Other than in the video? It’s the whole “I’m completely sure I’m x” “Shirt- no now I’m most definitely y- what the heck?” And yes I enjoyed this video very much! Made me feel all happy and stuff!
Lynn, I swear, you are a mind reader! I was just looking into the possibility of being gender fluid the other day! Thank you so much for making videos like this, It has really helped me along my questioning journey. You're the best!
Mostly the euphoria. Putting on a dress,looking in the mirror and thinking "wow,this feels so extremely right" old people saying:"excuse me young lady" when wanting something from me. A Person that publically read a book i wrote where the name on the cover was only my initials,talking about "the girl or boy who wrote this" sometimes the most random stuff.
I'm a senior citizen who's starting to feel free after 60 years. Thank you for this video. Wondering though because some days I feel maculine and other days feminine. I like wearing both clothing.
We of the younger generations are happy you're taking time to find yourself!!! More power to you and I'm glad youve learned a bit more about yourself :)
This feels very validating to hear someone of the older generation talking about being genderfluid\queer ect. Constantly hearing about how “the younger generation is confused” or “were just being trendy” feels very invalidating, and even tho Ik it’s not true, it’s hard not to let it get to me sometimes, so thankyou for sharing this. It helps me remember that I am valid for questioning my gender and trying to go down this path of self discovery. I’m sorry you couldn’t do the same when you were younger 😔
@@IamwhatIam2012I strive to be like you! I’m still trying to be comfortable as a young genderfluid but I know that it will get better. Thank you for reminding me of that!
how i realized i was genderfluid was when i realized it really upsets me that i can’t just switch between a man and woman’s body, that i “was stuck” just being one. i want to be seen as all gender and no gender
Yeah, imagine being a man, woman, agender, nb, Solaris from S06, Wfc Trypticon, Flumpty Bumpty, Jessica Rabbit, Gorefield, Devil from Cuphead, Alice Angel, Bowletta, Metal Overlord, Dreamy Bowser, Overlord from Ninjago, Vaatu, Foc Megatron, Fem + OG Homelander, Loki, Omni-man, Wither Storm, Bill Cipher, Nightmare Fredbear, Doom Ducky, Joy Kill, Murder Monkey, Chef Monkey (From Dark Deception), Goliath Clowns, Monster Vinnie from Fnac 3, Tai Lung, G1 Megatron, Foc Bruticus, Shockwave, many versions of Starscream, Bayverse Megatron, any version of Bidy from BNC, any version of Baldi from bbin games, Malak from DD, Breezie the Hedgehog, Robo Sonic, Mecha Sonic, Death Egg Robot, Great Eggman Robo, true final boss of Sonic triple trouble 16-bit, Bowser, Reaper Nurse, Cackletta & so much more... 🥰🥰🥰 Now u speak in language i like, THE LANGUAGE OF GODS 🫠 This time i'd truly prove to myself & everyone that i'm genderfluid and it's not JUST A PHASE!! 😼 Luckily the new Kung Fu Panda 4 villain is a shapeshifter 😁👍
my thing is that sometimes i want to appear masculine and boyish and i impulsively wish for short hair and want to wear that baggy alternative style that a lot of stylish guys wear, while other times i want to appear super cute and coquette with long girly hairstyles and skirts and cute dresses… i usually just see myself as a girl and refer to myself as she/her all the time, but even when i feel like i want to be and present as a guy, i still kind of see myself as a “girl” and just go with she/her… i genuinely don’t think my periods of wanting to “be a dude” is just me changing up my style to be more tomboy like, because i want to look, sound, and present like a dude overall, but i still internally feel like a girl :( i had a period of my life (during which i experienced the most intense desire to present as a man that i have felt up until super recently) where i was convinced that i was a trans man and that my feelings for this sentiment would slowly grow stronger, but then they switched up kind of abruptly and i wanted to be all girly and cute 😭😭 i honestly can’t tell if i’m gender fluid or not or if it’s just something like super internalised homophobia, but i’m kind of scared that i’m just convincing myself that i am when in actuality i’m just a girl who likes crossdressing as a dude sometimes 😭 the reason i started thinking about this so much recently was A) because i’ve recently started feeling pretty intensely that i just want to be a guy again, and B) i was weirdly super inspired by a character in a webcomic that i was reading… (💀) whenever they’re feeling like it, they do a full switch up, full wig, voice, name, and everything, from male presenting to female presenting, and i was just in awe about how much i wanted to be like them and just be able to switch myself like that at will 😭😭 it sounds so incredibly stupid that this scene was kind of my realisation, but it is what it is ig
Omg you just managed to express my exact problem though i am biologically male so just the gender role is switched in our Stories,....btw. you need to tell me the Webcomic title please i searched for a Story just like that and could never find it
This is also how I've been feeling! It's very inconsistent. I was also inspired by a character, I can't tell if I want to be him or be with him 😭 But I mean, at times, I look at myself and feel like a man, when I put men's perfume on I feel so much more masculine and it has felt affirming in a way. Then I look at myself in the mirror and feel like a guy. But I don't want to fully transition to be a guy, Idk what it is 😭
I really love that you mentioned gender euphoria. I understand that dysphoria can be extremely difficult and not being cis can be really hard, but it doesn’t always have to be. The basis of your identity doesn’t always have to be rooted in pain.
yes this is so true! people focus a lot on the negatives, when there can be heaps of good things and it's important to focus on what you *do* want, not on what you don't
Dysphoria for me (only sometimes): "Ugh. I need to get a binder." Man "Wow, I'm hot today." Woman "This is not right, what am I missing??" Non-binary/other
Gender alone at home be like: *feels quite comfortable with agab, doesn't have to worry what clothes to wear or worry about gender much because nobody is around* Gender outside home: *stresses about being percived as their agab, doesn't want to go and correct people because they might not understand it*
I realized I was gender fluid bc in the time of a few months I went from heavily identifying as agender to identifying as a demiboy to feeling very much like a trans boy and then feeling like a girl again. and then I was like yeahhhhhhh I think I'm gender fluid. . .
Thats just called being in a phase, not in the way your thinking. We all go through them, you might really like sports for mounth and then like anime. Same with feeling masculine and feminine. No girl feels feminine the entire time they are alive. Its just existing.
Sounds more like you're just confused. If archeologists dug up your bones two hundred years from now they wouldn't say "hey neat! we found a genderfluid skeleton!" They would say "We found a female skeleton." Facts are facts.
I can't imagine myself in ten, five, twenty years, it's very confusing for me, sometimes I feel masculine and sometimes feminine, and other times I feel like I don't fit into either of the two.
@@bbydeMoN7 Not fitting into either isn't necessarily non-binary ^^ Non-binary is a bit different, i've found often people who are genderfluid, including myself, don't exactly feel non-binary, but more something else, or a lack of something - I can't really explain how it feels, but it doesn't really feel like being non-binary It does change from person to person
As a male conservative, I find this heartfelt and genuine. We are all granted equal rights by our creator. Bless you for your sharing and may it help others.
Generally speaking, if you are personally conservative and live a conservative life, that’s not a problem at all, it’s when you start affecting legislation that infringe upon people who had the same rights on you is a problem
@@bajablast1248They're not saying random religious stuff though, it would be different if he said repent to Jesus or start quoting Bible verses. Calm down
I knew I was gender fluid when I read the Magnus Chase series and read Alex's description of gender. The only difference is that I don't mind people just using they/them pronouns for me, because I'm ok with those pronouns all of the time and my feelings about he/she/it changes day to day. I just don't like to explain myself to people.
How does your gender seem to change? Is it feminine or masculine energy and behavior or is it something else? As an agender/androgynous male i don't understand the obsession with having a gender, i feel like we should all be ourselves and skip the labels ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
@@lillnirp That's a really personal question and while I don't have a problem answering, I don't think my response is going to be as satisfying as you might hope. I'm autistic and have a difficult time defining my feelings (even to myself), but it really is based on that. I usually can tell based on how I react internally to how people refer to me and what pronouns they use for me. So if I'm having a masculine day, I might hear she/her used and feel terrible, but hear he/him and feel profound joy. They/them is a positive internal response 99% of the time so it's what I usually request be used for me. Some days I even feel like I have no gender at all and get euphoria from people referring to me as an it, which I know can be controversial. It can be confusing, which is why I don't usually bother to try and explain and just say I use they/them. For myself, I don't care so much about labels as a whole, which is why I'm flexible about which ones I use in what spaces based on what I think people will be familiar with. But they are useful for communication purposes, and societal purposes, and for finding a community. And communities are important.
@@cinnamoncleric it is a very satisfying answer actually, i'm autistic myself and have all my life been CBTing myself to rid myself of "unwanted traits" which mostly would be how i react emotionally to stuff, trying to be a healthier person mentally i started "shaping myself" and my personality from an early age. I think it might be the same problem, only that i directed my energy into changing myself and how i react to the world, rather than trying to change the world around me and how others react to me. Have you ever tried just not caring about gender? To me gender/sex has nothing at all to do with who i am, how androgynous i might be or anything - it is just a fact that i was born male and thus people refer to me as a he; i don't feel that i have to be or act a certain way because i'm referred to as a he and i have no feelings about it. Isn't that a healthier and better option than having to try to explain to every new person you meet that you will have a different pronoun each day, just to feel okay? No critique, just seems very impractical and gives unwanted attention
I literally love how you always match the background of your computer monitor to the content of the video, a very original and cool idea in my opinion.
I know that for me personally I have the most negative feelings from gender when I experience my agab A lot of “why did I ever think I wasn’t cis? Was I faking it this whole time? Oh shirt what if I’m actually cis” but then again “why did I even cut my hair this short? Will people look at me weirdly if I wear a dress?” I’m so glad Lynn made this video, hearing all that from them made me so happy and made me feel seen Lynn, thank you! Thank you so much!
you hit every nail on the head for me. i identified as a man and a woman. both feel extremely constricting when they stand alone. i was born a female. hate my chest and my face, am ok with my curves and my butt. don’t like they/them, and feel euphoria when being called he/him or she/her - depending on the day. it’s taken me 6 years to figure this out lol.
No, the only sign you get is to seek help if you feel like this video is "literally me🤭💋💅🏻🤪" stop being online for a month and you will see how delusional you are. If you are a child, do not listen to people like this woman on the internet, those people try to manipulate you into something that you are not so you can "accept what we are and be in the lgbt because being a woman only is trash". And trust me when I say genderfluid doesn't exist, since when you can choose your genitals? Since when you can change your sex because you wear men clothes??? Dont be influenced and stay out of chirurgie stuff before regretting that choice.
