If you think “how do I increase my value”, you’re already in the wrong state of mine. The truth to success with women, or anything in life is “don’t give a f” people attack what you want, and try to stop you from getting it. If you truly don’t give a f, the things you want will be drawn to you. Part of that mentality is you cannot fear consequences. That’s what women want in a man, no fear. You can’t be afraid, fear = weakness. *btw “no fear” is the same as thing as confidence, it’s the same as the bad boy, or the cool guy. That whole stereo type comes from no fear/ not giving a f! It’s hard to do, but I guarantee it works.
So an example of this not giving a fuck would be a guy likes a girl and wants to ask her out a 1st time, second, third or however many times. He approaches the situation with the idea he could be rejected but doesn’t care, he’s going to follow through either way. Sink or swim, he doesn’t let fear of rejection stop him. Would you consider that a form of not giving a fuck?
@@avg959 I’m sure there are holes, nothing is black and white. But what I said is the foundation for success. Every situation is different, but people are attracted to others who are direct, say what they mean (even if it’s not what someone wants to hear), and don’t compromise their principles (in other words: stand up for for what you believe in, don’t back down because you don’t want to offend someone). Guys often break each other’s balls to see if the other guy will give up their principles and simultaneously their status. It’s a power move to claim higher status whether they realize what they are doing or not, it’s subconscious. The truth is cliche, it’s being yourself, meaning don’t wear a mask, which means being real, be you (that’s the cliche part). Don’t submit to someone else trying to step on you to raise themselves, which means don’t give a f what other people think. Also, I would say asking a girl out for a second time, third time, and so on is giving away your power, putting the ball in the woman’s court. When you ask women questions whether its “will you go out with me, or what do you want for dinner” that is plain and simply giving a f. It comes off as needy. The cold hard truth is women go after men they desire. If you are true to yourself and your principles you will attract women and they will seek you. You won’t have to chase them. Now you can chase them and be persistent, and after a while you may wear them down, but they will lose interest and lose respect for you in the long run if you don’t become true to yourself and be a man who is not afraid, and not giving a f what others think about that, and sticks to his principles. If you do that, you will not only gain respect from women but from men as well. Doing what I said will raise your status and that is what attracts ALL people. It’s absolutely hard because you will have to hurt feelings and people may dislike you for certain things, but they will still respect you. Respect is earned and respect = status. And it all comes down to not giving a f, not wearing a mask, which means being true to who you are. It is a very, very hard thing to do, but it is the foundation.
Honestly if you're trying to pull the less you care the better he's underestimating the power of attention, giving it to things and hobbies is just as powerful while simultaneously giving you more things you'd rather think about other than her
Think the best advice for when you are looking for a meaningful relationship to act like yourself. Ofcourse thigs like flirting and teasing and other communication tactics can be learned, you're authentic self must not be damaged or altered by this. You won't be able to keep that player image up for yourself to someone who is truly willing to go for you. And by that, if you get a relationship using these "rules", the woman or person you are getting out is this is using the same mindset and probably lives for the game not the person. Hereby; good luck on your yourney
You know this video is a Perfect guide on how to attract girls with no Father figure in their life. Ok, I think it's clear that when women want a man they want their father, regardless of the relationship. So if a girl had a stable and loving father then that's what she'll want from a guy, but if she grew up in a single-mother household then she's going to want a guy who is distant and emotionally withholding. I'm not saying you should be a nice guy or don't keep a girl on an exciting rollercoaster but if you want high-quality women who knows what a good man looks like you're not finding her at the club and most of the time even at School. You find them at church and 4A, lol joking but not.
Both men and women must have genuine intentions not playing mind games. Don't play other people's lives so that you won't regret by repaying your wrongdoings later.
Everyone talks about getting money, getting fit but nobody gives advice on game. How do we improve our game? A fit rich guy will just get advantage of. How do we game the girls?
scarcity no problem, being different.. easy.. but the rollercoasting thing fuck that shit, i'd rather be single and at peace than to have to play games like this. i want a woman not a kids hooked on drugs.
A woman's core power lies in her ability to seduce. If you want an even playing field then do not allow yourself to be subjugated to this. Pleasure is not happiness. Pleasure is visceral /dopamine while happiness is ethereal /serotonin Seeking pleasure never leads to happiness In fact pleasure has more in common with misery than happiness
Ahh yes one of my old girlfriends cheatted on me but instead of giving her drama i just broke up and told her to have fun with him and honestly it never really hurt my emotionaly :/
Dude this is so true with the whole emotional rollercoaster thing. You just gotta learn how to not give a fuck and be selfish but also be somewhat of a good person. Be a sweet asshole. Go out and talk to girls; it’s the only way to get to that level
Just remember guys that these tips are for hook up culture, yes a certain amount of game will probably improve your relationship, but mostly you need to be authentic. It's better to be hated for who you are, than to be loved for something that you're not, keep that in mind.
It all really boils down to confidence; learn about who you are and own it. When she fails to satisfy you, don't simp and say: "it's ok." And brush it off. Tell her that she sucks and you could find someone better. Next, reward her when she does a good thing... In fact, go the extra mile and make her feel really special. Keep the ups and downs going and she'll never leave!
The average normal life: - Binge TV - Porn daily - Toxic food - Cable news - College debt - 9-5 email job - Sh*t head boss - Consumer debt - Rarely exercises - Never goes outside - Overweight or obese - Paycheck to paycheck No wonder the average normal man is miserable. Don't be average
I do not binge watch. I work 9 to 5 with decent salary (middle class in our country) No debs Exercises regularly But I don't go outside often. And oh i already have a girl and I just watch these videos for entertainment lul
Cut out most of that or ebb it back, life gets so much better. I used to come home after work and sit there for hrs binging Netflix and beer. Put on 15lbs during the scamdemic. Last two months I've reversed course. Already down 10lbs.
If you enjoy challenging ideas and if masculinity and mastery are topics that interest you, I invite you to explore the videos I share on the Mastery Order Channel. Challenge yourself with some ideas about manhood, explore your masculine potential and become the kind of man you would admire. We can only better ourselves together, as men among men, so I invite you to use what I share and, of course, share your own opinions so that others can benefit from them as well. Looking forward to your points of view. All the best to you!
1. Restrict your attention : Not giving away your attention to girls. 2. Novelty (Basically Standing Out) : Not treating girls the way other guys do. 3. Rollercoaster : Take girls on an emotional rollercoaster.
I have witnessed my women friends dump men for doing all three of these, ya'll need to go out and actually talk to women instead of getting dating advice from cringy UA-cam channels
@@ganymede8257 A few small examples cannot be used as concrete evidence to completely justify abstinence from YT channels mate. There are so many variables at play when dealing with this topic; one of them being female individualism. People separate for various reasons, and those reasons are endless. You need to understand that we are in 2022. Things have changed dramatically since the up rise of various socials. For fun, I thought I'd give a few of these tips a go from this channel (and from DariusM). Let me tell you, when some of these pointers are incorporated into the way you generally conduct yourself as a person, the requests received to start a relationship/marriage were no less than 6 (8's, 9's, 10's) over a short period. All of which I declined of course because my standards as astronomically stupid but that's my own shit. People need to start looking at these topics from a psychological point of view, and there is so much more a dude needs to do and change within their life so they can firstly seem more appealing and easy to talk to, secondly to prevent being screwed over and cheated on (for the most part), and thirdly to better themselves as humans as a whole. A YT video is just the surface mate 🙃
This video in a nutshell: "Everything in moderation." Ever noticed how attention is like money. Print/give too much of it and it becomes increasingly worthless. That's fiat currency, to be specific. Faking your value is actually akin to fiat money too when you think about it. It's the faith other parties have that you're worth something. However, a man of true value is like the Gold Standard; his attention is genuinely worth something to others. That also means he only has so much to give, further increasing its value and driving him to "spend" it appropriately -- if he's smart. Women today, they'll give their attention to the rich, perhaps handsome/perhaps not fella with a lot of influence. They'll also give their attention to the tatted-up bad boy in college who may or may not have three felonies on his record already. This is because women (not all, but a core rule) seek excitement and are driven by how they feel. Arguably, this goes back to the era of men needing to be strong and fierce to defend their mates. Obviously, they'd have massive priority over a weaker mate. If you look closely, you can still see it in modern women. It's been grossly perverted in the last two-ish generations of ladies, but it's there. I kind of have to agree with something Tim Pool said in one of his videos yesterday, paraphrased: Perhaps, we are returning to a time where the top percentage of men get all the girls and the mass of men will just have themselves. I, for one, intend to pass on my genes through an intelligent, loyal, and beautiful woman. I' also don't intend to die in mediocrity, just another number in historical statistics. What about you?
If your only desire is to get laid then you will be on this roller-coaster with all these games. If you want a wife material woman the only game you will need is the ability to work towards always improving yourself and the willingness to always walk away. If the woman is just a hook up then she will usually let you go. If the woman is wife material then she will try to regain your attention. You don't want to marry the hook up girl because the drama cannot be sustained forever and the drama will prevent you from improving yourself professionally and financially.
@@isaacsherwood8373 Being willing to walk away and always working to improve yourself is not a chore and should be applied to everything in your life including jobs, education and friends. These ideas have always been a constant since the cave man days. The Modern Feminist conspiring with the Hollywood movie industry have been destroying that fact and creating simp men and single parent homes in the process.
@John Grigg My advice was not intended for the man already married. It was intended for a single man wanting to find the right wife material woman. Once you married them then you made your decision but if, after marriage, if you turn into a simp and lose who you were as a man then the wife will eventually make that divorce decision for you.
@@TomScott__ Hi I need advice about women emotion and rollercoaster on us Yesterday I was nearby my ex gf gym ...I pop in and take a look if she is there.....she saw me and unhappy saying I dont trust her that she is there for exercises and felt I was there to check if she with man in the gym.. She said she feeling stress if I dont trust her.. I told her if this goin to be our 3rd breakup ..I will not look back again and if me as The Man always listen to her ..I wouldn't like I am bound to her rules ... such as meeting her once a week for sex because she feel stress meeting me 4 times a week previously in our 7 years relationship it was only natural we text everyday but now she want to change the dynamics to what she want Yesterday morning she text me to cancel our plan to go out I didnt like it and I didnt reply her She text me in the night that she Miss me..I didnt reply She text me Honey Good Nite I didnt reply She text me Good Morning..I replied ... I think she is upset I didnt reply her last nite... I will meeting her tonite ... What should I do .. Because last week she told me she broke up with me because I focus too much on her...she wanted me to focus on my job and told me she can text me but I cant text her ...she even told me reply her immediately... I dont want another argument which cause our 2nd breakup... So I let her say whatever she want... If I dont reply or reply late is this going to make her love me more ? It was a good get back together we went to eat and happy hour but now she want to only meet her once a week and I Ban from going to her gym or near her house ... I think I will Not Care anymore on our 7 years relationship if she dont want me to grow the love .. If I walk away I am depressed...and if I take her rule I am depressed I am not Man enough
I watched a few of these videos from this channel, but this one is one of the best ones. It's very informative. Treat your attention like it's something that is hard to get from you.
