How to cope with anxiety | Olivia Remes | TEDxUHasselt
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- Опубліковано 28 вер 2024
- Anxiety is one of most prevalent mental health disorders, with 1 out of 14 people around the world being likely affected. Leading up to conditions such as depression, increased risk for suicide, disability and requirement of high health services, very few people who often need treatment actually receive it. In her talk “How to cope with anxiety”, Olivia Remes of the University of Cambridge will share her vision on anxiety and will unravel ways to treat and manage this health disorder. Arguing that treatments such as psychotherapy and medication exist and often result in poor outcome and high rates of relapses, she will emphasise the importance of harnessing strength in ourselves as we modify our problem-coping mechanisms. Olivia will stress that by allowing ourselves to believe that what happens in life is comprehensive, meaningful, and manageable, one can significantly improve their risk of developing anxiety disorders.
Anxiety is one of most prevalent mental health disorders, with 1 out of 14 people around the world being likely affected. Leading up to conditions such as depression, increased risk for suicide, disability and requirement of high health services, very few people who often need treatment actually receive it. In her talk “How to cope with anxiety”, Olivia Remes of the University of Cambridge will share her vision on anxiety and will unravel ways to treat and manage this health disorder. Arguing that treatments such as psychotherapy and medication exist and often result in poor outcome and high rates of relapses, she will emphasise the importance of harnessing strength in ourselves as we modify our problem-coping mechanisms. At TEDxUHasselt 2017, Olivia will stress that by allowing ourselves to believe that what happens in life is comprehensive, meaningful, and manageable, one can significantly improve their risk of developing anxiety disorders.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx
To all those watching this video for their mental health, in case no one tells you today, just know you’re not alone (a lot of us are here for the same reasons) and you’re doing an amazing job getting on top of your mental health. And you should be proud of yourself for doing so. I hope you have an amazing day, and know we’re all here with you :)
@Michael Collins I am wishing you peace and respectful blessings of abundance along with your loved ones or family. Your words of inspiration hit my heart in a positive manner. Keep being a light because you have a divine soul. Have a great weekend. Stay positive and never give in or up to thoughts of fears, doubts, and anxiety. Do not pay any heed to negativity. You are worth more than what you feel or think.
Thank you
Yeah what I do is i just stop giving a f about what others think. I just say to myself, whats the worst thats going to happen? If they laugh, then I laugh back
@Derone Cerrone naw dude dont think of that. Just laugh at them and you gotta know that they are just laughing at you, nothing going to happen :)
@Derone Cerrone my tip is to just stop giving a s*** about what others think.
Anxious people avoid making mistakes, embarrassments..and seeks perfection. Thats where you go wrong. You can't please everyone ✊🏿♥️
Thank you for that comment homie
@@josiahflores4429 ❤️🙏🏼
My brain overthinks everything I do so much that I cant even sleep at night
I always get so anxious about online classes im scared if i will be called to answer and i will answer wrong and what if everybody in the class will laugh at me..
@@flpf I also experienced that, my first time attending Online classes. But I slowly got confident answering questions that I'm not even sure im correct.
What I hate so much about anxiety is that constant feeling in your guts that something is so wrong, and that you need to act but you don't know how or if it makes the situation even worse.
It's that feeling of a void, which makes me avoid.
yeah, you are right, i feel the same
Firstly just try to act on it, avoiding act on that feeling will make it even more worse than you think I'm not trying to scare you but I'm telling you is act on it
Every day I wake up I figure out what I should worry about. There isn’t a day I don’t obsess or worry.
Yes
I always feel like I have to do things perfectly or go through a situation perfectly but when I feel like that I always mess up afterwards. You know what has been helping me with this? "Put yourself in uncomfortable situations where people may laugh at you" this makes you not to put too much pressure on yourself or feel like you should do things perfectly. Of course you shouldn't literally have to put yourself in situations where people will laugh at you but it helps to not put too much pressure on yourself because you'll be ok with making mistakes. Being ok with making mistakes can even be very attractive as well.
1) Take control of your life, start something by doing it badly. 2) Forgive yourself, be kind to yourself. 3) Having a purpose and meaning in life.
God, please help me with my anxiety issues 🙏
Thanks may god bless you❤️
@@kerdskipa1101 eh I don't think it's worthless at all. What you looking for? The meaning on life? Get over yourself and stop being a d!ck. Also therapy for me is only 30$ lol does insurance not cover it for you?
@jazzyj2182 We can forgive ourselves, because we ourselves forgiven, and we can have purpose and meaning, because we are children of God, and are sent to tell others the good news. How blessed are we?
I think meaning part is the key. Otherwise we fall into pleasure seeking, including the pleasure of avoiding unpleasant steps to solve key issues.
Coping Strategies
1. Don't try to be perfect
2. Forgive yourself
3. Purpose - People need you in their lives
Thank u
I was searching for this comment 😂
@@AtreyeeBhattacharjee24 why is it funny?
We cannot do anything on our own. Only Jesus can and he will. Just repent and ask him into your life. He will take it away. He took my fear of covid during this lockdown when I was home alone for months facing great anxiety and heaviness in my heart but cry out to Jesus when you are drowning in pain and he will deliver you. He took it away overnight which I know full well I coudnt have done on my own. But whats impossible with man is possible with Jesus. He is the way, the truth and the life. You will find life in him in this world ruled by death.
No one needs anyone in this selfish world. The world keeps spinning with or without you. Life goes on. People will need you only till they can get something from you.
The physical anxiety is unbearable like the constant adrenaline that I feel for no reason I hate it
i felt like that intensely for a while but talked to a doctor and they gave me hydroxyzine pills which i take whenever i physically feel that way, and it just calms me down so so much. i really recommend it if ur having trouble dealing with problems like that, it worked and made a huge impact for me, so u could always give it a shot ! :)
Its easy to cure it when it happens in the body, but if that includes negative thoughts and worries then it's almost really hard.
Try natural remedies..like saffron pills and rhodiola rosea
Same
@@sanggre2517 I know you're trying to help people but im sorry to say that anxiety is always with you. You just need to ignore it. It doesn't magicly disappear (sadly)
Her description of the situations people with anxiety encounter is so accurate.
yeah
Yep
I agree especially when she drew the comparison between the natural anxiety people feel when they are facing a big bear.
I feel that kind of anxiety every day and all night.
Even trying to 'relax' makes me feel more anxious.
However, I am starting to face my anxiety more than I used to.
I'm currently taking little steps such as going out at busy times of the day and putting myself in situations I would normally avoid.
I don't feel comfortable 'yet' but the key thing is that I'm trying to cope in spite of having a severe anxiety disorder.
I recommend the book "emotional resilience" by Dr Harry Barry
it's like she was nearby all along
There's a book called Hidden Time Wealth, and it talks about how using some secret techniques, you can overcome procrastination and accomplish anything in life. It's not just a bunch of empty promises; it's the real deal.
I feel so alone with my anxiety, I feel like I don’t have control over it. I miss opportunities, I feel my anxiety physically and it really messes with me. I honestly don’t know what to do or how to live my life and love myself.
@Monday, Tuesday Is My Weekend thank you, wish I was a fan of teas 😅
@Monday, Tuesday Is My Weekend 2 capsules a day?
