4 things no one tells you about dealing with narcissists
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The sad and frustrating part is that people believe the lies narcissists tell but they don't believe the truth.
AMEN!
I like to add a "yet", to that.
ETA: Eventually, an inevitably, the narcissist will reveal their true nature, one way or another.
They intentionally make sure to be outlandish enough to make sure no one would ever believe us.
Trust me I jnow😢
@p.w.352 karmic satisfaction would be -
that the narc will be seen, and exposed for the contemptuous a55hole that he is.
Do people really see through the narc mask. Such as his family? Does his mom and daughters know and just accept that he's a horrible person?
He's an only child and his mom will never say her son is dangerously evil.
He is THE ONLY golden, scapegoat, narc son.
The pedestal is so high, it's nauseating.
I listen to you almost everyday, Dr. Ramani. You have no idea how much you have helped me grow over the last several years I'm so grateful for you.
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Agreed ❤
The ironic thing is when narcissists rage, they feel justified when they aren't and when we fight back we're considered out of control and crazy.
Reactive abuse kept me stuck in multiple situations for years. It's horrific. Outsiders think you're being petty over a normal situation when there was ongoing psychological torture and a procedural dehumanization of our being. They have no clue, and it's sick.
Sometimes I can pick out other survivors, out in the wild. 😅
'Bring the best of yourself to the good people in your life'....words of wisdom!
There's no justice and consequences. Only heart break. Never be part of what is not in your control.
Best to be a good team player, not have all control that will make us like what we fear and wanted to get away from. Just my opinion
You can only control yourself. It's not healthy to try to control others.
Self control is the goal 😉
I was warned by at least 6 people - did I listen?
Nope, I’d still thank them today.
I warned his next victim and it took her 5 years to wake up but at least she’s a friend now ~
I REALLY hate bullies.😠
Bullies are insecure.
Think about your health friends. Get away from these toxic people before you do something you regret or you have a heart attack or some health issue. You win by walking away❤
In my experience the best way to win against a narcissist is to simply walk away and not look back. She tried her best to destroy me (seemingly for fun) and used me for years. When I pulled away, she alternated between over the top sexual come-ons and nasty bullying. So when I just walked away...she didn't know what to do. She seemed to expect me to change my mind, and put pressure on me behind the scenes, but eventually she got bored and moved on to other victims. She recently tried again (putting pressure on me via mutual acquaintances) but I just played dumb and pretended to not be aware.
The switching on the charm after attacking you is so insidious. Then, when you are still upset after the encounter, people tell you the narcissist is "the rational one" and you are "too emotional to make wise decisions", so they have to accept the narcissist's version of events...
What I find revolting Is when they say, you are holding a grudge because you won't allow them to keep abusing you. They think they should say the most hurtful things that are also untrue & you should just take it. I remember when we were kids & my older narc sister would slap me in the face. When I told her to stop, the question she would always ask Is, Well, don't you think you deserve it?" Even Into adult hood, she would operate the same way, because it becomes a bad habit for them & they never grow up.
@@KathieMihindukulasuriya each time I called the police, they sent the same officer. Each time, my ex husband was cool, chill cucumber. Cracking jokes. Lies spilling out like it was nothing. Meanwhile my entire body would be shaking, face red, tears still coming down my face. That officer did not once speak to me alone, without my ex husband directly glaring at me over his shoulder. On one of the house calls, they eventually sent a second officer, who gave me a name and a phone number of a county domestic relations department. My ex was willing to do things that would inadvertently hurt our toddler, and I was trying to absorb the consequences. It was so disgusting.
Injustice is more hurtful than the abuse itself.
Think Abby Petito and what's his face😢 .
I agree.. the injustice is so hard to deal with. As terrible as it sounds, I’m counting down the days until I no longer have to coparent.
Power Persevering in Prayers Psalms 1-150🤲🙏🌹😇
It doesn’t sound terrible at all it’s just the reality. I am in the same boat.. counting down 9 years left to go 😮
What really helped me when I was young was the high regard my boss and my landlord had for me. Two Narcs in my life had so thoroughly destroyed my reputation that I was drowning in despair. But my honesty and hard work and the respect I had for other peoples property showed to these people just who I actually was.
Lesson learned. Bullies equal trauma. Thanks
Misogyny is almost always part of the male narcissistic arsenal but we live in a culture where narcissism is our new normal & misogyny is still prevalent. I no longer tolerate disrespect. Period. Proud of angry reactions as healthy but choosing not to respond is my new goal in life!
