Love & Relationships (feat @oliSUNvia)
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- Опубліковано 26 чер 2022
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Ggg
Make another podcast with her it was a banger y’all should have a channel together for pods
This should be good
m.ua-cam.com/video/CFyAhjGmi8k/v-deo.html
cringe
thanks so much for having me!! i need to say "like" less lol
it is ok olivia we forgive you
blehh dont worry about it, this is just another kind of hyperreal thing, dialogues and conversations are not as clean and fluid as in movies and we just naturally have those repetitive connectors
We love you, olivia
noo olivia :( i add extra “likes” to my sentences :3
@@SrCheetoss I actually think it might be a result of contemporary culture leaning more towards enforcing filler words, because they're generally more filler than repetitive connectors I'd say, but this would be due to decreased average attention span and/or narcissism seemingly being on the rise. This alleged rise in narcissism would, hypothetically, lead to a more "rushed" sense of conversation in order to try and keep the other person's attention. The more narcissistic traits a person has, the more you'll probably experience this feeling of being rushed whenever it's your turn to speak during a conversation with them and that much isn't even hypothetical anymore. So I think it's plausible that narcissism, along with many other driving psychological, societal, cultural, philosophical and, last but not least, spiritual factors, could be contributing more than we think to the shifts we perceive in language, which is still one of our biggest tools for communication.
oh my god the two of you are some of my favorite content creators on youtube i did not see this podcast coming 😭
NO CUZ SAME OMG-
AAAAAH SAMMEEEEE
Same 😂
lol same
such a coincidence
As a 30 year old man in a very stable, loving marriage to a woman I adore… I have to say, seeing the folks younger than me that were born digitally native raising concerns about how this culture and the internet is effecting their social skills and love lives is the only thing that gives me hope that one day we will all look back at this mess like we do cigarettes now. Sure go ahead if you choose, but you can’t say your ignorant to the damage your doing. I’d like that to be the future I live in, and gen Z creators like both of you is what enables me to have that hope.
My only advice as someone who likely grabbed one of the last “American Dreams” as they shut the door on it. It takes work. All of it. Every single day. Your house, your marriage, yourself, your kids… all of it takes a lot of work day in and day out to thrive. There is no other option. Take one out of the Buddhist playbook and accept that life itself is suffering. Only then, once you’ve come to terms with that and internalized it, can you wake up and suffer through that work to find all the rest of what life has to offer.
damn wise old man, thank you for your advice 🙏
@@popsicle2735 old? lol he's just 30
@@vivvy_0 im almost half that so that means he lived double my lifetime
thank you
Your message is extremely depressing
hearing the two of them laugh and compliment each other is a bit heartwarming
ParaSocial stock goes up
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you should Kay why ess tbh
Shrek 2 is the only movie i can think of that displays love after falling in love and when problems arise after the happy ending
The "Before Sunrise" series of films shows this brilliantly.
@DJ Barrett what year is the movie from?
@DJ Barrett cheers
@DJ Barrett I was confused because there were several movies and short movies with the same title, and I wanted to watch your recommendation
horimiya is an anime that shows a lot of this too. the main couple get together in like the second episode, and have a healthy relationship for the entire show. its absolutely adorable.
An unexpected collaboration, a welcome one at that though. Can't wait to listen to it :)
DAUGHTERS
Lol SIMP
Let's hope Alexis watches this. He could learn a lot.
@@titiseetv7830 oh shit fuck em up
Their bodies are open
The crossover we didn't know we needed.
In the wise word of my mother, you should believe in love as if it's waiting for you but live your life as if it doesn't exist.
42:50
totally agree.
being single, a loner, or fine with yourself is still SO stigmatized and has begun to be looked at as either narcissistic, extreme, or like a strange incel thing.
It’s totally ok, and in fact EVERYONE, should learn to be ok with yourself and ok with being alone.
People now want that microwave love (hot and ready in minutes). They don't want that stove top cooking love ( takes time and effort)
if you don't stir halfawy through, only the food at the top gets hot
@@mirandajatib6794 Lol. So True
However..
Sometimes nothing hits the spot like a nice *hot..* _pocket._ Know what I mean?
@@mirandajatib6794 not if you use a lid. :p
listening to this while going through mail as I hear “I hate that tiktok has made me feel the need to listen to videos while doing things” ….. lol same
me but while working out… pain
Tanner wth are you doing here?
been doing that since like 2015 with youtube tbh
@@hueban1643 Me too...
This was not the crossover I was expecting just two days after subscribing to both of you but I’ll take it.
