will make sure I live by- do not go back to the man you rejected.. he will dog you.. men never forget when you rejected them. Wooo a word . 💯💯💯
Tony you are correct about how long a man will wait. I’m 61 years old and my husband pasted away one year ago. This man I knew 40 years ago found me on Facebook. He got married 40 years ago and now going through a separation. I had tell him don’t disrespect the memory of my husband and our 25 year marriage I am not lonely for anyone but my husband. He said we’re friends I’ve known you for 40 years. I told him go work it out with your wife your going through the midlife change. PERIOD
All of that friends stuff is nonsense. It sounds like CB female friend likes the benefits of being in a relationship minus the commitment. CB female friend will continue to over step the respect line and ask CB for favors that she should be getting from a single man. CB keeping that female close and doing favors like helping her move, and anything else that she will be asking of him down the line because it makes him feel like a totally competent man. All this just friends stuff means sex in the past or future. Neither person wants to move on to actually become available mentally, morally and physical. Women love getting favors from another woman's man.
You know what...Black Women could build their OWN studio solely off the profit of our stories!😅😅😅...We should stop letting men profit from our foolishness and do it ourselves!! We'd be powerhouse moguls!😅😅😅
A male cousin once told me in order for a man to be friends with you he has to like you first. All my male “friends” tried to date me at some point. He’s sleeping with her or is interested in doing so... there’s nothing like man/woman friendship. He’s the telling the other woman you’re just a friend too.
He’s the daddy. The end. He Only told her she got pregnant by someone else. No male “friend” would want to be in the delivery room to see all that. There are some many 🚩! 🤦🏽♀️
I was told this in my twenties and reminded in my thirties about so-called male bff’s. I argued who I was with and always defended my friendships of the opposite sex. I was extremely wrong and learned the hard way. Thank you and be blessed.
I’m 24 and I have a guy friend I’ve known since I was 16 and he just recently tried sleeping with me. I had to check play boy real quick “nah it’s not that type of party”
Two✌🏽 divorces already and now this balderdash. Maybe I'm speaking for myself, but I can't keep putting my poor heart through the wringer. We gotta heed the warning signs. They're definitely there. A man dealing with multiple women, DON'T care about any of them. Only himself!😔
Confirmation, Confirmation, Confirmation!! That’s why ABSTINENCE = TOTAL PEACE OF MIND 🙏🏼 just saying...As always, I appreciate Life Coach Tony Gaskins unapologetic advice on everyday relationships - the truth! You and your beautiful family continue to Stay Blessed! 🙏🏼
The more I listen to these videos and examine my past, what Tony has said in the past, that when we are not living in our purpose, we get entangled in so much stuff. We have way too much time to do so much damage to ourselves instead of growing, changing and healing and being an agent of change. Thank the Lord for Tony who always teaches staying on the narrow road.
-Y’all better listen to what Tony’s saying he’s saying the absolute hard truth. I once heard one of my male coworkers say “there’s not ONE of his female FRIENDS back home in TX he wouldn’t smash “ and he’s the type to have women lusting after him left & right. Don’t be naive 🤣
Men will get back with you to get you back and then put you on your back. 💯 I’ve seen it happen. It’s part of the game. It’s fun for him. He’s not serious. He’s just having fun. If he was serious, he would have cut her off as soon as you both reconnected. He would have ditched her pregnant and all. Men can be cold hearted like that if they need to be and choose to be
I get called insecure and controlling for not allowing all that “female friend” bs in my committed relationships. I don’t care though, because what gain would you be getting from another woman that you couldn’t get from your partner? Especially if you have other female family members in your life who play an active role. You have male friends, you have female family, and you have a girlfriend. A female friend is compartmentalism of women. You just want them so you have other women easily accessible to you if ever you get the chance to.
He was dead on about the way a man thinks the worst of you. I had the same experience with my husband where he said I was getting sloppy about my “cheating” and all I did was go to work and come home.
I have been victim to this very topic. My ex husband got a blessing from his BF to marry me. Found out later that her very own marriage proposal did not workout. She began to confide in and pursue my husband and all hell broke loose. I saw the signs but couldn't leave yet bc I was nursing him back to health(long but interesting story), in between jobs and getting my renters out of my home. I made my plans, stuck to it and left the day after New Years. He and the BF had a child that they thought I knew nothing about. Fast-forward to the end of story... BF is single, he doesnt see or take care of the baby, she's not married. My Ex is partially paralyzed (not by me), lost everything. Im divorced and will use this story to help others. Thanks Tony for reminding me that its time to start writing my book and telling this story to help others.
20 years and now divorced. Do you know these so called "friends" have hit me up.............and they are married? Listen to Tony. He ain't lying. Just keep living. Keep those legs closed ladies.
