How to Recover After LOSING YOUR DOG - EP.65
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- Опубліковано 25 гру 2020
- The death of a beloved dog, or any pet, can be a very traumatic experience and one many of us have faced. How we handle our stress can be largely dependent on the people we surround ourselves with and what we do immediately following the loss.
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After my podcast on Grieving the Loss of a Dog, I wanted to make a follow-up podcast to talk a little about what we should and should not do after losing a dog.
I sincerely hope that this video will help you to better cope with one of the hardest times in your life.
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Hi Robert. I don’t know if you will read this, but how does one get over rehoming a beloved dog? I’d been fostering a rescue dog for a month. Adorable 11 year old Pomeranian I named Fox. He was the sweetest dog I’d ever known. But I have lots of rescue cats and a mentally handicapped sister I take care of, so after wavering several times, the rescue found a great home for Fox. The day I gave Fox to the new owner, I felt heartsick but tried to convince myself it was for the best. He’s in a great loving home now but I am absolutely bereft and have cried every day since, regretting my choice to give him up (a couple of times I was sure I would keep him, but I kept wavering ) So the dog didn’t die, but I feel the loss of him immensely. I remember all the moments, how he slept next to me every night, lied on chest and gave me kisses, followed me everywhere, etc. He was only 7 pounds so I held him all he time. I miss him so much and wish every day I had kept him big obviously his new family is already in love with him after having him for 11 days. How do I accept what I did? I’m grieving as hard as if he had died, as strange as that sounds, because even though he is thriving elsewhere, he is no longer with me, and the emptiness is profound. I’ve had many losses in my life- my mom, dad. Half-sister, friends, death of bf, so i donno if this immense grief I feel ties into that. But you are right- there is no animal that we bond with as strongly as a dog, and even though it was only a month, I was completely crazy about him, and I hate that I let that go, and while I’m relieved he is in a great home, a part of me is envious of it too because they will get to experience that wonderful love and affection for the rest of his life, while I foolishly gave it up. I’m just heartsick and devastated
I gotta say, and this is not a shot at you Robert, but after watching/listening to maybe half or all of this, I challenge everyone to pause a moment and kinda step out of it and think about how much of the time in this obviously sincere and super important vid and subject was spent on disclaimers, like:
1.) one of the reasons that loosing a dog or pet is so hard is b/c your dog or pet will be the being you spend the most time with….besides maybe your spouse or partner….errrrr hopefully you spend more time with your spouse, obviously
2.) there will be people who belittle or downplay your pain…. PEOPLE, don’t say stupid shit to someone who just lost a pet
3.) hurting or killing yourself may seem like a good idea but obviously isn’t right answer…. Obviously I wasn’t saying to think about commiting suicide when I said you may feel like you want to die…
4.) a pets like a kid but not like a kid , to some people a dog is like there kid obviously I’m not equating a dog to same thing a mother feels for a child…. But loosing a dog can be devastating….obviously I the GREATEST LOSS is that of a parent losing a child…
4.) “hrmpfff, I thought I WAS your best friend…” obviously I’m not saying “my best friend” means I like the companionship of my dog better than my spouse/partner
Sigh… sigh…
Sigh…
We suck sometimes. HARD. Sooooooooooo Lame
@@p2pportal Abit cruel.....some people can't have kids so their dog IS their child and to loose a dog is equal to loosing a child and to say otherwise won't do you any favours within the dog parent community.
It will be two weeks tomorrow that I lost my 12.5 year old wolf dog. She was my heart and soul. I miss her so badly. There are no words.
I've just put my 16 year old Minie to sleep. She started to stop eating, losing strength on her legs, and has been down hill for the last couple of weeks. My heart has been ripped out of my chest. I feel nausea, guilt, sorrow, emptiness, high level of anxiety. For anyone suffering from losing the company, the love, the connection, their eyes looking at you, their smell, the bark and the presence of your beloved pet, a big hug to you...
Hugs to you too. I just lost my 17 year old Cookie a couple of days ago on June 10th. I’m heart broken. I’m having a hard time sleeping or eating, and I can’t stop crying. I’ve been trying to keep it together for her best friend and companion, Bella, because she’s really grieving too.
I've just put to sleep my Yorkie of 13 years and the pain is unbearable but he was so ill and not seeing his face in morning is so painful I totally get your pain and it's heart wrenching but we have each other as dog parents so we know what we're talking about.
2 mins ago my dog just got put to sleep
@@GiveLeshawna_Luv I'm feelin' you, mate as we lost our beautiful little 12yo girl, Ellie (see my avatar) just 3 days ago. My partner and I are bereft beyond comprehension, basically inconsolable until today. We miss her more than words could possibly convey.
You too ❤ thank you. Put my best friend down today. I’m so crushed.
I'm a farmer by profession. Through the years, I've gone through the passing of 3 dogs. I buried them in my plantation. Macy (15) was buried under a jackfruit tree, Kara (15) soursop tree and Kramie (14) under the shade of a durian tree. This may sound silly, but in being able to care for these trees and keeping them in good health gives me a semblance of continuity of the care and love I gave to my dogs....
That sounds very natural and normal and not crazy at all I wish I could do the same for my dogs. I actually wanted to do something similar but the problem is that in about 15 years when my parents pass, I live with them and take care of them, this home will probably be sold and I don't want their remains left here without me
this is beautiful
That’s truly beautiful ! It’s been 4 months now since I lost my dog and I am still devastated and missing him. I am recently fostering a bulldog that was at a shelter. It helps but she doesn’t replace my boy . I was thinking about adopting her but really feel I can’t give her my heart like I did to my Ninny.. so perhaps it’s not fair to her to adopt her . I’m lost on what to do !
As a famer. I'm a normal. Blue colour job. How can you do this all the time. This shit huts x
It’s one of the worst feelings. It’s not just a dog it’s a Friend. A Dogs love and loyalty Is like losing a piece of your soul.
People can be backstabbers, cruel, jealous, haters etc. Dogs can be none of those things, that is exactly why I prefer dogs over people. Unconditional love from dogs is unmatched.
Such true words. It’s gut wrenching pain. I’m
Just going through it now and I’m beyond worst sad and somewhat lost.
Very well put. It is like losing a piece of your soul. I'm going through it now. I'd rather get shot 10 times then go through this pain I'm going through! It's like losing a child, a companion, and a best friend all at once!
@@3520506 Im going through this now, I lost my baby boy on Thursday, he was 14 years old and the love of my life! I'm devastated!!
I just put down my pug at the vets, delivered him and bottle fed him a long 14-1/2 years and his mobility went to hell, he couldn’t walk and lost bowel and bladder control. Its very hard, he was my all in all and he helped me with my accident of 23 years ago he was a great help in my recovery, i hope theres a heaven where we can meet again and enjoy each other.
He was incredibly smart and could count randomly 1-10 verbally or visually, 15:47 roll over, speak, say i love you, dance, fetch, shake, and
I lost my Princess 3 days ago. 13 years. She was my everything. I am a mother of 4. I’ve lost people very close to my heart including grandparents and my dad. I can say without a doubt this is the most painful loss. I can’t stop crying . She was my 4th child. 💔.
Some people just don't get it. Sending hugs to all that have suffered the loss of their best friend ❤️
Thank You❤❤
Just lost My Caroline yesterday it so hard ! Her side of the bed is now empty she never sleep on a hard floor.! You can never trust someone who doe's not love animals !!
