*JADE, can we pls get "Making Friends in Your 20/30s" video????* I really miss the days when I would hang out with friends daily for hours, travel together...impossible with a 9 to 5
man, i hear you i miss those childhood days my friends literally lived in the same block of flats as me and we'd hang out every day capitalism sucks so bad unless you're a content creator and can meet friends liek that
Yes please! Precovid I've been a social butterfly, now I'm super awkward socially. On top of it, I live in a country where I'm not fluent in the native language. 🥲
@@joshuarodriguez5986 I agree 100% I want to have financial freedom just so I can do a spontaneous trip with my friends in middle of March, one in the middle of October etcccc so happy Jade will help us
One downside to having a strong internal locus of control that I don’t see talked about a lot is the lack of empathy it can lead to. This is discussed in Learned Optimism where they found that children who have been taught to have a high locus of control and believe for example, that how well they do in a maths test is down to how hard they work, did better in maths tests on average. But then when these children were told oh here is a reward for doing so well on your test, and were given a big bag of sweets or the like, and were asked whether they wanted to share any with their classmates, the ones with the high internal locus of control were less likely to share. After all, they’d been told how well they did on the maths test was down to how hard they worked and that must be true for everyone, so they just deserved the sweets more. If we have a very strong internal locus of control we don’t just believe we have control over our own life but also that other people have control over there’s, and this can result in the view that those in bad life circumstances must have brought it on themselves, whereas establishing somewhat of an external locus of control can help with empathy of someone in a hard situation.
Loved every second of the rainbow reflection on your face. You made yourself so colourful that the colours are chasing you now hehe. Loved this video. This video was my therapy. I've been in an uncertain phase of life and while doing some self reflection I coined this sentence the other day that went like "Don't destroy your present life and peace for a future that may not come at all" I think you need context for this but it's a long story and I won't tell but I'm leaving this here if anyone needs to hear this today.
A reminder for anyone watching this and feeling inspired by this - you don’t have to be single to find yourself. I’m sure Jade had other reasons for breaking up with her partner, but I think it’s quite depressing that many UA-camrs and influencers talk about being in a relationship as holding you back or stopping you from achieving your full potential… in some cases, yes, but please don’t apply this as a blanket rule. I often feel like a lot of people who have this mindset feel that they need to get through some kind of painful, emotional event just to see what they’re like on the other side and use it as a reason to stop connecting with people
@@hollyjo2188 I love this thank you for sharing!! I grew immeasurably through being in a loving, supportive relationship and wholeheartedly agree that being around the right people helps you grow into your true self
Once again I can't explain you enough how synchronised our lifetimes are! Being in a similar situation this year, breaking down for taking up too much and learning to focus on little and important things to move forward. Thank you for opening up about it and making me always feel understood and safe! 🧡
Moments of connection like this are literally the reason I dare to post such vulnerable reflections!! Thank you so much for expressing this and taking the time to nurture your authentic self 🦋
I definitely got to this video a little late so I can't imagine anyone will see this but this video felt like a hug. I remember in school we had an assembly given by one of my favourite teachers about the importance of internal control and that using an external locus of control involves making excuses and being lazy. After watching this video its made me realise that both are equally importance and that believing and trusting in an external locus brings so much peace and takes away some of the pressure in life. Yes I still want to work hard to achieve my goals but there is such comfort in knowing that things will always work out no matter what. I always love your videos they bring me so much peace and always seem to come at such a perfect time in my life 🌻
Jade, thank you for the wonderful video! However as person with complex trauma, I stumbled upon the assumption that we choose our challenges in life. I think that can be a slap in the face for many people with trauma. I know you have only the best intentions. However, I want to say this again here for all trauma survivors: You did not choose your trauma, it was never your fault!
It can’t be a coincidence that I’m seeing this video now. I’ve been fighting with overcontrol a whole year and finally this summer stared learning how to let go.
I was brought up atheist, because the way my parents grew up with religion did not serve them. But I have always envied people who have a god to believe in and trust. Lately I've started to listen to "philosophise this" (great podcast) and it also touches on why people believe in God etc. and I'm slowly trying to find my spiritual beliefs. I cannot believe in a God anymore, but I want to believe in the greater thing, nature, life, balance :) thank you for sharing this journey 🙏 ❤️
aaah yessss I've always felt the same!! wishing I could believe in a god but feeling unable to, especially within the bounds of defined religions. I also admire people who have the comfort of faith. I'm learning to have the imagination to release some sense of control, whether it's in an ever-evolving idea of trusting 'the universe' or just trusting that things will work out as they need to. ooh I'll def listen to this, thank you! lots of love 🦋
@@juliakacala8204 Ofc, I hope not to be disrespectful in any way, but it's similar to why I don't believe in santa claus. I simply was not brought with the idea that they exist, and the world has always made sense to me that way. Therefore I don't need to believe in a God to understand life. Maybe if you're brought up with the idea that there is or might be a God, you look differently at the world, and you might use that idea to explain things around you, which then reinforces your belief. But I didn't have that experience of seeing the world from that perspective, and still found a way to make sense of things. I think I would believe in God if it would explain things better to me. (I hope this makes sense, and of course I can't really know what it is like to believe in God, just my point of view)
@@francaeleana no worries it wasn’t disrespectful in any way! it’s actually nice to have an open conversation with someone about this :) I understand your point of view, I was totally atheist myself for quite a while, but i understand the whole ‘believing in God to help me understand things’ situation as that’s where I found a lot of my answers, so if you do happen to have any questions I can always try and answer them to the best of my knowledge so far as someone who practices religion :) it has some cool and comforting aspects to it that give a lot of peace :) wish you all the best! thanks for your response, I like to learn from people so it was great reading your perspective :)
Going from intellectualizing my feelings to feeling them has been hard, as a former logic and disbelief girlie… but over the past few years (and therapy) I’ve also become increasingly spiritual and trust in the process. In moments of anxiety I get sad sometimes, like “I was so secure in this just two weeks ago,” but I take every setback as a message. My favorite quote is “pursue what is meaningful, not what is expedient.” The journey is the most important part. Love seeing someone around my same age going through the same stuff, makes the soul feel less alone 🩵
All of that doesn't apply to people with trauma. Like, 'you've chosen this path' thing. No, I didn't. I didn't choose the abusive parents, chronic illness and poverty. I didn't choose war in my country, and falling economy. Such beliefs is a great way to put blame on someone when things were literally outside of their control. I hate to say it, but Jade channel becomes something I can't agree with anymore. It's pretty detached from reality of regular people, and now it shows((
100%- this really really bothered me as well. Agree on all of this. And to you- I'm really sorry you have gone through all of this- and it absolutely was not your choice!!!
