How to be androgynous | How I find gender euphoria as an enby |

[@caitiemoriarty]

an old drunk lady told my parents during their 2017 anniversary dinner "your son..? daughter...? child?? I dont know but sh...he? is very adorable and I want to take them home" and I hope she is living her best life. that old lady introduced me to confusion euphoria and awakened the gender in me

[@Favenzz]

That's adorable 😭😭

[@apollosmuse_]

Does anyone else have the feeling they’re just talking to us on like facetime? It feels so comfy and personal. I love it here :)

[@ronniesmixedmedia]

Omg that’s so sweet!!!! Glad you like it here ;)

[@PecsaV]

@@ronniesmixedmedia I imagine a lot of people tell you this, put you are pretty.

[@tarynspamsss]

So accurate!

[@stm7810]

I wear a pink t-shirt that says "TOO QUEER FOR YOUR BINARY" and people still mistake me for a man, like how obvious do I need to make this shit?

[@c00k13z-by6kk]

damn those people don't even got a brain anymore

[@cosmic_seabunny]

Just saying
Baggy hoodies! 😩

[@Longboarding.macaroni]

Literally all I wear

[@cosmic_seabunny]

Me: I’m non-binary binary.
My mom: Oh no! 😥
Me: Yes!
My mom: but my wallet..
Me: WARDROBE CHANGE!

[@ramaa6064]

not sure what I'm doing here at 4 AM but you're so precious and warm and HELLO, THANK YOU!!! 🐈✨

[@ronniesmixedmedia]

Thanks!!!! ☺️☺️☺️☺️☺️☺️

[@frog8313]

this popped up im my recommended, finally youtube knows what im looking for

[@beep3242]

I feel so validated!!! I wear poet blouses and pretty clothes more than almost anything and I rarely see them considered as androgynous from other enbies. Androgyny for AFAB folk is generally seen as "masc lite", meaning skinny, short hair, and typical "boy's" clothes. This type of androgyny is great and I love it, it's just unfortunate to see other types be invalidated.
Of course, androgyny need not be the goal, but androgyny is literally a mix of "masc" and "fem" aspects and it's annoying to see androgyny that focuses more on pretty things be considered too feminine to be "true" androgyny. I've been told that since I like pretty clothes I'm not "enby enough" and it's just nice to have some validation for once lol

[@April0503]

Same! I have neglected my gender identity for so long because I like too dress “feminine”

[@wg99er]

Man when stores claim clothes are unisex , for the most part I think they look too masculine or too feminine , nowhere near true unisex:/ I got around this by wearing latex clothing, it comes in hundreds of colors and styles.

[@Ann-Abel]

UA-cam is sending me signals and I’m scared that it knows more about me than I do

[@theworldof11]

I'm afab demiboy, and my wardrobe is basically dresses, but appearing more andro would be so comfortable

[@graceh3039]

So I have finally figured out the gender neutral equivalent of Sir/Ma'am, and it's Sai (pronounced sigh), and for Mr. , Ms. , or Mrs. , it's Mx. (pronounced mix or mex). Also, very underrated video, I love it!

[@ronniesmixedmedia]

Thanks for the information very helpful!!!! Also thank you !!!

[@imlafonz8047]

gender is the maze of the minotaur. I sit above and look down upon the maze

[@drywall4310]

Your voice is so cute, your majesty (or gender neutral compliment of choice). Thanks for making this, you have such a chill vibe!

[@ayathasan9090]

I loved watching this! Your vibe is amazing and I’m obsessed! I’ve recently come out as non-binary and I’m trying to redo my wardrobe to help me with my gender euphoria and you video helped a lot

[@ronniesmixedmedia]

Thank you so much!!!! that really means a lot 💞

[@hayloe9373]

HEYYY OMGGGG YOU ARE SO ATTRACTIVE I CANT~ is that too bold? But ummm i love this video so much 🥺 ive been very ✨confused✨ about my gender... like, idk. But i do know that i am extremely happy being androgynous lol

[@ronniesmixedmedia]

1. Thanks omg 😳
2. Same just please don’t stress about gender coming from experience it’s not fun lol

[@hayloe9373]

@@ronniesmixedmedia 1. Of coursee :3
2. Thank you, I’ll try my best

[@caspertheunfriendlyghost]

How has your channel not blown up- like this video is already so well made and like great quality and it's your first video that's insane!

