Hi friends!! Eeeeeep welcome to the new London chapter! So many new chapters recently 🥲 if you enjoyed this style of video, please give it a thumbs up so I know to keep vlogging
Awww Jade, I just moved to London and have felt the same way. Wondering why I moved here and wondering if I should just go home. I too ended up on the floor in a bathroom stall, of a book store, feeling so alone. And then trying to hide my red eyes with sunglasses, which got even more weird looks for wearing sunglasses inside and on the tube 🤣 it’s such a brave thing to reset and re-build life elsewhere, but we’ll get there eventually💕
love your videos Jade! I also moved to London 5 months ago from another country. it would be so lovely if you ever decide to organize your subscribers' community gathering here 🫶
No one talks about loneliness post-uni/ in your 20s when everyone is doing their own things, so thank you for that Jade. “My housemate is a lawyer” instantly summed that up for me. It’s a fine balance because humans thrive in relationships but we do have to learn like being alone (but not lonely).
no one talks about people who have been lonely and outcast there whole life, all through school, uni and afterwards, who have never had a single friend/
Dear Jade, I've been a silent follower of yours for years, I've never commented before but I want to now - I hope you know how deeply inspiring you are with all the authenticity and vulnerability you share and give us in your content. Not any youtuber / creator has ever had this deep effect on me; your videos are soothing, beautiful, they always make me feel things, and they make me want to live life more openly, with more purpose and with an eye for all the beauty around. Your videos lately have made me cry without fail, it's somehow incredibly heartbreaking and beautiful at the same time, the way you let your followers into such intimate and personal moments without putting on a brave face for the internet. And you are so so brave; it could be so easy to just get off social media and not film in this difficult time, or make pretty vlogs only showing the easy parts and no one would absolutely blame you. But you chose to be truthful, authentic & vulnerable and I'm so grateful that you did - it inspires me to be more authentic & vulnerable in my human relations even when it gets hard. I wish you all the best, I wish that you continue to work through this hard time with the same wisdom and strength and softness you show here. And I hope you'll find peace & true joy at the end of this process.
As someone that recently moved to london and is going through a breakup and is feeling overwhelmed, I couldn’t appreciate these videos more😌 You’re so brave to be here and we’re going to be okay!
Dear Jade, your videos are my coping mechanism right now. I’m similar to your age living in UK, graduated last year, going through some really uncomfortable changes- a fresh breakup after many years of a relationship, moving, etc. It’s so nice to see someone I admire and look up to with such a similar life to mine going through the same thing. I have no friends close to me, and I really don’t know what to do with myself. I relate so much to feeling alone and lost, regretting life decisions, so you are not alone my lovely. We will get through this mourning phase of our past lives, our past plans and past relationships. Each time we stop doing something and cry is a step towards healing. We’ve got this. Sending so much love and a virtual hug.
It’s ok to cry jn public!!! I REALIZED WHEN i had a big problem in december i lost my bff and was depressed!!! I was like why do people not cry in public ?? They smile theyre neutral, theyre angry but you never see anyone cry why? Made me feel good to cry in public and now i do if i want to i dont feel weird about it anymore. I dont wanna supress any of my emotions and feelings. I love feeling. We have to accept our humaness
I have also cried in public, especially when my brother died and also when my mother died. I think you get to the point where you just don’t care if somebody’s judging you. I think the reason we don’t cry in public is because we’re afraid of being judged by other people. Many of us spend most of our lives, worried about what other people think of us. no matter what you do. People are going to judge you. Because of this, I’m just myself now I don’t really worry about it. I try to be kind to other people and I also try not to hide my emotions regarding sadness. I feel like crying then I cry.it’s understandable there’s a lot of things that happened to people deaths and families, relationships job losses, etc. All the best to you
Whenever I cry in public I think about that there is someone seeing me and thinking "yes she's so right, we should not be afraid of that and next time I'll cry in public and not think of others" - so we're slowly changing the stigma and empowering others by showing our pain (:
i know the feeling of being in a ‘rebirth’ and then being hit by another wave of grief. it’s frustrating and it feels like a step back, but what i’ve learned going through my first breakup is that the feeling of moving forward doesn’t need to be permanent for it to be real. and the grief and sadness moves you forward too (although is obviously very shit). embrace all of the little wins and keep looking after yourself
Moving home and Ending a relationship are two of the most stressful times in our lives, you've done both at the same time and allowing yourself to just be in the emotion you feel is the greatest kindness you can give your future self.
Thank you for sharing this Jade, it’s an honour to be able to sit with your vulnerability for a bit, but it’s also so comforting too; loneliness catches us through phases of our lives, often when we don’t expect it, but this video made me feel so much less alone and I am so grateful for your little corner of the internet xx Sending you all the virtual hugs; you’ve got this
I’m a bit late to watching this vlog (I mostly keep up on instagram!) but I’m commenting in case Jade or someone else ends up rereading these comments: I also felt very much like this in the first place I moved out to after graduating, feeling so lonely like I’d been dropped into a map where I didn’t really belong and everything was not quite the right fit (even though I, like Jade, didn’t move far from my childhood home). Even with the knowledge that growing pains are universal and many of my peers were going through similar transitions, it can still be so hard when it look externally like everyone else has friends, has routines, has a place to feel comfortable, has it together in general. I’m really appreciating this perspective from Jade, because I often rewatch your Minerva vlogs when I need to soak up some brave and confident energy! I think it can be helpful to remind yourself that you’ve done scary, badass things in the past (like moving around the world? Hello?!) and, even if it felt uncomfortable, you did it and you even enjoyed yourself, and you always are able to go home in the end if that’s what you need. Wishing you the best of vibes on your newest journey!
When I first moved to London (from a very friendly northern town) my grandma once said to me that a big city can be the loneliest place in the world. In the first few months, I noted every couple, friendship group and family that I passed and my heart ached… after a while, once I’d built my community I remember looking at all of my friends and feeling so thankful. I just wanted to go back to tell younger me that everything would work out 🫶🏻 your day will come ❤
that whispered "it will be ok, it will be ok" i hope those loving awareness parts (as well as all parts of you) are feeling proud and can celebrate themselves and if those parts of you can't quite get there, please know that i'm proud of you, and celebrate you.