You made this happen 🙏🏾
You were the catalyst
"I'm like a straight dude" ~Sisyphus55
you have been one of the biggest positives in my online life for the last 2 years. thank you for doing your thing and teaching us so much.
Pretty late to this but wanted to add a psychology perspective to this (i am not a psychologist but I am a psych student very interested in this topic). In a lot of psychological and neurological experiments they've demonstrated that love, all forms of love, may be better represented as a motivation (such as hunger, thirst, and sex) instead of an emotion. This is also shown with how a lack of love in childhood leads to many psychological problems, etc. There are also a lot of ties with romantic love and addiction. Additionally, the video Olivia mentioned, the Helen Fisher video, is based on her research that demonstrated how sex and romance use different brain systems so people can be in love but be sexually attracted to other people. However I believe that the whole thing with someone can be in love but sleep with someone else is more about respect, because if you loved your partner, and respected them, you probably wouldn't cheat.
Now coming at it from an aroace perspective (that I cannot be very scientific with due to the lack of research). I don't think love, in the way that love in romantic relationships is depicted, is exclusive to romantic love. I think you can have that sort of deep emotional connection with friends or even with one person in a platonic sense. A conversation I had with my dad when coming out to him really opened my mind when I said I didn't think I could ever be married because it seems like you have to approach it romantically. He told me that it starts that way but eventually it morphs into a partnership. And not that you stop loving your partner romantically but it becomes so much more than just that that isn't necesarrily romantic. Some aroace people (or queer people in general) have queer platonic relationships, which is essentially that type of love, the committment and intimacy and connection of romantic relationships in a platonic way. I think love is so much more than just romance and I think if these sorts of relationships were romanticized as much, not only would aromantic/asexual people feel much more accepted, but people with romantic and/or sexual attraction would feel much less pressured reserve all of this intimacy for romance and experience this love with their friends.
This makes no sense but oh well.
do u honestly think studying psychology and being a psychology student will give you some added benefit in manipulating people such as gaslighting? XDDDDDD
28:10 I disagree... Someone may be driven differently between their sexual attraction to someone and their emotional love for them. But by cheating on someone, they'd be aware they are emotionally hurting the person quite significantly. And I wouldn't say you could really love anyone if you are willing to inflict that pain upon them.
I guess there are some people that just don't have integrity and can be quite behaviourally impulsive even if they claim they value someone emotionally x( But that's an immature behaviour pattern that haunts those people their entire lives... Not an excuse for the cheating of course, but I have learned to accept and forgive this way for an ex I have, it's like he couldnt help himself.
@@aesha1878 couldn’t help himself is crazy. He made a decision to cheat. I don’t believe when people cheat that it’s an impulse behavior because you’re making a conscious choice to hurt someone knowing that you will destroy the person in the relationship. I understand you said not an excuse for cheating is never impulsive. It’s a choice.
Kinda want these two to make a podcast together, love these takes.
Liked that this didn’t send me into spiraling depression, as some of your content tends to do. More like that please
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lol felt especially after the losing someone you love vid😭
never expected the two of you to collab, holy shit
I'm working right now with this video playing in the background. I don't know how to sit down at my computer and work anymore without playing a video, listening to a podcast, talking on the phone with a talkative friend. It's like my brain just needs more and more. it cant just focus on one relatively mundane thing (I'm a copywriter and now that's way too boring for my brain). The only thing I can do without all these background sounds is paint. Or creative writing. So for me I think my escape is being deep in a creative process that isn't for money or a job. Writing for a living really killed the creativity out of it for me. Why am I on here rambling? Idk. I love both of you though and I'm just happy your channels exist
loved this comment, it's so relateable
Here's a collab I'd have never expected
I love the hesitation Ben had before admitting to using a dating app in the past, really speaks to how society hates the passive love in dating apps but not other circumstances
love this crossover! for realistic films about love, i would recomend the Before trilogy. eventhough the first movie focuses on young people falling in love, the latter two focus on aging, dissilusions, falling out of love and working through it. i love those movies.
I was looking for someone to say that. Those movies capture love perfectly.
appreciate you mentioning the differences between aromatic and asexual love
Really liked it when they mentioned the parts abt garlics, /j
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I prefer the crisp and clean variety of aromatic love myself, but I’m not opposed to others(except perhaps garlic love) /j
Culture focussing on falling in love and "highschool romance" is a case of chasing the dragon. Everybidy wants to re experience the initial high again.
just returned from an hour long walk contemplating her video on love. the timing: incredible.