I have no children. My dog is my child. I dread this day...she saved my life and is my whole world. The day she leaves me.... i will be broken
This was my exact situation as well. No children, my dog saved my life, he was literally my entire world. I was afraid that it was going to destroy me irreparably once I lost him. Even other people worried about the day because of our special bond. I just lost him 3.5 months ago and somehow he left me with something that has made me able to keep going. I can’t completely explain it but it feels like it would hurt him to see me shut down completely and lose all the progress he helped me through. I am able to keep moving forward in his honor and I can feel how proud of me he is. I just wanted to let you know that because it feels miraculous and I never would have thought it possible. ❤
it happened to me 5 years ago, I and am still broken....
The HARDEST part of owning a dog , is SAYING GOODBYE
+Sharman collins The puppy I use as an avatar is my dog Curt. Curt was with me for 12 years until he lost his fight against his Cancer a month ago and my grandpa had died a week prior. So these 2 deaths came totally unexpectedly, and after I sat with my dogs head in my lap the veterinarian put him to sleep. Its the worst pain I have ever felt! A month has passed and Im still crying every morning.
@@Melchersson I am so Sorry for your loss . I LODT 3 DOGS IN 15 MONTHS 2 to cancer ..ITS VERY HARD ,as they all take a piece of your heart ❤
@@sharmancollins5594 Thank you. I got advice from a friend to NOT have another dog the first thing you do! Im gonna wait until I feel ready to bring home a new dog.
The positive part and strange part of this is that I and my girlfriend have woken up several nights, and we are hearing the same sounds we always heard when Curt was getting up on his favorite sofa in our bedroom at night. We have experienced several strange things indicating he is still around.
WITH ALL DUE RESPECT, WE HUMANS DONT OWN ANYONE’S LIVES. THESE ATE PRECIOUS CREATURES THAT GOD MADE FOR US TO LOVE THEM AND RESPECT THEM AS WELL AS VALUE A LIFE. WHEN YOU SAY YOU OWN, YOU AND MOST PEOPLE MEAN OWN AN OBJECT. LIKE A CAR, HOUSE, FURNITURE, ETC... CERTAINLY, A LIVING BREATHING BEING IS NOT AN OBJECT. YOU CAN BETTER SAY, YOU ARE THE CARETAKER, OR THE ONE RESPONSIBLE FOR THE PUP, OR EVEN THE PUP’S GUARDIAN. ANIMAL ACTIVIST AS WELL AS PETA AND MANY OTHER LARGE ANIMAL ORGANIZATIONS ATE TRYING TO CHANGE THE WAY WE REFER TO OUR COMPANIONS. PLEASE BY NO MEANS, I AM TRYING TO BE DIFFICULT, BUT IF WE DONT SHARE THEN HOW DO WE EXPECT PEOPLE TO UNDERSTAND WHY SOMETHING IS DONE IN A BETTER WAT. THANK YOU FOR YOUR UNDERSTANDING..
SO True. They live such a short time, and in that short time, they give us a LOVE that is so deep, so undescribable, so pure.
I just don't know what more to say...it's beyond words.
So true about women who don't have kids, really feeling the loss hit deeper and harder. I am that woman! No kids. My dog was like my little girl. I just had to put her down a few weeks ago. Dinner time and coming home to an empty house is extremely lonely and surreal. This has been such a raw experience. I've gone through so many tissues, it is unbelievable pain...💔There are no words. Thank you for your compassion.💗
I’m so sorry . I also lost my pet last year I don’t have kids . We women take them us our babies . The depression is real .
@@NA-vt6mz TY...it is heartbreaking...I feel like we're the only one who really knows our level of pain...Sorry for your loss, too...
@@rachelr8837 my husband wants to get another pet but I’m not ready to go through the same pain again . I’m scared .
@@NA-vt6mz I hear you...I feel the same...it's too raw still...one day...
I have a human child but am terribly grieving my baby girl doggy dying. The childless do not have more pain
Very helpful ! I lost my dog yesterday and I can’t eat or sleep he was 14 years and he took my heart with him .. I don’t think I’ll ever get attached to another dog . We had such a special relationship and he understood me the most out of anyone in this world and now he gone . 😢
Sydney i lost my Russell Terrier on the 9th of may. Im Totally heartbroken, he was 14 years old too. He went everywhere with me i took him everywhere we were inseparable and now hes gone. Sometimes when i wake up i put my hand down to touch him thinking hes still there. then i realise. Hes not there now.
This is the lowest ive ever been in my life and i don't know what to do. It hurts i know im sorry for your loss i wanted to leave a message because of their ages and they passed about the same time. I hope you're ok. you understand what its like as do i 💔🙏🌈🌉🧎😢
So sorry… 😢
Just lost my dog yesterday I completely feel the same its been very hard on me but life is life so not much we can do but look at the bright side
I just lost my baby of 12.5 years. I feel for you ❤
I relate. I lost my favorite Kevin and sweet Louie 7 days apart. I was so distraught I did not want to eat either and I still cry about Kevin and Louie every night. I still have my big dog Bear and I made a rash decision and went out and adopted two shelter dogs. One of them is very sweet even though I'm having a harder time bonding, and the other one I cannot bond with but he is highly adoptable, small, sweet, not barky, Etc. I'm going to find him a great home and then I found a dog that the shelter that is a senior that has teeth rotting out of its head and reminds me of my Kevin a lot so I'm trying to raise funds for him right now because I do rescue work as well to at least get his Dental extractions done and I will pull him from the shelter if I am able to do so. He's the only little dog I can bond with after Kevin.
My 1 year old German Shepherd passed away suddenly with no warning immediately abruptly and has destroyed our entire family. This just happened 3 days ago. The worst part is not knowing what happened and constantly blaming myself thinking I did something wrong. Thank you for this video, my heart is so broken and will never be the same.
Hope you are better now
My 2-year-old feline son passed on Saturday night. The death was unexpected and traumatic to witness. I could tell he was scared and in pain. We managed to get him to the emergency room but he died 10 minutes later, with us in the next room. Like in your case, there is no good explanation. Our whole existence is sad and empty. We all died with him on Saturday night.
Same here I hope you’re better. Lost my 18 month Freenie Louie three days ago. Went for a walk and he had a stroke.
Big hugs. My boy passed on Friday and that's how I feel. I blame myself.
Lost one of my best friends 2 days ago. The pit in my stomach that comes up into my throat and into my eyes is overwhelming. The miss of her presence leaves such a empty hole inside. After 13 years of being togther it is just heart breaking. I was lucky enough to carry her to work every day with me and on the weekends we were always together doing stuff or just chilling at home. Every thing I do for the first time since her passing is just heart wrenching and almost unbearable at times.
You are not alone. I lost my beloved Henry on 12/22/22. I have cried everyday. Sometimes uncontrollably. I would always say to him, "What would I do without you".......I'm still trying to figure this out. The grief and sadness are overwhelming. I will pray for you and all the others who are suffering such a loss.
I know my wee girl died yesterday , im heartbroken , can't eat , I just keep crying, the house is empty everything reminds me of her , for 12 years I put her first , everything I did I did with her
I’m a mother and grandmother and yet it still feels as bad as losing a child
You are the first person that expressed and displayed complete and utter comprehension of the immense pain experienced by one who has deeply loved and bonded with their dog. I lost my Beloved Tigger on August 10th, and the pain is unrelenting. I'm disabled, don't work, have no transportation, and Tig and I were together, just the 2 of us, 24/7, for 8.5 years. He was my world. Thanks for being who you are.💔🐾💔🐾💔
So sorry, bless you for sharing 💜💜💜
I am also mourning the loss of my two girls, I lost mine 6 mo apart. I also live alone and am disabled. It is a terrible loss. I sincerely hope you are doing alright. The loneliness is so hard..........