@@femmei.9109 that app has rescued me so many times!!
just be grateful and remember you are here for a reason
@@femmei.9109 Thanks a lot for sharing this. I needed something like this.❤️
I’ve struggled with anxiety for many years. But lately I’ve tried to adopt this mentality of “I’m feeling anxious but i’m just going to accept it and keep moving forward”. It has helped me immensely. (Obviously easier said than done)
A few years ago, a therapist suggested that I imagine that I’m relaxed and floating above everything: all my negative thoughts and anxiety and “what if’s” - and just picture looking down and seeing those feelings as I fly above and over them. She said I should picture that I see my fears and I know they’re there, but since I’m coasting along high above all my fears - they can’t hurt me. She was a very calming person, and it sounded great when she said it, but I’ve still not quite mastered it.
Trying too cos i.m fed up of this feeling and taking medications for years for depression too, which keeps coming back. This is not living, its existing. Not easy just yest had a severe panic attack just cos i had to go out with my cousin!!! Ended up in bed instead crying trembling etc
@@melf5283 same thing happens to me. it's so draining
Fear
Be one with fear and you master it.
Fear Is Not Wanting
Fear is ultimately rooted in not wanting things, like thoughts and or feelings, to be the way they are. The inner "no." We think fear is something to be condemned and overcome without even knowing what fear really is. But in reality, we don't want many of the things we think we need to overcome. In reality, we need to lovingly acknowledge and integrate the not wanting and realize that fear is what we don't want, and that the goal of overcoming fear is not necessarily to overcome fear, but to lovingly acknowledge and integrate the not wanting in order to ultimately find peace. Everything unwanted is fear. So being against everything is the ultimate fear. The way to make peace with fear is to acknowledge and integrate what we don't want. To want what we don't want. That is the path we must take to find peace. I hope you can gain understanding from this. It really helps me. I used to think I was weak or not good enough because I hadn't overcome certain fears in my past. But now I know that I didn't want those things and that's why I hadn't done them. So the fear is not necessarily there to be overcome. Because we don't want a lot of those things and that's okay.
The Courage To Be Strong
The courage to be strong is the shield to protect oneself against the manipulating fears that attack one. To be strong in spite of this and not to let oneself be manipulated is the courage to be strong.
The Courage And The Fear
Courage is knowing what you want and doing it. Fear is knowing what you don't want and not doing it.
Courage Is An Art
Courage is an art. Overcoming fears is difficult when fear has the upper hand. When manipulative fears have the upper hand, we even make fools of ourselves and do things we don't even really want to do. Only when we unite with fear, do we have the upper hand with fear, and so at the same time the courage arises to do what we really decide to do.
I’m struggling daily , I feel anxious for no reason even though I know I’m fine but it still is a battle. I’m getting better but it’s a long road much longer than I could have ever imagined. I really overlooked anxiety and depression when I was fine and now that an event pushed me into developing anxiety I can see how crushing and crippling it is.
Just smoke weed
Omg we're on the same page I'm only 18 obviously when I was younger little things bother me a sit should but it has gotten so much worse I feel like I'm going crazy I HATE the anxious feeling its irritating 😭😭😭
@@Alisha-zj8yf It passed though right? You calmed down and regained rational thought? Rest is super important and can change the way you think immediately, it's kinda magical. Anxiety on the other hand is terrible but temporary
@@izuk_btw4009 seek help, please
@@sleepisthecousinofdeath7395 bro i’ve tried and it makes anxiety worse 💀 makes u feel like ur trapped, everything gets rlly loud and it’s basically a bigger version of an anxiety attack. And now everytime i have an anxiety attack it’s worse than it used to be because of it
If you come across my comment, I hope that you know that the world needs you. You are a beautiful person no matter what you are going through right now! Have an amazing and blessed day. May life bring you the best. 💗
Thanks 😇
Thank you so much, you're amazing !😇
@@_pathak you are most welcome
@Alin Sare Çakır ❤️
@@trex6230 thank you ❤️
I cried... Living with anxiety is so difficult. She analyzed it perfectly and the advices are PERFECT. I don't have any control on my life because of a health issue and my anxiety is living is best life because of my lack of actions and sense of living. When I do, just one thing, that makes me feel I'm in control, I'm someone else ! The thing is to never stop making choices,/actions because anxiety come back very quick. It works. If you really wanna do something, breathe and do it without thinking. It's terrifying at first but so much fun when you're doing it, and even after because you're so proud of yourself and so impressed how good and easy it was.
You know I had also started worrying a lot from yesterday it is a very uncertain feeling I had yesterday it was like I am scared worried about everything because you know I had almost a fight yesterday but I had control myself on not to yesterday it was like I was very worried on what is about to happen because he is like a thug here and knows lot of people if I had fight with him I could have beaten him but after that I will have lot of problems and that's why I am having a lot of panic attacks but now I am little better hopes nothing bad happens today
true, momentum is key. If you can socialize or speak infront of a crowd without feeling very anxious, make it your routine. Your brain realizes that socializing is not a do or die situation, and it actually becomes fun. I guess the speaker has undergone this desensitization therapy, no wonder she's very calm.
I need someone that have anxiety we can talk in watsapp or facebook
Sameeee
Trueee
When I start feeling anxious, I feel like throwing up. Sometimes I get a bad headache. I tell my friend I’m going to cry and she tells me ‘don’t cry! why are you crying?’ I wish those words comforted me, but they don’t. That’s like telling me to breathe, but I’m underwater. I told her I might have anxiety, but she *probably didn’t believe me.* I told my mom I had a headache, she told me I need to sleep more. I told her that i didn’t know why it happened. *But there was.* I cried quite hard and apparently you can get headaches because of that. It was so bad. My eyes were burning, my head, spinning, my stomach, churning.
That’s exactly how I feel at the moment
@@karenjyrwa9865 oh really? I thought I was the only one... I know how it feels, you do too. let’s get through this together then!
Are u ok now?
@@angelmaria7457 thank you for your concern😭 it means a lot but don’t worry about me! 💞 I hope your doing well too
@@goawayplseu4200 Have a good day 💕
I am an introvert and i have anxiety about being too quiet.
Me too, you’re always thinking of what to say and when you say it you hope it doesn’t come out as awkward. Has it gotten better fro you?
Same, but im star dealing whit that, think the worst scenario, what could happen?, you can’t die; so just do it, star being the most riddiculous person, domirt badly, but enjoy it; Sorry for wrong gramar, is not my native languaje 😀
Ikr it’s like I don’t want people to judge my lisp so I don’t talk but I feel like people hate me for being quiet
@@lorelynalaska9015 Think of it like this, because this is how it is. They don't hate you for being quiet, they want to hear you talk.
Been there. The more you accept yourself though the lesser rips u give about other people's opinions. The lesser the rips, the lesser the anxiety. You have to realize that "being quiet" is not at all a bad thing. Also believe in yourself, always. :))
My biggest anxiety trigger is loneliness, but it triggers every day. Olivia did a great job here, I genuinely smiled when she hit the ball on so many points.
I have lived alone for 10 years...and experienced anxiety/depression multiple times. Being alone for most of the time has been great overall, but has had it's moments.
I am the opposite. I crave being alone. Which makes me sad. But we’re all together in this scary time. If that makes sense x
@@smackedinthejaw I can imagine, I have been learning since writing that comment that contentment with oneself is the ultimate solution
@@Bubblesandcandyfloss used to be the same always liked keeping to myself I still do but I just don't stay in my room all day now or I start feeling alone and anxious so I find ways to cope with the feelings they come and go wish it would stay away God Bless me🙏
same! how do u cope/deal/live with it everyday?? I can't eat n sleep... my health is now declining due to my anxiety
I suffered with severe anxiety and panic attacks in my early 20’s. it was the worst thing I have ever gone through. Absolutely debilitating!
