"Transform Your Communication: Switch from Questions to Labels"

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  • Опубліковано 3 жов 2024
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 123

  • @EIGHT88888
    @EIGHT88888 21 годину тому

    "Lets switch hats... keep me out of trouble" love it.

  • @johnsciara9418
    @johnsciara9418 Рік тому +84

    I try to practice using labels with those telemarketing callers. When they start with "How are you doing?" I reply with a label, "It sounds like you've got something that you want to talk about". I haven't been able to practice much after my response, because they hang up right away.

  • @stepanov_architect
    @stepanov_architect Рік тому +50

    This channel is a goldmine.

    • @alexateodor
      @alexateodor Рік тому +3

      Yeees for sure, Chris is a goldmine. The man knows his stuff

    • @MaximusOne
      @MaximusOne 5 місяців тому

      I think the same thing whenever i see these videos.

  • @TristanChicklowski
    @TristanChicklowski Рік тому +40

    Even a couple years later. Its still amazing that your giving the presentation away.

    • @reprogrammingmind
      @reprogrammingmind Рік тому +4

      It's still amazing how you use the word 'your'.

    • @Christian_Prepper
      @Christian_Prepper Рік тому +1

      @TristanChicklowski *It's called reciprocity. I learned nearly 90% of his entire system just from studying over a dozen of his videos. I actually started practicing it with success.*
      *I couldn't help myself and ordered his book and studied all of it. Absolutely LOVE IT & HIGHLY RECOMMEND IT!*
      *Bought 2 more copies to give to my team.*
      *The true pros give more than they receive and in time they are rewarded beyond any of their concerns.*
      *Liberty = Peace & I pray you & your loved ones always enjoy both.*

    • @HowtoRestoreHeadlights
      @HowtoRestoreHeadlights Рік тому +1

      @@Christian_Preppersounds like you’re a pro?

    • @Christian_Prepper
      @Christian_Prepper Рік тому +2

      @@HowtoRestoreHeadlights *I strive to be.*

    • @MelodicSolar
      @MelodicSolar Місяць тому

      @@reprogrammingmindit feels like there may be a better way to bring the misspelling to their attention.

  • @skionen1781
    @skionen1781 Рік тому +13

    It sounds like these tactical Labels are immensely powerful to use

  • @dkdk-pd1vn
    @dkdk-pd1vn Рік тому +9

    The FBI hat switch was gold. Thank you for the presentation, really interesting and easy to follow!

  • @NelsonConroyRealtor
    @NelsonConroyRealtor Рік тому +17

    I’d love to work for you Chris! You , Brandon & Derek have changed my life ❤

  • @EndUzer
    @EndUzer Рік тому +7

    Chris your approach is a gem in a world of used coil

  • @tomjeff1743
    @tomjeff1743 Рік тому +8

    Looks like confident people usually have a great sense of humor

  • @evenlyanxious
    @evenlyanxious 10 місяців тому +2

    So basically this is a class on how to talk to a narcissist.
    I will always think your educational videos are epic even though I can't leave my house and communicate with nearly none except online.
    But, it's good stuff to think about. I want to work for you heh

  • @Killaken55
    @Killaken55 2 роки тому +80

    It sounds like you dislike when people don't practice labels Chris. (Silence)

  • @michaelhaney71
    @michaelhaney71 Рік тому +8

    Thanks for all you and your team do. You're the best 👌🏾

  • @townstunsltd6727
    @townstunsltd6727 Рік тому +13

    Thank you so much for intellectually and academically demonstrating the scientific power of words and word structures! It is all very fascinating and much appreciated, thank you.

    • @NegotiationMastery
      @NegotiationMastery  Рік тому +5

      You're very welcome!

    • @townstunsltd6727
      @townstunsltd6727 Рік тому +1

      ​@@NegotiationMastery It's really quite awesome what the Back Swan Group are doing... Thank you again. And all the very best.

  • @sunriseeternity300
    @sunriseeternity300 Рік тому +2

    Always a blessing #chrisvoss #hawkeyes #dealmaking #blackswangroup #enjoylife #communicate

  • @todddenen
    @todddenen 3 роки тому +5

    Love the amygdala and flow stuff.

