UNPOPULAR TRANS OPINIONS | NOAHFINNCE
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Batman supports gay rights. And trans right. Batman supports everything. Batman thinks you should be happy 👍
The dark knight is always for the best for the people of Gotham
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Thank you batman, on behalf of the community thank you
"Transgender is how you are in the brain, not in the boob."
Validating.
It's a fantasy based on an ideological fairy-tale of lies.
Boy you clowns sure are gullible! You actually think people are "transgender"?! No, of course not! Your biological sex tells you what gender you are, not how you "identify", or your "feelings".
You're "validating" FICTION, and a MENTAL ILLNESS!
Those bound by the cultish religion (let's face it, that's what it is), of "transgenderism", need proper psychological help and freedom from transgenderism, and gender confusion. What they DON'T need is harmful pills and surgeries!
Change the MIND, not the body, and embrace/accept biological sex!
Instructions unclear, brain in boob😵💫
I once met a guy named Leaf. I didnt get into deep enough conversation with him to know for sure whether he was trans or cis, but when I introduced myself as Leo, he said *my* name was weird. It’s been two years and I still don’t know how to feel about that 🤔
that is hilarious /gen
I wouldn't forget lmfao, def had to be a joke
Woah, your name is a zodiac sign? That's pretty weird... ngl 😭/j
I like the name Leo (short for Leonard or Leonardo! Not after a star sign!)
@@unalive_pool If it was a joke, he did a great job of not showing on his face 😅
For any LGBTQ+ person watching this...
YOU ARE VALID!!! LOVE YOURSELF
ok I know this sounds cheesy but I needed to hear this today, so thank you random person 🙂❤
I try to love myself
❤❤❤
why wouldnt you be valid?
Thank you the amount of homophobia going round at the moment is bringing my mental health right down needed to hear this.
Because it was brought up, I just want to say it's never too late to start transition. Assuming medically you can handle it. I didn't come to terms with my trans-ness until I was 39, mainly because up until then I was in survival mode with "how can I make my family love me" and "how can I pay my bills" etc. A person's understanding of self changes with time. So if you're 65 and just realizing you're trans, you're completely valid.
Such an important message
Love this. ❤
this! and also trans people dont have to medically transition if we don't wanna. Everyone is always valid!
Don’t care
@@ImTheReal1than move on from the comment lmfao. If it doesn't involve you then fuck off
Your sexuality isn't defined by your current relationship. It's defined by you. How you feel. Who you're mostly attracted you. What you think.
As for the parents one…there’s definitely a difference between parents messing up on your pronouns, and your parents INTENTIONALLY choosing not to use your pronouns. I mean my dad won’t even let me cut my hair or wear masculine or gender neutral clothes, so I feel like me shitting on him is okay, but that’s different than shitting on your parents if they just mess up accidentally
There is also internalised non acceptance and outward non acceptance. Parents who are struggling accepting their kid and really dislike it probably mess up pronouns accidentally more because they still see you as that gender.
There was a cisgender man who legally changed his name to Optimus Prime. That alone should give trans people a lot of leeway to experiment with names we find fun or interesting.
Yes, this is coming from someone who has no plans to change their name.
It does not matter how someone names themselves, but i do take issue with Elon's naming strategies for his children. Weird names on yourself are fine, forcing someone to grow up with such a name is another matter
Respect to that guy. I go by nix online because I am not ready to come out irl. Nix is a shortened version of Phoenix. I don’t wanna change my name but pheo would be cute too :)
Bro- homophobic people are mad about 2% of the world. Imagine being that petty.
Omg I'm stealing this thank you. That's so good haha.
I hate people saying nonbinary people have it easy cus we still are okay looking like our AGAB 😭 that just means we get constantly misgendered cus people cant tell we’re nonbinary
besides,,not every enby is fine with looking their agab, am afab nonbinary and i get dysphoric all of the time
I've been called lady a couple of times now which was exiting but most of the time it's man...I would love neither but I hate being called man
As a femme presenting (against my will) enby, I hate it. I can't pass as enby because of my boobs that are giant and I've had my whole life, I was a c cup in 4th grade. Insurance was gunna cover my reduction and it was scheduled in 2020 but got canceled because panini. Then by the time we could reschedule, I turned 26 and lost the insurance that covered it. I'm disabled and make no money so I can't afford 10-20k out of pocket
@@mikusheadphonesgod that’s terrible. Even if your surgery had to be rescheduled it was still approved back then, and should therefore be covered in my opinion.
@@mikusheadphones I hate how disabled people are either forced to always be a cent away from bankruptcy or lose benefits
arson is still a lot better of a name than a lot of things i've seen straight people name their kids lmao...would rather be named arson than braeghdynn or paisleigh or whatever lmao
fr fr. The nonbinary names people make fun of are still way better than the 800 versions of Kaylee. I met a girl named Quaitlynn once. Sock and Frog have better vibes.
Rather be named sponge then be named “jawshuwwaigh”
Wanna be named rock rather than be named staughxxi
@@hello_i_am_jacobElon musk after putting x in his son’s name..
