Message for Kevin: you don't need to apologize or feel weird for dating black women exclusively. The only reason the matchmaker wanted you to be open to "other options" was bc she doesn't have many black women in her network. Tell her to lean in. We are the most educated and entrepreneurial demographic in the US... and men desire us too. Be blessed. 💛
“You can’t keep ziplocking your life waiting for the perfect moment, you need to live right now” 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 this has been my mindset this entire year. No more waiting for someone to show up and join me. I’m living life now✨
I don't desire to be anyone's peace...I want to be the one who doesn't disturb the peace he already has from the Father. I will protect his peace. Also..."Jesus and therapy" - my motto for life. This was a blessed episode.
Laterras, let me just say thank you for being the platform where we women get to hear the hearts of good quality men...so many of us are exposed to the majority but there is a population of men that is ready for real love. Thank you❤
He's a very respectful young man and I pray he finds a great partner. I see so many black men masking their vulnerabilities and it's so nice to see that they have a healthy platform to empower more men. Keep up the good work!
The way he talked about Black Love was wow! He broke it down in a way ai had never heard. My "sigh". On top of that, the ending was heartfelt. Im with him, God even in this or even if it does not happen, I will still praise you. I love to see this side of black men being open and real. Great video as usual.
Best thing I heard/ read was "If God didn't give you your hearts desires, would you still praise Him?"". I think about that a lot cause it always seems like the things we want the most, God takes time with them so that we don''t idolise those things but instead surrender to God to bring them to us and so that when those things do come, not only are we ready, but we can immediately see Gods hand in them. This was such a beautiful episode, filled with so many giggles as well. Fantastic episode to you both, loved the gems. Stay blessed.
Update.. background music at the end had me ready to put on my church robe and wave my hand 😂. GREAT interview! I’ve honestly enjoyed every single one.
Am I the only one wishing that he would reach out to Jasmine? His honesty is soooo refreshing. I hope you do updates on the guest next year. Ummm note to self...I need to raise my travel portfolio.
I’ve never heard of him before...it’s so weird women be clout chasing after these successful men. They’re human beings and like to have healthy and NORMAL interactions.
This was amazing and inspiring. I had to hold back tears. It's so refreshing to hear a man say that he has been dreaming of getting married since childhood. Great guest!
Paraphrase: “Sometimes we express love the way we want to receive love & end up missing the mark.” That was me! God showed me tht this yr. In my last relationship, it didn’t matter how much I gave it was never enough. We just weren’t right for one another & I tried hard to force it. The realization tht it wouldn’t work was painful. A lesson I never want to repeat. Another great episode! I took more notes! 🤗
So nice seeing Kevin on here. Been following him on FitMenCook for a while. That part about not falling in love with your nurse... whew! TD Jakes sure can bring a Word! About loving people the way they receive love - couldn’t agree more. It’s great to have couples understand each other’s love languages (borrowed from Gary Chapman’s book- The five love languages). As I got older, I realized so many things go wrong because we don’t communicate... or we fail to communicate effectively. Simple prompts like, “ I feel loved when you...”, go a long way in letting your partner know what works for you. And to know that your love language may change in certain seasons or the priority shifted. They are not static. On letting your relationship be as unique as the combination of the two individuals that constitute it : YES & Amen! Societal constructs should not put a relationship in a box that is ill fitting to the people in it. The melody of your relationship may be something that ears will need to adjust to; but it’s still some darn good music.
msshawbear Well at least he showed you what he was about so you can be done with that mess (assuming you were in relationship)! Anyone who comes into a relationship with an unteachable spirit and an unwillingness to grow as a couple ... just RUN from them! We plan so much of our lives- career, social,...etc. but fail to plan for what is to be a lifelong partnership.
I loved this episode. So many revelations for me. First time I've ever heard a guy say he felt sad and dissapointed because marriage hadn't yet happened for him. I've been in that disappointed place, I guess now I'm moving into the 'nevertheless'. Thank you for being so transparent. 🙏🏾
I've tuned in to just about every episode and I can truly say that without a shadow of a doubt, this one is by far my favorite! Kevin's transparency in terms of the breakdown of his past relationships, mental health, self-care, black love, etc.. was truly refreshing, insightful, and energizing. Keep up the great work Dear Future Wifey Podcast!
Yes! You said it all! It was everything. I went from tuning in, to laughing when he would say something funny to getting teary eyed at the end. Wow! I totally agree with everything that you expressed in your comment.
This podcast provides so much nourishment to the soul. It's really refreshing to hear the transparency from men. It gives me hope as a divorcee and dating while in my 40's.
My GOD! I really felt Kevin's heart especially when he described his nevertheless moment with GOD! Definitely praying that the LORD gives him the desires of his heart for the wife of his dreams and as many children that they can have. I've never heard a man share his heart for love and marriage like this before. And to record it in a journal from the tender age of 12. So commendable. I will like to say that it was very refreshing to hear from a GOD-fearing, successful, beautiful Black man(inside and out) that he desires marriage with a Black woman. He really touched my heart. I'm so grateful to have been able to listen to this episode of Dear Future Wifey podcast. Thank you again Laterras for bringing on such quality men and women who publicly share their hearts with you and we are blessed to witness it. I wish you nothing but blessings and joy. Please keep the letters coming. I love them to my core. #BLACKLOVEMATTERSANDISNECESSARY!
This is one beautiful man. He is so articulate and humble. This was by far one of your best guest. Please bring more men on with character similar to his.
I loved this conversation. It was refreshing, enlightening, and simply beautiful. Transparency is everything!. For a man to open up like this almost puts me at a loss for words. Men like this really exist?? Lol, *heart melts* Thank you for sharing him with us!. Blessings!! 😊
Okay....So here’s some Mom advice! No ones prefect. Give the ladies not chics a chance. You can be with someone 30 years and not know them. Make your happiness intentional....Everyone deserves Grace.
Let me just say, I’m getting my nails done as I type this. Generally I never leave comments on UA-cam videos. However for the last couple of weeks I tried avoiding your videos. Truth is I was so over listening to yet another influencer talking about relationships. But I keep coming back. It’s like your channel is my rocky road ice cream or something lol. Seriously your channel has brought so much clarity on how to listen, love, and embrace a black man. This channel I know will bring healing and hope not only to women but to men seeking that crock pot kinda love ❤️. I like that line soooo I’m just going to take it 😁. Be blessed and keep the great content coming.
