your new life is gonna cost you your old one.

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  • @riturner
    @riturner  8 місяців тому +68

    for those asking, I do have a podcast! :) Here's the link: bit.ly/4cdZOGC 💚

    • @daes5465
      @daes5465 7 місяців тому

      ITS fear
      ITS Traumata
      ITS education from Patents and school
      ITS the competition of success becoming a looser or a Winner
      ITS having to choose a logic
      Thats all Attachments
      Thats why i couldnt live
      When i was living they Made me to attach to their Illusion
      They are Not on your Side to Help you and assist you to Just live
      And within the competition many people around you will decrease your Evolution
      They hold you down
      Then your are living in a Cage or jail cell
      Thats why the Dating apps are full of people Just using each Others
      Dissing
      And some find Love or think they did
      But in reality you can See a Person and you can Just try to know This Person
      Without judging specific situation cause This you can do If you See that Theres a stable characzeristic
      If you See Someone angry Dienst mean Hes a Bad Person
      But If This Person is penetrating in General then you can move on
      Or Just send him for Help
      With me human frightened me so much that i cant find a Woman to Love
      ITS Just people from people i know and ITS Nothing free
      ITS organised situations and intensions
      Now i changed but i dont know If i again end Up in crazy relationship
      People around me IS saying
      Ohhh they frightened you or Someone , go and cry
      The wolrd is so Bad
      But If IT comes to their suffer and Hurt then ITS Something very different
      Many people IS realy stupid and selfish
      They are destroyed and Ego based
      They will face exactly what they think about Others
      No Mercy
      And they Dont understand the rule of resonance

    • @daes5465
      @daes5465 7 місяців тому +1

      Your beautiful and smart

    • @daes5465
      @daes5465 7 місяців тому

      I only did hold myself Back Till my Life was safe
      If i can Turn Back time i would never did IT
      I would have left the people behind where i was uncomfortable
      They only Had loyalty because of Intension
      I can Tell you
      Become whatever and whoever you want to become
      If you doing IT with your Heart you will Finish many Things
      I never stopped myself doing whatever i want
      I didnt let anything Slave me too Long
      To get Out of poverty was the longest jail time
      After This IT was only Love jail cells i was trapped in
      Detachment means you will evolve and learn different Things and you will create and Work and essen Money or Just Help or thrive
      Never Stop yourself
      If you think about to do sth
      Just Dont buy cheap bullshit
      Inform yourself and somit step by step without burning recourdes or your whole Money

    • @daes5465
      @daes5465 7 місяців тому +1

      The Life in every existence Just wants to celebrate exustence AS Life
      And This IS in all creation
      You are very intelligent that you looked inside yourself to notice that you have to seperate and then Support the Life in yourself
      IT doesnt nean that you need to Block all people
      But whatever is coming Out of you and IS giving you a Signal IS the Life that is within you
      If you find some people you can share exactly This without intensions you will quickly evolve instead in Holding on to people with too much needs
      I Wish you the best
      You are good
      You are realy highly evolved dont stop yourself
      Just Take Care
      And pay Attention

  • @miaispresent
    @miaispresent 10 місяців тому +2610

    "Instead of being liked, you're gonna be loved."
    EXACTLY. preach sis!

  • @Julietphillipss
    @Julietphillipss 10 місяців тому +392

    “When you live a life with mindless behavior without intention or purpose you’re going to create a familiar future.”

  • @itsloloheaux
    @itsloloheaux 10 місяців тому +3035

    Ended a 5yr relationship because of this. Growth is painful, it’s messy and uncomfortable but what’s on the other side is worth it. ❤

    • @riturner
      @riturner  10 місяців тому +89

      agree 100 percent

    • @kaylaEA_
      @kaylaEA_ 10 місяців тому +6

      Absolutely.

    • @yougetaspear7799
      @yougetaspear7799 10 місяців тому +13

      Hey I'm new boo🤷🏿‍♂️🤷🏿‍♂️

    • @pastry111
      @pastry111 10 місяців тому +2

      Sending love ❤

    • @757zacarias
      @757zacarias 10 місяців тому +66

      @@yougetaspear7799 LMAO you ain't waste no time

  • @TrulyKierra
    @TrulyKierra 8 місяців тому +593

    This is exactly how I have been feeling. Miserable and comfortable.

    • @LIBRAFIGHTERAGOD999
      @LIBRAFIGHTERAGOD999 2 місяці тому +6

      Wish you all the best and success

    • @AlejandroCastro-l3k
      @AlejandroCastro-l3k 15 днів тому +1

      reaaaal

    • @KatlegoAnne
      @KatlegoAnne 15 днів тому +1

      Right? Miserable & comfortable and when you try to pull away. Your brain disguises your comfort zone as your saviour

  • @ambbbbrrrr
    @ambbbbrrrr 10 місяців тому +1443

    😮‍💨 I needed this. For years I would say the “next year is my year” and then continue to be stuck in the same ole same ole . I have constantly stood in my own way and it’s time to let that old me go. Thank you for this message. Will definitely be on repeat.

