As a man, trust and believe he won't love you. Ghosting and emotional manipulation tends to have the opposite effect on men, at least the men women would like to attract. Men who take a woman witdrawing as an invitation to pursue her further are generally speaking not men you'd want to date. Not talking about him asking where you've gone if you stopped texting or seeing him alltogether, but more the types who won't take no for an answer or be extremely persistent regardless of how little interest you show.
@@Onnarashi orrr you can just not do it to men because it will fuck them up. there's also that. don't generalize men. and the ones who won't take no for an answer... you're just describing predators.
shes like 30 or older 😭 i used to watch her videos on youtube years ago when i was straight. and she used to give better advice too. apparently shes a relationship counselor, which is a little worrying with those tips she gave
The problem is that they’re all pretty. I want a girl who’s not conventionally attractive telling me how to get guys obsessed with me, because that’s a lot more helpful to the non supermodels among us
They re not obsessed with them but with their beauty. Do you really want that ? The day he will get tired of you, when he will find prettier or the day you change…. Then you’ll be abandoned.
As a man, I want to ask why you'd want someone to be obsessed with you? If they're obsessed, they're not in a healthy mindset. I don't think people who say they want someone to obsess over them actually know what obsession looks/feels like. Obsession is stalking, possessiveness, jealous rage, emotional immaturity/volatility, and the violation of your boundaries. Trust me when I say it's way better to create and uphold healthy boundaries and respect the boundaries of others. Also, men aren't that complicated. We crave a genuine connection, respect, trust, peace, occasional compliments and show of gratitude, someone who listens to us and doesn't outright dismiss our interests and hobbies.
i’ve never understood the “make them interested and then ignore them for a few days” method. if i’m into someone and they randomly stop replying i immediately get the ick
Speaking as a lesbian in a longterm relationship ... I am also obsessed with watching these video's, I think it's just my morbid way of checking what the straight girlies are up to lmao
The rejection thing is very concerning, that some young women are internalising the normality of being relentlessly pursued by men after saying no, and instead of assessing how awful that is they're like this is perfect this is how I win. Like honey no, please do a feminism instead. I also really hope men don't see these and use them to justify harrassing women because this stuff is essentially encouraging awful behaviour from men. That woman rejected you? Its because she secretly wants you. That woman accudentally brushed up against you? She's gagging for it. That woman expressed basic interest in what you were saying? Clearly an invitation. Can we just normalise being up front and just saying "hi, I'm attracted to you do you want to go out? No? No worries have a nice day"
THIS! I think rejection needs to be more normalized one both sides. It's okay to say no, and also it's okay to put yourself out there and be told no. No doesn't mean anything beyond not interested, it is not a huge dissection on your personality and looks. Especially for girls. So many of my friends don't put themselves out there because of fear of rejection and antiquated gender roles. Be bold AND take rejection as a pro. Guys who keep going after you show you aren't interested makes things so uncomfortable.
Yeah omfg all I want is a guy who respects and values me as a person, I don’t want some creep who sees me as an object or is ‘obsessed’ with me. These people create more work for themselves too, it’s easier to communicate and be yourself rather than come up with these weird little games imo
we don't need less incels, we need more femcels. right? fight fire with fire and all that, they could match up with each other on incel dating websites.
i'm sure there are people who get obsessed from rejection but that could not be less relatable to me. If someone ghosted me for a few days every so often, i would simply get so anxious about it that i would stop talking to them. Others might have a fight or flight response, i only have a flight response, byye, not worth it
same! at a point it gets to "this person is not putting as much effort into this relationship as I am. so why i am i still trying?" and it just makes me a bit bitter and less likely to message that person. it happens with friendships too. a good relationship is built on communication.
I love how some of them state in EVERY VIDEO that they are an relationship expert or something. Like yeah, I‘m sure that in relationship school they teach you exactly how to become an obsessive stalker-queen girly ❤
the way that carley mentioned that TikTok makes her want to end her own life. that is so relatable and girlboss of her. we love an open and honest queen.
The thing that most of these things miss is that either: 1. They already find you attractive and you'd have to fuck it up pretty bad to ruin it or 2. They aren't interested and this weird dance is not going to change that
these kinds of relations are not relations at all it’s just a cat and mouse power struggle and it breeds so much pain and miscommunication. Like these behaviors set you up to be incapable of a real relationship due to narcissism and mistrust. It’s deeply sad.