Truth is, my goal for this podcast was exactly the effect it has on you. I don't want to be an influencer. I want to leave legacy. I want to bring impact. Thank you for giving my podcast a try.
I love that not and influencer but leaving a legacy. So good, well I’m looking forward to the next episode and this weekends Black Love Matters. Have a great night!
I struggle with depression and guys I've dated didn't understand why or how I was up and down so much at times. And it was hard on me to help them understand me as me. They would call me crazy or something is seriously mentally wrong with you. I truly understand what you are saying and getting at. Depression is just that Depression.
This podcast tugged at my heartstrings due to the openness of your guest. Then your of the slow cooker sealed. We all have the desire to be loved and to have someone to love on, but we have to wait. ...LORD, I'm waiting,. I'll be 49 this year (hint LORD), but I'll wait
I’ve found myself commenting on almost every single episode of the DFW Podcast and until recently I never posted comments on ANY YT videos. However, I must say, this has been one of THE most healing videos I’ve ever seen. After doing 8+ yrs of my own healing work, I’m now working on understanding the language, heart and nature of men & masculinity. This entire video gave me so many missing pieces to the puzzle that I never got from my dad, older brother, uncles or either of grand fathers along the way. Many of us, even at my age (49) are still trying to figure men, their hearts & minds out, it’s just that most of us won’t even dare to admit to it. Yet I stand FIRMLY by that statement as truth. WE need more safe spaces to honor our truths. Please, please, please continue this work!! This is sacred work you’re doing here. ✨
This was a good one!!! He seem like a really good guy but I couldn't stop thinking that he needs to be celibate..he stated that "he's a man, he lays pipe, and entertain ig models for moments"... he need to already act like he is a husband.. so many ppl think they can just turn that switch off when they meet the one and for some that is true but for many it's not and that's why infidelity is at an all time high...the enemy know your weakness and will play on it to keep u from what God has for you!!! It's like ppl who have smoked weed for years finally get that job that they wanted and prayed for so now they know they have to stop smoking for the rest of their career.. it's hard and they slip up and pray they don't randomly get drug tested.. same concept!
Funny how we tend to look at things as if we failed, when God is just preparing us for the next chapter/level. 😊 I think it's awesome that counseling and working on self comes up frequently in the "Dear Future Wifey" podcast. Definitely providing a sense of healing.
One day when I'm whole and healed, I pray God send me someone as sweet and considered as Kevin. I loved this interview. You guys have created awareness, and it makes you more open-minded to the struggles men face.
Great discussion. We really can't assume who a man will be attracted to. I'm a plus size woman and I attract slim fit guys. Yes, we need not disqualify ourselves. Be who God made us to be with confidence and be healthy for us
Wow, this was a good episode of dear future wifey. To hear Kevin speak so openly and honestly about his life his dating experiences and therapy was (to borrow a phrase from Jill Scott) like a breath of fresh air. It’s too bad Kevin will never get to meet “me” but I do pray God sends him the best wifey for him... his very own cup of tea brewed just the way he likes. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️
It was the transparency for me! I’m glad he put context to the reason he ghosted women in the past. I used to hear that men ghost because they don’t want to deal with hearing the tears of that woman, but most women just want the closure that’s all. We appreciate it more when you’re just upfront and honest. Ghosting keeps us wondering what happened, especially if we thought nothing was going wrong. It does something to a person psyche that takes a min to recover from.
Yes SAD is a HUGE THING. One of the disorders that is often missed, ignored, and not acknowledged. Thank you Kevin for shining the light on it 👍🏾 And yes .... Fluffy girls ROCK! #BBWlove 🥰 The last six minutes of the show ... the nevertheless moment 🤯 Whewwww that touched me. You articulated my thoughts & feelings. Yessss celebrate 🎊 🤩 ALLLLL OF IT 🙌🏾🙏🏾
....WOW...I have a parallel experience. I too had held off traveling to "special" places because I no longer wanted to go with my girls and they don't like the places I'd like to explore. To be honest, I was saving those experiences for when "he" comes. My "emancipation" trip was to Iceland! .. I went solo in January 2016. Was the BEST trip ever ...taught me a lot about my singleness ...and how to take ownership of my personal joy and blessings. Changed my life forEVA EVA ( in my Andre 3000 voice) Thanks for your transparency. #blackmenrock
Don't ”zip-lock” your life! This quote just set me free. 🙌🏾 Even when caring for your family; if God opens the door for your blessing, you need to walk in it and stop waiting for the perfect time or person.
I feel so seen! I literally had a very similar convo with my therapist about disappointment. I didn't even know I was carrying disappointment and hurt about never being in a relationship. Thanks so much for this conversation. It was good for me.
Wow, I listened intently to Kevin and saw my reality emitting from his mouth and gasped. This year I came to the realization happiness is from within and I have to LIVE, and not be in fear of the husband and children I don't have. I have to be grateful for what I do have. This was refreshing to see a man speak so candidly about his emotions and experiences. Thanks again for another great experience, will have to watch this with my girlfriends to discuss like the last video. Keep it coming stay blessed🥰
Kevin touched on so many things during this conversation. His energy was very refreshing and I hope it encourages more black men to seek counsel and work through their emotions. Who would’ve ever know about summer depression I’ve heard of some experiencing it through the holidays etc “you learn something new everyday “ thank you guys 🖤
There were so many gems in this! The transparency was on another level! Nice to see a different side of Mr. Curry outside of cooking. That man was preaching!
Latteras first let me say I appreciate this podcast sooooo very much because it has opened my eyes and moved me beyond the 'single story' of black men.... Hearing from men who have a spiritual depth and include their faith in their journey. And of importance men who are emotionally intelligent both interpersonal and Intrapersonal and have and are willing to invest in their overall growth and evolution by exploring therapy. Thank you for taking us on tour journey!!!