    • @riturner
      @riturner  10 місяців тому +36

      Same same same. you're so welcome. thank you so much for being here.

    • @Mary-Loves111
      @Mary-Loves111 10 місяців тому +1

      Same to me

    • @Mary-Loves111
      @Mary-Loves111 10 місяців тому +2

      Same to me

    • @Novacynthia
      @Novacynthia 7 місяців тому +2

      Yesss 🙌 Time to turn the pages of the past self!! 🎉Multidimensional Self!!

    • @natashawoods2242
      @natashawoods2242 7 місяців тому +2

      This was so good! I hope you’re doing good

  • @jordanloophole
    @jordanloophole 3 місяці тому +29

    i love this new generation of vloggers are making people emotionally and mentally smart

  • @Beautiful_B6277
    @Beautiful_B6277 10 місяців тому +765

    God spoke to me through you. Thank you 🙏🏽

    • @riturner
      @riturner  10 місяців тому +43

      YESS ✨

    • @thealiyahbello
      @thealiyahbello 8 місяців тому +5

      i was thinking that exact thing!!!

  • @Coco-im5ln
    @Coco-im5ln 5 місяців тому +129

    If you dont change, life will make you lose everything and everyone to force you to change. I have no idea what's next, but instead of fighting, I surrender.

    • @victoriahardin1560
      @victoriahardin1560 2 місяці тому +2

      I've been through this "wash-rinse-repeat" cycle more times than I care to admit. The crazy thing is the first "push" is gentle but getting more forceful each time until everything is stripped and you're at zero, broken, and embarrassed. It doesn't have to be that way if we receive that first whisper, that first push to move on.

    • @DarkPriestessJae
      @DarkPriestessJae Місяць тому +1

      THIS PART! This is what 2023 did for me. I’m still in the process of change, but it’s a conscious process now.

  • @Wayytooreal
    @Wayytooreal 10 місяців тому +452

    I literally started tearing once the video started. WOW! I'm currently going through what I like to call my "detachment era". I had to unlearn a lot of things. It is very liberating and freeing to come out on the other side and notice all of the positive changes. Thank you for your content. Peace & love!

    • @riturner
      @riturner  10 місяців тому +10

      wow, detachment era in full effect.

    • @Therealmaprin
      @Therealmaprin 8 місяців тому +2

      I’m absolutely going through a similar era. It’s been extremely liberating. Life is beautiful

  • @goalchaser._8232
    @goalchaser._8232 10 місяців тому +324

    The parts between 5:00-5:07 is so real because I have been so scared to change myself because of how my parents and friends will think of me and the world in general. But I’ve learned that change isn’t for anyone else, it is for me and how I view myself mentally and physically.

    • @riturner
      @riturner  10 місяців тому +11

      yess, exactly.

  • @shore871
    @shore871 10 місяців тому +171

    "I fear that this person I [will become] won't align with the way that [others] perceive me."
    I had a hard time explaining to my therapist this exact fear earlier this week, but you said it beautifully. It's led to years of feeling stagnant and too comfortable with where I am, even though I know I've far outgrown it ❣

  • @emi7254
    @emi7254 9 місяців тому +100

    “Change is inevitable”
    That's where most of my suffering comes from. Trying to resist this change and letting go of the old.
    Thank you for this word❤️

  • @mttknvlalp_
    @mttknvlalp_ 10 місяців тому +27

    Reality is harsh for wanting to be free but freedom requires everything

  • @unbotheredsis1934
    @unbotheredsis1934 7 місяців тому +146

    i wanted to type a whole paragraph about me, but imma just say.. I needed to hear this. because I’m definitely not my older me anymore but i’m just lost rn.

    • @ayanyawose
      @ayanyawose 5 місяців тому +1

      how are you now?

    • @unbotheredsis1934
      @unbotheredsis1934 5 місяців тому +3

      @@ayanyawose still hanging in there.. really tryna figure stuff out. wby

    • @daleeahrocha
      @daleeahrocha 4 місяці тому +5

      you will find your way. if you believe in God keep faith. journal, inner work. read the bible! if not , look more towards the law of attraction, manifestation, journal, don’t let anyone play with you! know that YOU are the one that really matters in keeping yourself happy. don’t lock yourself in your room all day! grow! listen to the part of your brain that knows where to start in being a better you! live your life on auto pilot! don’t listen to those negative thoughts because that is not really you! ❤

    • @debbie-sp1mw
      @debbie-sp1mw 4 місяці тому +2

      @@daleeahrochathis is beautiful

    • @Samantha-vlly
      @Samantha-vlly 4 місяці тому +1

      We are in the same boat.
      As she said, change is inevitable, I allowed it. I am doing nothing and I let that sink in.

