How to Hold Space for Someone (& Truly HELP Them)

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  • Опубліковано 28 чер 2019
  • In this video, I talk about how to hold the space for someone and the value of holding the space for others.
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    oliver cowlishaw

КОМЕНТАРІ • 29

  • @emmapaynter9893
    @emmapaynter9893 3 роки тому +24

    This was sooo helpful, thank you so much! Recovering fixer and advice giver over here 👋

  • @ericjshorts3203
    @ericjshorts3203 3 роки тому +10

    I feel like this can be easily broken down into just supporting someone whatever they are going through until they heal. Also this is a two way street when 2 companions are both suffering.

    • @justinj.6323
      @justinj.6323 Рік тому +1

      Support can be interpreted many ways though.

  • @cherylwilsherlimberlife7210
    @cherylwilsherlimberlife7210 3 роки тому +3

    One of the most important topics of the whole world right now. People hopefully can become more aware of the importance of this.

  • @susanasierra8508
    @susanasierra8508 5 років тому +6

    This is one hell of a good reminder and a beautiful way to phrase it too ! Also dig the hairstyle ;)

    • @OliverCowlishaw
      @OliverCowlishaw  5 років тому +3

      That's it, I'm making regular trips to the Turkish barbers from now on with the amount of compliments I've received 😂

  • @laurrelei
    @laurrelei 4 роки тому

    This is part of my favourite video. I love it. Thank you so much.

  • @lauraschep1695
    @lauraschep1695 4 роки тому +2

    This video was so helpful, thank you Oliver! It totally deserves way more views :D

  • @amyw.251
    @amyw.251 3 роки тому

    Wow. Thank you!

  • @MountainofInspiration
    @MountainofInspiration 2 роки тому +1

    Awesome. Thanks for sharing. I learned so much through this video.

  • @elainetsui9572
    @elainetsui9572 2 роки тому +2

    Just stumbled across this video and I immediately subscribed to your content!
    You explained this so well and succinctly and I’ll defos be applying this to my life and to my relationships!!
    Thank you for sharing this!!

  • @FloraMacDonald111
    @FloraMacDonald111 3 роки тому

    Thank you!

  • @ddemaine
    @ddemaine 5 років тому +1

    Fascinating video

  • @judithjanssen699
    @judithjanssen699 Рік тому +2

    Thank you for this video. This is exactly what I would like people to do when I'm struggling in stead of comming up with advice like I'm to stupid to solve the problem. I'm in complex grieve for some big losses but it seems other people don't allow me to grieve. And exactaly it is hard for me to let myself grieve aswell. Afther watchibg you video I was fibaly crying again and my heart kinda opened hearing rhat thing I need that I couldn't explain to other couldn't find the right words. And also this helps because sometimes i kbow people mean things well but I feel such resistance when they come up with their solutions. I can now understand where that resistance comes from. And not use that against myself aswell. And not let others use it against me. That is what happens sometimes peiole come up with solutions and i react with resistance and they say i don't want to solve the problem so it is my own fault... everything makes so much sence now. I hope i will be able to atleast hold some space for myself now. Thank you 🙏💜🍀

  • @OrunitaVivi
    @OrunitaVivi 5 років тому +1

    Thank you

  • @joanneward6746
    @joanneward6746 3 роки тому

    I've heard 'hold space for someone' a few times. But people rarely explain. I think those who understand it assume others do too? I didn't really know what it meant. I'm about half way to understanding so hope one day to put into practice. I can relate to wanting this from others but not being able to articulate beyond 'I know that it's not ideal, please just listen to me' etc This video is great. I look forward to sharing it without offending my nearest and dearest 😅

  • @maetompkins8360
    @maetompkins8360 Рік тому

    Just found your video! My
    Husband has cancer now for almost 3years! I feel like I’m holding space for him!

    • @OliverCowlishaw
      @OliverCowlishaw  Рік тому +2

      The bravery and courage you've already shown is beyond words, Mae. My heart and empathy is with you and your husband 💚

    • @maetompkins8360
      @maetompkins8360 Рік тому +1

      @@OliverCowlishaw thank you so much for the video and your kindness, wisdom 🙏🏻 💜

  • @themantrawomankey8514
    @themantrawomankey8514 2 роки тому

    You're kind.

  • @bcwsfo1
    @bcwsfo1 5 років тому +1

    I love what you have shared with us but may I just say that I really love your new haircut :-)?

    • @OliverCowlishaw
      @OliverCowlishaw  5 років тому

      That's the 3rd person to say that now. Thanks, Bobby ;)

  • @MorrisChannel4
    @MorrisChannel4 3 роки тому +1

    Can this work for amendment writing to someone? I am doing the 12 step program

  • @jeannette62rocks
    @jeannette62rocks Рік тому

    What if the person I’m holding space for is suicidal?

  • @darrenyoung4509
    @darrenyoung4509 5 років тому +7

    Remain in the highest vibration of SelfLove and radiate Impenetrability to any unaligned vibrations that are ignorant of itself and does not honor itself with divine love.
    Grace and peace and always,

  • @jasonandjessicaproductions6416
    @jasonandjessicaproductions6416 2 роки тому +1

    So don't hold it all inside . Let the person your holding. space for know exactly how you feel and be there for them fully and unconditionally but from a distance unless they need you . You don't have to be drained by their toxicity and at the same time you can show them unconditional love. God Bless You All and Much love

  • @bridgetisfly
    @bridgetisfly 8 місяців тому

    This is not a how-to it’s just a why-to. We already clicked on the video cause we know the why. Please change the title of this video!