Kenneth wasn't just 'not emotionally attuned,' he was completely checked out. I hate that some men do that; just completely detach and withdraw so the woman can break up with them. They will literally do everything possible to avoid looking like the bad guy at all costs.
@@Foreverdensword That's terrible. Kenneth is an attractive man. The issue is that he is gay, so Brittany was never going to fill his actual need. Perhaps LIB needs a LGBT version?
People need to chill about the phone thing. He literally didn't have access to a phone that entire time and needed to catch up with some work emails. It shouldn't be that big of a deal.
Yeah he didn’t deserve her at all. Wish they didn’t hit it off in the pods lol. She could have spent her time elsewhere with someone that would have appreciated her.
@@FieryMaQso true, both of you. Even if she didn’t connect with anyone else she wouldn’t have gotten her hopes up for someone who wasn’t going to make an effort.
I’m convinced that the show needs occasional appearances from a therapist/ dating Coach to guide the way and truly tap into conversations that matters.
I totally agree ,TOo hot to handle brought in dating coaches to guide the casts through workshops which was good for the casts while they were dating and it made realize their mistakes and fears while dating and it didn't affect the drama at all
Based on what Clay said on the the proposal I got the impression they do see therapist during the pods. But I think they def should bring that to the audience.
I was so sad for Brit when he got his phone back. Completely disconnected from her. He seemed so emotionless in their breakup! I was so excited to hear you dissect it
Apparently it wasn’t like that- they had broken up off camera on the flight back to the states- they both came out with interviews about it🤷♀️. I can’t wait for the reunion…
@@RenayOpishreally? Than why on earth did she move things into drawers etc? I’m not surprised that production would want to film a break up but dang the whole moving in thing for real ugh
To him the issue of her skin color was too big of a deal. I wonder how we'd be acting if the shoe was on the other foot and she broke up with him because of his skin tone.
I think you hit the nail on the head. Kenneth liked the fantasy of what Britney was, but that didn’t translate into the real world. I really feel for Britney, she seems like a sweet person
Kenneth saying he was smothering her with affection on the boat, when he wouldn't even hold her hand, staring into space while she grasping at him. He really flipped a switch after the AD conversation.
@@Eddybaby01I don’t think it was because of AD what’s so ever but I do agree he was looking for a way out .. he liked the fantasy of Brittany but it didn’t come thru in the real world
@@Eddybaby01I don't like how he went about it but if your white spouse has a very white woman response to a genuine question a black woman had brought up about raising brown babies and reality hits you in the face she not ready for that then it's a chop. He should've just broke it off when he felt different, instead he turned into an ass/coward.
it was definitely the AD convo. As a black woman I could tell he began to withdraw the moment he realized how 'his people' would look at him if he dated a white woman. He even said "if my girl bestfriend found out i'm dating a white woman, she'd pull me aside and ask if i'm okay" like what??
I think waking you up while sleeping (if there is NO emergency like the house on fire) is a precursor to worse violence. It shows they have no respect for that person’s health, well-being, or physical boundaries
He was so dismissive after the conversation with AD. Britney was being so honest but he was def gaslighting her into thinking she was the only one who was seeing the relationship as it was. He was all talk and time showed his lack of emotions and concern for her and prioritizing the relationship and commitment. The boat scene was so painful to watch since he was like a block of ice
I genuinely hadnt realized Kenneth was gaslighting her in that last conversation and hearing you dissect his words so clearly was rlly helpful since I can be more aware of behaviours to watch out for 😭😭 thank you !!
Same! From just the first watch, I thought it felt like a reasonable conversation even though Kenneth’s conclusion to end their relationship felt abrupt. Then I head to UA-cam for my favorite LIB analyses videos and have to re-evaluate how easily I can get gaslighted LOL
What I found most interesting was that Kenneth actually put his phone down in their final conversation. He was attentive when it was time to break things off .
I cried so hard for both of them.. and also many of us who desire love and finding your person while working through all the past trauma and insecurity..
AD: I choose player and ballers, I ignore red flags, chooses clay. Tells clay even though his father cheated on his mom repeatedly for 25 years there was beauty in the relationship. 😂😂😂😂 clown behavior
There’s a part of me that thinks Kenneth wasn’t attracted to Brittany from the reveal and had been thinking of a way out. I think that conversation with AD gave him the perfect opportunity to shut down
@@MJ31579 Kenneth saw a friend when that reveal happened. Nothing came genuinely to him when it came to interacting with her. To me he was always going thru the motions his facade just rapidly fell apart in each episode. I was honestly surprised the producers gave them any screen time. I’m assuming that mainly happened only because they made it just past the honeymoons.
Sarah Ann and Britney must have enjoyed ad's wedding if she wasn't so focused on other people's relationships she would have noticed her man doesn't want her.
I agree with you! Like Kenneth is whole man. I get that what AD could have said may have put some doubt in him but come on now! He can think for himself…
I don’t get why noone sees that it was Brittany that was not physically attracted to him?! Kenneth felt genuinely attracted to Brittany. Brittany just tried to laugh everything off and set their relationship into friendship mode since the first time they saw each other. Eventually Kenneth felt rejected and closed down. Brittany’s half hearted attempts of adding some kind physical parts to the relationships just felt empty when I saw it so clearly at the reveal that she was not physically attracted. But I feel like I am the only one in the world to see this which usually means I am wrong. But can’t shake the feeling of what I see :)
Repeating the phrase "For you" is wild smh. Performative romantic gestures is the new slick red flag during this sassy man apocalypse.❤ Great commentary
Their final conversation was extremely triggering for me coming from a past relationship where I experienced someone consistently gaslighting me - I’m grateful she got out then before marrying him!
I was once in a relationship where the man completely checked out months before we broke up. When I saw what Brittany was going through, as bad as it sounds, I'm glad their relationship got snuffed out quick so she can focus on healing. Being in that space for long can kill your psyche.
Sadly, I think a lot of men who are deep in the Black Church view wives as accessories, something you just need to have as a man of God because the Bible says that's the way. They don't view being a husband as something they need to really work at and grow in emotionally. To them, wives have all these duties and requirements for how to serve them and the family, but they as husbands just need to "lead" and exist. He seemed completely emotionally cut off from her, but I've seen that often in religious men claiming they want marriage. It's unfortunate, but didn't really surprise me at all. Emotional labor is for wives only according to a lot of churchy teachings.
@@elin_but that is like saying one more reason not to work in corporate America or participate in any other institution. PEOPLE are people, and make individual choices that don’t reflect a whole community. Nothing to do with religion as a whole.
That is all churches tbh. Its why women are choosing divorce. They want to be seen and treated with the same respect as a man aka a human. Its sad its 2024 and we are still battling this.
Interesting. Im an atheist, but my wife is a Christian and we spend a lot of time reading Christian literature. I haven’t found what you said about the “churchy teachings” to be very accurate. I know a few offensive verses about women in the church, but most intelligent individuals would chalk that up to the times. Black church must be significantly different. The ones I visited growing up certainly didn’t have a time limit to their services.
He tried to portray himself as a leader in the pods but all we saw in the real world was a petulant little boy. That woman deserves so much better. She has the patience of a saint.
I felt that after A.D. spoke with him about raising black children...that got Kenneth thinking and worrying about what the people in his circle might think about him marrying a white woman. It got in his head so he shut her down in a cold manner. At first i was so impressed with how well he treated her...like a gentleman should. My heart hurt for Jessica. She seemed like such a sweet young woman!
Nothing wrong with raising mixed children. I thought us as a humankind were more evolved in this situation. I wonder why he has such strong reservations ????