  • @iamneogenesis
    @iamneogenesis 8 місяців тому +145

    I hit rock bottom in the last year, lost my job, car, my ex of 4 years. All of it was completely my fault. I was in a fog trying to please others around me and putting on a mask that everything was fine while inside I was dealing with a lot of internalized trauma. I say all that to say I thought all this time isolated was a punishment from the universe when it's really been my biggest blessing. I finally realized that I'm not alone and that even in my dark times I still haven't missed a beat. I'm still trying to get it all together and I'm taking the steps necessary. Everything I want is mine I just gotta put in the work. Everything I need, I already have. In this current moment I am very blessed and if you even took the time to read my rant, I hope you have a good day and continue to get 1% better everyday🤟🏽

    • @myskinutrition
      @myskinutrition 7 місяців тому +5

      Thank you for writing this comment, i truly resonate with it ❤ I hope your journey runs smoothly and you could pass any obstacle that comes your way quickly without wasting so much time and energy on it ✨

    • @KaylaMarieHart
      @KaylaMarieHart 3 місяці тому +1

      You are amazing ❤

    • @craigyoungofficialtv5262
      @craigyoungofficialtv5262 2 місяці тому +2

      Holy shit I’m literally dealing with the same thing. Just change the ex of 4 years to one but yeah it sucks. Thank you for sharing cuz it’s telling me shii eventually gonna pan out for good. I just gotta keep remembering that everything we have is within…

    • @AmondiHwa
      @AmondiHwa Місяць тому +1

      ❤️‍🔥

  • @kierragreer1531
    @kierragreer1531 8 місяців тому +19

    I feel like I’m sitting here listening to myself talk wow. Literally every word that rolled off of your tongue. This is a conversation that I’ve had with myself time and time again.

  • @Nakia-l3w
    @Nakia-l3w 10 місяців тому +163

    I swear this will be played on the regularly throughout the year as a reminder. The soundtrack for 2024. Thank you so much! May we all aim to thrive❤

    • @riturner
      @riturner  10 місяців тому +4

      yesss, thank youuu!

    • @fatricelashay1882
      @fatricelashay1882 3 місяці тому +1

      🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🫶🏼

  • @brielyse_
    @brielyse_ 10 місяців тому +106

    Are you in my head?! I’m literally in this SAME space in my life. And I struggle because I’m almost 38 years old. I’m in another transition and it is bittersweet

    • @Vivi_LaRue
      @Vivi_LaRue 8 місяців тому +3

      I’m 48 and beginning again. Because I’ve spent too long living for other people and not myself.

    • @elliebusson5535
      @elliebusson5535 4 місяці тому

      girl im only 17😢😢

    • @kiaj.d.5855
      @kiaj.d.5855 Місяць тому

      I’m 43 and finally making the changes I want!

  • @aliciathomas3711
    @aliciathomas3711 10 місяців тому +107

    This is a word for my SOUL today. Thank you for this!

    • @riturner
      @riturner  10 місяців тому +1

      So glad it resonated. 🫶🏽

    • @Sunraeelise22
      @Sunraeelise22 10 місяців тому

      Yes this was so beautiful I just love this video! Thank you so much !

  • @GodHelpMe369
    @GodHelpMe369 10 місяців тому +43

    PRAYER:
    1) There are five things Jesus has shown me I MUST do...
    - I have to make amends to my sister
    - I have to use my voice (radical honesty)
    - I have to write the book
    - I have to continuously surrender to God more and more
    - I have to completely let go of Bryan...
    I pray I accomplish all of the above
    in this blessed New Year of 2024.
    I pray I don't have to do it alone.
    I pray Jesus and the angels assist me
    and guide me, and help me through all of it...
    So that it all feels joyful and easy!
    2) I'm desperately lonely and alone.
    I pray for true love (with my twin flame).
    And a tribe of real friends.
    3) I pray to be healed on every level, in every way:
    - emotionally
    - spiritually
    - mentally
    - physically
    - generationally

    • @LC-nk5nr
      @LC-nk5nr 10 місяців тому +6

      You're not alone. Remember God's strength is made perfect in our weakness. Blessings to you 🫶

    • @dreamchaser5758
      @dreamchaser5758 8 місяців тому +3

      Responding to your comment to remind you that God will equip you every step of the way