Knew someone with the last name 'pepper' once. Named his kids salt and pepper. Imagine being named 'pepper pepper'
You're the best, Noah! and W for trans rights :))
Big W
VERYYYYYY BIGGGGGGGGG W
@@Localcathlic MASSIVE W !!!!
Noah is the chaotic big brother we all needed
This comment tho>>> 100 percent true
Little brother for some of us actually
@@ohleander02 fair, for me he's older
Brother yes, big brother no. I'm 12 years his senior. He's the same age as my youngest sibling.
@@JennaGetsCreative loll
I’m an autistic trans boy and I notice the Afab/amab thing in a lot of autistic spaces with things like ‘10 signs Of autism in girls/afab’ and…I just don’t understand the point of adding afab when you clearly mean girls, it’s just misgendering under the veil of trying to seem inclusive. The whole ‘autism is girls / autism in boys’ is terrible anyway and it makes me so mad but I’m not gonna get into that now.
I agree ans also the distinction betwen "in girls" and "in boys" is kind of (idk if "harmful" is too harsh of a word but yeah) harmful?
like no two people are the same and the way autistic traits present in each individual is different and also because the diagnostic criteria being specifically catered to the "in boys"/stereotypical version of autism a lot of other people, not even necessarily girls, will not be diagnosed because they don't fit into that category
and also like calling certain traits
"girl traits" and "boy traits"
just enforces the gender binary
as well as adding the "afab" gives the impression that its entirely due to biology that there is this difference observed in the traits between boys and girls and not taking into account the outside factors of why people might be observing these differences
correlation doesn't equal causation.
many of the "in girls" traits are possibly just "undiagnosed throughout my childhood" traits
and are not exclusive to girls but people who have that experience
and maybe its more likely to be "girls" who fit that box that people like to seperate stuff into even though it's limiting and wrong to do so (like: what type of autistic are you? (that sounds like a buzzfeed quiz i-)) because they're more likely to go undiagnosed
and so there's a subsequent observed correlation but not necessarily causation
and yeah it's just wrong to try and fit everyone in certain groups under certain labels
though distinctions, labels and stuff sometimes help us as humans to understand the world
in this case of autistic traits "in boys" and "in girls" its just incorrect- because yeah
also there's the whole perception of gender that can make people view the same actions and traits as different things though they are the same but people put differences on it which could also be factorred into the equation
sorry- this is kind of a ramble
and also clunky and hard to read, not hard to read but like i read it back and i don't think i wrote it exactly correct so it sounds weird
@@zag2267also bc people see the same traits differently in people they perceive as boys and people they perceive as girls. Bossy and stubborn vs leadership and stuff. Crybaby, tantrum, girly-girl doesn’t want to touch dirt vs oh must be sensory issues all boys like dirt.
People are making AFAB and AMAB into another form of gender binary and I hate it
@@gl1tter_cloudz295 It's not just that. Lots of things present different, flu, heart attacks, autism... But with the heart attack we mostly figured out how hormones and upbringing affect it; T makes typical symptoms more likely, E makes atypical symptoms more likely, we teach girls to handle pain different etc. With autism we don't know what exactly affects what presentations and how, estrogen seems to have an effect, maybe other biological factors make certain things more likely, we teach social interactions differently from birth, but trans people internalize it differently...
I have kinda good news. I am a transman and I am going for my physical in a few days we are going to get a referral so that I can start hormones :)
woahhhhh hope everything goes well :DD
YAY!!!!
thats awesome, congrats!! i actually had something similar happen a few days ago, i had my physical and told my doctor that im trans and looking to start hrt and the absolute legend that she is wrote a referral to a super reputable place nearby. they should be working things out with my insurance right now and will call within the next week or so. and the physical was the day after my first appointment with a therapist who specializes in lgbtq+ stuff and is willing to write me a referral after a couple appointments. so things are going great, im really excited that things are finally moving forward after all this time :D
@@Ville_x you are fucking pathetic
@@NotVille_PEDOPHILE* (not directed towards the transman directed towards you)
i've been out to my parents for over two years and they still misgender me but though it upsets me i've never bullied my parents about it and my parents are slowly coming to terms with me being trans
yes! letting them take their time to get to understand and know the real you is important. change doesn’t happen overnight, if they’re trying, that’s something, and should be still acknowledged as support.
I let my mom misgender me because she has memory loss and can't handle new information as fast as anyone else. Sometimes she's afraid of my transition, but I tell her, my doctors take care of me, take my blood, etc, and she understands it again. She just wants me healthy and okay, but of course, it can't be easy if they reflect it in the wrong way.
Exactly for me I’ve been out for just over a year and I literally haven’t even introduced my name yet because it’s just that confusing for my parents
My parents straight up told me that they won't call me by my pronouns or use my new legally changed name and misgender me all the time and to strangers when I told them not to do that because it's gonna be more on my plate when I'm talking to that person and getting to them know, correcting what my parents told them about me (my mom tries to set me up with some friends at her job etc.).
I never had a good relationship to begin with and I can't wait to move out of their house so I can never speak to them again lol
Take a shot everytime Noah says 'vibe'
Shot x9
You’ll go to the hospital for sure.
