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Hi Tony, i was married and have children with a pro athlete, but i got dragged through the mud, got cheated on and got left several times by my ex husband. But i stopped dealing with his grown boy behaviour when i found out i was pregnant by our 2nd child. I held him accountable for his actions and he decided to walk out on us..it was the hardest decision i had to make because i knew i was going to struggle mentally and financially, but when i look at how silent and peaceful me and my daughters life is, i know i made the right decision to walk out.. i dont have the fancy clothes, expensive vacations, luxury house and big cars, but my babies never complained ONCE. I rather struggle than to eat out of my x hb hands ever again. Thanks for keeping it real with us 24/7, may God bless you 🙏🏽❤️
You are so strong and you are AMAZING! Make sure you read that again. The Lord is and will always be your provider. May He continue to bless you, comfort you and may the man HE has for you, find you. God bless you, sis! ♥️
I agree, women get so caught up in the glitz and the flashiness that they don't take the time to see him underneath all that stuff. Just because he has money and material things, doesn't make him a good man. I dated lots of men with money, good jobs, education, etc...when I got to know him as a person, he turned out to be a self-centered, insecure, controlling a$$hole. He gets dumped immediately.
Are women really this way?? I ask because I don't personally know any female like this! I live in Australia so maybe its different here than in the US. I dated a guy with ALOT of money, he would pick me up in a Lamborghini, get VIP treatment, taken to the best restaurants, wined and dined ect ect but his character was not right, so I stopped contact with him easily. If a man doesn't have good character then I don't want him. Period.
Noticing men don't desire to be a good husband but brags about being a good father. A good father is being a good husband also. It teaches the children so much value.💛✌🇺🇸😇🙏
I was just talking about this on My IG story..An ambitious, hard working man will never be broke. I can NOT be bought ! Periodt! Being treated with respect and adored..that’s my love language.
That may be true of " some " women but, my mother instilled " values " in me. I have never nor will ever be bought by a man. I put myself through college and worked extremely hard to make something out of my life. I really don't get off on " material " things or being a walking billboard for designers so, maybe I'm in the minority. I praise God for all of the many things he has blessed me with. 🙂🙏🏾
I’m with you sister! I put myself through college for that very reason. I saw my sisters, cousins, friends being emotionally abused, cheated on and bought and it fueled me to get my own and stand on my own. Bought my first townhome while single and no kids. Keep pushing forward...and true love will find us. Many blessings to you sweetie! Thanks for sharing
You would be surprised. Im one of four sisters & though we were all raised the same, I’m the only one truly living like I am responsible for taking care of myself, with or without a man. I just want to shake the you know what out of all of them. 🤦🏾♀️ 😔
In going threw this right now have to fight him for my baby back we broke up 2016 last year life changed 2 days ago he called my phone saying i shouldn't have i was suppose to stay after i came back to work it out he stayed out all. Night never looked back he had a baby dealing. With the same girl he stayed out with we had a big wedding 2 months before that
I’m a single Dad and I really do not understand how any man can try to take a child away from their mother. Outside of cases of abuse, na. I’m sorry to hear y’all going through this. Co parenting is hard but that man need to honor that honestly children are closer to their momma. My daughter is. Let me tell y’all, a real Man of God would not take a young lady to court for custody. He should be mature enough to pay that support, and keep a consistent schedule. Idk what’s up with these new dudes. I run a business and be honored to co parent and play my part. We a team.
I know someone right now who is unwilling to leave because of the lifestyle he provides. All the while carrying on several other relationships, and driving her crazy to the point she has tried to commit suicide. So, not only is this Queen crying in the Audi, she is about to die for it too. What did Lauryn say, "Babygirl, respect is just the minimum!" Guard your gates Queen, and like Tony said, "Come to the table with your own bag!"
I’ve walked away from a few guys with money. They came to me with a cocky attitude as if they already knew they was gonna “win”. The attitude alone set off red flags for me and sadly so far proved to be true that their characters were not so good. Their egos were hurt. I could discern the anger as I let them know it wasn’t a match. Ladies keep your standards and values.
This is such a good message. I’ve never looked for a man with money because most of the ones that were interested in me had some of the worse character. They felt that they were able to disrespect women because of their money and I quickly shut them down. I always looked for character and sometimes I was fooled and other times I wasn’t. We have to pay attention to the signs early and save ourselves the heartbreak.
I feel so uncomfortable when a guy tries to offer me too much too soon. My intuition and gut feeling is on alert and I could not go through with the process. In the end I know it's a transaction that may cost me my life. Recently, a guy who treated me by buying me some nice items and we both made it clear in the beginning tried to throw it in my face (not literally) as if I owed him a "date" and he owns my time. That situation happened in 2018 and it's still being held over my head and it's funny. Time changed and so did I so I NO longer accept or be fooled by what's in a man pockets let alone what he's giving me.
So men get angry when women chase them for the money but no one is angry that men only chase women for their beauty . Most of these athletes date only beautiful women for their exterior so why are they expecting that women will stay with them through thick and thin. The older o women get the less valuable she's. She's ain't gonna wast her beauty on a broke men so she jumps to a richer men. But if they chose someone for their interior they won't be afraid to be left for being broke.
I’ve gotten to the place where money will not change my opinion on how I view my self worth. From experience my happiness and my peace is all thar matters to me at this point.
It's such a nasty dirty feeling when a person tries to buy you. Quickest way to get blocked. I haven't met a rich man who didn't make me sick to my stomach...just empty and many of them lack basic substance and integrity
@Harriet O I've met them all....it just boils down to them wanting to experience you at any cost....not knowing I could care less about bags or trips....give me you. If you're not emotionally available keep the rest....
