When your parents oppress your wife - Mufti Menk
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Let's pray tahajjud everyday and ask for Almighty's help for all those daughter in laws suffering from this situation...Surely Allah'll help us...
Ameen
Amen amen suma amen
Aameen Summa Aameen
Aameen
Aameen
Not all mother in laws are bad. Mashallah I have a wonderful caring mother in law, may Allah give her good health and long life.
You are lucky
Alhamdullilah. May Allah bless your family
Really like seriously 😮😮😮 MashAllah 😢😢
How lucky
May Allah bless her
My Mother in Law destroyed my life... I pray to allah to grant me justice and never pardon her... I pray and request all of you to pray for my justice.
Whatever my mil has sown she shall reap it...
In shaa ALLAH
What happened?
Ameen suma Ameen in sha Allah plz pray for me
My dear sister! Never make a dua about not forgiving someone. Instead, make dua Allah please forgive her the way you will forgive me, but give me justice for the patience I have had and the injustices done upon me by this person. I used to say things similar to your statement, but when my mother in law passed I realized her presence, her behavior, her doings was Allah’s way to teach me patience and a path for my place in Jannah inshallah.
@@sadiagazi6987 may be you can't understand to what level she has destroyed my life and I can never forgive her. Everyone has one life. Why be the reason of someone's tears ? My situation might not be exactly similar to you. Thanks for your guidance. But I didn't do anything wrong to her but she did what all she could have and that can be er be rectified all through the life. She can never give me my years back.
One day we will be mothers in law, we can make a change in this :)
Semi ان شاء الله
Great step
That's what I believe
In sha Allah 👍👍👍👍
Semi 👍
I hate that line for those men who say I cannot say anything to my mother because she's my mother like seriously 😌😕
S
you will same thing
True, you're mother is very important and paradise is under her feet, but that doesn't mean she can't be wrong. And Allah says speak the truth even if it's against yourself, which means you can confront your mother (with upmost respect) if she's wrong.
S
Exactly
I never forget when I was near delivery and during postpartum my mother in law told my husband “ Don’t help her , MashaAllah she’s fit she can do everything ” Giving birth is not a big deal, within 2 days she’s going to be fine and do everything” She will only cook for my husband. Despite of what she did to me she play victim with my husband and complained to him everyday and will criticize me like belittling me etc. The most cruel part is my husband took her side and told me He can’t say nothing to her because that’s his mom. Beside all of this she told me “ you have no religion “ (I’m a convert). This is not Islam!
That's mean. MIL forget she has to answer God! Prayers for you.
You are right, that is not Islam. Please find help and leave.
No this is not Islam. That is very unfortunate. But Allah is watching. I pray he guides you always on the right path and gives you ease in this life and the hereafter, aameen.
Allah heads your pain! You will get your due May Allah ease your pain
This is how our muslim men treat 7s today . They dont go according to quraan and hathis . The mother manipulate them and tell them janath is under my feet and ur wife is not blood . M born a muslim and learned and I experience this every day . Imagine my kids cant get married casue then who's gonner work in the business with the father and that to girl children. We should have more lectures on these topics plz .
Thanks for using the right word, oppress. How many times women are abused and even killed and people say you can’t disrespect parents.
right
How come every time this man wins the heart 😀🤔
He just speaks truth
Really 😀
Really true
I just wish may Allah subhanawatala grant me a child like Mufti Menk.
Seriously
Thats what happen when men missunderstand paradise lies under mothers feet and when mothers use that hadith in evil way ..
i totally agree same situation with me .wife toh bahut millti hain.maaa millyegee kya tujhe.
Hahaha ...2nd time villain bahu bohot milti hai lekin loving bahu ekhi baar milti hai
True!
Also when husbands use hadith that we are allowed to marry 4 wives.. they always use against us
So true all the same
Ma Shaa Allah... Informative Video
I think 95% of daughter in laws r treated as maids in their in laws.
