That's what I'm trying to do but when I ask her questions about her self or her interests, it just ends up sounding like an interview/interrogation (please help)
@@necromancer871 @necromancer871 yea its like that. The conversation just doesn't really go anywhere and she doesn't answer questions back ☹️ I don't think she's uninterested bc she doesn't really show it
@@lunarbat6009 Thats the point. This video is bullshit. It only works in a society where women even bother with average men. But we live in one where 80% of the women are going for the top 5% of men. The rest are invisible to them, so its impossible to even start a conversation with most women let alone ask one out.
@@lunarbat6009talk to her like you having fun spending time with her and not just because you like her (I don't really know how to explain this better than this)
Here's my experience that no one asked for. I fell in love with my best friend. I met her at high school, and at the beginning, she was just a friend and thought she was kinda cute. Then I went to university and lost contact with her, but I didn't like my career so I changed it and went to another university, and there I found her again, prettier than ever and, in general, better than ever, we were so happy we would study together. Sadly she has a boyfriend, and when I decided I'd tell her I like her and then I heard about it, I backed out. We continued being friends and forged a better relationship, to a point that now I consider her more than just my best friend. One day at a party, I felt kinda bad about my repressed feelings, so I decided I'd tell her, I was scared cause I thought she would see me differently in a bad way, but actually she was touched, then I told her how I felt about her in general and how much I cared about her, she told me that at some point she came to like me too, but then she met her boyfriend who she's really happy with. Man, I do not regret at all telling her about my feelings. It felt like taking a big weight off my back. Today, we are still friends, and let me tell you, we are much closer together, we are more open to each other in general, and I feel like we have a really strong bond built on trust, honesty and love. What I'm trying to say is that, even when I was scared about rejection, I got something even better, I got closer to the one I love the most, and one of the people that matters most to me. So, even if you're scared, maybe you can win much more. And if you get rejected, there's so many great people out there, so there will always be room for love with someone, always.
@Phantomile06 I can relate to this comment frfrr. Have you told her how you feel yet? If not that's fine take your time. Don't rush nothing. But if you have how did it go?
@@pandaguy1368 I did, it went good, we're not a couple. But we're the best of friends and we created such a close bond, I'm happy with this situation and enjoying the time with her.
Wholesome stuff ei Can i ask for your advice then? cuz i have these sort of feelings for someone i consider my bestfriend-im scared if i tell him (yes aym a girl) he might find me gross or something ^. .^ we live in different places and just talk through chat, almost been a year and ever since i met him, bro hasnt left my mind for a single day ;;; We align most of the time and somewhat complement each other, even have the same bdays so we both think of it like we're lost siblings lmaoo im saving up to book a flight near his city by next, or next² year and i wanna tell him my feelings in person.. i value our friendship very much so being rejected doesnt scare me-but im scared that the state of our friendship might change.. gonna regret it badly if i dont tell him my feelings but idk what kind of things to expect after confessing so all these scenes go play in my head
Anyone asking about how to deal with feeling towards a friend or best friend, depending on y’all’s situation, definitely tell them. I was so afraid to tell my best friend that I had liked her for a while, so much in fact that because of my anxiety I started having a mental warfare inside my head trying to get the balls to say it, adding to the fact that she was watching this happen while we were sitting in her car. Once that was over, I nervously asked her that whatever I’m about to say, and she responded “we’ll still be best friends”, that one short response allowed me to say it and now we’re a couple. Trust me it’s difficult as hell, but tell them, I know I was really lucky in my situation, but whether they share those feelings or not, it’s better than not saying anything in the end
Best advice I can give, as a girl myself, is to not ask right away if you've only been talking 2 days. It can come off as creepy. Give it time, hang out as much as you can so you can get to know each other. Also, keep in mind that everyone is human & flawed. There will be no "perfect girl." I dated my friend for years, gave the geeky guy a chance. He turned out to be such a gentleman & so fun to be with. We had nearly the same interests so that helped too. We fell out of love after some distance was put between us, but heck my dude was surprised I ever even agreed to a date. He told me he kept thinking I would say no. We're still friends to this day since things ended in a positive note, we just weren't feeling like we were going anywhere with the relationship.
Question: Is there a good way to get to know a girl better cause I ask questions about her/interests but it feels more like an interrogation cause the conversation isn't going anywhere
@@lunarbat6009 Really depends. Scenario 1: Are you asking her open ended questions? (Not just yes/no stuff). If so maybe try more follow up questions if she's being bland Scenario 2: If she's purposefully being dry, then just leave her. She ain't worth your time and you can do so much better.
@@lunarbat6009 try asking something relatable. Like family life, childhood, events, weird dreams you get sometimes, issues with friends, or life in general. Sometimes the conversation may even end up becoming deep i feel like you've already done half of what i mentioned but you get the idea 😭
@@lunarbat6009 Yeah, I totally understand what you mean. I’ve been there before too. Try talking about things you have in common, if not go for something relatable. Maybe you have class together, know someone in common, both have siblings? Or you can talk about places you’d like to go to one day. When all else fails, you can let them talk more about a certain thing they feel passionate about and include thoughts about that there to make the conversation more organic. I am by no means a relationship expert, but I think great communication is a good way to start any kind of relationship with someone 🙂
The single worst but also best thing that ever happened to me was asking my crush out. The girl who I was madly in love with rejected me, and it was so utterly horrific. I thank God every single day for her saying no. It hurt me so bad. Felt like the end of the world. Felt like I’d never be happy again. It took months to get over it. But now? I’m the happiest I’ve ever been. The amount of confidence that gave me was insane. Showed me I can do scary things even if I’m terrified. Really taught me a valuable life lesson that you don’t always get everything you want, but that’s okay. Since her, I’ve started self improvement so much. I started working out intensely as a way to cope with the rejection. Thanks to her, I now have a 6 pack and huge biceps. I do things for myself more these days. I’m stronger, more confident, happier. I have a healthier and more realistic understanding of relationships. I’m more independent, and I love myself a whole lot more. Ask your crush out. Even if they say no. So worth it in the long run.
Yeah. Been in love with someone for like 5 years, asked her, got rejected, and now lm glad i got rejected because shes never managed to be in a relationahip for over 4 months.
but did you enjoy talking to her did u enjoy her presence do you still talk to her and is there anything thats not the same and if yall dont talk do you miss it@@boiledtea479
@@notghostej It really f*cking hurts. I’m still friends with the girl but in a way I did lose her. I lost a future marriage with her, I lost my dream with her. I felt quite alone and depressed for ages, but it gets better. Even to this day it still hurts a bit that I don’t have her, but I have grown so much and realise that I suppose it wasn’t meant to be even if I still love her a lot. If you lose her then you lose her. It hurts but it does get better with time.
@@boiledtea479 That’s rough man, and I’m sorry she said no. Glad you’re seeing the bright side of it though and maybe it just wasn’t meant to be. Wishing you the best man.
if you spend your time chasing butterflies, they'll fly away. If you spend your time making a beautiful garden the butterflies will come to you, and if they don't come, then you still have that beautiful garden
If your main goal is to get butterflies and the garden doesn't work, then you failed. A beautiful garden requires maintanence - watering the plants, cutting bushes, etc. If the purpose isn't met, there's no point in maintaining that garden. In other words, if you don't get the butterflies, you'll be stuck with an ugly garden that you have to take care of.
@@ssbcakeman6443you missed The point, it's an analogy, you don't make The garden for The butterflies, you make It for yourself or in other words you improve yourself to grow as a person, not for The girl you like, sure, you gotta Go after her, but not fundamentally change yourself for someone else, Trust me, that always ends up bad
@@nicholassgobero You misunderstood the analogy. The analogy is saying that you're changing for the girl. But as a consolation if you didn't get the girl then you still have your beautiful transformation. That's the meaning of the analogy. That's where the problem is. The analogy is saying if you didn't have the butterfly then you still have the beautiful garden. If you don't get the butterfly then what's the point of having the garden in the first place? You still have to do maintenance for the garden and yet you still didn't have any butterfly in it. See the point?
As a female if a girl says ew after you confessed to her then there might be something wrong with you for liking her. No girl that has a heart would tell you "ew" that's messed up bro drop her QUICK
Yep, nowadays I'd say what guys are most afraid of isn't the rejection itself, but the chance of being publicly humiliated or made fun of for absolutely no reason, just cause you know, she felt like doing that and felt good about herself hurting someone like that. I myself am like that, I'm not afraid to hear a no, but i want to avoid situations where they're trying their best to make me feel bad to make themselves feel good. I never took a "no" as a loss or something that made feel defeated, they just don't see you that way , just as you don't see a lot of people like that, and that is fine, it's how the world works and applies to everything. But, humiliating someone or publicly making fun of them is what causes a lot of guys to simply stop trying or think there's something wrong with them and like i said, today it seems to be quite common unfortunately......
Agreed. Doing that just means she's gross & doesn't give a rats ass about someone's feelings. Don't feel bad if you're rejected by a girl like this. I've rejected guys before but I make it clear that it's because I don't feel that way & would rather not be stuck in a relationship where I wasn't even interested to begin with. I didn't even say "Ew, no." to the dude that wouldn't take NO for an answer. Up to plain stalker behavior & kept insisting he had a "glow up" to get me interested. In truth his attitude was awful, that's why I said no. Mostly I try to give someone a chance, a date or two. Because I know it takes guts! I've been rejected myself 😅 But I'd never humiliate someone, that's just... Wrong.
I'm a 17 year old girl and told a guy about my feelings, got rejected in such a manner by the gentlemen that i feel absolutely free, we were and are friends, i wasn't expecting a relationship out of us, he have a crush on someone else, we talked for 40 minutes afterwards, and i must say am grateful to have such friends with me Edit: i just added comas cause someone got a stroke reading this earlier
I’m a girl too, and I’m thinking of confessing to this guy, who is very handsome and everyone also agrees with me, but he most likely has a gf (uh I saw him dancing with another girl) but my friend says that he might be single now, who knows? I think it might be a dumb move for me to confess because I’ve already seen him dancing with someone, but then again my friend telling me he might be single now is throwing me off 😭
@@GatozpartyAre you two friends? cause the one i told was actually my friend so i knew very well about his love life. Maybe ask him if he's single, as a friend.
It's not always as simple as telling them. In my case I keep ending up stuck in toxic relationships after seeing a girl's true colors once we're dating. Now I always approach girls I like with extreme caution and avoid starting relationships at all unless I'm 100% sure that they're not insane first.
I understand man, but I believe you're smart to maneuver around those bad girls, king. Be aware of those crazy girls, but if you TRULY like her go for it! That's all I'm saying
I'm about to be 18 in a couple months, and I haven't even held a girl's hand romantically. However, looking at it like that discards most of my efforts in the recent past. I remember that only 3 years ago, I was stuttering over every word when talking to pretty girls, but now I can actually hold a conversation and act nonchalant. After 6 rejections, I have been forced to look within myself more intently and question all aspects of my life. The best things in life are indeed on the opposite of fear. Thank you for creating such an inspiring video.
The fact that you found 6 girls you were interested in was impressive enough. You'll def find someone at this rate. I don't have anyone who I even want to ask out
i’ve had a crush on this girl for 8 yrs i’m going to go to her school concert next week without telling her she’s gonna be surprised im there cause it’s only for ppl at her school, but she doesn’t know i’ve transferred there for next year and the pinticppal said i could attend the concert. imma tell her when the fireworks start
I recently asked a girl out and she said yes. After 3 rejections between different girls, I found one, and my god is she a sweetheart, I want to spend every moment with her. I'm not even that attractive or funny, yet I found a girl who cares and genuinely loves me. So remember Kings, ask her out, if she says no, improve yourself if she says yes you secured the bag.
Growing up, I was rejected by a lot of boys, and they would always say that the pretty girls are skinny and all. I was a child so I would feel really bad about it. Now im on my late teens and I got a personality glow. Tried to be less angry about life and just tried to enjoy my teenhood as much as I can. It landed me in a almost 2 year relationship. And I realized how immature I am compared to him, so I'm trying my best for him and for myself. I feel way better now. I just wanted to say that sometimes, personal growth is everything.
Don't forget to do it when you both know eachother long enough, don't do it after 2 days of falling for her. When you two know eachother atleast for a good amount of time is when it's worth to try
That's where it gets confusing for me bro. If ur already talking to them u might as well already be with em. I mean it ain't like it is impossible nowadays because nobody tries, the hardest part is just talking to them normally without getting smacked by a phone camera and put all over tiktok and shit because drama queens are drama queens. I think once u talk to them u pretty much got em.
Uh, but if that girl isnt your classmate or whatever. Lets suppose you just spotted her outside... If you approach her it becomes obvious that you somehow interested in her, isnt it? And also... if you dont have same friends with this girl to hang out with then what else can you do to spend time with her except asking her out? Either I am just dumb, cuz i am not a native speaker. But fix me if im wrong. Asking out - means aks her for a date? Or confess that you have a crush on her?
I think the hardest but most important lesson I've had to learn from rejection is "Just because I like her, does not make her special". What I mean by that is that she's still a human being with flaws and insecurities like me, and this isn't gonna be my only chance in life to get a life partner. There are plenty of people who can be a better fit for me than her. And I know it's hard, it's really f*cking hard, because if u think she isn't special until you get something out of her, doesn't that mean that u don't truly love her? No! Just don't put all the hopes of ur life into a girl simply because she was kind or pretty. It takes a long time to get to know someone and u can't truly love someone until you understand their deepest flaws and insecurities and they reciprocate that love. The average lifespan of a human is 70 years, don't worry u have plenty of time, just take it slow and u'll find the right person. And don't blame urself when they reject u, because then they weren't the right person and realise that sometimes ur gonna be wrong and that's ok.
You're spitting facts dude this is all 1000℅ true even if some sounds cliche. Its cliche for a reason. If things don't work out with a girl, its ok, you will survive and grow from it. We run away desperately from emotions like sadness and disappointment and social embarrassment. But these emotions cannot harm you, we shouldn't be so afraid of experiencing them. Happiness will come. You just need to believe in your own ability to improve, and its just a matter of time
i confessed after a month of hesitation, I wasn't reject nor was i liked back, she just thanked me and at that point i knew i had to focus more on myself
I'm personally scared because we've been friends for so long, I'm worried that it will end the wholesome relationship we have. But this gave me courage and made me see things I never would have thought of. Thanks brother.