Dude... I'm a gay guy, I have a crap ton of straight girl friends. Just don't listen to this dude, one of the biggest turn off's for women is watching channels like this. Just be yourself, women aren't all that different than men and no woman is the exact same as another
@@ganymede8257 Well you don't tell them you watch this shit lmao. c'mon now you're just asking to be labelled as in incompetent man if you admit you watch this shit to a woman.
@@fj4731 first of all, I really appreciate you chosing to ask me for advice. As for what you wrote, all I can say is- communicate with her. Contrary to what you might hear from channels like these, women love it when a man listens to them, don't feel like you're being used when she tells you about her problems. That doesn't mean you're 'feminine' it just means she trusts you. Talk to her, but don't be too needy- learn about her interests, see what you have in common. A man who talks about his feelings is suprisingly very much loved by women, speaking from experience. Be yourself above anything else.
@@ganymede8257 hi Thank you for your advice .... Last nite I paid the dinner ..with my gf who broke up with me twice...while driving home I had a argument with her in the car over a picture of her with a man she said just a Yoga instructor..i told her if she has new bf and dont love me she can leave and I will Walk away and never look back if she want 3rd breakup is The Final ... I told her I have other women option...she got angry and open my car door want to leave and said since I have other women and she will never have sex with me if I have other women blaming me for this 3rd breakup..I grab her hand and tell her come back to the car that I dont have other women and I love her...she was agitated as I am ...we make love and she said she trust me this time and told me to trust her ....I told her the last 2 breakup she said she will never leave me but she left...I told her if she really love me then dont ever try to open door and leave ...she said she is Not jealous i have other women but she dont want me have sex with other women and then come to her...I could not walk away..what should i do and say...because she set boundaries to only meet me Once a week for sex ( last year we used to make love almost every day at least 4x a week )...she dont want to text me everyday and if she does text me she expect me to reply her asap...but she also say I can not text her unless she text ...her reason is she only want me to focus on my job...and not on her and told me to trust her and stop me goin to her gym to check on her and that Yoga instructor in her picture who she said she dont love anyone except me ??
Word of warning to the people who are going to follow through with #3. Do not CREATE negativity out of no where just so you can put girls on an emotional roller coaster. Girls, like anyone else, will eventually go through sad/hard times naturally and just being there for her to support her will literally make you a hero in her eyes. If you belittle/insult/degrade someone just to break their self-esteem so you can build it back up, that is toxic and manipulative behaviour. It is not a healthy way to start a relationship.
Phillip, that makes u a FRIEND a pillow talking feminine friend. You're doing what she does with her female friends. This does NOT work man. 30 yrs I've done just that and it does NOT work. You're friend zoning yourself HARD and you will NOT come out of that. Ever. No matter how long u wait. Even if 10 yrs go by and THEN it may happen no one's gonna wait that long. 😆 Women love bad toxic guys. It's just the way they are. Gotta accept it. Drama shows and soap operas reel in their attention. They are addicted to the drama. If ur boring they always leave and quickly
Your attention is as valuable as gold. Would you give your gold away for free? Would you give it away for something less than it's worth? Of course not. Do something nice for a woman but don't give her your attention until she first gives you something. Then follow only on that path with her. Only give her attention when she first gives you something first. Before you know it, you will condition her to seek you out for attention. When she gives you her attention, do exciting and unforgettable things with her or for her. If she invests in your attention, you will become very valuable to her.
Exactly, just let her taste that who the hell you are and then ignore her, she will get addicted to you...my woman often tells me that how crazy is she for me
That's all a lie women don't like emotions roller coaster. Little girls who pretend to be women like emotional roller coaster. Used your word correctly. To see the truth
I remember when my coworker moved out of state to work in the oil fields and his wife would always approach me talking about how glad she is now he's gone...I stop coming to the door when she came knocking and I never answered her calls for a month and she approached me one night after work and tried to rape me I laughed and she said I'll do anything you want and I trespassed her. Women will give it up when you wreck their emotions.they love attention and shocking drama.
I honestly feel truth in this not just pertaining to women but ANY kind of relationship. people aren't going respect you automatically so you have to teach them to by how you carry/express yourself. if someone doesn't value my time, attention, or resources....there's no need to include them in my activities/life. Been trying to learn the difference between having free time (where you can do things that YOU enjoy and make you feel good) and having time you don't care about or "going with the flow".
To save you the time of watching this vid, let me just tell you my brother's sage advice: "If you want an attractive girl or cute/whatnot girl, you have to become a bit of an asshole". That was the best thing I ever heard. You still have to take care of your body, your hygiene and just don't be a creep.
Yeah, except both being an asshole and getting with girls just for their looks rarely results in a good long-term relationship. It’s all emotional highs, instant gratification, and never an actual connection.
Women feed off of a naturally destructive feedback loop. This is why as a guy you shouldn't concern yourself too much with how a woman feels about you because it won't make sense anyways. Build upon yourself, learn new skills, be curious about the world and you will naturally gravitate to a higher innate energy. Then you'll have more options to choose from (which in turn makes more women naturally attracted to you) and maybe if you're lucky you can settle down with a woman who's never heard of a Kardashian.
Dude, not caring about a woman's feelings- or anyone's feelings for that matter is a disaster of a relationship waiting to crumble down. Relationships are about mutual respect, just treat womem as you'd treat any of your friends
Like them thoughts focus on yourself, be kind, and find your mission and execute in life thats the purpose of a man...females benefit way more in a relationship than the man does...fuck game and being a player...90% of women can't do anything for man other than give them sex... woman can't give you a purpose only you can
@@stokeman363 Although your attempt to encourage men is very impressive, you didn't have to put down women as being worthless to men. Women can teach you a lot, and it doesn't even have to be a romantic relationship- just don't base your whole life around them
@@ganymede8257 sure you can learn things from women and they are useful in the world...I like women..... but they aren't that mysterious once you figure them out we as men don't need to focus on them as much to be better and find our grind..our purpose
This is all very true. When you master this though then you have to master discerning from the ones who are genuinely interested in who you are and those trying to break through your barrier just because having you for narcissistic supply would be a big win for them lol. It’s tricky. I’ve experienced ego death and don’t care about attention at all. I don’t do selfies, a lot of social media, etc. Would like to find someone who has a similar mindset.
Ego death is literally the worst to go through but best to come out the other side of. Life after is unparalleled in how easy it is and how much freedom you feel 🤙🏻
i feel like this was the missing piece of the puzzle that was needed to complete the final picture. FarFromAverage you rock for doing these, man, woman, or group, whatever you are. kings
Believe or not, this guy is right. Attention is like a drug to them, when you give them free attention, you lose. Reward them with attention for good behavior, not money and withdraw your attention a bit to keep them hooked. Unfortunately women don't like a guy who is all about them, they want one they feel they can never really possess.
If your an average guy, your attention is already worthless regardless if you restrict it or not. If you have monopoly money... it doesn't matter if you restrict it or give it out.. its worthless. (don' like).
@@fj4731 My advice is ignore this crap ginger beard is saying... Look, if your an average looking guy or below.. it doesn't matter a damn whether or not you withhold your attention or give her attention... Your attention is worthless either way... This is like saying... I will give this person lots of monopoly money.. and I will give this other person no monopoly money... Monopoly money is worthless... just like your attention... My advice is get a six pack, mew your jawline so it looks more masculine, get some red cream moisturiser so your face looks unblemished.. get a job... get an interesting hobby... when you get a six pack get some tight clothes, improve your posture... learn some interesting anecdotes... learn the art of emotional bonding... get good at flirting. Stop whining... she doesn't give a shit about your problems. Accept it.
@@fj4731 hey buddy,hope u doing great just saw your message. Sorry that you lost your job but at the same time see this as an opportunity to discover yourself as you are looking for your next job or starting or starting up your own business. Getting to your issue with your girlfriend, I will advise you to let go of that fear of losing her. The first thing I will advise you is to discover that thing that gives you a sense of purpose, be it becoming a musician or a successful entrepreneur or anything that you are really passionate about. Let her be "a part of" your life and not the center of your life. Secondly don't allow her to walk in and out of your life whenever she feels like. she has no right to get mad at you for not initiating contact all the times. Because from my experience with women, when they are into you, they will be calling and texting you almost all the time without complaining. Girls that complain are those mostly who like feeding their egos and want to feel desired. If she's that kind of a person, don't let her emotional blackmail get to you. Don't fall in that trap, you deserve better. Next time she wants to make you guilty about anything just tell her what she does that you don't like. Don't show emotional or be apologetic while you talk to her, and don't use too many words which is perceived as a sign of weakness by weakness. Women respect men who know their worth stand their ground. Don't Let her meet you at her convenience, a relationship is about compromise. The other thing you should do is get to know other girls, attractive ones if you can, the more women you get to interact with, the better and more confident you get.
@@gingerbeard6559 hi Last nite I had a argument with her over a picture of her with a man she said just a Yoga instructor..i told her if she has new bf she can leave and I will Walk away and never look back if she want and this 3rd breakup is The Final ... I lie to her I have other women option...she got angry and open my car door want to leave and said since I have other women and she will never have sex with me ... blaming me for this 3rd breakup....I grab her hand and told her come back to the car... that I didnt have sex with all other women except her and my mistake I say i love her..and then she said she trust me this time and we make love she also told me to trust her she has no other men...but...I told her the last 2 breakup she said she will never leave me but she left...I told her if she really love me then dont ever try to open door and leave ...she said she is Not jealous i have other women because she dont want me to focus on her .....I could not walk away..what should i do and say
Thanks for the advice love from south africa , i practice a high value lifestyle which in months got me to be the most elusive sigma in my high school my polarity is constantly high and i get a lot of females who wants me thank you for helping me change my life ! 🕴🕴❤
That's not sigma. Sigma's aren't "created" in under a year, it takes YEARS, and we're not interested in grouping massive amounts of females. We're focused on career and other things. You seem to be leaning towards the alpha type.