As someone who went through the phase of “how to get my crush to notice me” videos in my teen years, I’ve heard these things multiple time. Kimberly was one of the main youtubers I would watch, and all of them would include the same messages over and over again: push and pull, hot and cold, use physical touch, act like you need help with something. Even after watching all that I couldn’t find myself executing any of the “advices”. I felt manipulative, scummy, I didn’t feel like myself and I felt as if I would have to keep up the act all the time. The only times I’ve managed to attract someone was when I was myself and minding my own business, not caring about how I appeared to the opposite sex.
queen, the reason their makeup is serving in ways is because they have lash extensions- ur makeup looks good it’s falsies or extensions that ur noticing I promise I battle this on the daily
Carley remember when you see good makeup on tiktok they’re 1) probably using the beauty filter and 2) have eyelash extensions so everything looks better. Although god damn I wish I could do eye makeup too 😭
I don't get this. I mean, I'm male so by no means an expert on make up, but while the 1st girl's looked great (also probably attractive face to begin with), the fourth one had eyes SO visually big and doll-like that it was seriously unsettling. Do girls really think we like that?
The one huge silver lining from all of this is that maybe girls who grew up watching these videos will recognize those behaviors when they're used on them.
As a man the fact that there are female pick up artists fascinates because male pick up artists will never shut up about how “females will never be lonely like us men if they ever feel lonely they can just call up one of their guy friends”
The delusion of some guys that we girls are never lonely is astounding at times. Like carley said if you are conventionally attractive that is the only time you have lots of options but quantity doesn't always mean quality. If you're an average girlie you may have dudes but it's probably like a once in a while thing depending on how social you are If you are unattractive you are totally invisible I'm someone that has a lot of male friends and they aren't remotely attracted to me. And I'm honestly happy about that
The females will never be lonely thing is just to make you feel inadequate in comparison so that you feel more like you need to compensate and are more likely to look to them for advice. As well, if you think women are different, you won't look to them for advice, you'll look to other men.
As a guy, and someone who suspects they're talking to a girl who is following this kind of advice, I can tell you now that it doesn't work. This girl I was talking to said she was happy to hang out the week I asked her, but said she was busy for a lot of it, so I asked her to let me know when she's free, and she has not responded for about 2 weeks. Contrary to what these pick up artists all seem to have agreed on, this has not made me more interested in her, rather I've lost what little interest I had in her. Also it was very refreshing to hear you talk about pretty privilege, I feel like that's a point I don't often hear brought up in relation to these female pick up artists, where a lot of the time they assume themselves to be dating experts, because they're successful at attracting people, when they're actually just getting away with behavior that less conventionally attractive people can't, in a case of post hoc ergo propter hoc. That being said, the upside is that there's a limit, most people can notice red flags, the hope is just that they won't be desperate or lonely enough to ignore them.
That’s not this advice… she’s just not interested in you 💀 women say they’re busy because they’re scared to outright reject you. Not speaking for TWO weeks is your answer
Speaking as a woman...She...Just wasn't interested in you but didn't want to hurt your feelings right then and there to your face. It's a way to protect ourselves from having a conflict or blow up from men. (not saying you would have but it's just past experiences of many women).
I hear everyone replying, and I agree, somehow I didn't consider that lmao. Should I delete this comment or keep it up to learn from in future? This is a pretty good ego check, so I'm inclined to think the latter is better.
@@buhguh-r8g woman here, I think it's cool that you reflected on yourself. self awareness and stuff like that makes a person way more attractive than just looks, in my option
Okay its funny but also It’s legitimately WILD to me that anyone actually wastes any energy on doing things like this or being “manipulative” to make someone get obsessed with you? It’s very odd, like you do you but also literally just be yourself and if they don’t like who you actually are then you don’t want that person anyways 🤨 Basically this vid had me in deep though about how people are out here curating every move in their interactions to manipulate and meanwhile I’m just skipping around in dreamland saying everything that passes through my brain and just so unaware of people around me calculating every move 😅 PS you’re hilarious and I want more reaction stuff like this thanks babes
Carley, the sacrifices you make to create content for us peruses of the internet are so noble. And wow these creators seem endlessly fascinating to me, but probably not in the way they are intending.
"The best way to make a guy be obsessed with you is to literally just murder his parents right in front of him, like I guarantee you he will spend the rest of his life thinking about you and what you did, he might even end up dressing as a bat but what matters is that his entire life will be different thanks to you and he will literally only care about finding you again" -The Joker, probably, if he was a gaslight gatekeep girlboss
I LOVE that the "mental health advocates", "we need to face our fears in therapy" generation's idea of romance is to create trauma and insecurities in others.
