how to have quiet confidence and natural magnetism

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  • Real confidence is not cold, detached, or uncaring. Quiet confidence is firm, but open and receptive. It embodies self-love, self-trust, and self compassion, which allows others to feel safe being their full selves in the presence of it. Once you're able to embody this energy from the inside out, then magnetism happens naturally. You can trust yourself to be selective, stand by your decisions, yet remain curious and open to differing ideas and opinions. #quietconfidence #howtobemoreconfident #selfdevelopment
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 108

  • @cherrysorbet-it6bs
    @cherrysorbet-it6bs 18 днів тому +214

    1. Shadow work (understand and accept self qualities so nobody can tell you otherwise, undertand what u do why u do it)
    2. Dont judge others
    3. Accept insecurities(make peace)
    4. Accept past mistakes and learn from them GENUINLY
    5. ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE PRESENT IN SOCIAL SITUATIONS
    6. Nobody is thinking about you more than yourself

  • @emmali2265
    @emmali2265 20 днів тому +194

    I am a very defensive person before. But now, if someone really show no respect and always say to me negative judgement . I ignore them and leave. Don't waste my time and energy on them at all.

    • @kdms.3377
      @kdms.3377 5 днів тому +1

      What if they are coworkers and you have to work with them?

    • @rburns1182
      @rburns1182 2 дні тому

      what if they are family or people you have to be with for long periods of time. I'm quite a defensive person and tend to get reactive when I feel attacked whether it was their intention to attack me or not.

  • @jayrichdubai
    @jayrichdubai 16 днів тому +36

    David Beckham has always exuded that quiet confidence. I've always admired that trait in him.

  • @allanpeter7700
    @allanpeter7700 18 днів тому +36

    Tbh it is very true that if you’re compassionate to yourself self you become more compassionate to others, I wasn’t taught to be compassionate but after I changed I do feel more compassionate

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  17 днів тому +2

      Not sure why it took so long to truly have that click in place for me - But it’s made the biggest difference on my own journey.

    • @allanpeter7700
      @allanpeter7700 17 днів тому

      ​@@DiaJin The thing is it's still weird for me to describe myself as kind and compassionate but I do actually help old people carry heavy stuff down the stairs and etc more.
      The biggest difference for me is breaking through my trauma and getting an implicit answer that I needed(maybe Idk I feel spectacular and the first time I've ever felt somewhat similar to who I envisioned), the compassion was a side effect for me.
      For me I dont think I could think could have nurtured my compassion the other way around since it wasnt really taught to me, I am bitter about my family, and generally people dont care about each other anyway.

  • @tasleemlaila1478
    @tasleemlaila1478 11 годин тому

    I love that- "you kind of look like a horse".
    "Yeah, I know." Amazing!

  • @nise0421
    @nise0421 6 годин тому

    Good point well said. When we start doing the shadow work & truly accepting who we are, and trust me that’s not an easy task, that’s when we learn empathy, understanding & kindness for ourselves & others.

  • @DessaAtmaStudio
    @DessaAtmaStudio 20 днів тому +33

    I love the reminder that we write our own story. It’s up to us to build our foundation of our character within ourselves and naturally over time we will free ourselves from the past identity of who we think we are vs. who we actually are now.
    Thank you for the weekly practical magic ❤

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  20 днів тому

      Yes yes. Thank you 😉🩵

  • @ekuniverse1
    @ekuniverse1 16 днів тому +11

    Accept who you are, and realise you're not perfect which applies to everyone so that when people judge you don't care.

  • @allanpeter7700
    @allanpeter7700 18 днів тому +12

    With social anxiety it’s generally you are so focused on being nervous when in reality you should on asking questions and absorbing information about the other person

  • @kathleenkaleookalanismith8724
    @kathleenkaleookalanismith8724 14 днів тому +5

    This is such a beautiful message. I always tell my children that confidence is always kind. It’s a natural way that confidence moves through life.