I'm so sorry you've gone through so many hardships, it has never and will never be your fault, nor justifiable or excusable. ❤️🩹 as I say, this is just a belief system I'm exploring that currently helps me make sense of needless suffering in the world -- that the suffering is by no means excused, but has an incomprehensible purpose that's far bigger than what we can see. I understand it can be really difficult and even insulting to be told a philosophy of "you chose this" when you have no bloody clue why you might from a detached metaphysical lens, and it sounds a lot like victim blaming. My current belief is that it's just a part of the whole thing, being unable to comprehend why we'd choose any part of it. It personally gives me peace to imagine that hardship is a tool for learning needed lessons. But hey ho rn I'm soooo open to exploring different philosophies of making sense of this life!! While obviously trying to impact the world in positive ways. No pressure to agree or resonate with me ever. I'm just committed to showing up here as my true self, no matter how I grow or change. lots of loveeee
I myself have gone through loads of trauma and hardship in my life. Trauma's faced as a kid & teenager that are high level and life/ brain altering. I actually have come to this belief system a few years back now too and Its a breath of fresh air seeing someone else (Jade) who may have had very rigid/ similar mindset as me, also break free from it. It's hard and confrontational to see this perspective but it's also freeing and liberating. It takes all the load off if you choose to see this perspective with love that your soul really wanted this. Not out of hate; but out of some higher reason; so that as a matter of fact, we can all put it down as ''it is all alright cause it has always been alright' and so it will/ 'must' be in the future too.
@@elisezimmer7960 I’m really glad this has helped you to see things this way. But for me it’s not going to help me in any way to think that in some way my soul wanted to be abused. I have my own faith and I believe that a higher power has been with me as I’ve fought through the awful times. But my soul did want to face abuse and it did not want to suffer with an illness that very nearly ended my life. I am glad that your beliefs have helped you to survive the trauma in your life and I’m very glad you’ve come out of the other side and that’s great and I’m glad this way of thinking has helped you, it just doesn’t help me. I don’t need to convince myself that I deserved it any more than I already do
I think I had experienced something similar to you. I've been pretty sure lat year had to be my adulting time, moving out from my family, going to work and having all responsibilities but life just showed me I wasn't ready. I went through the worst mental breakdown to realise that this few months I spent slowing down were necessary to fully admire what I have become now. I learnt how to talk about my emotions, my friends got to know me better and I cried a lot too (which I never did before). But now I'm strong, trying my best alone in a big city, although still worrying about the future. Maybe leaning in present is the solution, thank you for this video
I'm so happy and grateful that I found your chanel this year. You're such a pure and genuine person. Every video makes me emotional and wanting to hug you. My soul sees yours. Thank you, Jade ❤✨🙏🏻
Dear Jade, Wow, this video reached me just at the perfect time. I love your idea of spirituality, I might pair it with manifestations and setting intentions, but those that allow me to relax and go with my flow of energy and trusting where life might take me. Summer is such a hard time for me, because my inner self always needs something going on, but it's hard to give myself permission to listen to my inner voice and to give myself time for all chill, joyous things out there. Thank you for this community allowing us all to bloom together!
"Sometimes there is no change externally, but the entire word has changed up here [ in our head, in our mind ]". This is very wise, and I resonate with it a lot, Jade. It is so hard to dedicate time and space for these kinds of growth -- as there is no external evidence to justify us putting so much time and space for them -- but it is so important, not just because they will be bring benefits in the long run, but also because of their intrinsic value, right in the present moment that we are experiencing them. I am leaning into that now... Thank you Jade!
I’m very happy right now to have Jade’s video to watch today - I feel like this video was meant to be here for me right now … love you, Love you, LOVE YOU Jade 💗💖🌷
I’ve believed this for years and I do have faith as well. It’s helped me deal with many of the challenges I’ve faced in my life. I think this is one of your best videos
the idea of our souls knowing everything that will happen to us and choosing the life and challenges we will face is a really dangerous idea to me. to make an extreme example, what about people who end their lives? why would their soul choose for their life to end that way? what about children who die from diseases before they even reach 5? why on earth would a soul choose for someone to go through that - i don't see any lessons that can be learnt through losing your life so young
i don’t know how you always say exactly what i’ve been trying to put into words for a while…💚 feeling so blessed to have been able to witness you for so long
holding space for life - while trusting yourself & life itself to 'get it together' in its own time can be such a real & effective way to let go of control. so happy the external locus of control has brought you comfort and a deeper understanding of who you are!! also your casual magic of the day is sweet af!✨💗 keep blooming!! i think i'll join you 💐
This video came at the right time, thank you Jade ! At the beginning of the year I also thought it would be a girl boss kind of year, but then burnout and depression hit hard and I had to rethink my priorities. As I write I am freshly back from a long trip and I am learning languages while enjoying the process, I love languages and they make my soul happy. Little personal milestone : 41 days streak on Duolingo & slowly getting back on track with my Dutch (yup I'm also a Dutch learner !)
