Are you transgender? Male to Female/MtF Part 1
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- Опубліковано 4 сер 2014
- Watching this video can help you answer the question, "Am I transgender?"
This video was created to help you determine whether or not you are transgender, specifically male to female, male to "whatever," or transfeminine. ("Male to whatever/MtW" is a phrase inclusive of all gender fluidity identities such as those who feel gender queer, bigender, two spirit, agender, neutrois, eunuch, etc.) If you think about the questions proposed in the video, particularly the statements in the top left hand corner of the video, this may help you understand whether or not you are transgender. Please note, this video is part 1 of 2, so be sure to watch the 2nd video following this video.
Are you transgender? First determine if you have "dysphoria," a criteria to be diagnosed with "Gender Dysphoria."
"Imagine you could never change it"
*Waterfalls in my eyes*
LizDaWiz AndPoop I know I can never change things except being a CD and having a hookup every once in a while where I am the girl
I'm replacing my dysphoria with depression from family rejection.
All three current comments and replies to this apply. I'm adding demonic blaze of flames in the gut exciting when I thought I'd never change it.. I'm still kinda overheated.
I would not listen to this fool They have no clue what they are talking about. This is causing the fake trans problem
@@karasprouse595 who is appropriate to listen to?
I wish it was as easy as waking up the way I see myself
this comment is the song of my soul
That’s how I feel every conscious minute of every day . . . you’re not alone!
I'm so ready to be a female and become the woman I should be I've known that I'm really a female since age 4 as a young girl who knew that I'm supposed to be a female
I took a little online quiz the other day to see if I was trans and the first question was something like "If there was a button that you could press..." and before I even saw the rest of the question I could envision myself pressing a magical button and then instantly being transformed into a beautiful woman. And then I sulked because that button doesn't exist, even though I can feel that woman inside of me.
@@OfficialSeth Omfg I took that same quiz a few weeks ago and did the exact same thing
WOW I am 72 years old and only began living as a woman 4 years ago. I was diagnosed Transgender when I was 28. i tried and tried constantly to be a complete woman. The past 4 years have been some of my happiest years. Everything she spoke about is very true. Thank you for that
Congratulations 🎈🎉 I’m 41 and these videos have helped me accept myself. Now it’s time to take action❤️🩹🙏🏾💫
I Would Love To Date you if your from Ohio
Jesus loves you, he loves who you are ❤
this didn't only help, it basically confirmed it. thank you so much
When question myself I come here lol
Jordyn we should hook up real good! Your sexy... And my name is also Jordon it's just spelled Jordon instead of Jordyn... Let's FB it...
@@ashlxx1909 u are sexy
@@jordongrager6059 yes I am
Um this is not help this is crap. She is totally wrong about it.
I've always thought my want and desire to become a girl wasn't severe enough to be considered dysphoric, but this video proved me wrong. This video was extremely helpful, thank you! I feel sorry that you have so much student loan to pay off, hope you finish it soon!
euphoria is just as good a reason as dysphoria
Jesus loves you, he loves who you are ❤
im not trans, nor am i questioning, but this was still helpful in learning how to relate to my trans friends' struggles.
"Imagine that you could never change it"
My brain: no, bad, go to the corner, ew
Omnicob what you mean if someone was changed into gender of oppiset of birth because if so I’m be trapped as a female forever 😃
Amazing so correct
"Imagine you could never change it"
I wanted to cry as she said that...
SO DID I SMSNNXNSNFNDNXNDN I WAS LEGITIMATELY NOT SURE IF IM TRANS BUT THIS VID HELPED SO MUCH
The imagination is like the thundering voice of a judge administering the maximum punishment to me.
Same
None of you are trans don’t listen to her
DAMN IT! How am I going to explain this to my family? I’m 14, they’re gonna think it’s a phase or something! Help!
If they love you then they would understand right?
If they’d accept you at an older age I’m sure they would accept you at 14
Bro, Cave Johnson, Aperture Science Innovations? I know this is a serious topic but I can’t get over your name and about tab ;-;
The One bud get therapy before making a decision as big as transportationing
Was it a phase?
I'm 6 weeks on hormones and out to all my friends, family and coworkers with my new name and pronoun. I found this video a couple of weeks ago and I rewatched it today. I'm very sure of my decision and don't really *need* to confirm it. But this video is so affirming and comforting, thank you!
Thank you so much! After watching part 1 & 2 it feels like a fog has been lifted and I actually laughed at myself because my doubts were so stupid! I am transgender and your videos have helped me more than any others. Thank you so much.
