please do not bully your crush as a form of flirting. i know you're trying to be funny in front of your crush, but you might end up hurting them, hence killing your chances.
I used to breadcrumb when I was younger. When someone pointed out on the internet it could potentially harm people or at least make them tired of wasting their time, it was a true wake up call. They were usually shy boys who did not say a word about liking me but I just. Noticed. and I found it funny to tease them every once in a while. On the other hand it was an actual relief when one of them stopped liking me and cut out all contact like. Guess I had no space in your life as a person only as a distant figure to be admired huh 💀
Dude there’s this kid in my social studies class that has a crush on me and his friend told me and every time I’m around him now I feel so awkward and try to be nice but I don’t want him to think I like him
Omg reall!!!, my crush knows that I like him, I tried to text him but got ignored nvm, plus he got to know through his frnds, many of his frnds know that I like him
Heres another pro tip, if someone says they'd look better without makeup say with a straight face "You'd look better without skin" and pull out a knife. They'll leave your crush alone
YES! EXACTLY! I was just agreeing with you the entire time I was watching this lol. Btw I really needed to hear that "it's fine if you don't want to" one. I legit do that all the time please someone help ✋😭
I mean my friend does that too, and I don’t want to date them obvi becuz their my friend but I always thought it was sweet. Personally I don’t really mind when other people act like that, because it just shows that they care which is a green flag imo. I do understand why people may want to break the habit tho, as someone who does it myself I know it’s a sign of my social anxiety 😭
If you have a crush, develop some sort of relationship with them so you aren’t a complete stranger and just tell them If it works out then awesome, if not, oh well. Just keep on moving
I always tell myself that there's no problem if your crush rejects you, there's plenty of other girls you have a crush on and likely have a crush on you. But I always seem to have that fear of rejection because theres some girls I like more than others and when the girl I've been crushing on the most rejects me, it sort of destroys me inside.
@@jermainehassan yeah, I get that and I’ve been there myself. But it’s okay. Me personally, I’m religious so I’m not too worried about this stuff. For me, I have the comfort of knowing that even if I’m single my entire life, it’s okay and I will get something far more worth Religious or not, there is someone that we will end up with and that be it. We just have to wait and see how it goes
Ngl, they are just adorbs trying to help us all and our messy love lives out Edit: Y'all, I am sorry if you didn't understand that by they I meant Jayus. They kinda were the only person in that short tho? And I know that they go by any pronouns, and I could have used she, but I just feel more comfy to use they/them on Jayus since they never told us what they'd like to use as "the" pronoun in particular. So like yeah, use she/her if you want, but don't get angry at me if I use they/them?😂
@@bemimu “It took *ME* a while to figure out *YOU* were talking about one person and not many. *I* hate pronouns” “Oh no, someone lost *THEIR* wallet!” Pronouns aren’t that complicated, man.
Last year when I was 15 I had a crush on this girl who lived like a block away from me and I told my friend about it and almost everytime we would see her they’d just make me look stupid and weird on purpose to embarrass me ( I need better friends )
I do the “it’s ok if you don’t want to” thing because a lot of the people I’ve liked feel bad turning down plans- most of them tend to be shy and have a hard time really communicating so I mostly do that to make them feel more comfortable since I don’t want them to feel forced to say they want to go out. I think it’s ok in some cases like this just maybe not in all cases.
Yes, me too. Some people say yes because they think they should. I just want you to go out with me if you really want to. Also, some people are afraid that you would react badlly to them saying no. I just want them to be sure I will take the no with some maturity. I guess it depends on your tone when you say it.
I do that so they feel comfortable knowing that they don’t have to 😭 I didn’t know that it made me look less confident I just wanted them to not feel forced
@@LiteByt you can't just stay single your whole life building relationships gives you more life experience and even if they might not work out most of the time you still get to cherish some happiness you felt while you did so.
Another reason not to tell your friends: they might betray you and tell your crush without your permission. Your crush will probably also think that you’re not confident enough to tell them yourself and it just hurts when someone goes behind your back. I may just have toxic friends but don’t do that nor should you tell your friend to ask your crush out for you, DO IT YOURSELF!!! I PROMISE THIS HELPS SO MUCH!!
Tbh if I just have a crush on this person, I'm gonna care more about my friends being legit friends than that person liking me back, so if they do betray me f them and if my crush doesn't stand by my side, it was probably not gonna work out anyways you know
No cause my friends talked about them so loud and it was so obvious. Even after I told them to stop pushing me towards them (literally) they still keep doing it. Now he doesn't show me anymore signs and I don't like him anymore
There's only one of my friends who knows about the boy I like, purely because she was there when it dawned on me 💀 She does ask for 'updates' sometimes which can be irritating but it's not that bad Also, one way to get around the "you don't have to if you don't want to" is to say something more along the lines of "no pressure, but I'd like you to be there". This way, you are saying something similar (i.e 'you don't have to') but are also reinforcing the fact that you want them to go.
I like that! Idk why but if I used it, I would say it this way: “no pressure, I’d just like to get to know you more” or “no pressure, I just thought it’d be nice to talk more”
I had a crush on someone, but I only talked to them like 2 words every day and it was going good. Then I told my best friend, who immediately told my crush I liked them. My crush now avoids all contact with me and it's horrible. Don't trust your friends no matter how much they promise they won't tell.
I have a crush on someone and i once called him brother then after some days i told them that someone i know has a crush on them then they would like everyday ask me who it is and i would laugh and say sorry i can't tell or the person will kill me then one day i told my bff should i tell my crush that I like him and she said i will tell him and then she went to my crush and told him that I like him and later i told him that don't tell anyone (although my whole class knows about him) and he just smiled and now my crush ignores me doesn't make eye contact with me like some times when i m staring at him he will look at me and whenever i make eye contact with him i blush and make a wierd face and i THINK he smiles too ? Thanks for reading this long ass paragraph i hope your crush likes you back too ❤️
@@scarycroww I think I’m living in a fanfic cause my crush asked me out AFTER my friend told him. I’m really sorry abt yours tho, hope you find someone better girlie pop
@@scarycroww my story was literally the same but luckily my crush was close to me and i was one of his best friends so after sometime he slowly started talking to me again and now we are again the good buddies we used to be
Well, you may trust a friend if you really think that they can keep secrets. My friend tells me about their crushes and I respect their privacy cuz I don't wanna look like a bad friend But like- dont trust your friends, they might betray you :>
I would like to add this. don't just confess to someone you've never actually talked to, cause when they inevitably reject you, You've just ruined all your chances and might have weirded them out.I'm saying from experience. Your best bet would be to try and be friends first. I mean, it's working for me.
