The Mother was horrible, i mean your only actual Blood related Child and you let them be excluded from everything, but when the child Does the same thing, they are the bad one, Bad mother, Op is ok in my eyes
All the children were blood related to the mother. She gave birth to all of them. Only the oldest child was not related to the father and his family. That is why they treated her so badly. Mom is still horrible for treating her child the way she did.
@@icedragonland8471 It's not so much she did anything, but that's the problem, she didn't do anything, she enabled it to go on, which makes her just as guilty.
Maybe, just maybe, if this was an older kid-and by older, I mean mid-late teenager-there could be some justification, but it started when the OP was a kid. So it's not like stepdad had to trouble himself to connect with a potentially moody teenager who is more interested in friends rather than family, this was a child whose mom had a new love interest who made it very clear from that start that you were just something he'd have to deal with and everyone around him felt the same way. Stepdad is a douche but the mom takes the cake for asshole behavior, this was her literal child she aliennated.
@@icedragonland8471Well said. I predict that after graduating from college, OP will move to a far away city, gravitate toward/marry a guy who mistreats/abuses her, fall pregnant in her toxic relationship, then, escape from her abusive relationship, move to another state, find a good paying job, plus, a nicer apartment, hire a nanny to care for her kid, because she won't have her bio-dad, his family to help out, or friends in her new state to help out; all OP and her kid will have is each other, and to avoid making the same mistake her mother is making, OP will need to steer clear of potential new partners, concentrate on her career, raising her kid, creating a stable home environment for him, being the best single mom he's so proud to have.⚠️
That mom is stupid. “How hurtful of you to exclude me from your life, despite letting my abusive new husband treat you, my child, like a second class citizen. You reap what you sow. NTA. OP was right to put her in her place and stand up for himself.
Well said. The mother will get a sad wake-up call, when OP not only goes full NO CONTACT with her, but also, when OP never invites her to, nor, tells her about his college graduation, wedding gender-reveal party, baby shower, nor, ever lets her be there for the birth of her first grandchild. For same token, when she and her family look at wedding pics of OP with his bride, friends, and in-laws, they'll be a crying mess, and scream, "?#*$! IT COULD'VE BEEN US IN THOSE PICS!"⚠️
Imagine never celebrating your birthday again because someone died during it. It’s understandable the first few years to mourn, but there is no way I’d stop celebrating my BIRTHDAY because someone else is in pain. Life happens. The OP didn’t choose to be born that that and his relative did not choose to die on that day either. It just happened.
Exactly and this was a perfectly reasonable way to go about it, the GF does something special and posts to social. That sister is such a nasty toxic narcistic monster
Well said. I see where the mother looks at pics of OP walking across the stage at her college graduation, pics of OP walking down the aisle at her wedding, pics of OP at her gender-reveal party, and baby shower with her replacement family (her beau, friends, therapist, and in-laws), pics of OP with her beau and their new baby, and not only has trouble figuring out why OP went NO CONTACT with her, but also has trouble figuring out why OP left her out of those important events and chose to include her bio-dad and his family, instead. And when the mother's new husband divorces her and gets custody of their kids, and kicks her out of their house, she'll try to call OP, and beg her to take her in, only, to find out that OP moved states away, disconnected her phone number, deactivated her social media accounts, had a P.O. box.⚠️
For the second story, there is a similar story to this. A family member dies on someone's birthday and everyone expects each other to mourn about death instead of celebrating someone's birth. At least in my opinion, if I were to die on someone's birthday, I wouldn't make others doom and gloom over me. It's not fair to the person's birthday.
--- OP wasn't harsh enough to his Mother. She looked sad because he told her the truth and she had to face the fact that she neglected her son and also let her husband and his family emotionally abuse him. Ask her why your picture isn't in her locket.
In story three, at least MIL payed for smith. Mine didn't spend a penny and yet I had to constantly hear her say 'this is my son's wedding so I want things to be done like this' and she wore black, when black wasn't the wedding's theme. As if she were mourning. At least neither me nor my husband didn't even listen to her tacky suggestions.
S2: You have every right to grive but you have no right to expect someone not to celebrate their life. Don't respect the dead by disrespecting the living because ultimately the dead wont mind while the living will. OP wouldn't have been TA even if he threw a big party as long as the sister wasn't forced to come
👴 “We can’t ’bust heads’, like we used to, but we still have our ways. The key is to stall ‘em with stories that don’t go anywhere. Like the time I took the ferry to Shelbyville…”
S1- proof that stupid people are worse than vindictive people. The step dad is clearly an AH for how he was treating OP but the mom was either too stupid/oblivious/selfish to think about the consequences of her actions. The step dad owns his accountability cause he's driving the ship while the air-headed mom has a surprised pikachu face cause she "didn't mean to" and gets to feign ignorance. Stupid people are worse than villains, at least no-one comes to a villains aid when they get what they deserve while stupid people get coddled.