Loved this episode for so many reasons! I’ve followed Kevin’s platform for about 3 years and gained a new found respect for him this year because of his transparency around mental health. Even more so after this episode! I appreciate the safe space that has been created here for black men to be humanized and to be lit! I’ve learned so much about how to love the black men in my life better. Perhaps my favorite take away was Kevin’s realization of coming to a place of contentment. It is a place that can be hard to achieve but, once you’re there, there is such a peace. Thank You again for this episode!!
Kevin, I like you even more after this interview. There were some things you brought to light that were very enlightening. Which I appreciate! The transparency was fantastic. I love you even more... for loving us. Your wife is just around..your next corner! Great interview!
I've been binge watching this podcast so much for the past 2 weeks and i really love everything about it. Specifically because we don't see black men talking about love and marriage to often
I appreciate this episode for so many reasons, the fact that Kevin was secure enough to acknowledge and appreciate not only black woman, but also voluptuous woman proudly. Also the fact that Kevin is interested in getting to know the person 100% not just the surface. His transparency on mental health was beautiful, showed his strength even through a moment he may have felt as a weakness. Just being aware enough & willing to heal & do the work. Loved that so thank you!. Also for schooling us on a specific type of depression. Knowledge is wealth which makes this so powerful. 🌻🙏🏾
My goodness! I can relate because I've subconsciously done the same thing. There were things that I didn't do and discovered that I had set them aside for a mate. You have to purposely decide to go forth and it's not easy. Often times it can feel like giving up on your hopes and desires. It can be scary. I was teary eyed during the last few minutes of the talk. I've been upset with God and didn't understand why all other areas of my life were doing well but the one that's really important to me has not improved. Listen! I know that prayer because I've prayed it too almost verbatim. It takes courage to say "but if this thing that is a priority in my life never happens I'm grateful". My God! This was a great discussion. I appreciate his transparency and how awesome is it to see a black man desire love and marriage in such a beautiful way. Thank you!
I love this show, much love from South Africa 🇿🇦🙏🏽. I follow FitMen cook, did a meal today based on yesterday's post. Appreciate his testimony. Thank you for being loyal to your calling and being faithful 🙏🏽
Watching this on World Suicide Awareness Day. My 17yrs old child died by suicide after a gang rape and a photo or her rape went viral.. I turned my pain and transcended into wisdom and service to others. I just wanted to say thank you for being another voice for tbose struggling with mental health. Love and compassion is needed.
Leah, reading this just wrecked me. I'm trying my best to muster words to say to you.... Wow! Dang, my heart goes out to you. You have amazing strength to turn your pain into purpose. God bless you, Leah.
I am truly sorry for your loss and the pain your precious child and family has endured. My heart broke in many pieces reading this as I am a mother of 2 girls and cant imagine the levels of pain .....it brings me to tears. May God bless you Queen, you and your beautiful Angel.
Thank you! It's been a huge spiritual journey for me and my precious girl walks with me daily. #rehtaehparsonsishername I donmay talk about sexualizwd violence and healing trauma.
One thing that I've learned is that so many of us are hurting...But God is a healer among so many other things! Laterras you're letters are refreshing!❤
Lord, I went through therapy when I got divorced after 10 years and I place my children in therapy so they could share their emotions so that it wouldn't be something to effect them in their adulthood and to help me move past everything and get ready for my next spouse.... I applause you Kevin....
Larerras, you touch my heart with these shows! They move me. The level of transparency that you and your guests display is just impressive, refreshing, and heartwarming. I especially love the letters to your future wifey. Sometimes, I take your prayer points for her and pray them over myself and my future husband. Thank you so much for this show. It has been a therapy for me during and status post a recent traumatic divorce. God bless you for this.
This was a dope conversation! He hit with the thought of not doing things until you have that special someone, but realizing you are doing yourself a disservice. Wow, it one hit home on many level.
Allow me to be L.I.T. Some people be establishing soul ties all across the planet, and then wonder why they have a difficult making a divine or solid connection. It can be so exhausting when trying to comprehend....even from those who infuse God and scripture in their dialogue. People are marrying men and women who are still bound by vivid thoughts, regrets, and feelings for people they dated decades ago. How mortifying. Our bodies and souls are more valuable.
I've felt like a Unicorn 🦄 dating and waiting. Dates have been cancelled due to my unwillingness to create soul ties with anyone that was not sent by the Holy one.
Nakia Sims you’re winning sis and don’t ever think otherwise. Casual sex is killing Christians but they think obedience to Christ and exercising authority over our flesh is lame I guess .. I don’t know but I do know this .. abstinence, obedience and trusting God to send the right husband or wife IS WINNING. The world got some Christians thinking wrong but be encouraged. That narrow path you’re taking is the RIGHT path. It’s not the easy path but it’s the RIGHT one . You WILL win. Check on these casual sex folks in 10 years and see how all that worked out for them . It might look like fun to the flesh now but they’re paying a price for that they can’t see . Lust by definition cannot be satisfied. Any man who doesn’t have enough discipline over his flesh to wait until he marries you to be with you sexually WILL NOT be able to resist big bootie Judy down at the job when she gets to smiling and wearing tight pants and whatnot . Any man who doesn’t trust God to send him a woman that’s pleasing to Him, won’t be trusting God for much else in his marriage after he’s married. Don’t let these men test drive you . Your body is a treasure .. and hear me .. SOUL TIES ARE REAL .. save your body and the blessing of sex for the man that God sends . Sex with your husband is an act of worship to the Lord . It is a wonderful beautiful act of worship . The world and casual unrepentant Christians have perverted that which God designed to be beautiful. Don’t fall for it . The one He sends WILL wait for you. Period. Don’t let the world or luke warm Christians convince you that you’re not winning . You ARE. There are many Christian women and men who’ve taken this position of abstinence until marriage . You are not alone . There’s a whole community of Christians that are tired of what the enemy is offering and our eyes are open to what’s required. We’re tired of the compromise and opening ourselves up to soul infections by connecting with people sexually who have all kinds of spiritual infections because of all these people they’ve been having sex with . Don’t let anyone pass on those spiritual infections to you . Christians who claim they believe In God and the devil somehow forget that the devil is at work in and through sexual connections. They believe in the devil “a little bit” I guess, I don’t know .. but the devil is real, soul ties are real and spiritual connections happen through sex. These people out here passing demons around through sexual activity and wondering why God isn’t sending them a good wife . Why in the world would God give his BEST to men who have made an idol out of their sexuality? They have made their sexuality their god.. it has first place in their life and until their eyes are opened they’ll keep having sex with whoever they date hoping to find a good wife . It’s foolishness.