@@yatal.1501 agreed. AD was doing wayyyy too much. It would make anyone uncomfortable. It was unnecessary considering the show is about falling in love without seeing the other person
Perhaps because the narrative of the skin color matters more rather than if you’re a decent person and this is my opinion. I have noticed lately everything comes with an agenda. At the end of the day we’ll never know the actual why. Britt was honestly one of my favs.
@@Ashley-yy3dewhat if she matched with Metthew? Would she have walked away as soon as she saw he was white? Strange for her to have said all those things
i knew the relationship was doomed when she said that she wants to be submissive and he got weirdly excited. of course he wasn't going to cook, of course he wasn’t going to care of her, he just wanted a good christian girl to do everything for him.
he tried hard to make us think he was a considerate person then with oh you're not attracted to me because you said no when you were asleep 🙄 - I didn't do anything wrong ,victim playing - very manipulative
@@rebeccalaff853yeah, nahh. I have a 24 year old son who runs circles around this man child. My son is so mature I have to remind him that he’s only 24 and not 42!!😂
Well broken down about this couple, I felt like no one touched on how Kenneth switched up and Brittany was left feeling like she was asking for too much.
He immediately seemed DL to me. It’s his voice, mannerisms and the phrases that he says. Straight men do not talk with their hands as much and they don’t use phrases like “it’s giving”. Another giveaway was how excited he was about her wanting to wait. I understand that some people don’t want have relations too soon, but his reaction was like a relief. It was obvious to me.
So much of their relationship I felt was colored by their religion. When I’ve been in spaces with really Christian/traditional people women tend to get the short end of the stick. That first night home when he said of course you have to cook I saw that as his expectation for a traditional relationship so to him it seemed like a no brained. Meanwhile Brittany and women are expected to handle most household and emotional labor. To me he was acting in the role he expected to have and she just got a glimpse of how that role sucks for women. That’s why I was soooo turned off by their conversations in the pods, everything was about how they aligned religiously but not who they were as individuals and what they needed beyond the roles their religion sets. When a woman says I want to be submissive my first thought is always, “do you really, do you really know what that entails?”
I totally agree with your assessment that it was the conversation with AD which changed his attitude towards Britt. I also found it disappointing how he then withdrew without explanation and then took the cowardly way out by making it seem like she was the one who lost interest in him. I love your videos. So clear and intelligently produced. ❤
I found it so strange when she said “he identifies as black” as well but I saw a teacher explain that they are taught to be very careful with titles and their students. I think that was where she was coming from but I don’t think it needs to be used when it comes to race, more so gender roles, sexuality, etc.
Anyone else catch AD ask him how he felt about a white woman (Brit) raising his black kids??? How tacky of her. Why can't the focus be on raising good humans??
I watch Love is Blind just to see your analysis! I’ve learned so much from you and often implement what not to do in my relationship. Keep doing what you’re doing ❤️ We appreciate you!
I think the interracial aspect was a possible out for him for prospective in the show…a family member (which has been proven) came out to say he is not attracted to women, that he is gay and that he went on the show for notoriety and possible opportunities. Either way he wasted and manipulated this woman and her possible experience
I just commented the same thing before reading this I was wondering if anyone felt the same way SHE IS EFEN HOTTT in every way he has to be gay he wasent even giving her a real kiss more like a grandma kiss, I would of eaten her alive such a waste to have him given that chance to have her and just blow it on some closeted gay dude
@@jamilcollins932 yeah you can find a lot of interviews too he was doing a year ago, he tried to get big on TikTok and kept reaching out to do interviews in various places his cousin also said he went on the show to “try and please his family” so maybe they do not accept his lifestyle which is a shame
I agree! And immediately thought the same after watching that scene. The convo between Kenneth and AD caused a shift in his relationship with Brittany. She dodged a bullet by not continuing with someone who is inconsistent, inconsiderate and values other people’s opinions yet identifies with being spiritual.
I heard that Brittany and Kenneth broke up when the cameras weren’t there so to avoid the $50k fine they had to re-do their breakup on camera. I mean that scene would maybe be interpreted differently but still all good analysis! I love these videos it’s really helpful even in my relationship! Please keep doing these videos 🥹
Exactly! The woman had to be up at 5 AM and he woke up at her up at 1:30 AM and we’re supposed to think that’s a reasonable time to initiate intimacy??? He chose the time when she wouldn’t want that type of attention on purpose. people do that all the time, where they do things at an inconvenient time or way just so you can say no and later they can say “well at least I tried” that way they skirt blame.
I’m a fellow therapist and enjoy your content. I had similar feelings about the AD convo. He seemed to completely do a 180 after that. I think Kenneth thinks he’s much more emotionally mature than he actually is. Instead of having a convo with Brittany about his concerns, he went cold and self sabotaged. And I agree with you that he took the easy way out by letting her be the one with the issues. He clearly needs to engage in some healing work or else these issues will continue, whether it’s about race or something else. I think he’s so focused on meeting the other person’s needs and likely has shame about having his own needs that he just shuts down instead of working through them. I think that speaks to you saying how agreeable he was.
I’ve been saying since the DR episodes that Kenneth’s energy shifted since the convo in AD. I rewatched that convo right after he broke up with Brittany and it seemed like AD was not only doing most of the talking, she was also putting words in his mouth. I’m playing devil’s advocate here, but he never really got to say what he was concerned with the entire time. All he said was “my boys are gonna be like ‘yo Ken, that’s…’” and AD just said “life’s gonna life.” Hers was an easy assumption to make considering the circumstances but he never got to express what was really concerning him. That’s my take anyway. Honestly? Between her conversations with Kenneth and Sarah Ann, and what she ultimately said about “nothing was gonna stop her from marrying Clay” in the finale, I really don’t like AD anymore. She needs a good (or better) therapist and to learn to mind her business.
With the rumors about kenneth being on the DL, him being happy about her wanting to wait, says so much now. Hes just glad that wasnt on the table or had to be an obstacle. I did like kenneth in the beginning, but if the rumors are true, i felt that. I could see his disconnect and his desire was to simply look good on tv.
I thought those were more just insults of people trying to attack him and bring down his character, less so of rumors. And I think this video clearly illustrates, he doesn't need the help of rumors. While Steph thoughtfully does not say this outright, I think his actions and behavior point to him being a bad person - which you could not throw a stick at this season and not hit someone who's bad practically - basically all the men on for clout ( minus Johnny) and some women having serious issues with emotional regulation and not being able to self reflect and take accountability for their character and behaviors. I did hear a rumor that Kenneth was in a relationship as well with someone while this was all happening - that he says "babe" when he calls someone after the break up with Brit. Does anyone else hear it?
Kenneth did her a favor as Brittaney deserved so much better. God is faithful and will provide her with the man she deserves and who will be worthy of her. Kenneth wasn’t even close.
I’m sorry, but the way he treated her and dismissed everything she was saying was disgusting. Not to mention he left her crying and upset. That is really nasty of him. He wanted an excuse to break things off and her talking to him about her feelings was his way out?
Soon as I heard him talk and seen his mannerisms, I realize he was on the wrong show. I don’t know why he came to the show or played with Brittany emotions like that he knew what he was really interested in was not on the other side of those pods 🐸☕️
I feel so validated in my view that their relationship was based shared values and trauma, but it never seemed like they liked just talking with each other on day to day stuff.
Kenneth has a lot of growing to do. He’s immature and unsure of himself. Brittany was too good for him. He’s weak. I found it inappropriate for AD to doubt Brittany’s ability to raise her own children. Two loving parents with good ideals, morals, and ethics is what children need. He was weak if he was swayed so easily. 🙄 Kenneth was my least favorite person on the show paired with my favorite person on the show. Tragic
Inappropriate to discuss the nuances of a white woman raising children of African descent in America? Wow. That marriage pair has one of the highest divorce rates and the children of those unions often have a LOT of trauma. There are enough accounts of the LIVED experiences of biracial kids with white mothers to understand why it’s a valid concern. It’s not something “good values and morals” and “two loving parents” can just negate. Love does NOT conquer all. It’s that naïveté that underpins a lot of failed relationships. She said what he should have been thinking of. If he hadn’t, then that’s a reflection of his own immaturity. Also, the IR aspect of their relationship was really a cop out. He wanted out, like many of the men on the show, but had to find a decent excuse to not be “villainized”.