Definitely take the hint always. As for not telling your friends, that can be tricky. Some “friends” may go after your crush if you don’t speak up, but two faced “friends” will go behind your back and hook up or date your crush even after you told your “friends” that you’re FWB with the crush.
A little thing I’d like to say is that, if someone doesn’t text back for a while. Chances are they’ll respond to the last thing you said and follow it with “I was in the shower” or “I had to do some chores” but don’t feel obligated to receive a reason. I had to learn this after my toxic ex would consistently avoid updating me on plans that were in the works until almost a month after the plans were supposed to be set
I did all these things with my crush and I can now call them mine. ❤ Funfact: I told my friend I had a crush on them and she strated shipping us and that made my current gf take the hint. And the "but it is ok if you don't want to" thing made it look so I am not too full of myself (which I am not anyway.). So in my case I am just gonna say be yourself. If someone doesn't love you for you then they aren't worth it.
Thank god I haven't done any yet. Resisting my demonic urges to tell my friends or annoying the hell outta my crush by texting her every hour that she's not replying to me 💀 Good to know i'm still walking
Used to have a two-way crush, was invited to her birthday party months prior… and uninvited last minute (her dad was angry at me). Before knowing her I was really good friends with her brother, and he told me that she had a crush on me… it took a few months for me to tell her and I was still invited to the party after. The unfortunate thing is that something went on with my friend at school where he was attacked and the reason his dad was angry was because he thought I did nothing to help him, when I did all I really could do.
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Another reason to not tell your friends about your crush: I had a MASSIVE crush on this person, so I was talking to my friend about this person when my brother overheard. Guess what: you guessed it! He told the person. 3 years of a healthy mindset thrown out the window. Also do not tell them because your friends will in some cases tell your crush.
@werid person Bruh Ik 😭 A little more context, I liked that person for 3 whole years when my friend decided to go over to the person and tell them that I didn't like them (a lie) so they said "Thank god."
My crush story is VERY confusing😂 my 'crush' (I'm kinda getting over him now) is my ex but what happened is, we dated for about 5 or 6 years so from the age 8 - 13 but we got in a small argument, he called my little brother who was 6 slow in the head, so I broke up with him. Our moms seen we broke up so they wanted us to atleast be friends so they brought us to a carnival where we became friends again so now we are best friends but I started to gain feelings for him. Turns out he is gay, which I am completely fine with, it kind of upset me but now I'm sort of getting over him. We are still best friends right now.😂😂 confusing😂
I don't think you always have to accept getting ghosted. If the relationship has gotten to a point where you both know you like each other and then suddenly they take forever to answer, I feel like I deserve to know what's up/get a real end.
Agreed, but I do not think it is ghosting that this refers to, more the "Hi, what's up?" that sometimes ends up on read for a few hours, when the other person is busy with laundry, work, kids puking their guts out, the cat climbing the curtains and so on. Though, a quick summary of the madness in the life can be nice in its own way.
Doesn’t mean he likes you. I hate how people are feeding into delusional shit like this. If you don’t shoot your shot and actually find out then nobody is going to help you.
How do you know the guy? If it's through school then maybe you can try get his attention by asking him stuff like "hey can I borrow a pen" or "what answer did you get for this question". Don't be too awkward and just try to be friendly. Talk the same way with lots of people so it doesn't come off as you giving him special attention or creepy. If he sees you have options then it will make him like you more since people always want something when it's less available to them. If he doesn't seem interested in talking to you after this, chances are he may just not be interested but see if it works.
I’m gonna tell you one thing. If he either makes eye contact with you for 1 or 2 seconds or if he doesn’t smile when you guys make eye contact. That mf does not like you. Just because a man looks at you doesn’t mean he wants to date you. Try talking to him and don’t make it awkward but if he is the first one to always talk to you he MIGHT like you. Don’t just stand here and do nothing give it a shot.
I think I need to add something about the friends, no matter if you're super close to your friends they WILL spill it whether it's by spreading it with word or by acting weird every time that crush passes by you. PEOPLE WILL NOTICE and that has happened to me, now almost everybody even the teachers know 😊
I think that sometimes people don’t text back and it is because they have an issue with you. “Taking the hint” really does not help you diagnose the issue. Simply recognizing that there is one is not enough to solve it, you have to know what it is. When someone asks me why I didn’t text them back or when I do it to someone else, I don’t interpret that as them trying to pressure me, I take it as an opportunity to provide constructive feedback. Unfortunately for me when I’m on the receiving end of that silent treatment most people either will continue to be silent or just make up some bs. Like come on, just be direct and upfront. Relationships in general would be so much healthier for it, and toxic ones would be snuffed out before they had the opportunity to ruin people. I agree with most of what else was said here
i have social anxiety and so sometimes ill get scared of texting someone and tell myself ill do it later but then forget they do not believe me at all when i say i forgot 😔✌️ but i mean like i wouldnt either so lol
Her: DO NOT tell your friends about your crush Me: Welp too late! 😅 (Another one) ( Tells my BFFS my crush) Me: yea thats him! My BFFS: IMA TELL HIM! Me: NOOOOO
This is literally what I tell myself! That's why I have to share this to my friend because me explaining won't make her understand but sharing, definitely. This is the best What Not To Do video that I have seen so far (probably because I have experienced these things the hard way)
bro, i remember one time i used to have a friend when i was in 6th grade and i told him who my crush was, he tells a couple kids then my entire class knows who my crush is and has blackmail on me. my crush was in a different class btw. then i had a different crush, this time i told the same friend and he told ALL OF THE FRIENDS OF THE GIRL I LIKED AND I WAS FUCKING PISSED AF BRO LIKE NAH HE LUCKY I WAS CHILL THEN FR.
ANOTHER reason you shouldn't tell your friends (learnt from experience): It might be when you are young and later in life they will still think that you have a crush on that person so they'll make jokes ab it and maybe tell your "former crush" ab the crush. Trust me, it's really awkward when your former crush goes up to you and says "I know you have a crush on me, your friends told me."