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Same to you ❤
Exactly why I say things like "not my circus not my clowns " and "I am not responsible for your karma"
“Not my pasture, not my bull [droppings].”
@AlEdJedLee 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I have no interest in whoever my ex husband’s new partner will be. My focus/priority is to keep my relationship with my three kids (two still live with him) as healthy and solid as possible.
His narcissistic behaviors can implode himself. I just don’t want my kids to repeat what he does and thinks it’s ok.
I am who I am naturally which is what I want my kids to see as the “real” me. As an Empath, I never have any desire to ever bring someone down or to hurt them.
I realized more over these past years since being separated from him. There is no manual to learn what I learned.
Thank goodness he never broke me. If anything, he educated me in ways I could never imagine… ❤
They will see who he is with time. Like you said, just focus on being the best you and the best mother. Try your best to avoid any drama or conflict that would be detrimental to their well being.
Unfortunately is a huge problem when narcisist insist to harm or causing problems to others. It's very sad situations, that's why I decided to understand why I'm so attractive to narcisist people. Maybe because I need to heal myself. Thank you so much Dr Ramani, peace and blessings to everyone 🙏
Great advice to yourself and me
I think also, even In my case with an Older Narc sister, who was abusive & would be again, If given the opportunity, It's kind of like You needing to learn to be strong & stand up for yourself. That's the lesson we need to learn out of It. Not to be anyone's door mat. ;)
Codependency doesn’t have a good boundary 😉
My mother was raised by a narcissist. She consistently chose narcissistic partners. I was raised by a revolving door of narcissists and an abused woman. I became an abused woman.
When you are raised IN it, it is your DEFAULT mode. It took me therapy to relearn my default... to reinvent _my normal_.
The one thing a healthy friend pointed put to me was "If you were raised in a healthy family dynamic, unhealthy would be weird to you. But it's not. It's flipped for you."
There is no shame in counseling. I suggest it for everyone.
I’ve found that the reason why I’ve been attracted to and got stuck with two narcissistic people in romantic relationships is because I didn’t feel good about myself. They were so full of themselves and thought their crap didn’t stink, so I figured that meant I couldn’t be that ugly, fat, dumb etc. my lack of confidence led me to be with people on the other end of the spectrum. And unsurprisingly, it was really hard to leave them even though I knew it wasn’t healthy.
It is so hard to deal with the Injustice.Narcissists often makes such clownish, embarrassing fools of themselves. Maybe the justice is that the narcissist has to be who they are. They are stuck in this in this in a superficial way of being which doesn't evolve.
Truly being themselves is the punishment & knowing how much they envy emotionally healthy people who have loving relationships is my joy
@caroleminke6116 They really do envy emotionally healthy people
Your videos just keep getting better and better! This is EXCELLENT content, Dr. Ramani. thank you so much 💚again. you have helped the world heal.
If I was in a relationship like that now, I'd be secretly filming the abuse. That's a power people need to be using now that it's technologically available.
I just started recording myself. No one would ever believe me!
Thank you Doctor.
Utter indifference . Thanx for this ever best remedy .❤️🙏
I was once asked to tell the truth by a ex-partners new partner. I told them I'm sorry that they're going through what they're going through and I went through the same thing and then I gave them a link to this channel
I've had someone who knew what was going on and encouraged me to leave, only to move in right after me. 🤦🏻♀️I heard stories that illustrate he only ever became more aggressive, psychotic, and disgusting.
@PaigeSquared I am so sorry you went through that sounds like you had two narcissists.
I saved & educated a much younger woman once but she simply chose another, perhaps worse partner. She did get out of that one on her own & stopped posting sexy pix on FB finally but she had to learn the hard way
I'm being patient. Hearing that from someone I trust is 11/10 helpful today.
I would guess that most of what is being called “vindictive” or “vengeful” thought is just needing to believe that there is some kind of cosmic justice, whether the person has religious beliefs or not.
Don’t hold your breath waiting for evil people to get what they deserve. It’s true that living well is the best revenge.
I find that most rumination turns out to be my brain trying to wrestle with a problem and find resolution. When it can’t do that, the wheels just keep spinning. So trying to accept that I don’t have an answer but I do need sleep takes a few tries before I can settle down. It’s a process, and painful to admit when I don’t know how to help myself for the time being.