[@ronniesmixedmedia]

Thanks!!!!! 😭😭😭😭

[@cobwebbylolly8763]

im enby and I am gifted with a low raspy voice that's multigender that yall WISH you had. can't pull the fluffy e-boy hair but-

[@tayla2224]

i loved this video, your energy is so warm & welcoming :)

[@ronniesmixedmedia]

Awe thanks I definitely strive to be warm and welcoming!! :))

[@Th3_m0st_forgettable_g1rl]

For some reason my "bad" days of dysmorphia have been happening more often so that's fun😀 I'm going to try and convince my mom to get a binder, and it looks like a normal sports bra, wish me luck besties

[@le_eee_ee]

Now I really need a puffy Victorian shirt and a fancy watch, I’d never considered getting a watch before but it’s such a good idea :-) Also your sweater is the greatest

[@ronniesmixedmedia]

Thanks !!! Also love your pfp 💞💞💞💞

[@TheNitpickChick]

I really wish I could pull off the androgynous look better. Like a slightly feminine androgyny.
I feel like I’m currently way too wide and curvy, and I feel like whenever I try to look androgynous, I just end up looking fatter or sloppy since androgynous clothes don’t really come in my size without some serious searching. It’s a bummer sometimes.
But I’m working on losing weight, and I’m considering getting a custom binder for my large chest. Hopefully someday I’ll be able to pull off the look I really want. Here’s to hoping.
Until then, I’ll just stick with my usual t-shirt and jeans with maybe a flannel button-up layered on top for added visual interest. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[@kirbysthiccthighs]

1:12 was so precious omg-🥺🥺 your vibe is so comfy and positive i love it here

[@vmooney6692]

yay the algorithm blessed me, and its so true goblincore is immensely androgynous and I'm pretty sure its because its reminiscent of the feel of a lot of childhood clothing that any kid can use, like overalls, chunky sweaters, boot-cut jeans and the "Sunday-school collared shirt and pleated bottoms that is most likely going to have to go into the wash immediately by the end of the day because of all the grass stains and mud because kids will be kids" situation :)

[@LavenderMoon8467]

My one goal in life is to look like an androgynous Weasley lol. If I can ever do that I will be content.

[@devilmethewitch2024]

I get the pirate shirt thing! I think it could be that they're traditionally men's shirts and being puffy at the shoulders make them look bigger which is masculine I guess but have more frills and which are considered feminine by modern day standards?
I feel like my enby ideal self would probably be somewhat emo/punk goth with super ancient male fashion (or go down the anime route of fashion). The emo/goth is kind of like a subculture and many components they include like black lipstick or nail polish and many others can be androgynous (also coincidentally kind of vampire-ish?), and historical European men's fashion included a lot more elements like flowy fabric or decorations modernly considered feminine (I'm realizing that can also scream vampire because that's ancient) and I like the hats.
I also do a lot of print/floral shirts, dressy pants helpful, or some kind of flared(boot cut) or reaaaally wide legged pants or asymetrical skirts, and layers are my best friend. I'm definitely still working on fashion and stuff, and I'm looking forward to the day where people are confused by my gender. I can feel some of your tips calling out to me and I'll definitely try them! But there are also days where I'm lazy and like screw fashion I'm just going to pull out random stuff from my wardrobe and call it a day.

[@sunnivavoid5099]

wtf they're literally so pretty and handsome at the same time im actually dying

[@ronniesmixedmedia]

Omg sorry I’m just now responding but wth thanks 😭💞💞💞

[@sunnivavoid5099]

@@ronniesmixedmedia ywyw

[@Checkmate___]

Yoooooo thank you so much for this! :D I usually just wear t-shirts and pants cause I feel like anything else looks too gendered, but this actually gave me a lot of new ideas! Thanks!

[@ronniesmixedmedia]

Glad to hear

[@SG-zp4fz]

The K-pop hair be hitting 😭❤️❤️❤️

[@ronniesmixedmedia]

💀 kids at school called me k-pop with this haircut

[@SG-zp4fz]

@@ronniesmixedmedia it better have been a compliment cuz

[@ronniesmixedmedia]

@@SG-zp4fz i don’t think it was but hey, the kids at school were lame and straight so 🤷‍♀️

[@SG-zp4fz]

@@ronniesmixedmedia you got us now hun

[@fablecoffer2233]

Might you be able to do a video for very "male" looking peoples?