Sarah Ann and Britney must have enjoyed ad's wedding if she wasn't so focused on other people's relationships she would have noticed her man doesn't want her.
@@soul-deeplevel-up6179 bro genuinely looked like a flip switched after what AD said. I don't think her intentions were bad or to discorage him to date a white woman either and even if they were its still his fault for being easily swayed. When it comes to being black in America there is going to be some hurtles regardless whether you are half white and especially if you are fully black so yeah there were going to be challenges Brittany would had to over come but that would still be off concern if she was black herself (even more so). AD shouldn't have doubted her mother raising abilities when she doesn't even really know her.
I interpreted that last convo as her politely saying she wasn’t physically attracted to him and him trying to exit with his head up high. He said something about having faith that what’s meant for him is out there. That kind of wording sounded like someone managing getting rejected
When he broke off their engagement like that, I was screaming at the TV like Tyra “WE WERE ALL ROOTING FOR YOU!!” I loved them in the pods and knew as soon as AD planted that seed of doubt in his head that there would be an issue. This is why AD needed to keep her opinions to herself and I really want to know why she felt the need to even ask him. If they don’t talk about that at the reunion, I’m gonna be pissed.
I need you to re watch the video. Ad never planted a seed of doubt in his head. She was coming from good intentions & was very concerned. Like did you even hear what the therapist said in the video? Even the therapist agreed that what Ad said was just her being genuine concern.
If your relationship can’t withstand outside comments you’re already doomed to begin w so let’s def not put it all on AD that’s just childish even tho I agree AD is nosey
Its peak misogyny and delusion for you to be putting the blame on Kenneth not wanting to be with jessica on Ad. No man that truly desires a woman which wasnt the case for them is going to allow outside opinions or statements to affect their relationship. He wasnt attracted to her and was looking for a way out
I knew as soon as I watched this season that I NEEDED you to talk about these couples; especially Kenneth and Brittany! Thank you! For Brittany asking about Kenneth's race I kind of understand if she was trying to gauge any topics that she felt they might need to discuss when it comes to interracial dating? At least that's what I immediately thought. But yeah for a show that is about falling in love blindly, I've noticed so many people have been giving way too much. I felt that Brittany asking about Kenneth's race was different than Clay trying to figure out if AD was his type physically!
@Out_on_a_Limb_Life Down low - slang; an expression for a BISEXUAL black man (who "thinks" he's straight - hah!), married or with a girlfriend, having sexual relations with another man.
You're back! I have been waiting on your take! I agree with your thoughts on Kenneth - He tried to be someone he's not and it backfired. I'm just sad that Brittany was caught in the cross hairs
I have watched a few of your videos now, and have to say I love them. Thank you thank you thank you for validating exactly how I felt Kenneth was treating Brittany. Specifically how he was projecting back on to her and gaslighting her feelings; diminishing the validity of her comments, dismissing ANY responsibility for any of his actions, and ultimately saying it's her fault. I think she showed an unbelievable amount of grace and patience for Kenneth, and was thoughtful in how she expressed her emotions, and to see him dismiss and ignore things and shut them down hurt to see, and I don't feel like anyone else I've seen has talked about this and addressed it, so thank you because I wanted some validation as well if anyone could see what I saw. Yes, the phone is a bit disrespectful and a way to distance and avoid, but it's too obvious, and MANY MANY Gen Z and Millennials behave this way in relationships, so I'm a little surprised to see so many people latch onto how "awful" it is, when they likely do it themselves. There were so many deeper issues you expressed here from Kenneth's side, so again thank you for articulating them and giving context so concretely. For my interest in watching reality dating shows (while, yes, some of it is still for some drama), I am interested in the way people communicate and form relationships, to compare what I see in my own life and the real world. While not an MFT, I have a BA in Psych and have always been interested in studying people's lives/stories/TV from a psychological perspective . NGL a lot of podcasts/YT/reaction videos are just not contributing anything new/funny/insightful/interesting, and I scroll right on- so it's honestly been a bit of a comfort to find your channel with your experience breaking down these ideas. Again, love your content, keep it coming, can't wait to dive in more and for your insights on the finale as well!
They were my favorite in the pods. Immediately I was confused and I fell asleep in the part with AD and so I was soooooo confused. And then very disappointed. I also felt if this is the way he handles things - by completely checking out- it will be an issue always with other areas. I’m so sad for Brittany. She is one of the nicest most sane innocent girls I’ve seen on this show so that was disappointing.
In DR when they were on the boat I got the feeling that he was in his head regarding the racial difference. He acted like someone who was afraid to touch her in fear of some type of backlash. meaning if I touch her she may claim assault later. It’s just the feeling I got from him especially seeing that he never dated outside his race. AD gave him things to think about that he may not have considered prior. Stuff got real and he didn’t know how to communicate his fears effectively
Kenneth gave me zesty vibes as soon as he opened his mouth! I just wish he wouldn't waste Brittneys time! She really liked him and was doing everything to connect with him! He was putting up a wall in every direction! I hope he finds himself and builds the courage to come out and stop playing with peoples feelings! Hope Brittany understands she is Good Woman and did nothing wrong!
1) I've noticed that no one is mentioning that these people live in a region of the U.S. that is more racially fueled than other parts. They are in a less tolerant place racially and spiritually so them being interracial in a Carolina would play out much differently than it would in, say, New York City or a place where black/white history is less at play. Either way, as a black woman who's been in an interracial relationship, it wouldn't cross my mind to distance myself from my partner. I'd be distancing myself from the people or places that have a problem with us. 2) It's indisputable that there's gaslighting and part of me is glad to have such a clear example for people to refer to. It brings a massive amount of awareness to what it is. On the other hand, I really wish the woman in this situation didn't go through this. I hope she clearly sees that she wasn't the problem and his behavior wasn't because of her. That said, it feels like she confused race and gender but I think she's onto something unknowingly. She brings up the question of why can't we culturally identify in the same way that we can with gender and sexuality? Physical features seem to be concrete but how you're culturally raised can vary wildly. As a kid, I couldn't relate to my black family and classmates. Quite frankly, I found them all to be threatening since my household was abusive and only my black classmates bullied me. Things I loved like reading and musicals always starred and were written by white people. That was the culture most in my psyche. I made associations from that and developed internalized racism; meaning I didn't want to identify as black because I also didn't want to identify as an enslaved, abusive, bully as my life had taught me black people were supposed to be. I've always known that racial identity could feel like a cage. I didn't want to be caged. If we're willing, we can have conversations about this and why Brittany (?) worded this man's identity as she did.
I’m actually glad someone like Kenneth was on the show because I hope it shows some people out there that these types of people in a relationship are trash. He was so focused on the superficial part of their relationship that he couldn’t even take the second to actually get to know her. I think it’s crazy to go on a show where they isolate you to talk to your partner and you want to be on your phone the whole time, did you watch the show? It’s a walking red flag, and I’m glad he was wearing red when he was breaking up with her because yikes. She deserves better and I’m sure she’ll get it.
Kenneth is gay. I believe. He reminds me so much of an ex who YEARS later admitted to struggling with his sexuality and that’s why he was soooo emotionally distant. Made big promises but never followed through because he just couldn’t see himself long term with a woman.
Such a thoughtful and in-depth analysis! I grew up with a parent who gaslit me often, and Kenneth behavior gave me major 🚩🚩🚩It’s nice to see that someone else agrees!