  • @landrichplus
    @landrichplus Рік тому +1

    Thanks Chris, I learn a lot

  • @michaelgessel3042
    @michaelgessel3042 10 місяців тому +1

    Love this information so much!

  • @Pisiorek6
    @Pisiorek6 3 роки тому +4

    Very good video, Chris. Thank you!
    Now, let's go and try them.

  • @JaymeeKay
    @JaymeeKay Рік тому +1

    Seems like you are the boss, Chris. I'd watch you talk about anything.

  • @mariyaminkova9312
    @mariyaminkova9312 2 місяці тому

    Great lesson ! Thank you Chris!

  • @parklife101
    @parklife101 Рік тому +1

    Gold. Pure gold

  • @JillianPierone
    @JillianPierone Рік тому +2

    wow! this video came up at random and when you mentioned hostage negotiation, I was like, oh! that reminds me of one of my favorite books of all time! then I saw the #Chrisvoss tag and was like wait... (read description) it's one of my favorite authors of all time!
    Sir, I have recommended your book Never Split The Difference to dozens of family and friends through the years. I don't even have time to watch this video right now, but I plan to binge watch your channel as soon as I can ♡♡
    Thank you for your contribution to society ❤

  • @treasurethetime2463
    @treasurethetime2463 Рік тому +2

    Subscribed. Real deal material here.

  • @JeriHurtado
    @JeriHurtado 3 місяці тому

    Definitely appreciate the different effects

  • @carloseduardonaranjosuarez5917

    Thank you very much Mister Boss, great content, amazing

  • @wordTwoWise
    @wordTwoWise Рік тому +3

    “We don’t use labels for name calling” makes sense lol

  • @FitnHealthyOne
    @FitnHealthyOne Рік тому

    As a Patriots fan I found that funny. You’re a funny dude Chris 😂

  • @JacquelynnFaye
    @JacquelynnFaye Рік тому

    Chris, you could handle being our president. And you’d be the best we’ve seen in ages of ages. I’ll keep hoping, but heres the little seed I’m planting. 🌱

  • @ALICESMITH-k7f
    @ALICESMITH-k7f 10 місяців тому +2

    'I'm sorry YOU feel that way "is useful when conversing and they start hurtling insults or false accusations!

  • @acceleratedtrainingacademy
    @acceleratedtrainingacademy Рік тому

    Great new content coming out.

  • @turby6905
    @turby6905 Рік тому

    Pure gold

  • @andrewpatterson5650
    @andrewpatterson5650 11 місяців тому

    Also small town Iowa guy, learning your techniques

  • @Branden-eh8zq
    @Branden-eh8zq 2 місяці тому +1

    The last week I've rephrased my wording. Only one person objected. Result after 1 lesson.
    And the objection was due to a family member celibation of life.

  • @tomjeff1743
    @tomjeff1743 Рік тому +2

    Saber tooth tigers today are wearing suits with bright white smiles.

  • @suntoyfull64
    @suntoyfull64 Рік тому

    Great insights for taking rapport building to a much higher level

    • @NegotiationMastery
      @NegotiationMastery  Рік тому +1

      Glad you enjoyed it! Is it crazy for me to ask you to go to the quiz on our website to discover which kind of training is right for you? bit.ly/3N9MhWc

    • @suntoyfull64
      @suntoyfull64 Рік тому

      @@NegotiationMastery It is crazy... but Ima gonna do it anyways cause your sales technics are the best. Keep up the good work!

  • @radiumescape9633
    @radiumescape9633 3 роки тому +5

    Such a shame that this video has less than 1000 views

  • @acceleratedtrainingacademy
    @acceleratedtrainingacademy Рік тому

    Definitely see so many parallels with nvc

  • @HowtoRestoreHeadlights
    @HowtoRestoreHeadlights Рік тому +1

    The hat switch 😂😂😂😂

  • @vincentcorso1688
    @vincentcorso1688 Рік тому +1

    You guys are great
    Do you have any content that would be helpful in a job interview situation?