This is the #TRUTH🔥🔥 I think the same thing many times coming across these podcasts. It's not God making him sad, it's all those soulties. They believe some of His Word, not all of it. I wish some would just pray, wait, & trust God b4 they give up. Seems like a kind man.
This entire video hits hard! Yo Kevin you hit so many things in this video that I found myself yelling at my screen for like 30 minutes! Thank you for this video!
56:42 I'm getting to that point where even if it doesn't happen, God you've still been good.....my life is in a good place." Very powerful statement, one that is not easy to come to terms with. Sometimes we have to remember God steps in right on time. As I send this message I also minister to myself, because I often too have stated this. God bless Kevin Curry on his journey.
I love this podcast sooo much! I struggle just like Kevin (with depression) and all the complexities that comes with it. God bless this brother- hopefully he finds his wifey really soon
Wow...wow...wow!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 This conversation was so refreshing. There were so many great nuggets and such wisdom. I realize I have been ziplocking my life and am working on that. This was my introduction to Kevin and I thoroughly enjoyed all that he said, so transparently. I too am an Affirmation person. Kevin you did a great job, thank you for sharing so openly. You will make a great husband and father someday. Until then, keep pursuing purpose. Laterras, you have an eye for transparency and always pick the best guests. Thank you for letting us eavesdrop on the conversation. 🔥🔥🔥
DFW has truly been the necessary ingredient needed to transform my life! Kevin's transparency about dealing with depression and anxiety not only hit home, but made me feel like God was uncovering what I wanted to keep hidden. God can't heal what we won't reveal. Kevin's honesty about how he hit his lowest point and reached out for help is my reality. Always so vibrant and loving towards others but deep down inside life had not been worth living. Even his cry to God about who would love him like this were my exact words. No one can save me from the sadness except God, but I yearned for someone to love me. I completely agree that therapy is a game changer. Dealing with depression and anxiety is a very long process, but I am up for the challenge of finding beauty in it. It is comforting to know that I am not alone in my fight. Until then, I am content with walking with God through the process and allowing His love to heal me. Kevin's testimony blessed me in so many ways. This episode had so many nuggets in it. I used to struggle with looking for a captain save 'em up until 7 years ago. Then a conversation with my ex about what I wanted exposed that what I really needed was a redeemer. The redeemer continues the journey with you after you have been rescued. This conversation really helped me to make a very sound decision to wait for my kinsman redeemer, my purpose instead of my preference. And if I never marry, I can truly say it is well with my soul. Thanks for doing the work, Laterras. So many are being healed and set free, especially me.
I've been on earth for 37 years & this is my first time ever hearing a man say he has dreamt about his marriage & family. That's so dope☺
Exactly
I’m 39 and it was a first for me too!
A black man at that 😳
Same here. It's beautiful ❤️
Right?? So awesome
Message for Kevin: you don't need to apologize or feel weird for dating black women exclusively. The only reason the matchmaker wanted you to be open to "other options" was bc she doesn't have many black women in her network. Tell her to lean in. We are the most educated and entrepreneurial demographic in the US... and men desire us too. Be blessed. 💛
Amen!
Whew you spoke a word right here!! 🙌🏽👑✊🏽
Yessssssssssssssssss!!!!
…in the WORLD 🌎!!! ✊🏾
God bless you for this word‼️. So many black men afraid to say they date black women only.
“You can’t keep ziplocking your life waiting for the perfect moment, you need to live right now”
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 this has been my mindset this entire year. No more waiting for someone to show up and join me. I’m living life now✨
Live, Nikki, live!
Facts
Amen Sis!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🥰🥰🥰Me too!!
Yeah that was good! Don’t postpone your life for our future. Tomorrow and they are not promised.
I don't desire to be anyone's peace...I want to be the one who doesn't disturb the peace he already has from the Father. I will protect his peace. Also..."Jesus and therapy" - my motto for life. This was a blessed episode.
Agreed
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Amen. That is good!👏🏾
Girllll!!!! i had to post this on my IG! ( i did cite you though 😉)
Laterras, let me just say thank you for being the platform where we women get to hear the hearts of good quality men...so many of us are exposed to the majority but there is a population of men that is ready for real love. Thank you❤
You're welcome.
Well said S Scott! Smiles 🥰
I agree, it’s amazing to see. I highly appreciate watching it.
Well said!!!
I concur. Thank you💖
Kevin's most attractive quality is his disposition.
Amen🙌🏼
He's a very respectful young man and I pray he finds a great partner. I see so many black men masking their vulnerabilities and it's so nice to see that they have a healthy platform to empower more men. Keep up the good work!
Amen
Mr. Curry's words made me feel so appreciated as a black woman. I aspire to always provide a great sense of comfort. Great show!!
I agree 100% sis! That was refreshing to hear as a black woman.
The way he talked about Black Love was wow! He broke it down in a way ai had never heard. My "sigh". On top of that, the ending was heartfelt. Im with him, God even in this or even if it does not happen, I will still praise you. I love to see this side of black men being open and real. Great video as usual.
I shared this (Jasmin)with my 23 yo who struggles with depression. Thanks for sharing.
Best thing I heard/ read was "If God didn't give you your hearts desires, would you still praise Him?"". I think about that a lot cause it always seems like the things we want the most, God takes time with them so that we don''t idolise those things but instead surrender to God to bring them to us and so that when those things do come, not only are we ready, but we can immediately see Gods hand in them. This was such a beautiful episode, filled with so many giggles as well. Fantastic episode to you both, loved the gems. Stay blessed.
Amen
He articulated black love so beautifully. Definitely made my heart smile ☺️💕.
Update.. background music at the end had me ready to put on my church robe and wave my hand 😂. GREAT interview! I’ve honestly enjoyed every single one.
@@ConcettaB He took us to church so the music had to go there. Lol.
@@DearFutureWifey It was so unexpected 😆. Good though 👍.