If a daughter in law raises voice for her rights, her husband even goes against her. May Almighty Allah keep us always on the path of Islam... Aameen.
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Exactly 💯 💯 💯 💯 I suffered from same situation
I am suffering now. My MIL never happy. Never thankful and my husband just takes advantage of me.
I am mother in law but I don't expect anything but my daughter in law she look after her children and her husband
I wish if they could understand that by oppressing they can't receive the love and respect that they deserve. They only can get it through their kindness and love.
May Allah bless our homes with happiness and love. Ameen
I literally want to cry after listening this, this is happening in almost everyone's life.
No, it does not happen in everyone’s life
It happened in my life, I leave my in laws in the hands of the GREATEST ALMIGHTY but my brothers wives are nasty bullies and they do whatever they want and get away with it because my parents refuse to say anything to them, our parents oppress their daughters but oh no no not the daughters in law, Ha Ha Ha the Greatest Almighty will put these daughters in law in their places
I m worried about my in laws i m crying daily just because of my in laws really very difficult to live in inlaws
Value your self sister and be strong Muslim women, use your rights,, move out
May Allah punish them n give u sabr dear sister.. Dnt lose hope
Wajeeha Zaka be strong ❤️❤️and take decision!
Me too im living with my in laws and im pretending not to be hurt with anything that they are indirectly saying to me..may Allah Swt give us a way out from this..
May ALLAH bless u
Beautifully explained. I am not a muslim but his knowledge and teaching is something everyone can follow.
He has an extremely lucky wife. May Allah bless him.
Alishba Faizan Marry a righteous man,
I had a very bad experience with mother in law and sister in law. They even made my relationship come to an end but alhamdulillah my husband and I shifted in other home
mashaallah mufti menke may Allah reward yu better
Not Muslim, but I love every part of this sermon right here.
It’s the damn truth.
Whatever we do! Mother's in law never get satisfied. They will always find mistakes in their daughter's in law.
Husbend expect extreme respect from their in laws but on the other side it's ok n it's always right for his parents to insult his wife parents n they think higher of them selves
yes, you are right. In our India, it is common that mother-in-law will not tolerate son's wife but love her own daughter's husband
Some people will always be ungrateful no matter how much you do for them and even then the girl has more to lose and will always be the one thinking she has not done enough. So sad for girls that Islam gives them a far greater purpose in life but to please some men, you have to please their mothers and family members constantly and even then it isn't enough.
inquisitive mind so true
Exactly
And do all men in Islam of your country have more than 1 wife because in my country they don't have though we are muslims
@@tulipbubbly3748 It's not compulsory! Of course many men don't have more than 1 wives, also it is required for a man to ask first wife for permission to marry another..
Somebody plz download this video and send it to all the Aunties they know on WhatsApp
The whatsapp forwarded cult. Anything on whatsapp is true so I've been told..
Now I m experiencing this talak situation.. I m now 6 weeks pregnant..still he had a thought of giving talak as I wasn't able to serve my mother in law.. actually I was sick.. so ly can't able to see my mother in law.. please dua for me.. I wish to live a peaceful life with him with my child In Sha allah.. I have no father.. so please don't make my child to live without father.. ya allah,, please change this worse situation.. please pray for me brothers and sisters..add me and my family in your dua
Ameen
Miskeena. MAY ALLAH BLESS YOU. hope sotuation has resolved amicably.
In shaa Allaah
May Allaah bless u
Be like mother and daughter
Treat your mother in law like ur mother
And the rest leave it to Allaah
He will judge
Ameen
Allah bless you and fulfill your good dreams
Even though I am not muslim but I like this and my husband and mother in law needs to hear this. My mother is law has not treated me well throughout the years and I wish she would appreciate me more
It's your husband's responsibility to look after you sister. You have all the rights to stay separate. Tell him to be a man enough.
I need to forward this to my husband !!!
