Why Narcissists can NEVER be alone
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Narcissistic personality disorder is a mental health condition characterized by an inflated sense of self-importance, a need for admiration, and a lack of empathy for others. And here I discuss my own personal experience living with narcissistic personality disorder. Including the symptoms and behaviors associated with this disorder, as well as how it has affected my life. I also share some of my coping strategies and how I have been able to manage the disorder, along with helping you understanding your loved ones and their behaviors that may seem almost incomprehensible and potentially hurtful. Hopefully, my channel will provide insight into what it's like to live with narcissistic personality disorder, as well as what it's like for your loved ones. Thank you for watching!
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They literally treat strangers better then their own family 😭💀
Facts
Very true..
So true...my mother does it all the time
Street angel, home devil.
They do
the inability to not be able to be alone sometimes definitely is a sign of self hate. When you love yourself, you prefer being alone, and it is the best part of your day. I ❤️ being by myself at least 80% of the time.
Yes 🤍
That's because being alone, not necessarily lonely ( there's a difference) can be addictive..Once you've gotten over that initial fear, it'd quite liberating. Especially when you've had lots of stressful events happen. You appreciate the value of the peace and learn how to entertain yourself.
Me too love being alone best thing ever
In today's chaos, it is like a sanctuary to be alone and enjoy my own company.
They are so insecure being alone. Being alone does Not bother me, ❤️ peace and quiet
It’s so funny how they all have auto-phobia, but are literally so mean to everyone that they will always end up alone.
That is not funny - that is "funny" as torture in Hell.
Ikr!
not always....
They’ll always find a sucker
“Oh brother give me a break”
I love being alone it's sooo peaceful ❤️
I feel you..... I left my ex husband 6 years ago, after being 2 months shy of our 25 year marriage. I feel sooooo happy and free, I probably glow in the dark.
@@terence.j and why are you making that comment? You don't even know me. You need to check yourself.
@@terence.j Dude... you've got your panties in a bunch all because I said i left my abusive husband after 25 years. Tell someone next to you that and see what they say.
@@silverlakegirl9078😂😂 you glow(go) girl
Same
At least he’s being honest, I respect his honesty! In order to heal anything, the first step is acknowledgment.
Probably doing it for the views to boost his ego. But i guess its some honesty? Who knows
Is he?
@@Kleeeenex1Yes, he would probably love to read a comment praising "your courage and honesty"! And on top of that, "you can change, you are special, don't hate yourself."
They never acknowledge shit about themselves but be the first to acknowledge others immediately
@@Kleeeenex1hahaha 😂
They need others to bully, degrade, push around, use, threaten , enslave & destroy their lives.
Yeah, if they can't do any of those their twisted mind will resort to instigate terror one form of another like suddenly saying I have no money or I'm going to another country. All victims should hang in there, te collapse is coming when they get super angry and crazy. They will stomp around or make loud noises if you lock up yourself in the room to avoid them. Then they will show the news with a happy tone. Like, I have no money and such, they are planning the discard. If my narc fails is gonna be so funny. She's been torturing me for months and I haven't gone crazy, I think she will melt down. I won't be happy because I have no idea if she'll kill herself. I doubt it. But I think provoking a narc breakdown and ultimate collapse is very posible if you're willing to take a bit of abuse and the nervousness pf being around them. I think I will taste narc supply for the first time in my life, when she disarms completely.
Wat a pathetic way to live,I feel kinda sorry for them.😂
That's not really how it is. They are looking for companionship too. Depending on the level of personality disorder, they just aren't too good at it, for too long.
Yes 💯
Even now,,,,almost bought into this!,he's playing the VICTIM,,, like they all do
Being alone is how I healed myself and protect myself. I'm finally happy and well.
I've been alone for 3 years,and love it unfortunately I still have to deal with him and he is still trying to hurt me I have 2 more years but it actually affects my health.