I’m in the same boat 🫠 he and I are great friends and I’d never want to ruin our friendship if we ever do get in a romantic relationship and it goes wrong, or if I told him I liked him and he didn’t reciprocate and it just became awkward. Good luck to you, bro! 🫡
That means that you should be logical then? I believe you should be logical but still follow your feelings. Find a logical way to follow your feelings. Logic without heart is behaving like a machine, a robot, and that is not you.
@@NoNono-o3h you seriously dude? 1 Jesus is eternal, he’s the first and the last 2. Show me any historical documentation of the real life musashi saying that, he has very few documented writing and non have said that phrase. 3. A historical manage character saying something in a manga doesn’t know mean that historical figure said that.
@@ghostlypitou2746 "a historicsl character saying someone said something doesnt mean the character said that" Bro do i have news for you about the scripture
back then i had a crush on a girl who had a crush on me, but when i confess she somewhat rejected me but in a nice way that it wont hurt as much (doesn’t matter how it is, rejection is still painful 💀). back then i didn’t know how to “confess” to someone even if that person likes me but im glad that i did because now i feel so much better and not constantly thinking about her and all the possibilities 24/7 now. It still stings whenever i think back at it and how well it could’ve gone if i know how to actually confess to her, but at least now i can use that experience and learn from my mistakes and avoid doing the same thing in the future. My advice is that if you truly have a crush on someone (even if that person likes you back or not) be friends with them first before confessing, if you just confess straight away then the chances of you getting rejected is really high.
i did have a crush that had a crush on me too, but we were so embarrassed that we never really "dated", I just find it hard too even speak to someone, let alone attempt to make friends.
As an very shy introvert awkward guy i suggest u should still approach the person u like and if it's too much for u then u could start with communicating with that person online to build momentum and when u finally have the courage to talk to her irl then go for it if u still can't after that then force yourself to do it and the results would be worth to find out since u wouldn't know unless u try and who knows u might even become that person's friend and from there u start to build it up more if u want to ;)
1. You lose nothing. 2. You might gain something 3. You won't waste your emotions on someone who might not be for you either and move on faster. 4. Start by actually communicating
My situation is quite the opposite. When I started having feelings I stepped back to access and think about how I felt. I decided I did have feelings for this girl. So I asked her out. The problem is she already knew somehow despite me telling literally no one. She then went on to state how there is no good quality’s about me in any way and that she was stringing me on and using me. Then she said “I’m just kidding”. I replied with “wether you aren’t or are joking I’m done I don’t want to be your friend your boyfriend or anything to you” then I left and she proceeded to aggressively and concerningly stalk me and my sister and then my girlfirend who I may add is perfect to me for the next 3 months and a half and then would move away and then mail concerning images and information of my whereabouts for those past 3 and a half months proving she stalked me. She had a screw loose.
I watched this video a month after it came out. At the time there was a girl that I liked but was too scared to ask her out, this video along with the support of friends helped me build the courage to ask her. She's now my girlfriend and we've been together over 6 months now, still going strong. I'm glad this video showed up in my recommended again so I can say thank you for playing a part in giving me the confidence to shoot my shot. Ended up being the best thing I ever did. I hope you have a great day. ^^
remember to give them a good impression of who you are first before hand. It doesn't matter how effortless and confident you are, if she is emotionally mature and she doesn't know you she ain't gonna go out with you until she knows you aint a creep. Make it easier on yourself and make sure she knows who you are before asking her out.
@@hokagehunter_6991 pretend to be someone you aren't until the crushing weight of undiagnosed impostor syndrome takes you to your therapist where you will learn the name of what you are suffering from. upon learning you have impostor syndrome the among us flashbacks will send you spiraling into a blissful rage the likes of which no man can comprehend
Actually, I've learned from my experience that there's at least 1 VERY good reasom not to tell her: it might not be her your in love with, but your own unconscious projection of her (your anima), in which case chances are you have a terrible, lacking, or non-existent mother figure. To know if it's actually your anima, you won't see her as a person but as an image, as bright as the sun, where you're conjuring up all sorts of fantasies, no matter how realistic you make them be, that are completely unalligned with her actual personality and just over-all uniqueness as a person in general. If you're doing this, chances are you fantasize about yourself as well while you're at it, to be charming, handsome, and succesful, which means there's a good chance you're in fact not those things in reality, far from it even, which would lead the confession to an incredible downhill rejection and then a further descent spiralling downward through a hellish period of despair and depression. I've had a crush in primary, middle, and high school, all 3 different girls. First 2 I was completely infatuated, and I never confessed. Learnt my lesson in high school, but accidentally slipped up and confessed elsewhere, luckily inarticulately, so no one understood, forgot, and quickly moved on. I don't regret my decisions ONE BIT, and hopefully my mistakes might save your some trouble. Feel free to tell me if i'm wrong, i'm still perplex by my love history though. And don't let this be a cheap reason for you to back down from confessing. If you're smarter than i was, and you think it might work, then by all means, go for it. Sorry for the long text haha, turns out i had way more to say than i thought. TL;DR= if you love her image and not actually her as a person, don't go for it and put all that energy into improving you and your relationship with your mom first.
I've never known my mom. I've never had a proper mother figure. I've also never had feelings this strong for someone and she's been my best friend for almost a year. Idk what to do.
@@theusmadden2690 oh hey man, you're different than me cus you actually managed to become close friends already. Don't let my loner experience discourage you. Here's some practical advice you might like. If you're confused, then you should generally take that as a bad sign of naivety as you're prone to sudden unexpected problems that could wash right over you like a tsunami. Read/listen to others' experience of love (preferrably long term love), watch romance stories if you have to, so you can get a general idea of the hurdles to come in a relationship and prepare for the solution early (dw, there's plenty of romance media in the net). Learn a bit about personality compatibility, specifically the Big Five, so you can reasonably identify your type of relationship and more accurately predict what you and your potential partner needs and desires. Learn what it means to act in the midst of hardship (AKA, learn to also be motivated by negative emotion) and how to let go in order to get something more valuable (AKA how to sacrifice). And far above all, tell the truth, or at least don't lie. If you try to bend reality, it'll just snap back with 10x the force. And if you fill your head with nonsense enough, you won't be able to distinguish between truth and lies and then you can't problem solve. I'm not sure abt your mom situation since there aren't enough details, but it's always helpful to see some problems other people who also lack a mother figure have and assume you'll have them, just to be safe. The advice i gave here took me years to figure out on my own, requiring a pretty hefty conceptual framework before i could have understood it all, so don't be alarmed if you don't get it at first. It's ok to take some time to digest them, since these are the kinds of advice I've gathered that could just keep being digested repeatedly and still offer new substance. Again, i didn't realize i had much more to say xd
@@theusmadden2690 Not everyone’s journey is the same, and I’d claim stuff like this is trial and error. I’ve also had strong feelings for a friend, probably the closest friend I’ve ever made. And there were so many factors to made doubt and feel like she felt similarly. In the past I’ve pushed the feelings and try to forget about it, this time was so strong tho, and I was tired of the cycle and wanted to try things differently. The thing this time was that I didn’t really find her attractive at first,so getting to know her is how it kicked in. That was one sign to me that this was different than most of my other crushes. I believe I love her, though more recently I feel like my romantic love has mixed with friend love. It just feels a little different, that’s how I can describe it. It’s new to me so I guess I gotta see how it goes. I’ve gotten more courage to tell her how I’ve felt throughout, but it’s hard sometimes knowing how she can be, but I might do it. What i wanted to get to tho, my take at least, is that you shouldn’t let your upbringings define what you can do and stuff If there’s something you can learn from your experience, then yeah consider it. But you have the power to become a better you and take those chances. Even if you’re rejected (maybe you won’t!) you can learn a lot and keep going
@pollothegreat3377 a few days ago I was able get over it. I realized how harmful the whole situation was to my self and her because she knew and it was making things awkward. We're back to normal now and even better friends than we were before and is helping me out with someone else now. I do believe that my lack of an affectionate female role in childhood has affected me in some way but as long as I'm aware of it I won't be manipulated by it. Before you make any decisions I strongly advise so have a proper conversation on your feelings with them. Not in such a way where you expect them to love you back on The spot but to have a genuine conversation to understand both sides to make the best decision moving forward. It may sound scary but I promice it will make things so much easier, if it's not mutual than you're free to kive on without being scared of what you're missing and if it is than yippee. Sorry for the novel but I wish you the best of luck.
As a girl in high school, I’m not sure if any guys like me or not, but if one does, I’m praying he’ll see this video and decide to make a move. Because as long as he’s not a complete loser (terrible grades, no motivation, no hobbies, bad hygiene, bad behavior) I’m willing to give a dude a chance, and hell, maybe something beautiful will come out of that chance. But nobody would ever know if no one ever tries.
Come on, I'm a dude but like don't say "I'm not sure if any guys like me or not" us dudes are usually fuckin DESPERATE. Like if the guy you like isn't too popular but a good dude, chances are you won't get rejected.
@@Somerandomturkie the thing is I’m surrounded by guys who just aren’t looking for a relationship and WANT to be single. That’s the part I’m scared of. That he doesn’t want a relationship and it’ll be awkward because idk if he’s desperate or not plus he’s friends with a few girls so like idk😭😭😭
I waited too long to tell her how I felt, and now that she is with someone else, it hurts so bad that I'm not sure if I could ever see myself with anyone else. However, if there is a next time, I won't wait; I'll tell them how I feel right away and won't let them pass me by.
Dude that's litterly me I was too scared to ask her, now it's too late Now i'm hating myself for it, i had over 5 years, since 4th grade i had a crush on her, in 7th grade she got a boyfriend and that was when i completly shutted off myself from talking to her, now it just felt awkward as hell I just let it go eventually...
I had a crush in my life five times, and I got rejected four times. The one I got accepted was just some "fantasy fairy tale romance," as it ended up with somebody I used to know when we were more mature. It's just better if you find a good friend, are in a good community, and have a stable life, cuh. Always be honest to yourself, that's all matter.
I know you said we shouldn’t be fearful of rejection and should be confident and talk to these girls. But there’s a point where after many rejections and seemingly nothing really changing you can’t help but be fearful and feel you aren’t good enough. Women do not find me attractive in the slightest, it doesn’t matter how confident I am or what I do I just can’t seem to change that fact in their eyes. And at this point that’s fine. I know I’ll be alone forever but if that’s how it has to be then so be it
My advice for boys (as a girl) is that the best thing you can do is either body language meant to attract them or show your attraction because girls love when your confident like that. If you're close enough you could dance with her, or just give her a little twirl. Or you could try and be their friend or atleast rly nice to them because they'll remember u and prefer to talk to u more if you're nicer than every other dude. You may also do both
i think the hardest thing is dealing with the struggle of: "do they not like me for who i am or for who they dont know i am?" and the best way to find out is to start talking to them beforehand, a month is a good time to tell them but not straight away, then you dont have to deal with that question, and you'll know she likes you because you're a little nerdy, or that he doesnt like you because hes gay. at the end of the day, you'll find someone, whether platonically or romantically, that you want to spend the rest of your life with.
I'm almost 18 now, and I've never landed myself a girlfriend and never really had a "crush" either. I mean, there were girls who were pretty and make me nervous to talk to, but I just wanted someone to love me in that way. I've seen the rough sides of relationships from my friends and family, so I'm scared of just about all the outcomes, and I know there wont be a "perfect girl", but I'm definitely seeing how I can be off-putting to others. This video is inspirational, but I don't know if I have the strength to go out and do this yet.
You're still very young bro! If you begin some serious self-improvement stuff now (nofap, clean living, gym, keeping promises to yourself, trying new stuff, being a good and reliable person for your friends and family), in just a year you'll be feeling amazing, confident and far ahead of your peers. That will attract a lot of people to you, not just a future crush. I'm only taking this stuff seriously at 22 and I wasted the last 4 years of my life since I was 18 doing the most stereotypically dumbass shit ever - smoking weed, playing video games, drinking, not socialising, not upholding promises or being reliable, eating junk food, never exercising, and just in general being a piece of shit lol. Had I started getting my act together at 18, I'd be in an even better place now. But I've been improving a lot lately. I could have gotten myself a girlfriend from my first crush, who I met a few months back, unfortunately due to the circumstances of how I 'met' her, I waited too long to tell her and she is with someone else now. She was single for a bit, so had I told her sooner, maybe something could have come of it, as I felt we got along really well. Although to be fair, due to the situation of how we met I wasn't in a position to tell her sooner anyway, and I say maybe because she ended up going back to her ex so it's clear where her heart lies, but it's all good. I'm glad I did tell her, it got it off my chest, and she was cool about it, sadly we seem to have gone our separate ways. Anyway, sorry for the ramble. Have a good one!
Just focus on being autonomy supportive and that should solve most relationship problems right there. Also learn what you truly implicitly want. For me I learned by drawing upon the platonic and emotional intimacy I already have with my friends. Also, physical intimacy (like cuddling) is really important to me, and generally what I crave when I feel lonely. Also a safe place to explore my sexuality. A partner would be someone who can help me meet those needs while you can help them meet theirs, and feel awesome doing it! (a relationship!).
I had to click off the video cause it's not always about fear and rejection. I decided to watch the video cause I truly am in a rough spot where if I were to confess feelings, it would affect my entire friend group long term... it's just that complicated sometimes. But I hope this video helps most people, keep up the good work man!
@@Nav20755 nah... if I ever do, it'll be years from now. Just taking one for the team. Even if I still have feelings, I don't really like her like that as much anymore and I'm like the only person who knows who she likes cause she trusts me, so I might as well just continue being that friend to her.
@@princepscretaceus1046 oh alright. I think though if this does mentally affect you, ypu should probably stop being friends but if it isnt then youre good
@@raresmocanu1743 I've decided I'm gonna confess at the end of this academic year, because I feel uncomfortable about the fact that she decides to tell me everything and I'm hiding something from her, I also feel like it's kind of a pathetic move to just be the guy best friend that secretly likes her...
i clicked on this cuz i thought it’d be entertaining but i genuinely loved this vid. i’m a girl and i have a guy i’ve liked for a long time and it’s driven me like insane. i don’t think i’m attractive at all and very few people have told me that i am, but i love positive videos like this and it gives me a little hope + courage. also rlly cool to see this from a guy’s perspective !
I'm a lesbian, and this video inspired me to finally go out and ask my crush out to a homecoming dance. She said yes! Even though we decided to not commit to a relationship, it was still an amazing experience. I doubt you will ever see this comment, but I just want to say thank you for encouraging me and all the other kings and queens out there to finally do it. You rock!