@@lynnsaga1397 girl you are literally trying to influence children on things that don't exist and you say it was "meant to be"? You are creepy. You are a grown ahh woman trying to influence children on the internet like it's a daily basis, you get your whole personality from TikTok and then tell your viewers "it's ok to have a dysphoria" when you literally don't know what is a dysphoria or how trans people feel with dysphoria, you are trying to manipulate people so you can have intention but when you actually get it you just give terrible life advice for children. But you know "it's a trend so i have to post it!!" "I saw so many people that don't have a father figure like me that say they are nothing but a doggy, so I identify as a doggy too!" Like it's cute or edgy.
i remember when i bounced back from gender to gender, agender, nonbinary, demi-girl, trans boy. i was just very very sure i wasnt a cis girl. I then went on the internet some more and found the term genderfliud, i finally felt myself. Gender is weird and stupid tbh, long story short, dress how you want and go be yourself. no one wants to go looking for something their whole life when they can make that something themselves.
I don't understand why are you talking about clothes, like is clothes a gender structure?? I don't understand you and your point of view because nothing is making sense at all. You can't just decide if your a trans boy, a "demi boy" idk tf that mean or a non-binary. I can be a woman dressing in men's cloth and still be a woman. I see where's your problem, you said "i then went on the internet some more and found the term genderfluid"... Internet is not real, you are influenced by people behind a screen and those same people try to create "another sex" when it's just male or female. If you don't feel like a woman, talk to your psychologist multiple times about it and THINK ABOUT IT for a long time before making dumb ahh choices like being "genderfluid". It doesn't exist, just look at your vagi and tell me if it's genderfluid or not. Also, as a christian, i hope God forgive you for misunderstanding his choices so you can call yourself something you are not.
I took me awhile to finally figure what gender I am. I went back and forth if I was cis woman or agender. I finally realize that I might be Demi-girl/agender. There some girly stuff I like (examples are the color pink, Disney Princess, and romance) and then there things about being a girl I don’t like (examples are makeup, shaving my legs, getting dress up and playing with my hair). I also know that I’m not trans, that sure thing. It just there times I like being girl and there times I don’t feel like a girl.
maybe youre genderfae? correct me if im wrong, but im pretty sure its basically genderfluid but no masculinity. like you fluctuate between girl, demigirl, enby, agender, etc but dont feel like a dude or demiboy at all
Ive dressed very feminine and very masculine on and off, and I dont know but I dont care what pronoun someone calls me by. I dont know if I am genderfluid or not but I loved your video. I have always wanted to be able to switch freely between genders.
Starting to question if I’m genderfluid but I’m not sure if I am. I definitely feel more masculine some days and then get fully convinced I’m just a trans guy just to turn around and be like noooooo man feels way to masculine I just want to be some gender less blob and sometimes I’m ok with my chest and other days I hate it. (I’m afab btw). Then on certain days I’ll be like I feel comfortable being fem but I’ve never had a moment where I fully identify as a girl. My masculinity and femininity fluctuate but I’ve never fully identified with she/her, sometimes she/her feels nice and sometimes it doesn’t but I’ve never felt like oh just she/her and girl, does this mean I’m still genderfluid?
I remember back in elementary, there was a long period of time where I was feeling like a male. I acted so unladylike to the point where my friends would refer me as a ‘he’. I remember being extremely happy when I was being called as a he. But after that year passed, I started feeling more girly, I would start paying attention to things that girls like, ex: dresses, long good looking hairstyles and whatnot. I thought maybe I was wrong about me wanting to be a guy, maybe I’m just a tomboy or in a weird childhood phase. And I started hating the fact that my friend would question me why I’m acting girly all of the sudden, I know they most likely asked out of curiosity but I remember thinking it and was confused why did I start hating being called a he when I used to love it? Fast forward another 2 years and I’m feeling tomboyish again, this time I feel happy when my classmates would refer me as a he and even called me by my middle name (which sounded more masculine while my first name sounded more feminine). My classmates would refer me as a he because they thought the pronouns suit me better. Now, after another 2 years and I’m starting to get confused because I don’t feel like a he or she anymore but rather as a non binary. I was introduced to the tern genderfluid previously and thought that describes me, but when I feel non-binary it suddenly doesn’t make sense. Can you feel like being some other genders other than male and female as a genderfluid? And is it possible for a genderfluid to stand by a certain gender for a long period of time?
Genderfludity isn't just a flux between Male and Femme , it can also be nonbinary or agender or neos , it can be whatever you feel like in that moment. Its like it's name, your gender is fluid. 😼
Yes absolutely! Being genderfluid encompasses many different presentations and identities. You could identify as male, female, non-binary, or anything else. Any combination. I personally feel like I fluctuate between male, female, and nonbinary. That’s why I use he, she, and they pronouns. 😊
These do sound like my feelings, sort of. I'm male (?) and am okay being one for the rest of my life, I just don't like how it's basically not an option for me to be otherwise, and I don't like that it defines so much about how my life must be lived.
Thank you for making this video! I’ve been questioning if I was gender fluid for a while now, and knowing that I relate to a lot of the things you talked about has helped me a lot! Also, I love the backgrounds you put on your computer, they’re all so cute!
Well its a choice, not one I would make, but just know that Gender fluid...ness isn't what you are, if you want to chose that life for yourself thats fine, but its not a part of you, y'know
@@anakinskywalker1886 even if being genderfluid was a choice, why is that not a part of them? im genuinely confused on your logic because if you identify as something... that thing becomes a part of you, or at least of your identity, like if you like doing art and decide to call yourself an artist that's a part of who you are so how is being genderfluid (or choosing the label "genderfluid" for yourself) not a part of who you are? genuine question, i mean no harm
@@pouinkimir I understand your point, but there is still an issue. If someone painted something, then called themselves an artist, that's called delusion. Sure, you could get into the nitty gritty of word definitions but being 'Genderfluid' is not real, it's a construct, a placeholder, to explain why your mental health is low.
I dont understand gender. I swear i thought i was agender fir a while then like im suddenly a trans girl. It goes back and forth. So from what ive worked out my gender is something beyond human comprehension.
I've personally felt guilty for not just wanting to choose one gender. I lean pretty far towards female, but lately especially, I smile when someone calls me a he in a video game or on my socials. And before I heard the word genderfluid, I thought being a they them person would best fit my wish to be both. I also hadn't heard that THAT was also it's own thing. Also, as you've stated, your identity can change without you being truly fluid. Everyone is trying to solve the puzzle that is their mind and soul after all. Thanks for making these!
It's difficult to me to realise whether I'm genderfluid or not, because I don't really feel "the transitions" and neither do I feel any dysphoria. I just feel gender envy towards every cute boy/girl I see and my top 2 dream of all time is to change my body however I want whenever I want at a flick of the fingers with no repercussions. Totally cis.
I've had times when I've preferred thinking of myself as my parents' son, thinking of myself as a man, and thinking of being called things like "Mr." and "Sir," and other times (privately because I'm not out as Genderfluid yet) I've preferred thinking of myself as my parents' daughter, thinking of myself as a woman, and thinking of being called things like "Ms." and "Ma'am."
I had been having dysphoria for months, especially because of my chest but it would happen one day and the other I’d be fine. Another thing that made me realize that I might be genderfluid was that one day I put my hair up and was like, could I pass off as a man? And also the fact that I would kill to be called handsome, which will probably never happen.
Hey there! I'd love to see one of these style videos on being genderflux. I recently learned this term and I think it's extremely valuable, especially in the nonbinary and trans community. I'm always feeling both male and female (I guess that's bigender, but I prefer to describe my gender experience as androgynous), but to what degree I feel both changes fairly regularly without ever truly shifting outside of my gender, as with genderfluid people. I've found this part of my gender identity really confusing to understand, so I think more conversations on this topic would be useful for others who don't quite understand their changing gender intensity.
If Social Security and Pensions did not exist, there would be none of this non-sense. You would need to have children to care and protect you in your old age. But, because you think you will not need children to care for you when you are old and infirmed, you toy with these really stupid ideas. Since Social Security may not survive till you are 67, I( suggest that you stop the nonsense, get married, and have the children you will need in your old age, It is either that or be eaten by rats when you are old and fall ill.
I would be out but I’m a teen and I don’t feel like I could be myself in this place with a bunch of people constantly judging you and bringing you down so Ik my gender fluid but I feel it and it makes me happy I’m not tied to this one gender but I js can’t tell people
I've concluded that I was genderfluid a while ago, but I love vids like these, (or any content supportive of genderfluid people for that matter)! I grew up in the "genderfluid cringe" era of UA-cam, where the label was getting a lot of traction online and none of it was good, so I still push off the label a lot. Whenever my gender shifts to a more fem leaning one (I'm AFAB), I get a lot of shame and doubt, as I want to fit in with non-fluid transmasculine people really bad. But vids like these serve as a reminder that other genderfluid folk and I have reasons to celebrate our identities, no matter what anti-fluid folk say. :)
You have a specific and unique personality to yourself, your gender doesn't change. There's no such thing as feeling male or female, there's only feeling like you. Every person in the World feels different from day to day, that's called being a human. Just because a man wants to dress more feminine doesn't mean he's female, it means he's male with his own personality that's different from anyone else. Wanting to do feminine stuff doesn't mean you feel female. As I said, there's no such thing as feeling female.
@@mikepriestey2547 Once in a while I enjoy being called a woman, but sometimes it makes me severely dysphoric. More often I enjoy being thought of as a man, but sometimes that also makes me uncomfortable. And sometimes the lines are blurred, which is why I normally present as nonbinary to simplify it for other people. It fluctuates, which makes me genderfluid.
Two years later and your video is still getting a good message out there. The discomfort of feeling locked into a particular way of being perceived made a lot of sense. While I do think I would prefer to have a more feminine baseline than I do as an AMAB person, the idea of transitioning to full-time fem presentation feels confining. Thank you for putting this out there.
this was really helpful--particularly points 1 and 2. and just in time for my questioning! thank you very much for making this quick and informative video. i've been very unsure on what label fits me best for a while now.
Thank you for this video. I am currently going through how I see and feel about myself. For many years I was masculine in my dress now I am more feminine in dress, yet I don't choose my appearance based on feminine or masculine. So I'm considering if I'm genderfluid.
Thank you for this video! The fact that I haven’t entirely been able to figure out what gender I might be because I can’t seem to pin down my sense of gender has made me realize that I’m likely genderfluid, and this video has helped me to confirm that. I do feel least attached to my “male” self, but there are definitely things about him that I like, and times that presenting as him make me really happy.
