What’s worked for me is not caring whether women notice me or not, just being in the moment enjoying my life. And if they approach I treat them like everyone else, there’s no pedestal. Nobody is better than anyone.
Have always done this. Almost purposely maintained a low key oblivious nature to women’s interactions. I never saw the point in doing some jester dance approach to women. I just treat people as people. I think it throws women off because they think I’m flirting or expect flirting when I’m just chilling
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life -- J o h n 3 :16
A handsome man alone is a man on his purpose. He knows his priorities. He's not necessarily lonely, just alone. A man at one with himself doesn't need validation from anyone.
That's partially true, we all need external validation from people, we are social beings not lone wolfs. Human beings are not like cats, you need a pack at the very least if not a love interest, your pack being your family and friends for instance(those still give you validation and positive reinforcement.)
To: "He's not necessarily lonely, just alone" My Question: Who is he? Every person feels differently...... However, being alone can feel lonely at some point because we are human-social beings, whose brains naturally need healthy commection and also touch, tenderness, exchange, security, closeness and appreciation. Saying: Alone is not lonely is - sorry - a no-brainer/rationalization 🙂
Yes, they like their traumatised slaves. They hare "equals" who see no reason to submit and therefore won't. Useless to them. They want to someone to boss around and psychologically abuse who won't leave the second he realises how much of a self loathing, self destructive, weird and creepy liability she is.
In my early 20s, I returned to college after I going from 315 pounds to 210 pounds through years of training. I also got a solid tan from my summer job, quality clothes, kept/ built muscle and kept my teeth clean. I earned a reputation as a “hot guy” when I returned to college, but it then became the loneliest time of my life. Guys didn’t laugh at my jokes and it felt like more and more guys were sizing me up or talking shit behind my back. Women who I knew would look away and appear on guard when I was around, and people stopped smiling at me. Oddly enough, more women than I expected would start to look at me with a kind of insecure frown- like I reminded them of some high school crush they couldn’t date. Suddenly, since I hung out with the artistic crowd, I became a kind of target for everyone’s insecurities. Which is weird because I grew up as the funny fat kid with glasses. But imagine if Chris Farley suddenly looked like Chris Hemsworth in Thor- the jokes just don’t work anymore. It was a massive eye opening experience where suddenly I realized that attractive people get judged WAY more than the average person. So @DannyVera, I know EXACTLY what you are talking about
100%. When you become a better version of yourself, good looking and successful in business, be prepared to “lose” 70-80% of your normal surroundings and situations. Envy and resentment in a form of phenomenon called schadenfreude will develop. Stay strong, keep your boundaries, don’t change the course. It always gets worse before it gets better.
Spot on, got a very similar story. I keep meeting some old co-workers at the gym, some of them straight up ignore me, some of them frown at me, guess who actually had a good talk with me? Another good looking guy lmao.
Guys, NEVER EVER dumb yourself down, I am speaking from experience. You either live the life as a loner or aim for higher quality/category people. Once I dumbed myself down to fit in it bacame a trap that is not easy to get out of. I didn't know any better before but now I do and am working on myself to reclaim my spot.
I am guilty of doing that. Especially at work. I am decent looking, intelligent, and introspective. My idea of interesting topics would be religion or philosophy, or books that I have read. But usually my male coworkers are just into the predictable stuff, like sports or movies or video games. Or they just spend a lot of time goofing off. I sometimes feel that if I don't dumb myself down, people will judge me as being too serious or quiet, or of not wanting to associate with them. But then once I dumb myself down, I end up overdoing it, and then people no longer take me seriously.
@@jackward770that's actually part of the problem here and why a lot of people don't like those who are very attractive. I don't respect anyone who just expects to get whatever they want because they're good looking. You have to have personality. Otherwise you're just a mannequin with a pulse.
And the worst part about all this is you can’t complain about it to anyone… imagine someone more attractive than you complaining to you about how much it sucks being attractive, you’d tell them to F off
@@r.i.proach7135 are you saying you’re ugly and being ugly isn’t great? Sure, I’ll grant that, being ugly isn’t fun. But hey at least ugly people can gripe about it without sounding like a narcissist. There’s even a whole genre of content made to help ugly people feel validated, it’s called black pill
What happens is you end up on dating apps, you set up dates then you cancel on them, because it wastes too much time, you just wanted to know if you can still swing, if you can still pull
I had a major glow up in my late teens early 20s and i identify with everything in this video. Some suggestions based on my life experience: 1. Accept your gift and learn to love who you are and be proud. You will feel isolated and alone at times. Your Timidity, insecurity and need or looking to be accepted is going to be taken as weakness and exploited and used against you, so get rid of it 2. You are a one man show. Stop looking to fit in with people and groups and deal with people based on how well they treat you. You will find your own tribe naturally. Dont force relationships, whoever is meant to be in your life will be in your life 3. Learn to be disciplined and self sufficient. This will protect you from haters
One big thing being good looking is how much other men try and cut you down. They say you look “gay” or similar shit because they’re jealous. It’s probably what they’d say to a women who was there about you too so they don’t see you as an option. Men can be bigger haters than other women to each other. Like damn, this is how I was born it’s not my fault. Lol
we CAN control how we look. We could easily stop eating healthy, exercising and dressing well and be losers like the rest of them. That's why they try to shame us, to keep us from shining so bright.
100%. When you become a better version of yourself, good looking and successful in business, be prepared to “lose” 70-80% of your normal surroundings and situations. Envy and resentment in a form of phenomenon called schadenfreude will develop. Stay strong, keep your boundaries, don’t change the course. It always gets worse before it gets better.
In order to be successful at something, you need to be disciplined. Which means using your time wisely. Which means spending less time with friends or staying out late. Which means being alone more often. Yes, it is a lonely path, because very few people are disciplined, or are able to appreciate the amount of work required to achieve goals.
I’ve noticed when I hang out with other people of similar looks / high success, there is no competition. They are secure in themselves and compliment and support you. People below you want to bring you to their level. Level up your social group.
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life -- J o h n 3 :16
@@paulbrolly5421I appreciate these comments, I’m going through this now with two former friends that always try to bring me down, talk about “money” and mock me it’s funny honestly but it’s hurtful how they have switched up. Luckily I have other friends and parents that are very confident as well and aren’t toxic af
Lol… Thank god for letting me grow up in the 80’s; When men and women started dating, simply because they liked each other. Now, it has become this over complicated mess, thanks to social media. It has made everyone so self absorbed and narcissistic, that they expect more out of a relationship than they are willing to give!.
Groups of young men always harass me, whether I'm walking or cycling. But when I walk straight through their groups, like cut through them instead of going around, they say less or nothing.
Same here I go through that all the time, iam mixed Latino and Spaniard, green eyes 👀 dark curly hair glass complexion, people think 🤔 oh he must have a lot of women, everything easy for him, people have no idea
@@IsraelVargas-u6z I know bro. It’s a struggle getting around sometimes. people assume we have it easy. Far from it. Were flawed just like everyone else
@@emmanuelsanchez4321 you are not crazy,ok check out my comment on handsome man game you will be lonely, read it this is what I go through in my daily life bro my own family don't want to go to the store with me, they say chico, wear a face mask 😷 or I won't go with you, that's what really hurt me the most,
I’m a “conventionally attractive” woman and watched this out of curiosity. The experience is pretty similar- people act all kinds of crazy around you because you trigger their insecurities. If you are also insecure, you’re in for a very hard time.
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life -- J o h n 3 :16
@@AllglorytoGod000 Amen Brother. I repent from my last comment I’m a sinner. God decides for us we have corage and will. He is lighting us the way all the time. But we do not have the courage sometimes to do what has to be done. The world needs to get closer to God. God is the answer.
Hi Dan I just wanted you to know that women also feel lonely, thanks for your input I found it to be very helpful, I’m not sure of how easy it maybe to remind oneself,but U R right at times God keeping others away is helpful.✌️🦋
I'm definitley on the taller side (6'5) and take my physical fitness seriously, so I'm pretty lean, and I Cannot tell you how many times people have said this line to me when they actually get to know me "You know you're a lot nicer than I had initially thought, you're just really unapproachable" This guy nailed it
Exactly this bro, I'm not nearly as tall as you (6'1) take my health seriously and currently am in the best shape of my life in my late 20s (used to be a little over weight) and have dated a decent amount, so many people are surprised when I do my best to be kind and polite to anyone I interact with. I do have a rbf but I think it scares people away
@@JonesyTheFirst69 nailed it! It’s so funny how deceiving looks can be. Don’t get me wrong there are plenty of people who look as superficial as they are internally, but I’ve also met plenty of others who have strong character traits internally even if on the outside they “seem” shallow
Right, all these red pillers think, that all good looking guys have all the doors opened, just because they look good. In high school and college I received way more hate and jealousy, than love, because I looked good.
Cmon bro you must being doing something wrong. Maybe stop feeling sorry for yourself, self pity is the least attractive trait. Btw I'm only saying this cos I see from your pfp you have no excuse, you should be able to find a nice girl.
😂story of my life, might as well change my name. All you needed to add was how they add a derogatory term at the end of telling you to remain silent such as 'buddy, mate or pal'
@alexhowley9834 yes sir. I've been stabbed in the back so many times for being tall and non ugly to the point where I can be friends with someone who can't get a girlfriend etc. Cause it's just a matter of time before they get jealous and stab me in the back because of it. It just seems like all my tall attractive friends never have a problem with me. Weird
You don't need to be tall to be attractive and experience exactly all of this described in the video. I am 5'8 and banged girls taller than me with a boyfriend taller than me.
Huge cope. Studies shows that lonely people have a lower life expectations than people who have a strong support system (family, friends...) read more about biology.
Man this hits home way too hard. Being 6'7, 250 solid trained pounds, 6 times a week for 10 years. Nice clothes, clean looks...it gets lonely. Men size you up and want to start fights when you just want to party, and the women you get to know mostly just use as a trophy with no real deeper intentions. Luckily I am happy being alone, keep working on myself everyday on different goals. Weird situation. A plus, most of my male friends are above 6' and feel the same kind of struggles - so we keep struggling together 😂
What I noticed is that people create relationships based on the similarity of their cognitive and social levels. Whenever they impose a judgment on you that you are different, they act strangely with you. ... The annoying thing is that insecurity remains, no matter how comfortable you appear with them, they still act strangely. It's like a hidden hatred. Some men don't even look at you for fear you'll see him. How strange it is to see men acting like women.
That goes both ways. I've tried chatting up guys who are really attractive and they've acted like they would have preferred I not done that. Nothing at all weird on my part either, just general hey how's it going stuff. And I know it's just tribalism stuff on their part, because I wasn't on their level.
@@BigBadJerryRogers I think that most of the differences are differences in common interests or a common approach. You may be handsome, but all you have is your appearance as a status to benefit from, but the meetings remain superficial, while the majority get to know each other easily, as if they had a common code. ... I always see people laughing and getting to know each other. Most of them are normal in appearance, sometimes less so. When I talk to them, I feel like I have entered a room full of shy women, due to the extreme silence and pretense. Some of them are very nice and pretend, but as you said, they act as if they wish you had not spoken to them. ... To add, in recent times I have begun to notice that the secret to belonging is sometimes the lifting of formalities, and I personally set limits with my seriousness in dealing.