@@arteena 🤣🤣🤣
Am I the only one wishing that he would reach out to Jasmine? His honesty is soooo refreshing. I hope you do updates on the guest next year. Ummm note to self...I need to raise my travel portfolio.
This podcast makes one just want to fall in love. These are great human beings. Rare.
Yes! So agree.
I’ve never heard of him before...it’s so weird women be clout chasing after these successful men. They’re human beings and like to have healthy and NORMAL interactions.
This was amazing and inspiring. I had to hold back tears. It's so refreshing to hear a man say that he has been dreaming of getting married since childhood. Great guest!
“If it never happens....God, You’ve still been good”. That part 😭🙌🏽 That shows such a level of maturity!
Paraphrase: “Sometimes we express love the way we want to receive love & end up missing the mark.”
That was me! God showed me tht this yr. In my last relationship, it didn’t matter how much I gave it was never enough. We just weren’t right for one another & I tried hard to force it. The realization tht it wouldn’t work was painful. A lesson I never want to repeat.
Another great episode! I took more notes! 🤗
This is why it's so important to learn people's love languages. It really makes a world of a difference. I learned that in my adult life.
So nice seeing Kevin on here. Been following him on FitMenCook for a while.
That part about not falling in love with your nurse... whew! TD Jakes sure can bring a Word!
About loving people the way they receive love - couldn’t agree more. It’s great to have couples understand each other’s love languages (borrowed from Gary Chapman’s book- The five love languages). As I got older, I realized so many things go wrong because we don’t communicate... or we fail to communicate effectively. Simple prompts like, “ I feel loved when you...”, go a long way in letting your partner know what works for you. And to know that your love language may change in certain seasons or the priority shifted. They are not static.
On letting your relationship be as unique as the combination of the two individuals that constitute it : YES & Amen! Societal constructs should not put a relationship in a box that is ill fitting to the people in it. The melody of your relationship may be something that ears will need to adjust to; but it’s still some darn good music.
Excellent perspective. Totally agree.
I totally agree with you. I have that book a it is worth the read. I mentioned it to a guy one time and he just about bit my head off.
So agree
msshawbear Well at least he showed you what he was about so you can be done with that mess (assuming you were in relationship)! Anyone who comes into a relationship with an unteachable spirit and an unwillingness to grow as a couple ... just RUN from them! We plan so much of our lives- career, social,...etc. but fail to plan for what is to be a lifelong partnership.
I loved this episode. So many revelations for me. First time I've ever heard a guy say he felt sad and dissapointed because marriage hadn't yet happened for him. I've been in that disappointed place, I guess now I'm moving into the 'nevertheless'. Thank you for being so transparent. 🙏🏾
I've tuned in to just about every episode and I can truly say that without a shadow of a doubt, this one is by far my favorite! Kevin's transparency in terms of the breakdown of his past relationships, mental health, self-care, black love, etc.. was truly refreshing, insightful, and energizing. Keep up the great work Dear Future Wifey Podcast!
This episode was so powerful and liberating
Yes! You said it all! It was everything. I went from tuning in, to laughing when he would say something funny to getting teary eyed at the end. Wow! I totally agree with everything that you expressed in your comment.
This podcast provides so much nourishment to the soul. It's really refreshing to hear the transparency from men. It gives me hope as a divorcee and dating while in my 40's.
Love these candid conversations & I pray he finds the woman who will enhance his gifts, as he will definitely season hers.
Yes❤❤❤
i really like how positive this show is .....
My GOD! I really felt Kevin's heart especially when he described his nevertheless moment with GOD! Definitely praying that the LORD gives him the desires of his heart for the wife of his dreams and as many children that they can have. I've never heard a man share his heart for love and marriage like this before. And to record it in a journal from the tender age of 12. So commendable. I will like to say that it was very refreshing to hear from a GOD-fearing, successful, beautiful Black man(inside and out) that he desires marriage with a Black woman. He really touched my heart. I'm so grateful to have been able to listen to this episode of Dear Future Wifey podcast. Thank you again Laterras for bringing on such quality men and women who publicly share their hearts with you and we are blessed to witness it. I wish you nothing but blessings and joy. Please keep the letters coming. I love them to my core. #BLACKLOVEMATTERSANDISNECESSARY!
To God be the glory
@@DearFutureWifey yessssss! For HIS Glory always.
This is one beautiful man. He is so articulate and humble. This was by far one of your best guest. Please bring more men on with character similar to his.
I loved this conversation. It was refreshing, enlightening, and simply beautiful. Transparency is everything!. For a man to open up like this almost puts me at a loss for words. Men like this really exist?? Lol, *heart melts* Thank you for sharing him with us!. Blessings!! 😊
Okay....So here’s some Mom advice! No ones prefect. Give the ladies not chics a chance. You can be with someone 30 years and not know them. Make your happiness intentional....Everyone deserves Grace.
Let me just say, I’m getting my nails done as I type this. Generally I never leave comments on UA-cam videos. However for the last couple of weeks I tried avoiding your videos. Truth is I was so over listening to yet another influencer talking about relationships. But I keep coming back. It’s like your channel is my rocky road ice cream or something lol. Seriously your channel has brought so much clarity on how to listen, love, and embrace a black man. This channel I know will bring healing and hope not only to women but to men seeking that crock pot kinda love ❤️. I like that line soooo I’m just going to take it 😁. Be blessed and keep the great content coming.
Truth is, my goal for this podcast was exactly the effect it has on you. I don't want to be an influencer. I want to leave legacy. I want to bring impact. Thank you for giving my podcast a try.
I love that not and influencer but leaving a legacy. So good, well I’m looking forward to the next episode and this weekends Black Love Matters. Have a great night!
I’m over here smiling at you getting your nails done while typing. ☺️ I really hope they came out cute!
Talia, MBA they did, I typed between coats haha.
Brandi Gant 🤣💖🙌🏽
Ugh I love Kevin, such a stand up, rare guy. So glad you had him on your show!!!
Love the realness of your podcast and your guests! It opens light to real situations that people go through. Keep this going!
Amen
This is so good!! Thanks again, I learned alot.
1." Culturally black, southern rap...
2. Educate the "sigh"
3. Comfort from the melanin
I struggle with depression and guys I've dated didn't understand why or how I was up and down so much at times.