If Social Security and Pensions did not exist, there would be none of this non-sense. You would need to have children to care and protect you in your old age. But, because you think you will not need children to care for you when you are old and infirmed, you toy with these really stupid ideas. Since Social Security may not survive till you are 67, I suggest that you stop the nonsense, get married, and have the children you will need in your old age, It is either that or be eaten by rats when you are old and fall ill and are helpless on the floor, a couch, or a bed.
This hit right on the nail, every single one, for me and I am genuinely speechless. I'm 21 years old and have spent my whole life trying to figure out why was so fluid in how i identified, and how to pinpoint what i feel. I was trans for a bit, nonbinary, 'cis', but always snapped right back to feeling this way. I never considered genderfluid until I stumbled upon this video, and wanted to watch only out of seeking more knowledge on lgbt matters. I never would have guessed that it would be the missing puzzle piece clicking into place. Thank you for this video, you've helped me understand myself finally after so many years of feeling lost/confused
I'm gender fluid, but usually identify myself as non-binary with they/them pronouns simply because that always makes me feel good and anything else would feel like a burden on those around me (also due to transphobic people she her pronouns are never ok, so I don't see the point as much). But it's definitely the fluctuating dysphoria that tipped me off- it made me doubt myself a lot when I came out because I wondered if I was just doing it for attention when I felt bad (news flash, dysphoria Feels Bad). But now I'm much more comfortable, and style myself either more masculine, feminine, both, or neither depending on the day- I've even made myself a chart to help nail down my gender expression if I can't figure out what to wear or smth. The chart is a quadrant with masc/fem on the x-axis and strong/ambivalent on the y (to indicate how strongly I feel about my gender that day). My worst days are -x +y because that's masculine/strong and, unfortunately, my body is not very masculine and binders only do so much work
Oh... I'm genderfluid. I'm still figuring out my sexuality, but at least now I know where this occasional body dysmorphia comes from. Thanks a lot, you make me feel more at ease
I am just now figuring things out, and hearing your video helped me to not feel like I am just a confused person, but that I can be happy without needing to permanently pin down one aspect and commit to it.
I feel like I'm both, mostly male but I feel like I act kind of female a lot of the time and I'm into some girly stuff also.I don't really like it when people expect you to be a certain way based on appearance etc.I don't really care what label I'm under, it took me a long time to figure this all out and also accept it but now I know who and how I am and I'm feeling good about it.
NO BC SOMETIMES IM FULLY CONVINCED IM A TRANS GUY THEN NEXT IM FULLY CONVINCED IM A CIS GIRL AND EVERY POINT IN THIS VIDEO RELATES TO ME THEN WHEN YOU SAID 'fluctuating dysphoria' THAT REALLY HIT HOME
I’ve been watching your channel for a while and it’s been really helpful! I actually figured out I was ace because of you, so thanks! (Still figuring out where on the spec though lol) Also I love your vibe and your overall look, you give me gender envy x.x I’ve been questioning my gender for a little over a year now and I’m still SO confused. I originally thought I was genderfluid, then nonbinary, demigirl, agender, etc… During the time i identified as genderfluid, I felt one way for so long, I started questioning myself all over again, because I couldn’t tell what I was feeling. I know im not agender, at least, because I do feel as if i have a gender. Online, sometimes people will refer to me as “he” and i feel really good about that! “They” is nice as well, but feminine pronouns and terms make me feel weird. Someone used mixed pronouns for me once and it felt amazing (iirc it was xe, he, and they) My parents are not accepting so i can’t talk to them about this unfortunately, and I can’t really get neutral or masc clothes/haircuts, which really sucks. One weird thing is that with my current haircut, most of the time I feel like it’s too feminine, but rarely I feel like it looks sort of androgynous?? The two times I tried to look andro/masc (binding w sports bras, and wearing a tank top with jeans; tied my hair back) I felt really euphoric. Why do I feel this way??? Again, thank you for your content
I recently went to a LGBT group with my boyfriend for the first time and I met a gender fluid person and when they where talking to me I asked them about how they found out they where gender fluid and asked them about how they felt when they where figuring it out. And it all described exactly how I feel, and this video is helping me confirm that I might be gender fluid myself
If Social Security and Pensions did not exist, there would be none of this non-sense. You would need to have children to care and protect you in your old age. But, because you think you will not need children to care for you when you are old and infirmed, you toy with these really stupid ideas. Since Social Security may not survive till you are 67, I suggest that you stop the nonsense, get married, and have the children you will need in your old age, It is either that or be eaten by rats when you are old and fall ill and are helpless on the floor, a couch, or a bed.
I actually realized I was genderfluid when the term was explained to me a while ago, but I never really felt that strongly of it until about a year or 2 ago. Recently I've been trying to figure out what fits me more specifically, it took a bit but I got there eventually. I went from genderfluid, to demigender, to demifluid, back to genderfluid, and finally to genderfloren with a slight pull to masculinity. When you realize that gender identity and gender expression are 2 separate things, it really opens up a whole new perspective to things. Just try to have fun with it, see what works with you, what pronouns make you feel good, how you want people to perceive you. Hope this was helpful ^^
1:03 i put my title to any because i feel like being called a he sounds cool but a she is cool too!! but then again they looks great ty i been trying to find out why i do this:)
So im thinking i am gender fluid, and this has definitely helped make me feel more confident about saying im gender fluid. I dont really feel the dysphoria or the pronoun part. But i occasionally get a clear urge to look femenine/masculine. And the one thing id change about me would be making my face androgynous
Nice conversation yeah. I'm nonbinary androgyne. I feel like yeah that's me. I appreciate the multifaceted ways you made your points about all of this. Yeah it's ultimately up to the individual how they feel. It's about the euphoric feeling of what's the most you yeah. I wanna check your video with your friend too! Definitely followed, looking forward to more of your commentary. 🍀🍀🍀
Thanks for making this video :)) Ive had trouble figuring out what gender I fall into, and I’ve identified as just male all my life until recently. Since a few months ago I felt myself identifying from male to non-binary to demiboy and it felt like this constant shifting of mindsets for who I want to feel like that day. I’m glad this term exists because it makes me feel comfy, but I want to mention that sometimes I have dysphoria with many labels including this one since I feel like I’m going to seem as if I’m “faking it” even though that’s not true at all. I just want to be me. So for now, I might go as genderfluid or unlabeled :)) thanks for making this video!! It’s given me some thoughts to ponder on and venture through ❤
If Social Security and Pensions did not exist, there would be none of this non-sense. You would need to have children to care and protect you in your old age. But, because you think you will not need children to care for you when you are old and infirmed, you toy with these really stupid ideas. Since Social Security may not survive till you are 67, I suggest that you stop the nonsense, get married, and have the children you will need in your old age, It is either that or be eaten by rats when you are old and fall ill and are helpless on the floor, a couch, or a bed. Ponder on those thoughts, which will become a reality for you if you do not stop the nonsense, get married, and have kids.
I mean idk why but I’m completely fine with being called they / them or my birth gender she / her and I’ve put it in the back of my mind for awhile but I just realized how I was earlier like wanting to be girly and then not but I’ve been feeling like this for a while and I came out as ace/queer and I just went back to thinking about my gender and I currently go by she/they because I feel really comfortable with those pronouns and I go ether by my given name or kylo. So idk if I’m gender fluid or enby and I’ve been so confused ….help idk can someone explain this to me?
No, it's not valid. Being a child on the internet trying to decide if they feel like a girl or none is actually ridiculous, mostly when those children get top chirurgie LEGALLY when they can't really know who they are exactly. You and this dumbahh woman are weirdos that are trying to legalize being nothing, like literally. Imagine telling a child that "being a gender fluid is sooo valid and you are one because you have a "dysphoria" (even though its a disease that only trans people have to deal with) is disgusting. Internet is not your personnality whatsoever so please gtfu of your phone and talk to people without saying stupid ahh things like that.
thank you so much for this video. I match literally all of the 5 signs to a T. I think I know I'm genderfluid for some time now but I struggled with seeing it as valid or wished to be "just one" gender to make it easier. Lately I stress a lot about the gender not being seen as valid or just "I enjoy wearing all kinds of clothing" etc. meanwhile I feel the shifts so strongly sometimes. And when I'm in my manhood (using "manhood" and "womanhood" might help me a lot to grasp it and explain it), well, I'm a trans guy often. I have so many of the common experiences with other trans guys, always had, from puberty.... but. It's not my only gender. I'm fully trans but also I have more than 1 gender. I'm being random now but just. This helped me a lot. I have a long journey in front of me, my dysphoria when I'm in my manhood is so strong sometimes that I can't function well... but I don't wanna be in denial anymore. To all other genderfluid folks: we're great.
I still have yet to come out to my family as gender fluid. Keara Graves has really made me feel comfortable and valid with defining myself as so. I had always wondered and now I feel secure. Love your video!!
In that stage myself, it took me until I was 33 to realize that, though rather rigid compared to the stereotype of gender fluid, being predominantly just male, I do sometimes flip to female and feel VERY uncomfortable for "being female" until I later just fucking accepted it... Flipping female for some moments of time, but never days, as I, from early childhood, taught, to be a boy... Very, very rarely I'm both genders simultaneously. So being predominantly just male, makes it much more likely for me thinking that I was a cis for years as it did, but I couldn't deny my extremely flamboyantly feminine pictures of my childhood; in the moment of me being who I really am, without the bullshit...
I recently figured out that I am gender-fluid and this video helped a lot with that, so first of all, thank you so much. Also, only 3 days ago I just got back from a week-long camping trip with my scout troop, and on (I think Thursday but maybe idk) Friday I was reading a book outside my tent when this kid yelled to me from across the campsite our troop was sharing with another troop, “hey, are you a boy?” to me. My biological sex is female and it felt so good in that moment when I knew that that guy did not know whether I was a boy or a girl. I have also been told once that I have long hair but I have a masculine face, which has also made me feel good, so I know this comment is really freaking long but just wanted to say thank you for making this video!
I often switch between a desire for a chest binder and a padded bra. Like, my chest is an ✨issue✨ 😂😭 At work I get called "sir" and 'young man" And sometimes I love it & other times I'm annoyed. Cuz like, female but also non binary and is that even a thing? So I like to say I'm gender fluid. But I don't really know.