My favourite pronoun is still iste/ista/istud - It's Latin for "this one over there (derogatory)" at it makes me laugh everytime I remember it 🤣
Ille, illa, illud is also amazing for the opposite reason!
@@melianshadowcloak88 Agreed!
my favourite pronoun is "they" because the "th" makes the word majestic, "e" is my favourite vowel and "y" makes it a bit cute. Overall a very beautiful word. 10/10. Not my personal pronoun tho
Idk I prefer them or him cause I like “i” a lot and “m” is such a great consonant, the “th” tho I fully agree with
I had a coworker at my last job who refused to use pronouns for me (I use they/them) and she would solely use my name when talking about me. It was so awkward to have to hear "Angel will help you once Angel gets settled."
Thats the future of englisch. Would you remember all the correct ways of refering to people as each can have the different idea how it should be done? Its like heraldic titles. That must have been tiresome. Most times you had at least someone to remind you whos who
@@AnotherWhoHitTheDust It's not that hard to say "They'll help you in a moment." That's like calling someone you know is a woman he.
No but this is actually what a lot of German nonbinary people actually have to ask for because we don't have a gender neutral pronoun. The equivalent of they is 'sie' but that's literally the same word used as singular she. 💀
@@thelittlestpika As a foreign speaker of Englisch I would expect a group of people. Id be like: where is another person? It just brings confusion. Anyway I have never worked with anyone having special pronouns
There should be some original pronouns for trans people. Would be more precise
I'm a trans boy, and I'm 13. I realized there was something 'strange' in me at the age of 10, but I didn't understand what it was. Then, when I was 11, I discovered what is being trans, and I realized that that was exactly how I felt. I was still confused, but after some time I was sure I was a boy. I came out one year ago, when I was 12. I wish I could go on HRT earlier, but only when I'm 16 💀
yes vary relatable and i agree w noah about it being a case by case basis but for that reason i disagree with him about it being 16... i think there are alot of younger trans people that shouldnt have to wait to be 16, although you should sitll have to atleast be like 14 or 15 or somthing...
@@TheGreatEvan I think 14 or 15 is a good age, but only for people who knows it for years yk? Cuz I understand why he (and lots of people) think that 16 is a good age, since lots of people aren't sure at earlier ages.
@@TheGreatEvan13 is way too young
@@aleexx24 yeh totally agree [:
@@Waiter_Demon i totally get what your saying but its not easy to get hormones so she likely wouldnt have accually been prescribed with them anyway
My cousin almost chose the name "Dirt" for themselves. I have never judged them for being enby, but I am glad they chose another name.
Noah... YOU'RE HAIR IS ABSOLUTELY AMAZING!! YOU PULL IT OFF SO WELL!!
Yes, she pretends to be a gay boy. Of course she has an enlarged, deformed clitoris from taking cross sex hormones. She calls a penis.
I am 14 and came out about 6 months ago. I have made a list of very early childhood signs of being trans and showed it to my parents. I have made them watch movies with trans main characters in them to get them to understand dysphoria better. I have even said that i dont think it would be posible for me to wait with hormones until im 18 but they still refuse to give me hormones bc they say i have a big risk of regreting it later. Right now i wish i was cis so bad
I get it bud. I think I won't get hormones before 20 (i'm 17 rn) an I have to hide from my parents bc they are huge transphobes. Good luck with your transition though young man. I hope your parents will come around soon
I can understand their concern, but remain yourself and don't give up. Day upon day, if they don't support you years later down this line and you genuinly still agree who you are, they don't deserve to decide whether you deserve to transition or not. Only you know who you are and how you feel, day by day.
Listen to your parents. Wait until you are at least 18 to do anything medical to your body
I don’t know if it’s possible for you knowing that in a lot of states are banning gender affirming care but if you’re lucky enough to be in a place that hasn’t banned it maybe looking into counseling and therapy that specialize in LGBTQ people specifically trans people and maybe they can help guide you through everything and help you find what is best for you
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Finding out Rowling is a raging transphobe really freaking sucked. Still does, I basically can't look at anything Harry Potter related without thinking about it at least once. I grew up with those stories, like many others, and it was an absolute punch in the gut when I found out this person I'd idolized as a writer for so long was so hurtful to people. Harry still stays with me as a piece of beautiful nostalgia, but I haven’t bought any Potter related thing new for years. And all my books are old. It’s quite depressing, really.
Try the marauders fandom it goes against everything jk Rowling stands for and is in the same universe even if it’s just fanfiction
Grow up!
I know this might seem harsh but the maybe 100 quid you spend on hp stuff really doesn’t make a difference. JK is loaded. If the books good the books good doesn’t matter who wrote it .
@@antigenderideologies I mean this with love and respect. But judging by ur pfp ur a transphobe so why are u even on this video?❤️
@@TylerSolace-kw9plYESSSS, the marauders are honestly amazing
I know two couples that don’t conform to sexuality labels within their relationship, one where the straight man is dating a trans man and the other where a lesbian is supporting their long term partner transition to a man. We say that one is gay just for his partner and the other is straight just for hers. Love doesn’t care what your labels are.