And it was hard on me to help them understand me as me. They would call me crazy or something is seriously mentally wrong with you. I truly understand what you are saying and getting at. Depression is just that Depression.
It lifts my spirit to read this sis, I share the same story as you. Thank you for your transparency. I’m inspired
This podcast tugged at my heartstrings due to the openness of your guest. Then your of the slow cooker sealed. We all have the desire to be loved and to have someone to love on, but we have to wait.
...LORD, I'm waiting,. I'll be 49 this year (hint LORD), but I'll wait
The ending is what got me. Kevin expresses himself beautifully. You guys definitely dropped some wisdom nuggets on this one👏🏾.
This is the epitome of L.I.T.
I’ve found myself commenting on almost every single episode of the DFW Podcast and until recently I never posted comments on ANY YT videos. However, I must say, this has been one of THE most healing videos I’ve ever seen. After doing 8+ yrs of my own healing work, I’m now working on understanding the language, heart and nature of men & masculinity. This entire video gave me so many missing pieces to the puzzle that I never got from my dad, older brother, uncles or either of grand fathers along the way. Many of us, even at my age (49) are still trying to figure men, their hearts & minds out, it’s just that most of us won’t even dare to admit to it. Yet I stand FIRMLY by that statement as truth. WE need more safe spaces to honor our truths. Please, please, please continue this work!! This is sacred work you’re doing here. ✨
Thank you Tami! I'm honored by your comments. I'm humbled by your words.
Very true words. I concur 💯
Never ever seen a man be this expressive. Just wow!
This was a good one!!! He seem like a really good guy but I couldn't stop thinking that he needs to be celibate..he stated that "he's a man, he lays pipe, and entertain ig models for moments"... he need to already act like he is a husband.. so many ppl think they can just turn that switch off when they meet the one and for some that is true but for many it's not and that's why infidelity is at an all time high...the enemy know your weakness and will play on it to keep u from what God has for you!!! It's like ppl who have smoked weed for years finally get that job that they wanted and prayed for so now they know they have to stop smoking for the rest of their career.. it's hard and they slip up and pray they don't randomly get drug tested.. same concept!
Kevin need to be whole before he can see and relate effectively to anyone especially within a marriage.
Agreed
I agree !
Funny how we tend to look at things as if we failed, when God is just preparing us for the next chapter/level. 😊 I think it's awesome that counseling and working on self comes up frequently in the "Dear Future Wifey" podcast. Definitely providing a sense of healing.
I already know this is going to be good....Kevin Curry is bomb! I've been wanting to know about his love life🤭
Beautiful, the last part almost made cry. Continue inspiring people.
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Jesus!!! If it doesn’t happen allow me to be happy with what He has given me!!! This hit me square in my chest. Wow! I’m getting there too Kev!
Amen!!🙏
One day when I'm whole and healed, I pray God send me someone as sweet and considered as Kevin. I loved this interview. You guys have created awareness, and it makes you more open-minded to the struggles men face.
Man. To hear a man talk like this is a first.
Exactly
That letter is so so deep. It is amazing when you have that deep intimate experience with someone and struggle with personal health.
Great discussion. We really can't assume who a man will be attracted to. I'm a plus size woman and I attract slim fit guys. Yes, we need not disqualify ourselves. Be who God made us to be with confidence and be healthy for us
Wow, this was a good episode of dear future wifey. To hear Kevin speak so openly and honestly about his life his dating experiences and therapy was (to borrow a phrase from Jill Scott) like a breath of fresh air.
It’s too bad Kevin will never get to meet “me” but I do pray God sends him the best wifey for him... his very own cup of tea brewed just the way he likes.
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️
Thank you Kevin for your transparency . This is a deep healing moment for me as well. God bless you!
It was the transparency for me! I’m glad he put context to the reason he ghosted women in the past. I used to hear that men ghost because they don’t want to deal with hearing the tears of that woman, but most women just want the closure that’s all. We appreciate it more when you’re just upfront and honest. Ghosting keeps us wondering what happened, especially if we thought nothing was going wrong. It does something to a person psyche that takes a min to recover from.
Yes SAD is a HUGE THING. One of the disorders that is often missed, ignored, and not acknowledged. Thank you Kevin for shining the light on it 👍🏾
And yes .... Fluffy girls ROCK! #BBWlove 🥰
The last six minutes of the show ... the nevertheless moment 🤯 Whewwww that touched me. You articulated my thoughts & feelings. Yessss celebrate 🎊 🤩 ALLLLL OF IT 🙌🏾🙏🏾
Today was my first time watching and I couldn’t stop watching. I pray that you find your good thing, your “wifey.”
....WOW...I have a parallel experience. I too had held off traveling to "special" places because I no longer wanted to go with my girls and they don't like the places I'd like to explore. To be honest, I was saving those experiences for when "he" comes. My "emancipation" trip was to Iceland! .. I went solo in January 2016. Was the BEST trip ever ...taught me a lot about my singleness ...and how to take ownership of my personal joy and blessings. Changed my life forEVA EVA ( in my Andre 3000 voice) Thanks for your transparency. #blackmenrock
Congrats!!!!
Don't ”zip-lock” your life! This quote just set me free. 🙌🏾 Even when caring for your family; if God opens the door for your blessing, you need to walk in it and stop waiting for the perfect time or person.
Preach!
I feel so seen! I literally had a very similar convo with my therapist about disappointment. I didn't even know I was carrying disappointment and hurt about never being in a relationship. Thanks so much for this conversation. It was good for me.
Exactly!!
I am new to your "show" and I have to say I have enjoyed every episode i have seen. I mostly appreciate that your guests have been people of God.
I love how authentic he is
Wow, I listened intently to Kevin and saw my reality emitting from his mouth and gasped. This year I came to the realization happiness is from within and I have to LIVE, and not be in fear of the husband and children I don't have. I have to be grateful for what I do have. This was refreshing to see a man speak so candidly about his emotions and experiences. Thanks again for another great experience, will have to watch this with my girlfriends to discuss like the last video. Keep it coming stay blessed🥰
Feel free to video chat with me on IG when y'all discuss. That would be fun @laterrasrwhitfield
@@DearFutureWifey That will be great and will do so!!