I love both of these channels because they make me feel smart just listening to them
"But do we know how to make love stay? I can't even think about it. The best I can do is play it day by day."
OMG this is the collab i needed but didn’t know i love both your channels!
42:30 I should've known OliSUNvia fw the Symposium, God what a great piece on love
I feel like theres a common misconception of the metaphor “find/found my other half”. Imo, the phrase seems to reference the halves as two people creating a whole, being a complete team to carry on our animalistic tradition. With that being said, this team cant be considered “whole” or “complete” unless the two halves that make up the team are “whole” themselves. In other words, your other half isnt completing you as a person, theyre completing the both of you as a team.
IVE BEEN WAITING FOR A COLLAB LIKE THIS FOR SO LONG YOU GUYS ARE MY FAVORITE
Always enjoyable watching a colab between creators I’ve been watching for awhile. Nice episode.
These are the two channels I always love to watch and I admire, and I've watched both of their videos about this topic and loved how they expressed their thoughts on it, this is just the perfect collaboration I didn't even expect, and when I saw it I felt really excited ! :) Now after having watched it I can say without hesitation that it's an amazing podcast and I have enjoyed it a lot, love listening to them and their philosophy. Thanks a lot !!
WHAT TWO OF MY FAVS COLLABED?!? never thought i’d see these two together but i love ittttt
This is the best thing to happen IN WEEKS IM SO HAPPY
them laughing together makes me so happy 😭
I have watched some of olisunivia about romanticism and her the desire to be sad but I didn't expect this collab! I am pleasantly suprised :)
im struggling with loneliness and solitude, but hey, i watched this whole thing and feel a bit better (just binged like 2hs of your videos too) so thanks for that💕💖
ed: finishing this video, i feel a lot better and have questioned a lot of things about life, thanks for that! questioning your beliefs is part of growth
the collab i never knew i needed!
Being 21, almost 22, and off tiktok for around 2 years now has really put in perspective just how bad the app is for people my age and younger, and it is really hard to accept that. Dating is hard because red flags are now an instant no-go. There is no more working through problems with a partner and growing together, it's just "this is perfect" or "this is awful I can do better." So many beautiful relationships will never come to fruition because people can't put in the work.
I love these discussions! Amazing timing thank you!!
i love both of ur vids but i never knew i needed this collab omg!
GOAT’d collab, completely out of left field but I bet there’s a surprising amount of overlap in audiences
I just found this! Through my many youtube account changes, these two channels remain in my favorites. This is going to be an interesting and deep listen.
I think the pain that comes with your partner having sex with another person is only partially painful because of the sex itself.
To get to the point that they sleep with another person, they have to lie to you, hide things from you, and give that thing that you trusted them to keep between youz to another person. We're capable of complex though, so if your partner isn't capable of not cheating on you, that is absolutely an emotional thing too. Emotions don't have to be between them and the one they slept with - it's a betrayal of your emotions, and the attachment that you two have.
The only two phylosophical channels I follow, happy to see the collab 🙏🏻
I love how you’re collaborating with my favourite UA-camrs!!
This was the crossover I needed but never thought would happen
I never knew that this podcast existed, such a joy to find and listen.
the two undisputed best creators on the platforms on one video. Hell yeah
it's like seeing two worlds collide i love that
I have been such a fan of you two, I'm so happy to see this collab :D
What an amazing duo!
watched this whole podcast in the background and left not remembering a single thing but your voices
Would love to see more Collab content between the two of you, this was amazing
Yaay! Two of my favourite creators made a podcast about love and relationships!?
Gracias, this was a great podcast to listen to right before work.
hi sisyphus 55 i just want to say thanm you because ive been having a lot of trouble sleeping lately and i always play this podcast to help me fall asleep. this particular topic is intriguing for me, but i somehow always fall asleep as soon as my mind daydreams about the topics that you two talk about.
I can't believe I never saw this before I love these two so much
I love this podcast because my two favorite people are together talking ❤️❤️❣️🗣️
this is like the coolest collab ever- i know this will be one of my favorite podcast episodes
this is the crossover I didn't know I needed!
I can't believe my two favourite UA-camrs are working together!
A much needed collaboration
The Collab of a lifetime ✨
You two are the perfect UA-camr combo 🥰
I found both of your channels only a few months ago and now you're collaborating together🥳
Can’t wait to listen to this one!!
This was cool to listen to after having listened to both videos :)))
That talk about "attention span/the UA-cam addiction" really hit home with me.
I ABSOLUTELY LOVE THIS!!
I’ve enjoyed her channel since I saw the video about society’s messed up concept of love, this will be a great video.