I just helped out my friend this way and they did the same you did, along with the homecoming dance! I am a man but with something called emotional intelligence (where I come from only the gay men have that), not that it matters I’m mega insecure and tell myself lies convincing myself that others could view me as something of a creep; being the person I am I then set boundaries and everything becomes a loop of me worrying about someone/something and either invalidating myself or ending up with bleach in my mouth. I’m sorry for the rambling, and trauma and self invalidation aside, I told my friend to “Go commit lesbian! ❤” after they told me that they might have gotten sparks for another one of my friends during a sleepover. (I love girl friend-groups, I feel like I belong and I’m heard and I’m valued where as they guy friend-groups I have at home are all sporty spaghetti brains.)
Well i basically told my crush what i feel by being obvious about it, it didnt end well i ended up doing weird and creepy things(following her around, staring at her, etc.) And at the time i didnt know what i was doing, i was clueless on how my actions look. She also looks back at me from time to time in my mind i was saying maybe if she likes me too, but in reality, shes just being on guard because im a creep. In the end one of her friends told me about what i do and that she gets creeped out about my actions. So i got depressed(really depressed), hated myself and it lasted for a few months until i healed myself by having a better personality, mindset, and I even made new friends and established a friend group from scratch. I also started avoiding her, sometimes my body just runs away when i see her, its gotten a bit better now i dont run instinctively as often. Now I actually feel happy but, seeing her in class, she would sometimes look at me(i think shes looking at my eyes to sew if im looking at her) and i just, not look back at her. Its nearly the end, only 1 month more and ill stop going to that school cause ill go somewhere else, i think i wont ever be seeing her again after july To sum up, I dont think telling her my feelings is good, i already messed up its too late now sadly. Ill wait for this to pass and hopefully move on in the future. Dont be depressed or hate yourself for what you did fellas, find ways to better yourself and forgive yourself. In my case i changed as a person and realized that the me then, didnt know what he was doing, but because of him, I became the me today. Thanks for reading hope its not too long, stay strong and always strive to be better.
My problem is weird; I technically got friend zoned but we are still very, very close friends and talk daily. If you were to ask if I feel the same as I did, I’d say yes because I want to be honest. It’s not that she didn’t find me attractive as a guy, it was that I am just that; a guy. In other words, she’s into women which is something I can appreciate; it just means she likes what I like! Jokes aside, the dilemma is no longer the desire to be more than friends, it’s the inability to let go. I appreciate our friendship and, if it weren’t for another close friend accidentally letting the secret out, she’d have never known about how I felt. Back to the present, I’m not here for advice on dating, no, I am here to figure out how to forget; I want to forget about how I feel while retaining a friendship since she is someone I can openly talk to. Finished the video and learned more than I anticipated but it will be applicable mostly in a different scenario; any suggestions/advice is welcome. Edit: found the video again and have had no luck. I was able to gather the courage to formally ask her and got absolutely denied, friend-zoned to be specific. After that, I decided it’d be best to go our separate ways since being in the friend-zone is bad for me while she gets to live everyday as though nothing happened. I’ve been focusing on myself and actually start college this coming August. I gained more motivation in my weightlifting journey and crushed my biggest goal; I hit 300lbs on back squat. While I was bummed about it originally, I have no regrets as there are more opportunities waiting later on. I just wanted to say that if it doesn’t work out for you, that is alright. A solid home cannot be constructed in a day; you need to lay a proper foundation, take the time to build a solid frame and focus on having a home you are happy with. Something might go wrong, maybe a wall falls down but that’s okay, you just need to build it back up even stronger than before. Like this house, a good relationship cannot flourish in a single day. You gotta take the time to talk to this person, to get to know them, before you try to progress the relationship. Like they say, you must learn to walk before you can run. You may feel hopeless at times but you will get it right someday, trust me. I have failed multiple times and yet I’m still going, don’t let a couple of failures hold you back!
I think its not a good idea and healthy trying to forget and push away our feelings. But letting go is hard isn't it? I kinda understand, because Im also trying to forget someone. Maybe its impossible unless I get brain washed or they disappear from my or this world. Have you tried getting a new perspective on her? Or any chance she's into guy in the future? Hope it helps you somehow, and sorry for my clumsy writing
How many girls are rug munching these days? In this comments section I've seen so many men say their crushes end up being lesbian. I've read this more often than guys claiming any sort of success with their crushes.
Women advice from a biological female: Having been a woman for all of my life, here are some tips on how to attract your crush 1. Become friends with her first Making sure she's comfortable around you makes a huge difference, and once you know her a little better, then's the time to start flirting 2. Do not just respond ok to everything Use a synonym, such as "alright", "got it", or "no problem" if using it multiple times in a conversation 3. Don't come on too strong Don't shower her with all the attention, talk to her casually for the most part 4. Don't use the internet psychology tricks We know you're using them If you follow these steps you'll probably at least be friends with her Also if she demands you buy her things, leave her. She's only in it for the money.
I waited 1½ years, slowly decaying, to be honest with her. I always knew she didn't feel the same, but that mixture of fear and hope made me pursuing that way. In the end I understood the best thing was to tell her anyways, because our friendship turned toxic, and it would have gotten worse if I waited more. You can't suppress your feelings, pretending every time it's needed, it's just impossible, you'll feel worse and worse as the time passes, and for nothing. The best way is being honest, always, for yourself and your loved ones. Yourself because you don't need to pretend anymore, and for your loved ones because you may convince them that you're friends, but as your happiness starts to collapse, even your "friendship" will, and they will suffer too
Don’t take too long to ask them out. Of course, talk with them a few times before that and be friendly and nice, but don’t go on the route of trying to develop a friendship prior to asking them on a date. Do that while they are just a crush and don’t let yourself fall in love, because the odds are that the other person won’t feel the same and you will also lose the friendship you built. The biggest mistake teenagers make in their romantic lives is falling in love before dating. It’s much easier to move on if you are rejected by a person you simply find attractive than by someone you fell deeply in love with, who you deem as one of your best friends and who you feel like you depend emotionally on. When you become an adult, that doesn’t happens so much, but when you are in high school and even in college, people tend to do that a lot.
Yeah I became friends with a girl I liked and when she said no after telling her how I felt, she started to avoid me, even though I was perfectly fine being friends.
I called her and said how I felt. I said I was in love with her and she said she couldn't believe me. To this day I still ask myself what did I miss, what did I do wrong. She is so perfect
This video deserves a reward. I already learned these exact lessons from this video! Failure is part of success! Also, desperation is one of the best motivators.
I've known this one girl for about a year now and are friends with her currently. She's really, nice, funny, and looks nice as well, with a lot of similar interests as me. But for like the past 3 months now, I've really liked her but haven't worked up the courage to actually tell her how I feel. This video has given me a lot of confidence. Thank you. I still plan to get to know her more before I say anything, but I feel like this video has given me more confidence in myself to talk to her when I'm ready. Thank you so much.
I have a crush for years now, i don’t if she knows that I like her yet but she’s given signs though very mixed. 99% sure she’ll reject me but I’m going to take the risk. If anything it’s better to lose than to regret.
Update: She turned a blind eye on me, but that’s alright. Even birds of paradise with beautiful feathers don’t always get the females. It’s about the grit and experiences that matters, If anyone here has someone you take interested in. Just go for it and ask her out! There’s no harm in trying. Women are also human being so treat them as such, if she says no just peacefully accept it and move on, we’re not close to extinction yet. A little tip I would like to share with you all is that in the modern day people only cares about short term gratification shit but you already know that. Don’t be like them alright? You can be bold and adventurous there’s nothing wrong with that. But you gotta understand that we human beings are a part of the web of life just like other living beings on this planet. We all strive for excellency and to become better with each generation. So take your time to grow, learn to master your urges not suppressed it. Sow your seeds and find your niche in the society. I’m sure that everyone here has got potential to become truly worthy! Stay strong bois!
A month ago, (I think) I gathered up the courage to ask her out. I gave her a note and a week later, she gave me a note with her number. We went out (as frens) until I asked her if we should start to date she said no. Annnnnnnnddd thats when shit started to go downwards, alcohol was on my mind and her. After a while, the pain is there. But its manageable. Then I realized, damn I really did ask someone out and the girl had somewhat of interest in me. Something that I couldnt do a year ago. I now attempt to be better, observe my mistakes and be a good friend to my homies. That is my promise. and to those wondering how I did it. This is cringe but I always have the same words in my head to ignore fear. "I am the master of my fear, fear is my servant"
I'm 17, and I haven't had much love stories in my life, in fact, outside of one online relationship, I've had none. It's hard to explain why, but I just didn't look at the world right, I just thought that I was worthless and rejection would be the end of me, so instad of aproaching the people I had interest in, I just became close friends with them. This lack of confidence came from my excessive weight, but now I've started my journey by loosing it, and yes, I haven't reached the place I want in terms of body, I am deffenetly way more confident about my looks. It's been under a year from when I finally saw the world as I do today, and I do now feel like I have a shot at her accepting, though I got mood and paranoia problems now, at least my view is clear now. I'm planning on asking a girl out, I'm not sure what I should say, and I'm 90% certain I'll get rejected, but it's worth a try. I wont begin describing this girl, but just know that we're good friends and she has helped me a lot. My only problem is, I don't think I'll be able to deal with rejection in a way where it will help me, and I really don't know what to do about it, I will not let it stop me from shooting my shot, but the fear is there. Anyways, would like to know if there's any advice anyone can give me on any topic I've mentioned in my comment, besides that, great vid.
@@madness_bomb9601 believe it or not, I haven't gotten the balls to do it yet. I'm trying to get into that spot where I think I'm ready. We got into the same class again, after school starts I will tell her. Sorry for what happend to you and I hope youre doing good. After I confess I'll get back here and tell you how it went.
19 years old here, ive been single almost my life (one relationship which i massively regret; i lost a very good friend by dating her) but ive asked friends out before, been rejected, and remained close friends after the fact. this advice is probably out of date rn but if itd help anyone else: i'd recommend making it absolutely clear that even if she rejects you, you'd like to continue being friends and that you won't ask her again. it sounds like she cares about you, and so would want to maintain your friendship; as someone who has also been confessed to by a friend i wasn't interested in, that was my number one concern. in the event of rejection id try to arrange for coffee with mutual friends to prove there's no hard feelings, and try to move on, although that last bit goes without saying of course. i hope whichever decision you made, everything went well!
@@toothfairy10133 well if you're interested in an update, I haven't confessed and I gave up on her because were going to different universities in different cities. We still remain close friends, even closer now. It's a relationship I cherish, I have gotten slightly better with confidence but I still dont know how to get to social events to meet new people since I dont get invited much. But, I'm doing better and thanks for the advice.
i am not talked to ever and abandoned by friends often, so i tend to just not develop a crush anymore, when i was even younger i said to myself that i gave up on love, now i just live by myself in every escenario, always kind and speaking happily to anyone who cares enough to give me the word, but i learned to not try hard anymore for anyone who isnt there
befriend your crush first, but just enough, so that you can have a solid foundation and have familiarity with each other even if you are not super close
this showed up on my feed at literally the worst time 😭😭 i wanted to get to know my crush more, just because i moved a little too quickly in the past. and as soon as i was like close to confessing, HE SOMEHOW MANAGES TO GET A GIRLFRIEND. punching air tbh.
It's not always that simple. I've had a crush on this girl for about a year and I haven't told her anything because A) I don't want to go through what I went through with my last crush, and B) I've been in a position where I COULD NOT tell her anything. At my college, we have this class/friend group she and I are in. Now, I've liked her well before that group was established, but once classes began, I was walking a thin line. However, at least for a few months, it seemed like she was showing genuine interest in me. Like she was doing things with me a normal friend wouldn't do. But then it went silent over the summer, and now I'm more unsure than ever. Now we're out of that class so I am free to tell her, but the fear of past failure or making a bad decision creep up on me every time I think about it.
One more reason rejection is good and confessin is bad Pro: You see the character of that person, if she says eww, she wasnt good for you anyway, but if she nice, then you might as well have a friend for later Keep it lighthearted! Counter: you might make things awkward if they are someone you meet on a daily basis
Excellent video, King. In May, before the semester ended, I was hyping myself up for a week to tell a girl how I felt. I knew when I was gonna do it, but circumstances got in the way, and I missed my chance and felt DEFEATED! I did end up seeing her that day, but I couldn't bring myself to do it. Sometimes, it can be an excuse, but I genuinely believe that when you tell a girl you like her, it SHOULD be in person. So, when I'm back on campus, I'm gonna tell her. I hate sitting with this feeling, and I want to tell her as soon as I can, but I need to do it to her face. Anyways, loved the video. Subscribing to the channel. Keep it up!
Dude I wish more guys had this view. When I was in school I had one guy tell me he liked me over EMAIL. I just don't trust that. You can't tell what people are really thinking or feeling and as a girl with crappy acne issues, I just felt like they were making fun of me cause I'm not pretty. Besides, if you really cared for someone enough to possibly spend your life with them, wouldn't you want them to see that vulnerability? Always ask in person, it means so much more, even if they don't feel the same!
This video has me thinking about all the times I've been rejected. From my school crushes brutally rejecting me to getting ghosted. One of the greatest examples had to be one of my high school crushes. I was so in love with her that I wanted to find ways to talk to her or even say hi. That is until I saw her kissing a guy while trying to get to class. I was so heartbroken after seeing that. I told one of my classmates about it and she convinced me to write a poem to my crush to win her heart over. Unfortunately, because I was socially awkward (I believe), I ended up making the poem perverted to her and she turned me down. Some time after that, she seemed to have accepted to an extent until Senior Lunch. She avoided me like hell. The first time I thought she was in a rush to meet her friends, but the second time I realized she was really avoiding me. I didn't want to continue chasing her despite the fact that I just wanted to talk to her. As soon as she hid behind some big guy, I walked up to her friend that was pretty much following her as well and asked her "why is she running away from me like I'm a psycho perv?", she responded "Oh, I don't know". The way she said it indicated that she KNEW why, but didn't want to tell me. Once I got the jist of the situation, I decided to give her space which REALLY hurt me. It also didn't help that I couldn't graduate that year because of the amount of credits I had. It was one of the worst days of my life and I was depressed for a whole month. But after thinking about how everything think went, it made me realize that I really needed to work on myself more and NEVER do that stupid poem thing again otherwise history would repeat itself. Weirdly enough, I want actually THANK her for running away from me that day in order for me to improve myself! Ain't that something? I'm more warey of my actions when meeting women and make sure that I don't do anything as cringeworthy as I did in the past. Otherwise, the girl of my dreams that I may meet one day will run away the same way my high school crush did. However, seeing how today's society is, I might not ever get that chance for a long time...