@@yvesalya3914 well that's part of what I was referring to, you have to be easy going if you want anyone to respond to you and be willing to engage with you any further, that goes for everyone regardless of looks. Nobody wants to have to work to talk to someone, so if you are humorless, give nothing back in trying to be easy to talk with, people are going to not bother. Never be too serious unless it's required.
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life -- J o h n 3 :16
Bro so true. The passive aggressive bs we face from other dudes is mind blowing. I had to tell my boss to tell another guy to stop talking to me at work bc I knew it would keep on. It’s like they try to say passive aggressive comments when others are around to make you look like a loser to everyone.
I’ve had plenty of so called friends, tell me how handsome I am. But, every girl I date or interested in they constantly find flaws for why it won’t work. I have heard the saying “I’m worried about you bro” only when I’m seeing a girl and it’s going well. This line has never been used when I’m single or after a break up. I’ve found getting rid of these friends and keeping my dating life quiet in general been helpful. I relate a lot to this video, but anyone who thinks being handsome is make or break is totally wrong. I’ve had girls reject me and said “you’re too handsome for me”. Everyone has their obstacles. If your reading this, I hope you are doing well in life, and please never give up
Nah, Corey Wayne got all of his stuff from Patrice O'Neal and still isn't as good. Patrice is the king of understanding women and relationships.@@ralf4k
Less attractive people love searching for & pointing out any minor flaws that a G/L man might have. Once I had some cuts & scratches on my hands & arms from doing some yard work, the first thing this cow who I thought was my friend said to me was “not so perfect now are you?” WTF! - needless to say, I don’t waste my time doing anything for her any more.
Damn, this is true. I actually started isolating myself and focusing on myself. I was overthinking alot of things and maybe I should stop working out and etc. But currently I had to push myself back to where I was. It is tough
I think we feel lonely because we think, since we are good looking, our significant other has to be at least as good looking as us. But good looking women are really hard to get. At least a quality one. Which means we have to either settle or be alone.
@@VisceralCarbon Well, men tend to be solitary creatures. We tend to not have many friends. Just a few close ones. But I think it's normal for it to be more difficult to make friends once you get older.
I get this all the fucking time. People project their shit onto me and it's infuriating. Before I corrected the record, some of my colleagues were guessing my relationship status/history. People guessed I had several girlfriends at the same time, or that I'd been married for years (I'm 25). When I told them I've never had a girlfriend or so much as held a woman's hand, they straight-up thought I was lying, making fun of people who "actually" struggle with dating. Later in the year, I expressed my interest in someone whom I'd been exploring a friendship with -- I hadn't expected to develop feelings for her, bc I'd resigned myself to my lonliness after years of isolation, but it happened. When I finally told her, she started pacing excitedly back and forth, smiling, saying to me, "Ohhhhhh my god, I never thought someone like you would be interested in someone like me." I did not understand what she meant by that but I later found out all of our mutual friends thought I was way beyond her league. She probably did, too. And for me, I don't really think in those terms. I just want to be happy. I genuinely thought this person was gorgeous and funny and smart and all the things you do when you're in love. But she decided not to be with me. "You'll find someone else." I don't know, man. I'm trying but I just don't know. This is not entirely other people's fault, though. I dress and act like I don't care what others think and this is intimidating (apparently). I'm very open and honest and don't get embarrassed easily, either. I've also not been emotionally available because I thought something was wrong with me my whole life. Only now with therapy and fitness and emotional vulernability have I begun to feel less hopeless. But it still comes around everyone once in awhile.
I have never related more to a comment in my entire life. Recently went on a date after almost a year of isolation, girl tried to come onto me and I stopped her because I like to go slow (we met legit 2 hours prior) she got mad and had me take her home. I’m pretty sure she wanted to smash and then ditch me. Sounds optimal to some dudes but I genuinely hate that and just want a good girl friend that I can enjoy life with. Almost every girlfriend I’ve had has been shocked of my interest, and then extremely jealous, distrusting of my intentions, and overall belittling because they think I’m on some high horse. I constantly feel the need to belittle myself before others can get the chance to. It’s honestly miserable at times.
I understand the struggle, man. Can't talk to anyone without them thinking I'm sleeping with a bunch of other people at the same time. The intimidation of showing the "I don't care vibe" really resonates as well. Hang in there.
@@jefferyepstein399A girl left me because I wouldn't be official or forthright in asking her out, cos I said I wanted to get to know her over 6 months.
I’m 26 and never had a gf. Not even a date. However, everyone assumes I’m a playboy who bangs a bunch of chicks. I’ve had clients and colleagues of mine say to me that I must have lots of options in dating when it’s actually the opposite. I have no problems getting a girl’s contact info but when I try to set up a date they come up with excuses to avoid seeing me. At this point I don’t even try anymore.
This is spot on. There's only been one time in my life where I feel people treated me normally was during my senior year in high school when my face was covered in acne. My self-confidence was at its lowest and I was super depressed. Yet, more people approached me and talked to me at that time than during any other time of my life. In fact, I didn't have the confidence to ask anyone out to senior prom, and one of the prettiest girls in the school ended up asking me!
Interesting, the other situation I had was during the pandemic because I didn't wear a mask, so many people talked to me compared to normal. It's like they couldn't decide who was average to talk to cos their face was covered.
Danny, you’re right! Resiliency and being comfortable with being uncomfortable is the best path in dealing with people, men and women, whom are jealous and envious of you. Focusing on my goals , purpose, and having patience is my best option.
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life -- J o h n 3 :16
when I was in high school, girls would tell me how cute I was. They seemed so innocent and sweet. Until the day I sat in front of the bus and they were all behind me and didn't know I was there. I was given a great gift when I got to hear all the vile, toxic and evil things that they had to say about me, other guys and what they really think. I was in shock and the next day I started my new life. Working hard, making money, saving money, starting businesses, starting hobbies, learning new things, making myself the best I can be. And never never forgetting what I heard that day. I am now still the cute guy, but much more successful, wealthy, and living a great life. My message to you is "work on yourself" and do not let others ruin your happiness and your future. Peace to all my brothers out there.
Hey man same situation here. Wondering how you started businesses and how hard was it to deal with people being an handsome entrepreneur? was it easier?
Dosent seem like they are that independent strong women end of the day, if they cant stay with you. I thought everybody were more into having good looking partner. I wouldnt get no insecurities for having good looking partner, when if its average looking. I wont even be that intrested on her. Funny how women make fun off ugly guys, but at the same time too insecure to be with preatty guys. Kind of ironic.😂🤦♂️
Well it also could be that these women only see you as a ken doll and nothing more. A lot of men don't want some relationship with the girl they see at the strip club either.
I broke up with my ex a while ago due to her insecurity, she would imply that I fool around with other women so I tried to alleviate her concerns, that didn't work so she started calling me awful names and other forms of disrespect, when she crossed that line I was done with her, now I struggle to get numbers and go on dates, I get straight up ignored or awkward vibes from most women, I've had family and a few close friends complement me on my looks so I know I'm not some sort of freak, I hate this lonely feeling I'm dealing with, I hate the way people think I have a huge ego and I'm someone whos a threat, life is already hard for everyone, why do we all gotta try and cut each others throats?
well if she implied that maybe she wanted you to do that and start a harem? anyways you guys dont realize the power you have over women always can get another woman
Hello there, as I scrolled through many quotes I found yours and interesting enough my attention was caught by the statement of being U being some sort of freak! I just wanted to let u know to please
Ooops sorry please don’t feel this way; as a woman who has been through much of what u have been through as well,if U can get pets & also try to volunteer some of your time at pet shelters or other places it may help soothe the feelings if u need to reach out like this platform it’s ok to allow others to care 4 U ✌️🦋
Brother, everything you said describes me exactly! I agree 100% with everything you said. I've watched so many other related videos on this subject but yours is the best. I have always been considered great looking and work out on a regular basis. I took first place in a competition in 2022, and since then it's been nothing but hatred and jealousy, esp from women! I knew guys can get very envious and jealous of other men, but I found out recently so can women! And yes, you are right about men hating handsome men. I've had that problem all my life! Can't seem to trust anyone.
I've received this treatment constantly through my 20s, and I've often fallen into the trap of thinking something is wrong with me, which destroyed my confidence and led to years of isolation. A few years ago, I started semen retention out of curiosity. Since then, my confidence and resilience have skyrocketed astronomically. Elevating myself has made the envy from men worse, along with women downplaying my importance to them and acting like I don't exist. However, it doesn't bother me like it used to because behind the facade, I can see that they actually are very attracted to me.
I am ridiculously handsome, a decent looking coworker just told me out of nowhere that i would be too short for her to date me. I am 6’2 by the way. Its like they know that they have no chance so they are coming up with excuses for themselves.
I think we need proof you are ridiculously handsome. Just typing it on UA-cam doesn't prove it. Not wishing to be harsh but anyone can claim anything online. Doesn't make it true. And the number of men that would be considered ridiculously handsome by both men and women is, in my opinion, a very small amount. The world is not full of ridiculously handsome men. They're probably less than 5 percent of the entire male global population. Maybe smaller than 5 percent (depending how good looking - for example 9 out of 10).
@@Isikkkcan I’ve had that one too, bitches who don’t even know me or anything about me, approaching me out of the blue & telling me that they wouldn’t date a tall/v.attractive/muscular man. Wtf? I tell them that I wouldn’t date anyone who is totally insecure about themselves.
@@Isikkkcan Women also use excuses to not date when they aren't attracted. Saying you are too short is obviously a lie. I see many chubby and average looking women with handsome guys
Hi there Michael, I just wanted to reach out to let U know that it’s probably because U R a very nice looking young man. U look like my son, stay true to U the right girl will come✌️🦋
I get told I am good-looking all the time (by random people at bars, people I know at the gym, etc) but I feel like calling myself handsome seems like a copout, like there must be another reason why I feel this way. I have experienced 9/10 things you just spoke about. I've been in this position since I left school and dating options are very few and far between. My lack of success has always been followed by more self-improvement, but it literally does nothing.
Female here but there are many points I related to not that I think I'm the most beautiful but I had no idea men go through jealousy or envy too for their appearance. I'm so sorry for anyone who has had to go through this. I relate to feeling lonely and people making comments about my appearance and feeling a sense of confusion. My heart really goes out to any man that has dealt with this and has genuine good intentions. Please know there is a woman out there that will love you for you.
I don’t think this matter or implies to women. If you are a beautiful woman, no way men will ignore your especially rich men. Unless you have a bad attitude(excuse me for this ). Men really experience this. I’m a good looking guy and I relate to this. I don’t know if it’s because I have a sigma personality.
It is harder for good looking men than women...since most women even average ones are surrounded by male simps ,it makes women have alot of options and ego boosted all the time..handsome men kinda intimidate women and like he said they will create prejudments about you like player ,narcissist,hard to please or control...