Amen! I have 2-3 guests that visit me everyday: peace of mind, solitude and sometimes loneliness. I don't want the 3rd guest, but they are a package deal, and I'm okay with the 3rd guest, it he shows up.
Being with them … is being alone with or without them. - be alone without them is a huge blessing. Detachment is your power. 💯
Being alone is better than being with them for sure. All they talk about is what THEY want to talk about.
Very boring.
Very freeing, and getting to know yourself again and remembering things you liked and things that you are good at
Being with them is like being in a furnace with no way out. When you’re free , that’s when that fresh air and level of peace minded comes and it’s way better than being around dumbass people, their problem, the drama they create and their foul ass personality. I could give a shit what you got, wanna know why? You don’t give a shot about your personality disorder. You got money AND ISSUES. I probably got no money but I got ZERO ISSUES and when I do get money it’s a breeeeeeeeeze big fella
This is the biggest tell. When someone says they are afraid to be alone...run! 🏃♀️
Even when they are with someone narcissist still feel alone deep down. Then they treat you like shit and end up alone for real
They are their own worse enemy
You're exactly right even when they're surrounded by people they still are not happy. And they make sure you know it
I couldn't live like that. I have to have that time alone to reboot myself. It's so draining to be around people all the time. There is nothing like a hot bath and a book with the phone off. You can't love someone else if you can't love yourself first. Must be awful hating yourself that much.
they don't need to reboot. they're not touchy feely emo empaths, sensing others pain, but causing it and being pumped up from it.
Im learning that we all just have different ways of coping with similar problems. I’m a loner/introvert and I still hate myself many days. I think some people cope with this through self-isolation and self-reflection. And some people cope with it better by being around people all the time. I don’t mind being stuck in my thoughts. Some people can’t deal with it. I can tolerate silence and boredom better than some people. Some people can’t tolerate it all. It drives them insane and so they constantly seek mental stimulation from other people.
I CANT live like that. It’s just so miserable. And then they act like nothing is wrong with a meth pipe in their hand
My favorite person is me. I love being alone. It is so relaxing and I am a beautiful woman with honest intentions ❤
Jesus is the way the truth and the life
Wow. That's incredibly sad. The ability to be alone sometimes is so wonderful. You don't need anyone around for days on end and you still feel fine.
Literally 24-7. Like wtf? For years on end, like wtf? What’s wrong with people astonish me
You must not have a partner, kids, or pets.
This is actually a really good way to help reassure codependents they're not the narcissist because a lot of codependants I've met will go through long periods of self isolation as they manipulate and gaslight themselves
as codependents manipulate and gaslight themselves??
Thank you 🤝
I've been alone for years because of toxic narcs. It is actually reassuring. I'm only going to date others moving forward that have been alone for significant periods of time.
@@Sara-world i just said this yesterday.
I was a co dependant and thats why I attracted narcissists, Im now in isolation with very few ppl checkin in on me
That is my husband. He left me alone for years. Now I’m gone for good and he wants to know why he’s alone.
They should be born with a do not touch warning
Narctassic always think someone out there wants them they get bored quickly and think they can do without you come to find out he's always going to be a lone narctassic is not good for anyone. They lose relationship and friends including there is family. People will Soo see the narctassic for what the really are. They are loss souls.
I should kill your husband
I would be making a the world a better place without these fucking parasites
ME TOO...& THATS WHY WHEN I GOT OUT AFTER 40 YEARS & FLOURISHING...HES AGHAST THE OLD FOOL ...
Yes, I know someone like this. They MUST have their harem of clueless fans to prop them up. They literally can't stand their own company. I can definitely see why.
With me, I was a clued in fan, I saw some issues with him, he thought I ditched and kicked me and my $$ to the curb. Won't speak to me although I paid for his show. I should get my $ back or at least discuss things. I can't get over it.
Even narcissists deep down inside hate themselves but can't spare their fragile egos to admit it
My observation is that narcissists lack introspection.
