I’m 77 years old and speak from a lot of experience. She makes very good points here. walk away from airheads and narcissistic women. There are good women, but you have to find them and recognize them when you do.
As I flashback with 20/20 hindsight so many visions become crystal clear and focused....in other words....I am bad at seeing train wrecks as they are happening.....especially if they are naked.....
They do exist. I finally found one. 4.5 years and still going strong. I unfortunately also made some bad choices in the past with unstable women. They cause a lot of unnecessary drama. And to the men out there, if you are a stable guy you’re a magnet to unstable ladies. Beware.
Guys, a word of advice: Don't bother looking for a stable woman until you are well on your way to being a stable man, because she will be looking for the same things you are, and, if you haven't cultivated those attributes... Oof. Watch this again and ask yourself just how well *YOU* do at these, then act accordingly.
Ok. I'll stay alone then. 1) I have and am currently both. 2)boundries. I have stated them beefore and sometimes i have had to be bitchy about them. 3) Effert. I always try to do my best at everything i work for. I am ontop of my texting 4) nope. Life had seen to it that most of my friends are just aquantences or have familes now and have moved forward in life. I do my best to keep in contact with them but life wants them forward.
1- Can always improve. 2- I don't have to be bitchy. I'll only assert them once or twice. If you don't improve your behavior, I'll just throw you out because I won't stand for continuous disrespect when I've been more than clear and patient. And I won't kick up a fuss about it. 3- Always match their energy. 4- I've got a few friends I'd give up an arm and a leg for, yes. 5- Nope, no traumas on this bit.
A word of advice for you acting like a feminist doesn't get you women that you think it will Feminist are like horse owners that horse means more to them than you feminism means more to them than you
This is actually good advice. It was one of the unexpected side effects of therapy for me is that I started to recognize what boundaries and communication look like in others.
Definitely not true. I've seen some absolute psychos come from good families because no one ever really checked them for their crap behavior or they learned to be fake af so they can play social butterfly.
@@justacoginthefkery You have to look at the logic. He said "good women come from good families". He didn't say good families always make good women. Logic doesn't work both ways.
Hi I am one of these women and yes we do exist. My husband and I listend to this together and he was like oooo I have one of those lol. If I may tweek this ever so slightly though. You can reciprocate equally without being on top of texting, that is not necessarily a good measure. Also you can be insecure about your body and still be an in tune lover. I just had a baby and am not exactly loving that due to breast feeding I cannot diet. However that has not stopped us from the passion the brought us our beautiful daughter lol. Just remember all of these are absolutly true but they may present differently in people as none of us are text books, we are complex induviduals
I found one! They do exist! Took me 25 years to find. We've been married 5 years, and she still almost always passes these tests. And when she doesn't, she is well worth my grace at that time. I'm a blessed man.
If they talk trash about the ex by playing the victim. RUN! she will do the same to you. She is scapegoating her ex to turn on your internal defensive wiring. Dont fall for it.
You can walk away before the relationship gets going when you are seeing the victim mentality. Also I had to learn what it was in me that was always attracting the same kind of people. If I keep attracting victims, what do I need to work on.
My wife (only 47 years so far, so maybe it's still up in the air) is close with the other members of her family, but like most soldiers, had few or no long-term friends when we met. I didn't either because the military isn't particularly good for long term friendships. Too much moving around.
.... One thing I found with those stable women is if so much as one of their long-term friends dislikes you you're out the door because those stable women will always choose their friends over the man..... it won't even matter if you're a good stable man....... then of course there are the women that just have way too many boundaries.... many stable women that have all these categories are looking for perfection in a man and that's impossible too you might find that many of them are single for a very very very long time and without children of course.... many times it just takes age and maturity to become stable.. both for men and women....
Good for you and a now or future man. If you can do ONE per cent better today than yesterday think where you'll be in a year. If you're 100% better in a year: Huge accomplishment. Realistically, aim for that. The oblivious see no reason to make the effort. Your making it means you're different. Hold out for a man who matches your hatd work. And loves you for who you are.
