I just went to town on my face. OUCH! I also have several wounds on my arm that are infected. I was doing really well for a while. As soon as I wake up I immediately pick...I'm so tired of looking like a tweaker.
Haven’t made it a whole day yet but every day I get a little further. I cry a lot when I fail. And you’re so right. If my hands aren’t moving I start unconsciously scanning. You’re a good person.
I'm a 17 year old boy, I have had tough experiences with picking the skin from my thumb, it's always the thumb I like to pick at. I'm now 29 days clean, and haven't picked since. Thank you so much 💜❤️
Alright.... I'm honestly having a pretty hard time figuring the root cause for why I do this. So here goes me best guess: I mainly pick when I'm bored, or inactive. Pretty simple. At least, you'd think. But... The longer I fight the urge, the stronger it gets. One day is the longest I can without picking a spot, then the urge gets so strong I just want punch something or squeeze something. And the urge does not go away. It does at first. It comes and goes. But when I fight it for long enough, as I said, it gets stronger. So strong that it's all I can think about. It takes all my willpower so I don't pick at that spot. If I am wearing gloves, it works well in the beginning. Really well. But you can't wear gloves forever, and even if I did, the urge is still there. Still manifesting itself. Creeping up on me, slowly driving me insane. Fidget toys don't help very well, because I _want_ to pick, and if I stop paying attention to the toy, my hands will put it down and start searching my face. Which completely destroys the purpose of a fidget toy. It feels like there's just no winning for me. I have no clue what to do. I'm 13, and have only been dealing with this for maybe 2 years or so, but it's just now getting worse, I think. I've very slowly graduated from just one spot around my nose, to my entire face, my scalp, some on my fingers, and I eat the skin, too. Uhh yeah. That's my rant. Bye.
Thank you for sharing! It sounds like you may have some OCD tendencies, which is very common with dermatillomania. If you are able, talk with your parents about seeing a cognitive behavioral therapist so you can get some personalized tips from a professional for dealing with this. Best of luck and I am here to talk if you need to!
You need to tell your parents or a doctor this because it only gets worse from here. I have the same problem and everything you’ve described is exactly how I feel. For me, I started picking at 8 years old. I’m now 26 and terrified of carrying this problem into my 30s. I pick every day. I thought I would grow out of it as soon as my acne went away …. But I didn’t. I’ve finally told a doctor and am now on my way to helping myself recover from my mental illness. It doesn’t get better and it doesn’t go away, it gets worse until you need to help yourself.
I personally don't pick at my scalp, but I would love for others to chime in! I know that in the facebook group I follow there is a lot of talk about scalp picking. That might be a good place for you to check out.
Here you go: facebook.com/groups/53173448037/ @@newchapterasmr It is a closed group, but you just have to ask to join. It took awhile for me to be accepted into the group so just be patient :)
thank you so much! my depression, anxiety and ocd have been getting worse since quarantine began and those are all reasons for my skin picking... this made me feel relaxed and less alone
i've been picking my face and scalp since i was a child. i think for me it's a self-stimulatory behaviour since i'm autistic and it calms me down but i also do it just out of boredom as well. i've bought fidget toys and it's gotten better but i still have a long way to go!
Thank you very much. I cried at the end your words are so sweet. Sometimes I do feel like all I am is a skin picker. It’s so frustrating I just want to love myself better.
Thank you so much for these tips and wonderful advices :) I suffer from dismorphofobia and dermatilomania. The dismorphofobia makes me see things in my face that do not exist. And I pick myself in the legs and arms when I am anxious our sad. But I have to share here that is completely possible to have a normal life with these conditions. I can spend months without picking myself. But I am going to use these tips when I am more anxious :) Thanks for sharing these tips with all of us! Much Love and Admiration from Portugal!
Thank you for sharing your story! I am so glad to hear that you can go a long time without picking yourself! That is quite an achievement and you should be proud. Thanks for watching and I wish you all the best!
When you said nobody else sees the flaws, this is a trick that your mind plays, I thought that was beautifully said and extremely comforting. Go far, bright star! Thank you! ☆☆☆
Omg thank you so much i watch so many videos that didnt help i mean didnt but you video was perfect and too long and hard explain better than any other video i watched thank you again💕❤💗💖💙
Thank you 🤗🤗🤗 This is so helpful! I haven't picked in two full days and I'm so happy with the new masks and moisturizers I bought to treat myself and encourage me to build healthier habits around my skin!!
