Eva should get in contact with her biological mom. She seems to be under the impression that OP is the reason for breaking the marriage. I think meeting with her biological mom would give her a good reality check.
I think it was because of the neglect of the OP. He took his wife's advice and did not take her to a therapist. He instead decided to send Ava to his sister when she was getting too much to handle. Really not a good impression on the OP. I do agree she should try to contact her birth giver but won't be successful since the only thing that she probably knows is that her birth giver is in germany.
@@DukerGamerz ya know reading the comments puts something's into perspective like Eva does seem to be manipulating OP now I'm not saying Eva is a golddigger but it definitely feels like she thought OP's daughter was a threat to their marriage or wven a rival of sorts also not saying OP would do that with his own kid
@@zambekillerAva is the daughter, Mercy is the wife. The OP did say that his wife was supportive and to be patient with his daughter in her teenage years. As far as we know she started to be against Ava after she learned of the wedding
Ava deserved to be alone. I have a sister who pushed everyone away out of hatred and anger. Then had the nerve to cry that no one loves her. I went no contact. Now my aunt thinks I should be more forgiving. I do forgive my sister, I'm just not going to put myself in the position to be treated like trash again so I stay away.
@@JayJayShawtyBae I mean most of people in reddit need to know how to forgive or they might be alone in the end. But you are right people do need to know that you don't have to forgive unless you really want to.
Hatred is a poison, and not forgiving is just as poisonous. You can forgive, not for them, but for you. Also they arent interacting anymore so it works out.@JayJayShawtyBae
@@JayJayShawtyBae if someone chooses not to forgive its their choice. You can't decide that for anyone. I forgave my sis and she didn't even ask for it let alone beg. Forgiveness can't even be begged for, it should be earned. And if the person still says no, on well
If your own kids are irredeemable, I hope you at least have the hindsight to realise its your own fault along with your partner. Unless your kid has a full blown serious mental illness, a lack of correct guidance or being given solid morals by their parents are generally the reason for awful people being the way they are. Bad apple doesn't fall far from the tree as they say.
Sad how this dad tried to be fair with his daughter calling her out when doing bad stuff yet helping her when she needed help. And still be treated as the bad guy. She had a good father. Wish luck to op.
It really saddens me how he coddled her, did everything for her, never put any boundaries down, let her run around doing drugs and kept paying for car services, college and allowing all this... and somehow being such an amazing great parent who let their child do anything they wanted, somehow it all ended up going so badly. How? Who could have possibly seen that coming? In what world is not enforcing any rules, letting your child live wherever they want rule-free, always paying for everything and bailing them out... how could this have possibly ended up with her being so entitled and bratty? It simply makes no sense.
The very idea that "Ava" thought she was going to get her father to pay for her wedding then get away with him not allowed to be at the wedding. She deserved it. There are times when that level of a wake up call is needed. "Mercy" made more than the full effort, and "Ava's" racism is a huge issue. She lost all of that because of herself. Christopher Titus' mom Juanita was just like "Ava", as she blamed Ken Titus (the comic's father) for everything. I am just glad that she is getting help even if she doesn't forgive the first OP.
My wife and i paid 35 dollars for our courthouse wedding, 21 years ago. We are still going strong If it is about LOVE, she won't care about the venue. 20-30k would be WAY better spent as a house down payment, or a paid off car.
@@amoghlad9792 they didnt meet when he was graduating high school and she was six :I they met when both of them r grown adults so can do whatever they want as long as both consent.
I woulda canceled that sh*t too. Good job!! I'm tired of these soft ass parents these days. You're the parent. I have 2 daughters so I'm most likely going to have to cross that bridge one day. And let me tell you, I can almost guarantee neither one of them would try me like that. I've been the #1 staple in their lives since birth, they already know what to expect 😂.
OP's daughter is really mad her mother. But, since her mother wants nothing to do with her she takes out on the OP. She wants OP to be miserable like her.
Yup… Just looking at the online name that you’re using explains your sad and pathetic response. Might want to plan ahead for the extreme loneliness you’re going to be experiencing. Or, that you’re already experiencing now. The many cats that I’m sure you have probably already also think you’re a goof… Just sad.