Brilliant compilation of videos. Great reminders and had my attention till the end. You and your Team rock, Dr. Ramani!
New partner tried to attack me while I was picking up the littles 🥴 like GTFOH Almost caught a case. 1000% agree. DO NOT ENGAGE. Go to court, have a documented trail of behaviours. Hiring a P.I is worth it if necessary; yet n most circumstances their nonsense will be clearly evident to everyone over time. God Bless 🙏
My narcissistic daughter is a rage driver. She used to scare the hell out of me sometimes when I was riding in the car with her.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom 🙏❤ You are like a balm for my soul ❤
You are so right doc. Narcs get away with sooo much. My covert father very very high on the spectrum and malignant sister with psychopathic tendencies (per professional) have destroyed my life and contributed greatly to my mothers death. If it happened to anyone but family the law would classify their considerable cruelty and attempts to unalive me as felonies. Instead they see a 90 yo professional victim and the psycho as a pillar in her prosperity gospel church who dates law enforcement exclusively. Its all by design. Calculated, premeditated and unimaginably cruel. The law sees thus as a family issue istead of what it really is: coersion, intimidation, threats of violence, slave like financial, physical and psychological control. The law is NO help. The degree of abuse is SO extreme having been cultivated through decades that it seems almost hard to believe that a families depravity could continue for so long. Surely someone would have stepped in they think. Not realizing that every time you ask for help the reaction has been the same. This pattern emboldens the narcs who double down to punish you even more. So its "easier " to just turn a blind eye and so the victims in this have NO voice. Some day the law MAY catch up but its too late for my mother and I believe it will be too late for me as well.
No, I didn't say anything to my ex's new partner. People have to learn things for themselves, and you don't want to be accused of sabotaging their relationship. Also the vibe I got from the conversation is that her scruples were on a different level than mine, so I though "Hey maybe this will work out" and it did. They are still together to this day. My thought was "he's your bag of tricks now, have fun!!". 😆 Unfortunately, some people are in a relationship for reasons other than love.
Yup 👍 the narc dumbs down & goes for bottom feeders when they cannot succeed with the supply that they first target. It’s usually someone much younger but it’s always someone more gullible
I decided a long time ago to let God deal with the one that was in my life. He’s on the road to financial ruin and nothing makes me happier. The financial abuse he put me through is nothing compares to what is coming his way.
U r 100% correct 😢 Every word resonated with me coz I have had the Misfortune to meet a few Narcissistic people 😭
Ramani u r BRILLIANT 😘😘😘
It's typically the people behind you that are bullying, as you won't be able to see their tires and they'll be all over you. East Coast. They can be drunk or just A-holes. There's no way to give them enough space because they'll jack up their agenda if you try to pull over to let them pass, and they might follow you into a lot or elsewhere you go to escape them. It's relentless and represents a huge portion of drivers.
Drive to a police station or fire house if followed.
I tap my brakes lightly just once & they usually go around without a fuss but it’s scary out there!
How do you know my sister so well??? God, thank you for your teachings! My narc sister was gifted me - an empath to abuse. Oh it’s been hell! But since I found your teachings I’ve enjoy sitting back and observing her character. I’ve come to conclusion she’s a covert narc! Textbook!
Oh ya. He is telling people he just can’t make me happy. Right.
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In My Opinion , Just Heal , Take Legal Action , If Cannot , save yourself and leave them on God and Start A New Life Without Them With New People Or Alone.✌️❤️
Mine went bankrupt and I moved out for a year and we did couples therapy for a year and I’ve told him to look into narcissism but to no avail. I do yellow rock most the time and am waiting for an appropriate exit time (he is demanding that I get back into therapy with him and put him on my bank account and credit cards - no way, how would I be able to leave?) I’m stay at home mom of 4 and kids are just about where I feel I’m not abandoning them if I were to leave. They’d all get why and be able to handle themselves with him.
Yep they will use and burn our money , credit, time , energies, life and think nothing of it. If they get a new supply often they drop us cold as they got what they wanted!
I had three people warn me not to marry him, and I didn't pay attention to a single one. None of these people were ex-girlfriends. Someone who's savvy enough to take the advice probably wouldn't be in that relationship to begin with.
My ex would drive real fast and then stop and do that again. He enjoyed knowing he was scaring me!!!