I told her, she doesn't feel the same, she never did and she never will. Now she wants to take distance, I bet if we weren't on the same classes, she would avoid me at all. I didn't want this to happen, I just wanted to clarify things so I could get over it and finally be her friend without any romantic desires. Now we won't talk, we won't joke and I won't feel good being around her. Was it really worth it? I lost everything I had with her, I really enjoyed spending time with her and now that's over. Probably for ever, who knows.
when i first met this girl, i was hooked. full on obsessed with her. i became the biggest creep i ever was and i hated myself for it. i was so confident i would have her as a gf that it just like flew over me that she could say no. i ended up telling her when ill ask her out (BAD IDEA) and i did and i got rejected. cried for weeks but i was only like 15 so who was really surprised at the end of it. Months went by when we realised we were in the same year next year (here you can choose to do an extra year or not, we both did it) from there i started to talk to her in person more, we text more and we would always have fun talking to eachother whether it be on the phone or irl. I said to myself "im not in love with her anymore" and as the weeks and months went by i kept saying that knowing i was in denial at that point. we talked 24/7 sure. i thought i wouldve been stupid to not ask again, so i did. i asked her out again. i got rejected again. i got bullied, depressed for that whole year and so much more. Before when i was sad i would go to her but now she is why im sad and no matter how many times ive held her tears. it was for nothing. we went back talking the next month and when i realised what i was doing i stopped. no more texting. no more calling. all i did was go to work, do push ups and go to gym. 3 months later she asked why i blocked her for literally no reason and well, i wasnt going to abandon her, anymore. We went back talking and now i focus way more on myself than anyone else but shes always been there whenever i need it and i help out whatever way i can. I kinda dont want to admit it but she has shaped my life. she made me become someone i didnt know existed. Im not saying "oh im a sigma now look at me" but if i didnt just ask her in the first place, none of this would even be a thought. i am happier then i have been for the past 4 years. i dont let people push me around because now, im strong literally both mentally and physically to say no f#k off. I have been single forever, my younger brother has had more girlfriends than me, all my friends have girlfriends. i am the definition of a loser. but im happy and im different so i dont care about any of that
After I told her and she said that she is not aloud to date but she still liked me, after a couple days I finally felt calm because she told me why she can't but even though that was the first time I have truly felt disappointed in my life (and this was like last month and I'm a teenager so...), I felt fine because even though there is no us, it still feels like it. So don't worry abt asking her because it will make you go crazy. The night before I asked her, my mind was going crazy on ALL of the possible outcomes of me telling her. And when the time came, I asked her and she gave me a LONG talk on why she can't but knowing that she said that, "If it was my choice, it would be yes," my mind after a day or 2, it finally calmed down and just accepted it. "So go and take your chances no matter how scared you are, cause in the end, you might not have a chance, so....go live a little" -me-
I’ve had a crush in uni for the las six months, he’s shy so I had to approach to him, we started off as friends but ever since the first time I saw him I fell in love, today I needed to courage to tell him how I felt and I found this video, HE SAID YES, I had thought of every outcome possible and I’m overjoyed I get to live in the one where I’m with the person I love, thank you for this video and for giving me the courage to fight for a live worth living
I never had a crush so this video helped me to look at the idea of what to do when you do have a crush. If I get a crush, I think the advice in this video will help. It seems clear-cut and concise to me.
I'm honestly just scared not because she'll reject me. I'm just scared that I'll be too much for her, and it'll ruin her emotionally. She's very fragile, and I don't know if she'll be okay if I cut it off.
As the great fire lord liu kang once said to the doubtful and anxious raiden. "Don't think about the outcome, think about your actions. They are the only thing you can control."
I realized I had feeling for a classmate in November last year (or around that time, I don't remember much). He was my first crush so at first I was so confused about what to do. Unfortunately, only when he didn't sit next to me anymore did I realize my feeling so I could barely talk to him. So I tried to come to his seat whenever I could and flirt with him. It was really messy but I guess he found my company entertaining. Well, at first I decided to confess next year but I was scared he would like another girl so I decided to confess to him right away. I gathered all my courage to ask him out and I was fully prepared for the consequences of my actions, either succeed or lose. But it turned out so different from what I had expected. Instead of rejecting me or accepting my confession, he sat me down in a secluded place and started to talk about his life, his ambition, and his love life experience. He told me about his ex and how he and his ex didn't see eye to eye about many things. He wanted to study, to follow his ambition but his ex only wanted to play around. So they broke up. Then he proceeded to tell me that he also liked me but he didn't want to pursue this relationship because he wanted to concentrate solely on study. So he told me that they should remain more than friends but not lovers. Well, I agreed but after that, he no longer took the initiative to start a conversation with me anymore. That made me quite upset. But I never regret the decision to tell him my feelings. If I hadn't told him, my mind could never rest, and would always think about him. Well, I am over him now (it was quite easy actually, maybe I didn't like him that much). But to this day, I still don't understand how he really felt about me back then. All my friends said he liked me and he also used to talk and chat with me a lot. What do you guys think?
For me, the biggest thing stopping me was anxiety that I could somehow do it better. That if I worded it, or waited for juuuuust the right time then they'd say yes. It never worked. Now there are good and bad times to ask someone out, but there will never be a perfect moment. Sometimes you have to do something before you have the chance to think about it, and realize that the usually the worst that will happen is your friendship being a little awkward for a bit. And if you can't be their friend, you don't have to be.
I had a crush on a girl and we talked a lot. I was actually gonna ask her out one day but then right before I could she hugged me and said ty ur like a brother to me. I felt really sad but happy that she saw me that way. After I still haven’t found the right girl 😅
I told her how I feel that time, and surprisingly, she had crush on me too, so I became her BF for 3 years, just broke up with her 10 days ago. Always try it, you'll never know the outcome before you try Update 04/01/2023: I got a new crush, she's my classmate, I'm still getting some courage to tell her how I feel, but I think she already knew that I had crush on her, and sometime she act like flattered after that time I ask her out to take picture together in the last year, so hopefully, I can be her BF real soon :)
about 5 years ago i met my soulmate. i felt connected to her as soon as i heard her voice and i fell in love within the first week. she’s an amazing girl and not a day goes by where i don’t think of her, i never had love like that before or since. it was authentic and true and real. we broke up almost 3 years ago and i’ll still text her here and there but she doesn’t respond much anymore, has a new boyfriend these days and i support her happiness, i want her to have a good life and i dont like being selfish but i know that i’m the one for her. we were so comfortable around each other and were always open with everything, we would occasionally argue but nothing bad, we disagreed plenty but we had the same goals and outlook on life and i loved getting her opinions on anything, just hearing her speak. i used to talk her to sleep after she went to bed even though i knew she was still awake, telling her how grateful i was for a girl like her, about how perfect to me she was, and telling her about my day. she left a void in my heart nobody else could fill. and i still think about her every day and i just wish her the happiness she deserves . and maybe one day that she’ll see me in the crowd, and give me one last chance. then maybe grow to love me again.
Man, it's so unfortunate my years of young love are over and I'm only 21. Yes, it can end that soon if you let it. I unfortunately let it and now I'm in an uncomfortably stuck situation that doesn't really have a bright ending to it due to my disability and my living situation. If you really like someone, now is the best time to start going forward with it. You can take it slow, you don't have to tell them right away, but just getting to know them and making the relationship more and more special makes you more confident and positive that they're the one. Good luck to you young lovers.
Got a crush on her 8 months ago, 3 months into us talking, first crush ever, now we are basically best friends and now i know how I feel but haven't found the time to tell her mainly because of school, she's in my grade but just in the female section, I was planning on confessing on farewell but it got moved, and I don't want to stress her with it before exams but I don't want to overwhelm myself by hiding this throughout exams so I've chosen to confess today, she was in another city over the weekend and I'm just waiting for her to come back to our city so she's home when I break the news to her, I know the outcome is going to be negative, but all I want is to get it off my chest and am just hoping our friendship doesn't get effected by it, because it isn't just a little crush, I truly love her, it just took me months to realise it.
A better reason why rejection can be a good thing: What if it wouldn't have worked out in the first place and them rejecting you would've saved you Don't be scared of rejections or even breaking up, cause when things don't work, it won't hurt
I think I watched this video atleast 10 times leading up to when I finally confessed to my crush. things may have not gone perfectly but this video allowed me to really understand and reflect from that whole experience. For anyone out there who is terrified to confess similar to me. Do it. Things may not go perfectly but either way you will grow as a person.
there was a girl in my class that i had feelings for but i couldnt tell her how i feel because i was scared and now i regret it a lot regret hurts a lot more than rejection
Please do that ASAP. The pain of missing the opportunity is hard. In 2022 I fell in love with a girl and I was afraid of confessing then in few month she found a boyfriend, that was a big shock. Two month ago I fell again with another I got more mature since that time but hesitated again but I had this 2022 near my eyes, then I started to notice one guy with her regularly then after all that stress I managed to propose her to have a date but got rejected cause indeed she had another. It has been one month since that, hurts, but I can’t despise myself cause I made a try. Hope my experience will help you, best wishes.
Don't be afraid to say something just because you're close friends or something. In fact, this is all the more reason to do so. Frankly, its unfair to the other person to keep this quiet, as keeping it quiet for too long may lead them to think that you were only spending time with them in hopes of getting into a relationship with them, and not solely to spend time with them. Don't let yourself be afraid, come clean and keep your expectations realistic.
TL;DR - Ask her out kings (sorry I got a bit repetitive towards the end lol)
😭i got no chance RIP
@@vfxgolden Take the shot you NEVER know
@@vfxgolden it's either you get the girl or get a heavy ass character development arch, win win bro you got it
@@quackykwulala5066 i didnt even ask her and she said she doesnt like me like that... 😭
@@quackykwulala5066 EXACTLY!
Pro tip: you can't just go and ask your crush out randomly, you gotta start talking to her first
That's what I'm trying to do but when I ask her questions about her self or her interests, it just ends up sounding like an interview/interrogation (please help)
@@lunarbat6009 Does it sound like an interrogation because she seems uninterested and doesn't ask you questions back?
@@necromancer871 @necromancer871 yea its like that. The conversation just doesn't really go anywhere and she doesn't answer questions back ☹️
I don't think she's uninterested bc she doesn't really show it
@@lunarbat6009 Thats the point. This video is bullshit. It only works in a society where women even bother with average men. But we live in one where 80% of the women are going for the top 5% of men. The rest are invisible to them, so its impossible to even start a conversation with most women let alone ask one out.
@@lunarbat6009talk to her like you having fun spending time with her and not just because you like her (I don't really know how to explain this better than this)
If it wasn’t for this video, I wouldn’t have even gotten the courage to ask my homies mom out. Now, I am one step closer to being a step dad!
Same bro
Wilddd but hey you do you my guy 😂
That's my man right there
let him cook 🔥
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Here's my experience that no one asked for. I fell in love with my best friend. I met her at high school, and at the beginning, she was just a friend and thought she was kinda cute. Then I went to university and lost contact with her, but I didn't like my career so I changed it and went to another university, and there I found her again, prettier than ever and, in general, better than ever, we were so happy we would study together. Sadly she has a boyfriend, and when I decided I'd tell her I like her and then I heard about it, I backed out.
We continued being friends and forged a better relationship, to a point that now I consider her more than just my best friend. One day at a party, I felt kinda bad about my repressed feelings, so I decided I'd tell her, I was scared cause I thought she would see me differently in a bad way, but actually she was touched, then I told her how I felt about her in general and how much I cared about her, she told me that at some point she came to like me too, but then she met her boyfriend who she's really happy with.
Man, I do not regret at all telling her about my feelings. It felt like taking a big weight off my back.
Today, we are still friends, and let me tell you, we are much closer together, we are more open to each other in general, and I feel like we have a really strong bond built on trust, honesty and love.
What I'm trying to say is that, even when I was scared about rejection, I got something even better, I got closer to the one I love the most, and one of the people that matters most to me. So, even if you're scared, maybe you can win much more. And if you get rejected, there's so many great people out there, so there will always be room for love with someone, always.
@Phantomile06 I can relate to this comment frfrr. Have you told her how you feel yet? If not that's fine take your time. Don't rush nothing. But if you have how did it go?
@@pandaguy1368 I did, it went good, we're not a couple. But we're the best of friends and we created such a close bond, I'm happy with this situation and enjoying the time with her.
@@DragDri_713 W
Wholesome stuff ei
Can i ask for your advice then? cuz i have these sort of feelings for someone i consider my bestfriend-im scared if i tell him (yes aym a girl) he might find me gross or something ^. .^ we live in different places and just talk through chat, almost been a year and ever since i met him, bro hasnt left my mind for a single day ;;;
We align most of the time and somewhat complement each other, even have the same bdays so we both think of it like we're lost siblings lmaoo im saving up to book a flight near his city by next, or next² year and i wanna tell him my feelings in person.. i value our friendship very much so being rejected doesnt scare me-but im scared that the state of our friendship might change.. gonna regret it badly if i dont tell him my feelings but idk what kind of things to expect after confessing so all these scenes go play in my head
Anyone asking about how to deal with feeling towards a friend or best friend, depending on y’all’s situation, definitely tell them. I was so afraid to tell my best friend that I had liked her for a while, so much in fact that because of my anxiety I started having a mental warfare inside my head trying to get the balls to say it, adding to the fact that she was watching this happen while we were sitting in her car. Once that was over, I nervously asked her that whatever I’m about to say, and she responded “we’ll still be best friends”, that one short response allowed me to say it and now we’re a couple. Trust me it’s difficult as hell, but tell them, I know I was really lucky in my situation, but whether they share those feelings or not, it’s better than not saying anything in the end
Ok, but I don’t think I can talk to a biblically accurate angel
AYE ! You never know
@@KingTheodore100 true
Real
I can’t tell if that’s a good thing or a bad thing since they look absolutely terrifying.
neither a 2D big tiddy highschool anime onee-san 😔💔
Best advice I can give, as a girl myself, is to not ask right away if you've only been talking 2 days. It can come off as creepy. Give it time, hang out as much as you can so you can get to know each other. Also, keep in mind that everyone is human & flawed. There will be no "perfect girl."