I overcome it within 12 months by doing the following:
Ditching anything with caffeine, ie: chocolate, & coffee. Ditching alcohol and smoking. Went to hypnotherapy sessions and learnt also how to relax my body. Understanding the trigger point of what was causing my anxiety in the first instance. Getting out of house and being around positive people, people who can lift you up and not bring you down. Going for walks, and enjoying a laugh again.
Turn your anxiety from your damnation into your salvation. Using self cognitive therapy you can fight it yourself without drugs or medications.
You fight this war and you can do anything in life.
I'm at the point where I'm done I don't feel a way out. I can't heal myself I don't know how I hate myself so much I just feel invisible as if I don't exist x
@@nicoleguymer2370 I know what ur feeling I experience this everyday. Ur not alone and u will get through this ❤️🙏
@@nicoleguymer2370 life is full of ups and downs. We are all not perfect. You need a change, a fresh start. Engage with good honest people who can support you and are interested in you and your life. Goods things will happen always when you least expect them too..Just when you think life has got you down the only way is up. Be the strong woman you were born to be. Be you.
That's true if we all can win this battle we can do anything and everything in life...
She is so right, who’s still watching her in 2020’ right now especially with COVID19 🙏🏼
I am...she didnt say anything I didnt know already, and none of that has ever helped me out...Im forever lost
Fabrizio Morris hey I’m going through it too if you need someone to talk to I’m here 786-607-3982
@@natassiagodfrey2067 thats incredibly kind of you but I would never want to bother you, Im quite of a burden
Fabrizio Morris I can see myself to you. I think I’m really depressed right now.
@@random-accessmemory9201 Im sorry to hear that
Psychedelics saved me from years of uncontrollable depression, anxiety and illicit pill addiction.imagine carrving heavy chains for over a decade and then all of a sudden that burden is gone.Believe it or not in a couple years they'll be all over for treatment of mental health related issues
I live in Michigan….suffering for awhile now but didnt realize how serious I may have it until recently - probably bc of @self medicating” with alcohol
Please does anyone know where I can get them? I put so much on my plate and it really affects my stress and anxiety level .I would love to try to shrooms.
@@JoanPatterson-pv1sg yes...Myco.spore
@@GeorgeWillis-xh4uj is he on Instagram?
Psychedelic is the answer to most severe anxiety and depression...The use of magic mushrooms completely helps one get over depression and makes you feel like yourself...I used antidepressants for some years but it only made me feel like a zombie but with immediate use of mushroom 🍄 in few months I feel like I'm living a whole new Life.
coping with anxiety
no 1 do it badly
no 2 Forgive yourself
no 3 wait to worry
no 4 Find purpose in life by helping others
Forgive yourself. Very well said.
Thanks. Her slow way of speaking gave me anxiety.
no 3 have a purpose in your life
Yee i almost had 2 tears rolling out of nowhere when she said, people with anxiety do this everyday, there very mean to themselfs.. idk just hurt me cuz thats me
Same
I thought I was weird while crying
Same here I cried like a baby
We are like caring so much for other people
I literally call myself a worthless hag that deserves to deal with all this anxiety/depression/stress, and tell myself to deal with it. I've been feeling so stressed lately because I sit for more than 12 hours a day online doing my school work. My teachers assign one after another assignment and there is this one class that I have to push all other classes out of the day just to simply understand what I'm even doing in that class. He gave us a long-term 4 part speaking project with almost no directions. I don't know where to start, and it's giving me anxiety. Then, there is all my other classes which are giving me test after test, and project after project. My parents also pressure me to get done because I have to leave to go to church at 6 (this is during the week). I'm also tired considering I go to sleep every night at 2 and wake up at 7am. I rarely eat lately too because everything is unappetizing and I don't want to sound ungrateful or anything like that, but it always seems like I have nothing to eat. It's so tiring, and just gives me chest pains. I have undereye bags (although I have those on the weekend as well even when I get sleep). I'm just not sure how much I can go, and watching this video did nothing lol
Sorry for wasting your time (even if no one reads this but sometimes, I feel better when I write down my problems and feel like someone might listen. My family doesn't even know I'm suicidal and I would only be in trouble if they knew). I also feel anger inside these days, and I don't think it's particularly healthy. Anyways, sorry for my rant
Does anyone else go on their phone to distract themselves??.
K9Addict ;3 Me and I have a exam after 2 days 😞
All the time
Definitely
always on my phone walking down the halls @ school bc i think everyone is looking at me
All the time
This covid-19 gave me a mental covid. I never felt so bad, and insecure about my future than ever!
You don't have to be hopeful about your future just curious about it. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Wdym mental covid? Because after I had covid I feel super anxious and panic attacks
We cannot do anything on our own. Only Jesus can and he will. Just repent and ask him into your life. He will take it away. He took my fear of covid during this lockdown when I was home alone for months facing great anxiety and heaviness in my heart but cry out to Jesus when you are drowning in pain and he will deliver you. He took it away overnight which I know full well I coudnt have done on my own. But whats impossible with man is possible with Jesus. He is the way, the truth and the life. You will find life in him in this world ruled by death.
@@6ix6ix4oe6 same 🥺
Me too
I go to a lot of parties, and I never talk to people because I feel anxious. I feel light headed, my stomach churning and my mind racing in circles, only second after the other. I want you to know, yes, it’s hard. Yes, it’s difficult, and yes, it can sometimes be scary. I’m not going to lie, I’m at a party right now and my friend sent me this after I asked them for help because I was shaking so much. But what I want everyone watching this to know is that you are not alone. You will think of things that you do want to, overthink, or talk to yourself and that is totally ok. But you need to know that this is totally okay! I do that every goddamn day, and I want you to feel good about it. I want you to feel good about yourself, and instead of trying to feel good about others, feel good about yourself. One step at a time, and you will push through this, and this will stay with you for the rest of your life and I want you to feel proud of it because no one is perfect. And you will never be who you want to be because you are you and you are unique and I want you to feel good about it. One step at a time, and I hope everything gets better for whoever is reading this. Have a great day/night!
thank you, this made my day. sending love.
Beautifully said!
Hey there! If you're dealing with anxiousness, I want you to know that hypnotherapy can really help. It works by accessing your subconscious mind to address the negative thoughts and beliefs that contribute to anxious feelings.
As a hypnotherapist, I help clients with hypnotherapy as an effective and natural treatment option that can give you back a sense of control and confidence.
So if you're struggling with anxiousness, consider giving hypnotherapy a try. It might just be the breakthrough you've been looking for.
Struggling with intense anxiety for past 15 years. my condition has caused me to loose jobs and being completely misunderstood. i go to bed with adrenaline and i awake with adrenaline. My last job caved in because i started getting panic attacks again 3 months ago. i then caught an Uber to the hospital and admit myself into The Psychiatric ward for the 1st time. I could not turn off my worry and adrenaline.. i am 31 years old, i take diazepam, temazepam, efexor and beta blockers. None of them really work for me cause my level of stress is quite high After the traumatic experience i had which i feel snapped in my brain and feeling that sense of normality has changed. Im doing the best i can but its so difficult to challenge my conditioned thought process.
i wont give up ever. I'll keep up the fight and any others out there take care. never give up
How are you now?
i am very much the same situation as yours, so may i ask how u r coping with anxiety now? i really need to know.
That sounds pretty serious. I hope you are healing. Stay strong.
Keep up the fight...You will never know when you will heal...it can be sooner....Have faith and patience
I’m so very sorry to hear this, it’s horrible I know! We must hang in there
She's so right about changing the way we cope to lower anxiety , because we're so focused ...on what's causing our anxiety we forget how to make it stop... but by thinking about what's causing our anxiety and then distracting ourselves by doing something that needs our full concentration like riding a bike or driving our anxiety over time gets better .