Typical of almost all narcs & a good sign in the beginning that I wish I had known about sooner… like the eating out tantrums in public 🤦♀️ now I know what to look out for in anyone!
I wanted to so bad. I know the new partner meet them briefly at events. I had to calm down and stop myself. The new partner feels like she won. I decided to let her enjoy the spoils and for me to mind my business 😂😂
What goes around 😉 always come around 👍 even if they try to hide it from the public
You are answering some of my current questions.
Since 2018, my Bi-polar, vindictive, demonic ex-wife has been given complete impunity by the Family Courts... My beautiful, innocent 7 year old son is the victim!!!! She literally has no empathy, not a soul.
The malignant narcissist in my family, by her actions, opened my eyes to narcisstic behavior. Thankfully I was able to go no contact and she moved to another state. It was devastating and I lost family members and friends. It was hard to explain my feelings to them, I don't think they believed me. I stopped trying to explain, they either believe or not. I just told them to be very careful around her because I do care, but I can't save those poor people in her circle.
If that person asked, I would say 'run don't walk'. But there is no reason I would be talking to her is the first place.
The worst part about narcissism, you can’t leave and then you have to turn into them just to survive.
Reading your book " It's not you ". Had to stop and digest the impact. Wholly moly guacamole, that's a lot and thank you for having the courage strength and intestinal fortitude in this great work. ❤❤❤. There's many in the phycology field that have no idea how this all works, this will be a great educational tool for them all. It is so misunderstood.
Cheers Dr. Ramani
This was justice to me. I was the scapegoat of the family. I finally became indifferent and a 1st cousin was trying to get me back in the web. I was nice but I didn't get as personal as she would have liked so she walked away furious giving me angry lookks
Great advice, because recently I have had some other stress in my life, so I have less patience.
While walking, a driver in a car pulled out of a car lot and almost ran right into me, and then some service I received when I was shopping.
I noticed those things. I was baited a little bit, and then I wanted to engage in fighting, and it didn’t work. It’s just wasted energy, but you know I wanted to let them know that’s not OK. You can’t just pull out a walker who’s walking by. This is annoying and a waste of time because reasonable people apologize end of issue in many circumstances. A narcissist won’t even after they almost run into you when you’re walking.
Narcissist: They want to beat us and argue with us; they thrive on it, but then they can say, Look at that person's crazy look. Look how out of control they are. That's another weapon they use that this doctor has mentioned, and I agree with.
Driving. I totally agree with the doctor. I said and what’s the best way to respond in the situations when driving. I’ve lived in three other states and for dozens of years and then those combined states I had far less of any sort of driving issue then I have here recently in California.
It’s a totally different driving game here in California than the other places I’ve lived in so I think this is good information that we received thank you!
One recent incident happened and I pulled over. I walked up to give them my information. I did everything we’re supposed to you know with insurance and identification, and all that the other driver refused to give me any information then they got on their cell phone and wanted to have some friends come over at that point I could sense the wanna bully me so I left after I had provided the information. The other driver wouldn’t give any of required info to share.
I think this is a really great video right now. Perfect timing with our, my energy and how to disengage in it.
Honnestly, from my own personal experience trying to make a narcisist realize about his personality style in order to expect some change for good in him is useless.
The only things really helped me to go through all this in the healthiest way for all of us is just accepting " his style", grey rocking a lot and doing my best to take care about everything which is on my hands. And all this I already do is thank of you, Dr. Ramani. You mean the change to me and our lives. thanks!
Oh yes. Narcissist abuses and terrorizes pregnant girlfriend and abandones mother and child. Pays no child support. Years later he resurfaces and demands child contact. And guess what: this is legally possible.
One of your videos that ticked all the boxes! Thank you so much! ❤
After the breakup I found out that for years he cheated on her with me, then she left and I became primary source. Then he cheated on me with HER (the same woman) for years, until I finally SAW.!!! It's been like I've got my eyesight back in a second! Left the day after! How could I have been so intentionally blind and loved him all these years?!
The point is: what in the world could I tell her?! She is smart and successful business woman in her fifties. She knows him for 15 years! Obviously she doesn't want to know anything! Oh, he's soooo good at his games, I give him that!
