I've seen others, like ENFPs, who wonder where the INFJs are. It would be great to give them a place where the INFJs are. It would be a horrible business proposition. They are too rare. It would be better if an existing app had the ability to filter by MBTI. That has more chance of being successful.
Master's CS student and INFJ here. If you can come up with a way to determine who is an INFJ and protect the community from narcissists, I'll try to make it happen!
I experienced this, as well as people not understanding my ideas fully and letting them go by the wayside so I check out mentally cause I feel like the black sheep.
Yes, especially when I was younger. The good news is that as you mature, and you begin to find ways to control some of these traits, create boundaries in life where they need to be, those feelings lessen greatly as the sense of self-acceptance grows. I hope that offer's you a small sense of comfort. I've also come to the conclusion that this is not some sort of jail sentence. I CAN still alter the things about myself I do not like. Via meditation, living in the moment, being aware of my own feelings instead of being Mr/Mrs.Emotional sponge, we need not always fall prey to our "infj-ness".
“My eyes aren’t telling you anything about me, they’re more of a receiver ...” that’s one of the best descriptions I’ve heard of the INFJ stare, I definitely relate.
When someone is talking, I am analyzing everything they say and everything they don't say. I am reading their intentions and figuring out why they're saying what they're saying. I've noticed that the "death stare" is too intense for some people and makes them try to hide the truth, so I learned to read people without staring.
I'm an INFJ. Listening to another INFJ makes me realise why we often feel lonely. Most of my thoughts and ideas are expressed internally and are difficult to translate to the outside world. When they do express themselves outwardly, it as if INFJs are communicating auckwardly via transmission from an uncannily familiar albeit far away planet. INFJs are the most familiar paradoxical aliens you'll ever meet...a benevolent stranger who has come to visit your town and who knows everything about you but who you yourself know nothing about and probably never fully will.
Connecting with that a lot. By the time I was 13, I had spent many years trying to connect without success, so I just ended up feeling like I was a robot or someone not meant for this place.
I tried to speak like I'm writing a paper. I also took customer service and teaching jobs to learn small talk to fill in the gaps. Now that I got that it is finding the audience that would take the time to listen to the connections... Life's challenges.
Wow well worded..I've expressed this concept to ppl around my in a similar way but...they don't get it and...I loop back to exhibit A lmao. Thanks for articulating that!
@@post-humangod2575 In the end it depends if I want to be friendly and be superficially happy. Sometime I dont want to meet people deeper than their surface if I have determined for myself I dont like them deeper or fundamentally disagree. So yes it is Perceiving function and Judging function that both result in withdrawing somehow from "them". My expressionless face is my expression. It is a choice of response if I am not absorbing info and taking in stuff. If I feel comfortable with my original perceptions/intuition of the scenario I am in then I will relax and express confidently whatever I am feeling like expressing and If I have made a determination/decision(judging function) of the other person and for myself I move forward from that decision. If the the perceiving function is dominant at the time I might be more indecisive and withdraw for personal protection of absorbing what is going on(of myself and others) since I don't feel assertive in my determination. I dont owe people my presence or expression but I get it bring moods down of others which is why I sometimes just superficially enjoy the time I find myself in.
I feel like people mistrust me because I'm too honest. They don't believe someone can be that honest, and then they doubt what I say. It's so crazy to me.
@JessicaBelle I don't go around telling people I'm honest, I just am. I sit there and watch someone telling a huge yarn about something I know isn't true because I was there, and people are captivated by it, accept it unquestioningly. But other times, when I say something, they look at me like I have 2 heads and question the validity of it.
ᒧⴹⵢⵢ𐌠ⵎᗅ𐌇ⴹᒪᒪⴹ...And here you are AGAIN for the nth time, attacking people for expressing a thought or opinion. What is your problem?! May all the hateful energy you send to others return to you quickly.
I’ve never heard anyone articulate the personality traits of INFJ’s so well before - along with their struggles and paradoxes. I can relate to EVERYTHING you’ve said.
I’ve noticed that people that have something to hide react to me negatively on the first meeting They recognize I can see right through them. I don’t do it on purpose. It automatic.
I just unconsciously did the INFJ stare to one of my classmates and i clearly can see that she felt uncomfortable. I'm not close with the person and i was there because she had a conversation with my friends. I tried to avoid the eye contact as much as i can like how katie did but my stare are too deep everytime, that she feel my stare. Btw, what attracts me to stare at her too much instead of others are that today is her birthday. I didn't wish her birthday. I want to, but I'm too shy 😓
@infj-heyoka -empath Speaking is another level for me and i can't help being unconsciously staring at her. The situation is, we sit a little far because we sit on the floor so each of us having our own space. So, it's kinda far and hard for me to go to her and talk 😔 And you're right, i don't have anything to say to her besides telling her happy birthday and my friend is the one who's talking to her. I'm just happen to be there. That's also why i think it hard to suddenly said happy birthday to her when we don't know each other and the sit are kind of apart. But i can feel that she's happy yesterday. I saw some of her friends making suprise party for her after that 🤗
@infj-heyoka -empath Because it her birthday that day and it attract me to get to know her when i know its her birthday. Usually i don't even stare at her or anything. Don't worry, i didn't do anything to her 😂
INFJ videos make me wanna cry. I feel so out of place every day then I listen to this and it sounds like Katie is documenting my life and telling the story the way I ( and no one else I know) would. Thank for making this
Jackie Burhans I agree completely. I’ve always felt like I don’t belong in this world. I’m getting there though. Slowly, but surely. This is life. Wanna make the best out of it.
Yes it's so relatable, and it's almost soothing to hear because it's something i go through any and everyday but cannot explain to people if i have to.
INFJ here. yeah. i have the same "living" sometimes i "talk" to much and at the end i say" did you follow me?" only to be sure i don't lost the person in the talking. :x
Eye contact....yes! I've learned how powerful my STARE is. I'm literally receiving a conversation with that other person's soul. Sometimes, I've learned that I need to "deny" eye contact with certain individuals. Kinda like " access denied" if that makes any sense to anyone else...lol. Bc quite frankly in my best interest, I don't want to communicate with their soul...lol.
I’m 51% E (ENFJ) but I have this issue as well. Sometimes when I go into my head I feel like I can connect and read consciousness around me. Sometimes I unintentionally project my “aura” too much and I absorb a lot of other peoples energies as well. I end up connecting with a lot of people without saying a word.
There is nothing wrong or inappropriate about being considerate, fair and compassionate. You are a voice to make the world a better place. From a senior INFJ
We find the answer in the Void Book of the 5 Rings. Yeah, I know, out of the Kenjustsu Dojo. My natural thought process. Strange huh? I do this with everything. Common behavior becomes Fencing Techniques. I do this with much. Part of the Air Book.
@kelly hoover You are very welcome. I hope I helped you somewhat. The topic is the same. I used my subjective perspective is all. We all spring from the same source, yet see things ever so slightly differently based on life experiences, mine is the Dojo where I feel most accepted, understood. Signed....No One aka Mu Shin. There is a movie. Circle of Iron, written by Sifu Lee, acted by David Carradine. In the end you see the book of the Void. It's an easier way of seeing the Void than deciphering Musashi Sensei and the Go Rin No Sho. Because we teach this as Kenjutsu Instrutors, its's our Duty to translate it for Students of the Michi or Way (Tao) or "Do" in Nihongo. It's not a Religion but a Hybrid Shinto Zen Buddhist Philosophy, for I am a Christian, just not a Robot of a Church. My faith is in my Kokoro (Heart). The Book itself is elusive. You have to have the life experience and practiced the Waza (techniques) to understand what Musashi Kensei was saying. At the very least it gives us something to consider......This is a good place for me to Stop. There is always another day for more if time allows.
@kelly hoover I did notice that you felt it was a bit non linear. Was it really Down the Rabbit Hole, I am unsure of this myself? Maybe just a similar Den. I'm going out to play with 5-6 month old Kittens and have dinner with an old Reverend friend of mine tonight. He drags me to his place kicking and screaming regularly. When I come home I may just practice Sword Kata, providing the Reverend doesn't give me too many Beers I don't drink at home. The Duality of Life. I Hope you feel a bit better about things. Just know, You aren't alone.
I had no idea this “INFJ” thing existed until now. It feels really weird hearing someone talk about things the same way I do, especially the part about empathy. I never expected there to be an actual label that explains why I am the way I am either. I don’t even know what to think right now. Thank you a million times for making this video!
The stare and the “thinking face.” I relate to that so hard lol. Girl own it!! You are super special! I think that once you own these traits to the point that you don’t feel like you have to justify or make excuses for the parts that are special about you, you’ll be a lot more confident and even more socially at ease. For me, it took a few therapy sessions to fully feel seen and accepted for some of my “rare” traits (because yeah, INFJs can feel kind of like an alien!). My confidence coming out of that though let me be just be at peace with myself in a tangible way, and my insecurity of being different didn’t “check me out” of the present nearly as often as it did before. Being different and being fine with it I think is the core of confidence, and confidence allows you to stay connected, despite whether the other person even “gets” you or not. Yeah girl, you’re super special and I think you just need to own it ;)
I once asked a woman I didn’t know who was sitting in front of me in church if I could hug her. I could just feel her sadness. She wasn’t crying or anything but I just felt her sadness. She agreed and I hugged her. Some time later I learned she had, had cancer and had passed away.
"INFJs keep being your alien self, I love you all, I love myself" that is the perfect morning affirmation 😂🙏🏾It's cool that you're an INFJ that is comfortable articulating yourself so well in front of the camera because I could be journaling or talking out loud (to myself to be honest) and as soon as I turn the camera on, its a similar effect as if another person comes in the room. My mind doesn't flow as freely. I totally resonate with what you shared.
I dont think others completely isolate us.. i think we do it to ourselves.. was told by my shrink a couple months ago i had an INFJ personality.. maybe im looking into this stuff too deep... who knows.
I got the, "Are you an angel?" question, then from the same person a little later she asked if I was a demon. She kept staring at me switching back and forth trying to read me. I'd see the look on her face change from total adoration to absolute fear. I kept telling her that I wasn't either. Just a human being. But I was reading her and she seemed astonished that I could understand her so spot on. So she vacillated between thinking I had supernatural powers but couldn't tell if they were good powers or bad powers. I kept trying to assure her that I had no supernatural abilities. She left, kissing my hand like I was some sort of angel. It felt totally creepy!!!
lol this made me laugh. yea, I have people stare at me and It makes me so insecure obviously because thats our first instinct and thought is that somethings wrong with us but maybe it is because we give a vibe and glow and people try to figure us out or read us.