I think they are afraid of it. It's scary inside when you're running away from shame all the time.
They are still in the mine me abuse stage mentally, like a petulant child
Yes, narcs do not want to be alone.... ESPECIALLY when they are older
My friend watches Tic Toc videos than posts she became spiritually enlightened bc she spent time alone.
I always say now do it without your phone or any distractions. She can’t
You sound insecure.
They can't stand themselves but project that hate onto their scapegoats and expect everything to turn out fine.
I’m a sigma empath and I love being alone, it’s how I recharge. As a child at 4 I would leave my house early in the morning cut through the woods and go frog hunting for hours. My mother was a late sleeper and overt narcissist. Father a covert narcissist. Escaping the never ending drama and trauma coaster at home I think is what created this habitual need for isolation
Sigma empath 😂😂😂😂
you sound just like me
When I'm alone it's the only time I'm not hyper vigilant
Check yourself. I was a constant victim of a narc mom and developed this too, I'm pretty sure It didn't go unscathed, and I developed cluster a disorders , like avoidant personality disorders and such, it can be easy to disguise it as sigma. Im talking about myself by the way. I just wanna continue putting ideas out there.
At 4? For real?!?!
I love that someone who is a narcissist is speaking out because I understand everything am going through with my boyfriend
Leave him! You can't find happiness with a narcissist
@@humbleugoo8306 they will make sure of it.
Leave him! 💀
Some of them try to treat you better but if they repeatedly do what they know hurts you, do they really care?
Yes / No ?
Would you repeatedly do what you know hurts the other person??
Yes / No ?
Who do you want to spend your life with someone that willfully hurts you
Or someone that loves you. ?????
Remember that a narcissist hurts you intentionally . They never change their ways.
My husband listens to the radio at work, watches TV while he’s sleeping, and does downers so nod out every night. He’s an abusive bastard too. He once told me if things are quiet for even a few minutes his mind starts attacking him telling him how horrible he is. He doesn’t socialize with me unless it’s criticisms so I try and stay in another room. I told him those were his demon friends he has in his soul because he’s so evil inside.
What is your truth? What is it that you are so ashamed of? What have you done to so many people and to yourself that makes you hate YOU so? Deal with those demons! Deal with your lies and your shame! Deal with those hookups, casual sex, and filth!
I have always thought that people that hate being alone don’t want to face themselves:
It's like being an addict dude
They are addicted to people like drugs yes..but there is no true connection. It's superficial and fake
Ya that's the insecurity narcissistic people try not to deal with. Narcissistic people need to be alone so they can get the opportunity to really self assess themselves and fix the insecurities... so they can stop abusing other people.
I'm so glad I'm not that kind of person. I enjoy and need my space alone...
It’s a coping strategy and it’s because of abuse and internalized voices that wants to kill and hate the real person so as a child they couldn’t find a way to behave because they were not accepted being themselfq
They need people because they are looking for the new supply. They are constantly losing ok’ing deformed the new supply. They are so unpredictable and they can leave you in a heartbeat for the supply.
Try being alone and not needing people, it's liberating, and you can reflect and make changes, it's not impossible
I believe that if Narcissists are alone, they then have to dive into projects, or something that they can deeply focus on for distraction.
And they do not finish what they start
Hmmm... I agree. That's what my narc ex is like. He always said he enjoys, even prefers his own company, that he doesn't mind being alone, and this was one of the things that impressed me in him, cause I'm kind of the same.
@@martaszyszka7654 people with NPD aren't able to be alone... They are constantly running away from themselfes
@bloodymary85 I understand your opinion but I also know my narc ex. I KNOW for sure he can and does spend time alone doing different things, hobbies, besides being with other people. Maybe this is how he runs away from.his demons.
@@bloodymary8540 people with NPD aren’t cloned robots…. they’re actual individuals with different habits, if you can believe that.