  • @oumaima418
    @oumaima418 19 днів тому +3

    So amazing to see you have overcome alcoholism etc. Even tough I don't know you personally, I am really proud of you. I can definitely see you have done a lot of inner work. Thanks for sharing < 3

  • @quynhchi4201
    @quynhchi4201 17 днів тому

    love this! thank you Dia

  • @therese8658
    @therese8658 20 днів тому +1

    you truly embody that quiet confidence and magnetism that you are saying because that is what made me click this video. i've come across several thumbnails nd i was quick to brush them off but when i saw this video, i was like .. woah. i know that each person has their own energy that radiates and shine on its own but i like your energy best :)

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  17 днів тому

      Aww thank you so much! I definitely still have many moments of self doubt and feeling uncomfortable but grateful for the progress. 🩵

  • @rawauthenticvulnerable
    @rawauthenticvulnerable 18 днів тому +2

    This is great thanks for exposing this , all the fake it til you make it , and to encourage people to really be authentic and vulnerable -

  • @RobHMastiffDad
    @RobHMastiffDad 19 днів тому +19

    The Gabor Mate book "In The Realm Of Hungry Ghosts" should be required reading for anyone considering the privilege of being a parent. It shows how our childhood environment impacts us as adults. It is far more than a book on addiction and a fascinating read.

  • @dirtbaguette
    @dirtbaguette 18 днів тому

    You're absolutely gorgeous! I appreciate the realistic advice that there's no quick fix solution to this, and that real confidence is not detached :) Love the honesty and wisdom.

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  17 днів тому

      Thank you for your kind comment! 🩵

  • @bhavnaaggarwal1563
    @bhavnaaggarwal1563 8 днів тому

    This is a gorgeous video Dia, it all just comes down to accepting your whole self

  • @Poppitywoo
    @Poppitywoo 11 годин тому

    This is a wonderful video, thanks for making and sharing it with all of us 🥰

  • @dolibbom
    @dolibbom 17 днів тому

    thank you ❤ i’ve learnt a lot from this video

  • @strawberryknfe
    @strawberryknfe 8 днів тому +1

    I've watched a few different self help videos made by multiple ppl abt this similar topic and so far you're the only one that has not made me feel guilty abt my lack of confidence. Your confidence and the way you speak is so uplifting and your advice is so grounded and realistic. Rly loved this video

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  8 днів тому +1

      Aww I’m so glad it resonated with you 🩵🫶

  • @estheranthony7539
    @estheranthony7539 20 днів тому +6

    This is just what I needed at this moment. I started a new job and I'm trying to retool my life. Your insights have been incredibly useful, providing me with productive areas to focus on. You speak in a realistic, down-to-earth way without resorting to overly optimistic platitudes. Thank you for your valuable advice.

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  17 днів тому

      I’m so glad to hear this! Thank you for leaving a comment 🩵

  • @25kishkish
    @25kishkish 19 днів тому +1

    So informative, thank you!

  • @lucasbittar
    @lucasbittar 18 днів тому +2

    What an amazing video, Dia! Great timing as well. I've been going through some stuff in my life recently (breakups, getting rid of toxic people) and this video really gave me a different perspective of things. Really appreciate it! Love the Arrival poster by the way :) Cheers from Brazil!

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  18 днів тому +1

      Wish you all the best! 🩵

  • @juliamayumi9961
    @juliamayumi9961 11 днів тому

    Thank you for this video ❤

  • @Magicalhooman
    @Magicalhooman 20 днів тому +1

    This video is amazing!!!! ❤❤

  • @dreamerzstorie
    @dreamerzstorie 20 днів тому

    Ahhh ❤ another amazing woman to be followed/subscribed, im on my self growth journey rn and the latter half part of this video resonates so much with me. Almost all my life ive been avoiding to get out of my comfort zone and making the term “introvert” as an excuse for everything. Thanks for this. You and some other amazing people out there really pushes me to take accountability with my life and live for the better. Love from 🇵🇭

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  17 днів тому

      Aww thank you so much for the kind comment. I resonate with this very much, as a self proclaimed introvert. 😉 wish you all the very best 🫶🩵

  • @sabinastapel7528
    @sabinastapel7528 8 днів тому +1

    Just came across your video, it got me thinking about a couple of thinks. And just want to say that you radiate selflove and calmness. To me it looks like you are proud of the person you are now. That's beautiful to see!