Could you elaborate on this? This seems pretty confusing at first glance
That’s very confusing. How can you call yourself a “straight” man when dating a trans guy, it seems invalidating. Perhaps I’m missing something here..?
There are a few times I as a trans-guy, will use nuetral pronouns with folks I know their pronouns are other. A) I'm talking about them in a situation I don't know if it's safe to drop their actual pronouns. B) I may be having a brain fog moment where I interchange the two in the same convo, or C) I just end up they/theming everyone cause sometimes my brain remains in an odd nuetral plane where I may feel a little disjointed from gendered stuff in general. If someone tells me not to, I will respect it best I can, and correct myself if I slip up. My mouth often moves faster than my thoughts which, can be funny but also extremely frustrating.
NB person here, the only time I ever Intentionally do it is if someone's a few rooms away or like gone to the bathroom at a restaurant. Not really sure how I picked it up so I guess it's just part of English I never noticed? Honestly kinda cool now that I'm thinking about it how tf do people come up with the "that's not part of English" argument wtf????
Either way, anyone reading this who thinks their friend might not be okay with stuff like this, ask em' :)
It's _quick_ it's _easy_ and it's _free_
I also accidentally do that sometimes because my first language doesn't have gendered pronouns (i.e. he/she/they/it all sound the same) so I just default to they/them even if I know the person's pronouns. I've never have anyone tell me it bothers them, but yeah sometimes words just come out of my mouth faster than I can process them.
I'm a pre-t transmasc genderfluid, I'm also omniromantic and asexual. Noah, you are such an idol to me. I just want you, and whoever is watching this, to know that you are amazing and valid despite what all the bigots and transphobes say 💙💗🤍💗💙
yooo I'm also omniromantic and asexual!!!!
@@DragonFIames I know a lot of people who are!
@@Grubbly10 wdym by that
@@Grubbly10 it's funny how wrong that is
@@Grubbly10it’s funny that you love Noah so much you stalk his comment section spreading misinformation because you love trump and hate “the trans”
W for Trans Rights
Idk if this is an unpopular opinion, but I think that schools should be able to change your name and pronouns in the system (not full legal name change, just on the school system for things like attendance and school emails) without requiring parental consent.
I live in Canada and this is a thing at my school, idk about the pronouns but they can change your name in the system and on attendance and stuff, with the couple of transphobic kids that are really annoying it's nice to login to my school account and see my preferred name
@@JaimieFraser it’s a thing at my school too, but you need parental consent, which I can’t have bc my parents are transphobic. I’m glad you get to have your preferred name though, that sounds amazing!
my school does that! :)
my school district in california does that! i hope there are more schools/districts that do the same since it helps out so much, it was always terrible when there was a sub and they used my legal name during attendance (before i changed it in the system). the first time that it happened, my classmates had only ever known me by my chosen name so when i said "here" after a few seconds they gave me the weirdest looks djbvsjkdhbdjkb hearing my deadname caught me so off-guard
My second child never asked for their name to be altered officially on school records (U.K system, senior school 11 to 16) so I don’t know, but I would assume this is parental consent as most things are for under 16’s. The sixth form college they attend ask for the name the youth goes by, even if their records hold another name. It meant they could go by their preferred name until we officially changed it at 17 (as their requested birthday present).
Thank you noah, I am a teenager and me living on the internet has not been good. Also I am non-binary and am a lesbian because I'm not in the binary every term is applicable to me and people are against me calling myself lesbian and I don't get it. Identify as whatever you want.
You can be a tomboy girl, or a butch... nothing wrong with that. I don't blame the people not agreeing. Bc what if an AMAB wanted to label himself as nonbinary, does that means he can be a lesbian? No! Lesbians are women that loves another women. They are women who are attracted to the same sex. Not the opposite.
I used to identify as a nonbinary lesbian before realizing i was a trans guy, and i definitely agree with you. I would have people on the internet tell me all the time that i couldnt be nonbinary and lesbian. People care too much about what people want to label themselves as, but your identity is valid and dont listen to anyone who tells you otherwise
@@Lucian-zz9lb
But if you’re a transman (and attracted to women) then you’re obviously a lesbian!
@Ville_x your just wrong and I can't be bothered to argue today
@@sallywright8065Lesbians are defined as people who are not men who are exclusively attracted to women, so no, a trans man who is attracted to women isn't a lesbian, just fyi :)
I'm an extremely feminine 15 year old trans guy and it's such a strange experience, because I'll wear skirts and makeup and present generally like a cis girl and be perfectly happy and all that but then I also bind almost daily and I started voice training at age 8 before I even knew I was trans just because I would hear myself talk and say "nah that's not my voice I sound like an annoying teenage girl"
people think names like "leaf", "twig" and "arson" are weird. i don't think you guys are aware that kanye west legally changed his name to "Ye"
fr
Fr, at least arson is an actual word and not a random meaningless noise lmaooo
“How you are in the brain not the boob”
Noah Finnce 2023
Ikr 😂😂
i absolutely hate how common it is to see people use afab to mean “people im seeing as a woman right now” and amab to mean “people im seeing as a man right now” because that is so obviously the opposite of why these terms exist in the first place
I’m a trans kid and no one has been telling to be trans. 😭 I was pretty against trans people myself when I had the entire “oh shit I’m not a girl” moment?? All I had heard was how “bad” being trans was, and still do. Yet, I have identified as trans for 3 years.