I have felt that I am a girl ever since I was little and up until a few years ago I have suppressed the feeling deeply. When I was little I loved to dress up in girl clothing, I would play dress up with my sisters and I wore a dress, make-up, a wig, bra-inserts and high heels and I felt so happy at that time. It's been so long since I have felt the way I did when I was younger, I haven't been around many girls and I am certainly not allowed to wear girl clothing. It's been a few years now that the feelings of being a girl have come creeping back up and I don't want to fight it anymore, sometimes I cry and when I go to sleep I say to myself "if only I could wake up looking like a girl tomorrow, all of this dysphoria would go away" and of course that doesn't happen. My biggest fear about telling anyone that I am transgender is losing my dad as I'm his only child and he's always wanted a boy. I still look like a guy today, I am twenty-four years old and I am struggling with the idea of being a guy for the rest of my life, I know suicide isn't the answer but I feel stuck, trapped, I am suffocating in my own body, I want to leap out and express myself and I can't and I want to crawl into a hole and die. Why did God allow this to happen? (now I'm starting to cry). I'm sorry. I want to transition so badly but I don't know where to turn, how do I tell my parents and my friends, I don't want to not pass either and I know I am fairly masculine. I'm afraid that if I don't do something soon I am going to dig myself a hole and live there until my time is over. Please God, turn me into a girl, please!
I used to go to sleep thinking the same thing. I'd wish magic was real. That I'd get shapeshifting superpowers. That there would be some magic pill. That some freak science accident would help me. If you want it - do it.
God made you special (in a good way) and just know you aren’t alone and that you can only be the best you that you can be. Even if it means transitioning. Keep on being fabulous! ❤️
I said the exact pray also... for years. But when I found out why am I asking this, I felt enough strong to tell it to my closest friends. As I said it I got more stronger, even they were sceptical. They offered me to go to some psychologist and I felt I have to told this someone who are hopefully knows something about thinking and being open-minded and not so close to me, and they offered one. I went there. I said it. It was also hard. But she listened to me, and helped me trying to live with understanding myself. I got stronger. And there was a point that I knew that I had to say it to my parents. To my most loved ones. It is the hardest, but I decided. It was last friday and they are still not fully understanding me as I see, but we are speeking about it. They love me even I said it and even they are not fully aggree with my points. If you think you have a strong relationship with your father, you should try it. But prepare for it.
Jennifer Lynn It’s Okay to feel like that, I feel the same way and being female will be a blessing for us both, we just have to wait (ugh I know, waiting SUCKS! I’m so impatient sometimes, haha! ☺️).
Edit: I think “Jennifer” sounds too long, Jenny sounds prettier. 😊
I'm 12 rn and my dads homophobic, I feel the same way you felt 4 years ago. My family is fully accepting (except my dad) and would not give 2 shits if I told them I am trans. But it is so nervewrecking. And I accidentally came out to my mom over text, accidentally pressed send button.
Thanks! I really appreciated how clear you were to understand, and how clear it was to follow your instructions
I can’t wait to start my hormones and I needed to hear this!!! Thank u so much!!! Sooo detail and so much help! U are an angel! Stay blessed..!!
I love how calming her voice is
so happy that I found this video. It's definitely helped me to understand it abit better now. My mind is slowly coming to peace as I now know I don't have to be overwhelmed by gender dysphoria to be trans
ive been questioning if i was a woman for a while now. this helps, thank you.
Wow, I knew I had dysphoria but the 'imagine you could never change / imagine you had perfectly transitioned' exercise at the end was such a huge rollercoaster from despair to a warm comfortable place it really drove the point home to me. Even though it was clearly just a thought, it exacerbated and soothed things much greater than I had thought it might.
3:36 "And by the way, feeling better at the conceptual change, just imagining this change, does mean that you have dysphoria, it's just less obvious."
Oof. That kinda hit home right there.
Walking through these things really helped me to identity my dysphoria. I now see I have mild dysphoria and it makes me feel better knowing for sure that I am trans.
I have dysphoria but mainly about my face, body hair and being perceived as male by others.
FaerieKim uhmm that's litteraly dysphoria dear xD
Glad to hear I'm not the only one. I don't mind the rest of my body, which is actually very feminine, with typically female curves, although I don't miss having breasts. However, I have a very masculine face and everytime I look at the mirror, it repulses me (for lack of a better term). I'm not really ugly, I am a nice-looking male. However, I feel very ugly because my face is so masculine. And I'm loosing hair. It's the hair and face that causes me distress. I think all the time that if I had a more feminine face and hair, I would start HRT immediately. I'm just afraid I'll be a very ugly woman because for the time being, I have lots of bissexual guys interested in me. Being with bi men makes me somehow feel more like a woman, maybe because they feel attracted by women. When I'm in bed with them, I imagine I am a woman and have a vagina. When I masturbate, I always imagine I have a vagina. There's a complete dissociation between what happens physically and how I perceive the situation in my mind. I don't watch gay porn either (I thought it was normal but it's not) because it leaves me completely indifferent. On the other had, straight porn turns me on because I always imagine myself in the woman's place. I know this sounds stupid but it's a lot of little things (maybe not so little) that only now I've started to put together.
