This HIT me so HARD as a PARENT - Therapist REACTS to Ren Dominoes.
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- Опубліковано 27 тра 2024
- This is my reaction to Ren Dominoes. This hit me really hard as a parent!
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🙎🏻♂️ WHO AM I?
I am a BABCP accredited cognitive and behavioural psychotherapist living in the south of England. I specialise in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and predominantly work with people who have experienced trauma to help them move forward with their lives. Its a job I absolutely love and connects with my own values and purpose.
Thank you for reacting to Ren with such sensitivity.
Thanks Patrick
This one makes me bawl every time. I have lost several friends to anorexia, the first when I was only 13, and we didn’t even have a name for the terrible disease. Just a few years ago, another friend died when her heart gave out, as she was waiting for a spot in a treatment center to open. And after that, her mom was so overcome by the trauma and grief of not being able to save her daughter (as well as suffering the effects of long term Lyme’s disease) she took her own life. So it hits the hardest of all Ren’s songs for me. I have been, and seen the dominos. Thank you for not being afraid to show your own reaction. Thank you for getting this so important song out there. ❤️😭
Sorry to hear about your experience but thank you for sharing.
Its so important that we have independent artists putting real life music and words of this caliber out into the world
All the music produced and funded by corporate interests are never going to care about people this way.
Well done to Ren and others for doing it so eloquently independantly
✌🏼🐷
I truly believe that THIS is one of his MOST important songs.
The WHOLE WORLD needs to hear it.
I took a deep breath for you before the start.
Edit.
I think that his words hit so HARD, because they are SO true AND real.
Thanks Dawn, yes this song is still so (and maybe more so) relevant today
You became even more real today with this reaction. By the end you weren't a therapist anymore but a father. You became one of us! Thank you.
I was constantly bullied throughout my life and always HATED with a passion the phrase ‘ Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me’. One of the greatest lies ever told to a child. Every single time devastated me and I still bear the scars on my soul from each verbal attack made on me. My son used to get called ‘GAY’ all the time at school as an insult. I told him to use the reply, ‘Well, at least I’m not a bigot.’ I actually got called into his school because they felt that his reply was inappropriate. As you can imagine, that meeting did not go well for the school at all. People can be so cruel and heartless. To be frank, it doesn’t get much better as you get older, it just seems to get nastier.
you have such a huge heart for the hurting people of the world. the mental heath field is blessed to have a man like you to help the suffering people of the world.
Thanks for taking the time to leave a comment Vmcf.
This has always been one of my favourite songs of Rens. As his dad and as a psychotherapist working with young self harming girls I was so moved that he was able to challenge the root causes in this way. Also that as a non psychotherapist he had such insight into this deeply moving and concerning part of our consumerism culture. Great reaction. ❤
I was hoping you’d see this reaction Martin… I did wonder whether this was one of your favourites from your son given your background. He’s truly a once in a generation (lifetime even) talent for storytelling and being able to do it in a way that is so relatable to those who listen to him. I know you’re proud of him regardless, but please know how much he’s loved by so many. His recent success is so deserved and his determination to keep going to achieve it through everything is inspirational. ❤
@@markafcb 😊
@@markafcb I should add that not all self-harm or eating problems are due to our culture. Sometimes it's a communication of something going wrong within a family or school system or other more complex family dynamics.
Children are the worst for hurtful comments only because they don’t understand what affect it has. But just as YOUR story points out adults are just as good with hurtful comments. Better to say nothing at all
I agree
I was bullied for being adopted. I was bullied for being tall. I was bullied for being skinny. But - I had respite when I went home. I don't know how kids today manage because they don't have the respite when they get home, the bullying follows them. And it's alright to say "well, just don't go online. Just turn the phone off" but it's really really not that easy, because you get sort of addicted to needing to know what someone is saying about you. It's a vicious and highly destructive cycle. I was very close to not making it, just from the bullying I endured (and also trying to come to terms with my sexuality, which at that point was not long after a massive media shit storm because EastEnders had a scene where two men kissed. The late 90s didn't exactly feel welcoming to gay people). Thank you for sharing with us ❤. PS - I know smoking is bad.... But, anxiety. 😉
Sorry you had to go through that. Thanks for sharing. Take care
This is a beautiful song, and such a necessary one. We love Ren for his artistry but also for his vulnerability. This quality does not go unappreciated - Thank you!
