I wish I had had access to this information many years ago. There was yet another layer on top of this: he refused to tell me why he was mad at me, and my failure to understand the cause of his anger made him even angrier, as he accused me of playing dumb, it was exhausting. Thank you!
9 times out of 10, what the narc accuses their IPPS of is what the narc is guilty of him/herself. For example, my ex would often be on dating sites looking for "new male friends", blaming that she did not get along with women and that I need to stop always trying to control her. I recognize everything you said in this video.
I had something like this happen to me, a Narc flirted with me and flattered, and when I (stupidly) reciprocated, I was accused of “going over her boundaries” and making her “uncomfortable” 🤦🏼♂️
Whoa! I have experienced that from an ex. He could talk with anyone but I was limited to people he considered safe. He abandoned me at the local pub because I had the nerve to go across the room to talk with a couple that we both knew. Glad to have that situation in the rear view mirror.
OMG my ex literally asked a girl (waitress) out in front of me, heavily pregnant with his child, and married 2 years. It was all in my imagination by the time he got home after I got in the car and left him at the restaurant.
one time when I was pregnant (2 weeks overdue) my ex came home at 8:00, after a night and God knows what at the bar. He started mumbling an excuse & I said, "I'm going back to bed" a couple of hours later I got up and he asked, " Don't you want to know what happened?", I said very calmly, " Not particularly. It won't change anything and I stopped believing you quite a while ago" Then I continued about my day. He literally followed me around the house trying to tell me his "explanation" . I just kept ignoring him. he was absolutely lost as to how to act. his face looked so confused, I can laugh now every time I think about it!
From our perspective (the empath victim) this is so twisted. My ex accused me of flirting and cheating - all projections on his part, it turns out. (Only I didn't know this until after escaping.)
I was accused of this, he picked a person, who in his minds eye was good looking, in mine I wouldn’t take a second glance. He constantly accused me of flirting this this man, it was upsetting to say the least and i over and over explained that I wasn’t/didn’t. One day, I asked him if he was insecure, he said, no and that he didn’t give a flying F€&@ if I was…. 🙄, another time, in an old pub that was packed, I walked to loo and while navigating the crowd touched off many people to get by, when I got back I was accused of ‘feeling’ up a man. I was so disappointed that he accused me of this. Then I slowly but surely copped on, that this was a ploy to see how much I would ‘fight’ for the relationship. This was very exhausting and shocking to think he would still be with me after the accusations, but more importantly, that I remained for what I don’t know. Then I took my exit on the third accusation.
Listening to HG brought me freedom. Complete freedom! His videos are imperative before, while in and after the relationship. The journey never ends as an empath - the more you learn the more freedom you acquire and happiness stars to flow. Keep it up and never leave HG.
Been through all this, accused of flirting every time I spoke to another woman for whatever reason, it was always how I made her feel , degraded and devalued, yet when she did the same and worse! She was just being friendly and sociable
great video as usual HG very true especially when u said the emapth had responded with "There is something wrong with you!" Wow on point with that and everything else thank you for these videos
One of the news reports today on Harry described how he'd been flirting with a female polo player recently. When I read that I wondered if his wife would become furious at him or just let it pass and not even care . The piece discusses how he'd Ben in San Francisco for a week working on Better Up . Would his wife become even more suspicious he was gone a long while...were there rendezvous being made up in her mind. Other women too, made up one night stands while he was out of town. The bottom line is how much would this report scramble her mind and obsessively take center stage with her ability to focus on her many other projects she must juggle right before the event in Indianapolis. I think she'll have less time to research lines and paragraphs to plagarize and steal from others. Then again, she can always fall back on the same old word salad she usually espouses...that will probably work fine in a Midwestern town like Indianapolis, she thinks. Would she also be thinking, "Hmm if he thinks he's going to get away with this flirting in public well he has another thing coming ... what's good for the gander is also good for the goose….when I'm in Indianapolis, I'll check out a few good men there and get some news speculation going too. He will be so sorry he enbarassed me." Will her brain work that way or will the sh*t hit the fan as soon as he sets foot back in the house❓ Finally, when they first moved into the Montecito house, it was not just the two of they, they also had Marcus Anderson was the 3rd party they brought along and he stayed quite a long time . I could picture her putting Marcus against Harry just to watch Harry get jealous. How much did Marcus really like her? I could see a variety of scenarios in that situation. He seems to have quietly fallen by the wayside since then. Surprised me really.