Some of you all in the comments judging and making fun of this lady need to stop. You've looked the same way she has and someone had to have patience and grace with you. I'm just saying, no need to rub it in in that manner.. Be nice because guess what.. all these vids y'all watching.. but YOU'RE NEXT.
I don't understand it either ...I know you have to make light of things sometimes to get the point across but at the end of the day Tony is being really serious ...seem like folk think this is comedy ????? There are lessons be learned from every one and every situation....I don't know what this lady thought Tony would say to her however I do hope she will listen and take some action for her life and her happiness 💕🙏🏾💕
@@nikkyshamz2696 The wisdom here is: "Judge ye not lest you be judged. For with the same measure you use it will be measured back to you.". "If" Conditional. Yes they are next unfortunately. (Some are already..present, others past, others future.).
Exactly! Every woman has played a fool for some man in their life at one point or another. The situation may have been different, but a fool is a fool. So, just because you have gotten past certain seasons does not put you in the position to judge.
I don't normally comment but I was not expecting a WHOLE ROAST tonight! put everyone and their motives on blast fr. This video offered the whole perspective and reality of many relationships 😳 haha listen to it twice!
Merry go round you don’t know him just because y’all knew each other yeaarrrssss ago...give yourself time to heal...moving too fast & doing too much too soon
If you listen to/read the lyrics of “You make me wanna by Usher”, that confirms everything Tony said. Usher is a grown boy and it describes what he wants to do with his “best friend”.
Wow Tony thank you for saving this lady I pray ! what women wants her male friend in the delivery room with her there’s no shame or modesty in that room when pain gets severe trust me !!! that’s all the red flags she needed It’s his baby period! God Bless you my spiritual son please keep preaching the truth in Love , She’s gotta go !!
This story might have some holes like Swiss cheese now ... Tony!! You’re going there. So many women need to hear this. At 20 I was the female friend. We were in undergrad, worked together and lived in the same complex as a result of our jobs. His Gf was in a different city but would always come to see him at his job (our job) - she knew he was a dog in heat . I was naive and really appreciated a male friend for campus escorts , and just genuinely believed we were best friends until the inappropriate comments started. Obviously I kept boundaries but he tried it! And when I shut him down, he dropped his “bestfriend”. These lil boys do what you allow. His girlfriend married him...
The straight men I know want to be sexual. They refuse to be friends with me. My male best friend is gay. I tried to be friends with straight men over the years to no avail. A woman told me that women have to teach men to be friends with them. It hasn't worked for me. Gaskin is right on this.
You are so right... no man is bestfriends to a woman. He will try you.. I had a guy friend who waited 4 years to try to sleep with me & at the time I was still saving myself and not sleeping around he said exactly this WORD FOR WORD LADIES “I respect what you doing and all but not tryna have any females around me that’s not trying to have s**”. Please listen to Tony!!! 🙏🏽🙏🏽 he’s not wrong at all.
What you allow is what will continue!!! He making a fool outta you and you in yo feelings !! If he knew you was the "one" then he would come in knowing and showing you that! He running game and you need to be running!!!
What does a man need with a woman friend if he has you??? Men think differently. If it's not a business relationship, he either wants to screw her or has. Go and be a man's best friend and see how that works out for him, you'll see another reaction unless he doesn't take the relationship seriously and if thats the case LEAVE. Let's stop acting like we don't know this. Men are wired differently. They're creatures, that's just the way God made them. That is why as Women, we are their help mates. We are their guides. A mature man won't even trust himself to be friends with another woman because he knows this better. That's why women end up in situations talking about he left you for another woman. Yeah, the same one you allowed him to have. His legal sidechick.
@@marciloni12 I have but don't recommend it. No man can be a woman's friend because they think differently and eventually will want to date you or have sex with you.
All I want sis to do is take this advice and keep it moving. There is no need to meet up to get to know the best friend either. Side note: When the red flags present themselves, don't come up with your own scenarios to downplay them. Just move and save yourself from a lot of chaos, confusion, and soul-ties. Have a blessed day, Blessed Tribe ❤
This is eye opening. Ladies who he confides in is who he trusts,loves,and will go to war for. How he makes you feel in a relationship is how he feels about you!
Tony, I wish I had your advice about 20 years ago. I've been through so much with different men. You could've saved me some heart ache. I am now happily celibate and not dating for the past 2 years.
I LOVE Tony Gaskins!!! SO GOOD! Some women don't know boundaries. They can't be talking to married men and expect to be respected by other females. No female likes homewrecker or women who flirt or send mixed messages to married men!
This is a fact. I have a girlfriend that was friends with her male bestfriend for over 15 years as well and ended up dealing with him on the side while he was with another women. Telling her all her business and she would come back telling me. I had to cut her off. Things like this may sound crazy but it actually happens!