Thank you for your service! Your daughter will do well having a father like you to support her, and I am sure her mum too. The best way to defeat a bully is to not give them the reaction they're looking for, so kudo's to you for not messing with your perfectly normal teeth. You have a very genuine smile, and it's lovely to see it in video's that you post. Great reaction video to a very important song that touches on very difficult topics.
You are a beautiful soul man... you are your OWN biggest critic I can tell.
Yeah, I reckon you are right ! (in that I am my biggest critic). Thanks for watching and taking the time to comment
this one gets me too. I have a 9 year old daughter that is wanting cosmetics...she wants to do it for fun, but its only a matter of time around that 13 year old age where she is going to want to feel beautiful and accepted with whoever her friends are at the time.
Ren has done a video for reaching one million followers on you tube. It’s not a long video but truly shows his character. I think if you do a reaction on this it would be good to hear.
Ill check it out thanks
Agreed, I’d love to see more people react to that message. Whilst most chose to celebrate themselves, Ren acknowledged the milestone as only he could!
Thanks you for doing this one. I love this song and wish it got air time on the radios as a way yo stick to these companies that push this image.
Its such an important and relevant and impactful song
But who PAYS for the air-time ads? The companies that we support without getting real value in return... except for eventual wake-up calls, like from Ren and this reactor and each other.
@@TheEverydayPoet I was going to comment something similar. It's money that pushes this, not individuals. In the end it always comes down to what makes the most profit. It's unfortunate but in a sick way I do understand it.
I really understand your reaction to this song, I was bullied severely as a kid because I'm missing three fingers on my left hand and people in my class would say when I touch them they would get the same thing so people ran away from me for 10 years of my life. But yeah, I think the best thing you can do for your daughters is to be a strong safety net for them to fall back on. My parents always had better things to do and my older brother was my biggest bully so I never had anyone I could truly feel safe with when life got me down. But I feel like if I had had that one person things wouldn't have gotten as bad as they were at some point for me
This song is so impactful and true. Thank you for your open and honest reaction ❤❤❤
Thanks DogDocKat, must admit I was hesitant about uploading this one - but you are right, reactions should be open and honest
So much emotion to this, brings out embarrassment anger and fear, not much we can do as adults when children are being like this to each other, all over looks and what’s todays norm, and what’s considered strange or different, nobody is the same, be you and carry on 🤍
As someone who was made fun of for my looks pretty much all my life, this song hits hard! Your girls are lucky to have such a supportive force in their life. My mother said things like "You're not leaving this house without putting make up on" and when I told her I had lost 40 pounds she said "When? You still look like you're pregnant with twins". I can remember even back in elementary a girl telling my best friend at the time that I wasn't very pretty so she should play with her instead. I'm so glad Ren makes music like this and that people like you make honest reactions to it!
This breaks my heart. My teasing was from being dirt poor and being very skinny and long stringy hair that never had a decent haircut. Also moving every few yrs(because another lost job and skipping out on the rent) to keep getting made fun of by another new set of people. My clothes were hand me downs and had weird patches on them from wear spots. Flat chested as well. Butt of all jokes and the clicky groups that had contests who could cut me down or try to trip me. I hated school and skipped as much as possible to get away.
Similar things happened to me at school too, so I empathise. Girls can be so cruel sometimes, especially whilst at school. It’s sad that we all carry these memories around with us into adult life isn’t it?!
Ren has some insane lyrics
He does doesn't he. Straight to the heart of the matter, no reading between the lines needed.