I come from a big family. 2 older sisters, 2 younger brothers and a younger sister. My youngest brother (10 years my junior) was born on our mum's 38th birthday. She passed away unexpectedly in 2019. Mum would be pissed as all Hell if we made her birthday all about her when my brother is still with us. All us kids and our Dad visit Mum at the cemetery with flowers on the morning of their joint birthday, but that's it. We make sure the day is all about him. She's not here to celebrate him turning turning 28 this year, she won't be there when he eventually gets married and she'll never see her grandkids be born. But we will. And we'll celebrate every milestone of his life with him. Because we love him.
story 3 about the gaming laptop and the one commentar children dont understand outside stuff and see only the favortism, we talk about a 15 year old and two kids who are almost adults not about 7 or 8 year old kids the issue doesnt seem to be about the kids but the mother/sister who is pissed and makes a big deal about that
Story 1: OP's mom sold her soul to a Demon in the Sack for passionate hugging, and sold out her kid so she could benefit from said Demon. That's the kind of nonsense a narc/covert narc-enabler pulls.
Story 3: I would've either given her a horrendous makeover in every picture she was in or simply edited her and her husband out, even if just for a few joke pictures where they knew they were in simply to annoy them. You could also just slightly edit her photos by making her forehead bigger or something.
Sushi places have plenty of non-seafood. Unagi is freshwater eel. California rolls are vegetarian. Rice balls are… you know… rice. Vegetable tempura. Most have some kind of steak teriyaki dish, miso soup, udon (soup or on a plate). Obviously, call ahead and make sure they’re not cross-contaminating stuff with cutting surfaces and utensils, but it’s entirely feasible for her to eat there. And if her allergy is mild, as you say, she may be fine with popping some benedryl and going anyway. My wife is mildly allergic to cats, but would rather medicate every day than give up her fur baby.
Honestly it doesn't matter the price tag on the gift as how much the person likes it. As long as you do something nice/thoughtful for the others (not all the time just like occasionaly) it's not favoritism. I mean if you want you can ask the kids if they felt left out. If not it's thier mom being a jerk. If they do feel that way let them know it wasn't your intention and spend time or get them something nice for their bday.
Maybe celebrate your bday before or after it. Probably before your real bday. It's not fair not to celebrate it when everyone's else's is. How ever doing so on the day off I can see how that could be insensitive. Not a hole worthy but not best person. But you didn't you helped her out were respectful you only celebrated because your girlfriend made it a special moment. She sounds like a keeper. Your family sounds like Thier letting thier grief rule their life.
They weren’t insensitive to the sister. But so stupid. Why do people insist on posting everything they do on social media? The caption is “Happy Birthday, love” but she isn’t telling it to her love. They’re broadcasting it to all their friends. It’s such loser behavior.
what an ignorant comment. The GF has every right to post her BF birthday on social and she should block the toxic sister who has decided that OP never gets to have another birthday ever again.
@@stevenwilson5556 Who said she doesn't have the right? She has the right. She's just a loser, broadcasting her life on social media which is exactly the sort of behavior self-absorbed losers participate in.
How about actually talking to your mom about your feelings instead of assuming she doesn't care, from how you described it it seems very easy to not even notice you being cut out especially if you don't speak up.
@pamlew338 nope, the step dads an actual dick. I'm just saying snaping at the mom, Who from what was said could easily have just not noticed, wasn't the best call. Snap out on the step dad or the step family. Or atleast actually talk to her so she knows what's going on so when you do call her out there's no question.
@stevenwilson5556 what actions? Being given a locket and not making a fuss it wasn't good enough because not all 3 of her kids were in the double sided locket? Every other action was the step family.
Seriously you think the Mom didn't notice that OP was not included in family photos and activities? Really? She was told when he was moving but didn't remember? She didn't care. That POS deserves absolutely no consideration. She allowed her child to be side lined and emotionally abused. He should NOT have a conversation with her, he should block her and never talk to her again. This started when OP was a young child.who does this to a child? A useless failure of a human who deserves nothing. She never stood up for her child so she does not deserve a relationship with that child.
The Mother was horrible, i mean your only actual Blood related Child and you let them be excluded from everything, but when the child Does the same thing, they are the bad one, Bad mother, Op is ok in my eyes
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All the children were blood related to the mother. She gave birth to all of them. Only the oldest child was not related to the father and his family. That is why they treated her so badly. Mom is still horrible for treating her child the way she did.
@@icedragonland8471 It's not so much she did anything, but that's the problem, she didn't do anything, she enabled it to go on, which makes her just as guilty.