People are definitely just making things up.
This is just a fact.
I started testosterone 1 week and 4 days ago. I’m almost 17. I’m so greatful. It’s been a long journey. However, half my family misgenders me and uses my dead name accidentally. I get that they don’t mean it but it gets really frustrating and annoying. I hate it more than anything. My step dad occasionally introduces me with my preferred name and then says I’m trans and tells people my dead name. It really hurts but I’m scared to bring it up with him as he will probably not understand and start an argument. My when my nana gets my name wrong I call her by her full name (with respect not out of hate) she doesn’t like her full name and when I do that I’ve noticed that helps. I’m also waiting for the day I get gendered correctly by the general population that doesn’t know I’m trans or anything.
Congrats on starting testosterone!! I'm sorry that you have to got through the dead naming and misgendering, I get that. Have a nice day:)
@@user-wd4yv1mh8y you too. I’m sorry you have to go through that too. Hope everything gets better. Everything happens for a reason
@@Grubbly10 ok mate. Nice to know. I couldn’t care less. Also. Every guy I know sees me as a real dude, so maybe it’s just you. Have a nice day :)
@@Grubbly10 Are you feeling grumpy about your period cramps?? There there little child, I hope it gets worse for you🖤
@@Tyler-xs5id Don't listen to that dude, he's probs just mad that there are people that are proud of who they are🙄
hope the testosterone is going okay so far, bye:)
Really enjoyed this video. So glad you talked about these unpopular opinions within our community. It's super important and frankly much more interesting than talking about the opinions/views of transphobes. Also think it was perfect to end on the de-transitioner one. It can be really frustrating to see de-transitioners tear us down and project their experiences onto all trans people and spread information and fodder for transphobes to use against us, but I genuinely don't think we'd see de-transitioners do that as much if the trans community were more empathetic to them (not that it's all on us or anything). I think de-transitioners gravitate to (or get pulled in by) the transphobes because they have nowhere else where they feel they can share their experience, but it's a terrible place to be pushed because transphobes don't have de-transitioners' best interests at heart. They're just using detransitioners' vulnerability and lack of support to bring them over to their side as fuel for their arguments against trans people.
Granted, I was hesitant to acknowledge the existence of de-transitioners in the beginning because I feared that if there were any people who regretted transition, the transphobes would latch onto that to fuel their argument against us. Turns out though, transphobes are going to latch onto anything they can find to fuel their arguments anyway...
thank u :))
The not dating a straight person because they wont see you as the person you are is weird because i dated a transfem person (im transmasc) and I felt that they didnt really see me as a guy because they said things like "you _____ like a guy" (they emphasize "like" which made me feel Invalidated because it seemed like they didnt see me fully as a guy) "You're my gender envy" (which made me think that they just liked me because i looked like what they wanted to look like as well as that if im what they want to look like as a transfem, then they dont see me as a transmasc) so not just straight people can invalidate your identity, which sucks since trans/non-binary people are usually more understanding 🤷
11:58 this is exactly my solution to the HP situation- I don’t give her my money. I get used copies, damages from work (I work at a bookstore), etc, bc I won’t give her money. And even though people around me know how important HP was to me growing up, I ask them not to gift me HP things purchased off-the-rack as well :)
Eggcellent video as always!
I’m VERY excited for the part 2 of rating pride flags
Had a friend who went by tooth/teeth, hands down best pronoun
I think the “calling everything transphobic during pride month” question might have been referring to people doing it as a joke? Like gay people saying “and since it’s pride month you have to like my post or otherwise you’re homophobic” but with trans people instead? Because then you could argue it’s making light of the real transphobia and homophobia people are actually facing today, but on the other hand you could say it’s a joke and someone who has been a victim of homophobia and/or transphobia should be able to joke about it.
Ik nobody cares but i bought my first binder today 🙂🙂🙂
congrats!!! 🎉
HEY i’m a rlly big fan of yours and i love the fact that i can feel comfortable watching your videos and I am currently going through a lot. I love how your videos makes everything better. and btw i’m trans and I’m currently living in environment that doesn’t support that and i love the fact that I can go on UA-cam and watch your Content thank you sm Noah - alex
oh and i was wondering if you have any tips on how to still keep being yourself in that type of situation
My favorite pronoun is fae/faer. It’s just so pretty.
Same! I love those pronouns and I wish more people would respect my use of them
Nice, my favorite pronouns are beaner/beaner's, it's a comforting word
Trans rights I love your channel. You helped me come out
Unpopular opinion: The binary is dead, we're all non-binary now, even the barbie-est tradwife girly girl and the mattwalshiest Jordan Peterson simp is just picking characteristics out of a big bucket and creating a gender identity from it. Sometimes people follow an outside recipe, some create their own.
