Just remember guys that these tips are for hook up culture, yes a certain amount of game will probably improve your relationship, but mostly you need to be authentic. It's better to be hated for who you are, than to be loved for something that you're not, keep that in mind.
It all really boils down to confidence; learn about who you are and own it. When she fails to satisfy you, don't simp and say: "it's ok." And brush it off. Tell her that she sucks and you could find someone better. Next, reward her when she does a good thing... In fact, go the extra mile and make her feel really special. Keep the ups and downs going and she'll never leave!
1. Restrict your attention : Not giving away your attention to girls. 2. Novelty (Basically Standing Out) : Not treating girls the way other guys do. 3. Rollercoaster : Take girls on an emotional rollercoaster.
I have witnessed my women friends dump men for doing all three of these, ya'll need to go out and actually talk to women instead of getting dating advice from cringy UA-cam channels
@@ganymede8257 A few small examples cannot be used as concrete evidence to completely justify abstinence from YT channels mate. There are so many variables at play when dealing with this topic; one of them being female individualism. People separate for various reasons, and those reasons are endless. You need to understand that we are in 2022. Things have changed dramatically since the up rise of various socials. For fun, I thought I'd give a few of these tips a go from this channel (and from DariusM). Let me tell you, when some of these pointers are incorporated into the way you generally conduct yourself as a person, the requests received to start a relationship/marriage were no less than 6 (8's, 9's, 10's) over a short period. All of which I declined of course because my standards as astronomically stupid but that's my own shit. People need to start looking at these topics from a psychological point of view, and there is so much more a dude needs to do and change within their life so they can firstly seem more appealing and easy to talk to, secondly to prevent being screwed over and cheated on (for the most part), and thirdly to better themselves as humans as a whole. A YT video is just the surface mate 🙃
If you think “how do I increase my value”, you’re already in the wrong state of mine. The truth to success with women, or anything in life is “don’t give a f” people attack what you want, and try to stop you from getting it. If you truly don’t give a f, the things you want will be drawn to you. Part of that mentality is you cannot fear consequences. That’s what women want in a man, no fear. You can’t be afraid, fear = weakness. *btw “no fear” is the same as thing as confidence, it’s the same as the bad boy, or the cool guy. That whole stereo type comes from no fear/ not giving a f! It’s hard to do, but I guarantee it works.
So an example of this not giving a fuck would be a guy likes a girl and wants to ask her out a 1st time, second, third or however many times. He approaches the situation with the idea he could be rejected but doesn’t care, he’s going to follow through either way. Sink or swim, he doesn’t let fear of rejection stop him. Would you consider that a form of not giving a fuck?
@@avg959 I’m sure there are holes, nothing is black and white. But what I said is the foundation for success. Every situation is different, but people are attracted to others who are direct, say what they mean (even if it’s not what someone wants to hear), and don’t compromise their principles (in other words: stand up for for what you believe in, don’t back down because you don’t want to offend someone). Guys often break each other’s balls to see if the other guy will give up their principles and simultaneously their status. It’s a power move to claim higher status whether they realize what they are doing or not, it’s subconscious. The truth is cliche, it’s being yourself, meaning don’t wear a mask, which means being real, be you (that’s the cliche part). Don’t submit to someone else trying to step on you to raise themselves, which means don’t give a f what other people think. Also, I would say asking a girl out for a second time, third time, and so on is giving away your power, putting the ball in the woman’s court. When you ask women questions whether its “will you go out with me, or what do you want for dinner” that is plain and simply giving a f. It comes off as needy. The cold hard truth is women go after men they desire. If you are true to yourself and your principles you will attract women and they will seek you. You won’t have to chase them. Now you can chase them and be persistent, and after a while you may wear them down, but they will lose interest and lose respect for you in the long run if you don’t become true to yourself and be a man who is not afraid, and not giving a f what others think about that, and sticks to his principles. If you do that, you will not only gain respect from women but from men as well. Doing what I said will raise your status and that is what attracts ALL people. It’s absolutely hard because you will have to hurt feelings and people may dislike you for certain things, but they will still respect you. Respect is earned and respect = status. And it all comes down to not giving a f, not wearing a mask, which means being true to who you are. It is a very, very hard thing to do, but it is the foundation.
I watched a few of these videos from this channel, but this one is one of the best ones. It's very informative. Treat your attention like it's something that is hard to get from you.
Dude... I'm a gay guy, I have a crap ton of straight girl friends. Just don't listen to this dude, one of the biggest turn off's for women is watching channels like this. Just be yourself, women aren't all that different than men and no woman is the exact same as another
@@ganymede8257 Well you don't tell them you watch this shit lmao. c'mon now you're just asking to be labelled as in incompetent man if you admit you watch this shit to a woman.
@@fj4731 first of all, I really appreciate you chosing to ask me for advice. As for what you wrote, all I can say is- communicate with her. Contrary to what you might hear from channels like these, women love it when a man listens to them, don't feel like you're being used when she tells you about her problems. That doesn't mean you're 'feminine' it just means she trusts you. Talk to her, but don't be too needy- learn about her interests, see what you have in common. A man who talks about his feelings is suprisingly very much loved by women, speaking from experience. Be yourself above anything else.
@@ganymede8257 hi Thank you for your advice .... Last nite I paid the dinner ..with my gf who broke up with me twice...while driving home I had a argument with her in the car over a picture of her with a man she said just a Yoga instructor..i told her if she has new bf and dont love me she can leave and I will Walk away and never look back if she want 3rd breakup is The Final ... I told her I have other women option...she got angry and open my car door want to leave and said since I have other women and she will never have sex with me if I have other women blaming me for this 3rd breakup..I grab her hand and tell her come back to the car that I dont have other women and I love her...she was agitated as I am ...we make love and she said she trust me this time and told me to trust her ....I told her the last 2 breakup she said she will never leave me but she left...I told her if she really love me then dont ever try to open door and leave ...she said she is Not jealous i have other women but she dont want me have sex with other women and then come to her...I could not walk away..what should i do and say...because she set boundaries to only meet me Once a week for sex ( last year we used to make love almost every day at least 4x a week )...she dont want to text me everyday and if she does text me she expect me to reply her asap...but she also say I can not text her unless she text ...her reason is she only want me to focus on my job...and not on her and told me to trust her and stop me goin to her gym to check on her and that Yoga instructor in her picture who she said she dont love anyone except me ??
Word of warning to the people who are going to follow through with #3. Do not CREATE negativity out of no where just so you can put girls on an emotional roller coaster. Girls, like anyone else, will eventually go through sad/hard times naturally and just being there for her to support her will literally make you a hero in her eyes. If you belittle/insult/degrade someone just to break their self-esteem so you can build it back up, that is toxic and manipulative behaviour. It is not a healthy way to start a relationship.
Phillip, that makes u a FRIEND a pillow talking feminine friend. You're doing what she does with her female friends. This does NOT work man. 30 yrs I've done just that and it does NOT work. You're friend zoning yourself HARD and you will NOT come out of that. Ever. No matter how long u wait. Even if 10 yrs go by and THEN it may happen no one's gonna wait that long. 😆 Women love bad toxic guys. It's just the way they are. Gotta accept it. Drama shows and soap operas reel in their attention. They are addicted to the drama. If ur boring they always leave and quickly
The average normal life: - Binge TV - Porn daily - Toxic food - Cable news - College debt - 9-5 email job - Sh*t head boss - Consumer debt - Rarely exercises - Never goes outside - Overweight or obese - Paycheck to paycheck No wonder the average normal man is miserable. Don't be average
I do not binge watch. I work 9 to 5 with decent salary (middle class in our country) No debs Exercises regularly But I don't go outside often. And oh i already have a girl and I just watch these videos for entertainment lul
Cut out most of that or ebb it back, life gets so much better. I used to come home after work and sit there for hrs binging Netflix and beer. Put on 15lbs during the scamdemic. Last two months I've reversed course. Already down 10lbs.
I honestly feel truth in this not just pertaining to women but ANY kind of relationship. people aren't going respect you automatically so you have to teach them to by how you carry/express yourself. if someone doesn't value my time, attention, or resources....there's no need to include them in my activities/life. Been trying to learn the difference between having free time (where you can do things that YOU enjoy and make you feel good) and having time you don't care about or "going with the flow".
This video in a nutshell: "Everything in moderation." Ever noticed how attention is like money. Print/give too much of it and it becomes increasingly worthless. That's fiat currency, to be specific. Faking your value is actually akin to fiat money too when you think about it. It's the faith other parties have that you're worth something. However, a man of true value is like the Gold Standard; his attention is genuinely worth something to others. That also means he only has so much to give, further increasing its value and driving him to "spend" it appropriately -- if he's smart. Women today, they'll give their attention to the rich, perhaps handsome/perhaps not fella with a lot of influence. They'll also give their attention to the tatted-up bad boy in college who may or may not have three felonies on his record already. This is because women (not all, but a core rule) seek excitement and are driven by how they feel. Arguably, this goes back to the era of men needing to be strong and fierce to defend their mates. Obviously, they'd have massive priority over a weaker mate. If you look closely, you can still see it in modern women. It's been grossly perverted in the last two-ish generations of ladies, but it's there. I kind of have to agree with something Tim Pool said in one of his videos yesterday, paraphrased: Perhaps, we are returning to a time where the top percentage of men get all the girls and the mass of men will just have themselves. I, for one, intend to pass on my genes through an intelligent, loyal, and beautiful woman. I' also don't intend to die in mediocrity, just another number in historical statistics. What about you?
If your only desire is to get laid then you will be on this roller-coaster with all these games. If you want a wife material woman the only game you will need is the ability to work towards always improving yourself and the willingness to always walk away. If the woman is just a hook up then she will usually let you go. If the woman is wife material then she will try to regain your attention. You don't want to marry the hook up girl because the drama cannot be sustained forever and the drama will prevent you from improving yourself professionally and financially.
@@isaacsherwood8373 Being willing to walk away and always working to improve yourself is not a chore and should be applied to everything in your life including jobs, education and friends. These ideas have always been a constant since the cave man days. The Modern Feminist conspiring with the Hollywood movie industry have been destroying that fact and creating simp men and single parent homes in the process.
@John Grigg My advice was not intended for the man already married. It was intended for a single man wanting to find the right wife material woman. Once you married them then you made your decision but if, after marriage, if you turn into a simp and lose who you were as a man then the wife will eventually make that divorce decision for you.
@@TomScott__ Hi I need advice about women emotion and rollercoaster on us Yesterday I was nearby my ex gf gym ...I pop in and take a look if she is there.....she saw me and unhappy saying I dont trust her that she is there for exercises and felt I was there to check if she with man in the gym.. She said she feeling stress if I dont trust her.. I told her if this goin to be our 3rd breakup ..I will not look back again and if me as The Man always listen to her ..I wouldn't like I am bound to her rules ... such as meeting her once a week for sex because she feel stress meeting me 4 times a week previously in our 7 years relationship it was only natural we text everyday but now she want to change the dynamics to what she want Yesterday morning she text me to cancel our plan to go out I didnt like it and I didnt reply her She text me in the night that she Miss me..I didnt reply She text me Honey Good Nite I didnt reply She text me Good Morning..I replied ... I think she is upset I didnt reply her last nite... I will meeting her tonite ... What should I do .. Because last week she told me she broke up with me because I focus too much on her...she wanted me to focus on my job and told me she can text me but I cant text her ...she even told me reply her immediately... I dont want another argument which cause our 2nd breakup... So I let her say whatever she want... If I dont reply or reply late is this going to make her love me more ? It was a good get back together we went to eat and happy hour but now she want to only meet her once a week and I Ban from going to her gym or near her house ... I think I will Not Care anymore on our 7 years relationship if she dont want me to grow the love .. If I walk away I am depressed...and if I take her rule I am depressed I am not Man enough
i feel like this was the missing piece of the puzzle that was needed to complete the final picture. FarFromAverage you rock for doing these, man, woman, or group, whatever you are. kings
This is all very true. When you master this though then you have to master discerning from the ones who are genuinely interested in who you are and those trying to break through your barrier just because having you for narcissistic supply would be a big win for them lol. It’s tricky. I’ve experienced ego death and don’t care about attention at all. I don’t do selfies, a lot of social media, etc. Would like to find someone who has a similar mindset.