Good on you.keep on growing and you will attract the right person for you. I made lots of mistakes in my 20s and 30s. We aren't perfect but it is important to keep trying 😊
Awesome accurate indicators! Might also indicate that long term friendships need to be healthy else she is a shipwreck in a desolated degenerated circle of misery and bad habits.
The company she keeps is definitely important. My wife has the best friends in the world and she's had them for a very long time. I can trust her to travel with them without me (whether it's to the beach, Africa, or the Middle East) and she can trust me to travel with them without her (whether it's to a conference half a state away, Europe, or the Middle East).
The long term friends is very important indication. Have wondered why the last two horrible people didn't have them, now I know why, "friends" for them were just sources and one people had seen the mask drop they hightail it.
I've known various ppl who have LT friendships who aren't the slightest bit stable & otherswho don't because they grew beyond certain cycles. You can lose a lot of "friends" when you start to set reasonable boundaries.
@@justacoginthefkery totally, having long term friends doesn't mean they're sane, I never implied that, and even those who've set boundaries will generally have at least 9ne long term friend, if they don't to me that may mean the "boundaries" might be a little unreasonable. All I am saying is that the last two GFs both had "friends" but they ALL were just sources, therefore from my lived experience the lack of long term friends is a non negotiable without justification
I am horrible with texting, but to be fair, I am on the phones all day for my job. The last thing I want to do is text or call someone unless I have had a few hours to decompress🙍🏻♀️
I am not saying I don't reply. I just need a few hours with no phone. Geez...it is only ok for men decompress but not women? I do have a bf who is happy with me, so I am not doing a horrible job
Disagree about the texting. I don't respond to texts quickly most of the time. I have a life. I don't live watching my phone. I wouldn't want a women that did that either.
This! I've dealt with ppl who respond quickly all the time & I can't help but start to think they either do nothing all the time or they're super clingy & anxious. The whole text- response demands are backwards to me. The chatting & dating stage is all about figuring out if both want to make the other a priority, yet ppl demand to be made top priority just because they exist. Also full & constant text convos can be very distracting... I prefer to get into those when I'm available to give the person my full attention without neglecting other areas of life... because boundaries.
The last one is quite vague. What do you define as "comfortable in her own skin?" I mean, even the great looking women I've known/dated have insecurities about their looks/age.
Long term relationships are important but only if those relationships are nurtured almost daily. I know women who are still friends with people they knew since they were children but they talk and see each other seldomly so they still don't really know each other.
Good video..."and yes they are out there".. I will have to take your word for it I've been on quite a few dates.. but I haven't experienced a woman you are describing. Sounds like a unicorn. 😅
I don't get to hung up on rapid reply's to text, as I'm often to busy to respond to text messages in a reasonable time. Ladies I meet all seem to have long term friendships, they just all seem to be with men not ladies.
Us Ladies hanging around with the Men- its because we can't stand the crazy bitches either. We would rather chill with the guys, having a beer watching a movie or sports game and don't care how much you paid for your latest name brand, over priced fashion accessory.
I believe people have to go through bad times andbad relationships in order to even be or know good or bad breaking them from acting out spontaneous in
I was dating two women. One only had male friends, the other had female friends from when she was in high school. I married the girl with long term girl friends. I feel bad for the guy who married the other girl. Turns out that she also had 40K in tax debt. 😮
Speaking from experience and from what I've been seeing, most men have better odds of getting hit by lightning than finding a decent woman. Yeah, there's some good ones out there but it's like trying to find a needle in a huge haystack. Good luck with that.
1) accountability or victim? 2) set boundaries without being bitchy? 3) make equal effort and reciprocate? 4) long term friendships? 5) good relationships with her own sexuality? ie, comfortable in her own skin?
