One of the best analyses on intimate relationship personality types. Many might not agree on your takes because your analysis is very logical and evidence based.
Omg yes... I enjoy this channel. I love watching reality tv because, yeah I find the drama entertaining...but I also know some folks really act this way in real life so the analysis is super interesting.
“Withdrawn, lazy and entitled”. This is how I viewed Kenneth. He was completely unfair to Brittany and I hope he sees that now. I know she’s not perfect but I feel that she actually tried
@@Covers-and-Commentary No-one is talking about him being lazy in terms of his job but he is lazy in the way he interacted with her, he put no real effort into the relationship and no real effort giving affection, neither verbally nor physically. He should have been honest with her about it from the beginning that he wasn't really that into her instead of stringing her along.
@@Covers-and-Commentary In terms of a relationship, I'd say he seemed lazy and too wedded to his phone. It almost seemed like a maturity thing as he is only in his mid-twenties. It was as soon as she said yes, he withdrew. It was so confusing. Bottom line was, he just wasn't that into her
The thing that really disturbed me about Kenneth is that he switched from 100% focused on his phone to 100% focused on chastising Brittany and then right back to 100% on the phone. Just seems so calculated
@@sholenejames2292 I’m extremely introverted and understand being into your phone. It’s the drastic shift back and forth that was odd, and doesn’t read to me as introvert behavior
How cold and shut down Kenneth was in the breakup was brutal to watch. No matter what the edit was, that woman did not deserve that level of callousness.
he was never as sensitive as he tried to make himself seem. Brittany deserves better. He kept saying that she can't judge him over him just having a bad day, but like, bro never consoled her lol
I want to point out AD also said you can be pro black and date whoever you want. People keep blaming her but she didn't sow any thoughts into his head. She just had an honest conversation that most black people will have with each other when dating interracially. These honest conversations are necessary for healthy interracial relationships.
Im not blaming her, i just don’t think that was any of her concern since it’s not her relationship. Thats for them to deal with in their relationship and if they bring it up to others. Overall, if he allowed that conversation to affect his feelings for brittany, thats on him. Also nothing prompted that subject to even come up, AD is just nosy af.
@@MiracleMadkinsyes AD is not the 100% nice girl she portrays…and it was not her place. She was finna jump over Mathew knowing he was white so why go say anything to Ken?
She wasn't his first white woman it was his first woman 😮 Kenneth is full of it. Women are women we like attention, affection, treated well...He don't need BIG personality just a personality. He was dead inside. He gave up so easy, he was never serious about finding a wife period. Hes for the Instagram.
I agree 100% that ALL women would want attention, affection and to be treated well. I also feel like Kenneth might not have much experience with dating and relationships. I mean he's super young, successful so it makes sense if dating wasn't his focus. I think it would have benefited him if he did more dating to understand what he needs in a partner before coming on this show.
I was in a similar situation recently and empathized so much with Brittany because it's such a shtty feeling. This guy was 40 and we were perfect on paper but he was just not very affectionate, verbally especially, and I kept thinking I was being picky but it really got to me. I just kept thinking how has this not been an issue for him before, I thought all women like compliments, flirting, being pursued lol. I think it was the fact that we were both introverted like the video says, and neither of us were comfortable really taking the lead. There was no friction so I guess no spark or passion either. I think guys like this would do better with a woman who was a little more fiery and dominate but they are attracted to women who are more laid back and submissive. But then again there are probably also women out there who would be happy with a good guy who was quiet and reliable and not grabbing at her all the time - I'm just not that girl 😂
I think there's a lot that the camera misses, especially when they're on vacation. Past seasons had made it clear when big events have happened off camera, but I noticed both this and last season I could feel a shift, but had no idea where it came from.
His cousin got on social media and told everyone he's gay and only went on the show for clout. If that's true, that's the third time I've seen reality TV cast a gay guy for a straight dating show. They really need to do better when doing background checks. If you check their social media and it's covered in them kissing dudes, maybe don't marry them off to a woman.
I dated a borderling narcissist and he was definitely a closeted gay and i didn’t really realize it till after we broke up but Kenneth reminds me of him so much 😂😂
Weaponizing God as the reason for not even trying is the most unchrisitian thing. He broke her heart and showed 0 emotion. I feel bad for her. But she dodged a bullet and thank God for that. She deserves a goof stable man who doesn't run her around.
He was never into her. At the reveal he hardly looks at her. There was no chemistry and no emotional investment on his part. For a short time - to save face - he was acting like he thought he should act and then he checked out. there is NO feeling. Nothing. I think he is GAY too.
I almost agreed with this but truth is he knew she was white before proposing... And he was nice on the first night... There is no reason to be so uncaring even if you decide you do not want to go through with the marriage.. He could have been a nicer person even if he was letting her down.. He was never affectionate nor considerate of her feelings... It was such a 180... If he didn't find her attractive he could have been honest about it and say his feelings changed.. Instead he blamed her for not being the one who found him attractive... Even if it's race he didn't need to be so dismissive
I fundamentally disagree. He was treating her weird as soon as they got into his house. Which is quite typical of what happens when people leave the artificial space of the pods or the honeymoon and come back to their homes. I don't think ADs comments had anything to do with it.
He was so disinterested and to me disrespectful..stayed on his phone..when she broke down in tears he didn’t even attempt to comfort her not even a little. She was so sweet I don’t get his behavior and I think he’s in the closet.
This is a great analysis, but something else is going on with Kenneth. He did a 180 pretty quickly. Brittany is very pretty, exactly what he said he wanted and he knew she was white when he proposed to her. He was being rude and disrespectful to her. The way he ended it was so cold and uncaring. SE types aside, how he acted was sh*tty.
He kept his walls up and remained safe, he’s probably use to being rejected because of his avoidant behavior. I don’t believe he’s into the same sex however his heart wasn’t truly into her and I can sense that he’s insecure within himself he probably doesn’t feel that he deserves someone like her.
Aint nobody worried about him dating no white girl; black men dont face nearly the same level of criticism for dating outside of their race. Its common at this point. He gay. Period.
