Why narcissists say they aren’t good for you
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Narcissistic personality disorder is a mental health condition characterized by an inflated sense of self-importance, a need for admiration, and a lack of empathy for others. And here I discuss my own personal experience living with narcissistic personality disorder. Including the symptoms and behaviors associated with this disorder, as well as how it has affected my life. I also share some of my coping strategies and how I have been able to manage the disorder, along with helping you understanding your loved ones and their behaviors that may seem almost incomprehensible and potentially hurtful. Hopefully, my channel will provide insight into what it's like to live with narcissistic personality disorder, as well as what it's like for your loved ones. Thank you for watching!
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When people tell you who they are, believe them.
My experience is that the ”warning” in the beginning of a relationship often is so far from the truth that it’s closer to a “lie by omission”. If you say things like “I’m horrible when I’m angry” to a person who hasn’t been with someone really abusive before, they won’t understand what you’re saying. So if you’ve done a lot of really shitty things in relationships before and “warn” someone by saying something self-deprecating in general instead of giving concrete examples it’s closer to creating a get out of jail card than giving a warning in many cases. (I’m not talking about you here, Jacob, but rather in general terms.)
hm very true, someone who hasn't experienced it can't really get the message conveyed to them in an accurate way. And it can certainly just come off as insecurity
@@Thenamelessnarcissist Then speak out the truth: "I'm a narcissist and will drain you of your rescources and energy". Let's see how far you will get with being honest...
@@walterrudich2175 i guess you are yourself as introspective and honest about your flaws, your past wrongdoings, your contributions to conflicts, and as forthcoming to your future partners, aren't you ?
My ex told me many odd things which confused me- first “you deserve better” then later “you’re out of my league “ and at the end he said “it will only get worse. “ after the breakup i realized there was no way i could convince him otherwise, and there was no way to make it work and my staying after each of these comments devalued me and. only made me to be the fool not to heed his warnings. Thanks for explaining! Like I’ve said before, you remind me of my ex so much!!!
I'm glad it helped!! But damn very relatable
@@Thenamelessnarcissist You didn't help at all. You just replicated her ex's toxic behaviour.
I'm general when people tell you who they are believe them
This is really creepy
The person literally thanked him. Please go to spread hate somewhere else. It's you who's helping no one @@walterrudich2175
I’ve always felt the narcissist picks the BEST people to be their significant other, their friend, or business partner. I feel that what attracts “innocent” with the narcissist and visa versa has more to do with each others brokenness.
This is so spot on. I always warn them in the beginning. “I’m afraid I’ll hurt you.”,
“I’m bad for you.”, “I’ll destroy you.”, “you can do better.”, “I’m toxic af.”
I always deify my partners. To me, they’re like this goddess that I worship. But I know this idealistic beauty will eventually dissipate and what’s left is a terrible succubus who has manifested to destroy my soul, to hurt me in every way possible, to bring to life all of my greatest fears. It’s all in my head, but it feels so real. So I act differently towards them, I feel attacked and so angry, so I lash out. I ignore them. I accuse them of things that I feel is real, but isn’t. I feel like this happens when they no longer see me the way I see myself when I’m grandiose. It’s like something switches on and off in my brain. Idk.
I know deep down that this is in my head, it’s a projection of my fractured mind. But I can’t make it stop. It always happens. No matter how much I feel like I love that person, no matter how much I try, I can’t make it go away.
This is what I mean by, “I’ll hurt you”. Of course, this hurts me immensely too, so that’s why I often ghost people or leave people prematurely. I see the signs and I leave before it gets messy.
I relate to all of this so much
I hate how I can know all of this and still find myself doing it
@@Thenamelessnarcissist Yeah, I know. If you figure out how to not do that, let me know 😂 Thing is, I’m not diagnosed or anything. But I relate to everything you say and then when I comment you relate back, so I’m quite confident I got something going on.
@@brandonmcalpin9228 What a thoughtful approach! Warning your partners of your toxic behaviour instead of changing it. You should be awarded the Nobel Peace Price.
@@walterrudich2175 Somebody get Walt some ointment and a donut pillow seat. He’s butthurt.
@@WhyAreThereMenInWomensPrisons LOL! Like a driver refusing to get a driver’s license. „I warn you that I will crash the car“. How pathetic!