😀same here
Same here
I am also want forwed to my husband
I am also Asma Riyaz
Dont share it with your husband. He will get annoyed with u. Better pray and God will do z rest
Same here😂
I really love the lectures of Mufti Mink .The best its making me more in love in Islam ..
Hilda Gomez Alhamdulillah
Yesss.....
Hilda Gomez Menk*
This is a disease in Asian subcontinent specifically India and Pakistan. Used to be me in this position but thankfully my husband came to his senses because we were in the verge of divorce. Sadly, I have to witness this as an ongoing problem with other sisters, one thing we all have in common is we go into marriage without having the courage or support to stand up for ourselves. And if you’re completely dependent on your husband, then opening your mouth is a death wish.
100%
Aslm shukran for bringing up this subject. I was one of those daughter in laws that was ill treated in the home. May the Almighty forgive my in laws💗
this how parents make their boy to divorce
My inlaws..mom inlaw.. are not good to me.. they dont like me and my kids but im still doing my best to please them..😢😢wallahi i know Allah never sleeps...
In sha Allah sister, things will get better, also try to see the bigger picture and below your self.
My in-laws forced me out of my home, packed all of my things while I was out, when I came back they had invaded my private space and packed everything for me, even my garbages and food in the fridge. How can people play with someones rizq like that? I've cried for two years now, while they are happy. I will never understand how people can be so oppressive. Make duaa that Allah avenges me and grants me justice and vindication against them for what they have made me endure please.
Sister why crying, it could have been worse than this, you are strong Muslim women where is you tawakol, leave your burden to Allah and start living, please stop crying
Just forget them and pray for you good
Who needs enemies, when you have in laws like yours. Your better off without them, and it's sad that your husband allowed his family to throw you out of the house, they didn't even tell you to leave directly, but did it behind your back. I wish you all the best, and hope you get justice for your suffering.
Assalaam Alaikum. Hope you get justice. I am going through the same right now. My husband forced me out my home and his mother and sister. Now I am homeless in saudi. I cant leave because my husband has to issue my final exit visa.
How and why??
Al hamdu lillah I am a Muslim..
Love you Allah for these kind laws...
Jazakumullah mufti menk for speaking the truths in public. Love you for Allah. 💖💖💖
Mashallah... Evrything single word touches my heart..
Hope my hubby understand it. 😢😢 Dua karna. Hope my marriage would work out.
😔
Sister how are you now?
In-shaa-allah
Same here
Aslamoalikum sister how's your married life going now
Im in tears. I love Islam. Masha Allah the perfection of life.
May Allah SWT help & protect & keep our sisters safe without wrong doings & violence upon them & end the suffering of our sisters Ameen
Mothers in law can't handle this 🤣
Surah Nisa verse 135
O you who have believed, be persistently standing firm in justice, witnesses for Allah, even if it be against yourselves or parents and relatives. Whether one is rich or poor, Allah is more worthy of both. So follow not [personal] inclination, lest you not be just. And if you distort [your testimony] or refuse [to give it], then indeed Allah is ever, with what you do, Acquainted.
Cruel in laws do the same drive a sane soul to depression then calling her psycho moron and insane
Yes, this happened to me
"That's my mother I cannot talk" my husband says that always she is my jannah even if she do wrong I can't correct her bcuz she's my mother😅
Allah says speak the truth even if it's against yourself. And plus Allah is the most just and order's us to implement justice and no one is above justice.
Same here 😂
Masha Allah it's absolutely true what u have said husband's do oppress their wives listening to their parents
MasyaAllah strong reminder, may Allah give us strength to live in right path
Subhan ALLAH... How beautifully you describe everything... Ma sha ALLAH... May ALLAH (SWT) bless you with His love,kindness..! Ameen.