The narcissist encountered have all the accoutrements of success. Why should they hate themselves? Narcissist definitely seem to require constant worship.
How miserable that must feel. Solitude is where creativity strives.
This is soooo true !!! At last I dont feel like im the only one in this world dealing with this !!!
GOD BLESS YOU BROTHER !!!!
Random question but what’s your profile picture? I like it
I used to be like that, but now that I'm getting old, I genuinely love being alone because then I don't have to be anything but my real self, not what society expects me to be.
So true. They treat friends better than their own sisters or brothers. Trust me
I LOVE my own company!!
This is for you, MOM, you escalated it to abuse and I noped out. I don’t go near abusers, so I guess we’ve reached the end…been over 1 1/2 yrs. now she’s busy working on my poor sister and brother in law. Such a damn shame.
And thats why being married or in a relationship isnt a flex and insulting people by calling them single is a huge red flag.
You are so right ,while I was moving my stuff out of our home after divorce, a week later his new shiny toy was moving in.
I dated a narcissist and she lied to me, cheated on me, she could never face the truth, she wanted a hug from me and I declined it and she went into a frenzy when I said no.. Manipulator and told people at her work place lies about me
It seems strange that a narcissist doesn’t like to be alone, but when they are with others, they drive them away. Why ?
He’d lie on my couch while I was at work, monitoring my apartment and texting other supply while ignoring the few text I’d have time to send him. Ewwww.
I know that feeling . My x same
😔 disgusting, I honestly don't see someone who thinks that's ok ever improving
This is my husband to a T. He can’t stand to be alone, and will dive deep into a project or sit and play a board game or a video game if ever alone, which isn’t very often. I enjoy being alone. It’s how I naturally recharge. My husband, however, rarely leaves me alone, unless he’s at work or paying with our kids. I look forward to, one day, being on the other side of this highly toxic, crazy-making, lonely narcissistic relationship I’ve been stuck in for 20 years. He has been sucking the life from me for so long, I can barely remember what life felt like before his abuse.
Thank you to everyone here who shares their stories with such bravery, empathy & humility. There’s nothing like reading peoples stories and realize king you are not the only one. You’re not alone. You all give me hope.
I can be alone. I've been alone since I was 17. I love me. It doesn't matter that others don't.
O m g, my favorite part of the day is when I come home from work and the house is empty and I can just rest and relax and do absolutely nothing
Thank you for telling me this
.. it all makes alot of sense!! I couldn't understand why my ex hated being alone.. yet I enjoy it.
He was wearing multiple masks and living triple lives.
I would like to hear more observations from narcissistic people who will try to embrace change.
I was raised by 2 battling narcs. I craved being alone. I love it so much now!
So true that it’s pathetic!!
My ex Narc who’s almost 40 yrs old gave me the silent treatment for days because I celebrated my son’s birthday with my son!!
I have spent EVERY weekend with my BF and because I spent one Friday with my son he reacted this way.
I was with a guy for 12yrs... evil Narcissistic.. not one year did I get a birthday card, a Happy Birthday, or get taken out for dinner. I would be ignored, not acknowledged and usually the day before my birthday, he would yell and scream at me over absolutely nothing.
Thank you for coming on here and admitting your struggles. Truly mean that. Thank you
You have to love yourself❤
Jesus is the way to set you free!
Dude you are not alone-WHO IS THE GUY LOOKING THRU THR WINDOW BEHIND YOU???? 😮
They can't be with their true self. Then they have all the time in the world to reflect on how bad the have treated others.
Well done. Very brave to be so open. Things will get better now
Thank you for this insight! I suppose I am not much of a narcissist because I enjoy being alone.
damn dude, you are brutely honest
Wow!! Thank you for sharing this video with us ❤️
Thank you Lord, thank you for allowing him to heal. Thank you for showing him the truth and how to be better. I pray this man continues to grow. I pray he continues to be open to love, to be loved and to know love through you Jesus. In Jesus name, Amen ❤ please continue to use him Lord amen 🙏🏽
Newsflash to narcissists: Nobody is perfect and everyone has flaws to fix and no one wants to face themselves and it’s hard to fix your deep seeded issues. It’s not just you guys, everyone faces these things. Being alone is necessary for self reflection and regulation.
