How to build self-worth and stop seeking external validation (with 4 practices)
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- Опубліковано 22 чер 2024
- Having a clear sense of self, and strong self-worth is necessary to living the life we desire. It can help us feel more confident to set and stand by our boundaries, stop people pleasing, and have more authentic relationships. Though this is not an easy or linear journey, baby steps can go a long way.
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Chapters:
0:00 Self-worth
0:39 What is self-worth?
1:14 Why is it important to have a strong sense of self-worth
4:09 First Practice
6:40 Second practice
9:07 Third Practice
11:02 Fourth Practice
self trust is SO important for real
I think its an under-discussed topic, but essential for establishing the ground works of showing ourselves we're worthy of the commitments we make to ourselves. 🙌
this helped me alot especially with dealing with external validation. I've been doing some inner child healing exercises and found out this is a felling that the child in me is so familiar with. the child in me wants to be liked and accepted by everyone but this is something i truly wanna overcome and show myself the love i deserve, show myself that I got my bavk and all the validation i need i only important as it comes from me.
I have felt very similar things. It’s very empowering to step into the adult role and become the loving parental figure to our inner child parts. 💖💖 wish you all the very best.
🎉love the last practice. I started shifting into this mindset about a month ago. It feels soooooo great!
literally not even halfway through the video and im already subscribing. Such beautiful words spoken, got a new fan here hehe !
aww thank you so much! ❤
Beautifully thought out and spoken💗
dayummmm thats so profound knowledge in simpler words
Love this!! These are practical practices that make sense. It wasn’t like those basic how to gain confidence videos.
2:15 I love this analogy and where you go with it for the next 30ish seconds. I moved around every year, different places in 6 different cities, until I was 7 years old. And, now, well-done RV-life has been a reoccurring desire. Thank you for making sense of it. And many other things are clicking over here too! Thank you ❤
Thank you for this! ❤ Grounded in reality, simple to follow.
Just a few takeaways for future reference:
• Practice self-acceptance and compassion, process the bad/ugly things that may be true about you and allow it to at least be neutral (may take time)
• Build self-trust by choosing things that are good for you (strike a balance-not black and white, avoid shaming)
• How you are perceived is NOT your task
i freaking needed this!!!!
Happy to see you again, Dia!💐 I missed your pretty face a lot 😚 And thank you for sharing your thoughts on self-worth. It's a very important topic as many people lack a fair share of self-worth. Without it a happy and satisfying life is practically impossible so you hopefully contribute to the well-being of many people!
Waiting for your next video now ... 😎😊
Really love your content! Wishing you so much growth ❤ Thank you!
aw I really appreciate that, thank you! 💖
Outstanding video! I just stumbled upon this. You are an extremely poised and articulate speaker.
Great thoughts you are sharing based on direct experience and self-reflection.
You are fantastic! Bless you! Stay strong and carry on!!!
First, *Thank You, Dia❣* I didn't intend to comment, but I gained some timely insights here that are greatly beneficial/helpful to me.
Second- and TBH this is what prompted me to comment, I searched my public library db online for the book you suggested, and the numbers are as followed:
Book - 2024; All copies in use; Holds: 3 on 1 copy
Book - 2018; All copies in use; Holds: 43 on 15 copies
eBook - 2018; All copies in use; Holds: *226* on 11 copies
*Downloadable Audiobook* - 2018; All copies in use; Holds: *353* on 20 copies
*POPULAR BOOK‼* 😅
At least the newest edition has fewer holds, hopefully it is the same as earlier editions (or added info to the earlier, _unchanged)._ Fortunately, am in no rush; I'm sure I will be reading it in/by Autumn, perfect in time for my bday.
Omgosh! I didn’t think they’d be so popular! 😅 happy reading, whenever you’re able to get your hands on them, would love to hear your thoughts after. 🫶
Really appreciate how the concepts are framed in context...with examples. And thanks for the book recommendation! 😊
What you told me about concepts and contexts will most certainly be in my mind as I create more videos😊 thank you!!
Well said. Thank you!❤
Thanks for watching 😊❤
Wow I got hella emotional during this video... Thanks for putting this kind of content out there. Somehow, I viewed it as like my big sis having a talk with me... again, thanks so much.
Foundation is very important. If I am not safe to explore the world then I will keep to myself. I appreciate your efforts in this direction. Apart from self worth, what other things should one have to be able to complete a task
Thank you so much I needed this
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Absolutely spot on, another great video. Peace
Thank you! ❤
❤ Thank you!!! So good, wise Mindsets and steps to cultivate self worth without the need to achieve society’s measurement of success and worth
you’re mesmerizing
Thank you🥰
Loved this video - thank you for the book reccs! ❤
Of course! 💖
Always insightful. Your presence is missed on UA-cam. Hope to see more in the near future. 😊
I’m holding myself to it! Appreciate the encouragement as always 💖
You have come such a long way Dia,
I will have to watch this every day to remind myself. I will listen to your podcasts also. 🤲
I can really sense you are feeling what you say and your approach to bringing the key points to be understood through practical methods really helps trigger those feelings inside also. You are a fantastic teacher. 🍏
For me to to feel more of a sense of achievement and confidence and not always be the helper as you mentioned would also be a breakthrough for me.
I sense its real courage, strength, and purpose when one is not doing what is expected of you but following your heart, in the face of judgment and criticism.