What got me most about him was not only everything you mentioned which is totally spot on, but he used religious reasons as the ultimate reason they should break up. He said something along the lines of “god doesn’t want us to be together” and “he’s going to bring me what’s meant for me”. I find that to be utter B.S considering he wasted so much of Brittany’s time. Ultimately, he could never own up to any of his shit. He was so completely full of himself that he ultimately had to bring his beliefs into equation when breaking up with her.
Jess revealed on a podcast that they had broken up off camera but the producers wanted it to be filmed so they had to run this conversation back and maybe he was using blunt words and synthesizing that "you felt that" for the re-run vs. his actual words in the breakup. This may add to why it felt inauthentic/he was disconnected on his phone (even though that was still clearly an issue).
I really love your take as a therapist. You make perfect sense. What I learned from you about Kenneth’s behavior & some foreshadowing events is when he wasn’t expanding on more of his feelings towards her wanting to wait til marriage with intimacy. He was just agreeing with her instead of really diving into the importance for him. That was very interesting and telling
I think Kenneth put up a front, he’s not the thoughtful, caring, and attentive man he was trying to portray himself to be. From the jump when he was just sitting around on his phone practically ignoring her. I understand he’s a busy guy and his job is time consuming but at the end of the day he lied about who he was and then gas lit her into thinking she didn’t have the connection with him when it was the other way around. God bless her I really truly hope she finds a good man bcuz Kenny ain’t it for her.
I’ve also seen the opposite happen where both people don’t feel very religious and don’t think it’s a “deal breaker” but then that faith is at issue when it’s time for raising kids, choosing schools or medical decision and funeral/burial decisions
I think that asking about ethnicity could also be about Culture! Doesn’t have to be about looks or color. Brittany also didn’t strike me as caring about looks. She was more on faith and I could see how culture could fit into that as well discussion
I am really upset that he tried to make it seem like it was her and IT WAS HIM. He was not interested anymore and he detached and would not admit it. He also didn’t really like her that much and it showed during the break up. His “friend” on the phone is who he wants to date.
You are giving me the breakdowns that I have been needing for this show, I’ve watched other videos on love is blind, but it doesn’t compare to how you break things down psychologically, but each of these couples, and for that, I appreciate you!😊
it makes a lot more sense with the potential news coming out that he’s on the down low.. it just didn’t make sense to me how quickly he detached from her, even after the conversation with AD. he was literally laying out her shoes to walk in and once someone tells him she’s gonna be raising his black children, he’s stone walled? they even spoke about it and it seemed like brittany did her best to try to reassure him and he seemed comfortable.
Agreed, Doctor! I noticed the same thing, when AD brought up Black children, that definitely weighed on his mind. Especially since a Black woman brought it up. There was no doubt in my mind.
If he is really gay, I kind of feel for him (living in an christian, probably gay-unfriendly environment and trying to make himself fit in), although it would be still so unfair for Brittany. If he is not gay, he is just not nice. The way he treated her was bad. Doesn't matter if he didn't find her attractive after seeing her or the AD conversation changed his minds. I would go crazy if i would try to speak with someone who is my partner about my emotions and he is like teflon. Also I think Brittany would have been a great partner for someone else and I am positive she will find someone who values her.
The way I opened UA-cam while manifesting some content from you, girl!!! I'm a therapist in Brazil, and I absolutely love your videos and your thoughts about LIB. You're a true inspiration for me😊
Kenneth wasn't just 'not emotionally attuned,' he was completely checked out. I hate that some men do that; just completely detach and withdraw so the woman can break up with them. They will literally do everything possible to avoid looking like the bad guy at all costs.
THAT PART
FOREALLLL
My ex. I wasn’t having it and waited for him to do it.
I also think it makes it so much more horrible because you feel like your emotions don't reach anyone. I HATE this so much.
I hear you, but can we maybe not make this a gendered thing, because it's not just men who do that. Some people do that, and it sucks when they do.
He basically ghosted her in person.
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Lmaooooo
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Yup…imagine getting ghosted In 4D!😮
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She dodged a bullet here. He did her a favour. She deserves so much better. He needs to marry his phone.
Pretty much Look how he looks.He need to be humble
@@Foreverdensword That's terrible. Kenneth is an attractive man. The issue is that he is gay, so Brittany was never going to fill his actual need. Perhaps LIB needs a LGBT version?
@@Foreverdenswordhe’s actually attractive. His behavior isn’t.
@@dr.braxygilkeycruises1460 we have to stop disrespecting the gay community like this.
People need to chill about the phone thing. He literally didn't have access to a phone that entire time and needed to catch up with some work emails. It shouldn't be that big of a deal.
Brittany is so much more beautiful than just her looks. She was so gracious in a genuinely heartbreaking situation. I wish her the world.
Yeah he didn’t deserve her at all. Wish they didn’t hit it off in the pods lol. She could have spent her time elsewhere with someone that would have appreciated her.
@@FieryMaQso true, both of you. Even if she didn’t connect with anyone else she wouldn’t have gotten her hopes up for someone who wasn’t going to make an effort.
Yeeessssss
Same. 💯
She'll meet a nice chocolate who will actually be into her .. his loss
I’m convinced that the show needs occasional appearances from a therapist/ dating Coach to guide the way and truly tap into conversations that matters.
Agree
I completely agree.. I don't think the producers will do that though because they know the disfunction drives the drama and viewership
I totally agree ,TOo hot to handle brought in dating coaches to guide the casts through workshops which was good for the casts while they were dating and it made realize their mistakes and fears while dating and it didn't affect the drama at all
I feel like it would make the show even more interesting because we get to hear from the professionals.
Based on what Clay said on the the proposal I got the impression they do see therapist during the pods. But I think they def should bring that to the audience.
My favorite part of LIB is watching your videos ❤
Aw thank you ♥️
SAAAAAAME!!!
Same!!
I only watch LIB so I can watch your videos!
Same!!
I was so sad for Brit when he got his phone back. Completely disconnected from her. He seemed so emotionless in their breakup! I was so excited to hear you dissect it
Apparently it wasn’t like that- they had broken up off camera on the flight back to the states- they both came out with interviews about it🤷♀️. I can’t wait for the reunion…
@@RenayOpishreally? Than why on earth did she move things into drawers etc? I’m not surprised that production would want to film a break up but dang the whole moving in thing for real ugh
@javanjunkkindahouse6625 I know! Out of the pods podcast was where I heard it, I think.
To him the issue of her skin color was too big of a deal. I wonder how we'd be acting if the shoe was on the other foot and she broke up with him because of his skin tone.
@@janedoe707Facts!! That’s when I knew it wasn’t going to last. 🤧
I think you hit the nail on the head. Kenneth liked the fantasy of what Britney was, but that didn’t translate into the real world. I really feel for Britney, she seems like a sweet person
Kenneth saying he was smothering her with affection on the boat, when he wouldn't even hold her hand, staring into space while she grasping at him. He really flipped a switch after the AD conversation.
Yeah he was weird and wasted her time. She was actually genuine and was truly trying to connect.
@@Eddybaby01I don’t think it was because of AD what’s so ever but I do agree he was looking for a way out .. he liked the fantasy of Brittany but it didn’t come thru in the real world
@@Eddybaby01I don't like how he went about it but if your white spouse has a very white woman response to a genuine question a black woman had brought up about raising brown babies and reality hits you in the face she not ready for that then it's a chop. He should've just broke it off when he felt different, instead he turned into an ass/coward.
I DO think it was the convo with AD. On the boat he’s looking like he’s wishing it was a Black woman. He was soooioo checked out.
it was definitely the AD convo. As a black woman I could tell he began to withdraw the moment he realized how 'his people' would look at him if he dated a white woman. He even said "if my girl bestfriend found out i'm dating a white woman, she'd pull me aside and ask if i'm okay" like what??