@@broco6608 yea unfortunately the poor ones too smh it's learned thru experience and I waited late to date ....jist was naive and too trusting ....it happens
Thank God I never cared about gifts. I've turned down many material things because I didn't like the guy and didn't wanna use him. I'm a spend time type of woman, and acts of service.
I agree that money is not the only factor, but it should not be totally ignored. Financial stability is as important to a woman as sex for a man. Now it should not be the only focus, but in my experience men who don't have money in their pockets have a lot of time on their hands to pretend to be the perfect man, supportive and the nicest for years! It's wonderful to be independent as a woman, but are you supposed to work when 8 months pregnant or just given birth and not rely on your husband financially at all?! Its not sustainable, and after spending years on these 'nice' men you find out they ultimately lacked character, integrity, responsibility and were plain lazy. Ladies let's not be bought with money, instead lets include certain level of financial responsibility as a standard in addition to character and integrity! A man appreciates the woman he works for and invests in with his time, effort, character and money.
"He feel that track and see that glue on the side " heavenly father, I had to go back a few times on that, lol. Love these videos for the TRUTH and comedy.
I KNOW what I NEED to do... but the lack of "following thru" haunts me. Im not even looking for "money"...bc I'm used to taking care of myself. Honestly it's the desire to be loved....And yeah I know the love SUPPOSED to come from within. And yes..I "know your worth" is where the confirmation of love comes from....but it's so hard to go it alone....Divorced.... 45...not getting any younger....just so frustrating.... WHY does it have to be so hard?
Jacqueline!! I know exactly how you feel. I’m 28 and it is just as hard. Nobody really wants anything solid and they think all women just want money, I am the complete opposite. I know that people always say you have time, but when you have a certain set of values and morals, it bothers you. Like seriously.
@@shenaniganswithshannera7772 Thanks...and that's soo true. I'm NOT saying I'm an angel....but I'm noticing no matter HOW wonderful u are... or try to be...guys just aren't trying to talk for real....Unless u're speaking "their language" if u know what I mean..... Ridiculous.... Men at 45 ....well some...but a GOOD BIT.. STILL GROWN BOYS.... again.... RIDICULOUS....🤔🥺😓
Mr Gaskins I'm not sure if you realise how powerful you are. I have never in my life seen this many women change their life. When you speak and tell us the truth we are 💯 with you! You have the ability to start a world movement. God bless you and your family and thankyou for your service🙏
Sad but true, it’s a reality us women must accept.I personally know successful women (lawyers/doctors) who have gotten married with more successful men and tolerated mediocracy from the beginning just because the man is able to provide a certain luxurious lifestyle they want. There are a lot of women out there who are professionally successful but lack standards and only worry about keeping up with the Joneses. More common than we care to admit.
I make decent money ...so if a man acts funny style trust and believe I can pay for my meal myself ..so a a man cant buy me I have chanel, ysl and vuitton on my own no loans no scamming just working ...paid of my school loans with my dads help..so trust me if i get with a man he has to be doing better in all aspects of his life not only money...I treat myself to material thinngs on my own so a man do it its just extra.
I left my first marriage and had it made as far as finances go. I got to stay home with our daughter, always had my hair and nails done, drove a nice paid for car, was left money on the daily just for spending on what me and my daughter needed. I knew if I stayed, I would have a life of vacations, never having to work but I was unhappy and not in love with my husband. We got pregnant after knowing each other for 2 months. I stayed for 7 years total, and decided that I'd rather wait tables, go to school, struggle and make it on my own to be truly happy. And I dont regret leaving at all. Money doesn't bring happiness. We had no connection, no affection, nothing in common, age gap. I gave up the "easy" life for a life of happiness.
One man said to me once 'when you open your legs do it with a rich man because they are all the same and at least you'll have money' - I didn't take his advice. I came as a student to London UK when I was 19yo. I met a Turkish man who really wanted to be my boyfriend. He looked after me. He was nice at first. He started being jealous and possessive, and I had a feeling he was doing some illegal business. I moved out when he wasn't home. I got a job and never allowed this situation again. Life is not easy and I am happy I am my own person. I don't owe anyone anything. I like doing things for people, never selfish.
A man with no money? Sis, raise your standards. And he was probably lying about his financial status or he found someone else that can use. Either way, you are better off without him,
A lot of women refuse to check these rich men because they’re not even in it for the “right” reasons. Any attempt to correct him or put him in his place will stop the cash flow. Some women have a roster of 3-5 men all giving them money at once while they’re on the hunt for husband material. A friend of mine is seeing 4 men at a time and they’re all paying for stuff. One pays her utilities, the other pays her mortgage, the other pays her car note and the last one pays for her student loans. When she finds a man who can replace what these 4 men are doing, she will drop them like a bad habit. A woman won’t waste time checking a man who only serves a temporary purpose in her life. Remember that women today are multi dating now and it’s pointless to put your energy into someone you only see as a temporary atm. 🤷♀️ As long as the money is coming in, she doesn’t care if they’re consistent because she doesn’t want them finding out about each other. If one of them ghosts for 2 weeks then comes back, they’re doing her a favor by leaving her the time and space to find her real husband. When you’re juggling multiple men, minimal communication is ideal.
Great video . I left the grown boy he had more money than me and tried to tell me I could not make it with out him I told him the lord is my provider . And boy did God provide 🙌🙌🙌.Got to go!!!!!!!
Lmbo!😂 Tony, you are absolutely 💯 on every point, especially when the friends say " Gurl keep him, keep him, keep him!"😂 I am so thankful that I didn't ever let a man think he can buy me bc something isn't right about him from the start.🙌🏾💃🏾
It goes both ways. There are women who have helped their man move up financially. And when he gets his money up, good credit, the nice cars, he leaves the woman who was there for him when he had nothing. And because the woman has her own, the man gets off without paying as much child support or alimony. No, women shouldn't be bought. But she should still look at whether he can offer some financial stability.