@@PatrickJDaley Pat and Jean, I hope you are both doing ok. You have a friend here that understands. Sucks!!!
I feel your pain.
So sorry to hear. I get it. I get it. Been through it too losing my fur babies. It’s so immensely painful.
I lost my dog to liver cancer two days ago, it felt like apart of me died as well. She was my shadow, helped me through very difficult times. I am devasted it is just so painfull. The pain is just to much..I loved her so much she was my world. I can't stop crying.😭😭
I’m sorry for your loss. I feel the same way. I lost my love yesterday to CHF. The pain is unbearable. She was my soul mate and love and light of my life. I can’t begin to describe how difficult this is. I hope we find peace soon.
@@lemonpi26 I had to put our toy poodle to sleep 2/5/2023 we didn't know he had liver cancer and a infection the pain is devastating and unbearable I'm currently looking for a counselor
@@whoaskedyou. I'm so sorry for your loss. Your dog loves you no matter what, just remember that.
@@lemonpi26So sorry all. It’s horrific isn’t it 🧸🎈🥰
😢❤
I lost my dog a little over 24 hours now,. I’m completely heart broken. It came so fast. I couldn’t watch him suffer anymore.
This video has help me a lot . I still have the pain but I don’t feel so selfish
You did the best for him. I'm so sorry for your loss 😢
I lost my 11 year old German shepherd junior on the 11th April and I am really struggling coping. I just miss him so much! 😢
I had to put my 12 yo retired k9 gsd down this morning on an emergency basis. We didn’t have time to say a lot of goodbyes as she was in so much distress by suddenly going blind. GSD’s are the most amazing dogs - I will never be able to open my heart to another dog like I did with Nina. She was there when my husband suddenly passed in 2016 and my mother just a few weeks ago. The pain is incomprehensible
Awwww I am so sorry for your loss
the sudden loss of a dog is the actual worst thing in the world
We never had kids, but we've lost our parents. This is a grief beyond anything iv ever experienced in my life. She WAS my child!! 😭
Thank you for your video, Robert. I lost my 13-year-old golden retriever 100 days ago tomorrow. We'd been together since she was 8 weeks old. I have lost other dogs but Julia and I were truly bonded on another level. I have never felt loss like this before and I still struggle with the guilt of making the decision too soon. She wasn't in total discomfort but she struggled making short walks over the last couple of weeks. It came on so quick. We were faced with a neurological diagnosis and then an amputation. I felt she told me it was time but at the same time, I had some doubts and that possibly we could make it another day, week, or month. I finally felt that I just couldn't put her through all the testing and surgery at her age. I must live with my decision but it haunts me. I only wanted the best for her. I now try to celebrate her legacy but as a human, I always wish that I had that one more day with her. It's a gut-wrenching feeling.
I believe you made the right decision. I lost my 17 year old dog five days ago. After viewing you tube videos about signs that your dog is dying, I knew that it was time. Charlie had most of them and I believe I helped him. I also loved that dog--17 years 24/7 we were together.
I had to put my best friend of almost 14 years down Friday September 15 2023. I have no words, I was there for the entire process and it has been hard to say the least. I doubt I'll ever be the same.
Awe. 😢my condolences to you. I’m so sorry. I lost my baby on March 19, 2024. I’m devastated as well. Take it one day at a time.
Absolutely incredible healing words. 1 week today my amazing boy left me suddenly, way too soon. I’m full of sorrow. We had a real love affair going on. When I go for a walk alone now 🥲I carry his lead, I leave the flap door open in case , I change his water daily, constantly talk out loud to him “ Charles your welcome on Mummy’s bed anytime” seems strange to many , However it’s soothing.
I'm so grateful to have found your podcast. I lost my soulmate-dog 15 weeks ago and I'm still devastated. My pain is crushing still, and your words gave me strength. I'm feeling my grief alone, rather than with people who love me, as they just don't get it. And that's fine. The connection I had with my boy will always be the greatest gift of my life. I miss him terribly. Thank you for your programs.
Beth, I am so sorry for your loss. You are right, many people don't understand the bond between a dog and their owners. I have been praying and asking God that we are reunited one day in heaven. That helps me cope with my sadness.
@@ernieprice4318 we WILL be reunited one day. This I'm sure of. 🐾❤
I’m so sorry. I know your pain. I lost my son, my soul, my heart - today. It’s so excruciating. I have another dog and now feel terrified to go thru this again with her.
I hope you are feeling more at peace❤
Same here. Sorry for your loss. It’s pain like nothing else.
Yes the pain is more personal. Only animal. Lover can relate.. I thank you for posting this video. You express it entirely how to cope.
The world lost the cutest little dog ever yesterday 4/13/21. She passed away unexpectedly and I am heartbroken. Goodbye Cali wags I miss you so much already. You were always such a good girl. I hope you get all the ear scratches, belly rubs, and treats you can handle in dog heaven. 😔😢
I just put down my baby girl 2 hours ago. Im laying in bed, her bed sits in the corner of my room I usually feel her warmth on my leg or stomach as we sleep together. I dont know what to do Ive cried all night but now This room feels so empty. I feel alone
I just lost my girl Sam yesterday. I havent been able to focus on anything, 13 years with her. I grew up with her, it wasn’t just losing a friend, it was losing a sibling.
Thank you for posting this. I just lost my dog today, had to put him down after he suffering so much from pain and I'm still in disbelief. My heart aches so much it feels like it will burst. I think about how I will be able to sleep when he's not beside me. It's like I just want to sleep and not feel it hurt so bad. But thank you for saying it's okay to hurt. It helps so much listening to someone that understands the immense pain of losing a dog
Hello dear... i already have that kind of pain earlier and i just recovering from his pain and starts a new journey by a new lovely 5 months old white puppy somewhat similar to your profile photo.we slept together walk together and most time i hug him and bring him since he is a little boy.But suddenly he died by parvo.
I dont get enough time to manage.He died so quickly.
now all my pain return again.💔
I hope you are doing well Renee, I feel your pain… I have lost 2 within 6 months. My last a month ago… nights have been the worst me me, I leave her toys and blankets she slept with on my bed. I feel your pain. Take care… 🐾🐾
I never imagined how painful this would be, I have lost dogs in the past but 14 years with this guy just is painful, hope your, well and prayers for you pain.
You described exactly how I feel right now. 💜🌈💜
Two days ago, I said goodbye to my sweet girl, Smidge. She was a miniature dachshund. Bladder cancer at 12.
I totally understand how you’re
feeling. I can barely talk about it or write about it. It seems the older I get, the more deeply I feel losses 💔
Had my beloved 15 year old German Shepherd, euthanized at home . She was my HEART DOG. It was one of the MOST agonizing, gut wrenching decisions I’ve EVER had to make. I’m SO glad I felled her transition in HER comfortable, peaceful environment filled with familiar scents, sounds, and visuals , embraced in my arms.
Although I’m an educator,Jada was MY TEACHER. Daily she demonstrated unconditional love, patience, discernment, living in the moment, confidence, and humor. I’m so many ways, dogs are closer connected to ✨Source ✨than we are. Love her deeply.
Love this. I also believe that dogs are more connected to ⭐ the source ⭐ than we are. Heart dogs especially are wonderful spiritual teachers. Someone wise in the comment section (can you believe it?!?) Said that grief is a journey so let your heart guide you through this time. Take care ❤
I just lost my first dog, my best friend for 14 years, two days ago. I feel so broken
I feel your pain. Been there ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I can relate, Amber. ♥ Fourteen years of long lasting memories. It's hard right now, but you're the one that gave your dog an enjoyable, loving home and the relationship you both had will never be forgotten.