No in-laws want to understand this... They really think their daughter in law a maid... N one more irritating character is ur sister in law... She calls her mother n start backbiting about daughter in law n defame her... But what she needs is that her husband shuld b her (sister in law) but her brother shudnt b her wife's thats really awkwardness
Sister in laws are poison for spouse relationship
Sister in laws are jealous
Sabumir16 Sabumir OMG I’m going through the same thing!
Really u said the truth hidden in all the daughter in laws 😢heart
This is the reality that actually dont want 2 accept their daughter in laws r not a servant 😠
Subhan Allah I felt like Allah is speaking in ur words. I waited for these words for 16 years of my married life. Subhan Allah. Allah is the most powerful, mercyfull and all knowing.
Allah is. Speaking in ur words) ❌❌ Don't say like this plZ..
@firoz haider
respect for mufti ismail increased in my heart after watching this video..
If Bangladesh has some mufti like Sheikh Menk.... most of our family problem will solve easily.....
Maasha Allah you are speaking my heart's voice
Jazaka Allahu khayran brother sheikh mufti menk. .all you saying here is truth. .
Great advice.
Thank you.
Jazak Allah Khair.
My mother in law gives me bad words called me londi nd many more words... they have lots of interference in our life (couple) which causes misunderstanding nd we come to a position to break the relation of marriage. By this I started to loose hope from Allah nd started to loose my iman....
Don't worry allah is there
Don't loose your imaan bcoz that's the only thing which can give you hope to live ur life
I’m very upset from my laws, every single day they make me feel bad 😢
What ur husbund said sis?
same goes here 🥺
What if the husband fully and forcefully support his every family member, and even that family's servant can keep insulting the BAHU...
*Either* stay with and accept the insults and betrayal by the socalled husband, *OR* find your dignity and self-respect and walk away, complete your iddat and find yourself a real man who will protect and honor you.
I told
My Sons and daughters when they get married and I’m a mean most MIL to send me away to a nursing home . But I pray to Allah that I’m the best coolest MIL when my kids marry.
Sir ... Very well expressed... Thank you so much for these words.
Thank you dear mufti for your beautiful guidance until now I was always in a big doubt whether I did the correct thing or not. ❤️ this Ramadan was very special because after almost 12 years I had the strength to forgive my brother when I burned all the bridges with my whole family, just to protect my newly wedded spouse bc my family was very unjust and unreasonable.
I had some very difficult times back then and felt like being the barrier between the salt and sweet water in the ocean which Allah Subhan Wa Ta’ala keeps separated, but I am just a human that couldn’t bear this situation until the end of my time. So thank you for your video where the majority of the Islamic scholars bluntly always overrule everything over a mother which always made me feel miserable from within.
Your the guardian of your wife👍🏻say it if anyone likes it or not 👌
Barak ALLAH O Fik Mufti Menk.
And there are the men that hold on to " jannah is beneath my mother's feet "... so they refuse to do what's right ...
This video had really made me to cry honestly......heart touching statements are said....all this things I am suffering in my married Life....bcoz of that my husband n me quarrels a lot n that's why we are not even living together....pls pray for us....we both are in great kashmakash
I cannot fulfil my husbands right becoz I'm tired of fulfilling in laws
Falak Amin May Allah Azawajal reward you in beneficial way,for all deeds towards your in-laws,May Allah Azawajal expanded your chest with more beautiful patience for your loving husband and his family,insha Allah May Allah Azawajal reward you with best gift in Jannah Firdaus,with a castle in it for you to rest and relax .amine,remember this life is test for the believers,and your being test by your merciful RABBEE ALLAH
Don't be tried my sis allah will reward u inshaallah ameen just go on his path inshaallah one day ur hsbnd will be hpy with you inshaallah ameen
First fulfill the laws of your husband then you can show the favour to your laws..
@@thefamilyhomeschooltime8833 yr right in islam is to have yr own Home. Learn yr islamic rights so u know what is culture and what is islam . Culture opresses women but islam dosent
@a h then speak up.. Be kind with her.. Don't let her to be abused... She is your wife. You will be answerable on the of judgement.