@@ThatPieceOfBread24 I believe what they mean is that your friends will continuously tease you about having a crush on someone even if you no longer have a crush on them, which will eventually end up being told to the former crush. Which in turn will create a very awkward situation. Where you're confronted with someone who thinks you like them when you don't Anymore
Bro my friend wrote a letter in class saying” hey tell … you like her” and forgot to give it to me, she read it cause he wrote my name on it. I was on the verge of murder
i devolop a crush> i ignore it> i tell my friends that i feel like that> they tell me i have terrible taste> theyre right and i agree> i stop liking them> i devolop a new crush
Usually, instead of being like, "Oh, it's fine if you don't want to" I usually say, "No pressure to come to [place] or do [action]! I completely understand if this is too sudden, or you don't feel comfortable yet!" I'm a person who has really bad anxiety about making people uncomfortable, or feel like I'm too mean to hang out with, so I try to be a very generally understanding person when it comes to asking my friends/partners to come to activities with me.
(Tw: slight SH and ED mentions) Help me please, my crush (female) keeps giving me these adorable little origami things like bats and hearts, we don’t talk much but we have these intimate little moments where we lock eyes until one of us gets too shy and looks away (usually me) and like I wanna give her something, but even tho I’m a girl idk what girls like. I don’t know what anyone likes. I really hope she likes me, but like I don’t know. We are both extremely shy and for me I have trouble talking to my friend of 2 years still, but I can do it easier than I can with others yk? We don’t talk much (Me and my crush) but like I feel like we kinda understand each other because we have been having non-verbal conversations, this is like the first time im **actually** in love and it’s kinda scary, and I don’t think any one of us can make a first move. I’m begging you for help dear stranger, what do I get (or make) her that’s cute and simple, and that’s not like too expensive because im broke af. Something that you can get a newer friend. (or make) she’s the reason I’ve been going to school and refraining from SH and im trying to eat more (im anorexic) so I can go to school without wanting to pass out. ilhsm
But then there’s this confusing situation that you have a crush on someone and you start talking and he somehow shows that he’s also into you (like making you laugh, sending you❤️s, telling you he actually would like to set a date). And then all of a sudden he ghosts you ,he never texts you any more like you never existed 🤨 . The confusion is gnawing at me rn i mean I just wanna know WHY, like my brain won’t fucking let go😂😢.
The friend thing is so true smh except she decided she wanted him too after hearing how I talked about him. Sucks for her, we just had our 1 year last Saturday
My crush knows I have a crush on her. Haven't asked her out yet because we're 13 + I'm leaving the school soon enough so I won't stay in contact with her for long enough. So I already have a 0% chance...unfortunately
Also, please do not tell that person: 'i like you' without having a great bond with them and sorta know they like you back as well. This girl i know did this after we talked for about 3 months, and it's so goddamn awkward, i hate it. Even worse, after that she kept texting me every day! Guys, take the hint when the person doesn't reply within a day for multiple times.
I did not tell my crush I like him but I did text him, not everyday only when its needed but once I sent him a screenshot of a UA-camr who looks like him, he didn't reply and then I didn't send him anything unless I had to ask him anything necessary but I might have asked have texted him 2 times a day although it was just asking he if he was there in that place and he said no and then i said okay and I thanked him for inviting me for participating in something and he only reacted to that message....is that spamming.....I don't know 😢 is it too many messages 🥺 he is really sweet in real life but while texting even when I sent one or two words to him I am scared it might be a disturbance to him but I never ask him why he doesn't reply I just pretend I forgot I even texted him😂
I have known him for a year now but I started liking him from 5 months back and I guess I kinda talked a little more freely in the last 3 months but not that much though I guess he smiles a lot...he always smiles with everyone, we are sorta friends I think....Idk I am not sure......we have talked before too but like officially, unofficially we have talked a little bit only in the last 3 months I think...I am really confused how he sees me, if he sees me as a good friend I will be happy
I have a “crush”, but it doesn’t feel like what I would expect. I don’t get butterflies, or blush about him, or think he’s perfect and just think we would be the best couple or something. In fact I used to not like him, not for any reason, I think it was just a misunderstanding which was on my side anyway. I only started liking him after I talked to him. I don’t talk to people and I have anxiety. But with him, I felt comfortable and I actually talk. I don’t get too scared to talk to him. I don’t like him because he’s cute. Honestly it doesn’t seem like a crush. But I know it’s something I’d like to become more than friendship, so I guess it’s still a crush? I don’t feel like I need to change or be anything though. I just feel like I can be myself and that I care and like this person. I hope to become really close friends at least. I haven’t talked to him tooo much, but it literally hurts so bad to think of not seeing/talking to him again. He has helped me, my anxiety and depression has been better. He made me smile like I haven’t in a year, according to my Dad. I don’t completely understand it, but I am so grateful and happy to have talked to him, I literally can not express it.
Pov: You sit there watching your friend waddle up to their crush that they won't shut up about and ask their crush if they like them and you and your friends crush just sit their like🫥😐😶
"never tell your friends about your crush." Here is a lesson kids, learn from my mistake. My crush: *arrives in class* My friends: *looks at her until she notices them then they look back at me, and repeat the process f*cking everyday*
ok, need advice. If somebody took forever to reply every time for the span of a couple months, then I got the hint and walked off, and now that person came back a month later, apologized, and started texting first and making plans, should I just forgive? I know I shouldn’t have allowed it to last for a couple months of bad response and such and I should have walked off, but I guess I needed to learn to respect myself more, and I did. Now that person is back and showing a lot of consistent effort. I’m playing it cool and all, but part of me is still not over the way I was treated
I told my group of bffs Layla,Me, Elisa, I told layla and Elisa Guess what Elisa did she told my crush and I was pissed She Always wants to get in my way She never let's me and layla play alone She always gets mad when I play with her She talks about me behind my back 5 likes for pt 2
I have a quick story: So, me and my girlfriend have been dating for a couple months now and I’m still super anxious and also autistic. So, I sometimes don’t respond to her texts. She always tells me to text her and it stresses me out. By the way she’s not a bad person and I do really love her
I have a "friend" that is blackmailing me constantly the only reason im friends with him is cause hes best friends with my crush and im using him to get closer to him but now HE is instead blackmailing me with it
That's shit! Be yourself, be as you are! Don't try to be someone youre not. Maybe it takes more time to find a person who accept you, but it will be honest.