Ego death is literally the worst to go through but best to come out the other side of. Life after is unparalleled in how easy it is and how much freedom you feel 🤙🏻
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To save you the time of watching this vid, let me just tell you my brother's sage advice: "If you want an attractive girl or cute/whatnot girl, you have to become a bit of an asshole". That was the best thing I ever heard. You still have to take care of your body, your hygiene and just don't be a creep.
Yeah, except both being an asshole and getting with girls just for their looks rarely results in a good long-term relationship. It’s all emotional highs, instant gratification, and never an actual connection.
Sounds like manipulation tactics when you talk about the roller coaster thing. If you are into the girl, be into the girl... If you are mad at her, be mad at her. Life will naturally take you both on an emotional rollercoaster. But I do love what you said about having your own purpose and goals and things like that.
hate to break it to you but real world is mostly manipulation tactics, if you just "be yourself" whatsoever 100% of the time, you will end up miserable... you need to play around and manipulate stuff if you want to achieve something that isn't coming to you naturally... if you are mad at the girl, you will push her away... if you are way too much into the girl, you will push her away... you need to balance out some of the things you do naturally because they don't always work
That's all a lie women don't like emotions roller coaster. Little girls who pretend to be women like emotional roller coaster. Used your word correctly. To see the truth
I remember when my coworker moved out of state to work in the oil fields and his wife would always approach me talking about how glad she is now he's gone...I stop coming to the door when she came knocking and I never answered her calls for a month and she approached me one night after work and tried to rape me I laughed and she said I'll do anything you want and I trespassed her. Women will give it up when you wreck their emotions.they love attention and shocking drama.
This was the most helpful video i ever found on the internet. This is really what I'm searching for from last 3 months and i finally found this video this video really changed my dating outlook thank you Julian. Love you brother ❤️.
Honestly if you're trying to pull the less you care the better he's underestimating the power of attention, giving it to things and hobbies is just as powerful while simultaneously giving you more things you'd rather think about other than her
Believe or not, this guy is right. Attention is like a drug to them, when you give them free attention, you lose. Reward them with attention for good behavior, not money and withdraw your attention a bit to keep them hooked. Unfortunately women don't like a guy who is all about them, they want one they feel they can never really possess.
If your an average guy, your attention is already worthless regardless if you restrict it or not. If you have monopoly money... it doesn't matter if you restrict it or give it out.. its worthless. (don' like).
@@fj4731 My advice is ignore this crap ginger beard is saying... Look, if your an average looking guy or below.. it doesn't matter a damn whether or not you withhold your attention or give her attention... Your attention is worthless either way... This is like saying... I will give this person lots of monopoly money.. and I will give this other person no monopoly money... Monopoly money is worthless... just like your attention... My advice is get a six pack, mew your jawline so it looks more masculine, get some red cream moisturiser so your face looks unblemished.. get a job... get an interesting hobby... when you get a six pack get some tight clothes, improve your posture... learn some interesting anecdotes... learn the art of emotional bonding... get good at flirting. Stop whining... she doesn't give a shit about your problems. Accept it.
@@fj4731 hey buddy,hope u doing great just saw your message. Sorry that you lost your job but at the same time see this as an opportunity to discover yourself as you are looking for your next job or starting or starting up your own business. Getting to your issue with your girlfriend, I will advise you to let go of that fear of losing her. The first thing I will advise you is to discover that thing that gives you a sense of purpose, be it becoming a musician or a successful entrepreneur or anything that you are really passionate about. Let her be "a part of" your life and not the center of your life. Secondly don't allow her to walk in and out of your life whenever she feels like. she has no right to get mad at you for not initiating contact all the times. Because from my experience with women, when they are into you, they will be calling and texting you almost all the time without complaining. Girls that complain are those mostly who like feeding their egos and want to feel desired. If she's that kind of a person, don't let her emotional blackmail get to you. Don't fall in that trap, you deserve better. Next time she wants to make you guilty about anything just tell her what she does that you don't like. Don't show emotional or be apologetic while you talk to her, and don't use too many words which is perceived as a sign of weakness by weakness. Women respect men who know their worth stand their ground. Don't Let her meet you at her convenience, a relationship is about compromise. The other thing you should do is get to know other girls, attractive ones if you can, the more women you get to interact with, the better and more confident you get.
@@gingerbeard6559 hi Last nite I had a argument with her over a picture of her with a man she said just a Yoga instructor..i told her if she has new bf she can leave and I will Walk away and never look back if she want and this 3rd breakup is The Final ... I lie to her I have other women option...she got angry and open my car door want to leave and said since I have other women and she will never have sex with me ... blaming me for this 3rd breakup....I grab her hand and told her come back to the car... that I didnt have sex with all other women except her and my mistake I say i love her..and then she said she trust me this time and we make love she also told me to trust her she has no other men...but...I told her the last 2 breakup she said she will never leave me but she left...I told her if she really love me then dont ever try to open door and leave ...she said she is Not jealous i have other women because she dont want me to focus on her .....I could not walk away..what should i do and say
Well, yes too much attention makes a girl loose interest, but.. It is easy to not show any attention at all, but then absolutely nothing will happen. It is the task of a man to take initiative and show attention or you will simply be ignored. And regarding the second point. If you never make any compliment and just stay neutral, she will assume you are not romantically interested. Passivity in general is not a good strategy. I agree on the third point though.
Your attention is as valuable as gold. Would you give your gold away for free? Would you give it away for something less than it's worth? Of course not. Do something nice for a woman but don't give her your attention until she first gives you something. Then follow only on that path with her. Only give her attention when she first gives you something first. Before you know it, you will condition her to seek you out for attention. When she gives you her attention, do exciting and unforgettable things with her or for her. If she invests in your attention, you will become very valuable to her.
Exactly, just let her taste that who the hell you are and then ignore her, she will get addicted to you...my woman often tells me that how crazy is she for me
I already know these things bro. Been have man girlfriends but choosing 10s all the time led to many experiences. Many of em led to me having enemies for having them in my sex life. Too much drama while chasing dreams. I can't live my life without getting hate.
Think the best advice for when you are looking for a meaningful relationship to act like yourself. Ofcourse thigs like flirting and teasing and other communication tactics can be learned, you're authentic self must not be damaged or altered by this. You won't be able to keep that player image up for yourself to someone who is truly willing to go for you. And by that, if you get a relationship using these "rules", the woman or person you are getting out is this is using the same mindset and probably lives for the game not the person. Hereby; good luck on your yourney
Thanks for the advice love from south africa , i practice a high value lifestyle which in months got me to be the most elusive sigma in my high school my polarity is constantly high and i get a lot of females who wants me thank you for helping me change my life ! 🕴🕴❤
That's not sigma. Sigma's aren't "created" in under a year, it takes YEARS, and we're not interested in grouping massive amounts of females. We're focused on career and other things. You seem to be leaning towards the alpha type.
Stop trying too hard, fuck incentives never chase em... your only priority is making yourself a priority and if they can't see your value don't make them 👍
Mind games suck. She either wants to be with you Or she doesn’t. If she doesn’t you’re doing something wrong. Find someone who doesn’t like drama and likes you for you.
So in order for me to attract a girl is to never give her attention in order for me to let her know I’m interested is to not give her compliments and to maintain her attraction I have to bring drama to her life….I’ll just stay single and chase money.
Women feed off of a naturally destructive feedback loop. This is why as a guy you shouldn't concern yourself too much with how a woman feels about you because it won't make sense anyways. Build upon yourself, learn new skills, be curious about the world and you will naturally gravitate to a higher innate energy. Then you'll have more options to choose from (which in turn makes more women naturally attracted to you) and maybe if you're lucky you can settle down with a woman who's never heard of a Kardashian.
Dude, not caring about a woman's feelings- or anyone's feelings for that matter is a disaster of a relationship waiting to crumble down. Relationships are about mutual respect, just treat womem as you'd treat any of your friends
Like them thoughts focus on yourself, be kind, and find your mission and execute in life thats the purpose of a man...females benefit way more in a relationship than the man does...fuck game and being a player...90% of women can't do anything for man other than give them sex... woman can't give you a purpose only you can
@@stokeman363 Although your attempt to encourage men is very impressive, you didn't have to put down women as being worthless to men. Women can teach you a lot, and it doesn't even have to be a romantic relationship- just don't base your whole life around them
@@ganymede8257 sure you can learn things from women and they are useful in the world...I like women..... but they aren't that mysterious once you figure them out we as men don't need to focus on them as much to be better and find our grind..our purpose
This video is all bout the brutal honesty.. this is facts and this is how the world works.. it's like a job.. do you like every aspect of your job..? No.. do you still go to your job..? Yes.. cause at the end of the day you need the money and happiness and that's all that it matters!
I'm 27, virgin, never had girlfriend. If you think I'm not qualified to talk, ignore this: I'm not gay or asexual, just everytime I care about a girl I (still) give too much attention without being honest and get "friendzoned". I was a shut-in geek, but decided to work on myself to become the person I want to be. So I shifted my attention to my projects I want to complete, my family, my friends and then if a woman can give me something I actually need, I try to care about her in my free time. Am I lonely? Only when I lose focus of my goals. (A girl just looked for me because she likes what I'm doing. So I go to have fun while testing my skills. See? This happens if you live for things you like.)
@@bf1lv Yeah. That's what I meant by not being honest. Not showing my intentions to be more precise. But if you don't give much attention, you can't get friendzoned.
Bud, there's an old saying treat em mean keep em keen now them chicky babes hate hearing that, but not because it's "misogynistic" but because they know it's 100 percent right. This guy is right, to have game is to engage your Jungian "shadow" and be a badboy etc. They simply don't respect nice, or get attracted to it. It's all evolutionary biology. They're looking for guys that are mean because they can take out other guys meaning they can easily protect her and acquire many resources FOR HER. Good luck mate. Have some fun with it.
@@chriskalifornia7333 I found your way of saying this interesting. Thanks, I'm having fun for sure. After meeting her I know what games I can play. She said she's lonely but for the first time hearing that from a woman I was slow to follow up... Still learning. :D I surely wouldn't mind changing that loneliness, but women are plenty, meanwhile I can only graduate now.
@@risy95 nice bro! Keep it up. Also try to engage a few female friends as. Give them some attention not sexual this will drive her more crazy. Show she is just one of many girls YOU allow into.your orbit, to which you control how much attention YOU give them. Never show her that you really want or need her.
this dude can solve the issues of modern society, holy fuck. rule 1 aka attention to women = uninterested, thats why all the onlyfans girls exist, especially the egirls who get attention 24/7 if all guys stop giving attention to controversial stuff and its not controversial. so deep ong
1. Scarcity ( Be frugal with your energy, attention and availability) 2. Challenge ( Be Mysterious, Be Unpredictable ) 3. Lead ( Always control the interaction and lead decisively)
If you enjoy being challenged by ideas and if mastery and masculinity are topics that interest you, I invite you to explore the videos I share on the Mastery Order Channel. Challenge yourself with some ideas about manhood, explore your masculine potential and become the kind of man you would look up to. We can only better ourselves together, as men among men, so I invite you to use what I share and, of course, share your own opinions so that others can benefit from them as well. Looking forward to your points of view. All the best to you!
@@fj4731 It's important to take care of yourself first (mental & Physical health). Then take care of your Talents, Social Skills, and Financial Ability. Then and only then should you take care of women. If and only if a woman is worth taking care of. A woman must prove her worth before you reward her with your resources (time, energy, sex, money, attention, kids, etc). For a woman to prove her worth she must convince you that she will likely excel in the following: 1/ Be Graceful 2/ Be loyal 3/ Cook /Clean 4/ Make and care for kids. I have a Golden Rule that I use to qualify good quality women: I find out about her relationship with her parents and grandparents. If she has poor relations with her parents and or grandparents, then she is more than likely bad news or simply belongs to the streets. Avoid her at any cost
@@Aryankingz hi Thank you for your advice .... Last nite I paid the dinner ..with my gf who broke up with me twice...while driving home I had a argument with her in the car over a picture of her with a man she said just a Yoga instructor..i told her if she has new bf and dont love me she can leave and I will Walk away and never look back if she want 3rd breakup is The Final ... I told her I have other women option...she got angry and open my car door want to leave and said since I have other women and she will never have sex with me if I have other women blaming me for this 3rd breakup..I grab her hand and tell her come back to the car that I dont have other women and I love her...she was agitated as I am ...we make love and she said she trust me this time and told me to trust her ....I told her the last 2 breakup she said she will never leave me but she left...I told her if she really love me then dont ever try to open door and leave ...she said she is Not jealous i have other women but she dont want me have sex with other women and then come to her...I could not walk away..what should i do and say...because she set boundaries to only meet me Once a week for sex ( last year we used to make love almost every day at least 4x a week )...she dont want to text me everyday and if she does text me she expect me to reply her asap...but she also say I can not text her unless she text ...her reason is she only want me to focus on my job...and not on her and told me to trust her and stop me goin to her gym to check on her and that Yoga instructor in her picture who she said she dont love anyone except me ??