See, but I wasn’t gonna say nothing. I see folks saying it’s cause of his convo with AD, it’s cause of his body insecurities, etc etc. Ima just 🤐 bc it’s clear as hell what the real issue is. Cause Black men ain’t never cared bout what we have to say on the matter of interracial dating lmaoooo
Girl everyone out there is guessing and this is the FIRST explanation that was clear, clinical and precise! You are outstanding and your character shows that you absolutely understand the story and the mechanics behind the story. I am so tired of VERY bad analysis (what I would deem a stab in the dark) of shows that really in one way or another are actually revealing the truth of an individual. People need to remember that the premise of the show is to make as much drama as possible, so if someone has to be the bad person, the producers have NO PROBLEM making everyday people look 50 shades of crazy. The problem I see is when untrained people put out a scenario that inaccurate about a person and how much that inaccurate image will effect that person and how they are seen for the rest of the show, at the wedding (if there is one), at the reunion, and beyond and there are WAY too many people out there that are not careful with what they say and the damage they cause with no understanding of what they did. I’m subscribing to you because you are the ONLY ONE that makes sense! BRAVO!
Kenneth doesn’t seem attracted to women, and this is coming from someone who prefers bisexual men. I don’t like how some are blaming AD and essentially scapegoating her as the reason their relationship ended. I don’t think Kenneth was ever attracted to Brittany, his words and “excitement” were an act to me, but he’ll use her race as a convenient excuse during the reunion. He was very emotional dismissive and dry especially toward the end
Yeah I think this is spot on. I personally think that it was the AD comment - Kenneth is a people pleaser (I assume that’s the Fe?) and was scared to be rejected by ‘his people’. He ultimately rejected himself by sabotaging their relationship whilst trying to remain the ‘nice guy’ by gaslighting her into thinking it was her decision. I dated a guy like this who did something very similar. Pursued me for years only to ‘check out’ when we got into a relationship because his friends said they didn’t think me and him had anything in common. It was so scary. Like a light suddenly went out. He became very miserable, distant and lazy and made me out to be a burden; and when I finally broke down and told him I couldn’t do it anymore he said that he can see I’m not happy and he doesn’t think it’s fair on me to be with someone who isn’t making me happy!!
I was turned off by Kenneth halfway into the vacation but especially that blow up at the end, at his home. He is a narcissist. Brittany dodged a bullet. I cringed for her.
I think Ken dodged a bullet. Brittany had a stereotype in mind and needed Ken to perform for her 24/7. She never let herself get used to his real personality. He’s a worship leader at the church and a principal. He didn’t want to be filmed being all over her.
Everyone is a narcissist, just depends on what spectrum. A man shouldn’t have to be perfect to avoid being labeled a narcissist in a bad sense and dehumanized.
You have such incredible wisdom; one of the things I get super excited about whenever Love is Blind USA comes back on our screens is the parallel content you create! It's so insightful and I appreciate the framework and language it provides for me to better understand myself and the people around me. Kenneth and Brittany's storyline unsettled me so much but I couldn't articulate why certain behaviours (mainly Kenneth's tbh 😕) were upsetting me. Watching this video was eye-opening in that regard.
I think it's the race thing - and when AD asked him the question, very gently and very politely, it almost gave him an out as he knew the questioning from his community was going to be much harder and judgemental, and possibly lead to marginalisation. I think reality hit him. And it isn't Ad's fault at all. Brittany was lovely, and hopefully she meets someone who loves her deeply
That's what the show has made it look like, because he went cold specifically after that convo with AD so by all the evidence that seems the main thing. I think he might have been concerned what his people would think when they saw the footage of him being all affectionate with a white woman. He was probably worried about how it would look. Maybe he was also worried about how it might come off the his people in church as well if he showed too much pda.
One convo with AD didn't change him into an unemotional, gaslighting jerk. He tried to like her, but he just doesn't. Men will do most anything for a partner they want, even deny the desires of their community and families. They give up existing relationships, fame, fortune, health...This man needs to held solely accountable for his ridiculous behavior.
Dr. Cherie, I made a similar read on Kenneth in your community tab as soon as you announced this video would be released. Also, most importantly I agree that we culturally need stop calling or assuming people are gay because they don't feel or act how YOU would expect them to! I think the media shows a lot of "Clay" types, and we assume that's how a (black) man should act when he's showing interest. If he isn't overt, we think he must not be interested or straight. I didn't like how Kenneth talked down to Brittany. I also think Kenneth, as most on this show do, started to thinking about how he'd be portrayed and worried about not meeting Brittany's needs, which lead him to retreat.
I also wait until the other person breaks up with me. I just never know what to say. "i lost interest in you" sounds terrible 😭😔 If I were Christian saying "God put us on separate paths" would be such a relief 😅
😂 lol. I don’t have difficulty breaking up with people, but I still have a ‘line’ that I use. I tell the person, “I don’t want to marry you.” Because if I can confidently answer that question, then the relationship has run its course.
If he was ignoring her because of others views of their relationship he is a punk point blank period. Brittany needs to leave and go somewhere she is valued and respected. He is ridiculous.
Everything you said make sens HOWEVER I feel like most of the time those situations happen because a person start lying and instead of being honest and handle it for whatever reason they start lying and gaslighting
Yay for another video so soon!!!!! It was hard to watch the change in his attentiveness and interest so I have gotten a lot out of your analysis of what might explain that. Very fascinating ( as usual Dr Cherie!!)
I was typed as INFJ by Dr Cherie and I fantasize going on LIB to later watch her analyze my dates and possible engagement. :) If I went I would probably constantly be in my head,, trying to work out which type is behind the wall, while investing tons of energy in other people's feelings and also worried I'm not in the moment enough to take it all in and enjoy the experience. It would be great! :D
I'm confused, if you need a specific race, why go on Love is "Blind"? And what she was meaning by ''crave'', is that she wanted physical closeness (without sex) to where they were excited to eventually have sex. But they weren't having that because he was completely closed off after it was brought to his consciousness about race. He had many hours to be close to her, with her all but (and even) asking for it. But he choses to initiate when he knows would be the most inconvenient time for her. Then he turns the discussion, gaslighting, in order to get out of it without looking like it was all his decision. There are men in her religious conviction who desire marriage. She needs to reevaluate where she is looking for love, because it's not working for her. And there are many Black women who would love to marry a committed Christian Black man. If he really wanted that, he shouldn't have had to go on a show to find it fr
Great video! However, I do wish you explicitly state which type every person is. I see in your description you add ISTJ, ISFJ, but I think it will be easier for the audience to understand who is what. I struggle with understanding it in the format as Si/Fe etc… so it’s harder for me to connect the dots sometimes. I’ve followed you since 2021 and still struggle with this unfortunately, but always love your analysis as a whole!