Traditionally this personality trait has been realized by the mystics from all ages and cultures. As an INFJ you're compelled to build harmony from within all the way into the chaotic world outside. This is damn difficult particularly in the modern time where social and conceptual structures constantly shift their boundaries and focus. As you make it through and grow older you eventually develop the resilience and strength to have your light shine through into the wider surroundings and feel at home in the world around. Thanks for sharing.
INFJ here, agree on all fronts..... any other INFJ's feel they're stuck in their heads with no connection to both their physical bodies & words, I almost prefer silence over communicating.
Yes but I am over the years I've been able to block out the negative express myself more then I used but I still run into misunderstanding but I do the best I can I think it's going to help somebody else
well said, i have a similar almost debilitating sensitivity to strong emotions of others, my biggest one is embarassment, when i see someone humiliated or embarrassed i have a physical reaction as if i am the one personally embarrassed, the twisted gut, the flushed face, fight or flight panic ect. like when a stranger drops something at the grocery store
Incredible. I totally relate to everything! I think that we INFJs are very into personality types because we feel like aliens all the time and we want to know why
"i usually cant think, in the presence of another person.." Do you think it might be because you are taking in so much information about the people and situation in which you are surrounded? I too, am INFJ, and I think that is exactly why I would make the same statement you just made.
Bill Rankin I think it’s for a number of reasons and it also depends on the social situation. I definitely understand what you are saying and experience something similar. When I go to social events.. I could be talking to someone but my brain will be reading the emotional temperature of the room at the same time. Which takes some of my mental “bandwidth” which makes it hard to fully engage in the discussion I’m having. Other times I feel it’s because it takes me a while to fully process my thoughts. Both in an emotional way and intellectual way. So when I am standing in front of someone formulating an idea/thought I get stuck sometimes because I end up just lost in my mind processing haha!! So yeah, for me there are definitely a couple reasons. More than I’ve listed.. but I think you’re on the money with your suggestion. I for sure relate to what you are saying :)
Super relatable. I'll share a little too: For years I felt thought suffocation was my unique problem. It felt like being an almost thinking person, like a rare condition I hadn't heard of yet, that was only aggravated when more people were added to a room. I wondered if I had been dropped on a specific part of my head as baby in a unique way that made the sight of people more difficult to process. That people crowded thought. Subjectively my perceiving part of the brain was too slow for the thinking part so all the thinking would bounce around unconsciously in a useless, wild form until perception caught up, or the thinker found a way to make sound-bites and fit thought into the right mold. All the perfect, articulate answers come hours later after the opportune moments. These days with group work and with mild inferiority I'll say, "I'm sorry, I haven't formed an opinion yet. Give me some more time to mull over the details." Then I'll send them what my mind was hiding in written form over media. If contributions are expected it's all pre-prepared so that the idiot I'll be can simply perform the idiot task of courier: "uh, yeah. It's all in there where I wrote it." "but we'd like to hear some of your thoughts." "I'm good. Just have a read when you have some time." [retreat into self] It seems most are uneducated about cognitive styles. At my work rumour has got to me that my boss has described me as a "very smart person who behaves like an idiot" due to how slowly thoughts form. "What’s up with this guy? He just stares into space a lot." I stand there stifled still taking things in while others have already jumped to the simple answer. Such is life as an intuitive thinker.
Same here ! , it's difficult too talk with shallow people , small talk is boring .. at times my mind switching to Stay Focused and yet maintain conversations
"if I have to run or climb a tree..." OMG, you have no idea how often I use that very thing to explain my one things to other people, it's either that or 'what if a bear comes out of nowhere...' I feel much less crazy now, thank you
I’m an INFJ and you’re the first INFJ youtuber I’ve watched that felt like I was watching myself speak. Just the way you speak and talk through points. Sounds just like me. I experience all of these things too. I’m currently struggling with the empathy. I feel everything as if I’m the one it’s happening to and recently realized friends/loved ones hear/witness the same thing and are just like “that stinks..” and they move right on. 🤯
Well i had lot of problems with this too but, you have to realise it today or tomorrow that you can only do so much.. It is a fact that none of us can change. I am sure you have thought of this too but, to actually put it into practice is annoying. I used certain limitations on myself so that i take care of myself, coz if i take care of myself then only i will take care of others 🤷🏻♂️. Many a times i have seen the root of the problem but when you try to help out the person, the person doesn't wish to change and solve that problem once and for all 🤷🏻♂️ either you can waste your time or accept the fact that some realities people have to face alone. But that doesn't mean do nothing. Keep in mind the stakes and the current position, don't get swayed by the emotions. They are our BIGGEST asset as INFJ. It's a double edged sword that we wield and only a few are allowed to wield it. P. S i couldn't control but try to help out hopefully it does help :P 😂
I think you’re awesome. I’m an INTP, I spend a bunch of time by myself, I do trait #1 all the time haha and people give me confused looks. I love how you’re so honest and hold yourself accountable for things you feel are wrong. I’m also with you on trait #5, Pilot G2 pens are the best pens, hands down lol I’m with you there, and I also buy the same stuff when it works for me, and I get frustrated if they discontinue something I want to buy again. I can def tell you’re an intellectual from the way you speak and think, and I always ask “if that makes sense” . I love how much you care about people and the way you said you consume people, I kind of relate to that in that I study people I care about. You’re absolutely beautiful, and I would love to meet you!
Richard Cook we are sooooo incredibly sensitive to the world and people around us. I cant do small talk, because i am too busy feeling their feelings lololol
@@evieoneder From one to another please learn to protect yourself. I recommend you build a shield around you. Like an invisible cloak. It is not healthy to be 'open' to absorbing others feelings 24/7. It will ultimately damage your abilities as an INFJ and may compromise your MH. INFJs must protect themselves first in order to help others. It is very important. I can't stress it enough. Even though we are sensitive to others, we are also strong. But resonating with others feelings will weaken our natural strength. Then we are no good for us or others. Look after you first. This is not selfish. This comes from a place of love. ps as an INFJ you need to have strong barriers. That way when you choose to help others, it is your choice, a conscience decision and with the appropriate energy and focus. As an INFJ, if you live life in a reacative way, you will exhaust yourself and other areas of your life may be compromised. People will no longer see your value. They will see you as a failure and your desire to help wont even be wanted. This of course is the exact opposite of what an INFJ would want.
Me and my friends have noticed that as we, INFJ's, talk about something that matters to us, we slowly raise our voice without noticing. Great video btw, you are beautiful :)
Just know that when you “read” those other people or take the temperature of a room, it costs you something. As an INFJ and empath, I have learned to prepare myself for such occasions and plan in recovery time as well. It is necessary in order to avoid self-destruction or succumbing to narcissists/sociopaths.
Awesome hearing you articulate so well everything that has always been felt but remained unspoken. Your awareness is so refreshing! Thank you for this!
It is usually a good thing. But the "standing up for someone" has to be within reason. Imagine somebody running into someone else (not by accident, but cleary because the person doesn't care about others) while running on the street. You see that person now running towards you. Now imagine yourself feeling that overwhelming sense of justice or empathy in yourself. The reasonable/admirable thing to do would be to tell them that their behavior is bad etc. The unreasonable thing to do would be to attack them and swing punches towards them. "Standing up for someone else" is only a good thing to do if the person who you are standing up for even cares about the injustice that has taken place against them. Let's say the person who got run into just doesn't care about that other person running into them. If you run after that person to scald them, you just make a "deal" out of a "no deal" situation.
JessicaBelle I do this, too. I’m 51 and while some of the things described in this video still have a profound impact like when I was much younger, some situations I’ve learned to cope with better. I also avoid people because it seems easier, but I am sad because I love being with people.
I’m 51.... this is so good to hear... I do wish this platform was available when I was your age. I’ve learned ways to cope and compensate for my deficits as well as ways to leverage my strengths. Thank you for doing this
We digress a lot during a conversation - almost like we’re having our multiple thoughts out loud. It’s amazing. When I see fellow INFJs, we all have similar eye movements, thought process, speech patterns, awkward and self-conscious body language. It’s a treat to watch these videos. I don’t encounter many INFJs in real life.
This is the 1st video of hers I have watched, and I couldn't agree more. I'm kinda blown away... It's got me seeing so much. Cheers and all the best out there !
Wow, thank you for making me cry. Hearing such a young person talk about all the things I experienced all my life. I am 67 y.o. and only found out about my INFJ-hood early this year. Now I can put the jigsaw together, better late than never.
Thank you adrian w. I'm 50 and just truly learning about it now. I don't think any of my therapists were any good, if this is the first I am hearing of it. I didn't want to say anything, because I felt foolish for not knowing this by my age, but like others on this platform, you have given me some more courage to express myself and in return I hope to encourage others.
@@procyonlotor1906 Merci beaucoup. There is a band in the Netherlands with the name Racoon. No idea why they dropped the other "C". Dyslexia? 15 yrs ago they wrote "Love you more" . It's because of your name, I wanted you to know. Bear used to be my nickname. All my life I try to help others, never thought though, I was doing it here on you tube . I hope for you, that you will get a sweet message from someone someday too, as a reaction to something you wrote. So, please express yourself like you did today, everyday. I wish you strength. Adrian
my friends sometimes ask me if i'm sad or mad or they will say your zoning out again, but really my brain is going haywire with all the things i could possibly think at one time.
Yes. And when I said nothing. I'm happy not sad or mad. But they didnt believe me. They'll say my face looks gloomy/scary. They even tell me, when my face is scary-mode-on-but-I-didnt-realize-coz-I-just-feel-soso, they scare to approached me and scare to talk to me. I just.. dunno I have to feel happy because they leave me alone and I can continue my busy-thinking again or feel sad because in that way they just left me behind and I will feel sad. Nah this moment what they think of me become reality. Dang
OMG! And no one has a clue how loud it is inside our heads! We're constantly trying to make sense of and sort the multitude of ideas and thoughts going on in our brains.
I love your beautiful soul. You are the most beautiful person i have seen on youtube. We need more people like you in this wicked world. Please never change who you are.
I think one of the most basic traits is what you are doing right here and now: extensive self-analysis. Not because we are self absorbed, just because we don't only want to be able to understand everyone else, but also ourselves, for ourselves, and also in order to be able to explain the way we work to others. Like a personal user guide, because we know we are hard to understand. We want to make interaction with us easier for others. Unfortunately that has the tendency to only confuse most people even more because they don't understand what we're on about! :D
Yes! It is quite the opposite of being self-absorbed. "Like a personal user guide, because we know we are hard to understand," - brilliant description. One of the hardest insults for me to hear is that I am self-centered. I feel so much the opposite of that at my core, but it's hard not to take someone's opinion of me seriously when they perceive me in that way. I find that the more inner work and extensive self-analysis I do, the further I can see into another person's inner experience. It increases my understanding, my compassion.. it opens my mind to the endless nuances and intricacies of every single personality, every single other complex human being out there. Getting to know my condition is simultaneously the act of getting to know THE human condition, our collective humanity. I loved your comment, thank you!