My God this couldn’t have come at a better time. Been feeling EXACTLY like this and it’s been hell being so lonely. Especially when it seems like no dudes even want to be friends but I get compliments and stares from strangers.
I decided to level up on my looks and clothes. And I noticed that women don't even look at me. They always look straight forward. I even had one tell me not to look at her.
Similar issue here, women 20-35 do not even look, but outside those boundaries I get heaps of looks. Something happens to women after school and university, they lose all sense of reality and are hyper focused on a particular type of man only. This man will be dressed in athletic clothing, talking loudly to his equally attractive male friend and that's what they want.
I don't .....they stare at me and give me convo and play . But I learned to tone it down and I still get the same results . I don't approach either they come to me. I just pay them no mind when I'm out
This vid is so on point. There is a natural jealousy for guys who are better looking and it leads to exclusion because they are seen as competition or as described.. unattainable. Great vid
I try to be optimistic in my views. Being open and being able to joke with everyone and when the time comes, be stoic, firm, intelligent, quick to make logical decisions have come to give me a majority of respect and be joyful to be around with. That is if you're already keeping your promises to yourself by trying to level up your life in areas you want to improbe and being displined. There are those who try to size you up due to their lack of insecurity, but that shouldn't phase you. Have your circles to chill, take advice, business, etc. Have balance, life is much more simple, less fear leads to less stress and decisions you won't look back on.
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life -- J o h n 3 :16
The story of my life. - Women would either go psycho on me, or if I rejected them they would explode in madness - or other guys would talk shit behind my back, invent stories or even come on to me - gay guys would harass me or develop fixations on me - the girls I was interested in would be totally ignoring me or even putting me down - I would be misjudged before people even spoke to me - I would be objectified in certain scenarios - girls with boyfriends would use me and/or come on to me to make their partner jealous (thus creating conflicts I did not cause at all) - I would be hated by some and weirdly idolized by others - women would want to be seen in public with me - people would too often totally misread me as they would be under the impression that I was into them when I would just be talking to them - folks would suddenly be flashing me and/or grope me - strangers would offer to pay me to have sex with them and their wives - some would become unhealthily possessive of me ...and I could go on and on and on........ My best buddy is a chubby, unattractive, non-competitive amazing guy who's got my back. No issues, no jealousy at all. At the gym some guys above average can give out some hateful energy while others seem so intimidated to the point of having some weird sort of admiration from a safe distance. Weird. Just always been weird.
Ok parked my truck … WOW… I needed to hear this. Ironically, I was having these thoughts as I was coming out of the gym at work. This video is so relatable. I’m turning 42 next week and still single with no kids, women praise me about my looks and how handsome and when I make the approach I get turned away because they feel so insecure because they think im a cheater and womanizer. But like a lot folks said… a man alone has a purpose, is focused, and working towards new challenges and adventure. Keep your circle small and your faith wide. Believe that God has something in stored for you and keep pressing forward. Do not settle for the sake of feeling lonely, strive to become the better version of yourself. Stay healthy brothers and sisters. I am new subscriber
The only women we can get are single moms and ones we've known for at least a year. The rest fall into the category of everything you said. Cold approach and dating apps? Not happening
@@JohnnyAllan-vj7sj what’s even more sad is that some of these single moms came from solid and profound family structures, well mannered and caring. But their poor choice led to pick to most toxic of men thus turning themselves into monsters
Very insightful and touches on a topic that is rarely if ever spoken about or understood. I’ve struggled with this through out my life and never understood why. Thank you
Recently came to terms with this situation. I’m used to being alone but I just get disappointed in how people act sometimes cause I wouldn’t do that to them but you’re right resilience and increasing your standards are the only way.
They'll be playful around others, but serious and stressed out w/ you. Or they crowdsource or mobbing you w/ like three or more ppl to socialize w/ you at one time. You'll always be outnumbered, ppl rarely deal w/ you one on one.
the More handsome you are the Nicer you have to Be the More humble you have to behave the more Genuine you have to be, it is a responsability for me to Lead others That if this Handsome guy can be that humble you as an avg guy have no Business feeling like you are james bond I always saw that Hot guys had a bad Rep of being douchy So I took it upon myself to Be The most Humble and actually Make everyone feel important i Compliment other men and Alway talk to that shy or girl ... remember if youre handsome other people are looking at you To lead them to be better people
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life -- J o h n 3 :16
Dude stop that. You 'people pleasing'. You don't have to do shit! Fck those people who go against you because you just exist. How are you to entitle yourself that YOU have to lead anyone? Just do what you love to do and don't give a damn about what any sheep thinks about you. I can just tell you out kg experience. I'm a very attractive man myself and what you say reminded me on myself years ago. It is better that nobody likes you, BUT respects (and fears) you. When you look good they gonna like you anyways. Remember that!
What matters most is how you connect with people not how you look. And don't stress too much about being self aware all the time. Sometimes, it's just you overthinking things. Just be yourself and the right people will come into your life naturally.
The passive aggressive bs we face from other dudes is crazy, even my "friends" always try to put me down or sabotage my self image, I always get challenged when entering new groups because the guys get insecure and try to bring you down in front of the other women....
I have a hard time accepting the label of "handsome" or "attractive" as an explanation for my experience. Too many people overrate themselves and I refuse to be so delusionally cringe (at least publicly). Still, the fact that you make a video like this despite the arguably small audience it's intended for is helpful. In private where I'm free to reflect, I can sort through in earnest how it might apply to me and adjust my outlook accordingly. Resilience is well-named as a virtue to include here. Wish I had friends like you irl but I'm a big fan of your content regardless, Danny.
I am 37 and I had no idea any of this was a thing until I stumbled upon this video and it absolutely blew my mind. Everything that was said I have experienced and could never understand what was happening in my life. It’s not only confusing but it’ll screw up your life if you’re not aware of it. I appreciate this and I Thankyou for the wisdom and knowledge that was shared. I feel like I may now have a tool to get my life back.
Great handsome men game videos man. I've been strugling with that for a while and could not find confort and meaning in this issue. This discussion helped me understanding myself better and how to approach it with more consciously Thanks! Cheers from Brazil
Thank you for this. It hits home to my experience throughout my life. I get many compliments over my looks but I'm usually alone and it's difficult for me to flirt without coming across as a jerk. I have to hold back on any cockiness whereas the next guy can say things that are downright offensive imo, without facing any backlash. I hate being thought of as unattainable and unapproachable.
This was a huge problem for me being 6'4'' and decently looking for most of my life. I definitely got gaslighted early on and believed I was ugly and that something was truly wrong with me. It was only until 30+ I realized that people were playing mental gymnastics to make THEMSELVES feel better for THEIR insecurities. Eventually discovering semen retention/nofap, I found myself no longer giving a fuck what anyone thought. I am now fucking free to be myself and I NEVER give anything a second thought. Whether you like me or not, doesn't change a fucking thing in my head now. It is quite honestly the most freeing fucking experience I've ever had.
Never resonated with a video so much in my life. So glad I watched this. I’ve had many comments since I started training at 14 (now 28) directed at me “oh I thought you’d be a dick but you’re actually really nice” purely based on the fact I was in shape and looked after myself. Now I rarely get invited to anything, do life on my own and still get jealous comments. Glad to see I’m not alone. “I’d rather be covered in sweat in the gym, than clothes on the beach”.
At this point most guys don't want you stealing their chicks. I embrace it and don't care. Picking up a good woman is really what I want anyway more than guy friends. My guy friends can be co-workers or people at church.
I spent the day in isolation today bro. It be mad confusing having girls stare at you, seem highly interested, then be scared to talk to you. I just stayed away from society today.
I’ve never felt a video understood me more than this one. Basically everything you mentioned, I’ve experienced at some point in my life, especially recently with taking self improvement seriously. From the apparent turn off by women, to the compliments, to feeling excluded in my friend group, to feeling something is wrong with me. Also since I do have a problem solving mentality, it amplifies all of this. Thanks, Danny.
THANK YOU! I needed this gem! I am not "handsome" per-se, just different enough form my local/national demographic to be considered good looking, and hearing all these points from an outsider was a breath of fresh air that assured me I was not being paranoid. And yeah, to sum the situation up in a single sentence: When you're decent looking, you always have a giant target on your back.
I stumbled across this video by chance and...I really appreciated it. I was often complimented for my looks and my voice - it was mostly from 1. guy friends 2. family (doesn't really count, does it) 3. older women (50plus) 4. girlfriends. I know I'm no Bvlgari ambassador material, but contrary to these remarks I had zero attention in public. Well known "signs women find you attractive" was NIL. No one looked nervous around me, no double takes, no frequent eye contacts and of course, no one ever came to chat me up (I'm too shy to go and chat anyone up myself though). And I came to make sense of this as "mkay, people who compliment my looks are being polite" But it got more and more annoying when someone compliments my looks. "You must have a pretty girlfriend" "a lot of girls must like you" all that turned in my mind as "are they mocking me? Am I giving off an aura that I like my looks so much and they're annoyed?? why are they so mean?" I don't think I'm terrible looking, perhaps some fortunate features - tall nose and a bit sharp for an asian, that kinda thing. But I see so many "average" (nothing against them, I'm sure their personality is great) guys with relatively attractives partners, and I purely wondered what is going on. I mean some women seemed to be visibly turned off by the idea of dating me - a female friend made this scrunchy face when we were having drinks with other friends, and on the topic of relationships, she mentioned "ok, let's pretend you guys are dating, right? and let's say you, as a boyfriend did this..." It's not like I asked her for coffee even lol And yet, from time to time, I still get compliments. It literally made zero sense! I wished they would stop mentioning anything about my looks, I wished i could wallow and be happy I'm just another average or maybe even lesser guy. Stop giving me weird confidence boosters that the real world isn't relflecting! I don't want to be delusional! It drove me nuts And it'll seem whiney to be "oh but women don't talk to me" - it's sincere, but it's clearly going to sound like I want attention. Not really, I just wanted to be real. Sorry this became so long, but out of everything out there, you are the only person who gave the closest thing to a convincing explanation. Thank you.
Anyone who’s an 8 and up can relate to this this shit is so annoying..whenever you go to look at someone in public you can tell they were looking at you so you turn to look at them but right as your looking at them they’re in the middle of turning their head away from you 😂 it drives me insane!!! because this happens everyday one way or another.. I’m literally tired of going out in public. Or you’ll see a group of coworkers talking but as soon as u walk up they all start acting different..or you’ll literally watch an average guy talk to people at your job so smoothly then as soon as u go to talk to them they’re visibly uncomfortable and short with you.. nothing flows because peoples nerves are going haywire when you’re around…
I don't know about co-workers but what might work apart from that is changing your image. You can't change your looks but you can change your appearance.
