I actually have imposter syndrome now. Once my employer found out I was INFJ after taking the test, they began gaslighting and creating cases. I left but this happens all the time. I'm quiet so it makes people uneasy. My bf who has a software engineering degree said I carry myself like I have a doctorate even though I just have a HS diploma and life experience. The confidence I have and how quiet I can be being busy observing people unnerved people who are superficial. I see right through them and they hate it.
Being an INFJ is weird. We start as these like low level characters with the least amount of points to put into stats and have to go through this 'learning curve' of needing to learn how to live in this world. But then we get this unique trait right off the bat where we also start with like a Bachelor's of Psychology.
Most of my life, I didn’t understand why other people didn’t see the truths and the patterns that I see. It would make me mad that they didn’t see them too, or I felt I was wrong, or crazy. Thanks for helping me understand I am not. Also in my childhood, my Dad teased me about always wanting to help others. That’s me. INFJ.
I’ve mastered the art of not giving AF. I’ve no secrets and I do not care what people say about me. Abandon me at your own detriment, for those who have, regret the permanent loss of me, after I’ve slammed and barricaded the door…there’s no coming back and I don’t give AF. I’ve got no secrets and who am I to judge about judging?😉😂 🤗❤️🇺🇸
The test really does explain a lot. I first took it in 1985. The Myers Briggs Indicator has stood the test of time. It came out a few years before I was born (I'm about a year older than you).
Accept and embrace your difference, your weirdness. As you accept your differences you will find others will, too, and you will attract your tribe while avoiding those who misunderstand you. Trying to "fit in" is where INFJs constantly face rejection, so create your own space, your own world, and your own ways, and then share that with open minded people who dig your vibe. Don't try to be like others, be yourself.
What is wrong with thinking and behaving like a robot???? 😃 And collecting hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of stuff that you probably don´t need. Wait a minute robots don´t feel? I forgot.
This topic is closely linked to social anxiety and trauma, bad experiences from the past where we stopped going out and started avoiding people and expressing ourselves.
When I realised that 9 out of 10 person who were saying I was weird, to me were narcissistic. They were doing this to ashamed me for clamping my abilities. So embarrassed about not being a sociality clone. And helped even more efficiently people.
😂of course narcissists will feel uneasy when around you…for you are empathetic and a human lie detector… their kind are the mortal enemy of the INFJ. Slay!😂 🤗❤️🇺🇸
Wow…I feel like God dropped this in my lap and I’m so grateful. I’m one of those people who have done lots and lots of internal work, made some progress, but my life pretty much exploded after I decided to publish my first fantasy novel a month ago. Exploded as in-my self esteem went down the drain as all my insecurities were dredged up and basically reinforced with mixed reviews and feedback. Rejection is my biggest fear, along with being invaluable and worthless. Anyway…half of me has regretted doing it, being in as much pain and agony as I’ve been in. But this video gives me hope that it’s the exact thing that’s going to heal me the most and set me free. And ultimately, I’ll do almost anything to be free of the emotional pain I’ve been in and the blocks that have held me back in life. Thank you 🙏🏼
Publish your books for YOU. And don't read the comments/feedback. You finished something great and that's something to be proud of. Your opinion of you matters more than the opinion of all that feedback. Keep putting yourself out there courageously, after all, you just did and you made it through ❤
A lot of great artist, musicians and writers had mixed or even terrible reviews. Beethoven’s music was too risqué for many… A lot of people hated Picasso’s work… Imagine how much creativity and beauty would be missing if these creatives allowed the haters to dictate whether or not their work should exist? INFJs are visionaries by nature, and because of this, we are often ahead of the curve and have to wait for others to catch up. Regardless if they ever catch up or not though… Brene Brown has said, “if you aren’t in the arena getting your ass kicked in this game of life, I am not open to your feedback.” So f*ck the peanut gallery… Keep creating, and let the haters who have risked nothing stay in the nose bleed seats.
Fear of rejection and reprisals always hold me back. But reality is we can’t control how others react to us. This video is a wonderful message. Tough love ❤but needed.
I have been let myself seen as my pure Infj self for a few years now. Very interesting results. As excepted, some love it, some hate it, and some can’t get enough of it. Never expected this reaction at this level
Now I understand why I always felt so lost when I went out, as if I was an alien. As long as I was in my own space, home, I felt peaceful and had an identification but whenever I would go out, it felt like hell because nobody would think of me as someone special, even though I had such different thinking and ideas. I still feel that way but atleast I know that there's nothing wrong with me.
Fear of rejection, and fear of criticsm. For me its not that hard anymore to be authentic with friends and family, but in job life it feels really complicated and I feel like Im just at the beginning.