Stop trying too hard, fuck incentives never chase em... your only priority is making yourself a priority and if they can't see your value don't make them 👍
Sounds like manipulation tactics when you talk about the roller coaster thing. If you are into the girl, be into the girl... If you are mad at her, be mad at her. Life will naturally take you both on an emotional rollercoaster. But I do love what you said about having your own purpose and goals and things like that.
hate to break it to you but real world is mostly manipulation tactics, if you just "be yourself" whatsoever 100% of the time, you will end up miserable... you need to play around and manipulate stuff if you want to achieve something that isn't coming to you naturally... if you are mad at the girl, you will push her away... if you are way too much into the girl, you will push her away... you need to balance out some of the things you do naturally because they don't always work
Yep this is so tough for most guys. I just always remember back to my early 20s and note what and who I was. I did not give a fuck and have attention to my purpose. Girls would just show up in middle of night or in the afternoon. Competition anxiety and drama of their own amongst the gals and I continued to just be me. I still got girls who want to notch me because of who I was then and am still
I already know these things bro. Been have man girlfriends but choosing 10s all the time led to many experiences. Many of em led to me having enemies for having them in my sex life. Too much drama while chasing dreams. I can't live my life without getting hate.
Well, yes too much attention makes a girl loose interest, but.. It is easy to not show any attention at all, but then absolutely nothing will happen. It is the task of a man to take initiative and show attention or you will simply be ignored. And regarding the second point. If you never make any compliment and just stay neutral, she will assume you are not romantically interested. Passivity in general is not a good strategy. I agree on the third point though.
this dude can solve the issues of modern society, holy fuck. rule 1 aka attention to women = uninterested, thats why all the onlyfans girls exist, especially the egirls who get attention 24/7 if all guys stop giving attention to controversial stuff and its not controversial. so deep ong
You know what attracts women....who cares.....what do women want....who cares........ DONT CHASE WOMEN......CHASE SUCCESS.....AND THEY WILL CHASE YOU....AND IT WONT MATTER WHAT YOU DO ...WHAT YOU SAY ....OR HOW YOU ACT....as long as your not disrespectful to her.
The problem with watching videos like this is your always gonna base everything off of these videos and not just let life happen naturally. Similar to how people always base everything off of astrology/zodiac signs 🙄
When I frequent a store more than a few times over a short period of time, the female shop attendants both young and old will always compliment me on 'being such a cheerful person'. I often get the same question asked to me through the years: "Are you always this cheerful?" To which I must reply "I am" And I always add my little catchphrase (which rimes and is funny in my native language 'Dutch'): "Because, with a sad face it wouldn't go any quicker and better XD". The other day it was even a young cashier girl from around my age whom I never interacted with before, but yet she came up to me just to say "Hi, I heard you come here quite often" (it's a hardware store and I've recently moved to my apartment thus I'm doing a lot of DIY). --- Yet ... despite all these compliments I at 32yo never had a girlfriend. I'm a highly functional autist; personality INTJ. I taught myself most of the "normal" interaction patterns that come "pre-installed" in neurotypical humans. Because of that, looking back, I had multiple sweet girls throughout my school days from kindergarden, elementary to highschool, who did their best subtitle way of getting me to notice. Yet ... at the time, despite being the school top student and number 1 person to set next to on tests, I was very very shy and because girls would also tease me quite a bit, I never could imagine girls actually being serious when they flirted with me. In the last years of highschool I finally went for it with my at the time best female friend, she rejected me, ended the friendship and a week later asked my friend out who always had hated her but was a real Chad. From that moment on, I never had romantic success with girls. I'm very romantic and thus I would write poems, device scavenging hunt quests, ... for the girls I was interested in. It never worked out. When I finally went to online dating, I always had succes with the texting and chatting ... but ... being a not that socially adept INTJ ... I always fail to "create the necessary spark" so I never got to a second date. The latest was a goth girl who had a rough past and ... she was so happy that I loved her peculiar interests (I've always had a thing for that type of girl) and she had many similar hobbies to mine. I considered her my soulmate ... and ... she often stated that she couldn't believe her luck at coming across me. Because of coincidences it took several weeks before we could meet up, but ... we would chat for hours never running out stuff to genuinely talk about. At that time I was about to go MGTOW after years of no success online and in RL. So I was over the moon. However ... we meet in person at her house for a stay in ... she had migraine (as she often does) ... so we talk a lot and I had a very good time. She seemed to enjoy herself as well. The only annoying thing was that her male roommate (a very feminine and gentle dude, who played in a band) who was a nice person on his own, walked into the living and kept interacting with us for along time ... . It was then that I noticed a crack, but didn't mention it. As an INTJ and slight autist, I am incapable of interacting 100% normal with people ... I'm not good at small talk and being spontaneous in non-spontaneous situations (in a group of my friends I am sometimes the centre of attention, can make the best of jokes and can interact perfectly well ... but ... it's all very organic and non-pressured; I also have many times when I think: "luckily I have my group of friends and they're different from me ... because if everyone was like me it would probably be a bit boring or at least awkward at times"). Anyways, I noticed that they got on very well together and made jokes at each other in ways I never could. It made me realise, as I often do in those kind of situations, how different I actually am from "normal" people. But ... I played along and eventually the dude left for a while. He came back by the end for dinner. All by all I still thought it went rather well and she seemed to have enjoyed herself as well. As it was a very very hot weather and she was very poor, I had bought her an airconditioner (helps a lot against migraine attacks). I knew it was weird to by the end of the date suddenly state I had something for her, went back to my car and get such an expensive gift for a first time date ... but ... I'm of the mindset: "If I plan to do it anyways, I might as well do it sooner rather than later and have her get as much out if it as possible". She accepted it, although I could see she was surprized by it. I texted her as we usually did before bedtime to wish her 'good night' ... but ... she wasn't very talkative. From experience I know that's the sign that it's gonna go south. Indeed, the next day and a half I didn't hear from her ... first time since we met that she didn't blow up my phone ... and ... then she said: "I'm very very annoyed and embarrassed by this ... but ... I didn't feel the kind of spark that I'm looking for in a relationship (up until then, she told me, she had only been in very abusive relationships with even physical violence and mind games) ... yet ... apparently in person I lack what girls need ... for this has always repeated itself throughout the years. Talks go well, but the first date never seems to spark ... . I guess it mostly comes down to the fact that most of the time I'm in a good mood and since I operate on logic, I create very little room for issues to become drama. So I guess I'm just boring to women. If I like a girl, I tend to show it ... I have a huge dislike for mind games and can't help but see "playing hard to get" as wasting time that could be spend moving towards deepening our relationship. I guess that's the main issue. Give me my E-reader and I happily sit in the corner reading for hours, give me a computer and I'm enjoying myself, give me my laboratory and I find fund projects to do, get me my telescope and I find ways to further improve calibrations, ... . I'm not exciting nor do I want to be. I have my personal gym and work out most days for an hour and thus am in good shape, I'm tall 1m87, have all my hair which I keep long, ... . Yet ... somehow it was never enough for the girls I dated ... attempted to date ... . I assume they simply can tell by intuition that I'm different from most and that my calm demeanor means no exciting drama for them ... . Ah well ... I was planning on going MGTOW anyways and I have a great time by myself ... yet ... at the same time ... I would love to have a female companion in my life ... . I stopped looking and terminated all dating apps, until oktober I will be busy improving my new home. I have tons of books to read and projects to entertain myself. I'll see where all of this goes ... but ... I plan to maybe give it another shot somewhere in 2023 when I'm fully settled in.