    • @SampsonEkeh-pj8gs
      @SampsonEkeh-pj8gs 2 місяці тому +2

      Your prayers are answered in Jesus name amen😊

  • @sonnypamonicutt9920
    @sonnypamonicutt9920 6 місяців тому +28

    Applied for an internship that opened at my college and was able to secure an interview for today. Never done anything like this that requires a lot of communication but I’m ready to enter this new part of my journey ❤️❤️

    • @Hinieeee
      @Hinieeee 4 місяці тому

      Hii, I hope it went well

  • @flipthescript2.091
    @flipthescript2.091 10 місяців тому +73

    The way I felt this in my soul !!! I dimmed my light so low it cut off and I was left in the dark cringy place. I couldnt even recognize myself. I said at the end of last year , Im done playing about me and everything that does not bring me peace, joy & happiness must GO !

    • @AWholeVibe96
      @AWholeVibe96 10 місяців тому +3

      Yes!!! I’m right here with you. We got this ✨✨

  • @kariahdebose7528
    @kariahdebose7528 8 місяців тому +8

    Cmon girl!!! You talking that talk! This was so damn good, so happy I came across it. We all need to hear this fr fr

    • @kiaj.d.5855
      @kiaj.d.5855 Місяць тому +1

      Okkkk when she said I’m not playing about that etc. I said yes sis!!!!!!

  • @SladeSanctuary
    @SladeSanctuary 4 місяці тому +4

    It really hit for me when you said "I've out grown my comfort zone". I've been feeling the exact same way; I low-key manipulate myself from moving forward. I love your conversational video style too. So much of what you said resonated with me, so I just wanted to say thank you for your art! This was truly moving!

  • @dajee0420
    @dajee0420 8 місяців тому +15

    This message and timing are beyond DIVINE! My life has been so chaotic at the hands of my ex: emotional abuse, eviction, and homelessness. Now separated and taking my power back slowly getting back on my feet with my 5-month-old daughter, embodying strength and perseverance.

    • @dreamchaser5758
      @dreamchaser5758 8 місяців тому

      May God be with you and your precious babygirl. Never settle for less than His best for you both.

  • @sinnbadd278
    @sinnbadd278 2 місяці тому +2

    I just started college and turned 27. I’m excited but what I’m noticing within 2 weeks, the things that I used to do I don’t have time for them anymore. And whilst it’s a bit scary, I’m enjoying the change because I know it’s good for me.

  • @Humanitariantraveler
    @Humanitariantraveler 10 місяців тому +52

    Going through a transition now and feel like I’m fully coming into myself. Lost one of my best friends as soon as the shift started. This video is SO needed rn. Tysm 💕

    • @w_rav
      @w_rav 10 місяців тому +4

      Sending you love 🫶🏾💛

    • @jameshaflowers1242
      @jameshaflowers1242 10 місяців тому +5

      Lost all my friends😭

    • @marianazzz1
      @marianazzz1 10 місяців тому

      @@jameshaflowers1242ME TOOOO😭

    • @kiaj.d.5855
      @kiaj.d.5855 Місяць тому

      @@jameshaflowers1242same! I’m good with it!

  • @Jennahvievejohnson
    @Jennahvievejohnson 10 місяців тому +23

    This video articulates a lot of things people don't usually take the time to say. Change is inevitable. You can't grow AND stay in your comfort zone. You can't have your new life while you stay in your old one.

  • @JohnDoe-ds7ww
    @JohnDoe-ds7ww 10 місяців тому +39

    What you said in your comment about, "embracing the change and allowing the unknown to take it's place". That was it for me. I'm so grateful to have found your channel. It's very relaxing and the Jazz sets it all the way off just right. Stay the course, We're here for it.💚💚💚

  • @Luckymeee555
    @Luckymeee555 10 місяців тому +68

    I love you 🫂🫶🏽 there’s so many of us that needed to hear this. Thank you.

    • @riturner
      @riturner  10 місяців тому +8

      I love you! And you’re so welcome. Thank you for being here.

  • @jasminefinney2799
    @jasminefinney2799 10 місяців тому +39

    I Thank God for you to put this video out here!!! This is how I’ve felt for some years now, worrying about how family or friends would perceive me or if I decided to get away from the world and focus on God and myself who would be there when I get back but now I’m not afraid to let go and Let God I’m ready to WORK WORK WORK and receive all the blessings that are for me!! Thank you again and for everyone I ask that the Lord will help give you all the guidance to push through any mental, physical, or spiritual blockages to get you to what you know you are deserving to have. This is your year (including the years to come!😏😁)to show shine bright so make it count. You are loved! ❤ You are appreciated! 💝You are worth it!! You truly deserve it! Believe in yourself! I ask that God will keep this one close to your heart “Be anxious for nothing but in everything by prayer and supplication, with Thanksgiving, let your request be made known to God.” Trust in God’s timing and his plan for you! He wants for all of you to prosper! In Jesus Name Amen ❤🙏🏽

  • @shee.taa.
    @shee.taa. 7 місяців тому +3

    sometimes it costs losing your parents, cause they're not understanding or accepting you and your new life.