I dated my friend for years, gave the geeky guy a chance. He turned out to be such a gentleman & so fun to be with. We had nearly the same interests so that helped too. We fell out of love after some distance was put between us, but heck my dude was surprised I ever even agreed to a date. He told me he kept thinking I would say no. We're still friends to this day since things ended in a positive note, we just weren't feeling like we were going anywhere with the relationship.
Question: Is there a good way to get to know a girl better cause I ask questions about her/interests but it feels more like an interrogation cause the conversation isn't going anywhere
@@lunarbat6009 Really depends.
Scenario 1: Are you asking her open ended questions? (Not just yes/no stuff). If so maybe try more follow up questions if she's being bland
Scenario 2: If she's purposefully being dry, then just leave her. She ain't worth your time and you can do so much better.
@@lunarbat6009 try asking something relatable. Like family life, childhood, events, weird dreams you get sometimes, issues with friends, or life in general. Sometimes the conversation may even end up becoming deep
i feel like you've already done half of what i mentioned but you get the idea 😭
@@lunarbat6009 Yeah, I totally understand what you mean. I’ve been there before too. Try talking about things you have in common, if not go for something relatable. Maybe you have class together, know someone in common, both have siblings? Or you can talk about places you’d like to go to one day.
When all else fails, you can let them talk more about a certain thing they feel passionate about and include thoughts about that there to make the conversation more organic.
I am by no means a relationship expert, but I think great communication is a good way to start any kind of relationship with someone 🙂
@@Emulysse I already tried asking all that lol
The single worst but also best thing that ever happened to me was asking my crush out. The girl who I was madly in love with rejected me, and it was so utterly horrific. I thank God every single day for her saying no.
It hurt me so bad. Felt like the end of the world. Felt like I’d never be happy again. It took months to get over it. But now? I’m the happiest I’ve ever been. The amount of confidence that gave me was insane. Showed me I can do scary things even if I’m terrified. Really taught me a valuable life lesson that you don’t always get everything you want, but that’s okay. Since her, I’ve started self improvement so much. I started working out intensely as a way to cope with the rejection. Thanks to her, I now have a 6 pack and huge biceps. I do things for myself more these days. I’m stronger, more confident, happier. I have a healthier and more realistic understanding of relationships. I’m more independent, and I love myself a whole lot more.
Ask your crush out. Even if they say no. So worth it in the long run.
what if when u do u mighjt loose that person
Yeah. Been in love with someone for like 5 years, asked her, got rejected, and now lm glad i got rejected because shes never managed to be in a relationahip for over 4 months.
but did you enjoy talking to her did u enjoy her presence do you still talk to her and is there anything thats not the same and if yall dont talk do you miss it@@boiledtea479
@@notghostej It really f*cking hurts. I’m still friends with the girl but in a way I did lose her. I lost a future marriage with her, I lost my dream with her. I felt quite alone and depressed for ages, but it gets better. Even to this day it still hurts a bit that I don’t have her, but I have grown so much and realise that I suppose it wasn’t meant to be even if I still love her a lot. If you lose her then you lose her. It hurts but it does get better with time.
@@boiledtea479 That’s rough man, and I’m sorry she said no. Glad you’re seeing the bright side of it though and maybe it just wasn’t meant to be. Wishing you the best man.
if you spend your time chasing butterflies, they'll fly away. If you spend your time making a beautiful garden the butterflies will come to you, and if they don't come, then you still have that beautiful garden
this advice applies to both genders and im LIVING for it. cool analogy!
If your main goal is to get butterflies and the garden doesn't work, then you failed. A beautiful garden requires maintanence - watering the plants, cutting bushes, etc. If the purpose isn't met, there's no point in maintaining that garden. In other words, if you don't get the butterflies, you'll be stuck with an ugly garden that you have to take care of.
I would like this but it would ruin the 69 likes it already has
@@ssbcakeman6443you missed The point, it's an analogy, you don't make The garden for The butterflies, you make It for yourself or in other words you improve yourself to grow as a person, not for The girl you like, sure, you gotta Go after her, but not fundamentally change yourself for someone else, Trust me, that always ends up bad
@@nicholassgobero You misunderstood the analogy. The analogy is saying that you're changing for the girl. But as a consolation if you didn't get the girl then you still have your beautiful transformation. That's the meaning of the analogy. That's where the problem is. The analogy is saying if you didn't have the butterfly then you still have the beautiful garden. If you don't get the butterfly then what's the point of having the garden in the first place? You still have to do maintenance for the garden and yet you still didn't have any butterfly in it. See the point?
As a female if a girl says ew after you confessed to her then there might be something wrong with you for liking her. No girl that has a heart would tell you "ew" that's messed up bro drop her QUICK
Yep, nowadays I'd say what guys are most afraid of isn't the rejection itself, but the chance of being publicly humiliated or made fun of for absolutely no reason, just cause you know, she felt like doing that and felt good about herself hurting someone like that.
I myself am like that, I'm not afraid to hear a no, but i want to avoid situations where they're trying their best to make me feel bad to make themselves feel good.
I never took a "no" as a loss or something that made feel defeated, they just don't see you that way , just as you don't see a lot of people like that, and that is fine, it's how the world works and applies to everything.
But, humiliating someone or publicly making fun of them is what causes a lot of guys to simply stop trying or think there's something wrong with them and like i said, today it seems to be quite common unfortunately......
Agreed. Doing that just means she's gross & doesn't give a rats ass about someone's feelings. Don't feel bad if you're rejected by a girl like this. I've rejected guys before but I make it clear that it's because I don't feel that way & would rather not be stuck in a relationship where I wasn't even interested to begin with.
I didn't even say "Ew, no." to the dude that wouldn't take NO for an answer. Up to plain stalker behavior & kept insisting he had a "glow up" to get me interested. In truth his attitude was awful, that's why I said no.
Mostly I try to give someone a chance, a date or two. Because I know it takes guts! I've been rejected myself 😅 But I'd never humiliate someone, that's just... Wrong.
@@_fussyfangsif it comes to someone treating you like shit, then giving them an "ew" isn't morally reprehensible
@@mahogania5536 Morally it's not bad.
But it's not good either.
And don't lean too far into it.
@@HivatelTbf don’t expect people to be nice to you if you can’t even be nice to them, and that can be any situation
I'm a 17 year old girl and told a guy about my feelings, got rejected in such a manner by the gentlemen that i feel absolutely free, we were and are friends, i wasn't expecting a relationship out of us, he have a crush on someone else, we talked for 40 minutes afterwards, and i must say am grateful to have such friends with me
Edit: i just added comas cause someone got a stroke reading this earlier
Rejection aside, that's really nice to hear
i had a stroke reading that
@@Melvin-14 lol
I’m a girl too, and I’m thinking of confessing to this guy, who is very handsome and everyone also agrees with me, but he most likely has a gf (uh I saw him dancing with another girl) but my friend says that he might be single now, who knows? I think it might be a dumb move for me to confess because I’ve already seen him dancing with someone, but then again my friend telling me he might be single now is throwing me off 😭
@@GatozpartyAre you two friends? cause the one i told was actually my friend so i knew very well about his love life. Maybe ask him if he's single, as a friend.
It's not always as simple as telling them. In my case I keep ending up stuck in toxic relationships after seeing a girl's true colors once we're dating. Now I always approach girls I like with extreme caution and avoid starting relationships at all unless I'm 100% sure that they're not insane first.
I understand man, but I believe you're smart to maneuver around those bad girls, king. Be aware of those crazy girls, but if you TRULY like her go for it! That's all I'm saying
Spoiler alert! They're all insane.
@@Mellow3300 Sometimes insane is a good thing. You just gotta find the insane that’s right for you.
@@Oliver_DaNinjahell nah
@@theworldmayneverknow3876 Chess
I'm about to be 18 in a couple months, and I haven't even held a girl's hand romantically. However, looking at it like that discards most of my efforts in the recent past. I remember that only 3 years ago, I was stuttering over every word when talking to pretty girls, but now I can actually hold a conversation and act nonchalant. After 6 rejections, I have been forced to look within myself more intently and question all aspects of my life. The best things in life are indeed on the opposite of fear. Thank you for creating such an inspiring video.
THATS WHAT IM TALKING ABOUT KING ! I’m proud Fr:)
I wish you luck in your future king👑
the 22 yo me : 👀😂
King🙏🏿
The fact that you found 6 girls you were interested in was impressive enough. You'll def find someone at this rate. I don't have anyone who I even want to ask out
I'm pretty loyal when it comes to having a crush and not switching easily
Same, like I’ve had a crush on this random boy for approximately 2yo now, we’ve never talked though
i’ve had a crush on this girl for 8 yrs i’m going to go to her school concert next week without telling her she’s gonna be surprised im there cause it’s only for ppl at her school, but she doesn’t know i’ve transferred there for next year and the pinticppal said i could attend the concert. imma tell her when the fireworks start
@@AlexJaymessounds like you're having the perfect moment for it, update us
Fr, I’ve had a crush on this boy for 6+ years 😅
I recently asked a girl out and she said yes. After 3 rejections between different girls, I found one, and my god is she a sweetheart, I want to spend every moment with her. I'm not even that attractive or funny, yet I found a girl who cares and genuinely loves me. So remember Kings, ask her out, if she says no, improve yourself if she says yes you secured the bag.
Congrats dude
Your comment really got me, thanks 🙏 ❤
Nah don’t improve yourself for a girl, improve yourself for yourself
@@liamp1 Fair. Don't mean you gotta be single
:) hope youre doing good
Growing up, I was rejected by a lot of boys, and they would always say that the pretty girls are skinny and all. I was a child so I would feel really bad about it. Now im on my late teens and I got a personality glow. Tried to be less angry about life and just tried to enjoy my teenhood as much as I can. It landed me in a almost 2 year relationship. And I realized how immature I am compared to him, so I'm trying my best for him and for myself. I feel way better now. I just wanted to say that sometimes, personal growth is everything.
I'm happy for you! Keep it up queen 👑
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Based BR GF
being a girl helps.
I know a friend who got rejected so many times that it's not even funny, but all those rejections made turned him into a cool and down to earth dude
Don't forget to do it when you both know eachother long enough, don't do it after 2 days of falling for her. When you two know eachother atleast for a good amount of time is when it's worth to try
That’s right king! Great take!
Okay but what if my first interaction with this person ever was "Hey I think you're cute"
@@RainbowKittyy That's one way to start I suppose lol
That's where it gets confusing for me bro. If ur already talking to them u might as well already be with em. I mean it ain't like it is impossible nowadays because nobody tries, the hardest part is just talking to them normally without getting smacked by a phone camera and put all over tiktok and shit because drama queens are drama queens. I think once u talk to them u pretty much got em.
Uh, but if that girl isnt your classmate or whatever. Lets suppose you just spotted her outside... If you approach her it becomes obvious that you somehow interested in her, isnt it?
And also... if you dont have same friends with this girl to hang out with then what else can you do to spend time with her except asking her out?
Either I am just dumb, cuz i am not a native speaker. But fix me if im wrong. Asking out - means aks her for a date? Or confess that you have a crush on her?
I think the hardest but most important lesson I've had to learn from rejection is "Just because I like her, does not make her special". What I mean by that is that she's still a human being with flaws and insecurities like me, and this isn't gonna be my only chance in life to get a life partner. There are plenty of people who can be a better fit for me than her. And I know it's hard, it's really f*cking hard, because if u think she isn't special until you get something out of her, doesn't that mean that u don't truly love her? No! Just don't put all the hopes of ur life into a girl simply because she was kind or pretty. It takes a long time to get to know someone and u can't truly love someone until you understand their deepest flaws and insecurities and they reciprocate that love. The average lifespan of a human is 70 years, don't worry u have plenty of time, just take it slow and u'll find the right person. And don't blame urself when they reject u, because then they weren't the right person and realise that sometimes ur gonna be wrong and that's ok.
You're spitting facts dude this is all 1000℅ true even if some sounds cliche. Its cliche for a reason. If things don't work out with a girl, its ok, you will survive and grow from it. We run away desperately from emotions like sadness and disappointment and social embarrassment. But these emotions cannot harm you, we shouldn't be so afraid of experiencing them. Happiness will come. You just need to believe in your own ability to improve, and its just a matter of time
mannnnnn, really liked your comment. thanks for posting
This was great, thank you
i confessed after a month of hesitation, I wasn't reject nor was i liked back, she just thanked me and at that point i knew i had to focus more on myself
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So you were rejected
Bro did infact, get rejected
"Nah bro I didnt get rejected" Once I got a "probably not" and i didnt assume i was improbable. You got rejected big dawg own it
I'm personally scared because we've been friends for so long, I'm worried that it will end the wholesome relationship we have. But this gave me courage and made me see things I never would have thought of. Thanks brother.
I’m in the same boat 🫠 he and I are great friends and I’d never want to ruin our friendship if we ever do get in a romantic relationship and it goes wrong, or if I told him I liked him and he didn’t reciprocate and it just became awkward. Good luck to you, bro! 🫡
@@so_much_for_jj Thanks so much! You too!
@@so_much_for_jj wait are you a dude
Nah, just go for it. Rather have the pain of doing it than the pain of regret.
@@silverhetch3383 Told her a while ago. Some bum ass told her before I could
"Never be guided by the feeling of lust or love"
-Miyamoto Musashi
That means that you should be logical then? I believe you should be logical but still follow your feelings. Find a logical way to follow your feelings. Logic without heart is behaving like a machine, a robot, and that is not you.
Jesus said it first
@@ghostlypitou2746wasnt musashi like 500 bc?
@@NoNono-o3h you seriously dude? 1 Jesus is eternal, he’s the first and the last 2. Show me any historical documentation of the real life musashi saying that, he has very few documented writing and non have said that phrase. 3. A historical manage character saying something in a manga doesn’t know mean that historical figure said that.
@@ghostlypitou2746 "a historicsl character saying someone said something doesnt mean the character said that"
Bro do i have news for you about the scripture
back then i had a crush on a girl who had a crush on me, but when i confess she somewhat rejected me but in a nice way that it wont hurt as much (doesn’t matter how it is, rejection is still painful 💀).
back then i didn’t know how to “confess” to someone even if that person likes me but im glad that i did because now i feel so much better and not constantly thinking about her and all the possibilities 24/7 now. It still stings whenever i think back at it and how well it could’ve gone if i know how to actually confess to her, but at least now i can use that experience and learn from my mistakes and avoid doing the same thing in the future. My advice is that if you truly have a crush on someone (even if that person likes you back or not) be friends with them first before confessing, if you just confess straight away then the chances of you getting rejected is really high.
i did have a crush that had a crush on me too, but we were so embarrassed that we never really "dated", I just find it hard too even speak to someone, let alone attempt to make friends.
