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Yeah don't follow the herd mentality. You are doing well and don't let society force you to buy things or compare yourself to others on social media. What i see on social media is this: Buy/Rent house, Buy/Rent Car, constantly chasing career milestones, buying expensive gadgets, 5-10 holidays a year, chasing next big thing or holiday. It's same shit. Vast majority of people are not unique in their lifestyle. You see some couples just dating for status. It's digusting. If you are passionate of doing well for your own sake and not for others then this is fine. I have no problem with that. But In my experience I have noticed in today society people just want to keep up with the joneses, not everyone but most I have come across has this god complex. They act they are better than everyone and constant boasting/flexing their wealth or items.

Thank you for sharing this, i was raised a bit of the opposite, i am a creative musician/crafts person and my family was always preaching hard work. i always felt my creative enterprises were a waste of time because it didnt produce what everyone else thought i should be aiming at. I am very grateful to be finally in the place where i am seeing what you are, it doesn't make sense to follow everyone when that's not how you are wired. Do what you were created to do and let everyone else marvel at how different you are. Beautiful message and very encouraging.

I'm 90% sure I have (what's formerly known as) aspergers, and I relate to everything you have just said. Non conformity to society is a trait of ASD. I don't get FOMO from not doing what everyone else is doing because most of it seems absurd. I recommend the audiobook Happy by Derren Brown for anyone who wants to learn to appreciate the simple things in life. “Happiness is not having what you want, it is wanting what you have.”

Good job Gia. I always preferred to put my free time over working for someone. I think introverts have a clear vision and are not into the societal norms that are soon fed and forced upon everyone.

This took me by surprise. I'm used to hearing these kind of things from a Jehovah's Witness. Yes I agree wholeheartedly with what you're saying. Look at all the rich celebrities that died young and couldn't live a normal life, Because of the pressure from the world. Amy Winehouse, Michael Jackson, Elvis, So on. People can see that the scene of this world is changing rapidly. So being content with what you have will be in your favour.

Glad ur awake from this disgusting world of consumerism, they don't know how brainwashed they're bcos of social medias, scrolling in their news feed of their friends traveling etc burning them out in their job specially when they're not promoted, rat race

I hear you. I’m 44 and happily married. My wife and I are financially secure and have well paying jobs. However, we have never had any ambition in our working life to want to get further promotions. We just enjoy the spare time we have, and enjoying spending time together doing the things we like.

You are so right!

Hit the nail on the head! . I feel I have been finding all the pieces, you just shown where they go :) Thankyouu! . 28yr old "hard worker" in UK and I am not happy, stressed and been saying "I'm not a believer in full time" from my own words for a while now

You're speaking from my heart! 👍

I think we become happier when we realize that relationships mean more than material things.

I'm 51 and have had to do this 'boring' lifestyle due to a semi debilitating fight with anxiety/panic disorder and the accompanying depression. I only work about 5 hours a day because of it. I still have to keep pretty busy working on something at home to keep the mind from going in places I don't particularly like but those things I'm always working on are just projects for myself and not 'work' for monetary gain. While at my age most people naturally fall out of the social butterfly party and festival stuff but one thing I love doing is heading on down to my local senior center for their $4 lunches. The center is open to anyone 50 and over so I was like, heck yeah! I still physically feel much younger and look that way as well (one of my favorite co-workers at my last job who was about 38 always like to say I was the youngest 'old' person she knows) but I tell you what, hanging out with people in their late 60's through 80's is so much easier. They don't care about your career, how much money you have, or any of that stuff. They're just stoked to be around other people sharing stories.

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Beautiful video. I just started a 7-3 job this week and even 3 days in I can say these have been the worst days I've had in years. Funnily enough, the worst days since the last job I had before this. Between these two jobs I only worked part time from home making just enough for rent and everything and honestly it was one of the happiest years of my life. I focused entirely on getting in shape and my hobbies. But for some reason, even when I was so happy, I felt pressured from my family, friends, and society that I needed to do more. Why? I know what's best for me. Our brains aren't stupid. We know when what we're doing is the right thing to do or not. Thanks again for the video. You're much more eloquent than me.