Same here something I didn’t see you mention but I’ve also experienced is when you walk in a store where people are talking, your presence is felt and then all of the sudden dead silence.. or the guy who is clearly analyzing you , you make eye contact with him but he won’t look away trying to intimidate you. I always smirk like yeah I know you see this greatness and I know u hate me. On the flip side I really don’t like it because I would like to connect but tend to feel my attractiveness is a barrier for some which causes me to be in my head a bit. I catch myself having some form of anxiety at times before I step into public because I’m aware of what I will run into. A bunch of insecure goobers. I always try to remind myself “look the only reason they act like this is because they aren’t you. “ So I hold my head higher. Still is tough at times. The only great conversations I’ve had are with people who are secure within themselves otherwise it’s some goober who acts like I’m not there or is trying to speak negatively on my life and who I am as a person TO OTHER PEOPLE but it’s hilarious because they have the slightest clue who I am. it’s all based on inferences they’ve assumed onto me , which is based on first impression, which is usually based on appearance (clothes, face, body) just crazy how some people treat you even when they don’t know you or so called “friends” in secret competition with you. It’s tough but on everything I love I wouldn’t trade it for anything else. Glad I’m not the only one.
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life -- J o h n 3 :16
I get the head turns, only from women tho. With men they consistently want ALL THE eye contact, very sus btw. But I know what you mean the attention is annoying AF 😡
Bro everything you spoke about is exactly what I've experienced in my adult life. Thanks for covering this topic I never realized how common it aurally was.
I'm one of these men. Women will make excuses why they broke up. My counselor said women date below themselves and that most have low self-esteem due to being treated badly by men, so they presume a good looking guy will cheat. Hence they bail. I've given up. Money will get you women over looks. Bottom line is there are a lot of damaged women out there due to men treating them bad. I'm staying single here on out.
Yeah im the same i know i am women check me out but ignore my approach and men just stare to intimidate me, i dont react im now confident in myself but it is hard.
It might have been easier in the past to get away with looks only, but now you're income is visible by online social verification. If you don't have money to match, it's transient friendships only. I have plenty of fun with the young women at work, but I am not even in their consideration for a future due to obvious income failings. However that is also my choice to live at the minimum.
Who told you this? A woman counsellor? Women’s low self-esteem, insecurities & their “damage” is not caused by men. They are conditioned that way by other women, social media, advertising, the education system, etc, & it feeds into the way their brains are hardwired for attention & emotional turmoil. It’s very convenient for men to be blamed yet again for all the problems that these women have isn’t it?
And women will rarely admit how attracted to you they really are, unless you're really not that attractive. How many women have you dated who actually gave you any credit? I bet it's very few. I'm just saying this because sometimes we'll feel like "Maybe I'm just too into myself and not that good looking", but then some random outspoken lady will say "Oh my God, wow you're so handsome! Are you married?" or whatever... and the confusion starts all over again! Lol (I hope someone can relate)
I'm not saying this video was the answer I was looking for, yet I've been praying for one. When it sounds like he's talking to me, this video has definitely answered a lot 🙏
bro crazy how you talk about my life :D and the processes and lessons i learned. but also some, i didnt yet. helped me a lot and especially got me being understood. thank you!
This has kind of been my life recently, come back home after things didn’t work out in college. Fell into a deep depression and decided to get myself back in shape really to save my life. Went from 260-250 all the way down to 200-210 and I look like a completely different person. Heard all the congratulations and things like that then eventually things started shifting around me and I started getting looks from both men and women like they can’t believe at what they’re looking at. Then dealt with some jealousy from guys from a gym I used to go to and to say the least some people tried to f*ck me over. It can be a bit discouraging but I rather deal with these problems then deal with problems with my health. Stay Strong out here good people 💙💪🏾
“You start to get annoyed with the attention” man that spoke to me. I want to be friendly but it frustrates me that some men don’t know their place and won’t stay there. It always gets awkward afterwards. I really can’t stand the sneaky intentions to turn a platonic relationship into a romantic one.
This literally just opened my eyes so much, you literally explained exactly how i think and i thought it was just me overanalyzing, I could never figure out why certain people that used to be close to me just suddenly lost respect for me and people i wouldn’t expect to do the things they did, they sure did it. Thank you Danny!
Wow! This really helped me. I’m 44 and have been told a lot over the years that I am an attractive guy. In fact, a lot lately. And yet, I have always struggled to date. Been looking at where in me these insecurities come from. I think that’s a critical piece e. But I think that there might be something to this idea as well. Thank you for the video!!
Beautiful people get discriminated against because people are filled with envy. You have to be very self aware and confident to counter this. It doesn’t help that people think being beautiful is like living life on easy mode
Thank you for speaking the truth... As a high value man.. With looks.. Height.. Build.. Career and success... You almost push people away rather than draw them in...
It’s nice to see other guys who relate to those problems. You cannot be very vocal about it because people often assume you’re being obnoxious, or presumptuous. I think navigating through it is specially difficult in your early - mid 20s, after repeated good and bad experiences you end up learning… But it does feel lonely.
Have you really tried to put yourself in lots of diverse settings for interactions with people? Or are you just sticking with your possibly limited comfort zones?
@@BigBadJerryRogers honestly no. I moved to a new town and don’t have any friends here, and although that shouldn’t matter, I rarely have gone into those situations. Each time I connected with people but never met an available girl.
@@Sorcerers_Apprentice_11 appreciate the admission. This is a lot of the problem. You have to make more of an effort, that's life. And at least you're making connections, the more you do that the bigger your circle grows and more possibilities come
There may be some truth to this about handsome men but the Definite Truth is that Humbly Confident Men/People, who are GOOD with Who and What they are, without any outside validation or anything ADDED to them, will mostly live a lonely life because insecure, narcissistic individuals will not understand them or have the ability to deal with their confidence... .. Another thing is that insecurity is at an All-Time High at present and only the people that are Truly Confident will know this and be quiet about it until its time to speak on it in a wise way. The Insecure Ones will always be LOUD about their NOT being insecure...
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I love the way to explained things! Very clear! thank you so much man!
What’s worked for me is not caring whether women notice me or not, just being in the moment enjoying my life. And if they approach I treat them like everyone else, there’s no pedestal. Nobody is better than anyone.
Few will understand this
Have always done this. Almost purposely maintained a low key oblivious nature to women’s interactions. I never saw the point in doing some jester dance approach to women. I just treat people as people. I think it throws women off because they think I’m flirting or expect flirting when I’m just chilling
Great Insight
There are definitely some better than others......alexander the great types of course
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life -- J o h n 3 :16
I can never be lonely because i can never be deprived of something I do not possess.
-Marcus Aurelius
Train yourself to let go of everything you fear to lose. -Yoda
Basedus Aurelius
Cope. lol.
@@thespacealienssmogandgrog4283 low IQ
Marcus Aurelius was not referencing to that. Besides, he had a wife and childrens.
A handsome man alone is a man on his purpose.
He knows his priorities.
He's not necessarily lonely, just alone.
A man at one with himself doesn't need validation from anyone.
That's partially true, we all need external validation from people, we are social beings not lone wolfs. Human beings are not like cats, you need a pack at the very least if not a love interest, your pack being your family and friends for instance(those still give you validation and positive reinforcement.)
To: "He's not necessarily lonely, just alone" My Question: Who is he? Every person feels differently......
However, being alone can feel lonely at some point because we are human-social beings, whose brains naturally need healthy commection and also touch, tenderness, exchange, security, closeness and appreciation. Saying: Alone is not lonely is - sorry - a no-brainer/rationalization 🙂
Know thyself.
That's all we need.
you try that 6 years straight.... your shit is lonely
On point. But people get the wrong impression and think you are a loner when you just want to be alone
Attractive men are more difficult to control. lt also requires women to put in more effort, which many don't want to do.
exactly bro, this !!!
wow very true!
F’ng aye accurate.
Just be what they can’t have 😁
Yes, they like their traumatised slaves. They hare "equals" who see no reason to submit and therefore won't. Useless to them. They want to someone to boss around and psychologically abuse who won't leave the second he realises how much of a self loathing, self destructive, weird and creepy liability she is.
In my early 20s, I returned to college after I going from 315 pounds to 210 pounds through years of training. I also got a solid tan from my summer job, quality clothes, kept/ built muscle and kept my teeth clean. I earned a reputation as a “hot guy” when I returned to college, but it then became the loneliest time of my life. Guys didn’t laugh at my jokes and it felt like more and more guys were sizing me up or talking shit behind my back. Women who I knew would look away and appear on guard when I was around, and people stopped smiling at me. Oddly enough, more women than I expected would start to look at me with a kind of insecure frown- like I reminded them of some high school crush they couldn’t date. Suddenly, since I hung out with the artistic crowd, I became a kind of target for everyone’s insecurities. Which is weird because I grew up as the funny fat kid with glasses. But imagine if Chris Farley suddenly looked like Chris Hemsworth in Thor- the jokes just don’t work anymore. It was a massive eye opening experience where suddenly I realized that attractive people get judged WAY more than the average person. So @DannyVera, I know EXACTLY what you are talking about
My story is quite similar, I was an obese kid and got to the hot guy patamar to get judged all around. Quite ironic right??
Same for me bro. People are insecure and good aesthetics brings that out in them. Not much we can do.
100%. When you become a better version of yourself, good looking and successful in business, be prepared to “lose” 70-80% of your normal surroundings and situations. Envy and resentment in a form of phenomenon called schadenfreude will develop. Stay strong, keep your boundaries, don’t change the course. It always gets worse before it gets better.
Spot on, got a very similar story. I keep meeting some old co-workers at the gym, some of them straight up ignore me, some of them frown at me, guess who actually had a good talk with me? Another good looking guy lmao.
Nah. It's the opposite. The halo effect. Lean into being good looking. Be a bit arrogant and get what you want.
Guys, NEVER EVER dumb yourself down, I am speaking from experience.
You either live the life as a loner or aim for higher quality/category people.
Once I dumbed myself down to fit in it bacame a trap that is not easy to get out of. I didn't know any better before but now I do and am working on myself to reclaim my spot.
im in that boat. ive dumbed myself down to gain acceptance from ppl. but i need to get better friends. tnx for the reminder
@@sumgi1537 Its not worth it. You need to find better friends that will value you. they are out there. Stay Smart!
I am guilty of doing that. Especially at work. I am decent looking, intelligent, and introspective. My idea of interesting topics would be religion or philosophy, or books that I have read. But usually my male coworkers are just into the predictable stuff, like sports or movies or video games. Or they just spend a lot of time goofing off. I sometimes feel that if I don't dumb myself down, people will judge me as being too serious or quiet, or of not wanting to associate with them. But then once I dumb myself down, I end up overdoing it, and then people no longer take me seriously.
110% not worth it. Currently recovering from 2+ years of that bs. May you strive on your journey brother. God bless
@@TONYACEB CHEERS brother! Cheers to us waking up and knowing we are just built different!
Unfortunately we end up dealing with a lot of other people’s insecurities. Both women & men.
Just live life on ghost mode
@@jaagonfreezeyouna don’t. Looks can get you far if you have charisma along side of it.