Well, I often agree with you and you hit the nail right on the head on all five of these, so I’m not rubber stamping you, but you absolutely nailed it. It’s like the complementary side for someone as a gentleman. If he is a renaissance man, is she the other side of the renaissance couple behaving themselves properly with friendships, secure, and their relationships and they stand alone but yet partner with the renaissance man. You nailed it.❤😊😉
They like that in a man, because they want to expand their "social network", but let me tell you this: none of my previous partners cared about MY friends. Don't worry about it, after 30 most people focus on their families anyway, especially with kids.
I’m 77 years old and speak from a lot of experience. She makes very good points here. walk away from airheads and narcissistic women. There are good women, but you have to find them and recognize them when you do.
Nice idea, but in 35 years of looking, I never found one. I also know that I am not desirable husband material.
as for the latter in threadstarter post, there may have been, but as singularities usually.
As I flashback with 20/20 hindsight so many visions become crystal clear and focused....in other words....I am bad at seeing train wrecks as they are happening.....especially if they are naked.....
I used to date a Gal that had horses, she was a stable woman...
And while she rode you, you were a stable man.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@vanessamartz7596 happy is as happy does, fresh hay still makes me smile...
👍👌💪🤣
"used to date"......so she threw you?
So true. Had mine for 31 years. Miss her every second.
I'm sorry for your loss. I'm happy you had such a long time together.
They do exist. I finally found one. 4.5 years and still going strong. I unfortunately also made some bad choices in the past with unstable women. They cause a lot of unnecessary drama. And to the men out there, if you are a stable guy you’re a magnet to unstable ladies. Beware.
I hit 20 on monday.
@@kenbrown2808 Happy anniversary! I'm guessing you mean 20 years, and not 20 unstable women?
Guys, a word of advice: Don't bother looking for a stable woman until you are well on your way to being a stable man, because she will be looking for the same things you are, and, if you haven't cultivated those attributes... Oof.
Watch this again and ask yourself just how well *YOU* do at these, then act accordingly.
Ok. I'll stay alone then. 1) I have and am currently both. 2)boundries. I have stated them beefore and sometimes i have had to be bitchy about them. 3) Effert. I always try to do my best at everything i work for. I am ontop of my texting 4) nope. Life had seen to it that most of my friends are just aquantences or have familes now and have moved forward in life. I do my best to keep in contact with them but life wants them forward.
1- Can always improve.
2- I don't have to be bitchy. I'll only assert them once or twice. If you don't improve your behavior, I'll just throw you out because I won't stand for continuous disrespect when I've been more than clear and patient. And I won't kick up a fuss about it.
3- Always match their energy.
4- I've got a few friends I'd give up an arm and a leg for, yes.
5- Nope, no traumas on this bit.
Tell us you failed the test without telling us you failed.
A word of advice for you acting like a feminist doesn't get you women that you think it will Feminist are like horse owners that horse means more to them than you feminism means more to them than you
This is actually good advice. It was one of the unexpected side effects of therapy for me is that I started to recognize what boundaries and communication look like in others.
Still working on those same qualities for myself everyday. I
Roughly the exact description of any mature adult human❤
I’ve learned that good women come from good families. How was her relationship with her mother and father is super super super important.
Not true. And define good family.
Definitely not true. I've seen some absolute psychos come from good families because no one ever really checked them for their crap behavior or they learned to be fake af so they can play social butterfly.
Absolutely not true
Yes what @rn2811 said is TRUE. Stable women come from good families.
Of course there are exceptions, but exceptions proves the rule
@@justacoginthefkery You have to look at the logic. He said "good women come from good families". He didn't say good families always make good women. Logic doesn't work both ways.
Hi I am one of these women and yes we do exist. My husband and I listend to this together and he was like oooo I have one of those lol. If I may tweek this ever so slightly though. You can reciprocate equally without being on top of texting, that is not necessarily a good measure. Also you can be insecure about your body and still be an in tune lover. I just had a baby and am not exactly loving that due to breast feeding I cannot diet. However that has not stopped us from the passion the brought us our beautiful daughter lol. Just remember all of these are absolutly true but they may present differently in people as none of us are text books, we are complex induviduals
NICELY SAID. 😊❤
My wife just scored 0 out of 5, glad I kicked her out 13 years ago lol
LOL
You have just described my marvelous wife of 35 years. Yes, they are out there. I thank God that she found me worthy of her trust.