Jade, your videos are always resonating so much with me! It's like you're speaking directly to my soul. Thank you so much for being here and sharing your journey ♥️
what a synchronicity this video.. a lot of pointers in your video is exactly what i have been mulling over these past 6 months or so.. very recognisable!
it's very interesting to hear your views on life! i don't share your beliefs that we choose what life we are born into, or that any kind of predestined path or timing exists for us... but i love that we can all have different perspectives on this. that's the beauty of being human!! i'm glad you're taking care of yourself and doing well this summer
Jade, I can’t say enough how much your videos have resonated with me this past year. Like you, I also grew up very resistant to faith and it’s so nice to see that you and me now walk a similar spiritual path, believe similar things and look at the universe in a similar way. “the universe gives you what you need, not what you want.” is something I really needed to hear today. thank you so much for showing this personal side of yourself here ❤️ love from brasil
The last two years of my life have been TOUGH. I have lived in uncertainty and guilt. I'm done being stuck in the life I planned and never got to live. I'm sitting on a bench in my home city, revisiting places I love and listening to this video... perfect timing! It gives me strenght to embrace the change, trust my intuition and forget about other people's opinions about my own life. Thank you for your wisdom! And thank you for the comment section, such a safe space. Love from Italy. ❤️🩹
Thank you for so beautifully articulating so many important insights and lessons that I needed to hear at this very moment - yet another proof of the divine timing that governs us all. I could listen to you forever, thank you for opening your heart and vulnerably sharing the journey you continue to be in
Thank you for showing up as your authentic self, always, Jade. I am in awe of this life and currently also harbor the same belief that you speak about: that we’re co-creators of our life and that we each have a soul syllabus, if you will. (Came across the term through Sonia Choquette, my go-to spiritual voice). Keep blooming, showing up as your most authentic self and being so brave. Lots and lots of love to you ❤
Thank you so much for this video Jade! I needed to hear this today as I try to navigate the uncertainty of what my future holds as a twenty something! I particularly liked what you mentioned about when people ask 'what are you up to at the moment?' and not feeling bad about not being busy and living slow. Often people equate success with being busy or hustling all the time and as you said the inner work in our minds can be a journey in itself. Sending so much love and hope you have a lovely Sunday xxxx
Thank you for this video. I've been feeling like my relationship doesn't serve me anymore for so long... I am just so scared to leave because I really love this man and cant imagine my life without him... I keep questioning my intuition and asking myself why i cant be happy... But i feel so deeply that for whatever reason i have to do this and I'm going to be alright again. Sometimes letting go is easier than trying to fight and hold on so tight... Every smile of him just hurts at this point. I think it was divine timing that this video appeared in this very moment. Lots of love ❤
As always, perfect summary of my life and growth in the past 6 months, it's amazing (and almost creepy, haha) how we're having so many similar experiences XD but finally feel like you're being your true self, blooming and feeling happy and as your life is finally flowing, it is really the best thing ever and took me 33 years, lot of therapy and self discovery work, lot of healing and trusting the process when I was heavily doubting my life choices. Love ya, sis 💚
Control can really make it hard, especially when you know there always going to be that next challenge that you need to undertake. Thanks for sharing this with us 😊
Yessss 100%!! It's all about finding a healthy balance between seizing ownership of your life and striving for goals, while trusting that you're already enough and everything will work out as it needs to 💌
You know what I've noticed, jade? Your voice is so much calmer now. That's great to know that you've been healing and learning ❤ keep going, hon! You can totally do this!
Not me here just crying from everything you said. I really needed this. I just moved back to my birth country after a lifetime of ”not yet”. It’s terrifying but I knew I had to go now. My life looks nothing how I thought it would at 30 but I think this is exactly how it was supposed to be.
Hii yayyy you posted again! 😊 just wanted to tell you that i saw you at clapman junction train station and i was soo happy i started waving at you i think you saw but you were probably thinking who the heck is that? Lol seeing you that day was my casual magic i wish i could've talked to you oh well.. so i just wanted to tell you are an amazing kindhearted person and you have helped me a lot thanks❤
I don't know if you will see this comment, but I wanted to thank you for this video. It really helped me find some peace and the end of this long day of doubting my decision of doing a study abroad semester. I am currently just a week in a whole new Country and I am having a hard time coping with that I am having a hard time. I hoped that I would be in some sort of constant honeymoon fase the first few weeks, but arriving here has had a lot of ups and downs. It is good to find some trust instead of constantly doubting if what I am doing is right for me.
I am so excited for you. You are moving closer and closer to God. This video is the most awesome documentation of that so far. I think he will have moved on you in full within the next 12 months now, and what you expressed in the last 3 minutes of this vlog will all make holistic sense. You are such a brilliant communicator, and not be accident. Keep thriving brilliant woman.
Recently I'm waiting for an Offer from Germany, kind of stress and nervous, after watching this Vedio from my favourite JADE🥰 I feel so much peaceful right now
Thank you for this lovely video!! I can relate sooooo much to feeling like the Universe forced me to slow down this year…and once I truly leaned in… ✨magic ✨
Hi Jade (from France)! Would you be interested in making a video about getting back on track after a difficult time and handling the consequences (be they emotional, financial or else) of poor choices, especially as adults? I used to be the productive and hardworking woman no one worried about but got too involved in a relationship that led to a difficult breakup and depression, so if you have any advice, it would be much appreciated! Love your content and hope to meet you one day! Thanks for everything, Honorine.
Oh Jade!❤ I can resonate so so much with what you're sharing..whether it is the strong internal locus of control or the eldest daughter syndrome or something else. I'm sitting here in tears right now because I wish I could trust the process but it's so damn hard. Can you share what helps you to turn others voices and your own expectations off and what helps to lean in? (without loosing focus)
14:40 It is a hot day today as well! ❤ loved this lil ramble… it was MUCH MORE than a lil ramble so kudos to you for giving me realisation . I will trust myself more. I will lean into my intuition and into taking care of myself and my lil routines that serve ME more. Which will allow me to be the best version of myself, for others to connect with as well!😌😍🥰😘
I think they did recent studies and found that the External Locus' of control rates are swapping with conformity... For example, Inter Loc's used to be regarded as those who conformed less to group pressure, but now we are finding it (in research) the other way round! I don't think this is very related but I saw the title and it reminded me of what my professor said.
Its like we have been growing together since study with me days. And now being in our early 20s, I really can't help but bring up that behind your spiritual journey is Allah bringing you closer to Him, only some open their minds to really listen and I feel like everything has led you one step closer, Jade. If i go on about it, I wont be able to stop so I'll just recommend you reading "Secrets of Divine Love" by A. Helwa, its magical, beautiful and you will find that all these realizations you have had is the truth.