  • @talkswithtaty8595
    @talkswithtaty8595 10 місяців тому +9

    This whole video sang to me so gently and poetically. Every single thing.

  • @Maggietheebaddie1948
    @Maggietheebaddie1948 10 місяців тому +18

    I felt this video. I stopped worrying about others and what they think about my change. I know who I am and who I want to be and worrying about peoples opinions isn’t serving my growth. Either they accept my Change or they can leave. I’m too grown to worry about they opinions. ❤

  • @elizamad5846
    @elizamad5846 10 місяців тому +24

    I know you didn’t mention God in this video but know that this is what He requires from His people. But we can’t do it in our strength but in one that is greater than us. God bless you sister ❤

  • @danwilliams3935
    @danwilliams3935 3 місяці тому +2

    I relate to this a lot. I was in a relationship for 10 years and married for 4 of those, child together, and it got to a point where I would lie awake at night unhappy with the life we had that was never going to change, and the fear of leaving comfort kept me there for longer than I want to admit. I decided to leave a few months ago now, I live alone and my child visits a few days a week. It hurts that I don't get to see him every day but I would rather he know me as a happy person rather than stuck being miserable.
    Life is too short to waste it giving your love and energy to people and things that don't serve you back

  • @SoulGlowHealing
    @SoulGlowHealing 13 днів тому

    I needed to hear your words so badly today. I bawled the whole time. As I'm on my moon and releasing so much. Adapting to so much change in my life. Writing this in November 2024. This year I ended a relationship, adapted to moving to a new town, made new friends, lost some friends, moved twice.... moved out to an acreage in the middle of nowhere.... learning homestead life. 2 years ago I was living in a city. I have a new living space, a new roommate, a new lifestyle, I quit my stable well paying job with benefits, started a new school program for biodynamic craniosacral therapy which has been changing me from the inside out.... ❤ I don't have a job right now.... not sure what I'm going to do for an income. Been falling apart because all this change is so overwhelming ❤

  • @myrnaj4502
    @myrnaj4502 10 місяців тому +5

    I am feeling like this. In this season of change in my life. ❤❤

    • @riturner
      @riturner  10 місяців тому +1

      Same sis.

  • @totalboundlesschaos
    @totalboundlesschaos 10 місяців тому +20

    this could not have came at a better time, one of the most relatable videos ive seen in awhile. ive been going through such stagnant points in my life without taking initiation and feeling not just “lazy” but depressed and wanting to change. but expecting so much without taking action, so i thought something was wrong. that change wasnt right because it didnt “happen” to me like i wanted it to. for the first time in my life instead of just acknowledging the accountability i have over it im gonna actually be responsible, and take active and mindful measures. bc honestly im tired of being in this bubble/comfort zone that ive been outgrowing for the past 4 years too. realize that you do have control in some aspects in your life . yes not everything must be blamed externally on the world but that also means you have some sort of power in this too. sorry for the long message but this video rlly spoke to me, thank you for the insightful points you explained it beautifully :)

  • @melevonne
    @melevonne 10 місяців тому +18

    Thank you for vocalizing something that so many of us can relate to. 💜

  • @PodChklilpp339
    @PodChklilpp339 10 місяців тому +4

    This came to me when i needed it

  • @Callme_freebird
    @Callme_freebird 6 місяців тому +1

    “ tired of not getting the things that are mine “ gosh this really reflected on what i was thinking ❤

  • @abgg270
    @abgg270 8 місяців тому +4

    Literally thank you. It has been so hard for me lately to let this version of me go and it hurts more than what I expected. This seriously made me cry. Thank you.

  • @NameBrandKai
    @NameBrandKai 10 місяців тому +16

    i felt the last two minutes on a different level fr I went through a lot last year but made the most progress ive ever made in my life. before last year i felt like i couldn’t evolve in anything but then 2023 came and everything changed for me. and just by the way 2024 starting, I KNOW this my year and im ready for it im following my heart to the fullest and being who im supposed to be. I can no longer allow my past, peers, environment, or circumstances control me. Thank you for this video I really needed to hear this.

    • @marianazzz1
      @marianazzz1 10 місяців тому +1

      feel this on a spiritual level.

  • @sincerelyZaYahairaa
    @sincerelyZaYahairaa 10 місяців тому +5

    wow this was the one. I needed this.. i’m so desperate to not change but have the heart and desire to change so bad. It’s actually insane how bad i fight the change i so desperately need .