10:55 I was not expecting to be called out like that. I'm doing a project for university and this just hit like a punch. Amazing talk btw I love both of your channels!
ARE YOU SERIOUS THESE ARE MY TWO ALL TIME FAVORITE YOURUBERS TOGETHER?!!!? DYING
I guess in the end love and relationships are subjective and defining either term is really up to the person. This was really insightful! I will be checking out Olivia’s content too!
Lmaoooo this a crazy colab super exited to hear this this feels like a dream
awesome thank you for sharing your experiences and thoughts
omfgggg 2 of my fave ytbers coming together 😩🙏
bro this is the collab i didnt know I needed wtf
the whole “lovers can’t be friends” thing is actually so interesting. i’ve never thought of it like that
Loving this!
I think many peoples self-consciousness pollutes the way they interact with the world. I don’t think a system’s perceived inherent flaws necessitate that we comply with such flaws. Instead I have found that authenticity is desirable beyond the superficialities of all of these so called social constructs. I am specifically referring to Sisyphus’ experience using dating apps and the perceived shortcoming of dating apps in general. Yes they encourage superficial interaction and can feel as though they commodify people in as y’all described however nobody is forcing you to go along with all of that. Your experience speaks to the immaturity and messiness of young people who use these apps, their desire for validation, all such things are present in more “natural” dating environments as well.
I had similar experiences and as I matured I realized it was because I was not behaving true to myself. Once I figured that out and doubled down on self acceptance and love I could use the apps without feeling bad. I knew what I wanted, to explore the variety of human interactions and ultimately find someone to share my life with. Rejection and disappointment allowed me to hone in on what I wanted in another person and also what I did not want. Self acceptance and knowing what I wanted ultimately allowed me to find someone that I feel truly grateful to have met and can’t wait to share the rest of my life with and yes this was on tinder. Tinder allowed our paths to cross at just the right moment in our lives, otherwise we would’ve never met. After the meeting we did all of the normal things ppl do to get to know each other. Boba and coffee dilates, dinners, activities, etc. I say all this to show that your perspective around dating is more important than the trivial ways you happen upon a person.
As the wise Hannah Of Montana once proclaimed “life’s what you make it so let’s make it right”.
The topic of romantic love is so complex ! I really loved this podcast as both of you are my favorite youtubers. Personnally I've always struggled with separating or distinguishing what makes platonic love different from romantic love. This especially started when some of my friends began dating people, even myself, and we all got so obsessed with our partners that we were forgetting our other relationships. Of course we were teenagers and deeply into following the societal script of what being in love should look like.
But when I started valuing my frindships way more, I wanted to know how looks a romantic relationship if you remove the sexual part. I knew that some people could envision sexual attactivities without romance, I used to engage in that as well in the past but seomthing felt wrong. So I've come to the conclusion that to me romance and sex are very linked but sex isn't a necessity to make things romantic. I'm still on my way to finding what exactly romantic love means to me, I've even started to question myself on polyamory over a year ago because I found their philosophy really intriguing and I was agreeing with basically everything I was seeing form this community - hence I did consider myself as part of the community for a while although I'm even questionning that at the moment.
But I think asking myself these questions, esepcailly because I'm interested in someone at the moment is really important. Not only because it's what we have deciding with that said person, but because it makes things more intentional, and I think that resonates with the passive vs. active love you guys talked about.
Also I do think that people shouldn't subject themselves to painful relationships but I do think that it comes naturally to people. The thing is, and I can only talk from my pov, that when you first start feeling all these feelings and start dating, you clearly have not as much experience as to knowing what you want nor are you necessarily in a place where you have an okay understanding of who you are since this usually starts in adolescence. I do think that if love is an art it requires practice, like Olivia said, that's why it's only normal that at first fallling in love and romantic relationships are difficult.
I'm still figuring things out and trying to deconstruct these ideals of love that society has engrained in us (also all the tiktok red flags that used to just be the flaws of people in most cases lol) but this discussion has given me a lot of hope for my path so thanks !
i love you two
The tension in the air
My favourite youtubers in one video. didn’t expect it but i’m happy nonetheless
OMG what a crossower episode luv em boff
Perfect collab.
THE CROSSOVER EVENT WE NEEDED
Already know it’s a banger 👍👍
yes collaboration of the month
This is so awesome! How unexpected!
My two favorite channels!
You guys should collaborate some more! Loved the dynamic and well thought ideas presented
Great podcast thank you 2
next collab gonna be with God
I needed this collab, Thanks for the amazing content :>
O snap what a blessed duo