@@katiemarie8899 ikr! When I was a teenager, I always fought with my parents, especially my mom. She always said to me that I'm selfish. At that time, I was so angry why she said that and in my head I have many reasons why I'm not selfish. But she is. Idk why she thought like that. Its really hurt me.
I've basically given up on seeing any value in descriptions of myself from others. No matter how much energy you put in making yourself understood, it doesn't land anyway. And I find I live a lot better not giving a damn about what others think of me. 49yr old male infj.
You're the most INFJ I have come across here on UA-cam. I related heavily on the empathy and the dishonesty parts. It feels nice to hear from someone else what usually goes on in your head, but can't, or don't tell anyone because they won't understand or dismiss it as just talk. It's refreshing.
Katie, thank you for sharing so honestly and humbly! Even as an ISFJ (who doesn't have the unique intuitive gifts you do as an INFJ), I just want to keep saying "You're not alone in what you feel!" I can readily identify with your empathy and compassion for others, and I think you have an admirable way of standing in the gap for them! I pray that you continue to heal (you've been through a lot and given so much of yourself) and learn to love and embrace your unique gifts and talents; you don't need to be perfect to have a beautiful heart!
"Look at them...too much, look away...now look back." I'm glad to know that someone else has to do this. Seeing is feeling and even sometimes touching so it gets to be awkward. What you see, you change; what you hear changes you; what you touch, you become part of. But, when seeing is touching, you become part of the other person more often than you want to.
I think the thing that makes me feel most alienated is my need to see patterns in behaviors from others. I am constantly trying to see what makes them feel happy/sad/any emotion. I feel like I read people like a book instead of seeing them in front of me😬
Eye contact,iget people telling me you put me off you stare right in my eyes when you talk to me it makes people feel all weird they can't tell me what they were saying, you have just told my life the way it is glad I'm not the only one
our radical empathy and the actions that come of it are definitely what gives us the title “advocate.” also, i’d like to say that i appreciate you for being an advocate for those people from you past! i think it’s very rarely inappropriate to speak up for somebody. sadly, my social anxiety holds me back from acting on my defensive impulses half the time, but i really, really relate to that uncontrollable urge to defend the defenseless. i also very much relate to every other point you made. crazy how that works
Thank you so much for creating your content, Katie. Knowing that I'm not alone in this as an INFJ is very reassuring. I can relate to so much of what you're saying here and in your other videos. You're beautiful, brave, and well spoken.
Yes, and I didn't even realize how much of a jump I have made because for me it was all logical and natural and I get annoyed when people can not follow. I just thought that they didn't listen to what I was saying because they don't care and this hurt me. So it's all actually a big misunderstanding from my wrong assumptions. Thanks for clarifying this to me. I am an Infj by the way.
girl6girl6 this happens way more often than I’d like. Finally a show I love, next episode, we’re canceling. But I actually like this one. Stupid everyone for liking other stuff. LOL
Honestly, I’m so grateful for you sharing this! I do ALL of the aforementioned things & just to hear someone else talk about doing the same things made me feel a lot less lonely for 25 minutes. It was also really cool to see a mirror..sometimes I genuinely don’t know why people are always trying to hang out with me but then seeing you, it’s like ‘Oh, those quirks are actually pretty cute & I shouldn’t degrade myself for them.’ Thank you for sharing, sincerely.
Your empathy for “Joe” that enabled you to notice what was really going on, which then resulted in your own pain and emotional release....for me results in a somewhat similar feeling but more akin to a righteous anger and an overwhelming desire to defend the aggrieved party and give a voice to the unfairness of it. I instantly see red and the injustice compels me to speak or act in much the same way you did. I’ve learned to choose my battles for the most part and keep it to myself as the intensity of my reaction can scare or intimidate people (it’s probably a bit more aggressive than your approach and tinted with that anger) but I try to see it as a gift in those instances where I am justified in righting a wrong or restoring balance. I think it throws off our deeply ingrained sense of harmony to the point that we can’t let it go by. I believe if you pick your moments, just like you did with Joe, it can be a wonderful thing and part of the altruism and advocacy we can offer other human beings and feel like we’re doing something good even in some small way.
Good for you for speaking up for “Joe”! That situation would probably have scarred him if not for you. It sucks when professors take advantage of the power differential in a classroom setting.
Steven absolutely. Most of the time we are somewhat shy observers but sometimes it does feel like a duty of ours to stand up for what’s right. There’s a certain fearlessness that comes with it at times. “Joe” approached me after that class and thanked me with tears in his eyes. so I don’t regret it for a single second.
dont regret standing up for 'joe' you never know what positive affect you had in his day or even life x people have been saved from suicide by people doing similar things to you x well done .
the only video I've seen where the viewer can actually get a grip on what's in an INFJs mind. you're so thoughtfull in choosing your words so it looks very authentic! I love the way you explaining things and I understand what you said the best that I could. I'll propably ruminate about what you said for a long time after watching this video!
My goodness I always love hearing other INFJ speak. We think our ways are so strange (which they are haha) but hearing someone else speak of the same weirdness feels so validating it’s absolutely amazing! I have big issues with working in groups and it’s a huge problem because in my work I have to do this and it’s hard explaining to others that I work best on my own. I can’t think around other people is exactly what I would say! My sister is INTJ and it was amazing growing with her. Dad is INFP and we also get along but not as deep as INTJ. Thanks for sharing 🤗
I've learned over the years as an INFJ how to manage some of my characteristics. Like when my mind wants to make those jumps that no one else will follow, I've learned not to speak all of what I'm thinking, and instead speak like I'm doing a simple instructional tutorial. The problem with that is that I feel restricted and it makes me concerned that it will make my creativity atrophy. It's way more fun to do the multipoint hyperspace idea thing, but you need someone you can do it with, or we're just not having any fun anymore.
Hi Walter, I just learned about the INFJ personality type and I’ve been in complete awe the last 24 hours.. The non linear jumps in ideas concepts and conversations have brought me success but sometimes lots of stress and misunderstandings when dealing with people. Sometimes I can tell that the people that I’m trying to explain something to, are wondering if I’m a genius or a complete doofus.. My projects and work are usually a mess until they aren’t, the last piece brings everything together and then the questions come on how I was able to figure out that, or how did I got that idea. My thought was that everyone is capable of doing this things, they just choose not to. I love the multipoint hyperspace idea concept, it just clicks.
All of this ^^^^. Also I usually have and idea like these and I will blurt out the last sentence to the idea and gave to back track to how I got there. About everything though. When I need something and need to explain it to someone who has no idea what I'm talking about, it is a complete failure. Dont ask me to play pictionary
+what interest the most are tokens of life that hold deeper meaning or value. when it aquires more then one meaning to posses or to have. normally we keep it or keep it as extra. but we don't always keep something if deposible has more logic to keep we might have that if we can recycle it. we think longer term goals when it in are awareness. does that give enough information?
Totally true. I've been a fountain pen collector since I was like 13 years old, and I don't even know how I discovered a love of pens but I still love writing and calligraphy and beautifully crafted fountain pens (especially antique flex nib pens) to this day. And I love fine notebooks as well.
You to Zharkan 16, please remember, in my eyes you are a super hero, larger than life, maybe you don’t see it, because your to busy looking down on ur self, instead of acknowledging that amazing giant from within.
I'm INFJ, and it's crazy how I related to EVERYTHING you said. Especially the thing about the pen. I'm exactly the same. I have ONE shampoo I always use, ONE brand of shoes, ONE favorite sweater. If I need to buy a new one I always buy the same, for years! I don't like change, or changing something that works perfectly for me. But sometimes they stop selling my lovely product and that's not fun... You're amazing to listen to. And I understand completely. It was brave of you to stand up for Joe. I started boiling just listening to the story! INFJs always understand, and root for, the underdog, and whenever I watch a situation handled badly or wrongly I start boiling, and often I lash out angrily saying "Excuse me, but HOW could you say that? Did you not understand what was happening? Take it back please." I feel understood now haha. Nice to know there are a few of us who are like this in the world. Take care! ♥
It's so rare to see someone being this honest about their inner world. I almost forgot it was possible ! Your video inspired me to be more open about my own and talk freely about it. It's beautiful how aware you are of the way your mind works.
I know your a true INFJ when thinking about it hurts you, I'm the same way I can feel hurt from the same situation as many times as I allow it from just remembering the moments
Infj guy here. To think. I am only fifteen and I can one hundred percent relate to every single thing you are talking about. I have always been this way my whole life. I labeled myself as different from everyone else from a very young age. The urge to fit in is so consuming. Especially now in high school. But one day I was researching dreams because I wasn’t happy with the explanation “It’s mysterious and well never know why.” So I found an add that said, “Are you the rarest personality type?” I didn’t even know personality types were a thing lmao. So I look up infj and as I’m sitting here reading non stop all these things about us, it’s like “I am reading my users manual right now I feel violated.” Lol. But I am super thankful that there are people like you willing to share and help those that misunderstand us. Even us at times. Ps: I’m the type that rarely opens up to people unless I trust them 200% but tip to anyone who reads this and is my age: an authentic from the heart love letter will guarantee me to crush hard on you lol. Again thank you
I use the exact same pen and have for years! Everything you’ve said in the video is perfectly articulating how I operate and what I experience. Aside from the INJF stare, I haven’t heard a lot of the points you make on other INFJ channels. Classic INFJ-only engaging when you’re adding to the conversation. Thank you for sharing your inner world!
Yeah, non-linear Conversations at lightening speed... it’s called “tracking”, most people cannot do that, and it is a wonderful gift, if you are in the right job or place in your life, where you can use it to help people.
I am an ENFJ and thanks for sharing the true name. I truly enjoy IN/EN personality types because I do not feel like I have to "carry" the conversation.
@@elainacordova4397 Entrepreneur, Educator, Business Professional, Banking, or any job where you have to remember loads of factual information. You can do all of these jobs relatively alone also, to prevent your anxiety from skyrocketing.
Speaking up for someone who I see as being wronged takes up so much of my energy that I feel weak and vulnerable afterwards and thus need alone time to recuperate.
