From my experience, it’s very difficult to find someone who actually appreciates you for who you are; either they have too many expectations of you or they’re not trusting enough.
Unrealistic expectations most definitely. Especially from generations that have used media consumed as a mental map of the the world and reality. The kind that grew up and saw rom-coms as the "healthy and aspirational" standard.
In my experience nobody takes the time to learn who other people are and most people do not show themselves enough to allow other people to know who they are. Nobody knows who I am and that is because nobody takes enough time to listen to me and I don't know anyone because nobody is willing to be around me long enough for me to know them.
The other month I lost power for an entire day and it was another reminder that our modern society has warped our reality. The world we live in is only a few seconds away from returning to the 1800s. We still live in the wilderness. Humanity is very disconnected from nature. It doesn't take much to topple what we have today.
Unfortunately, modern women WILL treat you as a creep if you're not significantly above average looking, as far as strange interaction. Of they know you, you have to have significantly above average finances. The women I'm talking about are average to below average looking women.
Feminism and media warped the perception of young women. I will be 26 this year no kids no wife got cheated on constantly, not good enough so bye I am done.
Feminism hasn’t warped anything, it’s a movement to ensure women had the same rights as men. Media has warped the idea of feminism, social media is warping everything
I can't talk for the other side but from the male side you only see females that only care about themself. Or you simp away for them or you are not good enough, with that option being single is a blessing.
I'll be 30 in a few days. Women have left me over and over with little explanation it hurts my soul too much to keep picking people who care so little for me.
im 33 yr old professional guy. I tried for 15years to date and all I got was rejection and pain from being discarded. I will never date again because I dont trust that women will treat me well. Altho im never likely to have the opportunity anyway because ive always been undatable, I was born that way, I just dont meet the required standards as a human being for women
I have had conversations about this several times . If I don't know a woman well enough I hardly talk now in work environments. It's a minefield out there. I went on a date and my date mentioned her last partner was female . I just commented, " oh you're bi sexual"? she totally destroyed me as if I had called her the worst thing ever.
In my mid 30’s I’ve finally given up on relationships. You can’t find anyone who wants a deep & meaningful connection with someone, all men usually want is that quick fix, or sex, or someone to pass the time with & when someone better comes along they up & leave. Woman are the same as, they’re both as bad as each other. I’ve figured out that actually I am better off alone & much happier, because you just can’t find anyone who is genuine & respectful these days, it’s a game sadly & I no longer wish to play. & yes I am more than happy doing everything by myself, I am way more happier now than what I ever have been. I struggled my whole adult life being alone & now I’ve finally made peace with it ❤
I'm a guy and women look disgusted with me for no real reason. Some woman in this library looked at me for one second then grabbed her daughters hand while walking away. Don't know her. Don't smell bad. Not unclean. Not threatening. Not saying anything.
This world has turned on it's head! Great topic and you did a fantastic job telling it like it is. God made MALE and FEMALE. I embrace and celebrate my feminity. 💜
The concept of having a partner has been attacked vociferously. A relationship is a challenge as it is, without all the cultural conceptions/misconceptions attached to it. We have just been inundated with its negative side (abuse, manipulation, etc.) And one of the big questions is "Were we meant to be with somebody?" Is there a necessity for it? (As you point out) As hard as it is for me to believe personally, a lot of people express how glad they are to be single. I'm in my 30s. I've never been in a relationship, yet I want one. I'm not doing well in terms of finding a way of living I can be satisfied in. I doubt who I am and what I am fit for relationally. Singlehood has never really been normalized. For centuries, the cultural idea has been that of a family/legacy. It's really hard to deal with the prospect of a relationship because there is this cultural shift. Everything is changing and being questioned. And the idea of being in a relationship, once lauded as the crown jewel of a fulfilling life, is now being put on trial. It's tough, it's really tough. Because you have to face yourself, no matter what. And you best be happy with whoever you are. Be happy with yourself if you're single because you'll have a lot of time alone. And be happy with yourself if you are with somebody because they need you to be stable
Well said! I've had a long held theory that women who don't "man bash" and understand/appreciate men (including our plight) ... ALWAYS have had good relationships with their own fathers. The opposite is equally true as well, unfortunately; man haters have had bad relationships with their own dads.
Great video, this needs to be talked about so much more. I'm mid 40's and have never been in a relationship. I have no idea what it means to be a man now. I'm fairly soft as far as men go, chronic illness and abuse tends to do that. But now after years of hearing that all men are trash, are predators along with women saying they want to be independent and don't want to be approached I don't know if it's worth trying to date now. I'm not tall, dark, handsome or rich so I don't feel like I come close to meeting the standards that women talk about.