Thanks for an excellent personality analysis of the couple! ❤ This one is my personal opinion. It is much more painful and humiliating for a woman to be rejected in such a rude way by a guy who looks like Shrek. Moreover, in a program with millions of viewers. After all, he is supposed to be a role model as a school principal for young people. I understand, after what he told Brittany and combined with his behavior in contact with others, that he lost his moral compass a long time ago and may never find it.
Maybe check yourself on your Shrek comment. In the black community he would not be viewed as that ugly and it’s clear you are influenced by European centric ideals of beauty. How about it was painful and humiliating because he acted like a horrible human.
I understand, and agree, with all you've said AND for me, Kenneth needs some definite lessons in emotional connection and understanding how to build the deeper sides of a relationship. Brittany, for me, falls into codependence when going into a relationship, hence why she didn't speak up to Kenneths word salad he deftly employed so as to not take any emotional responsibility. There's also an element of hiding behind spirituality that both of them need to address as spirituality is to bring them together deeply, emotionally, and that was not happening at all.
I just finished watching episode 8 and was completely confused by Kenneth response to Brittany saying she needed more emotional connection from him. And I went looking for people commenting on this episode. And BOOM 💥 This analysis was SO GOOD!!! I loved your explanations and point of view. NOW I want you to analyze my personality so I can understand the theory behind my unconscious words and actions. 😂😂😂😂 So… I do I take you test??
In the pods Kenneth was so present, intelligent, and respectful. But once home he often acts self centered and oblivious to Brittany. She needs to tell him - "it's not that coming home late is a problem, if you are coming home late occasionally, let me know like you did. It's the fact that you didn't show me any basic consideration when you got home - like keeping the lights off and getting in bed quietly, so you don't wake me. Do not do that again. That's rude." it's also that he treats her like his phone and his relationship with everyone else is more important than she is. Rude the way he keeps pulling it out when she's there with him. I'm old school about phones - go on it when you're alone, or when you are away doing your work IF it requires it, if it's an emergency or very important (either one brief), or if you and the other person present are both calling someone (family or close friend) together. That's it.
21:25 im an infj. I have no problem breaking up with ppl. Mind u, took some practice to not care and prioritize my own feelings. But i find it harder to keep a relationship going that im just not into.
What if he just lost interest after living with Brittney and spending more time with her?? What if he realized he isn’t truly ready for marriage? Is that so wrong??? Just wish these people would be more honest about how they feel and stop saying what they think the viewers or producers want to hear!!!!!!
Don't waste people's time and make them feel like you want it when you don't. She tried. He kept lying to her. His behavior is his responsibility. For a Principal he is very immature for relationships. As for her, she should've checked out. As a person who's had her number of toxic relationships, it is not easy but she will learn.
Thank you for the video, This was interesting and makes sense as to why their relationship did not work out. Curious, how do you determine their personality types?
The moment Ken and Brittany took a left was a foundational thing. When Ken asked where she asks what's her stance on waiting, her response was Luke warm and she answered how she thought she should. She said she came into it thinking she will wait, meaning it was not a set thing or a conviction. He took the stance of being overly respectful and not tempting her or crossing the line. They both had desires for each other and they were Pigeon holed into their ideologies of what they should do and battles what they wanted to do. She wanted and was open to sex, (she literally said she wanted to be tempted) someone wanting to achieve something like abstinence does not want temptation of whatbthey are trying to hold off from. He would have been more aggressive if he was not trying to be the guy who tempted a white woman who was abstaining. They just needed to be honest and be clear on what intimacy and boundaries were
My personality type is ISFJ and I felt really called out by this video 😭 Rest assured tho I would much rather break up with someone than make them break up with me
Tough read Dr Cherie, but I think you nailed it. I really struggled with this couple because I thought they had what it takes to make it…but your analysis supports that they really weren’t a good fit, even outside of the interracial thing. Oh well.
this explains my ex's behavior, he is a fe type and he couldn't break up with me, so he ghosted me, hung out with other girls, and listed a list of things that I "did wrong" and did everything to make me break up with him, I was so traumatized by that relationship, and also puzzled by his behavior and sworn that I'll never date anyone like that.
Thank you for this video! I would be very grateful if you could add the 4 letters of the personality type next to the function letters. It is not obvious for me which personality types they are based on functions only. That would be really helpful! Thanks again!
Someone being on there phone like that irks me so bad. I do feel like his reaction to the reveal was fake and somewhat performative. It was simply him saying what he thinks the people would want to here. Similar to what he did to Britney. I dont think he is attracted to yt girls but he knew that already. His behavior towards the end shows his hot and cold demeanor. He seems to have some personality or mental disorder he was very cold to her. Great vid ❤️ I love your perspective!
I don't think people understand that Kenneth is a workaholic. He didn't withdraw from Brittany, he just went back to work. He's very "what you see is what you get" and didn't want to deal with the emotional instability of her questioning the relationship and in a way his character. To me, it just looks like he has a lot of responsibility on his shoulders and he needs someone who will fit into his dynamic
I think he has an avoidant Attachement style... it was hard to watch how he let her down and acted as if he was unaffected. He emotionally checked out. I think their problems have more to do with Attachement than with personality styles.
I thought about this, too, I wondered if he was withdrawing so he could have an easy out out of the relationship. I felt like he quickly built a case for "oh! Well we don't understand each other OH WELL let's mutually end it bye bye!" haha
Thank you so much for your insightful videos,m! I see bits of myself in various characters you’ve discussed, which has been enlightening but also a bit perplexing, given how my reactions can vary with the situation. When doing quizzes, as opposed to when I was doing them when younger, I find it hard to find clear answers. When analysing my past relationships I am confused at my own behaviour. Figuring out others seems easier. Do you plan on making a Video on how to determine one’s personality type, considering these nuances? And perhaps even share your own personality type? I am super curious what your type is, since you do have this knack of analysing people and you deliver it in a very clear way.