    • @NegotiationMastery
      @NegotiationMastery  Рік тому

      Hi Vincent! Great question! Here's an article by us that's specifically about using the skills during an interview: www.blackswanltd.com/the-edge/how-to-negotiate-your-way-into-a-job-4-tips-to-nail-your-next-interview

    • @NegotiationMastery
      @NegotiationMastery  Рік тому +1

      And definitely sign up for our newsletter---we're always giving great insights like these!

  • @USmetallist
    @USmetallist Рік тому

    Since MasterClass.... Chris Voss is master physiological explainer of RHETORIC!
    Where are the #POLITICIANS !?

  • @lindsayarinify
    @lindsayarinify Рік тому

    Wait a second, is that an Iowa Hawkeyes hat?! Iowa native here and I just happened to stumble across this

  • @alexateodor
    @alexateodor Рік тому

    Let's give you a comment for appreciation of the special text effect 😄youre cool

  • @Arquaizt
    @Arquaizt 8 місяців тому

    It seems like there would be alternatives or similar phrases to “that’s right” that one could be aware of during different negotiations instead of chasing that one particular set of words, am I wrong?

  • @VanleuvenRealEstate
    @VanleuvenRealEstate Рік тому

    lol let me switch hats dang that was pretty funny

  • @mbarnes297
    @mbarnes297 Рік тому

    Chris, Have you read the neuroscientist Lisa Feldman Barrett’s book, How Emotions Are Made? It presents a different perspective that you might find interesting.

  • @asserelmalhy9751
    @asserelmalhy9751 8 місяців тому

    Once you mentioned ASKING LABELS can you help me how to use it ?I can not find the video of it any more ..

  • @Youknowwhoin2024
    @Youknowwhoin2024 Рік тому +1

    Go Giants

  • @spontaneousbootay
    @spontaneousbootay Рік тому

    Ohhh. My old program was to say what the f? then label. Now i can just label and think clearly. And then proceed to ignore these tight ass people in peace.

  • @Harsh-kz6en
    @Harsh-kz6en Рік тому

    When one wears an Iowa Hawkeye hat they are immediately likable.

  • @harrynewhof3165
    @harrynewhof3165 Рік тому

    Many times on a cold call a potential clients will say “oh I’m not interested” or “oh we already have that.”
    How would I mirror or label that?

    • @NegotiationMastery
      @NegotiationMastery  Рік тому

      -Hi there! Great question! It sounds like our training would be a great fit for you. Go to the quiz on our website to discover which kind is right for you: bit.ly/3N9MhWc

  • @jeffreyvonstetten5852
    @jeffreyvonstetten5852 14 днів тому

    Christopher, I have a question I really need help with. I work in Natural product sales and lately we have had a lot of buyers just don’t even bother answering emails anymore. These are people that I have to have a relationship with, but I can’t negotiate with somebody that doesn’t answer an email. What can I do to help get a response that doesn’t jeopardize a further positive positive working relationship? They are holding our profits hostage and I need some negotiation help!

  • @LoveJJWiley
    @LoveJJWiley Рік тому +4

    I’m in HVAC service sales position coming from Doordasher and grocery delivery at 51😅. I have an opportunity to make my life better. My IQ suffers, but I really want to help others make a better than good right decisions. With little money, ACT score 16 which I took that standardized test used in the United States to assess high school students' academic readiness for college. And I struggle. What can I purchase or do to get the most out of this EQ

    • @NegotiationMastery
      @NegotiationMastery  Рік тому +1

      Start by visiting our website at www.blackswanltd.com for FREE resources like our E-Books also signup for our FREE newsletter. Every week give you negotiation tips to help teach you how to create trust based influence. Finally you can sign up for our online classes as well! Thank you for watching!

    • @LoveJJWiley
      @LoveJJWiley Рік тому

      Would be cool 😎 to half maybe past emails. I ask for too much?

    • @geo11122
      @geo11122 2 місяці тому

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      @geo11122 2 місяці тому

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      @geo11122 2 місяці тому

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  • @boynet2
    @boynet2 Рік тому +1

    in the "boss drive-by" why is he choose to label the positive? since we know negative is 3x in what instances we would like to label the positive insead of the negative?

    • @NegotiationMastery
      @NegotiationMastery  Рік тому +2

      Great question! When you label a negative it eliminates it. When you label a positive it reenforces it. So it's never a bad idea to label a positive.