I feel so sad for you. I've been through it 8 times and never gets any easier. They are family. I still cry sometimes when I talk about them. Sending my sincere condolences to you. 💔💞💖
I just lost mine after almost 16 years. So difficult. :( I'm so sorry for your loss.
💜💜💜 so sorry
We have children and Ive just lost our dog recently and it also feels like I lost a kid
Worst grief I’ve ever experienced
I lost my Grandpa Moses on the 19th October 21 and my Cola on the 25th October 21. I am 61 years old my children out of the home. I am not just devastated 😢 💔 I am physically ill with excruciating pain that cannot be described in words. They are my children.
Yes, I am with you there. So sorry you are hurting, too. It is miserable, heartbreaking pain.
Me too they are so loyal & lovable
Ditto- I don’t want to go on without her
i have to put my sweet boy down in a couple of days. hes almost 17 years old and has been with me since i was 8 years old. it still doesn’t feel real and im trying so hard to find comfort in your words. i can’t imagine life without my sweet boy💔
I had my best friend Abby (8.5 y.o. Staffy) euthanized 7 months ago (Oct 19, 2022) after a LONG year of battling dual-torn CCL's, chronic shoulder injuries, muscle atrophy, total incontinence, paralysis, bone cancer in her spine, chronic severe dehydration and eventual kidney failure and sudden blindness from the ongoing daily use of prescribed NSAID pain meds. I pretty much didn't work much at all in 2022, because I was home with her all day carrying her in/out several times a day, administering meds and sub-q fluids, massage therapy, physical therapy, red light therapy.....and I just didn't want to leave her alone. She was just a puppy when my wife left me and, since then it's been just me and Abby. She saw me at my worst, darkest, most depressing periods and she's the one who supported me and got me through those times. Everyone loves their dogs, but it's hard to describe how much she meant to me and what she did for my soul. She actually saved my life a couple times. I've lost best friends, my grandparents and other people I was very close to, which includes many other pets. I've gone through numerous breakups and, obviously I've gone through divorce. My first ex wife once told me that she was pregnant and that I was going to be a (first time) daddy. I was over the moon and IMMEDIATELY began restructuring my life and my goals to take care of this baby. Then she had a "miscarriage" and I would later find out that what REALLY happened, was she cheated on me, got pregnant, then felt guilty and had it aborted. I was devastated over hearing that, the betrayal. The grief I felt over these things didn't even come close to the hell I went through when the best friend that I've ever had got that shot and her lifeless body slumped into my arms, when just seconds earlier she was being doted on with Hershey kisses and love. Having to walk out of that room without her and seeing her laying there with her tongue out, that was the single hardest moment of my life. I'm not ashamed to say that I balled and wailed, without stopping for a solid week. For another few weeks after that, I wouldn't leave the house at all, because I thought that if her spirit came back to visit me, that she's be visiting me in our home and I didn't want to leave the house and miss that opportunity. So, for an entire month I stayed on my bed, where she laid next to me every single night of her life, minus the first 8 weeks before I took control of her. Gradually, my wails turned to cries and my cries turned to whimpers and they became less frequent.....but I am still struggling no less, 7 months later. I still talk to her everyday and I still tear up in the evening when she would usually be laying next to me. She used to love apples and would bark at me as her front legs hopped off the ground and she stared up at the apple trees and I would grab an apple and we'd sit and eat it together. I still can't look at those trees without thinking about her. There are too many other things to list that remind me of her to this day. Many people have suggested that I maybe get a new dog, possibly a rescue. While I love the idea of taking a dog out of a bad situation and giving them the love they deserve, I just don't feel ready yet, for several reasons. Last year was absolutely exhausting, physically, mentally and especially emotionally. It was a roller-coaster, she'd be her old self for a few weeks, then a week where I think it might be the end for her, then she's perk up again for a month, then another bad few days, just a lot of back and forth. It took it's toll on me in a lot of ways and I guess I'm still trying to recharge after all of that. I also feel that getting a new dog would force me to turn the page on Abby and start a new chapter and that terrifies me. I feel like that would push Abby even further away from me than it already feel like she is. My grief has improved a lot, but here we are 7 months later and I'm still working through it. Originally, I thought maybe I'd be ready for a new dog in the spring, but now I'm thinking maybe not until October, which will be one year since Abby was put to rest. Maybe it will take longer, I really don't know. I know that people lose dogs all the time (I've lost a few of them myself) and that it's a normal part of dog ownership, but this one hits me different than the others. I was far more bonded and much more connected, intuitively to this dog, for sure. I seriously feel for anyone who experiences this degree of bonding and connection to a dog and ultimately experiences that loss. It's almost soul-crushing. I am getting through it, but it's just taking a while. I WILL say though, that I've never been able to give and receive real, true unconditional love with any human the way that I have with my dogs over the years, particularly with Abby. The love, adoration and dedication we get from humans just can't be compared, at all, to that we get from a good dog who feels loved and cared for. It's just not the same, period. I think that most people tend to be too busy to form those types of connections to their pets, they're too bogged down and distracted by work, family, spouses, kids, activities, events, bills, etc and their household pets become more accessories within the home, rather than a focal point. I tend to put my pets above everything else, which includes people and, maybe that's wrong or dangerous of me to do, but that's just who I've always been.
I do hope that since this post you have found a reason to be happy again. I just lost harley a st bernard who was my life. Was only 4 and suffered since Friday before being put down this morning. The pain is indescribable and i have suffered post traumatic stress from hearing him cry and seeing him suffer.
@@szilviaszabo7940, I'm sorry to hear about your loss, my condolences. I still miss my Abby and think about her everyday, but I am much better than I was and time really does make the pain of her loss much more bearable. I haven't gotten a new dog yet, but I do think I'm getting closer to that point, maybe once the cold/wet months pass. It's tough, because these guys offer us a lot of qualities that are difficult to get from humans. The loyalty and unconditional love that our furry best friends give us simply can't be matched by a person, in my opinion. As a result, perhaps we sometimes let ourselves become a little TOO attached to them, which is tough because they don't live as long as we do. When we get a dog and become attached and emotionally dependent on them, we are setting ourselves up for heartbreak later on when they ultimately get sick, injured or old and pass. That is part of why I haven't gotten another dog yet, but it helps to realize a couple things. First, the pain of their loss, as bad as it feels, is worth the love and joy they bring to our lives while they are with us, as well as the life lessons that they teach us. Second, there are so many dogs out there, who are in a bad way and need dog lovers like us to step up and give them love and hope again. I'm not sure if you've lost a dog before, but the wound is still fresh for you, so it will take some time. Just be patient with yourself and don't fight the grieving process, let it run it's course and be grateful that Harley is no longer in pain or suffering. Just that thought right there is usually enough to take the edge off of the pain for me personally, just knowing that Abby isn't having to deal with everything she went through last year. I'm truly sorry you have to go through this. In my opinion, it's one of the hardest things a dog-lover can possibly go through, next to losing a child. Just get through each day one at a time and you'll come out of it. It will definitely leave a lasting scar, but that's how we grow as people and the pain you feel will lessen over time. You'll still miss Harley, you likely always will, but it won't hurt as bad. Instead of picturing his last days when he was at his worst, you'll start remembering all the good times, when he was at his best and happiest. Just be patient with yourself, like I said, and let the process play out. For some people, getting a new puppy relatively soon tends to help them in a lot of ways, though that wasn't the case for me. You'll know when that time is right, but just know that Harley doesn't want you to be sad and hurting, he wants you to be happy. Tough thing to consider so soon after their passing, but you'll get there. Take care of yourself and I wish you an expedient recovery, as well as peace and happiness again. It took me a little while and I didn't think I would recover from it, but I did and you will to, you'll be okay. Harley is doing just fine and he's still with you, rest assured. Take care =)
This sounds aLOT like me
I really needed to watch this video. I had to euthanize my dog yesterday. When I came back home everything was so different. I know my life is going to shift a lot since I no longer have him. What gives me comfort is that I know I made the right decision ( hardest one I have ever had to make). My dog was suffering too much. I knew the time had come. What makes me feel better is that I know that I truly loved my dog and I know that he knew that.
