hey yall, as has been correctly pointed out by a couple people in the comments below, paris hilton does have a history of racism and homophobic that hasn't been addressed. i had no idea (as i stated in this video i didnt know much about paris prior to reading this book) but i honstly should have taken the time to read up a little more and be more aware of the ways in which she's hurt people before hitting record and praising the book. thanks to everyone who brought this to my attention and sorry to anyone who was hurt by my support of paris. i know it's cringey to post a buzzfeed article but this one has a pretty good breakdown of the comments paris has made www.buzzfeednews.com/article/stephaniesoteriou/paris-hilton-history-racism-anti-gay-problematic
Yikes. I’ve never heard any of that. Usually I don’t like reaching 20 years in the past to dig up dirt on people, but it doesn’t seem like she ever apologized or even stopped. Totally not the point, but what’s with buzzfeed using the full n word over and over? I know they’re quoting, but let’s not.
WOW. I hope all the people that watch this video also read this article. I was a teen in the 00s and I barely remember any of this bc I was anti-Paris Hilton in general back then and avoided news abt her. But more recently I have been kind of into her rebrand. So. Definitely needed this reminder. It’s really something that she goes in on Pink yet way more recently Paris: “went on to accuse the women who’d accused Trump of SAing them as ‘just trying to get attention and get fame.’” And all the racism and homophobia. HUGE YIKES
*and antisemitism! Which is a form of racism. Paris does have valid points about misogyny but yeaaaah. It’s unfortunate that she’s profiting off of that without making amends (in a meaningful way) for past contributions to oppression in society.
@Trinity M that was her point. The 2000s "party girls" Like Paris were dubbed dumb and shallow because everyone thought all they did was party. This new era feels like people are finally beginning to rip away that image and actually embracing the fact that those women should not have been called "dumb" just because they went to parties.
@@am13007Paris was not considered dumb "because she went to parties" but because she acted dumb whenever she opened her mouth and was out of touch with reality. She used to say some really crazy sh*t, among other things had no idea what Walmart was, never heard of public laundromats and was in general so priviledged she coudnt comprehend when she got a speeding ticket. Yes she was considered a peiviledged airhead by the generation that witnessed her act. Now you enlightened younger generations can uphold her as an icon. That's ok. Keep her.
How would you handle your daughter who was clearly breaking rules sneaking out. They tried to protect her from the very things that happened to her. Maybe more intensive counseling? She broke rules and snuck out and had no respect for her parents boundaries. How terrifying for her parents to have your beautiful daughter out mingling with predators and putting herself in dangerous situations? I don't think her parents meant her harm they were desperate.
@@katherinequesada7382 yea, but the tactic of not talking about shit isn’t normal or healthy. And honestly if you decide to put a child through that industry, your no better than the ones who abuse them.
@@katherinequesada7382 You put more effort in to trying to parent you child. Not pawn them off to some camp where they will abuse her. They weren't scared she was putting herself in dangerous situations. They were scared she was going to ruin their family reputation. So they locked her up for acting like a teenager.
@@katherinequesada7382 As someone who was sent into the troubled teen industry (specifically wilderness and residential) it is truly a disgusting and vial system. I was physically and emotionally abused, violated, starved, drugged and sedated and more for 5 months, I had to fundamentally change there to deal with all of the trauma I experienced. It was submit to survive. My friends have been sexually assaulted and groomed in these places. To make excuses for the parents who send their kids to these institutions only perpetuates how corrupt the industry is. I know that u might not know much about these places but I really beg you, before making excuses for or defending this system please think about the kids who have been killed and traumatized for life by being in it.
"Note to Carter: Birthday rat." is I think my favorite phrase from the whole book. The whole book, though, makes me want to just sit down and have just a very chill conversation with her. She seems very down-to-earth and I just think it's be interesting to talk to her, as someone who has gone through some similar experiences. Also, fun fact! Paris was in one of my personal favorite slasher movies, House of Wax (2005)! Iirc, she had a whole ad campaign with shirts that that said something like "watch Paris die" and I wish I owned one of them.
Yesss, my cousin and I rented the DVD of House of Wax at the time, specifically to watch Paris in it, super fun watch honestly, I didn't know she had shirts made for it, fucking iconic.
The car in the house of wax was owned by my dad, Warner Bros basically borrowed it for filming and sent it back all done up with movie merch and advanced copy of the movie.
There is no chance, the industry makes MILLIONS and is so engrained into our society that some of these programs get government funding and CPS sends kids to them. My sister’s mom sent her to one where they shackled the kids and fed them beats from a can. It took a judge a full YEAR to finally let us take her from there, and only after my sister was able to speak with him personally and explain the situation. The program was shut down a few YEARS later and the owners just went one state over and started again.
I was in a boarding school for troubled teens and it probably saved my life. I know that I was extremely lucky but some of them can definitively help teens with bad family situations. I don't live in the US but most of my friends were scared when they first arrived because they had only heard about these horrific stories. There should be a lot more regulations though because kids deserve a safe space.
Paris Hilton always gave me Marie Antoinette of the 2000’s vibes with the whole “dumb rich blonde” in high society, but both women are so much more than what they’ve been stereotyped as! I have a soft spot in my heart for them tbh and I’ll 100% be picking this book up! Killer review as always!!
@@marxllnamagine being murdered publicly along with your friends and family at 37 just because people didn’t like you, believed you slept with other men, believed you were a spy, and spent all of France’s money. So yeah I guess having your head chopped off wouldn’t make you a victim of violence?
Paris is built tougher than i am because if i had been through the same kind of torture that my parents kept sending me back to, i don't think i'd ever be able to tell my parents i love them and mean it
The editing error "This basically led to her getting kicked out of a bunch of schools for getting kicked out of a bunch of schools" made me laugh way too hard. Paris is the true girlboss queen.
16:51 This part is so sad, SHE is trying to understand why her parents put her in those schools, and her mom knows the pain it caused Paris, but her mom won't say sorry to her, she won't take some responsibility for this trauma to help Paris heal. And that Paris won't push the issue with her because she doesn't want to be separated from her family and instead just tells them she love them. Damn, that is so sad, it feels lonely, lonely but with your family, like they aren't seeing her. I watched Paris's special, can't remember what it's called. Her mom and sister don't look good in it. They are just plain unkind to her, like Paris is always trying to belong with them, and she can never do it. She may have grown up with money, but her life has many real sad moments. Those schools of abuse she went to, I can't imagine the trauma that caused her. Her documentary, i think it's "This is Paris", is really good, sad, but good.
