This is a sort of a Part 2 to a video I did a few weeks that you guys seem to have enjoyed. You can watch it here: ua-cam.com/video/c3Gc3RTsaDg/v-deo.htmlsi=jageu2BFUgkzrPYu
The problem I have is that I don’t want to forget her. I believe I can forget her and move on, but I don’t want to. The thought of her being out there somewhere and I’ll never see her again is so sad.
Who is that? Your mother? Your sister? Those are the only women I can think of in someone’s life that can never be forgotten. A wife or a girlfriend will always be replaceable..
I feel the same way, I have just been dumped from a two-and-a-half-year relationship, it is hard and very difficult, I do check my phone to see if she is going to come back to me, but I have to accept the situation I am in, have to let those thoughts come and go, and learn to relax.
I literally just acted as if my ex died. Deleted everything to do with him, even his number. Try my best to never think about him or anything. Honestly it’s working for me.
I want to be free. It's been 6 years and I still think about him everyday. He rejected me many times when I tried to get back with him. I finally gave up and stopped reaching out but my mind still won't stop thinking about him. I really don't want to think about him anymore. It's so taxing and worsens my loneliness. I want to be free
What you're saying at 2:35 is so relatable. I find myself replaying certain scenarios in my head thinking that I should've done certain things differently or said/not said some things and I just forget that it wouldn't have come to this if she actually loved me. If she actually loved me, I wouldn't have to struggle for her attention. I wasted so much of my time chasing her when every sign is pointing to the fact that she doesn't care about me. She just uses my attention to have fun and doesn't care about me. She would only accept me when she feels like it and when she's done having fun talking to me, she drops me like I'm a total stranger and treats me like crap. It happened many times that I feel so bad for trying so much. :(
You are exactly what I needed to hear right now. This week has been an emotional tidal wave. My romantic endeavours failed one after another and my friendship circle has fractured a little. I am relishing what bonds I still have and keeping myself occupied. I look forward to meeting new people in the future who I hope will fulfil me, and I them. Thank you also for the book recommendation, I will pick it up. Please keep up your amazing work.
Psychological scars are definitely real. You can let it go, and forgive but just like scar tissue the wound doesn’t heal exactly as it once was, that process of pain and healing is now a part of you
Such a powerful message. I know a lot of people say they want to be happy but refuse to do what’s necessary, which I can understand. Stepping into the pain is scary for a lot of people, but what we run away from is actually what sets us free. Acceptance is a form of detaching ourselves from what no longer serves us. Allowing, learning, forgiving and letting go. It’s not an easy path to heal, but it’ll get you to freedom faster than it would be running away from it. It’s more painful to hold on than it is to letting go. Beautiful video~
Going through the breakup right now. I fully agree with the content of the video. 100% accurate. Thoughts and feelings are directly interconnected. And Evan's simple solution is working. It's hard to go through this process though, but it's working for sure.
The problem is, i cant stop thinking about him, cause we study at the same university and i meet him every day. We have the same friend group and i love my friends. It hurts to distance myself more than just accepting this pain everyday. The thought of never seeing him again in a few years hurts aswell. I think it would be a tiny bit easier if i wouldnt see and recieve messages of him everyday. I have no clue what to do... thanks for your words. I think they would help if i could distance myself
"if you love someone let them go" i thought it was about me letting someone go because they dont want to be with you anymore. But I realized its also about you letting go of the pain to help yourself cause you have to love yourself :((
I try to focus on what im doung in the monent. Another technique i find helpful is to focus on breathing inhaling and exhaling and think of nothing else.
Hi Evan your video really helped me right now as I am trying to get over someone I lost. And I wanted you to know that your words and message has helped someone who is still currently overcoming something that is still new
I can not stop thinking about her. I feel like i will not be able to live like this. So sometimes i thought there is only one way that i would stop thinking about her. But I love my parents and my sister, so i won't do anything that they would suffer.