Strangely I feel empowered after I take up someone who has been wronged in my opinion. I feel like I was the one who was wronged, then after I confront and try to diffuse the situation I feel like Ive righted a wrong. I do have an increased heart rate and I’m emotional, but also feel elated on some level.
While what she did was very dangerous with serious repercussions and could have been better handled by being reported to the authorities (be careful how you make your complaint and don't get too upset if they ignore it), the fact she so bravely stood up for others instead of ignoring it is very attractive to me and frankly a bit of a turn on. (Nearly 46 and just found out I'm an INFJ and at least now the emotional and mental drain makes sense to me now...) Stay safe and good luck!
Veronica.....I once spoke up for a tubby boy that a group of older boys Tripped on the school bus when I was in 4th grade. All his lunch spilled out everywhere, and he cried. I on the other-hand was magnificently cruel to the three older bullies. They just stood there amazed, me being a little girl. I can t tolerate bullies. One mentor told me I had Too much compassion. An english professor told me I should be a writer? I resemble both of those remarks. .
To stand up in the face of injustice is nothing short of courageous. Never be ashamed of your courage. You did right by "Joe" he is lucky to have had representation when he could not do so himself at that moment.
Ohhh man... that whole "pen & purse" thing - I GET IT! I am the same way ; if I find something I like, THAT'S IT! There's no need to keep "shopping around". If I like something enough I will stock up and buy in bulk so I have more if I lose or break the one I have (or if it's stolen). I do not feel the need to "try new things" unless there's a logical and valid reason to branch out or find something else - like, if I used up the last of my "favorite" thing and they stopped making them so I can't get anymore! (I HATE that, and it infuriates me!) The ONLY time I ever bother with more than one "favorite thing", then it is because I simply CANNOT DECIDE. I do not like being forced to choose "just one" so I say to hell with it, and I get whatever I like, as many as I like. And that is all the "variety" I need.
INFJ-T here... I laughed out loud when you mentioned the pen... I've gone through sooo many pens to find the right one for me, and in 2014 I did. It's the "graphik ink liner", black, 3.0mm tip. Love that pen so much
All the INFJ males watching this just fell in love... (Edit) I knew it... so we're all in agreement. Women like this are so hard to find. You're more likely to stumble across bigfoot riding a unicorn than a woman like this. But seriously... being an INFJ is not fun.
ENTP's and INFJ's have this strange, wonderful and deep connection with each other (look it up; it confirmed my own experiences), although it might seem strange. This ENTP also just fell in love...
No, I hate fake laughs TBH. I know it's a coping mechanism but my brain automatically sees it as fakeness or weakness and rejects it. Edit: Actually I kind of take that back, I think it's much more a reaction to nervousness or not being able to express yourself properly.
I'm an INFJ and for my whole life, I thought something was wrong with me. Hearing this has made me almost sob the whole time. Thank you for sharing this, Katie. But I'm on an extreme scale with empathy. I am that person. I am that animal.
I relate to most of these!! 😭😭 But I can definitely say that there are different types of INFJs since we all grew up differently alongside when we were born. Example, I’m an INFJ, a Leo, and someone that grew up without emotional support from their family. My everyday life is very tiring and lonely :/ Hope all you INFJs out there know that you’re not alone ☺️
There definitely are different types of INFJs, I know I can't generalize and say we're all the same! I do want to mention that I, too, had a very painful childhood without much nurturing, acceptance, or emotional support from my family. Most days I am very lonely, drained, and sad. It just so happens that most of the days that I have the motivation to film a video- are days when I feel good. I don't ever want to project the image that I am happy and totally confident. I totally empathize with and relate to your situation, as do so many other INFJs in the comments. It's nice that we can all support each other, even in small ways like in youtube comments :)
Mazy- I’m an INFJ Leo and also had very little childhood emotional nurturing. If it’s any consolation, life has got better & better the older I become. You are not alone xxx
infj leo here, never lacked any emotional support in my childhood that I know off, but never had the feeling needing much either. I think from a very young age I learned to regulate my own emotions. I remember witnessing the power dynamics of my fellow kindergarten 'class' mates, and especially the violent out of control guy most were afraid of (but was popular with the all female teachers) at age 4. I was the only one getting along with him, but I treaded carefully. I also don't remember ever feeling lonely in my live when I'm alone. It does however happen in company of others, where there is some obligated group activity I don't particulary care for. Thinking off it, I cannot conceive of anyone being able to nurture me emotionally, when a child or now.
Every talking point you spoke on I totally felt like you were talking for me, it's really refreshing to listen to someone who I can relate to. Very glad I found your video, your a treasure! Thanks for sharing
You have a lot of courage. You are compelled to take action and speak on behalf of your convictions. Not everyone does that, regardless of their feelings.
Someone needs to make an INFJ dating website, cause we're all horrible at it.
Roland East - You should get to work on that. ;)
omg! that is the best idea of all time...and such a true, true statement. i i captain
I saw this same comment at another INFJ video. 🤔
I've seen others, like ENFPs, who wonder where the INFJs are. It would be great to give them a place where the INFJs are. It would be a horrible business proposition. They are too rare. It would be better if an existing app had the ability to filter by MBTI. That has more chance of being successful.
Master's CS student and INFJ here. If you can come up with a way to determine who is an INFJ and protect the community from narcissists, I'll try to make it happen!
My brain always shuts down when I'm asked to brainstorm ideas with a group of people. Like guys I swear I'm good at this but I need you all out.
Awesomely put
I experienced this, as well as people not understanding my ideas fully and letting them go by the wayside so I check out mentally cause I feel like the black sheep.
Same
Absolutely same!
😂 😂 Same
is anyone else an INFJ and are constantly worried you're not ACTUALLY and infj and you actually *are* insane?
Ummmm - yes 😊
Yes, especially when I was younger. The good news is that as you mature, and you begin to find ways to control some of these traits, create boundaries in life where they need to be, those feelings lessen greatly as the sense of self-acceptance grows. I hope that offer's you a small sense of comfort. I've also come to the conclusion that this is not some sort of jail sentence. I CAN still alter the things about myself I do not like. Via meditation, living in the moment, being aware of my own feelings instead of being Mr/Mrs.Emotional sponge, we need not always fall prey to our "infj-ness".
Yea, I used to think I had Schizoid Personality disorder.
HA! Right!
everyday
“My eyes aren’t telling you anything about me, they’re more of a receiver ...” that’s one of the best descriptions I’ve heard of the INFJ stare, I definitely relate.
When someone is talking, I am analyzing everything they say and everything they don't say. I am reading their intentions and figuring out why they're saying what they're saying. I've noticed that the "death stare" is too intense for some people and makes them try to hide the truth, so I learned to read people without staring.
I'm an INFJ. Listening to another INFJ makes me realise why we often feel lonely. Most of my thoughts and ideas are expressed internally and are difficult to translate to the outside world. When they do express themselves outwardly, it as if INFJs are communicating auckwardly via transmission from an uncannily familiar albeit far away planet.
INFJs are the most familiar paradoxical aliens you'll ever meet...a benevolent stranger who has come to visit your town and who knows everything about you but who you yourself know nothing about and probably never fully will.
I want to say for the most part understanding is a super power, trying to explain very difficult. Sick twist of ironic
Connecting with that a lot. By the time I was 13, I had spent many years trying to connect without success, so I just ended up feeling like I was a robot or someone not meant for this place.
Yes, Im usually in observation mode. Switching back and forth from interaction mode and observation mode quickly is exhausting.
I tried to speak like I'm writing a paper. I also took customer service and teaching jobs to learn small talk to fill in the gaps. Now that I got that it is finding the audience that would take the time to listen to the connections... Life's challenges.
Wow well worded..I've expressed this concept to ppl around my in a similar way but...they don't get it and...I loop back to exhibit A lmao.
Thanks for articulating that!
"Ok look away. Ok hold eye contact again. Ok now let's look at something else." Holy shit, I thought that was *my* signature move
This is freaking HILARIOUS!! lol hahaha
I have to look away if they want me to pay attention.
Hahaha, me too, this is great.just when I thought I didn’t understand humans in general, ya’ll wonderfully throw me for a loop. Thank you all.
Lmaooooo❤
@@christopherj5780 RIGHT! and then they get mad for no eye contact....but most ppl can't handle the stare anyway...
It’s like having a 4D conversation where you feel and see everything the other person is thinking and feeling.
Lol , perfectly said , love that !
yes
Well put
Our minds are like shifting
sand. Always looking to connect.
Imagine a world of INFJ's ermpaths.
Peace and love to all.
Rana Kosten shifting sand - that’s a good way to put it.
Imagine a government of empaths, eternally planning the greatest utopia ever but never actually making it happen. Welcome to the INFJ mind 🧐
How slow and humiliating it must be like to be you
I’m a dark empath not an ermpath lol
INFJ and have been told my whole life that I either look mad or intense. Nope, just taking it all in and processing it.
Sure you're j and not p?
I have been infp and infj. Totally relate
@@Mr11kankan which one has an expression less face? J or P?
Yes, people always tell me to smile. "Ok, would that make you feel better?"
@@post-humangod2575 In the end it depends if I want to be friendly and be superficially happy. Sometime I dont want to meet people deeper than their surface if I have determined for myself I dont like them deeper or fundamentally disagree.
So yes it is Perceiving function and Judging function that both result in withdrawing somehow from "them".
My expressionless face is my expression. It is a choice of response if I am not absorbing info and taking in stuff. If I feel comfortable with my original perceptions/intuition of the scenario I am in then I will relax and express confidently whatever I am feeling like expressing and If I have made a determination/decision(judging function) of the other person and for myself I move forward from that decision. If the the perceiving function is dominant at the time I might be more indecisive and withdraw for personal protection of absorbing what is going on(of myself and others) since I don't feel assertive in my determination. I dont owe people my presence or expression but I get it bring moods down of others which is why I sometimes just superficially enjoy the time I find myself in.
I feel like people mistrust me because I'm too honest. They don't believe someone can be that honest, and then they doubt what I say. It's so crazy to me.
@JessicaBelle I don't go around telling people I'm honest, I just am. I sit there and watch someone telling a huge yarn about something I know isn't true because I was there, and people are captivated by it, accept it unquestioningly. But other times, when I say something, they look at me like I have 2 heads and question the validity of it.
ᒧⴹⵢⵢ𐌠ⵎᗅ𐌇ⴹᒪᒪⴹ...And here you are AGAIN for the nth time, attacking people for expressing a thought or opinion. What is your problem?! May all the hateful energy you send to others return to you quickly.