When he told her this is not going to work. Gimme a hug so you know it's no beef
She standing there hurt and he just in his phone unmoved
Exactly 😢
It was genuinely hard to watch. Painful even
I think waking you up while sleeping (if there is NO emergency like the house on fire) is a precursor to worse violence. It shows they have no respect for that person’s health, well-being, or physical boundaries
I thought that was one of the worst things I’ve heard on this show this season 😖 so inconsiderate good sleep is so important!
100% you would never do this to a person let alone a person you love/ care about unless there was an emergency.
@@mcs0519 definitely; it’s so hard to get back to sleep when you’re jarred awake like that… especially if you deal with insomnia
😂😂😂 n
I'm glad other people perceived it too because that's so coercive to me! You're half asleep, tired, disoriented and supposed to consent to s*x??
He was so dismissive after the conversation with AD. Britney was being so honest but he was def gaslighting her into thinking she was the only one who was seeing the relationship as it was. He was all talk and time showed his lack of emotions and concern for her and prioritizing the relationship and commitment. The boat scene was so painful to watch since he was like a block of ice
I genuinely hadnt realized Kenneth was gaslighting her in that last conversation and hearing you dissect his words so clearly was rlly helpful since I can be more aware of behaviours to watch out for 😭😭 thank you !!
I felt the same way, thank you for putting it into words!
Same! From just the first watch, I thought it felt like a reasonable conversation even though Kenneth’s conclusion to end their relationship felt abrupt. Then I head to UA-cam for my favorite LIB analyses videos and have to re-evaluate how easily I can get gaslighted LOL
Right!
Same here. I interpreted it as her politely saying she wasn’t physically attracted to him and he trying to exit with his head up high.
What I found most interesting was that Kenneth actually put his phone down in their final conversation. He was attentive when it was time to break things off .
It was staged apparently. I've heard people say they broke up previously but were asked to do it on camera again
@@AdeleKakwandi woah.. yikes
@@AdeleKakwandire-injuring people for entertainment value? Gross.
@user-rv9hp6bo3y can't believe he chose to come accross like that the second time around (in disbelieving him way)
@@Dauerglotzer123 I think that's probably why he came off as un-emotional because he was checked out already
Clay and AD next! They where such a common couple to me, just a cycle that’s I see really often
Agreed! Waaaaaaay too often. Breaks my heart 😔
I cried so hard for both of them.. and also many of us who desire love and finding your person while working through all the past trauma and insecurity..
@@Mrs_K2MWholehearted facts
Anyone: how’s your day
Clay: my dad cheated on my mom
Anyone: beautiful day today
Clay: yeah my dad cheated on my mind on beautiful days
AD: I choose player and ballers, I ignore red flags, chooses clay. Tells clay even though his father cheated on his mom repeatedly for 25 years there was beauty in the relationship. 😂😂😂😂 clown behavior
There’s a part of me that thinks Kenneth wasn’t attracted to Brittany from the reveal and had been thinking of a way out. I think that conversation with AD gave him the perfect opportunity to shut down
His tone changed after they met the other couples. Before that he was still into her.
@@MJ31579 Kenneth saw a friend when that reveal happened. Nothing came genuinely to him when it came to interacting with her. To me he was always going thru the motions his facade just rapidly fell apart in each episode. I was honestly surprised the producers gave them any screen time. I’m assuming that mainly happened only because they made it just past the honeymoons.
Sarah Ann and Britney must have enjoyed ad's wedding if she wasn't so focused on other people's relationships she would have noticed her man doesn't want her.
I agree with you! Like Kenneth is whole man. I get that what AD could have said may have put some doubt in him but come on now! He can think for himself…
I don’t get why noone sees that it was Brittany that was not physically attracted to him?! Kenneth felt genuinely attracted to Brittany.
Brittany just tried to laugh everything off and set their relationship into friendship mode since the first time they saw each other.
Eventually Kenneth felt rejected and closed down. Brittany’s half hearted attempts of adding some kind physical parts to the relationships just felt empty when I saw it so clearly at the reveal that she was not physically attracted.
But I feel like I am the only one in the world to see this which usually means I am wrong. But can’t shake the feeling of what I see :)
The last lecture that Kenneth gave Brittany had my head spinning. I had no idea what he even said.
Brittany didn’t make a fool of herself but Ken sure did. Shame on him.
One outside convo was all it took for him to tap out?? He wasn’t that into her in the first place. That was absolutely devastating 😢
Right! The he was eyeing and admiring AD and Clay’s relationship it’s like he had FOMO
@@mcs0519He probably wants Clay. 👀
Repeating the phrase "For you" is wild smh. Performative romantic gestures is the new slick red flag during this sassy man apocalypse.❤ Great commentary
You were spot on. LIB needs to include you in their reunions
Their final conversation was extremely triggering for me coming from a past relationship where I experienced someone consistently gaslighting me - I’m grateful she got out then before marrying him!
Exactly!
Me too! Whew girl
I was once in a relationship where the man completely checked out months before we broke up. When I saw what Brittany was going through, as bad as it sounds, I'm glad their relationship got snuffed out quick so she can focus on healing. Being in that space for long can kill your psyche.
I think there’s another issue for Kenneth. And he may never publicly acknowledge it
💅🏽(and thats all imma say lol)
He's the same bm. A narcissist through and through
Yep…🌈
😂
Very much giving sassy vibes
Sadly, I think a lot of men who are deep in the Black Church view wives as accessories, something you just need to have as a man of God because the Bible says that's the way. They don't view being a husband as something they need to really work at and grow in emotionally. To them, wives have all these duties and requirements for how to serve them and the family, but they as husbands just need to "lead" and exist. He seemed completely emotionally cut off from her, but I've seen that often in religious men claiming they want marriage. It's unfortunate, but didn't really surprise me at all. Emotional labor is for wives only according to a lot of churchy teachings.
Just one of the many reasons to dislike organized religion.
I couldn’t agree more!
@@elin_but that is like saying one more reason not to work in corporate America or participate in any other institution. PEOPLE are people, and make individual choices that don’t reflect a whole community. Nothing to do with religion as a whole.
That is all churches tbh. Its why women are choosing divorce. They want to be seen and treated with the same respect as a man aka a human. Its sad its 2024 and we are still battling this.
Interesting. Im an atheist, but my wife is a Christian and we spend a lot of time reading Christian literature. I haven’t found what you said about the “churchy teachings” to be very accurate. I know a few offensive verses about women in the church, but most intelligent individuals would chalk that up to the times. Black church must be significantly different. The ones I visited growing up certainly didn’t have a time limit to their services.
He tried to portray himself as a leader in the pods but all we saw in the real world was a petulant little boy. That woman deserves so much better. She has the patience of a saint.
Give me a hug so you know it is no beef 🤦🏾♀️🤷🏽♀️whattttttt!!!!?😩
lol! That was the craziest bit to me too, what a thing to say 🥴
I felt that after A.D. spoke with him about raising black children...that got Kenneth thinking and worrying about what the people in his circle might think about him marrying a white woman. It got in his head so he shut her down in a cold manner. At first i was so impressed with how well he treated her...like a gentleman should. My heart hurt for Jessica. She seemed like such a sweet young woman!
Nothing wrong with raising mixed children. I thought us as a humankind were more evolved in this situation. I wonder why he has such strong reservations ????
@@yatal.1501 agreed. AD was doing wayyyy too much. It would make anyone uncomfortable. It was unnecessary considering the show is about falling in love without seeing the other person
Perhaps because the narrative of the skin color matters more rather than if you’re a decent person and this is my opinion. I have noticed lately everything comes with an agenda. At the end of the day we’ll never know the actual why. Britt was honestly one of my favs.