It’s very true. Men and women can’t really be friends without emotional feelings being tied. I’m friends with an ex and he likes to say “best friends”. I just say “friends” because he is here for me when I need him and vice versa. we do talk about his dates he goes on and all. He is even here for me when it comes to my kids. He just took my son to his first job interview. So yes we are friends however, I’m no fool. This man is very genuine yes but at the same time this man is still in love with me. This is why he sees me as his “Bestfriend” wishing one day that I will see him the way he sees me.
He's so right straight men don't normally have female friends unless something else is going on. My friend thought she was friends with a guy for 10 years n recently he confessed he has loved her for years smh. Now she still trys to be friends but it's just not possible.
I wish she hadn't got on her back so soon 🤦🏾♀️cause she's created a stronger soul tie with this man and its setting up to be like a competition between the two ladies for this man's attention (ya'll know how some of us are🙄) It would have been ideal to have peeped his situo from the jump and told him "yeah you handle all that over there and I might or might not be over here when you, her and the baby figure stuff out." I can't do drama no more, especially drama that's not of my own making. God Bless her
“Once you know how to ride it you know how to ride ittttt” and “you’re like a candle in the sun” omg lol 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 i can’t take him with all of these faces he be cutting up lol
Uncle Tony is always spot on. Recently when he mentioned that when you go on a date with a man and offer to pay YOUR portion, it makes you stand out in his mind. Welp.. Uncle Tony was right. Tuesday I went on a first date. When the check came I offered to pay my portion. He looked at me and said "of course not" the next day when we were on the phone his exact words were "it's refreshing to go on a date with someone that offered to pay for something. Although, I wouldn't allow you to pay but it means a lot. Because nowadays ppl are takers"
Because you offered, be careful. His response was that it was refreshing. Just be careful with your money. That’s all. I had a man that would give me money here and there just to help out, but later... the tables turned, and he started asking me for money
Sis, you did exactly what Tony did say to do on the first date and that's right there's nothing desperate here paying your half gives you more value, now some people just listen to listen, they don't pay attention they don't get the message right they may get the message but don't know how and when to apply it in life situations they just confuse and mess up everything. That's sad.
Don’t play yourself sis..... been there done that waisted time! He lied had a whole girlfriend then whole time! I was hurt but cut him off blocked him on social media & moved on. just leave this man.
Evidently she has two possible father's. CB is a possible father and the ex that doesn't want to have anything to do with her and the baby. He's probably planning to get a paternity test after the baby is born. He's not telling you this parrt. If he's the father he's dropping you.
Tony is on point , he’s never been wrong never !we really don’t know men , thought I did until I started listening to Tony I recognized a lot of things immediately.
😂😂😂😂 “Who is this?” “That’s the Democrats read the message” “No it ain’t, that’s code for i want your body not Joe Biden” “SWIPE SWIPE” 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I’m doneeeeee
As soon as she said “friends for 15 years” I was like nope, he’s not the one sis. It does not take years for a man to know that you’re the one. I hope she moves on.
“A man is NATURALLY going to reduce the role of another woman in his life, when he meets his WIFE” ... 💯❗️ and he definitely shouldn’t need to be told /asked to do so ❤️
This was like WOW!! So TRUE !! I learned that this year !!!! 💯💯💯💯💯
Exactly jerry.
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True 💯👌
I'M NOT PUTTING UP WITH ANY "FEMALE BEST FRIENDS" LOL WHATSOEVER. THAT TERM ALONE MAKES ME CRINGE LOL UGH & EWW
GOD BLESS U TONY LOL U TRULY HAVE TO BE CALLED TO DO THIS SMH CUZ THESE SITUATIONS ARE JUST.....SMH LAWD HAVE MERCY SMH
100%
Amen me too
Amen
Thought it was just me lol
He doesn't want to let the "Friend" go because she's on another level & has his mind open, while you only have his pants unzipped. True words spoken!! 🙌🏾💯
And he very well could be the daddy too! I don’t think any male “ friend” would want to be in the delivery room dealing with all that... there’s some funny business here
@@tarahbruno3793 My thoughts exactly
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This story is so full of holes, the baby belongs to him, even a blind man can see this.
Exactly👌
Closed For business yes dude is telling all kind of lies.
Period!
Honey yes!
Right?!! He is just going along with her game of Desperato.😐
That’s what I did for male best friends when they got married... I backed all the way back to be respectful of their wives and marriages and they did the same
Ditto❗❗❗
This is true I have lost some friends because they got married and you have to respect their relationship when I get married I’m not letting no other female around my husband either because I have lost best friends also so their is no excuses
@@QueenConsious YUP! 💪🏻
Yes, this is true. Only healthy minded people will do this and keep their boundaries intact.
Edit: Also, you are not a selfish person.
amen!!! That is what a mature minded woman will do!! Insecure, petty woman will try to keep her position, trying to keep asserting herself in your man''s life, but a TRUE FRIEND will back up and also genuinely befriend you - his woman - and become more friend for you than she was to him...IF she is a true friend. She will respect the relationship and it will show.