Nah, I don't think he had a bad edit. He even said in the breakup that he tried to be affectionate at 2am. No thank you! He needs to come home at the right time and be affectionate during daylight hours!
This relationship was over soon as he discovered her race. Reality is, it's hard raising a black child if you're not black. The different hair textures alone would be a huge learning curve. Placing your black child in white spaces could result in an identity crisis for said child, teaching black history, as the white parent are you willing to walkaway from your friend group and family as you know it? Not everyone in their circle maybe fond of interracial dating--it's 2024 but some people are very much still racist and I mean this season was in the Carolinas..it's a lot to consider and digest. I don't think AD was out of line at all.
After watching enough of these shows, once you meet you need that physical connection also, but people don't like to admit that so as not to appear shallow. I would have asked things in the Pods about affection and how you express it. Do you like things like making out, what type of sexuality is your style, and what turns you off and on? What is your desire or expectation from the man relating to you? The Pods were almost people talking themselves into liking the other.
I feel like a lot of ppl act like SIs in relationships now days. No one wants to initiate or make the first move or plan the date. At least that’s been my experience.
To be honest Kenneth outright verbalized that he found it attractive that Brittany was wanting to wait for marriage to be physical and I think he was turned off by her asking for physical touch and wearing revealing swimsuits. I think him being a faith leader was really important to him. Ofc if the same sex attraction theory is correct then perhaps he used that narrative as a layer of protection as he planned to say no at the alter regardless
A a student in school studying psychology and counseling, I am wondering what do you recommend studying if I want to educate myself more on personality types?
Dr. Cherie I really appreciate you acknowledging that Brittany might have given Ken the Ick bc she actually did say some things that made me wonder about her.
She is using “cognitive functions” created by Carl Jung. John Beebe created the “cognitive function stack”. Which is the system you see here. DrCherie has made some changes, which makes a lot more sense to me compared to others. Get ready for the advanced level stuff. MBTI is the watered down version.
One of the best analyses on intimate relationship personality types. Many might not agree on your takes because your analysis is very logical and evidence based.
The best compliment 🤗😂
You challenge my perception on many behaviors I observe and that’s why I truly love your way of thinking. Thanks Dr.Cherie.
Agree!
Omg yes... I enjoy this channel. I love watching reality tv because, yeah I find the drama entertaining...but I also know some folks really act this way in real life so the analysis is super interesting.
“Withdrawn, lazy and entitled”. This is how I viewed Kenneth. He was completely unfair to Brittany and I hope he sees that now. I know she’s not perfect but I feel that she actually tried
Im not sure where you got lazy from, he’s a principal
@@Covers-and-Commentary No-one is talking about him being lazy in terms of his job but he is lazy in the way he interacted with her, he put no real effort into the relationship and no real effort giving affection, neither verbally nor physically. He should have been honest with her about it from the beginning that he wasn't really that into her instead of stringing her along.
@@Covers-and-Commentary In terms of a relationship, I'd say he seemed lazy and too wedded to his phone. It almost seemed like a maturity thing as he is only in his mid-twenties. It was as soon as she said yes, he withdrew. It was so confusing. Bottom line was, he just wasn't that into her
@@SmileyUna123we see very little so can't go based or 1 hour that is full of edits
Lazy seems a stretch.
The thing that really disturbed me about Kenneth is that he switched from 100% focused on his phone to 100% focused on chastising Brittany and then right back to 100% on the phone. Just seems so calculated
Agreed. It was a read. Giving with precision.
He can do both. I’m like him. I’m focused and wide open but I can’t manage all the emotion.
It’s clear you and many others held. I grace for Kenneth. Can he be introverted?
It was his safety blanket and a lack of maturity and unwillingness to take in feedback to heart
@@sholenejames2292 I’m extremely introverted and understand being into your phone. It’s the drastic shift back and forth that was odd, and doesn’t read to me as introvert behavior
When he scolded her then went lets hug so theirs no beef……. Dude whattt😭 you beefing with her, she was just trying to have a conversation
Omg!! I thought I was the only who caught that!!! Im.glad somebody else saw that too!!! Smdh 🤦♀️🤦♀️
No beef because they just broke up is what I gathered
I saw no beef just a mature conversation
He sounded happy abt it, like he has another on his texts
How cold and shut down Kenneth was in the breakup was brutal to watch. No matter what the edit was, that woman did not deserve that level of callousness.
It made me so sad when he didn’t hug her while she was crying.
Saaaammmeee!!! 💔
he was never as sensitive as he tried to make himself seem. Brittany deserves better. He kept saying that she can't judge him over him just having a bad day, but like, bro never consoled her lol
It’s best he didn’t… that just may have made her think there’s a chance… or that he’s a decent guy
Cold. Didn't like that.
I want to point out AD also said you can be pro black and date whoever you want. People keep blaming her but she didn't sow any thoughts into his head. She just had an honest conversation that most black people will have with each other when dating interracially. These honest conversations are necessary for healthy interracial relationships.
Thank you! So tired of ppl blaming her. If Kenneth was concerned about these things it was doomed regardless
Im not blaming her, i just don’t think that was any of her concern since it’s not her relationship. Thats for them to deal with in their relationship and if they bring it up to others. Overall, if he allowed that conversation to affect his feelings for brittany, thats on him. Also nothing prompted that subject to even come up, AD is just nosy af.
She needs to be worried about her own relationship.
If you watch that actual conversation carefully, he is the one who brought it up and then told Brittany that AD did.
@@MiracleMadkinsyes AD is not the 100% nice girl she portrays…and it was not her place. She was finna jump over Mathew knowing he was white so why go say anything to Ken?
She wasn't his first white woman it was his first woman 😮
Kenneth is full of it. Women are women we like attention, affection, treated well...He don't need BIG personality just a personality. He was dead inside. He gave up so easy, he was never serious about finding a wife period. Hes for the Instagram.
I agree 100% that ALL women would want attention, affection and to be treated well. I also feel like Kenneth might not have much experience with dating and relationships. I mean he's super young, successful so it makes sense if dating wasn't his focus. I think it would have benefited him if he did more dating to understand what he needs in a partner before coming on this show.