Ik this video is like from 2 years ago but are you able to be genderfluid without changing your look to look more masc/fem? I'm fine with people using she/they/he as my pronouns but I don't really dress masc. Would this make me genderfluid or no? I'm so confused T~T Update: I think I feel more in tune with Girlflux :3
Sometimes, i love being a girl(my cis gender). It's really fun and other times, i love the thought of being called a boy or someone's boyfriend in the future, or nothing at all. I finally found out i was a lesbian last year and only came out to my family, and I'm still struggling with accepting it a bit. I think i might be genderfluid and want to get a binder, but i'm scared that I'll be changing too much in my family(they are allys). But i keep it a secret from them about my gender that I'm trying to discover. I definitely can't tell my church friends. Only 1 of them knows, and she's a bit weird about it but still loves me(she and my other church friends are homophobic). I really hope to make LGBTQ+ friends so they can get me and accept me for me (My name is now Ryder)
I like she and her but when it comes to gender expression is hard. I feel masc one day and fem next day and both sometimes. It creates stress what to wear .
Where were all these other letters when gaze and lezboz were on the streets fighting tooth and nail for their rights 35 years ago, risking everything?Soon as the road is clear, all these other crazies/cowards come out of the woodwork to add their own letters lol that’s the real #metoo movement boys and girls
Thank you for using non-cis and explaining why you use it because I hear a lot of "So you're trans" when I try to explain my gender. Not that they're wrong, but I still heavily identify with my agab while also feeling like other genders. I've joked with my friends about being "cisn't" or "CIS+, the premium subscription to unlock exclusive gender content"
I have no clue what to call myself still even after this 😂 I feel like my masculine side is entirely different from my feminine side, so much so that it also feels like it's own being. While the default me is perfectly okay in being female, which is why I never even considered transgender because I'm perfectly okay in my cis gender. But at the end of the day, that masculine side feels completely neglected and i don't feel the fulfillment I want to get because that masculine side isn't comfortable in my female body. It's hard to explain exactly, so I hope I'm making some sense here. So I just call myself genderfluid to make things easier I guess 😂
Honesty, or craziness? If Social Security and Pensions did not exist, there would be none of this non-sense. You would need to have children to care and protect you in your old age. But, because you think you will not need children to care for you when you are old and infirmed, you toy with these really stupid ideas. Since Social Security may not survive till you are 67, I suggest that you stop the nonsense, get married, and have the children you will need in your old age, It is either that or be eaten by rats when you are old and fall ill and are helpless on the floor, a couch, or a bed.
Im only a teen and i have this feeling where i feel feminine and i want to be read as she/her and then the other day its male and then non binary. And it does make me uncomfortable that i 'have to' keep one gender either she/her he/him they/them etc. And i told my mom about it and she supports it. But im not sure if I am genderfluid.
I've been questioning my gender a lot lately. I'm biologically a girl, but sometimes (a lot of the time actually 😭) I find myself wanting to be a guy, or wanting to look like one. Even since I was little I've always been a lot into men's clothes and short hair for example. But I know I'm not trans bc I also enjoy being a woman. The thing is that what happens to me is that in the morning I start to feel comfortable with the thought of being a guy, but around afternoon/night, insecurities start to kick in and it feels a little bit wrong to be. I don't know if I'm genderfluid or bigender maybe, or if I'm just confused (bc I also had a hard time defining my sexuality before discovering I was pansexual) I also think I'm too young to define myself, I'm not even legally an adult, but it is still frustrating 😭😭
Tysm for this, it actually helped me understand myself!! I go from feeling like I have no gender to feeling really androgynous to feeling ultra feminine and it just sort of happens it's sort of a cycle but there's no real pattern to this shift it's just a natural change
@🌸Bimbosalie🌸 Cry me a river. Brains don't change in that way. "Invalidate" If you want to feel valid don't make up new genders to feel unique. Because guess what only a narcist would expect others to jump through the hoops you want them to.
Do I have to feel like I’m switching genders to be genderfluid? I feel like more female or genderless sometimes but I still always feel like a male ( idk if that makes sense). Is that genderfluid or something else? I’m really confused and having a hard time figuring out my identity.
I realized I might be genderfluid, going back to when I was young and I started to change in such a way over time. Now, here I am feeling different every day! Awesome to know more about my kind! Plus, the closest friend I have is also a genderfluid!
Whenever I first found out I was gender fluid I honestly thought I was just trans because all I wanted to be was a guy but I still wanted to be a girl, I was so confused till I started doing more research and started going by He/She (and sometimes They/Them) pronouns. Being Gender fluid is honestly pretty hard because I feel like I get to much dysphoria for being a Gender fluid person and not nonbinary or trans. I don't know if anything I just said made any sense at all but that's really all I can say for now, and from one gender fluid bean to another ILY!!
@@ArlosInsanity how does someone change genders day by day? Could a male athelete say he feels like a girl, then play on a woman's sports team? Does a male criminal get switched to a female prison, because he identifies as a girl?
been a year ive identified as a genderfluid and its so freeing for myself. I havent came out to close relatives but friends and my internet family are accepting and really kind about it.
I'm an AFAB, but even when I was six or seven I was asking my parents if I was actually a boy and they just laughed and said they were sure I was a girl. I'm 30 now, married to a AMAB but has very feminine traits. A lot of times I will end up being the "male" of the relationship because I fall in that slot easier than he does. I feel like I'm behind, learning at 30 that I'm allowed to dress both as a goth guy but also as lolita. I'm only now learning why some nights when I lay out my clothes for the next day I'll be in the mood to dress in a skirt but by the time morning comes, I won't feel comfortable in anything but pants. I count myself lucky to have been born female in this world, because I can shop in the men's department and not be noticed. But there is many a day where I hate my body. Some days I wear my old tight bra (really need to get a binder) while others I like my boobs. All my life I cornered myself as being a tomboy because that's what I felt comfortable in as a kid. When I got into high school I wanted to wear some girly stuff some days but my parents made that insufferable. I don't want to be noticed if I change my clothes but I wanna wear what I wanna wear. I was so proud when I was constantly mistaken for a boy as a kid when I dressed that way. Sorry for how long and ramblely this got, I'm still figuring things out.
Sorry but there's no such thing as gender fluid, it's just another pointless label that someone made up so people can jump in a fad and be part of a delusional group. There's no such thing as feeling male or feeling female. Just because a man like feminine things and masculine things doesn't mean he's 'gender fluid', it means he has his own unique personality and feelings that is a mix of masculine and feminine, the same as every single person on the planet. You're either a biological male with a unique personality or a biological female with a unique personality, it's that simple. Gender identities are made up nonsense.
I wanted to say thank you! I have been having a tough time with the way I feel inside my body. You're video has helped me immensely. Hearing you explain gender fluidity has given me that so called euphoria that you talked about and I am feeling amazing. So again I would like to say thank you!
I am a biological female, but i dont really mind being called he/his, i usually use neutral pfps or male characters, but i do not identify myself as a trans boy. Some days, i really like my curves and my body but others i "feel like a man" if that even makes sense. Also im comfortable with any pronoun except for neo ones
It's barking mad isn't it? Seems like people have redefined the word gender to just mean how you feel about various sex-based characteristics/roles. Instead of being a woman and saying "just because I'm a woman doesn't mean I can't wear trousers, have short hair and like working on my car", they now claim they're a different "gender".
Just now I’ve been thinking I’m ok with all genders, I love feeling happy with she, they, and he! Maybe that doesn’t mean I’m genderfluid but I like to think I am As long as I’m comfortable with it I’m happy and I don’t care
I hope you all enjoyed this video. Let me know what some of the signs that helped you figure out you're genderfluid!
Other than in the video?
It’s the whole “I’m completely sure I’m x”
“Shirt- no now I’m most definitely y- what the heck?”
And yes I enjoyed this video very much! Made me feel all happy and stuff!
Lynn, I swear, you are a mind reader! I was just looking into the possibility of being gender fluid the other day!
Thank you so much for making videos like this, It has really helped me along my questioning journey. You're the best!
Lynn the last sign and I another sign stood out to me, also I love your videos
Mostly the euphoria. Putting on a dress,looking in the mirror and thinking "wow,this feels so extremely right" old people saying:"excuse me young lady" when wanting something from me. A Person that publically read a book i wrote where the name on the cover was only my initials,talking about "the girl or boy who wrote this" sometimes the most random stuff.
I'd like to hear about people who figured out they AREN'T "gender-fluid". I'm sure as some of you grow up you figure yourselves out.
I'm a senior citizen who's starting to feel free after 60 years. Thank you for this video. Wondering though because some days I feel maculine and other days feminine. I like wearing both clothing.
We of the younger generations are happy you're taking time to find yourself!!! More power to you and I'm glad youve learned a bit more about yourself :)
This feels very validating to hear someone of the older generation talking about being genderfluid\queer ect. Constantly hearing about how “the younger generation is confused” or “were just being trendy” feels very invalidating, and even tho Ik it’s not true, it’s hard not to let it get to me sometimes, so thankyou for sharing this. It helps me remember that I am valid for questioning my gender and trying to go down this path of self discovery. I’m sorry you couldn’t do the same when you were younger 😔
SAME! In my 60s and finally becoming comfortable in my own skin with my ever changing gender! It’s FUN!! 👏🏼👏🏼🎉🌈😝
You're an inspiration. I love you, you go. You're amazing.
@@IamwhatIam2012I strive to be like you! I’m still trying to be comfortable as a young genderfluid but I know that it will get better. Thank you for reminding me of that!
how i realized i was genderfluid was when i realized it really upsets me that i can’t just switch between a man and woman’s body, that i “was stuck” just being one. i want to be seen as all gender and no gender
I literally feel exactly like this. Maybe I am genderfluid.
Yea same I just want to be both 😭
THIS. THIS IS IT.