I am at 7:46. What I believe, at least for now, is that we decide the 50 percent of our life before to incarnate. Around some big lessons, etc., that we will meet during that incarnation. And that the other 50 percent is free. Meaning the free will, and the ego. Hope you will read this comment of mine. Have a nice evening. Ciao !
Graduating from uni hits you hard because you cant control your life anymore. This video resonates with me as well. Life really isnt easy, is it 😅 hugs for everyone struggling ❤
Thank you so much Jade! I love this video and it is so interresting to see how both your view on life and mine have changed over the years - but always in a somewhat parallel way🌟 You know what? Slowing down is HARD! It is so incredible hard and just as you I've had many "big plans" for this years and life gave me situations that forced me to just take a break😅 From everything. And when I could not do anything anymore, I felt like my purpose and identity were falling apart. Cause who am I if I cant, work, help others, do any tasks that involve hands? But I am still here and valuable 🌟 There is one great (and difficult) book I'd like to recomand to you. It is called "the impersonal life" Lots of love❤
I've always found myself to have such an internal locus of control which I think has led to a v pressure-inducing lifestyle. But if I were to suddenly adopt an external locus of control, I worry that I would lose motivation for doing things I can pretty rationally assume will bring me happiness in the future... I am completely aware that an internal locus may well give many people a sense of freedom/relief, but I think that's a pretty scary philosophy to follow. It would probably lead me down an existential road of 'what is the point in anything I have done if the universe has it all planned out for me?'. 😂 P.S. I love your videos so much!! I remember you mentioning a couple months ago on an Instagram story that you felt you had gotten to a place of 'body neutrality', and was wondering if you could make a video on how you got there!! ❤
As a queer afab and also working on workaholic and perfectionism you are so inspirational and heart warming! If you are ever in Montreal you have a place to stay
Does anyone know good videos for the opposite? Like a guide for someone who tells herself "I will study now" everyday but ends up sitting 12 hours a day watching social media content and then studies only for 1-5 days before an exam and skips most of the classes. ( Yes, I still get good grades in uni, but it stresses me out way too much)
I highly recommend what Jade says at the end - figure out the source of your discomfort, why do you procrastinate/spend so much time on social media? I just listened to the audiobook Stolen Focus by Johann Hari and it was amazing. It seriously reduced my screen time and helped me understand why I am/was so addicted to social media. It prompted me to delete all my social media off of my phone. Now I have to log into a browser to access them, and I find the resistance makes me not want to do it, lol! You don’t totally have to delete your account, but make it harder to get onto. I deleted tiktok 3 years ago and have not missed out at all, but this year I became addicted to Instagram reels, oops! Since deleting Instagram from my phone that addiction was almost immediately severed. Sorry this is so long! I also recommend finding non-screen hobbies to do so if you’re feeling bored and compelled to pick up your phone, reach instead for a different hobby. Ruby Granger has beautiful study tube videos that make me more motivated to study, and she has some on distraction, so I recommend those as well. Best of luck with the studies 💕💕💕
for me the older videos of jade (the study tips and study with me) have helped me a lot concerning this problem. in the end it‘s a question of mindset and routines i think:)
Just wanted to leave this comment here for anyone who may be struggling with their faith religiously 😊 if anyone has any questions about God and what religious people believe, I will be more than happy to answer as many as I can! I saw some comments from people saying they envy people who can believe in a God. As someone who truly does believe in a God, it’s okay to take your time to explore your faith. It is really life changing. It’s so hard, but it ends up being so worth it, especially at a time when the world is such a chaotic place. Unfortunately Jade’s channel doesn’t feel as relatable anymore due to the drastically different beliefs, but I still wish for everyone to be happy with what they believe as long as it doesn’t harm anyone 🥰
*JADE, can we pls get "Making Friends in Your 20/30s" video????* I really miss the days when I would hang out with friends daily for hours, travel together...impossible with a 9 to 5
man, i hear you i miss those childhood days my friends literally lived in the same block of flats as me and we'd hang out every day capitalism sucks so bad unless you're a content creator and can meet friends liek that
I have SO MANY THOUGHTS on this… 👀🤝 I’ve got u
Yes please! Precovid I've been a social butterfly, now I'm super awkward socially. On top of it, I live in a country where I'm not fluent in the native language. 🥲
@@UnJadedJade Danke ❤❤❤
@@joshuarodriguez5986 I agree 100% I want to have financial freedom just so I can do a spontaneous trip with my friends in middle of March, one in the middle of October etcccc so happy Jade will help us
One downside to having a strong internal locus of control that I don’t see talked about a lot is the lack of empathy it can lead to. This is discussed in Learned Optimism where they found that children who have been taught to have a high locus of control and believe for example, that how well they do in a maths test is down to how hard they work, did better in maths tests on average. But then when these children were told oh here is a reward for doing so well on your test, and were given a big bag of sweets or the like, and were asked whether they wanted to share any with their classmates, the ones with the high internal locus of control were less likely to share. After all, they’d been told how well they did on the maths test was down to how hard they worked and that must be true for everyone, so they just deserved the sweets more. If we have a very strong internal locus of control we don’t just believe we have control over our own life but also that other people have control over there’s, and this can result in the view that those in bad life circumstances must have brought it on themselves, whereas establishing somewhat of an external locus of control can help with empathy of someone in a hard situation.
ooooh I love this, thank you for sharing!!!
This is so interesting! And eye opening for me as a person with a strong internal locus of control
wow i like that you shared this :) thank you
Loved every second of the rainbow reflection on your face. You made yourself so colourful that the colours are chasing you now hehe. Loved this video. This video was my therapy. I've been in an uncertain phase of life and while doing some self reflection I coined this sentence the other day that went like "Don't destroy your present life and peace for a future that may not come at all" I think you need context for this but it's a long story and I won't tell but I'm leaving this here if anyone needs to hear this today.
you’re an angel Emma!! 🦋 I’m sorry you’ve been in such an uncertain phase but I’m sending you all the strength to get through it
Wow thank you for sharing this. I actually really needed to hear this! Its so easy to stress over possible future good/bad scenarios.