[@ronniesmixedmedia]

Yes ofc!!

[@ronniesmixedmedia]

I just uploaded it!!!! Sorry the video isn’t great 😅

[@Pa_amb_tomaquet]

@@ronniesmixedmedia Wait, you actually made a video because someone requested it? That's so admirable, I must say! 😳👏👏

[@luciajack0]

Thank you so much for this video!!! I have just recently discovered I'm nonbinary and this made me feel very comfy and validated

[@undead_steph3726]

you kinda remind me of a young chloe moriondo LMAO but also yes !!!! i totally feel the sorta “my gender? hah, no thanks” also yeah it’s pronounced en-bee

[@ghostofthefallenvalkyrie3320]

So for some weird reason (idk if it really is but oh well) I get gender euphoria when doing a makeup look similar to Mo Xuanyu from mdzs and basically cosplaying him- I looked at myself a lot in the mirror when I did that look and a ponytail that resembled his. I do wanna cosplay him fully sometime. Idk if this is weird but thought I'd share because I felt really happy

[@Longboarding.macaroni]

Me:I'm non binary
My mom: yOuR nOt OLd eNoUgH tO kNoW! JuSt Be YoUrSeLf
Me: *HOLY S***! I HAD NO IDEA THAT WAS THE ANSWER! WOW ALL MY DISPHORIA IS GONE!!🙄

[@smol_pluto]

Okay but their handwriting is astounding. It's so perfect.

[@Novaa-ld3xh]

god this is so comforting. I'm not even a minute in and I still liked and subbed

[@dellfabrigado3536]

OMG! I felt that gender euphoria you saying about people being confused what to address to andro people. But my friends said that it's weird or offensive experience which made me also perceived it that way before. But honestly my inner self as what I've remember was celebrating at that time, it's just I didn't realise it yet that it was normal and okey.

[@amphi2095]

Can I just say, you’re whole vibe is exquisite. Literally everything about you is just so cool

[@plague9774]

Wowie, ty! This was pretty helpful :3 you give off a friendly aura btw, I love it ❤️🖤

[@plague9774]

Also also, new subscriber as well (^^) 💜

[@ronniesmixedmedia]

@@plague9774 thank you so much!!!!

[@imyu6263]

love the video, i felt so calm and comfy here!

[@rifkah1033]

this was so helpful, thank you!!

[@ronniesmixedmedia]

Thanks ! I’m glad it helped

[@sketchystrawberry302]

this entire video is just reading my mind lmao

[@user-so1pk4dv3q]

This video has such a warm and welcoming energy it's amazing,i'm subscribing.You're too underrated i have to share this with my friends-

[@gerardtay]

Speaking of vampires, Alucard from Castlevania is gender goals 🖤

[@drewjay8940]

Okay so I'm not sure whether or not I'm an enby, but I feel extremely happy when I'm androgynous. Like I don't get dysphoria from skirts or anything and I wear them semi frequently, but my usual look is more androgynous. And the number one thing that gives me I guess what you would call general euphoria(?) Is broad shoulders. I picked up sports and weight lifting and put on some muscle (not as much as I would have liked, but some) and seeing how my shoulders have gotten so wide makes me really happy. My biceps to an extent too, and how my face has gotten boxier, but they're not as impressive lol.

[@honeypot9867]

It’s been a year, any updates? 😛💛

[@drewjay8940]

@@honeypot9867 omg yes thank you for asking! I identify as ftm. I'm way less athletic now, lol 😅 but I'm trying to get back into it, and transition is one of the things motivating me. But I'm actually living in a male dorm at my college. I've been wanting to do voice training for a while and honestly was kind of lazy, but I've been pretty consistent about it this last week. I think it's because I'm introducing myself as a man, rather than reintroducing myself to people who knew me as a girl. I still don't pass (I know you can be trans and not want to pass, but I personally want to.) I talked to a doctor about hormones, but I don't have imminent plans (in PA you need a therapist's approval, and with the chaos of graduation, then a big trip, then moving and starting school, I was not prepared to start seeing a therapist. But I'm looking into starting therapy again soon!)