This is why when my date asked what kind of wine I enjoy, I said I dont drink because he was successful and I'm NOT ABOUT to tell him that I like 5.99 4pac Moscato and Zinfandel. Not me!
I was recently talking to a guy, whom spend alot of money on me, and once he became controlling I was out, and he had the nerve to bring up the fact that he spent money on me, so I explained to him I didn't care what he spent or done, I will never allow money control me...period
Tony, this is so true....no matter what most women will admit! To be honest, without the toxicity, I definitely want a grown man who has his stuff together! I ain’t no gold digger, had enough broke men!!! 😂😂😂 I absolutely will not put up with being mistreated though! I know my worth, and as a single mother of 4 grown children, “I’ve been bringing the table; to THE TABLE!!!!
I was in a relationship with a man and he would used money and gifts as his way to think I would stay and deal with his bs. Nope I walked right out of his fancy ass house with fancy toys and tech with $1000.00 I threw at hom that he gave me bc he was full of bs lies and games. He called me I blocked and deleted him out my life. I want quality of a man heart and true intentions rather quantity. So no I definitely wasn't bought ever I had my own house my own car my own career and raised my son by myself so I was good b4 him and great after i left him.
Thanks coach T. Thats one thing I was never able to do(be brought) it just never set right in my spirit. I was blessed to have parents that showed and taught me how to get things for myself and the value in doing so. Grateful for the reminder 🙏
The chewing on the steak had me laughing😆 I’ve seen what you’re talking about and it’s sad. All I know is that having my own is very important. Thank you Tony and be blessed. It’s always nice seeing your adorable son.
Life is too short to settle for something that could not truly fulfill your heart and soul.. Thank you for sharing your knowledge, gifts and advices.. God bless your soul and your family. Thankful that I discovered your channel.
It's a lot more to life than material items and money. Many women are more likely to deal with nonsense when money, and titles, are attached. I'd rather keep my peace. I ain't knowingly putting myself through mess again; money or barely making it. Edit: Ain't had a man with substantial money or one who has taken me on any trip yet... When he comes, he's coming with integrity and character FIRST.
I love when Tony say your back sounding like your bike😂😂😂🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 you my boy tho! U have help me tremendously! I thank God for u🙏🏼🥰 I’m being heal as I wait on The Lord to allow my divorce to become finale!
A scammer came to my facebook telling about being a widower & his from Britain born in Malaysia, his looking for a wife😥2 day's later he says I want to shop for you nice things give me your address,mind you I'm from Africa & they think we are thirsty for things😃..i told him I don't need nothing from you!!he blocked me😂😂😂..thank you Tony for the knowledge
A brother cut me off after knowing me a month because I didn’t get my own business started yet he said he need a woman with her own business.. he knew I was still working for a company I was with for 4 yrs and I want to start my own business as well I told him this in the beginning he knew this. It hurt my feelings a little knowing he only wanted me for a business.
Cher H no he worked for a company at night he had a small landscaping business but than idk ... looks to me he was growing weed in his clients backyard 😒 he never showed me any of his landscaping work only his backyard He smoked to much weed to be 41 yr old man
Hmm... I've noticed that women hold one much longer than they should regardless if the man has money or not.There are plenty of women that are holding on to relationships with men that don't have to pennies to rub together.
Unbought and unbossed right here, even back in my younger broke days. If a man couldn’t treat me with care and respect I was quick to cut them off regardless of his income and I haven’t changed, heck I just dumped a well-off guy who had a M8, Porsche Panamera and a Range because he was immature and needy, but couldn’t even remember my birthday, which was 3 days after his🙄
No material things are not worth it..... you don’t see a uhaul behind a hearse. I just want them to be truly saved by God while having a daily relationship with him first before he has one with me.
This video is right on time I have been trying to talk to my friend over and over about this She is messing with a guy that constantly lie,, cheat and disappear..then he calls And say do you want something To eat or do you need gas money Or I can pay your cell phone for you..and she falls for it every single time..I say to her a man can't pay me to disrespect me
It’s best to use these men for their money and date a more serious man on the side. If a man is throwing cash at you, why refuse it? Also if a man disappears for hours on end, he’s giving you the time, energy and space for a better man to come into your life and steal you away from him. So he can’t be mad when this happens. No man who really wants you will allow gaps in communication for another man to enter your ear.
loved this message....laughed through the whole thing.... Tony definitely speaking truth,. As I listened though, I began to remember hearing someone say "if you want to know what a man loves, look at what he spends his money on"... therefore, instead of seeing yourself as a victim to this situation, recognize that you have some value to him... its important that you use that knowledge to empower yourself to draw the strength to stop thinking in the mindset of victim but as someone of value. Build on that so you can stand up and not feel like you have to allow him to walk on you... as you change how you see yourself...your circumstance will change... either it'll garner his respect or you'll gather the strength to proudly walk away.
The points you raise are so valid. It's easy to fall into these traps especially if you are starting to realise your value and feel you want men to invest more. I appreciate you breaking this down for us to see that money can't buy love. Yes it's very important but if I want something solid I have to look beyond. 🇿🇦
I appreciate this video. Tony you can definitely make your car chronicles your new thing. I appreciate the raw/no filter video. Make the car your other office time. I'm here for that. Much love to the bless tribe.
I had to make do and live with less than my ex provided for my mental health. You’re so right. $ isn’t a measure of character because the worst use is to control a situation. Any time he was about to close a big deal he would tell me “And you wanted to leave me...” after disrespecting & humiliating me numerous times.