I’ve never heard anyone articulate the personality traits of INFJ’s so well before - along with their struggles and paradoxes. I can relate to EVERYTHING you’ve said.
I’ve noticed that people that
have something to hide react to me negatively on the first meeting
They recognize I can see right through them.
I don’t do it on purpose. It automatic.
I totally agree!! I have this happen so much! They are like sensing that I can see their shit and they don’t like me and don’t even know me. So wild!!
I just unconsciously did the INFJ stare to one of my classmates and i clearly can see that she felt uncomfortable. I'm not close with the person and i was there because she had a conversation with my friends. I tried to avoid the eye contact as much as i can like how katie did but my stare are too deep everytime, that she feel my stare. Btw, what attracts me to stare at her too much instead of others are that today is her birthday. I didn't wish her birthday. I want to, but I'm too shy 😓
@infj-heyoka -empath Speaking is another level for me and i can't help being unconsciously staring at her. The situation is, we sit a little far because we sit on the floor so each of us having our own space. So, it's kinda far and hard for me to go to her and talk 😔 And you're right, i don't have anything to say to her besides telling her happy birthday and my friend is the one who's talking to her. I'm just happen to be there. That's also why i think it hard to suddenly said happy birthday to her when we don't know each other and the sit are kind of apart. But i can feel that she's happy yesterday. I saw some of her friends making suprise party for her after that 🤗
@infj-heyoka -empath No, I'm not 😂😂😂 I'm straight. That's just how I'm trying to get to know her but to shy to talk. Introvert kind of things 🤗
@infj-heyoka -empath Because it her birthday that day and it attract me to get to know her when i know its her birthday. Usually i don't even stare at her or anything. Don't worry, i didn't do anything to her 😂
INFJ videos make me wanna cry. I feel so out of place every day then I listen to this and it sounds like Katie is documenting my life and telling the story the way I ( and no one else I know) would. Thank for making this
That's exactly how I feel (this is a sentence I hardly ever use haha)
Jackie Burhans I agree completely. I’ve always felt like I don’t belong in this world. I’m getting there though. Slowly, but surely. This is life. Wanna make the best out of it.
Yes it's so relatable, and it's almost soothing to hear because it's something i go through any and everyday but cannot explain to people if i have to.
INFJ here. yeah. i have the same "living" sometimes i "talk" to much and at the end i say" did you follow me?" only to be sure i don't lost the person in the talking. :x
Eye contact....yes! I've learned how powerful my STARE is. I'm literally receiving a conversation with that other person's soul. Sometimes, I've learned that I need to "deny" eye contact with certain individuals. Kinda like " access denied" if that makes any sense to anyone else...lol. Bc quite frankly in my best interest, I don't want to communicate with their soul...lol.
This spoke to me on a spiritual level 😭😭
woah, i can relate. never heard it put this way.
I agree! I avoid eye contact with people who give off bad vibes.
Nicely said!
I’m 51% E (ENFJ) but I have this issue as well. Sometimes when I go into my head I feel like I can connect and read consciousness around me. Sometimes I unintentionally project my “aura” too much and I absorb a lot of other peoples energies as well. I end up connecting with a lot of people without saying a word.
I laugh when you said on the last part "i love myself" then said "im trying to" infj's is also realistic 😂
Relatable.
There is nothing wrong or inappropriate about being considerate, fair and compassionate. You are a voice to make the world a better place. From a senior INFJ
If you have people in your life with whom you can have non-linear conversations with, never let them go.
We find the answer in the Void Book of the 5 Rings. Yeah, I know, out of the Kenjustsu Dojo. My natural thought process. Strange huh? I do this with everything. Common behavior becomes Fencing Techniques. I do this with much. Part of the Air Book.
@kelly hoover You are very welcome. I hope I helped you somewhat. The topic is the same. I used my subjective perspective is all. We all spring from the same source, yet see things ever so slightly differently based on life experiences, mine is the Dojo where I feel most accepted, understood. Signed....No One aka Mu Shin.
There is a movie. Circle of Iron, written by Sifu Lee, acted by David Carradine. In the end you see the book of the Void. It's an easier way of seeing the Void than deciphering Musashi Sensei and the Go Rin No Sho. Because we teach this as Kenjutsu Instrutors, its's our Duty to translate it for Students of the Michi or Way (Tao) or "Do" in Nihongo. It's not a Religion but a Hybrid Shinto Zen Buddhist Philosophy, for I am a Christian, just not a Robot of a Church. My faith is in my Kokoro (Heart). The Book itself is elusive. You have to have the life experience and practiced the Waza (techniques) to understand what Musashi Kensei was saying. At the very least it gives us something to consider......This is a good place for me to Stop. There is always another day for more if time allows.
But what if you Cannot find us in the first place? Admittedly Kengu life is Fun and difficult to explain.
@kelly hoover I did notice that you felt it was a bit non linear. Was it really Down the Rabbit Hole, I am unsure of this myself? Maybe just a similar Den. I'm going out to play with 5-6 month old Kittens and have dinner with an old Reverend friend of mine tonight. He drags me to his place kicking and screaming regularly. When I come home I may just practice Sword Kata, providing the Reverend doesn't give me too many Beers I don't drink at home. The Duality of Life. I Hope you feel a bit better about things. Just know, You aren't alone.
@kelly hoover Uh Oh. You realized I'm a Healthcare Professional....yikes.
'I am without doubt healthier when alone', as well as thinking clearer.
Yeessss
Yeah...I do need to get by myself to just be able to think!!!!
Me too
🎯!!!
I had no idea this “INFJ” thing existed until now. It feels really weird hearing someone talk about things the same way I do, especially the part about empathy. I never expected there to be an actual label that explains why I am the way I am either. I don’t even know what to think right now. Thank you a million times for making this video!
The stare and the “thinking face.” I relate to that so hard lol. Girl own it!! You are super special! I think that once you own these traits to the point that you don’t feel like you have to justify or make excuses for the parts that are special about you, you’ll be a lot more confident and even more socially at ease. For me, it took a few therapy sessions to fully feel seen and accepted for some of my “rare” traits (because yeah, INFJs can feel kind of like an alien!). My confidence coming out of that though let me be just be at peace with myself in a tangible way, and my insecurity of being different didn’t “check me out” of the present nearly as often as it did before. Being different and being fine with it I think is the core of confidence, and confidence allows you to stay connected, despite whether the other person even “gets” you or not. Yeah girl, you’re super special and I think you just need to own it ;)
Good observation! 👍
This is the nicest, most interesting comment section I've seen. People with nothing to prove!
Huh, you are so right! Didn't think of it first xD
Lmao cuz most of us here are INFJ
Because we're not competitive. We're so cool...🥰
I once asked a woman I didn’t know who was sitting in front of me in church if I could hug her. I could just feel her sadness. She wasn’t crying or anything but I just felt her sadness. She agreed and I hugged her. Some time later I learned she had, had cancer and had passed away.
Good for you being loving 😊
That's beautiful, but I don't relate.
She's sure going to give you that hug when you get to heaven & thank you cause you gave her what she really needed..God bless you: )
Yes i had to learn how to know if i should Try and talk to people and help or not
God bless you.
Totally relate. You’re doing fine. It all has its purpose and will balance out as you continue to grow and shape your life.
"INFJs keep being your alien self, I love you all, I love myself" that is the perfect morning affirmation 😂🙏🏾It's cool that you're an INFJ that is comfortable articulating yourself so well in front of the camera because I could be journaling or talking out loud (to myself to be honest) and as soon as I turn the camera on, its a similar effect as if another person comes in the room. My mind doesn't flow as freely. I totally resonate with what you shared.
"Does that make sense?"
Literally the epitome of being an infj 😆
I SAY THIS EVERY DAY AFTER EVERY SENTENCE 😅😅😅
Omg I say that so much
I think the most common thing for INFJs and introverts is feeling isolated or alienated by others. I have never really felt like i belong anywhere.
Same here. Exactly how it is.
The Andrew K Channel , as an INFJ, you will find TOTAL understanding in TLiG.org. Best thing ever!
I dont think others completely isolate us.. i think we do it to ourselves.. was told by my shrink a couple months ago i had an INFJ personality.. maybe im looking into this stuff too deep... who knows.
@@TimSpaw1leg I think both are true.
Tim Spaw , "i might be an infj" + "i could be looking in too deep" hahahahahaha! Id say, confirmed.
I got the, "Are you an angel?" question, then from the same person a little later she asked if I was a demon. She kept staring at me switching back and forth trying to read me. I'd see the look on her face change from total adoration to absolute fear. I kept telling her that I wasn't either. Just a human being. But I was reading her and she seemed astonished that I could understand her so spot on. So she vacillated between thinking I had supernatural powers but couldn't tell if they were good powers or bad powers. I kept trying to assure her that I had no supernatural abilities. She left, kissing my hand like I was some sort of angel. It felt totally creepy!!!
lol this made me laugh. yea, I have people stare at me and It makes me so insecure obviously because thats our first instinct and thought is that somethings wrong with us but maybe it is because we give a vibe and glow and people try to figure us out or read us.
this has happened to me too-people saying that I have supernatural powers or that i’m 🤢 like an angel/ET being
Traditionally this personality trait has been realized by the mystics from all ages and cultures. As an INFJ you're compelled to build harmony from within all the way into the chaotic world outside. This is damn difficult particularly in the modern time where social and conceptual structures constantly shift their boundaries and focus. As you make it through and grow older you eventually develop the resilience and strength to have your light shine through into the wider surroundings and feel at home in the world around. Thanks for sharing.
INFJ here, agree on all fronts..... any other INFJ's feel they're stuck in their heads with no connection to both their physical bodies & words, I almost prefer silence over communicating.
Paul Messis yes! Yoga and cardio helps me feel a little more in my body. Coffee helps me connect. But that’s something I often feel too
As the male type ... All the time man!
Yes but I am over the years I've been able to block out the negative express myself more then I used but I still run into misunderstanding but I do the best I can I think it's going to help somebody else
Truth.
...the again...we Are here. We are just 'quiet' about it....hard to be 'seen' in a screaming world. 😶
I''m an INFJ and watching you talk is like looking in a mirror. Wow.
Yes, I feel the same. Mirror.
Yes, totally!
Yep, same here. Strange.
Same.
Right??? I judge myself so much harder though haha
well said, i have a similar almost debilitating sensitivity to strong emotions of others, my biggest one is embarassment, when i see someone humiliated or embarrassed i have a physical reaction as if i am the one personally embarrassed, the twisted gut, the flushed face, fight or flight panic ect. like when a stranger drops something at the grocery store
Exactly.. same.