You have a better chance of winning a lottery than finding a grounded and stable woman.
Here it is one and all men I've dated think is something wrong with me because I don't act like other women. I have all the triads she says .
That's why I look for solid scheduling skills and up front pricing. It's more honest and significantly cheaper.
😂😂😂
I never win a lottery but have found several stable women.
This is absolutely the best advice I've ever heard .. Because I've never had a stable female. This will video will be saved. Back up to remember 😮
Thank you sarah. Id like to hear more. Maybe does she have a good relationship with her father
I found one! They do exist! Took me 25 years to find.
We've been married 5 years, and she still almost always passes these tests. And when she doesn't, she is well worth my grace at that time.
I'm a blessed man.
25 years after your birthday? Or 25 years after what?
Only took quarter of a century to find one ?
Very lucky
Happy for you.
Europe, guys, go to Europe.
Saves you years, youth, and your money.
Save as much of them as possible for that good one.
Everyone I was in a relationship with always played the victim before during and after the relationship.
That's sad
Don't date victims.
If they talk trash about the ex by playing the victim. RUN! she will do the same to you. She is scapegoating her ex to turn on your internal defensive wiring. Dont fall for it.
You can walk away before the relationship gets going when you are seeing the victim mentality. Also I had to learn what it was in me that was always attracting the same kind of people. If I keep attracting victims, what do I need to work on.
@@karahupp4589 Also true.
My wife (only 47 years so far, so maybe it's still up in the air) is close with the other members of her family, but like most soldiers, had few or no long-term friends when we met. I didn't either because the military isn't particularly good for long term friendships. Too much moving around.
There are awesome women out there work to be the man that will see them for who they are they deserve to be honored too.
Accountability now this one is like diamond very rare never seen that .
Noble thing you do healing that part of humanity by bringing light to it. Blessings 🎉
Trying to find a woman who passes the first test... virtually impossible. Then you expect them to pass FOUR MORE?!? 😂🤣
that's exactly what I was thinking
Fscts, plus this dumbvice is being told from perspective of a woman. So it means nothing. Nice try
I have a mother, a wife, a daughter. None of them. Nor any woman I have ever met. It's just not for them.
If you test me, I’m gone. I don’t play that game anymore. If you want real from me, you better be real yourself.
This is brilliant, thanks as always for elucidating these mysteries.
.... One thing I found with those stable women is if so much as one of their long-term friends dislikes you you're out the door because those stable women will always choose their friends over the man..... it won't even matter if you're a good stable man....... then of course there are the women that just have way too many boundaries.... many stable women that have all these categories are looking for perfection in a man and that's impossible too you might find that many of them are single for a very very very long time and without children of course.... many times it just takes age and maturity to become stable.. both for men and women....
I'm working on all of these as a 25f. I'm trying my best over here 😂
Good for you and a now or future man.
If you can do ONE per cent better today than yesterday think where you'll be in a year.
If you're 100% better in a year: Huge accomplishment. Realistically, aim for that.
The oblivious see no reason to make the effort. Your making it means you're different. Hold out for a man who matches your hatd work. And loves you for who you are.
Good on you.keep on growing and you will attract the right person for you. I made lots of mistakes in my 20s and 30s. We aren't perfect but it is important to keep trying 😊
Awesome accurate indicators! Might also indicate that long term friendships need to be healthy else she is a shipwreck in a desolated degenerated circle of misery and bad habits.
Study the friends. They will tell you who she is. If they are mean feminist. You're girl is one too, she is just using a different mask to fool you.
Nice description of the world's stable women...all three of them.
How did you find 3????
😂.
@@notsureyou Three different women
@@donnalawrence9054 My question still stands ;-P
Including mine there are 2 others!
The company she keeps is definitely important. My wife has the best friends in the world and she's had them for a very long time. I can trust her to travel with them without me (whether it's to the beach, Africa, or the Middle East) and she can trust me to travel with them without her (whether it's to a conference half a state away, Europe, or the Middle East).