I think it's worth noting, these girlies are not mental health/therapy advocates- just because that kind of awareness is more popular now doesn't mean these people are into it.
I'm not a hot girl, but I managed to get my boyfriend to fall in love with me by baking him a tonne of cakes. It worked, we've lived together for like, 4 years now.
As a man, I can confirm that that's a legitimate method of attracting a man. There were a couple of decent tips within those videos too, like giving a guy a compliment, showing interest in his interests and hobbies, touch and wearing red, although the touch one is very situational because you can't go up to random strangers and start groping them. As men we learn this is wrong, so I think women should as well.
@@Onnarashiexcept those tips involve treating a guy like a human being with interests, hopes and fears rather than an obsessed chump who will fall to his knees when you brush him lightly!!! It’s like these women have never met a man before
It's very disturbing that most of those recommendations translated into psych language would be like "behave as if you had borderline personality disorder"... and that often enough it works.
As an only child with older parents (I’m 27) I didn’t have YT when I first started getting interested in makeup! My mom rarely wore it and did very basic stuff, so it’s a miracle I’m decent at it
Your dad's advice is actually highly accurate, all men desire nothing more than to be privvy to a good secret, we actually all turn instantly in to detectives.
👋 **no older sister here** can completely relate. THANK YOU!! I am always trying to explain to people that this is why I can't do make up, don't know how to french braid, and didn't finish college.
I dunno, I’ve been trying the “I have a secret and I’m not telling you” bit all day and have been proposed to thrice and propositioned 42 times. Dad might be on to something.
your reactions are sending me more than the videos... carley why do i feel like you're the "if we're in a don't laugh situation don't look at me" friend
All i want in this life is a hidden cam show about these tiktok "male pickup artists" and "female pickup artists" trying to pick up each other. Is that too much to ask?
i'm actually dumbfounded at these tiktoks. having been on the other end of these tactics and still trying to recover from it all this really blows my mind. actively promoting harm ... just girly things i guess
a lot of those vids were just teaching serious manipulation. thats not how to get ur crush to be "obsessed 😍" with you, thats going to tear their mental state apart. no amount of "lol toxic alert 🚨!! cant say i didnt warn you 😚" shit will excuse teaching kids how to ruin every relationship theyll ever be in, romantic or otherwise. sincerely, someone who fell victim to this shit multiple times in a friend group and got diagnosed with c-ptsd because of it
These ladies have been taking relationship advice from Charles Manson and the heavens gate guy. "Tell him that the apocalypse is nigh and the only way he can survive is to date you"
I once had a friend who was just somehow extra hot. And i didnt get that. Like I saw a girl, nice fit and funny whatever just a girl. But every time i went out with her guys just stopped her in the middle of our walk and tried to get her number and wont let her alone and not only ignoring me but treating me like trash bin. So yeah, if you are not naturally a magnet for mans attention you cant just make everybody laugh till you are in bed naked. Work both ways.
I haven't laughed this much at a youtube video in a long time... thank you queen carley (ps if it's any consolation, I always think your eye makeup looks great)
10:30 that was my favourite game at the ripe age of 10! My girl friends and I would exchange notes ultra discreetly to pique guys' interest in finding out what's written there just to say something along the lines of "omg todays lesson is so boring" or "my mum promised me to take me shopping on Saturday". They got so bored so easily that we could pass the proper juicy notes without them snooping lmao
Not sure how I ended up down this rabbit hole considering the fact that I'm a 42 year old man, but I found this really amusing. Despite the fact that there is no scent or. color, some of those "tactics" actually work. However, I wouldn't recommend being emotionally and psychologically abusive to someone. A lot of that behavior is typical of psychopaths and narcissists. The "Love-bombing", the emotional blackmail, the idealizing, devaluing, and discarding. The whole cycle of abuse. Why do you even want someone to be obsessed with you? Why do you think getting. what you want is a good idea? Ask anyone who has ever had a wish granted by a genie or David Bowie if getting what you want is a good idea.
something abt those types of videos is whether it’s a man or woman, you can completely tell when someone is putting on a show to get you to like them. they immediately desire you to cling to them and are incredibly obsessive while hiding how they are themselves. they don’t communicate and want you to find their unhealthy habits attractive. if you don’t, they become dejected and insulted, especially when you call them out on it. they don’t want a bf/gf, the want the validation society gives you for just being in a relationship, no matter how toxic behind the scenes. they act like confident and secure people while feeding their insecurities by forcing them onto others.