When I frequent a store more than a few times over a short period of time, the female shop attendants both young and old will always compliment me on 'being such a cheerful person'. I often get the same question asked to me through the years: "Are you always this cheerful?" To which I must reply "I am" And I always add my little catchphrase (which rimes and is funny in my native language 'Dutch'): "Because, with a sad face it wouldn't go any quicker and better XD". The other day it was even a young cashier girl from around my age whom I never interacted with before, but yet she came up to me just to say "Hi, I heard you come here quite often" (it's a hardware store and I've recently moved to my apartment thus I'm doing a lot of DIY). --- Yet ... despite all these compliments I at 32yo never had a girlfriend. I'm a highly functional autist; personality INTJ. I taught myself most of the "normal" interaction patterns that come "pre-installed" in neurotypical humans. Because of that, looking back, I had multiple sweet girls throughout my school days from kindergarden, elementary to highschool, who did their best subtitle way of getting me to notice. Yet ... at the time, despite being the school top student and number 1 person to set next to on tests, I was very very shy and because girls would also tease me quite a bit, I never could imagine girls actually being serious when they flirted with me. In the last years of highschool I finally went for it with my at the time best female friend, she rejected me, ended the friendship and a week later asked my friend out who always had hated her but was a real Chad. From that moment on, I never had romantic success with girls. I'm very romantic and thus I would write poems, device scavenging hunt quests, ... for the girls I was interested in. It never worked out. When I finally went to online dating, I always had succes with the texting and chatting ... but ... being a not that socially adept INTJ ... I always fail to "create the necessary spark" so I never got to a second date. The latest was a goth girl who had a rough past and ... she was so happy that I loved her peculiar interests (I've always had a thing for that type of girl) and she had many similar hobbies to mine. I considered her my soulmate ... and ... she often stated that she couldn't believe her luck at coming across me. Because of coincidences it took several weeks before we could meet up, but ... we would chat for hours never running out stuff to genuinely talk about. At that time I was about to go MGTOW after years of no success online and in RL. So I was over the moon. However ... we meet in person at her house for a stay in ... she had migraine (as she often does) ... so we talk a lot and I had a very good time. She seemed to enjoy herself as well. The only annoying thing was that her male roommate (a very feminine and gentle dude, who played in a band) who was a nice person on his own, walked into the living and kept interacting with us for along time ... . It was then that I noticed a crack, but didn't mention it. As an INTJ and slight autist, I am incapable of interacting 100% normal with people ... I'm not good at small talk and being spontaneous in non-spontaneous situations (in a group of my friends I am sometimes the centre of attention, can make the best of jokes and can interact perfectly well ... but ... it's all very organic and non-pressured; I also have many times when I think: "luckily I have my group of friends and they're different from me ... because if everyone was like me it would probably be a bit boring or at least awkward at times"). Anyways, I noticed that they got on very well together and made jokes at each other in ways I never could. It made me realise, as I often do in those kind of situations, how different I actually am from "normal" people. But ... I played along and eventually the dude left for a while. He came back by the end for dinner. All by all I still thought it went rather well and she seemed to have enjoyed herself as well. As it was a very very hot weather and she was very poor, I had bought her an airconditioner (helps a lot against migraine attacks). I knew it was weird to by the end of the date suddenly state I had something for her, went back to my car and get such an expensive gift for a first time date ... but ... I'm of the mindset: "If I plan to do it anyways, I might as well do it sooner rather than later and have her get as much out if it as possible". She accepted it, although I could see she was surprized by it. I texted her as we usually did before bedtime to wish her 'good night' ... but ... she wasn't very talkative. From experience I know that's the sign that it's gonna go south. Indeed, the next day and a half I didn't hear from her ... first time since we met that she didn't blow up my phone ... and ... then she said: "I'm very very annoyed and embarrassed by this ... but ... I didn't feel the kind of spark that I'm looking for in a relationship (up until then, she told me, she had only been in very abusive relationships with even physical violence and mind games) ... yet ... apparently in person I lack what girls need ... for this has always repeated itself throughout the years. Talks go well, but the first date never seems to spark ... . I guess it mostly comes down to the fact that most of the time I'm in a good mood and since I operate on logic, I create very little room for issues to become drama. So I guess I'm just boring to women. If I like a girl, I tend to show it ... I have a huge dislike for mind games and can't help but see "playing hard to get" as wasting time that could be spend moving towards deepening our relationship. I guess that's the main issue. Give me my E-reader and I happily sit in the corner reading for hours, give me a computer and I'm enjoying myself, give me my laboratory and I find fund projects to do, get me my telescope and I find ways to further improve calibrations, ... . I'm not exciting nor do I want to be. I have my personal gym and work out most days for an hour and thus am in good shape, I'm tall 1m87, have all my hair which I keep long, ... . Yet ... somehow it was never enough for the girls I dated ... attempted to date ... . I assume they simply can tell by intuition that I'm different from most and that my calm demeanor means no exciting drama for them ... . Ah well ... I was planning on going MGTOW anyways and I have a great time by myself ... yet ... at the same time ... I would love to have a female companion in my life ... . I stopped looking and terminated all dating apps, until oktober I will be busy improving my new home. I have tons of books to read and projects to entertain myself. I'll see where all of this goes ... but ... I plan to maybe give it another shot somewhere in 2023 when I'm fully settled in.
You mentioned you go off of Logic. I feel like that too. I recommend taking a yoga class or something where you will see young woman at. I did this and because of how I am. I soon found myself tuning out the woman and focusing on my breathing and movement. In those moments my mind is clear. And after class I realize that some of the woman were paying me attention and compliment or even flirt a bit with me. I am not pursuing anyone but have made some great friendships that have taught me from the female perspective; including stuff like how she was won over by her current dude. I do want a partner but my time is my most valuable asset and currently i need to have my own foundation before i move onto a relationship. Because as a man; i need to be complete within myself b4 i try looking for someone to complete my purpose
Thanks for sharing your story with such honesty and reflection! I hope you will meet the right person for you one day. Be true to yourself. It sounds like you already have that down 👍
Oh boy can I relate to soooo much of what you said! I have to admit that much of modern dating and female behavior is flat-out depressing the more I have grown to understand it. A little about me: I was married for 19 years (no kids). We were even marriage counselors for many years. Our divorce is not relevant but afterwards, I fell hard in love with a girl that was a very close friend of mine. The fact that it was not returned devastated me. I spent the next year studying what went wrong and I learned a lot. I next re-kindled an old flame relationship from my past and it really looked like a wonderful thing was about to happen -like I had met my soulmate. Well, that too ended in disaster. It wasn't until I was far away from her that I began seeing all the things that I did wrong and all the red flags I ignored. Even in your brief accounting here, I could have told you that gifting that goth an AC unit on the first date was a huge mistake. It almost guaranteed losing her. I could go into much more detail but that one gesture said so many things about you and few of them are attractive to a modern woman. Isn't that sad? Isn't it sad that most women want the sort of things this video describes? Being cold and emotionless, having a general lack of care about them, and a source of emotional excitement all the time? God, that sounds like a nightmare. But there are some positive things that you can pull from here for any future women you might encounter: For one, the emotional cold-ness comes from not first being so eager to pour out all your feelings and emotions to someone who is essentially a stranger. Having the ability to restrain the urge to just toss your vulnerable self out there when you first meet someone IS what I believe is not only attractive but a better way to go. It still amazes me how willing I was to freely open myself up to someone I had barely met just because I was attracted to them. Trust and even a bit of history together is what is warranted before you should consider it safe to be open about yourself fully. And long talks on the phone or over txt messaging doesn't count! It needs to be in person! Being aloof about how attractive a woman is I believe is all about getting the right perspective on attraction in general -something I think most of us men get wrong. The more interested we are in a woman is based on how attracted we are to them. But that HAS to be put in reverse! This is because it has nothing to do with how or what they think about you. Think about it from their perspective. If a girl is very attractive, men start just getting stupid around them, gifting them things for no reason, being more helpful and attentive, etc. I imagine it starts to get old after a while -like does anyone like you just because of who you are and not because you won the genetic lottery? By not being a slave to YOUR level of attraction to the girl, you will then begin looking at the situation for what it is: it's supposed to be a friendship and relationship. That means that there is a mutual benefit from both parties. What are you gaining from this relationship from the girl? How much investment in the relationship is she showing that you can see? By not being swayed or clouded by a women's physical looks, this dynamic becomes easier to see. This is why buying that girl an AC unit on the first time seeing her was a bad move. She hadn't shown any sort of investment in you that could even come close -in fact, it sounded like she was testing you with her supposed headache and annoying roommate. Did she ever tell him to get lost because she was with you? I doubt it. I bet she was happy to have him around so she could see how you reacted and if you just tolerated it. It set a precedent. In the future, she knew you wouldn't stand up for yourself and say something like, "hey, can we lose this guy? I'd like to just hang with you without being interrupted by this schmuck every 30 minutes!" Instead, being a gentleman, and wanting not to be rude or awkward, you were polite and never said anything about it. You told her that you would act like this in the future if it happened again. Now, the emotional rollercoaster principle I fully understand. I have observed this in women all my life. It explains why women gravitate to certain TV shows that are so clearly just big bowls of emotions to soak in. It's like getting emotionally disrupted is a form of entertainment for women. It is also the sort of thing that a level-headed man would chose to avoid at all costs. This dynamic also explains so much about how women gravitate to abusive men, assholes, and the like. This is because even negative emotions are still just emotions to be experienced and enjoyed. Do I think most women realize this and understand what they're doing? Not at all. I think most of the seemingly insane behavior the modern women exhibits are not understood by these very same women. That is why you cannot at any point have a rational conversation with a woman about these things and expect an honest answer -because they are not capable of giving it. Now I have no intention of fabricating an environment in a relationship that brings on the desired emotional rollercoaster. I have no desire to synthesize emotional drama for the purposes of retaining the attention of a woman. Screw that. If that is what she needs, then I don't need a person like that in my life. And the second I see even a hint of that kind of need in a woman I am considering dating, she is gone. So, yeah, you can easily see where the prospect of a relationship with a modern female seems depressing. Even with a clear understanding of the "why" behind the behavior, it still makes me sad that this is the reality. But I do have hope. I was married to a woman that was nothing like this in any way and we were happy together for a long time. I have met a few girls over the years that not only balk at these traits, but are quite the opposite. So, I can honestly tell you that there are quality women out there -women that don't play these games, and can tell you honestly what's going on without reservation. I thank God they exist, and I hope some day soon to find one that likes me... But I will end this with one last concept: love. Now, should you still take in all that is said here and work on your character and be a better man when it comes to the dating world? Yes. But get this down above it all: if there isn't love, none of this will matter. You can do and say all the right things, she may be a perfect match for you in every single way, but if she doesn't love you, it's not going to work. And you need to pay attention to this in yourself too because I believe that most men are not sensitive to this until much later down the road -another reason to ignore the attractiveness of the girl initially. Love is not logical. It cannot be explained. And if it isn't there, nothing can change that. You can't talk someone into loving you, you can't convince someone that it's the best choice. Either it's there, or it isn't there. It's not anyone's fault, and it doesn't mean someone made a mistake or wasn't good enough. If there is not a mutual love there, move on. Don't be upset about discovering it, be glad you saw it early and not after commitments have been made and AC units have been purchased! LOL (just a little joke there). But make no mistake, love must be there. This is the reason why you must look for a mutual investment like I said earlier. If she loves you, she will act on it. Have hope brother. Keep on working on yourself. I can definitely hear the confidence in your description of how you live your life. I can tell you are a catch! So, when a girl starts to not treat you like one, point it out. Speak up. And have some dignity. You've earned the right to say so. I will end with this short moment from my recent past... I was hanging out with my newly acquired girlfriend who was considerably younger than me. We were just laying in bed. The kids were all put down, and it was "us time". She had her phone out and was just surfing on FB. Now, mind you, I live about 45 minutes away so we don't always get nights like this to be together. I started getting upset. I could remember instances like this in the past over many years when I felt shined-on like this and disrespected. So I just said, "Hey, I'd like some attention." She immediately responded with, "ok!" and put her phone away. It was almost like she was waiting for me to say it. I had to laugh to myself thinking about all the previous times in my life when I never said anything and thought to myself, "that's all it took?" Yeah, that's all it took. It took me standing up for myself and saying something. Good luck!