i made the first mistake. i told my friends about my crush. eventually, my friends pressured me to the extent that i confessed even though i didn’t really want to yet. for many reasons, that ended being an extremely traumatic experience. so first, i confessed. with a letter. the boy i confessed to showed more than half the grade that letter, and people make fun of me for it. they spread rumours that *stuck.* then, he actually said yes, and though i was mad at him my friends told me “this is what i’ve been waiting for” etc so i went out with him. turns out that was a prank too. he humiliated me. and everyone in my grade soon knew what happened. people’s image of me was damaged. if i hadn’t confessed so early, i probably would’ve known he’d be an asshole. without my friend’s influence, probably none of this would’ve happened. take your time with love, guys.
lol I did tell 2 people and guess what they did, tell her but it turned out fine because she liked me too lol so it went easy but sometimes it could ruin chances
I told her I have a crush on her(didn't proposed her, just told her), she smiled and now she texts me so much but she indirectly told me that she can't be in a relationship with anyone, what do I do now?💀
Chances are the timing for y'all is VERY unfortunate, (speaking from experience) 2 choices, leave it be as it you never told her and ghost her-ish, like don't be rude if she was to go up to u and make conversation like regular, normal friends, or u can try to be her close friend with time, but that would be about it. There is possibly other chances of pros and cons, but from what you've shared I can't really think of any other factors
Leave her alone. When girls say they don't want to be with anyone, they mean that no-one interesting, is interested in them. Or ask her out, and make sure she acknowledges that you consider it a date. Then you will get a no that you understand.
do you have a crush on anyone?
2 actually✌️
a straight girl🫠 literally love my life so much
No
Yes only 1 if we are not including my fictional ones ☺️
@geeschmee8228 Same 🙃
I love how she actually gives reasons why you shouldn't do some of these things so we don't just have to take it for granted
@@bubblegumsubs3886 I thought Bella said any pronouns
@@bubblegumsubs3886 shes a girl. Its her. She
@@---nt4kn isnt she a girl?
@@anderstermansen130 Yes
@@anderstermansen130 actually i’m pretty sure they’re non-binary!!
please do not bully your crush as a form of flirting. i know you're trying to be funny in front of your crush, but you might end up hurting them, hence killing your chances.
Facts 🙌
I know I should obviously know the answer but playfully teasing is fine right?
@@CornDogAnimations yeah but if they very obviously show they don’t like it then stop
Fr
@@princessnaiyahh yeah playful teasing is okay but constantly bothering your crush and being mean is just too far
PART 2: if someone has a crush on YOU and you know it
step 1. don’t be an @$$hole 💀
if they make it gotta send it to my crush she could use some tips 💀
@@thecampgay 😔✋
unless they are harassing you. Then be as much of an asshole as you want.
I used to breadcrumb when I was younger. When someone pointed out on the internet it could potentially harm people or at least make them tired of wasting their time, it was a true wake up call. They were usually shy boys who did not say a word about liking me but I just. Noticed. and I found it funny to tease them every once in a while. On the other hand it was an actual relief when one of them stopped liking me and cut out all contact like. Guess I had no space in your life as a person only as a distant figure to be admired huh 💀
Dude there’s this kid in my social studies class that has a crush on me and his friend told me and every time I’m around him now I feel so awkward and try to be nice but I don’t want him to think I like him
"Don't tell your friends-" Too late 💀
Omg reall!!!, my crush knows that I like him, I tried to text him but got ignored nvm, plus he got to know through his frnds, many of his frnds know that I like him
😫😫
Legit
Fr tho
Same lol
"Don't tell your friends about your crush"
Yup learnt that the hard way.
Me too 😅
Lmao same
Yeah same
Same my first real crush btw
Edit:and that's when I started crushing on fictional characters because they can't hurt you
yup biggest mistake of my life 💀
Bella giving legitimate tips:
Me staring at their glasses the whole time:
Yesss! So was I like why are they so hot-
🤨🤨🤨🤨🤨🤨🤨🤨🤨🤨🤨🤨
Her* glasses.
@@anderstermansen130 she goes by all pronouns. She’s agender
I was about to comment on that … they suit her really well 🤯
She allways has the best tips ngl
They do they slay we love them. ❤
fr
@@Megaman-1321 she do* she slay* whatever slay means
@@B1rrzzz France
@@anderstermansen130 bella uses any pronouns so yeah “they do” and “they slay” are correct
Tip: stalk your crush and don't ever talk to them
works like a charm trust me 😍🤠
so experienced
Same!! 😍😍😍
My bff is now daring Mt crush lol 😔
EDIT: THEY BROKE UP BUT I AM LESBIAN NOW 💀
Nice
@@Enver_Dragons_ oooop
Heres another pro tip, if someone says they'd look better without makeup say with a straight face "You'd look better without skin" and pull out a knife. They'll leave your crush alone
YOOOO
Umm… are you okay
Also I know it is a joke
Woah, this had me laughing so hard😂
Holy shit this escalates quickly
Fr this works even if you don't have a crush
I'm so glad I keep my crushes anonymous 💀
And I don't do any of this shii
Edit: Thanks for 1k🎉
Seriously!! Hats off to those who confess ...they really are brave
@@lizzipitup True!!
I got a massive fear of rejection, so even if they seem to like me, I kind of just wait for them to make the first move 😭
@J aww it's fine, atleast you saved yourself some time that that you were probably gonna spend by fantasizing about this person
@user-qr9id5ot6j Still! Props to you for having that confidence in yourself to do that!
Skull emoji
When someone says, it’s fine if you don’t want to, it makes me feel like they care about my feelings😊
Yeah
People use that strategy to gain your trust and then you open up to them later, or even immediately after
Really? It makes them less attractive attractive me
YES! EXACTLY! I was just agreeing with you the entire time I was watching this lol.
Btw I really needed to hear that "it's fine if you don't want to" one. I legit do that all the time please someone help ✋😭
Omg me toooo so I don’t seem annoying or like I’m pressuring someone to hang out with me I needa stop though 😭
I mean my friend does that too, and I don’t want to date them obvi becuz their my friend but I always thought it was sweet. Personally I don’t really mind when other people act like that, because it just shows that they care which is a green flag imo. I do understand why people may want to break the habit tho, as someone who does it myself I know it’s a sign of my social anxiety 😭
If you have a crush, develop some sort of relationship with them so you aren’t a complete stranger and just tell them
If it works out then awesome, if not, oh well. Just keep on moving
I always tell myself that there's no problem if your crush rejects you, there's plenty of other girls you have a crush on and likely have a crush on you. But I always seem to have that fear of rejection because theres some girls I like more than others and when the girl I've been crushing on the most rejects me, it sort of destroys me inside.