*shakes multiple fictional characters of varying genders in aggressive gender envy*
same
Oh, I can relate to that bro!
i would be so much happier being genderfluid if i could shapeshift
Yeah, imagine being a man, woman, agender, nb, Solaris from S06, Wfc Trypticon, Flumpty Bumpty, Jessica Rabbit, Gorefield, Devil from Cuphead, Alice Angel, Bowletta, Metal Overlord, Dreamy Bowser, Overlord from Ninjago, Vaatu, Foc Megatron, Fem + OG Homelander, Loki, Omni-man, Wither Storm, Bill Cipher, Nightmare Fredbear, Doom Ducky, Joy Kill, Murder Monkey, Chef Monkey (From Dark Deception), Goliath Clowns, Monster Vinnie from Fnac 3, Tai Lung, G1 Megatron, Foc Bruticus, Shockwave, many versions of Starscream, Bayverse Megatron, any version of Bidy from BNC, any version of Baldi from bbin games, Malak from DD, Breezie the Hedgehog, Robo Sonic, Mecha Sonic, Death Egg Robot, Great Eggman Robo, true final boss of Sonic triple trouble 16-bit, Bowser, Reaper Nurse, Cackletta & so much more... 🥰🥰🥰
Now u speak in language i like, THE LANGUAGE OF GODS 🫠
This time i'd truly prove to myself & everyone that i'm genderfluid and it's not JUST A PHASE!! 😼
Luckily the new Kung Fu Panda 4 villain is a shapeshifter 😁👍
Frfr
real
too real
LITERALLY THOUGH
Every single sona i've ever made of myself has been a shapeshifter
man I wish I could shapeshift so bad
my thing is that sometimes i want to appear masculine and boyish and i impulsively wish for short hair and want to wear that baggy alternative style that a lot of stylish guys wear, while other times i want to appear super cute and coquette with long girly hairstyles and skirts and cute dresses…
i usually just see myself as a girl and refer to myself as she/her all the time, but even when i feel like i want to be and present as a guy, i still kind of see myself as a “girl” and just go with she/her…
i genuinely don’t think my periods of wanting to “be a dude” is just me changing up my style to be more tomboy like, because i want to look, sound, and present like a dude overall, but i still internally feel like a girl :(
i had a period of my life (during which i experienced the most intense desire to present as a man that i have felt up until super recently) where i was convinced that i was a trans man and that my feelings for this sentiment would slowly grow stronger, but then they switched up kind of abruptly and i wanted to be all girly and cute 😭😭
i honestly can’t tell if i’m gender fluid or not or if it’s just something like super internalised homophobia, but i’m kind of scared that i’m just convincing myself that i am when in actuality i’m just a girl who likes crossdressing as a dude sometimes 😭
the reason i started thinking about this so much recently was
A) because i’ve recently started feeling pretty intensely that i just want to be a guy again, and
B) i was weirdly super inspired by a character in a webcomic that i was reading… (💀) whenever they’re feeling like it, they do a full switch up, full wig, voice, name, and everything, from male presenting to female presenting, and i was just in awe about how much i wanted to be like them and just be able to switch myself like that at will 😭😭 it sounds so incredibly stupid that this scene was kind of my realisation, but it is what it is ig
Omg are u me? Cuz im just like that! Im literally like u
Omg you just managed to express my exact problem though i am biologically male so just the gender role is switched in our Stories,....btw. you need to tell me the Webcomic title please i searched for a Story just like that and could never find it
you literally just described how I feel
Hi, all the people who feel like me. 😭😭
This is also how I've been feeling!
It's very inconsistent. I was also inspired by a character, I can't tell if I want to be him or be with him 😭
But I mean, at times, I look at myself and feel like a man, when I put men's perfume on I feel so much more masculine and it has felt affirming in a way. Then I look at myself in the mirror and feel like a guy.
But I don't want to fully transition to be a guy, Idk what it is 😭
I really love that you mentioned gender euphoria. I understand that dysphoria can be extremely difficult and not being cis can be really hard, but it doesn’t always have to be. The basis of your identity doesn’t always have to be rooted in pain.
yes this is so true! people focus a lot on the negatives, when there can be heaps of good things and it's important to focus on what you *do* want, not on what you don't
Dysphoria for me (only sometimes):
"Ugh. I need to get a binder." Man
"Wow, I'm hot today." Woman
"This is not right, what am I missing??" Non-binary/other
DUDE YES
LITERALLY ME THO 😭
That's me most of the time!!!!
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No because real ;-; I thought I was alone for so long..
Gender alone at home be like: *feels quite comfortable with agab, doesn't have to worry what clothes to wear or worry about gender much because nobody is around*
Gender outside home: *stresses about being percived as their agab, doesn't want to go and correct people because they might not understand it*
that's the biggest mood oh my god
Relatable 😞
This.
Why is it so relatable -
oops that sounds like me
I realized I was gender fluid bc in the time of a few months I went from heavily identifying as agender to identifying as a demiboy to feeling very much like a trans boy and then feeling like a girl again. and then I was like yeahhhhhhh I think I'm gender fluid. . .
Felt
What does "feeling like a demiboy" or "feeling agender" feel like?
Sounds like your having an identity crisis how is this anything more than defining random feeling and personality traits
Thats just called being in a phase, not in the way your thinking. We all go through them, you might really like sports for mounth and then like anime. Same with feeling masculine and feminine. No girl feels feminine the entire time they are alive. Its just existing.
Sounds more like you're just confused. If archeologists dug up your bones two hundred years from now they wouldn't say "hey neat! we found a genderfluid skeleton!" They would say "We found a female skeleton." Facts are facts.
I can't imagine myself in ten, five, twenty years, it's very confusing for me, sometimes I feel masculine and sometimes feminine, and other times I feel like I don't fit into either of the two.
Non binary?? Cause u said u don’t fit into either of the two
@@bbydeMoN7 Not fitting into either isn't necessarily non-binary ^^ Non-binary is a bit different, i've found often people who are genderfluid, including myself, don't exactly feel non-binary, but more something else, or a lack of something - I can't really explain how it feels, but it doesn't really feel like being non-binary
It does change from person to person
As a male conservative, I find this heartfelt and genuine. We are all granted equal rights by our creator. Bless you for your sharing and may it help others.
Keep it to yourself next time instead of derailing lgbtqia+ subjects to say some weird religious stuff.
@@bajablast1248 as a hardcore atheist. Shut up.
Generally speaking, if you are personally conservative and live a conservative life, that’s not a problem at all, it’s when you start affecting legislation that infringe upon people who had the same rights on you is a problem
@@TheDarkLord648 yep
@@bajablast1248They're not saying random religious stuff though, it would be different if he said repent to Jesus or start quoting Bible verses. Calm down
I knew I was gender fluid when I read the Magnus Chase series and read Alex's description of gender. The only difference is that I don't mind people just using they/them pronouns for me, because I'm ok with those pronouns all of the time and my feelings about he/she/it changes day to day. I just don't like to explain myself to people.
same!
I love Alex!!!
How does your gender seem to change? Is it feminine or masculine energy and behavior or is it something else? As an agender/androgynous male i don't understand the obsession with having a gender, i feel like we should all be ourselves and skip the labels ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
@@lillnirp That's a really personal question and while I don't have a problem answering, I don't think my response is going to be as satisfying as you might hope. I'm autistic and have a difficult time defining my feelings (even to myself), but it really is based on that. I usually can tell based on how I react internally to how people refer to me and what pronouns they use for me. So if I'm having a masculine day, I might hear she/her used and feel terrible, but hear he/him and feel profound joy. They/them is a positive internal response 99% of the time so it's what I usually request be used for me. Some days I even feel like I have no gender at all and get euphoria from people referring to me as an it, which I know can be controversial. It can be confusing, which is why I don't usually bother to try and explain and just say I use they/them.
For myself, I don't care so much about labels as a whole, which is why I'm flexible about which ones I use in what spaces based on what I think people will be familiar with. But they are useful for communication purposes, and societal purposes, and for finding a community. And communities are important.
@@cinnamoncleric it is a very satisfying answer actually, i'm autistic myself and have all my life been CBTing myself to rid myself of "unwanted traits" which mostly would be how i react emotionally to stuff, trying to be a healthier person mentally i started "shaping myself" and my personality from an early age. I think it might be the same problem, only that i directed my energy into changing myself and how i react to the world, rather than trying to change the world around me and how others react to me.
Have you ever tried just not caring about gender? To me gender/sex has nothing at all to do with who i am, how androgynous i might be or anything - it is just a fact that i was born male and thus people refer to me as a he; i don't feel that i have to be or act a certain way because i'm referred to as a he and i have no feelings about it. Isn't that a healthier and better option than having to try to explain to every new person you meet that you will have a different pronoun each day, just to feel okay? No critique, just seems very impractical and gives unwanted attention
I literally love how you always match the background of your computer monitor to the content of the video, a very original and cool idea in my opinion.
oh my god thank you so much! I love looking for new screensavers for each video one of my favorite parts of filming actually lol
I know that for me personally I have the most negative feelings from gender when I experience my agab
A lot of
“why did I ever think I wasn’t cis? Was I faking it this whole time? Oh shirt what if I’m actually cis” but then again “why did I even cut my hair this short? Will people look at me weirdly if I wear a dress?”
I’m so glad Lynn made this video, hearing all that from them made me so happy and made me feel seen
Lynn, thank you! Thank you so much!
Awwww I’m happy you liked it!!!
mood
Dude, I can relate SO MUCH
@@Fern_Tull yea mood
😊@@Fern_Tull
you hit every nail on the head for me. i identified as a man and a woman. both feel extremely constricting when they stand alone. i was born a female. hate my chest and my face, am ok with my curves and my butt. don’t like they/them, and feel euphoria when being called he/him or she/her - depending on the day. it’s taken me 6 years to figure this out lol.
I think the universe is giving me fricken signs, cuz I’ve literally been questioning whether I am or not, and then you publish this! Thank you
It was meant to be☺️
Same, like i think the universe is trying to tell me my true identity.
No, the only sign you get is to seek help if you feel like this video is "literally me🤭💋💅🏻🤪" stop being online for a month and you will see how delusional you are.
If you are a child, do not listen to people like this woman on the internet, those people try to manipulate you into something that you are not so you can "accept what we are and be in the lgbt because being a woman only is trash".
And trust me when I say genderfluid doesn't exist, since when you can choose your genitals? Since when you can change your sex because you wear men clothes??? Dont be influenced and stay out of chirurgie stuff before regretting that choice.
@@lynnsaga1397 girl you are literally trying to influence children on things that don't exist and you say it was "meant to be"? You are creepy. You are a grown ahh woman trying to influence children on the internet like it's a daily basis, you get your whole personality from TikTok and then tell your viewers "it's ok to have a dysphoria" when you literally don't know what is a dysphoria or how trans people feel with dysphoria, you are trying to manipulate people so you can have intention but when you actually get it you just give terrible life advice for children.
But you know "it's a trend so i have to post it!!" "I saw so many people that don't have a father figure like me that say they are nothing but a doggy, so I identify as a doggy too!" Like it's cute or edgy.
i remember when i bounced back from gender to gender, agender, nonbinary, demi-girl, trans boy. i was just very very sure i wasnt a cis girl. I then went on the internet some more and found the term genderfliud, i finally felt myself. Gender is weird and stupid tbh, long story short, dress how you want and go be yourself. no one wants to go looking for something their whole life when they can make that something themselves.
I don't understand why are you talking about clothes, like is clothes a gender structure?? I don't understand you and your point of view because nothing is making sense at all.
You can't just decide if your a trans boy, a "demi boy" idk tf that mean or a non-binary. I can be a woman dressing in men's cloth and still be a woman.
I see where's your problem, you said "i then went on the internet some more and found the term genderfluid"... Internet is not real, you are influenced by people behind a screen and those same people try to create "another sex" when it's just male or female. If you don't feel like a woman, talk to your psychologist multiple times about it and THINK ABOUT IT for a long time before making dumb ahh choices like being "genderfluid". It doesn't exist, just look at your vagi and tell me if it's genderfluid or not.