Never had this happen, my MRN type B was a talker would just talk and talk, I imagine he must love the sound of his voice, which is a bit hard to hear for most normal people.
Video of lessers abound on TLC. It's amazing how a lesser become popular despite appaling behaviour towards their family, friends and romantic partners. No talent, no ability but nasty will propel you to fame...
Oh yeah my ex narc was so jealous of other guys hitting on me. To the point he’d get so angry he’d ignore me and put me down. It was horrible. If any guy hit on me in front of him in the end he’d then say, ‘you were giving him the ‘eyes’.
I always react this way and I thought it was because I was just jealous, and that it came from insecurity. I expect specific answers, and push my narrative onto my partner. Am I a narcissist? Or do I have strong narcissistic tendencies in these scenarios. How do I fix this?
Apparently if you have to ask if you're an narcissist, then you are not. I would also think that this behaviour would have to be all the time, plus you would almost definitely have to have other narcissistic attributes. If you are still worried after listening to some of HG's other videos, you could always take his empath detector found in the links.
If you bring up the question, it’s worth exploration with a narcissism expert (HG,) or a good therapist who understands narcissism. Good for you to alert to traits within yourself. Wishing you peace and growth.
ha ha i got accused of being on with a guy i watched walk past the car while he put petrol in never laid eyes on him before that ex git in the car and asked why i was staring and was i on with him another time it was the school principle i was on with him also it never ended.
Oh, yes! I was accused of as such and was subject to a few texts of 'Tirade'. Another time I was accused of being with someone else (I wasn't). These are the two times I ignored that Lesser's behaviours. This video is a typical 'one rule for them, and another for everyone else', the narcissist don't like it when someone (unknowingly, or not) 'matches their manipulations' 🤣. Thank you HG 🤍🤍🤍
I wish I had had access to this information many years ago. There was yet another layer on top of this: he refused to tell me why he was mad at me, and my failure to understand the cause of his anger made him even angrier, as he accused me of playing dumb, it was exhausting. Thank you!
9 times out of 10, what the narc accuses their IPPS of is what the narc is guilty of him/herself. For example, my ex would often be on dating sites looking for "new male friends", blaming that she did not get along with women and that I need to stop always trying to control her. I recognize everything you said in this video.
I had something like this happen to me, a Narc flirted with me and flattered, and when I (stupidly) reciprocated, I was accused of “going over her boundaries” and making her “uncomfortable” 🤦🏼♂️
Dissecting this perception of events gives great insight because we often have no clue what is happening .
Whoa! I have experienced that from an ex. He could talk with anyone but I was limited to people he considered safe. He abandoned me at the local pub because I had the nerve to go across the room to talk with a couple that we both knew. Glad to have that situation in the rear view mirror.
OMG my ex literally asked a girl (waitress) out in front of me, heavily pregnant with his child, and married 2 years. It was all in my imagination by the time he got home after I got in the car and left him at the restaurant.
one time when I was pregnant (2 weeks overdue) my ex came home at 8:00, after a night and God knows what at the bar. He started mumbling an excuse & I said, "I'm going back to bed"
a couple of hours later I got up and he asked, " Don't you want to know what happened?", I said very calmly, " Not particularly. It won't change anything and I stopped believing you quite a while ago"
Then I continued about my day. He literally followed me around the house trying to tell me his "explanation" . I just kept ignoring him.
he was absolutely lost as to how to act. his face looked so confused, I can laugh now every time I think about it!
From our perspective (the empath victim) this is so twisted. My ex accused me of flirting and cheating - all projections on his part, it turns out. (Only I didn't know this until after escaping.)
Me too lovely, me too 😢🏴🇬🇧
I was accused of this, he picked a person, who in his minds eye was good looking, in mine I wouldn’t take a second glance. He constantly accused me of flirting this this man, it was upsetting to say the least and i over and over explained that I wasn’t/didn’t. One day, I asked him if he was insecure, he said, no and that he didn’t give a flying F€&@ if I was…. 🙄, another time, in an old pub that was packed, I walked to loo and while navigating the crowd touched off many people to get by, when I got back I was accused of ‘feeling’ up a man. I was so disappointed that he accused me of this. Then I slowly but surely copped on, that this was a ploy to see how much I would ‘fight’ for the relationship. This was very exhausting and shocking to think he would still be with me after the accusations, but more importantly, that I remained for what I don’t know. Then I took my exit on the third accusation.