I was in a similar situation recently and empathized so much with Brittany because it's such a shtty feeling. This guy was 40 and we were perfect on paper but he was just not very affectionate, verbally especially, and I kept thinking I was being picky but it really got to me. I just kept thinking how has this not been an issue for him before, I thought all women like compliments, flirting, being pursued lol. I think it was the fact that we were both introverted like the video says, and neither of us were comfortable really taking the lead. There was no friction so I guess no spark or passion either. I think guys like this would do better with a woman who was a little more fiery and dominate but they are attracted to women who are more laid back and submissive. But then again there are probably also women out there who would be happy with a good guy who was quiet and reliable and not grabbing at her all the time - I'm just not that girl 😂
Apparently his cousin outed him on FB
@@Skswords825oooo how so I need details cause it pissed me off how he handled her
he ain't straight and he has had little to no experience. if you start the season over, he tells on himself hence why i'm confused why he's there
I think Kenneth checked out halfway through the vacation.
I think there's a lot that the camera misses, especially when they're on vacation. Past seasons had made it clear when big events have happened off camera, but I noticed both this and last season I could feel a shift, but had no idea where it came from.
ad convo threw him off
Lol
He checked out the moment AD brought up that his kids would be part white
@@calvinwilson3617this! My husband said this was the moment.
His cousin got on social media and told everyone he's gay and only went on the show for clout. If that's true, that's the third time I've seen reality TV cast a gay guy for a straight dating show. They really need to do better when doing background checks. If you check their social media and it's covered in them kissing dudes, maybe don't marry them off to a woman.
Tbh I really think he is because even before their breakup my gaydar was going off
Everything about him screamed “Gay” to me from the beginning! He should have never been casted on a straight show..
@@Skswords825 what signals did you pick up??
I dated a borderling narcissist and he was definitely a closeted gay and i didn’t really realize it till after we broke up but Kenneth reminds me of him so much 😂😂
ive never heard of this show, nor watched this show but the min i saw this man, i said he was gay lol
Weaponizing God as the reason for not even trying is the most unchrisitian thing. He broke her heart and showed 0 emotion. I feel bad for her. But she dodged a bullet and thank God for that. She deserves a goof stable man who doesn't run her around.
When did Ken run around?
He’s a gaslighting narcissist… he switched up and blamed it all on her…
He was never into her. At the reveal he hardly looks at her. There was no chemistry and no emotional investment on his part. For a short time - to save face - he was acting like he thought he should act and then he checked out. there is NO feeling. Nothing. I think he is GAY too.
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Seriously I thought Kenneth was gay too 😂
All of this!
When I saw his interview on Kelly Clarkson's talkshow, it removed any doubt I had that he's gay. It was so obvious!
@@Nivieeeomggg WHAT. What did you see that let you know for sure? Apparently his cousin came on the net and confirmed
The breakup scene is the most expressive we’ve seen him since the pods. He was so happy to have an out.
Another SPOT ON analysis! Kenneth's issue with Brittany was 100% race-related & was triggered by his conversation with AD.
I almost agreed with this but truth is he knew she was white before proposing... And he was nice on the first night... There is no reason to be so uncaring even if you decide you do not want to go through with the marriage.. He could have been a nicer person even if he was letting her down.. He was never affectionate nor considerate of her feelings... It was such a 180... If he didn't find her attractive he could have been honest about it and say his feelings changed.. Instead he blamed her for not being the one who found him attractive... Even if it's race he didn't need to be so dismissive
I fundamentally disagree. He was treating her weird as soon as they got into his house. Which is quite typical of what happens when people leave the artificial space of the pods or the honeymoon and come back to their homes. I don't think ADs comments had anything to do with it.
He was so disinterested and to me disrespectful..stayed on his phone..when she broke down in tears he didn’t even attempt to comfort her not even a little. She was so sweet I don’t get his behavior and I think he’s in the closet.
This is a great analysis, but something else is going on with Kenneth. He did a 180 pretty quickly. Brittany is very pretty, exactly what he said he wanted and he knew she was white when he proposed to her. He was being rude and disrespectful to her. The way he ended it was so cold and uncaring. SE types aside, how he acted was sh*tty.
Maybe he found out something about her past? Idk because he was acting. Hella rude out of no where?
All I know is that Brittany did NOT deserve that. I’m glad he showed his true colors - I pray Brittany receives the Kingdom Husband she deserves!
I always enjoy your professional analysis. I was waiting on this one. Thank you!
He kept his walls up and remained safe, he’s probably use to being rejected because of his avoidant behavior. I don’t believe he’s into the same sex however his heart wasn’t truly into her and I can sense that he’s insecure within himself he probably doesn’t feel that he deserves someone like her.
Yep.
I’m glad I’m not the only one that felt that vibe that how he wasn’t into the women
Brittany was such a doll. ❤ I really hope she's doing well.
This is so great, I love how you analyze these relationships and make everything clearer!
To me he seemed a little too happy that she wanted to wait until marriage…like phew, I don’t actually have to do anything with her
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Right!😂
Another banger. Please please PLEASE, do Jimmy and Chelsea and Jessica and Trevor next.
Aint nobody worried about him dating no white girl; black men dont face nearly the same level of criticism for dating outside of their race. Its common at this point. He gay. Period.
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See, but I wasn’t gonna say nothing. I see folks saying it’s cause of his convo with AD, it’s cause of his body insecurities, etc etc. Ima just 🤐 bc it’s clear as hell what the real issue is. Cause Black men ain’t never cared bout what we have to say on the matter of interracial dating lmaoooo
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Girl everyone out there is guessing and this is the FIRST explanation that was clear, clinical and precise! You are outstanding and your character shows that you absolutely understand the story and the mechanics behind the story. I am so tired of VERY bad analysis (what I would deem a stab in the dark) of shows that really in one way or another are actually revealing the truth of an individual. People need to remember that the premise of the show is to make as much drama as possible, so if someone has to be the bad person, the producers have NO PROBLEM making everyday people look 50 shades of crazy. The problem I see is when untrained people put out a scenario that inaccurate about a person and how much that inaccurate image will effect that person and how they are seen for the rest of the show, at the wedding (if there is one), at the reunion, and beyond and there are WAY too many people out there that are not careful with what they say and the damage they cause with no understanding of what they did. I’m subscribing to you because you are the ONLY ONE that makes sense! BRAVO!