Also, as a christian, i hope God forgive you for misunderstanding his choices so you can call yourself something you are not.
I'm white ,I wish I was black .
Black people are cool.
I'm not black ,I'm white.
So fucking true
@@matthewsheridan464bruh thats not the same thing for so many reasons
If you were launched into the sun, you’d become gender plasma.
I've always vibed with Andre Gide's comment about wanting to pick out gender in the morning like putting on a shirt. (58yo, AMAB here)
I took me awhile to finally figure what gender I am. I went back and forth if I was cis woman or agender. I finally realize that I might be Demi-girl/agender. There some girly stuff I like (examples are the color pink, Disney Princess, and romance) and then there things about being a girl I don’t like (examples are makeup, shaving my legs, getting dress up and playing with my hair). I also know that I’m not trans, that sure thing. It just there times I like being girl and there times I don’t feel like a girl.
It takes awhile sometimes to figure out what’s best for you but I’m glad you found the words that make you feel the most comfortable
It's great that you found a label that fits you. But remember that liking the color pink, Disney Princesses, ect. has nothing to do with your gender.
maybe youre genderfae? correct me if im wrong, but im pretty sure its basically genderfluid but no masculinity. like you fluctuate between girl, demigirl, enby, agender, etc but dont feel like a dude or demiboy at all
No offence but please dont claim to be a Male when you have periods
@@DylanWhittington-SmithJames97 I never said I’m male.
Ive dressed very feminine and very masculine on and off, and I dont know but I dont care what pronoun someone calls me by. I dont know if I am genderfluid or not but I loved your video. I have always wanted to be able to switch freely between genders.
Starting to question if I’m genderfluid but I’m not sure if I am. I definitely feel more masculine some days and then get fully convinced I’m just a trans guy just to turn around and be like noooooo man feels way to masculine I just want to be some gender less blob and sometimes I’m ok with my chest and other days I hate it. (I’m afab btw). Then on certain days I’ll be like I feel comfortable being fem but I’ve never had a moment where I fully identify as a girl. My masculinity and femininity fluctuate but I’ve never fully identified with she/her, sometimes she/her feels nice and sometimes it doesn’t but I’ve never felt like oh just she/her and girl, does this mean I’m still genderfluid?
Yep, u seem genderfluid to me
I just can't decide if I want to be genderfluid or nonbinary 💀
I remember back in elementary, there was a long period of time where I was feeling like a male. I acted so unladylike to the point where my friends would refer me as a ‘he’. I remember being extremely happy when I was being called as a he. But after that year passed, I started feeling more girly, I would start paying attention to things that girls like, ex: dresses, long good looking hairstyles and whatnot. I thought maybe I was wrong about me wanting to be a guy, maybe I’m just a tomboy or in a weird childhood phase. And I started hating the fact that my friend would question me why I’m acting girly all of the sudden, I know they most likely asked out of curiosity but I remember thinking it and was confused why did I start hating being called a he when I used to love it? Fast forward another 2 years and I’m feeling tomboyish again, this time I feel happy when my classmates would refer me as a he and even called me by my middle name (which sounded more masculine while my first name sounded more feminine). My classmates would refer me as a he because they thought the pronouns suit me better. Now, after another 2 years and I’m starting to get confused because I don’t feel like a he or she anymore but rather as a non binary. I was introduced to the tern genderfluid previously and thought that describes me, but when I feel non-binary it suddenly doesn’t make sense. Can you feel like being some other genders other than male and female as a genderfluid? And is it possible for a genderfluid to stand by a certain gender for a long period of time?
Genderfludity isn't just a flux between Male and Femme , it can also be nonbinary or agender or neos , it can be whatever you feel like in that moment. Its like it's name, your gender is fluid. 😼
Yes absolutely! Being genderfluid encompasses many different presentations and identities. You could identify as male, female, non-binary, or anything else. Any combination. I personally feel like I fluctuate between male, female, and nonbinary. That’s why I use he, she, and they pronouns. 😊
Wow I never knew someone was exactly like me damn but that’s how I feel
@@tomriddleschild6256 what is neos
@@Xplrelisamesies😌
These do sound like my feelings, sort of. I'm male (?) and am okay being one for the rest of my life, I just don't like how it's basically not an option for me to be otherwise, and I don't like that it defines so much about how my life must be lived.
ngl the genderfluid flag is really pretty
Thank you for making this video! I’ve been questioning if I was gender fluid for a while now, and knowing that I relate to a lot of the things you talked about has helped me a lot! Also, I love the backgrounds you put on your computer, they’re all so cute!
I’m so happy to help! And I’m glad you like the backgrounds it’s one of my favorite parts getting to pick out the screensavers ☺️
First world problems
Well its a choice, not one I would make, but just know that Gender fluid...ness isn't what you are, if you want to chose that life for yourself thats fine, but its not a part of you, y'know
@@anakinskywalker1886 even if being genderfluid was a choice, why is that not a part of them?
im genuinely confused on your logic because if you identify as something... that thing becomes a part of you, or at least of your identity, like if you like doing art and decide to call yourself an artist that's a part of who you are
so how is being genderfluid (or choosing the label "genderfluid" for yourself) not a part of who you are? genuine question, i mean no harm
@@pouinkimir I understand your point, but there is still an issue. If someone painted something, then called themselves an artist, that's called delusion. Sure, you could get into the nitty gritty of word definitions but being 'Genderfluid' is not real, it's a construct, a placeholder, to explain why your mental health is low.
I dont understand gender. I swear i thought i was agender fir a while then like im suddenly a trans girl. It goes back and forth. So from what ive worked out my gender is something beyond human comprehension.
It's called being confused by a bunch of lies that you were taught by the internet. Just call yourself what you were born as and leave it at that
@@MsCarringtonsUA-cam Why should I take advice from you?
I've personally felt guilty for not just wanting to choose one gender. I lean pretty far towards female, but lately especially, I smile when someone calls me a he in a video game or on my socials. And before I heard the word genderfluid, I thought being a they them person would best fit my wish to be both. I also hadn't heard that THAT was also it's own thing. Also, as you've stated, your identity can change without you being truly fluid. Everyone is trying to solve the puzzle that is their mind and soul after all. Thanks for making these!
It's difficult to me to realise whether I'm genderfluid or not, because I don't really feel "the transitions" and neither do I feel any dysphoria.
I just feel gender envy towards every cute boy/girl I see and my top 2 dream of all time is to change my body however I want whenever I want at a flick of the fingers with no repercussions.
Totally cis.
I've had times when I've preferred thinking of myself as my parents' son, thinking of myself as a man, and thinking of being called things like "Mr." and "Sir," and other times (privately because I'm not out as Genderfluid yet) I've preferred thinking of myself as my parents' daughter, thinking of myself as a woman, and thinking of being called things like "Ms." and "Ma'am."
I had been having dysphoria for months, especially because of my chest but it would happen one day and the other I’d be fine. Another thing that made me realize that I might be genderfluid was that one day I put my hair up and was like, could I pass off as a man? And also the fact that I would kill to be called handsome, which will probably never happen.
I’m sure you’re very handsome 💛💛
Hey there! I'd love to see one of these style videos on being genderflux. I recently learned this term and I think it's extremely valuable, especially in the nonbinary and trans community. I'm always feeling both male and female (I guess that's bigender, but I prefer to describe my gender experience as androgynous), but to what degree I feel both changes fairly regularly without ever truly shifting outside of my gender, as with genderfluid people. I've found this part of my gender identity really confusing to understand, so I think more conversations on this topic would be useful for others who don't quite understand their changing gender intensity.
I didn't know what genderflux was until now, but you explained it so well! Thanks for talking about your experience :)
If Social Security and Pensions did not exist, there would be none of this non-sense. You would need to have children to care and protect you in your old age.
But, because you think you will not need children to care for you when you are old and infirmed, you toy with these really stupid ideas.
Since Social Security may not survive till you are 67, I( suggest that you stop the nonsense, get married, and have the children you will need in your old age,
It is either that or be eaten by rats when you are old and fall ill.
I would be out but I’m a teen and I don’t feel like I could be myself in this place with a bunch of people constantly judging you and bringing you down so Ik my gender fluid but I feel it and it makes me happy I’m not tied to this one gender but I js can’t tell people
I've concluded that I was genderfluid a while ago, but I love vids like these, (or any content supportive of genderfluid people for that matter)! I grew up in the "genderfluid cringe" era of UA-cam, where the label was getting a lot of traction online and none of it was good, so I still push off the label a lot. Whenever my gender shifts to a more fem leaning one (I'm AFAB), I get a lot of shame and doubt, as I want to fit in with non-fluid transmasculine people really bad. But vids like these serve as a reminder that other genderfluid folk and I have reasons to celebrate our identities, no matter what anti-fluid folk say. :)
Ok
You have a specific and unique personality to yourself, your gender doesn't change. There's no such thing as feeling male or female, there's only feeling like you. Every person in the World feels different from day to day, that's called being a human. Just because a man wants to dress more feminine doesn't mean he's female, it means he's male with his own personality that's different from anyone else. Wanting to do feminine stuff doesn't mean you feel female. As I said, there's no such thing as feeling female.
@@mikepriestey2547 Youre just sad you're not as swag as I am, gendersolid.
@@AstersSpam Nope. I just have common sense.
Explain to me what it means to feel female or feel male.
@@mikepriestey2547 Once in a while I enjoy being called a woman, but sometimes it makes me severely dysphoric. More often I enjoy being thought of as a man, but sometimes that also makes me uncomfortable. And sometimes the lines are blurred, which is why I normally present as nonbinary to simplify it for other people. It fluctuates, which makes me genderfluid.
Two years later and your video is still getting a good message out there. The discomfort of feeling locked into a particular way of being perceived made a lot of sense. While I do think I would prefer to have a more feminine baseline than I do as an AMAB person, the idea of transitioning to full-time fem presentation feels confining. Thank you for putting this out there.
this was really helpful--particularly points 1 and 2. and just in time for my questioning! thank you very much for making this quick and informative video. i've been very unsure on what label fits me best for a while now.
Thank you for this video. I am currently going through how I see and feel about myself. For many years I was masculine in my dress now I am more feminine in dress, yet I don't choose my appearance based on feminine or masculine. So I'm considering if I'm genderfluid.
Thank you for this video! The fact that I haven’t entirely been able to figure out what gender I might be because I can’t seem to pin down my sense of gender has made me realize that I’m likely genderfluid, and this video has helped me to confirm that. I do feel least attached to my “male” self, but there are definitely things about him that I like, and times that presenting as him make me really happy.
