CNXG CrazyNarcissistXGirlfriend my soon to be ex husband was very involved in the church. As a Christian does he think about the religion and the repercussions of the outcome with the word in the Bible? In other words isn't he scared to burn in hell for his actions? Lol sorry but we married by the church and broke the covnant
David hello and love watching you,all that you say and how you say it is so freaking funny but all so true.ou make a bad and or sad situation funny as hell,in addition David you are so absolutely!! freaking right.!!this nut.oh by the way I'm from NYC n But I live in Greenville NC.im 50 years old and the but I was with all you spoke and speak is 100%this nut.he always tried to mirror me.example.there was a gathering and little kids were dancing he gets upset and anted allll the dam attention.tge spot light.instead like a normal person,and say awwwh they so cute and or cheer them on.do you believe the ass wipe took their spotlight of attention and showed his ass off like a fool.making a scene in a rage.i was so embarrassed and left his crazy ass right there.. thanks for all your support David.
Ugh... I used to work with a woman who tried to mimic practically everything I did: clothing, speech, personality, habits, etc. When first I met her, she looked and dressed totally different. She was also very boorish and uncouth. When we first met, this woman practically stared me down, watching everything I did. She totally did the “blank stare” thing anytime I entered her line of sight.... it was really creepy. Then she started started trying to get really close to me, trying to be my best friend, asking me a ton of personal questions about my life, etc. I started to feel like she was plotting against me, and started distancing myself. Then she starts acting more and more like me (ladylike and feminine). Then one day (after only 2 weeks of knowing her), she shows up to work in my EXACT same hairstyle and clothing as me! This was the last straw-I instantly stopped associating with her. Even then, she still tried to copy me! She also kept on trying her best to get close to me, but I thwarted her efforts. She eventually quit. Goes to show how truly sick and twisted these people’s minds are.
My ex husband Narc loved only Jazz music. He dressed pretty much like a bum. He did not dance. I saw him about a year after I discarded him. He was wearing a cowboy hat, talked on and on about how much he loved country music, and that he was doing country music line dancing. I learned later, all that stuff was what his new target liked, LOL
Thank you for the content you make. I recently pieced together that I was with a narcissist. The straightforward and clear way you explain all of this is really helpful. I appreciate it. And knowing that understanding this can lead to long-lasting healing gives me hope
I wish I had discovered you 5 years ago! All your vids are spot on and we seem to be about the same age and personality, so you're relatable. My ex-wife did and still does everything you've mentioned in your vids. What's made it so bad, is she has done it on the national level. We both were with a national organization. If I traveled to another part of the country, people would react adversely to me because I am the bad guy. We worked for the same employer, I had to leave because of the stress involved and a physical altercation with a co-worker. I don't go to my old hangouts anymore, because most people look at me sideways and talk shit about me sometimes not so quietly. She's an attractive narc and the men want to defend the pretty girl who I apparently was abusive to and drug through hell. I can't get a date with girls I know because they just don't want to go there (I live in a small town). She's gotten promotions after promotions, as she's an attractive narc. She's currently the boss of the upper Midwest of the national organization we belonged to and was a keynote speaker at last year's national convention in Las Vegas. Oh, and she's on the board of directors for the state of Wisconsin. Meanwhile, I have tried to distance myself from her as much as possible. So, my life that I knew it was destroyed. I am pretty much a hermit now, but I see that changing. These, vids have given me confidence that I'm not the only one. I intend to get back involved in my life as I knew it. Thank you and keep up the good work!
I began to hear my phrases being mirrored back to me, it was so freaky once I spotted the pattern. The coverts are deadly they fake insecurity & appear to be classic codependents. the softly spoken covert had a different dialect & tone of voice during rages, freaky how he just switched persona when he lost control of his nice guy persona.
David, man, your way of doing this is very touching to me. I've been binge watching narcissist channels since the initial breakup last July. Epic hoover of September-October left me with a berserker rage obsession with this stuff. And only recently finding yours, dude... I feel you, dawg. I'm getting those same chills up my spine that I hear making your voice crack slightly through those rough parts of the story. Almost feels like you're mirroring me! I can tell you are really feeling what you're saying. My little femme fatale left me those same wounds. You probably don't condone the way I still idealize mine though. Shows a lot of strength to maintain composure the way you do.
Brady Burrell Thank you Brady, I appreciate you. It takes time. I've been away from these people for about 8 years now. A healthier you won't care about anybody disordered anymore.
Thank you for these videos David. They're making me feel better about leaving my ex narc. She seemed to enjoy everything I did at the beginning. Fast forward three years later and she couldn't stand anything I loved. I felt guilty to enjoy any of those things for about the last year or so. it got that bad.
All the swears! 😄 I like this one. Funny. My mom had an Irish friend, and after spending an afternoon with her, she would have an accent. I remember feeling embarassed by it. I like how these videos trigger memories. Sarah in Ontario would like to know, "Is not remembering your childhood a symptom of narcissistic abuse?" 🙃
I remember after we talked 1 month after the discard when she'd been hoovering and future faking, her voice had changed. Literally changed. It was scary to hear her talk, it was like it was a completely different person. Iniitially her voice was one of the things I fell for about her. I loved her voice. But afterwards it was like the mask had dropped. I realize now that the person I thought she was never even existed.
Seriously every time i go through something or encounter any narc stuff..your notification pops up and myyyy it's exactly based on my situation..thank u for existing❤
David I am beyond grateful for your truthful insights. ..I am close to going no contact with my entire family including my 90 year old mother who has advanced dementia...my brother and sister gaslight and triangulate...at 51 years old and an empath u have feed finances love emotional and phycial support to all of them..my sister treats me like garbage thankfully no contact..I sense she is Borderline like our mother who tiangulated her against me also..alcholism was rampent and walking on eggshells all my life..I now am in recovery and the truth is staring me in the face...your confirmation vidéos are helping me to have the strength to honour myself and get the hell outta dodge including the country of origin...so much love and gratitude brother. ..hugz xxx
Whenever I asked my ex what she wanted to do, where she wanted to go on holiday etc etc, she could never answer such simple questions. She would just bat it back to me and ask me what I want. She couldn't ever express her own opinions about anything.