@@jermainehassan yeah, I get that and I’ve been there myself. But it’s okay. Me personally, I’m religious so I’m not too worried about this stuff. For me, I have the comfort of knowing that even if I’m single my entire life, it’s okay and I will get something far more worth
Religious or not, there is someone that we will end up with and that be it. We just have to wait and see how it goes
I tried to do that by texting them hi and it’s been like two days a they ignored me😢
@@Puffszzz I don't even know my crushes phone number.
Wait people develop crushes without knowing them? 💀
Ngl, they are just adorbs trying to help us all and our messy love lives out
Edit:
Y'all, I am sorry if you didn't understand that by they I meant Jayus. They kinda were the only person in that short tho? And I know that they go by any pronouns, and I could have used she, but I just feel more comfy to use they/them on Jayus since they never told us what they'd like to use as "the" pronoun in particular. So like yeah, use she/her if you want, but don't get angry at me if I use they/them?😂
Who?
@@Thcotwo jayus
It took me a while to figure out that you were talking about one person and not many. I hate pronouns
@@bemimu I is a pronoun
@@bemimu “It took *ME* a while to figure out *YOU* were talking about one person and not many. *I* hate pronouns”
“Oh no, someone lost *THEIR* wallet!”
Pronouns aren’t that complicated, man.
Friends will tell literally everyone they can too
Last year when I was 15 I had a crush on this girl who lived like a block away from me and I told my friend about it and almost everytime we would see her they’d just make me look stupid and weird on purpose to embarrass me ( I need better friends )
The fact that I was bouta ask why they always take a while to text back and I said to myself one more yt short 💀
I do the “it’s ok if you don’t want to” thing because a lot of the people I’ve liked feel bad turning down plans- most of them tend to be shy and have a hard time really communicating so I mostly do that to make them feel more comfortable since I don’t want them to feel forced to say they want to go out. I think it’s ok in some cases like this just maybe not in all cases.
Yes, me too. Some people say yes because they think they should. I just want you to go out with me if you really want to.
Also, some people are afraid that you would react badlly to them saying no. I just want them to be sure I will take the no with some maturity.
I guess it depends on your tone when you say it.
I do that so they feel comfortable knowing that they don’t have to 😭 I didn’t know that it made me look less confident I just wanted them to not feel forced
This is honestly REALLY good advice and I wish I knew in my early 20s
Best advice: Stay single. It's affordable, with no risks involved!
@@LiteByt you can't just stay single your whole life building relationships gives you more life experience and even if they might not work out most of the time you still get to cherish some happiness you felt while you did so.
@@c0smic.dw3llerobserve
I confessed my feelings to my crush through meme format.
Let’s just say he is now my boyfriend.
awwww, im happy for you
Nice
Ayy congrats 🥳🎉
That's how my boyfriend and I became a couple too!
Another reason not to tell your friends: they might betray you and tell your crush without your permission. Your crush will probably also think that you’re not confident enough to tell them yourself and it just hurts when someone goes behind your back. I may just have toxic friends but don’t do that nor should you tell your friend to ask your crush out for you, DO IT YOURSELF!!! I PROMISE THIS HELPS SO MUCH!!
Tbh if I just have a crush on this person, I'm gonna care more about my friends being legit friends than that person liking me back, so if they do betray me f them and if my crush doesn't stand by my side, it was probably not gonna work out anyways you know
No cause my friends talked about them so loud and it was so obvious. Even after I told them to stop pushing me towards them (literally) they still keep doing it. Now he doesn't show me anymore signs and I don't like him anymore
I used to have friends who just spread it to other friends who would tell other people until the whole class knew. They weren't very good friends
God, this has happened to me so many times 😑
I literally told to my friend
And the next day each of my friends including him and his friends knew it
like what
Your glasses are so cute. I hope you’re doing better Bella. ❤
There's only one of my friends who knows about the boy I like, purely because she was there when it dawned on me 💀 She does ask for 'updates' sometimes which can be irritating but it's not that bad
Also, one way to get around the "you don't have to if you don't want to" is to say something more along the lines of "no pressure, but I'd like you to be there". This way, you are saying something similar (i.e 'you don't have to') but are also reinforcing the fact that you want them to go.
I like that! Idk why but if I used it, I would say it this way: “no pressure, I’d just like to get to know you more” or “no pressure, I just thought it’d be nice to talk more”
I had a crush on someone, but I only talked to them like 2 words every day and it was going good. Then I told my best friend, who immediately told my crush I liked them. My crush now avoids all contact with me and it's horrible. Don't trust your friends no matter how much they promise they won't tell.
I have a crush on someone and i once called him brother then after some days i told them that someone i know has a crush on them then they would like everyday ask me who it is and i would laugh and say sorry i can't tell or the person will kill me then one day i told my bff should i tell my crush that I like him and she said i will tell him and then she went to my crush and told him that I like him and later i told him that don't tell anyone (although my whole class knows about him) and he just smiled and now my crush ignores me doesn't make eye contact with me like some times when i m staring at him he will look at me and whenever i make eye contact with him i blush and make a wierd face and i THINK he smiles too ?
Thanks for reading this long ass paragraph i hope your crush likes you back too ❤️
@@scarycroww I think I’m living in a fanfic cause my crush asked me out AFTER my friend told him. I’m really sorry abt yours tho, hope you find someone better girlie pop
@@scarycroww my story was literally the same but luckily my crush was close to me and i was one of his best friends so after sometime he slowly started talking to me again and now we are again the good buddies we used to be
Well, you may trust a friend if you really think that they can keep secrets. My friend tells me about their crushes and I respect their privacy cuz I don't wanna look like a bad friend
But like- dont trust your friends, they might betray you :>
I would like to add this. don't just confess to someone you've never actually talked to, cause when they inevitably reject you, You've just ruined all your chances and might have weirded them out.I'm saying from experience. Your best bet would be to try and be friends first. I mean, it's working for me.