Come on you can do it , stand alone but put your values right first and stand by it , or go against all at your office then being alone you can see what really are the things that you like
What i can tell you from my own experience is: dont do too much work, pass the message that your time is precious. Avoid too many useless meetings. Im more appreciated now that im not available. Before i was walked over.
I don't know if this is an infj thing or not but throughout life I'm constantly improving and learning and I do feel that to some extent once people get to know this about me and see my true self that they can be intimidated by me. This has lead to many friends leaving me over the years. I feel like people seem to be resistance to change and because I'm forever changing it can bring up unusual feelings in those people.
As an INFJ male, self-acceptance has been difficult as I'm not the stereotypical masculine man who likes weight lifting and cars, but I'm rather quite sensitive, artistic, empathetic, and sometimes I come across as quite serious and too deep and sentimental for some. But I've embraced my nature and learned that the only way to thrive is to be authentic so nowadays I try to not care about being "cool" or "normal" but just purely myself regardless of what others think
When I made my big change it was a process: a change in conversational habits, and facing something that had been bothering me for a long time. I told very few people about it, but a lot of them were seeing changes - which they couldn't always explain. The steps I started didn't happen all at once, but bit by bit, things improved. And interestingly enough, I did manage to find the right people with whom I could talk about it freely. There weren't a whole lot of them, but they were key people, and that's what mattered. I know that the biggest thing that caused the change was simply doing certain things in a way that came naturally to me, and not explaining why or how. I still continue to grow, and I know a lot of the growth even now was based on the times when I made choices that harmonized with these five points you've made here. And by the way, in my experience when I am doing something my own way, I usually find out that a person who tells me, "You're weird" says it because I'm not doing it his or her way! 😄
I took the test in 1993 & they said my score was very exceptionally rare-about the top 4%. So, if only 1% of the population is INFJ, & I’m 4% of that..? No wonder I’ve struggled all my life. I’ve bounced between being very well looked up to & being the bottom of the bottom. I’m very reserved due to rejection & having had narcissists in my life. I’m now in a place where I’ve lost a lot of relationships. God is my helper!
I never took the MBTI test seriously but after listening to your videos, you're clarifying a lot for me and it's surprisingly revealing. So now I'm thinking that there must be truth in it because your observations and suggestions are so relatable, compassionate, supportive & helpful. Thank you @Wenzes
Over time, I’ve realised It’s so important to grow to your full potential - to feel good about yourself and to be of service in the real world. Thanks for this content!
Wenzes, I want to say thank you. I am both astonished (and quietely proud) of how much of what you say I figured out myself, including how to best approach it, as well as impressed at how much more there still is to digest. I also wonder what my life had looked like now if I had discovered this 30-40 years ago (I am 49). I still feel reluctance towards embracing labels and strict classifications on my condition, even if those understandings fit to a tee, and I am sticking those labels myself. The time I put any value on the labels others use is long in the past. i will purchase one of your prodcucts as a token of appreciation of what you do and what you give. I also want to extend my thanks to those in the comment section. I am perfectly fine alone. But it sure as hell feels nice to discover I am not the only one after all. Thank you, all of you.
When someone says something harmful/negative about me and I'm hurt, it's not always because I already believe what they're saying. It's usually because I view everyone's thoughts & feelings as equal, so if someone says something bad about me it means that their opinion of me is just as valid as my own. They might be saying something negative that I've never even thought before, or that's the opposite of how everyone else views me, but I still take it seriously because who am I to say I know more than them (lol)? For me, the solution is learning to let go of the idea of "equality of opinions" and creating a hierarchy where my opinion of myself stands at the top. Maybe other INFJs can relate?
Ive been following Wenzes since 2020, and she still continues to be on par and deliver!🎉🎉🎉 Thank you😘 I gave my dream a shot and was shocked by the lack of support coming from my community in the way i had imagined it would. I kept thinking ppl were upset bc i changed directions or wanted to see me fail on my new venture, or doubted i was capable. I crumbled and i did step back and give up because I knew that if i had given up that easily then maybe i was approaching it from a hidden insecurity. This video answers my questions and confirms so much of what i was feeling was the cause and gives some practical guidance on how i can pick myself back up and move forward.
I am an INJF living in Baltimore, Maryland and my lifelong obsession has been history. Now that the Francis Scott Key Bridge is siting in the Boy - the DEPRESSION that is fueled by others hater and ignorance is REALLY affecting me! No one understands and it hurts my heart.
this video comes at a time, where I am pretty far on my self-concept journey, which made me guess if i am not an infj anymore after i am almost fine with who I am amongst other people ... but here we go...