This is me in romantic relationships in a big big way ;~; which is odd because it’s not that way in all other types of connections. I used to say I was “bad” because I couldn’t think of another way to describe it, and people wouldn’t understand, thinking I meant I was an unkind person, but I think instead of bad being cruel it’s bad being expired, like rotten… like giving a person a half baked cake, literally a half-formed human without the parts required to be someone that another person can be with. I always feel like there’s someone better for them, that they deserve more than what I can’t give them, and I will end things for that reason. It’s kind of scary, because I feel like they are looking at me and not seeing what’s missing inside, and it makes me feel so much guilt and a fear I can’t really explain…. But it feels like yelling into a cold tunnel… Heavy stuff…. Also been a while hope you’re well!
That helps me understand narc insecurities and why they try so much to cover them
Same!!
Wish you all the best
real. i think its a cluster b thing maybe cause i have bpd not npd but there's a lot of overlap in traits, i feel. i feel like when someone surface-level likes me, it's almost like i'm tricking them because they don't know how bad i really am yet. so, i may say things like "you wouldn't want to be with me" and things like that or "you're going to regret being kind to me" or "you're going to end up stuck with me, are you sure you like me?". it's like i'm afraid if they get too close, they're going to hate what they see, realise how inadequate a partner i am, realise i can't give them what they want, and that i ask for too much/i'm too needy, and then they'll leave, but also i desperately want them to see the truth, despite this fear because i don't like the idea of them having this disproportionately "good" image of me because it won't last no matter what and they'll end up disappointed when i end up revealing myself to be even more pathetic than i appeared to be through my actions later.
Good people by default look at people like they are all good. That's why it takes some time to see through the mask
Absolutely
Not always. Good people who are also naive look at people like they are all good. Also, someone who is naive is blissfully unaware of their own darkness. Good, naive people aren't as good as they think they are. It takes a lot of self awareness and effort to actually be a good person, and self aware people see others for who they are, both good and bad.
I had a guy I was dating tell me he was a bad egg. I said thank you for the warning and walked away. He said, he wanted me to move in with him & as I walked to my car yelled, call me. That was 25 years ago. I never called and never saw or heard from him again.
So in your world only "bad" ppl have trust issues?🤣
I think most of us have not enough emotional intelligence to understand their own emotions nor others emotions.
I think very few do understand but choose to not care
You asked for us to post how that made me feel to hear his self-deprecating comments: it made me feel like i needed to reassure him (which i did) but also made me feel like if he thinks i deserve better and i stay with him, then is that saying that i don’t think i deserve better? There really was no winning those arguments- so were perfect set-ups by my ex to say. I think maya Angelou said it best “when someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time”
I wish now i had let his silent treatment after telling me i deserved more be the end, because he continued to toy with my feelings and desires for a relationship another 2 months. In the end, he had his self fulfilling prophecy come true, and he discarded me (and managed to make me feel bad about myself!) i hate that he projected his shame and low self-worth on me. Took me a year to get over it and rebuild , but i have learned a lot about narcissism! Take care, Jacob. Try not to get into relationships if you only think you will ultimately hurt the girls. We give lots of benefit of doubt when we like someone, then get burned in the end .
Yeah, I hear it but oh do I love to play with fire. Us silly borderlines, flitting in and out of the flames, loyal beyond all reason, hopeless romantics living a life of fairytales. We are phoenixes and we burn by our very nature. Why not have some epic fun with a Narc until it all ends badly? Or maybe...just maybe our tears will help to heal us both.
Don't do this victim play thing you know damn well non narcissistic people are not entertaining enough for you lmao
This is by far one of your best videos. I've been wanting to hear such a blunt, no bs explanation. Ty. You're doing good work. ❤
Aw thank you so much
@Thenamelessnarcissist of course anytime 😊
Narcissists need to find someone with low expectations that won't be let down. You know doormats. Leave the rest of us alone.
They do drop the red flag early on.
My mother is a covert narcissist. Dad a codependent enabler. I was the golden child, never knowing where my mothers needs ended and mine began, so to speak. Quite cliche. I can’t remember anyone ever criticising my mother (even constructively, with good intentions) and it ending well. My sister was the scapegoat, was cruelly taunted and emotionally neglected and now has Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder as a coping mechanism developed during childhood. I have severe anxiety and depression. My advice to all you self-proclaimed narcissists - if you want to stand out from the crowed & wear a metaphorical badge of honour at the end if your life - don’t procreate.