Incredible. I totally relate to everything! I think that we INFJs are very into personality types because we feel like aliens all the time and we want to know why
When you were telling that story about “Joe” I was ROOTING for you. I TOTALLY relate to that and I am proud of you for handling it the way you did.
Been there too gurl 😅
Yeah agreed. Your reaction was heroic.
Agreed! The vulnerable and "powerless" must be supported raised up and defended. I believe that's one of our purposes. Amazing what you did :)
i literally felt so anxious as if i was joe by hearing this-
"i usually cant think, in the presence of another person.." Story of my life as an INFJ haha
P.S. This video made me smile and you should keep chatting about being an INFJ :)
"i usually cant think, in the presence of another person.." Do you think it might be because you are taking in so much information about the people and situation in which you are surrounded? I too, am INFJ, and I think that is exactly why I would make the same statement you just made.
Bill Rankin I think it’s for a number of reasons and it also depends on the social situation.
I definitely understand what you are saying and experience something similar. When I go to social events.. I could be talking to someone but my brain will be reading the emotional temperature of the room at the same time. Which takes some of my mental “bandwidth” which makes it hard to fully engage in the discussion I’m having.
Other times I feel it’s because it takes me a while to fully process my thoughts. Both in an emotional way and intellectual way. So when I am standing in front of someone formulating an idea/thought I get stuck sometimes because I end up just lost in my mind processing haha!!
So yeah, for me there are definitely a couple reasons. More than I’ve listed.. but I think you’re on the money with your suggestion. I for sure relate to what you are saying :)
Agreed, and your bandwidth analogy is spot on.
Super relatable. I'll share a little too:
For years I felt thought suffocation was my unique problem. It felt like being an almost thinking person, like a rare condition I hadn't heard of yet, that was only aggravated when more people were added to a room. I wondered if I had been dropped on a specific part of my head as baby in a unique way that made the sight of people more difficult to process. That people crowded thought. Subjectively my perceiving part of the brain was too slow for the thinking part so all the thinking would bounce around unconsciously in a useless, wild form until perception caught up, or the thinker found a way to make sound-bites and fit thought into the right mold. All the perfect, articulate answers come hours later after the opportune moments.
These days with group work and with mild inferiority I'll say, "I'm sorry, I haven't formed an opinion yet. Give me some more time to mull over the details." Then I'll send them what my mind was hiding in written form over media. If contributions are expected it's all pre-prepared so that the idiot I'll be can simply perform the idiot task of courier:
"uh, yeah. It's all in there where I wrote it."
"but we'd like to hear some of your thoughts."
"I'm good. Just have a read when you have some time." [retreat into self]
It seems most are uneducated about cognitive styles. At my work rumour has got to me that my boss has described me as a "very smart person who behaves like an idiot" due to how slowly thoughts form. "What’s up with this guy? He just stares into space a lot." I stand there stifled still taking things in while others have already jumped to the simple answer. Such is life as an intuitive thinker.
I’ve definitely lost count of the times I’ve been described as “too intense”. I don’t mean to be... 🤷🏻♀️
Same here ! , it's difficult too talk with shallow people , small talk is boring .. at times my mind switching to Stay Focused and yet maintain conversations
My beta thought process , people say I look like a cop having a bad day .
It's ok. The right people will understand you.
@@greeneyedparadox6609 A rare moment when they get it and when it happens they have my attention ...
@@michaeldanao6326 sometimes thats all it takes.
"if I have to run or climb a tree..." OMG, you have no idea how often I use that very thing to explain my one things to other people, it's either that or 'what if a bear comes out of nowhere...' I feel much less crazy now, thank you
I’m an INFJ and you’re the first INFJ youtuber I’ve watched that felt like I was watching myself speak. Just the way you speak and talk through points. Sounds just like me. I experience all of these things too. I’m currently struggling with the empathy. I feel everything as if I’m the one it’s happening to and recently realized friends/loved ones hear/witness the same thing and are just like “that stinks..” and they move right on. 🤯
Yka Marie SAME HERE 🤯
As a survivor of trauma and an INFJ...I DOUBLE feel u...many professionals don't have enough empathy to have people's lives in their hands...❤🌺
Well i had lot of problems with this too but, you have to realise it today or tomorrow that you can only do so much.. It is a fact that none of us can change. I am sure you have thought of this too but, to actually put it into practice is annoying. I used certain limitations on myself so that i take care of myself, coz if i take care of myself then only i will take care of others 🤷🏻♂️. Many a times i have seen the root of the problem but when you try to help out the person, the person doesn't wish to change and solve that problem once and for all 🤷🏻♂️ either you can waste your time or accept the fact that some realities people have to face alone. But that doesn't mean do nothing. Keep in mind the stakes and the current position, don't get swayed by the emotions. They are our BIGGEST asset as INFJ. It's a double edged sword that we wield and only a few are allowed to wield it.
P. S i couldn't control but try to help out hopefully it does help :P 😂
I can literally finish your sentences... nailed it.
I thought this too…like the same way I tell a story 😅 it’s like I can hear you thinking
“Irrationally radical empathy” Nailed it!
I think you’re awesome. I’m an INTP, I spend a bunch of time by myself, I do trait #1 all the time haha and people give me confused looks. I love how you’re so honest and hold yourself accountable for things you feel are wrong. I’m also with you on trait #5, Pilot G2 pens are the best pens, hands down lol I’m with you there, and I also buy the same stuff when it works for me, and I get frustrated if they discontinue something I want to buy again. I can def tell you’re an intellectual from the way you speak and think, and I always ask “if that makes sense” . I love how much you care about people and the way you said you consume people, I kind of relate to that in that I study people I care about. You’re absolutely beautiful, and I would love to meet you!
Keep em coming. You’re an inspiration
You’re a lovely soul. There’s a reason INFJ’s are rare, their a conduit to awakening other souls
*They're
Sorry, I'd want someone to help me out, so I'm compelled to let you know. Please don't hate me.
Much love.
Richard Cook
So true. My dear so true
Richard Cook we are sooooo incredibly sensitive to the world and people around us. I cant do small talk, because i am too busy feeling their feelings lololol
@@slitheringsoundcat7996 lol
@@evieoneder From one to another please learn to protect yourself. I recommend you build a shield around you. Like an invisible cloak. It is not healthy to be 'open' to absorbing others feelings 24/7. It will ultimately damage your abilities as an INFJ and may compromise your MH. INFJs must protect themselves first in order to help others. It is very important. I can't stress it enough. Even though we are sensitive to others, we are also strong. But resonating with others feelings will weaken our natural strength. Then we are no good for us or others. Look after you first. This is not selfish. This comes from a place of love.
ps as an INFJ you need to have strong barriers. That way when you choose to help others, it is your choice, a conscience decision and with the appropriate energy and focus. As an INFJ, if you live life in a reacative way, you will exhaust yourself and other areas of your life may be compromised. People will no longer see your value. They will see you as a failure and your desire to help wont even be wanted. This of course is the exact opposite of what an INFJ would want.
Me and my friends have noticed that as we, INFJ's, talk about something that matters to us, we slowly raise our voice without noticing. Great video btw, you are beautiful :)
That’s caused pressure speech! I do it too, It’s related to anxiety and other mental illnesses
Lol omg, how accurate! This constantly happens to me and ppl are always asking why I'm yelling so loud.. i thought it was my hearing but now i know 😋😋
So true
Just know that when you “read” those other people or take the temperature of a room, it costs you something. As an INFJ and empath, I have learned to prepare myself for such occasions and plan in recovery time as well. It is necessary in order to avoid self-destruction or succumbing to narcissists/sociopaths.
Awesome hearing you articulate so well everything that has always been felt but remained unspoken. Your awareness is so refreshing! Thank you for this!
Standing up for others is not a bad thing.Its admirable.
Kaire Meriniit it’s exhausting when you’re the only one who does it
@@brokenbitch9957 It is, and at the same time what Kaire wrote is 100% true. Integrity and subtle power is beautiful in humans.
I literally scrolled down to the comments hoping to see that someone had addressed this. ❤️
It is usually a good thing. But the "standing up for someone" has to be within reason. Imagine somebody running into someone else (not by accident, but cleary because the person doesn't care about others) while running on the street. You see that person now running towards you. Now imagine yourself feeling that overwhelming sense of justice or empathy in yourself. The reasonable/admirable thing to do would be to tell them that their behavior is bad etc. The unreasonable thing to do would be to attack them and swing punches towards them. "Standing up for someone else" is only a good thing to do if the person who you are standing up for even cares about the injustice that has taken place against them. Let's say the person who got run into just doesn't care about that other person running into them. If you run after that person to scald them, you just make a "deal" out of a "no deal" situation.
Yes me too!
100% there with you. It gets a bit easier as you get older but even at 52, I'm still the alien in the room. LOL.
Snap. Though I just came to some conclusions that I may be hyperfocus/ASD. Then this video.
Are INFJs ASD or co-morbid with it?
I feel you. I'm 55 and getting more sensitive
JessicaBelle I do this, too. I’m 51 and while some of the things described in this video still have a profound impact like when I was much younger, some situations I’ve learned to cope with better. I also avoid people because it seems easier, but I am sad because I love being with people.
Ive been called an alien on multiple occassions
I’m 51.... this is so good to hear... I do wish this platform was available when I was your age. I’ve learned ways to cope and compensate for my deficits as well as ways to leverage my strengths. Thank you for doing this
I’ve never felt so understood! Thanks for expressing these traits so clearly, Katie.
Katie, you're a genuine INFJ....and a beautiful ❤️ one to. I can hear in your voice and actions ☺️ you're awesome...
Never stop defending those that are wronged. Agree with all your actions as an INFJ. Unfairness sets me off all the time and also gets me in trouble!
We digress a lot during a conversation - almost like we’re having our multiple thoughts out loud. It’s amazing. When I see fellow INFJs, we all have similar eye movements, thought process, speech patterns, awkward and self-conscious body language. It’s a treat to watch these videos. I don’t encounter many INFJs in real life.
This is the 1st video of hers I have watched, and I couldn't agree more. I'm kinda blown away... It's got me seeing so much. Cheers and all the best out there !
I have never encountered another infj in person, I would love too though.!
Yes, yes, and yes (multiple thoughts at once). Yep!
This video was refreshing and a joy to watch. Please keep making them OK?
OMG your story about 'Joe' gave me the chills,, totally relate as an empathic INFJ 🌺
Wow, thank you for making me cry. Hearing such a young person talk about all the things I experienced all my life. I am 67 y.o. and only found out about my INFJ-hood early this year. Now I can put the jigsaw together, better late than never.