Like how you said that there initially attracted to you because of your uniqueness and how you are your own person. And this eventually becomes what they want to change about you if your independent they want to control you. It makes me wonder if they get with you wanting to change you.
They love to Social climb too! It's funny to watch and I was well aware of the mirroring to the point where she developed and copied some of my mannerisms and dressed similarly to me which strangers pointed out how much we suited each other as a couple. Very strange!
After the discard, when we spoke again, i mentioned that i want a tattoo. He responded something like: "a tattoo? That's a complete waste of money,... I would never have a tattoo." Well, not a month went by, guess what he got. A fucking tattoo. Now he has several of them. But that is just one example. There are many.. Thank you for this awesome video David ;)
BTW too, you're absolutely spot on here yet again. Thankyou for all you're invaluable content you contribute,very helpful and validating to me. Peace.❤️
David, sat here laughing out loud. It's all so true! A really freaky thing I noticed with male narcissists is that they will actually copy female fashion. So, say a girl likes wearing eyeliner or a certain style of glasses etc - the male narcissist will just go ahead and start wearing eyeliner! Upload tons of selfies whilst they're at it. With narcissists, they don't even have a true gender as that is psychologically determined.
This video gave me goosebumps why? It’s because everything that you said are truth, from the start till the end of relationship, it looks like he changed his personality overnight, the way he smiles he talks and even his points of views, wow, you gave me clarity and i know now what to do, this kind of creature is insane, now i realized i’ve been sleeping with my mortal enemy for 7 years,oh my god😱
Thank you again and again P.s My little girl love your top . We sit as a family and get healing, watching your videos Soon it's bed time you will hear the youngest screaming good night mum night dad and then night David ❤️❤️
Yup when he met me I was into working out healthy eating... natural organic foods.... and I am a animal lover... He acted like he liked all the same things...He used to buy me all kinds of organic baskets with organic products he used to take my dogs for walks he would get down on the floor to pet them he joined the gym...he constantly bought me flowers..... told me he loved me after a couple of months and that I was his soulmate... one time he said he wished he could crawl inside of me so he could be with me all the time....At the end before the discard he told me my dogs were just mutts that they stink like piss he would not buy no more organic food no more flowers nothing he told me I am done buying u anything... he told me he wasted a hundred thousand dollars on me....and to top it off he would babysit dogs for people that were going on holidays....you know your stuff love your videos...
Love the way you explain things. All this is truth! Last call from my ex was in April, she sounded like a creepy demon. I even called her evil at one point since she clearly called to make me jealous & tell me I abandoned her which I didn’t. Strangest f*cking call ever! She was so sweet once upon a time ago 🤦🏻♀️💔
Right before my narc ex discarded me, he got a parrot. His new supply finds homes for parrots, so of course he became a parrot freak. Now that this is about mirroring and mimicking, I think, “A parrot! How apt!” Thanks for these videos. They’ve changed my life. 🙂
Oh my God!!!!!!! Yes!!!! I have done the exact same observations! My ex borderline narcissistic friend used to change her way of speaking every time she visited another city! She also changed the tone of her voice in front of certain people! It's crazy, almost scary sometimes! Even my ex narcissistic boyfriend did this, he used to mirror the way some people spoke, it was like he became different people, he became them! I told him about it, that I noticed he change like that, he was just like "huh.... I don't know"....
I laughed out loud during the British accent story...OMG! That was so funny. Thanks David. great video, so true. Reminded me about my ex narc who said he could speak fluent Spanish, but when he did, it sounded SO WRONG...LOL
After 10 years, the ex-Narc in my life was a country guy walking around barefoot in the woods...after being a total city rock and roll guy....I totally didn't get it until now!!
“My” narc became a Vegan out of the blue on January first this year. That's when he started to triangulate me with a Mango (no shit!) In every freaking conversation we had, it was all about Mangoes! Ooh how tasty they are, ooh I love mangoes, oh did you know that mangoes are for sale this week?! It was so annoying (laughing hard about right now) I guess it's for the new supply. I was vegetarian when we first met, and he wouldn't even take bite from my veggie food.
Quiet, shy, nice and polite- my type & me! That’s how he gets me! I just fell in love with myself! He is very shallow, talking about money, power and social status although he has none of that:)
(Fla Keys)I wish i'd known all this sooner but so grateful for you now!! As crazy as this is my lawyer during D told me to mirror him. This explains so much as to WHY it works!! Don't use it thinking you'll get them back and don't use it if you've feelings for them. My Atty admits his probably a narc himself and remarried same woman 3 times. Who better to fight another narc in court than another POS. Take it for what it is and set boundaries. Atty narc mirrors STBX-NARC and taught me to do the same when setting up custody arrangements --needing to trade pick up dates, needing a "favor" (because they won't do right my own children just for sake of it being the right thing)...Again. don't do it unless you have to. Don't do it if you're in physical proximity or they can mentally hurt you. You have to be 100% detached. Flattery will get you everywhere. Mirroring them is twisted flattery. It's a means to and end. I'll do anything to protect my children. I've zero feelings for narc. Listen to everything David says here. It's(Narcs and these games) a disgusting and creepy way of life. Know what you're getting into. Thank you again David. As akways---You nailed it!
Spiltzville Adious That is interesting, I sometimes recommend sinking to their level if you have to because it's what works when you are desperate. Thank you so much!!
Hi David, yes they do, they mirror us! My ex got me that way, shy, quietly spoken, so polite, doing whatever he could for me. He was very cunning and nasty but hey only one time, I've been fooled one time by a covert narc, I learned quick smart to spot these people! It's usually an intuitive process: I'm blessed to have it, it's shown me things that other people don't immediately or ever pick up on. In my personal life, I have been trying to teach my partner about a very specific narc we know! Years ago when I 1st met him, I said to my partner, I don't trust him, I don't know what it is yet but I don't trust him. Then the narc and his partner started visiting us and hanging out a bit & I started hearing lies! I said to my partner he lies, he tells a story this way & then tells it differently the next time & different again, time after that 🤔 This guy broke up with their ex about 4 or 5 months ago and I see his flying monkeys, I see the nasty stuff he still does to get at his ex. I also called it when he started his smear campaign against the ex. I deleted him from my fb page and told my partner, I never trusted him, now watch what he does! I literally predicted his next moves, I told my partner what he would do & the way he would relentlessly try to destroy his ex.. which he is actively still doing. I even told my partner that he will ask him why I don't like him any more and try to convince us both that he is innocent and he did, it pissed him off immensely that he couldn't pull the wool over my eyes, I laughed & said to my partner please don't be fooled by his poor me bullshit! We haven't been and we have stayed out of his smear campaign. Quite frankly I have no energy & time for him. That's the way I roll with narcs that think they can pull the wool over my eyes 😑 thanks David, great video 😀
Shifting Realities That is great you have learned to pay attention to what people say and look for consistencies. What they say should match what they do. Thank you for sharing!