  • @caitlinbritz2615
    @caitlinbritz2615 10 місяців тому +28

    I cant explain the cycles ive gone through , that made me feel soo stuck in life. Im tired of being anxious , afraid and allowing the littlest things to stir up my big emotions. Im literally so ready to let go of old thoughts, experiences , traumas and heartache. Im not sure how to let go but im ready , im tired. Im deserving if of life and love to energise me not make me fear because of past traumas. Thank you for your truth, i related so much. Thank you for being brave in sharing it. I dont feel alone ❤

  • @borderlinebestie
    @borderlinebestie 4 місяці тому +2

    I just … sold all my stuff, my children (happily and safely) moved in with their father, i quit both my jobs… i just … choose me. After 15 years of giving without ceasing… i am burnt out but i finally chose me.
    I landed in Texas yesterday night. My sisters are here to hold me close for 2 weeks and then i got a lease in Switzerland 🇨🇭
    It cost me everything. It cost me everything. But today is the first day of my life.
    I can’t wait to watch your video.
    Thank you making it.

  • @sunsoulbodhi
    @sunsoulbodhi 6 місяців тому +1

    “I am so caught up in controlling the narrative about how I’m being perceived” felt that. Thank you for this!

    • @sunsoulbodhi
      @sunsoulbodhi 6 місяців тому

      “For this” meaning your vulnerability, it’s a reminder that we are all trying our best to grow past this programming of not putting ourselves first.

  • @seroquelchamber
    @seroquelchamber 10 місяців тому +11

    i have been in a very hard place for quite some time, and it cost me my home and stability. but two days ago i finally got my own housing again for the first time since 2021. I let myself get so burnt out by everything, wanting to be understood, wanting to be liked- it drove me to the absolute edge and it allowed me to not realize when i was being abused by people i desperately wanted approval from.
    so exactly what you said. thats the lesson i have learned at the end. that i should have never been sacrificing myself for anyone. because i kept going, and i sacrificed until there was nothing left. when i had nothing left to sacrifice, i became really angry and protected the last bits of me fiercely. it taught me that i can survive not being liked. in fact, it taught me that not being liked is sometimes the ammo it takes to love yourself. and thats all you need to build a life you love. you just have to love the life/body its built by. when my reaction to other people mistreating me became *how dare you* instead of *why me* i knew i had crossed that threshold.

    • @dreamchaser5758
      @dreamchaser5758 8 місяців тому

      Powerful and profound comment. I am a recovering people pleaser. It's exhausting and it chips away at your self worth and confidence. If everyone turns away, I'm more than satisfied with Christ.

  • @juliajones5497
    @juliajones5497 8 місяців тому +2

    5:23 within not even 5 minutes I’ve felt so connected to your message, it was honestly something I needed to hear to know I’m doing the right thing.

  • @Bryant19999
    @Bryant19999 6 місяців тому +2

    You dropped some diamonds. Thank you!

  • @Zusakhe.
    @Zusakhe. 21 день тому

    This is so true; the fear of change is so real and being attached to our past really does hinder us from moving forward and unlocking what we are supposed to step into.

  • @forgivingfrequency62
    @forgivingfrequency62 10 місяців тому +2

    I had this realisation - painfully - a year ago and I went through the toughest time of my life, because I completely accepted reality for what it is - no constant. It's discomfort and pain and work and sweat but my God, did it pay off. Whatever you're going through, I wish you the best, because the best version of you and your life is waiting for you.

  • @BeingTiffany
    @BeingTiffany 10 місяців тому +5

    Yesss, I felt this so deeply! I just posted my comeback video on here and I can't believe it took me so long cause I was letting so many things get in my way including my own comfort!

    • @riturner
      @riturner  10 місяців тому +2

      so happy you're not allowing comfort to stop you from getting to what's yours.

  • @kstarmi
    @kstarmi 10 місяців тому +1

    "you think about the trees, they just grow"
    ❤️❤️❤️

  • @demonschnauzer1555
    @demonschnauzer1555 10 місяців тому +2

    I also have that feeling of stagnancy, and I really want my life to be different. Best of luck to you, because the emotions of leaving your comfort zone can be so hard that it makes you doubt everything you’re doing. Hopefully we can all find our way anyway, through those emotions.

  • @AveryYvonne77
    @AveryYvonne77 9 місяців тому +2

    Thank you so. So. So. So. Much. NEEDED to hear this.

  • @tialorabelin6993
    @tialorabelin6993 10 місяців тому +20

    This came to me just when I needed it. I sense a lot of energetic changes between me and some of the people around me, my best friend specifically. She has been in my life for so long, but I think the time has come for me to energetically let go of her expectations. I may lose her because of it. And I know I have to be okay with that because my life and the mission I'm on are aligned. Your wisdom makes me teary-eyed. Thank you.