You mentioned you go off of Logic. I feel like that too. I recommend taking a yoga class or something where you will see young woman at. I did this and because of how I am. I soon found myself tuning out the woman and focusing on my breathing and movement. In those moments my mind is clear. And after class I realize that some of the woman were paying me attention and compliment or even flirt a bit with me. I am not pursuing anyone but have made some great friendships that have taught me from the female perspective; including stuff like how she was won over by her current dude. I do want a partner but my time is my most valuable asset and currently i need to have my own foundation before i move onto a relationship. Because as a man; i need to be complete within myself b4 i try looking for someone to complete my purpose
Thanks for sharing your story with such honesty and reflection! I hope you will meet the right person for you one day. Be true to yourself. It sounds like you already have that down 👍
Oh boy can I relate to soooo much of what you said! I have to admit that much of modern dating and female behavior is flat-out depressing the more I have grown to understand it. A little about me: I was married for 19 years (no kids). We were even marriage counselors for many years. Our divorce is not relevant but afterwards, I fell hard in love with a girl that was a very close friend of mine. The fact that it was not returned devastated me. I spent the next year studying what went wrong and I learned a lot. I next re-kindled an old flame relationship from my past and it really looked like a wonderful thing was about to happen -like I had met my soulmate. Well, that too ended in disaster. It wasn't until I was far away from her that I began seeing all the things that I did wrong and all the red flags I ignored. Even in your brief accounting here, I could have told you that gifting that goth an AC unit on the first date was a huge mistake. It almost guaranteed losing her. I could go into much more detail but that one gesture said so many things about you and few of them are attractive to a modern woman. Isn't that sad? Isn't it sad that most women want the sort of things this video describes? Being cold and emotionless, having a general lack of care about them, and a source of emotional excitement all the time? God, that sounds like a nightmare. But there are some positive things that you can pull from here for any future women you might encounter: For one, the emotional cold-ness comes from not first being so eager to pour out all your feelings and emotions to someone who is essentially a stranger. Having the ability to restrain the urge to just toss your vulnerable self out there when you first meet someone IS what I believe is not only attractive but a better way to go. It still amazes me how willing I was to freely open myself up to someone I had barely met just because I was attracted to them. Trust and even a bit of history together is what is warranted before you should consider it safe to be open about yourself fully. And long talks on the phone or over txt messaging doesn't count! It needs to be in person! Being aloof about how attractive a woman is I believe is all about getting the right perspective on attraction in general -something I think most of us men get wrong. The more interested we are in a woman is based on how attracted we are to them. But that HAS to be put in reverse! This is because it has nothing to do with how or what they think about you. Think about it from their perspective. If a girl is very attractive, men start just getting stupid around them, gifting them things for no reason, being more helpful and attentive, etc. I imagine it starts to get old after a while -like does anyone like you just because of who you are and not because you won the genetic lottery? By not being a slave to YOUR level of attraction to the girl, you will then begin looking at the situation for what it is: it's supposed to be a friendship and relationship. That means that there is a mutual benefit from both parties. What are you gaining from this relationship from the girl? How much investment in the relationship is she showing that you can see? By not being swayed or clouded by a women's physical looks, this dynamic becomes easier to see. This is why buying that girl an AC unit on the first time seeing her was a bad move. She hadn't shown any sort of investment in you that could even come close -in fact, it sounded like she was testing you with her supposed headache and annoying roommate. Did she ever tell him to get lost because she was with you? I doubt it. I bet she was happy to have him around so she could see how you reacted and if you just tolerated it. It set a precedent. In the future, she knew you wouldn't stand up for yourself and say something like, "hey, can we lose this guy? I'd like to just hang with you without being interrupted by this schmuck every 30 minutes!" Instead, being a gentleman, and wanting not to be rude or awkward, you were polite and never said anything about it. You told her that you would act like this in the future if it happened again. Now, the emotional rollercoaster principle I fully understand. I have observed this in women all my life. It explains why women gravitate to certain TV shows that are so clearly just big bowls of emotions to soak in. It's like getting emotionally disrupted is a form of entertainment for women. It is also the sort of thing that a level-headed man would chose to avoid at all costs. This dynamic also explains so much about how women gravitate to abusive men, assholes, and the like. This is because even negative emotions are still just emotions to be experienced and enjoyed. Do I think most women realize this and understand what they're doing? Not at all. I think most of the seemingly insane behavior the modern women exhibits are not understood by these very same women. That is why you cannot at any point have a rational conversation with a woman about these things and expect an honest answer -because they are not capable of giving it. Now I have no intention of fabricating an environment in a relationship that brings on the desired emotional rollercoaster. I have no desire to synthesize emotional drama for the purposes of retaining the attention of a woman. Screw that. If that is what she needs, then I don't need a person like that in my life. And the second I see even a hint of that kind of need in a woman I am considering dating, she is gone. So, yeah, you can easily see where the prospect of a relationship with a modern female seems depressing. Even with a clear understanding of the "why" behind the behavior, it still makes me sad that this is the reality. But I do have hope. I was married to a woman that was nothing like this in any way and we were happy together for a long time. I have met a few girls over the years that not only balk at these traits, but are quite the opposite. So, I can honestly tell you that there are quality women out there -women that don't play these games, and can tell you honestly what's going on without reservation. I thank God they exist, and I hope some day soon to find one that likes me... But I will end this with one last concept: love. Now, should you still take in all that is said here and work on your character and be a better man when it comes to the dating world? Yes. But get this down above it all: if there isn't love, none of this will matter. You can do and say all the right things, she may be a perfect match for you in every single way, but if she doesn't love you, it's not going to work. And you need to pay attention to this in yourself too because I believe that most men are not sensitive to this until much later down the road -another reason to ignore the attractiveness of the girl initially. Love is not logical. It cannot be explained. And if it isn't there, nothing can change that. You can't talk someone into loving you, you can't convince someone that it's the best choice. Either it's there, or it isn't there. It's not anyone's fault, and it doesn't mean someone made a mistake or wasn't good enough. If there is not a mutual love there, move on. Don't be upset about discovering it, be glad you saw it early and not after commitments have been made and AC units have been purchased! LOL (just a little joke there). But make no mistake, love must be there. This is the reason why you must look for a mutual investment like I said earlier. If she loves you, she will act on it. Have hope brother. Keep on working on yourself. I can definitely hear the confidence in your description of how you live your life. I can tell you are a catch! So, when a girl starts to not treat you like one, point it out. Speak up. And have some dignity. You've earned the right to say so. I will end with this short moment from my recent past... I was hanging out with my newly acquired girlfriend who was considerably younger than me. We were just laying in bed. The kids were all put down, and it was "us time". She had her phone out and was just surfing on FB. Now, mind you, I live about 45 minutes away so we don't always get nights like this to be together. I started getting upset. I could remember instances like this in the past over many years when I felt shined-on like this and disrespected. So I just said, "Hey, I'd like some attention." She immediately responded with, "ok!" and put her phone away. It was almost like she was waiting for me to say it. I had to laugh to myself thinking about all the previous times in my life when I never said anything and thought to myself, "that's all it took?" Yeah, that's all it took. It took me standing up for myself and saying something. Good luck!
So in order for me to attract a girl is to never give her attention in order for me to let her know I’m interested is to not give her compliments and to maintain her attraction I have to bring drama to her life….I’ll just stay single and chase money.
This was the most helpful video i ever found on the internet. This is really what I'm searching for from last 3 months and i finally found this video this video really changed my dating outlook thank you Julian. Love you brother ❤️.
A lot of what you said is true, though saying that we should make our girl "seriously question if we like her" sounds like a horrible advice, as it can be interpreted pretty widely. Besides, guys don't fight for girls attention and it's not in their DNA, unless they feature feminine qualities. You should check Coach Corey Wayne channel, free excellent relationship advices
Mind games suck. She either wants to be with you Or she doesn’t. If she doesn’t you’re doing something wrong. Find someone who doesn’t like drama and likes you for you.
This is ridiculous and try hard. If you constantly have to change and entertain for a girl you are doing it wrong. Let her walk. This is bordeline incel complaining talk in a nice way.
Wrong…take away your attention and your girl will hookup with someone else….also, most men aren’t telling girls how beautiful they are or how they feel about them because they are afraid
A guy must look at women from an abundance mindset. That means a girl is an abundant resource not a scarce one. If you make that woman feel she is a pearl or diamond guess what will happen, she will loose interest in you. Why??? Because women are hard wired by our creator to chase. When men buy women gifts and all the other items, she feels the guy is investing in her as an item. They value their money and that is why she becomes valuable. Not by looking at her as a person. A strong man will look at her character and that will make him decide what level of investment he will put in.
I watched the whole video and still couldn't figure out what game he's talking about Like is this a new Apex Legends update? Is this the new Call of Duty? Maby Daddy Dating Simulator (I've never played this one, so I don't know how deep the meta is)? Somebody help me out with this
Hope to not get hate here, But these tips doesn't work if you are a 6 or below, maybe poor, not funny, not a dancer, not in social media and you are trying to hit a pretty girl (If you are trying to hit below averge girl anything will work, just don't be a jerk). The problem here is that Good guys want pretty girls with no Brain and is like mixing oil with water. These tips only works for normal average guys above 8, funny, that dance and have a fun instagram shit. Been smart or to have good feelings will never get you a pretty nice girl, no matter what tecnique you use. Henry Cavill can be an asshole, be broke, don't apply these tips and girls will always be in love of him cause he's handsome. He will always have pretty girls doing the line for him.
Until you, as a man, understand that you don't NEED a girl in your life to be happy and complete, you'll never really attract them. Women can tell when a man is self-sufficient and that makes a man totally different than the other 99% of guys they're used to dealing with. Women want a guy who's different...
The smartest thing a man can learn is to never need a woman.
Neediness in men is something that turns off women!
@@jeffsnow7749 that’s how you end it without them burning your possessions.
That just sounds like ya'll are all secretly gay
Gay
@@quincyprisirie588 ikr
If you think “how do I increase my value”, you’re already in the wrong state of mine.
The truth to success with women, or anything in life is “don’t give a f” people attack what you want, and try to stop you from getting it. If you truly don’t give a f, the things you want will be drawn to you. Part of that mentality is you cannot fear consequences. That’s what women want in a man, no fear. You can’t be afraid, fear = weakness.
*btw “no fear” is the same as thing as confidence, it’s the same as the bad boy, or the cool guy. That whole stereo type comes from no fear/ not giving a f! It’s hard to do, but I guarantee it works.
So an example of this not giving a fuck would be a guy likes a girl and wants to ask her out a 1st time, second, third or however many times. He approaches the situation with the idea he could be rejected but doesn’t care, he’s going to follow through either way. Sink or swim, he doesn’t let fear of rejection stop him. Would you consider that a form of not giving a fuck?
@@matthalo89 there's a lot holes in what he just said
@@avg959 care to explain??
I see a fellow stoic brother, salutes to you gentlemen
@@avg959 I’m sure there are holes, nothing is black and white. But what I said is the foundation for success. Every situation is different, but people are attracted to others who are direct, say what they mean (even if it’s not what someone wants to hear), and don’t compromise their principles (in other words: stand up for for what you believe in, don’t back down because you don’t want to offend someone).
Guys often break each other’s balls to see if the other guy will give up their principles and simultaneously their status. It’s a power move to claim higher status whether they realize what they are doing or not, it’s subconscious. The truth is cliche, it’s being yourself, meaning don’t wear a mask, which means being real, be you (that’s the cliche part). Don’t submit to someone else trying to step on you to raise themselves, which means don’t give a f what other people think.
Also, I would say asking a girl out for a second time, third time, and so on is giving away your power, putting the ball in the woman’s court. When you ask women questions whether its “will you go out with me, or what do you want for dinner” that is plain and simply giving a f. It comes off as needy. The cold hard truth is women go after men they desire. If you are true to yourself and your principles you will attract women and they will seek you. You won’t have to chase them. Now you can chase them and be persistent, and after a while you may wear them down, but they will lose interest and lose respect for you in the long run if you don’t become true to yourself and be a man who is not afraid, and not giving a f what others think about that, and sticks to his principles. If you do that, you will not only gain respect from women but from men as well. Doing what I said will raise your status and that is what attracts ALL people. It’s absolutely hard because you will have to hurt feelings and people may dislike you for certain things, but they will still respect you. Respect is earned and respect = status. And it all comes down to not giving a f, not wearing a mask, which means being true to who you are. It is a very, very hard thing to do, but it is the foundation.
Honestly if you're trying to pull the less you care the better he's underestimating the power of attention, giving it to things and hobbies is just as powerful while simultaneously giving you more things you'd rather think about other than her
Think the best advice for when you are looking for a meaningful relationship to act like yourself. Ofcourse thigs like flirting and teasing and other communication tactics can be learned, you're authentic self must not be damaged or altered by this. You won't be able to keep that player image up for yourself to someone who is truly willing to go for you. And by that, if you get a relationship using these "rules", the woman or person you are getting out is this is using the same mindset and probably lives for the game not the person. Hereby; good luck on your yourney
Now a bunch of dudes are gonna go home and ignore their wives
Lol
You know this video is a Perfect guide on how to attract girls with no Father figure in their life. Ok, I think it's clear that when women want a man they want their father, regardless of the relationship. So if a girl had a stable and loving father then that's what she'll want from a guy, but if she grew up in a single-mother household then she's going to want a guy who is distant and emotionally withholding. I'm not saying you should be a nice guy or don't keep a girl on an exciting rollercoaster but if you want high-quality women who knows what a good man looks like you're not finding her at the club and most of the time even at School. You find them at church and 4A, lol joking but not.