My anxiety is so bad. I would say it's like having a constant panic attack. All day all week
I feel u uhg it’s horrible
That really sucks,I hope you feel better soon
Same😕
@@annleah7005 so sorry to hear that. It's soooo hard... Ugh 😣
Yep
The last time I tried talking about my anxiety to someone in my family they said
"I also have anxiety. It's normal. Get over it "
Yet... I still wanna lose all this pain and outer body experience.
I have generalized anxiety due to traumas I've suffered and I can't take any pills...
Yep💔
Sylver, God has given us life to enjoy but God helps only those who help themselves. . Meditation is the only practical way to handle depression. Watch alternate nostril breathing meditation videos on Google search and do this simple meditation for 10 minutes at least twice a day. Your mind will be reprogrammed to relax. You can sit on a chair and do this meditation. You can also read the benefits of alternate nostril breathing meditation on Google search. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir, --Life Coach. Make meditation a daily habit.
We cannot do anything on our own. Only Jesus can and he will. Just repent and ask him into your life. He will take it away. He took my fear of covid during this lockdown when I was home alone for months facing great anxiety and heaviness in my heart but cry out to Jesus when you are drowning in pain and he will deliver you. He took it away overnight which I know full well I coudnt have done on my own. But whats impossible with man is possible with Jesus. He is the way, the truth and the life. You will find life in him in this world ruled by death.
@@shyaaammeneen63 meditation, sublimals opening third eye such things open the door for demons to enter you.
Take the pills, they gonna help you in no time, personally i used SSRIs, for only 3-4 months and i can say that I'm pretty good now, not like before, but way better than before taking the pills, if you decide to take SSRIs, i want you to know that the first days or 1-2 weeks you will probably notice some negative effects, but from week no3 you will notice a huge difference
When she described a person who constantly lists out your imperfections and your wrong doings, the person who came up in my mind was my mom.
Same and I love my mum so much :(
So true, my mum always list out my mistakes and wrongdoings
For me it's my mom AND myself
You know sometimes parents don't deserve to be parents. There should be a properly thought out test that parents need to take before making this bold decision of becoming a parent. Parenthood is a noble profession and not everybody is qualified for that. There's nothing more sinful than bringing somebody into this world without their permission and then giving them a horrible place to be raised in.
@@vaishnavishekhawat_ yup . Agreed. So many parents just act like kids are another extension of themselves made only to fit in their mould and fulfill their dreams ...
Psychedelic's definitely have potential to deal with mental health symptoms like anxiety and depression, I would like to try them again but it's just so hard to source here.
@brendacollins-kw3sm I was having this constant, unbearable anxiety because of work stress. Not until I came across liberty_capss , a very intelligent mycologist. He saved my life honestly
@corbanobregon3898 Liberty_capss
On IG
@karinamendez2065 Thank you, I really needed to hear this. Something terrible has happened suddenly in my life. I am very vulnerable have not control. I'm also very affraid.
Hey there! If you're dealing with anxiousness, I want you to know that hypnotherapy can really help. It works by accessing your subconscious mind to address the negative thoughts and beliefs that contribute to anxious feelings.
As a hypnotherapist, I help clients with hypnotherapy as an effective and natural treatment option that can give you back a sense of control and confidence.
So if you're struggling with anxiousness, consider giving hypnotherapy a try. It might just be the breakthrough you've been looking for.
Me : clicks on video
Anxiety: increases 500%
Me : clicks on video
Me : reads this comment
Anxiety : increases 1000%
🤣 Literally!
@@iranyaweeden6900 😂😂😂😂😂😂
her describing the scenarios made it go 📈📈
@@wormonastring849 damn, yes! I thought this'd be helpful but its the opposite. I stopped in the middle :/
Guilt is such a heavy burden. Stress management involves dealing with this heavy burden. That’s why we created a podcast to help people deal with stress. Great talk and so many important things discussed. We need to really practice these stress management techniques on a daily basis. Panic attacks can be the worst.
I write this as a message of hope .
As the great Bob Marley once said don't worry... be happy , I hope whatever is causing you anxiety right now whoever you are , I hope it gets better and from the bottom of my heart I'm sorry your going through it because it ...sucks! I know because for the last two months I've had it bad but its gotten better and I hope it does for you too🙂
This talk deserves an standing ovation.
Her advise will help millions of people, me included.
Ewan Dao yeah bro she have my blessings ,this video helped me realising a lot about myself 😊
Not to make you too anxious, but it's "advice" not "advise." And it's not "me" but "myself."
Is it just me or did anyone have tears forming in their eyes while listening to this? Tears because you felt bad about how you previously dealt with anxiety in a bad way?
🥺🥺🥺
Thanks to @henryshroom I got rid of my anxiety and depression issues,he got good shrooms🍄 and other psychedelic products.
This honestly helped alot and I feel so proud of her! Standing there, speaking in front of all of those people, bravely with confident. If you're reading this somehow,I'm soo proud of you and I mean it!
People with anxiety dont love themselves be kind be a friend to you ❤
My anxiety gives me so much indecision and self-criticism , that coupled with my depression makes for a very low self esteem teenager
I think I have severe anxiety and depression. I constantly have panic attacks really early in the morning because I’m afraid of a lot of things. The first one being that I’m afraid I’ll lose everything and that I’ll be abandoned.
We cannot do anything on our own. Only Jesus can and he will. Just repent and ask him into your life. He will take it away. He took my fear of covid during this lockdown when I was home alone for months facing great anxiety and heaviness in my heart but cry out to Jesus when you are drowning in pain and he will deliver you. He took it away overnight which I know full well I coudnt have done on my own. But whats impossible with man is possible with Jesus. He is the way, the truth and the life. You will find life in him in this world ruled by death.
Exactly me too! The moment i wake up in the morning i begin to fear so many things and it triggers my anxiety wtf! Am just 16
*My anxiety explaining to my depression to not make me commit suicide cause I don't know what's after death*
Ashwaganda really helps, it helps me to and it is not that expensive, it is not antidepressant so it's safe as well. You are not alone! 🤗
My anxiety makes my relationship harder for the both of us. thank you for this video i can’t wait to here more than once in my free time. This is helping me.
I have had this issue in my relationships too, anxiety is horrible. TheAnxietyGuy on UA-cam has lots of content to help you deal with anxiety. Helped me alot.
Hey there! If you're dealing with anxiousness, I want you to know that hypnotherapy can really help. It works by accessing your subconscious mind to address the negative thoughts and beliefs that contribute to anxious feelings.
As a hypnotherapist, I help clients with hypnotherapy as an effective and natural treatment option that can give you back a sense of control and confidence.
So if you're struggling with anxiousness, consider giving hypnotherapy a try. It might just be the breakthrough you've been looking for.
You need to practice. Practice positive thinking, practice trying. Practice doing what is hard. It's a choice you have to do it to improve.
Abbie Roberts thank you
appreciate your tips
Abbie Roberts ❤️
Thank you ❤️
Praying to God for that one day where I'm free from this anxiety which is killing me day by day
Funnily enough, this actually helped me on a day where I’m feeling ultra anxious. The idea that there are simple coping mechanisms, as opposed to medicating heavily, is actually like a weight has been lifted from my shoulders.
I know how old this video is, yet it’s effects are long lasting, Thank you
That’s not how anxiety works
Thank you Olivia!