That's every version you can have I think.
I've got no idea if this is dysmorphia, but I dont like how my arms look and sure as hell despise my hair getting cut short. :/
Me to
This video was incredibly helpful!! Thank you so much!
Alexis has been so great with me. She has been my therapist for several months now. She helped me get on HRT and has given me so much support in my transition. Thanks to her, I am now living and presenting as a full time girl. I am on top of the world. I had no idea it would be this good. I love it. Ill never go back to being a boy. It is such an amazing feeling to have the world look at you and treat you like a girl. This was the hardest decision of my life, but also the best decision that I ever made. I finally feel like myself. At 48 years old, I am so happy, free, and peaceful. I'm living a dream. Thank you, Alexis !
Very good videos. You have a promising future and will be a great asset to the community. Thank you for these. I will be sharing these w people that do have these concerns. I would be proud to have you on my therapy team. Don't worry about the ones that give you negative feedback, we already know they have issues;)
I could not have made it without you. You are not making a mistake if you ask Alexis for help. Whatever you decide do not go it alone.
I kinda feel nostalgic when I found this video in my recommendation. I watched this video when I was younger when I was trying to figure myself out. Makes me really happy I figured it out and I hope other people feel the same
Malik M I'm getting the same feeling as you! I'm now more than a year past coming out to myself, it feels so long ago I was watching these videos, confused and scared. I am so much happier as a woman and I hope to be a gender therapist who specializes in helping trans youth come out to themselves and transition sooner. I regret waiting till I graduated high school, since I knew I wanted to wear women's clothes full-time by junior year, but didn't have the strength to realize I wasn't just a crossdresser, but a trans woman, and never got the high school experience as a girl... (but college is treating me well :) )
I would prefer a different gender, but I'm fine with what i have. It doesn't feel wrong, but it's not all that great either. Oh well, being a guy is alright.
Me too
Guitarmaster7272 ii
I'd love to have a woman's smoother prettier slower ageing skin, but I would not love to stop having a moustache, there is a sense of gardened meness in it. Contradictorily re down below, I would like to lose the willy's ugliness but would hate to lose the willy's physical + functional presence. Both body forms have their pros and cons.
Same here
Get E, grow tiddy, become andro
Literally answered my whole life questionings thank you soooo much
Thank you, so much, you cleared up a lot in my mind.
I have this disphoria but sometimes I feel okay like I am fine with it. I don't know what I want.I am confused.
Well dysphoria isn’t always a constant thing, most of the time it comes and goes depending on a variety of things. I’d comparing to having a wound, it hurts the more think about how it’s there. I remember when I was younger, I would wake up feeling little to no dysphoria, and then someone would refer to me a sir and it would all hit me like a convoy of trucks. I’m not trying tell you you’re trans, just something to consider when it comes to understanding your own identity.
Or maybe you're genderfluid? Because it's only sometimes?
Wow, I find myself smiling just hearing question number 2
this cleared it up I go through stages of liking one thing to liking the next and sometimes it's weird but I have always had dysphoria and this made it clear but still no courage to tell my parents
this video just pops up on my suggested videos again brought me back a lot of memories. The first time I watched it is sometimes around the end of 2017. I still remembered I was crying a lot during that time almost every night, usually after laying on the bed. The struggle was real and big and the feeling of killing myself was just so loud in my head. Sighs... not so long after watching this video, about a month later I bought my very first hormones on Amazon, which didn't really work but was helpful w my mental health....sighs hope everyone here will find themselves what they need..
When my lawsuit comes through I'm going to send you some your videos are the best I've seen true in every sense you are an awesome person
big ooof - thank you. I'm in tears, at 36, overcoming years of struggle and repression
Hi, I have watched parts 1 and 2 and I agree if I did not have gender dysphoria then I would not be viewing them.
You suggest trying out hormones for a month or two at the end of part 2, and I am very interested in that.
My fear has been of the blood clots that can happen. I saw a documentary about a transwomen in San Francisco - she suffered a pulmonary embolism and was rushed to the hospital. Thankfully she survived, but it was very scary to see that.
I still want to try hormones, but the risks do scare me.
Thank you for your excellent videos!
I dont see me in the mirror at all. Its very simple.. and another AWESOME video.. :) Youre right on..Totally
Yes , I'm a transexual woman in Canada ,I've fully transitioned many years ago , great Chan by the way 💖
Thank you so much for your videos!
28, never even suspected it consciously until a few days ago. Now watched this and am crying at pretty much every single thing she says.
Yes! I am/have been for a long time Transgender! Unfortunately I haven’t been able to start Transitioning yet 😭 this truly sucks. I’m so Not happy in my current situation/body/life 😢Prayers appreciated. Thanks! I hope someday I’ll be able to be my True Authentic Self as Milena!!!