Damn, why not ask to ALT + F4?
I admire my Narc husband for things I don’t process in myself. Confidence which is I have now learned was not real. Being able to be the life of the party. Being able to take control of a crowd and lead them. His humor his hard work at work. His charm is very attractive. His intelligence in certain subjects. Things I don’t process.
And he said I was intelligent in all the ways he was not. Also he was better for me then I was for him. Also I deserved better, and he was a pathological liar and was living a double life.
This hits home.
After becoming aware of a lot of my dysfunctions, I would constantly warn and push away intimate relationships.
I believed I would poison them, currupt them.
Yet its so conflicting, because at the core I know I can be very kind, affectionate and loving, yet the otherside of me takes over.
I push them away, until they'd had too much, only then can I see what I've done and there is an immense level of shame and more hatred for myself, which further makes me believe I can't let anyone get close to me.
This is sad and sounds exactly like what the guy I was involved with struggles through.
"you're too good for me" "I don't deserve to be loved by you" "protect yourself from me"
The most odd remark to me was "I cannot push you away, I won't" it was brought up randomly and I failed to ask if he feels that would happen. Shortly after that the pushing started and all I could do was watch it happen. In the end I got a Tool song with lyrics "Remember I will always love you as I claw your f***ing throat away. It will end no other way"
I left, you can't stay around someone who is punishing you for loving them.
Reasons why I didn't really listen, we had been close friends for years, mutual attraction but never crossed over into relaity bc of circumstances, until we did. Then things got weird. I never would have believed a friend who is very self aware would switch up on me like that and shut down after being open for years.
Tool song, effin sad. Would still love to hear your perspective on it Jacob, has me confused AF
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Mine made a habit of announcing each stage of his behavior change by saying the opposite or almost setting me up to fail. Like when I said it made me feel really good when he was open about how attracted he was to me- his response was "I'm glad. I'll make an effort to make sure I tell you more often then!" And that was the last of the compliments I got, when they had been fairly regular until then. Or when he said "I feel a really deep connection to you, and normally I'd run away but I find myself coming closer." That was the beginning of the end and the start of his withdrawal and sabotage. And when he said "Next time something happens with your truck, please call me. I'll come help you." So the one time I did, he freaked out and accused me of guilt tripping him into coming to my rescue like some knight in shining armor. Even when he was being left on read by a friend and venting to me, I agreed that it was hurtful and made me feel shitty too. The very next day was the first time he ever left me on read, and he did it more and more as time went on. He too warned me that he was garbage, and that I'd eventually get tired of his shit- which was before any of his sabotage started, so I thought it was just self depreciation and low self esteem, rather than a declaration of the inevitable. Very sad. He's a good person inside, but lost in toxic patterns.
@@imm0rtalitypassi0nThat behavior is all ways to show h himself he doesn’t need you and to prevent real emotional empathy from happening.
Thank you for this video. So much of your content gives me insight into the thinking of my NPD ex. He never said that he wasn't good for me, instead he looked me straight in the eye and said, "You need to ask yourself if I can fulfill your emotional needs?" Of course I said yes but the doubt was already there because of some of the behaviors he'd begun exhibiting. I ended up leaving him not long after. I had to, to save myself. I loved him very much, I probably always will, but I couldn't continue to live with him and be torn into emotional shreds regularly. Leaving was the hardest thing I've ever done in my entire life and so have been the months since as I've come to terms with my own abandonment issues. Again, thank you. Your content is helpful and you, as a person, have value.
The shit you go through is unbelievable. You’re a strong motherF’er
Hi , I too agree it’s one of your best videos so far !!
You nailed down that confusing behavior of narcs, ‘defying a victim vs sucking them back’ ,so perfectly -this behavior does ring true -happens a zillion times in the dynamics with Narcs!
I don’t remember any other UA-camr cover this aspect in such a candid/ spot on way . Also loved your idealization vs admiration explanation !
Thank you for a zero filter authentic work 👍Hearty thanks !
Wow. How many times did I hear these phrases but only when I was enduring the discard phase.
Omg I never could place why he said that to me... it was in the beginning of it all.. wish I had listened and ran 😭 thanks for explaining.
Thank you for sharing your perspective. Obviously, idk if that's what my ex felt, but I was always desperate to have some sort of idea.