As a cis woman who never once questioned my identity as a female, I'm honestly absolutely fine with that. I certainly rarely (if ever) present in a traditionally feminine way, and in a world that is undoubtedly not black and white at all, I'll happily accept the death of the binary.
Hi! I’m a 16 year old whose about to start T in a few months. I’m a Brit as well but live in Australia (with duel citizenship) in Australia we use this thing called Gillick Competence, to asses whether the minor is capable of making decisions for themselves. I started my journey to make HRT accessible for me when I was older a year and a half ago, however things changed a long the way and I made my mind to start T sooner to live authentically and freely as myself. I am afraid but I’m tired of waiting and living like this. A couple of weeks ago it was confirmed that I can start T, on Friday I’m going to my gender specialists to discuss options. Nobody wants to be trans. I don’t want to spend money just to feel safe and comfortable in my body and live as myself. If you have any questions I would be happy to answer, as long as they aren’t too personal or offensive, to hopefully stop some misconceptions about minors going on HRT and possibly show some people that I’m a kid, but I deserve to live like everyone else too.
i told myself i'd wait quite a while after I came out as trans to start t because at the time there was (and still is) a lot of discourse about detransitioning. with all the fearmongering going on and being in a transphobic household, i kind of convinced myself i'd end up detransitioning so i just put off starting t. but the dysphoria got too bad and i was so miserable i finally just had to start t, and honestly since then i have never been worried or doubtful about the decision i made. i definitely think there is a lot of pressure on trans people to overthink or feel doubtful about whether or not they're really trans or valid or if they even need to transition and i genuinely feel for people who are starting transition rn with all the discourse going on in the media that spreads fear and hate.
Im turning 14 in under a month, and two days ago i started testosterone. I realized i was trans when i was 11, and have been identifying as trans for over two years, im curious what other people think about that
Also, ive spent the last year going through over 5 different doctors, and have been through every examination too see if testosterone was right for me. MANY medical professionals thought it was a good idea to start testosterone
@@thatlocaltransmasc I want to start this off by saying that it's great how you have access to testosterone, and i hope it goes well for you, but you asked for our opinions, so here i go
I feel like people should be able to get HRT when they are around 14-16. I feel like anything before that is too early
@CamBurger100 i disagree, but i guess that's somewhat reasonable. Usually the youngest (that ive heard of) kids starting testosterone is 13, and, a reminder, i was less than 4 away from my 14th birthday. Now i can since im 14, i haven't really felt any of the changes yet, but im so so so happy i was able to do it
@@NovelBurger its cool. If you thought about it for four years it seems reasonable for you to take t. Its always important to think about it for a while and get informed about the ups and downs. But i think you are doing everything right
Arson, that name is sick what's wrong with that I think people should be able to call themselves whatever they want to be comfortable and feel accepted like last week I met a person named moth and to me that's fire 🔥
agreed, those are awesome names
For some reason I still sometimes use they or them to address each of my friends which I have known for years just because it's the default in my brain. They're all cis and I know full well what their gender is but my brain is like "I've never met this m-... err- person in my life."
To anyone going trough tough times, just know you got support, weather it’s discovery or coming out, or anything else just know, you have support 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️you’ll make it 🙂
I’m never going to say “getting better” now I will always say “getting butter” because of you💕💕
@@Ville_x if it is best choice I’ve ever made🏳️🌈🏳️🌈💕💕🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️
@@Ville_x Being a dick and also, spending your time on hating on others, because you have supposedly nothing else to do in your life is a choice too then. :)
Quick reminder that you all awesome and valid, just the way you are ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 Love you all ❤🧡💛💚💙💜
GRAHH TYSM I NEEDED THAT 🫶
Drinking game everytime Noah says "VIBE" 😂😂😂
you would not survive
Guess I'll be calling myself left-hand non-binary person from now on /j 😂
you are speaking such facts in this video- literally every single response is so true
😂
@@rhymerlegend2717you’ve left 417 negative comments on this channel Jesus Christ you’re obsessed
yes, yes, yes!! i saw you were posting soon. excited for this video! ❤
Hey this might be an unpopular option but people in power don’t really want to focus on the big issues the world is facing so they focus on smaller ones that will make people talk (like the trans community) rather than dealing with the bigger problems (not to say trans people are an issue I am trans myself). Also my favourite pronouns are xey/xem
Your new song is one of my favourites all ready
Noah you are a godsend. I’m desperately seeking understanding and you provide it perfectly. I love you and love that you publish these videos. Please don’t ever stop.❤❤❤
24:33 the way you said “no offense” sounded like your name
Lol true
My favorite pronoun is the Yiddish זיי because it's pronounced as "zey" which sounds like a stereotypical german accent saying "they" and it's kinda funny
I'm still new to Yiddish but I believe it translates as plural "they"
W for trans rights!!