Thanks for your love and dedication to yourself and others.. 💚💥
Thank you for sharing such a thoughtful comment! 🙏🏼 It’s words like yours that encourage me to continue to squash my own imposter syndrome, so the gratitude goes both ways. 🩵
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Would you believe I was just thinking about what you were up to just a few days ago. Now I'll get back to the video. 👍 ....... Definite words of wisdom and a very professional presentation. 🥀🌼🥀 Thank You ☮
Ah so glad to “see” a familiar face! Thank you for thinking of me and I hope you’ve been well! 🩵🩵
I read that book! the mention of it got me to subscribe lol as well as your "we can begin again" philosophy
The book definitely gave me a light-bulb moment, the language was not convoluted and maybe that’s why it worked so well. So glad to have you here! 🩵😊
Gratitude and thank you ❤❤❤❤❤
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Interesting insights, I have also come to similar conclusions through a lot self-reflection and reading.
It's crazy how we're put on this planet with a mind that constantly tells us we're not good enough and then everyone just has to constantly deal with this inner critic for 70-80 years without going insane.
ha yes, it is a delicate balance to have enough self-awareness to be humbled by our own natural imperfections, yet also enough courage to try and get out of our own way.
Love your videos .. really making a difference ❤🙏
Thank you for your kind words! 🩵
Thanks for the video. Good stuff.
In the last part though, how something is received is based on how something is presented. So it is within our control, which means it can be our responsibility. Of course, there is no need to force something but it is a skill that can be learned and improved upon
yeeeahhh Dia!!!!!
Thanks for the hype!! 🤪💖
Tanks ❤
Sooooooooo Sweeti!!!!!!!!!!
“How you’re perceived is not your task.” -Dia Jin. ❤Ty, that’s going on the wall!
Love what you make and stand by it, and enjoy the process. Know what your integrity means; know your limits; know your ‘no’s and ‘yes’es. Allow others their own tasks. ❤pure gold! Thank you.
I’m glad you resonated with the video! Highly recommend “the courage to be disliked” book if you liked that quote😊🫶
Welcome back stranger its been a loooooooooong time. Hope to see you return more often with videos about the outdoor community travels.
Thank you! Travel is definitely not out of the equation 😊
My best wishes to you thanks for all your effortlessly jobs for the next generation
It's hard to respect yourself when you feel like a Ioser. My boss doesn't believe in me. She was once upset I had signed up for a one-person shift, because she didn't think I could manage alone. She was all "I've told you not to sign up for shifts by yourself, I've been very clear about that, I don't know how much clearer I can get for you to listen" and she told me I need someone there to give me instructions and guide me. Sure, I'm a slow learner and have messed up at work before, but the automatic assumption that I'm heIpIess, while our newer workers are allowed to work alone, it just bothers me. And I just found out that my sister defended me from a classmate who called me the r word. He said I was just a guy with disabIities (I have learning difficulties and ASD). And he ridicuIed the fact that I still live at home at 28 and went to a small charter school instead of his and my sister's public high school.
I’m sorry to hear this. Keep your head up. I hope things get better for you.
maybe u do need assistance? how is ur self awareness
@@episode40 Well, what do you mean by assistance? In life? To restore my pride and confidence?
You shouldn’t feel like a loser, it just sounds like you don’t have enough people in your life who acknowledge your strengths. Developing a firm self concept can help with this. Having disabilities does not mean you cannot work alone, and your boss missed an opportunity to reaffirm confidence in someone that could have been a dedicated employee.
At last, I've proved myself to the boss. I was assauIted in downtown by two powerful men, and when she arrived, my an ger from her words just sunk in. I had to USE it to overcome the two guys who otherwise in general would've managed to finish me. You know, they had no chance against me when I replayed my boss's words in my head and mentally relived the memory. In addition, I cleverly used my environment and resources to win against the guys. By the time they were done and a person was watching them while calling the poIice, my boss was all "John, you were INCREDIBLE!!! So strategic and resourceful and successful. And if you want to do a service by yourself, you GOT IT! I believe in you!!!!
Sometimes the youtube algo works just right.
How can survive todays timed ?
So cute
Hollyyyyy you're back and haven't changed one bit. Great to see you doing well and wishing you all the best.
Ahh thank you! Wishing you all the best too 😊❤
Conceive, believe, achieve.😂
Very rare to see beauty and brain at the same time. Well done.
Have you ever considered becoming a movie star or a model ??
Hey Dia , very good video . I can do better editing in your videos which can help you to get more engagement in your videos . Pls lmk what do you think ?
Hi there, not sure if you’re the one who reached out via email. Please send me an email: contact@herewithdia.com
@@DiaJin Sure , Appreciate it , thankyou !
The lady is gorgeous.
dia it was kind of vague i though you would have been smart and included some real world examples that happened to you but , it seems you just used like ai to generate this speech,it didnt feel like yrou own words to me. also i could sense your passion was on very low for this topic.maybe get more passionate about a topic before posting because most people watching need that energy to push us and your low vibe isnt working it for this topic
Hi there, it’s definitely written by me but i did use a teleprompter for quicker recording, and it’s something I’ve been thinking of ditching, so I appreciate your feedback:)
@DiaJin I just want to say that I respect your response to the original commenter. I thought their comment was very negative and uncalled for, as well as not true. You handled it with maturity and class.
Appreciate you 🫶
@@ambers512 oh so now trying to be honest is " negative" are you a princess or lil baby man child? i bet you never had a real struggle in yrou life huh? go back to the valley man child/ lil princess
Thank you for sharing this ✨🤍
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Thank you for this useful video ❤️🩹
Thanks for watching 🙏🏼💖