But I am saving myself! 😊
Dr. Ramani thank you for your scholarly knowledge and expertise on the topic of narcissism. It is important. On this video, you clearly explain the worst of a vindictive narcissist who weaponizes their inward vindictiveness onto an unsuspecting individual like your perfect analogy and example of true stories of vehicular roadrage toward unsuspecting individuals who have experienced this rage from a narcissist on a Los Angeles freeway. Thank you so much. It is my prayer that teachings quelling narcissism go through to the minds of them who want to react in this manner to change from narcissistic ways of going about in society offending people.
There’s a facebook group in my city called “don’t date him” where people tell the names and experiences from their toxic exes 😅
Edit: if I break up with my partner because he decides to stay drunk and narcissistic he’s definitely going on there 😂
I’m divorcing my husband and he basically has confiscated three family members, my broken heart and my granddaughters, which I’m not able to see.😢
If I had known that my DIL was the narcissist she claimed her mother is, I would have been able to educate myself as I am now. Friends did try to support my son with his concerns about marrying her, but he married her anyway and those friends he confided in are gone from his life. She has destroyed my family by eliciting the help of her flying monkey (our son) to "defend" her against his horrible family. A family she said she was so fortunate to marry into - before she decided to isolate our son. Now there is a grandchild. Because the child is their pawn, they have the power to control us and criticize us because we will not partake in their abuse. It is the most confusing, bewildering and painful existence when once we were a fun and loving family. We don't recognize our son anymore. He is not the guy we raised and were close to.
I love you and hope you are blessed in many ways!
That is exactly what I have experienced. And yes it does not work to fight back. It's like punching a pillow.
in my situation i m grateful for what i have ❤😊🎉
It really boils down to feeling lucky to still have my home & pets & health
I was told by the ex to not hurt him. It was during the love bombing phase. He said they were lovers turned to friends and that she cares for him the way a big sister would. I fell for it because he was presenting himself as insufferably quirky. It was all a ruse and she was trying to warn me but because he was standing right there, it was all she could say. As we all know, Narcs are hurt if you blink wrong. Did it help that she told me that? No. Why? Because this is my first narc relationship (besides my mother. I didn't know what I was up against. If I would have had more experience, I would have had listened to my gut and ended it.
It’s unfortunate how many people I have known who try to make people happy who then just turn around and abuse their kindness.
No. Don't warn the new person about the narcissist. It's tempting to want to do it, but they may not be ready to hear it, they may *tell* the narcissist what you said, and actually, from someone else's perspective it will make *you* look like you're unhinged or a sore loser or whatever. You can certainly be ready if they approach *you* at some point about the narcissist. That's how I feel about it.
I went thew 20 years of his rage. The first with before me looked and praised god someone elses turn. My life calapse from
I wouldn't bother warning the new boyfriend or girlfriend. It's none of my business. The new partner may just think I'm jealous and want to break them up. Obviously, this new person must think very highly of the narc, otherwise they wouldn't be in a relationship with them. So, they won't believe what I say, and would very likely repeat it to the narc. Then the narc would tell his new partner, "Oh, she's crazy! That's why I broke up with her."
The only way to get somebody else to see the narcissistic person is to describe behaviours and empathise with how they felt when it was happening to them.
Avoid the narcissistic label because it'll just get dismissed.
For example, 'it feels really isolating when they have trouble relating to how you feel most of the time. I know what you mean.
It is really hard around somebody with lack of empathy , I've also been through that, especially when I'm around (enter toxic persons name here)
Most people know somebody who is toxic unfortunately 😔
Something caused it for them just like for the person who is being abused by them is now and there is either preventative education for that now unlike for the narc then or theres a problem with those who don’t want the narc (it) fixed! (something between the narc and the one abused like at the end of the Jerry Lewis Nutty Professor movie).
Every family has toxicity of some sort 😉
@caroleminke6116 yes, that is true
I wouldn’t say anything except good luck, and say it dripping with sincerity.
Thank you so much Dr. Ramani! Love your videos
Yes, although I do not at all like the phrase, said to narcissistic victims, “I hope you’ve learned your lesson,” as there is no one who should learn a lesson more, than a narcissist, it does apply to the recognition that dealing with them and learning that you are not like them, is a lesson.
It is something I have kept in the back of my mind, more often, as I mature and as I have been in this dogfight pro se, legally. While it appears I’m actually coming out on top, it takes its toll. It is also a sub-lesson in that we all learn how much support these crazy narcissists have. In real life, I’ve become quieter. I don’t mind backing away and losing friendships. I’ve learned that, when it comes to the subject of narcissism, I am in the minority, in being somewhat to mostly educated, but also just that I am not a narcissist, flying monkey, or enabler, I understand the players and perspectives and I’m simply not the type of person, who likes to watch someone lose to a narcissist and that includes myself, although I pick my battles. But, I’m also aware that, the wind I’ve had? No one has wanted me to have them. Yet another lesson learned.