I’ve listened to a bunch of your videos in the last two days. I can’t thank you enough. At 72, I don’t have a lot of time to be hesitant! I just dived in with to respect to a special? someone? Thank you, thank you, thank you. He may hate me, (too soon to know) but I’m ok with it! I am seen, whether anyone likes it or not!
Mi madre primero y después otra gente me han dicho que soy rara. Antes me dolía y ahora lo veo como un cumplido porque no quiero ser como los demás. Tampoco quiero ser como mi madre que valora a la gente según lo que posea. "Tanto tienes, tanto vales" es su forma de juzgar a los demás. No me importa ser su opuesta. Me parece un privilegio no parecerme a ella. Suena mal si no la conoces como yo la conozco: no tiene un gramo de instinto maternal. Saludos 🤗
I'm a big believer that we need to take responsibility to live good, rational lives. But these decisions are easier to make when we know ourselves better. When I listen to the explanations that you make, I appreciate the fact that you emphasize how we can take personal responsibility for how we handle what we were given to work with.
My struggle at this moment is the shame that creeps up for being a INFJ meaning the depth, sensitivity and feeling like no one else is like that or likes that. The tribe I would love is not available. If they are they are somewhere in a different state of which does me no good because I don't want online friends. I want people I can physically connect with at a coffee shop or something.
@vanessaskin Can I kindly challenge you? What if I tell you that all you want - you will have to do with/for/to/because of you and you only - You will be the only character on your stage of life for a while - and work out all of the negative emotion that arise in doing so - during this- people who will be in your tribe will come - Also challenge your belief in what tribe is and what form they come in(it could be that other fellow weird person you see every morning at the coffee shop). Like impermanence and frequency of energies (including humans) occupying our space. ❤
@@DearYoungerSelf111 Thank you! I appreciate your share and challenge!! Been in the process and some day's I'm for sure alone on that stage. I'll have to give your share some thoughts!
As I watch your videos, I find myself taking deep breaths or not breathing at all...and then taking deep breaths. After nearly 45 years of life, I still don't like that this is a reality.
Honestly, I feel ashamed when I am seen. I am afraid of letting my quirky side show. I am actually really quirky, when I'm not internalizing other people's gaze. I am so much up in my head and in my own world that I am sort of like the absent minded professor. And I know if I let that side of me show people are going to take me less serious and think that I am not dangerous or think that I am cute or whatever, and I don't really want that...
I have suffered slings and arrows my whole life. So going it alone aint nothin new to me. The world has not come knocking on my door and has very sparingly acknowleged me. In that i have continued on out of a love for the craft and intellectual process of articulating my perceptions. My temporal achivement has and is to clearly and concisely use all my knowledge and skills to articulate the point of light at the intersection of duality. What i can say is that my language and perceptions are being repeated through out the conversational lexicon. However as of late i have been disrespected once again where the biblical parable of Abraham came to mind where God asked him to sacrafice the thing he loved the most. With that i withdraw my gift and take back the power of insight by becoming silent.
I feel like I relate so strongly with the things you discuss in your videos. But I am stuck wondering if I just want to feel special. That I am just deluding myself to feel better.
Just walking around the mall yesterday I could hear comments as I'm walking by like, "where did he get that coat" or "how old do you think he is?" These are typically neutral comments but do people understand that we can see them staring at us in our peripheral view and that it extends to our hearing? Lol, people watchers can be the worst. 😂
First video of yours, really resonated with me! I’ve been reading a lot of experiences from people who does vipassana meditation and those who live like monks, and they talked a lot of things like this. I’ve feel like I’ve grown so much over the last year since I found out I was INFJ, and I can clearly see that people around me doesn’t follow where I’m headed, I’m constantly building more strength in all forms, and I’m ready to step out in the world again soon (I’m moving to a bigger city soon), after years of not meeting people much in real life.. I’m excited to be seen as a whole person and not the dozen of then and there impressions I make to be nice 😅
Just out of curiosity, I've noticed UA-cam has made changes to cards and video links for in-video pop-ups, and I don't think any of you have noticed. The video you reference at the end of the video actually pops-up a minute and a half before your queue. I have noticed this, because these pop-ups cover-up the video in the most inconvenient places and times. I mention this only because I want to know if you all have even noticed, or if you review your videos before-hand to make sure they display correctly, or if you just "Spray and Pray."
That’s a female perspective, not a male one. Fear is not driving force for the latter, but rather, integrity. Just cos people choose to be insulting, doesn’t translate into me being insulted.