@@meenakumari362 Been there, done that. Revenge won't yield the result you expect subconsciously, which is them to turn around and apologise for the hurt they did to you. Trust me, I did that, and I wasted 2 years of my life in despair and depression. You're worth more than than, please try to forgive and move on. Not for them, for yourself.
No, it would mean you moved on, everybody moves on at different speeds, sometimes it takes years, other times it takes months. Everybody is in their own time zone, do not compare your situation to anybody else.
This is a sort of a Part 2 to a video I did a few weeks that you guys seem to have enjoyed. You can watch it here:
ua-cam.com/video/c3Gc3RTsaDg/v-deo.htmlsi=jageu2BFUgkzrPYu
England Wakh parc.?🫠
The problem I have is that I don’t want to forget her. I believe I can forget her and move on, but I don’t want to. The thought of her being out there somewhere and I’ll never see her again is so sad.
I’m also dealing with this . Ur not alone
Who is that? Your mother? Your sister? Those are the only women I can think of in someone’s life that can never be forgotten.
A wife or a girlfriend will always be replaceable..
@@AgentAO7 I feel bad for whoever you date man.
I feel you man.
I feel the same way, I have just been dumped from a two-and-a-half-year relationship, it is hard and very difficult, I do check my phone to see if she is going to come back to me, but I have to accept the situation I am in, have to let those thoughts come and go, and learn to relax.
I literally just acted as if my ex died. Deleted everything to do with him, even his number. Try my best to never think about him or anything. Honestly it’s working for me.
I think people fear "if i forget them they will forget me"
YES MAAM. I dont know about other people but I definitely feel this!! How do i let go of this fear maam? pls guide. Thanks in advance
I agree but they would of forgotten about you already and moved on. Otherwise they will still be in your life
I want to be free. It's been 6 years and I still think about him everyday. He rejected me many times when I tried to get back with him. I finally gave up and stopped reaching out but my mind still won't stop thinking about him. I really don't want to think about him anymore. It's so taxing and worsens my loneliness. I want to be free
The key is being present with the emotions. Suppressing causes deep rooted issues in the long run.
What you're saying at 2:35 is so relatable. I find myself replaying certain scenarios in my head thinking that I should've done certain things differently or said/not said some things and I just forget that it wouldn't have come to this if she actually loved me. If she actually loved me, I wouldn't have to struggle for her attention. I wasted so much of my time chasing her when every sign is pointing to the fact that she doesn't care about me. She just uses my attention to have fun and doesn't care about me. She would only accept me when she feels like it and when she's done having fun talking to me, she drops me like I'm a total stranger and treats me like crap. It happened many times that I feel so bad for trying so much. :(
omg this...
Yes!!!
Everything is impermanent including your thoughts and experiences. Let them come and let them go.
Easier said than done
@@aburrito4973 absolutely.
Trying to forget someone who loved you the best is harder to forget.
No. This person narcissistically abused me. I moved on right away, but I will never forget. Closure will only come when either I am dead or she is.
I guess you wanna waste your precious life… I’m sad for you.
I need this. Been days since we broke up, after a week, he already has someone new.
Fuck him! Love us! ❤ stay strong 💪🏻
i love my emotional intelligence because I know exactly what and how you mean everything you say and how to feel it
You are exactly what I needed to hear right now. This week has been an emotional tidal wave. My romantic endeavours failed one after another and my friendship circle has fractured a little. I am relishing what bonds I still have and keeping myself occupied. I look forward to meeting new people in the future who I hope will fulfil me, and I them. Thank you also for the book recommendation, I will pick it up. Please keep up your amazing work.
Psychological scars are definitely real. You can let it go, and forgive but just like scar tissue the wound doesn’t heal exactly as it once was, that process of pain and healing is now a part of you
Yeah, it really is unfortunate
Such a powerful message. I know a lot of people say they want to be happy but refuse to do what’s necessary, which I can understand. Stepping into the pain is scary for a lot of people, but what we run away from is actually what sets us free. Acceptance is a form of detaching ourselves from what no longer serves us. Allowing, learning, forgiving and letting go. It’s not an easy path to heal, but it’ll get you to freedom faster than it would be running away from it.