This is spot on.My ex turned into me.He had been incarcerated and his family had known him to be bad and just a horrible person.He got out I met him,didn't see him coming here mirrored me to a t.So I thought wow this is a loving sweet guy.So we go to see his family they think he changed,that jail changed him. No he is a narcissistic psycopath.He now tells them I'm crazy that he left me.They probably believe him.He would watch me and say what I say act how I act.See deep down I always knew it was fake and I would tell him that.I remember thinking this is so sad because he would say he loved me,do nice things then gaslight me at the same time. I was so confused I was loosing my mind.He would plant things for me to see he was cheating,and say things that he did with other girls like we did it and I would say we never did that and he would say your crazy your losing your mind.I knew something was off then i realized what he called me all the time was what he was.Thats how I came to find out he was a psycopath ironically. After I ended it after 6 months I looked it up and boy it all came together. I was shocked,everything this Dr says about these people is true.They act exactly who they are around.I hope to God he finds God because the real truth is I feel sorry for him.I do love him,but it wasn't really who he was.I just want him to not do this to anyone else.Also he only snapped 3times and I was in shock at his rage.I knew I had to get rid of him.Crazy thing is,I had to fool him to get him to leave me alone by really acting crazy.
Good morning every one 💕 Today I got myself a pink nike shoes all pink with glitter ✨ And I'm dancing to Elton song I'm still standing...feeling like a little kid . I always wanted pink things but growing up in foster homes and in the care system...I was lucky to get flip lop I had half of a flip and no lop David I hope you read this ....I wish to thank you 😊 I'm old but I'm a little happy girl now with pink pink shoes and glitter ✨ I'm happy 😊 thank you every one tank you all .
Hey David, I may have mentioned it before, but my mirrored me and I experienced everything you mentioned here. When I first met her, we seemed to have everything in common and that's why I fell in love with her. Aside from 1-2 things, towards the end, she didn't like those thing anymore. She even admitted to mirroring me, which pissed me off. I don't want to be with someone that's pretending. She no longer liked sci-fi movies, and she asked why it's the only thing we watch. She no longer identified with her MBTI or being an HSP. These are all thing we bonded over. I think her values changed when she was around other people while living away from me too. She was going between mirroring me, and whomever else she spent time with behind my back. To be honest, I do remember telling her my full name in a text after we met. She could have looked me up on Facebook and studied my posts. Also, I began to notice that she liked very shallow things. I tried to dismiss it, because it disappointed me.
This video would be hilarious if it wasn't so spot on and so crazy. You certainly pegged my borderline ex. When we first dated and would go out to eat, the waitress would come to take our order, and ex would say, "why don't you just order for me." Huh? Well....um...ok. FF 26 years later, we could hardly sit at the same table because all of her food had to be diametrically opposite of anything I was having. David has these people PEGGED!
After our first break up she started being "friends" with a guy that worked construction so when we got back together all she wanted to watch was home improvement shows. Then after I left her she had 3 long distance soul mates and she started becoming a sports fan like they were. Wearing sports jersey and going to sports bars. So weird
And ever since I was involved with the narcissist who lovebombed me, I don't like having too much in common with someone because of the mirroring manipulations. I think that having some differences can add flavor/variety to the relationship. And they can be strengths. What one person lacks in one thing, the other person can be better at and visa versa and then we make a better and stronger team.
Yes! I said I love skating, and in the beginning he said he too loved skating. Later on I asked if he wanted to skate, and he looked at me like I was speaking a foreign language. He was like I don’t skate! I was like wtf😂
Fucking nailed it with this one but not only do they not sound the same ,they don't look like the person you knew. Her eyes,face,hair, the way they talk and even how she walks is different. It does actually help because now the person who we loved is gone so its time to mourn them and really say goodbye. Sorry I'm late to the party on this one David but its so fucking relevant
The narcs I dated where anything but shy and quiet. They were loud and commanded attention from the whole room; they were the life of the party, so to speak. Very charming and kind. I neve met a shy narc.
This is so true!! My ex used to copy all my sayings etc. He's with someone new now and I've noticed his dress sense and personality has totally changed. 😂
Haha omg you are hilarious in this video! I was laughing! But on the other hand, all true. The narc I was talking to over the phone with sounded "ghetto". Then on Facebook, I saw that he just posted a pic of him and a black guy friend. Then, I thought .... "oooh I get why now" lol. And when we would video chat, he would definitely look at me and if I make the slightest facial expression (ex: move my nose because I had an itch), he would say right away, "what was that?". They watch everything.
Hi David, great video and so true. My ex friend Narc did that to me. When I met her I was into all things New Age, very soon she was also, big time! I started rose gardening, and she did too! I put out a pen pal newsletter, soon she put out a poetry newsletter! I was doing lots of freelance writing, she started to TRY to sell her god awful poetry. When I would tell her about a bad experience, she told me about her experiences that sounded so much like mine. I believed our lives had so many parallels. She said she and I were Twin Souls. I believed that completely, plus all of the other bullshit. I believe I am an intelligent person, yet I fell for all of that. Boy, do I hate that piece of shit.
CNXG CrazyNarcissistXGirlfriend We all fall for it and it's flattering. Her ex rode motorbikes so she learned to ride one. My question to her was Why??? She had no answer and then went in to tell me how impractical and dangerous a motorbike was and she will sell the leathers which cost her a lot of money! Crazy behaviour! I ask myself why would you want to get yourself hitched to that long term. I've learned so much and so happy as a consequence.
I know I'm crazy late, but Damn that twin part! My narc female bestie called us 'connected by soul's. Discarded her after 4 years of painful torture ending up with tampered drinks and almost taking my advantage sexually.