Let me tell you something, as a 30 year old in a three year long committed relationship. This advice is amazing wow! We built a strong foundation of love, because I ignore him and I’m mean to him. It’s perfect. We never have any problems at all 🙄🙄🙄
i watched your deep dive in aris relationships and got hooked on your videos in a day, you’re genuinely so entertaining and fucking hilarious, thank you for being a new staple creator for me ❤
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this is insane they're literally saying "i know it's kind of toxic but like you should emotionally abuse him!!! he'll love you
As a man, trust and believe he won't love you. Ghosting and emotional manipulation tends to have the opposite effect on men, at least the men women would like to attract. Men who take a woman witdrawing as an invitation to pursue her further are generally speaking not men you'd want to date. Not talking about him asking where you've gone if you stopped texting or seeing him alltogether, but more the types who won't take no for an answer or be extremely persistent regardless of how little interest you show.
@@Onnarashi orrr you can just not do it to men because it will fuck them up. there's also that. don't generalize men. and the ones who won't take no for an answer... you're just describing predators.
@@justemoi555 Exactly.
@@OnnarashiYou’re exactly right. Men who deliberately go for women who don’t want them are either men with no self worth or creepy.
What’s the difference between love , infatuation and addiction . It’s only another person’s feelings
“I’ve spent my life studying relationships” miss you’re 22 years old
shes like 30 or older 😭 i used to watch her videos on youtube years ago when i was straight. and she used to give better advice too. apparently shes a relationship counselor, which is a little worrying with those tips she gave
I think she's 39 or 40! I was obsessed with her UA-cam channel when I was younger
@@MelinaImmonenstfu 😂
Actually she's 40-50. I used to download her videos off limewire when I was younger.
Actually she’s 50-60, pretty sure we had her videos on VHS
The fact that these are grown women giving middle school level toxic dating advice so earnestly terrifies me.
the fact that carley did the small hand thing is so funny to me💀
🥺🥺
i literally screamed bc as someone with “piano fingers” ive NEVER been able to do this and im insanely jealous to the girls who could
@@LizzylovesLobo I have small hands and I’ve always wanted piano fingers 😭
@@PersephonesRose-nr3oo como se diceeeee the grass is always greener on the other side 🥲😭
We really thought as teenagers, that showing a guy how much smaller we were then them, was going to make them like us😂
this is actually inspiring, so good to see female representation in a male dominated field. #feminism #gaslightgirlbossgatekeep
lol "just a ✨girlboss✨ building her empire💃"
"give him a little chocolate covered strawberry...... and then slit his throat" lmaoo I love u
I literally had to stop the video after she said that, I was laughing so hard.
The problem is that they’re all pretty. I want a girl who’s not conventionally attractive telling me how to get guys obsessed with me, because that’s a lot more helpful to the non supermodels among us
Literally!! That’s what I couldn’t stop thinking about. The guy finds you attractive because you’re attractive!
true !
They re not obsessed with them but with their beauty.
Do you really want that ? The day he will get tired of you, when he will find prettier or the day you change…. Then you’ll be abandoned.
As a man, I want to ask why you'd want someone to be obsessed with you? If they're obsessed, they're not in a healthy mindset. I don't think people who say they want someone to obsess over them actually know what obsession looks/feels like. Obsession is stalking, possessiveness, jealous rage, emotional immaturity/volatility, and the violation of your boundaries.
Trust me when I say it's way better to create and uphold healthy boundaries and respect the boundaries of others. Also, men aren't that complicated. We crave a genuine connection, respect, trust, peace, occasional compliments and show of gratitude, someone who listens to us and doesn't outright dismiss our interests and hobbies.
Right? If the average woman went around touching guys arms they would be creeped out, not turned on
"The rules are not the same for us girlie" I felt that 😭
These people are just out here teaching the starter kit for how to psychologically abuse people 🤦🏻♀️😅
Well, us men don't have feelings so it's alright.
(sarcasm alert)
LITERALLY
i’ve never understood the “make them interested and then ignore them for a few days” method. if i’m into someone and they randomly stop replying i immediately get the ick
this is a sign that ur emotionally healthy and well adjusted ! keep it up babe
Speaking as a lesbian in a longterm relationship ... I am also obsessed with watching these video's, I think it's just my morbid way of checking what the straight girlies are up to lmao
As a straight girlie, trust me, this shit is terrifying more than anything 😭
Lmao mood
Im in a long term het-relationship, and I am so glad I don’t “have to” be single and dealing with this shit….