Yes that's so true men going to take a short cut, if a short cut is available...I thank God for giving you the wisdom to share with use men and women....I believe God will give use wisdom and knowledge about relationships if we will to listen and apply the knowledge to our lives...Thank you for sharing...these topics have been at eye opening to me especially you were sharing about the difference between Grown- boys and Grown-mens...🙏🏽❤️🙌🏽
I can't say I haven't done what I had to do in the circumstance. But nothing like going without and putting love first. Loyalty is a good feeling. For richer or poorer. Start together and grow.
You are absolutely right 👏🏽 I had to learn that in my twenties swinging from the pole 🤔🤦🏽♀️ I'm much wiser now. I send your videos to friends and loved ones that don't listen to me but rather hear it from someone else🤷🏽♀️😂 Thank you for the content you and your wife have a handsome little fella 😍😇
Tony this is such a timely message because I know women who have been bought and you can tell by how they are only happy when they get a new purse or shoes because like you said we only seeing the good snapshot of her life and not the real truth. There are a lot of women who can be bought unfortunately and those of us who can't be bought become the b's stuck up, think we better than somebody but I rather be that than living in misery with my new purse, car, shoes, or house, like in Tyler Perry movie she was getting beat on a daily but because of his money her own mother who was slap crazy and living through her daughter convinced her to stay until she talked to her sister who had some sense. Keep doing what you do. Just don't get caught up doing so much for us and forget your beautiful family, there's always gone be somebody who gone disagree, delete, block. LOL
Instead of bragging about what you bought for yourself, wouldn’t it be smarter to save all your money and allow the man to buy you stuff? 🤔 Food for thought.
Gifts were my last one 10%... basically it’s emotional interpretation as a whole of 100% (so 100% of her/his makeup is divided into these everyday events) How a person perceives love from their conscious mind, this can change over time as the person become emotionally mature or experienced: List below: In words In service In gifts In quality time And intimacy. I hate gifts of “notice me!!!” I hate ego! Authenticity is RARE (the man with money has ego, man without money is either insecure and try to put doubt in the mind, there’s a 1 percent healthy masculinity... Healthy masculinity and femininity is continuous growth with spiritual guidance!
Preach Mr Tony this sounds like my Aunt getting beaten but staying in the relationship because my Uncles money...She ain’t got her own bag exactly nor ambition & ur right she won’t walk away years of abuse since I was a child
Hi Tony, i was married and have children with a pro athlete, but i got dragged through the mud, got cheated on and got left several times by my ex husband. But i stopped dealing with his grown boy behaviour when i found out i was pregnant by our 2nd child. I held him accountable for his actions and he decided to walk out on us..it was the hardest decision i had to make because i knew i was going to struggle mentally and financially, but when i look at how silent and peaceful me and my daughters life is, i know i made the right decision to walk out.. i dont have the fancy clothes, expensive vacations, luxury house and big cars, but my babies never complained ONCE. I rather struggle than to eat out of my x hb hands ever again.
Thanks for keeping it real with us 24/7, may God bless you 🙏🏽❤️
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I admire you, Queen❤
You are so strong and you are AMAZING! Make sure you read that again. The Lord is and will always be your provider. May He continue to bless you, comfort you and may the man HE has for you, find you. God bless you, sis! ♥️
be blessed Zina, good for you!
@@RubyRoxxie thank you sis for these words❤️ may God bless you
I don't care how much money a man has, if he mistreats me I'm out, deuces✌ My peace of mind is priceless, it can't be bought!
I agree, women get so caught up in the glitz and the flashiness that they don't take the time to see him underneath all that stuff. Just because he has money and material things, doesn't make him a good man. I dated lots of men with money, good jobs, education, etc...when I got to know him as a person, he turned out to be a self-centered, insecure, controlling a$$hole. He gets dumped immediately.
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Are women really this way?? I ask because I don't personally know any female like this! I live in Australia so maybe its different here than in the US. I dated a guy with ALOT of money, he would pick me up in a Lamborghini, get VIP treatment, taken to the best restaurants, wined and dined ect ect but his character was not right, so I stopped contact with him easily. If a man doesn't have good character then I don't want him. Period.
Very true. Its culturally different all over the world.
Exactly. I’ve dated wealthy men before too but the money couldn’t make me stay. If he isn’t a good match, it isn’t worth it to stay.
Yep...many are like this in the US
Period pooh.
I live in the US and have dated 2 men with money. I didnt experience this. Got to know facts from myths too
Noticing men don't desire to be a good husband but brags about being a good father. A good father is being a good husband also. It teaches the children so much value.💛✌🇺🇸😇🙏
YES!!!! But, I really do not think men view it this way.
Yes, great father, but terrible husband😒
@@kikic7637 Exactly sis! They equally need to be a great husband as well their sons are watching and taking notes! 🧐
I’ve seen this!
I have learned soO much from this video. Thank you Tony 🙏🏼
“As long as men know that women can be bought, men are not going to grow and to change.” TG
I💯agree with you. My cheating husband is always telling his friends that women can easily be bought with little dollars in Africa. He’s a grown boy
If a woman can be bought, she can also be sold.
Preach‼️🙌🏾
Preach !!
Amen Queen 👸🏾
Ouch!
That's a good one LeKeshia!
Your standards and morals should always remain the same no matter how much money a guy has!
I was just talking about this on My IG story..An ambitious, hard working man will never be broke. I can NOT be bought ! Periodt! Being treated with respect and adored..that’s my love language.