She told me, now I know.
Wow…..
I actually got teary eyed watching this.
Bc I am good and it sucks soooo much to be made to feel like you’re nothing then, kidding love you back and forth.
You believe you are a bad person, because you were treated like a bad person in childhood. That belief was engrained in you because as children, we literally cant view our parents as "bad" people. So if they treat us badly, it MUST mean we are bad. Over time, that belief became ensconced in you. So as you go through life, you subconsciously act out in ways that validate the belief that you're a bad person.
Yup. Sam Vaknin calls it the internalized bad object
Can someone tell me why my ex always said: i am not a bad person, i am not a monster. Is it because himself thinks he is??
You fixing your hair over and over was the highlight‼️‼️‼️ 🎉🎉🎉
Your videos are so helpful. The insight you provide is invaluable. I loved my ex so much. We had a baby together. He REALLY hurt me emotionally. I was so angry because I was so hurt and didn't understand why. I started watching videos about narcissists and things started clicking into place. I was someone who he trusted. I have cPTSD so I understand how it feels to dislike myself to my core. I know what he's been through. I know what his mom and dad are like and so I started viewing him as someone who is deeply traumatized. I realize that he deserves love as much as anyone else. We are not together but I stay connected with him (not in a codependent way). When I told him I loved him, I meant it. I check on him, I send him mental health videos that I believe will resonate with him but not scare him. I tell him I have seen his dark side and I still see him as a valuable person. He has hurt me terribly and he is still worth loving. Your videos help confirm what I'm thinking because I have no idea what it's like to have this disorder. But I will try to understand why he is doing something and I'll have an idea and you'll confirm it. So you have really helped me not be angry and just love and care about him for him and not who he "could" be.
Ok this is valid.
I got this from the narc all the time. Now I see what his point was.
Does the narc secretly hate the other person who they consider “better” than them?
Because everything he liked about me in the beginning at the end he hated
They say narcissists are less self aware of themselves and their emotions but you’re more aware than anyone I know including myself!!!! Way to go kiddo!! (I call you kiddo because I feel old next to you. No disrespect intended. I’m 40 😐)
Well, I am no narc, but I kind of look down at innocent and naive people. I wonder how they manage to navigate life without realizing how dark the world is.
“Stop wasting time with me and find someone on your level.” - sociopath
You’re so insightful I bet your therapist loves that lol
I think “survivors” must do the equal or more amount of research on their own brokenness and voids too, which attracted and bonded them with a Narc. Self-accountability must also come with equal intensity.
Whatever
In this stage of my life, i am pretty aware of how this dynamic present itself. Which is why things are all or nothing to me now. Hell, i can entertain another narc in the future. But i would demand from them what they won't provide and so it'd be fine in the end anyways. Maximum, full transparency and no limits to communication. Any deviation or BS would be taken ultra seriously, but wr know that women narcs won't be able to do this naturally 😂 Only weak women/men can't accept that showing weakness is a sign of emotional strength and trust; which is hyper-valuable to normal people. So yeah, i am not counting on the weak in the end. Sucks that good people attract them, having to invent an entire process and all that to vet if a person is a narc or not was quite the strange ordeal.
● About the innocence you're talking about, I see it as a different thing (I may be wrong).
Maybe is not lack of innocence, just different priorities. We are able to see when someone is better than us in differents aspects of life, but this is not really important for us because we have other priorities than be better than another one.
For you maybe this is actually a priority and then the difference is this: different priorities.
For example, when I see someone better than me in "one aspect", my priotity is to learn from them because I think is going to be good for me to know more about "that aspect", but I don't try to be better than them for just to be, because I don't think this is important, is not my motivation.
● About being good or bad person: I think that for neurotypical people is easy, but for you is not, and you are trying and trying and learning. You choose to do good even if a lot of times is difficult.
That doesn't make you in any case evil. That makes you a person with good intentions.
I feel my ex is just very broken not bad once the relationship goes from admiration to pity, it’s over. I felt drained most of the time and I became resentful and avoidant Now I am terribly confused about who I even am. I feel so much guilt for hurting him and being a disappointment. I recognize now we both lacked maternal love as children and we were trying to find that in each other. The self deprecation made me feel like I was being set up to fail them. I didn’t like the feeling that I was being put on a moral pedestal because I have my struggles too. I could see the black & white thinking at work heavily.