Paris was an out of control spoiled brat, making stupid choices over and over again. She put herself into dangerous situations... the very things her parents tried to protect her from. Her parents did what they thought was going to protect her. She was out of control Maybe more extensive counseling may have helped, but some people have to learn the hard way. I believe her parents tried to control the outcome of her bad decisions, but again , people have to learn from the school of hard knocks. Either way, she lives a blessed life, having been born into wealth and privilege. How about owning her part in all that happened to her? She put her parents in a terrible position by her disobedience and defiance.
@@katherinequesada7382 Are you seriously commenting on every post praising Paris? Like girl we get it you don’t like her but shes experienced so much shit she doesn’t deserve. Take a break.
@notakiller Yes, yes I am I have a right to my opin'ion Go d forbid it should differ from the majority. I actually like her, and support her going after the abusive institutions. I wasn't there to witness what happened first hand, so I'm speculating just like everyone else. I think she's beautiful and classy. I have a problem with her behavior as a teen. I feel empathy for her Mom who tried desperately to protect her from the bad things that happened to her. She made really bad choices that put her in danger. I haven't heard her own her part in it. She was out of control as a young person. I hope her children don't put her through what her poor mom went through. The bad things that happened to her were the result of bad choices she made. I'm not saying anyone deserves awful things to happen to them but use good judgment and avoid those situations that put you in harms way.
@@katherinequesada7382this is a terrible take on this situation in my opinion. You’re saying (even if you’re not trying to) she was a bad teen that stressed/worried her parents so she brought trauma on herself, and her parent are the real victims. As a parent I get it’s hard to see your kid throw there life away, but constantly sending your child to a place they’ve told you is abusing them, they keep running away with others, and later you see that one of those places was closed down due to being involved in the death of kids yet still not being able to give an apology years later for not believing her is down right despicable. Then after all that trauma they just send her to places that are even worse for years until she aged out. At that point they gave up on her. On loving her, empathizing with her, parenting her, and as a parent that’s never okay (if your kids didn’t do heinous crimes). Its okay to see the parents pov and sympathize/empathize with what they were dealing with at that time but victim blaming is never okay. The real question in general is would you do this to your child? and that answer says a lot.
the feeling of relief when i thought her aunt would save her and then my stomach dropping when she called the cops instead was sickening to me and i cant even imagine how it felt to paris
I was late diagnosed with adhd in my 30s, and spending the majority of my life undiagnosed had such negative repurcussions. I have such a soft spot for anyone with adhd as a result. It's one of those invisible things you struggle with, while being labeled lazy, messy, spacey, weird, etc. While I've never been a Paris stan, I thought most jokes about her were just low hanging fruit. Good for her for not letting so much bullying and objectifying and sexual assault keep her down. I don't know that I could survive all of that.
I wish she'd made more than a vague mention of her history of making racist, homophobic, and xenophobic comments. It's hard to believe she actually regrets the horrific things she has said (repeatedly saying the hard R N word, saying gay men are disgusting and all have aids, etc) when she has barely acknowledged that she did it.
yes so true, i didn't know about all the horrible things she said until after reading this book because she does NOT go into it at all. it could be a really great platform to truly address all the nasty things in her past
All of my chosen family and close friends are neurodivergent or living with mental illness and knowing their un-masked selves who feel comfortable and safe around me really makes me wonder what ways Paris could have been able to express herself in her teens and 20's if she had been respected, her creativity nourished, and felt safety instead of constant fear and public scrutiny. Thank you for reading and sharing this, I really hope there's more writing in her future because I got chills too from some of those excerpts. This is such a full reminder of how 20 years makes such a difference in society. And fuck south park
I really think memoirs like this are necessary bc I don't think people who weren't female-identifying teens in the 00's truly realize how consistently that demographic was gaslit and attacked. As much as Paris was a target for her public persona, society didn't really want her to be anything else. The only really "acceptable" thing for women in pop culture to do at the time was attack women like Paris and honestly, she was too hot to be taken seriously as an "alternative girl". Pop culture was begging for a Paris bc our entertainment was based around creating people like her just for the joy of tearing them down. When The Simple Life premiered it was insanely popular and the irony was everyone watching it thinking they were the smart ones laughing at idiots.
I think it's interesting that I had like no idea that she went through this stuff and she's also the prime of example of showing she cares because going against those schools after experiencing so much abuse and society having a skewed perception of you is just admirable, honestly. It takes so much strength and also self-reflection to go against people like that.
I was also a victim of the troubled teen industry for three years, so I wanted to come here and say I really do appreciate your sensitivity and empathy on the matter ❤
This is the only celebrity memoir I'm going to spend money on. I've been obsessed with Paris since I was a teen. I just know this book is going to make me love her even more.
I love Paris Hilton, she’s very self aware and knows how to use the haters’ energy to her advantage. The gaslight gatekeep girlboss queen of our generation
I’ve had the pleasure of meeting and being around Paris at parties and festivals and she was honestly one of the kindest, most genuine people I’ve met. She’s truly wonderful.
I didn’t care for Paris 10 years ago but I really saw the growth when she started opening up about the things she went through and I’ve been a fan ever since.. I found her to be very smart and kind, and I respect her honesty. Truly a girl boss
I feel truly awful for everything Paris had to endure. I also can't forget her decades-long history of extreme racism, homophobia, and anti-semitism. The Paris Hilton re-brand era has been really good at making the public forget about her problematic history. It's difficult to balance feeling truly sorry for everything someone went through while also not being able to forgive their hatefulness, because truly in that regard I don't think she's changed at all. She literally voted for Trump. She really wants us to think she's a different person now, but I'm just not convinced.