I fuckin love you man. Lol. I love how brutally honest you are "she kept that goddamn accent for a month" haha. It's so true though. My ex narc I feel kept me around because he so badly wanted to learn how to be like me. He always said, people are so drawn to me. He always said his least favorite quality in me was that I am too friendly. Lol... it's because he can't be that. He can only fake it for so long. I've seen him laugh, i've seen him cry. I've seen him angry. His facial expressions never really changed. He never got scared... its fucking crazy.. they are dead inside
Yeah, I have to agree with this. And they tend to take their cues about what to like from advertising and mass media. Their wife has to have a certain color hair, they have to drive a certain car, or dress a certain way. The key is that it's not because they really like those things, but because they think everyone else likes those things. They are some of the most bland people you will ever know.
Hello, been watching alot of video about Naricissim lately.....im sure you can guess why. anyway like you style. that london england story was funny and very relatable. THANK YOU!!!
Man your videos are so educating I swear, helpful and I must say after watching this, are entertaining as well. I was smiling and giggling all laong sometime out of curiousity, sometimes because of the way you approach it and the way it is on the spot, lol. I've noticed all these things all along but they were just abstract to me. It got a bit more clear now. Thanks as always man.
That's one of the signs they are cheating on you also. My ex narcs both did this. Suddenly they were doing and saying weird shit that was out of character for them. Wow, I finally figured it out! I knew neither one of them had an original thought of their own!!!!!
You crack me up. It's all so creepy but hilarious too. The thing I'm most upset about is that for 16 mos I turned crazy myself. He literally turned me into a psycho girlfriend. That's what I'm pissed about. And he stole all my good jokes and passed them off as his.
Excellent David thank you. That is the ex to the T. I know her past and what happened when we got together completely mirrored me. Now shes turned into the new guy lol i got all the info from her ex best friend that got discarded this summer by her, that was living in the same house lol crazy!
I am not a nice guy and and this is awful to become aware of. I think I have become a monster because of the bullying and abuse I endured as a child. I was small and was beat up a lot by bullies even though I always seemed to be on the losing end of the fights. I can not remember much of my youth. I never sought these fights and seemed to attract bullies although trying to avoid fights. I have enjoyed the great and wonderful honor of being the principals favorite workout victim as well as being bestowed the honorable title one gets for being in the office often. I was the number one troublemaker for being in a lot of fights. I seemed to get beat up often,so much I have a bad reputation for trouble. So I being the victim and unwanted child learned manuliplation early and use it without thought now. I have always wondered why I found it so easy to cause others to do my bidding without their knowledge. I must say that I found this very effective when in the workplace in supervisory positions.
Man you are so freakin right!! My ex and I would jokingly talk shit about how certain people from armenia have accents. I would jokingly always ask him would you ever be with a girl like that? And he would say hell nooo. Well guess what, he's married to one ha ha. I was so confused when I found out. This is new girl is learning English spelling and grammer, it's hilarious. In a way, that's what he deserves. What a downgrade. I don't know what to think anymore. I'm puzzled Btw I always give your videos a thumbs up and subscribed. You are my therapy after coming from work. So relaxing 😎
When I was in my 20s working at a call center I would literally turn to my right and "become" the evangelical shy teenage boy and turn to my left and "become" the sassy and obnoxious midle aged woman.
Be yourself and be about yourself.
CNXG CrazyNarcissistXGirlfriend my soon to be ex husband was very involved in the church. As a Christian does he think about the religion and the repercussions of the outcome with the word in the Bible? In other words isn't he scared to burn in hell for his actions? Lol sorry but we married by the church and broke the covnant
Lyn Kent thank you, I hope karma gets him
David hello and love watching you,all that you say and how you say it is so freaking funny but all so true.ou make a bad and or sad situation funny as hell,in addition David you are so absolutely!! freaking right.!!this nut.oh by the way I'm from NYC n
But I live in Greenville NC.im 50 years old and the but I was with all you spoke and speak is 100%this nut.he always tried to mirror me.example.there was a gathering and little kids were dancing he gets upset and anted allll the dam attention.tge spot light.instead like a normal person,and say awwwh they so cute and or cheer them on.do you believe the ass wipe took their spotlight of attention and showed his ass off like a fool.making a scene in a rage.i was so embarrassed and left his crazy ass right there.. thanks for all your support David.
Roxy Bolt lol too cold for me!
Roxy Bolt Nope!
Ugh... I used to work with a woman who tried to mimic practically everything I did: clothing, speech, personality, habits, etc. When first I met her, she looked and dressed totally different. She was also very boorish and uncouth. When we first met, this woman practically stared me down, watching everything I did. She totally did the “blank stare” thing anytime I entered her line of sight.... it was really creepy. Then she started started trying to get really close to me, trying to be my best friend, asking me a ton of personal questions about my life, etc. I started to feel like she was plotting against me, and started distancing myself. Then she starts acting more and more like me (ladylike and feminine). Then one day (after only 2 weeks of knowing her), she shows up to work in my EXACT same hairstyle and clothing as me! This was the last straw-I instantly stopped associating with her. Even then, she still tried to copy me! She also kept on trying her best to get close to me, but I thwarted her efforts. She eventually quit. Goes to show how truly sick and twisted these people’s minds are.
Something is broken with them , the head don't work . The brain is dead .
And they are copy cat .
The lucky One A part of their brain never developed.
Truth!
Yes mine was abused as a child from his toxic Narc mother
My ex husband Narc loved only Jazz music. He dressed pretty much like a bum. He did not dance. I saw him about a year after I discarded him. He was wearing a cowboy hat, talked on and on about how much he loved country music, and that he was doing country music line dancing. I learned later, all that stuff was what his new target liked, LOL
carolina rose Amazing, they are all the same.
Thank you for the content you make. I recently pieced together that I was with a narcissist. The straightforward and clear way you explain all of this is really helpful. I appreciate it. And knowing that understanding this can lead to long-lasting healing gives me hope
Very real, insightful, comforting & super funny! So true! Thank u 💜
ShaQuan Hawes Thank you ShaQuan!