Like you videos a lot, you are a very easy going and sincere person. Wanted to ask you: at what point do you feel this change in attitude towards your significant other from idealization to the beginning of devaluation. What brings up this devaluation process in your mind: the routine of the relationship or hidden fear of abandonment and devaluation comes as a preemptive action or this need to “ separate from metaphorical maternal figure” that your girl impersonates like Vaknin puts it ? Would be very interesting to hear your thoughts
I’m not a NPD, I’m a BPD. I am fairly certain that the devaluing happens around the end of the honeymoon phase- when the happy chemicals in our brains relax a little and that “high” is no longer calling all of the shots. Healthy people have built up a strong bond based on trust and mutual respect that keeps the relationship going. Narcs and BPD’s don’t have that. If a narc isn’t receiving their narc supply anymore- they are gunna stop wanting to be with you. And so it begins…
Good one. Would you describe it as Favorite Person, sort of?
If you're attracted to and/or value people who you consider to be good or virtuous, then why can't you also be good or virtuous yourself? I consider personality/what we 'are' to generally be our actions, and people have the capacity to align our actions with our morals and values, even if we occasionally fail. But I guess you somewhat answered my question -- you alternate between admiring 'good' people and seeing them as better than you and looking down on them as being naive or inferior. So do you actually want to be 'good' (according to whatever your own definition of good is)?
I can relate, I think, from the other end of this dynamic which is why I'm so interested in this. I'm BPD and seem to repeatedly be in relationships with people with NPD. Seem because none of these people have been diagnosed (and yeah, its an internet trend to diagnose all your exes you're mad at with NPD). It does feel like a reoccuring pattern in my BPD/NPD-style relationships that the very qualities that end up attracting us to each other ultimately disgust us. I've experienced what you describe where the NPD person initially seems to see me as this angelic person (which is obvious splitting and unrealistic, this certainly isn't my internal experience of myself) and then eventually ends up treating me as though they regard me as weak and stupid. On my end though, I think I do something similar to the NPD person. I alternate between admiring them and depending on them for seeming more confident, capable than me, better at making decisions or standing up for themselves, etc and eventually feeling disgusted by the more interpersonally exploitative aspects of NPD. But even with the negative/bad aspects I alternate between admiration and disgust. IE I am superior to this person moral, but I feel inferior because I allowed them to abuse or dominate me. So I've felt this same internal confusion withinin myself. Why do I feel inferior to people who abuse me? Is this the kind of person I want to be?
I don’t think it’s normal to be indifferent to an ex-partner until long after the breakup. You’ve invested time, energy, and emotion into that relationship. It’s natural to feel grief over that loss… It’s been nearly a year since my breakup, and I would still do anything to hear from my person and for our future (shared fantasy?) to be revived.
It's personal and subjective. I didn't felt nothing after the breakup:)
I feel the same...
im a sage, and im binge watching your videos. they are just excellent. reach out if you ever want to trade ideas.
"maybe it'll be better for you if I died" yeah maybe bro! 😂
At the very beginning my nex said “ I turn my mother against women I date “ I thought that’s weird and he did at the end of the relationship go on a smear campaign there’s a level of self awareness
Mine told me a few months in “if we break up I’d have to block and delete you off everything and completely ghost you” 4 years and an engagement later, he was right!
I accuse the narcissist of false advertising. They are unable to be in a romantic relationship and are up in their head way too much. There is no reciprocity, they are empty vessels unable to connect. So I agree, it is bad to pretend you can give something when you can't and you are wasting my time. It is one big mind f^&k
My boyfriend told me on several occasions : Hey ,girl,don't you know that I am bad,real bad..."😮And I thought he was joking 😂,but I think he was trying to warn me of himself ...😮
My ex told me he was “fucked up”! I thought he was being condescending but I heard him tell a couple of other people that. I should have believed him. He ended up being a covert narcissist with psychopath tendencies! I have been NC for 2 years. Believe them when they tell you and Get out and stay out!
Question for you. I hear what you're saying that people with NPD are trying to warn the other person because they believe they are inherently "bad." It sounds like a Narcissist would attribute their "bad" behaviors to their core person, but their "good" behaviors to their mask. Is that correct? Is so, what is the rational for that?