I don't know about lesbians but let me tell you the straight girls are not okay !
Yeah I'm also a lesbian watching this just horrified
The rejection thing is very concerning, that some young women are internalising the normality of being relentlessly pursued by men after saying no, and instead of assessing how awful that is they're like this is perfect this is how I win.
Like honey no, please do a feminism instead.
I also really hope men don't see these and use them to justify harrassing women because this stuff is essentially encouraging awful behaviour from men. That woman rejected you? Its because she secretly wants you. That woman accudentally brushed up against you? She's gagging for it. That woman expressed basic interest in what you were saying? Clearly an invitation.
Can we just normalise being up front and just saying "hi, I'm attracted to you do you want to go out? No? No worries have a nice day"
THIS! I think rejection needs to be more normalized one both sides. It's okay to say no, and also it's okay to put yourself out there and be told no. No doesn't mean anything beyond not interested, it is not a huge dissection on your personality and looks. Especially for girls. So many of my friends don't put themselves out there because of fear of rejection and antiquated gender roles. Be bold AND take rejection as a pro. Guys who keep going after you show you aren't interested makes things so uncomfortable.
Yeah omfg all I want is a guy who respects and values me as a person, I don’t want some creep who sees me as an object or is ‘obsessed’ with me. These people create more work for themselves too, it’s easier to communicate and be yourself rather than come up with these weird little games imo
EXACTLY
This is why men should really go MGTOW and not approach women at all.... It's harassment.
Bring back courting lol
love to see that toxicity and being an incel knows no gender. this is true equality! 😍🤗😬
we don't need less incels, we need more femcels.
right? fight fire with fire and all that, they could match up with each other on incel dating websites.
"incel" was first coined by a woman - we stay winning!!!
i'm a female incel and i wouldn't trade it for anything.
You should read Men Who Hate Women by Laura Bates. It'll make you reconsider
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i'm sure there are people who get obsessed from rejection but that could not be less relatable to me. If someone ghosted me for a few days every so often, i would simply get so anxious about it that i would stop talking to them. Others might have a fight or flight response, i only have a flight response, byye, not worth it
real of you
thank you! i think that applies to mostly everyone…
it's not a flight or fight response, it's just called having self respect!
same! at a point it gets to "this person is not putting as much effort into this relationship as I am. so why i am i still trying?" and it just makes me a bit bitter and less likely to message that person. it happens with friendships too. a good relationship is built on communication.
This second girl’s advice: be an emotional abuser
"Guys fall in love during space through their imagination" absolutely broke me
@umarb7325 So then you're falling in love with your idealized version of a person that you may have only interacted with a few times?
I'm pretty sure I'm in love with Carley n this is my 2nd vid 😂❤❤😂
I love how some of them state in EVERY VIDEO that they are an relationship expert or something. Like yeah, I‘m sure that in relationship school they teach you exactly how to become an obsessive stalker-queen girly ❤
"Hey ya big f***ing silly... put a glock to his head, boys love physical touch" gurl I am dying
the way that carley mentioned that TikTok makes her want to end her own life. that is so relatable and girlboss of her. we love an open and honest queen.
I love the fact that ur dad was one of the original ‘female pick up artist’ , just didn’t have TikTok yet😂
“ Grab his neck “ , “ choke him “ I spit out my water !!!😅
"the plane in which you inhabit is not the same as my reality" SOOO true bestie
CARLEY BLESS YOU I‘m stuck in a family gathering and you just saved me from dying out of boredom
omg best of luck
They're all like "confuse him with pointless mind games", we guys love that
IM A WOMAN IN STEM!!! thank you for the shoutout girlie!
i bow down to you
we celebrate and elevate u bestie!!!
hell ya!
I'm sorry but that Baby Jessica thing came out of NOWHERE and It got me laughing so hard XD
There's an Oscar in the making in that story 😂 x
The thing that most of these things miss is that either:
1. They already find you attractive and you'd have to fuck it up pretty bad to ruin it or
2. They aren't interested and this weird dance is not going to change that
this is the youtube channel I watch at 3 am with a bowl of cereal and that is the highest form of compliment 😂
this is my legacy
Why does anyone want someone "obsessed" with them? It just seems creepy
The number one rule in most of these videos is to be conventionally attractive
these kinds of relations are not relations at all it’s just a cat and mouse power struggle and it breeds so much pain and miscommunication. Like these behaviors set you up to be incapable of a real relationship due to narcissism and mistrust. It’s deeply sad.