Pov from a happily married woman.. 1)Focus on building a long term career and a strong foundation. We are looking for and needing stability. 2) Women are creatures of the mind. We can appreciate a deep conversation. 3) it's not the drama we're after, it's excitement. Find little everyday ways to keep the relationship exciting. *Bonus tip ;) Mutual respect and vulnerability is a must.
"Focus on building a long term career and a strong foundation. We are looking for and needing stability." *Translation:* _I want a man to pay my bills._ "Women are creatures of the mind. We can appreciate a deep conversation." *Translation:* _I want you to open up to me and share your thoughts and feelings, so that I can use them against you when whe have a fight or I feel like to stir up some drama._ "It's not the drama we're after, it's excitement. Find little everyday ways to keep the relationship exciting." *Translation:* _I want a man because otherwise I'm bored and I have no means of entertaining myself because I have no real hobbies or an interesting job._ "Mutual respect and vulnerability is a must." *Translation:* _I can respect you, but only if you are level-headed when I am emotional and if you provide some sort of utility for me that I find worthwhile. Meanwhile, I want you to respect me always regardless without expecting anything in return. And contrary to what I said don't appear vulnerable, that's an immediate put-off. I only said that because it's socially acceptable. Being a woman, It's not about what you say, but how you make me feel and I don't want you to make me feel vulnerable as well. So don't be weak, ever._ Well, Amanda: here's the POV from a happy bachelor man who's never starved from attention from girls: you can come up with list of demands for men, but all we see as men is your entitlement _and your complete lack of listing what _*_you_*_ - as a woman - have to offer in return._ We see not a single reason why we should be excited to be with you. If anything, you come across as hard work and a leech. Thanks, but no thanks ma'am.
@@BlaBla-jj6sh Thank you for your comment. The fact that you took the time and energy to write out a reply, and interperated it through your own experience,.. just wow👌 My post is written from my point of view that is established in the marriage not a list of expectations as you would have guessed, but I can see how that could be confusing. I make a list of the things that my husband expresses that he likes so I can buy them for him when I come across something, not to take advantage of him. Horrible I know.. A person does not have to be emotional to be vulnerable as you have mentioned. One can show vulnerability through trust, intimacy, and honesty. You asked what I bring to the table. My husband and I play very traditional roles. I am a stay at home wife, a mother, a cook, housekeeper, I work part time to support the kids and my hobby farm. I greet my husband with a smile, a kiss, and supper waiting for him when he gets home. Congratulations on the Batchelor life. It is important to find something that works for you. I came to this video to get learn and become a better wife. I also have a son who will be in the dating world soon enough and wpild like to give him the best advise possible. At the end of the day I feel sorry that you gentlemen have been treated this way. And this is the only way you know how to respond. I do have to thank you tho,.. it is conversations like this that make me appreciate my husband even more. Have a nice day. :)
This is where I draw the line and go MGTOW because I outright refuse to put a woman on an emotional rollercoaster ride. It is wrong and not right and it is telling of the fundamental flaw between the union of a man and a woman, which is why I have chosen to opt-out of the dating scene completely. It is for reasons like this that I will continue opting out until the True Creator puts an end to this contriving little fleeting existence of ours on this rotting planet. However, thanks for the video and you are 100% correct in all the information you presented. This was very helpful and I appreciate the time and effort you put forth in bringing these facts to light. Take care.
but, they do it to us all the time... payback is a bitch! btw: I play with women, and I have fun and enjoy everyday... i dont take anything seriously anymore and it really makes everything much more enjoyable.
I agree. I have been engaged twice. Never getting married. SO many financial seeking gold diggers these days. I have been through the cancer journey & I have beat it so absolutely NO desire for emotional rollercoaster drama with me. Very upfront & direct & most women cannot handle that as they have this need to control men. Not going to happen with me. At my local gym, I give off this IDGAF attitude cuz I really don't. SO many of these immature, narcissist girls obsessed with their iphone/android in seeing who is looking at them. Game Over. MGTOW brings peace, serenity & freedom.
Nice videos, please can you include more practical examples. Like telling us what to do exactly, sometimes I get lot in all the explanation and I don't even know what to do. Maybe a summary at the end of the videos of a pinned comment. Thank you, I've improved a lot since I started watching last year.
When a girl cheats on you, go ahead and cry and cope, but do it either alone or with your friends, then literally act as if she doesn’t exist to you, literally just ignore her.
You know this video is a Perfect guide on how to attract girls with no Father figure in their life. Ok, I think it's clear that when women want a man they want their father, regardless of the relationship. So if a girl had a stable and loving father then that's what she'll want from a guy, but if she grew up in a single-mother household then she's going to want a guy who is distant and emotionally withholding. I'm not saying you should be a nice guy or don't keep a girl on an exciting rollercoaster but if you want high-quality women who knows what a good man looks like you're not finding her at the club and most of the time even at School. You find them at church and 4A, lol joking but not.
From a girl who doesn't want drama or games this strategy is for men who can't participate in a healthy honest relationship. You will not foster the trust that the most crazy cool connections need. Be a baller outside the relationship, but honor your woman.
I behaved all my life how my mother wanted me to be. Healthy relationships she said.... Sweet, caring, honest she said... I was invisible, mocked, used and abused. I changed. I became ruthless, breaking rules, breaking boundaries, no f mode. In a few months, I got my first sexual experiences at 27. I'm so mad and furious to have believed all these fucking lies about life and relationships. I will never change back.
Both men and women must have genuine intentions not playing mind games. Don't play other people's lives so that you won't regret by repaying your wrongdoings later.
Who first gives out attention now or gives out the most attention has become a competition should be balanced thats my opinion if am wrong am available for correction and we shouldnt hurt the ones we love.
I just watched this video and pat myself on the shoulder because when a woman acts up with me rather than try harder I fall back.... then they always come messaging you saying " Hi big head"
A lot of what you said is true, though saying that we should make our girl "seriously question if we like her" sounds like a horrible advice, as it can be interpreted pretty widely. Besides, guys don't fight for girls attention and it's not in their DNA, unless they feature feminine qualities. You should check Coach Corey Wayne channel, free excellent relationship advices
Why did you delete your old video on habits? I used to watch it a lot pre-2020 and noticed a few weeks ago that it was deleted from your channel. I just can’t understand why... It was your best video IMO.
I share a few ideas on habits, discipline, willpower and self-control on the Mastery Order channel if you wish to entertain some ideas and find some answers. If you enjoy challenging ideas and if mastery and masculinity are topics of interest to you, I invite you to explore the videos I share on the Mastery Order Channel. Challenge yourself with some ideas about manhood, explore your masculine potential and become the kind of man you would look up to. We can only better ourselves together, as men among men, so I invite you to use what I share and, of course, share your own opinions so that others can benefit from them as well. Looking forward to your points of view. All the best to you!
I wanna point out that giving someone an emotional rollercoaster is not healthy bonding, and only feeds into the insecurities girls more often than not have- just as men do. The author of the video basically gave away a toolbox for predatory behavior, and reduced women to certain aspects, which aren't even scientifically backed up. If a man attempts to exploit emotional insecurity like that he will succeed to get a lot of women, but he will instantly get rid of any suitable long-term option at the same time. Any long term relationship undergoes an evolution, where initial motivations and feelings slowly exchange for stability and trust. A state that many men and women don't understand because they are culturally bombarded with examples of ideal love and eternal romance. Love is more than attraction and games.
Restricting attention only works for Chads. Numerous anthropology studies show that ladies make the first expression of interest (often subtle). If a man makes the first move without this, it's guaranteed rejection. She must show a sign of interest first. Peace.
This video saying girls becoming so appealing to guys due to their less attention might not be true.. someone that really give attention to everything good with tender heart is really appealing....
I watched the entire video and I need to let you know about something y'all, these things will never work on a high value woman. These are advices for manipulating the opposite side. Try to imagine how do you feel when they try to manipulate you. A smart one will never take those illusions you are trying to create :) Be yourself. Be a boring man if you are so. Nothing will make you feel lighter than embracing yourself and being a good company for yourself to begin with.
Great Content! Fellas, if you want a woman to Chase you - Never give her the Validation that she’s looking for! That’s your Power over her - Never hand your Power over to anybody - it’s yours to Keep! The minute you do, it’s basically Over! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
Just remember guys that these tips are for hook up culture, yes a certain amount of game will probably improve your relationship, but mostly you need to be authentic. It's better to be hated for who you are, than to be loved for something that you're not, keep that in mind.
The Essence is not to fake it, but to make these ways a lifestyle, such that these ways become part of you.
It all really boils down to confidence; learn about who you are and own it. When she fails to satisfy you, don't simp and say: "it's ok." And brush it off. Tell her that she sucks and you could find someone better. Next, reward her when she does a good thing... In fact, go the extra mile and make her feel really special. Keep the ups and downs going and she'll never leave!
Super true , while you are doing these things & applying these tactics , you should still be congruent & authentic to who you are !!
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The smartest thing a man can learn is to never need a woman.
Neediness in men is something that turns off women!
@@jeffsnow7749 that’s how you end it without them burning your possessions.
That just sounds like ya'll are all secretly gay
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1. Restrict your attention : Not giving away your attention to girls.
2. Novelty (Basically Standing Out) : Not treating girls the way other guys do.
3. Rollercoaster : Take girls on an emotional rollercoaster.
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I have witnessed my women friends dump men for doing all three of these, ya'll need to go out and actually talk to women instead of getting dating advice from cringy UA-cam channels
@@ganymede8257 okay bro
@@ganymede8257 You do have to be careful with these. The roller coaster shouldn’t be taken too literally. It’s mostly be fun
@@ganymede8257 A few small examples cannot be used as concrete evidence to completely justify abstinence from YT channels mate. There are so many variables at play when dealing with this topic; one of them being female individualism. People separate for various reasons, and those reasons are endless. You need to understand that we are in 2022. Things have changed dramatically since the up rise of various socials. For fun, I thought I'd give a few of these tips a go from this channel (and from DariusM). Let me tell you, when some of these pointers are incorporated into the way you generally conduct yourself as a person, the requests received to start a relationship/marriage were no less than 6 (8's, 9's, 10's) over a short period. All of which I declined of course because my standards as astronomically stupid but that's my own shit. People need to start looking at these topics from a psychological point of view, and there is so much more a dude needs to do and change within their life so they can firstly seem more appealing and easy to talk to, secondly to prevent being screwed over and cheated on (for the most part), and thirdly to better themselves as humans as a whole. A YT video is just the surface mate 🙃
If you think “how do I increase my value”, you’re already in the wrong state of mine.
The truth to success with women, or anything in life is “don’t give a f” people attack what you want, and try to stop you from getting it. If you truly don’t give a f, the things you want will be drawn to you. Part of that mentality is you cannot fear consequences. That’s what women want in a man, no fear. You can’t be afraid, fear = weakness.
*btw “no fear” is the same as thing as confidence, it’s the same as the bad boy, or the cool guy. That whole stereo type comes from no fear/ not giving a f! It’s hard to do, but I guarantee it works.
So an example of this not giving a fuck would be a guy likes a girl and wants to ask her out a 1st time, second, third or however many times. He approaches the situation with the idea he could be rejected but doesn’t care, he’s going to follow through either way. Sink or swim, he doesn’t let fear of rejection stop him. Would you consider that a form of not giving a fuck?
@@matthalo89 there's a lot holes in what he just said
@@avg959 care to explain??
I see a fellow stoic brother, salutes to you gentlemen
@@avg959 I’m sure there are holes, nothing is black and white. But what I said is the foundation for success. Every situation is different, but people are attracted to others who are direct, say what they mean (even if it’s not what someone wants to hear), and don’t compromise their principles (in other words: stand up for for what you believe in, don’t back down because you don’t want to offend someone).