He’s the Daddy. And she’s about to become a sister wife..
That was my thought. He the daddy
That was my first thought. 😏
Yes he def the daddy!!
Yep, sis might as well throw the gender reveal and baby shower for her stepchild👶
My thoughts exactly!!
It’s ashamed how some women can be so foolish. Because this email has so many red flags.
Not some...most...most of us are fools and need constant guidance because men are so manipulative and we're so conditioned and incorrectly socialized in dealing with them...That's why men like Tony are so vital. I just hope she wakes up and sees what's happening in front of her....
@@Yna-u3g I totally agree. I have definitely had my foolish woman moment. But I leaned my lesson and I refuse to allow a grown boy in my life. Because, my cut off game is strong, once I smell BS it’s a rap for me. The sooner the better.
@@lekeshiacole9065 I swear and we definitely have to be seasoned in the game because grown boys are walking around in abundance...they're like flies!😷...
@@Yna-u3g Definitely!
@@Yna-u3g you have to be the thunder flies killer to Knock those grown boy's teeth on the ground...
Let him go. He is definitely sleeping with this woman. Sounds like payback.
Keisha Cole said "Let it go"
Right, that or he wants to.
Omggggg.... that’s his baby 🤔 lady WAKE UP. Who wants to be in a delivery room for a baby who’s not his. Plus they lived together 😂. Don’t be 48 & naive.
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Exactly, especially with these COVID restrictions going on, a man in their right mind is not doing that for an ex if the baby is not his
Exactly before she finds herself on the first 48
I was thinking the exact same thing!!
@@Leelang931 Exactly he needs a Covid test to be in the delivery room. The hospitals are not even playing in this pandemic. That’s his baby and they moving in together again.
He sure has a lot of female friends don’t he?? 🧐... Girl Bye!!
Oh yeah!! WEIRD🤔
And hes 44.
Video: 3 minutes in.
Me: He already sleepin with her and that’s his baby.
My exact thoughts!🤦🏽♀️
EXACTLY 🙄
Yesss
Exactly!!!!!
Correct.
They way he do them hand gestures✌🏾🖖🏾 “ok you done already been on your back “ I hollered 🤣🤣
Yesss🤣🤣
Me too🤣🤣🤣
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Oh wow!!!
Lmaooo I be in tears 😅😂😂😂
This man is not lying. If you even smell another woman on a guy you're dating Runnnnnn. Friends of the opposite sex ain't nothing to play with. There is no such thing as a veryyyy close friend of the opposite when you're in a relationship. Boundaries (most of the times) get crossed. That is nothing to play with. Wisdom should be practiced. Also, if someone is your husband you'll know.
Boundaries always get crossed and 15 year's at that 🥴
Yesssss
Even if you're not exclusive yet?
@@handelnuremberg8757 even if you're not exclusive and you see that the person you're dating is very attached to a friend of the opposite sex (always on the phone with them, telling them your business, they are closer to them than you etc.) dont continue with that person. Trust me, I've been there and I'm sure that many people in the comment section can tell you that in their situation there was always a friend that their bf/gf/person they were dating told them not to worry about, only to find out that they were messing around with them. Sometimes after you break up they saw them together. If the person you're dating has aquaintaces of the opposite sex, that's different, your intuition won't have you second guessing their relation to each other.
@@mileyroe4877 FACTS!!
There is NO SUCH THING as a BEST FRIEND when you are in a committed relationship!!!
Facts
@@heyyashleyyy2669 AMMMMMMMEEEN!!!!! LOUDER for the females in the back who STILL haven't learned this GOLDEN TRUTH! 🙌🙌🙌
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Absolutely no other female is coming around I don’t care who she is that’s the reason I don’t date people with kids because the baby mama come around
Amen!
Female and male "friends" are inappropriate if you are married or even unmarried. You should be friends with the family.
Exactly 💯
In the past, I’ve been the “ female friend” in a situation like this. He 100% wants his friend and she probably doesn’t want him, that’s why he’s willing to stay her BFF he’ll take any title she will give him. And if she ever decides to upgrade their friendship, he’ll leave his girlfriend.
Facts. Good way to put it
Very true. I have a similar situation with a friend. Every woman that he meets and really likes he starts telling them about me. Of course, the chick bounces.
Yup pretty much 💯
On point!
Facts!!!!
This is crazy!!! It’s time to start dating men the way that men date women. No man would stick around for this situation
That's it, that's all
Right!!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Yes
Yup. They be out...lol.
When you are desperate to be loved you will ignore the red flags that black right in front of your eyes .
THIS!!!! This is why the cycle continues. We become willing participants in our on pain and frustration because we refuse to learn and grow from our past experiences. We are responsible for our choices...why do you keep choosing like that??? That's on you boo...lol. Help Lord, cause once you deal with that root, you'll graduate.