A reminder for anyone watching this and feeling inspired by this - you don’t have to be single to find yourself. I’m sure Jade had other reasons for breaking up with her partner, but I think it’s quite depressing that many UA-camrs and influencers talk about being in a relationship as holding you back or stopping you from achieving your full potential… in some cases, yes, but please don’t apply this as a blanket rule. I often feel like a lot of people who have this mindset feel that they need to get through some kind of painful, emotional event just to see what they’re like on the other side and use it as a reason to stop connecting with people
Good point. You can grow and learn while being in a supportive relationship too.
Precisely! Definitely agree with this! It’s such a weird culture at the moment - it’s so individual and lacking empathy, it’s quite sad to watch :(
@@hollyjo2188 I love this thank you for sharing!! I grew immeasurably through being in a loving, supportive relationship and wholeheartedly agree that being around the right people helps you grow into your true self
thank you, that is exactly what i needed to hear ❤
Once again I can't explain you enough how synchronised our lifetimes are! Being in a similar situation this year, breaking down for taking up too much and learning to focus on little and important things to move forward. Thank you for opening up about it and making me always feel understood and safe! 🧡
Moments of connection like this are literally the reason I dare to post such vulnerable reflections!! Thank you so much for expressing this and taking the time to nurture your authentic self 🦋
I definitely got to this video a little late so I can't imagine anyone will see this but this video felt like a hug. I remember in school we had an assembly given by one of my favourite teachers about the importance of internal control and that using an external locus of control involves making excuses and being lazy. After watching this video its made me realise that both are equally importance and that believing and trusting in an external locus brings so much peace and takes away some of the pressure in life. Yes I still want to work hard to achieve my goals but there is such comfort in knowing that things will always work out no matter what. I always love your videos they bring me so much peace and always seem to come at such a perfect time in my life 🌻
Jade, thank you for the wonderful video! However as person with complex trauma, I stumbled upon the assumption that we choose our challenges in life. I think that can be a slap in the face for many people with trauma. I know you have only the best intentions. However, I want to say this again here for all trauma survivors: You did not choose your trauma, it was never your fault!
It can’t be a coincidence that I’m seeing this video now. I’ve been fighting with overcontrol a whole year and finally this summer stared learning how to let go.
I was brought up atheist, because the way my parents grew up with religion did not serve them. But I have always envied people who have a god to believe in and trust. Lately I've started to listen to "philosophise this" (great podcast) and it also touches on why people believe in God etc. and I'm slowly trying to find my spiritual beliefs. I cannot believe in a God anymore, but I want to believe in the greater thing, nature, life, balance :) thank you for sharing this journey 🙏 ❤️
aaah yessss I've always felt the same!! wishing I could believe in a god but feeling unable to, especially within the bounds of defined religions. I also admire people who have the comfort of faith. I'm learning to have the imagination to release some sense of control, whether it's in an ever-evolving idea of trusting 'the universe' or just trusting that things will work out as they need to. ooh I'll def listen to this, thank you! lots of love 🦋
hey! can I ask why you don’t think you could believe in a God? I’m just curious as I like talking about this kind of thing :)
@@juliakacala8204 Ofc, I hope not to be disrespectful in any way, but it's similar to why I don't believe in santa claus. I simply was not brought with the idea that they exist, and the world has always made sense to me that way. Therefore I don't need to believe in a God to understand life. Maybe if you're brought up with the idea that there is or might be a God, you look differently at the world, and you might use that idea to explain things around you, which then reinforces your belief. But I didn't have that experience of seeing the world from that perspective, and still found a way to make sense of things. I think I would believe in God if it would explain things better to me. (I hope this makes sense, and of course I can't really know what it is like to believe in God, just my point of view)
@@francaeleana no worries it wasn’t disrespectful in any way! it’s actually nice to have an open conversation with someone about this :) I understand your point of view, I was totally atheist myself for quite a while, but i understand the whole ‘believing in God to help me understand things’ situation as that’s where I found a lot of my answers, so if you do happen to have any questions I can always try and answer them to the best of my knowledge so far as someone who practices religion :) it has some cool and comforting aspects to it that give a lot of peace :) wish you all the best! thanks for your response, I like to learn from people so it was great reading your perspective :)
Going from intellectualizing my feelings to feeling them has been hard, as a former logic and disbelief girlie… but over the past few years (and therapy) I’ve also become increasingly spiritual and trust in the process. In moments of anxiety I get sad sometimes, like “I was so secure in this just two weeks ago,” but I take every setback as a message. My favorite quote is “pursue what is meaningful, not what is expedient.” The journey is the most important part. Love seeing someone around my same age going through the same stuff, makes the soul feel less alone 🩵
Gahhh I love this, thank you so much for sharing 💌
All of that doesn't apply to people with trauma. Like, 'you've chosen this path' thing. No, I didn't. I didn't choose the abusive parents, chronic illness and poverty. I didn't choose war in my country, and falling economy. Such beliefs is a great way to put blame on someone when things were literally outside of their control.
I hate to say it, but Jade channel becomes something I can't agree with anymore. It's pretty detached from reality of regular people, and now it shows((
Completely agree
100%- this really really bothered me as well. Agree on all of this. And to you- I'm really sorry you have gone through all of this- and it absolutely was not your choice!!!
I'm so sorry you've gone through so many hardships, it has never and will never be your fault, nor justifiable or excusable. ❤️🩹 as I say, this is just a belief system I'm exploring that currently helps me make sense of needless suffering in the world -- that the suffering is by no means excused, but has an incomprehensible purpose that's far bigger than what we can see. I understand it can be really difficult and even insulting to be told a philosophy of "you chose this" when you have no bloody clue why you might from a detached metaphysical lens, and it sounds a lot like victim blaming. My current belief is that it's just a part of the whole thing, being unable to comprehend why we'd choose any part of it. It personally gives me peace to imagine that hardship is a tool for learning needed lessons. But hey ho rn I'm soooo open to exploring different philosophies of making sense of this life!! While obviously trying to impact the world in positive ways. No pressure to agree or resonate with me ever. I'm just committed to showing up here as my true self, no matter how I grow or change. lots of loveeee
I myself have gone through loads of trauma and hardship in my life. Trauma's faced as a kid & teenager that are high level and life/ brain altering. I actually have come to this belief system a few years back now too and Its a breath of fresh air seeing someone else (Jade) who may have had very rigid/ similar mindset as me, also break free from it. It's hard and confrontational to see this perspective but it's also freeing and liberating. It takes all the load off if you choose to see this perspective with love that your soul really wanted this. Not out of hate; but out of some higher reason; so that as a matter of fact, we can all put it down as ''it is all alright cause it has always been alright' and so it will/ 'must' be in the future too.