I go incognito @@jaagonfreezeyou
Very true
@@jackward770that's actually part of the problem here and why a lot of people don't like those who are very attractive. I don't respect anyone who just expects to get whatever they want because they're good looking. You have to have personality. Otherwise you're just a mannequin with a pulse.
And the worst part about all this is you can’t complain about it to anyone… imagine someone more attractive than you complaining to you about how much it sucks being attractive, you’d tell them to F off
The grass ain’t always greener my boy.
@@r.i.proach7135 are you saying you’re ugly and being ugly isn’t great? Sure, I’ll grant that, being ugly isn’t fun. But hey at least ugly people can gripe about it without sounding like a narcissist. There’s even a whole genre of content made to help ugly people feel validated, it’s called black pill
Wow, that is interesting
Actually, I can relate and I'm 57 now. Maybe I should just accept it all and get laid.
Only place I can vent about these things is online
suffering from success
When you are chasing success, you have a tendency to have a super small circle of freinds!
What happens is you end up on dating apps, you set up dates then you cancel on them, because it wastes too much time, you just wanted to know if you can still swing, if you can still pull
Great undiscused topic, and very true. It happens !!
yep, like the saying goes, it's lonely at the top
DJ Khaled album title 😂
I had a major glow up in my late teens early 20s and i identify with everything in this video. Some suggestions based on my life experience:
1. Accept your gift and learn to love who you are and be proud. You will feel isolated and alone at times. Your Timidity, insecurity and need or looking to be accepted is going to be taken as weakness and exploited and used against you, so get rid of it
2. You are a one man show. Stop looking to fit in with people and groups and deal with people based on how well they treat you. You will find your own tribe naturally. Dont force relationships, whoever is meant to be in your life will be in your life
3. Learn to be disciplined and self sufficient. This will protect you from haters
Agreed, except... you may never find your own tribe. You may just have to go it alone.
And learn to relish being hated.
Well said
Be comfortable being uncomfortable.
When you are very good looking man, you will never have a tribe. Your only tribe could be your own family (wife and kids).
Thanks, this can also be applied to average looking men
One big thing being good looking is how much other men try and cut you down. They say you look “gay” or similar shit because they’re jealous. It’s probably what they’d say to a women who was there about you too so they don’t see you as an option.
Men can be bigger haters than other women to each other. Like damn, this is how I was born it’s not my fault. Lol
Other men shit on you cuz deep down they’re worried you can steal their girl.
So true bro, we can’t help how we look.
Word up bro, just keep moving.
It’s why I have one close friend who is also attractive, it means we really relate and just help each other out.
we CAN control how we look. We could easily stop eating healthy, exercising and dressing well and be losers like the rest of them. That's why they try to shame us, to keep us from shining so bright.
100%. When you become a better version of yourself, good looking and successful in business, be prepared to “lose” 70-80% of your normal surroundings and situations. Envy and resentment in a form of phenomenon called schadenfreude will develop. Stay strong, keep your boundaries, don’t change the course. It always gets worse before it gets better.
In order to be successful at something, you need to be disciplined. Which means using your time wisely. Which means spending less time with friends or staying out late. Which means being alone more often. Yes, it is a lonely path, because very few people are disciplined, or are able to appreciate the amount of work required to achieve goals.
Took the words right out of my mouth!
even your family, its really sad but seen it too much
schadenfreude is german word
Thanks for share the word schadenfreude!!! I didnt know that!
I’ve noticed when I hang out with other people of similar looks / high success, there is no competition.
They are secure in themselves and compliment and support you.
People below you want to bring you to their level. Level up your social group.
Yeah gotta ditch those losers.
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life -- J o h n 3 :16
@@paulbrolly5421I appreciate these comments, I’m going through this now with two former friends that always try to bring me down, talk about “money” and mock me it’s funny honestly but it’s hurtful how they have switched up. Luckily I have other friends and parents that are very confident as well and aren’t toxic af
And most of it is subconsciously while u re conscious
SPOT ON!
Lol… Thank god for letting me grow up in the 80’s; When men and women started dating, simply because they liked each other.
Now, it has become this over complicated mess, thanks to social media. It has made everyone so self absorbed and narcissistic, that they expect more out of a relationship than they are willing to give!.
Preach brother.
All thanks to social media
Yeah..
I agree born 1985 😜
Good one :)
Bro, it’s lonely. Crazy spot on. Thought I was going crazy. I’m constantly a target for other men, especially in the work place.
Groups of young men always harass me, whether I'm walking or cycling. But when I walk straight through their groups, like cut through them instead of going around, they say less or nothing.
Same here I go through that all the time, iam mixed Latino and Spaniard, green eyes 👀 dark curly hair glass complexion, people think 🤔 oh he must have a lot of women, everything easy for him, people have no idea
@@IsraelVargas-u6z I know bro. It’s a struggle getting around sometimes. people assume we have it easy. Far from it. Were flawed just like everyone else
@@emmanuelsanchez4321 you are not crazy,ok check out my comment on handsome man game you will be lonely, read it this is what I go through in my daily life bro my own family don't want to go to the store with me, they say chico, wear a face mask 😷 or I won't go with you, that's what really hurt me the most,
I’m a “conventionally attractive” woman and watched this out of curiosity. The experience is pretty similar- people act all kinds of crazy around you because you trigger their insecurities. If you are also insecure, you’re in for a very hard time.
Beautiful women hate handsome men even though they have a pretty similar experience
100%.
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Yep that last part. It’s very hard and I’m 30. But I realize I have to just focus on improving myself consistently.
You literally described my entire life. It feels good to know someone else knows what it's like. Thank you.
This indeed. Everything he says is so fucking accurate, it should be a crime really.
@@tbbb-rh7mui swear , especially the part about us being logical so we are extra confused by women not giving us the time of day
They drool over me when I don’t speak to them and when I do, I never get further than hello and introductions
Notorious female insanity. Don't even ask for explanations because they don't even know.
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life -- J o h n 3 :16
@@AllglorytoGod000 Amen Brother. I repent from my last comment I’m a sinner. God decides for us we have corage and will. He is lighting us the way all the time. But we do not have the courage sometimes to do what has to be done. The world needs to get closer to God. God is the answer.
This comment is cringe. Do not waste your life in trying to seduce or whatever. Just have courage and be honest in your words. Amen
Bro you are cringe
“Whenever you are alone, remind yourself that God has sent everyone else away so that there is only you and Him.”
- Rumi
Hi Dan I just wanted you to know that women also feel lonely, thanks for your input I found it to be very helpful, I’m not sure of how easy it maybe to remind oneself,but U R right at times God keeping others away is helpful.✌️🦋
Seems to be how it is.. would like to find a calm woman not in a hurry.
@@alexgramm5170 hi Alex just got your text, u R sooo right! Taking time is everything, when we rush things many times it don’t work out right
✌️🦋
Nice quote, I will remember it
Me and .....Hi....oh sorry that is not true, I just realised that it is just me and my hand to jurk my helmet of....muahahahahah
I'm definitley on the taller side (6'5) and take my physical fitness seriously, so I'm pretty lean, and I Cannot tell you how many times people have said this line to me when they actually get to know me
"You know you're a lot nicer than I had initially thought, you're just really unapproachable"
This guy nailed it
Exactly this bro, I'm not nearly as tall as you (6'1) take my health seriously and currently am in the best shape of my life in my late 20s (used to be a little over weight) and have dated a decent amount, so many people are surprised when I do my best to be kind and polite to anyone I interact with. I do have a rbf but I think it scares people away
@@JonesyTheFirst69 nailed it! It’s so funny how deceiving looks can be.
Don’t get me wrong there are plenty of people who look as superficial as they are internally, but I’ve also met plenty of others who have strong character traits internally even if on the outside they “seem” shallow
Same here im 6'5 and built, ive had countless people tell me i have RBF and that i looked like a jerk until they started to talk to me
I was blessed to be handsome, smart and strong… I am 27 and I never felt so lonely, life is tought for everyone my people
same here bro 27 and it's been the most lonely
You’re not that handsome
@@Breakfastststst oh brother I wish, at least I’d had no problem with blaming myself for not using my potential
Nice SOAD picture mate
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You nailed it the level of hate from jealousy is ridiculous. It’s hard to believe people are so shallow but once you do it gets easier.
Right, all these red pillers think, that all good looking guys have all the doors opened, just because they look good. In high school and college I received way more hate and jealousy, than love, because I looked good.
It hurts, feeling lonely for years and years absolutely sucks. It’s so painful
Lol
yes but better than being in a toxic relationship with a narcissist! I learnt the hard way.
Give Jesus a try, brother
You have a weak mentality if feeling lonely makes you feel pain. It’s better to be lonely than be with toxic people
Cmon bro you must being doing something wrong. Maybe stop feeling sorry for yourself, self pity is the least attractive trait. Btw I'm only saying this cos I see from your pfp you have no excuse, you should be able to find a nice girl.
Another thing is when you are a tall attractive man the moment you have an opinion people call you arrogant.
😂story of my life, might as well change my name. All you needed to add was how they add a derogatory term at the end of telling you to remain silent such as 'buddy, mate or pal'
@@noglobo haha yea
Other men see you as a threat. Im 6'4" and have gotten it so many times. Bosses, new friends, women etc.
@alexhowley9834 yes sir. I've been stabbed in the back so many times for being tall and non ugly to the point where I can be friends with someone who can't get a girlfriend etc. Cause it's just a matter of time before they get jealous and stab me in the back because of it.
It just seems like all my tall attractive friends never have a problem with me. Weird
You don't need to be tall to be attractive and experience exactly all of this described in the video. I am 5'8 and banged girls taller than me with a boyfriend taller than me.
Loneliness is a blessing not a curse, you dont need other people to be happy, its internal
Totally! It took me forever to get there but now there agree
Huge cope. Studies shows that lonely people have a lower life expectations than people who have a strong support system (family, friends...) read more about biology.
@@NewYasmine-nl9jq sounds like a you problem
Man this hits home way too hard. Being 6'7, 250 solid trained pounds, 6 times a week for 10 years. Nice clothes, clean looks...it gets lonely. Men size you up and want to start fights when you just want to party, and the women you get to know mostly just use as a trophy with no real deeper intentions. Luckily I am happy being alone, keep working on myself everyday on different goals. Weird situation. A plus, most of my male friends are above 6' and feel the same kind of struggles - so we keep struggling together 😂
I'm simple. If I see a tall jacked dude entering my friend group, I will fight him, even if I lose multiple times.
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One thing I don't understand is how can a guy as tall as you be that lousy at basketball?
@@Craigshaw497 im 6'6" and it aint easy lol.
What I noticed is that people create relationships based on the similarity of their cognitive and social levels. Whenever they impose a judgment on you that you are different, they act strangely with you.
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The annoying thing is that insecurity remains, no matter how comfortable you appear with them, they still act strangely. It's like a hidden hatred. Some men don't even look at you for fear you'll see him. How strange it is to see men acting like women.
That goes both ways. I've tried chatting up guys who are really attractive and they've acted like they would have preferred I not done that. Nothing at all weird on my part either, just general hey how's it going stuff. And I know it's just tribalism stuff on their part, because I wasn't on their level.