Thank you adrian w. I'm 50 and just truly learning about it now. I don't think any of my therapists were any good, if this is the first I am hearing of it.
I didn't want to say anything, because I felt foolish for not knowing this by my age, but like others on this platform, you have given me some more courage to express myself and in return I hope to encourage others.
@@procyonlotor1906 Merci beaucoup. There is a band in the Netherlands with the name Racoon. No idea why they dropped the other "C". Dyslexia? 15 yrs ago they wrote "Love you more" . It's because of your name, I wanted you to know. Bear used to be my nickname. All my life I try to help others, never thought though, I was doing it here on you tube . I hope for you, that you will get a sweet message from someone someday too, as a reaction to something you wrote. So, please express yourself like you did today, everyday. I wish you strength.
Adrian
me too, though I learned about it when I was 59.
my friends sometimes ask me if i'm sad or mad or they will say your zoning out again, but really my brain is going haywire with all the things i could possibly think at one time.
Wow. Thank you for sharing.
Yes, yes, and yes.
Yes. And when I said nothing. I'm happy not sad or mad. But they didnt believe me. They'll say my face looks gloomy/scary. They even tell me, when my face is scary-mode-on-but-I-didnt-realize-coz-I-just-feel-soso, they scare to approached me and scare to talk to me. I just.. dunno I have to feel happy because they leave me alone and I can continue my busy-thinking again or feel sad because in that way they just left me behind and I will feel sad. Nah this moment what they think of me become reality. Dang
Me too! My "resting face" looks mad/sad to others. Then they tell me I'm angry, when I'm not, seriously not.
OMG! And no one has a clue how loud it is inside our heads! We're constantly trying to make sense of and sort the multitude of ideas and thoughts going on in our brains.
I get you! Thank you for making this video.
💕 you 🌞.
I love your beautiful soul. You are the most beautiful person i have seen on youtube. We need more people like you in this wicked world. Please never change who you are.
I think one of the most basic traits is what you are doing right here and now: extensive self-analysis.
Not because we are self absorbed, just because we don't only want to be able to understand everyone else, but also ourselves, for ourselves, and also in order to be able to explain the way we work to others. Like a personal user guide, because we know we are hard to understand. We want to make interaction with us easier for others.
Unfortunately that has the tendency to only confuse most people even more because they don't understand what we're on about! :D
Yes! It is quite the opposite of being self-absorbed. "Like a personal user guide, because we know we are hard to understand," - brilliant description. One of the hardest insults for me to hear is that I am self-centered. I feel so much the opposite of that at my core, but it's hard not to take someone's opinion of me seriously when they perceive me in that way. I find that the more inner work and extensive self-analysis I do, the further I can see into another person's inner experience. It increases my understanding, my compassion.. it opens my mind to the endless nuances and intricacies of every single personality, every single other complex human being out there. Getting to know my condition is simultaneously the act of getting to know THE human condition, our collective humanity. I loved your comment, thank you!
@@katiemarie8899
Precisely.
And thanks. :)
@@katiemarie8899 ikr! When I was a teenager, I always fought with my parents, especially my mom. She always said to me that I'm selfish. At that time, I was so angry why she said that and in my head I have many reasons why I'm not selfish. But she is. Idk why she thought like that. Its really hurt me.
@@_SY77 It is called "projection," and yes, it sucks and is very wrong. Don't let people do that to you again.
I've basically given up on seeing any value in descriptions of myself from others. No matter how much energy you put in making yourself understood, it doesn't land anyway. And I find I live a lot better not giving a damn about what others think of me. 49yr old male infj.
You're the most INFJ I have come across here on UA-cam. I related heavily on the empathy and the dishonesty parts. It feels nice to hear from someone else what usually goes on in your head, but can't, or don't tell anyone because they won't understand or dismiss it as just talk. It's refreshing.
All For Yahweh hi 👋 I would love to read your poetry 💕
@@AFY-nd5nr I'd love to read your poetry as well :)
Ahhhh! The stare!! haha. An old coworker used to ask me to “stop scanning everybody!” and it really is an effort to appear as if you aren’t...
Katie, thank you for sharing so honestly and humbly! Even as an ISFJ (who doesn't have the unique intuitive gifts you do as an INFJ), I just want to keep saying "You're not alone in what you feel!" I can readily identify with your empathy and compassion for others, and I think you have an admirable way of standing in the gap for them! I pray that you continue to heal (you've been through a lot and given so much of yourself) and learn to love and embrace your unique gifts and talents; you don't need to be perfect to have a beautiful heart!
"Look at them...too much, look away...now look back." I'm glad to know that someone else has to do this. Seeing is feeling and even sometimes touching so it gets to be awkward. What you see, you change; what you hear changes you; what you touch, you become part of. But, when seeing is touching, you become part of the other person more often than you want to.
I think the thing that makes me feel most alienated is my need to see patterns in behaviors from others. I am constantly trying to see what makes them feel happy/sad/any emotion. I feel like I read people like a book instead of seeing them in front of me😬
MultiFabulous14 THIS!
Eye contact,iget people telling me you put me off you stare right in my eyes when you talk to me it makes people feel all weird they can't tell me what they were saying, you have just told my life the way it is glad I'm not the only one
Very well said!
our radical empathy and the actions that come of it are definitely what gives us the title “advocate.” also, i’d like to say that i appreciate you for being an advocate for those people from you past! i think it’s very rarely inappropriate to speak up for somebody. sadly, my social anxiety holds me back from acting on my defensive impulses half the time, but i really, really relate to that uncontrollable urge to defend the defenseless. i also very much relate to every other point you made. crazy how that works
Thank you so much for creating your content, Katie. Knowing that I'm not alone in this as an INFJ is very reassuring. I can relate to so much of what you're saying here and in your other videos. You're beautiful, brave, and well spoken.
non-linear jumps 1000% feel that, and is a bummer when others can't reciprocate it
Yes, and I didn't even realize how much of a jump I have made because for me it was all logical and natural and I get annoyed when people can not follow. I just thought that they didn't listen to what I was saying because they don't care and this hurt me. So it's all actually a big misunderstanding from my wrong assumptions. Thanks for clarifying this to me. I am an Infj by the way.
quantum mindset
Why not grow up and “use your words” to describe it to others instead of being disappointed and miffed that they “just don’t get it” ...?
But...if you find the perfect item THE STORE WILL STOP STOCKING IT !
and your favorite show will get canceled
girl6girl6 this happens way more often than I’d like. Finally a show I love, next episode, we’re canceling. But I actually like this one. Stupid everyone for liking other stuff. LOL
Honestly, I’m so grateful for you sharing this! I do ALL of the aforementioned things & just to hear someone else talk about doing the same things made me feel a lot less lonely for 25 minutes. It was also really cool to see a mirror..sometimes I genuinely don’t know why people are always trying to hang out with me but then seeing you, it’s like ‘Oh, those quirks are actually pretty cute & I shouldn’t degrade myself for them.’ Thank you for sharing, sincerely.
Your empathy for “Joe” that enabled you to notice what was really going on, which then resulted in your own pain and emotional release....for me results in a somewhat similar feeling but more akin to a righteous anger and an overwhelming desire to defend the aggrieved party and give a voice to the unfairness of it. I instantly see red and the injustice compels me to speak or act in much the same way you did. I’ve learned to choose my battles for the most part and keep it to myself as the intensity of my reaction can scare or intimidate people (it’s probably a bit more aggressive than your approach and tinted with that anger) but I try to see it as a gift in those instances where I am justified in righting a wrong or restoring balance. I think it throws off our deeply ingrained sense of harmony to the point that we can’t let it go by. I believe if you pick your moments, just like you did with Joe, it can be a wonderful thing and part of the altruism and advocacy we can offer other human beings and feel like we’re doing something good even in some small way.
Good for you for speaking up for “Joe”! That situation would probably have scarred him if not for you. It sucks when professors take advantage of the power differential in a classroom setting.
Steven absolutely. Most of the time we are somewhat shy observers but sometimes it does feel like a duty of ours to stand up for what’s right. There’s a certain fearlessness that comes with it at times.
“Joe” approached me after that class and thanked me with tears in his eyes. so I don’t regret it for a single second.
@@katiemarie8899 It's funny how we find the courage to stand up for others much more readily than ourselves.
I think this trigger is 'injustice'. I can be hard with people but will, like you, go out on a limb if I see injustice.
@@broadpete Yes, I feel very sensitive about what I perceive to be an injustice.
dont regret standing up for 'joe' you never know what positive affect you had in his day or even life x people have been saved from suicide by people doing similar things to you x well done .
You’re absolutely correct. I’m a quiet INFJ as well, but quick to stand up to bullies 😊
Everything You've Expressed is so Real! Thank You
the only video I've seen where the viewer can actually get a grip on what's in an INFJs mind. you're so thoughtfull in choosing your words so it looks very authentic! I love the way you explaining things and I understand what you said the best that I could. I'll propably ruminate about what you said for a long time after watching this video!
My goodness I always love hearing other INFJ speak. We think our ways are so strange (which they are haha) but hearing someone else speak of the same weirdness feels so validating it’s absolutely amazing! I have big issues with working in groups and it’s a huge problem because in my work I have to do this and it’s hard explaining to others that I work best on my own. I can’t think around other people is exactly what I would say! My sister is INTJ and it was amazing growing with her. Dad is INFP and we also get along but not as deep as INTJ. Thanks for sharing 🤗
I've learned over the years as an INFJ how to manage some of my characteristics. Like when my mind wants to make those jumps that no one else will follow, I've learned not to speak all of what I'm thinking, and instead speak like I'm doing a simple instructional tutorial. The problem with that is that I feel restricted and it makes me concerned that it will make my creativity atrophy. It's way more fun to do the multipoint hyperspace idea thing, but you need someone you can do it with, or we're just not having any fun anymore.
Hi Walter, I just learned about the INFJ personality type and I’ve been in complete awe the last 24 hours.. The non linear jumps in ideas concepts and conversations have brought me success but sometimes lots of stress and misunderstandings when dealing with people.
Sometimes I can tell that the people that I’m trying to explain something to, are wondering if I’m a genius or a complete doofus.. My projects and work are usually a mess until they aren’t, the last piece brings everything together and then the questions come on how I was able to figure out that, or how did I got that idea. My thought was that everyone is capable of doing this things, they just choose not to.
I love the multipoint hyperspace idea concept, it just clicks.