I was so anxious about this afternoon because I have to go to work so I looked up to a video on how to let go of this excessive feeling.
Last week I did soooo poorly at work, it was embarrassing and I have been thinking about it all week, even though my workmate told me I did very well and it's normal in the beggining to be nervous.
Hearing your voice and the things you said made me feel so relaxed and confident (if I must say?)
I hope more people can hear this and appreciate it the way I did.
Making mistakes is never ever a bad thing, please remember that, no matter how many times you make a mistake, if you plan on improving, and do improve a little its all fine. Don't get nervous if you ever feel like your going to make mistake, because you can't do anything to stop it. Its all apart of the process of improving, just be kind towards your mistakes and relax
I'm experiencing anxiety over the exact same situation. It's so hard because I know I try my best at work, and I still make mistakes, and so it feels like a concrete fact that my best is not good enough. On paper I'm qualified for my job and have the right experience so anything I do wrong proves the core inadequacy of me as a person. I've tried explaining this thought process to my boyfriend but he thinks it's the stupidest thing to believe. I know it's not rational but it honestly tears me up inside anyway. And what makes it hurt even worse is that I know even if I didn't make mistakes at my work I would find something to worry about just as much. It's getting so exhausting.
we aren’t robots we are humans we make mistakes all the time.
Hey there Catarina! If you're dealing with anxiousness, I want you to know that hypnotherapy can really help. It works by accessing your subconscious mind to address the negative thoughts and beliefs that contribute to anxious feelings.
As a hypnotherapist, I help clients with hypnotherapy as an effective and natural treatment option that can give you back a sense of control and confidence.
So if you're struggling with anxiousness, consider giving hypnotherapy a try. It might just be the breakthrough you've been looking for.
I'm crying watching this.. remembering the old me ..and I'm so happy that i got over it .. I'm so strong. I'm pretty..i forgive my self 💜
feeling anxious or having trouble to rest ? check us out and hope this help ❣️
Be strong
Can I be your friend, so we can talk and talk
How did you get over it
the old me....she's gone and i feel will never come back....so so sad :(
Getting anxiety is keeping me away from doing things and I mean many things I could have done that I haven’t and it’s terrible I hate it. It’s not letting me do the things I wanna do.
We cannot do anything on our own. Only Jesus can and he will. Just repent and ask him into your life. He will take it away. He took my fear of covid during this lockdown when I was home alone for months facing great anxiety and heaviness in my heart but cry out to Jesus when you are drowning in pain and he will deliver you. He took it away overnight which I know full well I coudnt have done on my own. But whats impossible with man is possible with Jesus. He is the way, the truth and the life. You will find life in him in this world ruled by death.
@@MG-qm8if It takes time for him to heal us I know this bc I use to have depression for years I would cry every single day and talk to him abt how I felt and all bc I never felt comfortable telling anyone and now after 4 years later of going through depression I’m doing so so much better.
I SWEAR THAT THIS IS ABSOLUTELY THE BEST VIDEO oF ANXIETY IN EARTH!!
My anxiety is making me sick physically. I feel like my stomach is eating itself away and it’s not easy to breathe. (I don’t have COVID; I’ve tested negative a few times. Update: I also did some blood labs as well to test for all diseases and all came back normal. This is an anxiety issue...)
I know just how you’re feeling hunny: you’re not alone... even tho anxiety makes you feel that way
Same. I often feel dizzy, nauseous and short of breath from anxiety. It takes a strong person to deal with it
just be grateful and remember you are here for a reason
I was concerned my symptoms might be my MS. So, to make sure, I thought I should see my Neurologist. They can't get me in for over 5 months!! Are they crazy?
I’m physically sick every morning. It’s horrible.
This video literally made me cry especially when she did: be kind to yourself and have a purpose in life with keeping someone in mind. Someone that depends on you and needs you❤️
This is the best ted-talk I've watched :
1. Do things even if you think it's going to end badly :)
2. Forgive yourself for errors you made a moment ago or years ago
3. Have meaning in the things you do, do it for someone else do have a meaningful life
my experience at the turning point of my life during this covid lockdown happened when i was home alone for many months in a country where i was away from my family. Fear of death crippled me and fear for my family was worse than fear over my own death. Always hearing the news, death after death only wickedness and no hope. I spend months with panic attacks, times with difficulty breathing and other times with just a sense of doom and death around me, sometimes even just hoping for death so i dont fear it anymore just wanting everything to be over. Cry out to Jesus and he will deliver you from your fears. He took away my fear overnight which i knew i couldnt do myself. He will help you, he sees your heart. He is the one who overcame death to bring us to eternal life in him.
All the commenters who share their experiences and all the motivates stuff make me feel better a lot, i’ve been in anxiety for 5years and i have nobody to tell about my situations.
I feel that way at times too even though I do have some people to talk to. It feels like it's not enough or even if they tell me great advice it doesn't sink in when I'm going through an episode.
my social anxiety holds me back so much, i don’t know what to do anymore. i can’t even go to the shop without feeling very anxious and uncomfortable. i know i need therapy but the thought of it makes me feel physically sick
Same here. I bet the first step is the hardest but things will probably get easier the more we work on it. Of course it's way easier said than done.
marie yeah i’m sure it wouldn’t take long to warm up to, just need to muster up the courage.i hope you get the help you need as i know how awful it is, again easier said than done xx
Same here... It is very limiting.... But it does get better with time so hang in there.....try facing the little things that make you anxious then work it out from there... One step at a time.... You are not alone.
Could you try online therapy to start?!
All of you are not alone! I struggle with anxiety and it seems never ending. I gets to the point where I am hurting physically, my stomach aches, I often can’t eat, and I want to be at peace. All of us need to understand that it’s all in our head and nobody is perfect. Im not great at advice but if you’re reading this, you are not alone and we will all soon have times where anxiety is the furthest thing from our minds. God bless you all!!
I struggle with anxiety on a daily basis. Some days it's not too bad/doesnt really affect me and some days I completely feel like I'm in distress or I got this never-ending worry that keeps hauning me and sometimes I just cry as a result from bottled emotions. I'm not medically diagnosed or anything but I have pretty much all symptoms of anxiety and I never thought of going to the doctor as I'm 15 and I don't wanna tell anyone. I hate feeling lonely even tho usually I just don't like talking to anyone (in reality I want to but I feel nervous if I do) I also have exams as I'm in year 11 which is also causing me even more stress but I'm trying to get into good terms with my mental health. Just remember if you are watching this video too, you aren't alone and many people including me, are going through the same thing so we will get through it and believe in yourself because you will do well in life. (Also telling myself this lol)
My work is giving me so much anxiety. Even on weekends, I'm already thinking about the coming week.
Makes two of us. ;)
It’s literally the most shocking thing in my life. I’ve always said stuff like “oh no ill never be like that” and I was the most happiest and bundle of joy person out here and people WOULDVE been shocked hearing about me getting anxiety.
I cried every word she says till ended give me headache bcs too much crying. i feel like i failed myself as human being bcs my anxiety live in my whole life and stopped me to doing anything and lost so many opportunity bcs i get anxious over everything. i kept being hard on myself even people often tell me to be kind to ourselves.
This isn't a lecture and I'm not preaching so please don't take it that way
But I'll draw your attention to the words of jesus .-come to me all,who are weary and I will give you rest..
It's something I use and monks say always.
It's called the Jesus prayer
Breath in-lord jesus Christ-breath out-Have mercy on me ...
It's a mantra which will give you rest .