As someone who went through the phase of “how to get my crush to notice me” videos in my teen years, I’ve heard these things multiple time. Kimberly was one of the main youtubers I would watch, and all of them would include the same messages over and over again: push and pull, hot and cold, use physical touch, act like you need help with something. Even after watching all that I couldn’t find myself executing any of the “advices”. I felt manipulative, scummy, I didn’t feel like myself and I felt as if I would have to keep up the act all the time. The only times I’ve managed to attract someone was when I was myself and minding my own business, not caring about how I appeared to the opposite sex.
queen, the reason their makeup is serving in ways is because they have lash extensions- ur makeup looks good it’s falsies or extensions that ur noticing I promise I battle this on the daily
Carley remember when you see good makeup on tiktok they’re 1) probably using the beauty filter and 2) have eyelash extensions so everything looks better. Although god damn I wish I could do eye makeup too 😭
I don't get this. I mean, I'm male so by no means an expert on make up, but while the 1st girl's looked great (also probably attractive face to begin with), the fourth one had eyes SO visually big and doll-like that it was seriously unsettling. Do girls really think we like that?
The one huge silver lining from all of this is that maybe girls who grew up watching these videos will recognize those behaviors when they're used on them.
"If you have no older sister in your life, you are hung out to dry." I have never identified with any sentiment more strongly than this.
tiktok has dissolved my brain cells😅
same bestie
Girl you gotta work on that algorithm then. There’s so much valuable info on it
It's a way to get him interested...if he's a detective. That made me snort laugh. 😂
As a man the fact that there are female pick up artists fascinates because male pick up artists will never shut up about how “females will never be lonely like us men if they ever feel lonely they can just call up one of their guy friends”
The delusion of some guys that we girls are never lonely is astounding at times.
Like carley said if you are conventionally attractive that is the only time you have lots of options but quantity doesn't always mean quality.
If you're an average girlie you may have dudes but it's probably like a once in a while thing depending on how social you are
If you are unattractive you are totally invisible
I'm someone that has a lot of male friends and they aren't remotely attracted to me. And I'm honestly happy about that
The females will never be lonely thing is just to make you feel inadequate in comparison so that you feel more like you need to compensate and are more likely to look to them for advice. As well, if you think women are different, you won't look to them for advice, you'll look to other men.
it’s because women are usually lonely by choice. they’re only interested in a certain caliber of man.
"it's a way to get him interested if he's a DETECTIVE" 💀
The way 80% of this advice is just telling you to emotionally abuse the person you are interested in
the clockwork orange eye thing 💀💀 obsessed with this reference
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As a guy, and someone who suspects they're talking to a girl who is following this kind of advice, I can tell you now that it doesn't work. This girl I was talking to said she was happy to hang out the week I asked her, but said she was busy for a lot of it, so I asked her to let me know when she's free, and she has not responded for about 2 weeks. Contrary to what these pick up artists all seem to have agreed on, this has not made me more interested in her, rather I've lost what little interest I had in her. Also it was very refreshing to hear you talk about pretty privilege, I feel like that's a point I don't often hear brought up in relation to these female pick up artists, where a lot of the time they assume themselves to be dating experts, because they're successful at attracting people, when they're actually just getting away with behavior that less conventionally attractive people can't, in a case of post hoc ergo propter hoc. That being said, the upside is that there's a limit, most people can notice red flags, the hope is just that they won't be desperate or lonely enough to ignore them.
no offense, but also just very possible that they just weren't that interested to begin with.
That’s not this advice… she’s just not interested in you 💀 women say they’re busy because they’re scared to outright reject you. Not speaking for TWO weeks is your answer
Speaking as a woman...She...Just wasn't interested in you but didn't want to hurt your feelings right then and there to your face. It's a way to protect ourselves from having a conflict or blow up from men. (not saying you would have but it's just past experiences of many women).
I hear everyone replying, and I agree, somehow I didn't consider that lmao. Should I delete this comment or keep it up to learn from in future? This is a pretty good ego check, so I'm inclined to think the latter is better.
@@buhguh-r8g woman here, I think it's cool that you reflected on yourself. self awareness and stuff like that makes a person way more attractive than just looks, in my option
Loving all this "How to emotionally mess with someone until either him or you has to take out a Restraining Order on the other" advice 👍
Okay its funny but also It’s legitimately WILD to me that anyone actually wastes any energy on doing things like this or being “manipulative” to make someone get obsessed with you?