With the they/them pronouns being misgendering I think a good example is my old roommate. She would purposely use they/them even tho she knew those weren’t my pronouns bc she didn’t want to acknowledge I was trans/ a guy, but didn’t want to be labeled transphobic (she totally was btw, she was friends with the people who hatecrimed me). Similar thing happened in an English class where we watched a TedTalk and our teacher told us to use he/him pronouns for the speaker and this one girl repeatedly used they/them despite being corrected several times. Both these examples were intentional misgendering and it being they/them pronouns doesn’t make it ok
The world doesn’t have to cater to peoples false self perception/delusion
@@rhymerlegend2717bro shut up 😂
@@SarahToney-nu4sg what damage? I’m so sorry that I’m happy living my life and finally not uncomfortable in my own skin. I should listen to a random stranger on the internet bcs they can’t have happy life so I’m not allowed either 🤷🏼
I've been listening to I Know Better nonstop since it came out. ITS SOOOO GOOD AND IM OBSESSED
16:55 I kinda have to disagree with this, non-binary people can be included under a lot of sexualities, so saying that identifying as straight is equal to dismissing your partners identity is completely wrong, infact I know a couple of non-binary people myself who identify as straight (this is not very common whatsoever but it DOES happen) and I don't think that means they necessarily don't view their partner as non-binary. Like lesbian and gay include non-binary people, I don't see why straight wouldn't? idk this part just feels very odd to me.
So excited for this new vid, been waiting for a while lol!
The issue with the anti trans minority in the uk is that a lof of those are in positions of power like the prime ministers ehich is way more dangerous than if it was just like someones grandparents who ranted about it on twitter
The thing is, a woman isn't a social construct, a feeling, a sexual preference, or a costume that a man can put on or take off; She's an adult, human, female (ALL of them)
@@zachman5150 wrong, try again.
@@zachman5150 if someone is born female and identify with that sex then sure. Some women are adult human females. Some women are born male. It is a scientifically proven fact that trans people exist.
Thank you for the part about understanding people who "make their identity their personality." I realized I was trans at 27 and it was like so much of life made sense and I felt like I had a reason to fight for my future. I wasn't planning on making it to 30 before. So ya know, I was excited and I shared that excitement with people I thought were friends only to find out they all griped about me behind my back claiming I was making it my personality. I've since like chilled out because its not something new anymore but honeslty I'm afraid to even so much as talk about any of my experiences or mention being trans because I'm afraid people will talk shit about me.
This is a bit unrelated to the video but I love your content so much! I am currently in a transphobic environment, where my mum is saying that trans people are delusional, and I came out to her that I’m trans, and she only told me that I’m faking it or someone influenced me like that and she’d rather just prefer me as gay than trans.
Your content always make me smile and proud!
See, the bit about people who know they were trans since they were young is so real. Recently had me mum tell me that she didn’t feel it was “accurate” that I’m trans (I’ve been out to her for a year and a half, known my identity for two) because I never had things like that as a child. Fucking crushed me. However, the existence of those people doesn’t make me upset or feel invalid. Just diff journeys man.
I'm 15 and I can't remember much of my childhood, but I do remember never feeling like a girl. I remember I was always like "am I gonna grow boobs?? I don't want those" and now I've been on the waiting list for testosterone for 1,5 years. the waiting list is long, which sucks, but it's also good for a reason; if you've only figured out a week ago you can still go on the waiting list, cause it's so long and you'll either change your mind or just become more sure of your identity. where I'm from the waiting list is around 3 years for amsterdam UMC, and most people choose that one. you'll have to wait 3 years until you actually get a consult, so imo I do think that when you've only just figured it out you can start gender affirming care, because it takes pretty long until it's actually your turn
Hey NOah, I've recently come out as a trans woman and for a while before that I have watched with horror as the terfs and assholes have grown in volume on the internet. Their toxic idiologys seem to be everywhere and it is just such a nice feeling to see you be the beacon of trans rights with your witty and quirky attitude.
I've been binging your videos and just wanted to thank you for all you have done to the lgbtq+ community. Keep rocking you lovable weirdo!
I started hormones while still a little unsure, but i’d been thinking about it for a while (years). Because of that I started on a low dose, and when I realized I loved it I talked to my doctor about raising the dosage. It’s all about doing what’s comfortable whether it’s waiting, starting slow, or not at all!
My favorite pronoun is us because I like being part of a squad or a duo.
thats adorable :)
This has been a surprisingly good week, Noah posts a new video, I got a haircut I can recognize myself with, came out to my parents as non-binary, told them I want to try out they/them to see if that makes me feel any better and they're trying, I get that it's hard to retrain your brain after knowing someone for a long time and they're not really aware of the queer community but (and this is just me personally because it affects everyone differently) when I get misgendered it doesn't hurt in the way you'd expect it to, it's confusion or a tiny whisper in the back of my brain telling me they're not actually talking about me until I realize they are and that's when it stings but I've been too much of a chicken to correct them
Also W for trans rights
Random side note: my chinchilla is napping right across from me on his favorite shelf and he's laying his little chin down but he's so fluffy he looks like a tiny race car, he's so cute my day just keeps getting better
@@bleh3.2nice congrats
@@DangerJim-vq5uh random but idk probably
@@DangerJim-vq5uh oh well I wouldn't really consider myself ftm but that's interesting
W I love your videos and how you don’t just hurt people or call names to the people in the video. You make me happy
This video was in my recommended and when I glanced at the channel name I was stunned. 'Worms in my brain' guy! Love your songs :)
Commenting to appreciate you for mentioning that some non binary people want more medical transition stuff than many binary trans people 😭 honestly mostly changed my mind currently about some surgeries simply because I might be dysphoric regardless(and not in the more commonly spoken about "non binary with different surgery goals" issue though that's just as frustrating and also a bigger issue with cisnormative expectations from doctors as well as the links with intersex oppression in the backgrounds of lots of medical training).