If your kids can't afford to pay for their own wedding they dont deserve to get married. Thats one of the first tests if you raised your son or daughter to be SELF sufficient! No one owes anyone anything but respect and thats a two way street.
Story1: i dont believe Eva changed at all in the end. I think she only made up with OP's Parents to ensure she gets a cut of the "generational wealth" OP mentioned, from the grandparents will. Based on the story i believe this more with how manipulative, narcissistic and immature she is. She is definitely thinking of using his parents as her new bank account.
Story one I've heard this story before and your daughter does hate you very much I don't think she'll ever forgive you but me personally I've always had this innate ability to cut people off and no matter who they are I don't care if they're my mother and my father my brother my sister it doesn't matter who they are I can cut anybody off and never care about them again so if my daughter hated me this much I would just tell her the last time well I hate you too don't ever contact me no matter what you want and then I would disconnect from her and never speak to her again, probably if she killed herself I probably wouldn't feel any remorse over it whatsoever because something in me is strange that I have no feelings for things like this I love my family yes but if someone hates me so much I find it easy to hate them back and I would not feel any pain if they killed themselves or died in any way whatsoever, that's just me I know it's wrong but I can't stop it I don't know what it is maybe I need therapy but it is what it is
alright now we have same super power... life too short to deal with triling bs from triflin folks. I cut heffas out in a heartbeat because how that mary J song go??? : I DON'T NEED NO ONE TO PUT ME DOWN I'M ON THE GROUND CAN'T GET NO LOWER" lmao sing! 100% agreed with everything you typed!
Got the same power! Not too long ago a aquintance that i know for like 16/17 years we fell out and still don't care nor feel any distress from it! Once things are over they are over.
@@wraithking3749 absolutely, and YOU know it's OVER IN YA BODY AND SOUL, because after it's said and done you are filled with the sound of music and a sense of just PEACE. Good on you for dropping toxic heffas out ya life!
You have done a good job. If children's don't treat there parents correctly or as a family. Then the parents also need not treat them. They should know the hard life of society.
I didn't understand until he said his wife's credentials. I think he felt he LIVED with a child expert so didn't get her a seperate therapist.HUGE MISTAKE.
THANK YOU! That someone else caught this. School counselors SUCK. Maybe there are some good ones, but there don't require the same credentials actually therapists do and her saying Ava will "get over it" shows just how bad she probably is at her job. Child was abandoned by one parent and feels like she's being replaced by a young new woman, but 'she'll get over it"
@@namename2040I don’t believe people that say “oh they’ll get over it”. Like you should try and help the person to get over it. Having a heart to heart in this situation is the bare minimum and if that doesn’t work therapy is an option available till the time they are a minor.
Op did the right thing, that's low key disrepectful, the man pays for his daughters wedding and she don't even tell him or his wife, HER OWN PARENTS that their not invited. when was she even going to tell Op and his wife, when they're at the wedding but denied entry?!
That daughter was clearly never allowed to deal with the consequences of her actions and it shows in her behavior. She needs to be left to hit rock bottom and deal with the fallout that she created without having a net underneath to catch her. Otherwise she’ll never learn
As a child growing up, you shielded her from the consequences of her actions. Now you're gonna act like a parent when your feelings get hurt. You created this monster.
I’m calling it from experience. I’m betting grandparents are somewhat to blame or influenced what Ava is like. They didn’t see the problem until the behavior started being directed towards and affected them.
Y’all say he should have sent her to therapy as a teen but maybe he thought a different environment would be more helpful. Therapy gets a sort of negative look especially as a teenager
She was abandoned at 7 years old by her mom she should have been in therapy, and then OPs "school counselor" wife said she'll get over and just took her "professional" opinion
My guess is that her biological mother didn't want her and felt abandoned and unloved. And felt no other woman could've replaced what a nurturing biological mother should've been had she not left with another man to another country! That's just a theory though!
Ava is a prime example of why parents need to show tough love on their kids before they turn into this abomination. If i were op and I was treated this way then those spankings would've done it's job and show'em who's providing their needs since birth. Just because parents are supposed to provide for their young doesn't mean the child shouldn't have some form of discipline if bad behavior or actions come up. Without it kids like that grow up thinking that way and mess with the wrong person which will put them in their place. Sad but true.