It’s very odd, like you do you but also literally just be yourself and if they don’t like who you actually are then you don’t want that person anyways 🤨
Basically this vid had me in deep though about how people are out here curating every move in their interactions to manipulate and meanwhile I’m just skipping around in dreamland saying everything that passes through my brain and just so unaware of people around me calculating every move 😅
PS you’re hilarious and I want more reaction stuff like this thanks babes
Carley, the sacrifices you make to create content for us peruses of the internet are so noble. And wow these creators seem endlessly fascinating to me, but probably not in the way they are intending.
When you said “I’m a thimble and you’re a beast” I choked on air
"The best way to make a guy be obsessed with you is to literally just murder his parents right in front of him, like I guarantee you he will spend the rest of his life thinking about you and what you did, he might even end up dressing as a bat but what matters is that his entire life will be different thanks to you and he will literally only care about finding you again" -The Joker, probably, if he was a gaslight gatekeep girlboss
I LOVE that the "mental health advocates", "we need to face our fears in therapy" generation's idea of romance is to create trauma and insecurities in others.
I think it's worth noting, these girlies are not mental health/therapy advocates- just because that kind of awareness is more popular now doesn't mean these people are into it.
please take this as the compliment it is - you are the female version of Mike’s mic and I love it
omg this is so true, i knew her energy reminded me of someone else i loved on here
I'm not a hot girl, but I managed to get my boyfriend to fall in love with me by baking him a tonne of cakes. It worked, we've lived together for like, 4 years now.
As a man, I can confirm that that's a legitimate method of attracting a man. There were a couple of decent tips within those videos too, like giving a guy a compliment, showing interest in his interests and hobbies, touch and wearing red, although the touch one is very situational because you can't go up to random strangers and start groping them. As men we learn this is wrong, so I think women should as well.
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@@Onnarashiexcept those tips involve treating a guy like a human being with interests, hopes and fears rather than an obsessed chump who will fall to his knees when you brush him lightly!!! It’s like these women have never met a man before
We will always support you and your channel. Just know you're the best at everything.
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She is our best and only option for content
Can you imagine the kind of relationships these people are in? It's so painful!
okay so they have 3 advices they give on loop, got it
yup
Their advice? Have you considered ✨ emotional abuse✨
@@Awsome101Girlliterally how are people so chill at recommending abuse because it’s FUN
@@Awsome101Girl literally
"I am his ~best~ and ~~ONLY~~ OPTION!!" Sounds like a fundamentalist purity ritual.
brb sending my partner "you looked different today, and I liked it" even though I have not seen him today
as an only child, girl i'm right there with u
fended for ourselves
we did what we could
6% fashion sense
I don't want a guy to get obsessed with me. Like. Ever.
Have we learned nothing from Twilight and After?
It's very disturbing that most of those recommendations translated into psych language would be like "behave as if you had borderline personality disorder"... and that often enough it works.
“If you see your crush at school just walk up and say hey you big fuckin silly and then put a Glock to his head”😭😭😭😭😭 I can’t breathe
As an only child with older parents (I’m 27) I didn’t have YT when I first started getting interested in makeup! My mom rarely wore it and did very basic stuff, so it’s a miracle I’m decent at it
there has been not one day in my life that i have regretted deleting tiktok
Your dad's advice is actually highly accurate, all men desire nothing more than to be privvy to a good secret, we actually all turn instantly in to detectives.
👋 **no older sister here** can completely relate. THANK YOU!! I am always trying to explain to people that this is why I can't do make up, don't know how to french braid, and didn't finish college.
I dunno, I’ve been trying the “I have a secret and I’m not telling you” bit all day and have been proposed to thrice and propositioned 42 times. Dad might be on to something.
This is my reward for getting through a week of work
My reward for getting 7/9 of my exams done
congratulations bestie
Carley calling us fucking freaks is 🫶✨
FREAK
😊😊😊 you are encouraging me to make my hiatus from TIKTOK scrolling indefinite 😊😊😊
do it
AHH im so glad more shows were announced this is the first one i’ll be able to attend since i subbed we love to see it girlies
Haven't laughed this hard in a while, thank you! So happy to have found your channel
That woman's makeup looked flawless because of filters and lighting
carley we missed you so freaking much❤
missed ya too
I use the small hand trick ALL THE TIME. This is so real
this video is actually so funny, you're doing God's work queen, perfect lunch break video
also sweet Jesus the advice in this video is, in a very real way, manipulative
your reactions are sending me more than the videos... carley why do i feel like you're the "if we're in a don't laugh situation don't look at me" friend
All i want in this life is a hidden cam show about these tiktok "male pickup artists" and "female pickup artists" trying to pick up each other. Is that too much to ask?