I wish I had discovered you 5 years ago! All your vids are spot on and we seem to be about the same age and personality, so you're relatable. My ex-wife did and still does everything you've mentioned in your vids. What's made it so bad, is she has done it on the national level. We both were with a national organization. If I traveled to another part of the country, people would react adversely to me because I am the bad guy. We worked for the same employer, I had to leave because of the stress involved and a physical altercation with a co-worker. I don't go to my old hangouts anymore, because most people look at me sideways and talk shit about me sometimes not so quietly. She's an attractive narc and the men want to defend the pretty girl who I apparently was abusive to and drug through hell. I can't get a date with girls I know because they just don't want to go there (I live in a small town). She's gotten promotions after promotions, as she's an attractive narc. She's currently the boss of the upper Midwest of the national organization we belonged to and was a keynote speaker at last year's national convention in Las Vegas. Oh, and she's on the board of directors for the state of Wisconsin. Meanwhile, I have tried to distance myself from her as much as possible. So, my life that I knew it was destroyed. I am pretty much a hermit now, but I see that changing. These, vids have given me confidence that I'm not the only one. I intend to get back involved in my life as I knew it. Thank you and keep up the good work!
I began to hear my phrases being mirrored back to me, it was so freaky once I spotted the pattern. The coverts are deadly they fake insecurity & appear to be classic codependents.
the softly spoken covert had a different dialect & tone of voice during rages, freaky how he just switched persona when he lost control of his nice guy persona.
David, man, your way of doing this is very touching to me. I've been binge watching narcissist channels since the initial breakup last July. Epic hoover of September-October left me with a berserker rage obsession with this stuff. And only recently finding yours, dude... I feel you, dawg. I'm getting those same chills up my spine that I hear making your voice crack slightly through those rough parts of the story. Almost feels like you're mirroring me!
I can tell you are really feeling what you're saying. My little femme fatale left me those same wounds. You probably don't condone the way I still idealize mine though. Shows a lot of strength to maintain composure the way you do.
Brady Burrell Thank you Brady, I appreciate you. It takes time. I've been away from these people for about 8 years now. A healthier you won't care about anybody disordered anymore.
Mirroring is how you can tell if they are seeing someone else while in a relationship with you.
That makes sense. One day outta no where my ex asked me if i could start speaking Spanish to him during ....
Thank you for these videos David. They're making me feel better about leaving my ex narc. She seemed to enjoy everything I did at the beginning. Fast forward three years later and she couldn't stand anything I loved. I felt guilty to enjoy any of those things for about the last year or so. it got that bad.
eccentricdrunk You are so welcome, im glad youre having clarity.
Mine did the same
You’ve got a great sense of humor, love listening to you. Thumbs up
Anon Amous Revoower Thank you!
All the swears! 😄 I like this one. Funny. My mom had an Irish friend, and after spending an afternoon with her, she would have an accent. I remember feeling embarassed by it. I like how these videos trigger memories. Sarah in Ontario would like to know, "Is not remembering your childhood a symptom of narcissistic abuse?" 🙃
I remember after we talked 1 month after the discard when she'd been hoovering and future faking, her voice had changed. Literally changed. It was scary to hear her talk, it was like it was a completely different person. Iniitially her voice was one of the things I fell for about her. I loved her voice. But afterwards it was like the mask had dropped. I realize now that the person I thought she was never even existed.
Seriously every time i go through something or encounter any narc stuff..your notification pops up and myyyy it's exactly based on my situation..thank u for existing❤
Anum Rajput Awesome, thank you!
David I am beyond grateful for your truthful insights. ..I am close to going no contact with my entire family including my 90 year old mother who has advanced dementia...my brother and sister gaslight and triangulate...at 51 years old and an empath u have feed finances love emotional and phycial support to all of them..my sister treats me like garbage thankfully no contact..I sense she is Borderline like our mother who tiangulated her against me also..alcholism was rampent and walking on eggshells all my life..I now am in recovery and the truth is staring me in the face...your confirmation vidéos are helping me to have the strength to honour myself and get the hell outta dodge including the country of origin...so much love and gratitude brother. ..hugz xxx
Oh my Gosh! I haven't laughed so much in such along time! Thank you so much for saying it like it is! Love your soul! Xo
Oh shit...hahaha..."she was mirroring England"...I almost wet myself on that one!!! You kill me...love it!!!
Krystal Malone lol thank you Krystal!
Whenever I asked my ex what she wanted to do, where she wanted to go on holiday etc etc, she could never answer such simple questions. She would just bat it back to me and ask me what I want. She couldn't ever express her own opinions about anything.
This cracked me up!! I experienced this same mind fuckery with the ex narc. You’re great!
The mind- fuckery is the never ending story.
Like how you said that there initially attracted to you because of your uniqueness and how you are your own person. And this eventually becomes what they want to change about you if your independent they want to control you. It makes me wonder if they get with you wanting to change you.
They love to Social climb too! It's funny to watch and I was well aware of the mirroring to the point where she developed and copied some of my mannerisms and dressed similarly to me which strangers pointed out how much we suited each other as a couple. Very strange!
After the discard, when we spoke again, i mentioned that i want a tattoo. He responded something like: "a tattoo? That's a complete waste of money,... I would never have a tattoo." Well, not a month went by, guess what he got. A fucking tattoo. Now he has several of them. But that is just one example. There are many.. Thank you for this awesome video David ;)
BTW too, you're absolutely spot on here yet again.
Thankyou for all you're invaluable content you contribute,very helpful and validating to me.
Peace.❤️
David, sat here laughing out loud. It's all so true! A really freaky thing I noticed with male narcissists is that they will actually copy female fashion. So, say a girl likes wearing eyeliner or a certain style of glasses etc - the male narcissist will just go ahead and start wearing eyeliner! Upload tons of selfies whilst they're at it. With narcissists, they don't even have a true gender as that is psychologically determined.
Lorna Effy Hmm that is really interesting, thank you for sharing that.
You're welcome David.
This video gave me goosebumps why? It’s because everything that you said are truth, from the start till the end of relationship, it looks like he changed his personality overnight, the way he smiles he talks and even his points of views, wow, you gave me clarity and i know now what to do, this kind of creature is insane, now i realized i’ve been sleeping with my mortal enemy for 7 years,oh my god😱
Thank you again and again
P.s
My little girl love your top .