Exactly this!!! I remember watching this and cringing. AD knew what she was doing.
@@Ashley-yy3dewhat if she matched with Metthew? Would she have walked away as soon as she saw he was white? Strange for her to have said all those things
i knew the relationship was doomed when she said that she wants to be submissive and he got weirdly excited. of course he wasn't going to cook, of course he wasn’t going to care of her, he just wanted a good christian girl to do everything for him.
No man wants to marry some zoo animal he has to tame with a whip and a chair lol of course he was excited
That little smile when they break up says the most to me
I peeped this as well. He just needed an out.
Kenneth seems so immature.
He is.
he tried hard to make us think he was a considerate person then with oh you're not attracted to me because you said no when you were asleep 🙄 - I didn't do anything wrong ,victim playing - very manipulative
i can’t believe he’s a principal!
@@rebeccalaff853yeah, nahh. I have a 24 year old son who runs circles around this man child. My son is so mature I have to remind him that he’s only 24 and not 42!!😂
Well broken down about this couple, I felt like no one touched on how Kenneth switched up and Brittany was left feeling like she was asking for too much.
PERFORMATIVE. = KENNETH.
Ken was giving DL from the first moment. I was beating my self up for judging him but… I don’t feel so bad now. Feel so bad for Britt.
His cousin confirmed it.
He immediately seemed DL to me. It’s his voice, mannerisms and the phrases that he says. Straight men do not talk with their hands as much and they don’t use phrases like “it’s giving”. Another giveaway was how excited he was about her wanting to wait. I understand that some people don’t want have relations too soon, but his reaction was like a relief. It was obvious to me.
I definitely feel he’s not into women
Girl... I was thinking the same thing!!!! He was too busy being on Jack'd and Grindr.
I agreed
So much of their relationship I felt was colored by their religion. When I’ve been in spaces with really Christian/traditional people women tend to get the short end of the stick. That first night home when he said of course you have to cook I saw that as his expectation for a traditional relationship so to him it seemed like a no brained. Meanwhile Brittany and women are expected to handle most household and emotional labor. To me he was acting in the role he expected to have and she just got a glimpse of how that role sucks for women. That’s why I was soooo turned off by their conversations in the pods, everything was about how they aligned religiously but not who they were as individuals and what they needed beyond the roles their religion sets. When a woman says I want to be submissive my first thought is always, “do you really, do you really know what that entails?”
the moment she said she wanted to be submissive she opened pandora's box
I totally agree with your assessment that it was the conversation with AD which changed his attitude towards Britt. I also found it disappointing how he then withdrew without explanation and then took the cowardly way out by making it seem like she was the one who lost interest in him. I love your videos. So clear and intelligently produced. ❤
Yes!
I found it so strange when she said “he identifies as black” as well but I saw a teacher explain that they are taught to be very careful with titles and their students. I think that was where she was coming from but I don’t think it needs to be used when it comes to race, more so gender roles, sexuality, etc.
Well is the same as saying he identifies as a man, is a fact
@@Darianaplayrobloxdid you not read the last sentence?
I believe that she used it because many mixed race people only call themselves black although they might be 1/2 of something else.
Yes she’s just being very careful with her words . She’s a teacher and it’s probably trained to do this .
Anyone else catch AD ask him how he felt about a white woman (Brit) raising his black kids??? How tacky of her. Why can't the focus be on raising good humans??
I watch Love is Blind just to see your analysis! I’ve learned so much from you and often implement what not to do in my relationship. Keep doing what you’re doing ❤️ We appreciate you!
I love that you’re able to implement it ♥️ That makes me so happy!
Same, I'm learning sooooo much about my tendencies and how I may be unaware of how I might interact with partners
I think the interracial aspect was a possible out for him for prospective in the show…a family member (which has been proven) came out to say he is not attracted to women, that he is gay and that he went on the show for notoriety and possible opportunities. Either way he wasted and manipulated this woman and her possible experience
I def get those vibes tbh
This
I just commented the same thing before reading this I was wondering if anyone felt the same way SHE IS EFEN HOTTT in every way he has to be gay he wasent even giving her a real kiss more like a grandma kiss, I would of eaten her alive such a waste to have him given that chance to have her and just blow it on some closeted gay dude
I soooo thought the same!
@@jamilcollins932 yeah you can find a lot of interviews too he was doing a year ago, he tried to get big on TikTok and kept reaching out to do interviews in various places his cousin also said he went on the show to “try and please his family” so maybe they do not accept his lifestyle which is a shame
I agree! And immediately thought the same after watching that scene. The convo between Kenneth and AD caused a shift in his relationship with Brittany. She dodged a bullet by not continuing with someone who is inconsistent, inconsiderate and values other people’s opinions yet identifies with being spiritual.
I heard that Brittany and Kenneth broke up when the cameras weren’t there so to avoid the $50k fine they had to re-do their breakup on camera. I mean that scene would maybe be interpreted differently but still all good analysis! I love these videos it’s really helpful even in my relationship! Please keep doing these videos 🥹
My wife really thinks Kenneth is gay. Especially after the phone call he made on the way out the door.
He def is lol when ad and clay were kissing Kenneth was locked in on clay
this! I was wondering if maybe he’s queer because of the “Black male” thing
@@MadinaashI’m sorry but this made me giggle 😂😂😂 “locked in on clay” is crazy 🤣
It was alleged that his cousin came out with the news that HE IS GAY. And then I understood his actions.
If he’s not at all attracted to a beautiful woman like Brittany he must be gay.
Yea I couldn’t believe that “Well I’ll be f*cking at 2am, so if you want to cool, if not idk what to tell you…” 🤦🏼♀️
What a dick move. Indefensible.
I think this was a cover to say hey I tried but you didn’t want to. Either because he’s hiding something about his sexuality or something else.
Exactly! The woman had to be up at 5 AM and he woke up at her up at 1:30 AM and we’re supposed to think that’s a reasonable time to initiate intimacy??? He chose the time when she wouldn’t want that type of attention on purpose. people do that all the time, where they do things at an inconvenient time or way just so you can say no and later they can say “well at least I tried” that way they skirt blame.
YES been so excited for you to analyze this season!
I’m a fellow therapist and enjoy your content. I had similar feelings about the AD convo. He seemed to completely do a 180 after that. I think Kenneth thinks he’s much more emotionally mature than he actually is. Instead of having a convo with Brittany about his concerns, he went cold and self sabotaged. And I agree with you that he took the easy way out by letting her be the one with the issues.
He clearly needs to engage in some healing work or else these issues will continue, whether it’s about race or something else. I think he’s so focused on meeting the other person’s needs and likely has shame about having his own needs that he just shuts down instead of working through them. I think that speaks to you saying how agreeable he was.
I’ve been saying since the DR episodes that Kenneth’s energy shifted since the convo in AD. I rewatched that convo right after he broke up with Brittany and it seemed like AD was not only doing most of the talking, she was also putting words in his mouth. I’m playing devil’s advocate here, but he never really got to say what he was concerned with the entire time. All he said was “my boys are gonna be like ‘yo Ken, that’s…’” and AD just said “life’s gonna life.” Hers was an easy assumption to make considering the circumstances but he never got to express what was really concerning him. That’s my take anyway. Honestly? Between her conversations with Kenneth and Sarah Ann, and what she ultimately said about “nothing was gonna stop her from marrying Clay” in the finale, I really don’t like AD anymore. She needs a good (or better) therapist and to learn to mind her business.
With the rumors about kenneth being on the DL, him being happy about her wanting to wait, says so much now. Hes just glad that wasnt on the table or had to be an obstacle. I did like kenneth in the beginning, but if the rumors are true, i felt that. I could see his disconnect and his desire was to simply look good on tv.
what rumours?