The long term friends is very important indication. Have wondered why the last two horrible people didn't have them, now I know why, "friends" for them were just sources and one people had seen the mask drop they hightail it.
I know extremely unstable women that have had long term relationships with other unstable women.
Any out there off the grid ? Just shear nutters . Like taming the shrew. ?
@@rickwarda1838 that is for sure, however if they don't even have that????
I've known various ppl who have LT friendships who aren't the slightest bit stable & otherswho don't because they grew beyond certain cycles. You can lose a lot of "friends" when you start to set reasonable boundaries.
@@justacoginthefkery totally, having long term friends doesn't mean they're sane, I never implied that, and even those who've set boundaries will generally have at least 9ne long term friend, if they don't to me that may mean the "boundaries" might be a little unreasonable. All I am saying is that the last two GFs both had "friends" but they ALL were just sources, therefore from my lived experience the lack of long term friends is a non negotiable without justification
Grounded advice. Thank you Sarah!
Daddy relationship is a key
I am horrible with texting, but to be fair, I am on the phones all day for my job. The last thing I want to do is text or call someone unless I have had a few hours to decompress🙍🏻♀️
no excuses
If you can answer your boss you can answer your husband zero excuses women will drop everything for their boss but their man lmao naw I'm too tired 😂
@@updaterequired1173 facts
I am not saying I don't reply. I just need a few hours with no phone. Geez...it is only ok for men decompress but not women? I do have a bf who is happy with me, so I am not doing a horrible job
Thank you!!!!!
You have to like this woman she does have some very good ideas
I am raising this type of little girl now. It's not easy raising a girl to have long-term female friendships and be accountable. But not impossible.
If you find the any with #1 then you can possibly build from there.
Confidence with skin issues depends on previous experiences. 😮
Disagree about the texting.
I don't respond to texts quickly most of the time.
I have a life. I don't live watching my phone.
I wouldn't want a women that did that either.
Thank you.
I am busy working and
taking care of family.
I check texts on my break
If I get one.
This! I've dealt with ppl who respond quickly all the time & I can't help but start to think they either do nothing all the time or they're super clingy & anxious. The whole text- response demands are backwards to me. The chatting & dating stage is all about figuring out if both want to make the other a priority, yet ppl demand to be made top priority just because they exist. Also full & constant text convos can be very distracting... I prefer to get into those when I'm available to give the person my full attention without neglecting other areas of life... because boundaries.
there's a critical difference between doesn't see the text for a while, and sees the text but decides to make you wait for the answer.
Nothing but green flags with the woman I’m with ❤
The last one is quite vague. What do you define as "comfortable in her own skin?" I mean, even the great looking women I've known/dated have insecurities about their looks/age.
Accountability!!! Omg 😂😂😂😂 i swear its alot of people's greatest fear
The fabled Unicorn....
This goes bothways men+ women ! but ppl r so quick 2 critisize others thesedays but unprepared 2 do their own self criticism
"And yes, there are stable women." 😂
That long term friendships one.... dang if I had only known 12 years ago
Thank you. This is the best advice.
5/5 total fail for my ex. Wish I’d seen her red flags a long time ago.
You always have wise words to share.
Yes i believe we are out there. But most men have been through such an ugly time their not wanting to try any more
- That black outfit really suits you!
A stable woman also respects and listens to her parents.
You nailed it again, Sarah 👍🏽
#4 is the best ..hands down....she knows about relationships
Good relationship with family ..
Right on Sarah D..
Add a sixth: whenever she's upset, does she talk to you as two adults conversing or does she talk to you like she does a child?
Long term relationships are important but only if those relationships are nurtured almost daily. I know women who are still friends with people they knew since they were children but they talk and see each other seldomly so they still don't really know each other.