I had my first audition yesterday and because of my anxiety I didn't completely perform of what i'm actually capable of. I felt so bad after it, I don't want this to ruin my life anymore. I'm sick of it really
She seems so calm. I can hear her for hours
I've lived with brutal anxiety for about 25 years now, and I'm only just starting to accept that I will probably have it forever. Getting outdoors has been my saviour so far
yess, same with me, every time i’m close to accepting it i get relieved but than i start having anxiety again
@@sxfia2411 it's a wild ride that's for sure. Just need to remember each time you're fighting it to breathe and remind yourself that you are able to take control. I hope you're doing okay!
@@El_Wrath thank you!! yes i’m doing ok now, my anxiety has been better especially since school has started and now i’m always distracted and tired after school (not in the bad way tho jus sore from walking and pe😭)
If you’re someone out there like me dealing with anxiety, stay strong! You can do this! Just remember at the end of the day to love yourself and not think you’re worthless because of this struggle. It will get better with time❤️
Thanks my friend! Appreciate that
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i have been suffering from anxiety for a long time,knowing im not alone with this battle is a relief.this talk is amazing,it makes me realise and understand about my daily struggles.
*Dr. John can bring your ex back for a second chance. He was the one who helped me restore my 5 year broken relationship by bringing my ex back. Also, Dr. John always keeps up with his words. I highly recommend that you seek his help from him from now on and the most interesting of all is that you do all kinds of spiritual work, you can read it.*
Jeramel, You must be taking some medication. In life there are only 2 problems -mind and the body. To feel better reduce negative thoughts. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Observe your breath sensations without any expectations when taking a walk, at work, when reading, before sleep etc. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Counsellor.
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Hey guys, this is my first day attacking anxiety, and this is the list I prepared from this video. Really a big thank you to Olivia.
1. Remember there is no perfect time to start something, there are no perfect skills to start a job
2. Make a decision and do it badly. When you make a bad decision it’s the best way to be confident and you’re more likely to see that the decision wasn’t so bad after all
3. Forgive yourself. It’s okay to do something wrong, it’s okay that you didn’t follow the life’s motto. Just restart, don’t look back.
4. Be kind with yourself, then only you’ll be kind to others. Forgive yourself for mistakes. If you hadn’t a panic attack it’s okay to have one, if you’re embarrassed it’s okay! Just forgive yourself and be easy on yourself.
5. Create a purpose and meaning in life, focus on your goals. Remember there are people depending on you, you have your parents to look after, your mom and dad are old and you’re giving them stress. Your parents love you, you need to realise life is still expecting something from you.
6. Always remember you’re here to make your mother and father proud and remind yourself whenever you think that you’re not strong enough.
7. It doesn’t matter if the things you do for people are not recognized, it will make you realise that your life is unique and you’re important enough to be content with yourself.
Any feedback ?
How did things turn for you ?
Update how are you?
@@LuciaRodriguez-bf7il Hi guys, I am much better than before. I've been focusing on some kind of physical activity to keep my mind at ease. I've accepted that anxiety is a part of my life and I keep reminding myself that whenever it comes and goes. Best of luck to you guys!
Watching her speak, I started wondering: how can anyone so admirable suffer from anxiety? Then it struck me that that's probably how my friends that know about my anxiety look at me. I excel in many areas, such as university, sports and social stuff, like giving speeches. What few people know is that I'm super anxious about everything. Just getting up and going to work is a challenge for my every day. My problem is that, deep down, I think that it's my skills that make people like me, that I HAVE to be extraordinary to be loveable. What I'm slowly beggining to understand, however, is that it's not me being good at something that makes my friends like me. It is way more subtle than that. I learned that people who are good at, seemingly, everything intimidate me - I always think: there HAS to be some fault with them. Why? Because everyone has faults and flaws. In contrast, people that openly express their "weird" traits and are okay with them are often extraordinarily pleasant to be around and likeable. Seeing the imperfections in someone, and realizing that they are okay with it, gives us the feeling that it's okay to be imperfect ourselves.
I need to get to know myself, I want to learn about my strengths and weaknesses. And I want to be kind to myself. I'm working on myself, yes, but it's okay with how I am. I bring something to this world that no one else does, and people need me. Tell this to yourself, empower yourself everytime you suffer from anxiety. We are strong and we will not allow this to control us forever.
Many thanks
i thought i was the only person in the whole world with anxiety. its true that i judge myself harshly
I'm a pretty sociable guy, I can mingle with pretty much any type of people. An extroverted introvert, as how I would perceive myself as. I still am anxious about how people view me or think of me. I think ahead of time how to present myself if ever they happen to meet me. It's tiring. And it's not like I'm putting on a mask or anything, I'm just scared of being ignored or left alone.
High functioning anxiety is real. I had it, too. In front of other people very few people knew I struggled. I suppressed negative emotions and put on a front for so many years just to try and seem normal. Anxiety is a lonely and invisible disease.
Hey there! If you're dealing with anxiousness, I want you to know that hypnotherapy can really help. It works by accessing your subconscious mind to address the negative thoughts and beliefs that contribute to anxious feelings.
As a hypnotherapist, I help clients with hypnotherapy as an effective and natural treatment option that can give you back a sense of control and confidence.
So if you're struggling with anxiousness, consider giving hypnotherapy a try. It might just be the breakthrough you've been looking for.
Anxiety is truly a persistent problem that is a by-product of our stressful environments. Talks like these are so important in raising the issue to the spotlight on how we can deal with our mental health.
This is really personal to me. I'm 20 and everyday of my life I've had anxiety. Never got meds, never thought anything of it. I procratinate so hard because my expectations for myself are too high, I put homework to the last minute because I'm scared of failing, I change schools and jobs often, I haven't hung out with anybody but my girlfriend since the pandemic. I'm extremely introverted and love being alone, my girlfriend is my motivation for everything, I dont drink sody or coffee at all, never have. I worry about every little thing, never know what to say to people, don't know how to keep conversations going, I start random fights and i dont know why, I bite my lips and nails 24/7, I barely sleep and I mean barely, i rarely eat as well, I made my friend group about 10 people after i graduated high school, but I'm happy overall, I don't feel alone but anxiety has made me do a lot of things that I wish I didn't do or say. This speech really made me realize how much it effects me and my life even though i'm still happy. I still don't feel like i need meds or anything I've been coping my entire life with nothing but myself and I think its a good feeling not to care about anyone but yourself and not having to do everything for other people and what they might think about you. I dont even know why i typed this but whatever
I feel like this lockdown has really heightened my anxiety. I feel I never do much for myself and then I get disgusted that I don’t do things for myself. I see other people being so outspoken. And I wish I was like that. Anytime someone berates me about why I didn’t speak up about something I should’ve. I get even more depressed and just start crying and I hate that I didn’t do anything about it and recently cause of college and now holidays I feel I’m not doing anything for myself.
As someone who has been undiagnosed and felt so estranged and weird and confused by it for so long, the first 2 minutes or so where she describes the social situation split through my soul. She described my exact interactions to an absolute T. I started crying for the first time in a long time, I feel seen I feel normal like it’s not my fault, I have anxiety disorder. This has inspired me to do, what for me has been the unthinkable, and im going to my GP tomorrow to get a diagnosis. I’m hopeful for the first time in a while and o just want to say thank you to Olivia even though I know she will never see this, thank you for seeing me that means the world.
Edited for spelling mistake.
It is not your fault,it is an illness just like diabetes or blood pressure, actually you are a hero winning the battle in every breath you take .. you must not feel shame , you must be proud of yourself , that you are still here, still fighting ♥️
I hope you are doing well now, Eugene 💛
"doing it badly" just gives me more anxiety, i've tried it. i can't seem to forgive myself yet, i keep thinking that my mistakes are unforgiveable, i keep regretting it. i don't even know what my purposes in life are. how do i cope with anxiety if those methods couldn't help me?