That last one I gotta work on but it’s good to know and makes sense 🔥🤙🏻
I think getting a higher paying job will be beneficial
I always put my girl on an emotional rollercoaster and I didn't know that until I watched this video🤣. This guy is spitting facts
Both men and women must have genuine intentions not playing mind games. Don't play other people's lives so that you won't regret by repaying your wrongdoings later.
thank you
I think ispnstead of drama it’s the need for attention maybe excitement but I think drama is the wrong word
Virgo women are totally different though.
You obviously don't have much experience with women. Mind games you play you will lose in the end. Wake up.
Super interesting bro thanks! Similar to Men are from Mars Woman are from Venus right ?
6:37 haha wealthy parents..? Dumb girls fall for that bro!
Everyone talks about getting money, getting fit but nobody gives advice on game. How do we improve our game?
A fit rich guy will just get advantage of. How do we game the girls?
good video, but wrong analogy of gold n water, the world will do without gold but it won't last a second without water
scarcity no problem, being different.. easy.. but the rollercoasting thing fuck that shit, i'd rather be single and at peace than to have to play games like this. i want a woman not a kids hooked on drugs.
A woman's core power lies in her ability to seduce. If you want an even playing field then do not allow yourself to be subjugated to this.
Pleasure is not happiness.
Pleasure is visceral /dopamine while happiness is ethereal /serotonin
Seeking pleasure never leads to happiness
In fact pleasure has more in common with misery than happiness
Ahh yes one of my old girlfriends cheatted on me but instead of giving her drama i just broke up and told her to have fun with him and honestly it never really hurt my emotionaly :/
I don't agree. Girls likes guys who give them attention. Every girl is different, you can't have any rules for anything.
Dude this is so true with the whole emotional rollercoaster thing. You just gotta learn how to not give a fuck and be selfish but also be somewhat of a good person. Be a sweet asshole. Go out and talk to girls; it’s the only way to get to that level
Bro you need to recap at the end….
What I say ain't for everyone only the one that will stand up for a nigga if they don't get it you get it to them in your face
Someone watched the phd lol
Just remember guys that these tips are for hook up culture, yes a certain amount of game will probably improve your relationship, but mostly you need to be authentic. It's better to be hated for who you are, than to be loved for something that you're not, keep that in mind.
The Essence is not to fake it, but to make these ways a lifestyle, such that these ways become part of you.
It all really boils down to confidence; learn about who you are and own it. When she fails to satisfy you, don't simp and say: "it's ok." And brush it off. Tell her that she sucks and you could find someone better. Next, reward her when she does a good thing... In fact, go the extra mile and make her feel really special. Keep the ups and downs going and she'll never leave!
Super true , while you are doing these things & applying these tactics , you should still be congruent & authentic to who you are !!
@@ux-ecommerce-strategies FACTS
@@JacksonWestfall 💯💯💎
The average normal life:
- Binge TV
- Porn daily
- Toxic food
- Cable news
- College debt
- 9-5 email job
- Sh*t head boss
- Consumer debt
- Rarely exercises
- Never goes outside
- Overweight or obese
- Paycheck to paycheck
No wonder the average normal man is miserable. Don't be average
I do not binge watch.
I work 9 to 5 with decent salary (middle class in our country)
No debs
Exercises regularly
But I don't go outside often.
And oh i already have a girl and I just watch these videos for entertainment lul
@@nikyabodigital that’s good for you my guy but he’s talking about the average guy
@@nikyabodigital you watch these vids for entertainment……for a friend eh? Haha
real talk
Cut out most of that or ebb it back, life gets so much better. I used to come home after work and sit there for hrs binging Netflix and beer. Put on 15lbs during the scamdemic. Last two months I've reversed course. Already down 10lbs.
Women who create drama turn me off. I have better things to do with my life than tolerate that rubbish
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7:00 The women who "want to be taken on a roller coaster" are very probably women who have psychological issues and would want to avoid them anyway.
Every woman.
1. Restrict your attention : Not giving away your attention to girls.
2. Novelty (Basically Standing Out) : Not treating girls the way other guys do.
3. Rollercoaster : Take girls on an emotional rollercoaster.
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I have witnessed my women friends dump men for doing all three of these, ya'll need to go out and actually talk to women instead of getting dating advice from cringy UA-cam channels
@@ganymede8257 okay bro
@@ganymede8257 You do have to be careful with these. The roller coaster shouldn’t be taken too literally. It’s mostly be fun
@@ganymede8257 A few small examples cannot be used as concrete evidence to completely justify abstinence from YT channels mate. There are so many variables at play when dealing with this topic; one of them being female individualism. People separate for various reasons, and those reasons are endless. You need to understand that we are in 2022. Things have changed dramatically since the up rise of various socials. For fun, I thought I'd give a few of these tips a go from this channel (and from DariusM). Let me tell you, when some of these pointers are incorporated into the way you generally conduct yourself as a person, the requests received to start a relationship/marriage were no less than 6 (8's, 9's, 10's) over a short period. All of which I declined of course because my standards as astronomically stupid but that's my own shit. People need to start looking at these topics from a psychological point of view, and there is so much more a dude needs to do and change within their life so they can firstly seem more appealing and easy to talk to, secondly to prevent being screwed over and cheated on (for the most part), and thirdly to better themselves as humans as a whole. A YT video is just the surface mate 🙃
This video in a nutshell: "Everything in moderation."
Ever noticed how attention is like money. Print/give too much of it and it becomes increasingly worthless. That's fiat currency, to be specific. Faking your value is actually akin to fiat money too when you think about it. It's the faith other parties have that you're worth something.
However, a man of true value is like the Gold Standard; his attention is genuinely worth something to others. That also means he only has so much to give, further increasing its value and driving him to "spend" it appropriately -- if he's smart.
Women today, they'll give their attention to the rich, perhaps handsome/perhaps not fella with a lot of influence. They'll also give their attention to the tatted-up bad boy in college who may or may not have three felonies on his record already. This is because women (not all, but a core rule) seek excitement and are driven by how they feel. Arguably, this goes back to the era of men needing to be strong and fierce to defend their mates. Obviously, they'd have massive priority over a weaker mate.
If you look closely, you can still see it in modern women. It's been grossly perverted in the last two-ish generations of ladies, but it's there.
I kind of have to agree with something Tim Pool said in one of his videos yesterday, paraphrased: Perhaps, we are returning to a time where the top percentage of men get all the girls and the mass of men will just have themselves.
I, for one, intend to pass on my genes through an intelligent, loyal, and beautiful woman. I' also don't intend to die in mediocrity, just another number in historical statistics.
What about you?
If your only desire is to get laid then you will be on this roller-coaster with all these games.
If you want a wife material woman the only game you will need is the ability to work towards always improving yourself and the willingness to always walk away. If the woman is just a hook up then she will usually let you go. If the woman is wife material then she will try to regain your attention.
You don't want to marry the hook up girl because the drama cannot be sustained forever and the drama will prevent you from improving yourself professionally and financially.
Thank you!
100% I get that there's ways us guys can step up but love really shouldn't feel like such a chore or game
@@isaacsherwood8373 Being willing to walk away and always working to improve yourself is not a chore and should be applied to everything in your life including jobs, education and friends. These ideas have always been a constant since the cave man days. The Modern Feminist conspiring with the Hollywood movie industry have been destroying that fact and creating simp men and single parent homes in the process.
@John Grigg My advice was not intended for the man already married. It was intended for a single man wanting to find the right wife material woman. Once you married them then you made your decision but if, after marriage, if you turn into a simp and lose who you were as a man then the wife will eventually make that divorce decision for you.
@@TomScott__ Hi I need advice about women emotion and rollercoaster on us
Yesterday I was nearby my ex gf gym ...I pop in and take a look if she is there.....she saw me and unhappy saying I dont trust her that she is there for exercises and felt I was there to check if she with man in the gym..
She said she feeling stress if I dont trust her.. I told her if this goin to be our 3rd breakup ..I will not look back again and if me as The Man always listen to her ..I wouldn't like I am bound to her rules ... such as meeting her once a week for sex because she feel stress meeting me 4 times a week previously in our 7 years relationship it was only natural we text everyday but now she want to change the dynamics to what she want
Yesterday morning she text me to cancel our plan to go out
I didnt like it and I didnt reply her
She text me in the night that she Miss me..I didnt reply
She text me Honey Good Nite I didnt reply
She text me Good Morning..I replied ...
I think she is upset I didnt reply her last nite...
I will meeting her tonite ...
What should I do ..
Because last week she told me she broke up with me because I focus too much on her...she wanted me to focus on my job and told me she can text me but I cant text her ...she even told me reply her immediately...
I dont want another argument which cause our 2nd breakup...
So I let her say whatever she want...
If I dont reply or reply late is this going to make her love me more ?
It was a good get back together we went to eat and happy hour but now she want to only meet her once a week and I Ban from going to her gym or near her house ...
I think I will Not Care anymore on our 7 years relationship if she dont want me to grow the love ..
If I walk away I am depressed...and if I take her rule I am depressed I am not Man enough
I watched a few of these videos from this channel, but this one is one of the best ones. It's very informative. Treat your attention like it's something that is hard to get from you.
Agreed. Many of his contents I really like and it does make sense.
Dude... I'm a gay guy, I have a crap ton of straight girl friends. Just don't listen to this dude, one of the biggest turn off's for women is watching channels like this.
Just be yourself, women aren't all that different than men and no woman is the exact same as another
@@ganymede8257 Well you don't tell them you watch this shit lmao. c'mon now you're just asking to be labelled as in incompetent man if you admit you watch this shit to a woman.
@@fj4731 first of all, I really appreciate you chosing to ask me for advice.
As for what you wrote, all I can say is- communicate with her. Contrary to what you might hear from channels like these, women love it when a man listens to them, don't feel like you're being used when she tells you about her problems. That doesn't mean you're 'feminine' it just means she trusts you.