[@honeypot9867]

@@drewjay8940 that’s fantastic !!
I’m so glad to hear that your figuring your shit out haha, it gives me hope that I can do the same. Good luck with starting therapy again, beginning is the hardest part of therapy in my opinion. Out of curiosity, what’s your major? 🙃

[@zvezda4701]

i feel so bad that I misread the title as "how to be an amogus"
(jokes aside, this is nice, as a transfem who usually prefers to dress butch, i've been trying to, at least for now while i can't transition medically, play around with my gender presentation in the hopes that i'll be read somewhere between a gay twink and a butch lesbian)

[@yepyep8679]

the video gave me such comfy warm vibes aaaaa i love it :)

[@ronniesmixedmedia]

Thank you also luv the pfp (=^･ｪ･^=))ﾉ彡☆

[@cazererrah]

OMG STOPP UR SO PRETTY 💗💕🌸💖😭🥺💘💓💞

[@astrama7102]

You are adorable, keep going ^^ (love from France!!)

[@ms.rottenstrawberry1018]

WHEN U MENTIONED JUNJI ITO MY HEART EXPLODED MY GOD U R AWESOME

[@tearvor9924]

fkgkgkg adorable
pls do hair tutorials, makeup tutorials, look books... i cant wait to see your future videos !!

[@fluessigFlamme]

Hi!
First of all, great video, thank you so much for uploading it.
I think there are many people (like me) who want to get inspired in so many different ways and directions to find our own style. You, sharing so much of yours and how you view them in the context of gender expression, is a very good inspiration for that!
Second, I would like to share a personal experience:
0:10 - 0:31
See? This is why the enby community is so great.
I struggle finding my gender identity. I don't identify purely as a woman, but I'm not sure what that means yet. I guess I'm probably genderfluid, but it might as well be demi-something or agender, bigender, trigender - I don't even know.
Other people may say things that are either not at all sympathetic or straight up rude.
The enby community is mostly just like "You are welcome as one of us :) Take the label and keep it for as long as you're comfortable with it. Remeber you are valid on every step on your journey."
This is so very, very great and helpful.
I hope everyone of you feels that welcome and accepted.
And one little message to everyone, because sometimes people need to hear it:
Remember to drink lots of water, get the sleep you need and be kind to yourself.
You are valid and inspiring ^_^
Have a nice day ~

[@elifitzsimmons3789]

a lookbook would be so cool to see!

[@mischasykes2434]

Why is your voice so comforting it feels like where on FaceTime :) Btw this video is really helpful ty!

[@gloomy1394]

cool i think im non-binary but im not completely sure

[@ms.rottenstrawberry1018]

Same

[@soy7772]

yu have such a cute voice its so soothing

[@LavenderMoon8467]

I am fairly tall for assigned gender and age, but I still wear docs so then I’m about 6’1. I have always felt insecure about my height and making me taller does not help, but docs. They’re docs. Who can say no to docs?

[@gationixqueremprego8223]

Your voice is so beautiful omg 🥰

[@bellakaloz5366]

your voice is so softttt literally talk me to sleep

[@littlepinkpie_]

Heyy!
U hav got such a sweet voice💕💕

[@virtueisdead6673]

Daaaamn, you said Vampires and I immediately thought of ma boys Lestat and Armand!!!! Hell yesss, already did all of these things but damn it is such a good feeling to see them all in a video. Also I have snails and rats as pets (they are some of my special interests and I love them soooo much ....).
Imma link this vid to ... everyone ahahah

[@dumb.account]

I always come back to this vid 😭 pluz never tske it awayyyy it means so much to me

[@teehee1404]

oh no. why did I watch this? now i badly wanna chop off my hair again dang

[@Llinabina]

In love with a ghost...flowers playing in the background!?

[@salmontrip1455]

I LOVE THE FACT THAT IM THE EXACT 400TH SUBSCRIBER DJDBDHDH

[@soaksignal]

this video will help me become my non-binary vampire dream, thank you omg

[@Rainjojo]

This video makes me feel validated 💜🥰

[@viashaw9789]

Everyone tells me to flatten my chest because I guess that's not non binary? Like I can wear a binder lol

[@ayushsinha2000]

tysm for this video

[@virtueisdead6673]

Am I the only one rewatching this vid bc it is so reaffirming and good and warm? .. just me? K bye 💕

[@tohruhonda5806]

You look so amazing!!! I love your hair and style, exactly how I wanna look. I just don't know how to get my hair to look androgynous it's already short but it's curly so idk what to do with it.