Such an important message by Ren. This hits me in the gut every time I hear it. I've been through this when growing up, way back before the tv ads, magazines or even the internet, I had no internet in my youth. I have an adult daughter and son, in their 40's now. I am remembering their young years growing up and the things they had to go through with school and bullies and neighborhood kids. It's just such an awful time, and advertising just seemed to push them over the edge many times. I could go on with the awful stuff but I won't, most people understand it already.
Rens lyrics on this song are so meaningful, geez is a genius .
Your girls are very lucky to have a parent who actually gets it. Has the knowledge to educate and support them as they navigate and hopefully learn to evolve through the pain and grief that accompanies us through this gift of life😊💜
I feel you man. I got verbally and physically bullied throughout my school career quite a bit for how I look. Having big ears, having a big forehead. Being as thin as sticks. Those scars stay with you for life.
I dont get it though, been really skinny since all my teens.
People never said bad stuff to me, it really comes down how you act and talk, not how you look.
@@makandalp I don't know man. I have never been rude or ugly towards other people. Always behaved well and kept to myself. Maybe it depends on where you are from, because kids in schools here pick on others for things like that.
I ❤️ REN. So real. And that fact is sad. We are all beautiful. Ugly comes from inside, so does beauty.
So true
With you all the way bro,kids can be the cruelest little gits alive at times with little or no thought to what they are doing, stay strong mate for your girls.
Thanks Billy
It's amazing how even off -hand comments can stick with us for life.
Exactly, you can never unknow or unhear something. That teeth comment will always stick with me now when thinking about UA-cam. It doesn’t bother me but it will forever be in my head.
Awesome reaction, no one writes stuff like this anymore.
Yeah I thought about that after, that there isn't really another song I have come across that makes it so clear what is going on.
❤ #Ren
This song is so real. My daughter is 13 but from 11 year's old she stopped eating and self harming, I found a notebook full of self hatered towards herself, weight and looks all because of peers and social media 😢 she is tiny, super slim & beautiful. Thankfully better now but self conscious like most teens ❤
Ren... no one makes me cry like Ren yet if always leave me feeling better. I don't know how he does it but I'm so glad he does.
This song makes me cry too 😥
I was bullied at school, I suffered from severe eating disorders for years and to this day I cannot accept myself as I am. I am now 45 years old.
Thank you for your wonderful reaction to this song. And thank you for thinking of your two girls, I would have wished that someone would help me through this hard time instead of judging me.
The “insecuriteeth” line hit home for me too. And the person who made the mean comment to you is obviously a damaged human, and one can only pray for them. Keep smiling you beautiful human!
Thanks Laura, thats the conclusion I came to too (regarding that person) after I was seconds away from commenting something i would have regretted to them!
This is such a heart breaking track and reaction.
I cry every time I hear it. My own daughter had eating disorder, used to pull her hair out and self harm. It was a very difficult time. 😘😘😘😘
Thank you for reacting to this one, and helping people see that it is normal to be thrown by the judgements of others, but that we often have to find a way to accept who and how we are without capitulating to the demands of strangers or societal pressures. It's not easy, but it's so important.
I love that Ren uses his voice to say things that are important to him. Music has lost a lot of that, in the mainstream at least. It's incredible to have so many discussions prompted by songs again.
Thank you ❤ for your Ren - Dominoes reaction!
I have got a daughter, too, who luckily enough got interested in Karate at a very early age. I wish it was my influence, but she got there by herself. She trained in 2 different clubs, and achieved mastery before the age of 12 already. But the most important thing she learned, was that everyone could be alright, whatever their background, and to look for inner values and personal stance; both in herself, and in others. She quit Karate when her two best friends in the clubs left town, years ago. But she has kept her stance and look for what's behind the facades. No one ever bullies her, she looks straight through other people's insecurities and has no beef with anyone, ever. She likes all the girly and womanly things, but sees them at a game you are free to play but need not care for wins and losses. I think, it was a great education through learning self-defense.