Both men and women’s expectations are so unrealistic these days. I’m early 50s and eventually became single 7 years ago. Best 7 years of my life to be honest. This is after numerous relationships.
two sides of the same coin - and they often go together because nature seeks balance... Castaneda once said that "self-importance and self-pity are the same thing", and thats true because its an undue and unnecessary amount of focus on the self... in other words, its not a balanced or accurate perspective every victim needs an oppressor and every oppressor needs a victim - thats how the dynamic works, you cant have one without the other
Only one person can truly make you happy, and that’s yourself. Irrespective of gender. If you’re looking for someone else to make you happy, you lack self worth.
I don't want to be a man or have to take on a man's role, thus I'm grateful every day to be in a traditional marriage where my husband is the man of the house and I can be the woman of the house. ❤
An interesting topic. You came very close to something when you said "femininity is seen as a weakness". This idea is what you should be looking into - it is the answer to basically everything. Why is it seen this way? The idea that both sexes hurt eachother somewhat equally is untrue - one sex hurts the other a lot more. The experience of fearing for your life/SA in the world (and in relationships) as a woman can't be compared to mens fear of being unfairly "metoo'ed" (which rarely happens), and this should be strongly acknowledged by men who want to keep women in their lives around. Remember that most of our ideas of masculinity and femininity are simply made up, like the idea of femininity/women being "passive". This idea is dangerous for women who don't fit the stereotype, especially in cases of SA (shaming/she asked for it/etc). Your thoughts about the more "masculine" and career driven women in your life being hardened and unhappy, has little to do with womens biology and everything to do with capitalism (capitalistic society values the grind more than anything else). Women are just as hardwired to reproduce as men, and most women WANT sex, relationships and families - we're not really different when it comes to this. An interesting statistic is that men are happiest when married, and women are happiest when single. Makes me think the issue could lie with what the sexes actually bring to the table in a relationship. I agree that we should generally focus more on creating community. If anything is wrong with modern society, it's that we value romantic relationships above all other relationships, thus becoming completely dependent on them for our own happiness.
It's not very important whether men or women who should initiate a relationship first because what's important in such a relationship is that both have to be naturally attracted to each other, physically and emotionally speaking, but not really which of them starts a conversation to show interest first All good traditional family values and distinct gender roles in family and society have been lost to excessive consumption of materialism, in which sentimental life has been replaced by materialistic life, and such special relationships between men and women are now based on much more material values and self-centeredness or individualism than all other values, despite the fact that family values are the building blocks of society That's why there are more and more people who consider their careers to be more important than family. They would rather have their careers established than having a family of their own, and more an more couples don't want to have any children because they just want to live their lives only for themselves, without having to be responsible for anyone else
The risks for men are so high these days, it just isn't worth the risk to pursue a woman these days. No, not all woman are bad, absolutely not, but before we get to the point of knowing what we're dealing with, you've already taken a big risk. And for what? There are all these expectations of men, but as a man you cannot expect anything from a women, because that is apparently sexist.
Lack of loyalty and commitment!!! I would never leave or hate the women I love because she doesn't do exactly what I want. That is not love.All I wanted was a wife but that did not work out because I don't want success with a job or fame, I don't want to work my entire life away for things or achievements. I want to spend as much time with those I love enjoying that time. Women don't want that that guy is not good enough. Sorry I am not fueled by greed.
As a male who was never able to fit into the stereotype of masculine culture, I find this video a little bit confusing to understand in parts. I very much agree that our current worldwide perspectives of masculinity and femininity is most certainly a point of contention, and differences and preferences should be embraced and thought of in a more positive manner. However, claiming that men and women are fundamentally different is an argument that whilst has an intuitive validity, is a little too simplistic. Firstly, our current understanding of gender is not well understood. Ideas such as human gender being either one of two categories are being shown to not be consistent with people’s every day experience. Needless to say, transgendered and non-binary people are evidence to show that gender amongst humans is not as simplistic as was once the accepted opinion. This video really doesn’t make much acknowledgment of people within these marginalised groups, and how the “crisis” applies to them. Secondly, you could make the a similar argument about two different men, or two different women, or any two humans of any gender. Essentially, humans are so diverse and there exists so much variety within our species that classifying it into two discrete categories, and assigning archetypes seems massively over simplistic at the very least, and can come across as somewhat offensive to those individuals who may not conform to the stereotypes of their gender. From personal experience as a male, fitting into stereotypical masculine culture was never natural and any attempt I made to force it was ultimately futile and led to me going through periods of self determent. And finally, I’d say that actually being myself (which is technically masculine since I’m a male) by having dyed hair, wearing jewellery and enjoying cooking (traditionally female attributes), has enchanted my confidence, social skills and sex life. When I was trying to be more stereotypically masculine, I was afraid to be myself. Most females have told me that they have found me more attractive when I was myself, as opposed to when I was trying to come across as more stereotypically masculine. In my opinion I’m becoming glad that gender stereotypes are being redefined, and that it’s changing for the better. Sure, there’s stuff to work through, but isn’t that the case with any relationship?