We sit as a family and get healing, watching your videos
Soon it's bed time you will hear the youngest screaming good night mum night dad and then night David ❤️❤️
The lucky One That is precious!♥️
David, I love this video❤️ My ex mirrored me flawlessly in the beginning! Your delivery had me cracking up🤣
Iceland! 😂 Spot on David!
Yup when he met me I was into working out healthy eating... natural organic foods.... and I am a animal lover... He acted like he liked all the same things...He used to buy me all kinds of organic baskets with organic products he used to take my dogs for walks he would get down on the floor to pet them he joined the gym...he constantly bought me flowers..... told me he loved me after a couple of months and that I was his soulmate... one time he said he wished he could crawl inside of me so he could be with me all the time....At the end before the discard he told me my dogs were just mutts that they stink like piss he would not buy no more organic food no more flowers nothing he told me I am done buying u anything... he told me he wasted a hundred thousand dollars on me....and to top it off he would babysit dogs for people that were going on holidays....you know your stuff love your videos...
Love the way you explain things. All this is truth! Last call from my ex was in April, she sounded like a creepy demon. I even called her evil at one point since she clearly called to make me jealous & tell me I abandoned her which I didn’t. Strangest f*cking call ever! She was so sweet once upon a time ago 🤦🏻♀️💔
Thank you very much. Your understanding will set you free from all of this.
DeMars Coaching that’s what I’m hoping for. Thank you for your reply and all you do.
You crack me up. I mean you're spot on, but your delivery is hilarious.
Hit the nail on the head David, spot on!
Right before my narc ex discarded me, he got a parrot. His new supply finds homes for parrots, so of course he became a parrot freak. Now that this is about mirroring and mimicking, I think, “A parrot! How apt!” Thanks for these videos. They’ve changed my life. 🙂
Oh my God!!!!!!! Yes!!!! I have done the exact same observations!
My ex borderline narcissistic friend used to change her way of speaking every time she visited another city! She also changed the tone of her voice in front of certain people! It's crazy, almost scary sometimes!
Even my ex narcissistic boyfriend did this, he used to mirror the way some people spoke, it was like he became different people, he became them! I told him about it, that I noticed he change like that, he was just like "huh.... I don't know"....
I laughed out loud during the British accent story...OMG! That was so funny. Thanks David. great video, so true.
Reminded me about my ex narc who said he could speak fluent Spanish, but when he did, it sounded SO WRONG...LOL
TMS Jones Fluent BS!
I was cracking up so hard at this.😂😂😂
It’s so true how they end up hating everything about you.😂 Then they say we having nothing common.😂
Thank you. For all of your videos and education, thank you ❤
your videos are BRILLIANT David. Thank you!
After 10 years, the ex-Narc in my life was a country guy walking around barefoot in the woods...after being a total city rock and roll guy....I totally didn't get it until now!!
Dana Cooper That is a classic example, thank you Dana!
“My” narc became a Vegan out of the blue on January first this year. That's when he started to triangulate me with a Mango (no shit!) In every freaking conversation we had, it was all about Mangoes! Ooh how tasty they are, ooh I love mangoes, oh did you know that mangoes are for sale this week?! It was so annoying (laughing hard about right now) I guess it's for the new supply. I was vegetarian when we first met, and he wouldn't even take bite from my veggie food.
PsychoKitty08 mine started drinking coffee out of the blue with a new job he had temporarily. NEVER did it before then.
PsychoKitty08 and holy shit he triangulated you with a Mango?'!?! WTH?'!?! What a weirdo....
Dave you are so clear and well informed in your vids. You have a very good grasp on narcissism. There r tons of videos on here but you r the best. 😁
Quiet, shy, nice and polite- my type & me! That’s how he gets me! I just fell in love with myself! He is very shallow, talking about money, power and social status although he has none of that:)
(Fla Keys)I wish i'd known all this sooner but so grateful for you now!! As crazy as this is my lawyer during D told me to mirror him. This explains so much as to WHY it works!! Don't use it thinking you'll get them back and don't use it if you've feelings for them. My Atty admits his probably a narc himself and remarried same woman 3 times. Who better to fight another narc in court than another POS. Take it for what it is and set boundaries. Atty narc mirrors STBX-NARC and taught me to do the same when setting up custody arrangements --needing to trade pick up dates, needing a "favor" (because they won't do right my own children just for sake of it being the right thing)...Again. don't do it unless you have to. Don't do it if you're in physical proximity or they can mentally hurt you. You have to be 100% detached. Flattery will get you everywhere. Mirroring them is twisted flattery. It's a means to and end. I'll do anything to protect my children. I've zero feelings for narc. Listen to everything David says here. It's(Narcs and these games)
a disgusting and creepy way of life. Know what you're getting into. Thank you again David. As akways---You nailed it!
Spiltzville Adious That is interesting, I sometimes recommend sinking to their level if you have to because it's what works when you are desperate. Thank you so much!!
Hi David, yes they do, they mirror us! My ex got me that way, shy, quietly spoken, so polite, doing whatever he could for me. He was very cunning and nasty but hey only one time, I've been fooled one time by a covert narc, I learned quick smart to spot these people! It's usually an intuitive process: I'm blessed to have it, it's shown me things that other people don't immediately or ever pick up on. In my personal life, I have been trying to teach my partner about a very specific narc we know! Years ago when I 1st met him, I said to my partner, I don't trust him, I don't know what it is yet but I don't trust him. Then the narc and his partner started visiting us and hanging out a bit & I started hearing lies! I said to my partner he lies, he tells a story this way & then tells it differently the next time & different again, time after that 🤔 This guy broke up with their ex about 4 or 5 months ago and I see his flying monkeys, I see the nasty stuff he still does to get at his ex. I also called it when he started his smear campaign against the ex. I deleted him from my fb page and told my partner, I never trusted him, now watch what he does! I literally predicted his next moves, I told my partner what he would do & the way he would relentlessly try to destroy his ex.. which he is actively still doing. I even told my partner that he will ask him why I don't like him any more and try to convince us both that he is innocent and he did, it pissed him off immensely that he couldn't pull the wool over my eyes, I laughed & said to my partner please don't be fooled by his poor me bullshit! We haven't been and we have stayed out of his smear campaign. Quite frankly I have no energy & time for him. That's the way I roll with narcs that think they can pull the wool over my eyes 😑 thanks David, great video 😀
Shifting Realities That is great you have learned to pay attention to what people say and look for consistencies. What they say should match what they do. Thank you for sharing!