Definitely take the hint always.
As for not telling your friends, that can be tricky. Some “friends” may go after your crush if you don’t speak up, but two faced “friends” will go behind your back and hook up or date your crush even after you told your “friends” that you’re FWB with the crush.
That sounds too specific, are you okay dude 😭
I needed this information a week ago
I nvr realized Bella in glasses looked so frckin pretty
I was thinking the same thing!
POTTAH!!!
@@rolosilver3256 lmao I was just about 2 say that
So I should cancel the candle lit dinner I had planned for myself haha self love :p
Or you have bad friends and they tell it to everyone. Happened to me every time, and now I'm just quiet and people call me an emo👍
Yep
relatable, like they literally shout my crush's name out to everyone and now he thinks I'm a weirdo 😐
That‘s a shitty thing to do. If they valued your feelings, they wouldn‘t be such assholes about it.
A little thing I’d like to say is that, if someone doesn’t text back for a while. Chances are they’ll respond to the last thing you said and follow it with “I was in the shower” or “I had to do some chores” but don’t feel obligated to receive a reason. I had to learn this after my toxic ex would consistently avoid updating me on plans that were in the works until almost a month after the plans were supposed to be set
I did all these things with my crush and I can now call them mine. ❤
Funfact: I told my friend I had a crush on them and she strated shipping us and that made my current gf take the hint. And the "but it is ok if you don't want to" thing made it look so I am not too full of myself (which I am not anyway.).
So in my case I am just gonna say be yourself. If someone doesn't love you for you then they aren't worth it.
Made your current gf take the hint? Break up with them ffs, dick.
HELLO?! YES, HAS ANYONE TOLD YOU THAT THE OUTFIT YOU'RE WEARING TODAY IS GREAT IT REALLY LOOKS GOOD ON YOU
AND THE GLASSES???
why is this comment so wholesome
I was looking for this comment! It looks great
Damn I was called out as soon as video started.😂
pro tip: don't talk to them
Thank god I haven't done any yet. Resisting my demonic urges to tell my friends or annoying the hell outta my crush by texting her every hour that she's not replying to me 💀
Good to know i'm still walking
I feel ya lol.
Jayus, your hair slayed this video ✨
The n word
This lady. Said. The. N. Word.
@@cameronhulsey3748 she apologized
Ong came in comments to point this out
She be slaying fr
@@aryan___9955 n word
Used to have a two-way crush, was invited to her birthday party months prior… and uninvited last minute (her dad was angry at me). Before knowing her I was really good friends with her brother, and he told me that she had a crush on me… it took a few months for me to tell her and I was still invited to the party after. The unfortunate thing is that something went on with my friend at school where he was attacked and the reason his dad was angry was because he thought I did nothing to help him, when I did all I really could do.
Hey Bella!
The probability of you seeing this is next to zero, but know this:
We all love you! No matter what people like mattie do to you, we’ll still love you more than anything, and we appreciate you posting in this difficult time.
Your life hacks literally save us. Like, seriously, they SAVE us!
Your 11 siblings are also here for you, and probably want another game of hide and seek!
That’s all for now, but, keep going, your an amazing human, and we couldn’t ask for any more of you.
KEEP GOING OUR FAVOURITE PERSON
Another reason to not tell your friends about your crush: I had a MASSIVE crush on this person, so I was talking to my friend about this person when my brother overheard. Guess what: you guessed it! He told the person. 3 years of a healthy mindset thrown out the window. Also do not tell them because your friends will in some cases tell your crush.
@werid person Bruh Ik 😭 A little more context, I liked that person for 3 whole years when my friend decided to go over to the person and tell them that I didn't like them (a lie) so they said "Thank god."
I asked my crush to a school dance yesterday, and they said yes, and they have been aggressively flirting sense.
Omg so lucky
My crush story is VERY confusing😂 my 'crush' (I'm kinda getting over him now) is my ex but what happened is, we dated for about 5 or 6 years so from the age 8 - 13 but we got in a small argument, he called my little brother who was 6 slow in the head, so I broke up with him. Our moms seen we broke up so they wanted us to atleast be friends so they brought us to a carnival where we became friends again so now we are best friends but I started to gain feelings for him. Turns out he is gay, which I am completely fine with, it kind of upset me but now I'm sort of getting over him. We are still best friends right now.😂😂 confusing😂
I don't think you always have to accept getting ghosted. If the relationship has gotten to a point where you both know you like each other and then suddenly they take forever to answer, I feel like I deserve to know what's up/get a real end.
Agreed, but I do not think it is ghosting that this refers to, more the "Hi, what's up?" that sometimes ends up on read for a few hours, when the other person is busy with laundry, work, kids puking their guts out, the cat climbing the curtains and so on. Though, a quick summary of the madness in the life can be nice in its own way.
I need crush advice so bad, I like this guy and it’s literally draining me that I can’t even talk to him Fr but we keep making eye contact! 😭
quit being a coward
dont get him if hes in a group of friends, he might act differently
Doesn’t mean he likes you. I hate how people are feeding into delusional shit like this. If you don’t shoot your shot and actually find out then nobody is going to help you.
Personally I always find reasons to talk to crushes and get to know them and some times it works out and other times they are great friends
How do you know the guy? If it's through school then maybe you can try get his attention by asking him stuff like "hey can I borrow a pen" or "what answer did you get for this question". Don't be too awkward and just try to be friendly. Talk the same way with lots of people so it doesn't come off as you giving him special attention or creepy. If he sees you have options then it will make him like you more since people always want something when it's less available to them. If he doesn't seem interested in talking to you after this, chances are he may just not be interested but see if it works.
I’m gonna tell you one thing. If he either makes eye contact with you for 1 or 2 seconds or if he doesn’t smile when you guys make eye contact. That mf does not like you. Just because a man looks at you doesn’t mean he wants to date you. Try talking to him and don’t make it awkward but if he is the first one to always talk to you he MIGHT like you. Don’t just stand here and do nothing give it a shot.
Can you make a video about how to get over an obsession with someone? Asking for a friend.
She literally isn't over her ex, what makes you think she's gonna give good advice on the subject?