Unfortunately because of the breakup of marriages that we see as a kid, we see some very negative examples of what having children means, our Mums bear the brunt of caring for the children, coming home tired and stressing about getting money from the Father who refuses to pay for his children unless their is a court order. Seeing this our trust is broken but also this is on the men's side too. People now are miserable bc they are focused on themselves and its sad. But when you have been let down too many times growing up, you dare not allow yourself to be what you have seen has hurt Your Mum or Dad. And then there is the government taxing everything so there is no way your current lifestyle could possibly stay (eat food and have a kid) No one see's it worth while to make any sacrifice even if the possibility is love. Its very Sad but its also the desire to want to be with someone unless they are a certain standard, this generation would rather live in their mind and the internet than rl life, I.E P*** but the families that do have kids makes up for those that dont.
What a lot of people aren’t realizing is that men and women both have a masculine and feminine qualities within themselves and therefore we both have masculine and feminine goals and traits regardless of our anatomy. I think the main thing that needs to be addressed is the fear that is bubbling over and influencing each genders perspectives of each other due to media. However, I do think the more time passes, the more complex it’s going to get. Genders are merging by evolution and producing equality. It’s not agenda but a natural process happening.
"Genders are merging by evolution" How did you come up with this thought? Sexual dimorphism is an evolutionary advantage that whil not disapear. Pleade explain.
A few of the women I know who are 35+ are like this. Nice enough to chat to, but you have hit the nail on the end. When I chat to them I find them physically attractive but there is something about them I don’t like. It’s that they have masculine energy, very confident. Almost a little brash. I am not a weak man by any means lol but when I talk to them it feels like I have to compete. Who is the most busy, most pysicslly active, most independent etc. It’s exhausting, I don’t think men should be chopping wood or women in the kitchen, it’s more personality then activity if that makes sense . I will say this isn’t most women by any means. I am only commenting because I know a few women like this, like the ones you mention. Really made me think.
I will add that although they are attractive, they only seem to attract pretty unattractive or much older guys. It’s quite weird. You would expect them to attract equally attractive men their age, but I think the truth is those men want a lady, older or younger, who is kind and loving. Being confident and outgoing can come across like oh do they even need a boyfriend, partner etc,
I'm very left leaning. So I'm not completely into this defined role of what is masculine and feminine. But there is a big dislike and distain by many leftists of guys being guys. Everything gets a labeled of "dude bro" or "gym bro" or various labels thats just kidn of intend on shaming or stigmatizing guy's with stereotypical hobbies or interests. One that comes to mind is the increased popularity in Vikings. It's treated as cringy by many. Its one thing I've gotten insecure about. It used to be an unpopular neurodivergent obsession of mine. But now it's seen as "cringy dude bro" stuff.
I despise the word “cringe,” but that’s the only word that comes to mind when reading your post. Please, stop. Go somewhere, rethink, then come back and try again. If you can’t properly define the difference or differences between men and women, you got problems. I suggest you figure it out.
This is so interesting. Even in strong relationships, it's another dimention to learn about in a relationship. I agree. Yes, you are right it puts pressure on both sides and can leave people questioning the role in a relationship. You can be a modern person and go with the changes in the world for the good. But why. Nice vlog and well said.
Actually though most people are still getting in couples, maybe we're just in the sub- set that doesn't manage it because we don't settle like most people. What do I want someone I'm not attractive to for, just friendship, so might as well nust be friends.
i think you're seeing a lot of guys being manipulated by identity marketing into thinking this or that or expecting this or that instead of just being. We have life or death issues in the world and i dont think anyone cares if i hold the door open for someone at a gas station..
I’ve rarely found someone with such an immediate and necessary truth to share. You made me feel less alone this morning in the depths of winter Aines the Northeast US. MANY THANKS!!
Imagine if you had to read a random book and you must start the book where the bookmark is located and it's illegal to backtrack if you can't figure out the story and if you don't figure out the story, you will forever be a loser in society. That's kind of how men are living life right now. There are zero guides for men and it's our own fault.
I'm absolutely capable of understanding the story but the story is trash and there is not a single character I can relate to. And I have that feeling that the author hates the audience, at least part of it.