I was crying for you Stuart, as soon as I saw the song I knew your beautiful soul was going to cry ouch! Bless you ❤
Oh god, REN is a golden soul, someone like him comes once in a generation. He is so right in what he says. Love you man ❤
I’m so glad there’s a young guy singing about this stuff.I’m 60 & it was hard being young but the rise of social media were its all about how you look & what you have makes it even harder for kids today especially when you can get hundreds of comments from strangers who don’t give a second thought to how much their words hurt you.
Wil Wheaton once said something like "If you think being a parent is easy you're not doing it right" I wish that piece of advice had been around for parent me 30 years ago! Once again thank you for your insight and empathy.
As a loving father, I understand your emotions. I was brought up in children's homes for the first 16 years of my life. I am now hitting 60 and I still suffer with depression that I was first diagnosed with at the age of 5. I was ridiculed for having second hand clothes, no family and a children's home kid. Many children were not allowed to play with me and I suffered very dark times. Nowadays, I see my beautiful children, and now my grandchildren, and I love watching them grow into amazing, kind people. This is an amazing song by Ren, and as a parent, you just hope that your children don't get hurt, but social media, magazines etc are so cruel, and something very hard to steer our children away from. Thank you for your sincere reaction
I break down every time I hear this song. I was bullied growing up in school. I had 4 main things going against me:
1. I was always taller than everyone in my grade
2. I was pigeon toed and kids thought I walked funny (I chose to have surgery to correct this when I was 8 or 9 and yes, my parents and doctor left the decision up to me)
3. I had a speech impediment which occasionally plagues me to this day especially when I talk too fast.
4. I'm socially awkward
The bullying still affects me to this day, and I should probably seek therapy, but I remember how people in therapy were viewed when I was growing up, and remember how my dad viewed therapists so the idea of seeing a therapist kinda frightens me.
beautifully vulnerable reaction. My thoughts on this one are so numerous, but I will say only that I pray we learn to let the growing generation know, deep down, that they are loved, and they are valued - and that this knowledge will help them to shake off any superficial judgements that come their way.
Thanks and agree Tommie
Having children is an double edged sword that magnifies both your joys and fears. So hard to raise them in independence when all you want to do is solve every problem for them. I have a vivacious, intelligent 12yo who can’t find even a solitary friend and spends her days at school desperately lonely and knowing you can’t remove that burden from them tears you apart too. Dominoes, like many of his tracks, distills many of life’s complexities into a few minutes of melody. Another anthem for the sensitive soul. Thanks for being you.
Hey therapist reacts, I absolutely love your videos so much. I can’t help but get goosebumps to almost every song you react to. I was wondering if youd be willing to react to “lucky” by Dremmz. He’s my friend who makes music and I’d love to hear your take on the emotions he went through with the song.
Ill check it out, ive added it to my list. Thanks for sharing and for commenting.
@@TherapistReactsOfficial you’re genuinely amazing! I’m glad you even replied
I am obsessed with REN’s art. I also love watching reaction channels. I truly enjoyed your reaction to Domino’s. Nice job, brother!
I had bulimia for most of my life. Started when i was 13 yrs old. None of those behaviors for 10 yrs but recently its starting to creep back into my life. But now im the opposite im not eating very much. This song really hits home for me. This is exactly how i have felt since a teen.
Sorry that this song hit you like that. Other reactors with children have said much the same. Great to see you do another Ren reaction. You've probably got a long list of recommendations, but in case you want to do something from Ren with social commentary, and not directly mental health related, I think you'd appreciate "Money Game Pt1." Thank for this one.
Yep, I'm going to take a look a some Ren stuff again before the new album releases next month so will check out money game. Thanks for your comments.
I know of several parents who have used this song as a starting point to open up discussion with their children. Sometimes, hearing it from a hip, current artist can catch a youngster's attention and Ren is helping with this.
This always makes me want to cry, especially thinking of the bullying my 12yr old son will probably experience because of his weight. He is extremely sensative and just the thought of his little heart being stomped on is enough to bring tears to my eyes... I think that is the hardest part about raising a child - you can't protect them from the rest of the world forever.