This! I just went to see if she ever acknowledged her past, and the first thing I see is that she blames her “trauma” for this behavior? What a slap in the face to people who’ve been through similar things who also happen to be POC, Jewish, and/or queer.
that's fair, i do think this book reads as a bit attempt at a "re-brand" and to make everyone forget about her racist past (which is really not mentioned in the book) and instead redirect the coverage to her trauma
yeah shes been quoted as saying "my mom said i shouldnt talk about money or politics" well thats because she has the same values as her N;zi family, thats why shes still close to her parents
This is making me want to read her book. The quotes you used really feel like Paris's own voice is present in the writing and she seems to have a great sense of humour.
i fucking love her. she’s constantly refreshing and witty and *real* despite how society treated her. i’m so glad she’s getting her flowers. her legend was more than earned.
Why did this hit hard? Like- I’m queer so Idont like that she’s been homophobic. As for her being racist, while that’s horrible, I can’t speak about whether she can be forgive cus that isn’t my place. But her talking about misogyny and sexual trauma made me emotional at parts.
I've always loved Paris, I watched her documentary on UA-cam and it hurt my heart what she went through and it felt like she was actually genuine the entire video that you don't see in others life stories( if that makes sense)
I found your channel about 3 day ago and I have done literally nothing but read and watch your videos. I literally read the entirety of Pride and Prejudice, Coraline* and half of Dune and watched you in between. Idk if I'm proud or ashamed of this. Edit: Not my auto-correct changing "Coraline" to "Caroline", Coraline is turning in her grave Edit 2: I've just ordered the book!
I get that you were joking about spending your time reading celeb memoirs and making youtube videos about them, but I really hope you know that I always enjoy your humour, your perspective, and your general energy in these memoir videos! This one was no exception. Your way of talking about these darker and tougher subject matter was so graceful and thank you so much!!
Omg i just want to give her a big hug 😭 I was a teenager in the early 2000s and it's so interesting seeing the truth come out, I feel so bad for her. I hope she's doing well now, at least she can give her side of things.
i feel like vague job titles are also an office/corporate job thing (which pretty much all uber rich people's jobs are, but not all people who work in that sector are super rich necessarily)
Honestly, her controversy for example about being homophobic/serophobic in the past there, can be viewed with the lens of her going too far with the character and her past. I can see that being around with a lot of troubled queer kids who were abused by their parents probs made her comfortable and she apologized and havent made such comments since, especially since that one was a privately recorded joke. She have also continued to be an ally and especially to put in the walk to dismantle those very school, it's cool of her.
I’m sorry you’re having a tough week, but this internet stranger wants you to know you’re the best and I’ve shown your content to friends and family and we now quote you in everyday conversation. ❤❤❤
You know, the "finest girl" of eight grade reminded me how at my school my classmates were suggesting to choose me as the one with the biggest chest. I was around 14-15. That never resulted on anything but I am just now realizing how fucked up that was.
Jeez I did not know she went through so much. I really admire her for speaking out about everything that happened and trying to shut those awful ‘schools’ down.
Sadly You can nvr assume rich ppl aren't exposed to the most fu¢ked up/ heinous crimes. Especially in Hollyweird, America's capital of pedos, they have enough money, power and influence to pay off anyone to turn a blind eye- They can literally get away with anything.😡 And it's about 50% of parents that are 'good' parents. Money doesn't make you a 'good' or 'perfect' parent, neglect/abuse in any form doesn't discriminate.
so gonna read her book. her writing really seems so human, and im so for that. thank you for your video, I wouldn't have known of it like I do now otherwise c:
I honestly love Paris as a person. She’s down to earth and obviously from this book very intelligent and interesting. I feel like I could be her friend tbh
I am a teacher in Provo, and I always end up with a student or two that gets sent to Provo Canyon or other facilities like it and it breaks my heart. When the kids get back, I just shower them in kindness and understanding and just do everything I can to make sure they are okay.
I sobbed listening to her read the audio book. Partially while driving on the QEW...I'm not apologizing lol. Thanks for giving these book reviews! Feels like I'm chatting with one of my younger cousins at a family gathering. (OH God. Am I old? I'm only 32)
The entire "school for troubled teens" industry is terrifying but their preference for taking kids in the middle of the night is problematic. Like, that sounds traumatic in the best cases. Imagine an SA survivor going through that 😢. Also, I don't know what I would do in her parents situation. I want to believe I'd see my kid's suffering and stop it but the schools do everything they can to destroy the trust between parents and their kids and are told repeatedly that the fact their kids run away and claim they're being abused just proves how troubled they are and how much they need the school.
It's not often I am convinced to buy a book but I am convinced! This book sounds so good and you talking about the way the book is wrote because of ADHD really hit me because I am pretty sure I have ADHD I was diagnosed as a child and I was in pretty hard denial about it (because it ruined school for me!) And things like you talking about the way the book was written really makes me feel less alone during a time where I feel overwhelmingly alone I see people online talk about their ADHD and I can't relate at all sometimes but there is the rare time where I can relate and it hits me so deeply I recently went to a doctor for the first time since I was 7 and I am 23 and I went off on 100 different stories to explain everything I talked about and my husband later told me that I went off on a lot of tangents He didn't mean to hurt my feelings he was just trying to be helpful but it hurt so bad because I haven't been able to talk to anyone but him and my mom for 5 years and I feel like I have forgotten how to talk to people and I have no idea how to talk without going on tangents!
So did Paris ever apologize for the racist comments? Like the one where she said she cannot date a person who is black, and when asked what percentage of black she could not tolerate she said 1%? Or is everything explained as "things I said while drunk" in the book? You know what? I have a friend who was raped when she wasn't even 10 years old, her family blamed her, she had to deal with her anxiety and depression without the money to buy her expensive treatment. You know what my friend never did? She was never racist. I'm not saying Paris wasn't a victim. I am saying that victims can also be abusers. And general apologies are just...general. Accountability is more than that. I honestly think we have women who have made a huge impact on society--from fighting for social justice, to art creators, to scientists--who do not get a hundreth of the amount of love, adoration and excuses that Paris get. I am not interested in this woman. I am interested in quieter women who are shaping our lives, surviving trauma and misogyny without Paris's funds, and are not racist. But we all decide how we spend our time.
this is very well put and really puts into perspective everything this book stands for and i wholeheartedly agree with you. i had no idea about paris' past and it is so incredible hateful and to not fully address it in this book seems? pointed?