I haven't watched the whole video but what you're talking about in the first couple of minutes of this video is mostly a myth pedalled by conservatives. Men are not more feminine and women are not more masculine now. There has been research done on personality, interests and occupational choices and women in Western countries are more feminine and men are more masculine than in more traditional parts of the world. Basically freedom of choice has made men and women more polarised because they have less in common as they pursue their own interests, but this has nothing to do with blurring gender lines in fact blurring them more might even be helpful.
What the frick on are you on?! Men are becoming more feminine and women are more masculine. It’s disgusting. If you can’t see it, then don’t tell people to wake up your reality if you’re blind yourself.
I noticed when the topic of men comes up with modern day women it seem like only men are suffering..so tell me isn’t there a large scale loneliness for women’s well????? with women able to work now they think they don’t men until they need a man.run around talking about independent they are. Men has been independent since the beginning of time and you don’t hear men running around talking about how independent we are because we know that we have to be.. But for all the independent women that think they don’t need a man but only when they are attacked on the road.or women and children are trapped in a burning building or hid forbid the country get invaded. But funny enough these independent women live in a society that men has created. The internet they use.the house they live in.the road they drive on.the restaurants they eat. Everything in society that’s has been build by a man and the infrastructure is maintained on a day-to-day basis by whom?? I think a lot of you women has consumed too much of that feminist ideology
nahhh we just don´t need to put up with men anymore 😉 you have to understand that women had no choice back in the day, now we can choose and we would rather be alone than suffer on the hands of men
I have to disagree. You're not wrong that there's a problem. The way you are viewing it is incorrect. By saying Men have checked out you're cutting straight to the end of the story. I've been trying to think how to word this for a while now after watching this, but any other way to word it lacks the correct feelings on the matter, so my apologies for that. This is going to sound a bit harsh because the reality is harsh. There's a world of difference between "F*ck this!" And "F*ck you!" The way you're framing this, like most people do, is we just one day went "F*ck this!" and more or less went on strike. Not even remotely close to what happened. We didn't check out. We were thrown out. As if we were at a bar/club and a bouncer launched us out the door to the street despite having done nothing wrong. Women by and large told us go away. They're STILL telling us to go away. They got what they wanted, but as usual refuse to take accountability for it. So they blame us for it. Which turned it from what it wasn't, which was us saying "F*ck this!" to us not putting up with it and telling women by and large "F*ck you!" And to be blunt we're far better off. Women need to take a long, hard look in the mirror. Even yourself to a degree. You said here "She gets bored and loses all respect for you." as a casual statement like you looked out a window and said "It's raining out." Not even examining how irrationally insane that statement is and who on Earth would ever want to put up with a person like that? Keep them constantly entertained or else? How about no?
She can see it from a female point of view, so her attitude makes sense. She acknowledges her "ho* phase" because of "trauma" in one video and then addresses her only Fans adventures in another. She lacks self-awareness when she talks about these larger societal issues that affect men.
@quokka7555 That makes sense. One point I wish now I had made that is the crux of what is insulting is it's like a boss firing an employee then claiming that employee quit and how dare they do that!
Media and commercialism are having a major effect on how young men and women act. They have really alienated themselves.
From my experience, it’s very difficult to find someone who actually appreciates you for who you are; either they have too many expectations of you or they’re not trusting enough.
Unrealistic expectations most definitely. Especially from generations that have used media consumed as a mental map of the the world and reality. The kind that grew up and saw rom-coms as the "healthy and aspirational" standard.
In my experience nobody takes the time to learn who other people are and most people do not show themselves enough to allow other people to know who they are. Nobody knows who I am and that is because nobody takes enough time to listen to me and I don't know anyone because nobody is willing to be around me long enough for me to know them.
@@treeforged9097 well said
The other month I lost power for an entire day and it was another reminder that our modern society has warped our reality. The world we live in is only a few seconds away from returning to the 1800s. We still live in the wilderness. Humanity is very disconnected from nature. It doesn't take much to topple what we have today.
I am worried to be treated like a creep for talking to someone.
That sounds like a you problem. Harden the fuck up and learn how to talk to people.
same, I'm from Madrid and it's strange seeing strangers talk to each other
Unfortunately, modern women WILL treat you as a creep if you're not significantly above average looking, as far as strange interaction. Of they know you, you have to have significantly above average finances. The women I'm talking about are average to below average looking women.
Feminism and media warped the perception of young women. I will be 26 this year no kids no wife got cheated on constantly, not good enough so bye I am done.
Feminism hasn’t warped anything, it’s a movement to ensure women had the same rights as men. Media has warped the idea of feminism, social media is warping everything
The internet screwed up all the generations that grew up with it. I am so glad I am a gen Xer.
the internet is screwing up gen xers as well lately unfortunately. Our generation is not what we used to be or how we were raised.