That may be true of " some " women but, my mother instilled " values " in me. I have never nor will ever be bought by a man. I put myself through college and worked extremely hard to make something out of my life. I really don't get off on " material " things or being a walking billboard for designers so, maybe I'm in the minority. I praise God for all of the many things he has blessed me with. 🙂🙏🏾
I’m with you sister! I put myself through college for that very reason. I saw my sisters, cousins, friends being emotionally abused, cheated on and bought and it fueled me to get my own and stand on my own. Bought my first townhome while single and no kids. Keep pushing forward...and true love will find us. Many blessings to you sweetie! Thanks for sharing
@@yvettemartinez4889 👍🏼💕🙏🏾
Real woman here !!! Mom told me to not depend on a man
@@Arizona_lilly 👍🏼
You would be surprised. Im one of four sisters & though we were all raised the same, I’m the only one truly living like I am responsible for taking care of myself, with or without a man. I just want to shake the you know what out of all of them. 🤦🏾♀️ 😔
The Story about the father taking the mother to court for full custody is soooooo true. And have everybody else raising the child! 💯💯
In going threw this right now have to fight him for my baby back we broke up 2016 last year life changed 2 days ago he called my phone saying i shouldn't have i was suppose to stay after i came back to work it out he stayed out all. Night never looked back he had a baby dealing. With the same girl he stayed out with we had a big wedding 2 months before that
Totally relatable 🙏
I’m a single Dad and I really do not understand how any man can try to take a child away from their mother. Outside of cases of abuse, na. I’m sorry to hear y’all going through this. Co parenting is hard but that man need to honor that honestly children are closer to their momma. My daughter is. Let me tell y’all, a real Man of God would not take a young lady to court for custody. He should be mature enough to pay that support, and keep a consistent schedule. Idk what’s up with these new dudes. I run a business and be honored to co parent and play my part. We a team.
My ex husband tried it. The judge look at him like he was crazy. Sir how with no income.
@@amimms5153 Continue to pray. It will work out. We both have custody.
Tony you know you’re telling the truth. Some women just don’t want to accept it 🤦🏼♀️
I know someone right now who is unwilling to leave because of the lifestyle he provides. All the while carrying on several other relationships, and driving her crazy to the point she has tried to commit suicide. So, not only is this Queen crying in the Audi, she is about to die for it too.
What did Lauryn say, "Babygirl, respect is just the minimum!"
Guard your gates Queen, and like Tony said, "Come to the table with your own bag!"
I’ve walked away from a few guys with money. They came to me with a cocky attitude as if they already knew they was gonna “win”. The attitude alone set off red flags for me and sadly so far proved to be true that their characters were not so good. Their egos were hurt. I could discern the anger as I let them know it wasn’t a match. Ladies keep your standards and values.
This is such a good message. I’ve never looked for a man with money because most of the ones that were interested in me had some of the worse character. They felt that they were able to disrespect women because of their money and I quickly shut them down. I always looked for character and sometimes I was fooled and other times I wasn’t. We have to pay attention to the signs early and save ourselves the heartbreak.
I agree
I feel so uncomfortable when a guy tries to offer me too much too soon. My intuition and gut feeling is on alert and I could not go through with the process. In the end I know it's a transaction that may cost me my life. Recently, a guy who treated me by buying me some nice items and we both made it clear in the beginning tried to throw it in my face (not literally) as if I owed him a "date" and he owns my time. That situation happened in 2018 and it's still being held over my head and it's funny. Time changed and so did I so I NO longer accept or be fooled by what's in a man pockets let alone what he's giving me.
Me too
That Birkin bag money would be in my bank account. I'll just get a Michael Kors bag instead and keep the difference...
I don't even need the MK bag I'll take a regular JCP bag for that matter.
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@@fah232 😂 Me too
@D F They have nice bags.
Who?Me too! A second hand bag is better than a no good man!
So men get angry when women chase them for the money but no one is angry that men only chase women for their beauty . Most of these athletes date only beautiful women for their exterior so why are they expecting that women will stay with them through thick and thin. The older o women get the less valuable she's. She's ain't gonna wast her beauty on a broke men so she jumps to a richer men. But if they chose someone for their interior they won't be afraid to be left for being broke.
I’ve gotten to the place where money will not change my opinion on how I view my self worth. From experience my happiness and my peace is all thar matters to me at this point.
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It's such a nasty dirty feeling when a person tries to buy you. Quickest way to get blocked. I haven't met a rich man who didn't make me sick to my stomach...just empty and many of them lack basic substance and integrity
@Harriet O I've met them all....it just boils down to them wanting to experience you at any cost....not knowing I could care less about bags or trips....give me you. If you're not emotionally available keep the rest....
Additionally, they're major ayeholes...
@@YaNa-xq4ll Weak men think being an asshole is good and say it like it's honorable .....I'm an asshole ....like ok and you need to grow up
@@broco6608 yea unfortunately the poor ones too smh it's learned thru experience and I waited late to date ....jist was naive and too trusting ....it happens
Yup.
Thank God I never cared about gifts. I've turned down many material things because I didn't like the guy and didn't wanna use him. I'm a spend time type of woman, and acts of service.
Me too Gurl
I agree that money is not the only factor, but it should not be totally ignored. Financial stability is as important to a woman as sex for a man. Now it should not be the only focus, but in my experience men who don't have money in their pockets have a lot of time on their hands to pretend to be the perfect man, supportive and the nicest for years! It's wonderful to be independent as a woman, but are you supposed to work when 8 months pregnant or just given birth and not rely on your husband financially at all?! Its not sustainable, and after spending years on these 'nice' men you find out they ultimately lacked character, integrity, responsibility and were plain lazy. Ladies let's not be bought with money, instead lets include certain level of financial responsibility as a standard in addition to character and integrity! A man appreciates the woman he works for and invests in with his time, effort, character and money.
men without money can be as abusive as men with money...trust me, i tried both. what we need are men with CHARACTER...