A lot of times too women get into competition with the other woman trying to win instead of focusing on the issues the man have and that they really need to leave him.
You are RIGHT ✅
You got a friend in Jesus!
🗣That's right Tony!! 🙌🏾
The brake pedal again..😂😂😂😂😂😭😭
Major lesson I will make sure I live by- do not go back to the man you rejected.. he will dog you.. men never forget when you rejected them. Wooo a word . 💯💯💯
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Tony you are correct about how long a man will wait. I’m 61 years old and my husband pasted away one year ago. This man I knew 40 years ago found me on Facebook. He got married 40 years ago and now going through a separation. I had tell him don’t disrespect the memory of my husband and our 25 year marriage I am not lonely for anyone but my husband. He said we’re friends I’ve known you for 40 years. I told him go work it out with your wife your going through the midlife change. PERIOD
OK MRS. GAIL, you better let him know!!!
🙌🏾🙌🏾 you better tell him!
40 years?!?! Wowww sis, you did the right thing
Dude was hurt now he wants to run her through the mud...
Yep
And she's a willing participant in that drag race!
Revenge, they say, is a dish best served cold ;)
Girl run this is not the love of your life. This same problem with this same woman will happen in marriage too.
On a side note, Tony missed his calling as a comedian. LMAO! 😂
FRIEEEEEENNNNNNNND!!!!!?????😂😂😂 That his baby..and his girl friend.
All of that friends stuff is nonsense. It sounds like CB female friend likes the benefits of being in a relationship minus the commitment. CB female friend will continue to over step the respect line and ask CB for favors that she should be getting from a single man. CB keeping that female close and doing favors like helping her move, and anything else that she will be asking of him down the line because it makes him feel like a totally competent man. All this just friends stuff means sex in the past or future. Neither person wants to move on to actually become available mentally, morally and physical. Women love getting favors from another woman's man.
Bingo ! In a nutshell
See Bro...you’re a man. So I’m listening to what you’re saying. Y’all betta listen.
@@tisha812 listening too .. he knows 🙂
Yes CB is BD 😒
That last line...wow! So true
Sis wake up, he getting you ready to be a babysitter so he can go on dates with her
Not dates 😂
😅😅😅
Heck yeah and she'll be planning the baby's first birthday party 😭😀
😂😂😂😂
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Spot on. Once in a committed relationship having friends of the opposite sex will only cause issues.
Nope. I would never ask a male "friend" to be in the delivery room with me.
“Hot and ready like Lil Ceasar’s.” 😩😂 lord help me
Girrrrlllllllllll 😂😂😂😂😂😂
This sounds like a Tyler Perry movie...there is no way I would hang in there for this drama...this is like a sister-wife episode.
You know what...Black Women could build their OWN studio solely off the profit of our stories!😅😅😅...We should stop letting men profit from our foolishness and do it ourselves!! We'd be powerhouse moguls!😅😅😅
@@Yna-u3g You on to something Sis!!!
@@GiovonniTaylor Okaaaaaaaayyyyy!
“Loose booty 901” 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Yup at 48
@@Glamrocs I know some at 50
@@shutit4024 😩 so foolish... They should know by that age sex doesn’t keep a man
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Lol girl
A male cousin once told me in order for a man to be friends with you he has to like you first. All my male “friends” tried to date me at some point. He’s sleeping with her or is interested in doing so... there’s nothing like man/woman friendship. He’s the telling the other woman you’re just a friend too.
After two husband's just love yourself
Take sometime to heal and love yourself!
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Facts
@@InspiredUno seriously!!
I agree.
He’s the daddy. The end. He Only told her she got pregnant by someone else. No male “friend” would want to be in the delivery room to see all that. There are some many 🚩! 🤦🏽♀️
I was told this in my twenties and reminded in my thirties about so-called male bff’s. I argued who I was with and always defended my friendships of the opposite sex. I was extremely wrong and learned the hard way. Thank you and be blessed.
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I’m 24 and I have a guy friend I’ve known since I was 16 and he just recently tried sleeping with me. I had to check play boy real quick “nah it’s not that type of party”
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These Men be Testing us🤣🤣🙄🤦♀️
He probably the daddy lol
I said the same thing.
He’s the 👴🏾
He’s the pappy
Two✌🏽 divorces already and now this balderdash. Maybe I'm speaking for myself, but I can't keep putting my poor heart through the wringer. We gotta heed the warning signs. They're definitely there. A man dealing with multiple women, DON'T care about any of them. Only himself!😔
Facts.
Agree totally!
🗣🗣🗣, they dont hear you tho, you will think after previous experiences they wouldve learned something. Ain't no way.