So much sensitivity, a magnificent reaction
Some of his best work. every young kid should hear this killer
In the superficial world of social media and it’s very temporal concerns, peer pressure has been taken to a whole new level.
“I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and
you’re not in this world to live up to mine.” - Bruce Lee
Nuff said. ❤
You are such a sensitive soul. You must be a wonderful therapist and I know you’re a wonderful father to your girls. Life is hard, it just is.
What a fantastic reaction. This got me exactly the same way.
This one hits me hard too. I was bullied as a kid for my weight. I began dieting and developed an eating disorder (ED) and depression. Was sexually molested by a family friend and I didn't feel safe telling my parents. (He was their friend) It all made me su-c--al and had to take drugs to keep me from offing myself. Put myself into inpatient ED treatment in the 80's. I wasn't ready so it didn't sink in. I'm 60 now and STILL have an ED which I've only recently begun to tackle with ED groups and working through my CPTSD. The Diet community and all the magazines are literally killers! I appreciate your empathetic heart and bravery for showing your true reactions. Thank you for this.
Keep up your good work
Thanks coindude
Just remember to show her this song when she begins to be bullied.
As a father to 11yo twin girls I feel your anguish of what might happen. I am using Ren's music to open real discussions about eating disorders, coercive control ect ect. He is so real and prompts vulnerability, and that vulnerability is what can make a huge difference to people. Great reaction, just found your channel but will check it all out.
When you talked about your kids it made me tear up, thinking about how, as a young person, in my future my kids will have to go through the same things that I have. It's so hard because they may not have the strength to go through it. I wish the best for you and your family and more importantly: I wish the best for this wonderful world that we live in, that has been poisoned by greed.
I enjoyed your reaction. This was my first time hearing this song. It warmed my heart to see your emotion about your daughters. They are gonna be just fine because u have their backs. You have a wonderful aura 💕
I love your reactions to Ren! ❤
This is one of my favorites by him and one of his most important messages in my opinion. ❤
Thanks for reacting to this one. Good thing you know Ren enough to"buckled up"! I tear up each time i listen to this one.
REN is special!
"a sense of self love" ❤❤❤
This was a beautiful reaction to a very important song. Thank you for sharing with us!
Thanks Lonnie
Wow Stu, amazing track from Ren, absolutely on point lyrics of modern life! Your reaction though was beautifully powerful! The humanity and empathy for others shows❤ love it mate!
Thanks for the kind words Paul.
Great reaction, it’s difficult, Ren wants us all to be the change, much love and respect, keep up your good work 🙏🐊❤️🦉👍
Thanks Mrsainsburys
Thank you for the giggle. It made me laugh when you said that the last 10 seconds might be recovery time ❤
Ren speaks the truth I have put on weight since I went through the menopause I feel ashamed how does that work😢
There are so many factors and, I believe, so little fault on the part of people who experience this. For one thing, food nowadays is designed to be almost addictive, not nourishing. Keep loving and honoring yourself. Even if your measurements don't change, your happiness level will. Partly, I'm speaking for and to myself.
You reacting to the thought of your daughter coming home crying because of bullies brought tears to my eyes. You're such a genuine and amazing father.
thanks so much for another great reaction.. This one sure hits hard- especially for a parent of young girls. All Rens songs hit hard if they touch on something in your life because he always keeps it real and thus it impacts us with the weight of truth.
Thank you Ren and the thank YOU sir for this reaction.
Ren always hits the nail on the head. People are much more vicious than they use to be, but bullying is not new, You have to toughen up, the world is not going to be any easier.
Even expecting Ren hitting you the way he does so well, it still hits just as hard. There’s no shielding when Ren spits truths. Such a brilliant artist doing important things with his art.
This song gave me chills
Might sound weird as hell, but watching your videos like this one really makes me wish I'd had a dad like you growing up. You know, a male figure in my life that cared and worried about their child as a person, who got emotional at the idea of their child feeling self-hate or crushing shame. You're a great example of what a positive role model is.