I’m 32 and I can tell you wit confidence that empathy toward teenagers is relatively new. My generation was heavily abused by peers, parents, teachers. It was completely okay. There were tv shows about sending kids to prison to get yelled at. I imagined older people had it even worse
I know a woman who went to those same schools that Paris went to and she told this story before Paris ever came out about her experiences there. I was shocked to hear Paris validate that woman’s horrifying teenage experience of being kidnapped in the middle of the night, only to find out your parents paid those people to do that to you. A lot of kids take their lives in those schools. They try to take everything away so it won’t happen but the rapping and everything else is so traumatizing to them. They find ways. Bless her.
Just listening to this recap gave me so many chills and teary eyed moments, I literally have read 1 memoir and it was in middle school but I'm about to order this. I'm so happy she can speak freely now about her experiences, Paris is the definition of girlboss. Also relate so fucking much to her explanation of her adhd and how if affects her writing style, I fuckin love a good manic run on sentence and using dashes at any given opportunity 😍
I'm 19 minutes in but have to stop and come back to the video after I've read the book for myself. Paris has always been a hero of mine but to hear such intimate details of her life, especially those to which I relate, just cements it. #sliving
carley, in the best way possible, I just know I’d trust you with my drink at a party. you could poison it and I’d say yeah she probably had a good reason
Carley, have you read Diary of a Void by Emi Yagi? I think you'll really like it, it's a brilliant, sardonic deconstruction of overwork and misogyny in Japanese corporate life, and it offers a lot of food for thought! It was one of my favourites of last year, for what it's worth. Living for your videos ♥️🥰
Hey I have the same birthday as Paris Hilton. Neat! Love this series, Paris Hilton is much more interesting and complex than I was led to believe by media as a small child in the early 2000s
genuinely can't believe that provo schools/the troubled-teen industry still exists even after years of people openly talking about the abuse that goes on within them?!? also would love to hear your thoughts on pamela anderson's new memoir 👀
As a victim of CSA the sudden change of topic is a trauma response. It’s interesting that in editing they decided not to change that around, but it sounds to me like this book was true to her thought processes, so I understand why it is the way it is. My therapist has to constantly bring me back on topic when discussing my abuse.
I've been OBSESSED with Paris since I watched 'Repo! The dramatic Opera' (which you should all watch by the way, very camp) but thank you for feeling my obsession.
hey yall, as has been correctly pointed out by a couple people in the comments below, paris hilton does have a history of racism and homophobic that hasn't been addressed. i had no idea (as i stated in this video i didnt know much about paris prior to reading this book) but i honstly should have taken the time to read up a little more and be more aware of the ways in which she's hurt people before hitting record and praising the book. thanks to everyone who brought this to my attention and sorry to anyone who was hurt by my support of paris. i know it's cringey to post a buzzfeed article but this one has a pretty good breakdown of the comments paris has made www.buzzfeednews.com/article/stephaniesoteriou/paris-hilton-history-racism-anti-gay-problematic
thanks for the addendum!! we're here for growth and sincerity; i just want to acknowledge that in real time :)
Yikes. I’ve never heard any of that. Usually I don’t like reaching 20 years in the past to dig up dirt on people, but it doesn’t seem like she ever apologized or even stopped. Totally not the point, but what’s with buzzfeed using the full n word over and over? I know they’re quoting, but let’s not.
WOW. I hope all the people that watch this video also read this article. I was a teen in the 00s and I barely remember any of this bc I was anti-Paris Hilton in general back then and avoided news abt her. But more recently I have been kind of into her rebrand. So. Definitely needed this reminder. It’s really something that she goes in on Pink yet way more recently Paris: “went on to accuse the women who’d accused Trump of SAing them as ‘just trying to get attention and get fame.’” And all the racism and homophobia. HUGE YIKES
*and antisemitism! Which is a form of racism. Paris does have valid points about misogyny but yeaaaah. It’s unfortunate that she’s profiting off of that without making amends (in a meaningful way) for past contributions to oppression in society.
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honestly paris is such a genius for the whole ‘dumb blonde socialite’ shtick
IF it was an act.
@@marniekilbourne608 it was an act. She broke character often.
@Trinity M dumb is so real lmao
@Trinity M You're right, except dumb and stupid are very real concepts that exist in humanity...
she didn’t even invent it. ever heard of marilyn monroe
I literally have to beg you to keep doing this series. This is the only way I will consume celebrity books from now on
i love that i support this business venture
Same
@Trinity M it's...a joke
I love that it feels like we’re in an era that takes 2000’s party girls seriously
@Trinity M that was her point. The 2000s "party girls" Like Paris were dubbed dumb and shallow because everyone thought all they did was party. This new era feels like people are finally beginning to rip away that image and actually embracing the fact that those women should not have been called "dumb" just because they went to parties.
@@am13007the way Trinity m deleted all of her comments
@@am13007Paris was not considered dumb "because she went to parties" but because she acted dumb whenever she opened her mouth and was out of touch with reality. She used to say some really crazy sh*t, among other things had no idea what Walmart was, never heard of public laundromats and was in general so priviledged she coudnt comprehend when she got a speeding ticket. Yes she was considered a peiviledged airhead by the generation that witnessed her act. Now you enlightened younger generations can uphold her as an icon. That's ok. Keep her.
You know, I'ts admirable how she can forgive her parents/ family for what they did to her. I don't think I would be able to.
How would you handle your daughter who was clearly breaking rules sneaking out. They tried to protect her from the very things that happened to her. Maybe more intensive counseling? She broke rules and snuck out and had no respect for her parents boundaries. How terrifying for her parents to have your beautiful daughter out mingling with predators and putting herself in dangerous situations? I don't think her parents meant her harm they were desperate.
@@katherinequesada7382 yea, but the tactic of not talking about shit isn’t normal or healthy. And honestly if you decide to put a child through that industry, your no better than the ones who abuse them.
@@katherinequesada7382 what the actual fuck, are you seriously justifying ABUSE
@@katherinequesada7382 You put more effort in to trying to parent you child. Not pawn them off to some camp where they will abuse her. They weren't scared she was putting herself in dangerous situations. They were scared she was going to ruin their family reputation. So they locked her up for acting like a teenager.