Guys often break each other’s balls to see if the other guy will give up their principles and simultaneously their status. It’s a power move to claim higher status whether they realize what they are doing or not, it’s subconscious. The truth is cliche, it’s being yourself, meaning don’t wear a mask, which means being real, be you (that’s the cliche part). Don’t submit to someone else trying to step on you to raise themselves, which means don’t give a f what other people think.
Also, I would say asking a girl out for a second time, third time, and so on is giving away your power, putting the ball in the woman’s court. When you ask women questions whether its “will you go out with me, or what do you want for dinner” that is plain and simply giving a f. It comes off as needy. The cold hard truth is women go after men they desire. If you are true to yourself and your principles you will attract women and they will seek you. You won’t have to chase them. Now you can chase them and be persistent, and after a while you may wear them down, but they will lose interest and lose respect for you in the long run if you don’t become true to yourself and be a man who is not afraid, and not giving a f what others think about that, and sticks to his principles. If you do that, you will not only gain respect from women but from men as well. Doing what I said will raise your status and that is what attracts ALL people. It’s absolutely hard because you will have to hurt feelings and people may dislike you for certain things, but they will still respect you. Respect is earned and respect = status. And it all comes down to not giving a f, not wearing a mask, which means being true to who you are. It is a very, very hard thing to do, but it is the foundation.
I watched a few of these videos from this channel, but this one is one of the best ones. It's very informative. Treat your attention like it's something that is hard to get from you.
Agreed. Many of his contents I really like and it does make sense.
Dude... I'm a gay guy, I have a crap ton of straight girl friends. Just don't listen to this dude, one of the biggest turn off's for women is watching channels like this.
Just be yourself, women aren't all that different than men and no woman is the exact same as another
@@ganymede8257 Well you don't tell them you watch this shit lmao. c'mon now you're just asking to be labelled as in incompetent man if you admit you watch this shit to a woman.
@@fj4731 first of all, I really appreciate you chosing to ask me for advice.
As for what you wrote, all I can say is- communicate with her. Contrary to what you might hear from channels like these, women love it when a man listens to them, don't feel like you're being used when she tells you about her problems. That doesn't mean you're 'feminine' it just means she trusts you.
Talk to her, but don't be too needy- learn about her interests, see what you have in common. A man who talks about his feelings is suprisingly very much loved by women, speaking from experience. Be yourself above anything else.
@@ganymede8257 hi Thank you for your advice .... Last nite I paid the dinner ..with my gf who broke up with me twice...while driving home
I had a argument with her in the car over a picture of her with a man she said just a Yoga instructor..i told her if she has new bf and dont love me she can leave and I will Walk away and never look back if she want 3rd breakup is The Final ...
I told her I have other women option...she got angry and open my car door want to leave and said since I have other women and she will never have sex with me if I have other women blaming me for this 3rd breakup..I grab her hand and tell her come back to the car that I dont have other women and I love her...she was agitated as I am ...we make love and she said she trust me this time and told me to trust her ....I told her the last 2 breakup she said she will never leave me but she left...I told her if she really love me then dont ever try to open door and leave ...she said she is Not jealous i have other women but she dont want me have sex with other women and then come to her...I could not walk away..what should i do and say...because she set boundaries to only meet me Once a week for sex ( last year we used to make love almost every day at least 4x a week )...she dont want to text me everyday and if she does text me she expect me to reply her asap...but she also say I can not text her unless she text ...her reason is she only want me to focus on my job...and not on her and told me to trust her and stop me goin to her gym to check on her and that Yoga instructor in her picture who she said she dont love anyone except me ??
Word of warning to the people who are going to follow through with #3. Do not CREATE negativity out of no where just so you can put girls on an emotional roller coaster. Girls, like anyone else, will eventually go through sad/hard times naturally and just being there for her to support her will literally make you a hero in her eyes. If you belittle/insult/degrade someone just to break their self-esteem so you can build it back up, that is toxic and manipulative behaviour. It is not a healthy way to start a relationship.
Manipulation is part of the dark triad. You can't deny that woman does indeed gets attracted to dark triad traits.
lmao sounds like the start of an anime MC, pfft some girls will even insult you for even doing your best to support them.
Phillip, that makes u a FRIEND a pillow talking feminine friend. You're doing what she does with her female friends. This does NOT work man. 30 yrs I've done just that and it does NOT work. You're friend zoning yourself HARD and you will NOT come out of that. Ever. No matter how long u wait. Even if 10 yrs go by and THEN it may happen no one's gonna wait that long. 😆 Women love bad toxic guys. It's just the way they are. Gotta accept it. Drama shows and soap operas reel in their attention. They are addicted to the drama. If ur boring they always leave and quickly
@@daviedood2503 Women women like darkt riad traits
@@daviedood2503 10 yrs go by ww3 begins, and women still like bad men lol
The average normal life:
- Binge TV
- Porn daily
- Toxic food
- Cable news
- College debt
- 9-5 email job
- Sh*t head boss
- Consumer debt
- Rarely exercises
- Never goes outside
- Overweight or obese
- Paycheck to paycheck
No wonder the average normal man is miserable. Don't be average
I do not binge watch.
I work 9 to 5 with decent salary (middle class in our country)
No debs
Exercises regularly
But I don't go outside often.
And oh i already have a girl and I just watch these videos for entertainment lul
@@nikyabodigital that’s good for you my guy but he’s talking about the average guy
@@nikyabodigital you watch these vids for entertainment……for a friend eh? Haha
real talk
Cut out most of that or ebb it back, life gets so much better. I used to come home after work and sit there for hrs binging Netflix and beer. Put on 15lbs during the scamdemic. Last two months I've reversed course. Already down 10lbs.
I honestly feel truth in this not just pertaining to women but ANY kind of relationship. people aren't going respect you automatically so you have to teach them to by how you carry/express yourself. if someone doesn't value my time, attention, or resources....there's no need to include them in my activities/life. Been trying to learn the difference between having free time (where you can do things that YOU enjoy and make you feel good) and having time you don't care about or "going with the flow".
Hence why i f*cking hate soceity. ... specially the people i meet at jobs.
This video in a nutshell: "Everything in moderation."
Ever noticed how attention is like money. Print/give too much of it and it becomes increasingly worthless. That's fiat currency, to be specific. Faking your value is actually akin to fiat money too when you think about it. It's the faith other parties have that you're worth something.
However, a man of true value is like the Gold Standard; his attention is genuinely worth something to others. That also means he only has so much to give, further increasing its value and driving him to "spend" it appropriately -- if he's smart.
Women today, they'll give their attention to the rich, perhaps handsome/perhaps not fella with a lot of influence. They'll also give their attention to the tatted-up bad boy in college who may or may not have three felonies on his record already. This is because women (not all, but a core rule) seek excitement and are driven by how they feel. Arguably, this goes back to the era of men needing to be strong and fierce to defend their mates. Obviously, they'd have massive priority over a weaker mate.
If you look closely, you can still see it in modern women. It's been grossly perverted in the last two-ish generations of ladies, but it's there.
I kind of have to agree with something Tim Pool said in one of his videos yesterday, paraphrased: Perhaps, we are returning to a time where the top percentage of men get all the girls and the mass of men will just have themselves.
I, for one, intend to pass on my genes through an intelligent, loyal, and beautiful woman. I' also don't intend to die in mediocrity, just another number in historical statistics.
What about you?
7:00 The women who "want to be taken on a roller coaster" are very probably women who have psychological issues and would want to avoid them anyway.
Every woman.
Work on yourself, on your goals and ambitions, have a sigma mentality and unintentionally women will rain on you
Hahaha what a nonsense man. Without chasing women, you don’t get any woman
I only get ugly women
best advice
If your only desire is to get laid then you will be on this roller-coaster with all these games.
If you want a wife material woman the only game you will need is the ability to work towards always improving yourself and the willingness to always walk away. If the woman is just a hook up then she will usually let you go. If the woman is wife material then she will try to regain your attention.
You don't want to marry the hook up girl because the drama cannot be sustained forever and the drama will prevent you from improving yourself professionally and financially.
Thank you!
100% I get that there's ways us guys can step up but love really shouldn't feel like such a chore or game
@@isaacsherwood8373 Being willing to walk away and always working to improve yourself is not a chore and should be applied to everything in your life including jobs, education and friends. These ideas have always been a constant since the cave man days. The Modern Feminist conspiring with the Hollywood movie industry have been destroying that fact and creating simp men and single parent homes in the process.
@John Grigg My advice was not intended for the man already married. It was intended for a single man wanting to find the right wife material woman. Once you married them then you made your decision but if, after marriage, if you turn into a simp and lose who you were as a man then the wife will eventually make that divorce decision for you.
@@TomScott__ Hi I need advice about women emotion and rollercoaster on us
Yesterday I was nearby my ex gf gym ...I pop in and take a look if she is there.....she saw me and unhappy saying I dont trust her that she is there for exercises and felt I was there to check if she with man in the gym..
She said she feeling stress if I dont trust her.. I told her if this goin to be our 3rd breakup ..I will not look back again and if me as The Man always listen to her ..I wouldn't like I am bound to her rules ... such as meeting her once a week for sex because she feel stress meeting me 4 times a week previously in our 7 years relationship it was only natural we text everyday but now she want to change the dynamics to what she want
Yesterday morning she text me to cancel our plan to go out
I didnt like it and I didnt reply her
She text me in the night that she Miss me..I didnt reply
She text me Honey Good Nite I didnt reply
She text me Good Morning..I replied ...
I think she is upset I didnt reply her last nite...
I will meeting her tonite ...
What should I do ..
Because last week she told me she broke up with me because I focus too much on her...she wanted me to focus on my job and told me she can text me but I cant text her ...she even told me reply her immediately...
I dont want another argument which cause our 2nd breakup...
So I let her say whatever she want...
If I dont reply or reply late is this going to make her love me more ?
It was a good get back together we went to eat and happy hour but now she want to only meet her once a week and I Ban from going to her gym or near her house ...
I think I will Not Care anymore on our 7 years relationship if she dont want me to grow the love ..
If I walk away I am depressed...and if I take her rule I am depressed I am not Man enough
i feel like this was the missing piece of the puzzle that was needed to complete the final picture. FarFromAverage you rock for doing these, man, woman, or group, whatever you are. kings
You're one of my favorite UA-cam content creators, and this is one of the best videos I've ever seen. Thank you
This is all very true. When you master this though then you have to master discerning from the ones who are genuinely interested in who you are and those trying to break through your barrier just because having you for narcissistic supply would be a big win for them lol. It’s tricky. I’ve experienced ego death and don’t care about attention at all. I don’t do selfies, a lot of social media, etc. Would like to find someone who has a similar mindset.
Ego death is literally the worst to go through but best to come out the other side of. Life after is unparalleled in how easy it is and how much freedom you feel 🤙🏻
Women who create drama turn me off. I have better things to do with my life than tolerate that rubbish
If you enjoy challenging ideas and if masculinity and mastery are topics that interest you, I invite you to explore the videos I share on the Mastery Order Channel.
Challenge yourself with some ideas about manhood, explore your masculine potential and become the kind of man you would admire.
We can only better ourselves together, as men among men, so I invite you to use what I share and, of course, share your own opinions so that others can benefit from them as well.
Looking forward to your points of view.
All the best to you!
I'm enjoying these videos more than the older ones because of the cringingly relatable real world examples
It's so true women are wired to always bring drama to the most peaceful times, trust me I know.
No women don't do that kid. Little girls who pretend to be women do that it's like a sheep in wolf clothing. You not thinking.
@@manuelshaul9244 you not thinking
"Respect yourself first so that others will respect you"
To save you the time of watching this vid, let me just tell you my brother's sage advice: "If you want an attractive girl or cute/whatnot girl, you have to become a bit of an asshole". That was the best thing I ever heard. You still have to take care of your body, your hygiene and just don't be a creep.
Yeah, except both being an asshole and getting with girls just for their looks rarely results in a good long-term relationship. It’s all emotional highs, instant gratification, and never an actual connection.
1) attention
2)
3)roller coaster
2. Novelty
Sounds like manipulation tactics when you talk about the roller coaster thing. If you are into the girl, be into the girl... If you are mad at her, be mad at her. Life will naturally take you both on an emotional rollercoaster. But I do love what you said about having your own purpose and goals and things like that.
hate to break it to you but real world is mostly manipulation tactics, if you just "be yourself" whatsoever 100% of the time, you will end up miserable... you need to play around and manipulate stuff if you want to achieve something that isn't coming to you naturally... if you are mad at the girl, you will push her away... if you are way too much into the girl, you will push her away... you need to balance out some of the things you do naturally because they don't always work
thats how just things are buddy, these tactics are from nature, dont get it twisted mixing your feelings with it.