@@BigBadJerryRogers I think that most of the differences are differences in common interests or a common approach. You may be handsome, but all you have is your appearance as a status to benefit from, but the meetings remain superficial, while the majority get to know each other easily, as if they had a common code.
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I always see people laughing and getting to know each other. Most of them are normal in appearance, sometimes less so. When I talk to them, I feel like I have entered a room full of shy women, due to the extreme silence and pretense. Some of them are very nice and pretend, but as you said, they act as if they wish you had not spoken to them.
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To add, in recent times I have begun to notice that the secret to belonging is sometimes the lifting of formalities, and I personally set limits with my seriousness in dealing.
@@yvesalya3914 well that's part of what I was referring to, you have to be easy going if you want anyone to respond to you and be willing to engage with you any further, that goes for everyone regardless of looks. Nobody wants to have to work to talk to someone, so if you are humorless, give nothing back in trying to be easy to talk with, people are going to not bother. Never be too serious unless it's required.
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life -- J o h n 3 :16
Most men are women
Bro so true. The passive aggressive bs we face from other dudes is mind blowing. I had to tell my boss to tell another guy to stop talking to me at work bc I knew it would keep on. It’s like they try to say passive aggressive comments when others are around to make you look like a loser to everyone.
Alot of it is just a lack of intelligence dumb people are the biggest haters
I’ve had plenty of so called friends, tell me how handsome I am. But, every girl I date or interested in they constantly find flaws for why it won’t work. I have heard the saying “I’m worried about you bro” only when I’m seeing a girl and it’s going well. This line has never been used when I’m single or after a break up. I’ve found getting rid of these friends and keeping my dating life quiet in general been helpful. I relate a lot to this video, but anyone who thinks being handsome is make or break is totally wrong. I’ve had girls reject me and said “you’re too handsome for me”. Everyone has their obstacles. If your reading this, I hope you are doing well in life, and please never give up
Dating is too much fucked up nowadays anyway
You should get to know Coach Corey Wayne’s work that will help you understand why they say that.
Bro u have too make comfortable reassure them that ur really interested in them
Nah, Corey Wayne got all of his stuff from Patrice O'Neal and still isn't as good. Patrice is the king of understanding women and relationships.@@ralf4k
Less attractive people love searching for & pointing out any minor flaws that a G/L man might have.
Once I had some cuts & scratches on my hands & arms from doing some yard work, the first thing this cow who I thought was my friend said to me was “not so perfect now are you?”
WTF! - needless to say, I don’t waste my time doing anything for her any more.
As an attractive woman I resonate deeply with this, it really is easier to interact with other attractive people.
Damn, this is true. I actually started isolating myself and focusing on myself. I was overthinking alot of things and maybe I should stop working out and etc. But currently I had to push myself back to where I was. It is tough
Nooe never stop being you love yourself first!
People tell me all day and everyday in my whole entire life how good I look. But man oh man I feel so lonely all the time my whole life.
I think we feel lonely because we think, since we are good looking, our significant other has to be at least as good looking as us. But good looking women are really hard to get. At least a quality one. Which means we have to either settle or be alone.
@@nerychristiannot just lonely in dating, but socially in general. It's hard to create friendships at least for me
@@VisceralCarbon Well, men tend to be solitary creatures. We tend to not have many friends. Just a few close ones. But I think it's normal for it to be more difficult to make friends once you get older.
@@nerychristianwell said.
@@nerychristian facts
There is a difference between solitude and being lonely. At least you’re in good company. Stay on your grind. Stay hard
Omg this almost made me cry. This has been my exact experience and I have been so confused for years.
I get this all the fucking time. People project their shit onto me and it's infuriating. Before I corrected the record, some of my colleagues were guessing my relationship status/history. People guessed I had several girlfriends at the same time, or that I'd been married for years (I'm 25). When I told them I've never had a girlfriend or so much as held a woman's hand, they straight-up thought I was lying, making fun of people who "actually" struggle with dating. Later in the year, I expressed my interest in someone whom I'd been exploring a friendship with -- I hadn't expected to develop feelings for her, bc I'd resigned myself to my lonliness after years of isolation, but it happened. When I finally told her, she started pacing excitedly back and forth, smiling, saying to me, "Ohhhhhh my god, I never thought someone like you would be interested in someone like me." I did not understand what she meant by that but I later found out all of our mutual friends thought I was way beyond her league. She probably did, too. And for me, I don't really think in those terms. I just want to be happy. I genuinely thought this person was gorgeous and funny and smart and all the things you do when you're in love. But she decided not to be with me. "You'll find someone else." I don't know, man. I'm trying but I just don't know.
This is not entirely other people's fault, though. I dress and act like I don't care what others think and this is intimidating (apparently). I'm very open and honest and don't get embarrassed easily, either. I've also not been emotionally available because I thought something was wrong with me my whole life. Only now with therapy and fitness and emotional vulernability have I begun to feel less hopeless. But it still comes around everyone once in awhile.
I have never related more to a comment in my entire life. Recently went on a date after almost a year of isolation, girl tried to come onto me and I stopped her because I like to go slow (we met legit 2 hours prior) she got mad and had me take her home. I’m pretty sure she wanted to smash and then ditch me. Sounds optimal to some dudes but I genuinely hate that and just want a good girl friend that I can enjoy life with. Almost every girlfriend I’ve had has been shocked of my interest, and then extremely jealous, distrusting of my intentions, and overall belittling because they think I’m on some high horse. I constantly feel the need to belittle myself before others can get the chance to. It’s honestly miserable at times.
Too relatable minus me working with the normies
I understand the struggle, man. Can't talk to anyone without them thinking I'm sleeping with a bunch of other people at the same time. The intimidation of showing the "I don't care vibe" really resonates as well. Hang in there.
@@jefferyepstein399A girl left me because I wouldn't be official or forthright in asking her out, cos I said I wanted to get to know her over 6 months.
@@StripesFxUA-cam Born in 2001 same thing as u lol, from last year tho i be pulling more than ever.
Dawg. You're the only person I've ever seen properly and thoroughly verbalize this scenario. Thank you
I’m 26 and never had a gf. Not even a date. However, everyone assumes I’m a playboy who bangs a bunch of chicks. I’ve had clients and colleagues of mine say to me that I must have lots of options in dating when it’s actually the opposite. I have no problems getting a girl’s contact info but when I try to set up a date they come up with excuses to avoid seeing me. At this point I don’t even try anymore.
Don't focus on girls. Focus on your social life and being cool with everyone. When you go out with these people just focus on having fun.
Dude you're ripped. I'll date you
You need text game my problem is I suck at night game
This is spot on. There's only been one time in my life where I feel people treated me normally was during my senior year in high school when my face was covered in acne. My self-confidence was at its lowest and I was super depressed. Yet, more people approached me and talked to me at that time than during any other time of my life. In fact, I didn't have the confidence to ask anyone out to senior prom, and one of the prettiest girls in the school ended up asking me!
Interesting, the other situation I had was during the pandemic because I didn't wear a mask, so many people talked to me compared to normal. It's like they couldn't decide who was average to talk to cos their face was covered.
Danny, you’re right!
Resiliency and being comfortable with being uncomfortable is the best path in dealing with people, men and women, whom are jealous and envious of you.
Focusing on my goals , purpose, and having patience is my best option.
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life -- J o h n 3 :16
when I was in high school, girls would tell me how cute I was. They seemed so innocent and sweet. Until the day I sat in front of the bus and they were all behind me and didn't know I was there. I was given a great gift when I got to hear all the vile, toxic and evil things that they had to say about me, other guys and what they really think. I was in shock and the next day I started my new life. Working hard, making money, saving money, starting businesses, starting hobbies, learning new things, making myself the best I can be. And never never forgetting what I heard that day. I am now still the cute guy, but much more successful, wealthy, and living a great life. My message to you is "work on yourself" and do not let others ruin your happiness and your future. Peace to all my brothers out there.
Hey man same situation here. Wondering how you started businesses and how hard was it to deal with people being an handsome entrepreneur? was it easier?
Women's success barriers make them reject you. Even if they sleep with you, they don't feel good enough about themselves to continue seeing you.
I had one actually end it with me because she said she thought I had in her words a “haram” Truth was I was only seeing her
Dosent seem like they are that independent strong women end of the day, if they cant stay with you. I thought everybody were more into having good looking partner. I wouldnt get no insecurities for having good looking partner, when if its average looking. I wont even be that intrested on her. Funny how women make fun off ugly guys, but at the same time too insecure to be with preatty guys. Kind of ironic.😂🤦♂️
Well it also could be that these women only see you as a ken doll and nothing more. A lot of men don't want some relationship with the girl they see at the strip club either.
@@richardince2129Harem*
it's because you date down
"It is because I am handsome, rich and a great player, because of this I am envied. I have no other explanation”. - Cristiano Ronaldo, 2011.
Never knew it at the time. Im 27 now and i can say. Ronnie was a 100% right.
I broke up with my ex a while ago due to her insecurity, she would imply that I fool around with other women so I tried to alleviate her concerns, that didn't work so she started calling me awful names and other forms of disrespect, when she crossed that line I was done with her, now I struggle to get numbers and go on dates, I get straight up ignored or awkward vibes from most women, I've had family and a few close friends complement me on my looks so I know I'm not some sort of freak, I hate this lonely feeling I'm dealing with, I hate the way people think I have a huge ego and I'm someone whos a threat, life is already hard for everyone, why do we all gotta try and cut each others throats?
Adapt or die.
@@DechessPlayurrrwholly fuck that’s legit.
well if she implied that maybe she wanted you to do that and start a harem?
anyways you guys dont realize the power you have over women
always can get another woman
Hello there, as I scrolled through many quotes I found yours and interesting enough my attention was caught by the statement of being U being some sort of freak!
I just wanted to let u know to please
Ooops sorry please don’t feel this way; as a woman who has been through much of what u have been through as well,if U can get pets & also try to volunteer some of your time at pet shelters or other places it may help soothe the feelings if u need to reach out like this platform it’s ok to allow others to care 4 U
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Finally a video I can relate to. Looking above average is not like they portray it.
I have to say everything has its ups n downs n being handsome and attractive has both but it’s a blessing to be than not to be trust me 💯
Brother, everything you said describes me exactly! I agree 100% with everything you said. I've watched so many other related videos on this subject but yours is the best. I have always been considered great looking and work out on a regular basis. I took first place in a competition in 2022, and since then it's been nothing but hatred and jealousy, esp from women! I knew guys can get very envious and jealous of other men, but I found out recently so can women! And yes, you are right about men hating handsome men. I've had that problem all my life! Can't seem to trust anyone.
Pretty scary how accurate this is.
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I've received this treatment constantly through my 20s, and I've often fallen into the trap of thinking something is wrong with me, which destroyed my confidence and led to years of isolation. A few years ago, I started semen retention out of curiosity. Since then, my confidence and resilience have skyrocketed astronomically. Elevating myself has made the envy from men worse, along with women downplaying my importance to them and acting like I don't exist. However, it doesn't bother me like it used to because behind the facade, I can see that they actually are very attracted to me.