@@katherinequesada7382 As someone who was sent into the troubled teen industry (specifically wilderness and residential) it is truly a disgusting and vial system. I was physically and emotionally abused, violated, starved, drugged and sedated and more for 5 months, I had to fundamentally change there to deal with all of the trauma I experienced. It was submit to survive. My friends have been sexually assaulted and groomed in these places. To make excuses for the parents who send their kids to these institutions only perpetuates how corrupt the industry is. I know that u might not know much about these places but I really beg you, before making excuses for or defending this system please think about the kids who have been killed and traumatized for life by being in it.
The books in the fireplace is actually a genius storage idea
thank you im living my cool girl dream with my fireplace tbh
It's autodafé core 😅
I’m showing this comment to my husband the next time he complains about a pile of books shoved in to a random space because I’ve run out of room!! 😂
@@uncarley Now put bread in your microwave when you're not using it.
Free airtight breadbox.
@@uncarleyyou and Nikki nasty have the same fireplace ideas lowkey
I am not surprised the icon who performed the absolute banger stars are blind had a good memoir
so true
such an underrated bop
Sana saaaa, sana saa
Banger. So gay.
"Note to Carter: Birthday rat." is I think my favorite phrase from the whole book. The whole book, though, makes me want to just sit down and have just a very chill conversation with her. She seems very down-to-earth and I just think it's be interesting to talk to her, as someone who has gone through some similar experiences.
Also, fun fact! Paris was in one of my personal favorite slasher movies, House of Wax (2005)! Iirc, she had a whole ad campaign with shirts that that said something like "watch Paris die" and I wish I owned one of them.
omg ive gotta watch house of wax
Yesss, my cousin and I rented the DVD of House of Wax at the time, specifically to watch Paris in it, super fun watch honestly, I didn't know she had shirts made for it, fucking iconic.
Tbh I didn't really like House of Wax, but her final scene is pretty intense.
The car in the house of wax was owned by my dad, Warner Bros basically borrowed it for filming and sent it back all done up with movie merch and advanced copy of the movie.
The “watch Paris die” shirts were ICONIC!!!!!!!!
This memoir feels very much like Cady Herron’s prom Queen acceptance speech in Mean Girls and I’m HERE for it 👑
yes 100%
No wait this description is so accurate
Funny because Lindsay Lohan and Paris don’t like each other
@@PeachyPechx they're friends now
I love Paris, the whole "troubled teen industry" is fucking scary ans I hope she will help bring it down
i hope she takes it DOWN its so bad
There is no chance, the industry makes MILLIONS and is so engrained into our society that some of these programs get government funding and CPS sends kids to them. My sister’s mom sent her to one where they shackled the kids and fed them beats from a can. It took a judge a full YEAR to finally let us take her from there, and only after my sister was able to speak with him personally and explain the situation. The program was shut down a few YEARS later and the owners just went one state over and started again.
I was in a boarding school for troubled teens and it probably saved my life. I know that I was extremely lucky but some of them can definitively help teens with bad family situations. I don't live in the US but most of my friends were scared when they first arrived because they had only heard about these horrific stories. There should be a lot more regulations though because kids deserve a safe space.
@@fynnwhiteyeah like if they were all good they would be more like a therapist daycare type thing
I love that she's using her fame and privilege to bring attention to it
Paris Hilton always gave me Marie Antoinette of the 2000’s vibes with the whole “dumb rich blonde” in high society, but both women are so much more than what they’ve been stereotyped as! I have a soft spot in my heart for them tbh and I’ll 100% be picking this book up! Killer review as always!!
@Trinity M lmaoo "Marie-Antoinette is a victim" 😂
@Trinity M People didn't think she was a dumb bc that was not an option. She was a royal in an absolutist state wtf
@@marxllna she was, bro.
@@marxllnamagine being murdered publicly along with your friends and family at 37 just because people didn’t like you, believed you slept with other men, believed you were a spy, and spent all of France’s money.
So yeah I guess having your head chopped off wouldn’t make you a victim of violence?
@@marxllna She was.
Paris is built tougher than i am because if i had been through the same kind of torture that my parents kept sending me back to, i don't think i'd ever be able to tell my parents i love them and mean it
The editing error "This basically led to her getting kicked out of a bunch of schools for getting kicked out of a bunch of schools" made me laugh way too hard. Paris is the true girlboss queen.
iconic of me tbh
@@uncarley iconic and legendary 😌
16:51 This part is so sad, SHE is trying to understand why her parents put her in those schools, and her mom knows the pain it caused Paris, but her mom won't say sorry to her, she won't take some responsibility for this trauma to help Paris heal. And that Paris won't push the issue with her because she doesn't want to be separated from her family and instead just tells them she love them. Damn, that is so sad, it feels lonely, lonely but with your family, like they aren't seeing her.
I watched Paris's special, can't remember what it's called. Her mom and sister don't look good in it. They are just plain unkind to her, like Paris is always trying to belong with them, and she can never do it.
She may have grown up with money, but her life has many real sad moments. Those schools of abuse she went to, I can't imagine the trauma that caused her. Her documentary, i think it's "This is Paris", is really good, sad, but good.
Paris was an out of control spoiled brat, making stupid choices over and over again. She put herself into dangerous situations... the very things her parents tried to protect her from. Her parents did what they thought was going to protect her. She was out of control
Maybe more extensive counseling may have helped, but some people have to learn the hard way. I believe her parents tried to control the outcome of her bad decisions, but again , people have to learn from the school of hard knocks. Either way, she lives a blessed life, having been born into wealth and privilege. How about owning her part in all that happened to her? She put her parents in a terrible position by her disobedience and defiance.
@@katherinequesada7382 Are you seriously commenting on every post praising Paris? Like girl we get it you don’t like her but shes experienced so much shit she doesn’t deserve. Take a break.
@notakiller Yes, yes I am I have a right to my opin'ion Go d forbid it should differ from the majority. I actually like her, and support her going after the abusive institutions. I wasn't there to witness what happened first hand, so I'm speculating just like everyone else. I think she's beautiful and classy. I have a problem with her behavior as a teen. I feel empathy for her Mom who tried desperately to protect her from the bad things that happened to her. She made really bad choices that put her in danger. I haven't heard her own her part in it. She was out of control as a young person. I hope her children don't put her through what her poor mom went through. The bad things that happened to her were the result of bad choices she made. I'm not saying anyone deserves awful things to happen to them but use good judgment and avoid those situations that put you in harms way.