Crying along felt so good! Feeling low really is something that we don’t show our friends often and now I feel less alone with those feelings. Thank you, Jade, for creating such honest and pure videos
you don't realise how grateful i am for your vulnerability, honesty and authenticity. i struggle so much with very similar things you're going/you've gone through and it just feels like such a soothing hug to have you talk about it and process everything so deeply. i appreciate you so much baby jade! 🥹🥹
Moving into a new place, even if it’s where you want to be, even if it’s a great living space, can be incredibly lonely at first. No one really talks about it, at least not publicly and, sometimes, not even privately. Fwiw, I’ve cried in a bathroom stall at work and in my car during rush hour. Hang in there. Be good to yourself. Talk to people who love you and can hold your emotions. And do whatever you need to do to feel grounded. It’ll come together before you know it and the bad feelings will dissipate. For now, though, they’re totally normal and there’s no way around except through (I know, that’s cheesy) ❤
Dear wonderful Jade! For three whole years now I’ve been watching your videos. I see you’re going through a hard time so I thought it would be nice for you to hear this from many people as possible: YOU CHANGED MY LIFE. Completely- top to bottom. When I first started watching your videos positivity was just a word and regulating my feelings a strange concept. You showed me there’s a different way. My life is just SO MUCH BETTER because of you. And this is one of the best videos I’ve ever seen in the internet. I feel like for the first time on social media I see a REAL human being showing bravely and vulnerably- their completely normal human AMAZING pain. Please remember this pain means you are full of magic and love - you’re a living wonder. Sending you all the love in the world - Naama❤
You are my favorite youtuber of all times. I relate to you and to what you are currently going through and I am so grateful for having a role model that is not afraid to also show the vulnerable parts of her life. Thank you
I cannot thank you enough for being so vulnerable and real. As an autistic person i struggle so greatly with lifes transitions and changes, but this is such a sweet reminder that *nobody* finds it easy. We all get anxious and lonely ect... but change has to be embraced! I was so tempted to not move away for uni this year but this weirdly reminded me im doing the right thing 🤍
I know exactly how you feel. I feel so lonely too since moving to Lisbon. Some days it’s worse than others. But don’t overthink these feelings. It’s normal. And you will not be alone forever. It’s temporary. Try to focus on the freedom instead of the separation. I also cried many times in public. Very embarrassing but it shouldn’t be. It’s all gonna balance out. 😊
I think moving to a new city is always very difficult in general but London in particular. So many people go through loneliness in London that's not talked about enough. It seems on Instagram that everyone is living the time of their lives whereas many people feel like they don't belong. London is one of those cities that you really have to be resilient with and keep building your social circle and put yourself out there. I've moved here June 2023 and felt very lonely for months. Only since this Jan 2024 I feel settled here and connected to people. Feeling at home in London takes much longer than you'd imagine at first. Your video will give so much comfort and reassurance to recent Londoners! ❤
don't get me wrong but seeing you cry and be so real and vulnerable was the bravest and most wholesome thing that I really needed to see and just learn to be honest with myself and accept my feelings instead of shunning them down or forcing them away
I can relate soooo much !! I moved alone to Berlin 6 months ago (i'm from France) and it's difficult ! :( I call my family almost everyday and just hope it will get better, that i'll meet some people and get use to be on my own at home :))
I remember the first time I moved out and feeling really excited, then after several lockdowns and moving back in with my parents, when it came to move out again a second time, it felt so different, kinda scary and like I'd made a huge mistake - so I related to this on a massive scale. No one talks about the ups and downs of relocating yourself away from everything that feels so familiar. It takes a while to adjust but you settle and everything falls into place eventually. You'll find your people, your routine, and how it all fits together. It all make sense I promise! Sending lots of love ❤❤ Quick edit!: The secret music link doesn't seem to work, anyone else had this? Thx
I literally cried with you Jade, I just moved to a big city because of university and living alone is just so hard. I miss my family, friends, boyfriend. And today is one of the ones that I simply just feel like shit. But I know is gonna pass, it always does. Thank you so much for being so real, lots of love ti you from Brazil!
I JUST came back from London and I LOVED it, everything is so well connected and you are constantly moving and everything is beautiful and full of history. I grew up in Buenos Aires but I've been living in California for years now so I love cities and love public transportation to move around.
i absolutely adore your raw honesty Jade, it feels like I’m actually watching a real human which isn’t all that common these days🤍 Moving to a new city and starting from zero is so hard. I moved to Paris last August to start my year abroad from uni and I genuinely had the loneliest 3 days of my life to date before my internship there started😭And 3 days doesn’t sound like a lot but when you don’t know a single soul in the city it’s almost like there’s too many hours to fill in a day. You’ve got this, you’ll build up your community so quickly xx
Today was a 'mothering' day for me and watching this video I realized how much I learned from you about accepting my feelings and being nice to myself, just by watching your videos over the years. I really appreciate it so much❤️
Dearest Jade I hope you can find peace in London - it is such a wonderful city. Just know that you are stronger than you think. You can do this! I’ve been where you are, going through a break up is horrendous. I beat myself up over ending my relationship for months. And then one day I realised why I did it. It wasn’t healthy, it wasn’t even a relationship, we were going around in circles and it was going no where. You, my dear, are so inspiring!! YOU can get through this! 🦋 Here’s to new beginnings! Xx
thank u for sharing this, Ive been also feeling low and lonely bc I came back to my room in Berlin yesterday (I´m from Peru) after 2 months vacations in Peru and Im not doing great either and sometimes it feels like your are the only one going throught that and I feel weak and vulnerable, today I just cried in the supermarket haha but I know it will get better with time and that Im/ you are brave enough for this
Hey yall, just a little reminder to anyone struggling or feeling alone or burdened rn. Isaiah 58:11 ‘The Lord will guide you continually, and satisfy your soul in drought, and strengthen your bones. You shall be like a watered garden, and like a spring of water, whose waters do not fail.’ Praying for anyone going through a tough time. It’ll get better. ❤
So many times I've moved and felt exactly like this - thanks for improving the internet, such content can help many people who think their experience is somehow not normal, blame themselves and don't realise it's just part of life :)
The vulnerability you share with us is so beautiful and inspiring and has really helped me with accepting that it is not a weakness and that everyone is going through it. We’re here for you always. 🫶🏻❤
Thank you so much for your kind words!! I've felt so empowered to be vulnerable recently and comments like this continually affirm my courage eeeeep. You mean the world 🦋
Wow as someone who recently started making some videos on youtube for fun, seeing you go through this struggle and sadness and still managing to film, edit, and upload is so inspiring. When I go through a sad phase like this I can barely function, let alone have a hint of structure to my days and perform tasks. You are doing great Jade 🦋 Wishing you a lot of luck and serendipity in your new chapter 🍀
Hi Jade, one of your usually silent followers here. Firstly, feeling lonely, lost and questioning the decision to move to a new place is completely normal. I felt the same when I moved many hours away from home for my first job. Like a plant you just need to develop your roots to the place (which takes time) and then it feels less alien. Things that helped me, which may work for you: - explore and find places to escape to e.g. parks. Familiarity makes a place feel more like home. - join a sporting club and go regularly. This helped me build community and make new friends - keep yourself busy. This give you less time to dwell on feeling alone. I hope this helps and makes you feel less alone.
This is really really good advice. I wish someone had told me this when I left uni! I think this is such a common experience that is not talked about enough. I was in the same boat too when I got my first job away from home
This video feels like a warm hug❤️today's the first day of me living by myself, and so much of what you said really resonates with me. This is exactly what I needed, thank you Jade💕I wish you all the best and can't wait to watch you heal and grow in this new chapter of your life xx
I felt this when I moved to Chiswick alone after a breakup and leaving my uni town. It was horrible but day by day, slowly and then suddenly life just gets so much better 💕💟💕
i just went through a similar experience, i finished uni and moved to the city, into a shared flat (lived in a dorm during uni) and moving into a shared flat is so weird because it's your home but people already live there so you need to adapt to their way of domestic customs and you only start feeling like it after a couple of months. I was surprised that i also craved human interactions so much in the beginning, inviting friends over helped a lot. After a while, as you fill the room with your trinkets and get mad about how much stuff you're accumulation, as you start to have real conversations with your flatmates and they invite you to their wedding and you start thinking of them as friends, as get to know the streets and the local shop inside out, the place will feel like home and you won't feel alone anymore.
I feel like I’m living a similar phase of life, I’m connecting so deeply to the last videos, and I feel a strange sense of relief. It’s death and rebirth, and it’s not supposed to be easy. There’re days where I feel powerful, and others where I’m just defeated, and that’s ok. It’s a powerful transition towards a more authentic version of us. I wish you a soft heart, a light mind and a warm light ❤️
I think I’m to German to show my feelings like you do (as you know we are feeling swallower…). I just wanted to say be proud of you Jade to do these steps being able to show (publicly) how you feel! Love your content it gives so much comfort and help. Thank you. Greetings from Germany 😊
Thank you for showing your vulnerable emotions to us. Emotions are there just to be felt and I'm glad you did that. Me too. I'm going through a tough time right now and I do feel alone but I'm glad that I can keep moving with you through harsh time like these.