Thanks. This topic seems like one of the most important, because pursuing life as our true selves is one difficult thing, but then knowing the reactions to expect as a result, how those reactions affect INFJs, and techniques for handling those reactions is very helpful--including encouraging. Courage to be our true selves is something discussed across cultures throughout millenia. What does Wenzes think about Stoicism aligning with INFJ types?
I just laugh at them cause its funny to me 😂🤭 when they try to put me down, make fun of ne, mock. When they try to bring up my past I tell them " my bad, i forgive myself for my bad ways but im not there anymore" and roll my eyes
Hmm. But we are supposed to have some level of engagement. Ive put my book out thrre 4 years and 200 followrrs and still extremely low to no engagement. I want to reach certain folks and certain avenues and have taken steps to connect with people in those areas. Its discouraging because people dont understand anymore it seems what healthy engagement is
I really need to talk to an INFJ, just one conversation to ask for a judgement about something that i feel guilty about. anyone? please let me know and i would appreciate it very much because it's gonna help me with self realization.
But is being rejected what we want. I like to be social and have friends and have people to like me. Being competitive myself I am rude and I create strong boundaries and I say no. It makes people distant
I built sigma on top of my INFJ to deal with and advance the developed sense of mission/self. I really love to analyze then advocate, but also recede to recharge. I still love adventures in ideas and learning. I am now 61. I am respectful, but forthright. I stay fact-based, and as objective as possible. This keeps me away from dialoguing about me, just advocacy.
Being an INFJ is tough as s###, mentally. Its exhausting. Wenzes state of mind is my aim, as everything she says is who i am, with frightening accuracy. She knows how to fix our gifted, yet messed up minds lol.
What is keeping you from being truly visible as an INFJ?
😂 I am truly visible not once but trice but truly the world is blind and therefore I am invisible according to them
Our own mind, 🤷♂ but not any more!🚀✨❤ @Wenzes
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I think I'm in the first step and all those who r supposed to be close are leaving
The door to my apartment that I almost never go through to be seen by other people. 🤣😂
what do you do if your family ridicules you?
I actually have imposter syndrome now. Once my employer found out I was INFJ after taking the test, they began gaslighting and creating cases. I left but this happens all the time. I'm quiet so it makes people uneasy. My bf who has a software engineering degree said I carry myself like I have a doctorate even though I just have a HS diploma and life experience. The confidence I have and how quiet I can be being busy observing people unnerved people who are superficial. I see right through them and they hate it.
They know you can see through their bs 😂
You said it right what toxic and poisonous people fear from us .As we expert in exposing them by our observation skills. 😂😂
Being an INFJ is weird. We start as these like low level characters with the least amount of points to put into stats and have to go through this 'learning curve' of needing to learn how to live in this world. But then we get this unique trait right off the bat where we also start with like a Bachelor's of Psychology.
Most of my life, I didn’t understand why other people didn’t see the truths and the patterns that I see. It would make me mad that they didn’t see them too, or I felt I was wrong, or crazy. Thanks for helping me understand I am not.
Also in my childhood, my Dad teased me about always wanting to help others. That’s me. INFJ.
This is me
I’ve mastered the art of not giving AF. I’ve no secrets and I do not care what people say about me. Abandon me at your own detriment, for those who have, regret the permanent loss of me, after I’ve slammed and barricaded the door…there’s no coming back and I don’t give AF. I’ve got no secrets and who am I to judge about judging?😉😂
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This is a fabulous channel. As a 76 yr-old INFJ who didn't know that for much of my life, I appreciate this content.
The test really does explain a lot. I first took it in 1985. The Myers Briggs Indicator has stood the test of time. It came out a few years before I was born (I'm about a year older than you).
Same here. 62 and since last week I didnt even know there is something like an INFJ😅
I love how us INFJs need coaching! Im glad there are some other people out there like me, thanks internet!
Hey buddy ✌️best wishes from INFJ to another INFJ
Accept and embrace your difference, your weirdness. As you accept your differences you will find others will, too, and you will attract your tribe while avoiding those who misunderstand you. Trying to "fit in" is where INFJs constantly face rejection, so create your own space, your own world, and your own ways, and then share that with open minded people who dig your vibe. Don't try to be like others, be yourself.
What is wrong with thinking and behaving like a robot???? 😃 And collecting hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of stuff that you probably don´t need.
Wait a minute robots don´t feel? I forgot.
Thank you for this ❤
Thank you,yes been stuck there a few times. Icky conservative city. Moving soon 🦋
The older I get, I don't want try to fit in. I love myself. Who care with judgements of other people 😂😊
INTJ here. I think INFJs are very special. ❤
As are INTJs!