Thanks for this video, it helps me gain some clarity. I'm much more open to the possibility. I didn't know you could have milder gender dysphoria and still be considered transgender. A big part of why I named my youtube channel and other personal online accounts this female name is because it puts me more at ease. It takes the edge off some of this discomfort and discontent with my current gender of being a man. Although I don't "Hate" my body, I feel it's simply just not for me! As such I do have a very difficult time looking at myself in the mirror, and I can't go on more than 15 consecutive minutes without fantasizing about being an attractive and tall woman. This has been happening more and more. My discontent is one reason why I've gotten interested in 3d modeling; I want to create a female alternative body that I can use in VR so I can express my desire to be a woman.
When I see transgender rights attacked, especially reading sicking comments from Authoritarians wanting to been transgender surgery, this discontent with being male dramatically increases. Because an attack on today's transsexual's morphological rights can be an attack on my future rights.
I'm much more open to the possibility that I am transgender, and after watching your second video I'm over 80% sure that I am transgender. I had no idea that you don't need to have extreme discomfort in order to have the condition considered gender dysphoria.
@blah Newman WHAT YOU SAY IS DISGUSTING. YOU'RE SPREADING IGNORANT LIES THAT HURTS INNOCENT PEOPLE AROUND YOU. SHAME ON YOU! PRAY FOR FORGIVENESS, FOR YOU ARE MORALLY ABHORRENT AND SPÏRITUALLY IMPURE
Yes I am! But haven’t been able to start transitioning yet due to my financial situation and lack of a good support group/system.
Yes, this video brought more clarity. Thank you Transchannel.
I so need to Transition someday, Lord willing?! This is killing me inside.
I mean you can never be too young or old to transition, I can link some stuff that might help if u want.
@@harrison553I would very much appreciate any and all help I can get! Thanks!
This was genuinely helpful:)
I had these feelings for a while and *luckily* my parents are great! I confessed and they support me and even accept my name change (Isaiah to Krista, ik normally it would be Isabel, but I have multiple fake personalities and I loved being Krista and responded to the name so I chose it instead) my friends also accept me, minus 1... still I was EXTREMELY lucky and I'm just so happy I was born into this family and chose the right friends.
Wow, this is hard hitting, everything she says in part 1and part 2 hits home and hits hard..... now I am scared and I don’t know what to do now, this has tuned me inside out
I just found out that I'm trans gender mtf and I'm currently on hormones and have blockers and I have not regretted this I keep to myself and it works so easily your videos have made me proud for who I am and make me feel happy
Hows the hormones coming along?
I have dysphoria with my face, hands and feet, and body hair
How are you feeling about it now?
Oof same
I clicked on this video, and immediately felt like this woman knows me on a personal level or sum.
Tbh being male sucks and I’m looking to transition through subliminals for the next few years, when I’m 16 and can move out and live by myself is when I’ll consider paying for surgery, it’s just too expensive and I don’t want to worry my family about that money, I can do it myself, but I also feel it would be too awkward, since I’ve denied being gay to my mum when she asked me. (I’m bisexual) and she know absolutely nothing about me wanting to transition.
I do have gender dysphoria, I know I do. I’ve taken tests and whatnot, and I’ve even imagined my female counterpart, and what I’d want to look like.
I have most of my future planned out.(besides a career obviously)
Idk if there’s anything wrong with me, I’m 12 and for a few years I’ve had thoughts about becoming trans. Is it weird for me to think this at such an early age?
Regardless, I’ve taken this video in, and it does help me understand my dysphoria better. 100%. Thank you for making this.
Even though it was 6 years ago...
I had no concept of the male gender till I was 12 when my family noticed that I only manifested female traits and used female words to describe myself. It was then that I was practically forced to identify as male. I accepted my fate to the degree that I was willing to acknowledge that I had male body parts but I couldn't understand (and still don't) why if I'm male that my male body parts is the only thing I had in common with other guys.
As I grew older I never butched it up other than fighting back when I was bullied in grade school. (By the way I lost every fight. I hated fighting.) But I never learned to be really feminine either. My refuge was always my imagination. In it I lived free to do all the things I saw girls my age doing but was always excluded from. But in real life food and sleep was my only comfort (they were and still remain my coping mechanisms) Now mostly only food since I'm over weight and have sleep apnea and even food I need to find a substitute because of my weight but I don't know what?
I entered into adulthood attracted to assertive females and married that type of woman as well. (I think my mom was gay but never came out the closet) I've always seen myself as the passive partner in the relationship and this has always caused me trouble because no straight woman regardless how assertive wants a delicate submisive man. The trouble is that not only was I passive and delicate but I didn't want to play the male role either. I didn't know that what I was was called transgender. All I knew was that I wanted to cook, clean, tend the house, be pregnant, breast feed my child and make my wife happy.