I have been IN LOVE with you and your content for years and I'm so very proud of how far you have come. You are so strong and you can surpass any obstacle the biggest being the feeling of loneliness. Sending lots and lots of love.❤🌻
Hey! I used to watch your videos religiously when I was going through a very rough patch in my life, now I've come back and I wish I could give back the favour you did without knowing of helping me navigate heartbreak and change. Sending you a huge hug from Spain, it'll pass, you're doing great ❤️
Thanks for sharing the emotions that come up with your transition to London...It allows people to see that even super successful people who have coped with billions of transitions can somehow experience low points....hence it normalises the whole thing for all of us...emotions simply need to be expressed and then they let us in peace...thank you Jade!
Jade, I cannot express to you how much your openness and vulnerability is changing peoples lives. It changes mine! Thank you! We are all in this together. You are not alone. Change is hard and this too shall pass. Also, I started at a social impact coworking space and this made SUCH a difference. I get out of the house and I meet the most gentle, inspiring and beautiful people every day. Today I met another UA-camr and it made me think of you. I highly recommend! You got this! Much love from Canada!
Thanks for being here just the way you are. You're an inspiration especially in the vulnerable messy moments and it makes it easier for me to feel connected and less alone in my sad hours❤ So thank you jade, you're great!!
As a dutch person I always love seeing your mum in videos. She still looks so dutch in the way she carries herself, even after not living in the Netherlands for so many years. It feels familiar and reminds me of my mum😊
Thank you so much for being so vulnerable Jade!! Your recent videos have helped me prioritise just BEING and FEELING rather than DOING. Sending you so much love ❤
Sending love and I hope the day you wake up feeling less alone comes soon :) I think its really special that you are sharing this with us. It's such a relief to see the real wave of emotions we have as humans, and seeing someone let there feelings express themselves.
Hi Jade, you're video's are helping me so much, especially since the last month. We're going through a lot of similar things: figuring out what to do with our life, getting through a break-up, connecting with friends at times and at other times feeling really alone, starting a new phase in life. I'm really hopeful that I'll be okay, but also SO SCARED of what is yet to come: worklife is gonna start soon for me, I'm finishing up my bachelor thesis and my love life is all one big question mark it feels like. So thank you so much for your support and talking so openly about what you're feeling, you have no idea how much it helps ❤
GOOD FOR YOU GIRL for being so honest, not everyone can cope with be so open and vulnerable (especially on the internet!) that takes a tremendous amount of inner strength so really really well done. Also, I remember first moving to London and walking through Waterloo station at rush hour, on a Monday, on the way to my first grad job - hands down the loneliest moment of my life. But that pain was a growing pain, no doubt the same as you’re feeling now. You got this 💪🏼
Oh Jade I felt so alone when I first moved to London, not knowing anyone here - it can feel like a very unwelcoming city at the beginning. I felt all the things you are feeling, I wondered whether it was a mistake too (I've had my fair share of public crying on the tube!). It took a while but I built a new life here, and I now have a great community and have made some of the best memories of my life in London ❤ I'm no longer alone and overwhelmed, and I think soon you won't be too :)
Hi Jade, I just wanted to say that I entirely know how you're feeling and express my personal thanks for making these videos. I was a longterm subscriber as we were both at uni at the same time so I appreciated your study tips and everything you made on 'casual magic', unfortunately I had a lot of trauma about how my uni experience ended during COVID and found myself getting upset when seeing videos about uni and so I had to temporarily unfollow all 'studytube adjacent' youtubers. I have recently began travelling the world with my best friend as well as some solo travel and I've been thinking about your incredible travel videos as I've entered into this new chapter of my life. Whilst researching interrailing europe, your 'breaking the shell' video was recommended to me and oh my what an incredible video. About three weeks ago, my partner of four years and I also decided to go our separate ways and I saw so many familiar feelings in your video for what I've been going through. I too was thinking on it for around a year, and pushing it down to not want to confront it, but ultimately I knew deep down that I needed to grow and I wouldn't be able to grow if I remained in that relationship, which was a heartbreaking decision to know that I would have to leave my partner behind. The 'growth comes from change' motion is so true but also so heartbreaking, let alone the idea of having to break someone else's heart in the process. Thank you so much for everything that you shared and put into words, I feel the exact same way. I completely empathise with how its so easy to feel you're being selfish when you're protecting your own feelings and protecting your own future, I too am a people pleaser and facing an uncertain amount of time ahead of me whilst I figure out how to put myself first and what life looks like alone is terrifying but necessary. I believe in fate and seeing your video and reading everyone's amazing comments was exactly what I needed in the moment to show me how I've healed since uni and though its scary there's so many others in their mid-20s going through the same thing as me, and its really helped me feel less alone. I'm hoping that through this I can begin to look forward to the travelling I can do ahead of me, and for when I too move to London alone this year, I can look back at these videos and know that my feelings are valid. I'm so pleased to be resubscribed, and to be able to follow along your journey as we both enter these new seasons of our lives. All the best Jade - we hear you, your feelings are valid, and we will all get through this together 💛
Your videos help me so much. The vulnerability you show online and the effort you put into coping with your emotions in a healthy way are so, so inspiring. I’m very grateful for this channel and I wish you better days 💖
Watching this beautiful video brings me back to 4 years ago, when I moved across the country by myself. Ngl the first five or six months of being here were some of the most mentally taxing days of my life; I felt so alone, I felt like I wasn't a main character in anyone else's life, like I was just a comic relief side character that people were happy to see but didn't miss if I wasn't there. It was very sad. In fact, I only healed from that sadness when I learned to accept it and really FEEL it. And around the sadness, new relationships grew, and a new relationship with myself grew, and I came to love my new home because I love myself and I am my own home. I wish you all the best Jade, I hope you continue to feel and find home in yourself.
How vulnerable of you Jade to post this video. This is probably one of the most relatable videos I've watched, navigating the post-uni life, moving to a new (huge) city with so many people yet not feeling like you have a solid support system with you everyday. It's isolating and building a community takes time and a lot of tears in the process. It can take some time for a place to feel like home, but just know that you are definitely not alone and this low is just going to make you appreciate the highs so much more.
Awww girly, I am so sorry you are going through all of these feelings right now 😢 It may not feel clear right now but you will feel a lot better soon 🫶 I moved into my own place mid lockdown after a 6 year relationship breakdown and the loneliness was REAL! 4 years on and my life could not be any more full with love and friends and new adventures 🙏🤍 It WILL pass as you build your new and exciting life in London ❤🎉😊
i feel you so much… i’ve been feeling lonely and lost for the last two months. and it’s so calming to see that i’m no the only one feeling this way and it’s part of a life and i don’t always need to be happy and positive. and thank you for saying that it’s okay to share these hard moments with frineds because sometimes i feel guilty to do that. sending love and support ❤
Hi jade :) i've been a silent viewer/subscriber for years but I felt the need to comment on this video. As someone who has moved 11 times in the past 2 years without consistent family/friends, I felt this video so hard. the inability to console yourself or ask for help when you feel this sad and alone makes you feel so weak, but in reality, most people cannot and do not do this type of move due to how hard it is which just proves how strong and resilient you are. you can do this, it will get better. people want to be your friend and would love to help you. (also I would love to meet you in London this summer, I think we'd be great friends !!)