And so are you! 🥰
INTJ’s are the best! ❤️(INFJ here)
1% darling ❤Oh yes we are✨
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Whoever has lost connection with true values has lost everything - "all is lost if character is lost "
Dare to be seen, become a legend. People love our energy, as simple as that 👌.
I think it depends on what our personal beliefs are, based on who might be seeing us. The environment is everything. I think we can sense that.
@goldglamour6457 The only thing that matters is you believing in yourself and the thing you like to do.
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My new mantra is ‘Let them.’
This topic is closely linked to social anxiety and trauma, bad experiences from the past where we stopped going out and started avoiding people and expressing ourselves.
When I realised that 9 out of 10 person who were saying I was weird, to me were narcissistic. They were doing this to ashamed me for clamping my abilities. So embarrassed about not being a sociality clone. And helped even more efficiently people.
😂of course narcissists will feel uneasy when around you…for you are empathetic and a human lie detector… their kind are the mortal enemy of the INFJ. Slay!😂
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@@stephaniesomer5934 you're true 😂🤣👍🤍😇
"You can't hurt me I've found peace within myself."
Michael Jackson
Chamone.
He def did not have peace
He says “I believe in ME so you believe in YOU” 🌟❤️✨
@@kathydecz5016 I will take that advice then and stop doubting myself. He was a pure hearted soul. What an inspiration.
Wow…I feel like God dropped this in my lap and I’m so grateful. I’m one of those people who have done lots and lots of internal work, made some progress, but my life pretty much exploded after I decided to publish my first fantasy novel a month ago.
Exploded as in-my self esteem went down the drain as all my insecurities were dredged up and basically reinforced with mixed reviews and feedback. Rejection is my biggest fear, along with being invaluable and worthless.
Anyway…half of me has regretted doing it, being in as much pain and agony as I’ve been in. But this video gives me hope that it’s the exact thing that’s going to heal me the most and set me free. And ultimately, I’ll do almost anything to be free of the emotional pain I’ve been in and the blocks that have held me back in life. Thank you 🙏🏼
Publish your books for YOU. And don't read the comments/feedback. You finished something great and that's something to be proud of. Your opinion of you matters more than the opinion of all that feedback. Keep putting yourself out there courageously, after all, you just did and you made it through ❤
@@mm810ification thanks so much for reminding me of this. I really needed to hear it. 💚
I just started a youtube channel. I’ve decided to let myself be seen. It’s a work in progress
A lot of great artist, musicians and writers had mixed or even terrible reviews. Beethoven’s music was too risqué for many… A lot of people hated Picasso’s work… Imagine how much creativity and beauty would be missing if these creatives allowed the haters to dictate whether or not their work should exist?
INFJs are visionaries by nature, and because of this, we are often ahead of the curve and have to wait for others to catch up.
Regardless if they ever catch up or not though… Brene Brown has said, “if you aren’t in the arena getting your ass kicked in this game of life, I am not open to your feedback.” So f*ck the peanut gallery… Keep creating, and let the haters who have risked nothing stay in the nose bleed seats.
@ 💚💚💚 Thank you for the pep talk. Really appreciated it. 🙏🏼
Fear of rejection and reprisals always hold me back. But reality is we can’t control how others react to us. This video is a wonderful message. Tough love ❤but needed.
I have been let myself seen as my pure Infj self for a few years now. Very interesting results.
As excepted, some love it, some hate it, and some can’t get enough of it.
Never expected this reaction at this level
A person at work said I was dumb and weird and followed me with a smudge stick lol. It made me laugh and I walked away. She was furious. 😅
Omfg I'm sorry you work with a karen
Wait a minute… She’s following you around work with a smudge stick and YOU are the weird one? 🙃… Projection much? 😂
Now I understand why I always felt so lost when I went out, as if I was an alien. As long as I was in my own space, home, I felt peaceful and had an identification but whenever I would go out, it felt like hell because nobody would think of me as someone special, even though I had such different thinking and ideas. I still feel that way but atleast I know that there's nothing wrong with me.
Wenzes, a national treasure, nah a Universal treasure. Just on point with every character ishh❤
Fear of rejection, and fear of criticsm. For me its not that hard anymore to be authentic with friends and family, but in job life it feels really complicated and I feel like Im just at the beginning.
Come on you can do it , stand alone but put your values right first and stand by it , or go against all at your office then being alone you can see what really are the things that you like
@@natureglimses Thank you for your supporting words😊💪.
I’ve been following the stoic philosophy… tons of videos on UA-cam and they resonate…
What i can tell you from my own experience is: dont do too much work, pass the message that your time is precious. Avoid too many useless meetings. Im more appreciated now that im not available. Before i was walked over.