It’s more painful to hold on than it is to letting go.
Beautiful video~
Going through the breakup right now. I fully agree with the content of the video. 100% accurate. Thoughts and feelings are directly interconnected. And Evan's simple solution is working. It's hard to go through this process though, but it's working for sure.
The problem is I like this pain. I don't want this pain to go away. I like how it made me feel. It makes me feel very humane.
This is 100% more common than you think. I’ve been experiencing this.
I heard recently that the pain gives a dopamine kick. But the pain won’t help you. Maybe it’s better to find better sources for that dopamine
"We get addicted to a certain type of sadness."
The problem is, i cant stop thinking about him, cause we study at the same university and i meet him every day. We have the same friend group and i love my friends. It hurts to distance myself more than just accepting this pain everyday. The thought of never seeing him again in a few years hurts aswell. I think it would be a tiny bit easier if i wouldnt see and recieve messages of him everyday. I have no clue what to do... thanks for your words. I think they would help if i could distance myself
just found you tonight when i need it the most and your videos are helping me so much, i cant thank you enough
Welcome to the channel ✨
"if you love someone let them go" i thought it was about me letting someone go because they dont want to be with you anymore. But I realized its also about you letting go of the pain to help yourself cause you have to love yourself :((
I try to focus on what im doung in the monent. Another technique i find helpful is to focus on breathing inhaling and exhaling and think of nothing else.
Your videos have been a huge help. Thanks for sharing your experience.
Hi Evan your video really helped me right now as I am trying to get over someone I lost. And I wanted you to know that your words and message has helped someone who is still currently overcoming something that is still new
solid perspectives and helpful concepts with practical tips! thank you!
Thank you for sharing this and for book recommendation. Nice to see that you moved over! Take care 🙂
i needed this too i was sure she was the one
I can not stop thinking about her. I feel like i will not be able to live like this. So sometimes i thought there is only one way that i would stop thinking about her. But I love my parents and my sister, so i won't do anything that they would suffer.
It’s never that bad brother. It’s going to pass.
I was in limerance for a while - was a tough time but now im mentally flying
Very informative video. You explain in a good pedagogical way💘
You're the best. Thank you for this.
Great advice! Although it’s difficult to do, it makes perfect sense!
I needed this. Thank you.
I can't forget him , I tried everything
❤ This has helped me, thank you!
I can't forget it because we have a kid together
That’s another story
Thank you ❤
Vidéo très intéressante merci ❤
insanely helpful, thank you.
Thank you for the video!
Thank you 🌿
Thanks for the info
Easier said than done.
I hope it's easier for you now
@vumas I've not seen him in person since 22nd May but still in touch on whatsapp but last few weeks have been unpleasant, I think it's over.
@@jools726 I wish the best for you
Thank you 👍✌️
Hvala
Thank you
Godbless
Im just too angry.
I hope it's easier for you now
thank you
this helped me
Does revenge help if you want to take your mind off it?
Not worth it in the long run
@@VliengWieng Why not or can you explain?
@@meenakumari362it’s not going to actually make you feel any better
@@myselfasevan
Could you please explain why not?
@@meenakumari362 Been there, done that. Revenge won't yield the result you expect subconsciously, which is them to turn around and apologise for the hurt they did to you. Trust me, I did that, and I wasted 2 years of my life in despair and depression. You're worth more than than, please try to forgive and move on. Not for them, for yourself.
But wouldn’t you dating others make you a SERIAL DATER ?
No, it would mean you moved on, everybody moves on at different speeds, sometimes it takes years, other times it takes months. Everybody is in their own time zone, do not compare your situation to anybody else.
:(
Thank you ❤