Thanks David. You really said it all!
Saharla Jama Thank you Saharla!
This is spot on.My ex turned into me.He had been incarcerated and his family had known him to be bad and just a horrible person.He got out I met him,didn't see him coming here mirrored me to a t.So I thought wow this is a loving sweet guy.So we go to see his family they think he changed,that jail changed him. No he is a narcissistic psycopath.He now tells them I'm crazy that he left me.They probably believe him.He would watch me and say what I say act how I act.See deep down I always knew it was fake and I would tell him that.I remember thinking this is so sad because he would say he loved me,do nice things then gaslight me at the same time. I was so confused I was loosing my mind.He would plant things for me to see he was cheating,and say things that he did with other girls like we did it and I would say we never did that and he would say your crazy your losing your mind.I knew something was off then i realized what he called me all the time was what he was.Thats how I came to find out he was a psycopath ironically. After I ended it after 6 months I looked it up and boy it all came together. I was shocked,everything this Dr says about these people is true.They act exactly who they are around.I hope to God he finds God because the real truth is I feel sorry for him.I do love him,but it wasn't really who he was.I just want him to not do this to anyone else.Also he only snapped 3times and I was in shock at his rage.I knew I had to get rid of him.Crazy thing is,I had to fool him to get him to leave me alone by really acting crazy.
This one was so funny!!! You nailed it ....Explains a lot!
Good morning every one 💕
Today I got myself a pink nike shoes all pink with glitter ✨
And I'm dancing to Elton song I'm still standing...feeling like a little kid .
I always wanted pink things but growing up in foster homes and in the care system...I was lucky to get flip lop I had half of a flip and no lop
David I hope you read this ....I wish to thank you 😊 I'm old but I'm a little happy girl now with pink pink shoes and glitter ✨
I'm happy 😊 thank you every one tank you all .
The lucky One Thank you, you deserve to be happy sweetheart!
Love the delivery make it so easy to understand keep posting thank you you have helped me
Everything you said was right on! And so funny! Thank you for your insight!
David This is exactly what happened in my relationship. Its like you have read my Journal..
Hey David, I may have mentioned it before, but my mirrored me and I experienced everything you mentioned here. When I first met her, we seemed to have everything in common and that's why I fell in love with her. Aside from 1-2 things, towards the end, she didn't like those thing anymore. She even admitted to mirroring me, which pissed me off. I don't want to be with someone that's pretending. She no longer liked sci-fi movies, and she asked why it's the only thing we watch. She no longer identified with her MBTI or being an HSP. These are all thing we bonded over. I think her values changed when she was around other people while living away from me too. She was going between mirroring me, and whomever else she spent time with behind my back.
To be honest, I do remember telling her my full name in a text after we met. She could have looked me up on Facebook and studied my posts. Also, I began to notice that she liked very shallow things. I tried to dismiss it, because it disappointed me.
Excellent Sir I always thought this was spooky behavior almost haunting Thank you 👏
Lol! Lol! .....U're a comedian!! Thanks was spot on and a good laugh. 🤗
This video would be hilarious if it wasn't so spot on and so crazy. You certainly pegged my borderline ex. When we first dated and would go out to eat, the waitress would come to take our order, and ex would say, "why don't you just order for me." Huh? Well....um...ok. FF 26 years later, we could hardly sit at the same table because all of her food had to be diametrically opposite of anything I was having. David has these people PEGGED!
Just found your channel....what a gem!!!!
this is so accurate, I have experienced this myself
After our first break up she started being "friends" with a guy that worked construction so when we got back together all she wanted to watch was home improvement shows. Then after I left her she had 3 long distance soul mates and she started becoming a sports fan like they were. Wearing sports jersey and going to sports bars. So weird
Brilliant David! Educational and entertaining . Love that accent part. Lol. Your videos always make me touch the replay button.
Fairooz nawar Right on thank you Fairooz! I hope you're feeling good!
CNXG CrazyNarcissistXGirlfriend Yes David. I'm doing fine. Thanks.
And ever since I was involved with the narcissist who lovebombed me, I don't like having too much in common with someone because of the mirroring manipulations. I think that having some differences can add flavor/variety to the relationship. And they can be strengths. What one person lacks in one thing, the other person can be better at and visa versa and then we make a better and stronger team.
Lmaooooooo she have a accent spending two weeks in England.
Yes! I said I love skating, and in the beginning he said he too loved skating. Later on I asked if he wanted to skate, and he looked at me like I was speaking a foreign language. He was like I don’t skate! I was like wtf😂
Mine was cycling.😂
Fucking nailed it with this one but not only do they not sound the same ,they don't look like the person you knew.
Her eyes,face,hair, the way they talk and even how she walks is different.
It does actually help because now the person who we loved is gone so its time to mourn them and really say goodbye.
Sorry I'm late to the party on this one David but its so fucking relevant
Spot on! Mine was arguing with me using my argument lines I used a day ago, word to word. Rather funny and pathetic😂
Silver Rain Pathetic mind F#$&! I hope you're feeling good!!
The narcs I dated where anything but shy and quiet. They were loud and commanded attention from the whole room; they were the life of the party, so to speak. Very charming and kind. I neve met a shy narc.
This is so true!! My ex used to copy all my sayings etc. He's with someone new now and I've noticed his dress sense and personality has totally changed. 😂
I’m from the UK great video, great accent. You had me on the floor. Funny.
Haha omg you are hilarious in this video! I was laughing! But on the other hand, all true. The narc I was talking to over the phone with sounded "ghetto". Then on Facebook, I saw that he just posted a pic of him and a black guy friend. Then, I thought .... "oooh I get why now" lol. And when we would video chat, he would definitely look at me and if I make the slightest facial expression (ex: move my nose because I had an itch), he would say right away, "what was that?". They watch everything.