Totally agree on this one and it's reasonable for women to both want money and character
"He feel that track and see that glue on the side " heavenly father, I had to go back a few times on that, lol. Love these videos for the TRUTH and comedy.
Who needs a man when you have Tony Gaskin😂. Giving all his time away to help us.
I KNOW what I NEED to do... but the lack of "following thru" haunts me. Im not even looking for "money"...bc I'm used to taking care of myself. Honestly it's the desire to be loved....And yeah I know the love SUPPOSED to come from within. And yes..I "know your worth" is where the confirmation of love comes from....but it's so hard to go it alone....Divorced.... 45...not getting any younger....just so frustrating.... WHY does it have to be so hard?
Amen
Jacqueline!! I know exactly how you feel. I’m 28 and it is just as hard. Nobody really wants anything solid and they think all women just want money, I am the complete opposite. I know that people always say you have time, but when you have a certain set of values and morals, it bothers you. Like seriously.
@@shenaniganswithshannera7772 Thanks...and that's soo true. I'm NOT saying I'm an angel....but I'm noticing no matter HOW wonderful u are... or try to be...guys just aren't trying to talk for real....Unless u're speaking "their language" if u know what I mean..... Ridiculous....
Men at 45 ....well some...but a GOOD BIT.. STILL GROWN BOYS.... again.... RIDICULOUS....🤔🥺😓
Mr Gaskins I'm not sure if you realise how powerful you are. I have never in my life seen this many women change their life. When you speak and tell us the truth we are 💯 with you! You have the ability to start a world movement. God bless you and your family and thankyou for your service🙏
"Understand that you don't have to Understand to Understand" 😂 ironically it makes sense, God bless you TG
Sad but true, it’s a reality us women must accept.I personally know successful women (lawyers/doctors) who have gotten married with more successful men and tolerated mediocracy from the beginning just because the man is able to provide a certain luxurious lifestyle they want. There are a lot of women out there who are professionally successful but lack standards and only worry about keeping up with the Joneses. More common than we care to admit.
I make decent money ...so if a man acts funny style trust and believe I can pay for my meal myself ..so a a man cant buy me I have chanel, ysl and vuitton on my own no loans no scamming just working ...paid of my school loans with my dads help..so trust me if i get with a man he has to be doing better in all aspects of his life not only money...I treat myself to material thinngs on my own so a man do it its just extra.
Character is currency!!!
I left my first marriage and had it made as far as finances go. I got to stay home with our daughter, always had my hair and nails done, drove a nice paid for car, was left money on the daily just for spending on what me and my daughter needed. I knew if I stayed, I would have a life of vacations, never having to work but I was unhappy and not in love with my husband. We got pregnant after knowing each other for 2 months. I stayed for 7 years total, and decided that I'd rather wait tables, go to school, struggle and make it on my own to be truly happy. And I dont regret leaving at all. Money doesn't bring happiness. We had no connection, no affection, nothing in common, age gap. I gave up the "easy" life for a life of happiness.
One man said to me once 'when you open your legs do it with a rich man because they are all the same and at least you'll have money' - I didn't take his advice.
I came as a student to London UK when I was 19yo. I met a Turkish man who really wanted to be my boyfriend. He looked after me. He was nice at first. He started being jealous and possessive, and I had a feeling he was doing some illegal business. I moved out when he wasn't home. I got a job and never allowed this situation again. Life is not easy and I am happy I am my own person. I don't owe anyone anything. I like doing things for people, never selfish.
It's a shame! I had a man with no money and he left me anyway. Would not give me quality time.
A man with no money? Sis, raise your standards. And he was probably lying about his financial status or he found someone else that can use. Either way, you are better off without him,
This is what scares me. Give me a man with cash pls
My husband!
You have to find a man that meets your love language, or else it will never work out.
“The more money people make the less they cook their food” 💀☠️ oh Lord. I needed that laugh! Too funny.
A lot of women refuse to check these rich men because they’re not even in it for the “right” reasons. Any attempt to correct him or put him in his place will stop the cash flow. Some women have a roster of 3-5 men all giving them money at once while they’re on the hunt for husband material. A friend of mine is seeing 4 men at a time and they’re all paying for stuff. One pays her utilities, the other pays her mortgage, the other pays her car note and the last one pays for her student loans. When she finds a man who can replace what these 4 men are doing, she will drop them like a bad habit. A woman won’t waste time checking a man who only serves a temporary purpose in her life. Remember that women today are multi dating now and it’s pointless to put your energy into someone you only see as a temporary atm. 🤷♀️
As long as the money is coming in, she doesn’t care if they’re consistent because she doesn’t want them finding out about each other. If one of them ghosts for 2 weeks then comes back, they’re doing her a favor by leaving her the time and space to find her real husband. When you’re juggling multiple men, minimal communication is ideal.
She sleep with all 4?
Real women will not do that bec. that’s lb901
Great video . I left the grown boy he had more money than me and tried to tell me I could not make it with out him I told him the lord is my provider . And boy did God provide 🙌🙌🙌.Got to go!!!!!!!
So true!! Be sure you can finance yourself so you will never be tempted to hold on to someone because of money.
I have no price. I do judge by character. He worked for this heart. I hear you loud & clear. God bless you.
Lmbo!😂 Tony, you are absolutely 💯 on every point, especially when the friends say " Gurl keep him, keep him, keep him!"😂 I am so thankful that I didn't ever let a man think he can buy me bc something isn't right about him from the start.🙌🏾💃🏾
I work for my money and I give without expecting anything in return
It goes both ways. There are women who have helped their man move up financially. And when he gets his money up, good credit, the nice cars, he leaves the woman who was there for him when he had nothing. And because the woman has her own, the man gets off without paying as much child support or alimony. No, women shouldn't be bought. But she should still look at whether he can offer some financial stability.