[@winmontgomery3143]

I went to work looking emby as I ever have and got called ma’am a few times. Wasn’t exactly what I wanted but the fact they couldn’t tell till I talked made me feel really happy

[@Jamie-813]

I was just talking to my therapist last week about the pleasure of confusing people with my gender presentation.

[@thegrumpydragon4854]

Oh my god I feel like we are the same person, so many things matched what gives me euphoria holy shit

[@thegrumpydragon4854]

I just watched your more recent content as well and I wanted to say I'm proud of your self expression and courage to allow yourself to change and grow. I'm glad I could resonate with an older video you created, even if it's not how you present yourself as much now. Keep being yourself no matter how that changes :)

[@HiyaEverybody.]

Hi, amazing video thank you, and that was just the cutest when you said "also there's sunlight here" 😁 Your voice... oh how incredible it would be to hear you say "we lived in Arizona and the skies always had little fluffy clouds in them" because your voice sounds like the one in the song by The Orb titled Little fluffy clouds 💖

[@ronniesmixedmedia]

Omg you are so sweet ! 😭 literally love The Orb omg best compliment !! ☺️

[@HiyaEverybody.]

@@ronniesmixedmedia OmG bless you! Thank you so much for the ❤️ and your reply, it's only early here in the UK but my day has officially already been made 😁🙌

[@HiyaEverybody.]

Hi and thanks again for the 2nd ❤️, I really appreciate it (kind of like right now in my life more than you could ever know) 👍 Hope you're having a super day 🤞💯

[@ronniesmixedmedia]

@@HiyaEverybody. aww thank you so much. I as well hope you are doing amazing !!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@HiyaEverybody.]

@@ronniesmixedmedia ❤️ Thank you so much 😁 Yes I'm optimistic that the proverbial corner is about to be turned, live in hope and all that. It's pretty cool that you're into The Orb as well 👍 So hey, what's going on with your life? I hope it's being beautiful to you ❤️💯

[@zafiroduarte3915]

idk why but i want to look and sound androgynous idk what’s its called tho and sometimes i want to be a boy more and i just wished i was born a boy but at the same time i like being a girl…

[@chloewingate]

I’m non binary and this helps a lot 😊. I only really told my close friends and family but I need help telling my really close friend because I don’t see her much and I don’t want her to think of me differently,

[@the_sourestlemon_8779]

I live in England and school uniforms suck. This video was interesting tho :3

[@ronniesmixedmedia]

Thanks! Yeah I assumed uniforms suck I just think some are pretty but it takes away individuality so I’d never want that:)

[@Rynziie]

it gives me so much gender euphoria when a kid is like "are you a boy or girl?" or when someone goes "why are you a boy and wearing a dress?" (im afab so its nice when ppl dont assume that im a girl, also my hair was short so lol)

[@yes3365]

0:53 I THOUGHT I WAS THE ONLY ONE THAT HAD THAT THOUGHT PROCESS SPECIFICALLY AT OLD PEOPLE

[@LovelyHades666]

David Bowie, but also Howl from Howl's Moving Castle is like the epidemy of androgony

[@tarynspamsss]

They are so niceeeeeeeee! I literally canttttttttttt. The jealousy and happiness I’m feeling are just- NOT EXPLAINABLEEEE!

[@anyaanthony5813]

Grandpa sweaters !!!!!!!!!

[@imoralista]

You remind me of Sunoo from Enhypen, very cute

[@stateofgrace03]

i get gender envy from fairies for some reason-

[@cirrus_blob4936]

omg same

[@ashisapotatoimash8430]

I've been finding it really hard to find anything that's long that looks androgynous so I'm very happy that I found some things I feel like short sleeve stuff is so easy to make look androgynous but I will have SH problem so short things sadly aren't a option for me

[@ronniesmixedmedia]

Maybe this might not be helpful, But I love the look of a long sleeve under a short sleeve. Like a white long sleeve under a black band tee.