All of this ^^^^. Also I usually have and idea like these and I will blurt out the last sentence to the idea and gave to back track to how I got there. About everything though. When I need something and need to explain it to someone who has no idea what I'm talking about, it is a complete failure. Dont ask me to play pictionary
and this is the most natural flowing video I ve ever seen, like it's what I have expected you to say, or me to say
Thanks- the bag, purse bit had me laughing. Pockets all the way. I still don’t own a purse or bag and i’m 47. 😂
As an INFJ, I am obsessed with notebooks and pens lmao! I have my own favorite pens
That's awesome ...I love pens ...certain paper ..ohhh I LIKE ROCKS ..🐿😇
I like Pilot extra fine point, black.
+what interest the most are tokens of life that hold deeper meaning or value. when it aquires more then one meaning to posses or to have. normally we keep it or keep it as extra. but we don't always keep something if deposible has more logic to keep we might have that if we can recycle it. we think longer term goals when it in are awareness. does that give enough information?
Totally true. I've been a fountain pen collector since I was like 13 years old, and I don't even know how I discovered a love of pens but I still love writing and calligraphy and beautifully crafted fountain pens (especially antique flex nib pens) to this day. And I love fine notebooks as well.
Me too, lol! Black pens and beautiful or cool notebooks. STAPLES and OFFICE DEPOT are my toy stores so to speak. 😊👍🏽
Me: I am alone...
UA-cam: There is another...
Me: ❤️
feel the same : D
You are never alone Maduin 6969, as long as I think of you, you can’t be alone my friend. Stay well
You to Zharkan 16, please remember, in my eyes you are a super hero, larger than life, maybe you don’t see it, because your to busy looking down on ur self, instead of acknowledging that amazing giant from within.
I'm INFJ, and it's crazy how I related to EVERYTHING you said. Especially the thing about the pen. I'm exactly the same. I have ONE shampoo I always use, ONE brand of shoes, ONE favorite sweater. If I need to buy a new one I always buy the same, for years! I don't like change, or changing something that works perfectly for me. But sometimes they stop selling my lovely product and that's not fun... You're amazing to listen to. And I understand completely. It was brave of you to stand up for Joe. I started boiling just listening to the story! INFJs always understand, and root for, the underdog, and whenever I watch a situation handled badly or wrongly I start boiling, and often I lash out angrily saying "Excuse me, but HOW could you say that? Did you not understand what was happening? Take it back please."
I feel understood now haha. Nice to know there are a few of us who are like this in the world. Take care! ♥
Wow! I completely understand and relate to you and I have never known anyone that thinks like me - this is so great! I’m so happy I discovered you
It's so rare to see someone being this honest about their inner world.
I almost forgot it was possible !
Your video inspired me to be more open about my own and talk freely about it.
It's beautiful how aware you are of the way your mind works.
I know your a true INFJ when thinking about it hurts you, I'm the same way I can feel hurt from the same situation as many times as I allow it from just remembering the moments
Literally, is like having infj ptsd
Infj guy here. To think. I am only fifteen and I can one hundred percent relate to every single thing you are talking about. I have always been this way my whole life. I labeled myself as different from everyone else from a very young age. The urge to fit in is so consuming. Especially now in high school. But one day I was researching dreams because I wasn’t happy with the explanation “It’s mysterious and well never know why.” So I found an add that said, “Are you the rarest personality type?” I didn’t even know personality types were a thing lmao. So I look up infj and as I’m sitting here reading non stop all these things about us, it’s like “I am reading my users manual right now I feel violated.” Lol. But I am super thankful that there are people like you willing to share and help those that misunderstand us. Even us at times. Ps: I’m the type that rarely opens up to people unless I trust them 200% but tip to anyone who reads this and is my age: an authentic from the heart love letter will guarantee me to crush hard on you lol. Again thank you
I use the exact same pen and have for years! Everything you’ve said in the video is perfectly articulating how I operate and what I experience. Aside from the INJF stare, I haven’t heard a lot of the points you make on other INFJ channels. Classic INFJ-only engaging when you’re adding to the conversation. Thank you for sharing your inner world!
Yeah, non-linear Conversations at lightening speed... it’s called “tracking”, most people cannot do that, and it is a wonderful gift, if you are in the right job or place in your life, where you can use it to help people.
I am an ENFJ and thanks for sharing the true name. I truly enjoy IN/EN personality types because I do not feel like I have to "carry" the conversation.
What are good jobs for this skill??
@@elainacordova4397 Entrepreneur, Educator, Business Professional, Banking, or any job where you have to remember loads of factual information. You can do all of these jobs relatively alone also, to prevent your anxiety from skyrocketing.
Speaking up for someone who I see as being wronged takes up so much of my energy that I feel weak and vulnerable afterwards and thus need alone time to recuperate.
Sometimes days for me. Definitely agree!!!
Please try meditation afterwards, it could help you rejuvenate with unlimited positive cosmic energy.
Strangely I feel empowered after I take up someone who has been wronged in my opinion. I feel like I was the one who was wronged, then after I confront and try to diffuse the situation I feel like Ive righted a wrong. I do have an increased heart rate and I’m emotional, but also feel elated on some level.
While what she did was very dangerous with serious repercussions and could have been better handled by being reported to the authorities (be careful how you make your complaint and don't get too upset if they ignore it), the fact she so bravely stood up for others instead of ignoring it is very attractive to me and frankly a bit of a turn on.
(Nearly 46 and just found out I'm an INFJ and at least now the emotional and mental drain makes sense to me now...)
Stay safe and good luck!
Veronica.....I once spoke up for a tubby boy that a group of older boys Tripped on the school bus when I was in 4th grade. All his lunch spilled out everywhere, and he cried. I on the other-hand was magnificently cruel to the three older bullies. They just stood there amazed, me being a little girl. I can t tolerate bullies. One mentor told me I had Too much compassion. An english professor told me I should be a writer? I resemble both of those remarks.
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You are just Genuinely Fair & Good person.
😂 Right down to the same pen! 🤣 How refreshing this was to watch! ❤️ Thank you! 🙏
-Fellow INFJ
To stand up in the face of injustice is nothing short of courageous. Never be ashamed of your courage. You did right by "Joe" he is lucky to have had representation when he could not do so himself at that moment.
When you told the story about Joe, I literally felt the whole thing- especially when you said you ran to the hall to cry after standing up for him😭😭😭
Ohhh man... that whole "pen & purse" thing - I GET IT! I am the same way ; if I find something I like, THAT'S IT! There's no need to keep "shopping around". If I like something enough I will stock up and buy in bulk so I have more if I lose or break the one I have (or if it's stolen). I do not feel the need to "try new things" unless there's a logical and valid reason to branch out or find something else - like, if I used up the last of my "favorite" thing and they stopped making them so I can't get anymore! (I HATE that, and it infuriates me!)
The ONLY time I ever bother with more than one "favorite thing", then it is because I simply CANNOT DECIDE. I do not like being forced to choose "just one" so I say to hell with it, and I get whatever I like, as many as I like. And that is all the "variety" I need.
You sound like an abstract thinker.... able to add a lot more dimension to a conversation... that’s great!
INFJ-T here... I laughed out loud when you mentioned the pen... I've gone through sooo many pens to find the right one for me, and in 2014 I did. It's the "graphik ink liner", black, 3.0mm tip. Love that pen so much
The finer the point, the better the point. :-)
The "where has this pen been all my life!" lol! so true!
I also have a "the pen". Mine is a Pilot G-Tec 0.3mm, black.
Funny thing, the blue one she showed is the exact one I've been sticking too, except I get it in black.
Bic pen, black, fine point tip.
The. Only. Pen.
I had no idea that anyone else cared🙃
All the INFJ males watching this just fell in love...
(Edit)
I knew it... so we're all in agreement. Women like this are so hard to find. You're more likely to stumble across bigfoot riding a unicorn than a woman like this.
But seriously... being an INFJ is not fun.
Maybe we're always in love.
I was just about to comment the same thing. Like "Wow I just found my soul mate" lol
tru
ENTP's and INFJ's have this strange, wonderful and deep connection with each other (look it up; it confirmed my own experiences), although it might seem strange.
This ENTP also just fell in love...
No, I hate fake laughs TBH. I know it's a coping mechanism but my brain automatically sees it as fakeness or weakness and rejects it.
Edit: Actually I kind of take that back, I think it's much more a reaction to nervousness or not being able to express yourself properly.
"Joe's" story reminds me of the film "joker" .. Good for your defending him.
Oh my word you are so lovely! I'm INFJ too do not lose your empathy! Empathy is a super power and standing up for people with no voice is so brave.
I'm an INFJ and for my whole life, I thought something was wrong with me. Hearing this has made me almost sob the whole time. Thank you for sharing this, Katie. But I'm on an extreme scale with empathy. I am that person. I am that animal.
I feel you lol, I started tearing up after I took the test and heard the first trait she mentioned. It's like it all makes sense now
So you are an INFJ Empath. I have been like this my whole life too.
I relate to most of these!! 😭😭 But I can definitely say that there are different types of INFJs since we all grew up differently alongside when we were born.
Example, I’m an INFJ, a Leo, and someone that grew up without emotional support from their family.
My everyday life is very tiring and lonely :/
Hope all you INFJs out there know that you’re not alone ☺️
There definitely are different types of INFJs, I know I can't generalize and say we're all the same! I do want to mention that I, too, had a very painful childhood without much nurturing, acceptance, or emotional support from my family. Most days I am very lonely, drained, and sad. It just so happens that most of the days that I have the motivation to film a video- are days when I feel good. I don't ever want to project the image that I am happy and totally confident. I totally empathize with and relate to your situation, as do so many other INFJs in the comments. It's nice that we can all support each other, even in small ways like in youtube comments :)
Mazy- I’m an INFJ Leo and also had very little childhood emotional nurturing. If it’s any consolation, life has got better & better the older I become. You are not alone xxx
infj leo here, never lacked any emotional support in my childhood that I know off, but never had the feeling needing much either. I think from a very young age I learned to regulate my own emotions. I remember witnessing the power dynamics of my fellow kindergarten 'class' mates, and especially the violent out of control guy most were afraid of (but was popular with the all female teachers) at age 4. I was the only one getting along with him, but I treaded carefully.
I also don't remember ever feeling lonely in my live when I'm alone. It does however happen in company of others, where there is some obligated group activity I don't particulary care for.
Thinking off it, I cannot conceive of anyone being able to nurture me emotionally, when a child or now.
Every talking point you spoke on I totally felt like you were talking for me, it's really refreshing to listen to someone who I can relate to. Very glad I found your video, your a treasure! Thanks for sharing
You have a lot of courage. You are compelled to take action and speak on behalf of your convictions. Not everyone does that, regardless of their feelings.