Jade you are so so brave! And trust me it only gets better, allowing yourself to feel low and crying it out is a good thing because it helps you process the change. You’ll look back at this video one day and be so proud of yourself for making this move and how far you’ve come❤You got this 💪🏽💕❤
You will make it Jade, you will. This video inspired me. Change is sometimes hard, just allow yourself to grow with the change and experience all of the beauty that your new life has to offer because beauty and love is all around you because of the beauty, love, and joy that you bring and give to others. Blessings, hope, and love❤️
thank you for sharing vulnerable parts of yourself with us 🤍 you are so brave for moving in and embracing uncertainty but I'm truly sorry you felt lonely, I hope by now you have settled in and started to find your people 🦋
I had emotional moments pop up myself when watching just now. Your videos inspire me & it is such a pleasure to watch you speak to yourself so kindly - like when you said you would mother yourself & having self soothing practices. I’m glad you could share with your friends too, because it can be warming for them to know you feel comfortable opening up to them. At least that is how I feel when a friend confides in me 🤍🫶 best of luck! You got this, things will always change. Thanks for feeling and sharing your feelings w us
I moved to a new country in Europe from my home in Zimbabwe and this is exactly how I had been feeling during my entire time here. It’s nice to know that this is normal and I am not alone in how I feel. Sending love and positive vibes from Ireland Jade ❤ you’ve got this and we’ve got this , it’s all part of the process.
i needed this so much today, i had a lot of complicated feelings today bc i met some new ppl but surprisingly did not like how they acted towards me. im always very postive about ppl and rarely talk bad about others, but i just felt this wave of anger of being mistreated by these ppl and I'm still struggling to truly accept those feelings of anger and hurt. so tysm for this video jade, ilysm and your videos make me feel seen and less alone. ❤
I’ve been so lonely in crowded rooms, exam halls… it is a gnawing deep ache and time passing is felt so acutely. I feel you ❤ you and all your followers are connected when we watch your videos, we are all with you
Today is my first day moving back to my old apartment after an internship abroad… thank you for feeling your feelings and giving me a real example of the process!! So much love for you❤️
jade i did the same thing had a breakup and then immediately moved five states away. i cried a lot too. but eventually you make a local friend and from there you make more and then it doesn't;t feel so lonely anymore. and looking back I loved spending all that time alone and really learning to love myself.
It was so empowering to see you be vulnerable and sit in your hurt. YOU ARE SO STRONG! Loneliness and sadness are a part of this life and taking steps every day in spite of those feelings is so powerful. Good days are coming your way, Jade. Big hug ❤
Big hugs from Australia 🇦🇺 it’s hard moving to a new city and finding yourself. Give yourself time be gentle with yourself. Take your self care very seriously. You aren’t as alone as you think lovely girl xx ❤❤❤
Thank you for showing this side of starting over and moving to a new place, thank you for being vulnerable with us Jade🤍 As someone who moved to London 6 month ago I felt so much of this video. Know that you are Loved!!
This is the most relatable video. I graduated last year and moved into a flat at Christmas with a new person and eventhough I had friends to go and see I still felt lonely or as if I wasn't doing anything with my life. I thought to myself "how am I suppose to love this place like a home". After 4months I can now say that I'll miss my place when I move out and eventhough I still have some breakdowns I feel more comfortable and settled with my new working and kind off independent self. ❤❤ It always gets better.
Oh my love, I feel this in my soul. I moved to London after uni and it too was the loneliest experience of my life. I think it can be a struggle to find your people in the big city - being surrounded can make you feel all alone. Sending you lots of love in this turbulent time - you are stronger than you know ❤
I relocated 6 months ago to London, UK and it has been one of the toughest times of my life. Leaving my family and coming to a new country was so scary. During my first month, I would cry myself to sleep because I was so lonely. I had no family or friends in the UK. It is still tough but I’m hanging in there knowing it won't be long till I see them again. Jade, I want to let you know that we are all here with you and appreciate your vulnerability❤.
Thank you so much for sharing this vulnerable moments with us💕, definitely makes me feel less alone that I am not the only one who breaks down in public. I am in my last year of university and the fear of uncertainty kills me inside, the fact that I don’t know which job I’ll have, relationships, parents just feels so overwhelming and I feel disconnected and isolated from people around me so much.I feel no matter what I do I find it so hard to let my friends help me or ask for help when I am in need.
I've had a period of mourning the life I thought I would have and learning to invite the life the world has given to me over the past few months and I resonate so strongly with what you are experiencing right now. Big hugs from California
I feel your sadness Jade, I can relate sooo much, when I moved to Bologna on my Erasmus I felt so lonely and so miserable. I didn't even set up my routine for like 1 month which made it even more tragic, because basically I didn't know what should I do with myself. But believe me - it will be better, you will have beautiful memories from this chapter, fingers crossed and sending hugs!
you will get through this! going through a breakup and the trials and tribulations of a new city oh my the emotions you must be feeling. Honestly, i moved to edinburgh alone in january and i told myself that its ok if the first 6 weeks kind of sucked and if i felt alone and purpose-less and cried often because thats how long it takes to build a new home
Thank you Jade for making these videos. They have also really helped me through my moving process and tough times. They make me feel less alone and help me tremendously. I don’t even have the words to express my gratitude. I always get very excited seeing when a new video comes out from you and am truly looking forward to the upcoming ones! Take care of yourself.
Hi Jade! Change is scary. And I have experienced it a lot. But, it does does get better. You are a huge inspiration to me. You are so kind. And I am sure you will find people in London who see that too. I also struggle with loneliness sometimes as I think I am the only one experiencing this. This video is very encouraging ❤. And I thank you are because you are just amazing.
I’ve been going through an emotional roller coaster as well Jade, and your videos have been such a comfort and instantly make me realize that yes emotions do exist to be felt. I am in awe of your honesty, your vulnerability, your growth, and your courage. I hope you know just how supported you are ❤
Dear Jade. Do not cry, please. You look pretty when you smile. It is gonna be OK. I know this feeling when you do not have familiar people around. It is hard. But we have to learn how to live with yourself. And you will get throuh it. We love you. We love your wonderful videos.
Thank you for being so raw & vulnerable Jade, deluded individualism, we think we can thrive all on our own but the truth is we are more interdependent than any other species and we can't even survive only on our own, human connection is what we are missing in our digitally connected world.
Jade, I recently moved in a 4bhk apartment all by myself. Other rooms are yet to be filled with other people. To figure out of the stuff on my own is so lonely. I am glad you had the support of your friends something that I feel is lacking for me. Balled my eyes out watching your video. I feel you and I believe you understand what I am going through as well. Just reminding myself one day at a time.
thank you soo much for sharing! the feeling of aloneness you describe when moving to a new place is so relatable and it's a huge relief to see someone is feeling the same way
i want to quickly recommend auroras music to you (if you don't know it already), especially 'all is soft inside' where she sings about her emotions and how powerful they are ✨🫰
No matter what, remember you are loved by us, this little corner of the internet. It's going to be better. And thank you Jade for being authentic and vulnerable. I really hope you can feel better soon. It's going to be okay. And I want to send you some virtual hugs. Take care:)
Any little change in routine can make you feel unsettled. Imagine that change being part of the foundation in your life, your home. I'd be worried if you didn't feel like this. That doesn't make it any less hard or frustrating, but it's a process you have to go through. And you will get through it. 💜
Hi friends!! Eeeeeep welcome to the new London chapter! So many new chapters recently 🥲 if you enjoyed this style of video, please give it a thumbs up so I know to keep vlogging
Awww Jade, I just moved to London and have felt the same way. Wondering why I moved here and wondering if I should just go home. I too ended up on the floor in a bathroom stall, of a book store, feeling so alone. And then trying to hide my red eyes with sunglasses, which got even more weird looks for wearing sunglasses inside and on the tube 🤣 it’s such a brave thing to reset and re-build life elsewhere, but we’ll get there eventually💕
love your videos Jade! I also moved to London 5 months ago from another country. it would be so lovely if you ever decide to organize your subscribers' community gathering here 🫶
No one talks about loneliness post-uni/ in your 20s when everyone is doing their own things, so thank you for that Jade. “My housemate is a lawyer” instantly summed that up for me. It’s a fine balance because humans thrive in relationships but we do have to learn like being alone (but not lonely).
no one talks about people who have been lonely and outcast there whole life, all through school, uni and afterwards, who have never had a single friend/
and humans dont always thrive in relationships, studies show single childless women are the happiest and healthiest demographic.