I just opted out of everything.
I can't talk for the other side but from the male side you only see females that only care about themself.
Or you simp away for them or you are not good enough, with that option being single is a blessing.
In couple days i am gonna be 29.and i am still singlebfor more than 8 years.i value loyalty above everything, which today seems like joke.
‘Balance’ is one one of the most difficult things in life. It’s a ongoing proces and gone crazy in modern life.
So simple in thought. Applying it day-to-day, we tend to forget until we can remind ourselves.
The answer to most of this divide is social media. We need to get rid of it if we're ever going to move forward as a functioning society again.
I'll be 30 in a few days. Women have left me over and over with little explanation it hurts my soul too much to keep picking people who care so little for me.
Its not fear it's exhaustion I have been used up.
i hear you!
Society in general has accepted a lot of crap but on the otherhand it's perfectly engineered this way. Chivalry IS dead and women killed it
Its about to get so much worse.
Bravo x Thank you for being brave and speaking the hard truths that no-one wants to discus. Good job 100%agree with everything you said.
I prefer to live by my self .
Same here. I’m happy with living with just my dog lol
im 33 yr old professional guy. I tried for 15years to date and all I got was rejection and pain from being discarded. I will never date again because I dont trust that women will treat me well. Altho im never likely to have the opportunity anyway because ive always been undatable, I was born that way, I just dont meet the required standards as a human being for women
Same
I have had conversations about this several times . If I don't know a woman well enough I hardly talk now in work environments. It's a minefield out there. I went on a date and my date mentioned her last partner was female . I just commented, " oh you're bi sexual"? she totally destroyed me as if I had called her the worst thing ever.
Compliment each other instead of complain about each other would be a good start
In my mid 30’s I’ve finally given up on relationships. You can’t find anyone who wants a deep & meaningful connection with someone, all men usually want is that quick fix, or sex, or someone to pass the time with & when someone better comes along they up & leave. Woman are the same as, they’re both as bad as each other. I’ve figured out that actually I am better off alone & much happier, because you just can’t find anyone who is genuine & respectful these days, it’s a game sadly & I no longer wish to play. & yes I am more than happy doing everything by myself, I am way more happier now than what I ever have been. I struggled my whole adult life being alone & now I’ve finally made peace with it ❤
I'm a guy and women look disgusted with me for no real reason. Some woman in this library looked at me for one second then grabbed her daughters hand while walking away. Don't know her. Don't smell bad. Not unclean. Not threatening. Not saying anything.
@SKuLLxKruSHeR that doesn't work.
This world has turned on it's head! Great topic and you did a fantastic job telling it like it is. God made MALE and FEMALE. I embrace and celebrate my feminity. 💜
The concept of having a partner has been attacked vociferously. A relationship is a challenge as it is, without all the cultural conceptions/misconceptions attached to it. We have just been inundated with its negative side (abuse, manipulation, etc.)
And one of the big questions is "Were we meant to be with somebody?" Is there a necessity for it? (As you point out) As hard as it is for me to believe personally, a lot of people express how glad they are to be single.
I'm in my 30s. I've never been in a relationship, yet I want one. I'm not doing well in terms of finding a way of living I can be satisfied in. I doubt who I am and what I am fit for relationally.
Singlehood has never really been normalized. For centuries, the cultural idea has been that of a family/legacy.
It's really hard to deal with the prospect of a relationship because there is this cultural shift. Everything is changing and being questioned. And the idea of being in a relationship, once lauded as the crown jewel of a fulfilling life, is now being put on trial. It's tough, it's really tough. Because you have to face yourself, no matter what. And you best be happy with whoever you are. Be happy with yourself if you're single because you'll have a lot of time alone. And be happy with yourself if you are with somebody because they need you to be stable
Well said! I've had a long held theory that women who don't "man bash" and understand/appreciate men (including our plight) ... ALWAYS have had good relationships with their own fathers. The opposite is equally true as well, unfortunately; man haters have had bad relationships with their own dads.
Great video, this needs to be talked about so much more. I'm mid 40's and have never been in a relationship. I have no idea what it means to be a man now. I'm fairly soft as far as men go, chronic illness and abuse tends to do that. But now after years of hearing that all men are trash, are predators along with women saying they want to be independent and don't want to be approached I don't know if it's worth trying to date now. I'm not tall, dark, handsome or rich so I don't feel like I come close to meeting the standards that women talk about.
Both men and women’s expectations are so unrealistic these days.
I’m early 50s and eventually became single 7 years ago. Best 7 years of my life to be honest. This is after numerous relationships.