Yes I always saw myself married to a woman. Some of my main celebrity crushes were Ellen Degeneres, Grace Jones,K. D. Lang , Sinead O'Connor, Tracy Chapman. Do you notice a pattern? Regardless of this I settled into married life (more than once) and once again retreated into my fantasy world to live the life I felt I ought to. While in the real world I let the world see me as a less than masculine somewhat effeminate man. I was and still am often hit upon by gay men. I politely decline their advances, secretly wishing it was a gay woman that hit on me.
Just recently I pieced all this together and want to do something about it but lack the resources to do it let alone by myself because I know my wife will not be supportive. I know the path I must take but I fear it will take me the better part of five years and by then I feel I will just appear to be just another weird middle age man in his 50's trying to dress in drag. All I've ever wanted was to look in the mirror and see a female looking back and if I could experience that I think I would finally feel at ease.
I would even dream about my penis falling off, so I know that playing dress up is not enough. I want a smooth hairless female body complete with all the curves and none of the male appendages. I don't mind growing old as a woman, in fact I prefer it. I have no fetishes or illusions of looking like a a young woman. Those days are past but I want to pass as a female. I don't want to shave any facial hair other than pluck my eyebrows. I don't want a broad square masculine face or features. I don't want to be obese either. I don't care if my breast remain an A cup so long as I have a svelte lean figure.
I have an image of beautiful graceful older women that I would love to look like, Susan Sarandon, Wookie Mayer or Dianne Sawyer just to name a few. I can still live a productive accomplished life if I transition now but I fear my time is running out and I don't have the courage to strike out on my own and possibly hit rock bottom in order to be a strong independent woman. I've always leaned on the straight assertive women I've been with to define me since they saw me as the guy society expected me to be.
So how do I reach out from under that and be bold enough to trail blaze my own path? It's almost ridiculous to consider because at the end of this journey what I hope to end up as is a refined, healthy, professional, gay female in her late mid years when all I am now is a poorly educated, morbidly obese barely passably straight male which is a construct which I allowed my self to become when it was never my desire or intention.
After watching both videos - part 1 and part 2 I can honestly say I meet the criteria to a tee. I knew I would deep down and was almost too afraid to watch this video. It is both a blessing to finally be able to answer this question that has plagued me for years and at the same time a curse to know. I didn't ask for this. Why can't I just be normal? Is there a drug that can reverse it or take it away?
Going through part 1 and 2 everything made so much sense to me, Questions ticked all 7 made me look back through my life and it was all there I am transgender, so only question left when do I transition.. That might be the hardest thing to do in my life, but hey will be worth something to be true to self eh
I’m so glad I found this video
I see my body as disgusting every time I wake up and also when I see the mirror
I hate being perceived as the gender I was born with and I feel relief when I imagine being the opposite gender.
I'm getting the help I need. the disphoria is going away but lots of challenges still lye ahead emotionally & physically
I have been dealing with feeling of being transgendered for realy all my life. I know at 17 that is not a relatively long time, but for me it has felt like an eternity. I cannot go a day without feeling that my life would be so much better if I was a woman. This makes me mad because there are so many people with worse lives than me, so why am I wining about mine. I feel like when I realy had a chance to be myself I let it go. Now I worry if i'll ever be happy or if I will be able to build up the strength to stand up for myself. I just do not know yet.
+Zach Snugen
Someone having it worse off than you doesn't mean your feelings are invalid. You need to start treating yourself with more kindness and compassion.
I started transitioning around the age of 20, and i'm now 22, but i remember when i was 16 saying to myself 'it's too late for me to transition, i'm nearly
done with puberty anyway i should just accept that i'm a boy' and i can tell you now that i seriously regret that decision. i held it back for far longer than
i should have. It's never too late to transition, but it's far less hassle and much easier to do when you're young. I hope you find yourself in a place of accepting
yourself and i hope your parents are ok with it. The leap is scary but you have to take it at some point and the longer you wait the harder it gets.
peace.
I say if it makes you happy then do it. I support ya. You only get one life enjoy it right.
taken me 20 years to accept and embrace my fem side. my male side still causes discomfort, but I think I have adapted to when I present male. I identify as bigender although more comfortable as my fem self.
This video gave me the courage to start hrt 6 months ago. I waited until I was 33 to start. I tried living according to society and was very depressed for a very long time. Since hrt I haven't had many sad days
This is awesome! You give me hope 😩
@@zalamboi aw. I'm glad I can help another along their journey.
oh... oh gosh... these videos may have changed my life. thank you so much.