@@katherinequesada7382 Alright, I can see your perspective. Though it may differ from mine, I can see it. Have a good day.
@@katherinequesada7382this is a terrible take on this situation in my opinion. You’re saying (even if you’re not trying to) she was a bad teen that stressed/worried her parents so she brought trauma on herself, and her parent are the real victims. As a parent I get it’s hard to see your kid throw there life away, but constantly sending your child to a place they’ve told you is abusing them, they keep running away with others, and later you see that one of those places was closed down due to being involved in the death of kids yet still not being able to give an apology years later for not believing her is down right despicable. Then after all that trauma they just send her to places that are even worse for years until she aged out. At that point they gave up on her. On loving her, empathizing with her, parenting her, and as a parent that’s never okay (if your kids didn’t do heinous crimes). Its okay to see the parents pov and sympathize/empathize with what they were dealing with at that time but victim blaming is never okay. The real question in general is would you do this to your child? and that answer says a lot.
the feeling of relief when i thought her aunt would save her and then my stomach dropping when she called the cops instead was sickening to me and i cant even imagine how it felt to paris
Honestly, her guest appearance on Supernatural and willingness to make fun of herself had me sold years ago
listening to the boarding school section i decided that she is far better than me, i would not talk to my family ever again if they did that to me
every uncarley video is a must watch but when it ends in “so you don’t have to”… worthy of best picture imo!
omg thank you i love my oscar
I was late diagnosed with adhd in my 30s, and spending the majority of my life undiagnosed had such negative repurcussions. I have such a soft spot for anyone with adhd as a result. It's one of those invisible things you struggle with, while being labeled lazy, messy, spacey, weird, etc. While I've never been a Paris stan, I thought most jokes about her were just low hanging fruit. Good for her for not letting so much bullying and objectifying and sexual assault keep her down. I don't know that I could survive all of that.
About 8 minutes in I added her book to my wishlist and at 16 minutes I just went ahead and bought it. The power you BOTH have 🙏🏼👑❤
omg im excited 4 you to read it! i hope you love it
Its so ironic that a booktube channel is helping me never read any books at all
this is my legacy
I wish she'd made more than a vague mention of her history of making racist, homophobic, and xenophobic comments. It's hard to believe she actually regrets the horrific things she has said (repeatedly saying the hard R N word, saying gay men are disgusting and all have aids, etc) when she has barely acknowledged that she did it.
yes so true, i didn't know about all the horrible things she said until after reading this book because she does NOT go into it at all. it could be a really great platform to truly address all the nasty things in her past
All of my chosen family and close friends are neurodivergent or living with mental illness and knowing their un-masked selves who feel comfortable and safe around me really makes me wonder what ways Paris could have been able to express herself in her teens and 20's if she had been respected, her creativity nourished, and felt safety instead of constant fear and public scrutiny. Thank you for reading and sharing this, I really hope there's more writing in her future because I got chills too from some of those excerpts. This is such a full reminder of how 20 years makes such a difference in society.
And fuck south park
I really think memoirs like this are necessary bc I don't think people who weren't female-identifying teens in the 00's truly realize how consistently that demographic was gaslit and attacked.
As much as Paris was a target for her public persona, society didn't really want her to be anything else. The only really "acceptable" thing for women in pop culture to do at the time was attack women like Paris and honestly, she was too hot to be taken seriously as an "alternative girl". Pop culture was begging for a Paris bc our entertainment was based around creating people like her just for the joy of tearing them down. When The Simple Life premiered it was insanely popular and the irony was everyone watching it thinking they were the smart ones laughing at idiots.
I think it's interesting that I had like no idea that she went through this stuff and she's also the prime of example of showing she cares because going against those schools after experiencing so much abuse and society having a skewed perception of you is just admirable, honestly. It takes so much strength and also self-reflection to go against people like that.
I was also a victim of the troubled teen industry for three years, so I wanted to come here and say I really do appreciate your sensitivity and empathy on the matter ❤
This is the only celebrity memoir I'm going to spend money on. I've been obsessed with Paris since I was a teen. I just know this book is going to make me love her even more.
I love Paris Hilton, she’s very self aware and knows how to use the haters’ energy to her advantage. The gaslight gatekeep girlboss queen of our generation
I’ve had the pleasure of meeting and being around Paris at parties and festivals and she was honestly one of the kindest, most genuine people I’ve met. She’s truly wonderful.
Carly’s humour is so perfect. Her videos are my new personality trait
omg thank you 🥺
This video is how I found out that I was born on Paris Hilton’s 21st birthday. Honestly kind of iconic
I didn’t care for Paris 10 years ago but I really saw the growth when she started opening up about the things she went through and I’ve been a fan ever since.. I found her to be very smart and kind, and I respect her honesty. Truly a girl boss
I feel truly awful for everything Paris had to endure. I also can't forget her decades-long history of extreme racism, homophobia, and anti-semitism. The Paris Hilton re-brand era has been really good at making the public forget about her problematic history. It's difficult to balance feeling truly sorry for everything someone went through while also not being able to forgive their hatefulness, because truly in that regard I don't think she's changed at all. She literally voted for Trump.
She really wants us to think she's a different person now, but I'm just not convinced.
This! I just went to see if she ever acknowledged her past, and the first thing I see is that she blames her “trauma” for this behavior? What a slap in the face to people who’ve been through similar things who also happen to be POC, Jewish, and/or queer.
that's fair, i do think this book reads as a bit attempt at a "re-brand" and to make everyone forget about her racist past (which is really not mentioned in the book) and instead redirect the coverage to her trauma
i thought she clarified that she didn’t vote for trump? it’s in the video
In her memoir she clarifies that she actually didn't vote at all. Not that it negates any of her racism/anti-Semitism/homophobia tho.
yeah shes been quoted as saying "my mom said i shouldnt talk about money or politics" well thats because she has the same values as her N;zi family, thats why shes still close to her parents
This is making me want to read her book. The quotes you used really feel like Paris's own voice is present in the writing and she seems to have a great sense of humour.