At the end of the day I still can't tell the difference between a inferiority complex and a superiority complex...
two sides of the same coin - and they often go together because nature seeks balance... Castaneda once said that "self-importance and self-pity are the same thing", and thats true because its an undue and unnecessary amount of focus on the self... in other words, its not a balanced or accurate perspective
every victim needs an oppressor and every oppressor needs a victim - thats how the dynamic works, you cant have one without the other
@Osoronnophris thanks for the sophomoric rational of balance and room temperature I.Q as a optimal equation.
And a position of relevance is skewed juxtaposed to dogmatic philosophical servitude, or to be casually modern...hubcap inertia😂
Talk to me like lovers do. ~ Eurythmics (1983)
Only one person can truly make you happy, and that’s yourself. Irrespective of gender.
If you’re looking for someone else to make you happy, you lack self worth.
I agree with you its a really weird moment in this new generation im part of it and i don't like it..its cold.
A ring is for a virgin. . . Marriage is over.
I don't want to be a man or have to take on a man's role, thus I'm grateful every day to be in a traditional marriage where my husband is the man of the house and I can be the woman of the house. ❤
well spoken kitty....but you are a bit of a unicorn in todays modern feminist world! thank goodness there are still a few women like you out there
An interesting topic. You came very close to something when you said "femininity is seen as a weakness". This idea is what you should be looking into - it is the answer to basically everything. Why is it seen this way?
The idea that both sexes hurt eachother somewhat equally is untrue - one sex hurts the other a lot more. The experience of fearing for your life/SA in the world (and in relationships) as a woman can't be compared to mens fear of being unfairly "metoo'ed" (which rarely happens), and this should be strongly acknowledged by men who want to keep women in their lives around.
Remember that most of our ideas of masculinity and femininity are simply made up, like the idea of femininity/women being "passive". This idea is dangerous for women who don't fit the stereotype, especially in cases of SA (shaming/she asked for it/etc).
Your thoughts about the more "masculine" and career driven women in your life being hardened and unhappy, has little to do with womens biology and everything to do with capitalism (capitalistic society values the grind more than anything else).
Women are just as hardwired to reproduce as men, and most women WANT sex, relationships and families - we're not really different when it comes to this. An interesting statistic is that men are happiest when married, and women are happiest when single. Makes me think the issue could lie with what the sexes actually bring to the table in a relationship.
I agree that we should generally focus more on creating community. If anything is wrong with modern society, it's that we value romantic relationships above all other relationships, thus becoming completely dependent on them for our own happiness.
If divorces were not to favor one side, divorce rates would go down fast. And people would still be miserable.
It's not very important whether men or women who should initiate a relationship first
because what's important in such a relationship is that both have to be naturally
attracted to each other, physically and emotionally speaking, but not really which of them
starts a conversation to show interest first
All good traditional family values and distinct gender roles in family and society have
been lost to excessive consumption of materialism, in which sentimental life has been
replaced by materialistic life, and such special relationships between men and women
are now based on much more material values and self-centeredness or individualism
than all other values, despite the fact that family values are the building blocks of society
That's why there are more and more people who consider their careers to be more
important than family. They would rather have their careers established than having a
family of their own, and more an more couples don't want to have any children because
they just want to live their lives only for themselves, without having to be responsible for
anyone else
The risks for men are so high these days, it just isn't worth the risk to pursue a woman these days. No, not all woman are bad, absolutely not, but before we get to the point of knowing what we're dealing with, you've already taken a big risk. And for what? There are all these expectations of men, but as a man you cannot expect anything from a women, because that is apparently sexist.
There's a crisis in taking chances. Romance is always a time-investment risk. Should I pursue this person if it's just going to end badly?
Lack of loyalty and commitment!!! I would never leave or hate the women I love because she doesn't do exactly what I want. That is not love.All I wanted was a wife but that did not work out because I don't want success with a job or fame, I don't want to work my entire life away for things or achievements. I want to spend as much time with those I love enjoying that time. Women don't want that that guy is not good enough. Sorry I am not fueled by greed.
I agree with you. It would be to our detriment for sure.
As a male who was never able to fit into the stereotype of masculine culture, I find this video a little bit confusing to understand in parts. I very much agree that our current worldwide perspectives of masculinity and femininity is most certainly a point of contention, and differences and preferences should be embraced and thought of in a more positive manner. However, claiming that men and women are fundamentally different is an argument that whilst has an intuitive validity, is a little too simplistic.
Firstly, our current understanding of gender is not well understood. Ideas such as human gender being either one of two categories are being shown to not be consistent with people’s every day experience. Needless to say, transgendered and non-binary people are evidence to show that gender amongst humans is not as simplistic as was once the accepted opinion. This video really doesn’t make much acknowledgment of people within these marginalised groups, and how the “crisis” applies to them.