Same
That happened to me too… we both were awkward teens and didn’t confess
I am literally unable to make friends if they dont talk to me first. I just stay silent whenever I try to start a conversation with anyone
As an very shy introvert awkward guy i suggest u should still approach the person u like and if it's too much for u then u could start with communicating with that person online to build momentum and when u finally have the courage to talk to her irl then go for it if u still can't after that then force yourself to do it and the results would be worth to find out since u wouldn't know unless u try and who knows u might even become that person's friend and from there u start to build it up more if u want to ;)
This is literally me rn bro 💀
If she says “ew” when you ask her out or explain your feelings, then you just dodged a bullet fr
real
1. You lose nothing.
2. You might gain something
3. You won't waste your emotions on someone who might not be for you either and move on faster.
4. Start by actually communicating
First point is baseless.
first point is not true if she is in the cartail
My situation is quite the opposite. When I started having feelings I stepped back to access and think about how I felt. I decided I did have feelings for this girl. So I asked her out. The problem is she already knew somehow despite me telling literally no one. She then went on to state how there is no good quality’s about me in any way and that she was stringing me on and using me. Then she said “I’m just kidding”. I replied with “wether you aren’t or are joking I’m done I don’t want to be your friend your boyfriend or anything to you” then I left and she proceeded to aggressively and concerningly stalk me and my sister and then my girlfirend who I may add is perfect to me for the next 3 months and a half and then would move away and then mail concerning images and information of my whereabouts for those past 3 and a half months proving she stalked me. She had a screw loose.
That's a lot more than just a screw loose holy shit. I hope you are better now
bullet dodged
6 months update?
You, sir, dodged a fucking nuclear warhead.
bro that's fuckeddd, get a restraining order if u can. That bitch is crazyy.
this video has some great points, not just for asking out a girl, but for facing fear and rejection in general
I watched this video a month after it came out. At the time there was a girl that I liked but was too scared to ask her out, this video along with the support of friends helped me build the courage to ask her. She's now my girlfriend and we've been together over 6 months now, still going strong. I'm glad this video showed up in my recommended again so I can say thank you for playing a part in giving me the confidence to shoot my shot. Ended up being the best thing I ever did. I hope you have a great day. ^^
good job king
Still together bro?
Let's gooooo, SonicKai! 💙
Congratulations! I'm happy for you two. Y'all still together?
Congrats king
this video helped me bro i asked my crush if she liked me and she liked me back thanks man
I searched up "how to confess" completely deprived by fear of rejection, YOU JUST EARNED ANOTHER SUB BRO👍
remember to give them a good impression of who you are first before hand. It doesn't matter how effortless and confident you are, if she is emotionally mature and she doesn't know you she ain't gonna go out with you until she knows you aint a creep. Make it easier on yourself and make sure she knows who you are before asking her out.
but i am a creep. what do i do now?
@@hokagehunter_6991 pretend to be someone you aren't until the crushing weight of undiagnosed impostor syndrome takes you to your therapist where you will learn the name of what you are suffering from. upon learning you have impostor syndrome the among us flashbacks will send you spiraling into a blissful rage the likes of which no man can comprehend
@@quatromanthefourth4413best reply, ever.
@@quatromanthefourth4413sigma reply
@@quatromanthefourth4413You take the award of best reply in the century lmao
Actually, I've learned from my experience that there's at least 1 VERY good reasom not to tell her: it might not be her your in love with, but your own unconscious projection of her (your anima), in which case chances are you have a terrible, lacking, or non-existent mother figure. To know if it's actually your anima, you won't see her as a person but as an image, as bright as the sun, where you're conjuring up all sorts of fantasies, no matter how realistic you make them be, that are completely unalligned with her actual personality and just over-all uniqueness as a person in general. If you're doing this, chances are you fantasize about yourself as well while you're at it, to be charming, handsome, and succesful, which means there's a good chance you're in fact not those things in reality, far from it even, which would lead the confession to an incredible downhill rejection and then a further descent spiralling downward through a hellish period of despair and depression. I've had a crush in primary, middle, and high school, all 3 different girls. First 2 I was completely infatuated, and I never confessed. Learnt my lesson in high school, but accidentally slipped up and confessed elsewhere, luckily inarticulately, so no one understood, forgot, and quickly moved on. I don't regret my decisions ONE BIT, and hopefully my mistakes might save your some trouble. Feel free to tell me if i'm wrong, i'm still perplex by my love history though. And don't let this be a cheap reason for you to back down from confessing. If you're smarter than i was, and you think it might work, then by all means, go for it. Sorry for the long text haha, turns out i had way more to say than i thought.
TL;DR= if you love her image and not actually her as a person, don't go for it and put all that energy into improving you and your relationship with your mom first.
I've never known my mom. I've never had a proper mother figure. I've also never had feelings this strong for someone and she's been my best friend for almost a year. Idk what to do.
@@theusmadden2690 oh hey man, you're different than me cus you actually managed to become close friends already. Don't let my loner experience discourage you. Here's some practical advice you might like.
If you're confused, then you should generally take that as a bad sign of naivety as you're prone to sudden unexpected problems that could wash right over you like a tsunami. Read/listen to others' experience of love (preferrably long term love), watch romance stories if you have to, so you can get a general idea of the hurdles to come in a relationship and prepare for the solution early (dw, there's plenty of romance media in the net). Learn a bit about personality compatibility, specifically the Big Five, so you can reasonably identify your type of relationship and more accurately predict what you and your potential partner needs and desires. Learn what it means to act in the midst of hardship (AKA, learn to also be motivated by negative emotion) and how to let go in order to get something more valuable (AKA how to sacrifice).
And far above all, tell the truth, or at least don't lie. If you try to bend reality, it'll just snap back with 10x the force. And if you fill your head with nonsense enough, you won't be able to distinguish between truth and lies and then you can't problem solve.
I'm not sure abt your mom situation since there aren't enough details, but it's always helpful to see some problems other people who also lack a mother figure have and assume you'll have them, just to be safe.
The advice i gave here took me years to figure out on my own, requiring a pretty hefty conceptual framework before i could have understood it all, so don't be alarmed if you don't get it at first. It's ok to take some time to digest them, since these are the kinds of advice I've gathered that could just keep being digested repeatedly and still offer new substance.
Again, i didn't realize i had much more to say xd
@@theusmadden2690 Not everyone’s journey is the same, and I’d claim stuff like this is trial and error.
I’ve also had strong feelings for a friend, probably the closest friend I’ve ever made. And there were so many factors to made doubt and feel like she felt similarly.
In the past I’ve pushed the feelings and try to forget about it, this time was so strong tho, and I was tired of the cycle and wanted to try things differently. The thing this time was that I didn’t really find her attractive at first,so getting to know her is how it kicked in. That was one sign to me that this was different than most of my other crushes. I believe I love her, though more recently I feel like my romantic love has mixed with friend love. It just feels a little different, that’s how I can describe it. It’s new to me so I guess I gotta see how it goes.
I’ve gotten more courage to tell her how I’ve felt throughout, but it’s hard sometimes knowing how she can be, but I might do it.
What i wanted to get to tho, my take at least, is that you shouldn’t let your upbringings define what you can do and stuff
If there’s something you can learn from your experience, then yeah consider it. But you have the power to become a better you and take those chances. Even if you’re rejected (maybe you won’t!) you can learn a lot and keep going
@pollothegreat3377 a few days ago I was able get over it. I realized how harmful the whole situation was to my self and her because she knew and it was making things awkward. We're back to normal now and even better friends than we were before and is helping me out with someone else now. I do believe that my lack of an affectionate female role in childhood has affected me in some way but as long as I'm aware of it I won't be manipulated by it. Before you make any decisions I strongly advise so have a proper conversation on your feelings with them. Not in such a way where you expect them to love you back on The spot but to have a genuine conversation to understand both sides to make the best decision moving forward. It may sound scary but I promice it will make things so much easier, if it's not mutual than you're free to kive on without being scared of what you're missing and if it is than yippee. Sorry for the novel but I wish you the best of luck.
@@theusmadden2690 good to know you’ve worked through it, I hope I can sort it out better and have a convo about it.
Best to you as well.
As a girl in high school, I’m not sure if any guys like me or not, but if one does, I’m praying he’ll see this video and decide to make a move. Because as long as he’s not a complete loser (terrible grades, no motivation, no hobbies, bad hygiene, bad behavior) I’m willing to give a dude a chance, and hell, maybe something beautiful will come out of that chance. But nobody would ever know if no one ever tries.
Come on, I'm a dude but like don't say "I'm not sure if any guys like me or not" us dudes are usually fuckin DESPERATE. Like if the guy you like isn't too popular but a good dude, chances are you won't get rejected.
@@Somerandomturkie the thing is I’m surrounded by guys who just aren’t looking for a relationship and WANT to be single. That’s the part I’m scared of. That he doesn’t want a relationship and it’ll be awkward because idk if he’s desperate or not plus he’s friends with a few girls so like idk😭😭😭
I waited too long to tell her how I felt, and now that she is with someone else, it hurts so bad that I'm not sure if I could ever see myself with anyone else. However, if there is a next time, I won't wait; I'll tell them how I feel right away and won't let them pass me by.
I WISH YOU WELL ON YOUR FUTURE ENDEAVOR. GOOD LUCK KING
Dude that's litterly me
I was too scared to ask her, now it's too late
Now i'm hating myself for it, i had over 5 years, since 4th grade i had a crush on her, in 7th grade she got a boyfriend and that was when i completly shutted off myself from talking to her, now it just felt awkward as hell
I just let it go eventually...
I had a crush in my life five times, and I got rejected four times. The one I got accepted was just some "fantasy fairy tale romance," as it ended up with somebody I used to know when we were more mature. It's just better if you find a good friend, are in a good community, and have a stable life, cuh.
Always be honest to yourself, that's all matter.
I clicked on this video in the middle of a romantic crisis.
I cried.
Thank you so much.
I know you said we shouldn’t be fearful of rejection and should be confident and talk to these girls. But there’s a point where after many rejections and seemingly nothing really changing you can’t help but be fearful and feel you aren’t good enough. Women do not find me attractive in the slightest, it doesn’t matter how confident I am or what I do I just can’t seem to change that fact in their eyes. And at this point that’s fine. I know I’ll be alone forever but if that’s how it has to be then so be it
Someone will find you attractive, never give up bro.
@@sliteturtlez that’s what I’m saying! Facts man
@@sliteturtlezmaybe one day. Thank you.
My point exactly
Keep trying 👑 you got the support of some random dude in the youtube comments section! What a milestone! Jokes aside I feel you man.
My advice for boys (as a girl) is that the best thing you can do is either body language meant to attract them or show your attraction because girls love when your confident like that. If you're close enough you could dance with her, or just give her a little twirl. Or you could try and be their friend or atleast rly nice to them because they'll remember u and prefer to talk to u more if you're nicer than every other dude. You may also do both
i think the hardest thing is dealing with the struggle of: "do they not like me for who i am or for who they dont know i am?"
and the best way to find out is to start talking to them beforehand, a month is a good time to tell them but not straight away, then you dont have to deal with that question, and you'll know she likes you because you're a little nerdy, or that he doesnt like you because hes gay.
at the end of the day, you'll find someone, whether platonically or romantically, that you want to spend the rest of your life with.
I'm almost 18 now, and I've never landed myself a girlfriend and never really had a "crush" either. I mean, there were girls who were pretty and make me nervous to talk to, but I just wanted someone to love me in that way. I've seen the rough sides of relationships from my friends and family, so I'm scared of just about all the outcomes, and I know there wont be a "perfect girl", but I'm definitely seeing how I can be off-putting to others. This video is inspirational, but I don't know if I have the strength to go out and do this yet.
You're still very young bro! If you begin some serious self-improvement stuff now (nofap, clean living, gym, keeping promises to yourself, trying new stuff, being a good and reliable person for your friends and family), in just a year you'll be feeling amazing, confident and far ahead of your peers. That will attract a lot of people to you, not just a future crush.
I'm only taking this stuff seriously at 22 and I wasted the last 4 years of my life since I was 18 doing the most stereotypically dumbass shit ever - smoking weed, playing video games, drinking, not socialising, not upholding promises or being reliable, eating junk food, never exercising, and just in general being a piece of shit lol.
Had I started getting my act together at 18, I'd be in an even better place now. But I've been improving a lot lately. I could have gotten myself a girlfriend from my first crush, who I met a few months back, unfortunately due to the circumstances of how I 'met' her, I waited too long to tell her and she is with someone else now. She was single for a bit, so had I told her sooner, maybe something could have come of it, as I felt we got along really well. Although to be fair, due to the situation of how we met I wasn't in a position to tell her sooner anyway, and I say maybe because she ended up going back to her ex so it's clear where her heart lies, but it's all good. I'm glad I did tell her, it got it off my chest, and she was cool about it, sadly we seem to have gone our separate ways. Anyway, sorry for the ramble. Have a good one!
@@sircharcoalthegoatik you'll find someone good
Just focus on being autonomy supportive and that should solve most relationship problems right there.
Also learn what you truly implicitly want. For me I learned by drawing upon the platonic and emotional intimacy I already have with my friends. Also, physical intimacy (like cuddling) is really important to me, and generally what I crave when I feel lonely. Also a safe place to explore my sexuality. A partner would be someone who can help me meet those needs while you can help them meet theirs, and feel awesome doing it! (a relationship!).
I had to click off the video cause it's not always about fear and rejection. I decided to watch the video cause I truly am in a rough spot where if I were to confess feelings, it would affect my entire friend group long term... it's just that complicated sometimes. But I hope this video helps most people, keep up the good work man!
You end up confessing?
@@Nav20755 nah... if I ever do, it'll be years from now. Just taking one for the team. Even if I still have feelings, I don't really like her like that as much anymore and I'm like the only person who knows who she likes cause she trusts me, so I might as well just continue being that friend to her.
@@princepscretaceus1046 you're a good friend. Maybe you shouldn't be. Why not be greedy? Friend groups aren't assigned to you for life.