@@Thcotwo I think that was the point of the joke (if they were joking)
"For the sake of the plot" 😂
I think I need to add something about the friends, no matter if you're super close to your friends they WILL spill it whether it's by spreading it with word or by acting weird every time that crush passes by you. PEOPLE WILL NOTICE and that has happened to me, now almost everybody even the teachers know 😊
I think that sometimes people don’t text back and it is because they have an issue with you. “Taking the hint” really does not help you diagnose the issue. Simply recognizing that there is one is not enough to solve it, you have to know what it is. When someone asks me why I didn’t text them back or when I do it to someone else, I don’t interpret that as them trying to pressure me, I take it as an opportunity to provide constructive feedback. Unfortunately for me when I’m on the receiving end of that silent treatment most people either will continue to be silent or just make up some bs. Like come on, just be direct and upfront. Relationships in general would be so much healthier for it, and toxic ones would be snuffed out before they had the opportunity to ruin people.
I agree with most of what else was said here
i have social anxiety and so sometimes ill get scared of texting someone and tell myself ill do it later but then forget
they do not believe me at all when i say i forgot 😔✌️
but i mean like i wouldnt either so lol
Bella talking:
Me staring at their glasses:
me tooo lol
Her* glasses.
@@anderstermansen130 yes and no they go by all so its ok
Her: DO NOT tell your friends about your crush
Me: Welp too late! 😅
(Another one)
( Tells my BFFS my crush)
Me: yea thats him!
My BFFS: IMA TELL HIM!
Me: NOOOOO
Istg my friends keep asking for updates and we arent ever friends yet, we’re just like acquaintances💀✨
Instructions unclear, I am now in federal prison.
w h a t
me too
Damn I'm a member of the cartel now...
😐
"Humor" VERY clear....Congrats?🤣🤣🤣🤣😳
Honestly, just do 2&3 with basically all your relationships, not just your crushes.
This is literally what I tell myself! That's why I have to share this to my friend because me explaining won't make her understand but sharing, definitely. This is the best What Not To Do video that I have seen so far (probably because I have experienced these things the hard way)
bro, i remember one time i used to have a friend when i was in 6th grade and i told him who my crush was, he tells a couple kids then my entire class knows who my crush is and has blackmail on me. my crush was in a different class btw.
then i had a different crush, this time i told the same friend and he told ALL OF THE FRIENDS OF THE GIRL I LIKED AND I WAS FUCKING PISSED AF BRO LIKE NAH HE LUCKY I WAS CHILL THEN FR.
ANOTHER reason you shouldn't tell your friends (learnt from experience):
It might be when you are young and later in life they will still think that you have a crush on that person so they'll make jokes ab it and maybe tell your "former crush" ab the crush. Trust me, it's really awkward when your former crush goes up to you and says "I know you have a crush on me, your friends told me."
Sorry I don’t get what you mean
@@ThatPieceOfBread24 I believe what they mean is that your friends will continuously tease you about having a crush on someone even if you no longer have a crush on them, which will eventually end up being told to the former crush. Which in turn will create a very awkward situation. Where you're confronted with someone who thinks you like them when you don't Anymore
@@anbellfox oh ok I understand now.Yes,this happens to me a lot too
Bro my friend wrote a letter in class saying” hey tell … you like her” and forgot to give it to me, she read it cause he wrote my name on it. I was on the verge of murder
@urgaymomofc It was two weeks ago so I’m still mad
i devolop a crush> i ignore it> i tell my friends that i feel like that> they tell me i have terrible taste> theyre right and i agree> i stop liking them> i devolop a new crush
similar thing except i cant agree w every single other person in the world telling me that i have bad taste and cant stop liking him
Usually, instead of being like,
"Oh, it's fine if you don't want to"
I usually say,
"No pressure to come to [place] or do [action]! I completely understand if this is too sudden, or you don't feel comfortable yet!"
I'm a person who has really bad anxiety about making people uncomfortable, or feel like I'm too mean to hang out with, so I try to be a very generally understanding person when it comes to asking my friends/partners to come to activities with me.
As an aromatic person I can confirm that I have no idea why I watched this video
Same lmao
she is so fine😭😭 i can’t even focus on what she’s saying
🤮
These videos like this help so much you should definitely keep making more
(Tw: slight SH and ED mentions)
Help me please, my crush (female) keeps giving me these adorable little origami things like bats and hearts, we don’t talk much but we have these intimate little moments where we lock eyes until one of us gets too shy and looks away (usually me) and like I wanna give her something, but even tho I’m a girl idk what girls like. I don’t know what anyone likes. I really hope she likes me, but like I don’t know. We are both extremely shy and for me I have trouble talking to my friend of 2 years still, but I can do it easier than I can with others yk? We don’t talk much (Me and my crush) but like I feel like we kinda understand each other because we have been having non-verbal conversations, this is like the first time im **actually** in love and it’s kinda scary, and I don’t think any one of us can make a first move. I’m begging you for help dear stranger, what do I get (or make) her that’s cute and simple, and that’s not like too expensive because im broke af. Something that you can get a newer friend. (or make) she’s the reason I’ve been going to school and refraining from SH and im trying to eat more (im anorexic) so I can go to school without wanting to pass out. ilhsm
Damn that first one felt personal lmao.. had to find it out the hard way..
Your glasses look really cool Bella! They suit you a lot 😊
if i could reply to the pinned comment i'd literally say "why would i tell you? you'd kill my chances" but its maxxed out on replies 💀
But then there’s this confusing situation that you have a crush on someone and you start talking and he somehow shows that he’s also into you (like making you laugh, sending you❤️s, telling you he actually would like to set a date). And then all of a sudden he ghosts you ,he never texts you any more like you never existed 🤨 . The confusion is gnawing at me rn i mean I just wanna know WHY, like my brain won’t fucking let go😂😢.
The friend thing is so true smh except she decided she wanted him too after hearing how I talked about him.
Sucks for her, we just had our 1 year last Saturday
Can you make a video about tips of how to handle when your crush is from different races? Love your videos 💖🎉😍👍💐
We are here for you bella
My crush knows I have a crush on her. Haven't asked her out yet because we're 13 + I'm leaving the school soon enough so I won't stay in contact with her for long enough. So I already have a 0% chance...unfortunately
i feel exposed 😭 i love it though
Omg, you have NO IDEA how much I needed to hear that!!! 🙏
Also, please do not tell that person: 'i like you' without having a great bond with them and sorta know they like you back as well. This girl i know did this after we talked for about 3 months, and it's so goddamn awkward, i hate it. Even worse, after that she kept texting me every day! Guys, take the hint when the person doesn't reply within a day for multiple times.