A MAN OF GODDDTT‼️ I CAN'T withcu Tony, but gon head and PREACH ANYHOW!!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
This is why when my date asked what kind of wine I enjoy, I said I dont drink because he was successful and I'm NOT ABOUT to tell him that I like 5.99 4pac Moscato and Zinfandel. Not me!
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Gurllll 😅😂🤣🤣🤣
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Lmfao!!!
I was recently talking to a guy, whom spend alot of money on me, and once he became controlling I was out, and he had the nerve to bring up the fact that he spent money on me, so I explained to him I didn't care what he spent or done, I will never allow money control me...period
You are killing the game spilling all the teas 🍵 cousin! I truly appreciate appreciate it and am sipping it all up.
Tony, this is so true....no matter what most women will admit! To be honest, without the toxicity, I definitely want a grown man who has his stuff together! I ain’t no gold digger, had enough broke men!!! 😂😂😂 I absolutely will not put up with being mistreated though! I know my worth, and as a single mother of 4 grown children, “I’ve been bringing the table; to THE TABLE!!!!
"The more money people make the less they cook their food" lol nothing but facts 💯 I had to pause the video 😂😂😂
I was just wondering when you were gonna post!😍
This mess is so on point ...live within your means .. most of these men with money don’t have no standards are morals ..🙏🏽👌
MP "Man Please" 😂😂😂 Tony a mess LOL
Love car chronicles! You are truly committed and dedicated to your purpose uncle Tony. God bless you!
I was in a relationship with a man and he would used money and gifts as his way to think I would stay and deal with his bs. Nope I walked right out of his fancy ass house with fancy toys and tech with $1000.00 I threw at hom that he gave me bc he was full of bs lies and games. He called me I blocked and deleted him out my life. I want quality of a man heart and true intentions rather quantity. So no I definitely wasn't bought ever I had my own house my own car my own career and raised my son by myself so I was good b4 him and great after i left him.
Sounds like something I went through a year ago. All he did was talk about what he had...like dude please I’m content with what God has given me.
This is so trueee! I instantly thought of Lil baby & Jayda + Cardi & Offset ... Evelyn left her men when they got injured, cut or retired
Thanks coach T. Thats one thing I was never able to do(be brought) it just never set right in my spirit. I was blessed to have parents that showed and taught me how to get things for myself and the value in doing so. Grateful for the reminder 🙏
The chewing on the steak had me laughing😆 I’ve seen what you’re talking about and it’s sad. All I know is that having my own is very important. Thank you Tony and be blessed. It’s always nice seeing your adorable son.
Life is too short to settle for something that could not truly fulfill your heart and soul.. Thank you for sharing your knowledge, gifts and advices.. God bless your soul and your family. Thankful that I discovered your channel.
It's a lot more to life than material items and money. Many women are more likely to deal with nonsense when money, and titles, are attached. I'd rather keep my peace. I ain't knowingly putting myself through mess again; money or barely making it. Edit: Ain't had a man with substantial money or one who has taken me on any trip yet... When he comes, he's coming with integrity and character FIRST.
Exactly, there's nothing like having a peace of mind..
I love when Tony say your back sounding like your bike😂😂😂🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 you my boy tho! U have help me tremendously! I thank God for u🙏🏼🥰 I’m being heal as I wait on The Lord to allow my divorce to become finale!
A scammer came to my facebook telling about being a widower & his from Britain born in Malaysia, his looking for a wife😥2 day's later he says I want to shop for you nice things give me your address,mind you I'm from Africa & they think we are thirsty for things😃..i told him I don't need nothing from you!!he blocked me😂😂😂..thank you Tony for the knowledge
A brother cut me off after knowing me a month because I didn’t get my own business started yet he said he need a woman with her own business.. he knew I was still working for a company I was with for 4 yrs and I want to start my own business as well I told him this in the beginning he knew this. It hurt my feelings a little knowing he only wanted me for a business.
Trust, it was a blessing.
Evolving Love thanks sis I’m understanding now it was a blessing.
Did he have his own business? Tf lol you dogged a lame honey keep going
Cher H no he worked for a company at night he had a small landscaping business but than idk ... looks to me he was growing weed in his clients backyard 😒 he never showed me any of his landscaping work only his backyard He smoked to much weed to be 41 yr old man
@@PrincessAtarah7 he crazy af lol a hot mess.
Hmm... I've noticed that women hold one much longer than they should regardless if the man has money or not.There are plenty of women that are holding on to relationships with men that don't have to pennies to rub together.
Yep
THIS. Plenty of women with MEAN BROKE men.
Unbought and unbossed right here, even back in my younger broke days. If a man couldn’t treat me with care and respect I was quick to cut them off regardless of his income and I haven’t changed, heck I just dumped a well-off guy who had a M8, Porsche Panamera and a Range because he was immature and needy, but couldn’t even remember my birthday, which was 3 days after his🙄
No material things are not worth it..... you don’t see a uhaul behind a hearse. I just want them to be truly saved by God while having a daily relationship with him first before he has one with me.
This video is right on time
I have been trying to talk to my friend over and over about this
She is messing with a guy that constantly lie,, cheat and disappear..then he calls
And say do you want something
To eat or do you need gas money
Or I can pay your cell phone for you..and she falls for it every single time..I say to her a man can't pay me to disrespect me
It’s best to use these men for their money and date a more serious man on the side. If a man is throwing cash at you, why refuse it? Also if a man disappears for hours on end, he’s giving you the time, energy and space for a better man to come into your life and steal you away from him. So he can’t be mad when this happens. No man who really wants you will allow gaps in communication for another man to enter your ear.
Understand that you don’t have to understand... to understand! That was a word!