Thank you so much for this video, I started doing a lot of these tips awhile ago and they helped so much, I’m maybe around a month clean from picking which is a huge win for me. Also a rather interesting story from me, to distract my hands from picking, I started crocheting just to keep my hands off my face when I’m watching something or have nothing else to do with my hands, and it turns out I’m actually good at crochet so i guess it helped me find out smthn cool about myself that I never woulda found out before lol
I know I’m late but I’ve been picking since I can remember, I’m 14 now but I mainly pick my fingers, cuticles, and lips. My mom tells me it’s just a nervous tic but i do it all the time and not just when I’m nervous. When I was younger i picked so bad that I got a cuticle infection and lost my finger nail, I’m Afraid it is going to happen again. Nothing anyone has said has stopped me from picking and I think I may have ADHD. When I start I do not stop til I’m bleeding everywhere and this happens all day every day. The mirror part of your video helped me though. Thank you
I am so happy you were about to find some help through my video. I would suggest telling your mom and doctor how you are truly feeling, and the concerns that you have. Do not let them brush you off because you are young. It is your life and you are the one that has to live it. I wish I would have found help when I was a teenager. Take care.
I had suffered bad from severe social anxiety growing up on & off depression's sometimes insomnia. I feel like it has also resulted in a skin picking problem for me. It’s been something I do every night for years. I hate it because I have to wear makeup everyday on my face before I leave the house to cover up my scars. I pick on my back & face. I use to pick my the skin my arms I’m glad I stopped picking there.
I almost wish i had sight problems bc i see TOO well and can see when there is a raised bump on skin from a mile away it seems. I’m struggling so much it is so so so hard for me and it’s affecting my life and no one understands
I pick the bottom of my feet so bad that I CANT walk!!! it's awful!!! I've gotten fake nails for a while but they are so EXPENSIVE now that I can't afford it all the time. Thank you for your tips
I just found out tonight that my "sensitive skin" could be a possible disorder of a sort. It's really similar to my situation and I've been picking my skin since I was 6 at least, I've been given treatments like lotions, creams, and even oat meal baths and my skin would get better or my scars would get lighter but they kept on coming back and I too beat myself up for it because of how much everyone is trying to help and how I can't help it. One of the greeting's that family members say to me is "Heyyy how's your legs doing?" Man it really sucks. I'm 14 and it hasn't changed and I'm really hoping to change it soon, but I keep scratching my skin and I don't even realize it, I could wake up the next day and find a wound I didn't know was there, so I suspect that I scratch in my sleep. I reallyyyy hope this will help, the last dermatologist I went to just said that I have to avoid stuff like dusty and dirty places, sand, plants, fur, and feathers and its been called "sensitive skin" and I've been told that I just had a thinner layer of the top layer of the skin or something, I hope to get this properly checked out and I'll try my best to stop myself or distract myself from scratching. Plenty of thanks to you, I got a lot more insight on this. Lots of love❤️💕
I pick at my chest, my back, and my face. That's my main area. I want to stop, but it’s so very hard. Too hard. My mom and dad want to contact a doctor. One part of me wants to, but I feel like this is something I need to fix on my own. I know I can't do it because if it was so easy I would have stopped for a long time ago. I want to cry😰 my mom tells me «do you want to look like that when we go on vacation?». I couldn’t care less. My dad understand me though. He wants to help, so does my mom, but she is just making it worse. Probably because I don’t want to know the reality, which is terrible. I feel so dirty and sick and Idk. I just want to cry.
I believe it is something that can by stopped, but not without a lot of patience and behavioral changes (possibly with the help of a behavioral psychologist). In your case it sounds like a habit.
1. keep your hands busy (stress ball / pen / animal ) 2. avoid touching your skin / get fake nails / write things on the mirror / avoid mirror / stay 2 feet away from the mirror 3. set up a new ritual / skin care ritual 4. find the root cause, anxiety stress / why do i wanna pick? what am i feeling right now? how can i feel better? 5. take care of your skin / sun screen / drink water 6. join a support group
i'm so frustrated. i had gone a whole day without picking and then woke up to blood all over my hands and i had just picked my entire face. once i start picking it's so hard to stop so now i'm back here to get motivation to stop
Getting acrylics is the best for me, I simply stop! Then again acrylics are not safe and your body absorbs those chemicals. I'm going to work on trying in between having acrylics to see how long I can go without absolutely needing to get my nails done again, until can break this life long habit.
thrakiamaria i like clear plastic food service gloves, but if you're looking for something to last a while n is less wasteful maybe just thin cotton/wool gloves. n i put on oil or lotion before putting them on bc slick skin is hard to pick hope this helps
@@pizzasteve5802 actually it doesn't help anything. I tryied cotton gloves and dermatillomania for me is way of life. I have a lot of things to do and I am get stressed anyway. With cotton gloves stops for a while and comes back when I am having exams in the university. I am get pressed to find a solution and dermatillomania for me is like a medicine. Brain says do a pause.