If Social Security and Pensions did not exist, there would be none of this non-sense. You would need to have children to care and protect you in your old age.
But, because you think you will not need children to care for you when you are old and infirmed, you toy with these really stupid ideas.
Since Social Security may not survive till you are 67, I suggest that you stop the nonsense, get married, and have the children you will need in your old age,
It is either that or be eaten by rats when you are old and fall ill and are helpless on the floor, a couch, or a bed.
This hit right on the nail, every single one, for me and I am genuinely speechless. I'm 21 years old and have spent my whole life trying to figure out why was so fluid in how i identified, and how to pinpoint what i feel. I was trans for a bit, nonbinary, 'cis', but always snapped right back to feeling this way. I never considered genderfluid until I stumbled upon this video, and wanted to watch only out of seeking more knowledge on lgbt matters. I never would have guessed that it would be the missing puzzle piece clicking into place. Thank you for this video, you've helped me understand myself finally after so many years of feeling lost/confused
I'm gender fluid, but usually identify myself as non-binary with they/them pronouns simply because that always makes me feel good and anything else would feel like a burden on those around me (also due to transphobic people she her pronouns are never ok, so I don't see the point as much). But it's definitely the fluctuating dysphoria that tipped me off- it made me doubt myself a lot when I came out because I wondered if I was just doing it for attention when I felt bad (news flash, dysphoria Feels Bad). But now I'm much more comfortable, and style myself either more masculine, feminine, both, or neither depending on the day- I've even made myself a chart to help nail down my gender expression if I can't figure out what to wear or smth. The chart is a quadrant with masc/fem on the x-axis and strong/ambivalent on the y (to indicate how strongly I feel about my gender that day). My worst days are -x +y because that's masculine/strong and, unfortunately, my body is not very masculine and binders only do so much work
I think this comment really puts into words what I feel. Thank you so much!
@@itsjess97 no problem! I'm happy to help. Wish you the best
Oh my god, shut up.
You’re a burden on people around you anyway, because they are all having to play along while you play make believe
Used this video to teach my father a little more about what it's like to be demisexual. He mostly understands now! Thank you 💖
oh i am too
Oh... I'm genderfluid. I'm still figuring out my sexuality, but at least now I know where this occasional body dysmorphia comes from. Thanks a lot, you make me feel more at ease
I am just now figuring things out, and hearing your video helped me to not feel like I am just a confused person, but that I can be happy without needing to permanently pin down one aspect and commit to it.
I feel like I'm both, mostly male but I feel like I act kind of female a lot of the time and I'm into some girly stuff also.I don't really like it when people expect you to be a certain way based on appearance etc.I don't really care what label I'm under, it took me a long time to figure this all out and also accept it but now I know who and how I am and I'm feeling good about it.
genuinely same, sometimes i feel feminine and it happens whenever my brain decides lmao
NO BC SOMETIMES IM FULLY CONVINCED IM A TRANS GUY THEN NEXT IM FULLY CONVINCED IM A CIS GIRL AND EVERY POINT IN THIS VIDEO RELATES TO ME THEN WHEN YOU SAID 'fluctuating dysphoria' THAT REALLY HIT HOME
Can you be genderfluid and lesbian??
Yes of course!! Gender ≠ Sexuality
OMG I WAS SO CONFUSED OF MY GENDER THANK YOU SO MUCH I NEEDED THIS!
I’ve been watching your channel for a while and it’s been really helpful! I actually figured out I was ace because of you, so thanks! (Still figuring out where on the spec though lol) Also I love your vibe and your overall look, you give me gender envy x.x
I’ve been questioning my gender for a little over a year now and I’m still SO confused. I originally thought I was genderfluid, then nonbinary, demigirl, agender, etc… During the time i identified as genderfluid, I felt one way for so long, I started questioning myself all over again, because I couldn’t tell what I was feeling. I know im not agender, at least, because I do feel as if i have a gender. Online, sometimes people will refer to me as “he” and i feel really good about that! “They” is nice as well, but feminine pronouns and terms make me feel weird. Someone used mixed pronouns for me once and it felt amazing (iirc it was xe, he, and they)
My parents are not accepting so i can’t talk to them about this unfortunately, and I can’t really get neutral or masc clothes/haircuts, which really sucks. One weird thing is that with my current haircut, most of the time I feel like it’s too feminine, but rarely I feel like it looks sort of androgynous?? The two times I tried to look andro/masc (binding w sports bras, and wearing a tank top with jeans; tied my hair back) I felt really euphoric.
Why do I feel this way??? Again, thank you for your content
I am twelve years old...really confused...but you helped me so much!!Thanks ❤😊
I recently went to a LGBT group with my boyfriend for the first time and I met a gender fluid person and when they where talking to me I asked them about how they found out they where gender fluid and asked them about how they felt when they where figuring it out. And it all described exactly how I feel, and this video is helping me confirm that I might be gender fluid myself
If Social Security and Pensions did not exist, there would be none of this non-sense. You would need to have children to care and protect you in your old age.
But, because you think you will not need children to care for you when you are old and infirmed, you toy with these really stupid ideas.
Since Social Security may not survive till you are 67, I suggest that you stop the nonsense, get married, and have the children you will need in your old age,
It is either that or be eaten by rats when you are old and fall ill and are helpless on the floor, a couch, or a bed.
I actually realized I was genderfluid when the term was explained to me a while ago, but I never really felt that strongly of it until about a year or 2 ago. Recently I've been trying to figure out what fits me more specifically, it took a bit but I got there eventually. I went from genderfluid, to demigender, to demifluid, back to genderfluid, and finally to genderfloren with a slight pull to masculinity. When you realize that gender identity and gender expression are 2 separate things, it really opens up a whole new perspective to things. Just try to have fun with it, see what works with you, what pronouns make you feel good, how you want people to perceive you. Hope this was helpful ^^
1:03 i put my title to any because i feel like being called a he sounds cool but a she is cool too!! but then again they looks great ty i been trying to find out why i do this:)
So im thinking i am gender fluid, and this has definitely helped make me feel more confident about saying im gender fluid. I dont really feel the dysphoria or the pronoun part. But i occasionally get a clear urge to look femenine/masculine. And the one thing id change about me would be making my face androgynous
Nice conversation yeah. I'm nonbinary androgyne. I feel like yeah that's me. I appreciate the multifaceted ways you made your points about all of this. Yeah it's ultimately up to the individual how they feel. It's about the euphoric feeling of what's the most you yeah. I wanna check your video with your friend too! Definitely followed, looking forward to more of your commentary. 🍀🍀🍀
Thank you for helping me find out what I am, I was thinking I might be genderfluid but now I know that I probably am
Thanks for making this video :)) Ive had trouble figuring out what gender I fall into, and I’ve identified as just male all my life until recently. Since a few months ago I felt myself identifying from male to non-binary to demiboy and it felt like this constant shifting of mindsets for who I want to feel like that day. I’m glad this term exists because it makes me feel comfy, but I want to mention that sometimes I have dysphoria with many labels including this one since I feel like I’m going to seem as if I’m “faking it” even though that’s not true at all. I just want to be me. So for now, I might go as genderfluid or unlabeled :)) thanks for making this video!! It’s given me some thoughts to ponder on and venture through ❤
If Social Security and Pensions did not exist, there would be none of this non-sense. You would need to have children to care and protect you in your old age.
But, because you think you will not need children to care for you when you are old and infirmed, you toy with these really stupid ideas.
Since Social Security may not survive till you are 67, I suggest that you stop the nonsense, get married, and have the children you will need in your old age,
It is either that or be eaten by rats when you are old and fall ill and are helpless on the floor, a couch, or a bed.
Ponder on those thoughts, which will become a reality for you if you do not stop the nonsense, get married, and have kids.
I mean idk why but I’m completely fine with being called they / them or my birth gender she / her and I’ve put it in the back of my mind for awhile but I just realized how I was earlier like wanting to be girly and then not but I’ve been feeling like this for a while and I came out as ace/queer and I just went back to thinking about my gender and I currently go by she/they because I feel really comfortable with those pronouns and I go ether by my given name or kylo. So idk if I’m gender fluid or enby and I’ve been so confused ….help idk can someone explain this to me?
maybe try identifying as them both and try to see how that feels and works out for you
@ alr thanks ☺️
You are always valid and so are gender fluid people you are an awesome person lynn love you so much
We love the genderfluid community here!
@@lynnsaga1397 i accept everyone gender fluid and non binary people are just as valid as anyone love your open minded nature
No, it's not valid.
Being a child on the internet trying to decide if they feel like a girl or none is actually ridiculous, mostly when those children get top chirurgie LEGALLY when they can't really know who they are exactly.
You and this dumbahh woman are weirdos that are trying to legalize being nothing, like literally. Imagine telling a child that "being a gender fluid is sooo valid and you are one because you have a "dysphoria" (even though its a disease that only trans people have to deal with) is disgusting. Internet is not your personnality whatsoever so please gtfu of your phone and talk to people without saying stupid ahh things like that.
thank you so much for this video. I match literally all of the 5 signs to a T. I think I know I'm genderfluid for some time now but I struggled with seeing it as valid or wished to be "just one" gender to make it easier. Lately I stress a lot about the gender not being seen as valid or just "I enjoy wearing all kinds of clothing" etc. meanwhile I feel the shifts so strongly sometimes. And when I'm in my manhood (using "manhood" and "womanhood" might help me a lot to grasp it and explain it), well, I'm a trans guy often. I have so many of the common experiences with other trans guys, always had, from puberty.... but. It's not my only gender. I'm fully trans but also I have more than 1 gender. I'm being random now but just. This helped me a lot. I have a long journey in front of me, my dysphoria when I'm in my manhood is so strong sometimes that I can't function well... but I don't wanna be in denial anymore. To all other genderfluid folks: we're great.
I still have yet to come out to my family as gender fluid. Keara Graves has really made me feel comfortable and valid with defining myself as so. I had always wondered and now I feel secure. Love your video!!
In that stage myself, it took me until I was 33 to realize that, though rather rigid compared to the stereotype of gender fluid, being predominantly just male, I do sometimes flip to female and feel VERY uncomfortable for "being female" until I later just fucking accepted it... Flipping female for some moments of time, but never days, as I, from early childhood, taught, to be a boy... Very, very rarely I'm both genders simultaneously.
So being predominantly just male, makes it much more likely for me thinking that I was a cis for years as it did, but I couldn't deny my extremely flamboyantly feminine pictures of my childhood; in the moment of me being who I really am, without the bullshit...