@@amoghlad9792 going to debunk on that because op was dating someone who just so specializes in child psychology in which she chooses not to engage to respect her step daughter's wishes and tries to not manipulate Op's mind about Ava. Ava here blaming everyone for her problems yet the people who cared about her did reach out to help her. What did Ava do in return? She pushes them away so that was on herself. Op did try to talk to her and see what the problem was but how can they when his daughter is like a ticking time bomb of tantrums.
@@yunarukami6161 Also he did send her to live with his sister which honestly i don't even know the point of that move. Did the op think Ava will just get less angry? Also him sending her to the sister is him pushing ava away not Ava pushing them away.
Ava really needs the therapy she seems to be finally getting. This is likely at least largely directed at her mother for abandoning her, but it's coming out at everyone within reach. All that said, however, I don't fully believe the father's view of the situation. It reads too much like the posts on Estranged Parents forums, where someone will explain in all apparent innocence that "I have simply no IDEA what I did to hurt her this much!" while in the same post, explaining in explicit detail exactly what their child said they did to hurt her that much. It's possible that everything is exactly as written. Or it's possible that both Ava's mother *and* father were hurtful to her, in different ways. Regardless, Ava needs the therapy -- because if her father did hurt her so much, she needs to learn how to absorb that and move on with her life without the trauma damaging her other relationships, while if it's exactly as her father said, then she needs to learn how to absorb her mother's abandonment and stop letting *that* damage all her other relationships, including the one with her father. Either way, though, she seems to be letting her hurt from at least one parent and maybe both damage her friendships and her marriage, as well as her physical and mental health. I hope she learns to do better for herself, but don't think she's out of line for not wanting to see her father anymore.
So, girl was going to let her dad show up and not get in. Why not just TELL HIM ahead of time. And if she felt that way, she should just have paid for it on her own.
Most people pronounce Eva as Ava. Only some English pronounce is as eeva. Somebody I know's name shortening is the first three letters of her name (Eva), and she hates it when people pronounce it the way it's supposed to be (Ava) because she says it makes her blood boil, but only some Americans and Canadians pronounce her name as Eeva. Everyone else pronounces it the other way.
I am for sure certain there is much more the op is hiding especially regarding the stepmother they tried to brush it off with she is rightfully upset with me and because of things my wife did it stinks.
I'm sorry you must have missed the part where he tells her that he is the one paying for the wedding venue and will no longer be paying for it. Her lack of returning his calls and communication is on her. It's a two way street and like he said he was doing her the favor which he had done all through her childhood up until she got a job and a fiancee and still offered to pay for the wedding.
so there's a thing called consequences. her consequence with that decision to not include you from her wedding but expected you to pay up, it so not acceptable. you did good, i totally support your decision
I think the mother leaving Ava might have affected Ava emotionally and the mother might have fed her lies before she left. OP should have gotten her some help and shouldn’t have let his daughter’s behavior slide by sending her somewhere else instead of getting her help. I believe, before the mother left she might have been the one to feed Ava lies since there shouldn’t have been any reason why Ava was accusing Mercy of being a gold digger
What a stupid idea to have text changed with every jump that is happening in the background. You constantly get distracted either by what's happening in the background or new bits of text popping up.
Amazing that his parents switched sides only after they saw her true self. When the child hates you for no reason but can't go 10 minutes without throwing a tantrum. She needs her father's forgiveness not the other way around.
An early intervention when eva was showing behavioral changes could have saved her. I know it's hard to identify some of the signs but her's were very clear see she went to drug abuse and had constant fights.
Yo you lost your daughter not when you cansel the wedding venue , but when she was child, and children are the result of the parents you teach them you show them the way , if your daughter take pills ,drugs narcissistic and all the rest you say where she learn it or where were you when you see these start to stop them? looking for a wive number 2?, also i am father of 2
All you own to your kids is to protect them and feed them..to teach them how life works at all costs because if u dont they will show u how u failed. With actions.this is till they turn 18 after that u offer a morral and sometimes financial support. U have done your job they are adults and can bare the consequences of their own actions.