@@maneskinnnnn7190 but they surely have good relationships with friends :)
Dear Jade,
I've been a silent follower of yours for years, I've never commented before but I want to now - I hope you know how deeply inspiring you are with all the authenticity and vulnerability you share and give us in your content. Not any youtuber / creator has ever had this deep effect on me; your videos are soothing, beautiful, they always make me feel things, and they make me want to live life more openly, with more purpose and with an eye for all the beauty around. Your videos lately have made me cry without fail, it's somehow incredibly heartbreaking and beautiful at the same time, the way you let your followers into such intimate and personal moments without putting on a brave face for the internet. And you are so so brave; it could be so easy to just get off social media and not film in this difficult time, or make pretty vlogs only showing the easy parts and no one would absolutely blame you. But you chose to be truthful, authentic & vulnerable and I'm so grateful that you did - it inspires me to be more authentic & vulnerable in my human relations even when it gets hard.
I wish you all the best, I wish that you continue to work through this hard time with the same wisdom and strength and softness you show here. And I hope you'll find peace & true joy at the end of this process.
wow... Beautifully written
This. Couldn’t have said it better ❤❤
As someone that recently moved to london and is going through a breakup and is feeling overwhelmed, I couldn’t appreciate these videos more😌 You’re so brave to be here and we’re going to be okay!
Maybe you and Jade should get together and have a coffee or something
@@123canadagirlI came to say the same thing!
Dear Jade, your videos are my coping mechanism right now. I’m similar to your age living in UK, graduated last year, going through some really uncomfortable changes- a fresh breakup after many years of a relationship, moving, etc. It’s so nice to see someone I admire and look up to with such a similar life to mine going through the same thing. I have no friends close to me, and I really don’t know what to do with myself. I relate so much to feeling alone and lost, regretting life decisions, so you are not alone my lovely. We will get through this mourning phase of our past lives, our past plans and past relationships. Each time we stop doing something and cry is a step towards healing. We’ve got this. Sending so much love and a virtual hug.
I feel the EXACT same. We are not alone ❤️
Wake up early and Do a 5k in the park this weekend. Either walk, jog or run! You will feel 10x better
@@Ryan-op1tz I really do need to do something like that. Getting up early for work everyday day makes me want to do nothing on the weekend😂
@@Lucy-pn9yb you’ve got this❤️ lmk if you want to vent or anything :)
It’s ok to cry jn public!!! I REALIZED WHEN i had a big problem in december i lost my bff and was depressed!!! I was like why do people not cry in public ?? They smile theyre neutral, theyre angry but you never see anyone cry why? Made me feel good to cry in public and now i do if i want to i dont feel weird about it anymore. I dont wanna supress any of my emotions and feelings. I love feeling. We have to accept our humaness
I have also cried in public, especially when my brother died and also when my mother died. I think you get to the point where you just don’t care if somebody’s judging you. I think the reason we don’t cry in public is because we’re afraid of being judged by other people. Many of us spend most of our lives, worried about what other people think of us. no matter what you do. People are going to judge you. Because of this, I’m just myself now I don’t really worry about it. I try to be kind to other people and I also try not to hide my emotions regarding sadness. I feel like crying then I cry.it’s understandable there’s a lot of things that happened to people deaths and families, relationships job losses, etc. All the best to you
I'm so sorry for all of your hard times!!
Whenever I cry in public I think about that there is someone seeing me and thinking "yes she's so right, we should not be afraid of that and next time I'll cry in public and not think of others" - so we're slowly changing the stigma and empowering others by showing our pain (:
i know the feeling of being in a ‘rebirth’ and then being hit by another wave of grief. it’s frustrating and it feels like a step back, but what i’ve learned going through my first breakup is that the feeling of moving forward doesn’t need to be permanent for it to be real. and the grief and sadness moves you forward too (although is obviously very shit). embrace all of the little wins and keep looking after yourself
damn i love this, thank you for sharing
Moving home and Ending a relationship are two of the most stressful times in our lives, you've done both at the same time and allowing yourself to just be in the emotion you feel is the greatest kindness you can give your future self.
Thank you for sharing this Jade, it’s an honour to be able to sit with your vulnerability for a bit, but it’s also so comforting too; loneliness catches us through phases of our lives, often when we don’t expect it, but this video made me feel so much less alone and I am so grateful for your little corner of the internet xx
Sending you all the virtual hugs; you’ve got this
I’m a bit late to watching this vlog (I mostly keep up on instagram!) but I’m commenting in case Jade or someone else ends up rereading these comments: I also felt very much like this in the first place I moved out to after graduating, feeling so lonely like I’d been dropped into a map where I didn’t really belong and everything was not quite the right fit (even though I, like Jade, didn’t move far from my childhood home). Even with the knowledge that growing pains are universal and many of my peers were going through similar transitions, it can still be so hard when it look externally like everyone else has friends, has routines, has a place to feel comfortable, has it together in general. I’m really appreciating this perspective from Jade, because I often rewatch your Minerva vlogs when I need to soak up some brave and confident energy! I think it can be helpful to remind yourself that you’ve done scary, badass things in the past (like moving around the world? Hello?!) and, even if it felt uncomfortable, you did it and you even enjoyed yourself, and you always are able to go home in the end if that’s what you need. Wishing you the best of vibes on your newest journey!
Your friend asking you how many breakdowns you already had since moving in is such an early adulthood vibe 😂
When I first moved to London (from a very friendly northern town) my grandma once said to me that a big city can be the loneliest place in the world. In the first few months, I noted every couple, friendship group and family that I passed and my heart ached… after a while, once I’d built my community I remember looking at all of my friends and feeling so thankful. I just wanted to go back to tell younger me that everything would work out 🫶🏻 your day will come ❤
that whispered "it will be ok, it will be ok"
i hope those loving awareness parts (as well as all parts of you) are feeling proud and can celebrate themselves
and if those parts of you can't quite get there, please know that i'm proud of you, and celebrate you.
I cried so much in public in my life and this made me feel less lonely. You are great Jade ❤ It’s ok to let your emotions go.
Crying along felt so good! Feeling low really is something that we don’t show our friends often and now I feel less alone with those feelings. Thank you, Jade, for creating such honest and pure videos
you don't realise how grateful i am for your vulnerability, honesty and authenticity. i struggle so much with very similar things you're going/you've gone through and it just feels like such a soothing hug to have you talk about it and process everything so deeply. i appreciate you so much baby jade! 🥹🥹
Moving into a new place, even if it’s where you want to be, even if it’s a great living space, can be incredibly lonely at first. No one really talks about it, at least not publicly and, sometimes, not even privately. Fwiw, I’ve cried in a bathroom stall at work and in my car during rush hour. Hang in there. Be good to yourself. Talk to people who love you and can hold your emotions. And do whatever you need to do to feel grounded. It’ll come together before you know it and the bad feelings will dissipate. For now, though, they’re totally normal and there’s no way around except through (I know, that’s cheesy) ❤
🥺🥺🥺 thank you so much
Dear wonderful Jade! For three whole years now I’ve been watching your videos. I see you’re going through a hard time so I thought it would be nice for you to hear this from many people as possible: YOU CHANGED MY LIFE. Completely- top to bottom. When I first started watching your videos positivity was just a word and regulating my feelings a strange concept. You showed me there’s a different way. My life is just SO MUCH BETTER because of you. And this is one of the best videos I’ve ever seen in the internet. I feel like for the first time on social media I see a REAL human being showing bravely and vulnerably- their completely normal human AMAZING pain. Please remember this pain means you are full of magic and love - you’re a living wonder. Sending you all the love in the world - Naama❤
You are my favorite youtuber of all times. I relate to you and to what you are currently going through and I am so grateful for having a role model that is not afraid to also show the vulnerable parts of her life. Thank you
I cannot thank you enough for being so vulnerable and real. As an autistic person i struggle so greatly with lifes transitions and changes, but this is such a sweet reminder that *nobody* finds it easy. We all get anxious and lonely ect... but change has to be embraced! I was so tempted to not move away for uni this year but this weirdly reminded me im doing the right thing 🤍
I know exactly how you feel. I feel so lonely too since moving to Lisbon. Some days it’s worse than others. But don’t overthink these feelings. It’s normal. And you will not be alone forever. It’s temporary. Try to focus on the freedom instead of the separation. I also cried many times in public. Very embarrassing but it shouldn’t be.