I think a possible solution for narcissists who genuinely want to heal is to develop interests which require a lot of focus in order to be alone without feeling lonely.
It could be something as simple as completing puzzles, learning a new language or other mental/physical skill.
Fishing or gardening may also help?
amen,I was so scared of giving up a job in care ,full of people.In the end I got auto immune disease because I pushed myself way past 30 years of hard labour past 60 years of age
Introverted narcs are often just the opposite. They have intense connections with less than a handful of people and need to be alone a lot. The energy continues to be squeezed out when they're on their own, like an animal that consumes its prey in the safety and solitude of a cave.
Thank you for telling the truth about it
Transparency is appreciated and respected, THANK YOU! I AM WORKING ON EDUCATING public, in an effort to HEAL this painful trait. Being raised by, married to, and victimized by narcissist that I love unconditionally. Bcuz ur ending IS LONELY
Wow that makes sense thanks for pointing this out
So sorry! I am a narc magnet and I really have lots of Compassion. But after a while it's really killing and draining me. Really wish you the best and time of healing and start truly understand and live yourself the good way. Very brave of you!
Yup, and since u never practice aloneness never gives u any relief.
I enjoy my quiet time as often as possibly.
I actually like my company
And as a previous supply I get great joy in the fact that I left him all alone on a farm in the middle of no where
Now he can enjoy all that alone time
I appreciate your vids, have gained some insight thanks to them, but I think this one isn't true for all. Wouldn't be surprised if some narcs are full blown avoidant.
I appreciate your honesty Thanks !
I hope you're getting to know yourself and being nice to yourself. Little by little.
The glasses just solidified everything you said!!
I'm questioning NPD and god do I relate to this so hard. You are great my guy, keep up the good work❤
He is always talking so fluently about his flaws that I can not believe him to be a narc.
I feel sad for you. And I really care. I know God can heal you. ❤
I know this feeling as an empath. I also hide things from people, generally my sad feelings, so people don't worry about me and pretend to be ok all the time. I become very hyper vigilant to avoid facing traumas, and crash when alone with my thoughts. 🤷🏼♀️
I appreciate you taking accountability bro
I love being alone.😊
So true! Im a " Asshole" n narcs hate me 😂😂😂! Every narc i cut off use to try to scare me til they realize i can also be violent
Wow. This is so insightful. Thank you so much for sharing your story and experiences. It helps shed light on a phenomenon that is not easily understood by the lay person.
Thanks for the insight .thanks bro
I love being alone. I feel so much better alone then when I am around people.
When I was younger, I fell into isolation, due to shame and anxiety being too much to handle. I probably had a form of agoraphobia. I couldn’t go out for long periods of time without panic attacks. When I was isolated, I could immerse myself in fantasy, satisfying that… thing in me.
But going to crowded places would drop an unfathomable amount of pressure on me. I almost felt paranoid and always on the verge of tears. I could just FEEL as if people were mocking me, all the time. Id walk into a store and go past a group of people who were smiling and laughing, I’d immediately feel like I need to leave. If I don’t leave now, that thing in me(false self) will notice too. If He notices anything. I’m fucked.
I’d walk through an isle and think to myself, “People can’t see me like this, they know, and if they know, HE knows. I want to go home, this is bullshit. I hate people.”
Every person I pass by intensifies my panic, every giggle, every side glance, inevitably provokes His attention. He will rebuke me and criticize me… Then when the voice of god bellows inside my skull, I try to hurry up and gtfo.