Blocking the person that paid for your wedding is crazy 💀
Crazy how she expects him to pay but not attend. 🤣😭😂
Agreed if you don't want it in your life don't accept the money
Crazier is anybody would believe this is in the slightest bit true
@@dontmatter4423 You don't know, things happen (I am not saying that I think this story is true but it can be)
"We can't be ruthless to our children, no matter how cruel they are to us." Ooh really.
The grandparents were also not innocent. They only took the op's side when they were wronged.
Apparently, they never heard of tough love.
Prey animal mindset
@@amoghlad9792boomers trying not to ruin everything challenge, Impossible!
Sometimes being ruthless is nessecary
he did the right thing. your daughter is a brat.
She's suffering from textbook narcissistic personality disorder
It sounds like OP is 100% at fault for raising a shitty kid.
"He" didn't do anything but write a script about a fake story and have shitty AI voice it
@@Freeflier1978 Yep, this story has been rewritten and used so many times over the years as well.
Oh my God we know it's fake
Eva should get in contact with her biological mom.
She seems to be under the impression that OP is the reason for breaking the marriage. I think meeting with her biological mom would give her a good reality check.
I think it was because of the neglect of the OP. He took his wife's advice and did not take her to a therapist. He instead decided to send Ava to his sister when she was getting too much to handle. Really not a good impression on the OP. I do agree she should try to contact her birth giver but won't be successful since the only thing that she probably knows is that her birth giver is in germany.
@@DukerGamerz ya know reading the comments puts something's into perspective like Eva does seem to be manipulating OP now I'm not saying Eva is a golddigger but it definitely feels like she thought OP's daughter was a threat to their marriage or wven a rival of sorts also not saying OP would do that with his own kid
@@DukerGamerzOP wasn't "neglecting" the brat he raised she got exactly what she demanded...
@@zambekillerAva is the daughter, Mercy is the wife. The OP did say that his wife was supportive and to be patient with his daughter in her teenage years. As far as we know she started to be against Ava after she learned of the wedding
@DukerGamerz Eva is evil pure and simple case closed
The Wedding Planner's mistake was thinking she was working for the bride and not the person paying for the wedding.
Ava deserved to be alone. I have a sister who pushed everyone away out of hatred and anger. Then had the nerve to cry that no one loves her. I went no contact. Now my aunt thinks I should be more forgiving. I do forgive my sister, I'm just not going to put myself in the position to be treated like trash again so I stay away.
Y’all needa learn you don’t have or need to forgive people. Forgiveness is begged for not handed out lightly.
@@JayJayShawtyBae I mean most of people in reddit need to know how to forgive or they might be alone in the end. But you are right people do need to know that you don't have to forgive unless you really want to.
@@JayJayShawtyBae ????? They forgave and are okay not talking with their sister. People can forgive if THEY want to. They did. The fuck is your issue?
Hatred is a poison, and not forgiving is just as poisonous. You can forgive, not for them, but for you. Also they arent interacting anymore so it works out.@JayJayShawtyBae
@@JayJayShawtyBae if someone chooses not to forgive its their choice. You can't decide that for anyone. I forgave my sis and she didn't even ask for it let alone beg. Forgiveness can't even be begged for, it should be earned. And if the person still says no, on well
Funny how the grandparents only agreed with OP after they Eva went off on them, as if doing that to OP wasn't enough of a valid reason to take action.
Some people can't be saved, even your own kids.
So true
If your own kids are irredeemable, I hope you at least have the hindsight to realise its your own fault along with your partner. Unless your kid has a full blown serious mental illness, a lack of correct guidance or being given solid morals by their parents are generally the reason for awful people being the way they are. Bad apple doesn't fall far from the tree as they say.
@lfcmike12 good luck with that.
@@entezami777 Good luck with what? Nobody in my family is messed up, they all get the care they need 😊👍
@@lfcmike12 keep telling yourself that.
Your daughter is pure evil. And she never loved you. Never talk to her again.
Talking about evil
@@user-wn3ew1qy1o ??
Sad how this dad tried to be fair with his daughter calling her out when doing bad stuff yet helping her when she needed help. And still be treated as the bad guy.
She had a good father. Wish luck to op.