I’ve been stuck on a 12 hour shift myself all day so I can’t wait to put up my feet and listen to this masterpiece when I get home 🎧
hell yes relax
i fucking love her. she’s constantly refreshing and witty and *real* despite how society treated her. i’m so glad she’s getting her flowers. her legend was more than earned.
Why did this hit hard? Like- I’m queer so Idont like that she’s been homophobic. As for her being racist, while that’s horrible, I can’t speak about whether she can be forgive cus that isn’t my place.
But her talking about misogyny and sexual trauma made me emotional at parts.
I knew so little about Paris' past before this! It's so heartbreaking what she went through, I'm glad it sounds like she's in a much better place now
I've always loved Paris, I watched her documentary on UA-cam and it hurt my heart what she went through and it felt like she was actually genuine the entire video that you don't see in others life stories( if that makes sense)
I found your channel about 3 day ago and I have done literally nothing but read and watch your videos. I literally read the entirety of Pride and Prejudice, Coraline* and half of Dune and watched you in between. Idk if I'm proud or ashamed of this.
Edit: Not my auto-correct changing "Coraline" to "Caroline", Coraline is turning in her grave
Edit 2: I've just ordered the book!
omg that is my legacy i LOVE p&p
Def proud!!
@@uncarley YES I was absolutely consumed by it and the last few chapters honestly made my heart implode
you are the person i rely on when it comes to memoirs. thank you for your service carley
happy to provide service
I get that you were joking about spending your time reading celeb memoirs and making youtube videos about them, but I really hope you know that I always enjoy your humour, your perspective, and your general energy in these memoir videos! This one was no exception. Your way of talking about these darker and tougher subject matter was so graceful and thank you so much!!
you're so eloquent yet hilarious and accessible like ily and the way you create so deeply
omg thank you 🥺
I’ve always liked Paris since the early 2000’s. I’ll definitely be picking up her book 💖
yesss 10/10 would recommend
Wow... I can't believe she could still say I love you to her mom that *did* that to her...
Omg i just want to give her a big hug 😭 I was a teenager in the early 2000s and it's so interesting seeing the truth come out, I feel so bad for her. I hope she's doing well now, at least she can give her side of things.
i feel like vague job titles are also an office/corporate job thing (which pretty much all uber rich people's jobs are, but not all people who work in that sector are super rich necessarily)
so true actually all office jobs are vague as fuck
Never in a million years did I think someone would convince me to read her memoir. But you’ve done it. Well done 💛
Honestly, her controversy for example about being homophobic/serophobic in the past there, can be viewed with the lens of her going too far with the character and her past. I can see that being around with a lot of troubled queer kids who were abused by their parents probs made her comfortable and she apologized and havent made such comments since, especially since that one was a privately recorded joke. She have also continued to be an ally and especially to put in the walk to dismantle those very school, it's cool of her.
I’m sorry you’re having a tough week, but this internet stranger wants you to know you’re the best and I’ve shown your content to friends and family and we now quote you in everyday conversation. ❤❤❤
thank you so much 💖💖 i hope you're doing well and taking care of yourself
You know, the "finest girl" of eight grade reminded me how at my school my classmates were suggesting to choose me as the one with the biggest chest. I was around 14-15. That never resulted on anything but I am just now realizing how fucked up that was.
Jeez I did not know she went through so much. I really admire her for speaking out about everything that happened and trying to shut those awful ‘schools’ down.
Love seeing a new uncarley video in my subscription box! Especially a 31 minute long one!
omg thank you bestie
this book has given me a whole new perspective on Paris. for some reason, I assumed she would be protected from sa / grooming because she was a hilton
men are everywhere + men in a position of power don't face the consequences of their actions so, unfortunately, I'm not surprised
Sadly You can nvr assume rich ppl aren't exposed to the most fu¢ked up/ heinous crimes. Especially in Hollyweird, America's capital of pedos, they have enough money, power and influence to pay off anyone to turn a blind eye- They can literally get away with anything.😡 And it's about 50% of parents that are 'good' parents. Money doesn't make you a 'good' or 'perfect' parent, neglect/abuse in any form doesn't discriminate.
so gonna read her book. her writing really seems so human, and im so for that. thank you for your video, I wouldn't have known of it like I do now otherwise c:
I honestly love Paris as a person. She’s down to earth and obviously from this book very intelligent and interesting. I feel like I could be her friend tbh
i just saw her book at the store and was sooo intrigued so your timing could not be better bestie!!! buckling in for this ride !
happy to help 😈😈
are we the same person... i swear i saw this book at the store the same time you did LOL
a) definitely convinced me to read this, wow
b) so happy people are getting on the storygraph train i love it sm!
I am a teacher in Provo, and I always end up with a student or two that gets sent to Provo Canyon or other facilities like it and it breaks my heart. When the kids get back, I just shower them in kindness and understanding and just do everything I can to make sure they are okay.
This book popped up on the new ebooks at my library last week and I rolled my eyes when I saw it. Thanks to you I'm adding it to my queue right now.
Looking back at that time in the late 90s early 2000s, during the paparazzi high, is crazy. I don't know what any of us were thinking
I’ve always loved Paris and this has made me love her more. Can’t wait to read.
The books in the fireplace as storage is honestly so real (and the mirrorball)
the dalai lama in louboutins is so fucking hilarious this woman is a Comedian
truly so goddamn funny
Carly your videos have forever altered my vocabulary I will be seeking damages
i love that
Posted 42 seconds ago and I’m here. I live for you Carls
a true girlboss
carley ur literally my twin flame at this point
i love us
I sobbed listening to her read the audio book. Partially while driving on the QEW...I'm not apologizing lol. Thanks for giving these book reviews! Feels like I'm chatting with one of my younger cousins at a family gathering. (OH God. Am I old? I'm only 32)
Having a whole phone for prank calling really humanized her fr
okay just found you and DANG GIRL THIS BINGE WATCHING SESSION YOU TURNED MY WEEKEND INTO IS JUST -✦- 𝙨𝙤 𝙝𝙤𝙩 -✦-
that lip?? the green jumpsuit?? Carley you look like you're about to start a revolution
you're so generous to give paris hilton a whole video on mothers day!!!