I did not tell my crush I like him but I did text him, not everyday only when its needed but once I sent him a screenshot of a UA-camr who looks like him, he didn't reply and then I didn't send him anything unless I had to ask him anything necessary but I might have asked have texted him 2 times a day although it was just asking he if he was there in that place and he said no and then i said okay and I thanked him for inviting me for participating in something and he only reacted to that message....is that spamming.....I don't know 😢 is it too many messages 🥺 he is really sweet in real life but while texting even when I sent one or two words to him I am scared it might be a disturbance to him but I never ask him why he doesn't reply I just pretend I forgot I even texted him😂
I have known him for a year now but I started liking him from 5 months back and I guess I kinda talked a little more freely in the last 3 months but not that much though I guess he smiles a lot...he always smiles with everyone, we are sorta friends I think....Idk I am not sure......we have talked before too but like officially, unofficially we have talked a little bit only in the last 3 months I think...I am really confused how he sees me, if he sees me as a good friend I will be happy
I have a “crush”, but it doesn’t feel like what I would expect.
I don’t get butterflies, or blush about him, or think he’s perfect and just think we would be the best couple or something.
In fact I used to not like him, not for any reason, I think it was just a misunderstanding which was on my side anyway. I only started liking him after I talked to him.
I don’t talk to people and I have anxiety. But with him, I felt comfortable and I actually talk.
I don’t get too scared to talk to him. I don’t like him because he’s cute.
Honestly it doesn’t seem like a crush. But I know it’s something I’d like to become more than friendship, so I guess it’s still a crush?
I don’t feel like I need to change or be anything though.
I just feel like I can be myself and that I care and like this person. I hope to become really close friends at least. I haven’t talked to him tooo much, but it literally hurts so bad to think of not seeing/talking to him again.
He has helped me, my anxiety and depression has been better. He made me smile like I haven’t in a year, according to my Dad.
I don’t completely understand it, but I am so grateful and happy to have talked to him, I literally can not express it.
Don't call them the N Word
we all have that one friend that we let out our anger on and tell them all our personal stuff because they always forget 💀
Hope you recover well and take as much time you need to recover
Pov: You sit there watching your friend waddle up to their crush that they won't shut up about and ask their crush if they like them and you and your friends crush just sit their like🫥😐😶
"never tell your friends about your crush."
Here is a lesson kids, learn from my mistake.
My crush: *arrives in class*
My friends: *looks at her until she notices them then they look back at me, and repeat the process f*cking everyday*
I got a headache and guess who's channel I immediately went to😭
ok, need advice. If somebody took forever to reply every time for the span of a couple months, then I got the hint and walked off, and now that person came back a month later, apologized, and started texting first and making plans, should I just forgive?
I know I shouldn’t have allowed it to last for a couple months of bad response and such and I should have walked off, but I guess I needed to learn to respect myself more, and I did. Now that person is back and showing a lot of consistent effort. I’m playing it cool and all, but part of me is still not over the way I was treated
I told my group of bffs Layla,Me, Elisa,
I told layla and Elisa Guess what
Elisa did she told my crush and I was pissed
She Always wants to get in my way
She never let's me and layla play alone
She always gets mad when I play with her
She talks about me behind my back
5 likes for pt 2
I have a quick story:
So, me and my girlfriend have been dating for a couple months now and I’m still super anxious and also autistic. So, I sometimes don’t respond to her texts. She always tells me to text her and it stresses me out. By the way she’s not a bad person and I do really love her
I have a "friend" that is blackmailing me constantly the only reason im friends with him is cause hes best friends with my crush and im using him to get closer to him but now HE is instead blackmailing me with it
That's shit! Be yourself, be as you are! Don't try to be someone youre not.
Maybe it takes more time to find a person who accept you, but it will be honest.
Yeah I do pls pin this I have a HUGE crush but I told my friends my crush and they told her that I like her what do I do? Please tell me
i made the first mistake. i told my friends about my crush. eventually, my friends pressured me to the extent that i confessed even though i didn’t really want to yet. for many reasons, that ended being an extremely traumatic experience.
so first, i confessed. with a letter. the boy i confessed to showed more than half the grade that letter, and people make fun of me for it. they spread rumours that *stuck.* then, he actually said yes, and though i was mad at him my friends told me “this is what i’ve been waiting for” etc so i went out with him. turns out that was a prank too. he humiliated me. and everyone in my grade soon knew what happened. people’s image of me was damaged.
if i hadn’t confessed so early, i probably would’ve known he’d be an asshole. without my friend’s influence, probably none of this would’ve happened.
take your time with love, guys.
Why is no one mentioning Jayus looks like Harry Potter with those glasses?
For some damn reason I never had a crush on anyone in my entire life...probably cuz people don't talk to me
lol I did tell 2 people and guess what they did, tell her but it turned out fine because she liked me too lol so it went easy but sometimes it could ruin chances
I was keeping in secret for myself but my friends found out somehow...(┬┬﹏┬┬).
I had a crush on someone and told my friend…
She low-key FORCED us together too soon and it didn’t work out 😢
I feel like the first one kinda depends because when my best friend told me she had a crush on someone like 2 months ago , I got them together soooo
I told her I have a crush on her(didn't proposed her, just told her), she smiled and now she texts me so much but she indirectly told me that she can't be in a relationship with anyone, what do I do now?💀
Chances are the timing for y'all is VERY unfortunate, (speaking from experience) 2 choices, leave it be as it you never told her and ghost her-ish, like don't be rude if she was to go up to u and make conversation like regular, normal friends, or u can try to be her close friend with time, but that would be about it. There is possibly other chances of pros and cons, but from what you've shared I can't really think of any other factors
Leave her alone. When girls say they don't want to be with anyone, they mean that no-one interesting, is interested in them. Or ask her out, and make sure she acknowledges that you consider it a date. Then you will get a no that you understand.
My crush is ✨FICTIONAL✨ so what do I do about that??🤔
I did tell my friends that I have a crush, luckily they were my respectful guy friends who stay loyal to me ❤
I told my ceush i would kill him if he let my cat out bc im in a diff contry and hes watching them
I'm sorry that I can't be confident when everyone has shot my confidence to 0
My chances are already dead... of course my crush had to be bts 🫡😪😔