@@princepscretaceus1046 oh alright. I think though if this does mentally affect you, ypu should probably stop being friends but if it isnt then youre good
@@raresmocanu1743 I've decided I'm gonna confess at the end of this academic year, because I feel uncomfortable about the fact that she decides to tell me everything and I'm hiding something from her, I also feel like it's kind of a pathetic move to just be the guy best friend that secretly likes her...
Watched this video for motivation multiple times. Decided to tell her how I feel and now she has agreed to go on a date with me
everything fun and games until she tells her friends, they tell the class, they tell the school and now ur getting bullied by the whole school
That's an obstacle.
I dont have a crush, and have never watched your content. Yet im here.
Same man, what do you think about the video?
"The best things in life are on the opposite side of fear"-Absolute legend Joey Bada$$
Gonna ask out my crush in my dreams bro, thanks for the confidence
How did it go?
WISHING THE BEST! Remember, win or lose it’s all in your favor!
@@USSFFRU Guys my crush isn't real, they're in my dreams cause I don't currently have a crush 😭
lol
i clicked on this cuz i thought it’d be entertaining but i genuinely loved this vid. i’m a girl and i have a guy i’ve liked for a long time and it’s driven me like insane. i don’t think i’m attractive at all and very few people have told me that i am, but i love positive videos like this and it gives me a little hope + courage. also rlly cool to see this from a guy’s perspective !
I'm a lesbian, and this video inspired me to finally go out and ask my crush out to a homecoming dance. She said yes! Even though we decided to not commit to a relationship, it was still an amazing experience. I doubt you will ever see this comment, but I just want to say thank you for encouraging me and all the other kings and queens out there to finally do it. You rock!
I just helped out my friend this way and they did the same you did, along with the homecoming dance! I am a man but with something called emotional intelligence (where I come from only the gay men have that), not that it matters I’m mega insecure and tell myself lies convincing myself that others could view me as something of a creep; being the person I am I then set boundaries and everything becomes a loop of me worrying about someone/something and either invalidating myself or ending up with bleach in my mouth. I’m sorry for the rambling, and trauma and self invalidation aside, I told my friend to “Go commit lesbian! ❤” after they told me that they might have gotten sparks for another one of my friends during a sleepover. (I love girl friend-groups, I feel like I belong and I’m heard and I’m valued where as they guy friend-groups I have at home are all sporty spaghetti brains.)
Well i basically told my crush what i feel by being obvious about it, it didnt end well i ended up doing weird and creepy things(following her around, staring at her, etc.) And at the time i didnt know what i was doing, i was clueless on how my actions look. She also looks back at me from time to time in my mind i was saying maybe if she likes me too, but in reality, shes just being on guard because im a creep. In the end one of her friends told me about what i do and that she gets creeped out about my actions. So i got depressed(really depressed), hated myself and it lasted for a few months until i healed myself by having a better personality, mindset, and I even made new friends and established a friend group from scratch. I also started avoiding her, sometimes my body just runs away when i see her, its gotten a bit better now i dont run instinctively as often. Now I actually feel happy but, seeing her in class, she would sometimes look at me(i think shes looking at my eyes to sew if im looking at her) and i just, not look back at her. Its nearly the end, only 1 month more and ill stop going to that school cause ill go somewhere else, i think i wont ever be seeing her again after july
To sum up, I dont think telling her my feelings is good, i already messed up its too late now sadly. Ill wait for this to pass and hopefully move on in the future. Dont be depressed or hate yourself for what you did fellas, find ways to better yourself and forgive yourself. In my case i changed as a person and realized that the me then, didnt know what he was doing, but because of him, I became the me today. Thanks for reading hope its not too long, stay strong and always strive to be better.
My problem is weird; I technically got friend zoned but we are still very, very close friends and talk daily. If you were to ask if I feel the same as I did, I’d say yes because I want to be honest. It’s not that she didn’t find me attractive as a guy, it was that I am just that; a guy. In other words, she’s into women which is something I can appreciate; it just means she likes what I like! Jokes aside, the dilemma is no longer the desire to be more than friends, it’s the inability to let go. I appreciate our friendship and, if it weren’t for another close friend accidentally letting the secret out, she’d have never known about how I felt. Back to the present, I’m not here for advice on dating, no, I am here to figure out how to forget; I want to forget about how I feel while retaining a friendship since she is someone I can openly talk to. Finished the video and learned more than I anticipated but it will be applicable mostly in a different scenario; any suggestions/advice is welcome.
Edit: found the video again and have had no luck. I was able to gather the courage to formally ask her and got absolutely denied, friend-zoned to be specific. After that, I decided it’d be best to go our separate ways since being in the friend-zone is bad for me while she gets to live everyday as though nothing happened. I’ve been focusing on myself and actually start college this coming August. I gained more motivation in my weightlifting journey and crushed my biggest goal; I hit 300lbs on back squat. While I was bummed about it originally, I have no regrets as there are more opportunities waiting later on. I just wanted to say that if it doesn’t work out for you, that is alright. A solid home cannot be constructed in a day; you need to lay a proper foundation, take the time to build a solid frame and focus on having a home you are happy with. Something might go wrong, maybe a wall falls down but that’s okay, you just need to build it back up even stronger than before. Like this house, a good relationship cannot flourish in a single day. You gotta take the time to talk to this person, to get to know them, before you try to progress the relationship. Like they say, you must learn to walk before you can run. You may feel hopeless at times but you will get it right someday, trust me. I have failed multiple times and yet I’m still going, don’t let a couple of failures hold you back!
I think its not a good idea and healthy trying to forget and push away our feelings. But letting go is hard isn't it? I kinda understand, because Im also trying to forget someone. Maybe its impossible unless I get brain washed or they disappear from my or this world.
Have you tried getting a new perspective on her? Or any chance she's into guy in the future?
Hope it helps you somehow, and sorry for my clumsy writing
How many girls are rug munching these days? In this comments section I've seen so many men say their crushes end up being lesbian. I've read this more often than guys claiming any sort of success with their crushes.
Women advice from a biological female:
Having been a woman for all of my life, here are some tips on how to attract your crush
1. Become friends with her first
Making sure she's comfortable around you makes a huge difference, and once you know her a little better, then's the time to start flirting
2. Do not just respond ok to everything
Use a synonym, such as "alright", "got it", or "no problem" if using it multiple times in a conversation
3. Don't come on too strong
Don't shower her with all the attention, talk to her casually for the most part
4. Don't use the internet psychology tricks
We know you're using them
If you follow these steps you'll probably at least be friends with her
Also if she demands you buy her things, leave her. She's only in it for the money.
I waited 1½ years, slowly decaying, to be honest with her. I always knew she didn't feel the same, but that mixture of fear and hope made me pursuing that way. In the end I understood the best thing was to tell her anyways, because our friendship turned toxic, and it would have gotten worse if I waited more. You can't suppress your feelings, pretending every time it's needed, it's just impossible, you'll feel worse and worse as the time passes, and for nothing. The best way is being honest, always, for yourself and your loved ones. Yourself because you don't need to pretend anymore, and for your loved ones because you may convince them that you're friends, but as your happiness starts to collapse, even your "friendship" will, and they will suffer too
oh no, its been a little over a year for me now and I'm starting to feel worse and worse each passing day. also yeah, she def doesn't feel the same
Don’t take too long to ask them out. Of course, talk with them a few times before that and be friendly and nice, but don’t go on the route of trying to develop a friendship prior to asking them on a date. Do that while they are just a crush and don’t let yourself fall in love, because the odds are that the other person won’t feel the same and you will also lose the friendship you built. The biggest mistake teenagers make in their romantic lives is falling in love before dating. It’s much easier to move on if you are rejected by a person you simply find attractive than by someone you fell deeply in love with, who you deem as one of your best friends and who you feel like you depend emotionally on. When you become an adult, that doesn’t happens so much, but when you are in high school and even in college, people tend to do that a lot.
I have this exact problem... I become too good of friends with them and then I get scared of telling them how I feel.
Yeah I became friends with a girl I liked and when she said no after telling her how I felt, she started to avoid me, even though I was perfectly fine being friends.
Too late 😢
I called her and said how I felt. I said I was in love with her and she said she couldn't believe me. To this day I still ask myself what did I miss, what did I do wrong. She is so perfect
That means she thought u we’re playing with her
maybe she is not self-confident, so she doesn't get what you'd like about her
This video deserves a reward. I already learned these exact lessons from this video! Failure is part of success! Also, desperation is one of the best motivators.
Yessir king! Keep pushing and striving for more!
I've known this one girl for about a year now and are friends with her currently. She's really, nice, funny, and looks nice as well, with a lot of similar interests as me. But for like the past 3 months now, I've really liked her but haven't worked up the courage to actually tell her how I feel. This video has given me a lot of confidence. Thank you. I still plan to get to know her more before I say anything, but I feel like this video has given me more confidence in myself to talk to her when I'm ready. Thank you so much.
Have you asked her out yet?
get that bag king
0:10 Sorry, but I'm not either of those. It just looked interesting ✋️💀
Same
I have a crush for years now, i don’t if she knows that I like her yet but she’s given signs though very mixed. 99% sure she’ll reject me but I’m going to take the risk. If anything it’s better to lose than to regret.
Did you confess? If yes, then how did it go? Hope it went well.
Broo tell us
Howd it go bro tell us
Way better.
Update: She turned a blind eye on me, but that’s alright. Even birds of paradise with beautiful feathers don’t always get the females. It’s about the grit and experiences that matters, If anyone here has someone you take interested in. Just go for it and ask her out! There’s no harm in trying. Women are also human being so treat them as such, if she says no just peacefully accept it and move on, we’re not close to extinction yet.
A little tip I would like to share with you all is that in the modern day people only cares about short term gratification shit but you already know that. Don’t be like them alright? You can be bold and adventurous there’s nothing wrong with that. But you gotta understand that we human beings are a part of the web of life just like other living beings on this planet. We all strive for excellency and to become better with each generation. So take your time to grow, learn to master your urges not suppressed it. Sow your seeds and find your niche in the society. I’m sure that everyone here has got potential to become truly worthy! Stay strong bois!
Rejection = character development👍🏻
Canon event
Biggest thing that i fear is never admitting a crush and looking back years after asking myself what if i did
Really I’m the opposite I admit the crush and doesn’t tell them it’s my friends who tell them
0:04 no, I don't have a crush rn, but this got into my recomended so I thought it'd be useful in the future.
Lmao same
Where the reply’s????
@@LMGTheAimbotMachineikr
@@sordiv yes
A month ago, (I think) I gathered up the courage to ask her out. I gave her a note and a week later, she gave me a note with her number. We went out (as frens) until I asked her if we should start to date she said no. Annnnnnnnddd thats when shit started to go downwards, alcohol was on my mind and her. After a while, the pain is there. But its manageable. Then I realized, damn I really did ask someone out and the girl had somewhat of interest in me. Something that I couldnt do a year ago. I now attempt to be better, observe my mistakes and be a good friend to my homies.
That is my promise.
and to those wondering how I did it. This is cringe but I always have the same words in my head to ignore fear.
"I am the master of my fear, fear is my servant"
the worst is not rejection, its being strung along for several months. I speak from experience
I'm 17, and I haven't had much love stories in my life, in fact, outside of one online relationship, I've had none. It's hard to explain why, but I just didn't look at the world right, I just thought that I was worthless and rejection would be the end of me, so instad of aproaching the people I had interest in, I just became close friends with them. This lack of confidence came from my excessive weight, but now I've started my journey by loosing it, and yes, I haven't reached the place I want in terms of body, I am deffenetly way more confident about my looks. It's been under a year from when I finally saw the world as I do today, and I do now feel like I have a shot at her accepting, though I got mood and paranoia problems now, at least my view is clear now. I'm planning on asking a girl out, I'm not sure what I should say, and I'm 90% certain I'll get rejected, but it's worth a try. I wont begin describing this girl, but just know that we're good friends and she has helped me a lot. My only problem is, I don't think I'll be able to deal with rejection in a way where it will help me, and I really don't know what to do about it, I will not let it stop me from shooting my shot, but the fear is there. Anyways, would like to know if there's any advice anyone can give me on any topic I've mentioned in my comment, besides that, great vid.
Very similar story, i just got rejected, but i rlly wanna see someone else succeed so what happened between u two?
@@madness_bomb9601 believe it or not, I haven't gotten the balls to do it yet. I'm trying to get into that spot where I think I'm ready. We got into the same class again, after school starts I will tell her. Sorry for what happend to you and I hope youre doing good. After I confess I'll get back here and tell you how it went.
19 years old here, ive been single almost my life (one relationship which i massively regret; i lost a very good friend by dating her) but ive asked friends out before, been rejected, and remained close friends after the fact. this advice is probably out of date rn but if itd help anyone else: i'd recommend making it absolutely clear that even if she rejects you, you'd like to continue being friends and that you won't ask her again. it sounds like she cares about you, and so would want to maintain your friendship; as someone who has also been confessed to by a friend i wasn't interested in, that was my number one concern. in the event of rejection id try to arrange for coffee with mutual friends to prove there's no hard feelings, and try to move on, although that last bit goes without saying of course. i hope whichever decision you made, everything went well!
@@toothfairy10133 well if you're interested in an update, I haven't confessed and I gave up on her because were going to different universities in different cities. We still remain close friends, even closer now. It's a relationship I cherish, I have gotten slightly better with confidence but I still dont know how to get to social events to meet new people since I dont get invited much. But, I'm doing better and thanks for the advice.
i am not talked to ever and abandoned by friends often, so i tend to just not develop a crush anymore, when i was even younger i said to myself that i gave up on love, now i just live by myself in every escenario, always kind and speaking happily to anyone who cares enough to give me the word, but i learned to not try hard anymore for anyone who isnt there
befriend your crush first, but just enough, so that you can have a solid foundation and have familiarity with each other even if you are not super close
Only do this though if you genuinely wanna become friends with them. Otherwise, you both will end up hurt if she doesn't reciprocate.
@@ldxstormeaglex2194 may I ask you a question if you don’t mind?
Then be prepared for her to say, "Oh, you weren't a real friend, you were just trying to get with me." and then you have to cut contact.
this showed up on my feed at literally the worst time 😭😭
i wanted to get to know my crush more, just because i moved a little too quickly in the past. and as soon as i was like close to confessing, HE SOMEHOW MANAGES TO GET A GIRLFRIEND. punching air tbh.