May Allah bless all the daughters in law with kind and loving parents in law ameen.
And also may Allah bless all the parents in law with caring and loving daughters in law ameen.
Ameen ya rabb
I loved every word. Wise man!
Same goes for us wives. Stand up for your spouse!
Ma Sha Allah Mufti Menk .
Mashallah sh I love how you explain so clearly and your voice
جزاكم الله خيرا" كثيرا آميييين
Our Islam is such a beautiful religion but people make it so complicated
Thank's for the good speech.
Thank u so much. this 1is really good. My mother in law my brother in law treats me badly n insults me n tell lies to my husband about me. i m married since 1 year. now i m.suffering from depression n under medication. i will show dis to my hibby wen he comes..... i nid 1 more help... plz make a video in which tell that is wife important or useless. Even his siblings treats me bad. Make a video in this n plz tell d importance of wife..
From India
Jazakallahu khairan kaseeran kaseera
Mufti Menk you are one in a million. I wish my husband and his mother will hear this.
This man is a gem.. he presents the most logical version of religion. Can make anyone love the islamic concepts.
Jazakallahu khayrn sheikh
Hey guys the laws of islam to the social problems lies inside kitabs not in the society. That's why major married lives are hell not jannah
These 4:57 minutes touched me profoundly and know now that I’m not wrong.
May Allah reward you...
Pray for me please, my inlaws treat me like a slave , nothing else, i cry alot, i pray to Allah to end my suffering, im thinking to get divorce because of my in laws, as my husband also does not support or love me, please make dua for me, may Allah solve my problem and relieve my pain. Ameen
May Allah make your things easy
Assalaamu Alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa Barkatu hu... Jazak Allahu khair for ur preiouse leachers... I wished I was born in a Islamic home ur u r born... May ALLAH SUBHANHU WA TA'ALA grand all ur wishes in this world n here after ameen ya rabbil alameen.. Love you always..
Ayesha shaikh shaikh ameen
MashAllah
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Thanks so much Sir Muft Menk
Thank you sir.
Not all mother in laws are like that
I’ve got loving in laws
Alhumdullilah #MoreDua for them ❤️
Masha-allah
Wow exactly what i needed..
Thank you for such a helpful topic
May Allah gives hedaya everyone
i said it,but they all left me alone ,i miss my dad but he is not even willing to say salam to me,i love them all but they never understand me cuz of family environment which was not good for daughter in laws and i have been watching since my childhood how my mother led her life,but now my Dear father not ready to accept me again,
I really pray to have a very loving and caring mother and father in law in the future. I wish that they would accept me as part of their family and as their son's wife..😇🙏
You are the best..May Allah bless u
Thanks!
what a words Sir. 👌👌👌👌👌Great respect to you 🙏🙏
Islam is perfect 👍💯
Am a Christian just saw this video randomly and am speechless at the wisdom of this man,this deserves more views
I don't need help i just like him for his wisdom
Actually, dear sister. He’s just preaching the rules stated in Quran. Muslim preachers will quote several verses from the Quran, then explain them. Not putting their personal opinions above God's words & rules. 🙃🙂
Have a good day & stay healthy.
Masyallah thanks God good lecture
There is so much on mother in law daughter in law but we need more on sister in laws!
definitely
One of my sister in law is the reason my marriage is falling apart
Its heartbreaking 😣
We need more on living seperately with your husband and children. If women stop living with inlaws and demand their Islamic right of seperate housing most problem will solve themselves. Inlaws have no rights over the wife/daughter in law in Islam anyways .
Awesome sermon
❤❤❤
I just believe in Allah wa tala...sabr....hope good will come to me
MASHAALLAH MASHAALLAH ♥️👌
Its not just Mother-in-law..
Its a whole gang headed by husband against a newly married young daughter-in-law... For good, forever
everyone raise voice against such oppression
Alhamdulillah...