You'll hear the person in narcissistic mode (the narcissist) be horrible. Then they will call you out to deflect from their own behavior.
When you're trapped your trapped. I gave up hope a long time ago
Never give up. That is not an option for people like us. It’s what they want. Sending love your way/
You’re stronger than you know 😉 go gray rock & set your sights on no contact 👍
Take it to the Lord Jesus in prayer. Ask for help. Only HE can give you the strength to get out. You are battling a demon.
@ They most definitely are.
It just made things worse between us. They dished out some toxic behavior, & I reacted with the same abusive behavior. They are dangerous, spread lies & and rumers, and I have to stay away from them for my own safety..
No I wouldnt!! Everyone has their own journey and things to learn . I was a person that my family couldnt tell anything to. Now im with a narcissist . I now recognize how needy and codependent I was. I even might have some narcissism in me thats why i let my life go down this road. 14:36
But I would like for my daughter to learn about narcissism early on.
I just think of a small child that was treated badly and learned the very behavior of which they display from somewhere. Ignoring these types of people works for me and lots of grey rocking if I must talk to them.
My thesis advisor almost bullied me to an attempt, and I had to quit the program, leaving a lot of work undone. After 2-3 years had passed, I've published a very impersonal article titled "Narcissistic abuse in academia" on a field-related science community blog. I had a lot of people thanking me profusely for this article and writing their stories. But SOMEONE wrote to the editor under a name I didn't recognize, claiming it's defamation and suggesting making the author anonymous. Hey, how is it defamation if I'm simply using my name? And the article is JUST about a phenomenon? The editor agreed with me and didn't change it. Now after writing both there and on quora I see a huge demand for these stories; academia is nasty. I'm actually thinking about writing a "Dark Triad Academia" book with compiled anonymous stories and explanations. I am still a bit scared and agitated. In total, it's been 7 years. I think it could be helpful to many people. But it has to be absolutely legal-proofed, and I am not quite sure how I'm going to feel in the process of writing it.
I think it's great that you did that! absolutely write that book, people need the help. that sounds very powerful and meaningful. You could get legal advice upfront and feel clear anything related to that, and then get it all out. the book would be a big hit. publishers will be interested in this.
This is how I warn a new partner of a narcissist:
Hey have I explained my no returns, no exchanges, no exception policy to you.
NO!
They have apps now, like appclose that the messages can not be deleted . If anyone is trying to avoid chaos and them deleting or hiding mesages , i recommend these apps . So, the charming and abusive characters are both shown . They can not delete anything. It can also be used in court.
My best revenge is to be happy and to succeed. That annoys them soooooo much
Practical advice, thank you!!!!👍❤👍
I’d say yes! but everyone will still want to see for themselves, so I won’t say anything and let them learn themselves, Which is understandable!
I would absolutely warn the new person but not sure they're going to listen until they go thru it and hindsight will be 20/20
Narcissistic people love trashing 12:49 other people.
No warning
Someone shared DT's written reaction to the bishop this morning. The one that was talking to him about compassion. I need to go back and watch your video about why narcissists overreact to tone of voice. He said she had a nasty tone. I did not hear that.
I was thinking that if they were uncomfortable about what she said... that they deserved to be uncomfortable.
Seems to me you are the one with the problem
@@lisaspencer5881 was that comment necessary? Consider self reflection.
You are absolutely right. The Bishop was courageous. It's well-known that DT is a narcissist.
There was a lot of looking away as she was sharing the important message...
Oh...I just realized she said that the vast majority of immigrants are not criminals... to a criminal.... lol
He probably projects his criminality onto the vast majority of immigrants. Wouldn't narcissism and discrimination be linked?
My brother is just like that. I could never win with him. I was always wrong. No contact has been doing good for me.
Don't wrestle with a pig. You both get dirty and the pig likes it.
No you don't warn the next person. They aren't going to believe you.
nah, it will make it worse and you’ll be painted as the insecure one AKA gaslighting 101 😂
No! don’t try to persuade them.
I could write a book. But can’t we all!?!