i'm actually dumbfounded at these tiktoks. having been on the other end of these tactics and still trying to recover from it all this really blows my mind. actively promoting harm ... just girly things i guess
a lot of those vids were just teaching serious manipulation. thats not how to get ur crush to be "obsessed 😍" with you, thats going to tear their mental state apart. no amount of "lol toxic alert 🚨!! cant say i didnt warn you 😚" shit will excuse teaching kids how to ruin every relationship theyll ever be in, romantic or otherwise.
sincerely, someone who fell victim to this shit multiple times in a friend group and got diagnosed with c-ptsd because of it
These ladies have been taking relationship advice from Charles Manson and the heavens gate guy.
"Tell him that the apocalypse is nigh and the only way he can survive is to date you"
Ok but I had the thought that YOUR makeup looked SO GOOD in this video!
I once had a friend who was just somehow extra hot. And i didnt get that. Like I saw a girl, nice fit and funny whatever just a girl. But every time i went out with her guys just stopped her in the middle of our walk and tried to get her number and wont let her alone and not only ignoring me but treating me like trash bin. So yeah, if you are not naturally a magnet for mans attention you cant just make everybody laugh till you are in bed naked. Work both ways.
some people are just more conventionally attractive, it is what it is 🤷♀️ n they don't need none of this mess 😂 just -be me-
I haven't laughed this much at a youtube video in a long time... thank you queen carley (ps if it's any consolation, I always think your eye makeup looks great)
10:30 that was my favourite game at the ripe age of 10! My girl friends and I would exchange notes ultra discreetly to pique guys' interest in finding out what's written there just to say something along the lines of "omg todays lesson is so boring" or "my mum promised me to take me shopping on Saturday". They got so bored so easily that we could pass the proper juicy notes without them snooping lmao
God you're hilarious 😂😂😂 Can't wait for your comedy tour in LA! ✨manifestiiiiing✨
you are so histerically funny, i don't understand how you come up with these unhinged comparisons HAHAHAH
this is a situation where a possessive apostrophe would have been useful in trying to read this title lol
why do they want men to be obsessed with them??? that sounds like the scariest thing in the world, hello??
Your expressiveness just makes me so happy. Your jokes in response to the videos are so funny!
Second girl literally teaching you how to emotionally manipulate someone
Carly, i am going trough some dark times. But your videos always makes feel much better! Thank you. You are amazing!!❤
Sending all the good energy and love your way bestie
@@ssarahmooneyy thank you.
the fact that every woman you showed was like “oh just be obsessed with urself!!!
i love that as a society we can finally accept that the headless woman in Tom and Jerry was our collective sexual awakening
Not sure how I ended up down this rabbit hole considering the fact that I'm a 42 year old man, but I found this really amusing. Despite the fact that there is no scent or. color, some of those "tactics" actually work. However, I wouldn't recommend being emotionally and psychologically abusive to someone. A lot of that behavior is typical of psychopaths and narcissists. The "Love-bombing", the emotional blackmail, the idealizing, devaluing, and discarding. The whole cycle of abuse. Why do you even want someone to be obsessed with you? Why do you think getting. what you want is a good idea? Ask anyone who has ever had a wish granted by a genie or David Bowie if getting what you want is a good idea.
We love(?) femcel representation
all of this advice is just the DENNIS System rebranded 😭
(from its always sunny)
Funny to see the 1st girl in this video cause usually her advice is actually really good (I mean her non boy/relationship related advice slays)
something abt those types of videos is whether it’s a man or woman, you can completely tell when someone is putting on a show to get you to like them.
they immediately desire you to cling to them and are incredibly obsessive while hiding how they are themselves. they don’t communicate and want you to find their unhealthy habits attractive.
if you don’t, they become dejected and insulted, especially when you call them out on it. they don’t want a bf/gf, the want the validation society gives you for just being in a relationship, no matter how toxic behind the scenes. they act like confident and secure people while feeding their insecurities by forcing them onto others.
Let me tell you something, as a 30 year old in a three year long committed relationship. This advice is amazing wow! We built a strong foundation of love, because I ignore him and I’m mean to him. It’s perfect. We never have any problems at all 🙄🙄🙄
i watched your deep dive in aris relationships and got hooked on your videos in a day, you’re genuinely so entertaining and fucking hilarious, thank you for being a new staple creator for me ❤
the baby jessica joke took me OUT LMAOOO