  • @PrettyBlackMoney
    @PrettyBlackMoney Рік тому

    I was able to identify a label attempt yesterday. I was watching UA-cam with my mom and she refuses to pay for premium. A commercial comes on and he begins with, “I know I only have 2 minutes to get your attention “. It took me about 3 seconds to think before I noticed that it was using the labeling technique. I began to critique this label in my mind, because it didn’t fully connect. I was thinking, yes I heard that the attention span of people has declined, but that’s not what I was thinking when this commercial interrupted me and my mom’s video 😩 He would of been better off starting with, “I know you don’t want me interrupting your video, but……
    It seems that misplaced labels are beneficial in two way conversations, but not in one way communications such as tv commercials.

    • @NegotiationMastery
      @NegotiationMastery  Рік тому +1

      It sounds like our training would be a great fit for you. Go to the quiz on our website to discover which kind is right for you: bit.ly/3N9MhWc

    • @hallowman1699
      @hallowman1699 Рік тому

      Could you develop your thought please ? It sounds interesting

    • @PrettyBlackMoney
      @PrettyBlackMoney Рік тому

      @@hallowman1699 I was just telling a story about how I was able to identify a tv commercial that attempted to use labeling. However it wasn’t as effective because It didn’t identify what I really was thinking. I hope this clarified my comment for you. Try reading it again and let me know if you got it. I’ll also check to see if I should revise it.

  • @derdoofenschmertz951
    @derdoofenschmertz951 Рік тому

    36:30 people tell you a lot

  • @PaulERuss
    @PaulERuss Рік тому

    Vertical jumps to 30 feet?

  • @dewinjarju8133
    @dewinjarju8133 Рік тому

    Love the tree part. Only listened that but to finde out what this was about and it was beutiful

  • @wizkeyjack
    @wizkeyjack Рік тому

    Cool

  • @MrMrmetro
    @MrMrmetro Рік тому

    Can you include third-party negotiations sometime? Most of your excellent examples are 1st person, in other words, each party benefits from the outcome. An example would be an insurance company that has employees that are paid to deny, defer and delay your claim. They are negotiating with someone else's money. I find them to be impossible to deal with.

    • @NegotiationMastery
      @NegotiationMastery  Рік тому +2

      We have examples of that on our channel as well. Please look for any videos that talk about Deal Killers. Thank you for watching!!

    • @tomjeff1743
      @tomjeff1743 Рік тому

      ​@@NegotiationMasterySeems like you practice what you preach. You always end on a positive note. The last impression is the lasting impression. I can't seem to get enough of your insights. I'm truly grateful that I came across your book and podcasts.

  • @dbsk06
    @dbsk06 Місяць тому

    2:38

  • @danlhendl
    @danlhendl Рік тому

    Deals? Transactional empathy?

    • @NegotiationMastery
      @NegotiationMastery  Рік тому

      Looks like our training would be a great fit for you. Go to the quiz on our website to discover which kind is right for you: bit.ly/3N9MhWc

    • @danlhendl
      @danlhendl Рік тому

      @@NegotiationMastery it looks like a great fit for me in what regard?

  • @1996toyotacorola
    @1996toyotacorola Рік тому

    🙏

  • @PrettyBlackMoney
    @PrettyBlackMoney Рік тому

    💎💎💎💎💎

  • @tomjeff1743
    @tomjeff1743 Рік тому

    Label for boss in a hurry: looks like an unexpected crisis. Sounds like somebody just handed you a hot potato. Looks like something big just landed on your desk.

  • @jaredbrosn1780
    @jaredbrosn1780 Рік тому

    !!!!!!

  • @petsloveonly
    @petsloveonly Рік тому

    Chitta @sadhguru

  • @michaelvrchota4089
    @michaelvrchota4089 7 місяців тому

    CV - You want to give some love to the NY Giants? You give away too much information.
    When I am dealing with overwhelming and absolute power from the other side, work smarter?

  • @PedroPeyolo
    @PedroPeyolo Рік тому

    If i ever meet Chris, I'll ask "would you be against me giving you a hug??" 🫂 💜💚💜💚🙏🏼