Secondly, you could make the a similar argument about two different men, or two different women, or any two humans of any gender. Essentially, humans are so diverse and there exists so much variety within our species that classifying it into two discrete categories, and assigning archetypes seems massively over simplistic at the very least, and can come across as somewhat offensive to those individuals who may not conform to the stereotypes of their gender.
From personal experience as a male, fitting into stereotypical masculine culture was never natural and any attempt I made to force it was ultimately futile and led to me going through periods of self determent.
And finally, I’d say that actually being myself (which is technically masculine since I’m a male) by having dyed hair, wearing jewellery and enjoying cooking (traditionally female attributes), has enchanted my confidence, social skills and sex life. When I was trying to be more stereotypically masculine, I was afraid to be myself. Most females have told me that they have found me more attractive when I was myself, as opposed to when I was trying to come across as more stereotypically masculine.
In my opinion I’m becoming glad that gender stereotypes are being redefined, and that it’s changing for the better. Sure, there’s stuff to work through, but isn’t that the case with any relationship?
Unfortunately because of the breakup of marriages that we see as a kid, we see some very negative examples of what having children means, our Mums bear the brunt of caring for the children, coming home tired and stressing about getting money from the Father who refuses to pay for his children unless their is a court order. Seeing this our trust is broken but also this is on the men's side too. People now are miserable bc they are focused on themselves and its sad. But when you have been let down too many times growing up, you dare not allow yourself to be what you have seen has hurt Your Mum or Dad. And then there is the government taxing everything so there is no way your current lifestyle could possibly stay (eat food and have a kid) No one see's it worth while to make any sacrifice even if the possibility is love. Its very Sad but its also the desire to want to be with someone unless they are a certain standard, this generation would rather live in their mind and the internet than rl life, I.E P*** but the families that do have kids makes up for those that dont.
That's R style Parenting and it's coming back with a vengeance. . . A ring is for a virgin. Marriage is over.
What a lot of people aren’t realizing is that men and women both have a masculine and feminine qualities within themselves and therefore we both have masculine and feminine goals and traits regardless of our anatomy. I think the main thing that needs to be addressed is the fear that is bubbling over and influencing each genders perspectives of each other due to media. However, I do think the more time passes, the more complex it’s going to get. Genders are merging by evolution and producing equality. It’s not agenda but a natural process happening.
"Genders are merging by evolution"
How did you come up with this thought?
Sexual dimorphism is an evolutionary advantage that whil not disapear. Pleade explain.
Please explain "genders are merging by evolution".
I'm impressed with your willingness to understand the male's side of things. We need to protect this woman at all costs!
Very good video 👏 👏 👏
A few of the women I know who are 35+ are like this. Nice enough to chat to, but you have hit the nail on the end. When I chat to them I find them physically attractive but there is something about them I don’t like. It’s that they have masculine energy, very confident. Almost a little brash. I am not a weak man by any means lol but when I talk to them it feels like I have to compete. Who is the most busy, most pysicslly active, most independent etc. It’s exhausting, I don’t think men should be chopping wood or women in the kitchen, it’s more personality then activity if that makes sense . I will say this isn’t most women by any means. I am only commenting because I know a few women like this, like the ones you mention. Really made me think.
I will add that although they are attractive, they only seem to attract pretty unattractive or much older guys. It’s quite weird. You would expect them to attract equally attractive men their age, but I think the truth is those men want a lady, older or younger, who is kind and loving. Being confident and outgoing can come across like oh do they even need a boyfriend, partner etc,
Gia, you have a wonderful insight and understanding on human behaviour and relationships. Your wisdom is very impressive. I'm curious to your story x
She did mention in one video that she's neurodivergent. That explains a LOT.
We're both human and not all treated like that.
I can relate to everything you just said
You are VERY wise.
This is actually a very necessary video. Kudos for making it.
This whole video is perfectly worded and explains exactly how I feel as a 30 yo single male
Agree completely
I'm very left leaning. So I'm not completely into this defined role of what is masculine and feminine. But there is a big dislike and distain by many leftists of guys being guys. Everything gets a labeled of "dude bro" or "gym bro" or various labels thats just kidn of intend on shaming or stigmatizing guy's with stereotypical hobbies or interests.
One that comes to mind is the increased popularity in Vikings. It's treated as cringy by many. Its one thing I've gotten insecure about. It used to be an unpopular neurodivergent obsession of mine. But now it's seen as "cringy dude bro" stuff.
I despise the word “cringe,” but that’s the only word that comes to mind when reading your post. Please, stop. Go somewhere, rethink, then come back and try again. If you can’t properly define the difference or differences between men and women, you got problems. I suggest you figure it out.