My heart goes out to you. I had to do the same a week ago. I’m so heartbroken. 💔🐶😭
I had to put mine down 15 days ago, it was no doubt THE MOST devastating moment of my life. When she took her last breath, it felt like a piece of me also died that day.
I’m on day 6 without my boy I also had to Make that decision . My heart goes out to you this loss will always be with us but they are also walking beside us
Never had a dog growing up, always wanted one. I married young and two months later got my first dog at a chicken swap (an event usually held at a hardware store where folks can buy/sell/trade small farm animals, tools and equipment). Some folks showed up with two puppies and said they were 8 weeks old that day and needed to go. Both females, collie/black lab mixes. One looked just like a collie and mine more like a lab. The collie looking one got scooped up quickly but no one wanted the lab looking one. I had no plans to get a dog that day, but I felt sorry for the pup (I had no idea what I was doing, lol). Long story short she came home with me. At three years old she saved me and my 6 month old son from a charging bull moose-the moose was only about 75 feet away from us. She intercepted and jumped on his head, chasing him into the woods. She is now 11 years old and has slowed down dramatically in the last few months. Took her to the vets and her liver numbers are elevated and keep going up..... I get a knot in my chest every time I think about what's coming. My first dog, my best friend. This year is going to suck. 😞💔
Update: I had to put her down two weeks ago. I am more tore up over losing this dog than any human I have lost. 😭💔
I am tearing reading yr story. But yr story and other have helped me going thru losing my 2 yr old baby. Thank you and yr baby is waiting for you on the other side, I know mine is.
I lost my dog a week ago and it’s really been tough. Your video here has been so helpful for me. It’s reassuring to hear you say go “just go through it” because my instinct was to do just that. Whenever a wave of grief hits, I let it wash over me. My dog was worth it. He was worth the pain I’m experiencing. Thanks so much for your encouragement and guidance through this process.
Lost our dog recently & nothing prepares you for the sadness .
The Spirit remains & knowing that gives some comfort plus the memories stay with you forever .
Thanks for the advice in this video .
2 days ago we put my 17 year old cat to sleep. The vet came here and while I was petting my kitty, she put her to sleep. We did it in my bedroom and the room feels sacred and full of her spirit now. She was a special cat, and we had a symbiosis like relationship like nothing I have experienced before. So gentle, graceful and wise.
I process my grief exactly the same as you, Robert. I go into this cocoon like state, but I come out stronger on the other side. She keeps communicating with me and teaching me from the other side. But her physical presence will be missed forever 🙏🐱❤️
At your 6 minute mark, this is what we struggled with when we had to make the decision to say goodbye to our 12 year old long haired Daschund Philippe. The weight of the doubt regrading the decision (just 6 days ago) is heavy. His heart was rapidly filling with fluid and a totally separate issue with potential kidney failure and Addison's Disease. We believe it was cancer just attacking his body. For about 24 hours, we waited and tried to see if any medicine would give some relief but when we saw him standing over the water bowl with no energy to drink it while having a hard time breathing, we took him to the ER vet and that is when she told us he was suffering and that more than likely all of the tests and procedures they had to do in order just to give him some relief off his chest; was something we didn't want to put him through. I have to know that decision that day was the best for him. Our sweet boy Phil; we miss you son.
I’m in tears just reading the comments. I love my Beagle with all my life and know this day will not escape me. 😭😭😭
My dog of 18 years and 8 months just died. She died naturally, I was forward and backward whether or not to put her to sleep, but she was just old, not suffering and in no pain. I thought that we have had such a long road together, I will leave it in God's hands. I also knew, deeply that in caring for her in her old age, is part of the package. She died naturally, at home, in my arms, with the other animals around her. It was profound to see her die, it brought such balance. My mom also died a month ago from cancer, the pain is unbearable. Both my soulmates, gone...
I had to put one of my cats to sleep at the vet years ago. When my other 19-year old cat was dying last June, I decided to let the nature take it's course. I took care of her until the end because I wanted her to know that she will be cared for until her last breath. Loved all my cats so much.
I'm sorry for your loss. You must have been a wonderful pet parent for her to live to almost 19 ❤
My precious Frankie became an angel last night. He was an Australian Shepherd that was the greatest frisbee catcher. I always felt like I was Joe Montana throwing a touchdown pass to him. He was showing no symptoms until a week ago. We took him to the vet, then he was transferred to another place. Anyway, terminal cancer. We showered him with love the last few days, gave him his favorite food and snacks. I am still in shock....he had just turned 8 and was still lightning fast. I am devastated, heartbroken and feel completely hollow. There are times when I just break down and cry like I've never done in my life. This hurts more than when I've lost family or friends. I know this healing process will take time. He was my best friend, wickedly intelligent, trained us humans, etc.....I can go on and on. Godspeed Frankie.
I completely understand you and I feel truly sorry for you loss. My Minie has been put to sleep tonight. I love her. I'm empty.
@@VeraCasaca Hi Vera, I am so sorry. I completely understand your pain and feeling of being empty. Personally, this is the most difficult thing I've experienced in my lifetime. I try and live my life in tribute to the greatest friend I've ever had. My buddy Frankie. Still doesn't feel real. I know he is with me always in my heart and by my side in another dimension I can't understand as a stupid human. As long as he is in my heart he'll never leave my side. I wish I could give you a hug. I am here if you ever need a friend. RIP Minie. xoxox
I lost my best friend Barkley suddenly yesterday after 11 joy filled years. He was my heart and soul, I’m broken without him 💔😭
I lost my soul friend of ten years
in November. I had been out of town for a month, and Sunny stayed with my parents. They told me he was missing me a lot and didn’t look well. I was home two days later and saw that he was actually mortally ill and had to make the decision to end his life within 12 hours of arriving home. I was so truly heart-broken and I couldn’t face the pain. I got a puppy a month later. And the new puppy did make me happy. But three days ago he lost all energy and coordination. None of the four vets I visited in a panic could tell me what had happened, but they speculate he had a congenital brain tumor that had begun to impact him and there was nothing they could do. I lost him yesterday at only four and half months old. I’m so lost now. I loved them both so dearly. I love you Sunny and Hank. Your loss is indescribable
so sorry for your loss!
The death of my first dog hit me so hard it was over a year before I got another. I knew I wasn't ready and didn't want to put my grief onto a new dog. Waiting was the right thing for me and my new doggie was worth the wait.
Thanks! My little fella passed in June. I’ve obsessed on replacing him, searching the humane society and other groups, but like u, I don’t want to replace him, cause I can’t. If I’m meant to have another fur baby, it will happen in its own time. Thx again.
Said goodbye to my sweet 12 yo Basil last night after kidney failure caused her to not eat, drink, her legs were failing. Devastated, searching for help and trying to explain to 2 young kids without breaking down. She let us know she was ready and was instantly at peace, no more struggles breathing, no more seizing. I’m Gutted and see her presence everywhere, on every cushion, all over the yard. Love to everyone struggling with me
Thank you for reinforcing the “do not get another dog yet” idea. You should not make any major decisions during times of huge amounts of emotions.