  • @hairnloveproducts8915
    @hairnloveproducts8915 19 днів тому

    Loved this segment this specifically resonated I think I’ll watch this every morning thank you for this Gem 💎

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  17 днів тому

      Awww I’m glad it resonated with you🫶

  • @user-zy5yy8nk5m
    @user-zy5yy8nk5m 14 днів тому

    thank u🤍!

  • @miriamtm369
    @miriamtm369 12 днів тому

    You always speak to the deepest part of me and seem to spark a light in the darkness, thank you for your message❤

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  9 днів тому

      aww thank you for such a kind comment. 💞

  • @Nocturnal_Lorena
    @Nocturnal_Lorena 20 днів тому

    Tysm! 💖

  • @zarinsubah9331
    @zarinsubah9331 День тому

    You’re literally so gorgeous ❤

  • @Theawakenedsomnambulist
    @Theawakenedsomnambulist 17 днів тому

    You speak so beautifully! I love listening to your wisdom. ❤️

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  17 днів тому

      Aww thank you 🩵🫶

  • @monica95275
    @monica95275 20 днів тому +1

    Thank you for this amazing video❤I am currently 23 years old and loving myself had been such a huge topic in my life, and I often struggle to comprehend what it meant and how exactly I should achieve it, but watching your video definitely helps clearing my mind a lot! looking forward to see more of your videos in the future❤

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  17 днів тому

      I’m glad the video can add to your journey 🫶 and thank you for watching 🩵

  • @ericaknox2715
    @ericaknox2715 День тому +1

    I love Arrival I want a poster like that too now!! 🐙 🪨🪐… I think the main character played by Amy Adam’s has quiet confidence…🩵

  • @TiffanyKuo-ps5fc
    @TiffanyKuo-ps5fc 2 дні тому

    It may be beside the point, but she is sooo pretty in many ways ~

  • @hobsyllwin2562
    @hobsyllwin2562 20 днів тому +1

    Thank you ❤

  • @alissia8767
    @alissia8767 20 днів тому +5

    This video deserves more views 💗

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  20 днів тому +1

      Aww thank you 🫶

  • @richardgraber1477
    @richardgraber1477 20 днів тому +1

    Awesome!

  • @rishikashahi2187
    @rishikashahi2187 4 дні тому

    This entire video, you've spoken and explained beautifully. You exude confidence and I can feel that being passing on to me as well. The first video I came across of yours and truly loved it. ❤️

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  4 дні тому

      Thank you for your kind words! 🫶

  • @juliamurphy5943
    @juliamurphy5943 11 днів тому

    i really needed this video today, thank you

  • @bglv306
    @bglv306 2 дні тому

    Good talk ❤

  • @ellawishnya
    @ellawishnya 18 днів тому

    very smart and useful!

  • @paulrivera5231
    @paulrivera5231 17 днів тому

    Ooo Dia your views are exploding. Great job !!!

  • @iamthecozyking
    @iamthecozyking 18 днів тому

    Fantastic video 🎉

  • @semo_amg
    @semo_amg 17 днів тому +2

    you are so pretty

  • @melissa1488
    @melissa1488 17 днів тому

    Luv you’re absolutely gorgeous. 😊

  • @LovingHypnoASMR
    @LovingHypnoASMR 10 днів тому

    I loved this! Thank you ❤ subbing 😇

  • @patgrl
    @patgrl 20 днів тому +1

    Tkssss❤❤❤❤

  • @arbueshelena
    @arbueshelena 20 днів тому +16

    She's so pretty and calm, don't really know if I want to be her or marry her 😂❤

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  17 днів тому +1

      Girl stahp 😂 🫶

  • @wbts7475
    @wbts7475 7 днів тому

    hmmm satabishac girlll✨✨✨

  • @dianabratu6177
    @dianabratu6177 9 днів тому

    You are absolutely beautiful just in every sense of the word, had to share that.