This is so interesting. Even in strong relationships, it's another dimention to learn about in a relationship. I agree. Yes, you are right it puts pressure on both sides and can leave people questioning the role in a relationship. You can be a modern person and go with the changes in the world for the good. But why. Nice vlog and well said.
Actually though most people are still getting in couples, maybe we're just in the sub- set that doesn't manage it because we don't settle like most people. What do I want someone I'm not attractive to for, just friendship, so might as well nust be friends.
You're amazing, Gia. Thank you for this. ❤👍
i think you're seeing a lot of guys being manipulated by identity marketing into thinking this or that or expecting this or that instead of just being. We have life or death issues in the world and i dont think anyone cares if i hold the door open for someone at a gas station..
You’re so right! Thank you for the video!
I’ve rarely found someone with such an immediate and necessary truth to share. You made me feel less alone this morning in the depths of winter Aines the Northeast US. MANY THANKS!!
Imagine if you had to read a random book and you must start the book where the bookmark is located and it's illegal to backtrack if you can't figure out the story and if you don't figure out the story, you will forever be a loser in society.
That's kind of how men are living life right now. There are zero guides for men and it's our own fault.
I'm absolutely capable of understanding the story but the story is trash and there is not a single character I can relate to. And I have that feeling that the author hates the audience, at least part of it.
I really appreciate you.
I haven't watched the whole video but what you're talking about in the first couple of minutes of this video is mostly a myth pedalled by conservatives. Men are not more feminine and women are not more masculine now. There has been research done on personality, interests and occupational choices and women in Western countries are more feminine and men are more masculine than in more traditional parts of the world.
Basically freedom of choice has made men and women more polarised because they have less in common as they pursue their own interests, but this has nothing to do with blurring gender lines in fact blurring them more might even be helpful.
What the frick on are you on?! Men are becoming more feminine and women are more masculine. It’s disgusting. If you can’t see it, then don’t tell people to wake up your reality if you’re blind yourself.
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I noticed when the topic of men comes up with modern day women it seem like only men are suffering..so tell me isn’t there a large scale loneliness for women’s well?????
with women able to work now they think they don’t men until they need a man.run around talking about independent they are.
Men has been independent since the beginning of time and you don’t hear men running around talking about how independent we are because we know that we have to be..
But for all the independent women that think they don’t need a man but only when they are attacked on the road.or women and children are trapped in a burning building or hid forbid the country get invaded.
But funny enough these independent women live in a society that men has created. The internet they use.the house they live in.the road they drive on.the restaurants they eat. Everything in society that’s has been build by a man and the infrastructure is maintained on a day-to-day basis by whom??
I think a lot of you women has consumed too much of that feminist ideology
nahhh we just don´t need to put up with men anymore 😉 you have to understand that women had no choice back in the day, now we can choose and we would rather be alone than suffer on the hands of men
Good onya.
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Wise observations - confused older guy.
I have to disagree. You're not wrong that there's a problem. The way you are viewing it is incorrect. By saying Men have checked out you're cutting straight to the end of the story.
I've been trying to think how to word this for a while now after watching this, but any other way to word it lacks the correct feelings on the matter, so my apologies for that. This is going to sound a bit harsh because the reality is harsh.
There's a world of difference between "F*ck this!" And "F*ck you!" The way you're framing this, like most people do, is we just one day went "F*ck this!" and more or less went on strike.
Not even remotely close to what happened. We didn't check out. We were thrown out. As if we were at a bar/club and a bouncer launched us out the door to the street despite having done nothing wrong. Women by and large told us go away. They're STILL telling us to go away. They got what they wanted, but as usual refuse to take accountability for it. So they blame us for it. Which turned it from what it wasn't, which was us saying "F*ck this!" to us not putting up with it and telling women by and large "F*ck you!"
And to be blunt we're far better off. Women need to take a long, hard look in the mirror. Even yourself to a degree. You said here "She gets bored and loses all respect for you." as a casual statement like you looked out a window and said "It's raining out." Not even examining how irrationally insane that statement is and who on Earth would ever want to put up with a person like that? Keep them constantly entertained or else? How about no?
She can see it from a female point of view, so her attitude makes sense. She acknowledges her "ho* phase" because of "trauma" in one video and then addresses her only Fans adventures in another. She lacks self-awareness when she talks about these larger societal issues that affect men.
@quokka7555 That makes sense. One point I wish now I had made that is the crux of what is insulting is it's like a boss firing an employee then claiming that employee quit and how dare they do that!
We could marry for 2 or 3 years coz I need learn English but you need move to Russia then