I asked my recently passed doggie to let me know if I should look for another doggie. Time will be in control until she leads me to another, or not.
My granddaughter took me to a shelter to see a dog that looked like my Lady who just died. The dog was cute, nice, but not Lady. I trust myself enough to know I can't replace Lady like buying a new car. She was a truer safer love than I've ever had in my life and I'm 77. I will leave this world loving her.
We just had to put our little dog Bella down today. We have 5 children…..these fur babies are every bit as precious. Different, but just as loved and loving.
My eldest child said it was only a dog! An eleven year old collie and my baby. I am struggling everyday I truly hope I do come out happy because living like this is terrible. Thank you for your podcast.
Sleeping with my Harleymagoo on the floor for the last 2 nights.. 12 years old and my shadow,,, my only family and he’s slipping away .. I’m throwing up every few hrs and can’t stop crying .. this is crushing me and my heart goes out to anyone else experiencing this depth of pain… feal like I’m gonna die without him that’s how strong ,, this popped up at 3 am as I got up to get a coffee as Harley is sleeping peacefully.. thank you for this
When I lose a pet, I find the best comfort for me is just being with another animal. It could be another pet I already have, another species, or a friend/family members pet.
I just lost my 8 yr old Pomeranian Tater to heart disease. It's been 4 days and am struggling with his loss. I appreciate the 2 podcasts I've heard from you and what you've said has made so much sense to me. Tater has been my best friend, more so than any human. Losing him has been harder for me than losing my mother and spouse but your podcasts make me feel like my feelings are somewhat normal. Thank you for the affirmation and look forward to more of these podcasts.
Devon I'm so sorry. My lil girl died on Jan 10th. She was with me for over 12 years. I understand and share your pain.
Really? Lost my pomeranian Rosie 2 weeks ago! I'm devastated! She was 16
My Walter just died this past Sunday. We went hiking then he died of a heat stroke. We got home, and he just stopped breathing. He passed away in my house. I had no idea what he was going through. I keep replaying over and over again what I could of done differently to save him. I should’ve took him to urgent care right away but I didn’t know and I’ll forever regret it. He was only 6. He was such a gentle soul and amazing dog. My heart is forever broken. I miss you so much Walter. I love you.
Thank you Robert for this. It really helped me gain more perspective. ❤
I lost my best friend just a little over a month and I have no words to describe the pain! I just want to say to everyone who lost their best friends that someday we will pass and cross over as well and guess who will be there waiting for us!
I lost both my fur babies in just a span of 44 days to bloat. If there's emergency facilities and a good veterinarian here then they could have been easily saved.Daisy was 5 years old and her son Troy was just only 2 years old. I was always worried about them and live in anxiety because of the trauma I had experienced with Daisy with no availability of emergency facilities. Deep inside I know they sacrificed themselves for me. I know they want me to live in peace and grow. I am grieving their loss and my life comes crashing down. But i won't let their sacrifice go in vain. I will live the way they want in their honour. I will carry forward the lessons they taught me. Thank you for coming into my life and teaching me self worth, unconditional love, forgiveness and patience. My life may shift without your presence but you will always be in my heart forever. Missing you both badly. I love you Daisy and Troy. Hope you guys are together and having fun till we meet again.
I am starting to wish I got another dog just before my dog passed as the stone cold silence and stillness in the household after the loss is excruciating.
I agree with statement made in this video. .
What you stated about the grief being more painful than that of losing a relative...or something along those lines...is spot on. The dog you see is Ryder and I lost him 8 months ago. For almost 15 years, I woke up with him and went to sleep with him. For the past 10 years after my divorce, it's been just he and I. The grief and pain and loneliness I still feel has been more so than when I lost my Dad...which is something I didn't think possible. The routines we developed were those I cherished and looked forward to and to have them be gone in an instant is just excruciating. Thank you for this video. Hearing from others who share the pain is comforting. Mark
Mark, I understand your situation. I have grived more for my beloved Henry than for any family member I have lost. I will pray for you!
I'm with you Brother
My thoughts exactly.
My dogs were my closest friends and family in life, and I'll love each one of them, until the last star falls from the sky.
Oh my god. I understand too well and I am so sorry for the emptiness you feel.😢😢😢😢😢 I have gone through this many times and it sucks worse than anything to me. My sould dog is with me and he will be 15 inJuly. Just watching this and reading these comments has me sobbing.
@@gypsygirl9 Thank you so much for your heartfelt sentiment. It's very difficult getting out of bed, and everywhere i go reminds me that my best friend is not with me. This beautiful song sums up what I think all of us are feeling. I wish and hope you find peace. ua-cam.com/video/x2B7GQ8a-HM/v-deo.html
Right now I am trying to help my retired service-dog fight Hemangiosarcoma...she is my 3rd dog to have had this horrific cancer. She just hit the 6 month survival point & I am actively grieving which isn't really helping her fight actually. I have lost about 30 pounds & cannot really afford to..I am nearly 90 pounds now & falling. I don't know how to pull out of this so that I can more thoroughly enjoy our time left together. Hopefully, this video will help..Robert, I smiled when you said that you slept on the floor with your dog as that is what I do most nights. That made me feel a bit better. Thank You🥺🥺🥺💕💕💕
I'm 64 and I'm getting ready to lose my best friend I thank you so much God bless you and everything you do you've been a wonderful blessing
Thanks, man Lost my dog of 14 years this weekend, I'm broken, he's in Heaven Typical "OP" I will Love him forever!
I have never felt pain this deeply. I lost my love yesterday from CHF. I don't know how I will ever be able to move on. She was the love and light of my life. I can hardly eat or sleep I keep thinking about how I want to hold her again. The pain is unbearable. Everything around me reminds me of her. How do I go on without her? She meant the world to me and now life feels impossible without her. I am grateful I got to hold her in my arms as she died and she didn't die alone. I can't handle the pain I am feeling now that she is gone.
My boy chevy died in my arms today
apr/23/2023 he took his last breath at 4:35 AM he looked at me wagged his tail and let out a deep breath and he was gone the next second. he was a sweet boy 11 years young. It hurts so much the sadness is unbearable we are having him cremated. And I can't see my life without him ......
I lost my dog Silly 12 years ago to the day of yours. It does get more bearable... you'll always remember him!
@@RobertCabralDogs I'm sorry for your loss thanks for the kind words still doesnt feel real. We'll be getting his ashes tomorrow ill be sure to let him know to find Silly up there and tell him his owner still misses him and that his videos have helped me and many other people get through the pain.
I lost my boy Ric 2 days ago. I just wanted you to know your not alone.
@Dave G I'm sorry for your loss . Think about my buddy every day. You really don't think dog years are that short until you realize 10-14 years is a blink of an eye.
Thanks for this video. I lost two horses and my beagle within six months the year I retired. Then a year and a half later, my 17 year old Jack Russel died at home in my arms. I thought the pain was never going to end. We were still grieving when our almost 13 year old German Sheperd collapsed 5 months later. We rushed him to the vet at 7:30 at night. The vet said we could leave him there and they would X-ray him in the morning. I said no and took him home. I knew he wasn't going to make it until morning and didn't want him to die alone. He passed away at 9:30 at home in his bed. We have always owned a Sheperd, but it took me 1 1/2 years before I could get another German Sheperd puppy. Our 20 year old cat died the same year. We have a pet cemetery on our farm and the horses, dogs and cats all have marble headstones. It's helped me cope with the loss, but it is so hard to lose them. All 3 of the dogs we lost were adopted or given to us because other people didn't want them and they were all great dogs!
What’s beautiful and powerful post. Good for you.