I don't know if this is an infj thing or not but throughout life I'm constantly improving and learning and I do feel that to some extent once people get to know this about me and see my true self that they can be intimidated by me. This has lead to many friends leaving me over the years. I feel like people seem to be resistance to change and because I'm forever changing it can bring up unusual feelings in those people.
"True community begins with the communion we cultivate within ourselves" - Lawrence Ip
As an INFJ male, self-acceptance has been difficult as I'm not the stereotypical masculine man who likes weight lifting and cars, but I'm rather quite sensitive, artistic, empathetic, and sometimes I come across as quite serious and too deep and sentimental for some.
But I've embraced my nature and learned that the only way to thrive is to be authentic so nowadays I try to not care about being "cool" or "normal" but just purely myself regardless of what others think
loving your new hairstyle!
Yes, she has a beautiful face...new hairstyle frames her perfectly. 🌹
When I made my big change it was a process: a change in conversational habits, and facing something that had been bothering me for a long time. I told very few people about it, but a lot of them were seeing changes - which they couldn't always explain. The steps I started didn't happen all at once, but bit by bit, things improved.
And interestingly enough, I did manage to find the right people with whom I could talk about it freely. There weren't a whole lot of them, but they were key people, and that's what mattered. I know that the biggest thing that caused the change was simply doing certain things in a way that came naturally to me, and not explaining why or how.
I still continue to grow, and I know a lot of the growth even now was based on the times when I made choices that harmonized with these five points you've made here.
And by the way, in my experience when I am doing something my own way, I usually find out that a person who tells me, "You're weird" says it because I'm not doing it his or her way! 😄
I took the test in 1993 & they said my score was very exceptionally rare-about the top 4%. So, if only 1% of the population is INFJ, & I’m 4% of that..? No wonder I’ve struggled all my life. I’ve bounced between being very well looked up to & being the bottom of the bottom. I’m very reserved due to rejection & having had narcissists in my life. I’m now in a place where I’ve lost a lot of relationships. God is my helper!
I never took the MBTI test seriously but after listening to your videos, you're clarifying a lot for me and it's surprisingly revealing. So now I'm thinking that there must be truth in it because your observations and suggestions are so relatable, compassionate, supportive & helpful. Thank you @Wenzes
Over time, I’ve realised It’s so important to grow to your full potential - to feel good about yourself and to be of service in the real world. Thanks for this content!
Wenzes, I want to say thank you. I am both astonished (and quietely proud) of how much of what you say I figured out myself, including how to best approach it, as well as impressed at how much more there still is to digest. I also wonder what my life had looked like now if I had discovered this 30-40 years ago (I am 49). I still feel reluctance towards embracing labels and strict classifications on my condition, even if those understandings fit to a tee, and I am sticking those labels myself. The time I put any value on the labels others use is long in the past.
i will purchase one of your prodcucts as a token of appreciation of what you do and what you give. I also want to extend my thanks to those in the comment section. I am perfectly fine alone. But it sure as hell feels nice to discover I am not the only one after all. Thank you, all of you.
If I could take one INFJ video to a desert island it would be this one
Totally agree🎉
When someone says something harmful/negative about me and I'm hurt, it's not always because I already believe what they're saying. It's usually because I view everyone's thoughts & feelings as equal, so if someone says something bad about me it means that their opinion of me is just as valid as my own. They might be saying something negative that I've never even thought before, or that's the opposite of how everyone else views me, but I still take it seriously because who am I to say I know more than them (lol)? For me, the solution is learning to let go of the idea of "equality of opinions" and creating a hierarchy where my opinion of myself stands at the top. Maybe other INFJs can relate?
Ive been following Wenzes since 2020, and she still continues to be on par and deliver!🎉🎉🎉 Thank you😘
I gave my dream a shot and was shocked by the lack of support coming from my community in the way i had imagined it would. I kept thinking ppl were upset bc i changed directions or wanted to see me fail on my new venture, or doubted i was capable. I crumbled and i did step back and give up because I knew that if i had given up that easily then maybe i was approaching it from a hidden insecurity. This video answers my questions and confirms so much of what i was feeling was the cause and gives some practical guidance on how i can pick myself back up and move forward.
1st 30 years living next 30 figuring it out.
I am an INJF living in Baltimore, Maryland and my lifelong obsession has been history.
Now that the Francis Scott Key Bridge is siting in the Boy - the DEPRESSION that is fueled by others hater and ignorance is REALLY affecting me! No one understands and it hurts my heart.
Well planned economic destruction is pretty traumatizing
this video comes at a time, where I am pretty far on my self-concept journey, which made me guess if i am not an infj anymore after i am almost fine with who I am amongst other people ... but here we go...