But there is a woman on here on YT that even said that women like to put on an emotional roller coaster. So it must be true
Vassil women manipulate men as well .I have countless examples of this .
The emotional roller coaster need for women is something that is never talked about!
Every guy needs to know this fact!
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Mm
The emotional roller coaster is NOT STABLE FOR A LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP.
@@mattleofric1766 Agreed! It make one wonder about marriage!
That's all a lie women don't like emotions roller coaster. Little girls who pretend to be women like emotional roller coaster. Used your word correctly. To see the truth
I remember when my coworker moved out of state to work in the oil fields and his wife would always approach me talking about how glad she is now he's gone...I stop coming to the door when she came knocking and I never answered her calls for a month and she approached me one night after work and tried to rape me I laughed and she said I'll do anything you want and I trespassed her. Women will give it up when you wreck their emotions.they love attention and shocking drama.
Your comment hurts my brain, and my faith in humanity
Wow
No Tory she was testing your loyalty and strength. By tempting you.
@Tony you are pathetic. And your story is likely made up.
But if it's true both you and the wife are garbage.
@@manuelshaul9244 the dude said he f*cked her stfu.
This was the most helpful video i ever found on the internet. This is really what I'm searching for from last 3 months and i finally found this video this video really changed my dating outlook thank you Julian. Love you brother ❤️.
Honestly if you're trying to pull the less you care the better he's underestimating the power of attention, giving it to things and hobbies is just as powerful while simultaneously giving you more things you'd rather think about other than her
Women born with value but man must earn value and conquer the world...
Believe or not, this guy is right. Attention is like a drug to them, when you give them free attention, you lose. Reward them with attention for good behavior, not money and withdraw your attention a bit to keep them hooked. Unfortunately women don't like a guy who is all about them, they want one they feel they can never really possess.
If your an average guy, your attention is already worthless regardless if you restrict it or not. If you have monopoly money... it doesn't matter if you restrict it or give it out.. its worthless. (don' like).
@@fj4731 My advice is ignore this crap ginger beard is saying... Look, if your an average looking guy or below.. it doesn't matter a damn whether or not you withhold your attention or give her attention... Your attention is worthless either way... This is like saying... I will give this person lots of monopoly money.. and I will give this other person no monopoly money... Monopoly money is worthless... just like your attention... My advice is get a six pack, mew your jawline so it looks more masculine, get some red cream moisturiser so your face looks unblemished.. get a job... get an interesting hobby... when you get a six pack get some tight clothes, improve your posture... learn some interesting anecdotes... learn the art of emotional bonding... get good at flirting. Stop whining... she doesn't give a shit about your problems. Accept it.
@@fj4731 hey buddy,hope u doing great just saw your message. Sorry that you lost your job but at the same time see this as an opportunity to discover yourself as you are looking for your next job or starting or starting up your own business.
Getting to your issue with your girlfriend, I will advise you to let go of that fear of losing her. The first thing I will advise you is to discover that thing that gives you a sense of purpose, be it becoming a musician or a successful entrepreneur or anything that you are really passionate about. Let her be "a part of" your life and not the center of your life. Secondly don't allow her to walk in and out of your life whenever she feels like. she has no right to get mad at you for not initiating contact all the times. Because from my experience with women, when they are into you, they will be calling and texting you almost all the time without complaining. Girls that complain are those mostly who like feeding their egos and want to feel desired. If she's that kind of a person, don't let her emotional blackmail get to you. Don't fall in that trap, you deserve better. Next time she wants to make you guilty about anything just tell her what she does that you don't like. Don't show emotional or be apologetic while you talk to her, and don't use too many words which is perceived as a sign of weakness by weakness. Women respect men who know their worth stand their ground. Don't Let her meet you at her convenience, a relationship is about compromise. The other thing you should do is get to know other girls, attractive ones if you can, the more women you get to interact with, the better and more confident you get.
@@gingerbeard6559 hi Last nite I had a argument with her over a picture of her with a man she said just a Yoga instructor..i told her if she has new bf she can leave and I will Walk away and never look back if she want and this 3rd breakup is The Final ...
I lie to her I have other women option...she got angry and open my car door want to leave and said since I have other women and she will never have sex with me ... blaming me for this 3rd breakup....I grab her hand and told her come back to the car... that I didnt have sex with all other women except her and my mistake I say i love her..and then she said she trust me this time and we make love she also told me to trust her she has no other men...but...I told her the last 2 breakup she said she will never leave me but she left...I told her if she really love me then dont ever try to open door and leave ...she said she is Not jealous i have other women because she dont want me to focus on her .....I could not walk away..what should i do and say
You’re really on to something there! Good job stay on the right track!
Well, yes too much attention makes a girl loose interest, but..
It is easy to not show any attention at all, but then absolutely nothing will happen. It is the task of a man to take initiative and show attention or you will simply be ignored.
And regarding the second point. If you never make any compliment and just stay neutral, she will assume you are not romantically interested.
Passivity in general is not a good strategy.
I agree on the third point though.
Real struggles is what turns boys into real men I hope this helps 👍🏾
Tony on point.
Yeah
Im in the struggle rn
Loved it, thank you for the effort, bro! You're a legend
Your attention is as valuable as gold. Would you give your gold away for free? Would you give it away for something less than it's worth? Of course not. Do something nice for a woman but don't give her your attention until she first gives you something. Then follow only on that path with her. Only give her attention when she first gives you something first. Before you know it, you will condition her to seek you out for attention. When she gives you her attention, do exciting and unforgettable things with her or for her. If she invests in your attention, you will become very valuable to her.
Exactly, just let her taste that who the hell you are and then ignore her, she will get addicted to you...my woman often tells me that how crazy is she for me
I undestand after more than 10 years dealing with women, the best way to deal with a woman you're attracted to is causal indifference.
My friend was very indifferent thinking it was better to “not care” and his wife just divorced him
I already know these things bro. Been have man girlfriends but choosing 10s all the time led to many experiences. Many of em led to me having enemies for having them in my sex life. Too much drama while chasing dreams. I can't live my life without getting hate.
Think the best advice for when you are looking for a meaningful relationship to act like yourself. Ofcourse thigs like flirting and teasing and other communication tactics can be learned, you're authentic self must not be damaged or altered by this. You won't be able to keep that player image up for yourself to someone who is truly willing to go for you. And by that, if you get a relationship using these "rules", the woman or person you are getting out is this is using the same mindset and probably lives for the game not the person. Hereby; good luck on your yourney
Thanks for the advice love from south africa , i practice a high value lifestyle which in months got me to be the most elusive sigma in my high school my polarity is constantly high and i get a lot of females who wants me thank you for helping me change my life ! 🕴🕴❤
That's not sigma. Sigma's aren't "created" in under a year, it takes YEARS, and we're not interested in grouping massive amounts of females. We're focused on career and other things. You seem to be leaning towards the alpha type.
Stop trying too hard, fuck incentives never chase em... your only priority is making yourself a priority and if they can't see your value don't make them 👍
Certainly not a sigma , takes many years and sigmas dont care for popularity, they are past your comprehension...
Give me advice on how to take back a woman i loved 10 years ago... she's marryed but her cousin told me that she misses me...... is there hope.?
Mind games suck.
She either wants to be with you
Or she doesn’t.
If she doesn’t you’re doing something wrong.
Find someone who doesn’t
like drama and likes you for you.
Precious informations, how to apply this practically?
So in order for me to attract a girl is to never give her attention in order for me to let her know I’m interested is to not give her compliments and to maintain her attraction I have to bring drama to her life….I’ll just stay single and chase money.
Women feed off of a naturally destructive feedback loop. This is why as a guy you shouldn't concern yourself too much with how a woman feels about you because it won't make sense anyways. Build upon yourself, learn new skills, be curious about the world and you will naturally gravitate to a higher innate energy. Then you'll have more options to choose from (which in turn makes more women naturally attracted to you) and maybe if you're lucky you can settle down with a woman who's never heard of a Kardashian.
Dude, not caring about a woman's feelings- or anyone's feelings for that matter is a disaster of a relationship waiting to crumble down.
Relationships are about mutual respect, just treat womem as you'd treat any of your friends
Like them thoughts focus on yourself, be kind, and find your mission and execute in life thats the purpose of a man...females benefit way more in a relationship than the man does...fuck game and being a player...90% of women can't do anything for man other than give them sex... woman can't give you a purpose only you can
@@stokeman363 Although your attempt to encourage men is very impressive, you didn't have to put down women as being worthless to men. Women can teach you a lot, and it doesn't even have to be a romantic relationship- just don't base your whole life around them
@@ganymede8257 sure you can learn things from women and they are useful in the world...I like women..... but they aren't that mysterious once you figure them out we as men don't need to focus on them as much to be better and find our grind..our purpose
@@stokeman363 That goes both ways, no one should base their life around someone else.
This video is all bout the brutal honesty.. this is facts and this is how the world works.. it's like a job.. do you like every aspect of your job..? No.. do you still go to your job..? Yes.. cause at the end of the day you need the money and happiness and that's all that it matters!
I'm 27, virgin, never had girlfriend. If you think I'm not qualified to talk, ignore this:
I'm not gay or asexual, just everytime I care about a girl I (still) give too much attention without being honest and get "friendzoned". I was a shut-in geek, but decided to work on myself to become the person I want to be. So I shifted my attention to my projects I want to complete, my family, my friends and then if a woman can give me something I actually need, I try to care about her in my free time.
Am I lonely? Only when I lose focus of my goals.
(A girl just looked for me because she likes what I'm doing. So I go to have fun while testing my skills. See? This happens if you live for things you like.)
You get "friend zoned" because you talk to them like a FRIEND.
@@bf1lv Yeah. That's what I meant by not being honest. Not showing my intentions to be more precise.
But if you don't give much attention, you can't get friendzoned.
Bud, there's an old saying treat em mean keep em keen now them chicky babes hate hearing that, but not because it's "misogynistic" but because they know it's 100 percent right. This guy is right, to have game is to engage your Jungian "shadow" and be a badboy etc. They simply don't respect nice, or get attracted to it. It's all evolutionary biology. They're looking for guys that are mean because they can take out other guys meaning they can easily protect her and acquire many resources FOR HER. Good luck mate. Have some fun with it.
@@chriskalifornia7333 I found your way of saying this interesting.
Thanks, I'm having fun for sure. After meeting her I know what games I can play. She said she's lonely but for the first time hearing that from a woman I was slow to follow up... Still learning. :D
I surely wouldn't mind changing that loneliness, but women are plenty, meanwhile I can only graduate now.
@@risy95 nice bro! Keep it up. Also try to engage a few female friends as. Give them some attention not sexual this will drive her more crazy. Show she is just one of many girls YOU allow into.your orbit, to which you control how much attention YOU give them. Never show her that you really want or need her.
Your right my problem is I'm too needy right now, I need to focus more on not needing that
this dude can solve the issues of modern society, holy fuck. rule 1 aka attention to women = uninterested, thats why all the onlyfans girls exist, especially the egirls who get attention 24/7 if all guys stop giving attention to controversial stuff and its not controversial. so deep ong
Thank you sir for sharing this knowledge..This is precise and on point!
1. Scarcity ( Be frugal with your energy, attention and availability) 2. Challenge ( Be Mysterious, Be Unpredictable ) 3. Lead ( Always control the interaction and lead decisively)
If you enjoy being challenged by ideas and if mastery and masculinity are topics that interest you, I invite you to explore the videos I share on the Mastery Order Channel.
Challenge yourself with some ideas about manhood, explore your masculine potential and become the kind of man you would look up to.
We can only better ourselves together, as men among men, so I invite you to use what I share and, of course, share your own opinions so that others can benefit from them as well.
Looking forward to your points of view.
All the best to you!