24:06 I'm an adult and been on HRT for years. I struggled throughout my youth, wanting to be a girl. I regret nothing about reconciling my gender, but I still have dysphoria, and, for me, dysphoria comes with doubts. I didn't reconcile until my 30s, so I wouldn't be surprised if I always question myself. I question myself about a lot of things.
Noah, I just got a mullet and I used your new haircut as a reference for my stylist! Great video, dude.
Unpopular opinion? Straight/gay as labels are dumb because they intrinsically tie gender to sexuality and we should use labels like androsexual/gynosexual because they directly communicate your actual preferences
As an enby, YES, THIS
I definitely agree with you in principle, but I'm not sure those labels are going to catch on.
not everyone wants to use random complicated labels from the interenet if they have a preference 💀💀
THANKS FOR COMMENTING ABOUT THE BI/PAN LABEL TROUBLE
Sigh. The progress pride flag isn't "adding in" trans people and PoC. It's a focus.
In a time when there are actually people pushing "LGB without the T," the progress flag takes a stand of inclusiveness.
14:30 i'll never forget the time when my dad said something similar
"you're already out of the norm. you might as well just be yourself and do what makes you happy."
that's it, mate. people who are gonna hate you for who you are, are gonna do it regardless.
14:31 I had a trans friend that went by the name Twig, found out their an awful person and was abusing my best friend. My trans name is Zeke/Bin and my boyfriend for a while didn’t understand and was completely straight, come to find out he’s transphobic.
My gender is bendy, originally came out as a trans woman but have been using genderfluid as my label for quite a while now. But I'm lowkey thinking about not caring for labels anymore and just be "whatever". Also, Noah, you're such a wise person, I entirely agree with everything you say. W for trans rights.🏳⚧
Gender-- there are only 2 (Male and female), refers to the sex assigned at birth and the social aspects of being male or female, respectively.
Too many inappropriately conflate personality traits and temperament (Neither of which is gender exclusive-- hence effeminate males, butch females and tomboys) with gender. Then, they conflate gender and gender roles. Then, they conflate gender with s3xua@l preference. Then, they conflate males with females, men with women, and science fact with science-fiction and pseudo-science.
A woman isn't a social construct, a feeling, a sexual preference, or a costume that a man can put on or take off. They're adult, human, females and they were all born female, making the use of 'Cis' entirely irrelevant and intellectually vacant.
@@zachman5150read a biology textbook, an advanced one from recent years, not one for 5th grades 40 years ago.
@@zachman5150 Male and female are literally sexes
Every so often I need to tell you again how proud I am of how you just keep growing.
I would be so proud if I were your parent.
Noah, would you ever consider making a video about how your transition has affected your relationship with your voice/your music career? (Like voice dysphoria/your voice lowering with testosterone, etc.)
noah omg i have been obsessed with ur music lately i was showing it to my partner and he was like what is this soooo i blocked him
Detransitioners may also retransition. If they are pushed aside it may be harder for them to make the choice they need to make no matter their eventual decision.
In fact, 65% of detransitioners retransition.
@@bloodgutsandangelcake6079Where'd you get them stats from?
This is one of those channels I used to develop empathy for Transpeople and learn about the issues they face. As a gay man who remembers exactly what it was like to have these same transphobic arguments thrown down to marginalize and demonize gay men, it infuriates me. Nobody 'grooms' anybody to alter their sexual identity or gender identity. Nobody 'recruits' because we of all people, know we could not 'be recruited'. Trust me the cisgender heterosexual society sure as hell tried!
I really loved this video. It has so many good talking points 🙌🏻🙌🏻
I feel like this whole video is just Noah living the "It's not the vibe- STOP" meme lol
calling things transphobic during pridemonth is also something a bunch of people do as a joke fhfhf. my friends and i joke about minor inconveniences by going,, "Thats transphobic. And during pride month too!" just because making it funny and more light hearted can help especially during times when theres so much real scary transphobia going on
11:40 I used to work at Universal Orlando and found out that JKR doesn't make royalties on tickets sold, only on purchases of HP-branded food, beverages, and merchandise.
Its kinda ironic but my uncle (who is trans) doesnt ‘get’ non-binary and other people under that umbrella like a client he had was non binary and he flipped out at them, but the thing is the person didnt know he was trans so it looked even worse
‘no offense but like full offense that’s just dumb’
~ noahfinnce 2023
I dont remembered much from when i was a little kid but people saying they knew from a younge age doesnt invaild me it just shows people know things at different times then others and that makes its beautiful