  • @justapseudonym7
    @justapseudonym7 10 місяців тому +2

    Trying to build and understand healthy boundaries and it's tough

  • @ShatoddraToddieC
    @ShatoddraToddieC 10 місяців тому +6

    I literally made video saying basically the same thing. There’s definitely a shift happening this year. I’m beveling you’re going to get everything you desire this year. This will be your year of change 🙏🏾✨ thank you for your wisdom

  • @ManiBobani
    @ManiBobani 10 місяців тому +5

    Social media be so toxic tht I never except things like this. Thank you for this. I can tell you did this selflessly and to help others. I’m struggling w staying I my comfort zone too and I’m struggling. Just want excuses to leave and happiness to enter.

  • @thaliawhite6675
    @thaliawhite6675 9 місяців тому +2

    I just got broken up with. It’s been so hard moving from that wonderful past with someone so loving, caring, and understanding. I would give anything to have that back, but there isn’t anything I can do. I find myself stuck in the pst or some made up future constantly, but I need to accept that and continue with my life. Thank you!

  • @jmunroe
    @jmunroe 10 місяців тому +6

    Omg I'm reading The Mountain is You right now and its speaking to my soul. I get excited whenever I see you post a new video bc I know its going to be 🔥

    • @riturner
      @riturner  10 місяців тому

      Thank you my love

  • @manijean888
    @manijean888 7 місяців тому +1

    Seeing you on the recommended page even though I don’t tune into your channel much but listen to every podcast!! So happy to see you reaching more ppl Ri ❤❤❤

  • @katlennat1680
    @katlennat1680 10 місяців тому +2

    I’m working hard this semester to graduate to start my new life

  • @iamthrivingmeditations3490
    @iamthrivingmeditations3490 9 місяців тому +4

    Your voice is very calming and beautiful. ❤ I enjoyed this message of truth as well.

  • @personal.hannie
    @personal.hannie 6 місяців тому +2

    this came at the right time. a few days ago, i finally got the courage to delete all of their numbers and it was relieving. it’s okay if you have to be alone, especially if being with others just destroy you physically, mentally and emotionally. love shouldn’t be transactional but it can be reciprocal. just know what’s right for you in the long run.

  • @_tahira
    @_tahira 7 місяців тому +2

    Girl you had the crying the moment I got unto this video. It's really not easy letting go of our old selves but thank you for giving everyone who comes across this video a reminder

  • @auch101
    @auch101 10 місяців тому +3

    You have such a lovely voice to listen to! Thank you for this

  • @iamassyl
    @iamassyl 5 місяців тому

    accepting the change instead of avoiding is probably the hardest part that i keep working on

  • @hisnaturalwife09
    @hisnaturalwife09 10 місяців тому +5

    This was a message and I’m only half way through! Whew!
    I need to hear this more than once. Thank you for this!❤️

  • @Solbrick
    @Solbrick 10 місяців тому +3

    Change is going to come whether you want it or not. We are all decaying and the very fabric of the universe is expanding and moving apart.

  • @w_rav
    @w_rav 10 місяців тому +5

    Whew, sis, this has brought me to tears, your words are so powerful, they’re feeding my soul. It was meant for me to hear this. Thank you, bless you. From one sister to another, I love you! 🫶🏾💛

    • @riturner
      @riturner  10 місяців тому

      I love youuu

  • @Ebsnichole
    @Ebsnichole 10 місяців тому +6

    I resonate with this from beginning to end. I am simply over grown from the past version of myself. Habits, mindset, everything and have gave myself permission to get out of my own way and do the things I have interest in. Watching and listening to your content feels so in-sync to my present. Thanks for sharing and being vulnerable with your thoughts on your platforms I’m happy to have came across your page ❤

    • @riturner
      @riturner  10 місяців тому

      thank YOU for being here and allowing me into your space. sending you so much love.

  • @PorshiaVonne
    @PorshiaVonne 10 місяців тому +1

    You’re so beautiful 🤩 I really enjoyed this video 🌱 💜

  • @dejahford3943
    @dejahford3943 5 місяців тому

    "Instead of being understood, you're going to be seen" AMEN

  • @lovewins699
    @lovewins699 10 місяців тому +2

    Whew! This was definitely for me! It spoke to me. Its almost 2 in the morning, and i was strolling through, and happened to run across your video. I feel that I'm in this stage right now in my life, and I'm willing to give up ANYONE or ANYTHING that doesnt serve me. Great video, and thanks for sharing. Be blessed.