It really saddens me how he coddled her, did everything for her, never put any boundaries down, let her run around doing drugs and kept paying for car services, college and allowing all this... and somehow being such an amazing great parent who let their child do anything they wanted, somehow it all ended up going so badly. How? Who could have possibly seen that coming? In what world is not enforcing any rules, letting your child live wherever they want rule-free, always paying for everything and bailing them out... how could this have possibly ended up with her being so entitled and bratty? It simply makes no sense.
@@patron7906 i wish i had someone willing to do half of that goddamn
@@stertrack520 More parents need to send their kids to their sister and parents. If they did that, they would grow up so much better.
Females always try to shii on guys like that.
Just because he is paying for the wedding doesn't mean that he is entitled to be at the wedding. He is the father, it is his obligation.
The very idea that "Ava" thought she was going to get her father to pay for her wedding then get away with him not allowed to be at the wedding. She deserved it. There are times when that level of a wake up call is needed. "Mercy" made more than the full effort, and "Ava's" racism is a huge issue. She lost all of that because of herself. Christopher Titus' mom Juanita was just like "Ava", as she blamed Ken Titus (the comic's father) for everything. I am just glad that she is getting help even if she doesn't forgive the first OP.
Ava would've gotten away with it if the dad didn't try to invite a friend
The divorce impacted her to the point where she let her anger get the best of her. . .
My wife and i paid 35 dollars for our courthouse wedding, 21 years ago. We are still going strong
If it is about LOVE, she won't care about the venue.
20-30k would be WAY better spent as a house down payment, or a paid off car.
This isn't about you.
@@jcodol3334 ok, Forrest Gump.
@@jcodol3334- Run Forest 🏃🏿♂️
I’m happy that Op cut off the funding for her daughter’s wedding. Let other family pay for the wedding.
Some of us just like older men Ava. It’s not that deep 🙄🙄
True. Plus there's a difference in an older couple with spread in age and an 18yr old being with a 32 yr old.
Kinda strange
So Op would be graduating high school while his future wife is 6. Yeah totally not weird.
@@amoghlad9792 they didnt meet when he was graduating high school and she was six :I they met when both of them r grown adults so can do whatever they want as long as both consent.
@@yesidek Still weird.
I woulda canceled that sh*t too. Good job!! I'm tired of these soft ass parents these days. You're the parent. I have 2 daughters so I'm most likely going to have to cross that bridge one day. And let me tell you, I can almost guarantee neither one of them would try me like that. I've been the #1 staple in their lives since birth, they already know what to expect 😂.
OP's daughter is really mad her mother. But, since her mother wants nothing to do with her she takes out on the OP. She wants OP to be miserable like her.
If Ava hates her dad, then she can cut contact with him and pay her own wedding.
"I cut her access to the main gate" 😂 okay Bruce.
Yup…
Just looking at the online name that you’re using explains your sad and pathetic response.
Might want to plan ahead for the extreme loneliness you’re going to be experiencing.
Or, that you’re already experiencing now.
The many cats that I’m sure you have probably already also think you’re a goof…
Just sad.
Psychopath is what comes to mind. I don’t mean it in the dramatic sense but in the clinical context.
NTAH. She had it coming. He did the right thing, and he clearly still loves her.
My brother is the same as Ava, blaming everyone else for his mistakes.
Narcissistic Complex
If your kids can't afford to pay for their own wedding they dont deserve to get married. Thats one of the first tests if you raised your son or daughter to be SELF sufficient! No one owes anyone anything but respect and thats a two way street.
Story1: i dont believe Eva changed at all in the end. I think she only made up with OP's Parents to ensure she gets a cut of the "generational wealth" OP mentioned, from the grandparents will. Based on the story i believe this more with how manipulative, narcissistic and immature she is. She is definitely thinking of using his parents as her new bank account.
Story 1: It's good that OP's daughter was saved, but it's sad that their relationship couldn't be saved.
Wait mercy is a teacher?!
I have a aunt who is a teacher and her name is also mercy 😮
She Indian or middle eastern looking, filled with vim and vigor?
@@richardbudgell7507 oh i thought she was filipino
I wonder what Ava’s side of the story is. The dad does sound like a bit of an angry narcissist.