To be honest, I really like to pick my lips. I use chapstick every night so that I could pick my lips in the next day lol Maybe I should use chapstick more often so I don’t pick my lips.
I've picked my skin until the underskin is red and is bleeding. We're all in our own little community. Remember, you're never the only fish in the ocean. Respect 💯
I was picking while watching. I feel bad
Its okay! Watching videos on youtube makes me pick too, but I try to keep my hands busy.
Nobody is judging you! I'm trying to just scroll through the comments
I just went to town on my face. OUCH! I also have several wounds on my arm that are infected. I was doing really well for a while. As soon as I wake up I immediately pick...I'm so tired of looking like a tweaker.
Hahaha same i was picking too
You're not alone , 🙏❤️🕊️
Haven’t made it a whole day yet but every day
I get a little further. I cry a lot when I fail. And
you’re so right. If my hands aren’t moving I start unconsciously scanning. You’re a good
person.
I'm a 17 year old boy, I have had tough experiences with picking the skin from my thumb, it's always the thumb I like to pick at. I'm now 29 days clean, and haven't picked since. Thank you so much 💜❤️
Same!
Alright.... I'm honestly having a pretty hard time figuring the root cause for why I do this. So here goes me best guess:
I mainly pick when I'm bored, or inactive. Pretty simple. At least, you'd think. But... The longer I fight the urge, the stronger it gets. One day is the longest I can without picking a spot, then the urge gets so strong I just want punch something or squeeze something. And the urge does not go away. It does at first. It comes and goes. But when I fight it for long enough, as I said, it gets stronger. So strong that it's all I can think about. It takes all my willpower so I don't pick at that spot. If I am wearing gloves, it works well in the beginning. Really well. But you can't wear gloves forever, and even if I did, the urge is still there. Still manifesting itself. Creeping up on me, slowly driving me insane. Fidget toys don't help very well, because I _want_ to pick, and if I stop paying attention to the toy, my hands will put it down and start searching my face. Which completely destroys the purpose of a fidget toy.
It feels like there's just no winning for me. I have no clue what to do. I'm 13, and have only been dealing with this for maybe 2 years or so, but it's just now getting worse, I think. I've very slowly graduated from just one spot around my nose, to my entire face, my scalp, some on my fingers, and I eat the skin, too.
Uhh yeah. That's my rant. Bye.
Thank you for sharing! It sounds like you may have some OCD tendencies, which is very common with dermatillomania. If you are able, talk with your parents about seeing a cognitive behavioral therapist so you can get some personalized tips from a professional for dealing with this. Best of luck and I am here to talk if you need to!
You need to tell your parents or a doctor this because it only gets worse from here. I have the same problem and everything you’ve described is exactly how I feel. For me, I started picking at 8 years old. I’m now 26 and terrified of carrying this problem into my 30s. I pick every day. I thought I would grow out of it as soon as my acne went away …. But I didn’t. I’ve finally told a doctor and am now on my way to helping myself recover from my mental illness. It doesn’t get better and it doesn’t go away, it gets worse until you need to help yourself.
Appreciate your story … you are not alone .
Fake nails made it impossible to pick. It was great.
I dont see a lot of people talking about scalp picking. If any of you do let's have a conversation about it.
I personally don't pick at my scalp, but I would love for others to chime in! I know that in the facebook group I follow there is a lot of talk about scalp picking. That might be a good place for you to check out.
@@CarolynRosefolksnaturalliving Thank you, could you tell me the name of it?
@@newchapterasmr Sure! It's Dermatillomania Support Group. Hope to see ya there! :)
@@CarolynRosefolksnaturalliving I wasn't able to find it, could you please share the link?
Here you go: facebook.com/groups/53173448037/ @@newchapterasmr
It is a closed group, but you just have to ask to join. It took awhile for me to be accepted into the group so just be patient :)
thank you so much! my depression, anxiety and ocd have been getting worse since quarantine began and those are all reasons for my skin picking... this made me feel relaxed and less alone
I am so glad you found my video helpful!
i've been picking my face and scalp since i was a child. i think for me it's a self-stimulatory behaviour since i'm autistic and it calms me down but i also do it just out of boredom as well. i've bought fidget toys and it's gotten better but i still have a long way to go!
34 days clean now. It's working! I thank you so much. 💙💜
Yay Congrats! You are so welcome!
@@CarolynRosefolksnaturalliving ❤️❤️🤤🤤🤤
Thank you very much. I cried at the end your words are so sweet. Sometimes I do feel like all I am is a skin picker. It’s so frustrating I just want to love myself better.