Maybe, just maybe, if this was an older kid-and by older, I mean mid-late teenager-there could be some justification, but it started when the OP was a kid. So it's not like stepdad had to trouble himself to connect with a potentially moody teenager who is more interested in friends rather than family, this was a child whose mom had a new love interest who made it very clear from that start that you were just something he'd have to deal with and everyone around him felt the same way. Stepdad is a douche but the mom takes the cake for asshole behavior, this was her literal child she aliennated.
@@icedragonland8471Well said. I predict that after graduating from college, OP will move to a far away city, gravitate toward/marry a guy who mistreats/abuses her, fall pregnant in her toxic relationship, then, escape from her abusive relationship, move to another state, find a good paying job, plus, a nicer apartment, hire a nanny to care for her kid, because she won't have her bio-dad, his family to help out, or friends in her new state to help out; all OP and her kid will have is each other, and to avoid making the same mistake her mother is making, OP will need to steer clear of potential new partners, concentrate on her career, raising her kid, creating a stable home environment for him, being the best single mom he's so proud to have.⚠️
That mom is stupid. “How hurtful of you to exclude me from your life, despite letting my abusive new husband treat you, my child, like a second class citizen. You reap what you sow. NTA. OP was right to put her in her place and stand up for himself.
Well said. The mother will get a sad wake-up call, when OP not only goes full NO CONTACT with her, but also, when OP never invites her to, nor, tells her about his college graduation, wedding gender-reveal party, baby shower, nor, ever lets her be there for the birth of her first grandchild. For same token, when she and her family look at wedding pics of OP with his bride, friends, and in-laws, they'll be a crying mess, and scream, "?#*$! IT COULD'VE BEEN US IN THOSE PICS!"⚠️
Imagine never celebrating your birthday again because someone died during it.
It’s understandable the first few years to mourn, but there is no way I’d stop celebrating my BIRTHDAY because someone else is in pain.
Life happens. The OP didn’t choose to be born that that and his relative did not choose to die on that day either. It just happened.
Exactly and this was a perfectly reasonable way to go about it, the GF does something special and posts to social. That sister is such a nasty toxic narcistic monster
Kids aren't stupid and they didn't say anything. It was the grown up who feels entitled
1st story. A parent's job is to parent not be told how too by the offspring. The mother is a fool
Well said. I see where the mother looks at pics of OP walking across the stage at her college graduation, pics of OP walking down the aisle at her wedding, pics of OP at her gender-reveal party, and baby shower with her replacement family (her beau, friends, therapist, and in-laws), pics of OP with her beau and their new baby, and not only has trouble figuring out why OP went NO CONTACT with her, but also has trouble figuring out why OP left her out of those important events and chose to include her bio-dad and his family, instead.
And when the mother's new husband divorces her and gets custody of their kids, and kicks her out of their house, she'll try to call OP, and beg her to take her in, only, to find out that OP moved states away, disconnected her phone number, deactivated her social media accounts, had a P.O. box.⚠️
For the second story, there is a similar story to this. A family member dies on someone's birthday and everyone expects each other to mourn about death instead of celebrating someone's birth.
At least in my opinion, if I were to die on someone's birthday, I wouldn't make others doom and gloom over me. It's not fair to the person's birthday.
--- OP wasn't harsh enough to his Mother. She looked sad because he told her the truth and she had to face the fact that she neglected her son and also let her husband and his family emotionally abuse him. Ask her why your picture isn't in her locket.
In story three, at least MIL payed for smith. Mine didn't spend a penny and yet I had to constantly hear her say 'this is my son's wedding so I want things to be done like this' and she wore black, when black wasn't the wedding's theme. As if she were mourning. At least neither me nor my husband didn't even listen to her tacky suggestions.
S2: You have every right to grive but you have no right to expect someone not to celebrate their life.
Don't respect the dead by disrespecting the living because ultimately the dead wont mind while the living will. OP wouldn't have been TA even if he threw a big party as long as the sister wasn't forced to come
Ok can you please include whether there is an update or not. Quite wasting my time with stories that don't go anywhere
Agreed, this channel has this stupid/dumb yet simple to fix problem
Yeah. That pisses me off, too.
👴 “We can’t ’bust heads’, like we used to, but we still have our ways. The key is to stall ‘em with stories that don’t go anywhere. Like the time I took the ferry to Shelbyville…”
The first one did not have an update, it has been 2 years since she made that post
S1- proof that stupid people are worse than vindictive people. The step dad is clearly an AH for how he was treating OP but the mom was either too stupid/oblivious/selfish to think about the consequences of her actions. The step dad owns his accountability cause he's driving the ship while the air-headed mom has a surprised pikachu face cause she "didn't mean to" and gets to feign ignorance. Stupid people are worse than villains, at least no-one comes to a villains aid when they get what they deserve while stupid people get coddled.