Talk to her, but don't be too needy- learn about her interests, see what you have in common. A man who talks about his feelings is suprisingly very much loved by women, speaking from experience. Be yourself above anything else.
@@ganymede8257 hi Thank you for your advice .... Last nite I paid the dinner ..with my gf who broke up with me twice...while driving home
I had a argument with her in the car over a picture of her with a man she said just a Yoga instructor..i told her if she has new bf and dont love me she can leave and I will Walk away and never look back if she want 3rd breakup is The Final ...
I told her I have other women option...she got angry and open my car door want to leave and said since I have other women and she will never have sex with me if I have other women blaming me for this 3rd breakup..I grab her hand and tell her come back to the car that I dont have other women and I love her...she was agitated as I am ...we make love and she said she trust me this time and told me to trust her ....I told her the last 2 breakup she said she will never leave me but she left...I told her if she really love me then dont ever try to open door and leave ...she said she is Not jealous i have other women but she dont want me have sex with other women and then come to her...I could not walk away..what should i do and say...because she set boundaries to only meet me Once a week for sex ( last year we used to make love almost every day at least 4x a week )...she dont want to text me everyday and if she does text me she expect me to reply her asap...but she also say I can not text her unless she text ...her reason is she only want me to focus on my job...and not on her and told me to trust her and stop me goin to her gym to check on her and that Yoga instructor in her picture who she said she dont love anyone except me ??
Work on yourself, on your goals and ambitions, have a sigma mentality and unintentionally women will rain on you
Hahaha what a nonsense man. Without chasing women, you don’t get any woman
I only get ugly women
best advice
Word of warning to the people who are going to follow through with #3. Do not CREATE negativity out of no where just so you can put girls on an emotional roller coaster. Girls, like anyone else, will eventually go through sad/hard times naturally and just being there for her to support her will literally make you a hero in her eyes. If you belittle/insult/degrade someone just to break their self-esteem so you can build it back up, that is toxic and manipulative behaviour. It is not a healthy way to start a relationship.
Manipulation is part of the dark triad. You can't deny that woman does indeed gets attracted to dark triad traits.
lmao sounds like the start of an anime MC, pfft some girls will even insult you for even doing your best to support them.
Phillip, that makes u a FRIEND a pillow talking feminine friend. You're doing what she does with her female friends. This does NOT work man. 30 yrs I've done just that and it does NOT work. You're friend zoning yourself HARD and you will NOT come out of that. Ever. No matter how long u wait. Even if 10 yrs go by and THEN it may happen no one's gonna wait that long. 😆 Women love bad toxic guys. It's just the way they are. Gotta accept it. Drama shows and soap operas reel in their attention. They are addicted to the drama. If ur boring they always leave and quickly
@@daviedood2503 Women women like darkt riad traits
@@daviedood2503 10 yrs go by ww3 begins, and women still like bad men lol
Learn to put God first and you'll have no problems with women. Even better, you're likely to be blessed with a woman worth marrying.
Thank you, probably the wisest comment on UA-cam
Real struggles is what turns boys into real men I hope this helps 👍🏾
Tony on point.
Yeah
Im in the struggle rn
I'm enjoying these videos more than the older ones because of the cringingly relatable real world examples
It's so true women are wired to always bring drama to the most peaceful times, trust me I know.
No women don't do that kid. Little girls who pretend to be women do that it's like a sheep in wolf clothing. You not thinking.
@@manuelshaul9244 you not thinking
Your attention is as valuable as gold. Would you give your gold away for free? Would you give it away for something less than it's worth? Of course not. Do something nice for a woman but don't give her your attention until she first gives you something. Then follow only on that path with her. Only give her attention when she first gives you something first. Before you know it, you will condition her to seek you out for attention. When she gives you her attention, do exciting and unforgettable things with her or for her. If she invests in your attention, you will become very valuable to her.
Exactly, just let her taste that who the hell you are and then ignore her, she will get addicted to you...my woman often tells me that how crazy is she for me
The emotional roller coaster need for women is something that is never talked about!
Every guy needs to know this fact!
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The emotional roller coaster is NOT STABLE FOR A LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP.
@@mattleofric1766 Agreed! It make one wonder about marriage!
That's all a lie women don't like emotions roller coaster. Little girls who pretend to be women like emotional roller coaster. Used your word correctly. To see the truth
I remember when my coworker moved out of state to work in the oil fields and his wife would always approach me talking about how glad she is now he's gone...I stop coming to the door when she came knocking and I never answered her calls for a month and she approached me one night after work and tried to rape me I laughed and she said I'll do anything you want and I trespassed her. Women will give it up when you wreck their emotions.they love attention and shocking drama.
Your comment hurts my brain, and my faith in humanity
Wow
No Tory she was testing your loyalty and strength. By tempting you.
@Tony you are pathetic. And your story is likely made up.
But if it's true both you and the wife are garbage.
@@manuelshaul9244 the dude said he f*cked her stfu.
I honestly feel truth in this not just pertaining to women but ANY kind of relationship. people aren't going respect you automatically so you have to teach them to by how you carry/express yourself. if someone doesn't value my time, attention, or resources....there's no need to include them in my activities/life. Been trying to learn the difference between having free time (where you can do things that YOU enjoy and make you feel good) and having time you don't care about or "going with the flow".
Hence why i f*cking hate soceity. ... specially the people i meet at jobs.
Dudes, this will totally leave you unfulfilled in the end. These are instructions on how to stay a man-child not a grown ass man.
Who wanna be a man child
To save you the time of watching this vid, let me just tell you my brother's sage advice: "If you want an attractive girl or cute/whatnot girl, you have to become a bit of an asshole". That was the best thing I ever heard. You still have to take care of your body, your hygiene and just don't be a creep.
Yeah, except both being an asshole and getting with girls just for their looks rarely results in a good long-term relationship. It’s all emotional highs, instant gratification, and never an actual connection.
Women feed off of a naturally destructive feedback loop. This is why as a guy you shouldn't concern yourself too much with how a woman feels about you because it won't make sense anyways. Build upon yourself, learn new skills, be curious about the world and you will naturally gravitate to a higher innate energy. Then you'll have more options to choose from (which in turn makes more women naturally attracted to you) and maybe if you're lucky you can settle down with a woman who's never heard of a Kardashian.
Dude, not caring about a woman's feelings- or anyone's feelings for that matter is a disaster of a relationship waiting to crumble down.
Relationships are about mutual respect, just treat womem as you'd treat any of your friends
Like them thoughts focus on yourself, be kind, and find your mission and execute in life thats the purpose of a man...females benefit way more in a relationship than the man does...fuck game and being a player...90% of women can't do anything for man other than give them sex... woman can't give you a purpose only you can
@@stokeman363 Although your attempt to encourage men is very impressive, you didn't have to put down women as being worthless to men. Women can teach you a lot, and it doesn't even have to be a romantic relationship- just don't base your whole life around them
@@ganymede8257 sure you can learn things from women and they are useful in the world...I like women..... but they aren't that mysterious once you figure them out we as men don't need to focus on them as much to be better and find our grind..our purpose
@@stokeman363 That goes both ways, no one should base their life around someone else.
So basically women are emotionally children.
This is all very true. When you master this though then you have to master discerning from the ones who are genuinely interested in who you are and those trying to break through your barrier just because having you for narcissistic supply would be a big win for them lol. It’s tricky. I’ve experienced ego death and don’t care about attention at all. I don’t do selfies, a lot of social media, etc. Would like to find someone who has a similar mindset.
Ego death is literally the worst to go through but best to come out the other side of. Life after is unparalleled in how easy it is and how much freedom you feel 🤙🏻
1) attention
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3)roller coaster
2. Novelty
i feel like this was the missing piece of the puzzle that was needed to complete the final picture. FarFromAverage you rock for doing these, man, woman, or group, whatever you are. kings
Fook attention! I'm trying to Fook!🤣
Lol
Conner lol
Anyone who thinks emotional rollercosters and drama is fun and exciting, has a serious mental problem and should consult a therapist.
Believe or not, this guy is right. Attention is like a drug to them, when you give them free attention, you lose. Reward them with attention for good behavior, not money and withdraw your attention a bit to keep them hooked. Unfortunately women don't like a guy who is all about them, they want one they feel they can never really possess.
If your an average guy, your attention is already worthless regardless if you restrict it or not. If you have monopoly money... it doesn't matter if you restrict it or give it out.. its worthless. (don' like).
@@fj4731 My advice is ignore this crap ginger beard is saying... Look, if your an average looking guy or below.. it doesn't matter a damn whether or not you withhold your attention or give her attention... Your attention is worthless either way... This is like saying... I will give this person lots of monopoly money.. and I will give this other person no monopoly money... Monopoly money is worthless... just like your attention... My advice is get a six pack, mew your jawline so it looks more masculine, get some red cream moisturiser so your face looks unblemished.. get a job... get an interesting hobby... when you get a six pack get some tight clothes, improve your posture... learn some interesting anecdotes... learn the art of emotional bonding... get good at flirting. Stop whining... she doesn't give a shit about your problems. Accept it.
@@fj4731 hey buddy,hope u doing great just saw your message. Sorry that you lost your job but at the same time see this as an opportunity to discover yourself as you are looking for your next job or starting or starting up your own business.
Getting to your issue with your girlfriend, I will advise you to let go of that fear of losing her. The first thing I will advise you is to discover that thing that gives you a sense of purpose, be it becoming a musician or a successful entrepreneur or anything that you are really passionate about. Let her be "a part of" your life and not the center of your life. Secondly don't allow her to walk in and out of your life whenever she feels like. she has no right to get mad at you for not initiating contact all the times. Because from my experience with women, when they are into you, they will be calling and texting you almost all the time without complaining. Girls that complain are those mostly who like feeding their egos and want to feel desired. If she's that kind of a person, don't let her emotional blackmail get to you. Don't fall in that trap, you deserve better. Next time she wants to make you guilty about anything just tell her what she does that you don't like. Don't show emotional or be apologetic while you talk to her, and don't use too many words which is perceived as a sign of weakness by weakness. Women respect men who know their worth stand their ground. Don't Let her meet you at her convenience, a relationship is about compromise. The other thing you should do is get to know other girls, attractive ones if you can, the more women you get to interact with, the better and more confident you get.
@@gingerbeard6559 hi Last nite I had a argument with her over a picture of her with a man she said just a Yoga instructor..i told her if she has new bf she can leave and I will Walk away and never look back if she want and this 3rd breakup is The Final ...