One of my best friends in the whole world when they were young dressed up and girls stuff played with girls toys and said they just knew that they were gay and the transgender part came in life later on in life I guess and I love her dearly she is Trent she transforms as a beautiful lady to me it is not up to me is up to the good Lord to judge and to tell another person what makes them happy that would be like them telling me hey look this is the way you're supposed to live in this is what's supposed to make you happy
I have bad dysphoria as a male. It's both physical and social. However I don't know that I'd be content transitioning I feel that the only way I could truly be eased of dysphoria is if I were a cis female. I don't feel comfortable with she pronouns because if I don't transition physically ill never be able to pass as female. And so I'm stuck with a masculine body that I don't feel right in and no way to ease my dysphoria. I Identify as a demiguy btw. This video did help me to identify my dysphoria and ensure that was what I was actually feeling so thank you.
A lot depends on where you were raised. I realized I was trans around the time I started High School, but because I grew up in an EXTREMELY conservative, small, rural, southern town, I was too terrified to say anything and had to repress my identity for years just as a survival mechanism.
These videos made me 100% certain that I'm a transwoman. Thank you!
Your very pretty and attractive lady
This has really really helped. Tysm!
Also uh, I cried when you started to tell us to imagine our body differently
I've always kinda wondered what it would be like to be a sexy gamer girl. I don't entirely know if I wanna be trans, cuz being the bullied kid all my life I feel like that would make it worse, and looking at pictures of people who are trans (male to female), they aren't attractive at all, also I normally pee sitting down cause it was a sort of Learning curve for me and it helped me when I was young to poop. I've always kinda had a feminine touch to me, I like cross dressing, wearing makeup, painting my nails, but I have no problem with this body I'm currently in.
I really appreciate my boyfriend. It was hard for me to tell him, but he was so much morr than supportive. He calls me his girly and really makes me feel like a girl, and I dont even have girl clothes, make up or hormones yet! My parents knew before I even knew what transgender was, because i loved girly stuff(which doesnt mean youre trans btw) but they saw how happy being girly made me. I know that I am extremely fortunate, and i can never take that for granted. I know many people struggle in those ways, i even have a friend that does. Stay strong everyone.
I have these feelings sometimes, but they come and go. I hold it at bay via writing and artwork. Living the fantasy that way I keep "Aya" contained and repressed.
I'm a questioning trans girl. I have only really started to wonder if I was trans for the past few months. I have and enjoy using makeup, which gives me a sense of pride. However, I often feel like I'm not feminine enough to be trans. 70% of my friends are guys, and I am attracted mainly to girls. I also never really wear feminine clothes. I don't know if this is because I'm scared how I'll be perceived, or if it's because I just enjoy those more. I also feel rushed in figuring out if I'm trans, so if I am, I can start puberty blockers before I have irreversible masculine features, like an Adam's apple. I would love any help or guidance anyone could give me....thanks
I totally understand! I’ve actually been questioning my identity for over a year now, and I know it can be a tough road to be on. One thing I would say, is that there is a huge difference between gender identity and gender expression. How you perceive yourself, and how you want others to perceive you is related to gender identity. And the way you express the gender you feel can vary, just like there are nonconforming cis people, there are also nonconforming trans people! There is no right way to expressing your gender, just be you! It might help to experiment with clothing, pronouns, and maybe discussing these feelings with someone you trust, or seek help on finding the right way for you. Just be patient and know that it’s totally normal to question, take small steps and most importantly love yourself for where you are! Do what feels right in the moment, and it’s ok if it changes overtime. However you come to terms with identifying just know that it’s ok to be you! I currently identify as nonbinary when my assigned gender didn’t seem to fit as much before, I’m still figuring it out but everything will work out. I hope this helped! ✌🏼
I have been confused as to whether or not I really am transgender or not for a long time. I have been unhappy with my physical appearance for a while and constantly shave my body to keep both body and facial down as best I can. I feel like I act more feminine that a guy (especially in my area) ought to, and when I used to play pretend I would often be female ppl and I did use to play with girl toys once. I think I even owned a dress long ago.
Overall though I am very confused about my life and whether or not I am transgender as a whole. I don't really know if I would be happy in the opposite sex, but I hope this video will at least educate me and answer some of my questions.
Coby Dupre honestly same, I was assigned female at birth and lately it just hasn’t been fitting right :/ I’m debating on whether I’m trans or not, and it’s hard because I don’t remember having any major signs as a child. Some people figure it out later in life, and who knows I could be a late bloomer lol. I’m right along with you!
Yes to the first question.
The second, I don't think relief is the right word, but something close.
The reality us you can't change it although if you're fortunate enough, you can at least pass for it.
So live with it or don't, is my conclusion.
I'm sure people managed before.
Thank you for the help!
I really do enjoy imagining myself as a woman. I used to believe that this was just a nightmare and it would end and I'd wake up in my bed as a woman and think to myself what a weird dream that was... I kind of knew it was silly but I still was a bit hopeful that it was true. My own dysphoria has moments of overpowering and some where I barely feel it at all but it's always there. I have little support or hope of a transition but this is a battle of inches (at least to me) and every day I feel closer.