I come from a big family. 2 older sisters, 2 younger brothers and a younger sister. My youngest brother (10 years my junior) was born on our mum's 38th birthday. She passed away unexpectedly in 2019. Mum would be pissed as all Hell if we made her birthday all about her when my brother is still with us. All us kids and our Dad visit Mum at the cemetery with flowers on the morning of their joint birthday, but that's it. We make sure the day is all about him. She's not here to celebrate him turning turning 28 this year, she won't be there when he eventually gets married and she'll never see her grandkids be born. But we will. And we'll celebrate every milestone of his life with him. Because we love him.
story 3 about the gaming laptop and the one commentar
children dont understand outside stuff and see only the favortism, we talk about a 15 year old and two kids who are almost adults not about 7 or 8 year old kids
the issue doesnt seem to be about the kids but the mother/sister who is pissed and makes a big deal about that
It’s really annoying when the reddit story had no update… what is the use of redditor opinion without closure
Story 1: OP's mom sold her soul to a Demon in the Sack for passionate hugging, and sold out her kid so she could benefit from said Demon. That's the kind of nonsense a narc/covert narc-enabler pulls.
Damn this group of friends of petty. I would leave it
Story 3: I would've either given her a horrendous makeover in every picture she was in or simply edited her and her husband out, even if just for a few joke pictures where they knew they were in simply to annoy them.
You could also just slightly edit her photos by making her forehead bigger or something.
Sushi places have plenty of non-seafood. Unagi is freshwater eel. California rolls are vegetarian. Rice balls are… you know… rice. Vegetable tempura. Most have some kind of steak teriyaki dish, miso soup, udon (soup or on a plate). Obviously, call ahead and make sure they’re not cross-contaminating stuff with cutting surfaces and utensils, but it’s entirely feasible for her to eat there.
And if her allergy is mild, as you say, she may be fine with popping some benedryl and going anyway. My wife is mildly allergic to cats, but would rather medicate every day than give up her fur baby.
So many Liam's in these stories. I don't think I know a single Liam in real life.
Honestly it doesn't matter the price tag on the gift as how much the person likes it. As long as you do something nice/thoughtful for the others (not all the time just like occasionaly) it's not favoritism. I mean if you want you can ask the kids if they felt left out. If not it's thier mom being a jerk. If they do feel that way let them know it wasn't your intention and spend time or get them something nice for their bday.
I hate these stories dont really have updates. Story 1 i would love to hear more but all these stories are shorts that leave you on a cliff hanger
S3 - When straight people mistakenly find fashion inspiration from Ru Paul.
--- Jesu, good grief woman, picking out wedding attire for the wedding guests? Bridezella to the nth degree.
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Maybe celebrate your bday before or after it. Probably before your real bday. It's not fair not to celebrate it when everyone's else's is. How ever doing so on the day off I can see how that could be insensitive. Not a hole worthy but not best person. But you didn't you helped her out were respectful you only celebrated because your girlfriend made it a special moment. She sounds like a keeper. Your family sounds like Thier letting thier grief rule their life.
They weren’t insensitive to the sister. But so stupid. Why do people insist on posting everything they do on social media? The caption is “Happy Birthday, love” but she isn’t telling it to her love. They’re broadcasting it to all their friends. It’s such loser behavior.
what an ignorant comment. The GF has every right to post her BF birthday on social and she should block the toxic sister who has decided that OP never gets to have another birthday ever again.
@@stevenwilson5556 Who said she doesn't have the right? She has the right. She's just a loser, broadcasting her life on social media which is exactly the sort of behavior self-absorbed losers participate in.
How about actually talking to your mom about your feelings instead of assuming she doesn't care, from how you described it it seems very easy to not even notice you being cut out especially if you don't speak up.
How about the mom made her feelings abundantly clear with her actions?
Your blaming HIM REALLY
@pamlew338 nope, the step dads an actual dick. I'm just saying snaping at the mom, Who from what was said could easily have just not noticed, wasn't the best call. Snap out on the step dad or the step family. Or atleast actually talk to her so she knows what's going on so when you do call her out there's no question.
@stevenwilson5556 what actions? Being given a locket and not making a fuss it wasn't good enough because not all 3 of her kids were in the double sided locket? Every other action was the step family.
Seriously you think the Mom didn't notice that OP was not included in family photos and activities? Really? She was told when he was moving but didn't remember? She didn't care. That POS deserves absolutely no consideration. She allowed her child to be side lined and emotionally abused. He should NOT have a conversation with her, he should block her and never talk to her again. This started when OP was a young child.who does this to a child? A useless failure of a human who deserves nothing. She never stood up for her child so she does not deserve a relationship with that child.
Yta. For hoping someone who has no obligation towards u will treat u like his own his family would do the same