I’ve listened to a bunch of your videos in the last two days. I can’t thank you enough. At 72, I don’t have a lot of time to be hesitant! I just dived in with to respect to a special? someone? Thank you, thank you, thank you. He may hate me, (too soon to know) but I’m ok with it! I am seen, whether anyone likes it or not!
Gracias Wenzes! en verdad gracias, ahora estoy entendiendo mi ser INFJ, siempre me sentí tan fuera de todo, pero ahora mi espíritu se siente libre ...
Mi madre primero y después otra gente me han dicho que soy rara. Antes me dolía y ahora lo veo como un cumplido porque no quiero ser como los demás. Tampoco quiero ser como mi madre que valora a la gente según lo que posea. "Tanto tienes, tanto vales" es su forma de juzgar a los demás. No me importa ser su opuesta. Me parece un privilegio no parecerme a ella. Suena mal si no la conoces como yo la conozco: no tiene un gramo de instinto maternal.
Saludos 🤗
Love this: it's not reality it's a perspective.
I'm a big believer that we need to take responsibility to live good, rational lives. But these decisions are easier to make when we know ourselves better.
When I listen to the explanations that you make, I appreciate the fact that you emphasize how we can take personal responsibility for how we handle what we were given to work with.
My struggle at this moment is the shame that creeps up for being a INFJ meaning the depth, sensitivity and feeling like no one else is like that or likes that. The tribe I would love is not available. If they are they are somewhere in a different state of which does me no good because I don't want online friends. I want people I can physically connect with at a coffee shop or something.
@vanessaskin Can I kindly challenge you? What if I tell you that all you want - you will have to do with/for/to/because of you and you only - You will be the only character on your stage of life for a while - and work out all of the negative emotion that arise in doing so - during this- people who will be in your tribe will come - Also challenge your belief in what tribe is and what form they come in(it could be that other fellow weird person you see every morning at the coffee shop). Like impermanence and frequency of energies (including humans) occupying our space. ❤
@@DearYoungerSelf111 Thank you! I appreciate your share and challenge!! Been in the process and some day's I'm for sure alone on that stage. I'll have to give your share some thoughts!
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Thank you so much, your structure and communication of this topic is excellent and so helpful .
As I watch your videos, I find myself taking deep breaths or not breathing at all...and then taking deep breaths. After nearly 45 years of life, I still don't like that this is a reality.
Same! I do it more than I realize
Honestly, I feel ashamed when I am seen. I am afraid of letting my quirky side show. I am actually really quirky, when I'm not internalizing other people's gaze. I am so much up in my head and in my own world that I am sort of like the absent minded professor. And I know if I let that side of me show people are going to take me less serious and think that I am not dangerous or think that I am cute or whatever, and I don't really want that...
I'm an INFJ, and the more I listen to this channel...the more subtle brilliance I hear. I am learning so much...Thanks Wenzes.
For infj's it is a strange phenomenon; pedestalising and unpedestalising again. Hey i know a song to accompany this movement
I have suffered slings and arrows my whole life. So going it alone aint nothin new to me. The world has not come knocking on my door and has very sparingly acknowleged me. In that i have continued on out of a love for the craft and intellectual process of articulating my perceptions.
My temporal achivement has and is to clearly and concisely use all my knowledge and skills to articulate the point of light at the intersection of duality. What i can say is that my language and perceptions are being repeated through out the conversational lexicon.
However as of late i have been disrespected once again where the biblical parable of Abraham came to mind where God asked him to sacrafice the thing he loved the most. With that i withdraw my gift and take back the power of insight by becoming silent.
Came to my feed at the ideal time. Appreciate you!
Thank you- I am still in the caring what people think phase
I wonder if the rest of the 15 personality types have these awakenings as well?
I feel like I relate so strongly with the things you discuss in your videos. But I am stuck wondering if I just want to feel special. That I am just deluding myself to feel better.
You explained it so well. Thank you so much. Your videos are really helpful.
Blessings to you!
Wait I can have epic life?!!!
I AM weird and I am ok with it 😂😍🤩 (wasn't always) ❤❤
Great message...timely! Your videos have changed my life. Thank you 😊
So very well couched. The transition to visibility is both challenging and liberating! Thank you.