The fact your animals lived 2 the age they did has to be a testament 2 ur care
I just lost my boy Otis, I am in major pain, he was my best friend, I am glad that I am not the only person that experiences these very deep feelings. Thank you your podcast was very helpful for me.
It is almost unbearable pain.
I just lost my dog Dakota who was my best buddy from Degenerative Myelopathy and on 12/22/22 I had to make the trip every dog owner dreads, we had to let him go. Every morning now I wake up to an empty house. He always wanted to go for a walk and would hurry me through breakfast. Now he is gone and my heart is bleeding. This hurts awful. Thank you for sharing this!
Nothing is ever lost. All of us are eternal.
Thanks. I know I will meet my baby when I go. All the animals we've ever loved will be waiting for us.
This past Friday we had to euthanize our little Chihuahua Bruno,who was 19 years old,he had a tumor on his head, lost one of his eyes because of it, had arthritis, extreme weight loss , and incontinence . Took him to the vet and she basically said I needed to put him down right away because he was suffering so much . So I and said ok but now the guilt and, sadness and pain are eating me alive .
I just lost my beautiful malinois several hours ago. He was the best dog we ever had. Such a good and smartest boy since we got him at two months old. Always well behaved and understood everything he was told, nothing like typical mouthy malinois babies. He was just 20 months old when poisoned by some disgusting bastard. It is heartbreaking to find your perfectly healthy, happy and loving baby suddendly die in pain just a couple of hours after saying good night and promising to play with him the morning after. He was too young with so much potential, so kind and gentle. Children loved him and so did he. Rest in peace my loving angel. May you always be happy, loved and treated kindly wherever you are and will be. Thank you for all the love and joy you brought us in such a short time, which will be treasured for the rest of my life. See you my superdog!
Thank you for your insight, I lost my best friend Frodo 19 years on Monday, 4/3/23 and so your insight gave me validation of my feeling for him. as a 56-year-old man breaking down crying like a baby and learning to understand the unconditional love and bond between us is very important.
the struggle is REAL~~. you'll always love and miss him. a scar will remain on your heart forever. wear it with pride.... it's proof that he's with you!
Hiya, greeting from the UK. I have only just come across your channel. Loosing a dog. OMG I don't even more where to start and sorry this be a long one.
8 yrs ago a fire broke out in the camp site where we were living and the wind blow it into our direction.
My Border Collie woke me up to alert me to the danger. My GSD X made it out and so dud my BC however he run back into the burning caravan. I was trying to get in to get him out but people were holding me back. I had to listen to burn alive. Now I am a total mess even after all these years and I truly believe I never will. To thus day I stoll have not thanked those people, I didn't want to be held back, I wanted my boy back by my side. I don't talk about this anymore, I in tears even now typing this. Since than I had to put 2 other dogs to sleep due to old age but boy nothing cut like loosing him. My kids don't understand cos it's only a dog. Wrong things to say to me.
Currently I have a 3 way x of gundogs. He is a 9 months goofball, great with kids, other dogs, livestock.
So sorry being a mum did not safeguard me from the pain.
This help me so much on letting yourself feel all and numb your self lost my dog 14 years and i feel like my heart its been ripped from my chest
I've always said dogs don't live long enough. My last girl, Julia, a Coyote-Cattledog lived 18 yrs. My soul sister who sent me Rupert a 136 lb Newfoundland, never, ever thought I would have a dog like him, now he is my soul boy & I told myself I would wait for a few years b4 another soul pup as I work with dogs however 6 months after Julia crossed-I was told she sent me Rupert because my heart was closing-nothing was more true. Now my ❤ is bursting with love 4 Rupert❤❤❤
My dog stoped eating a few day ago. He just passed yesterday. Breaks my heart that hes gone. That dog was with me during the hardest part of my life. I cant afford cremation so im stuck sending him off tje the spca
My Boxer dog Virgil passed March 27 2021. My first loss of a pet. I'm completely torn apart. 💔
Mine passed on Monday 14 June. I’m so depressed x
My dog Benji passed away at home 2 days ago. He was suffering from kidney failure as well. For over 2 months he was syringe fed 6 times a day for every 2 and a half hours. It was exhausting but we would do it all again in a heartbeat. My family and I are so broken. I sob every night until I fall asleep. He was technically my dog because I wanted him when I was 12 and I just cannot believe he's gone. My mind can't accept it. I am so lost and I don't think I'll be able to feel whole again.
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I understand how u feel . Plz be strong
Me and my family has lost our pit bull he was 14 years 😭we are so broken. We lost him yesterday in the morning. I could never been so devastated until this day.
I loss my baby boy yesterday your right the pain is unbelievable I can’t breathe so my Charlie put you in front of me because I was going to bed and wasn’t going to wake up thank you for your words
An old time Shepherd breeder once said " when I die they will find my heart is like an old crazed china plate and each line is for a dog loved and lost."
Lost my little buddy, ROSARIO, all 6 lbs. of her 2 days ago. I have not cried that much in 25 years. She was 15, had a good, spoiled life, but I feel like I let her down. I am still a headcase. There will never be another doggie quite like her.
My 16 yrs old jack russell dog in heaven this Tuesday she was struggling to breath lungs was filled with blood heavy breathing cannot walk without fallin over doesn't eat anything just stays in bed the vet told me she has days to live before she dies from a heart attack..I feel empty atm the most heartbreaking is she is a big fighter at the end before we took her to the emergency vets at 2am she went out to the garden to do her dutes ended up collapsing upside down in the heavy rain went out and took her in to say our last goodbye with the family...
At 3am after the vet visit she gone we put her down....
This is my first dog had plenty happy memories with her....
I had to put down my two dogs last year this February . Not one friend or family member sent me any sort of condolences. I'm a caregiver and i love people and Buddy Love and Molly girl brought so much comfort and joy to others. I feel so sad not for me but for by two beloved furbsbies. I'm still grieving and its been a year and j want to thank you for your honesty and kind words. Your grief podcast saved my life.🤗
Lost my boy last night.
He had been struggling for a few months - being 14, he had a full, wonderful life.
But, I kept looking for what he still had to live for, instead of seeing what he had lost (his eyesight was mostly gone, his hearing, he was suffering with some arthritis)
But when he saw me, he find energy and always be by my side, through the pain he was feeling.
My love become blind and selfish. I wanted him to keep going.
Last night, his breathing became rapid and his panting unstoppable.
I took him to 2 different vets, hoping I’d get a different answer to what I knew was coming. I then made the decision to have him put to peace.
I’m battling. I can’t stop crying. The pain is the worst thing I’ve ever felt. To know I won’t touch him again, hear his bark and feel him next to me on the bed.
Considering taking meds to numb the pain, but also know I need to feel this, to process how amazing he was.
I just hope this passes, and the pain becomes memories I pull at to smile at the love I had for my boy.
Thank you for the advice.
So sorry I’m going through this pain now
Just euthanized our beloved Yorkie of 12 years, 9 months. She was on meds but deteriorating with congestive heart failure before our eyes. Our vet was very good to help us through this awful time. Despite having kids and grandkids my husband & I were bonded with her in a most amazing way. Our love for her, Shilo, was a tremendously beautiful thing. We will get another dog(s) but now I’m “delving” into the grief - take awhile. This podcast was most helpful. Thank you, Robert. God bless you🙏🏻
My lil Icee also had heart failure. I see your lil pup passed away 3 months ago. How are you doing now? As for me my home and my heart are so lonely 😢
I just went through the same thing this past Saturday with our 12 yr old beagle, Oreo. It was one of the saddest and hardest experiences I’ve ever had. Her “ brother” is still with us, a 13 yr old border collie, she grew up with who is still very healthy thankfully. The day we made the decision was one of the most painful choices I’ve ever made. I love my beautiful baby girl and watching her get progressively worse was too much to bear.