@@elisezimmer7960 I’m really glad this has helped you to see things this way. But for me it’s not going to help me in any way to think that in some way my soul wanted to be abused. I have my own faith and I believe that a higher power has been with me as I’ve fought through the awful times. But my soul did want to face abuse and it did not want to suffer with an illness that very nearly ended my life. I am glad that your beliefs have helped you to survive the trauma in your life and I’m very glad you’ve come out of the other side and that’s great and I’m glad this way of thinking has helped you, it just doesn’t help me. I don’t need to convince myself that I deserved it any more than I already do
I think I had experienced something similar to you. I've been pretty sure lat year had to be my adulting time, moving out from my family, going to work and having all responsibilities but life just showed me I wasn't ready. I went through the worst mental breakdown to realise that this few months I spent slowing down were necessary to fully admire what I have become now. I learnt how to talk about my emotions, my friends got to know me better and I cried a lot too (which I never did before). But now I'm strong, trying my best alone in a big city, although still worrying about the future. Maybe leaning in present is the solution, thank you for this video
Letting go and being your true authentic self, the road to awe!
I'm so happy and grateful that I found your chanel this year. You're such a pure and genuine person. Every video makes me emotional and wanting to hug you. My soul sees yours. Thank you, Jade ❤✨🙏🏻
Such a pleasure to watch you grow this year Jade, we're all proud of you!
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Dear Jade,
Wow, this video reached me just at the perfect time. I love your idea of spirituality, I might pair it with manifestations and setting intentions, but those that allow me to relax and go with my flow of energy and trusting where life might take me. Summer is such a hard time for me, because my inner self always needs something going on, but it's hard to give myself permission to listen to my inner voice and to give myself time for all chill, joyous things out there. Thank you for this community allowing us all to bloom together!
I relate so much!! thank you for sharing
"Sometimes there is no change externally, but the entire word has changed up here [ in our head, in our mind ]". This is very wise, and I resonate with it a lot, Jade. It is so hard to dedicate time and space for these kinds of growth -- as there is no external evidence to justify us putting so much time and space for them -- but it is so important, not just because they will be bring benefits in the long run, but also because of their intrinsic value, right in the present moment that we are experiencing them. I am leaning into that now... Thank you Jade!
I’m very happy right now to have Jade’s video to watch today - I feel like this video was meant to be here for me right now … love you, Love you, LOVE YOU Jade 💗💖🌷
🥹🥹 ily!! you’ve got thisss 🦋
I’ve believed this for years and I do have faith as well. It’s helped me deal with many of the challenges I’ve faced in my life. I think this is one of your best videos
the idea of our souls knowing everything that will happen to us and choosing the life and challenges we will face is a really dangerous idea to me. to make an extreme example, what about people who end their lives? why would their soul choose for their life to end that way? what about children who die from diseases before they even reach 5? why on earth would a soul choose for someone to go through that - i don't see any lessons that can be learnt through losing your life so young
This is so true
Very good point
i don’t know how you always say exactly what i’ve been trying to put into words for a while…💚 feeling so blessed to have been able to witness you for so long
holding space for life - while trusting yourself & life itself to 'get it together' in its own time can be such a real & effective way to let go of control. so happy the external locus of control has brought you comfort and a deeper understanding of who you are!!
also your casual magic of the day is sweet af!✨💗
keep blooming!! i think i'll join you 💐
i love love love this !! 🦋✨ proud of u blooming
This video came at the right time, thank you Jade ! At the beginning of the year I also thought it would be a girl boss kind of year, but then burnout and depression hit hard and I had to rethink my priorities. As I write I am freshly back from a long trip and I am learning languages while enjoying the process, I love languages and they make my soul happy. Little personal milestone : 41 days streak on Duolingo & slowly getting back on track with my Dutch (yup I'm also a Dutch learner !)
I needed to hear this today. Thank you, Jade. 🙏🏻
Always brightens my day to see Jade posts!
Jade, your videos are always resonating so much with me! It's like you're speaking directly to my soul. Thank you so much for being here and sharing your journey ♥️
what a synchronicity this video.. a lot of pointers in your video is exactly what i have been mulling over these past 6 months or so.. very recognisable!
5:07 really made me sobbing, this is so beautiful 🥺
it's very interesting to hear your views on life! i don't share your beliefs that we choose what life we are born into, or that any kind of predestined path or timing exists for us... but i love that we can all have different perspectives on this. that's the beauty of being human!! i'm glad you're taking care of yourself and doing well this summer
i loveeee this thank you for listening!! 🦋i hope me sharing my ever-evolving ideas on these topics inspires you to also own and explore yours!!
Jade, I can’t say enough how much your videos have resonated with me this past year. Like you, I also grew up very resistant to faith and it’s so nice to see that you and me now walk a similar spiritual path, believe similar things and look at the universe in a similar way. “the universe gives you what you need, not what you want.” is something I really needed to hear today. thank you so much for showing this personal side of yourself here ❤️ love from brasil
The last two years of my life have been TOUGH. I have lived in uncertainty and guilt. I'm done being stuck in the life I planned and never got to live.
I'm sitting on a bench in my home city, revisiting places I love and listening to this video... perfect timing! It gives me strenght to embrace the change, trust my intuition and forget about other people's opinions about my own life.
Thank you for your wisdom! And thank you for the comment section, such a safe space.
Love from Italy.
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Thank you for so beautifully articulating so many important insights and lessons that I needed to hear at this very moment - yet another proof of the divine timing that governs us all.
I could listen to you forever, thank you for opening your heart and vulnerably sharing the journey you continue to be in
Thank you for showing up as your authentic self, always, Jade. I am in awe of this life and currently also harbor the same belief that you speak about: that we’re co-creators of our life and that we each have a soul syllabus, if you will. (Came across the term through Sonia Choquette, my go-to spiritual voice).