30 and cute 😍

This was so reinforcing. I realised that I don't want to work in IT anymore, and instead felt like becoming an electrician and moving away from a big city. I don't want to climb the corporate ladder, I don't want a big fancy job title or a 7-figure paycheck, I just want to earn *enough* doing work that fulfills me and keeps a roof over my head, nothing more. Thank you for this

I love your honesty. Thank you for sharing.

Unsub for the pickme tendencies . Studies and stats show that single women are the happiest group. Do something about that internalize misogyny girl...

When is enough.. enough? A roof over your head, central heating, a widescreen TV, some nice house plants, a nose ring and whining on the internet into your computer about wasting your 'twenties' and being 'neuro diverse'. How interesting. Well , congratulations... you've achieved what you wanted - attention. Boring indeed.

Superb little video , i'm 53 and feel exactly the same , i wish i had felt the same when i was 30 . Good luck , go jam a lot , live , travel ( when you can ) . Enjoy . 😊

People are brainwashed. I once told someone that I didn't have goals. I was content. And they accused me of being a liar and just "coping" with life... 🙄

31 here and totally feel what you're saying. It is more important to be happy in the moment than to chase one of those things that make you think "once I have THIS, i'll be happy"

I'm a 30 year old young woman and just a month ago moved away from the capital city in my country where the hustle culture is so harsh. The only thing people cared about was "work hard, play hard", and after 6 years of trying to fit into that, I totally broke because I didn't resonate with that bullshit in my heart. Also, I don't think I ever met a single person who was actually doing well there. A lot of drug use to be able to keep up with the insane workload and pressure to "be someone". I'm very happy I got away from it and that I have learned something very valuable, like you, about life. Grateful I came across your video.

You are so refreshing :)

Agree 100%. I used to be this person who was chasing something and even go to a point of burnout. Not worth it. I love very minimally and go about days on the little I can spend.

Amazing at your age speaking this kind of wisdom. We live in a gotta go, gotta have it now world. No one takes time anymore. Going nowhere fast is the mantra. For who, for what? People who are solely interested in things, power and how much they can possess, are incapable of seeing the whole picture sadly.

When I was thinking back before I entered my thirties I was expecting to get married, have a good job and.have kids. 34 in May and have none of those things. I don't care if people find me boring I like being me and if people have a problem with that then tough.

I stopped at 4:22. Gia, I'm not alone because I'm scared of dating or women. It's because I realized that trying to find happiness in other people is a waste of time. I'm trying to cultivate my own life that I'm happy I'm proud of, so that one day i can share that happiness with someone. I just get upset at the assumption that people "aren't dating or having sex because they're scared of each other". Maybe it's because we realized we didn't need a relationship to be happy? We can have friends that we love and care about, and that can be enough. Sex does not equal happiness.

There's one thing money will never buy and that is "enough"

Don;t worry about what the other people think i am the same way NO MATTER WHAT WE DO IN LIFE IT ENDS so do what make's you happy and if someone don't like that then they don;t need to be in your life so on other words FUCK EM lol.

There's a ghost playing with the door behind you.

I. Timothy 6:6-10: Perverse disputings of men of corrupt minds, and destitute of the truth, supposing that gain is godliness: from such withdraw thyself. 6 But godliness with contentment is great gain. 7 For we brought nothing into this world, and it is certain we can carry nothing out. 8 And having food and raiment let us be therewith content. 9 But they that will be rich fall into temptation and a snare, and into many foolish and hurtful lusts, which drown men in destruction and perdition. 10 For the love of money is the root of all evil: which while some coveted after, they have erred from the faith, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows.

i don't think ambition is overrated. but it should be something that YOU want. not because it's expected of you.

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This world has turned on it's head! Great topic and you did a fantastic job telling it like it is. God made MALE and FEMALE. I embrace and celebrate my feminity. 💜 You are a very wise young woman 👏

No matter how long and hard you push there will always someone to underestimate you regardless.