It’s all gonna balance out. 😊
I think moving to a new city is always very difficult in general but London in particular. So many people go through loneliness in London that's not talked about enough. It seems on Instagram that everyone is living the time of their lives whereas many people feel like they don't belong. London is one of those cities that you really have to be resilient with and keep building your social circle and put yourself out there. I've moved here June 2023 and felt very lonely for months. Only since this Jan 2024 I feel settled here and connected to people. Feeling at home in London takes much longer than you'd imagine at first. Your video will give so much comfort and reassurance to recent Londoners! ❤
don't get me wrong but seeing you cry and be so real and vulnerable was the bravest and most wholesome thing that I really needed to see and just learn to be honest with myself and accept my feelings instead of shunning them down or forcing them away
I can relate soooo much !! I moved alone to Berlin 6 months ago (i'm from France) and it's difficult ! :( I call my family almost everyday and just hope it will get better, that i'll meet some people and get use to be on my own at home :))
I remember the first time I moved out and feeling really excited, then after several lockdowns and moving back in with my parents, when it came to move out again a second time, it felt so different, kinda scary and like I'd made a huge mistake - so I related to this on a massive scale. No one talks about the ups and downs of relocating yourself away from everything that feels so familiar. It takes a while to adjust but you settle and everything falls into place eventually. You'll find your people, your routine, and how it all fits together. It all make sense I promise! Sending lots of love ❤❤
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I literally cried with you Jade, I just moved to a big city because of university and living alone is just so hard. I miss my family, friends, boyfriend. And today is one of the ones that I simply just feel like shit. But I know is gonna pass, it always does. Thank you so much for being so real, lots of love ti you from Brazil!
I JUST came back from London and I LOVED it, everything is so well connected and you are constantly moving and everything is beautiful and full of history. I grew up in Buenos Aires but I've been living in California for years now so I love cities and love public transportation to move around.
i absolutely adore your raw honesty Jade, it feels like I’m actually watching a real human which isn’t all that common these days🤍 Moving to a new city and starting from zero is so hard. I moved to Paris last August to start my year abroad from uni and I genuinely had the loneliest 3 days of my life to date before my internship there started😭And 3 days doesn’t sound like a lot but when you don’t know a single soul in the city it’s almost like there’s too many hours to fill in a day. You’ve got this, you’ll build up your community so quickly xx
Today was a 'mothering' day for me and watching this video I realized how much I learned from you about accepting my feelings and being nice to myself, just by watching your videos over the years. I really appreciate it so much❤️
Wow, this means more than you know. Thank you for being soft with yourself
Dearest Jade
I hope you can find peace in London - it is such a wonderful city. Just know that you are stronger than you think. You can do this! I’ve been where you are, going through a break up is horrendous. I beat myself up over ending my relationship for months. And then one day I realised why I did it. It wasn’t healthy, it wasn’t even a relationship, we were going around in circles and it was going no where. You, my dear, are so inspiring!! YOU can get through this! 🦋 Here’s to new beginnings! Xx
thank u for sharing this, Ive been also feeling low and lonely bc I came back to my room in Berlin yesterday (I´m from Peru) after 2 months vacations in Peru and Im not doing great either and sometimes it feels like your are the only one going throught that and I feel weak and vulnerable, today I just cried in the supermarket haha but I know it will get better with time and that Im/ you are brave enough for this
Hey yall, just a little reminder to anyone struggling or feeling alone or burdened rn. Isaiah 58:11 ‘The Lord will guide you continually, and satisfy your soul in drought, and strengthen your bones. You shall be like a watered garden, and like a spring of water, whose waters do not fail.’ Praying for anyone going through a tough time. It’ll get better. ❤
So many times I've moved and felt exactly like this - thanks for improving the internet, such content can help many people who think their experience is somehow not normal, blame themselves and don't realise it's just part of life :)
The vulnerability you share with us is so beautiful and inspiring and has really helped me with accepting that it is not a weakness and that everyone is going through it. We’re here for you always. 🫶🏻❤
Thank you so much for your kind words!! I've felt so empowered to be vulnerable recently and comments like this continually affirm my courage eeeeep. You mean the world 🦋
Wow as someone who recently started making some videos on youtube for fun, seeing you go through this struggle and sadness and still managing to film, edit, and upload is so inspiring. When I go through a sad phase like this I can barely function, let alone have a hint of structure to my days and perform tasks. You are doing great Jade 🦋 Wishing you a lot of luck and serendipity in your new chapter 🍀
Hi Jade, one of your usually silent followers here.
Firstly, feeling lonely, lost and questioning the decision to move to a new place is completely normal. I felt the same when I moved many hours away from home for my first job. Like a plant you just need to develop your roots to the place (which takes time) and then it feels less alien.
Things that helped me, which may work for you:
- explore and find places to escape to e.g. parks. Familiarity makes a place feel more like home.
- join a sporting club and go regularly. This helped me build community and make new friends
- keep yourself busy. This give you less time to dwell on feeling alone.
I hope this helps and makes you feel less alone.
This is really really good advice. I wish someone had told me this when I left uni! I think this is such a common experience that is not talked about enough. I was in the same boat too when I got my first job away from home
This video feels like a warm hug❤️today's the first day of me living by myself, and so much of what you said really resonates with me. This is exactly what I needed, thank you Jade💕I wish you all the best and can't wait to watch you heal and grow in this new chapter of your life xx
you are so strong!! even when it feels like you're alone, you will make it through
so much love for u, thank u!!
I felt this when I moved to Chiswick alone after a breakup and leaving my uni town. It was horrible but day by day, slowly and then suddenly life just gets so much better 💕💟💕
i just went through a similar experience, i finished uni and moved to the city, into a shared flat (lived in a dorm during uni) and moving into a shared flat is so weird because it's your home but people already live there so you need to adapt to their way of domestic customs and you only start feeling like it after a couple of months. I was surprised that i also craved human interactions so much in the beginning, inviting friends over helped a lot. After a while, as you fill the room with your trinkets and get mad about how much stuff you're accumulation, as you start to have real conversations with your flatmates and they invite you to their wedding and you start thinking of them as friends, as get to know the streets and the local shop inside out, the place will feel like home and you won't feel alone anymore.
I feel like I’m living a similar phase of life, I’m connecting so deeply to the last videos, and I feel a strange sense of relief. It’s death and rebirth, and it’s not supposed to be easy. There’re days where I feel powerful, and others where I’m just defeated, and that’s ok. It’s a powerful transition towards a more authentic version of us. I wish you a soft heart, a light mind and a warm light ❤️
Thank you for being so vulnerable and real. Watching your videos helps me be comfortable with my feelings and gives me motivation & hope✨✨✨
I think I’m to German to show my feelings like you do (as you know we are feeling swallower…). I just wanted to say be proud of you Jade to do these steps being able to show (publicly) how you feel! Love your content it gives so much comfort and help. Thank you. Greetings from Germany 😊
Thank you for showing your vulnerable emotions to us. Emotions are there just to be felt and I'm glad you did that. Me too. I'm going through a tough time right now and I do feel alone but I'm glad that I can keep moving with you through harsh time like these.