I am ridiculously handsome, a decent looking coworker just told me out of nowhere that i would be too short for her to date me. I am 6’2 by the way. Its like they know that they have no chance so they are coming up with excuses for themselves.
I think we need proof you are ridiculously handsome. Just typing it on UA-cam doesn't prove it.
Not wishing to be harsh but anyone can claim anything online. Doesn't make it true.
And the number of men that would be considered ridiculously handsome by both men and women is, in my opinion, a very small amount. The world is not full of ridiculously handsome men. They're probably less than 5 percent of the entire male global population. Maybe smaller than 5 percent (depending how good looking - for example 9 out of 10).
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I’ve had that one too, bitches who don’t even know me or anything about me, approaching me out of the blue & telling me that they wouldn’t date a tall/v.attractive/muscular man. Wtf?
I tell them that I wouldn’t date anyone who is totally insecure about themselves.
@@Isikkkcan Women also use excuses to not date when they aren't attracted. Saying you are too short is obviously a lie. I see many chubby and average looking women with handsome guys
Lol shut up. U r lonely cuz u don't put urself out there. Make ur own luck
The biggest insecurity I’ve faced with women is that they think I’ll have wandering eyes if they get into a relationship with me.
Hi there Michael, I just wanted to reach out to let U know that it’s probably because U R a very nice looking young man. U look like my son, stay true to U the right girl will come✌️🦋
Just tell her "even if I sleep with her I'm coming back to you". Then just don't sleep with them.
Because you won't? Handsome men always wander around as they have more options, they have a higher libido than women.
@@NewYasmine-nl9jq not all are like that bro
@@OluwashindaraAjayi-s2g Men have a very high libido. I don't see any hot one not taking advantage of this. That's very rare.
This channel is a breath of fresh air in terms of dating and self improvement. Very grounded takes and advice
I get told I am good-looking all the time (by random people at bars, people I know at the gym, etc) but I feel like calling myself handsome seems like a copout, like there must be another reason why I feel this way. I have experienced 9/10 things you just spoke about. I've been in this position since I left school and dating options are very few and far between. My lack of success has always been followed by more self-improvement, but it literally does nothing.
Oh no.. that's where I'm at..
Female here but there are many points I related to not that I think I'm the most beautiful but I had no idea men go through jealousy or envy too for their appearance. I'm so sorry for anyone who has had to go through this. I relate to feeling lonely and people making comments about my appearance and feeling a sense of confusion. My heart really goes out to any man that has dealt with this and has genuine good intentions. Please know there is a woman out there that will love you for you.
I don’t think this matter or implies to women. If you are a beautiful woman, no way men will ignore your especially rich men. Unless you have a bad attitude(excuse me for this ). Men really experience this. I’m a good looking guy and I relate to this. I don’t know if it’s because I have a sigma personality.
It is harder for good looking men than women...since most women even average ones are surrounded by male simps ,it makes women have alot of options and ego boosted all the time..handsome men kinda intimidate women and like he said they will create prejudments about you like player ,narcissist,hard to please or control...
Chad isn't gonna reply to your comment, sis
My God this couldn’t have come at a better time. Been feeling EXACTLY like this and it’s been hell being so lonely. Especially when it seems like no dudes even want to be friends but I get compliments and stares from strangers.
I decided to level up on my looks and clothes. And I noticed that women don't even look at me. They always look straight forward. I even had one tell me not to look at her.
Hahahahah women are so complicated i swear
The code to women’s psychology will never be solved. It is an irreconcilable paradox men will have to live with forever
LMFAO! THIS IS CRAZY.
Similar issue here, women 20-35 do not even look, but outside those boundaries I get heaps of looks. Something happens to women after school and university, they lose all sense of reality and are hyper focused on a particular type of man only. This man will be dressed in athletic clothing, talking loudly to his equally attractive male friend and that's what they want.
I don't .....they stare at me and give me convo and play . But I learned to tone it down and I still get the same results . I don't approach either they come to me. I just pay them no mind when I'm out
This vid is so on point. There is a natural jealousy for guys who are better looking and it leads to exclusion because they are seen as competition or as described.. unattainable. Great vid
I try to be optimistic in my views. Being open and being able to joke with everyone and when the time comes, be stoic, firm, intelligent, quick to make logical decisions have come to give me a majority of respect and be joyful to be around with. That is if you're already keeping your promises to yourself by trying to level up your life in areas you want to improbe and being displined. There are those who try to size you up due to their lack of insecurity, but that shouldn't phase you. Have your circles to chill, take advice, business, etc. Have balance, life is much more simple, less fear leads to less stress and decisions you won't look back on.
Well said bro
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life -- J o h n 3 :16
The story of my life.
- Women would either go psycho on me, or if I rejected them they would explode in madness
- or other guys would talk shit behind my back, invent stories or even come on to me
- gay guys would harass me or develop fixations on me
- the girls I was interested in would be totally ignoring me or even putting me down
- I would be misjudged before people even spoke to me
- I would be objectified in certain scenarios
- girls with boyfriends would use me and/or come on to me to make their partner jealous (thus creating conflicts I did not cause at all)
- I would be hated by some and weirdly idolized by others
- women would want to be seen in public with me
- people would too often totally misread me as they would be under the impression that I was into them when I would just be talking to them
- folks would suddenly be flashing me and/or grope me
- strangers would offer to pay me to have sex with them and their wives
- some would become unhealthily possessive of me
...and I could go on and on and on........
My best buddy is a chubby, unattractive, non-competitive amazing guy who's got my back. No issues, no jealousy at all.
At the gym some guys above average can give out some hateful energy while others seem so intimidated to the point of having some weird sort of admiration from a safe distance.
Weird. Just always been weird.
Spot on could you please share more ?
Ok parked my truck … WOW… I needed to hear this. Ironically, I was having these thoughts as I was coming out of the gym at work. This video is so relatable. I’m turning 42 next week and still single with no kids, women praise me about my looks and how handsome and when I make the approach I get turned away because they feel so insecure because they think im a cheater and womanizer. But like a lot folks said… a man alone has a purpose, is focused, and working towards new challenges and adventure. Keep your circle small and your faith wide. Believe that God has something in stored for you and keep pressing forward. Do not settle for the sake of feeling lonely, strive to become the better version of yourself. Stay healthy brothers and sisters. I am new subscriber
The only women we can get are single moms and ones we've known for at least a year.
The rest fall into the category of everything you said.
Cold approach and dating apps? Not happening
@@JohnnyAllan-vj7sj what’s even more sad is that some of these single moms came from solid and profound family structures, well mannered and caring. But their poor choice led to pick to most toxic of men thus turning themselves into monsters
I'm not alone! Sadness keeps me company.
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Very insightful and touches on a topic that is rarely if ever spoken about or understood. I’ve struggled with this through out my life and never understood why. Thank you
Recently came to terms with this situation. I’m used to being alone but I just get disappointed in how people act sometimes cause I wouldn’t do that to them but you’re right resilience and increasing your standards are the only way.
They'll be playful around others, but serious and stressed out w/ you. Or they crowdsource or mobbing you w/ like three or more ppl to socialize w/ you at one time. You'll always be outnumbered, ppl rarely deal w/ you one on one.
the More handsome you are the Nicer you have to Be the More humble you have to behave the more Genuine you have to be,
it is a responsability for me to Lead others That if this Handsome guy can be that humble you as an avg guy have no Business feeling like you are james bond
I always saw that Hot guys had a bad Rep of being douchy So I took it upon myself to Be The most Humble and actually Make everyone feel important i Compliment other men and Alway talk to that shy or girl ... remember if youre handsome other people are looking at you To lead them to be better people
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life -- J o h n 3 :16
THIS!
Dude stop that. You 'people pleasing'. You don't have to do shit!
Fck those people who go against you because you just exist. How are you to entitle yourself that YOU have to lead anyone? Just do what you love to do and don't give a damn about what any sheep thinks about you. I can just tell you out kg experience. I'm a very attractive man myself and what you say reminded me on myself years ago. It is better that nobody likes you, BUT respects (and fears) you. When you look good they gonna like you anyways. Remember that!
Please stop doing that as a guy in 2024
he's just being kind
What matters most is how you connect with people not how you look. And don't stress too much about being self aware all the time. Sometimes, it's just you overthinking things. Just be yourself and the right people will come into your life naturally.
The passive aggressive bs we face from other dudes is crazy, even my "friends" always try to put me down or sabotage my self image, I always get challenged when entering new groups because the guys get insecure and try to bring you down in front of the other women....
I have a hard time accepting the label of "handsome" or "attractive" as an explanation for my experience. Too many people overrate themselves and I refuse to be so delusionally cringe (at least publicly). Still, the fact that you make a video like this despite the arguably small audience it's intended for is helpful. In private where I'm free to reflect, I can sort through in earnest how it might apply to me and adjust my outlook accordingly. Resilience is well-named as a virtue to include here. Wish I had friends like you irl but I'm a big fan of your content regardless, Danny.
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I am 37 and I had no idea any of this was a thing until I stumbled upon this video and it absolutely blew my mind. Everything that was said I have experienced and could never understand what was happening in my life. It’s not only confusing but it’ll screw up your life if you’re not aware of it. I appreciate this and I Thankyou for the wisdom and knowledge that was shared. I feel like I may now have a tool to get my life back.
Great handsome men game videos man. I've been strugling with that for a while and could not find confort and meaning in this issue.
This discussion helped me understanding myself better and how to approach it with more consciously
Thanks!
Cheers from Brazil
Thank you for this. It hits home to my experience throughout my life. I get many compliments over my looks but I'm usually alone and it's difficult for me to flirt without coming across as a jerk. I have to hold back on any cockiness whereas the next guy can say things that are downright offensive imo, without facing any backlash. I hate being thought of as unattainable and unapproachable.
This was a huge problem for me being 6'4'' and decently looking for most of my life. I definitely got gaslighted early on and believed I was ugly and that something was truly wrong with me. It was only until 30+ I realized that people were playing mental gymnastics to make THEMSELVES feel better for THEIR insecurities. Eventually discovering semen retention/nofap, I found myself no longer giving a fuck what anyone thought. I am now fucking free to be myself and I NEVER give anything a second thought. Whether you like me or not, doesn't change a fucking thing in my head now. It is quite honestly the most freeing fucking experience I've ever had.
Never resonated with a video so much in my life. So glad I watched this. I’ve had many comments since I started training at 14 (now 28) directed at me “oh I thought you’d be a dick but you’re actually really nice” purely based on the fact I was in shape and looked after myself. Now I rarely get invited to anything, do life on my own and still get jealous comments. Glad to see I’m not alone.
“I’d rather be covered in sweat in the gym, than clothes on the beach”.
At this point most guys don't want you stealing their chicks. I embrace it and don't care. Picking up a good woman is really what I want anyway more than guy friends. My guy friends can be co-workers or people at church.