@@fj4731 It's important to take care of yourself first (mental & Physical health). Then take care of your Talents, Social Skills, and Financial Ability. Then and only then should you take care of women. If and only if a woman is worth taking care of. A woman must prove her worth before you reward her with your resources (time, energy, sex, money, attention, kids, etc). For a woman to prove her worth she must convince you that she will likely excel in the following: 1/ Be Graceful 2/ Be loyal 3/ Cook /Clean 4/ Make and care for kids. I have a Golden Rule that I use to qualify good quality women: I find out about her relationship with her parents and grandparents. If she has poor relations with her parents and or grandparents, then she is more than likely bad news or simply belongs to the streets. Avoid her at any cost
Sigma male
@@Aryankingz hi Thank you for your advice .... Last nite I paid the dinner ..with my gf who broke up with me twice...while driving home
I had a argument with her in the car over a picture of her with a man she said just a Yoga instructor..i told her if she has new bf and dont love me she can leave and I will Walk away and never look back if she want 3rd breakup is The Final ...
I told her I have other women option...she got angry and open my car door want to leave and said since I have other women and she will never have sex with me if I have other women blaming me for this 3rd breakup..I grab her hand and tell her come back to the car that I dont have other women and I love her...she was agitated as I am ...we make love and she said she trust me this time and told me to trust her ....I told her the last 2 breakup she said she will never leave me but she left...I told her if she really love me then dont ever try to open door and leave ...she said she is Not jealous i have other women but she dont want me have sex with other women and then come to her...I could not walk away..what should i do and say...because she set boundaries to only meet me Once a week for sex ( last year we used to make love almost every day at least 4x a week )...she dont want to text me everyday and if she does text me she expect me to reply her asap...but she also say I can not text her unless she text ...her reason is she only want me to focus on my job...and not on her and told me to trust her and stop me goin to her gym to check on her and that Yoga instructor in her picture who she said she dont love anyone except me ??
When I frequent a store more than a few times over a short period of time, the female shop attendants both young and old will always compliment me on 'being such a cheerful person'.
I often get the same question asked to me through the years: "Are you always this cheerful?"
To which I must reply "I am"
And I always add my little catchphrase (which rimes and is funny in my native language 'Dutch'): "Because, with a sad face it wouldn't go any quicker and better XD".
The other day it was even a young cashier girl from around my age whom I never interacted with before, but yet she came up to me just to say "Hi, I heard you come here quite often" (it's a hardware store and I've recently moved to my apartment thus I'm doing a lot of DIY).
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Yet ... despite all these compliments I at 32yo never had a girlfriend.
I'm a highly functional autist; personality INTJ.
I taught myself most of the "normal" interaction patterns that come "pre-installed" in neurotypical humans.
Because of that, looking back, I had multiple sweet girls throughout my school days from kindergarden, elementary to highschool, who did their best subtitle way of getting me to notice.
Yet ... at the time, despite being the school top student and number 1 person to set next to on tests, I was very very shy and because girls would also tease me quite a bit, I never could imagine girls actually being serious when they flirted with me.
In the last years of highschool I finally went for it with my at the time best female friend, she rejected me, ended the friendship and a week later asked my friend out who always had hated her but was a real Chad.
From that moment on, I never had romantic success with girls.
I'm very romantic and thus I would write poems, device scavenging hunt quests, ... for the girls I was interested in.
It never worked out.
When I finally went to online dating, I always had succes with the texting and chatting ... but ... being a not that socially adept INTJ ... I always fail to "create the necessary spark" so I never got to a second date.
The latest was a goth girl who had a rough past and ... she was so happy that I loved her peculiar interests (I've always had a thing for that type of girl) and she had many similar hobbies to mine.
I considered her my soulmate ... and ... she often stated that she couldn't believe her luck at coming across me.
Because of coincidences it took several weeks before we could meet up, but ... we would chat for hours never running out stuff to genuinely talk about.
At that time I was about to go MGTOW after years of no success online and in RL.
So I was over the moon.
However ... we meet in person at her house for a stay in ... she had migraine (as she often does) ... so we talk a lot and I had a very good time.
She seemed to enjoy herself as well.
The only annoying thing was that her male roommate (a very feminine and gentle dude, who played in a band) who was a nice person on his own, walked into the living and kept interacting with us for along time ... .
It was then that I noticed a crack, but didn't mention it.
As an INTJ and slight autist, I am incapable of interacting 100% normal with people ... I'm not good at small talk and being spontaneous in non-spontaneous situations (in a group of my friends I am sometimes the centre of attention, can make the best of jokes and can interact perfectly well ... but ... it's all very organic and non-pressured; I also have many times when I think: "luckily I have my group of friends and they're different from me ... because if everyone was like me it would probably be a bit boring or at least awkward at times").
Anyways, I noticed that they got on very well together and made jokes at each other in ways I never could.
It made me realise, as I often do in those kind of situations, how different I actually am from "normal" people.
But ... I played along and eventually the dude left for a while.
He came back by the end for dinner.
All by all I still thought it went rather well and she seemed to have enjoyed herself as well.
As it was a very very hot weather and she was very poor, I had bought her an airconditioner (helps a lot against migraine attacks).
I knew it was weird to by the end of the date suddenly state I had something for her, went back to my car and get such an expensive gift for a first time date ... but ... I'm of the mindset: "If I plan to do it anyways, I might as well do it sooner rather than later and have her get as much out if it as possible".
She accepted it, although I could see she was surprized by it.
I texted her as we usually did before bedtime to wish her 'good night' ... but ... she wasn't very talkative.
From experience I know that's the sign that it's gonna go south.
Indeed, the next day and a half I didn't hear from her ... first time since we met that she didn't blow up my phone ... and ... then she said: "I'm very very annoyed and embarrassed by this ... but ... I didn't feel the kind of spark that I'm looking for in a relationship (up until then, she told me, she had only been in very abusive relationships with even physical violence and mind games) ... yet ... apparently in person I lack what girls need ... for this has always repeated itself throughout the years.
Talks go well, but the first date never seems to spark ... .
I guess it mostly comes down to the fact that most of the time I'm in a good mood and since I operate on logic, I create very little room for issues to become drama.
So I guess I'm just boring to women.
If I like a girl, I tend to show it ... I have a huge dislike for mind games and can't help but see "playing hard to get" as wasting time that could be spend moving towards deepening our relationship.
I guess that's the main issue.
Give me my E-reader and I happily sit in the corner reading for hours, give me a computer and I'm enjoying myself, give me my laboratory and I find fund projects to do, get me my telescope and I find ways to further improve calibrations, ... .
I'm not exciting nor do I want to be.
I have my personal gym and work out most days for an hour and thus am in good shape, I'm tall 1m87, have all my hair which I keep long, ... .
Yet ... somehow it was never enough for the girls I dated ... attempted to date ... .
I assume they simply can tell by intuition that I'm different from most and that my calm demeanor means no exciting drama for them ... .
Ah well ... I was planning on going MGTOW anyways and I have a great time by myself ... yet ... at the same time ... I would love to have a female companion in my life ... .
I stopped looking and terminated all dating apps, until oktober I will be busy improving my new home.
I have tons of books to read and projects to entertain myself.
I'll see where all of this goes ... but ... I plan to maybe give it another shot somewhere in 2023 when I'm fully settled in.
Dude, you write a lot.
Do you know what actually turn boy in to a man? Action!
Instead of living in past and imaginary world focus on actions.
You mentioned you go off of Logic. I feel like that too. I recommend taking a yoga class or something where you will see young woman at. I did this and because of how I am. I soon found myself tuning out the woman and focusing on my breathing and movement. In those moments my mind is clear. And after class I realize that some of the woman were paying me attention and compliment or even flirt a bit with me. I am not pursuing anyone but have made some great friendships that have taught me from the female perspective; including stuff like how she was won over by her current dude. I do want a partner but my time is my most valuable asset and currently i need to have my own foundation before i move onto a relationship. Because as a man; i need to be complete within myself b4 i try looking for someone to complete my purpose
you need to value your time more
Thanks for sharing your story with such honesty and reflection! I hope you will meet the right person for you one day. Be true to yourself. It sounds like you already have that down 👍
Oh boy can I relate to soooo much of what you said! I have to admit that much of modern dating and female behavior is flat-out depressing the more I have grown to understand it. A little about me: I was married for 19 years (no kids). We were even marriage counselors for many years. Our divorce is not relevant but afterwards, I fell hard in love with a girl that was a very close friend of mine. The fact that it was not returned devastated me. I spent the next year studying what went wrong and I learned a lot. I next re-kindled an old flame relationship from my past and it really looked like a wonderful thing was about to happen -like I had met my soulmate. Well, that too ended in disaster. It wasn't until I was far away from her that I began seeing all the things that I did wrong and all the red flags I ignored.
Even in your brief accounting here, I could have told you that gifting that goth an AC unit on the first date was a huge mistake. It almost guaranteed losing her. I could go into much more detail but that one gesture said so many things about you and few of them are attractive to a modern woman. Isn't that sad? Isn't it sad that most women want the sort of things this video describes? Being cold and emotionless, having a general lack of care about them, and a source of emotional excitement all the time? God, that sounds like a nightmare. But there are some positive things that you can pull from here for any future women you might encounter:
For one, the emotional cold-ness comes from not first being so eager to pour out all your feelings and emotions to someone who is essentially a stranger. Having the ability to restrain the urge to just toss your vulnerable self out there when you first meet someone IS what I believe is not only attractive but a better way to go. It still amazes me how willing I was to freely open myself up to someone I had barely met just because I was attracted to them. Trust and even a bit of history together is what is warranted before you should consider it safe to be open about yourself fully. And long talks on the phone or over txt messaging doesn't count! It needs to be in person!
Being aloof about how attractive a woman is I believe is all about getting the right perspective on attraction in general -something I think most of us men get wrong. The more interested we are in a woman is based on how attracted we are to them. But that HAS to be put in reverse! This is because it has nothing to do with how or what they think about you. Think about it from their perspective. If a girl is very attractive, men start just getting stupid around them, gifting them things for no reason, being more helpful and attentive, etc. I imagine it starts to get old after a while -like does anyone like you just because of who you are and not because you won the genetic lottery? By not being a slave to YOUR level of attraction to the girl, you will then begin looking at the situation for what it is: it's supposed to be a friendship and relationship. That means that there is a mutual benefit from both parties. What are you gaining from this relationship from the girl? How much investment in the relationship is she showing that you can see? By not being swayed or clouded by a women's physical looks, this dynamic becomes easier to see. This is why buying that girl an AC unit on the first time seeing her was a bad move. She hadn't shown any sort of investment in you that could even come close -in fact, it sounded like she was testing you with her supposed headache and annoying roommate. Did she ever tell him to get lost because she was with you? I doubt it. I bet she was happy to have him around so she could see how you reacted and if you just tolerated it. It set a precedent. In the future, she knew you wouldn't stand up for yourself and say something like, "hey, can we lose this guy? I'd like to just hang with you without being interrupted by this schmuck every 30 minutes!" Instead, being a gentleman, and wanting not to be rude or awkward, you were polite and never said anything about it. You told her that you would act like this in the future if it happened again.
Now, the emotional rollercoaster principle I fully understand. I have observed this in women all my life. It explains why women gravitate to certain TV shows that are so clearly just big bowls of emotions to soak in. It's like getting emotionally disrupted is a form of entertainment for women. It is also the sort of thing that a level-headed man would chose to avoid at all costs. This dynamic also explains so much about how women gravitate to abusive men, assholes, and the like. This is because even negative emotions are still just emotions to be experienced and enjoyed. Do I think most women realize this and understand what they're doing? Not at all. I think most of the seemingly insane behavior the modern women exhibits are not understood by these very same women. That is why you cannot at any point have a rational conversation with a woman about these things and expect an honest answer -because they are not capable of giving it. Now I have no intention of fabricating an environment in a relationship that brings on the desired emotional rollercoaster. I have no desire to synthesize emotional drama for the purposes of retaining the attention of a woman. Screw that. If that is what she needs, then I don't need a person like that in my life. And the second I see even a hint of that kind of need in a woman I am considering dating, she is gone.
So, yeah, you can easily see where the prospect of a relationship with a modern female seems depressing. Even with a clear understanding of the "why" behind the behavior, it still makes me sad that this is the reality. But I do have hope. I was married to a woman that was nothing like this in any way and we were happy together for a long time. I have met a few girls over the years that not only balk at these traits, but are quite the opposite. So, I can honestly tell you that there are quality women out there -women that don't play these games, and can tell you honestly what's going on without reservation. I thank God they exist, and I hope some day soon to find one that likes me...