Confirmation, Confirmation, Confirmation!! That’s why ABSTINENCE = TOTAL PEACE OF MIND 🙏🏼 just saying...As always, I appreciate Life Coach Tony Gaskins unapologetic advice on everyday relationships - the truth! You and your beautiful family continue to Stay Blessed! 🙏🏼
Abstinence has definitely been my peace
And peace is priceless! Tonys videos have helped me see the light. Abstinence is the key!
“Lil ugly in the background “🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
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He said he gonna have a website and just sell brake pads 😂😂😂😂😂 like who says that
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The more I listen to these videos and examine my past, what Tony has said in the past, that when we are not living in our purpose, we get entangled in so much stuff. We have way too much time to do so much damage to ourselves instead of growing, changing and healing and being an agent of change. Thank the Lord for Tony who always teaches staying on the narrow road.
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-Y’all better listen to what Tony’s saying he’s saying the absolute hard truth. I once heard one of my male coworkers say “there’s not ONE of his female FRIENDS back home in TX he wouldn’t smash “ and he’s the type to have women lusting after him left & right. Don’t be naive 🤣
See!!! Heen lying LOL
This video is humorous, but real talk.
A whole draggginnng ... I gaggged 😂😫😭🤣 He read her to filth, but it was the ugly truth 🙆🏾♀️😫😅
Dude waited 25 years to plow the field. Girlfriend about to be rode hard and laid out to dry.
Men will get back with you to get you back and then put you on your back. 💯 I’ve seen it happen. It’s part of the game. It’s fun for him. He’s not serious. He’s just having fun. If he was serious, he would have cut her off as soon as you both reconnected. He would have ditched her pregnant and all. Men can be cold hearted like that if they need to be and choose to be
I get called insecure and controlling for not allowing all that “female friend” bs in my committed relationships. I don’t care though, because what gain would you be getting from another woman that you couldn’t get from your partner? Especially if you have other female family members in your life who play an active role. You have male friends, you have female family, and you have a girlfriend. A female friend is compartmentalism of women. You just want them so you have other women easily accessible to you if ever you get the chance to.
i feel you, sis, same same over here....Are you and your man still together?
He is with both women. Tell him goodbye and keep it moving.
He was dead on about the way a man thinks the worst of you. I had the same experience with my husband where he said I was getting sloppy about my “cheating” and all I did was go to work and come home.
Yes, I got accused of everything when I hadnt even had a thought about it. It just meant that it was his own guilt working overtime!!
He's kicking rocks while listening to Boys to Men!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣😭😭🤣😂
"He's the last option of your life, not the love of your life." Ohhhhh I 😂 laughed, but I felt that Tony!!🤦🏾♀️
Men are vengeful for sure. Hmm.
I have been victim to this very topic. My ex husband got a blessing from his BF to marry me. Found out later that her very own marriage proposal did not workout. She began to confide in and pursue my husband and all hell broke loose. I saw the signs but couldn't leave yet bc I was nursing him back to health(long but interesting story), in between jobs and getting my renters out of my home. I made my plans, stuck to it and left the day after New Years. He and the BF had a child that they thought I knew nothing about. Fast-forward to the end of story... BF is single, he doesnt see or take care of the baby, she's not married. My Ex is partially paralyzed (not by me), lost everything. Im divorced and will use this story to help others. Thanks Tony for reminding me that its time to start writing my book and telling this story to help others.
And that’s exactly what happen because he loses respect/ value for the friend who would even entertain that seriously.
Man, you are so entertaining while giving solid information!😂😂❤
I know right
20 years and now divorced. Do you know these so called "friends" have hit me up.............and they are married? Listen to Tony. He ain't lying. Just keep living. Keep those legs closed ladies.
I’m loving Talks with Tony because it’s great to see your advice applied to real world scenarios, no matter how outlandish they may be!
Agreed !
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Some of you all in the comments judging and making fun of this lady need to stop. You've looked the same way she has and someone had to have patience and grace with you. I'm just saying, no need to rub it in in that manner.. Be nice because guess what.. all these vids y'all watching.. but YOU'RE NEXT.
I don't understand it either ...I know you have to make light of things sometimes to get the point across but at the end of the day Tony is being really serious ...seem like folk think this is comedy ????? There are lessons be learned from every one and every situation....I don't know what this lady thought Tony would say to her however I do hope she will listen and take some action for her life and her happiness 💕🙏🏾💕
Exactly. It's so easy to judge when you're not in the situation. Love makes you do crazy things.
They won't be next if they apply wisdom.
@@nikkyshamz2696 The wisdom here is: "Judge ye not lest you be judged. For with the same measure you use it will be measured back to you.". "If" Conditional. Yes they are next unfortunately. (Some are already..present, others past, others future.).
Exactly! Every woman has played a fool for some man in their life at one point or another. The situation may have been different, but a fool is a fool. So, just because you have gotten past certain seasons does not put you in the position to judge.
I don't normally comment but I was not expecting a WHOLE ROAST tonight! put everyone and their motives on blast fr. This video offered the whole perspective and reality of many relationships 😳 haha listen to it twice!