Kenneth doesn’t seem attracted to women, and this is coming from someone who prefers bisexual men. I don’t like how some are blaming AD and essentially scapegoating her as the reason their relationship ended. I don’t think Kenneth was ever attracted to Brittany, his words and “excitement” were an act to me, but he’ll use her race as a convenient excuse during the reunion. He was very emotional dismissive and dry especially toward the end
Yup I don't know how everybody gaydar not going off....
I’ve dated a ton of bisexual men too and I’m just not seeing it with Kenneth. I think he’s straight and just has no idea how to interact with women.
Yeah I think this is spot on. I personally think that it was the AD comment - Kenneth is a people pleaser (I assume that’s the Fe?) and was scared to be rejected by ‘his people’. He ultimately rejected himself by sabotaging their relationship whilst trying to remain the ‘nice guy’ by gaslighting her into thinking it was her decision. I dated a guy like this who did something very similar. Pursued me for years only to ‘check out’ when we got into a relationship because his friends said they didn’t think me and him had anything in common. It was so scary. Like a light suddenly went out. He became very miserable, distant and lazy and made me out to be a burden; and when I finally broke down and told him I couldn’t do it anymore he said that he can see I’m not happy and he doesn’t think it’s fair on me to be with someone who isn’t making me happy!!
I think he’s even more afraid to be rejected because he may be gay. The race factor is a valid concern but I think that’s a convenient excuse
@@shinebabyshine. hmmm interesting. I hadn’t thought about that
I was turned off by Kenneth halfway into the vacation but especially that blow up at the end, at his home. He is a narcissist. Brittany dodged a bullet. I cringed for her.
I think Ken dodged a bullet. Brittany had a stereotype in mind and needed Ken to perform for her 24/7. She never let herself get used to his real personality. He’s a worship leader at the church and a principal. He didn’t want to be filmed being all over her.
Everyone is a narcissist, just depends on what spectrum. A man shouldn’t have to be perfect to avoid being labeled a narcissist in a bad sense and dehumanized.
You have such incredible wisdom; one of the things I get super excited about whenever Love is Blind USA comes back on our screens is the parallel content you create! It's so insightful and I appreciate the framework and language it provides for me to better understand myself and the people around me. Kenneth and Brittany's storyline unsettled me so much but I couldn't articulate why certain behaviours (mainly Kenneth's tbh 😕) were upsetting me. Watching this video was eye-opening in that regard.
I think it's the race thing - and when AD asked him the question, very gently and very politely, it almost gave him an out as he knew the questioning from his community was going to be much harder and judgemental, and possibly lead to marginalisation. I think reality hit him. And it isn't Ad's fault at all. Brittany was lovely, and hopefully she meets someone who loves her deeply
That's what the show has made it look like, because he went cold specifically after that convo with AD so by all the evidence that seems the main thing. I think he might have been concerned what his people would think when they saw the footage of him being all affectionate with a white woman. He was probably worried about how it would look. Maybe he was also worried about how it might come off the his people in church as well if he showed too much pda.
I’m sure he knew she wasn’t black from the pods… there’s something wrong with him and he decided to push it on her
One convo with AD didn't change him into an unemotional, gaslighting jerk.
He tried to like her, but he just doesn't. Men will do most anything for a partner they want, even deny the desires of their community and families. They give up existing relationships, fame, fortune, health...This man needs to held solely accountable for his ridiculous behavior.
@@jamdoll8660they way they let Clay get away is the way they will most men get away with breaking any women’s heart
Dr. Cherie, I made a similar read on Kenneth in your community tab as soon as you announced this video would be released. Also, most importantly I agree that we culturally need stop calling or assuming people are gay because they don't feel or act how YOU would expect them to! I think the media shows a lot of "Clay" types, and we assume that's how a (black) man should act when he's showing interest. If he isn't overt, we think he must not be interested or straight. I didn't like how Kenneth talked down to Brittany. I also think Kenneth, as most on this show do, started to thinking about how he'd be portrayed and worried about not meeting Brittany's needs, which lead him to retreat.
Clay seem gay too 😂
I also wait until the other person breaks up with me. I just never know what to say. "i lost interest in you" sounds terrible 😭😔 If I were Christian saying "God put us on separate paths" would be such a relief 😅
😂 lol. I don’t have difficulty breaking up with people, but I still have a ‘line’ that I use. I tell the person, “I don’t want to marry you.” Because if I can confidently answer that question, then the relationship has run its course.
To be clear, I used this method in my mid/late 20s when I was focused on dating for marriage. Happily married now.
There are rumors that Kenneth is gay. And honestly that explanation for his behavior makes more sense than anything else haha.
Especially after they broke up and he went upstairs and called his “friend” and left to meet him.🤔
Best channel on YT
agreed!
If he was ignoring her because of others views of their relationship he is a punk point blank period. Brittany needs to leave and go somewhere she is valued and respected. He is ridiculous.
I heard that they had already broken up off camera and needed to replay it so that’s why it looks so awkward.
It is always so interesting to hear the show from this angle.
Everything you said make sens HOWEVER I feel like most of the time those situations happen because a person start lying and instead of being honest and handle it for whatever reason they start lying and gaslighting
Fam gay, it’s as simple as that.
Someone gets it
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Yay for another video so soon!!!!! It was hard to watch the change in his attentiveness and interest so I have gotten a lot out of your analysis of what might explain that. Very fascinating ( as usual Dr Cherie!!)
I'm still waiting for that INFJ participant and your analysis.... but INFJ is probably the least likely to go on Love is Blind 😅
there's a lot of speculation that Cam from S1 is INFJ (and Lauren is ENFP). I'd love to, but I'm biased bc I am in that kind of relationship.