[@ashisapotatoimash8430]

@@ronniesmixedmedia I add that to my list of things to get haha thanks :)

[@itisntevenagoodone]

I love fashion and skirts and dresses and that's mostly what I wear and also because it's more comfortable for me but I hate that that makes people think I'm a girl like if an amab boy/ enby wore a dress no one would say they're a girl 😭

[@ronniesmixedmedia]

That’s exactly my dilemma !! I feel you ╥﹏╥

[@alexadraws123]

WHERE DID YOU GET YOUR SWEATER I HAVE BEEN LOOKING FOR ONE LIKE THAT BECAUSE IT LOOKS SO ANDROGYNOUS

[@marsisbizarre5871]

Me being here the day before back to school clothes shopping...

[@hazuki689]

0:55 omg this is so relatable to me

[@OfDoom98]

Realizing I used to get so uncomfortable when people would question my gender in like middle school but now I don’t give af🥺 that’s on growth

[@cass137.]

i was always happy bout that lol
and ye i'm androgynous but more masc ig??

[@HangryOnPaws]

I have a really effeminate face (holy shit I hate it so much) and most make-up just highlights the more feminine traits Any tips to masculise or androgenise my face? (I'm nonbinary)

[@Hannah-kw]

YESSSSS SNAILSSSSSS!!!!!!

[@rmeows5087]

Since you love snails so much, most if not all snails have no gender! They can reproduce with any other snail and are considered non-binary. I have a gold Inca snail and I love correcting people on their pronouns lol

[@canyoufeelitnow]

Where'd you get your binder? My dad and I have been looking around lately and I wanna get some more opinions
Also great video, luv! It helped a lot and now I'm determined to get a pirate shirt

[@ronniesmixedmedia]

I got mine off of Amazon (ik not the best place) I don’t remember the name but it is one of the first results when you look up binders. There are tons of small businesses that sell binders on Etsy as well !!

[@sketchystrawberry302]

you should get one from GC2B! they’re really good (i just got one from there and it’s amazing)

[@Mint_moss0]

0:50 SAMEEE YASS

[@ayam7468]

Any tips for people with more feminine bodies? I can’t find pants that fit (been trying for years) so my 90% of my wardrobe is dresses.

[@ronniesmixedmedia]

🤔 I’ll try to think of some and get back to you !!!

[@melissa2339]

Ily but this is my adhd enby brain

[@bloom8590]

I'm a female very confused at half twelve am. I just don't know if I'm non binary or not - I've never really thought about my gender before. For anyone who falls under the non binary spectrum, how and when did you know?

[@michace]

For me, I had serious dysphoria towards my own body, and those feelings never went away. I hated my chest, my genitals, my period and pregnancy in general, though I knew those were normal things in most AFAB women. I loved hyper feminine things, aesthetics and characters, but I never felt like those things correlated with my identity, if that makes sense. It felt wrong and out of place when I wore feminine clothing or presented myself that way, even though it looked so natural on other women. I desperately wanted to be more masculine, to bind my chest, to stop my periods, and have the world perceive me as more masculine, but I don’t identify as a trans binary man and certainly not a woman, so I decided that non-binary was the best label for me. To this day, I still struggle with my identity and I’m closeted from my family.
Of course, this was just my experience and yours could be completely different. You don’t have to have serious dysphoria to be valid, and you don’t have to look a certain way to be an enby. At the end of the day, it just comes down to how you feel on the inside. With stereotypes and societal expectations aside, what do YOU feel like you are? Wanting to be more masculine doesn’t necessarily make you genderqueer. You can still identify as a woman and be androgynous, you could be a trans man, it’s up to you. Take your time to figure it out. :)) no need to rush with labels.
I suggest you experiment with things such as pronouns, gender expression, and names. You can ask your friends to call you by a gender neutral name or a different set of pronouns (they/them, he/they, etc) to see if you feel like they fit you.

[@Doveghost]

When I first heard about non-binary being a thing, I felt kinda jealous, but I was in denial of being enby myself. Eventually I started looking up different non-binary identities, and I discovered the term "demigirl" which means only partially identifying as female, and I knew it fit me as I never felt super feminine, but still kinda feminine.

[@davelewis8270]

I got gender euphoria because I was drunk and talking my normal amount on the train and there was this old couple were sitting across the aisle and I heard the man say to his (presumably) wife "fucking hell be talks more than a woman" in hushed tones. I laughed a lot.