Good video..."and yes they are out there".. I will have to take your word for it I've been on quite a few dates.. but I haven't experienced a woman you are describing. Sounds like a unicorn. 😅
Thank you again that was awesome information all at once
Love your videos Sarah Dawn Moore! ❤
Happy to say I finally found myself one of these 😁
long term toxic co-dependent friendship.... hmmmm
Rare gem.👍
I don't get to hung up on rapid reply's to text, as I'm often to busy to respond to text messages in a reasonable time. Ladies I meet all seem to have long term friendships, they just all seem to be with men not ladies.
Us Ladies hanging around with the Men- its because we can't stand the crazy bitches either. We would rather chill with the guys, having a beer watching a movie or sports game and don't care how much you paid for your latest name brand, over priced fashion accessory.
I believe people have to go through bad times andbad relationships in order to even be or know good or bad breaking them from acting out spontaneous in
I was dating two women. One only had male friends, the other had female friends from when she was in high school. I married the girl with long term girl friends. I feel bad for the guy who married the other girl. Turns out that she also had 40K in tax debt. 😮
Exactly. Thank you
1) Definitely...2) Not....3) From
4) This...5) Planet
Speaking from experience and from what I've been seeing, most men have better odds of getting hit by lightning than finding a decent woman. Yeah, there's some good ones out there but it's like trying to find a needle in a huge haystack. Good luck with that.
1) accountability or victim?
2) set boundaries without being bitchy?
3) make equal effort and reciprocate?
4) long term friendships?
5) good relationships with her own sexuality? ie, comfortable in her own skin?
Never met a girl with a long term friend. I’ll look for that one. 😂 😮
Stable one day can turn into crazy the next....... Always keep your sense of humor.
Love your stuff Sarah but as soon as I heard Woman and accountability in the same sentence I laughed and scrolled
Are they out there? Yes!
-proceeds to give list that excludes 95% of all women by the third item on it.
I approve of these words.
Well, I often agree with you and you hit the nail right on the head on all five of these, so I’m not rubber stamping you, but you absolutely nailed it. It’s like the complementary side for someone as a gentleman. If he is a renaissance man, is she the other side of the renaissance couple behaving themselves properly with friendships, secure, and their relationships and they stand alone but yet partner with the renaissance man. You nailed it.❤😊😉
You might as well stop brown-nosing. She's giving it up, but not to you.
These are good, thank you
Top sign of an unstable woman.....purple hair😂😂😂😂
UNDER A ROCK IN ALASKA...??😮
I love you’re channel so much. You have to be the smartest person on the entire planet. No cap
Wrong
2 Indications of a stable woman:
1. She's not on social media.
2. She has a good relationship with her father.
You're welcome.
Thank you for all of your good advice. I like watching your videos. It doesn't seem like it applies to me though I'm a bit old I guess at 55.
Can't argue with that, ( except, I've never seen one... and I have 5 sisters and 4 daughters)
Fabulous hair
Thank you so much for your videos.
The long-term friendships is big. My son's mom had him 5 godmother. Her own family is not to keen on time with her. Run fast.
Jeremiah 23:1
Woe be unto the pastors that destroy and scatter the sheep of my pasture! saith the LORD.
Holy shit this is so obvious however, ill admit i have not always paid mind to this. Thaaaank youuuuuu!❤
The long term friendship thing is scary because now you have to pass there BS tests and they already hate you! They view you take away their friend.
Accountability IS Kryptonite For Most.
Woman of my dreams. I have a couple issues I’m working on
Easier to find a magical unicorn.
#1 She likes horses.
A man was taken to hospital today because he swallowed seven toy horses. His condition was described as stable.
Good evening love your advice ❤❤
❤the 1$t one LOL!
SHannon From Kim's Convenience
Wow those are great questions never thought About it with them i'm gonna do some analyzing
3-5 are good but 1 and 2 do not determine stability.
Does a man need long term friends? What if his previous friends were toxic with drugs and other things?
They like that in a man, because they want to expand their "social network", but let me tell you this: none of my previous partners cared about MY friends. Don't worry about it, after 30 most people focus on their families anyway, especially with kids.
Only three legged tables near me lol 😂