@@cass_sorrel Cam is an intj, Iyanna is an infj
I was typed as INFJ by Dr Cherie and I fantasize going on LIB to later watch her analyze my dates and possible engagement. :)
If I went I would probably constantly be in my head,, trying to work out which type is behind the wall, while investing tons of energy in other people's feelings and also worried I'm not in the moment enough to take it all in and enjoy the experience. It would be great! :D
I always look forward to your videos! Love your analysis.
I feel so called out by the Fe being unable to breakup with people. :/ It feels like ripping my eyeballs out.
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Oh my god sameeeeee as an INFJ
@@rayne336 fellow infj I feel you pain!
i loooove whenever you drop one🎉🎉🎉🎉
Obsessed with how you analyze!
I loooove your content! It's so interesting, analytic and on point!
Love your channel. Wish I understood each personality type described the way you do with functions! For us ❤❤❤
Such a solid and fair review. Loved it ❤
This was chef kiss!
I'm confused, if you need a specific race, why go on Love is "Blind"?
And what she was meaning by ''crave'', is that she wanted physical closeness (without sex) to where they were excited to eventually have sex. But they weren't having that because he was completely closed off after it was brought to his consciousness about race.
He had many hours to be close to her, with her all but (and even) asking for it. But he choses to initiate when he knows would be the most inconvenient time for her. Then he turns the discussion, gaslighting, in order to get out of it without looking like it was all his decision.
There are men in her religious conviction who desire marriage. She needs to reevaluate where she is looking for love, because it's not working for her. And there are many Black women who would love to marry a committed Christian Black man. If he really wanted that, he shouldn't have had to go on a show to find it fr
Wow very interesting perspective. I felt so emotional and angry watching this play out on my own. Seeing your take on it makes a lot of sense!
She’s a great woman, I hope she truly finds her man 😕🙌🏾✨
Wow, you’re good! And I love the way you say Brittany.
Great video! However, I do wish you explicitly state which type every person is. I see in your description you add ISTJ, ISFJ, but I think it will be easier for the audience to understand who is what. I struggle with understanding it in the format as Si/Fe etc… so it’s harder for me to connect the dots sometimes. I’ve followed you since 2021 and still struggle with this unfortunately, but always love your analysis as a whole!
Would this intro to cognitive function help? It shows a couple of simple rules to convert. ua-cam.com/video/tQaHdZmLwvo/v-deo.htmlsi=4wRkSpNJwTojr3je
Thanks for an excellent personality analysis of the couple! ❤
This one is my personal opinion. It is much more painful and humiliating for a woman to be rejected in such a rude way by a guy who looks like Shrek. Moreover, in a program with millions of viewers. After all, he is supposed to be a role model as a school principal for young people. I understand, after what he told Brittany and combined with his behavior in contact with others, that he lost his moral compass a long time ago and may never find it.
Maybe check yourself on your Shrek comment. In the black community he would not be viewed as that ugly and it’s clear you are influenced by European centric ideals of beauty.
How about it was painful and humiliating because he acted like a horrible human.
I understand, and agree, with all you've said AND for me, Kenneth needs some definite lessons in emotional connection and understanding how to build the deeper sides of a relationship. Brittany, for me, falls into codependence when going into a relationship, hence why she didn't speak up to Kenneths word salad he deftly employed so as to not take any emotional responsibility. There's also an element of hiding behind spirituality that both of them need to address as spirituality is to bring them together deeply, emotionally, and that was not happening at all.
This was a great analysis
I just finished watching episode 8 and was completely confused by Kenneth response to Brittany saying she needed more emotional connection from him. And I went looking for people commenting on this episode. And BOOM 💥 This analysis was SO GOOD!!! I loved your explanations and point of view. NOW I want you to analyze my personality so I can understand the theory behind my unconscious words and actions. 😂😂😂😂 So… I do I take you test??
I so wanted to take that phone and ....
She’s anxious preoccupied, he’s an avoidant.
Could Kenneth be an avoidant attachment style?
Nah he’s sus 😂 homie is strange. 😅
In the pods Kenneth was so present, intelligent, and respectful. But once home he often acts self centered and oblivious to Brittany. She needs to tell him - "it's not that coming home late is a problem, if you are coming home late occasionally, let me know like you did. It's the fact that you didn't show me any basic consideration when you got home - like keeping the lights off and getting in bed quietly, so you don't wake me. Do not do that again. That's rude."
it's also that he treats her like his phone and his relationship with everyone else is more important than she is. Rude the way he keeps pulling it out when she's there with him. I'm old school about phones - go on it when you're alone, or when you are away doing your work IF it requires it, if it's an emergency or very important (either one brief), or if you and the other person present are both calling someone (family or close friend) together. That's it.
I do believe that this was a relationship that was pulled apart by cultural differences. Both sides are to blame. Both are to blame.
This was a very insightful video! I am a therapist and this was very insightful. I will book with you in the near future. Thank you.
I look forward to meeting you 😊
Kenneth was giving "in it for fame"
Omg I love your channel so glad I found it I’m learning a lot
I feel like asking race should be prohibited on the show. I mean… it’s called Love Is Blind, so…
or giving look alikes
21:25 im an infj. I have no problem breaking up with ppl. Mind u, took some practice to not care and prioritize my own feelings. But i find it harder to keep a relationship going that im just not into.
What if he just lost interest after living with Brittney and spending more time with her?? What if he realized he isn’t truly ready for marriage? Is that so wrong??? Just wish these people would be more honest about how they feel and stop saying what they think the viewers or producers want to hear!!!!!!
Don't waste people's time and make them feel like you want it when you don't. She tried. He kept lying to her. His behavior is his responsibility. For a Principal he is very immature for relationships. As for her, she should've checked out. As a person who's had her number of toxic relationships, it is not easy but she will learn.
She is a doll & deserves someone so much better than this fool.. 🤦🏻♀️
Thank you for the video, This was interesting and makes sense as to why their relationship did not work out. Curious, how do you determine their personality types?
#JUSTICEFORBRITTANY
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The moment Ken and Brittany took a left was a foundational thing. When Ken asked where she asks what's her stance on waiting, her response was Luke warm and she answered how she thought she should. She said she came into it thinking she will wait, meaning it was not a set thing or a conviction.