Thank you so much for these tips and wonderful advices :) I suffer from dismorphofobia and dermatilomania. The dismorphofobia makes me see things in my face that do not exist. And I pick myself in the legs and arms when I am anxious our sad. But I have to share here that is completely possible to have a normal life with these conditions. I can spend months without picking myself. But I am going to use these tips when I am more anxious :) Thanks for sharing these tips with all of us! Much Love and Admiration from Portugal!
Thank you for sharing your story! I am so glad to hear that you can go a long time without picking yourself! That is quite an achievement and you should be proud. Thanks for watching and I wish you all the best!
When you said nobody else sees the flaws, this is a trick that your mind plays, I thought that was beautifully said and extremely comforting. Go far, bright star! Thank you! ☆☆☆
same
Omg thank you so much i watch so many videos that didnt help i mean didnt but you video was perfect and too long and hard explain better than any other video i watched thank you again💕❤💗💖💙
You're so welcome!
Thank you for this video! I'm sorry you have dermatillomania too, but I'm glad I'm not alone.
Thank you 🤗🤗🤗 This is so helpful! I haven't picked in two full days and I'm so happy with the new masks and moisturizers I bought to treat myself and encourage me to build healthier habits around my skin!!
Yay! I love that! I am so glad you found this video helpful. Good luck and have fun with your masks
Thank you so much for this video, I started doing a lot of these tips awhile ago and they helped so much, I’m maybe around a month clean from picking which is a huge win for me. Also a rather interesting story from me, to distract my hands from picking, I started crocheting just to keep my hands off my face when I’m watching something or have nothing else to do with my hands, and it turns out I’m actually good at crochet so i guess it helped me find out smthn cool about myself that I never woulda found out before lol
Oh wow! That is so amazing. I am so glad you found my tips helpful and learned a new skill. Take care and thank you for sharing!
I know I’m late but I’ve been picking since I can remember, I’m 14 now but I mainly pick my fingers, cuticles, and lips. My mom tells me it’s just a nervous tic but i do it all the time and not just when I’m nervous. When I was younger i picked so bad that I got a cuticle infection and lost my finger nail, I’m Afraid it is going to happen again. Nothing anyone has said has stopped me from picking and I think I may have ADHD. When I start I do not stop til I’m bleeding everywhere and this happens all day every day. The mirror part of your video helped me though. Thank you
I am so happy you were about to find some help through my video. I would suggest telling your mom and doctor how you are truly feeling, and the concerns that you have. Do not let them brush you off because you are young. It is your life and you are the one that has to live it. I wish I would have found help when I was a teenager. Take care.
I’m in construction I stay very bizzy but it’s never enough . Thank you so much. I ripped my feet so bad I can’t walk:/
Great tips beautiful! Thank you for sharing!
Of course! Thank you for watching!
I had suffered bad from severe social anxiety growing up on & off depression's sometimes insomnia. I feel like it has also resulted in a skin picking problem for me. It’s been something I do every night for years. I hate it because I have to wear makeup everyday on my face before I leave the house to cover up my scars. I pick on my back & face. I use to pick my the skin my arms I’m glad I stopped picking there.
Microneedling treatments through an esthetician can help with scarring! Big hug to you, I know its hard.
I don't even know how i came across your videos but I'm happy I did
You are so frickin beautiful lmao
Thank you!
I was playing with a fidget cube during this. I've found that you can kind of pick at the side with the clickable buttons without them coming off
Thanks for the suggestion! I really need to upgrade from playing with a pen to a fidget cube!
I almost wish i had sight problems bc i see TOO well and can see when there is a raised bump on skin from a mile away it seems. I’m struggling so much it is so so so hard for me and it’s affecting my life and no one understands
thank u so much for these tips!! they were really helpful to me
You are so welcome! I am very happy they are helpful to you
This is helpful, thank you
Thank you so much for making this video. It was so helpful on so many levels
I pick the bottom of my feet so bad that I CANT walk!!! it's awful!!! I've gotten fake nails for a while but they are so EXPENSIVE now that I can't afford it all the time. Thank you for your tips
I appreciate you so much for this. It was difficult to get through the whole thing without picking but your reminders at the end were very helpful.
You are so welcome! I am glad that my video was able to be helpful for you. I wish you the best!
A skin care ritual is a wonderful idea thanks for sharing 🙏
thank you for this.
I will try this thank you....!