I hope someday I’ll be fully Happy/my True Authentic Self as a Transgender Lesbian Christian Woman! And I would love to be as Beautiful as you! God Bless! Love these helpful videos!
I watched both this one and the one for trans men and when I answered the questions for myself I felt my answers applied to both
are you genderfluid?
Rancid Riki I feel like a gender refugee.
i'm asking if you feel dysphoric towards female features and later dysphoric towards male features. genderfluid means like fluctuating gender identity or dysphoria, like once you feel male, then female then in between
I am a transgender , I feel that your statement about a transgender was for me . Your every word was for me I feel that my dear
Physically I am more masculine than feminine. Mentally I am more feminine than masculine - and I loathe the mismatch. It doesn't case me mental pain but when I deep imagine myself as a female, when I act out the female role, when I allow the female me to be dominant in my presentation, then I feel so much happier life has more meaning and my outlook is much brighter.
I stumbled upon your blog after posting a comment on UA-cam. That I cross dress because I'm a transgender woman.
I've known that I am trans since I was 3, although I didn't know what it was called, I just knew that I should have been born a girl.
Hello,I have just finished watching all the videos that you have posted to date.In the one,(Are you a cross dresser or are you trans), you stated that a trans person feels that they have a desire to dress to a point that they can no longer dress as male and go around in the gender that eases their disphoria.My question is,what happens when you are married and never told your spouse prior to your starting to transition,as I myself has,and am trying to keep everybody happy.I am finding it extremely difficult.I do have a support structure in place,Pyscologist,endo and trans councillors,plus a place to go out to when I need to.I have always felt different,supressed it and 3 years ago broke out and fell into a big heap and sort help.I have been on my meds for 2yrs now,love my boobs,love my smooth skin,paint my hands clear and my toes coloured,epilate my legs,I don't need to do my arms as they have slowed down,growth wise.My wife hates living with a trans husband,but due to financial constrants we live together.To make life bearable I live in male mode at home,from time to time go out dressed.Sure I get depressed but as it wasn't her fault I feel responsible to live whilst were under the same roof to present as male.I just live and take my meds each day.
Regards Emily
I think what would be beneficial in this situation, which is the case for many people, is that both parties receive some support. There are many people who repress their gender identity and then end up marrying someone, only to come out later. While it is not her fault that you are transgender and she did not ask for this, neither did you. I would suggest that you send your spouse to this website for some support: www.reddit.com/r/mypartneristrans. And then you would benefit from being in a support group. Because neither of you can change that you are trans, the 1 thing that would help is support for the both of you. The same way you feel better having people in your life who understand--she would also feel better having that companionship and understanding as well. I hope this helps. Please share my channel with anyone who comes out as trans. I hope to add some additional videos later.
thank you.
This does help. Thank you
Very informative it comfirms all lot about myself
Huh I guess I am trans after all. It's really sad tho knowing I''ll have to go through this discomfort until I go to a more trans accepting country.
Tell me when you found it and I follow. In my opinion there is no country where society truly accepts us, where you can live open 24/7/365 without fear.
I straight up got goosebumps watching this idk why
It makes me happy that there are people that actually care about what happens to transgender people like myself. There were no resources of any kind when I was growing up, as this has made me sad and suicidal for many years it brings much joy that there is help available now. I have hated my body and everything that came attached with it since the age of 5 when things started becoming more clear and apparent that I was supposed to have been born with a different body at birth. When the time came for my body to go through puberty things went south really really quickly. I have been mis gendered, discriminated against, mentally and physically abused way to long. There has been a stranger looking back at me in the mirror for way to long, when will the time come to see the real me. The good news is that I have finally been approved for HRT.
Does vaping low nicitine such as 3mg affect my development any if I'm on Estrogen injections?? Or does nicotine affect medroxyprogesterone development? I only see blood clot medical literature not anything on affecting these too medicine..
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Well I would say I have dysphoria, but I wouldn’t say it is physically painful or uncomfortable, it mainly manifest itself in revulsion towards my body shape, my body hair, my height, etc. Mostly I keep my body covered if it isn’t shaven. I am blind, and I always say to people that The only blessing attached to my blindness is that I don’t have to look at my body in the mirror lol. I know, it all sounds so cliche doesn’t it? I’m planning to start my transition this year, at least I plan to apply for the counselling, but with the free healthcare in the UK, it’ll take years. But, I hope what I’m feeling actually counts as dysphoria. I can’t imagine living another 10 years like this, and I’d hate to be told by the doctor that my dysphoria isn’t severe enough, and that it will pass with time. I’m 19 now, and have been feeling this way continuously since I was 14, even through my phase of identifying as gender queer, and being neutral. Not to mention all the other times before that age when I seriously doubted my gender. I remember the first time I asked my parents for surgery was at the age of seven, on finding out that such a thing existed from my aunt. The answer was no.