Just a little tidbit that's cool: of you go back and relisten to For Joe by Ren there's a little call back to Dominoes in the middle of the song with the same theme.
Be glad that she comes to you with her hurt so that you can give her that love and reassurance that she will need.
I hid my abuse...
7 year old little girl and I was trying to protect my parents from the ugliness that I was suffering.
So I missed out on the guidance. Also on the help I needed to get away from my abusers.
Took 6 years. I'm 50 now and obviously better. But there are real scars that ppl don't understand. Not just the physical scars, that's just skin deep. Certain words or volumes or just tone of voice still make me flinch.
When you teared up talking about your daughter needing you, I knew you were a good one. You care and I know you'll handle all of this with grace.
Bless you and thank you.
I remember this one time on the bus on the way home I got judged for sitting alone every ride. One of my friends got on and I asked if they could sit next to me. They kindly declined and didn't think much of it until I heard someone say, "You don't have any friends." Or something along those lines. I've never cried in public a single time before this besides when I was physically hurt but for some reason this hit me like a truck. I cried until I got home, face down on my lap seperated by my bookbag. I got home and my dad noticed my eyes were watery. I don't remember what I said but it definitely wasn't the truth. This was in 7th grade btw.
Most of us get bullied in school... I was a poor kid which makes you an easy target in a school full of affluent families (catholic school). My solution was to get what today I call "pathologically independent", but back then I thought of as a thick skin. It's had good effects on me (strong willed, independent, driven to succeed) that have helped me... but with exactly the sort of relationship problems you'd expect. With our kids what we tried to do is surround them with people that love them and accept them for who they are... and while they faced bullying for sure they also both have come through it being true to themselves. We all have scars and parents can't protect their kids from them, but as a parent I guess I just hoped we could help them heal a bit faster.
Thanks for this reaction. As a father of two, one 13 yo with autism, and a 10 yo girl, I've already seen some of these issues and it's hard to deal with. I had some mild bullying in high school and it was horrible. Now with social media it's so much harder i think. They can't escape to their home as easily. I don't know, just a thought
This is a must listen for any parent with young girls, but honestly, it’s great for anyone. We have to stop feeding the bullshit down each other’s throats. We are all beautiful and special. We are all one people, and we have to co-exist together on this planet. Take care of yourself and those around you. Teach love, preach love, and always show love.
You had me in tears, mate. Fully agree with you. Top reaction.
So true! So hard to teach your children to love themselves when everything is going against you, especially now, with social media. Great reaction! Ren is a genius💕btw, your teeth are absolutely fine😊
This song hits hard and is so relevant for what is happening in today’s society.
Having ptsd triggers associated with bullying is extremely hard for me as a parent. My oldest daughter is picked on for her intelligence and I have such a hard time with that. I go through therapy for my issues but it's hard in the moment to give her good advice on how to deal with it.
To be honest I could really use some pointers on how to help her because my way of dealing with it is self destructive.
Lovely reaction, got me welling up too, I think this should be shown in schools
This one always gets me. As a father to a teenage girl it connects on so many levels with me ❤
Glad I looked this up. Quite a short reaction compared to your Money Game ones but it said everything it needed to, same as this song. Just a couple lines by Ren but they really bring out the onions.
This was a beautiful reaction
you have earnt yourself a sub, i love the way you talk about mental health. keep it up. you have helped me a lot
Thanks Kurt
Ren❤❤❤❤
Lovely reaction, I felt exactly the same as you did as I have 2 young daughters myself. It's our job as parents to try and give them the correct mindset to deal with the snide comments in a way that won't stay with them like you say, but....there is only so much we can do.
Beatifully authentic reaction man !
I love this thank you for allowing yourself to be vulnerable
I really enjoy your reactions for all the right reasons. I have two daughters and it can be tough, and for sure only helped by the love given at home.
I like reactors who pause the tune to ask questions that would be answered in the next few lines of the tune... Oh, and don't worry, mate, you look fine!
Real ist rare. Thank you from Germany.
Beautifully said.