Tony is TOOOOO real!!!!! 🔥🔥🔥🔥
Tony dont bite his tongue na😂❗
Merry go round you don’t know him just because y’all knew each other yeaarrrssss ago...give yourself time to heal...moving too fast & doing too much too soon
Trying to recapture the past before things got crazy. So, wanting to go with what’s familiar instead of healing.
"That's the Democrat's, votes for Joe Biden..." "NO IT AIN'T 😒😑 that's code for YO BODY"
oooh I that got me laughing good 🤣🤣🤣
If you listen to/read the lyrics of “You make me wanna by Usher”, that confirms everything Tony said. Usher is a grown boy and it describes what he wants to do with his “best friend”.
Wow Tony thank you for saving this lady I pray ! what women wants her male friend in the delivery room with her there’s no shame or modesty in that room when pain gets severe trust me !!! that’s all the red flags she needed It’s his baby period! God Bless you my spiritual son please keep preaching the truth in Love , She’s gotta go !!
Yessss!! That is what I was thinking. It’s HIS baby!!! Exactly!!!!!!!!!
This is very true. Men and women CANNOT be friends without an ulterior motive. Thank you, Mr. Gaskins.
This sound so familiar...I'm in the same situation as a best friend to a male friend...Thanks for eye opening AGAIN
This story might have some holes like Swiss cheese now ...
Tony!! You’re going there. So many women need to hear this. At 20 I was the female friend. We were in undergrad, worked together and lived in the same complex as a result of our jobs. His Gf was in a different city but would always come to see him at his job (our job) - she knew he was a dog in heat . I was naive and really appreciated a male friend for campus escorts , and just genuinely believed we were best friends until the inappropriate comments started. Obviously I kept boundaries but he tried it! And when I shut him down, he dropped his “bestfriend”. These lil boys do what you allow. His girlfriend married him...
@d f I appreciate that. I’m learning and growing
I hope that grown boy turned into a grown man if she married him❤
OK ?!?!?
The straight men I know want to be sexual. They refuse to be friends with me. My male best friend is gay. I tried to be friends with straight men over the years to no avail. A woman told me that women have to teach men to be friends with them. It hasn't worked for me. Gaskin is right on this.
Gotta go!!!✈
24:47 🤣47:29😂 very true and men will stay to play with that kitty kat and be gone when they’re ready for the woman they truly want.
lol 😂 ikr
You are so right... no man is bestfriends to a woman. He will try you.. I had a guy friend who waited 4 years to try to sleep with me & at the time I was still saving myself and not sleeping around he said exactly this WORD FOR WORD LADIES “I respect what you doing and all but not tryna have any females around me that’s not trying to have s**”. Please listen to Tony!!! 🙏🏽🙏🏽 he’s not wrong at all.
What you allow is what will continue!!! He making a fool outta you and you in yo feelings !! If he knew you was the "one" then he would come in knowing and showing you that! He running game and you need to be running!!!
What does a man need with a woman friend if he has you??? Men think differently. If it's not a business relationship, he either wants to screw her or has. Go and be a man's best friend and see how that works out for him, you'll see another reaction unless he doesn't take the relationship seriously and if thats the case LEAVE. Let's stop acting like we don't know this. Men are wired differently. They're creatures, that's just the way God made them. That is why as Women, we are their help mates. We are their guides. A mature man won't even trust himself to be friends with another woman because he knows this better. That's why women end up in situations talking about he left you for another woman. Yeah, the same one you allowed him to have. His legal sidechick.
I’m 51, never in my whole life did I have a man as a friend/BF.
@@marciloni12 I have but don't recommend it. No man can be a woman's friend because they think differently and eventually will want to date you or have sex with you.
All I want sis to do is take this advice and keep it moving. There is no need to meet up to get to know the best friend either.
Side note: When the red flags present themselves, don't come up with your own scenarios to downplay them. Just move and save yourself from a lot of chaos, confusion, and soul-ties. Have a blessed day, Blessed Tribe ❤
This is eye opening.
Ladies who he confides in is who he trusts,loves,and will go to war for.
How he makes you feel in a relationship is how he feels about you!
💯💯💯💯 Yup, got that tested on my own skin. you said no lies, sis! 💔
@@AmericanDreamer Truth!
Tony, I wish I had your advice about 20 years ago. I've been through so much with different men. You could've saved me some heart ache. I am now happily celibate and not dating for the past 2 years.
I LOVE Tony Gaskins!!! SO GOOD! Some women don't know boundaries. They can't be talking to married men and expect to be respected by other females. No female likes homewrecker or women who flirt or send mixed messages to married men!
2 videos a day that’s a blessing.