I’m 20 years old and only my Dad and those who are LGBTQ and I’m close to know that I’m going through gender identity problems. One day I would feel like I’m suppose to be a woman while on others I go back to being the gender I was born as. It’s happened so much that I have considered myself to be bigender and I don’t know which I’m more of. I hate facial and body hair, I don’t like having a penis a whole lot, and I try to make my voice sound higher, however I found more of an interest in things that I expect boys to like more than girls like sports, along with being attracted to women and not men (I know that sexuality doesn’t deal with one person’s gender) It has been a problem for me that this issue among other things made me almost attempt suicide in 2018. This has helped me out a little bit though I’m still trying to figure out. At least I’ve talked to some people about this.
I find that when I dressed it would help my dysphoria. But when I went back to drub my dysphoria was horrible. I couldn't function normally I was so depressed I had to stop dressing until I can transition
Its been 3 years since your post. How you been?
I've honestly never been too uncomfortable with my body, to be fair though, I've always been skinny and wimpy
The more i educate myself the more im sure about labeling myself bigender recently. I get some dysphoria from the idea of looking strictly male. Yet it does not bother me in the slightest that others perceive me as male.
youre totally gorgeous!!
Alexis is still active, if you want to book a session, you can email Staff@thetransitionchannel.org
I would one day like to be accepted in public as a female rather than a male. I would also one day like to accept my self as a female rather than a male. I think that your videos have pointed me in the right direction and I just want to say that you have changed my life completely and that I cant thank you enough.
Well my maleness took another beating this week. Someone thought I need to wear daisy dukes. One of these days I'm pull off a shocker
It's a long comment, but I really need help in understanding some stuff...
I am sorta confused between what gender identity actually is, what does it actually mean to be feminine or masculine, and gender expression.
Please correct me if I am wrong, but this is how I currently understand things...
When you are born, you either have a penis or a vagina (NOTE: I am not considering intersex for simplicity...)
And based on that you are addressed as a boy or a girl respectively.
Now over years of human civilisation, we have culturally assigned roles to the two visible categories:
->Man - hunter, protector
->Woman - gatherer, mother
And again over years, this categorisation has further assigned expectations of how a man and a woman are supposed to behave:
->Man - strong, confident, aggressive - masculine
->Woman - reserved, graceful, soft - feminine
But then there are people who are born with a penis but possess characteristics that are traditionally feminine, thus being able associate themselves better with the idea of femininity that society has constructed - being mentally a female. Now being mentally a female, they would like to socialise more with other females, or indulge feminine activities, but being physically male, they are not exactly accepted, and are punished so that they would conform to being male. The only way they see they would be accepted for who they really are is if they physically too become a female. So they would now detest features that make them identify as a male - broad shoulders, defined muscles, facial hair, penis... and want feminine features. Having male features distances them from femininity, hence dysphoria.
The above discussed was the idea I have about gender identity.
And now gender expression... it's how a person present oneself to the world - how they dress up, how they walk and how they interact...? Acc. to a video online discussing gender expression, it was said that a man can be a man and wish to wear a skirt and put on make up. (!?) But isn't society restricting them to be how they want to be why they wanted to become physically female too? So basically gender expression being a consequence of gender identity...?
I know I am wrong, but I am unable to wrap around the difference between gender identity and expression.
Gender identity is how you feel inside. Gender expression is how you express your gender outwards.
Identity is FEELING like you are the opposite sex you were born as. I'm pretty sure expression is just wearing whatever the f**k you want.
k well now im more knowledged an less conflicted thank you
thank you for this....
Thank you!
i have been transgender most of my life everything about my body feels very wrong to me relationships with a woman as a man feels just wrong including sex i dont want to be male and i cant live that way i cover up my idenity and i keep to my self i took the gender test and scored 83 % female so i'm living a form of hell
Just a Trash Player you are NOT a statistic nor will you ever be. You are an amazing person. Life can and will get better if you want it to. If no one ever says it to you I will now. You are important! And you deserve to be happy.
It's not the only way out. Another way out is to accept how you feel and explore these feelings healthily, with open arms and no guilt. You are who you are. I'm 23 too and this all just recently clicked for me. It's scary, and I feel uncomfortable with myself. I know what you're feeling. Don't let it get you down. Get help, especially if you've started considering the easy way out, and remember that you have the right to your identity.
@@BORISTIMUS I know it's been a long time since you posted your comment. I hope you are alive and ok. Suicide is not worth it I'm sure that with how long it's been you've probably already decided wether or not you were going to do it but I sincerely hope that you made the right decision and did not take your life. You are important. You deserve to live and be happy. Suicide isn't always a true solution and even if it was it's never the right solution. You aren't alone there are other people who feel the exact same way as you. I know this comment isn't useful because it's been 2 years but I sincerely hope that you are alive and well and I want you to know that you are important and there are people out there who understand how you feel are willing to help you if you will let them in.