Rizky Nindy Lestari if you don't know what you purpose is in life then get a short term purpose, one that will help you in the long term or at least one that makes you feel good, if you can't think of anything then find a way to help other people. That's always a good way to make yourself feel good about yourself
Just get out of your head (your head is full of lies!) and just do whatever the bleep you want, that makes your inner child roars like a lion. That's the feeling of freedom! STOP thinking! You won't get anywhere if you just thinking, thinking, and thinking, and listening to outer noises which is nothing to do with you! Start listening to your inner voice (by praying or meditating). Do exercise every single day, even if it's just for 30 minutes a day. Get off your lazy ass and you will feel the difference. You'll feel heck tons of endhorpins flowing into your body. And it feels sooo good!
And for the last, try something new to the best of your ability without expectation of the end result. Focus on the now and let go of your past. Stop asking what my life purpose is. Just do what you want like what I said above. But do it with full integrity. Don't do it for the money first. Do it because you like it, you can feel the happiness from within. Perhaps you can build a business from it? Who knows? Now stop reading this comment. Go out there and have a life! Have fun! Cheers!
Time and practice . I'd suggest spending a lot of time with yourself in the mirror . Start playing with your perspective of things . Question things about you that you've never questioned before . One day you might begin to understand that you are just a person . A person who has been there for you and gotten you through everything so far in your life . Think of yourself as someone who was sent into this world with you to protect you . That may sound complicated but it's possible and there will be a beautiful shift in your life . There was for myself . But like I said , it will take time and practice
As an anxiety sufferer i can advise 2 things that have really helped me. 1 is meditation and 2 is surprisingly taking Magnesium. I didn't find out about magnesium until 5 years after i started having extreme anxiety and I can't advise it enough! Its natural and good for you anyhow so give it a shot! :)
I am really sorry, it's an awful way to live, it took me years to forgive mistakes that barely changed anything.
Well I'm only watching this because the frequency of anxiety attacks has gotten worse even for no major reason
Sorry about that
Me too
Just do it what they have said it worked for me
Hey, I’m sorry to hear that. Make sure to get medical help. I wouldn’t suggest any medications because those aren’t good / for long term, but there are techniques that can help. Try seeing what works for you, & make sure you are practicing self-care. Eat well, exercise, & make sure to have time that is relaxing for you... listen to peaceful music, smell essential oils, spend time out in nature, get sunlight etc. I hope you feel better
Find me, God has given us life to enjoy but God helps only those who help themselves. . Meditation is the only practical way to handle depression. Watch alternate nostril breathing meditation videos on Google search and do this simple meditation for 10 minutes at least twice a day. Your mind will be reprogrammed to relax. You can sit on a chair and do this meditation. You can also read the benefits of alternate nostril breathing meditation on Google search. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir, --Life Coach. Make meditation a daily habit.
Is it anxiety when I go outside then I starting to feel like everyone is staring at me... I get dizzy then nauseous and get tired
You probably have social anxiety
same here.
Same, i feel like i want to sleep everytime i go outside
Sometimes my heart beats fast and I'm shaking
Me too, I have to catch a bus everyday and they are always crowded and feel like everyone is looking at me and it’s exhausting, my thoughts and the energy it takes to keep myself calm is exhausting
Reading all these comments is making me cry... so many people fighting anxiety
It truly is the most suffocating feeling and sometimes people tend not to believe us because we are 'exaggerated', but it consumes us on the inside 😥
I hope that each one of you finally finds peace, the sun will shine again!! We're stronger than we think and anxiety is not gonna control us forever, I believe 🙏 stay strong!
I'm so happy I've watched this video. Just last night I had a massive breakdown and I felt terribly lonely besides my family being with me. I felt like that before but this time was different. I needed help. It was just too much to cope on my own. I started to search psychologists in my area and realised I could never be able to afford one of them which made me feel even worst. I feel a bit better today and this video has helped me a lot!!! Thanks to your video I know what can I do to make myself feel a bit better. It's a long journey but it's possible! THANKS THANKS THANKS :)
Gazing at her beauty (inside and out) helped ease some anxiety.
you bust one out?
OP 😂😂😂 man wtf
I thought that anxiety we receive from upbringing and this video conveys that i'm not alone who is struggling with mental disorder all my life. I adore your phrase which you mentioned,, Anything worth doing is worth doing badly for the first time". Oh my God, it's so important to forgive yourself for mistakes!
Everything in this video I’ve heard before without knowing from almost all my family members thank you for opening my eyes to this.
This is my problem- I don’t feel I have a purpose. I am retired and just hanging out everyday. My dogs are the only ones who rely on me and when I’m anxious and depressed they get scared, which makes me feel guilty. I have tried to get help. Therapists are hard to find that take a certain insurance or have openings. I went to the er this week out of desperation. They told me to find a therapist and took my blood pressure. They say mental health care is important, but it doesn’t seem like it where I live. This was a good Ted Talk. I’ll keep trying.
I recently retired, I totally relate to what your saying. I have to constantly push myself to do things because my anxiety and depression paralyze me. Keep pushing, don’t give up!
Beautiful speech, with pinpoint accuracy
I found it took a long....long time struggling to finally hit the bottom. It was then I realized that forgiving myself and being kinder was a nessecity.
It was basically forced on me
Thank you again! And we'll done
It helped me. I have finally allowed myself to forgive myself. It was hard, not easy, but her points are valid. Not once, did she say it was easy.
I just wanna take the time and say, thank u lord for showing me this video. This will help me push and live throughout my days, thank you 🙏🏾 ❤️🤞🏾
Thanks to Olivia as she was talking it was like she was describing me but now I feel empowered after long time
I have so much anxiety right I'm actually youtubeing how to deal with it 😔
Same
Yeah..same..
Literally same on break in work
my anxiety has blocked me from doing so much in life ...
This comment section is beautiful and makes me feel like I’m not alone I just had a panic attack a few days ago and now I am left with strong feelings of anxiety
Does any one else suffer pulpitations with their anxiety
@@sandraspargo6390 yes
I don't know why but I think I fall in love with this woman, look how gentle and caring she is. I'm a woman btw. Wish you and me the courage and capability to lower anxiety just from the coping methods she gave us. Thank you and love you so much Ms.Remes!
It's been hard for me having to deal with this anxiety on my own. The fact that my own family doesn't even seem to listen to me at all makes it so hurtful because I'm crying for help and yet nobody wants to be there for me.
My anxiety gives me physical symptoms and makes me believe that I'm having heart related problems. But once I'm on my medication, everything goes back to normal. No chest pains, nothing.
But lately it's just been so many ups and downs, and sometimes when i feel down, i feel REALLY down to the point where i don't even want to get up and do anything at all. It's just so hard having to deal with anxiety on a daily basis. Just wish someone understood me😔
would you recommend I take medication as well?
cuz sometimes it feels there is no way to control my anxiety
I really feel for you . I've been experiencing anxiety since I was 15 and now I'm 23 and pretty much having the same symptoms and doctors diagnosed it as "fatigue" , because my parents were taking me to the the wrong ones .. I didn't know about anxiety disorder until I was 18 and I really had hard times explaining to them why anything new or unexpected comes up is hard for me to take , but now I just stopped waiting for them to feel me and to calm me down .. whenever I can't make a decision or anything comes up , I just keep repeating "Do it scared" in my head and sometimes out loud if needed.