I lie to her I have other women option...she got angry and open my car door want to leave and said since I have other women and she will never have sex with me ... blaming me for this 3rd breakup....I grab her hand and told her come back to the car... that I didnt have sex with all other women except her and my mistake I say i love her..and then she said she trust me this time and we make love she also told me to trust her she has no other men...but...I told her the last 2 breakup she said she will never leave me but she left...I told her if she really love me then dont ever try to open door and leave ...she said she is Not jealous i have other women because she dont want me to focus on her .....I could not walk away..what should i do and say
Wow. My boy here preaching avoidant fuckboy behavior. Be aware; this behavior leads to sex addiction, sadness and perpetual loneliness
I get my wife pissed at least once a month... so... I suppose I got it XD
I just said to my wife.. you know its over...right.
Dinner?
Thanks for the advice love from south africa , i practice a high value lifestyle which in months got me to be the most elusive sigma in my high school my polarity is constantly high and i get a lot of females who wants me thank you for helping me change my life ! 🕴🕴❤
That's not sigma. Sigma's aren't "created" in under a year, it takes YEARS, and we're not interested in grouping massive amounts of females. We're focused on career and other things. You seem to be leaning towards the alpha type.
Stop trying too hard, fuck incentives never chase em... your only priority is making yourself a priority and if they can't see your value don't make them 👍
Certainly not a sigma , takes many years and sigmas dont care for popularity, they are past your comprehension...
Give me advice on how to take back a woman i loved 10 years ago... she's marryed but her cousin told me that she misses me...... is there hope.?
Sounds like manipulation tactics when you talk about the roller coaster thing. If you are into the girl, be into the girl... If you are mad at her, be mad at her. Life will naturally take you both on an emotional rollercoaster. But I do love what you said about having your own purpose and goals and things like that.
hate to break it to you but real world is mostly manipulation tactics, if you just "be yourself" whatsoever 100% of the time, you will end up miserable... you need to play around and manipulate stuff if you want to achieve something that isn't coming to you naturally... if you are mad at the girl, you will push her away... if you are way too much into the girl, you will push her away... you need to balance out some of the things you do naturally because they don't always work
thats how just things are buddy, these tactics are from nature, dont get it twisted mixing your feelings with it.
But there is a woman on here on YT that even said that women like to put on an emotional roller coaster. So it must be true
Vassil women manipulate men as well .I have countless examples of this .
Don't get confused...women love their own drama, but they despise guy drama.
Yep this is so tough for most guys. I just always remember back to my early 20s and note what and who I was. I did not give a fuck and have attention to my purpose. Girls would just show up in middle of night or in the afternoon. Competition anxiety and drama of their own amongst the gals and I continued to just be me. I still got girls who want to notch me because of who I was then and am still
Any guy treats a girl this way will be dumped.
I already know these things bro. Been have man girlfriends but choosing 10s all the time led to many experiences. Many of em led to me having enemies for having them in my sex life. Too much drama while chasing dreams. I can't live my life without getting hate.
Well, yes too much attention makes a girl loose interest, but..
It is easy to not show any attention at all, but then absolutely nothing will happen. It is the task of a man to take initiative and show attention or you will simply be ignored.
And regarding the second point. If you never make any compliment and just stay neutral, she will assume you are not romantically interested.
Passivity in general is not a good strategy.
I agree on the third point though.
You’re really on to something there! Good job stay on the right track!
I undestand after more than 10 years dealing with women, the best way to deal with a woman you're attracted to is causal indifference.
My friend was very indifferent thinking it was better to “not care” and his wife just divorced him
If a girl cheats, she’s not for you.
Women born with value but man must earn value and conquer the world...
So you wanna date every woman if you get the lady you want you will still move on to another
Life on earth is now all about chasing money and women.
You're one of my favorite UA-cam content creators, and this is one of the best videos I've ever seen. Thank you
this dude can solve the issues of modern society, holy fuck. rule 1 aka attention to women = uninterested, thats why all the onlyfans girls exist, especially the egirls who get attention 24/7 if all guys stop giving attention to controversial stuff and its not controversial. so deep ong
All a load of cr@p. You just need to be yourself in life.
"Respect yourself first so that others will respect you"
Loved it, thank you for the effort, bro! You're a legend
She's not yours it's just your turn
I've been restricting my attention but still don't get as much attention.
This guy definitely read Atomic Attraction.
Great book.
Stop watching this waste of time
He Ain't Lyin 🎤🗝🗝🗝🔏🤺
You know what attracts women....who cares.....what do women want....who cares........
DONT CHASE WOMEN......CHASE SUCCESS.....AND THEY WILL CHASE YOU....AND IT WONT MATTER WHAT YOU DO ...WHAT YOU SAY ....OR HOW YOU ACT....as long as your not disrespectful to her.
The problem with watching videos like this is your always gonna base everything off of these videos and not just let life happen naturally. Similar to how people always base everything off of astrology/zodiac signs 🙄
When I frequent a store more than a few times over a short period of time, the female shop attendants both young and old will always compliment me on 'being such a cheerful person'.
I often get the same question asked to me through the years: "Are you always this cheerful?"
To which I must reply "I am"
And I always add my little catchphrase (which rimes and is funny in my native language 'Dutch'): "Because, with a sad face it wouldn't go any quicker and better XD".
The other day it was even a young cashier girl from around my age whom I never interacted with before, but yet she came up to me just to say "Hi, I heard you come here quite often" (it's a hardware store and I've recently moved to my apartment thus I'm doing a lot of DIY).
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Yet ... despite all these compliments I at 32yo never had a girlfriend.
I'm a highly functional autist; personality INTJ.
I taught myself most of the "normal" interaction patterns that come "pre-installed" in neurotypical humans.
Because of that, looking back, I had multiple sweet girls throughout my school days from kindergarden, elementary to highschool, who did their best subtitle way of getting me to notice.
Yet ... at the time, despite being the school top student and number 1 person to set next to on tests, I was very very shy and because girls would also tease me quite a bit, I never could imagine girls actually being serious when they flirted with me.
In the last years of highschool I finally went for it with my at the time best female friend, she rejected me, ended the friendship and a week later asked my friend out who always had hated her but was a real Chad.
From that moment on, I never had romantic success with girls.
I'm very romantic and thus I would write poems, device scavenging hunt quests, ... for the girls I was interested in.
It never worked out.
When I finally went to online dating, I always had succes with the texting and chatting ... but ... being a not that socially adept INTJ ... I always fail to "create the necessary spark" so I never got to a second date.
The latest was a goth girl who had a rough past and ... she was so happy that I loved her peculiar interests (I've always had a thing for that type of girl) and she had many similar hobbies to mine.
I considered her my soulmate ... and ... she often stated that she couldn't believe her luck at coming across me.
Because of coincidences it took several weeks before we could meet up, but ... we would chat for hours never running out stuff to genuinely talk about.
At that time I was about to go MGTOW after years of no success online and in RL.
So I was over the moon.
However ... we meet in person at her house for a stay in ... she had migraine (as she often does) ... so we talk a lot and I had a very good time.
She seemed to enjoy herself as well.
The only annoying thing was that her male roommate (a very feminine and gentle dude, who played in a band) who was a nice person on his own, walked into the living and kept interacting with us for along time ... .
It was then that I noticed a crack, but didn't mention it.
As an INTJ and slight autist, I am incapable of interacting 100% normal with people ... I'm not good at small talk and being spontaneous in non-spontaneous situations (in a group of my friends I am sometimes the centre of attention, can make the best of jokes and can interact perfectly well ... but ... it's all very organic and non-pressured; I also have many times when I think: "luckily I have my group of friends and they're different from me ... because if everyone was like me it would probably be a bit boring or at least awkward at times").
Anyways, I noticed that they got on very well together and made jokes at each other in ways I never could.
It made me realise, as I often do in those kind of situations, how different I actually am from "normal" people.
But ... I played along and eventually the dude left for a while.
He came back by the end for dinner.
All by all I still thought it went rather well and she seemed to have enjoyed herself as well.
As it was a very very hot weather and she was very poor, I had bought her an airconditioner (helps a lot against migraine attacks).
I knew it was weird to by the end of the date suddenly state I had something for her, went back to my car and get such an expensive gift for a first time date ... but ... I'm of the mindset: "If I plan to do it anyways, I might as well do it sooner rather than later and have her get as much out if it as possible".
She accepted it, although I could see she was surprized by it.
I texted her as we usually did before bedtime to wish her 'good night' ... but ... she wasn't very talkative.
From experience I know that's the sign that it's gonna go south.
Indeed, the next day and a half I didn't hear from her ... first time since we met that she didn't blow up my phone ... and ... then she said: "I'm very very annoyed and embarrassed by this ... but ... I didn't feel the kind of spark that I'm looking for in a relationship (up until then, she told me, she had only been in very abusive relationships with even physical violence and mind games) ... yet ... apparently in person I lack what girls need ... for this has always repeated itself throughout the years.
Talks go well, but the first date never seems to spark ... .
I guess it mostly comes down to the fact that most of the time I'm in a good mood and since I operate on logic, I create very little room for issues to become drama.
So I guess I'm just boring to women.
If I like a girl, I tend to show it ... I have a huge dislike for mind games and can't help but see "playing hard to get" as wasting time that could be spend moving towards deepening our relationship.
I guess that's the main issue.
Give me my E-reader and I happily sit in the corner reading for hours, give me a computer and I'm enjoying myself, give me my laboratory and I find fund projects to do, get me my telescope and I find ways to further improve calibrations, ... .
I'm not exciting nor do I want to be.
I have my personal gym and work out most days for an hour and thus am in good shape, I'm tall 1m87, have all my hair which I keep long, ... .
Yet ... somehow it was never enough for the girls I dated ... attempted to date ... .
I assume they simply can tell by intuition that I'm different from most and that my calm demeanor means no exciting drama for them ... .
Ah well ... I was planning on going MGTOW anyways and I have a great time by myself ... yet ... at the same time ... I would love to have a female companion in my life ... .
I stopped looking and terminated all dating apps, until oktober I will be busy improving my new home.
I have tons of books to read and projects to entertain myself.
I'll see where all of this goes ... but ... I plan to maybe give it another shot somewhere in 2023 when I'm fully settled in.
Dude, you write a lot.
Do you know what actually turn boy in to a man? Action!