That's me 😭🤣the "tuhh**not me, not over here" one dfl.
Once again loving your videos& you're definitely speaking the Truth!💯God Bless you Tony🙏🏾❤️
I see what you're saying. Don't be money motivated, yet treat yourself with high value. Thx Tony.
loved this message....laughed through the whole thing.... Tony definitely speaking truth,. As I listened though, I began to remember hearing someone say "if you want to know what a man loves, look at what he spends his money on"... therefore, instead of seeing yourself as a victim to this situation, recognize that you have some value to him... its important that you use that knowledge to empower yourself to draw the strength to stop thinking in the mindset of victim but as someone of value. Build on that so you can stand up and not feel like you have to allow him to walk on you... as you change how you see yourself...your circumstance will change... either it'll garner his respect or you'll gather the strength to proudly walk away.
Love this!
The points you raise are so valid. It's easy to fall into these traps especially if you are starting to realise your value and feel you want men to invest more. I appreciate you breaking this down for us to see that money can't buy love. Yes it's very important but if I want something solid I have to look beyond. 🇿🇦
Yes Queen 👸🏽❤🇿🇦
Thank you! Coach Tony. This Right here is on time.
God Bless you Bro Tony, it's always good to hear from you it's right on time I just entertain the thought of have you did video today ☺️.
I've always said "I can be had, but I can't be bought." Your integrity is priceless!
Amen Cousin 🙌🏾 I’m making sure I can handle me so that I will not be bought 💯
I appreciate this video. Tony you can definitely make your car chronicles your new thing. I appreciate the raw/no filter video. Make the car your other office time. I'm here for that. Much love to the bless tribe.
I had to make do and live with less than my ex provided for my mental health. You’re so right. $ isn’t a measure of character because the worst use is to control a situation. Any time he was about to close a big deal he would tell me “And you wanted to leave me...” after disrespecting & humiliating me numerous times.
I’m here for the Blessing.
Thank you for the message..your son is so precious...a blessing from God :)
Yes that's so true men going to take a short cut, if a short cut is available...I thank God for giving you the wisdom to share with use men and women....I believe God will give use wisdom and knowledge about relationships if we will to listen and apply the knowledge to our lives...Thank you for sharing...these topics have been at eye opening to me especially you were sharing about the difference between Grown- boys and Grown-mens...🙏🏽❤️🙌🏽
So true Tony you are saying facts 🎯💯 never ignore the signs when a person show you who they truly are 🙏
You are a blessing!I enjoy your content so much and I tell others about you.
Tony, you are absolutely hilarious but also very informative. I love listening to you.
Great message Tony! 🙌🏼🙌🏼
" You got a ROACH bag not a COACH bag"- TG 😂😂😂
I can't say I haven't done what I had to do in the circumstance. But nothing like going without and putting love first. Loyalty is a good feeling. For richer or poorer. Start together and grow.
“I was like WOW” 🤣🤣🤣😂🤣 u crack me up
You are absolutely right 👏🏽 I had to learn that in my twenties swinging from the pole 🤔🤦🏽♀️ I'm much wiser now. I send your videos to friends and loved ones that don't listen to me but rather hear it from someone else🤷🏽♀️😂 Thank you for the content you and your wife have a handsome little fella 😍😇
Powerful message sir and its a reality.
Tony this is such a timely message because I know women who have been bought and you can tell by how they are only happy when they get a new purse or shoes because like you said we only seeing the good snapshot of her life and not the real truth. There are a lot of women who can be bought unfortunately and those of us who can't be bought become the b's stuck up, think we better than somebody but I rather be that than living in misery with my new purse, car, shoes, or house, like in Tyler Perry movie she was getting beat on a daily but because of his money her own mother who was slap crazy and living through her daughter convinced her to stay until she talked to her sister who had some sense. Keep doing what you do. Just don't get caught up doing so much for us and forget your beautiful family, there's always gone be somebody who gone disagree, delete, block. LOL
Ok, off topic but how adorably cute is your son 🤗
I know 🥰
He’s a doll 😩😍
A LIVING DOLL! ☮️♥️😀
Omgosh 🥺🥰
Thank u Tony G....Oh..and btw ur Son is too adorable..!!
Awwww 😍
This video info is so on point, the truth for real. God bless you brother Tony.
Tony you so on point with this one. %100 accurate
Behind every good man is his real queen.
I love the videos..make me more self conscious..and it has helped me made better choices and to look for better
Be Blessed!
Tony iam screaming 😭😭😭 great lesson every woman need to be 10 step ahead 🙌🙌
I can't be bought. I buy my own and have bought everything I own.
Let’s be honest with ourselves. WHO would buy you ??
@@loveself6396 👀👀👀 ouch...
@@loveself6396 Omg nooo girl, why you do her like that? 😂
Instead of bragging about what you bought for yourself, wouldn’t it be smarter to save all your money and allow the man to buy you stuff? 🤔 Food for thought.
Gifts were my last one 10%... basically it’s emotional interpretation as a whole of 100% (so 100% of her/his makeup is divided into these everyday events) How a person perceives love from their conscious mind, this can change over time as the person become emotionally mature or experienced:
List below:
In words
In service
In gifts
In quality time
And intimacy.
I hate gifts of “notice me!!!” I hate ego! Authenticity is RARE (the man with money has ego, man without money is either insecure and try to put doubt in the mind, there’s a 1 percent healthy masculinity...
Healthy masculinity and femininity is continuous growth with spiritual guidance!
Preach Mr Tony this sounds like my Aunt getting beaten but staying in the relationship because my Uncles money...She ain’t got her own bag exactly nor ambition & ur right she won’t walk away years of abuse since I was a child
Great message but the comedy had me crying! Thank you for telling us the truth!