Just walking around the mall yesterday I could hear comments as I'm walking by like, "where did he get that coat" or "how old do you think he is?" These are typically neutral comments but do people understand that we can see them staring at us in our peripheral view and that it extends to our hearing? Lol, people watchers can be the worst. 😂
First video of yours, really resonated with me! I’ve been reading a lot of experiences from people who does vipassana meditation and those who live like monks, and they talked a lot of things like this. I’ve feel like I’ve grown so much over the last year since I found out I was INFJ, and I can clearly see that people around me doesn’t follow where I’m headed, I’m constantly building more strength in all forms, and I’m ready to step out in the world again soon (I’m moving to a bigger city soon), after years of not meeting people much in real life.. I’m excited to be seen as a whole person and not the dozen of then and there impressions I make to be nice 😅
Thanks you Wenzes! I needed this! Your video's are helping me a lot getting my epic life!! ^-^
You are very good at this Wenzes.
Just out of curiosity, I've noticed UA-cam has made changes to cards and video links for in-video pop-ups, and I don't think any of you have noticed. The video you reference at the end of the video actually pops-up a minute and a half before your queue. I have noticed this, because these pop-ups cover-up the video in the most inconvenient places and times. I mention this only because I want to know if you all have even noticed, or if you review your videos before-hand to make sure they display correctly, or if you just "Spray and Pray."
So many "she (Wenzes) blew my mind" moments in this video.
That’s a female perspective, not a male one. Fear is not driving force for the latter, but rather, integrity. Just cos people choose to be insulting, doesn’t translate into me being insulted.
This video is much better than anticipated. So on point! Describes the process I have been through so much! Wow...thank you so much! We'll done
I just showed up as a different person!
Yep we do stick out. I try to blend but it doesn't work. I get the odd looks no mayter what
Thanks. This topic seems like one of the most important, because pursuing life as our true selves is one difficult thing, but then knowing the reactions to expect as a result, how those reactions affect INFJs, and techniques for handling those reactions is very helpful--including encouraging. Courage to be our true selves is something discussed across cultures throughout millenia. What does Wenzes think about Stoicism aligning with INFJ types?
I have a new statement: Fit OUT
Your videos help me so much❤
I just laugh at them cause its funny to me 😂🤭 when they try to put me down, make fun of ne, mock. When they try to bring up my past I tell them " my bad, i forgive myself for my bad ways but im not there anymore" and roll my eyes
Hmm. But we are supposed to have some level of engagement. Ive put my book out thrre 4 years and 200 followrrs and still extremely low to no engagement. I want to reach certain folks and certain avenues and have taken steps to connect with people in those areas. Its discouraging because people dont understand anymore it seems what healthy engagement is
I needed this. Thank you ❤
This means a lot and also came at a time when I'm struggling with this issue! Thanks for sharing this, Wenzes! ☺
I appreciate your wonderful wisdom, thank you 🤍
I really love your advices. Very Empowering ideas you have. Do make more advices for fellow INFJ people. 😍😍❤❤
Thank you so much for all of your work! I’m blessed to be experiencing this point in life 💕
Whats tge problem with being weird?
None. 😊
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I AM INFJ AND I AM WEIRD AND FEARLESS
I DARE TO BE SEEN
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I'm such a old INFJ I make it easy for people to know what to expect from me, and I don't care what they think or say, I'm used to it.
Thank you so much , that was very insightful
You ve got a new subscriber 🌹😇🌹
I really need to talk to an INFJ, just one conversation to ask for a judgement about something that i feel guilty about. anyone? please let me know and i would appreciate it very much because it's gonna help me with self realization.
Hello. I'm INFJ.
I needed this. Thank you!!
I am very interested in INFJ women.
Talking right to me.
This is a fantastic video ❤ thank you Wenzes! 💫
But is being rejected what we want. I like to be social and have friends and have people to like me. Being competitive myself I am rude and I create strong boundaries and I say no. It makes people distant
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Amazing content. Thank you!
Thank you
This is such great advice. ❤
Amazing! Thank you!
I built sigma on top of my INFJ to deal with and advance the developed sense of mission/self. I really love to analyze then advocate, but also recede to recharge. I still love adventures in ideas and learning. I am now 61. I am respectful, but forthright. I stay fact-based, and as objective as possible. This keeps me away from dialoguing about me, just advocacy.
great video
Subconscious programming and projection- confront my feelings, right
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Being an INFJ is tough as s###, mentally. Its exhausting. Wenzes state of mind is my aim, as everything she says is who i am, with frightening accuracy. She knows how to fix our gifted, yet messed up minds lol.
Not only does she have my personality type, she pretty much speaks with my accent as well. Go figure
Simply super ❤
Question ; why do we feel , that was just a babbling circle of constructive suggestions .
Don’t even judge yourself “ I did not said it Thad is on the Holy scriptures if you read thad books 📚 the right way ‼️❤️🖥️🤩🤩 11:30