Yesssssssss
Major blessings
This is a fact. I have a girlfriend that was friends with her male bestfriend for over 15 years as well and ended up dealing with him on the side while he was with another women. Telling her all her business and she would come back telling me. I had to cut her off. Things like this may sound crazy but it actually happens!
And it's wrong and that's why karma exists.
It’s very true. Men and women can’t really be friends without emotional feelings being tied. I’m friends with an ex and he likes to say “best friends”. I just say “friends” because he is here for me when I need him and vice versa. we do talk about his dates he goes on and all. He is even here for me when it comes to my kids. He just took my son to his first job interview. So yes we are friends however, I’m no fool. This man is very genuine yes but at the same time this man is still in love with me. This is why he sees me as his “Bestfriend” wishing one day that I will see him the way he sees me.
He's so right straight men don't normally have female friends unless something else is going on. My friend thought she was friends with a guy for 10 years n recently he confessed he has loved her for years smh. Now she still trys to be friends but it's just not possible.
I wish she hadn't got on her back so soon 🤦🏾♀️cause she's created a stronger soul tie with this man and its setting up to be like a competition between the two ladies for this man's attention (ya'll know how some of us are🙄) It would have been ideal to have peeped his situo from the jump and told him "yeah you handle all that over there and I might or might not be over here when you, her and the baby figure stuff out." I can't do drama no more, especially drama that's not of my own making. God Bless her
Yup, but she can still chuck it all to the deuces once she decides to
All the dislike are the grownboys and the loosebooty’s. U hear me! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
“Once you know how to ride it you know how to ride ittttt” and “you’re like a candle in the sun” omg lol 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 i can’t take him with all of these faces he be cutting up lol
Oh my lord, when Tony started singing "It's been a loooooooong, long time coming" 🎶 I lost it 😭😭😭
I hollereddddddddd 🥴🥴🫠🫠🫠😩😩😩😂😂😂😂 the message is always solid though 🙌🏾👌🏾💯
“Look at me, I’m Captain Save ‘Em!” TG. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
He’s the father that’s why he can’t let her go.
Looooordd this man got me over here holllinnn laughing 😂 😂 😂 Po Tink Tink AINT learned nothing in 48 years! Help her Jesus
Uncle Tony is always spot on. Recently when he mentioned that when you go on a date with a man and offer to pay YOUR portion, it makes you stand out in his mind. Welp.. Uncle Tony was right. Tuesday I went on a first date. When the check came I offered to pay my portion. He looked at me and said "of course not" the next day when we were on the phone his exact words were "it's refreshing to go on a date with someone that offered to pay for something. Although, I wouldn't allow you to pay but it means a lot. Because nowadays ppl are takers"
@Splendidly Human I guess it depends on the man..how he sees it.
@Splendidly Human Do you think age has anything to do with it? What's the age range of most of these men? ( just curious)
Because you offered, be careful. His response was that it was refreshing. Just be careful with your money. That’s all. I had a man that would give me money here and there just to help out, but later... the tables turned, and he started asking me for money
Sis, you did exactly what Tony did say to do on the first date and that's right there's nothing desperate here paying your half gives you more value, now some people just listen to listen, they don't pay attention they don't get the message right they may get the message but don't know how and when to apply it in life situations they just confuse and mess up everything. That's sad.
@@frankysuzanne1049 Looks like different men see it differently. Go with your gut.
Don’t play yourself sis..... been there done that waisted time! He lied had a whole girlfriend then whole time! I was hurt but cut him off blocked him on social media & moved on. just leave this man.
Ok I know this is weird but ... if that's your actual photo profile pic you're stunningly pretty 😶
Yup she’s model material God Bless!!
Evidently she has two possible father's. CB is a possible father and the ex that doesn't want to have anything to do with her and the baby. He's probably planning to get a paternity test after the baby is born. He's not telling you this parrt. If he's the father he's dropping you.
I think he got the bf pregnant 🤷🏽♀️
All I need to here is hey hey Tony Gaskins here and it’s a like! Already know the message gonna be good! Those dislikes are the adversary.
That’s the Democrats 😂. I’ve been still getting them text messages like crazy
Tony took me out with that one!!! "BIDEN" hahahaha
Tony is on point , he’s never been wrong never !we really don’t know men , thought I did until I started listening to Tony I recognized a lot of things immediately.
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I have watched this probably about 5x. I can’t with this man 🤣🤣
You can read you a book, that’s your friend 😂😂😂
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“Who is this?”
“That’s the Democrats read the message”
“No it ain’t, that’s code for i want your body not Joe Biden”
“SWIPE SWIPE”
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I’m doneeeeee
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I bet that's his baby. He needs to be there for the birth because it's his baby.
AMEN!!!!!
As soon as she said “friends for 15 years” I was like nope, he’s not the one sis. It does not take years for a man to know that you’re the one. I hope she moves on.
He was a distraction that looked like destiny. 👀🤯
Surrender the whole relationship to Jesus.🏳️