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I spent the day in isolation today bro. It be mad confusing having girls stare at you, seem highly interested, then be scared to talk to you. I just stayed away from society today.
I’ve never felt a video understood me more than this one. Basically everything you mentioned, I’ve experienced at some point in my life, especially recently with taking self improvement seriously. From the apparent turn off by women, to the compliments, to feeling excluded in my friend group, to feeling something is wrong with me. Also since I do have a problem solving mentality, it amplifies all of this. Thanks, Danny.
Yeah bro you're a 10/10 male model all women are afraid of you lmao
THANK YOU! I needed this gem!
I am not "handsome" per-se, just different enough form my local/national demographic to be considered good looking, and hearing all these points from an outsider was a breath of fresh air that assured me I was not being paranoid.
And yeah, to sum the situation up in a single sentence: When you're decent looking, you always have a giant target on your back.
I stumbled across this video by chance and...I really appreciated it. I was often complimented for my looks and my voice - it was mostly from 1. guy friends 2. family (doesn't really count, does it) 3. older women (50plus) 4. girlfriends. I know I'm no Bvlgari ambassador material, but contrary to these remarks I had zero attention in public.
Well known "signs women find you attractive" was NIL. No one looked nervous around me, no double takes, no frequent eye contacts and of course, no one ever came to chat me up (I'm too shy to go and chat anyone up myself though). And I came to make sense of this as "mkay, people who compliment my looks are being polite"
But it got more and more annoying when someone compliments my looks. "You must have a pretty girlfriend" "a lot of girls must like you" all that turned in my mind as "are they mocking me? Am I giving off an aura that I like my looks so much and they're annoyed?? why are they so mean?"
I don't think I'm terrible looking, perhaps some fortunate features - tall nose and a bit sharp for an asian, that kinda thing. But I see so many "average" (nothing against them, I'm sure their personality is great) guys with relatively attractives partners, and I purely wondered what is going on.
I mean some women seemed to be visibly turned off by the idea of dating me - a female friend made this scrunchy face when we were having drinks with other friends, and on the topic of relationships, she mentioned "ok, let's pretend you guys are dating, right? and let's say you, as a boyfriend did this..."
It's not like I asked her for coffee even lol And yet, from time to time, I still get compliments. It literally made zero sense! I wished they would stop mentioning anything about my looks, I wished i could wallow and be happy I'm just another average or maybe even lesser guy. Stop giving me weird confidence boosters that the real world isn't relflecting! I don't want to be delusional! It drove me nuts
And it'll seem whiney to be "oh but women don't talk to me" - it's sincere, but it's clearly going to sound like I want attention. Not really, I just wanted to be real.
Sorry this became so long, but out of everything out there, you are the only person who gave the closest thing to a convincing explanation. Thank you.
Anyone who’s an 8 and up can relate to this this shit is so annoying..whenever you go to look at someone in public you can tell they were looking at you so you turn to look at them but right as your looking at them they’re in the middle of turning their head away from you 😂 it drives me insane!!! because this happens everyday one way or another.. I’m literally tired of going out in public. Or you’ll see a group of coworkers talking but as soon as u walk up they all start acting different..or you’ll literally watch an average guy talk to people at your job so smoothly then as soon as u go to talk to them they’re visibly uncomfortable and short with you.. nothing flows because peoples nerves are going haywire when you’re around…
I don't know about co-workers but what might work apart from that is changing your image. You can't change your looks but you can change your appearance.
Same here something I didn’t see you mention but I’ve also experienced is when you walk in a store where people are talking, your presence is felt and then all of the sudden dead silence.. or the guy who is clearly analyzing you , you make eye contact with him but he won’t look away trying to intimidate you. I always smirk like yeah I know you see this greatness and I know u hate me. On the flip side I really don’t like it because I would like to connect but tend to feel my attractiveness is a barrier for some which causes me to be in my head a bit. I catch myself having some form of anxiety at times before I step into public because I’m aware of what I will run into. A bunch of insecure goobers. I always try to remind myself “look the only reason they act like this is because they aren’t you. “ So I hold my head higher. Still is tough at times. The only great conversations I’ve had are with people who are secure within themselves otherwise it’s some goober who acts like I’m not there or is trying to speak negatively on my life and who I am as a person TO OTHER PEOPLE but it’s hilarious because they have the slightest clue who I am. it’s all based on inferences they’ve assumed onto me , which is based on first impression, which is usually based on appearance (clothes, face, body) just crazy how some people treat you even when they don’t know you or so called “friends” in secret competition with you. It’s tough but on everything I love I wouldn’t trade it for anything else. Glad I’m not the only one.
Exactly 💯
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life -- J o h n 3 :16
I get the head turns, only from women tho. With men they consistently want ALL THE eye contact, very sus btw. But I know what you mean the attention is annoying AF 😡
Bro everything you spoke about is exactly what I've experienced in my adult life. Thanks for covering this topic I never realized how common it aurally was.
I'm one of these men. Women will make excuses why they broke up. My counselor said women date below themselves and that most have low self-esteem due to being treated badly by men, so they presume a good looking guy will cheat. Hence they bail. I've given up. Money will get you women over looks. Bottom line is there are a lot of damaged women out there due to men treating them bad. I'm staying single here on out.
Counselor is full of shit. Women try to date up. And of course they blame men again. Your counselor is blue-pilled as fuck.
Yeah im the same i know i am women check me out but ignore my approach and men just stare to intimidate me, i dont react im now confident in myself but it is hard.
It might have been easier in the past to get away with looks only, but now you're income is visible by online social verification. If you don't have money to match, it's transient friendships only. I have plenty of fun with the young women at work, but I am not even in their consideration for a future due to obvious income failings. However that is also my choice to live at the minimum.
Who told you this?
A woman counsellor?
Women’s low self-esteem, insecurities & their “damage” is not caused by men.
They are conditioned that way by other women, social media, advertising, the education system, etc, & it feeds into the way their brains are hardwired for attention & emotional turmoil.
It’s very convenient for men to be blamed yet again for all the problems that these women have isn’t it?
And women will rarely admit how attracted to you they really are, unless you're really not that attractive. How many women have you dated who actually gave you any credit? I bet it's very few.
I'm just saying this because sometimes we'll feel like "Maybe I'm just too into myself and not that good looking", but then some random outspoken lady will say "Oh my God, wow you're so handsome! Are you married?" or whatever... and the confusion starts all over again! Lol
(I hope someone can relate)
I'm not saying this video was the answer I was looking for, yet I've been praying for one. When it sounds like he's talking to me, this video has definitely answered a lot 🙏
Such a brother … u just explained the shit ive been thru in my life
U got my respect bro
I had enormous social problems because of jealousy, being uninvited and excluded by my shorter, uglier peers and friends.
I thought it was just me. Thanks for making sense of this
bro crazy how you talk about my life :D and the processes and lessons i learned. but also some, i didnt yet. helped me a lot and especially got me being understood. thank you!
This has kind of been my life recently, come back home after things didn’t work out in college. Fell into a deep depression and decided to get myself back in shape really to save my life. Went from 260-250 all the way down to 200-210 and I look like a completely different person. Heard all the congratulations and things like that then eventually things started shifting around me and I started getting looks from both men and women like they can’t believe at what they’re looking at. Then dealt with some jealousy from guys from a gym I used to go to and to say the least some people tried to f*ck me over. It can be a bit discouraging but I rather deal with these problems then deal with problems with my health. Stay Strong out here good people 💙💪🏾
“You start to get annoyed with the attention” man that spoke to me. I want to be friendly but it frustrates me that some men don’t know their place and won’t stay there. It always gets awkward afterwards. I really can’t stand the sneaky intentions to turn a platonic relationship into a romantic one.
Shout to all the men who continued to watch after he clearly stated this video was for handsome men. Confidence ✅
This literally just opened my eyes so much, you literally explained exactly how i think and i thought it was just me overanalyzing, I could never figure out why certain people that used to be close to me just suddenly lost respect for me and people i wouldn’t expect to do the things they did, they sure did it. Thank you Danny!
Wow! This really helped me. I’m 44 and have been told a lot over the years that I am an attractive guy. In fact, a lot lately. And yet, I have always struggled to date. Been looking at where in me these insecurities come from. I think that’s a critical piece e. But I think that there might be something to this idea as well. Thank you for the video!!
What I hate the most is when a girl would completely change their demeanor when taking to me compared to someone else.
It's the worst...they are so cold and distant with you but friendly and bubbly with everyone else....this happens to me alot!!!
@ I’d say it’s because some are shy. Shows you’re also attractive to her.
Beautiful people get discriminated against because people are filled with envy. You have to be very self aware and confident to counter this. It doesn’t help that people think being beautiful is like living life on easy mode
Thank you for speaking the truth... As a high value man.. With looks.. Height.. Build.. Career and success... You almost push people away rather than draw them in...
Wow! This video is a huge eye opener. Can’t thank you enough brother
Thank you it's courageous to speak on this topic without people thinking your a narcissist or something.keep up the great work
This is phenomenal content, elegantly delivered
It’s nice to see other guys who relate to those problems. You cannot be very vocal about it because people often assume you’re being obnoxious, or presumptuous. I think navigating through it is specially difficult in your early - mid 20s, after repeated good and bad experiences you end up learning… But it does feel lonely.
2:00 Haha, this is definately true, most men get nervous when around their wife or girl
Happens every day I work at a restaurant
They get nervous when their around their own girl?
@marcusknoll9500 I think he meant that dudes get nervous when good looking guys are around another man's wife or woman.
@@ThatMNTrucker93 I get ready ta kill
@@ThatMNTrucker93 ps....I'm a trucker too ..n I lived in MN at one time🤣🤣🤣lol😛😛😛
Being handsome, tall and hilarious has never been more of a hindrance.
It's like owning a Ferrari that you can't drive
Have you really tried to put yourself in lots of diverse settings for interactions with people? Or are you just sticking with your possibly limited comfort zones?
@@BigBadJerryRogers honestly no. I moved to a new town and don’t have any friends here, and although that shouldn’t matter, I rarely have gone into those situations. Each time I connected with people but never met an available girl.
@@Sorcerers_Apprentice_11 appreciate the admission. This is a lot of the problem. You have to make more of an effort, that's life. And at least you're making connections, the more you do that the bigger your circle grows and more possibilities come
@@donthurtus Now that’s painful… goddamn painful!!
There may be some truth to this about handsome men but the Definite Truth is that Humbly Confident Men/People, who are GOOD with Who and What they are, without any outside validation or anything ADDED to them, will mostly live a lonely life because insecure, narcissistic individuals will not understand them or have the ability to deal with their confidence...
.. Another thing is that insecurity is at an All-Time High at present and only the people that are Truly Confident will know this and be quiet about it until its time to speak on it in a wise way. The Insecure Ones will always be LOUD about their NOT being insecure...
and most girls fall for the loudness and then cry that he didn't live up to it... who knew.
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Thanks
Appreciate you brother 🙏
Man, you are describing me, I thought something was wrong with myself
Thank you for this video!