Kevin touched on so many things during this conversation. His energy was very refreshing and I hope it encourages more black men to seek counsel and work through their emotions. Who would’ve ever know about summer depression I’ve heard of some experiencing it through the holidays etc “you learn something new everyday “ thank you guys 🖤
I have been listening to these podcasts and this is, by far, the most enlightening dialog I have experienced.
Thanks
I have listened to this 3 times and each time I get something different that is necessary and relevant!! Love this and Kevin's transparency!
I look forward to the update. This interview was such a blessing!
This was such an awesome and refreshing conversation. I've never heard of Kevin but I'm definitely going to follow him...
There were so many gems in this! The transparency was on another level! Nice to see a different side of Mr. Curry outside of cooking. That man was preaching!
Latteras first let me say I appreciate this podcast sooooo very much because it has opened my eyes and moved me beyond the 'single story' of black men....
Hearing from men who have a spiritual depth and include their faith in their journey. And of importance men who are emotionally intelligent both interpersonal and Intrapersonal and have and are willing to invest in their overall growth and evolution by exploring therapy.
Thank you for taking us on tour journey!!!
Loved this episode for so many reasons! I’ve followed Kevin’s platform for about 3 years and gained a new found respect for him this year because of his transparency around mental health. Even more so after this episode!
I appreciate the safe space that has been created here for black men to be humanized and to be lit! I’ve learned so much about how to love the black men in my life better.
Perhaps my favorite take away was Kevin’s realization of coming to a place of contentment. It is a place that can be hard to achieve but, once you’re there, there is such a peace. Thank You again for this episode!!
This was nice 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 that was a different perspective than I have ever heard. Good stuff.
Kevin,
I like you even more after this interview. There were some things you brought to light that were very enlightening. Which I appreciate! The transparency was fantastic. I love you even more... for loving us. Your wife is just around..your next corner! Great interview!
This is the most honest episode I have watched!!!! Keep serving and being LIT!!!!!
I've been binge watching this podcast so much for the past 2 weeks and i really love everything about it. Specifically because we don't see black men talking about love and marriage to often
Mr. Curry,
I just hope you will know "her" when she comes.
This was one of the best shows👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
Thanks
I appreciate this episode for so many reasons, the fact that Kevin was secure enough to acknowledge and appreciate not only black woman, but also voluptuous woman proudly. Also the fact that Kevin is interested in getting to know the person 100% not just the surface. His transparency on mental health was beautiful, showed his strength even through a moment he may have felt as a weakness. Just being aware enough & willing to heal & do the work. Loved that so thank you!. Also for schooling us on a specific type of depression. Knowledge is wealth which makes this so powerful. 🌻🙏🏾
It’s truly refreshing to hear a man be so transparent.
My goodness! I can relate because I've subconsciously done the same thing. There were things that I didn't do and discovered that I had set them aside for a mate. You have to purposely decide to go forth and it's not easy. Often times it can feel like giving up on your hopes and desires. It can be scary. I was teary eyed during the last few minutes of the talk. I've been upset with God and didn't understand why all other areas of my life were doing well but the one that's really important to me has not improved. Listen! I know that prayer because I've prayed it too almost verbatim. It takes courage to say "but if this thing that is a priority in my life never happens I'm grateful". My God! This was a great discussion. I appreciate his transparency and how awesome is it to see a black man desire love and marriage in such a beautiful way. Thank you!
I love this show, much love from South Africa 🇿🇦🙏🏽. I follow FitMen cook, did a meal today based on yesterday's post. Appreciate his testimony. Thank you for being loyal to your calling and being faithful 🙏🏽
love this guy. Fitmencook was the FiRST fitnessfood page i ever found with food i actually like
Watching this on World Suicide Awareness Day. My 17yrs old child died by suicide after a gang rape and a photo or her rape went viral.. I turned my pain and transcended into wisdom and service to others. I just wanted to say thank you for being another voice for tbose struggling with mental health. Love and compassion is needed.
Leah, reading this just wrecked me. I'm trying my best to muster words to say to you.... Wow! Dang, my heart goes out to you. You have amazing strength to turn your pain into purpose. God bless you, Leah.
I am truly sorry for your loss and the pain your precious child and family has endured. My heart broke in many pieces reading this as I am a mother of 2 girls and cant imagine the levels of pain .....it brings me to tears. May God bless you Queen, you and your beautiful Angel.
Thank you! It's been a huge spiritual journey for me and my precious girl walks with me daily. #rehtaehparsonsishername I donmay talk about sexualizwd violence and healing trauma.
One thing that I've learned is that so many of us are hurting...But God is a healer among so many other things! Laterras you're letters are refreshing!❤
Yes! Thank you!
14:20 he gained a new fan ... too many superficial ppl in this world ..GOD BLESS U BRO xoxoox
Lord, I went through therapy when I got divorced after 10 years and I place my children in therapy so they could share their emotions so that it wouldn't be something to effect them in their adulthood and to help me move past everything and get ready for my next spouse.... I applause you Kevin....
Great move, Verricka.
Love it, great to see men excited about marriage. Amazing
Larerras, you touch my heart with these shows! They move me. The level of transparency that you and your guests display is just impressive, refreshing, and heartwarming. I especially love the letters to your future wifey. Sometimes, I take your prayer points for her and pray them over myself and my future husband. Thank you so much for this show. It has been a therapy for me during and status post a recent traumatic divorce. God bless you for this.
God is so good.
Yeah i use to do online dating apps as well, but I am no longer doing that anymore because I want to find a good man the normal way.
I think this episode was my favorite episode. It’s really good to hear things from a male perspective. This podcast is helping a lot of us.
This was a dope conversation! He hit with the thought of not doing things until you have that special someone, but realizing you are doing yourself a disservice. Wow, it one hit home on many level.
Allow me to be L.I.T. Some people be establishing soul ties all across the planet, and then wonder why they have a difficult making a divine or solid connection. It can be so exhausting when trying to comprehend....even from those who infuse God and scripture in their dialogue. People are marrying men and women who are still bound by vivid thoughts, regrets, and feelings for people they dated decades ago. How mortifying. Our bodies and souls are more valuable.