I recently figured out that I am gender-fluid and this video helped a lot with that, so first of all, thank you so much. Also, only 3 days ago I just got back from a week-long camping trip with my scout troop, and on (I think Thursday but maybe idk) Friday I was reading a book outside my tent when this kid yelled to me from across the campsite our troop was sharing with another troop, “hey, are you a boy?” to me. My biological sex is female and it felt so good in that moment when I knew that that guy did not know whether I was a boy or a girl. I have also been told once that I have long hair but I have a masculine face, which has also made me feel good, so I know this comment is really freaking long but just wanted to say thank you for making this video!
I often switch between a desire for a chest binder and a padded bra. Like, my chest is an ✨issue✨ 😂😭
At work I get called "sir" and 'young man" And sometimes I love it & other times I'm annoyed. Cuz like, female but also non binary and is that even a thing?
So I like to say I'm gender fluid. But I don't really know.
Ik this video is like from 2 years ago but are you able to be genderfluid without changing your look to look more masc/fem? I'm fine with people using she/they/he as my pronouns but I don't really dress masc. Would this make me genderfluid or no? I'm so confused T~T
Update: I think I feel more in tune with Girlflux :3
As a currently genderfluid person this really helped me confirm if i was genderfluid or not! And i still think i am thank you. :)
crazy
Sometimes, i love being a girl(my cis gender). It's really fun and other times, i love the thought of being called a boy or someone's boyfriend in the future, or nothing at all. I finally found out i was a lesbian last year and only came out to my family, and I'm still struggling with accepting it a bit. I think i might be genderfluid and want to get a binder, but i'm scared that I'll be changing too much in my family(they are allys). But i keep it a secret from them about my gender that I'm trying to discover. I definitely can't tell my church friends. Only 1 of them knows, and she's a bit weird about it but still loves me(she and my other church friends are homophobic). I really hope to make LGBTQ+ friends so they can get me and accept me for me
(My name is now Ryder)
Me trying to figure out if I’m gender-fluid or a trans man: 🗿💀
Someone help me what do I do 😭
I like she and her but when it comes to gender expression is hard. I feel masc one day and fem next day and both sometimes. It creates stress what to wear .
I really like your videos because they help me better understand things in the LGBTQIA+ community.
That’s all I hope to do!
@@lynnsaga1397 your are doing it pretty well
Where were all these other letters when gaze and lezboz were on the streets fighting tooth and nail for their rights 35 years ago, risking everything?Soon as the road is clear, all these other crazies/cowards come out of the woodwork to add their own letters lol that’s the real #metoo movement boys and girls
LGBTQAIR+
@@raghu5404 wait theirs more
It's been a while since I started questioning what I am and I'm still between trans or gender fluid, this information is worth millions!
Literally me i m also confuse
I hope it helps!
Pretty sure i m coz i do experience all of the signs
Thank you for using non-cis and explaining why you use it because I hear a lot of "So you're trans" when I try to explain my gender. Not that they're wrong, but I still heavily identify with my agab while also feeling like other genders. I've joked with my friends about being "cisn't" or "CIS+, the premium subscription to unlock exclusive gender content"
I have no clue what to call myself still even after this 😂 I feel like my masculine side is entirely different from my feminine side, so much so that it also feels like it's own being. While the default me is perfectly okay in being female, which is why I never even considered transgender because I'm perfectly okay in my cis gender.
But at the end of the day, that masculine side feels completely neglected and i don't feel the fulfillment I want to get because that masculine side isn't comfortable in my female body. It's hard to explain exactly, so I hope I'm making some sense here.
So I just call myself genderfluid to make things easier I guess 😂
2:55 this
I wish i could just shapeshift on a whim.
All of this actually makes sense. It feels comforting to hear honestly
Honesty, or craziness?
If Social Security and Pensions did not exist, there would be none of this non-sense. You would need to have children to care and protect you in your old age.
But, because you think you will not need children to care for you when you are old and infirmed, you toy with these really stupid ideas.
Since Social Security may not survive till you are 67, I suggest that you stop the nonsense, get married, and have the children you will need in your old age,
It is either that or be eaten by rats when you are old and fall ill and are helpless on the floor, a couch, or a bed.
Im only a teen and i have this feeling where i feel feminine and i want to be read as she/her and then the other day its male and then non binary. And it does make me uncomfortable that i 'have to' keep one gender either she/her he/him they/them etc. And i told my mom about it and she supports it. But im not sure if I am genderfluid.
I’m currently questioning my gender and this is very helping me, thanks for making this video❤
I've been questioning my gender a lot lately. I'm biologically a girl, but sometimes (a lot of the time actually 😭) I find myself wanting to be a guy, or wanting to look like one. Even since I was little I've always been a lot into men's clothes and short hair for example. But I know I'm not trans bc I also enjoy being a woman. The thing is that what happens to me is that in the morning I start to feel comfortable with the thought of being a guy, but around afternoon/night, insecurities start to kick in and it feels a little bit wrong to be. I don't know if I'm genderfluid or bigender maybe, or if I'm just confused (bc I also had a hard time defining my sexuality before discovering I was pansexual) I also think I'm too young to define myself, I'm not even legally an adult, but it is still frustrating 😭😭
maybe youre demifluid
As a genderfluid 14 year old, this video makes me feel valid, so I just want to thank you for that :)
Tysm for this, it actually helped me understand myself!!
I go from feeling like I have no gender to feeling really androgynous to feeling ultra feminine and it just sort of happens it's sort of a cycle but there's no real pattern to this shift it's just a natural change
Thats called emotions, they change. Not necessarily trans.
@🌸Bimbosalie🌸 Cry me a river. Brains don't change in that way. "Invalidate" If you want to feel valid don't make up new genders to feel unique. Because guess what only a narcist would expect others to jump through the hoops you want them to.
i loved that they talked about feeling euphoric at the end it made me smile:)
Do I have to feel like I’m switching genders to be genderfluid? I feel like more female or genderless sometimes but I still always feel like a male ( idk if that makes sense). Is that genderfluid or something else? I’m really confused and having a hard time figuring out my identity.
I realized I might be genderfluid, going back to when I was young and I started to change in such a way over time. Now, here I am feeling different every day! Awesome to know more about my kind! Plus, the closest friend I have is also a genderfluid!
My gender crisis was so bad i got here somehow. Anyone else?
All of yall are just trying to be "special" for attention 😂 these comments are pure comedy.
Whenever I first found out I was gender fluid I honestly thought I was just trans because all I wanted to be was a guy but I still wanted to be a girl, I was so confused till I started doing more research and started going by He/She (and sometimes They/Them) pronouns. Being Gender fluid is honestly pretty hard because I feel like I get to much dysphoria for being a Gender fluid person and not nonbinary or trans. I don't know if anything I just said made any sense at all but that's really all I can say for now, and from one gender fluid bean to another ILY!!
Aren't there only 2 genders?
There are 2 sex’s ,
But multiple genders, feel free to ask questions :)
@@ArlosInsanity how does someone change genders day by day? Could a male athelete say he feels like a girl, then play on a woman's sports team? Does a male criminal get switched to a female prison, because he identifies as a girl?
@@ArlosInsanity What is gender
@@ArlosInsanity there are 3 sexes
@@Mali-jw6im legally and athletically no but you can go by whatever in social situations
Thank you specifically for #5. The notion of feeling euphoria when being seen a particular way... that's something I'm just starting to recognize.
Gender fluid isn't a thing. You're just using gender as a fashion statement.
been a year ive identified as a genderfluid and its so freeing for myself. I havent came out to close relatives but friends and my internet family are accepting and really kind about it.
At what temperature does gender fluid become gender solid? Maybe this all comes back to climate change 🤔
I'm an AFAB, but even when I was six or seven I was asking my parents if I was actually a boy and they just laughed and said they were sure I was a girl. I'm 30 now, married to a AMAB but has very feminine traits. A lot of times I will end up being the "male" of the relationship because I fall in that slot easier than he does. I feel like I'm behind, learning at 30 that I'm allowed to dress both as a goth guy but also as lolita. I'm only now learning why some nights when I lay out my clothes for the next day I'll be in the mood to dress in a skirt but by the time morning comes, I won't feel comfortable in anything but pants. I count myself lucky to have been born female in this world, because I can shop in the men's department and not be noticed. But there is many a day where I hate my body. Some days I wear my old tight bra (really need to get a binder) while others I like my boobs. All my life I cornered myself as being a tomboy because that's what I felt comfortable in as a kid. When I got into high school I wanted to wear some girly stuff some days but my parents made that insufferable. I don't want to be noticed if I change my clothes but I wanna wear what I wanna wear. I was so proud when I was constantly mistaken for a boy as a kid when I dressed that way.
Sorry for how long and ramblely this got, I'm still figuring things out.
Sorry but there's no such thing as gender fluid, it's just another pointless label that someone made up so people can jump in a fad and be part of a delusional group.
There's no such thing as feeling male or feeling female. Just because a man like feminine things and masculine things doesn't mean he's 'gender fluid', it means he has his own unique personality and feelings that is a mix of masculine and feminine, the same as every single person on the planet.
You're either a biological male with a unique personality or a biological female with a unique personality, it's that simple. Gender identities are made up nonsense.
Sir, everything is a made up label.
I wanted to say thank you! I have been having a tough time with the way I feel inside my body. You're video has helped me immensely. Hearing you explain gender fluidity has given me that so called euphoria that you talked about and I am feeling amazing. So again I would like to say thank you!
Hi me
Hi Ryan
I am a biological female, but i dont really mind being called he/his, i usually use neutral pfps or male characters, but i do not identify myself as a trans boy. Some days, i really like my curves and my body but others i "feel like a man" if that even makes sense. Also im comfortable with any pronoun except for neo ones
Alternate title: 5 signs you're delusional
says someone who uses numbers in their user as letters 💀
As someone who experiences delusions this is not an insult. Go fucking cry "b0ybr0k3n3" 🌝
@@fookingavocadoz Says a sweary vegetable.
It's barking mad isn't it? Seems like people have redefined the word gender to just mean how you feel about various sex-based characteristics/roles. Instead of being a woman and saying "just because I'm a woman doesn't mean I can't wear trousers, have short hair and like working on my car", they now claim they're a different "gender".
I came out as Gender Fluid years ago but I’m here, like, just to make sure lmao
I love your videos 💕✨
Sounds more like “gender fluid” just means you’re emotionally unstable and stuff bothers you everyday.
Just now I’ve been thinking I’m ok with all genders, I love feeling happy with she, they, and he! Maybe that doesn’t mean I’m genderfluid but I like to think I am
As long as I’m comfortable with it I’m happy and I don’t care