I have been IN LOVE with you and your content for years and I'm so very proud of how far you have come. You are so strong and you can surpass any obstacle the biggest being the feeling of loneliness. Sending lots and lots of love.❤🌻
gahhh thank you so much, this means the world!! 🦋🌷
Hey! I used to watch your videos religiously when I was going through a very rough patch in my life, now I've come back and I wish I could give back the favour you did without knowing of helping me navigate heartbreak and change. Sending you a huge hug from Spain, it'll pass, you're doing great ❤️
Thanks for sharing the emotions that come up with your transition to London...It allows people to see that even super successful people who have coped with billions of transitions can somehow experience low points....hence it normalises the whole thing for all of us...emotions simply need to be expressed and then they let us in peace...thank you Jade!
Jade, I cannot express to you how much your openness and vulnerability is changing peoples lives. It changes mine! Thank you! We are all in this together. You are not alone. Change is hard and this too shall pass.
Also, I started at a social impact coworking space and this made SUCH a difference. I get out of the house and I meet the most gentle, inspiring and beautiful people every day. Today I met another UA-camr and it made me think of you. I highly recommend! You got this! Much love from Canada!
Thanks for being here just the way you are. You're an inspiration especially in the vulnerable messy moments and it makes it easier for me to feel connected and less alone in my sad hours❤
So thank you jade, you're great!!
As a dutch person I always love seeing your mum in videos. She still looks so dutch in the way she carries herself, even after not living in the Netherlands for so many years. It feels familiar and reminds me of my mum😊
Why would her looks change after not living in the Netherlands lol
Thank you so much for being so vulnerable Jade!! Your recent videos have helped me prioritise just BEING and FEELING rather than DOING. Sending you so much love ❤
Sending love and I hope the day you wake up feeling less alone comes soon :)
I think its really special that you are sharing this with us. It's such a relief to see the real wave of emotions we have as humans, and seeing someone let there feelings express themselves.
Hi Jade, you're video's are helping me so much, especially since the last month. We're going through a lot of similar things: figuring out what to do with our life, getting through a break-up, connecting with friends at times and at other times feeling really alone, starting a new phase in life. I'm really hopeful that I'll be okay, but also SO SCARED of what is yet to come: worklife is gonna start soon for me, I'm finishing up my bachelor thesis and my love life is all one big question mark it feels like. So thank you so much for your support and talking so openly about what you're feeling, you have no idea how much it helps ❤
GOOD FOR YOU GIRL for being so honest, not everyone can cope with be so open and vulnerable (especially on the internet!) that takes a tremendous amount of inner strength so really really well done. Also, I remember first moving to London and walking through Waterloo station at rush hour, on a Monday, on the way to my first grad job - hands down the loneliest moment of my life. But that pain was a growing pain, no doubt the same as you’re feeling now. You got this 💪🏼
Oh Jade I felt so alone when I first moved to London, not knowing anyone here - it can feel like a very unwelcoming city at the beginning. I felt all the things you are feeling, I wondered whether it was a mistake too (I've had my fair share of public crying on the tube!). It took a while but I built a new life here, and I now have a great community and have made some of the best memories of my life in London ❤ I'm no longer alone and overwhelmed, and I think soon you won't be too :)
Hi Jade, I just wanted to say that I entirely know how you're feeling and express my personal thanks for making these videos. I was a longterm subscriber as we were both at uni at the same time so I appreciated your study tips and everything you made on 'casual magic', unfortunately I had a lot of trauma about how my uni experience ended during COVID and found myself getting upset when seeing videos about uni and so I had to temporarily unfollow all 'studytube adjacent' youtubers. I have recently began travelling the world with my best friend as well as some solo travel and I've been thinking about your incredible travel videos as I've entered into this new chapter of my life. Whilst researching interrailing europe, your 'breaking the shell' video was recommended to me and oh my what an incredible video. About three weeks ago, my partner of four years and I also decided to go our separate ways and I saw so many familiar feelings in your video for what I've been going through. I too was thinking on it for around a year, and pushing it down to not want to confront it, but ultimately I knew deep down that I needed to grow and I wouldn't be able to grow if I remained in that relationship, which was a heartbreaking decision to know that I would have to leave my partner behind. The 'growth comes from change' motion is so true but also so heartbreaking, let alone the idea of having to break someone else's heart in the process. Thank you so much for everything that you shared and put into words, I feel the exact same way. I completely empathise with how its so easy to feel you're being selfish when you're protecting your own feelings and protecting your own future, I too am a people pleaser and facing an uncertain amount of time ahead of me whilst I figure out how to put myself first and what life looks like alone is terrifying but necessary. I believe in fate and seeing your video and reading everyone's amazing comments was exactly what I needed in the moment to show me how I've healed since uni and though its scary there's so many others in their mid-20s going through the same thing as me, and its really helped me feel less alone. I'm hoping that through this I can begin to look forward to the travelling I can do ahead of me, and for when I too move to London alone this year, I can look back at these videos and know that my feelings are valid. I'm so pleased to be resubscribed, and to be able to follow along your journey as we both enter these new seasons of our lives. All the best Jade - we hear you, your feelings are valid, and we will all get through this together 💛
Your videos help me so much. The vulnerability you show online and the effort you put into coping with your emotions in a healthy way are so, so inspiring. I’m very grateful for this channel and I wish you better days 💖
Watching this beautiful video brings me back to 4 years ago, when I moved across the country by myself. Ngl the first five or six months of being here were some of the most mentally taxing days of my life; I felt so alone, I felt like I wasn't a main character in anyone else's life, like I was just a comic relief side character that people were happy to see but didn't miss if I wasn't there. It was very sad. In fact, I only healed from that sadness when I learned to accept it and really FEEL it. And around the sadness, new relationships grew, and a new relationship with myself grew, and I came to love my new home because I love myself and I am my own home. I wish you all the best Jade, I hope you continue to feel and find home in yourself.
How vulnerable of you Jade to post this video. This is probably one of the most relatable videos I've watched, navigating the post-uni life, moving to a new (huge) city with so many people yet not feeling like you have a solid support system with you everyday. It's isolating and building a community takes time and a lot of tears in the process. It can take some time for a place to feel like home, but just know that you are definitely not alone and this low is just going to make you appreciate the highs so much more.
Awww girly, I am so sorry you are going through all of these feelings right now 😢 It may not feel clear right now but you will feel a lot better soon 🫶 I moved into my own place mid lockdown after a 6 year relationship breakdown and the loneliness was REAL! 4 years on and my life could not be any more full with love and friends and new adventures 🙏🤍 It WILL pass as you build your new and exciting life in London ❤🎉😊
i feel you so much… i’ve been feeling lonely and lost for the last two months. and it’s so calming to see that i’m no the only one feeling this way and it’s part of a life and i don’t always need to be happy and positive. and thank you for saying that it’s okay to share these hard moments with frineds because sometimes i feel guilty to do that. sending love and support ❤
Hi jade :) i've been a silent viewer/subscriber for years but I felt the need to comment on this video. As someone who has moved 11 times in the past 2 years without consistent family/friends, I felt this video so hard. the inability to console yourself or ask for help when you feel this sad and alone makes you feel so weak, but in reality, most people cannot and do not do this type of move due to how hard it is which just proves how strong and resilient you are. you can do this, it will get better. people want to be your friend and would love to help you. (also I would love to meet you in London this summer, I think we'd be great friends !!)
hearing you ground yourself out loud is so powerful!