He took the stance of being overly respectful and not tempting her or crossing the line. They both had desires for each other and they were Pigeon holed into their ideologies of what they should do and battles what they wanted to do. She wanted and was open to sex, (she literally said she wanted to be tempted) someone wanting to achieve something like abstinence does not want temptation of whatbthey are trying to hold off from. He would have been more aggressive if he was not trying to be the guy who tempted a white woman who was abstaining. They just needed to be honest and be clear on what intimacy and boundaries were
My personality type is ISFJ and I felt really called out by this video 😭 Rest assured tho I would much rather break up with someone than make them break up with me
Type just explains us on autopilot. We can all grow and be better for others once we are made aware of our natural tendencies 🙂
@@DrCherieTypesYup, that's very true
Brittany is gorgeous, smart and a catch. Good riddance with Kenneth.
I'm black.
Tough read Dr Cherie, but I think you nailed it. I really struggled with this couple because I thought they had what it takes to make it…but your analysis supports that they really weren’t a good fit, even outside of the interracial thing. Oh well.
this explains my ex's behavior, he is a fe type and he couldn't break up with me, so he ghosted me, hung out with other girls, and listed a list of things that I "did wrong" and did everything to make me break up with him, I was so traumatized by that relationship, and also puzzled by his behavior and sworn that I'll never date anyone like that.
Thank you for this video! I would be very grateful if you could add the 4 letters of the personality type next to the function letters. It is not obvious for me which personality types they are based on functions only. That would be really helpful! Thanks again!
I think, Kenneth is emotionally unavailable, and probably has an avoidant style of attachment and narcissistic traits(covert narcissism ).
Someone being on there phone like that irks me so bad. I do feel like his reaction to the reveal was fake and somewhat performative. It was simply him saying what he thinks the people would want to here. Similar to what he did to Britney. I dont think he is attracted to yt girls but he knew that already. His behavior towards the end shows his hot and cold demeanor. He seems to have some personality or mental disorder he was very cold to her.
Great vid ❤️ I love your perspective!
I don't think people understand that Kenneth is a workaholic. He didn't withdraw from Brittany, he just went back to work. He's very "what you see is what you get" and didn't want to deal with the emotional instability of her questioning the relationship and in a way his character. To me, it just looks like he has a lot of responsibility on his shoulders and he needs someone who will fit into his dynamic
You and him should date then and leave the rest of us normal people alone
@@ZovaBe Do you think that your behavior is normal, writing nasty comments to strangers on the internet?
He’s gay. That’s all. He wasn’t not attracted to her because she’s white, it’s because she is a woman.
Cringing realizing I’m the same type as Kenneth 😫😫
Aww. There are good and bad eggs for every type. It’s how you use the functions that make the individual 🙂
A 25 year old principal? That’s pretty impressive.
I think he has an avoidant Attachement style... it was hard to watch how he let her down and acted as if he was unaffected. He emotionally checked out. I think their problems have more to do with Attachement than with personality styles.
I thought about this, too, I wondered if he was withdrawing so he could have an easy out out of the relationship. I felt like he quickly built a case for "oh! Well we don't understand each other OH WELL let's mutually end it bye bye!" haha
@@sorenbyrd2342 Totally! He was looking for excuses left and right
How a 2 dumping a 9 ? I don’t understand
Thank you so much for your insightful videos,m! I see bits of myself in various characters you’ve discussed, which has been enlightening but also a bit perplexing, given how my reactions can vary with the situation. When doing quizzes, as opposed to when I was doing them when younger, I find it hard to find clear answers. When analysing my past relationships I am confused at my own behaviour. Figuring out others seems easier. Do you plan on making a Video on how to determine one’s personality type, considering these nuances? And perhaps even share your own personality type? I am super curious what your type is, since you do have this knack of analysing people and you deliver it in a very clear way.
Nah, I don't think he had a bad edit. He even said in the breakup that he tried to be affectionate at 2am. No thank you! He needs to come home at the right time and be affectionate during daylight hours!
Missed your videos!
He was just lazy, no effort , she was tired of trying
This relationship was over soon as he discovered her race. Reality is, it's hard raising a black child if you're not black. The different hair textures alone would be a huge learning curve. Placing your black child in white spaces could result in an identity crisis for said child, teaching black history, as the white parent are you willing to walkaway from your friend group and family as you know it? Not everyone in their circle maybe fond of interracial dating--it's 2024 but some people are very much still racist and I mean this season was in the Carolinas..it's a lot to consider and digest. I don't think AD was out of line at all.
I don’t think it’s a race thing… I think he’s not straight when it comes to his sexuality
After watching enough of these shows, once you meet you need that physical connection also, but people don't like to admit that so as not to appear shallow. I would have asked things in the Pods about affection and how you express it. Do you like things like making out, what type of sexuality is your style, and what turns you off and on? What is your desire or expectation from the man relating to you? The Pods were almost people talking themselves into liking the other.
I feel like a lot of ppl act like SIs in relationships now days. No one wants to initiate or make the first move or plan the date. At least that’s been my experience.
SI dominant people are literally estimated to be half the population, so that makes sense.
I literally didn’t even realize that was a breakup.
To be honest Kenneth outright verbalized that he found it attractive that Brittany was wanting to wait for marriage to be physical and I think he was turned off by her asking for physical touch and wearing revealing swimsuits. I think him being a faith leader was really important to him. Ofc if the same sex attraction theory is correct then perhaps he used that narrative as a layer of protection as he planned to say no at the alter regardless
A a student in school studying psychology and counseling, I am wondering what do you recommend studying if I want to educate myself more on personality types?
Dr. Cherie I really appreciate you acknowledging that Brittany might have given Ken the Ick bc she actually did say some things that made me wonder about her.
What type of personality test is she using here? It seems similar to MBTI with the sensing stuff, but I'm a little lost😂
She is using “cognitive functions” created by Carl Jung. John Beebe created the “cognitive function stack”. Which is the system you see here. DrCherie has made some changes, which makes a lot more sense to me compared to others. Get ready for the advanced level stuff. MBTI is the watered down version.
@@AiResearcherPhD tysm! It would be really helpful if she made a video explaining the cognitive function stack for newbies like me.
This is an amazing breakdown! Thank you for giving us clarity because I was confused watching that scene 🫣
This is that action so different than words. He spoke a good game but its looking like he was all bs