It's not always that simple. I've had a crush on this girl for about a year and I haven't told her anything because A) I don't want to go through what I went through with my last crush, and B) I've been in a position where I COULD NOT tell her anything. At my college, we have this class/friend group she and I are in. Now, I've liked her well before that group was established, but once classes began, I was walking a thin line. However, at least for a few months, it seemed like she was showing genuine interest in me. Like she was doing things with me a normal friend wouldn't do. But then it went silent over the summer, and now I'm more unsure than ever. Now we're out of that class so I am free to tell her, but the fear of past failure or making a bad decision creep up on me every time I think about it.
Is there any way you can see her again? Ask her to something you would do with friends and see if she likes you?
Bro, i needed this, now i got a girl, and i have to say, this king is 100% correct
One more reason rejection is good and confessin is bad
Pro: You see the character of that person, if she says eww, she wasnt good for you anyway, but if she nice, then you might as well have a friend for later
Keep it lighthearted!
Counter: you might make things awkward if they are someone you meet on a daily basis
Forget Andrew Tate, You the only internet motivational speaker that be spitting facts
Tate represents the false belief of men's fantasies towards women for pleasures, aka Toxic Masculinity or Toxic Men in general. That's not true love.
In my opinion there is no better girls than her she’s a gem she stands out
Excellent video, King. In May, before the semester ended, I was hyping myself up for a week to tell a girl how I felt. I knew when I was gonna do it, but circumstances got in the way, and I missed my chance and felt DEFEATED! I did end up seeing her that day, but I couldn't bring myself to do it.
Sometimes, it can be an excuse, but I genuinely believe that when you tell a girl you like her, it SHOULD be in person. So, when I'm back on campus, I'm gonna tell her. I hate sitting with this feeling, and I want to tell her as soon as I can, but I need to do it to her face.
Anyways, loved the video. Subscribing to the channel. Keep it up!
Dude I wish more guys had this view. When I was in school I had one guy tell me he liked me over EMAIL. I just don't trust that. You can't tell what people are really thinking or feeling and as a girl with crappy acne issues, I just felt like they were making fun of me cause I'm not pretty. Besides, if you really cared for someone enough to possibly spend your life with them, wouldn't you want them to see that vulnerability? Always ask in person, it means so much more, even if they don't feel the same!
This video has me thinking about all the times I've been rejected. From my school crushes brutally rejecting me to getting ghosted. One of the greatest examples had to be one of my high school crushes. I was so in love with her that I wanted to find ways to talk to her or even say hi. That is until I saw her kissing a guy while trying to get to class. I was so heartbroken after seeing that. I told one of my classmates about it and she convinced me to write a poem to my crush to win her heart over. Unfortunately, because I was socially awkward (I believe), I ended up making the poem perverted to her and she turned me down. Some time after that, she seemed to have accepted to an extent until Senior Lunch. She avoided me like hell. The first time I thought she was in a rush to meet her friends, but the second time I realized she was really avoiding me. I didn't want to continue chasing her despite the fact that I just wanted to talk to her. As soon as she hid behind some big guy, I walked up to her friend that was pretty much following her as well and asked her "why is she running away from me like I'm a psycho perv?", she responded "Oh, I don't know". The way she said it indicated that she KNEW why, but didn't want to tell me. Once I got the jist of the situation, I decided to give her space which REALLY hurt me. It also didn't help that I couldn't graduate that year because of the amount of credits I had. It was one of the worst days of my life and I was depressed for a whole month. But after thinking about how everything think went, it made me realize that I really needed to work on myself more and NEVER do that stupid poem thing again otherwise history would repeat itself. Weirdly enough, I want actually THANK her for running away from me that day in order for me to improve myself! Ain't that something? I'm more warey of my actions when meeting women and make sure that I don't do anything as cringeworthy as I did in the past. Otherwise, the girl of my dreams that I may meet one day will run away the same way my high school crush did. However, seeing how today's society is, I might not ever get that chance for a long time...
I told her, she doesn't feel the same, she never did and she never will. Now she wants to take distance, I bet if we weren't on the same classes, she would avoid me at all. I didn't want this to happen, I just wanted to clarify things so I could get over it and finally be her friend without any romantic desires. Now we won't talk, we won't joke and I won't feel good being around her.
Was it really worth it? I lost everything I had with her, I really enjoyed spending time with her and now that's over. Probably for ever, who knows.
when i first met this girl, i was hooked. full on obsessed with her. i became the biggest creep i ever was and i hated myself for it. i was so confident i would have her as a gf that it just like flew over me that she could say no. i ended up telling her when ill ask her out (BAD IDEA) and i did and i got rejected. cried for weeks but i was only like 15 so who was really surprised at the end of it. Months went by when we realised we were in the same year next year (here you can choose to do an extra year or not, we both did it) from there i started to talk to her in person more, we text more and we would always have fun talking to eachother whether it be on the phone or irl. I said to myself "im not in love with her anymore" and as the weeks and months went by i kept saying that knowing i was in denial at that point. we talked 24/7 sure. i thought i wouldve been stupid to not ask again, so i did. i asked her out again. i got rejected again. i got bullied, depressed for that whole year and so much more. Before when i was sad i would go to her but now she is why im sad and no matter how many times ive held her tears. it was for nothing. we went back talking the next month and when i realised what i was doing i stopped. no more texting. no more calling. all i did was go to work, do push ups and go to gym. 3 months later she asked why i blocked her for literally no reason and well, i wasnt going to abandon her, anymore. We went back talking and now i focus way more on myself than anyone else but shes always been there whenever i need it and i help out whatever way i can. I kinda dont want to admit it but she has shaped my life. she made me become someone i didnt know existed. Im not saying "oh im a sigma now look at me" but if i didnt just ask her in the first place, none of this would even be a thought. i am happier then i have been for the past 4 years. i dont let people push me around because now, im strong literally both mentally and physically to say no f#k off. I have been single forever, my younger brother has had more girlfriends than me, all my friends have girlfriends. i am the definition of a loser. but im happy and im different so i dont care about any of that
Wow dude you’re such an inspiration
After I told her and she said that she is not aloud to date but she still liked me, after a couple days I finally felt calm because she told me why she can't but even though that was the first time I have truly felt disappointed in my life (and this was like last month and I'm a teenager so...), I felt fine because even though there is no us, it still feels like it.
So don't worry abt asking her because it will make you go crazy. The night before I asked her, my mind was going crazy on ALL of the possible outcomes of me telling her. And when the time came, I asked her and she gave me a LONG talk on why she can't but knowing that she said that, "If it was my choice, it would be yes," my mind after a day or 2, it finally calmed down and just accepted it.
"So go and take your chances no matter how scared you are, cause in the end, you might not have a chance, so....go live a little"
-me-
I’ve had a crush in uni for the las six months, he’s shy so I had to approach to him, we started off as friends but ever since the first time I saw him I fell in love, today I needed to courage to tell him how I felt and I found this video, HE SAID YES, I had thought of every outcome possible and I’m overjoyed I get to live in the one where I’m with the person I love, thank you for this video and for giving me the courage to fight for a live worth living
I never had a crush so this video helped me to look at the idea of what to do when you do have a crush. If I get a crush, I think the advice in this video will help. It seems clear-cut and concise to me.
I'm honestly just scared not because she'll reject me. I'm just scared that I'll be too much for her, and it'll ruin her emotionally. She's very fragile, and I don't know if she'll be okay if I cut it off.
As the great fire lord liu kang once said to the doubtful and anxious raiden.
"Don't think about the outcome, think about your actions. They are the only thing you can control."
"You miss 100% of the shots you don't take. -Wayne Gretzky" - Michael Scott
Cultured🗣
I realized I had feeling for a classmate in November last year (or around that time, I don't remember much). He was my first crush so at first I was so confused about what to do. Unfortunately, only when he didn't sit next to me anymore did I realize my feeling so I could barely talk to him. So I tried to come to his seat whenever I could and flirt with him. It was really messy but I guess he found my company entertaining. Well, at first I decided to confess next year but I was scared he would like another girl so I decided to confess to him right away. I gathered all my courage to ask him out and I was fully prepared for the consequences of my actions, either succeed or lose. But it turned out so different from what I had expected. Instead of rejecting me or accepting my confession, he sat me down in a secluded place and started to talk about his life, his ambition, and his love life experience. He told me about his ex and how he and his ex didn't see eye to eye about many things. He wanted to study, to follow his ambition but his ex only wanted to play around. So they broke up. Then he proceeded to tell me that he also liked me but he didn't want to pursue this relationship because he wanted to concentrate solely on study. So he told me that they should remain more than friends but not lovers. Well, I agreed but after that, he no longer took the initiative to start a conversation with me anymore. That made me quite upset. But I never regret the decision to tell him my feelings. If I hadn't told him, my mind could never rest, and would always think about him.
Well, I am over him now (it was quite easy actually, maybe I didn't like him that much). But to this day, I still don't understand how he really felt about me back then. All my friends said he liked me and he also used to talk and chat with me a lot. What do you guys think?
Bro pulled every possible clip from every possible movie and show you can think of
For me, the biggest thing stopping me was anxiety that I could somehow do it better. That if I worded it, or waited for juuuuust the right time then they'd say yes. It never worked. Now there are good and bad times to ask someone out, but there will never be a perfect moment. Sometimes you have to do something before you have the chance to think about it, and realize that the usually the worst that will happen is your friendship being a little awkward for a bit. And if you can't be their friend, you don't have to be.
I had a crush on a girl and we talked a lot. I was actually gonna ask her out one day but then right before I could she hugged me and said ty ur like a brother to me. I felt really sad but happy that she saw me that way. After I still haven’t found the right girl 😅
Thanks man, i finnaly got the courage to ask my 3 year old nephew out.
Now I am in jail for 15 years
💀
I told her how I feel that time, and surprisingly, she had crush on me too, so I became her BF for 3 years, just broke up with her 10 days ago.
Always try it, you'll never know the outcome before you try
Update 04/01/2023: I got a new crush, she's my classmate, I'm still getting some courage to tell her how I feel, but I think she already knew that I had crush on her, and sometime she act like flattered after that time I ask her out to take picture together in the last year, so hopefully, I can be her BF real soon :)
I’m happy you overcame your fear to ask her out!! I’m sorry it didn’t work tho, I’m wishing the best king
@@KingTheodore100 Thank youu!! I hope your channel can grow big so all of the kings out there can know your channel!
any update?
"The worst she can say is no" Ahh video.
Rejection is not the end, it's the beginning of a new era.
about 5 years ago i met my soulmate. i felt connected to her as soon as i heard her voice and i fell in love within the first week. she’s an amazing girl and not a day goes by where i don’t think of her, i never had love like that before or since. it was authentic and true and real. we broke up almost 3 years ago and i’ll still text her here and there but she doesn’t respond much anymore, has a new boyfriend these days and i support her happiness, i want her to have a good life and i dont like being selfish but i know that i’m the one for her. we were so comfortable around each other and were always open with everything, we would occasionally argue but nothing bad, we disagreed plenty but we had the same goals and outlook on life and i loved getting her opinions on anything, just hearing her speak. i used to talk her to sleep after she went to bed even though i knew she was still awake, telling her how grateful i was for a girl like her, about how perfect to me she was, and telling her about my day. she left a void in my heart nobody else could fill. and i still think about her every day and i just wish her the happiness she deserves . and maybe one day that she’ll see me in the crowd, and give me one last chance. then maybe grow to love me again.
You have got to let her go. Reciprocating passion doesn’t work. Be strong and hard.
Man, it's so unfortunate my years of young love are over and I'm only 21. Yes, it can end that soon if you let it. I unfortunately let it and now I'm in an uncomfortably stuck situation that doesn't really have a bright ending to it due to my disability and my living situation. If you really like someone, now is the best time to start going forward with it. You can take it slow, you don't have to tell them right away, but just getting to know them and making the relationship more and more special makes you more confident and positive that they're the one. Good luck to you young lovers.
My man you’re still young ! 21 ain’t old brother, keep looking. I’m sorry for your situation, but you’re life isn’t over! Keep going
Got a crush on her 8 months ago, 3 months into us talking, first crush ever, now we are basically best friends and now i know how I feel but haven't found the time to tell her mainly because of school, she's in my grade but just in the female section, I was planning on confessing on farewell but it got moved, and I don't want to stress her with it before exams but I don't want to overwhelm myself by hiding this throughout exams so I've chosen to confess today, she was in another city over the weekend and I'm just waiting for her to come back to our city so she's home when I break the news to her, I know the outcome is going to be negative, but all I want is to get it off my chest and am just hoping our friendship doesn't get effected by it, because it isn't just a little crush, I truly love her, it just took me months to realise it.
Good luck brother
Remember that its never the end of the world.
I have only ever had one crush, and that was when I was 7.
I stopped having a crush on her, once I found out we were actually related...
wtf?
@@wornplatypus4781 ya turns out she was a distant cousin on my dads side.
WTF 😭SHIT ESCLATED FAST
@@kyobere9413 ya. You can see why I don’t have crushes anymore
A better reason why rejection can be a good thing: What if it wouldn't have worked out in the first place and them rejecting you would've saved you
Don't be scared of rejections or even breaking up, cause when things don't work, it won't hurt
I think I watched this video atleast 10 times leading up to when I finally confessed to my crush. things may have not gone perfectly but this video allowed me to really understand and reflect from that whole experience.
For anyone out there who is terrified to confess similar to me. Do it. Things may not go perfectly but either way you will grow as a person.
there was a girl in my class that i had feelings for but i couldnt tell her how i feel because i was scared and now i regret it a lot
regret hurts a lot more than rejection
I think YOU dropped this 👑
ahhh thank you king!!
Bro its 2024 now 😭😭, i found your channel and i wish i could've done it way earlier. You're great bro keep it up, i might confess to her someday
Please do that ASAP. The pain of missing the opportunity is hard. In 2022 I fell in love with a girl and I was afraid of confessing then in few month she found a boyfriend, that was a big shock. Two month ago I fell again with another I got more mature since that time but hesitated again but I had this 2022 near my eyes, then I started to notice one guy with her regularly then after all that stress I managed to propose her to have a date but got rejected cause indeed she had another. It has been one month since that, hurts, but I can’t despise myself cause I made a try. Hope my experience will help you, best wishes.
Don't be afraid to say something just because you're close friends or something. In fact, this is all the more reason to do so. Frankly, its unfair to the other person to keep this quiet, as keeping it quiet for too long may lead them to think that you were only spending time with them in hopes of getting into a relationship with them, and not solely to spend time with them. Don't let yourself be afraid, come clean and keep your expectations realistic.