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  9 днів тому

      🥹thank u

  • @LAdreaming19
    @LAdreaming19 13 днів тому

    Wow you are stunning

  • @hohanh1452
    @hohanh1452 20 днів тому +1

    This change me

  • @studymusic403
    @studymusic403 4 дні тому

    You are amazing wow - feel like I want to be your friend :)))))

  • @dreamergirl1140
    @dreamergirl1140 8 днів тому

    Unrelated but I love your artwork in the background! It reminds me of something from the movie Arrival. It looks super cool!

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  8 днів тому +1

      It is from Arrival! One of my favorite movies 😛

    • @dreamergirl1140
      @dreamergirl1140 8 днів тому

      Wait wait wait!! I think it says "time" or maybe "there is no linear time". That's so cool!!!

  • @lavatr8322
    @lavatr8322 18 днів тому

    I am a very Quiet guy. I like my own space & peace.
    But outside factors make me react....

  • @ejohnson67
    @ejohnson67 17 днів тому

    Proverbs 3 : 26
    [26] For the Lord will be your confidence, And will keep your foot from being caught.

  • @user-xq4zh1oj7g
    @user-xq4zh1oj7g 10 днів тому

    You are extremely gorgeous💕🥹

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  9 днів тому

      Thank uuu🥹🩵

  • @xwhy888
    @xwhy888 19 днів тому +5

    Who read the title as "magnesium"? Anyone?

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  18 днів тому +1

      I had to triple check my own eyes when I typed it you’re not alone 😆

  • @stephanie387
    @stephanie387 19 днів тому

  • @ivanasancort
    @ivanasancort 14 днів тому

    Hiii, can i ask where do you get the poster in the background?

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  13 днів тому

      Hi I ordered the print off of Etsy I think and then bought frames on Amazon

    • @ivanasancort
      @ivanasancort 11 днів тому

      @@DiaJin Thank you!

  • @alissia8767
    @alissia8767 20 днів тому +1

    3rd :))

  • @weier_populus
    @weier_populus 10 днів тому

    The picture on the wall, is that from film Arrival?

  • @ProfessorHamachi
    @ProfessorHamachi 20 днів тому +1

    1st🎉❤

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  20 днів тому +2

      Woo!!🙏🏼💖

  • @Carolareyes__
    @Carolareyes__ 20 днів тому +2

    🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼

  • @StudentofFlames-me3ie
    @StudentofFlames-me3ie 19 днів тому

    It's John Wick.

  • @amberlee8074
    @amberlee8074 20 днів тому +2

    2nd❤

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  20 днів тому

      🩵🩵🩵

  • @compact-disc
    @compact-disc 16 годин тому

    If somebody walked up to me saying I looked like a horse, I'd actually laugh about how random that comment'd be 💀 seriously who does that??

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  11 годин тому

      Haha my retelling lacked enough context, this person was a friend of her friend.

    • @compact-disc
      @compact-disc 3 години тому

      @@DiaJin ohh I see.. well shame on that person anyway, it's cool of your friend that she could react this way :)

  • @Lauratrenzas673
    @Lauratrenzas673 18 днів тому

    Hola guapa, que cambiarias si pudiera en el mundo

  • @borednow
    @borednow 9 днів тому

    why is your plant shaking the whole time?

  • @divushypnotica5955
    @divushypnotica5955 2 дні тому

    Please let us know why the plants in your room keep moving 🍀🫶🏻 thank you for the video

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  2 дні тому

      😂there’s a fan in the room, I almost wanted to just let the mystery remain but seeing this is the second comment on the ghostly plant

  • @paulacesarini9591
    @paulacesarini9591 8 днів тому