No, i wouldn't warn anyone. However, i would've liked a heads up. But on the job training, right? 😬
Thank you
Having seen all that led to the problem that the narcissist is being that way over it is easier to see why they are doing it, ….. though they shouldn’t prefer to hang on to old problems with others or what happened to them …………… and then you have the way things were set up and no way to prevent the perpetuation that looks like preferring to hang on to old problems - probably what Sam is grinding his brain against today!
Dr. Ramani, can you please speak about the narcissistic and borderline behavior of alienating parents more often? Thank you.
...where does all that immense dark energy of fighting, yelling, raging and arguing even come from, I wonder exhausted, as if some law of physics comes into play and all the light energy gets converted into dark energy like a giant and mighty black hole and the person at the receiving end feels kicked like a ball in a storm with learned helplessness, isn't it😳😔🥺many thanks for calling it out Dr. Ramani🙏🌷🕊💝🤗
Think of an “ambitious go-getter” who is “driven to succeed”: nobody ever asks, “*driven by WHAT??!?*”
The answer is often that they are relying on their dark side for their energy and power. Good luck trying to convince a Christian narcissist that they are playing for the wrong team!! But the narcissist feels like feeding their darkness will protect them and give them what they want in life.
It’s the emotionally immature toddler getting regulation through projection because it works 😉 you stayed!
i dont agreee with "we the empathic people are not built defeat evil" i DO NOT AGREE with this we need to be capable of evil in order to establish good we have to do at least for the children who will go through the same if we do not unite and establish any good of humanity also especially in a system that rewards EVIL and ignorant people it is beyond righteous to have defended ourselves and put narcissits in thier place. and yes i can confirm narcissts drive or ride vehicles very carelessly
My son's narc ex told her new "victim" that my son was abusive (lies) and that my husband and I were paedophiles (with our grandchildren)🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🤷♀️
it how they operate ROGUE EVIL and RUTHLESsLY ignorant becuz they know they wont be held responsible as long as they abuse whats called the social intelligence and support structure they have deeply learnt how people as a community operates blind trust that can be taken advantage of by such false rumours that most prob could be true as long as people can dout, for example after my narcisstic enemies whom i studied along with successfully isolated me from my family it was anyway broken so it was easier job but when i went separate they also started to control my neighbours around me including people i interact with whom i may socialise percieve about me they started the flase rumor campaign that i am a pedophile, sexual predator, old people lover boy, homosexual psycho, terrorists opened bank accounts in my name theyy have criminal network who work for private banks just enought to fake my identity to use the gov military tech to torture me they implanted me with nano biomedical implnts which runs on pieze eletricity of the body i think i have 2 implants i dont know how they got that in me most probaly swallobale nano biomedical implants that is a break through tech in bio medical technology so they have enable what they cal internet of nano bodies that keeps my heart beats artificially on its sleep derpvieation torture finally when i percieved as a questionable character i started to pet dogs not that i never liked dogs but i became more drawn to it out of love not out of sadness that ive been dehumanised but out of an understanding that if they can do this to a full grown human imagine what kinda atrocities these voiceless angels have to go through daily ? so some how esoterically i got to know they are spreading rumour that i am sexually attracted to dogs and i sodomise dog s this is when i knew that these nariccists outdone nazism they only started this spread such filth because when i used to enter the road to enter back to my room all nieghbourhood watch that were brainwashed bout me saw how dogs came running to me for some love this probably could have put neighbours to doubt what they spread about me the bad guy image so they started to spread beastility stories about me THESE NARC SOCIOPATHS are this evil.i almost gasped air like i was about to die when i knew about it. they enjoy the social stigma we carry THESE EVIL ENTITIES CANNOT TAKE NO FOR AN ANSWER even if you told them no with respect. they are simply beyond evil or ugly they are mix of both at best
I went to call narcisist new wife, and she answerd that she will call attorney if I next time call.
Just Give a clue.
Short of me posting these post. I am not going to engage in anything in the narcassist life. Most supply live a life with a rulebook of dos and donts. They have no rules. It becomes absolutely a total mess if you not only try to enlight supply but involving myself in any x’s life is just me using my brain space on someone i chose to remove myself from. I refuse. It is utterly ridiculous almost comical when the x’s start coming at me with some sort of he said she said rabbithole i do not want to go down. I would love to enlighten some but i know that the justice i want is not where i will find any justice.