The rationale is that it’s true. I am the yin to the narc’s yang. I have borderline personality disorder. I hide my true self all the time because it’s ugly and scary, and sometimes pathetic. So I put on this mask for the general public and do my best to act normal. Now, I’ve been in recovery for many years and my true me is healing and becoming a very brave, self-aware person. But I still wear a mask everyday to hide the constant judgment I have running through this insane ADHD brain of mine. And to hide the anxiety, anger, or sadness.
This very title is what Damon Salvatore said to Elena in _Vampire Diaries._ To me, Ian Somerhalder's character is a fantastic representation of someone with grandiose NPD.
EVERYONE COMPARES ME TO HIM LOL
@@Thenamelessnarcissist GAHAHAHAHAHA
If they betray you when they break up with you would you still idealize them again?
Empaths and Narcissists are frequently attracted to each other, as their early years often contain overlapping trauma. However, they grow in different directions, into basically different species.
Empaths are like dolphins, narcissists are like sharks. There’s nothing wrong with sharks, they definitely have a beneficial function in the ocean. However, a shark and a dolphin together - just does not work. What does work is staying within their own species. There’s also middle of the road people/“normal” people, but they don’t seem to get involved with narcissists much.
I understand your analogy but ohhh my, if you only knew that at least sharks kill to eat but dolphins kill for fun
the only time they don't lie lol
Ive had the advisory talk. Im trying to slowly come to terms i am not bad ive had lots of bad things happen to me and havent been the nicest. As above so below. Itll get better once i stop feeding myself so much shit because it shows in the physical regardless.
Jacob, Is there a video that describes how you became aware? I don’t expect you to go find it, just hopefully yes/no.
I think so??? it's likely old though. If not I'll definitely make one
@@Thenamelessnarcissist It would have to be titled that way to be found. I’ll let you know. I’m trying to settle a debate. It has been posed that NPD is either aware, or unaware, and that’s that. I know better. I believe you were all unaware, but a rare few of you, through some event maybe, were forced to introspect enough to realise.
@@Thenamelessnarcissist Closest I see is “What it’s like being a self aware N”. Skimming through it, doesn’t seem to cover it.
So what’s the reasoning behind a narcissist calling someone else a narcissist? My ex explained to me in great detail how he figured out one of his exes had narcissistic personality disorder by watching a doctor on UA-cam. Can he still be a narcissist if he can recognize other narcissists?
You're a cutie patootie tho, always worrying about your hair 😂❤
My npd ex was obsessed with my innocence. He coerced me to marry him as a minor and him as an adult :(
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Are you getting any better?
I wonder what a year or two in Buddhist monastery do with you. Could buddhism lessen or even cure your condition? I am dyung to know. 😅
Ima be honest I have a lot of advice about all this stuff. I’d love to talk to you one on one. If you’re ok with that
Could you find romance w/ a sociopath? Asking for an npd and sociopath who began a relationship. I was jilted by npd for a sociopath w/ rotten teeth and unkempt. I don’t get it. Dies a sociopath have some weird magical wand
Did you ever get better?
A lion braught up in a chicken coop, may behave like chickens, but never becomes a chicken!
He used to call me naive hahaha but his problem was not being able to see another perspective it's this rigid cynical thinking.
The evil overlord mwahaha :3 nah you're a little baby inside
Why are all you narcissistic men so charismatic 😂 I laugh at the dark intrusive thoughts yall have
They need us and they're good at getting supply. Unless they're covert, that's a whole different mindfuck lmao. But man cocky narcissists are so damn entertaining, I used to hang with them. Got damaged real good tho lol
Is it just me, or do everyone's fingers look like sausages?
AND THEY AREN'T GOOD FOR YOU.
Sooooo annoying to hear… Like suspend emotion and analyze the facts.
My ex said I want a good lifestyle that he can’t afford (financially).
… he’s just lazy… put in the work like he was diligent at work performing for others he didn’t have to do life with.
Annoying
I’m the woman you described. You do pollute those like me. We serve God, not you!
It's kind of a narcissistic comment to me....
In general if someone tells you who they are or expresses concerms about the negative externalities of their behavior you benefit from believing them. This goes for anyone mentally ill or neurotypical. If someone tells you I have X issue or I perceive you in this unhealthy way thats a bad sign. Maybe not enough to quit a relationship all together but something to pay attention to