Second dude is in denial. She clearly was going with the next guy
Story one I've heard this story before and your daughter does hate you very much I don't think she'll ever forgive you but me personally I've always had this innate ability to cut people off and no matter who they are I don't care if they're my mother and my father my brother my sister it doesn't matter who they are I can cut anybody off and never care about them again so if my daughter hated me this much I would just tell her the last time well I hate you too don't ever contact me no matter what you want and then I would disconnect from her and never speak to her again, probably if she killed herself I probably wouldn't feel any remorse over it whatsoever because something in me is strange that I have no feelings for things like this I love my family yes but if someone hates me so much I find it easy to hate them back and I would not feel any pain if they killed themselves or died in any way whatsoever, that's just me I know it's wrong but I can't stop it I don't know what it is maybe I need therapy but it is what it is
alright now we have same super power... life too short to deal with triling bs from triflin folks. I cut heffas out in a heartbeat because how that mary J song go??? : I DON'T NEED NO ONE TO PUT ME DOWN I'M ON THE GROUND CAN'T GET NO LOWER" lmao sing! 100% agreed with everything you typed!
Sounds like evolution to me!
Got the same power! Not too long ago a aquintance that i know for like 16/17 years we fell out and still don't care nor feel any distress from it! Once things are over they are over.
@@wraithking3749 absolutely, and YOU know it's OVER IN YA BODY AND SOUL, because after it's said and done you are filled with the sound of music and a sense of just PEACE. Good on you for dropping toxic heffas out ya life!
She doesn't deserve anything when she can't appreciate all you do. She will be ok.
You have done a good job. If children's don't treat there parents correctly or as a family. Then the parents also need not treat them. They should know the hard life of society.
Nothing better than some good creative writing
NTA. Pretty extreme, but not NTA. A bit joyfully extreme TBH
I didn't understand until he said his wife's credentials. I think he felt he LIVED with a child expert so didn't get her a seperate therapist.HUGE MISTAKE.
Agreed he should have gotten her a therapist when she was an angry teen. But he pushed her away.
THANK YOU! That someone else caught this. School counselors SUCK. Maybe there are some good ones, but there don't require the same credentials actually therapists do and her saying Ava will "get over it" shows just how bad she probably is at her job. Child was abandoned by one parent and feels like she's being replaced by a young new woman, but 'she'll get over it"
@@namename2040I don’t believe people that say “oh they’ll get over it”. Like you should try and help the person to get over it. Having a heart to heart in this situation is the bare minimum and if that doesn’t work therapy is an option available till the time they are a minor.
I can imagine that his wife was horrible to Eva, too. Probably shamed her for her feelings which caused her to act out in the first place.
All of you are projecting and should find professional help.
Op did the right thing, that's low key disrepectful, the man pays for his daughters wedding and she don't even tell him or his wife, HER OWN PARENTS that their not invited. when was she even going to tell Op and his wife, when they're at the wedding but denied entry?!
You did right have her pay for it and her husband
That daughter was clearly never allowed to deal with the consequences of her actions and it shows in her behavior. She needs to be left to hit rock bottom and deal with the fallout that she created without having a net underneath to catch her. Otherwise she’ll never learn
If this is all true--forget her completely, disown her.
As a child growing up, you shielded her from the consequences of her actions. Now you're gonna act like a parent when your feelings get hurt. You created this monster.
The thing is he did not even raise her. He kept pushing her away in her teen years
Your father wasn't around growing up I see. Oh well
He shouldve done more tough love like this when she was a kid. She might have had a chance to not be the way she is now.
Lmao. She fucked around and found out
Blood means nothing if you don't matter in their eyes but simply as an ATM, you can be the same as water and care about someone more.
I’m calling it from experience. I’m betting grandparents are somewhat to blame or influenced what Ava is like. They didn’t see the problem until the behavior started being directed towards and affected them.
Y’all say he should have sent her to therapy as a teen but maybe he thought a different environment would be more helpful. Therapy gets a sort of negative look especially as a teenager
She was abandoned at 7 years old by her mom she should have been in therapy, and then OPs "school counselor" wife said she'll get over and just took her "professional" opinion
@@namename2040 Thanks for pointing that out. I legit thought I was the only one who found it weird.