I'm literally 30 and your videos are teaching me to self soothe! Such a breath of fresh air, I love how kind you are to yourself and others x
Jade you are so so brave! And trust me it only gets better, allowing yourself to feel low and crying it out is a good thing because it helps you process the change. You’ll look back at this video one day and be so proud of yourself for making this move and how far you’ve come❤You got this 💪🏽💕❤
You will make it Jade, you will. This video inspired me. Change is sometimes hard, just allow yourself to grow with the change and experience all of the beauty that your new life has to offer because beauty and love is all around you because of the beauty, love, and joy that you bring and give to others. Blessings, hope, and love❤️
thank you for sharing vulnerable parts of yourself with us 🤍 you are so brave for moving in and embracing uncertainty but I'm truly sorry you felt lonely, I hope by now you have settled in and started to find your people 🦋
I had emotional moments pop up myself when watching just now. Your videos inspire me & it is such a pleasure to watch you speak to yourself so kindly - like when you said you would mother yourself & having self soothing practices. I’m glad you could share with your friends too, because it can be warming for them to know you feel comfortable opening up to them. At least that is how I feel when a friend confides in me 🤍🫶 best of luck! You got this, things will always change. Thanks for feeling and sharing your feelings w us
I moved to a new country in Europe from my home in Zimbabwe and this is exactly how I had been feeling during my entire time here. It’s nice to know that this is normal and I am not alone in how I feel. Sending love and positive vibes from Ireland Jade ❤ you’ve got this and we’ve got this , it’s all part of the process.
i needed this so much today, i had a lot of complicated feelings today bc i met some new ppl but surprisingly did not like how they acted towards me. im always very postive about ppl and rarely talk bad about others, but i just felt this wave of anger of being mistreated by these ppl and I'm still struggling to truly accept those feelings of anger and hurt.
so tysm for this video jade, ilysm and your videos make me feel seen and less alone. ❤
I’ve been so lonely in crowded rooms, exam halls… it is a gnawing deep ache and time passing is felt so acutely. I feel you ❤ you and all your followers are connected when we watch your videos, we are all with you
Today is my first day moving back to my old apartment after an internship abroad… thank you for feeling your feelings and giving me a real example of the process!! So much love for you❤️
jade i did the same thing had a breakup and then immediately moved five states away. i cried a lot too. but eventually you make a local friend and from there you make more and then it doesn't;t feel so lonely anymore. and looking back I loved spending all that time alone and really learning to love myself.
It was so empowering to see you be vulnerable and sit in your hurt. YOU ARE SO STRONG! Loneliness and sadness are a part of this life and taking steps every day in spite of those feelings is so powerful. Good days are coming your way, Jade. Big hug ❤
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Big hugs from Australia 🇦🇺 it’s hard moving to a new city and finding yourself. Give yourself time be gentle with yourself. Take your self care very seriously. You aren’t as alone as you think lovely girl xx ❤❤❤
Thank you for showing this side of starting over and moving to a new place, thank you for being vulnerable with us Jade🤍
As someone who moved to London 6 month ago I felt so much of this video. Know that you are Loved!!
this video and gentle self talk is a blessing
Seeing you talk about how you feel so openly and honestly was meaningful to me ✨🦋🌷🫀🥹
This is the most relatable video. I graduated last year and moved into a flat at Christmas with a new person and eventhough I had friends to go and see I still felt lonely or as if I wasn't doing anything with my life. I thought to myself "how am I suppose to love this place like a home". After 4months I can now say that I'll miss my place when I move out and eventhough I still have some breakdowns I feel more comfortable and settled with my new working and kind off independent self. ❤❤ It always gets better.
Oh my love, I feel this in my soul. I moved to London after uni and it too was the loneliest experience of my life. I think it can be a struggle to find your people in the big city - being surrounded can make you feel all alone. Sending you lots of love in this turbulent time - you are stronger than you know ❤
I relocated 6 months ago to London, UK and it has been one of the toughest times of my life. Leaving my family and coming to a new country was so scary. During my first month, I would cry myself to sleep because I was so lonely. I had no family or friends in the UK. It is still tough but I’m hanging in there knowing it won't be long till I see them again.
Jade, I want to let you know that we are all here with you and appreciate your vulnerability❤.
Rip, don’t know why anyone would move to London from another country it’s really gone and going downhill as a city
Thank you so much for sharing this vulnerable moments with us💕, definitely makes me feel less alone that I am not the only one who breaks down in public. I am in my last year of university and the fear of uncertainty kills me inside, the fact that I don’t know which job I’ll have, relationships, parents just feels so overwhelming and I feel disconnected and isolated from people around me so much.I feel no matter what I do I find it so hard to let my friends help me or ask for help when I am in need.
I've had a period of mourning the life I thought I would have and learning to invite the life the world has given to me over the past few months and I resonate so strongly with what you are experiencing right now. Big hugs from California
I hope you’ll be fine. You’re so strong for being vulnerable.
Jade, I'm praying for you right now. And it's so amazing that you're willing to cry in public---it shows you have a tender heart
I feel your sadness Jade, I can relate sooo much, when I moved to Bologna on my Erasmus I felt so lonely and so miserable. I didn't even set up my routine for like 1 month which made it even more tragic, because basically I didn't know what should I do with myself. But believe me - it will be better, you will have beautiful memories from this chapter, fingers crossed and sending hugs!
Dont cry after all your drean ur plan was to move to london continue ur plan u will make new friends meet new people its a new adventure for urslef❤❤
you will get through this! going through a breakup and the trials and tribulations of a new city oh my the emotions you must be feeling. Honestly, i moved to edinburgh alone in january and i told myself that its ok if the first 6 weeks kind of sucked and if i felt alone and purpose-less and cried often because thats how long it takes to build a new home
Jade, it's gonna be okay. I just want to give you a big hug because I see a lot of myself in you. I trust you. You will be better
Thank you Jade for making these videos. They have also really helped me through my moving process and tough times. They make me feel less alone and help me tremendously. I don’t even have the words to express my gratitude. I always get very excited seeing when a new video comes out from you and am truly looking forward to the upcoming ones! Take care of yourself.
Thank you for being so open and vulnerable. Your strength in doing this helps others to feel strong enough to be okay with having these feelings too.
Hi Jade! Change is scary. And I have experienced it a lot. But, it does does get better. You are a huge inspiration to me. You are so kind. And I am sure you will find people in London who see that too. I also struggle with loneliness sometimes as I think I am the only one experiencing this. This video is very encouraging ❤. And I thank you are because you are just amazing.
I’ve been going through an emotional roller coaster as well Jade, and your videos have been such a comfort and instantly make me realize that yes emotions do exist to be felt. I am in awe of your honesty, your vulnerability, your growth, and your courage. I hope you know just how supported you are ❤
Dear Jade. Do not cry, please. You look pretty when you smile. It is gonna be OK. I know this feeling when you do not have familiar people around. It is hard. But we have to learn how to live with yourself. And you will get throuh it. We love you. We love your wonderful videos.
Thank you for being so raw & vulnerable Jade, deluded individualism, we think we can thrive all on our own but the truth is we are more interdependent than any other species and we can't even survive only on our own, human connection is what we are missing in our digitally connected world.
Jade, I recently moved in a 4bhk apartment all by myself. Other rooms are yet to be filled with other people. To figure out of the stuff on my own is so lonely. I am glad you had the support of your friends something that I feel is lacking for me. Balled my eyes out watching your video. I feel you and I believe you understand what I am going through as well. Just reminding myself one day at a time.
thank you soo much for sharing! the feeling of aloneness you describe when moving to a new place is so relatable and it's a huge relief to see someone is feeling the same way
i want to quickly recommend auroras music to you (if you don't know it already), especially 'all is soft inside' where she sings about her emotions and how powerful they are ✨🫰
No matter what, remember you are loved by us, this little corner of the internet. It's going to be better. And thank you Jade for being authentic and vulnerable. I really hope you can feel better soon. It's going to be okay. And I want to send you some virtual hugs. Take care:)
Any little change in routine can make you feel unsettled. Imagine that change being part of the foundation in your life, your home. I'd be worried if you didn't feel like this. That doesn't make it any less hard or frustrating, but it's a process you have to go through. And you will get through it. 💜