All of that-where you're questioning everything-is 100% correct. That is your inner light. Listen to it, follow it, and it will guide you out of the darkness. Most people are lost and don’t know what they’re doing.

that is the precies thing i needid to hear afther my ex broke up with me few months ago because i had no ambision to get that big house expensive car and i did not want to work 50 hours a week and go on vacation 3 x a year ( and pay her part in that ) i just wanne live a basic live,

Classic story of "that's in the past, now I want to settle down"...

Social media platforms push the go, go, go/hustle mentality. It's no surprise so many people are depressed and burnt out these days. They're being compared to everyone else 24/7.

An interesting topic. You came very close to something when you said "femininity is seen as a weakness". This idea is what you should be looking into - it is the answer to basically everything. Why is it seen this way? The idea that both sexes hurt eachother somewhat equally is untrue - one sex hurts the other a lot more. The experience of fearing for your life/SA in the world (and in relationships) as a woman can't be compared to mens fear of being unfairly "metoo'ed" (which rarely happens), and this should be strongly acknowledged by men who want to keep women in their lives around. Remember that most of our ideas of masculinity and femininity are simply made up, like the idea of femininity/women being "passive". This idea is dangerous for women who don't fit the stereotype, especially in cases of SA (shaming/she asked for it/etc). Your thoughts about the more "masculine" and career driven women in your life being hardened and unhappy, has little to do with womens biology and everything to do with capitalism (capitalistic society values the grind more than anything else). Women are just as hardwired to reproduce as men, and most women WANT sex, relationships and families - we're not really different when it comes to this. An interesting statistic is that men are happiest when married, and women are happiest when single. Makes me think the issue could lie with what the sexes actually bring to the table in a relationship. I agree that we should generally focus more on creating community. If anything is wrong with modern society, it's that we value romantic relationships above all other relationships, thus becoming completely dependent on them for our own happiness.

I am in my "Grandma" era since 25 ish y/o, childfree, single by choice, my cat daughter, my appartement decorated just the way I like in the area of France I always wanted to be, don't travel that much, star gazing, no car thanks, my home made sodas, home made sushis, I block all the bs online and irl, I am at peace, fulfilled, happy.

What a cool and wise video!

Most of the time doing too much be seen as just what it is...too much. I would say don't do what you love either unless it is on the weekend...do what you are good at. Thanks for the post!

I recently sold my New Rock boots too, went from wearing them weekly to not having worn them in about 6 years! Heartbreaking but had to be done, hopefully they went to a place where they will be appreciated once more, farewell my pretties.

I tell you getting recommended this video while reading and learning about Buddhism and Buddha Dharma was a revalation.

I come from a culture where the only thing people care about are things like what school you went to, where you live and what job you have. I'm from Balkan, Eastern Europe. Growing up it always annoyed me and now that I'm older I understand why. Never mind it being shallow, the thing that bothers me the most about it is honestly that the life they live kind of sucks but they are unable to see it. And I can PLAINLY see that it sucks because they are constantly stressed and are for the most part doing most things for other people. To be seen. They do it because they value the rat race. I find myself feeling sorry for them at times, especially when I can tell that they know that they are losing to their "friends". You can see the underlying depression on their faces. They would of course never say a word about it, the rat race is silent. The thing that confirms it the most to me is how when I say that I'm going to go on a 2-day bikepacking trip or something like that (only when asked, I make it a point to never tell people what I'm doing) I always get almost verging on hostile comments that are clearly coming from a place of jealousy. It bugs them when you don't want to live in the stress cesspit they live in, they can't comprehend how the entirely of your life doesn't revolve around getting ahead like theirs is. Usually at this point they'll desperately try to change the subject and make things about them, how they are going somewhere or how they are planning on buying yet another thing they don't need.

Well said! I've had a long held theory that women who don't "man bash" and understand/appreciate men (including our plight) ... ALWAYS have had good relationships with their own fathers. The opposite is equally true as well, unfortunately; man haters have had bad relationships with their own dads.

I'm with you with all of what you said , because contentement is about the state of being you and relaxed without making others thoughts make your day stressful, I always say to myself wealth isn't the goal it eases things but never about happiness most of the super wealthiest people are depressed