Hi David, great video and so true. My ex friend Narc did that to me. When I met her I was into all things New Age, very soon she was also, big time! I started rose gardening, and she did too! I put out a pen pal newsletter, soon she put out a poetry newsletter! I was doing lots of freelance writing, she started to TRY to sell her god awful poetry. When I would tell her about a bad experience, she told me about her experiences that sounded so much like mine. I believed our lives had so many parallels. She said she and I were Twin Souls. I believed that completely, plus all of the other bullshit. I believe I am an intelligent person, yet I fell for all of that. Boy, do I hate that piece of shit.
carolina rose Yes, she was mirroring you. It's creepy to realize it much later isn't it? It's not your fault, we all fell for it.
CNXG CrazyNarcissistXGirlfriend We all fall for it and it's flattering. Her ex rode motorbikes so she learned to ride one. My question to her was Why??? She had no answer and then went in to tell me how impractical and dangerous a motorbike was and she will sell the leathers which cost her a lot of money! Crazy behaviour! I ask myself why would you want to get yourself hitched to that long term. I've learned so much and so happy as a consequence.
I know I'm crazy late, but Damn that twin part!
My narc female bestie called us 'connected by soul's.
Discarded her after 4 years of painful torture ending up with tampered drinks and almost taking my advantage sexually.
Just had to add she tells people I died
I'm not dead I'm dancing with my pink shoes
I'm still standing ya ya ya
The lucky One That's right, she couldn't kill you and you will be stronger than ever!
I fuckin love you man. Lol. I love how brutally honest you are "she kept that goddamn accent for a month" haha.
It's so true though. My ex narc I feel kept me around because he so badly wanted to learn how to be like me. He always said, people are so drawn to me. He always said his least favorite quality in me was that I am too friendly. Lol... it's because he can't be that. He can only fake it for so long. I've seen him laugh, i've seen him cry. I've seen him angry. His facial expressions never really changed. He never got scared... its fucking crazy.. they are dead inside
You always make me smile. The Iceland story so funny but true. Narcs are empty POS.
Lucky I love every Holiday destination!
Yeah, I have to agree with this. And they tend to take their cues about what to like from advertising and mass media. Their wife has to have a certain color hair, they have to drive a certain car, or dress a certain way. The key is that it's not because they really like those things, but because they think everyone else likes those things. They are some of the most bland people you will ever know.
Kathleen Wirth Shallow, fake, empty!
Thank you Kathleen!
The video was absolutely hilarious, but true.
Hilarious!!! You should do a comedy show about the narcs!!!Lolol...Diane from Nor Cal :)☆☆☆
You nailed it!✌🏼😁
Mirroring .... That's how the rat got himself In under the radar. If only I had known to see it at the beginning.
Yona Curtis Lol dirty rat! HI Yona!
LOL if the shoe fits ay lol rat or lizard both are good
Omg I laughed so hard by your examples and the way you said it but it's so true. The England accent 😂💯
Hello, been watching alot of video about Naricissim lately.....im sure you can guess why. anyway like you style. that london england story was funny and very relatable. THANK YOU!!!
you are hilarious....love watching your videos!
12:23 I'm howling with laughter!! *_HUH?, WHAT, HUH???_* 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Yea, I’ve experienced this. It’s crazy.
This had me rolling around! 12:05 Quality!! 😂😂😂😂
Man your videos are so educating I swear, helpful and I must say after watching this, are entertaining as well. I was smiling and giggling all laong sometime out of curiousity, sometimes because of the way you approach it and the way it is on the spot, lol.
I've noticed all these things all along but they were just abstract to me. It got a bit more clear now. Thanks as always man.
That's one of the signs they are cheating on you also. My ex narcs both did this. Suddenly they were doing and saying weird shit that was out of character for them. Wow, I finally figured it out! I knew neither one of them had an original thought of their own!!!!!
This was brilliantly funny!!!
Fresias 4Me Thank you Fresias!
Agreed that’s exactly mine he has zero empathy and loves hiding on fake FB accounts, why?
You crack me up. It's all so creepy but hilarious too. The thing I'm most upset about is that for 16 mos I turned crazy myself. He literally turned me into a psycho girlfriend. That's what I'm pissed about. And he stole all my good jokes and passed them off as his.
Excellent David thank you. That is the ex to the T. I know her past and what happened when we got together completely mirrored me. Now shes turned into the new guy lol i got all the info from her ex best friend that got discarded this summer by her, that was living in the same house lol crazy!
John Parka Yeah it is crazy and I'm glad you figured her out!
I am not a nice guy and and this is awful to become aware of. I think I have become a monster because of the bullying and abuse I endured as a child. I was small and was beat up a lot by bullies even though I always seemed to be on the losing end of the fights. I can not remember much of my youth. I never sought these fights and seemed to attract bullies although trying to avoid fights. I have enjoyed the great and wonderful honor of being the principals favorite workout victim as well as being bestowed the honorable title one gets for being in the office often. I was the number one troublemaker for being in a lot of fights. I seemed to get beat up often,so much I have a bad reputation for trouble. So I being the victim and unwanted child learned manuliplation early and use it without thought now. I have always wondered why I found it so easy to cause others to do my bidding without their knowledge. I must say that I found this very effective when in the workplace in supervisory positions.
The story about the accent cracked me up! Hilarious!!
Man you are so freakin right!!
My ex and I would jokingly talk shit about how certain people from armenia have accents. I would jokingly always ask him would you ever be with a girl like that? And he would say hell nooo. Well guess what, he's married to one ha ha. I was so confused when I found out.
This is new girl is learning English spelling and grammer, it's hilarious. In a way, that's what he deserves. What a downgrade. I don't know what to think anymore. I'm puzzled
Btw I always give your videos a thumbs up and subscribed. You are my therapy after coming from work. So relaxing 😎
You are awesome.
I am laughing because this is so true about morphing into a totally different person...
Iceland!! Lol that's hilarious David! I get it
lol i love your honesty! you're funny :) good stuff!
😂. Loving the accent me dear!!! ❤️. Greetings from UK 🇬🇧
When I was in my 20s working at a call center I would literally turn to my right and "become" the evangelical shy teenage boy and turn to my left and "become" the sassy and obnoxious midle aged woman.
Iceland 😆👌🏼👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🤣I love u🙏🏼🔥❤️thank you brother your helping me in so many ways....