“You look so weak and vulnerable right now, are you kidding me? Where’s that confidence now? You’re such a failure. Can’t even walk like a normal human being in a store. Useless trying to pretend now. That’s all you ever do anyway, you’re fake. And everyone knows it, look around you, they see you for the awkward, disgusting, retard that you are. “
I feel this occasionally, but it’s usually when I’m criticized or questioned. Or if I feel low that day, it’ll happen but not nearly as intense. I still prefer a shorter, yet frequent dose of isolation but for different purposes now. I can’t be alone longer than maybe a day or two without getting depressed.
Oh my gosh, yes! My ex accidentally left his daily journal laying on the counter. There was one 3-month period where he was only alone 1 day each month.
He'd spend the night with me, go out with another woman during the day while I worked, then take me out at night...sometimes to the same place. That's so he wouldn't have to keep the details separate in case he slipped up.
I have spent a lot of time alone. I think sometimes when I'm with people and I'm getting all of the supply, I can get really overwhelmed. When I spend too much time in the grandiose state, I tend to blow up. I tend to ruin everything. And once it's ruined, I retreat into myself. Because then the people around me are reminders that I'm not who I think I am. It's hard to explain. Of course if I'm completely cut off as I am right now, I go through a total collapse. I happen to be in one of those collapses right now. Also there is always a part of me that knows that I'm not good for other people. And I don't like that feeling of imperfection.
I told my narc mother if she couldn't handle 10 minutes alone something is terribly wrong. She was often irritated that me being alone doesn't bother me.
Thanks to all of the diagnosed narcissist that post video's. It's a step in the right direction. The best educators of NPD are people suffering from it.
Can't stand narcacists. Appreciate his honesty.
That is why there's such a good match for a co-dependent like I was when I was young I was the perfect cheerleader for my narcissistic husband and he really made me believe that I needed him when years later I finally got away and see how happy I am with myself I never thought I could do it I never thought I would be this happy it was hard work to break the trauma Bond but I did it and sadly he is still living alone above a tourist party town where he can go down into town and drink with tourists and feel like he gets his Supply and talks about how everybody thinks he's such a great guy but I know inside he's got to feel like crap especially from all the crap he's done to me and other girls before me and friends as well it's really sad but hey I pray for him to now that I've gotten over the Betrayal and this is just who they are they are just not capable of real love this is how they survive 😊
Great insight👤👥️️
I love being left alone ❤
Many narcissist me are involved in domestic vio***ce cases. Please can you make a video of how would a narcissist behave in prison and react to the environment/isolation from external supply?
The person we escaped from was found out to have narcissistic personality disorder
Beautifully said and absolutely correct. That is an excellent idea and your comment made me realise that EVERY male Narcissist I know is going through Domestic Violence Court Cases, as for the female Narcissists...most of their partners are too scared to report them to the Police for fear of not being believed because the Perpetrator is a woman... So the domestic violence goes unreported and the female Narc gets away with murderer...sometimes literally.
I cry on weekends cause even though im with my kids I feel soooo alone.
It's nice to hear that we are not the bad people thank you bro for your honesty it's a illnesses from being at a young age respect
My narc is nice to complete strangers and his social media supply but treats me, his wife of 33 years, like dirt.
I appreciate your honesty and channel and wish you all good things .
What if they love being alone and want all the attention when in public because they have to be. Anti social?
Now they see what we go through being with them
I use to love being alone, I had no problem doing my thing...Then I met my best friend,she turned out being the love of my life,we always had so much fun together and I enjoyed being around her and having her in my life every day.. now I wake up alone , and I'm back to being on my own,I didn't realize how lonely I was till she was gone. I was fine before we met. Then bring alone after she's gone is sad,I miss her so fucking much. I hate not being around her and she's gone.i don't hate myself, I'm good dude.
Brother she got to you gas lighted the piss out of you and now you need to regain your masculinity and rise like the phoenix you are keep your chin up king and embrace who you are!