I just found out tonight that my "sensitive skin" could be a possible disorder of a sort. It's really similar to my situation and I've been picking my skin since I was 6 at least, I've been given treatments like lotions, creams, and even oat meal baths and my skin would get better or my scars would get lighter but they kept on coming back and I too beat myself up for it because of how much everyone is trying to help and how I can't help it. One of the greeting's that family members say to me is "Heyyy how's your legs doing?" Man it really sucks. I'm 14 and it hasn't changed and I'm really hoping to change it soon, but I keep scratching my skin and I don't even realize it, I could wake up the next day and find a wound I didn't know was there, so I suspect that I scratch in my sleep. I reallyyyy hope this will help, the last dermatologist I went to just said that I have to avoid stuff like dusty and dirty places, sand, plants, fur, and feathers and its been called "sensitive skin" and I've been told that I just had a thinner layer of the top layer of the skin or something, I hope to get this properly checked out and I'll try my best to stop myself or distract myself from scratching. Plenty of thanks to you, I got a lot more insight on this. Lots of love❤️💕
Thank you for sharing your story and I wish you the best!
Thanks for sharing. I learned some great new tips.
Thanks for this, Carolyn. I'm currently dealing with picking my head skin. Greetings from Mexico
Thank you , ill try , much love xx
I pick at my chest, my back, and my face. That's my main area. I want to stop, but it’s so very hard. Too hard. My mom and dad want to contact a doctor. One part of me wants to, but I feel like this is something I need to fix on my own. I know I can't do it because if it was so easy I would have stopped for a long time ago. I want to cry😰 my mom tells me «do you want to look like that when we go on vacation?». I couldn’t care less. My dad understand me though. He wants to help, so does my mom, but she is just making it worse. Probably because I don’t want to know the reality, which is terrible. I feel so dirty and sick and Idk. I just want to cry.
Awesome video. So helpful. Thank you :)
Thick moisturizer and cotton gloves to sleep in helps me at night.
Perfectionism is a trigger.
Thank you 😊
Thank you for that video so much ❤️❤️❤️
I pick my head. I do suffer from anxiety, but I’m wondering can this be stopped for good? I do it even if I’m not stressed
I believe it is something that can by stopped, but not without a lot of patience and behavioral changes (possibly with the help of a behavioral psychologist). In your case it sounds like a habit.
Thank you so much for the video.
Thank you :) this is very helpful
I have it! Thank you.
thank you so much
1. keep your hands busy (stress ball / pen / animal )
2. avoid touching your skin / get fake nails / write things on the mirror / avoid mirror / stay 2 feet away from the mirror
3. set up a new ritual / skin care ritual
4. find the root cause, anxiety stress / why do i wanna pick? what am i feeling right now? how can i feel better?
5. take care of your skin / sun screen / drink water
6. join a support group
i'm so frustrated. i had gone a whole day without picking and then woke up to blood all over my hands and i had just picked my entire face. once i start picking it's so hard to stop so now i'm back here to get motivation to stop
You are very very pretty! 🥰 Be happy
I think maybe painting your nails, and just picking off the polish could stop you from damaging the skin.
Yes! That's a great idea to keep your hands busy
Getting acrylics is the best for me, I simply stop! Then again acrylics are not safe and your body absorbs those chemicals. I'm going to work on trying in between having acrylics to see how long I can go without absolutely needing to get my nails done again, until can break this life long habit.
only gloves helps a lot, but what kind of gloves?
thrakiamaria i like clear plastic food service gloves, but if you're looking for something to last a while n is less wasteful maybe just thin cotton/wool gloves. n i put on oil or lotion before putting them on bc slick skin is hard to pick hope this helps
Bamboo
@@pizzasteve5802 actually it doesn't help anything. I tryied cotton gloves and dermatillomania for me is way of life. I have a lot of things to do and I am get stressed anyway. With cotton gloves stops for a while and comes back when I am having exams in the university. I am get pressed to find a solution and dermatillomania for me is like a medicine. Brain says do a pause.
Iam suffring with ear pimple rashes reapeated by 6 years what is my problem???
Thank you this helped a lot
To be honest, I really like to pick my lips. I use chapstick every night so that I could pick my lips in the next day lol
Maybe I should use chapstick more often so I don’t pick my lips.
I have a MIRROR CLOSET .
Is it just me or do i pick my fingers....?
That is really common!
And I pick my fingers
I've picked my skin until the underskin is red and is bleeding. We're all in our own little community. Remember, you're never the only fish in the ocean. Respect 💯
Tip number 6 is to eat food that do not trigger pimples.
Yes! You are SO right! Sugar, dairy and gluten can cause acne in some individuals. Others trigger foods can be eggs, peanut butter and whey protein
you are so cute, thank you!
You’re sooo beautiful
💓
Thank you so much!