Listening to HG brought me freedom. Complete freedom! His videos are imperative before, while in and after the relationship. The journey never ends as an empath - the more you learn the more freedom you acquire and happiness stars to flow. Keep it up and never leave HG.
Helps so much when you use an example situation.
Been through all this, accused of flirting every time I spoke to another woman for whatever reason, it was always how I made her feel , degraded and devalued, yet when she did the same and worse! She was just being friendly and sociable
great video as usual HG very true especially when u said the emapth had responded with "There is something wrong with you!" Wow on point with that and everything else thank you for these videos
One of the news reports today on Harry described how he'd been flirting with a female polo player recently. When I read that I wondered if his wife would become furious at him or just let it pass and not even care . The piece discusses how he'd Ben in San Francisco for a week working on Better Up . Would his wife become even more suspicious he was gone a long while...were there rendezvous being made up in her mind. Other women too, made up one night stands while he was out of town.
The bottom line is how much would this report scramble her mind and obsessively take center stage with her ability to focus on her many other projects she must juggle right before the event in Indianapolis. I think she'll have less time to research lines and paragraphs to plagarize and steal from others. Then again, she can always fall back on the same old word salad she usually espouses...that will probably work fine in a Midwestern town like Indianapolis, she thinks.
Would she also be thinking, "Hmm if he thinks he's going to get away with this flirting in public well he has another thing coming ... what's good for the gander is also good for the goose….when I'm in Indianapolis, I'll check out a few good men there and get some news speculation going too. He will be so sorry he enbarassed me."
Will her brain work that way or will the sh*t hit the fan as soon as he sets foot back in the house❓
Finally, when they first moved into the Montecito house, it was not just the two of they, they also had Marcus Anderson was the 3rd party they brought along and he stayed quite a long time . I could picture her putting Marcus against Harry just to watch Harry get jealous. How much did Marcus really like her? I could see a variety of scenarios in that situation. He seems to have quietly fallen by the wayside since then. Surprised me really.
Never had this happen, my MRN type B was a talker would just talk and talk, I imagine he must love the sound of his voice, which is a bit hard to hear for most normal people.
Video of lessers abound on TLC. It's amazing how a lesser become popular despite appaling behaviour towards their family, friends and romantic partners. No talent, no ability but nasty will propel you to fame...
Good afternoon Sir.
Oh yeah my ex narc was so jealous of other guys hitting on me. To the point he’d get so angry he’d ignore me and put me down. It was horrible. If any guy hit on me in front of him in the end he’d then say, ‘you were giving him the ‘eyes’.
Thanks for the flashbacks. 😂
I always react this way and I thought it was because I was just jealous, and that it came from insecurity. I expect specific answers, and push my narrative onto my partner. Am I a narcissist? Or do I have strong narcissistic tendencies in these scenarios. How do I fix this?
Apparently if you have to ask if you're an narcissist, then you are not. I would also think that this behaviour would have to be all the time, plus you would almost definitely have to have other narcissistic attributes.
If you are still worried after listening to some of HG's other videos, you could always take his empath detector found in the links.
If you bring up the question, it’s worth exploration with a narcissism expert (HG,) or a good therapist who understands narcissism. Good for you to alert to traits within yourself. Wishing you peace and growth.
I think maybe you're just insecure and self-absorbed
ha ha i got accused of being on with a guy i watched walk past the car while he put petrol in never laid eyes on him before that ex git in the car and asked why i was staring and was i on with him another time it was the school principle i was on with him also it never ended.
Oh, yes! I was accused of as such and was subject to a few texts of 'Tirade'. Another time I was accused of being with someone else (I wasn't). These are the two times I ignored that Lesser's behaviours. This video is a typical 'one rule for them, and another for everyone else', the narcissist don't like it when someone (unknowingly, or not) 'matches their manipulations' 🤣. Thank you HG 🤍🤍🤍