This is the comment that could change his life if he were to receive it and seek the capital T, Truth. 100% accurate.
I've felt like a Unicorn 🦄 dating and waiting. Dates have been cancelled due to my unwillingness to create soul ties with anyone that was not sent by the Holy one.
Nakia Sims you’re winning sis and don’t ever think otherwise. Casual sex is killing Christians but they think obedience to Christ and exercising authority over our flesh is lame I guess .. I don’t know but I do know this .. abstinence, obedience and trusting God to send the right husband or wife IS WINNING. The world got some Christians thinking wrong but be encouraged. That narrow path you’re taking is the RIGHT path. It’s not the easy path but it’s the RIGHT one . You WILL win. Check on these casual sex folks in 10 years and see how all that worked out for them . It might look like fun to the flesh now but they’re paying a price for that they can’t see . Lust by definition cannot be satisfied. Any man who doesn’t have enough discipline over his flesh to wait until he marries you to be with you sexually WILL NOT be able to resist big bootie Judy down at the job when she gets to smiling and wearing tight pants and whatnot . Any man who doesn’t trust God to send him a woman that’s pleasing to Him, won’t be trusting God for much else in his marriage after he’s married. Don’t let these men test drive you . Your body is a treasure .. and hear me .. SOUL TIES ARE REAL .. save your body and the blessing of sex for the man that God sends . Sex with your husband is an act of worship to the Lord . It is a wonderful beautiful act of worship . The world and casual unrepentant Christians have perverted that which God designed to be beautiful. Don’t fall for it . The one He sends WILL wait for you. Period. Don’t let the world or luke warm Christians convince you that you’re not winning . You ARE. There are many Christian women and men who’ve taken this position of abstinence until marriage . You are not alone . There’s a whole community of Christians that are tired of what the enemy is offering and our eyes are open to what’s required. We’re tired of the compromise and opening ourselves up to soul infections by connecting with people sexually who have all kinds of spiritual infections because of all these people they’ve been having sex with . Don’t let anyone pass on those spiritual infections to you . Christians who claim they believe In God and the devil somehow forget that the devil is at work in and through sexual connections. They believe in the devil “a little bit” I guess, I don’t know .. but the devil is real, soul ties are real and spiritual connections happen through sex. These people out here passing demons around through sexual activity and wondering why God isn’t sending them a good wife . Why in the world would God give his BEST to men who have made an idol out of their sexuality? They have made their sexuality their god.. it has first place in their life and until their eyes are opened they’ll keep having sex with whoever they date hoping to find a good wife . It’s foolishness.
This is the #TRUTH🔥🔥 I think the same thing many times coming across these podcasts. It's not God making him sad, it's all those soulties. They believe some of His Word, not all of it. I wish some would just pray, wait, & trust God b4 they give up. Seems like a kind man.
This entire video hits hard! Yo Kevin you hit so many things in this video that I found myself yelling at my screen for like 30 minutes! Thank you for this video!
Lol. Glad you enjoyed it!
What an inspiration. You have motivated me to keep my options open.
Good men are still around.
Laterras!! This Episode has filled me with renewed Hope!!!! There ARE good men in this world! My heart is soo full!
Amen!
Exactly
56:42 I'm getting to that point where even if it doesn't happen, God you've still been good.....my life is in a good place." Very powerful statement, one that is not easy to come to terms with. Sometimes we have to remember God steps in right on time. As I send this message I also minister to myself, because I often too have stated this. God bless Kevin Curry on his journey.
I love this podcast sooo much! I struggle just like Kevin (with depression) and all the complexities that comes with it. God bless this brother- hopefully he finds his wifey really soon
51:50 I love a sweet a man , there’s just a few women that will appreciate it 💕💕💕💕💕
I follow him his recipes are so bomb! I don't think I ever heard him have a whole conversation. Very insightful.
Wow...wow...wow!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 This conversation was so refreshing. There were so many great nuggets and such wisdom. I realize I have been ziplocking my life and am working on that. This was my introduction to Kevin and I thoroughly enjoyed all that he said, so transparently. I too am an Affirmation person. Kevin you did a great job, thank you for sharing so openly. You will make a great husband and father someday. Until then, keep pursuing purpose. Laterras, you have an eye for transparency and always pick the best guests. Thank you for letting us eavesdrop on the conversation. 🔥🔥🔥
This is my favorite interview on this channel
Kevin is a GEM 💎
God bless his future wife
She will be a blessed woman 💃
Thank you. Yep, he showed up and kept it LIT
This is excellent! Love the title you selected! So perfect for him!
Thank you so much, Carmen.
I love that... “crockpot” love.... Slow and steady... I call it my day by day... Great podcast, Brother. Continued blessings...
Love that!
DFW has truly been the necessary ingredient needed to transform my life! Kevin's transparency about dealing with depression and anxiety not only hit home, but made me feel like God was uncovering what I wanted to keep hidden. God can't heal what we won't reveal. Kevin's honesty about how he hit his lowest point and reached out for help is my reality. Always so vibrant and loving towards others but deep down inside life had not been worth living. Even his cry to God about who would love him like this were my exact words. No one can save me from the sadness except God, but I yearned for someone to love me.
I completely agree that therapy is a game changer. Dealing with depression and anxiety is a very long process, but I am up for the challenge of finding beauty in it. It is comforting to know that I am not alone in my fight. Until then, I am content with walking with God through the process and allowing His love to heal me. Kevin's testimony blessed me in so many ways.
This episode had so many nuggets in it. I used to struggle with looking for a captain save 'em up until 7 years ago. Then a conversation with my ex about what I wanted exposed that what I really needed was a redeemer. The redeemer continues the journey with you after you have been rescued. This conversation really helped me to make a very sound decision to wait for my kinsman redeemer, my purpose instead of my preference. And if I never marry, I can truly say it is well with my soul.
Thanks for doing the work, Laterras. So many are being healed and set free, especially me.
Sweet session..It was refreshing AND affirming to hear this young man say that he is not biased towards "The instagram" model.
FACTZ
Awesome guy. But I think his heart is still wrapped up in his Ex girlfriend.🤔😄 She came up in conversation a whole lot.
The YT gods keep recommending this channel...finally decided to listen and I'm pleasantly surprised
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