Keep blooming, showing up as your most authentic self and being so brave. Lots and lots of love to you ❤
Thank you so much for this video Jade! I needed to hear this today as I try to navigate the uncertainty of what my future holds as a twenty something! I particularly liked what you mentioned about when people ask 'what are you up to at the moment?' and not feeling bad about not being busy and living slow. Often people equate success with being busy or hustling all the time and as you said the inner work in our minds can be a journey in itself. Sending so much love and hope you have a lovely Sunday xxxx
Izzy you're such an angel!! Yessss there's something so empowering about OWNING a period of slowness 🦋 lots of love xx
Thank you for this video. I've been feeling like my relationship doesn't serve me anymore for so long... I am just so scared to leave because I really love this man and cant imagine my life without him... I keep questioning my intuition and asking myself why i cant be happy... But i feel so deeply that for whatever reason i have to do this and I'm going to be alright again. Sometimes letting go is easier than trying to fight and hold on so tight... Every smile of him just hurts at this point. I think it was divine timing that this video appeared in this very moment. Lots of love ❤
As always, perfect summary of my life and growth in the past 6 months, it's amazing (and almost creepy, haha) how we're having so many similar experiences XD but finally feel like you're being your true self, blooming and feeling happy and as your life is finally flowing, it is really the best thing ever and took me 33 years, lot of therapy and self discovery work, lot of healing and trusting the process when I was heavily doubting my life choices. Love ya, sis 💚
gahhhh I'm so so happy you feel like you're BLOOMING in this life stage!! 🦋 lots of love
Control can really make it hard, especially when you know there always going to be that next challenge that you need to undertake. Thanks for sharing this with us 😊
Yessss 100%!! It's all about finding a healthy balance between seizing ownership of your life and striving for goals, while trusting that you're already enough and everything will work out as it needs to 💌
As someone in an unstable period in their life, this was EXACTLY what I needed. Thank you so so much Jade, you saved me.
You know what I've noticed, jade? Your voice is so much calmer now. That's great to know that you've been healing and learning ❤ keep going, hon! You can totally do this!
Not me here just crying from everything you said. I really needed this. I just moved back to my birth country after a lifetime of ”not yet”. It’s terrifying but I knew I had to go now. My life looks nothing how I thought it would at 30 but I think this is exactly how it was supposed to be.
I'm so happy you posted today😍💜
Hii yayyy you posted again! 😊 just wanted to tell you that i saw you at clapman junction train station and i was soo happy i started waving at you i think you saw but you were probably thinking who the heck is that? Lol seeing you that day was my casual magic i wish i could've talked to you oh well.. so i just wanted to tell you are an amazing kindhearted person and you have helped me a lot thanks❤
I don't know if you will see this comment, but I wanted to thank you for this video. It really helped me find some peace and the end of this long day of doubting my decision of doing a study abroad semester. I am currently just a week in a whole new Country and I am having a hard time coping with that I am having a hard time. I hoped that I would be in some sort of constant honeymoon fase the first few weeks, but arriving here has had a lot of ups and downs. It is good to find some trust instead of constantly doubting if what I am doing is right for me.
Jade, I am so glad that you grew a lot as a person mentally and you are coming up with all kinds of new ideas what you want to do.
thank you for growing alongside me 🦋
Living for this content; growth in you; love that's spread through this. Super resonating and all what the world needs!
I really needed this! Thank you so much Jade, always such a pleasure to watch your videos! They help more than you can imagine!🦋💛
This video just gave me so much comfort. Thank you for sharing 🫶🏼
I am so excited for you. You are moving closer and closer to God. This video is the most awesome documentation of that so far. I think he will have moved on you in full within the next 12 months now, and what you expressed in the last 3 minutes of this vlog will all make holistic sense. You are such a brilliant communicator, and not be accident. Keep thriving brilliant woman.
4:16 a reminder to come back to this when I loose myself
Recently I'm waiting for an Offer from Germany, kind of stress and nervous, after watching this Vedio from my favourite JADE🥰 I feel so much peaceful right now
Aaaaah that is SO EXCITING congrats gal!! 🦋 I'm manifesting that all your dreams come true
@@UnJadedJade You are a real angel❤
Your videos are so healing Jade, thank you for everything you put out into the world!!
I needed this. Thank you.
Your hair looks amazing here by the way.
Thank you for this lovely video!! I can relate sooooo much to feeling like the Universe forced me to slow down this year…and once I truly leaned in… ✨magic ✨
Yayyyy Jade is MAKING THE VIBES of my summer ❤❤🎉
so insightful, thanks jade ❤
Hi Jade (from France)! Would you be interested in making a video about getting back on track after a difficult time and handling the consequences (be they emotional, financial or else) of poor choices, especially as adults?
I used to be the productive and hardworking woman no one worried about but got too involved in a relationship that led to a difficult breakup and depression, so if you have any advice, it would be much appreciated!
Love your content and hope to meet you one day!
Thanks for everything,
Honorine.
you are allowed to sit in uncertainity
7:39 to 8:09 is healing
Oh Jade!❤ I can resonate so so much with what you're sharing..whether it is the strong internal locus of control or the eldest daughter syndrome or something else. I'm sitting here in tears right now because I wish I could trust the process but it's so damn hard. Can you share what helps you to turn others voices and your own expectations off and what helps to lean in? (without loosing focus)
Thank you Jade for this, I will focus on this for a little bit every day
14:40 It is a hot day today as well! ❤ loved this lil ramble… it was MUCH MORE than a lil ramble so kudos to you for giving me realisation . I will trust myself more. I will lean into my intuition and into taking care of myself and my lil routines that serve ME more. Which will allow me to be the best version of myself, for others to connect with as well!😌😍🥰😘
Eeeep comments like this are the reason I dare to share such vulnerable ideas in their non-fully-formed states 💌lots of love
Thank you soooo muchhh, it's exactly what I need now. Grateful for coming across this video 🌷
I think they did recent studies and found that the External Locus' of control rates are swapping with conformity... For example, Inter Loc's used to be regarded as those who conformed less to group pressure, but now we are finding it (in research) the other way round! I don't think this is very related but I saw the title and it reminded me of what my professor said.