“If” when I saw this and the one AD was with… chile there was no “if’s” and possibly only “dl” on the show…
@@aathenaiz6151rumors of him being gay.
I thought those were more just insults of people trying to attack him and bring down his character, less so of rumors. And I think this video clearly illustrates, he doesn't need the help of rumors. While Steph thoughtfully does not say this outright, I think his actions and behavior point to him being a bad person - which you could not throw a stick at this season and not hit someone who's bad practically - basically all the men on for clout ( minus Johnny) and some women having serious issues with emotional regulation and not being able to self reflect and take accountability for their character and behaviors.
I did hear a rumor that Kenneth was in a relationship as well with someone while this was all happening - that he says "babe" when he calls someone after the break up with Brit. Does anyone else hear it?
@@teedee643what is DL
Kenneth did her a favor as Brittaney deserved so much better. God is faithful and will provide her with the man she deserves and who will be worthy of her. Kenneth wasn’t even close.
I’m sorry, but the way he treated her and dismissed everything she was saying was disgusting. Not to mention he left her crying and upset. That is really nasty of him. He wanted an excuse to break things off and her talking to him about her feelings was his way out?
I was DYING for this video. Steph always gets it right.
Soon as I heard him talk and seen his mannerisms, I realize he was on the wrong show. I don’t know why he came to the show or played with Brittany emotions like that he knew what he was really interested in was not on the other side of those pods 🐸☕️
Ooop! 👀
Love your breakdowns of the couple..
always food for thought.
I feel so validated in my view that their relationship was based shared values and trauma, but it never seemed like they liked just talking with each other on day to day stuff.
Kenneth has a lot of growing to do. He’s immature and unsure of himself. Brittany was too good for him. He’s weak. I found it inappropriate for AD to doubt Brittany’s ability to raise her own children. Two loving parents with good ideals, morals, and ethics is what children need. He was weak if he was swayed so easily. 🙄 Kenneth was my least favorite person on the show paired with my favorite person on the show. Tragic
Inappropriate to discuss the nuances of a white woman raising children of African descent in America? Wow. That marriage pair has one of the highest divorce rates and the children of those unions often have a LOT of trauma. There are enough accounts of the LIVED experiences of biracial kids with white mothers to understand why it’s a valid concern. It’s not something “good values and morals” and “two loving parents” can just negate. Love does NOT conquer all. It’s that naïveté that underpins a lot of failed relationships. She said what he should have been thinking of. If he hadn’t, then that’s a reflection of his own immaturity. Also, the IR aspect of their relationship was really a cop out. He wanted out, like many of the men on the show, but had to find a decent excuse to not be “villainized”.
Exactly. It’s weird she’ll question if Brittany would be able to raise her own children!
Sarah Ann and Britney must have enjoyed ad's wedding if she wasn't so focused on other people's relationships she would have noticed her man doesn't want her.
@@soul-deeplevel-up6179 bro genuinely looked like a flip switched after what AD said. I don't think her intentions were bad or to discorage him to date a white woman either and even if they were its still his fault for being easily swayed. When it comes to being black in America there is going to be some hurtles regardless whether you are half white and especially if you are fully black so yeah there were going to be challenges Brittany would had to over come but that would still be off concern if she was black herself (even more so). AD shouldn't have doubted her mother raising abilities when she doesn't even really know her.
I interpreted that last convo as her politely saying she wasn’t physically attracted to him and him trying to exit with his head up high. He said something about having faith that what’s meant for him is out there. That kind of wording sounded like someone managing getting rejected
That's what I initially thought as well
When he broke off their engagement like that, I was screaming at the TV like Tyra “WE WERE ALL ROOTING FOR YOU!!” I loved them in the pods and knew as soon as AD planted that seed of doubt in his head that there would be an issue. This is why AD needed to keep her opinions to herself and I really want to know why she felt the need to even ask him. If they don’t talk about that at the reunion, I’m gonna be pissed.
I need you to re watch the video. Ad never planted a seed of doubt in his head. She was coming from good intentions & was very concerned. Like did you even hear what the therapist said in the video? Even the therapist agreed that what Ad said was just her being genuine concern.
Anything he did is his actions alone. He decided to make those type of actions
If your relationship can’t withstand outside comments you’re already doomed to begin w so let’s def not put it all on AD that’s just childish even tho I agree AD is nosey
Its peak misogyny and delusion for you to be putting the blame on Kenneth not wanting to be with jessica on Ad. No man that truly desires a woman which wasnt the case for them is going to allow outside opinions or statements to affect their relationship. He wasnt attracted to her and was looking for a way out
I'm happy we're back to evaluating them as couples instead of individually. Love these breakdowns!
I saw the shift once AD,spoke with him.
I knew as soon as I watched this season that I NEEDED you to talk about these couples; especially Kenneth and Brittany! Thank you!
For Brittany asking about Kenneth's race I kind of understand if she was trying to gauge any topics that she felt they might need to discuss when it comes to interracial dating? At least that's what I immediately thought. But yeah for a show that is about falling in love blindly, I've noticed so many people have been giving way too much. I felt that Brittany asking about Kenneth's race was different than Clay trying to figure out if AD was his type physically!
kenneth pissed me off so bad. so rude and inconsiderate. just nasty behavior. brittney deserves SO much better.
He gives off big DL vibes
Wasn’t nothing downlow. I think he was texting another dude whole time.
100%
What's DL?
@Out_on_a_Limb_Life Down low - slang; an expression for a BISEXUAL black man (who "thinks" he's straight - hah!), married or with a girlfriend, having sexual relations with another man.
@@Out_on_a_Limb_LifeDown Low - a gay man pretending to be a straight man.
I actually starting watching the show because of you and I have learned a lot from your LIB breakdown videos
That makes me really happy ♥️
Thank you! That’s exactly my issue with this show: everyone seems to be pursuing a fantasy.
You're back! I have been waiting on your take! I agree with your thoughts on Kenneth - He tried to be someone he's not and it backfired. I'm just sad that Brittany was caught in the cross hairs
I have watched a few of your videos now, and have to say I love them. Thank you thank you thank you for validating exactly how I felt Kenneth was treating Brittany. Specifically how he was projecting back on to her and gaslighting her feelings; diminishing the validity of her comments, dismissing ANY responsibility for any of his actions, and ultimately saying it's her fault. I think she showed an unbelievable amount of grace and patience for Kenneth, and was thoughtful in how she expressed her emotions, and to see him dismiss and ignore things and shut them down hurt to see, and I don't feel like anyone else I've seen has talked about this and addressed it, so thank you because I wanted some validation as well if anyone could see what I saw. Yes, the phone is a bit disrespectful and a way to distance and avoid, but it's too obvious, and MANY MANY Gen Z and Millennials behave this way in relationships, so I'm a little surprised to see so many people latch onto how "awful" it is, when they likely do it themselves. There were so many deeper issues you expressed here from Kenneth's side, so again thank you for articulating them and giving context so concretely.
For my interest in watching reality dating shows (while, yes, some of it is still for some drama), I am interested in the way people communicate and form relationships, to compare what I see in my own life and the real world. While not an MFT, I have a BA in Psych and have always been interested in studying people's lives/stories/TV from a psychological perspective . NGL a lot of podcasts/YT/reaction videos are just not contributing anything new/funny/insightful/interesting, and I scroll right on- so it's honestly been a bit of a comfort to find your channel with your experience breaking down these ideas. Again, love your content, keep it coming, can't wait to dive in more and for your insights on the finale as well!
They were my favorite in the pods. Immediately I was confused and I fell asleep in the part with AD and so I was soooooo confused. And then very disappointed. I also felt if this is the way he handles things - by completely checking out- it will be an issue always with other areas. I’m so sad for Brittany. She is one of the nicest most sane innocent girls I’ve seen on this show so that was disappointing.