@@blackbat121 Well, Medications worked for me but i don't know if i would recommend it per se. If you feel that you need medications then go for it. Do whatever feels right for you. But all i know is in my experience it's worked. Once i took the medications, i could finally sleep a lot better. Had zero chest pains or overthinking. Everything went away. But you have to do it only if you want to. Best of luck!
Feel the same way but except my family are willing to listen but they are too busy with there own lives so I’ve been trying to figure it out myself as to try to first calm myself down and think about what I’m thinking so hard about then trying to move onto my next task
hey, i am literally like feeling the exact same way as you. I know it is hard, but, I am aware that we will be able to overcome this, okay ? you got this, girl ! I am so proud of you, because you are still being strong even at the bad times. sending hugs ! < 3
I get depressed, then I get angry that I’m depressed, and then I get depressed again for being angry and it just repeats
my experience at the turning point of my life during this covid lockdown happened when i was home alone for many months in a country where i was away from my family. Fear of death crippled me and fear for my family was worse than fear over my own death. Always hearing the news, death after death only wickedness and no hope. I spend months with panic attacks, times with difficulty breathing and other times with just a sense of doom and death around me, sometimes even just hoping for death so i dont fear it anymore just wanting everything to be over. Cry out to Jesus and he will deliver you from your fears. He took away my fear overnight which i knew i couldnt do myself. He will help you, he sees your heart. He is the one who overcame death to bring us to eternal life in him.
She's very pretty and her voice is calming.
Thank You! The speech made me free from anxiety. I will start doing the points she made and comment here after 1 year later what happened to me.
My anxiety has been so high recently. There are a few days in between where I’ve really forced myself to be more at peace, and I’ve definitely felt genuinely calmer, but then I just return to feeling the same anxiety all over again :(
You are not alone. We are all dealing with difficult times with COVID-19. I have a panic attack every other day it seems. I reached a new level of anxiety that I don't know how to cope with. I came here because I can't see a therapist just yet. I hope you feel better and learn how to deal with it.
Armita H hi hope your doing well just wanted to say that if you want to talk im here for you!
I'm the same my started with the Corona virus some days I feel like what I call normal and the next I'm anxious again I have lost my appetite which doesnt help.x
Same. Hope we can get through this during pandemic.
I like the part that she says "anything worth doing is worth doing badly the first time"...I suffer from this decision making.
"There's something holding you back from being happy. You must be cautious, or something bad might happen" that's me.
Why are we like this? What's wrong with me? When will I stop being so insecure about my life?
Same with everything and if I be happy it never fails something goes wrong
I was just so anxious , thinking about all the time i wasted and regretting everything , i felt like crying and i was actually having an panic attack , i didn't realise i have anxiety till now , because till now i just thought it was just me being weird , i recently started coming out of depression and then anxiety struck me , and i actually have been fighting for a long time , that's why i have used most of the things she said , i mustered up the courage to give a speech , i was just planning on being absent on the day of speech and was just haunted by the idea so i just kept delaying and delaying till i finally thought that , nah imma do it even if i do it badly i have an exam the day after tomorrow and i was self doubting myself and regretting wasting all the previous time because of depression and thinking i wish i could have started earlier , but i thought no i have got to get through this , nothing comes good from worrying , it will neither let me do my best and neither let me even do it properly because even when i am doing it i would just keep thinking if i have the ability to do it or not. I came here and found out that i have all the symptoms she told about and that i have a severe anxiety disorder , but atleast now i don't have to blame myself for being like this and i know that i need to be kinder to myself instead of just regretting things
This was so comforting and reasuring to watch especially when you mentioned about the dissociating when interacting with people. This happens to me when I've been under long periods of stress, triggering intese anxiety period which eventually triggers dissociative period
I’m having very bad anxiety about death right now, like how does it feel, is the pain bad, anything could happen right now. I’m scared, I’m scared it’s so hard.
Me too. Anxiety usually makes me feel symptoms when I think too hard about it
Same goes for me😭... For the past 1 yr I'm suffering..... Hope you are doing good now..
My experience at the turning point of my life during this covid lockdown happened when i was home alone for many months in a country where i was away from my family. Fear of death crippled me and fear for my family was worse than fear over my own death. Always hearing the news, death after death only wickedness and no hope. I spend months with panic attacks, times with difficulty breathing and other times with just a sense of doom and death around me, sometimes even just hoping for death so i dont fear it anymore just wanting everything to be over. Cry out to Jesus and he will deliver you from your fears. He took away my fear overnight which i knew i couldnt do myself. He will help you, he sees your heart. He is the one who overcame death to bring us to eternal life in him.
Thank you so much TEDX and Respectful Olivia Remes . I got to know I also have an anxiety disorder. But after watching your session,I feel I have got a life cure theropy from the best mental therapist in the world. And after listening to your coping methods ,I think it's so far more greatest than any medicine. I am gonna start following your "remedies" now from the first ,"doing badly". And your last words I can't never forget, "We are living for the very most meaning and purpose for someones' needs and love , which is never gonna ended up 🌸" At last ,I can only say "thank you " to you both from solemnly.
Thank you Olivia for your powerful Ted Talk.
With your help I have recognised I have an anxiety disorder and I am going to learn to do things badly and to forgive myself. I am currently on a programme where I am leaning the 12 Steps through NA, AA and I think I qualify for a lot of things that end in A including CA. Today I have faced fears with the help of Changing Lives with whom I receive free therapy on a 2 week pre-treatment course and who have helped me in a lot of ways over the years, I recognise now I can do things badly and that's okay and I can forgive myself for that. I suffer from forgetfulness and I'm learning to look at that as a positive as with living with an anxiety disorder it can help me to be forgetful as my mind likes to have thoughts running around a lot of the day, less than it has in the past but the thoughts are still there but thankfully with forgetfulness and the grace of God if I had all my memories there's a possibility I would have a lot more thoughts so with God's will I have enough for now. In typing this message to you I'm beginning to realise that there are a lot less thoughts than usual as I am focused on typing this out badly. And that's okay. 🙏
I now know I have an anxiety disorder and everything Olivia mentioned is me. I have made myself so ill with Gastro, cannot eat well, social anxiety, the world and people are against me. Its easier for me not to go anywhere or be around anyone. That way I know I am not been spoken about and I feel safe on my own in my own safe space. I am getting attacked daily by people who do not understand I have anxiety as they do not know, understand, or want to know what I am dealing with. Because I do not work currently and cannot keep a job down due to my anxiety and fear. They attack me more do I value these people's oppinions no. But they want to speak and bring me down on what they see on the outside and do not understand or want to know what I am dealing with for the last 30 + years. I am so alone, made myself so ill and lost out a lot of time in my life due to me not understanding. I was physically attacked last week by someone random in the street and this finished me off. I have really bad gastro so went to the Dr's and he just said in 3 mins take more tablets for my gastro off you go. Nothing to what is the route of my issues mentally. I am now working on mysef and finding my own path. This is my first post I have watched and its me all over but worse. Thank you Olivia
Hang in there King, please don't quit,there are people who love and care about you.All the best
"For people who think there's nothing to live for, nothing more to expect from life … the question is getting these people to realize that life is still expecting something from them.” - Viktor Frankl
This came up on my recommended at the perfect time. I’m at such a crossroads in life, anxiety has taken 2 years from me and I’m done with it. I hope this is the turn for me, thank you for sharing ❤️
I'm wishing you healing, health and happiness 💛
Her description is so accurate and this whole video was so helpful for me 💕