My sweet girl was 15-1/2. I feel so much guilt over scheduling her euthanasia. She was in such cognitive decline which made her inconsolably anxious. She was also unable to safely navigate our stairs but was adamant to follow us everywhere. Her hip dysplasia was so bad, but her anxiety wouldn’t allow her to lay down to rest. She couldn’t get comfortable and medication didn’t help. This was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do. I feel like I betrayed her unconditional love and trust. I wish she was still here. There is a piece of me missing. She was with me for 1/3 of my life. I’ve never experienced this depth of grief.
You're comment is so much like me losing my missy in February, she was 16. She was deaf, going blind, constantly restless, incontinent, having falls etc. I feel l betrayed her and wish l could go back in time and make a different choice and still have her here. I feel the same as you do and life will never be the same 💔 sending a big hug
Thank you for sharing this. I just lost my French bulldog of 5 1/2 years. She was a rescue I had spent 15 thousand and taught her how to walk again she made it for a year and a half after her surgery and just died from breathing issues. It all happened so quick my family and I are devastated. I want another dog at some point but I’m so scared of going through this again.
I lost my beautiful boy almost a year ago.. he was by my side 10.5 yrs. He was my first ever dog, I wasnt ready to let him go, the Vets sugested it's time I consider euthanizing and didn't say he'd be in any pain. His little body was shutting down due to multiple issues, diabetes, liver disease, ultimately heart failure. The guilt of not doing more to comfort him had I known more or asked is what saddens me most. People do dismiss my/our grief and I hate it "Oh his in a better place now bs. The pain is intensely personal and strange I don't want to not feel the grief fearing I lose his memory.. I understand it took my heart
I lost my beloved Jack Russell , Henry on 12/22/22 He was my constant companion. My best friend. My wingman. My soulmate.
Yesterday evening 1/28/22, while at at dinner with my wife I was overcome with a burst of emotion & sadness about my loss. It was overwhelming.
At this point my wife has tired of my crying and deepening depression. Our marriage has begun to suffer because of my uncontrollable grieving. I just can't shake this depression and sadness.
When we returned home I searched UA-cam and found your video. Everything you said was spot on. It describes my relationship with my friend and the loss I am still feeling five weeks after his death. I just wanted you to know that the video was comforting to me.Hopefully it will be the first step of my recovery from a loss that not everyone understands.
I just took the advice of everyone around me and took my 11 year old boxer to put him to rest. I dont believe it was done the best because the vet just laid him on the cold floor. He deserved more, and his functional deterioration was painful to watch. I truly hope he is at peace and he knows how much he was loved. My heart is broken as a result, and my son is trying to deal with the loss of his life-long companion.
Thank you. I lost my 9 yr old Rotti X two weeks ago, he was a healthy boy. Bodie and his twin sister Bella went to the vets only days before for routine check up, they came out with a clean bill of health. They went to bed on Friday night, Saturday morning when we woke Bodie couldn’t breath. I rushed him to the emergency vet hospital, they X-rayed his lungs and found that one of his lungs was full of fluid. They tried their best to save him, his heart stopped but they resuscitate him, but he just went down hill until his final breath Saturday afternoon. He loved to sleep on his back with all 4s in the air, they think he vomited in his sleep which caused the pneumonia. We just weren’t prepared, we were playing with him and his sister one day and he was dead the next day. Listening to both your podcasts on grief and how you felt when you lost your dogs, is how We are feeling at the moment, I just hoped it was a dream and I’d wake up. His sister is so lost with out him they were glued at the hip. We are doing our best to be strong for Bella as she is so sensitive to us when we are upset, she shuts down. Sorry for blabbing on, but it’s sort of a release of some of the pain we are going through. Thank you for listening.
I lost my little one 2 days ago, it hurts like nothing I've ever felt in my life...
I lost my dog Bandit and it tore my heart. It was a good solid 3 years later and then rescued my dog now Otto. And I love Otto so much, he is the next greatest dog I ever owned. Still think of Bandit often, remembering the good times we had. It is never easy losing a pet because they love us so unconditionally, we truly don't deserve them. But it is possible to give your heart again after losing.
I just parted ways with my 11 year old GSD who fought to stay but his DM made it impossible.
He was my partner and yes, I spent more with him than my wife.
We don't have children.
He was in a wheelchair due to his progressive disease for six months.
In the end he couldn't pee properly, and we couldn't get proper veterinarian support.
On the day of his passing we started out by playing ball followed by treats and some fun foods.
The speciality vet came at noon and put him to sleep far from a pleasant experience.
We then put him into a customized and personalized cadaver bag then put him in the car for his final car ride.
We took him to a personal creamation service and witnessed him being placed into the chamber. I started the process by flipping the switch.
We stayed in a hotel that night and brought him home the next day.
It was a very transactional day. Every part of it was planned.
But we wanted it planned and not being forced to having him euthanized at a veterinarian office then leaving the body.
We wanted him to pass at home, in his bed, with us holding him.
I lost my German shepherd 4 days ago he was 17 we are heartbroken 💔 😢 he was like a human who did many human things. We love and miss him very much my other german shep was 18 we had to put her down 2 years ago. Very hard to deal with
Thank you for permission to grieve. My boy Wrigley died two days ago. My Mom died a month ago. I’m in excruciating pain.
Thank you for speaking on the “just go get another dog” I did that 5 months after my first dog died and I was not ready… I ended up being almost resentful towards the dog and ended up giving the puppy to a great home where he is living his best life today. Long story short I was not ready at all. It took me almost 4 years to fully be ready. I hate when people say go get another dog right away. It is not fair for both the perspective dog or us as the grieving humans.
my dog passed away 5 years ago, in my arms, blood everywhere.... the last 5 years have been the worst 5 years in my life, and maybe they are related? I dont know, but things for me rapidly went down hill after he passed, to the point of losing everything that made me, me, and almost losing my job and losing my life....
I had people tell me, when he was alive, that they had never seen a bond between a dog and a person like we had... I jokingly referred to him as my "eternal 3 year old toddler..."
he was a rescue, from someone who couldnt keep him anymore, and she loved him very much but even she could see that there was love between us, from the very first day...
So very glad that I found you. I am suffering. My dog (11) went thru many tests to find why she stopped eating.Had to administer Entyce to get her to eat half cup (weighed 65 pounds) home cooking. Then told she had full blown Diabeties. Took her out for ice ream as a treat, have insulin. She started to have multiple seizures..rushed to emergency, took an hour. Had to be euthanized. I feel like I killed her. I cry and cry.so very guilty..
No don't you dare feel that it takes more than icecream to kill a dog with diabetes
It so difficult. Still mourning the death of my Alaskan husky, Zoey due to kidney failure. I tried so hard hand feeding her with a syringe. It drew me more deeply into her sweet heart. She asked me to let her go and the vet came over. Not sure I will ever get over missing her, 3 months now. I have 3 other rescues she mentored and taught them things I could not. I know and understand the pain. Such is love.
I feel you regarding the feeling of forever missing them They're still vivid in memory,- I often have sweet dreams - and I find it soothing to celebrate every day for their love Believe me, they still love us too 💚💜
I always just had my 1 dog but when she got older and started showing early signs of decline, I rescued 2 more dogs. Lived with 3 dogs for a couple of years before my old gal left us. This was extremely helpful for me. My bond with the other 2 has been extremely helpful for my mourning!