Did the right thing. Do not feel bad shes has taken it out on you because her mom threw her away
Glad to hear that she ended up in therapy, that is perhaps her finally stepping off of the path of misery
My guess is that her biological mother didn't want her and felt abandoned and unloved. And felt no other woman could've replaced what a nurturing biological mother should've been had she not left with another man to another country! That's just a theory though!
this is what happens when you give your children love but not discipline twhen they do something bad ,
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Those reditors just make up so many stories
Either the biological mom or maybe the father created this monster
It doesn't matter if their your children. All love is conditional.
You treat people like shit, they will walk away
"How dare you move in in life and never enabled my bad behavior like a good father! You OWE ME!!"
WHERE to does she, or anyone, get this from??
You are great! And you are a real man and father!!
To me it sounded like father never did anything wrong? It was all on the daughter. Some of us do have legit reasons to hate our parents.
I would have canceled the wedding planner along with the venue. Parents have feelings too, plus the Bible says to honor your mother and father.
I would have called excorscist at some point lol
i was a brat as a kid but this makes fell like the least bratty kid ever
Why does she remind me of someone I went to uni with named Eva?🤣
Forget that! He should've took EVERYthing back!
OP definitely needs to take out a restraining order for him and his wife.
Yeah,no one can cut you deeper than your own child or children,it's a deep wound! 😮💨
😢😢. Hello, first time hearing about your lovely family story. I love it.
Brittany Smallpox did this to me!
Ava is a prime example of why parents need to show tough love on their kids before they turn into this abomination.
If i were op and I was treated this way then those spankings would've done it's job and show'em who's providing their needs since birth.
Just because parents are supposed to provide for their young doesn't mean the child shouldn't have some form of discipline if bad behavior or actions come up.
Without it kids like that grow up thinking that way and mess with the wrong person which will put them in their place.
Sad but true.
Tbf op didn’t provide for Ava in her teen years when she needed op the most. If I were Ava I would have emancipated myself
@@amoghlad9792 nah. OP is no mind reader. And he took great care of her
@@amoghlad9792 going to debunk on that because op was dating someone who just so specializes in child psychology in which she chooses not to engage to respect her step daughter's wishes and tries to not manipulate Op's mind about Ava.
Ava here blaming everyone for her problems yet the people who cared about her did reach out to help her. What did Ava do in return?
She pushes them away so that was on herself. Op did try to talk to her and see what the problem was but how can they when his daughter is like a ticking time bomb of tantrums.
@@yunarukami6161 It says op took the advice of his wife. And you know what that advice was? "She'll get over it".
@@yunarukami6161 Also he did send her to live with his sister which honestly i don't even know the point of that move. Did the op think Ava will just get less angry? Also him sending her to the sister is him pushing ava away not Ava pushing them away.
Entitled people suck universally. There's nothing you can do to entitled people that they don't deserve.
Great based dad
You damn right!
Ava really needs the therapy she seems to be finally getting. This is likely at least largely directed at her mother for abandoning her, but it's coming out at everyone within reach.
All that said, however, I don't fully believe the father's view of the situation. It reads too much like the posts on Estranged Parents forums, where someone will explain in all apparent innocence that "I have simply no IDEA what I did to hurt her this much!" while in the same post, explaining in explicit detail exactly what their child said they did to hurt her that much.
It's possible that everything is exactly as written. Or it's possible that both Ava's mother *and* father were hurtful to her, in different ways. Regardless, Ava needs the therapy -- because if her father did hurt her so much, she needs to learn how to absorb that and move on with her life without the trauma damaging her other relationships, while if it's exactly as her father said, then she needs to learn how to absorb her mother's abandonment and stop letting *that* damage all her other relationships, including the one with her father.
Either way, though, she seems to be letting her hurt from at least one parent and maybe both damage her friendships and her marriage, as well as her physical and mental health. I hope she learns to do better for herself, but don't think she's out of line for not wanting to see her father anymore.
Yea i was thinking this is very one sided
So, girl was going to let her dad show up and not get in. Why not just TELL HIM ahead of time. And if she felt that way, she should just have paid for it on her own.