  • @c.j3087
    @c.j3087 4 місяці тому

    That’s so true.. 💔
    “Is gonna cost your friends. Your relationships.”

  • @hodiyahhelps6331
    @hodiyahhelps6331 10 місяців тому +5

    Chile... 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 this message became soooooo clear to me about a few months ago.
    Then here you are... singing my life with your words.
    I just receive this as confirmation that I'm headed in the right direction.
    I'm so excited to see what comes as I embark this journey.
    Thank you Ri 🧡💜
    Love & Blessings to you and your family

  • @leahkmcd2170
    @leahkmcd2170 8 місяців тому +1

    This was art. Literally so helpful, words cannot describe. Thank you .

  • @daniellesnow9683
    @daniellesnow9683 10 місяців тому +2

    I absolutely needed to watch this today. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

  • @kowotie_e
    @kowotie_e 10 місяців тому

    PREACH girl 😤 we’re not gonna continue living mindlessly

  • @xEckored
    @xEckored 10 місяців тому +5

    ive seen thousands and thousands of youtube videos throughout my years here. this is easily top ten most beautiful and soothing videos i’ve come across. i never wanted it to end and it came to me on a day of big decision making. instantly subscribed. and thank you!
    edit to add: it also might be the first ever video that i’ve instantly rewatched like this… wow

    • @xEckored
      @xEckored 6 місяців тому

      it's been 3 months and one day has not gone by where I haven't played this video. it's literally changing my life. thank you so much once again.

    • @xEckored
      @xEckored Місяць тому

      eight months since my first comment. still feel the exact same. this video (and now your podcast!) has forever changed my life.

    • @xEckored
      @xEckored 23 години тому

      hi again. I'll check in when it's been a full year, but please know that this video has changed and still continues to change my life every. single. day. I cannot thank you enough!

  • @kaylalouns7678
    @kaylalouns7678 10 місяців тому +5

    I needed this so so much 🙏 God spoke through you on that one, every word was on point and hit the nerve it was supposed to! So grateful for this message, thank you ❤

  • @amarinatoby
    @amarinatoby 7 місяців тому +1

    Spirit placing this video on my suggested watch, because you are putting words to the feelings I have.

  • @kcpeace
    @kcpeace Місяць тому

    I rewatch and share this video regularly like a prayer - thanks for sharing

  • @TysonASMR
    @TysonASMR 10 місяців тому

    As someone who gets deeply attached to things, people places, etc… I’m currently having a really hard time separating from my partner of 7 years. We both have different wants and needs but have gotten so attached and dependent on one another that it feels nearly impossible to leave. This video inspired me. 2024 is going to be my year of prioritizing myself ❤

  • @GC_TX
    @GC_TX 10 місяців тому

    “Nothing changes if nothing changes” -Donna Barnes

  • @talkswithtaty8595
    @talkswithtaty8595 10 місяців тому +1

    WOWWWWW I FELT EVERY SINGLE PART. TODAY IS THE DAY.

  • @laughlittle2881
    @laughlittle2881 9 місяців тому

    I had this same conversation with my friend yesterday, where I expressed my dislike for change. We often fail to appreciate the moment we are living in right now, and only in hindsight do we recognize those moments as golden. There is a saying You truly understand the value of something or someone once you’ve lost it.

  • @hannakatt7689
    @hannakatt7689 3 місяці тому

    this is one of the greatest videos i have ever watched in my life. thank you so much.

  • @venturaumanacamila7042
    @venturaumanacamila7042 3 місяці тому

    you are so talented at speaking. I felt every word so deeply...

  • @urstrulyvee
    @urstrulyvee 10 місяців тому +1

    This made me cry. I love you so much for this. Thank you.

  • @creambasedbus
    @creambasedbus 5 місяців тому

    You shared some powerful words 🙏🏼 Growth is on the other side of your comfort zone

  • @Handlemewithcare11
    @Handlemewithcare11 10 місяців тому +2

    Thank you for speaking to my soul! This is so beneficial to my evolution moving forward.… Gratitude! 🔑🪴
    Asè 🌱💚✅

  • @Alice_v2.0
    @Alice_v2.0 10 місяців тому +2

    NEW SUBSCRIBER!! This was an amazing message! Thank you so much for this! Stepping out of the old comfort zone and into our better selves in 2024! 👏🏾

  • @Kjohnson518
    @Kjohnson518 4 місяці тому

    “That life waiting in another dimension for me” thissss!!

  • @tawana_cruise
    @tawana_cruise 7 місяців тому

    One that this video has taught me is if you want change , everything has to change even as uncomfortable as it may be at times.

  • @SunnydBuns
    @SunnydBuns 3 місяці тому

    I’m letting so much of my old life go it feels so good!