The entire "school for troubled teens" industry is terrifying but their preference for taking kids in the middle of the night is problematic. Like, that sounds traumatic in the best cases. Imagine an SA survivor going through that 😢.
Also, I don't know what I would do in her parents situation. I want to believe I'd see my kid's suffering and stop it but the schools do everything they can to destroy the trust between parents and their kids and are told repeatedly that the fact their kids run away and claim they're being abused just proves how troubled they are and how much they need the school.
CARLEY, you are SLIVING IN THAT OUTFIT KWEEN!!!!!!! You are the moment. I love you KWEEN!💖
thank you! you are also sliving! we're all sliving
i like the way carly reviews so much and love the famous people memoir series
omg thank you for watching!
It's not often I am convinced to buy a book but I am convinced!
This book sounds so good and you talking about the way the book is wrote because of ADHD really hit me because I am pretty sure I have ADHD I was diagnosed as a child and I was in pretty hard denial about it (because it ruined school for me!) And things like you talking about the way the book was written really makes me feel less alone during a time where I feel overwhelmingly alone
I see people online talk about their ADHD and I can't relate at all sometimes but there is the rare time where I can relate and it hits me so deeply
I recently went to a doctor for the first time since I was 7 and I am 23 and I went off on 100 different stories to explain everything I talked about and my husband later told me that I went off on a lot of tangents
He didn't mean to hurt my feelings he was just trying to be helpful but it hurt so bad because I haven't been able to talk to anyone but him and my mom for 5 years and I feel like I have forgotten how to talk to people and I have no idea how to talk without going on tangents!
you're awesome, love these videos
So did Paris ever apologize for the racist comments? Like the one where she said she cannot date a person who is black, and when asked what percentage of black she could not tolerate she said 1%? Or is everything explained as "things I said while drunk" in the book?
You know what? I have a friend who was raped when she wasn't even 10 years old, her family blamed her, she had to deal with her anxiety and depression without the money to buy her expensive treatment. You know what my friend never did? She was never racist.
I'm not saying Paris wasn't a victim.
I am saying that victims can also be abusers. And general apologies are just...general. Accountability is more than that.
I honestly think we have women who have made a huge impact on society--from fighting for social justice, to art creators, to scientists--who do not get a hundreth of the amount of love, adoration and excuses that Paris get. I am not interested in this woman. I am interested in quieter women who are shaping our lives, surviving trauma and misogyny without Paris's funds, and are not racist. But we all decide how we spend our time.
this is very well put and really puts into perspective everything this book stands for and i wholeheartedly agree with you. i had no idea about paris' past and it is so incredible hateful and to not fully address it in this book seems? pointed?
aqua sun sag rising holyssshhhh anyway, shes so clever and knows how to do storytelling. iconic queenshhh
I’m 32 and I can tell you wit confidence that empathy toward teenagers is relatively new. My generation was heavily abused by peers, parents, teachers. It was completely okay. There were tv shows about sending kids to prison to get yelled at. I imagined older people had it even worse
a girlboss reading another girlbosses memoir?!?! obsessed 💅🏼
sliving
Her documentary, available on UA-cam is also amazing. ❤
I know a woman who went to those same schools that Paris went to and she told this story before Paris ever came out about her experiences there. I was shocked to hear Paris validate that woman’s horrifying teenage experience of being kidnapped in the middle of the night, only to find out your parents paid those people to do that to you. A lot of kids take their lives in those schools. They try to take everything away so it won’t happen but the rapping and everything else is so traumatizing to them. They find ways. Bless her.
Just listening to this recap gave me so many chills and teary eyed moments, I literally have read 1 memoir and it was in middle school but I'm about to order this. I'm so happy she can speak freely now about her experiences, Paris is the definition of girlboss.
Also relate so fucking much to her explanation of her adhd and how if affects her writing style, I fuckin love a good manic run on sentence and using dashes at any given opportunity 😍
This is SUCH a great review. Great job Carly 🫰🏻
Ahh! Don't know what I'm more excited about - listening to her audiobook or coming back and watching this video. 😭
this ?series? is the favourite like thank you for your service queeen
omg im so happy
I'm 19 minutes in but have to stop and come back to the video after I've read the book for myself. Paris has always been a hero of mine but to hear such intimate details of her life, especially those to which I relate, just cements it. #sliving
paris is so smart no one gets her like I do
carley, in the best way possible, I just know I’d trust you with my drink at a party. you could poison it and I’d say yeah she probably had a good reason
id drink it tbh
@@uncarley honestly….that’d be v slay of you
Love that you support storygraph!
Carley, have you read Diary of a Void by Emi Yagi? I think you'll really like it, it's a brilliant, sardonic deconstruction of overwork and misogyny in Japanese corporate life, and it offers a lot of food for thought! It was one of my favourites of last year, for what it's worth.
Living for your videos ♥️🥰
ive been recommended it so much it sounds sooo good
Thanks for sharing this! I've added it to my TBR as well. :)
@@downrightlili I'm glad to hear that ☺ hope you enjoy it!
Hey I have the same birthday as Paris Hilton. Neat!
Love this series, Paris Hilton is much more interesting and complex than I was led to believe by media as a small child in the early 2000s
genuinely can't believe that provo schools/the troubled-teen industry still exists even after years of people openly talking about the abuse that goes on within them?!? also would love to hear your thoughts on pamela anderson's new memoir 👀
Oh my goodness I’m so embarrassed to admit I didn’t realize she had any depth to her. This was such an eye opening video
I didn't even read it, and I feel empowered.
You are becoming my comfort channel I luv u
it has been. over a year and i just opened your storygraph and just wanted to say i see the dracula daily lmao
As a victim of CSA the sudden change of topic is a trauma response. It’s interesting that in editing they decided not to change that around, but it sounds to me like this book was true to her thought processes, so I understand why it is the way it is. My therapist has to constantly bring me back on topic when discussing my abuse.
I’m sorry but that background music during the ad was INFURIATING 😭😭 I kept saying WTF IS THAT until I paused the video and realized LMAOO
I've been OBSESSED with Paris since I watched 'Repo! The dramatic Opera' (which you should all watch by the way, very camp) but thank you for feeling my obsession.