If your kid say u own them when you save them from drugs they r a lost cause
45 yr old Women 57 yr old man is pretty equal.
Not everyone is family material
Eva, Ava, Evah, etc etc. bro, get her name straight.
I'm not trying to start a fight but most of these stories are either fake or use fake names
Most people pronounce Eva as Ava. Only some English pronounce is as eeva. Somebody I know's name shortening is the first three letters of her name (Eva), and she hates it when people pronounce it the way it's supposed to be (Ava) because she says it makes her blood boil, but only some Americans and Canadians pronounce her name as Eeva. Everyone else pronounces it the other way.
Don't forget "ever" 💀
Cry me a river ur worried about the wrong thing
Many ppl say "while all children deserve parents, not all parents deserve children well it's true but the opposite of this is also true.
I am for sure certain there is much more the op is hiding especially regarding the stepmother they tried to brush it off with she is rightfully upset with me and because of things my wife did it stinks.
The dude taking measures to make sure that she doesn't find out about cancellation early clearly shows the family dynamics that created his daughter
I'm sorry you must have missed the part where he tells her that he is the one paying for the wedding venue and will no longer be paying for it. Her lack of returning his calls and communication is on her. It's a two way street and like he said he was doing her the favor which he had done all through her childhood up until she got a job and a fiancee and still offered to pay for the wedding.
@@darkwolfe6286 He still goes on takes measure to make sure that she doesnt find out that he has actually done that.
Respectfully. You created this monster. You gave her everything without her earning it
Atleast someone has daid the truth. It is the parenting problem that no one will accept.
Sounds like my niece Raqual. :/ My nephew broke my heart too. 💔
so there's a thing called consequences. her consequence with that decision to not include you from her wedding but expected you to pay up, it so not acceptable. you did good, i totally support your decision
I think the mother leaving Ava might have affected Ava emotionally and the mother might have fed her lies before she left. OP should have gotten her some help and shouldn’t have let his daughter’s behavior slide by sending her somewhere else instead of getting her help. I believe, before the mother left she might have been the one to feed Ava lies since there shouldn’t have been any reason why Ava was accusing Mercy of being a gold digger
for that second story, OP is the asshole. so petty. he should have just paid for both tickets.
Thank God I am NOT related to these "Karens"
She was using you to pay but forget you. She is Horrible
What a stupid idea to have text changed with every jump that is happening in the background. You constantly get distracted either by what's happening in the background or new bits of text popping up.
Good job. If I was blocked they There’s not enough security for keeping me from at least entering Thanksgiving, my friend
How do you ban the person paying for your wedding and expect someone to be ok with this......his daughter is really delusional
Amazing that his parents switched sides only after they saw her true self. When the child hates you for no reason but can't go 10 minutes without throwing a tantrum. She needs her father's forgiveness not the other way around.
Good for you dad
No you did the right thing..
An early intervention when eva was showing behavioral changes could have saved her. I know it's hard to identify some of the signs but her's were very clear see she went to drug abuse and had constant fights.
The producers of these types of videos should be in RADIO and not on a video platform. Totally irritating.
Any friend that would hear that story and believe he owed her half the ticket cost is not a friend and can leave with her lol
I can be cruel to all people😂
There's a lot of backstory missing here. I don't know what it is, but it's obvious that a lot of context is not being provided.
It's the mother leaving her daughter!
Story doesn't really add up.. OP is clearly leaving a lot of information out of this one to massage the story.
Yo you lost your daughter not when you cansel the wedding venue , but when she was child, and children are the result of the parents you teach them you show them the way , if your daughter take pills ,drugs narcissistic and all the rest you say where she learn it or where were you when you see these start to stop them? looking for a wive number 2?, also i am father of 2
No Guilty brother....
a tldr would be fantastic
Not an asshole for canceling but is an asshole for not canceling wedding planer and not telling her that he had canceled everything else.
All you own to your kids is to protect them and feed them..to teach them how life works at all costs because if u dont they will show u how u failed. With actions.this is till they turn 18 after that u offer a morral and sometimes financial support. U have done your job they are adults and can bare the consequences of their own actions.