Wow, so so helpful, thank you so much Jade for sharing this lovely video ❤
Its like we have been growing together since study with me days. And now being in our early 20s, I really can't help but bring up that behind your spiritual journey is Allah bringing you closer to Him, only some open their minds to really listen and I feel like everything has led you one step closer, Jade. If i go on about it, I wont be able to stop so I'll just recommend you reading "Secrets of Divine Love" by A. Helwa, its magical, beautiful and you will find that all these realizations you have had is the truth.
1sec in and im already smiling 😊😃
I am at 7:46.
What I believe, at least for now, is that we decide the 50 percent of our life before to incarnate. Around some big lessons, etc., that we will meet during that incarnation. And that the other 50 percent is free. Meaning the free will, and the ego.
Hope you will read this comment of mine.
Have a nice evening.
Ciao !
Graduating from uni hits you hard because you cant control your life anymore. This video resonates with me as well. Life really isnt easy, is it 😅 hugs for everyone struggling ❤
Thanks for your true and honest videos Jade! You are amazing!
One of my fav videos of yours xx
Loved this video! I resonate so much. Thanks for spreading love and wisdom 🥰
Never clicked on a Video faster!🥰
this was great timing with results day coming up 😅
eeeeeep you’ve got this!!!! 🌟🌟🌟
I love this video, it was exactly what I needed to hear
Jade u ar my role model ♥️ love u so much 😘 sending lots of hugs 🫂🥰
so palestinian childrens’ souls chose their life? what lessons are they learning from their homes being bombed?
this is the worst type of nonsense
Thank you so much Jade! I love this video and it is so interresting to see how both your view on life and mine have changed over the years - but always in a somewhat parallel way🌟
You know what? Slowing down is HARD! It is so incredible hard and just as you I've had many "big plans" for this years and life gave me situations that forced me to just take a break😅 From everything.
And when I could not do anything anymore, I felt like my purpose and identity were falling apart. Cause who am I if I cant, work, help others, do any tasks that involve hands?
But I am still here and valuable 🌟
There is one great (and difficult) book I'd like to recomand to you. It is called "the impersonal life"
Lots of love❤
"Oh my gosh, Jade, you look gorgeous today! Your eyes match your dress perfectly!"💚💚💚
I've always found myself to have such an internal locus of control which I think has led to a v pressure-inducing lifestyle. But if I were to suddenly adopt an external locus of control, I worry that I would lose motivation for doing things I can pretty rationally assume will bring me happiness in the future...
I am completely aware that an internal locus may well give many people a sense of freedom/relief, but I think that's a pretty scary philosophy to follow. It would probably lead me down an existential road of 'what is the point in anything I have done if the universe has it all planned out for me?'. 😂
P.S. I love your videos so much!! I remember you mentioning a couple months ago on an Instagram story that you felt you had gotten to a place of 'body neutrality', and was wondering if you could make a video on how you got there!! ❤
This is just what I needed…. Thank you ❤️
Jade you needdd to read the Bhagwad Gita, im sure you are gonna love it.......
As a queer afab and also working on workaholic and perfectionism you are so inspirational and heart warming! If you are ever in Montreal you have a place to stay
🥹 my lil heart, thank u!!
i needed this
Does anyone know good videos for the opposite? Like a guide for someone who tells herself "I will study now" everyday but ends up sitting 12 hours a day watching social media content and then studies only for 1-5 days before an exam and skips most of the classes. ( Yes, I still get good grades in uni, but it stresses me out way too much)
I highly recommend what Jade says at the end - figure out the source of your discomfort, why do you procrastinate/spend so much time on social media? I just listened to the audiobook Stolen Focus by Johann Hari and it was amazing. It seriously reduced my screen time and helped me understand why I am/was so addicted to social media. It prompted me to delete all my social media off of my phone. Now I have to log into a browser to access them, and I find the resistance makes me not want to do it, lol! You don’t totally have to delete your account, but make it harder to get onto. I deleted tiktok 3 years ago and have not missed out at all, but this year I became addicted to Instagram reels, oops! Since deleting Instagram from my phone that addiction was almost immediately severed. Sorry this is so long! I also recommend finding non-screen hobbies to do so if you’re feeling bored and compelled to pick up your phone, reach instead for a different hobby. Ruby Granger has beautiful study tube videos that make me more motivated to study, and she has some on distraction, so I recommend those as well. Best of luck with the studies 💕💕💕
for me the older videos of jade (the study tips and study with me) have helped me a lot concerning this problem. in the end it‘s a question of mindset and routines i think:)
what you believe comes true for you 💙
Love this video! ❤
This is awesome- similar path for me- so nice to have your experience shared and spoken ✨👏🏻🙏🏻 present moment 🕺☺️
Just wanted to leave this comment here for anyone who may be struggling with their faith religiously 😊 if anyone has any questions about God and what religious people believe, I will be more than happy to answer as many as I can! I saw some comments from people saying they envy people who can believe in a God. As someone who truly does believe in a God, it’s okay to take your time to explore your faith. It is really life changing. It’s so hard, but it ends up being so worth it, especially at a time when the world is such a chaotic place. Unfortunately Jade’s channel doesn’t feel as relatable anymore due to the drastically different beliefs, but I still wish for everyone to be happy with what they believe as long as it doesn’t harm anyone 🥰
12:30❤ ... 11/08 sun
This was an important message i needed to hear today ❤ Thank you for this ❤️
I needed this.
Thank you, I really needed this video. ❤
this is awesome!
Thank you so much it was really so so useful!!❤️🎉
Lovin' your hair in this video, sis!
Awesome video jade
Make a video highlighting the yoga poses you love most.
i just came here because NEW JADE VIDEO !! ✨ and I felt the most amazing spark of pure joy at your upload ✨✨✨, hope all is well >:)
also cool wall butterfly
9:51 -> 10:07, i really needed to hear that.
hiiiiii thank you for bringing your beautiful warm energy to this space!!! 🌟 lots of love
@@UnJadedJade welcome !!
who else saw those lil rainbows on her face and eyes and thought of Barbie Fairytopia?
can you share your camera and lighting setup? its amazing! thank you so much!
love u❤🌊