Instead of living in past and imaginary world focus on actions.
You mentioned you go off of Logic. I feel like that too. I recommend taking a yoga class or something where you will see young woman at. I did this and because of how I am. I soon found myself tuning out the woman and focusing on my breathing and movement. In those moments my mind is clear. And after class I realize that some of the woman were paying me attention and compliment or even flirt a bit with me. I am not pursuing anyone but have made some great friendships that have taught me from the female perspective; including stuff like how she was won over by her current dude. I do want a partner but my time is my most valuable asset and currently i need to have my own foundation before i move onto a relationship. Because as a man; i need to be complete within myself b4 i try looking for someone to complete my purpose
you need to value your time more
Thanks for sharing your story with such honesty and reflection! I hope you will meet the right person for you one day. Be true to yourself. It sounds like you already have that down 👍
Oh boy can I relate to soooo much of what you said! I have to admit that much of modern dating and female behavior is flat-out depressing the more I have grown to understand it. A little about me: I was married for 19 years (no kids). We were even marriage counselors for many years. Our divorce is not relevant but afterwards, I fell hard in love with a girl that was a very close friend of mine. The fact that it was not returned devastated me. I spent the next year studying what went wrong and I learned a lot. I next re-kindled an old flame relationship from my past and it really looked like a wonderful thing was about to happen -like I had met my soulmate. Well, that too ended in disaster. It wasn't until I was far away from her that I began seeing all the things that I did wrong and all the red flags I ignored.
Even in your brief accounting here, I could have told you that gifting that goth an AC unit on the first date was a huge mistake. It almost guaranteed losing her. I could go into much more detail but that one gesture said so many things about you and few of them are attractive to a modern woman. Isn't that sad? Isn't it sad that most women want the sort of things this video describes? Being cold and emotionless, having a general lack of care about them, and a source of emotional excitement all the time? God, that sounds like a nightmare. But there are some positive things that you can pull from here for any future women you might encounter:
For one, the emotional cold-ness comes from not first being so eager to pour out all your feelings and emotions to someone who is essentially a stranger. Having the ability to restrain the urge to just toss your vulnerable self out there when you first meet someone IS what I believe is not only attractive but a better way to go. It still amazes me how willing I was to freely open myself up to someone I had barely met just because I was attracted to them. Trust and even a bit of history together is what is warranted before you should consider it safe to be open about yourself fully. And long talks on the phone or over txt messaging doesn't count! It needs to be in person!
Being aloof about how attractive a woman is I believe is all about getting the right perspective on attraction in general -something I think most of us men get wrong. The more interested we are in a woman is based on how attracted we are to them. But that HAS to be put in reverse! This is because it has nothing to do with how or what they think about you. Think about it from their perspective. If a girl is very attractive, men start just getting stupid around them, gifting them things for no reason, being more helpful and attentive, etc. I imagine it starts to get old after a while -like does anyone like you just because of who you are and not because you won the genetic lottery? By not being a slave to YOUR level of attraction to the girl, you will then begin looking at the situation for what it is: it's supposed to be a friendship and relationship. That means that there is a mutual benefit from both parties. What are you gaining from this relationship from the girl? How much investment in the relationship is she showing that you can see? By not being swayed or clouded by a women's physical looks, this dynamic becomes easier to see. This is why buying that girl an AC unit on the first time seeing her was a bad move. She hadn't shown any sort of investment in you that could even come close -in fact, it sounded like she was testing you with her supposed headache and annoying roommate. Did she ever tell him to get lost because she was with you? I doubt it. I bet she was happy to have him around so she could see how you reacted and if you just tolerated it. It set a precedent. In the future, she knew you wouldn't stand up for yourself and say something like, "hey, can we lose this guy? I'd like to just hang with you without being interrupted by this schmuck every 30 minutes!" Instead, being a gentleman, and wanting not to be rude or awkward, you were polite and never said anything about it. You told her that you would act like this in the future if it happened again.
Now, the emotional rollercoaster principle I fully understand. I have observed this in women all my life. It explains why women gravitate to certain TV shows that are so clearly just big bowls of emotions to soak in. It's like getting emotionally disrupted is a form of entertainment for women. It is also the sort of thing that a level-headed man would chose to avoid at all costs. This dynamic also explains so much about how women gravitate to abusive men, assholes, and the like. This is because even negative emotions are still just emotions to be experienced and enjoyed. Do I think most women realize this and understand what they're doing? Not at all. I think most of the seemingly insane behavior the modern women exhibits are not understood by these very same women. That is why you cannot at any point have a rational conversation with a woman about these things and expect an honest answer -because they are not capable of giving it. Now I have no intention of fabricating an environment in a relationship that brings on the desired emotional rollercoaster. I have no desire to synthesize emotional drama for the purposes of retaining the attention of a woman. Screw that. If that is what she needs, then I don't need a person like that in my life. And the second I see even a hint of that kind of need in a woman I am considering dating, she is gone.
So, yeah, you can easily see where the prospect of a relationship with a modern female seems depressing. Even with a clear understanding of the "why" behind the behavior, it still makes me sad that this is the reality. But I do have hope. I was married to a woman that was nothing like this in any way and we were happy together for a long time. I have met a few girls over the years that not only balk at these traits, but are quite the opposite. So, I can honestly tell you that there are quality women out there -women that don't play these games, and can tell you honestly what's going on without reservation. I thank God they exist, and I hope some day soon to find one that likes me...
But I will end this with one last concept: love. Now, should you still take in all that is said here and work on your character and be a better man when it comes to the dating world? Yes. But get this down above it all: if there isn't love, none of this will matter. You can do and say all the right things, she may be a perfect match for you in every single way, but if she doesn't love you, it's not going to work. And you need to pay attention to this in yourself too because I believe that most men are not sensitive to this until much later down the road -another reason to ignore the attractiveness of the girl initially. Love is not logical. It cannot be explained. And if it isn't there, nothing can change that. You can't talk someone into loving you, you can't convince someone that it's the best choice. Either it's there, or it isn't there. It's not anyone's fault, and it doesn't mean someone made a mistake or wasn't good enough. If there is not a mutual love there, move on. Don't be upset about discovering it, be glad you saw it early and not after commitments have been made and AC units have been purchased! LOL (just a little joke there). But make no mistake, love must be there. This is the reason why you must look for a mutual investment like I said earlier. If she loves you, she will act on it.
Have hope brother. Keep on working on yourself. I can definitely hear the confidence in your description of how you live your life. I can tell you are a catch! So, when a girl starts to not treat you like one, point it out. Speak up. And have some dignity. You've earned the right to say so. I will end with this short moment from my recent past... I was hanging out with my newly acquired girlfriend who was considerably younger than me. We were just laying in bed. The kids were all put down, and it was "us time". She had her phone out and was just surfing on FB. Now, mind you, I live about 45 minutes away so we don't always get nights like this to be together. I started getting upset. I could remember instances like this in the past over many years when I felt shined-on like this and disrespected. So I just said, "Hey, I'd like some attention." She immediately responded with, "ok!" and put her phone away. It was almost like she was waiting for me to say it. I had to laugh to myself thinking about all the previous times in my life when I never said anything and thought to myself, "that's all it took?" Yeah, that's all it took. It took me standing up for myself and saying something. Good luck!
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So in order for me to attract a girl is to never give her attention in order for me to let her know I’m interested is to not give her compliments and to maintain her attraction I have to bring drama to her life….I’ll just stay single and chase money.
This was the most helpful video i ever found on the internet. This is really what I'm searching for from last 3 months and i finally found this video this video really changed my dating outlook thank you Julian. Love you brother ❤️.
A lot of what you said is true, though saying that we should make our girl "seriously question if we like her" sounds like a horrible advice, as it can be interpreted pretty widely. Besides, guys don't fight for girls attention and it's not in their DNA, unless they feature feminine qualities. You should check Coach Corey Wayne channel, free excellent relationship advices
Man I have cme to the point to ask ..how can I get girls in high school
Mind games suck.
She either wants to be with you
Or she doesn’t.
If she doesn’t you’re doing something wrong.
Find someone who doesn’t
like drama and likes you for you.
This is ridiculous and try hard. If you constantly have to change and entertain for a girl you are doing it wrong. Let her walk. This is bordeline incel complaining talk in a nice way.
Okay. I see. They like drama. Can I invite her to watch Days of Our Lives? Joking aside, how do you create this drama you speak of?
Wrong…take away your attention and your girl will hookup with someone else….also, most men aren’t telling girls how beautiful they are or how they feel about them because they are afraid
A guy must look at women from an abundance mindset. That means a girl is an abundant resource not a scarce one. If you make that woman feel she is a pearl or diamond guess what will happen, she will loose interest in you. Why??? Because women are hard wired by our creator to chase. When men buy women gifts and all the other items, she feels the guy is investing in her as an item. They value their money and that is why she becomes valuable. Not by looking at her as a person. A strong man will look at her character and that will make him decide what level of investment he will put in.
I watched the whole video and still couldn't figure out what game he's talking about
Like is this a new Apex Legends update? Is this the new Call of Duty? Maby Daddy Dating Simulator (I've never played this one, so I don't know how deep the meta is)?
Somebody help me out with this
You can do anything to a woman except bore her - Andrew Tate
The dude with the sword looks like Billy Butcher
Dude I watch this stuff and don't even give a fuck🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 it's just something to watch, it all sounds like to much work anyway. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
This is horrible advice. Especially #3. This is toxic AF. I never want this type of thing in my life. It's pitiful and immature.
Resume of this boring video: Behave like a CAT, instead of behaving like a DOG.
You're welcome 😎
Hope to not get hate here, But these tips doesn't work if you are a 6 or below, maybe poor, not funny, not a dancer, not in social media and you are trying to hit a pretty girl (If you are trying to hit below averge girl anything will work, just don't be a jerk). The problem here is that Good guys want pretty girls with no Brain and is like mixing oil with water.
These tips only works for normal average guys above 8, funny, that dance and have a fun instagram shit. Been smart or to have good feelings will never get you a pretty nice girl, no matter what tecnique you use.
Henry Cavill can be an asshole, be broke, don't apply these tips and girls will always be in love of him cause he's handsome. He will always have pretty girls doing the line for him.
Until you, as a man, understand that you don't NEED a girl in your life to be happy and complete, you'll never really attract them. Women can tell when a man is self-sufficient and that makes a man totally different than the other 99% of guys they're used to dealing with. Women want a guy who's different...