Faith is a priority but I’m not gonna ignore the other things at all
Your intro song lives rent free in my head + I welcome it✨
I actively look forward to your analysis! You're amazing!
In DR when they were on the boat I got the feeling that he was in his head regarding the racial difference. He acted like someone who was afraid to touch her in fear of some type of backlash. meaning if I touch her she may claim assault later. It’s just the feeling I got from him especially seeing that he never dated outside his race. AD gave him things to think about that he may not have considered prior. Stuff got real and he didn’t know how to communicate his fears effectively
Kenneth gave me zesty vibes as soon as he opened his mouth! I just wish he wouldn't waste Brittneys time! She really liked him and was doing everything to connect with him! He was putting up a wall in every direction! I hope he finds himself and builds the courage to come out and stop playing with peoples feelings! Hope Brittany understands she is Good Woman and did nothing wrong!
1) I've noticed that no one is mentioning that these people live in a region of the U.S. that is more racially fueled than other parts.
They are in a less tolerant place racially and spiritually so them being interracial in a Carolina would play out much differently than it would in, say, New York City or a place where black/white history is less at play.
Either way, as a black woman who's been in an interracial relationship, it wouldn't cross my mind to distance myself from my partner. I'd be distancing myself from the people or places that have a problem with us.
2) It's indisputable that there's gaslighting and part of me is glad to have such a clear example for people to refer to. It brings a massive amount of awareness to what it is.
On the other hand, I really wish the woman in this situation didn't go through this. I hope she clearly sees that she wasn't the problem and his behavior wasn't because of her.
That said, it feels like she confused race and gender but I think she's onto something unknowingly.
She brings up the question of why can't we culturally identify in the same way that we can with gender and sexuality?
Physical features seem to be concrete but how you're culturally raised can vary wildly.
As a kid, I couldn't relate to my black family and classmates. Quite frankly, I found them all to be threatening since my household was abusive and only my black classmates bullied me.
Things I loved like reading and musicals always starred and were written by white people. That was the culture most in my psyche.
I made associations from that and developed internalized racism; meaning I didn't want to identify as black because I also didn't want to identify as an enslaved, abusive, bully as my life had taught me black people were supposed to be.
I've always known that racial identity could feel like a cage. I didn't want to be caged.
If we're willing, we can have conversations about this and why Brittany (?) worded this man's identity as she did.
I totally agree that the conversation with AD made him pause and contemplate his decision.
I’m actually glad someone like Kenneth was on the show because I hope it shows some people out there that these types of people in a relationship are trash.
He was so focused on the superficial part of their relationship that he couldn’t even take the second to actually get to know her. I think it’s crazy to go on a show where they isolate you to talk to your partner and you want to be on your phone the whole time, did you watch the show?
It’s a walking red flag, and I’m glad he was wearing red when he was breaking up with her because yikes.
She deserves better and I’m sure she’ll get it.
** I would like to say that I have not actually watched the show, but I do watch these videos fairly often.
There was a huge amount of gaslighting in that conversation. It was very sickening to watch. I think he's a pretty toxic person.
Kenneth is gay. I believe. He reminds me so much of an ex who YEARS later admitted to struggling with his sexuality and that’s why he was soooo emotionally distant. Made big promises but never followed through because he just couldn’t see himself long term with a woman.
Damn you are good! Great evaluation of the show in this this couple.
I’m ready for you to do a vid on Jeramey and Laura! I’m going to click on it so fast once I see it uploaded 😂
I think its not about the race at all. Its just how he is and Im so sorry for Britanny.
Such a thoughtful and in-depth analysis! I grew up with a parent who gaslit me often, and Kenneth behavior gave me major 🚩🚩🚩It’s nice to see that someone else agrees!
What got me most about him was not only everything you mentioned which is totally spot on, but he used religious reasons as the ultimate reason they should break up. He said something along the lines of “god doesn’t want us to be together” and “he’s going to bring me what’s meant for me”. I find that to be utter B.S considering he wasted so much of Brittany’s time. Ultimately, he could never own up to any of his shit. He was so completely full of himself that he ultimately had to bring his beliefs into equation when breaking up with her.
Yes you’re so right. Brittany is very strong she should be proud of how she handled things. He just sat his big ass down blaming her the whole time
Your Love is Blind videos are my favs!
I agree with you 100%. I was thinking the same thing when I was watching the show.
Jess revealed on a podcast that they had broken up off camera but the producers wanted it to be filmed so they had to run this conversation back and maybe he was using blunt words and synthesizing that "you felt that" for the re-run vs. his actual words in the breakup. This may add to why it felt inauthentic/he was disconnected on his phone (even though that was still clearly an issue).
I really love your take as a therapist. You make perfect sense. What I learned from you about Kenneth’s behavior & some foreshadowing events is when he wasn’t expanding on more of his feelings towards her wanting to wait til marriage with intimacy. He was just agreeing with her instead of really diving into the importance for him. That was very interesting and telling
I think Kenneth put up a front, he’s not the thoughtful, caring, and attentive man he was trying to portray himself to be. From the jump when he was just sitting around on his phone practically ignoring her. I understand he’s a busy guy and his job is time consuming but at the end of the day he lied about who he was and then gas lit her into thinking she didn’t have the connection with him when it was the other way around. God bless her I really truly hope she finds a good man bcuz Kenny ain’t it for her.
He gave me DL vibes immediately!
I’ve also seen the opposite happen where both people don’t feel very religious and don’t think it’s a “deal breaker” but then that faith is at issue when it’s time for raising kids, choosing schools or medical decision and funeral/burial decisions
I can't wait for your take on Jimmy and Megan Fox!
Kenneth was giving me Saucy Santana vibes anyway! 🫤
I think that asking about ethnicity could also be about Culture! Doesn’t have to be about looks or color. Brittany also didn’t strike me as caring about looks. She was more on faith and I could see how culture could fit into that as well discussion
I am really upset that he tried to make it seem like it was her and IT WAS HIM. He was not interested anymore and he detached and would not admit it. He also didn’t really like her that much and it showed during the break up. His “friend” on the phone is who he wants to date.
You are giving me the breakdowns that I have been needing for this show, I’ve watched other videos on love is blind, but it doesn’t compare to how you break things down psychologically, but each of these couples, and for that, I appreciate you!😊
In short, she got the samE nicca that everyone else gets!!! 😂
it makes a lot more sense with the potential news coming out that he’s on the down low.. it just didn’t make sense to me how quickly he detached from her, even after the conversation with AD.
he was literally laying out her shoes to walk in and once someone tells him she’s gonna be raising his black children, he’s stone walled? they even spoke about it and it seemed like brittany did her best to try to reassure him and he seemed comfortable.
Yup it seemed like they had moved past that
Because he was looking for a way out, and found it, without exposing being DL (if he is).
What is down low? Like he likes men? Or he like to be with many women? 😭 tell me plz. I'm lost
Agreed, Doctor! I noticed the same thing, when AD brought up Black children, that definitely weighed on his mind. Especially since a Black woman brought it up. There was no doubt in my mind.
If he is really gay, I kind of feel for him (living in an christian, probably gay-unfriendly environment and trying to make himself fit in), although it would be still so unfair for Brittany. If he is not gay, he is just not nice. The way he treated her was bad. Doesn't matter if he didn't find her attractive after seeing her or the AD conversation changed his minds. I would go crazy if i would try to speak with someone who is my partner about my emotions and he is like teflon.
Also I think Brittany would have been a great partner for someone else and I am positive she will find someone who values her.
I love watching these videos. Kind of a guilty pleasure that's not so guilty.
The way I opened UA-cam while manifesting some content from you, girl!!! I'm a therapist in Brazil, and I absolutely love your videos and your thoughts about LIB. You're a true inspiration for me😊