But I will end this with one last concept: love. Now, should you still take in all that is said here and work on your character and be a better man when it comes to the dating world? Yes. But get this down above it all: if there isn't love, none of this will matter. You can do and say all the right things, she may be a perfect match for you in every single way, but if she doesn't love you, it's not going to work. And you need to pay attention to this in yourself too because I believe that most men are not sensitive to this until much later down the road -another reason to ignore the attractiveness of the girl initially. Love is not logical. It cannot be explained. And if it isn't there, nothing can change that. You can't talk someone into loving you, you can't convince someone that it's the best choice. Either it's there, or it isn't there. It's not anyone's fault, and it doesn't mean someone made a mistake or wasn't good enough. If there is not a mutual love there, move on. Don't be upset about discovering it, be glad you saw it early and not after commitments have been made and AC units have been purchased! LOL (just a little joke there). But make no mistake, love must be there. This is the reason why you must look for a mutual investment like I said earlier. If she loves you, she will act on it.
Have hope brother. Keep on working on yourself. I can definitely hear the confidence in your description of how you live your life. I can tell you are a catch! So, when a girl starts to not treat you like one, point it out. Speak up. And have some dignity. You've earned the right to say so. I will end with this short moment from my recent past... I was hanging out with my newly acquired girlfriend who was considerably younger than me. We were just laying in bed. The kids were all put down, and it was "us time". She had her phone out and was just surfing on FB. Now, mind you, I live about 45 minutes away so we don't always get nights like this to be together. I started getting upset. I could remember instances like this in the past over many years when I felt shined-on like this and disrespected. So I just said, "Hey, I'd like some attention." She immediately responded with, "ok!" and put her phone away. It was almost like she was waiting for me to say it. I had to laugh to myself thinking about all the previous times in my life when I never said anything and thought to myself, "that's all it took?" Yeah, that's all it took. It took me standing up for myself and saying something. Good luck!
That last one I gotta work on but it’s good to know and makes sense 🔥🤙🏻
Dudes, this will totally leave you unfulfilled in the end. These are instructions on how to stay a man-child not a grown ass man.
Who wanna be a man child
Pov from a happily married woman.. 1)Focus on building a long term career and a strong foundation. We are looking for and needing stability.
2) Women are creatures of the mind. We can appreciate a deep conversation.
3) it's not the drama we're after, it's excitement. Find little everyday ways to keep the relationship exciting.
*Bonus tip ;) Mutual respect and vulnerability is a must.
Yeah sure we belive you!!!f
"Focus on building a long term career and a strong foundation. We are looking for and needing stability."
*Translation:* _I want a man to pay my bills._
"Women are creatures of the mind. We can appreciate a deep conversation."
*Translation:* _I want you to open up to me and share your thoughts and feelings, so that I can use them against you when whe have a fight or I feel like to stir up some drama._
"It's not the drama we're after, it's excitement. Find little everyday ways to keep the relationship exciting."
*Translation:* _I want a man because otherwise I'm bored and I have no means of entertaining myself because I have no real hobbies or an interesting job._
"Mutual respect and vulnerability is a must."
*Translation:* _I can respect you, but only if you are level-headed when I am emotional and if you provide some sort of utility for me that I find worthwhile. Meanwhile, I want you to respect me always regardless without expecting anything in return. And contrary to what I said don't appear vulnerable, that's an immediate put-off. I only said that because it's socially acceptable. Being a woman, It's not about what you say, but how you make me feel and I don't want you to make me feel vulnerable as well. So don't be weak, ever._
Well, Amanda: here's the POV from a happy bachelor man who's never starved from attention from girls: you can come up with list of demands for men, but all we see as men is your entitlement _and your complete lack of listing what _*_you_*_ - as a woman - have to offer in return._
We see not a single reason why we should be excited to be with you. If anything, you come across as hard work and a leech. Thanks, but no thanks ma'am.
@@BlaBla-jj6sh word up!!!!!
@@BlaBla-jj6sh Thank you for your comment. The fact that you took the time and energy to write out a reply, and interperated it through your own experience,.. just wow👌
My post is written from my point of view that is established in the marriage not a list of expectations as you would have guessed, but I can see how that could be confusing.
I make a list of the things that my husband expresses that he likes so I can buy them for him when I come across something, not to take advantage of him. Horrible I know..
A person does not have to be emotional to be vulnerable as you have mentioned. One can show vulnerability through trust, intimacy, and honesty.
You asked what I bring to the table. My husband and I play very traditional roles. I am a stay at home wife, a mother, a cook, housekeeper, I work part time to support the kids and my hobby farm. I greet my husband with a smile, a kiss, and supper waiting for him when he gets home.
Congratulations on the Batchelor life. It is important to find something that works for you.
I came to this video to get learn and become a better wife. I also have a son who will be in the dating world soon enough and wpild like to give him the best advise possible.
At the end of the day I feel sorry that you gentlemen have been treated this way. And this is the only way you know how to respond. I do have to thank you tho,.. it is conversations like this that make me appreciate my husband even more. Have a nice day. :)
@@BlaBla-jj6sh Awesome brother!
This is where I draw the line and go MGTOW because I outright refuse to put a woman on an emotional rollercoaster ride. It is wrong and not right and it is telling of the fundamental flaw between the union of a man and a woman, which is why I have chosen to opt-out of the dating scene completely. It is for reasons like this that I will continue opting out until the True Creator puts an end to this contriving little fleeting existence of ours on this rotting planet. However, thanks for the video and you are 100% correct in all the information you presented. This was very helpful and I appreciate the time and effort you put forth in bringing these facts to light. Take care.
but, they do it to us all the time... payback is a bitch! btw: I play with women, and I have fun and enjoy everyday... i dont take anything seriously anymore and it really makes everything much more enjoyable.
What you say and believe is halucinating…you sound like a future murderer in schools ..go seek help my friend…still have time😳😳
I agree. I have been engaged twice. Never getting married. SO many financial seeking gold diggers these days. I have been through the cancer journey & I have beat it so absolutely NO desire for emotional rollercoaster drama with me. Very upfront & direct & most women cannot handle that as they have this need to control men. Not going to happen with me. At my local gym, I give off this IDGAF attitude cuz I really don't. SO many of these immature, narcissist girls obsessed with their iphone/android in seeing who is looking at them. Game Over. MGTOW brings peace, serenity & freedom.
Great content as always!
No cap I recently figured this out and things been going great and that’s b4 I even seen this
I appreciate this video bro , my game solid , but there’s always room for improvement
Nice videos, please can you include more practical examples.
Like telling us what to do exactly, sometimes I get lot in all the explanation and I don't even know what to do. Maybe a summary at the end of the videos of a pinned comment.
Thank you, I've improved a lot since I started watching last year.
Wow, that 3rd point... Now it makes sense. Thanks.
#3 is why I've stayed solo the last 5 years. I just don't want to deal with that shit.
When a girl cheats on you, go ahead and cry and cope, but do it either alone or with your friends, then literally act as if she doesn’t exist to you, literally just ignore her.
You know this video is a Perfect guide on how to attract girls with no Father figure in their life. Ok, I think it's clear that when women want a man they want their father, regardless of the relationship. So if a girl had a stable and loving father then that's what she'll want from a guy, but if she grew up in a single-mother household then she's going to want a guy who is distant and emotionally withholding. I'm not saying you should be a nice guy or don't keep a girl on an exciting rollercoaster but if you want high-quality women who knows what a good man looks like you're not finding her at the club and most of the time even at School. You find them at church and 4A, lol joking but not.
Bring this guy back
I always put my girl on an emotional rollercoaster and I didn't know that until I watched this video🤣. This guy is spitting facts
From a girl who doesn't want drama or games this strategy is for men who can't participate in a healthy honest relationship. You will not foster the trust that the most crazy cool connections need. Be a baller outside the relationship, but honor your woman.
*from someone who doesn't exist*
Cut it out lady you talking about a cardboard lady box lol kick rocks
I behaved all my life how my mother wanted me to be. Healthy relationships she said.... Sweet, caring, honest she said... I was invisible, mocked, used and abused. I changed. I became ruthless, breaking rules, breaking boundaries, no f mode. In a few months, I got my first sexual experiences at 27. I'm so mad and furious to have believed all these fucking lies about life and relationships. I will never change back.
Drama.
This is the best thing on here
well said 👏👌
It's giving Tate vibes 😂😂 love the content tho, big facts fr
Makes sense. Now for the tricky part, implementing this without ruining things.
Awesome video!
I never give out my attention freely, never and this restriction is more appealing and attractive.
They need both positive and negative energies, you have to make them feel both.
Both men and women must have genuine intentions not playing mind games. Don't play other people's lives so that you won't regret by repaying your wrongdoings later.
Who first gives out attention now or gives out the most attention has become a competition should be balanced thats my opinion if am wrong am available for correction and we shouldnt hurt the ones we love.
Never seen this channel before today 🤔 😳🤯
The secret is to stop giving a fuck and be yourself and they will follow right behind you.
I love your videos thanku
He Ain't Lyin 🎤🗝🗝🗝🔏🤺
thank you
Thank you brother
Any guy treats a girl this way will be dumped.
Man with game keeps roller coaster roll
I just watched this video and pat myself on the shoulder because when a woman acts up with me rather than try harder I fall back.... then they always come messaging you saying " Hi big head"
Now a bunch of dudes are gonna go home and ignore their wives
Lol
If a girl cheats, she’s not for you.
A lot of what you said is true, though saying that we should make our girl "seriously question if we like her" sounds like a horrible advice, as it can be interpreted pretty widely. Besides, guys don't fight for girls attention and it's not in their DNA, unless they feature feminine qualities. You should check Coach Corey Wayne channel, free excellent relationship advices
U r excellent. I appreciate. Kisses to u bro.
I always knew it subconsciously. I jet needed somebody to cofirm it.
Very interesting as usual. Thank you
Why did you delete your old video on habits? I used to watch it a lot pre-2020 and noticed a few weeks ago that it was deleted from your channel. I just can’t understand why...
It was your best video IMO.
I share a few ideas on habits, discipline, willpower and self-control on the Mastery Order channel if you wish to entertain some ideas and find some answers.
If you enjoy challenging ideas and if mastery and masculinity are topics of interest to you, I invite you to explore the videos I share on the Mastery Order Channel.
Challenge yourself with some ideas about manhood, explore your masculine potential and become the kind of man you would look up to.
We can only better ourselves together, as men among men, so I invite you to use what I share and, of course, share your own opinions so that others can benefit from them as well.
Looking forward to your points of view.
All the best to you!
I wanna point out that giving someone an emotional rollercoaster is not healthy bonding,
and only feeds into the insecurities girls more often than not have- just as men do.
The author of the video basically gave away a toolbox for predatory behavior,
and reduced women to certain aspects, which aren't even scientifically backed up.
If a man attempts to exploit emotional insecurity like that he will succeed to get a lot of women,
but he will instantly get rid of any suitable long-term option at the same time.
Any long term relationship undergoes an evolution, where initial motivations and feelings slowly exchange for stability and trust.
A state that many men and women don't understand because they are culturally bombarded with examples of ideal love and eternal romance.
Love is more than attraction and games.
Super interesting bro thanks! Similar to Men are from Mars Woman are from Venus right ?
The roller coaster is like push and pull, pull and push
Nothing but the truth💎✨✨
Restricting attention only works for Chads. Numerous anthropology studies show that ladies make the first expression of interest (often subtle). If a man makes the first move without this, it's guaranteed rejection. She must show a sign of interest first. Peace.
Ever heard of cold approach??
This video saying girls becoming so appealing to guys due to their less attention might not be true.. someone that really give attention to everything good with tender heart is really appealing....
Life on earth is now all about chasing money and women.
I watched the entire video and I need to let you know about something y'all, these things will never work on a high value woman. These are advices for manipulating the opposite side. Try to imagine how do you feel when they try to manipulate you. A smart one will never take those illusions you are trying to create :) Be yourself. Be a boring man if you are so. Nothing will make you feel lighter than embracing yourself and being a good company for yourself to begin with.
EXTREMELY VALUABLE INFORMATION
Can someone explain further point 3? What things can I do to use this principle?
I have no idea why I'm watching this video about crap that I really don't care about anymore. Keep your rollercoaster guys.
Great Content! Fellas, if you want a woman to Chase you - Never give her the Validation that she’s looking for!
That’s your Power over her - Never hand your Power over to anybody - it’s yours to Keep! The minute you do, it’s basically Over!
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
-Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
Why do you need power over a women?
@@jenniferheyser4046 why do yall wanna power over men?
This guy definitely read Atomic Attraction.
Great book.