Peter Pan Syndrome - 7 Signs That You Are A Man-Child
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- Опубліковано 5 вер 2024
- In this video, I reveal 7 potential signs that you are a man-child.
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“the truth will set you free- but first it will piss you off”
Truth!
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Bmth ?
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7 Signs you’re a man child
1) Excessive desire for romantic and sexual approval
2) Indecisiveness
3) A lack of trust in oneself
4) Struggle to accept responsibility
5) Taking everything personally
6) Afraid Of Commitment
7) Emotionally Volatile
This is me at 25. I hate admitting this I really do, but I am a man child. What now, how do I grow up and become a man despite being so late
Literally shocked 😱
hits me deep in the chest.
@@r4nowo that's normal at 25
Shit
As a woman, if you don't mind my input and speaking for myself - I totally admire and respect anyone (man or woman) who make an effort to try to grow as a person. 💜 Communication, Self reflection (challenging your thoughts & feelings) not ego, is they key.
Any input is welcome. I agree with you.
All seven points are accurate and to the point. I would like to add three more points;
a) no direction in life, not driven, you have to always tell the man child what to do .
b) careless, doesn't take care of self and things around . Least bothered.
c) entitlement, blaming, excuses, victim mode.
As I am writing this many more points are popping up.
Your points really should be added👍
Everyone a psychologist nowadays
So basically everything most women do?
@@BOSSDONMAN But women are kinda "children". Therefore they can't really be "child-children".
@@BOSSDONMANidk man i see a lot of man doing that.
These signs are all rooted in anxiety, which is not neccesarily attributed to being a kid. Kids are naturally creative and explorative until experience and adults teach them otherwise. Anyone who's controlled by anxiety just wasn't taught to deal with it. With each generation it seems we're forgetting healthy ways to deal with anxiety and trauma by which we nurture children into adulthood. Many adults themselves barely know how to handle the free nature of children. Whereas violence was the "old way" for powerless, ignorant adults to force their children to behave, now it's distraction through social media and videogames. If a kid is screaming, just give him an Ipad, right? Let hem scroll endlessly on TikTok and play Fortnite. This is more acceptible because hey, who isn't behind a screen these days? Hence this form of neglect is practiced way more than child beating ever was. But it's still abuse, because kids won't learn anything this way.
On the verge of turning 60 and am still processing myself in maturing.
If you want to be man you have to develop your masculinity. No more seeking external validation. No more blaming. No more laziness. Accept your parents as what they are. Let go of grievance.
The past is just that, the past. It is not you. You are your now, and your plans for the future.
Put yourself through physical discomfort - exercise till you sweat and struggle to carry on. Develop your voice, your posture, your positivity. Learn to enjoy solitude. Real men take action - boys linger in the past.
Great summary 👌🏻
Don't feel, don't be empathic, be like a robot. Thanks for the stereotype description.
My inner child will never die. Every day is an adventure. I will never stop dreaming. I will always be curious. I am in charge of my life, my thoughts, my actions, and my ambitions. Life is good. Everyday is a blessing. I am grateful to be alive. Through thick and thin, whatever life throws at me, I will thrive.
We don't want our inner child to die. We just don't want him driving the bus of our lives.
We all have insecurities, don't let that discourage you people
Sounds like the effects of someone who has been through some sort of trauma too. At least that's the case for me personally.
You sound pathetic
@@josuebrown6001 Found the manchild.
@@josuebrown6001 you’re probably a thousand times worse
Well, from a psychologists point of view a lot of these points which are made in these sort of self help videos are at best sort of right. In reality it’s a bit more complicated
Yes
Oh god! That's 7 out of 7 for me. Really good subject matter and channel. Keep up the good work!
Glad you enjoyed mate.
Same Here! Fuck!
I have a huge urge to send this to someone 😂 but he's blocked
Lol
@Dewmercel Very likely a child who still rides a skateboard after 40. I have a Psychologist frienemy who is unmarried, still lives with Mommy and he can´t handle a steady job; he is 46. He always competes with me, instead of competing with himself, so he is blocked and my life is back to peaceful. 😀
@@vidanueva6192 I know someone like this in my family.
I SENT IT!!!!!!!
@@corabellerowland3182 Cora! He's having the runs. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I must admit, I am good on all of these, except indecisive. Even a year ago I had more of these. It's wild how quickly we can grow, especially when you get rid of toxic and abusive people. We can all do this peeps, remember: we are okay, no one cares about us, work harder and commit to what is important to you.
There we go
it is never to late to improve and it is always up to you to start. I'm guilty of these too...
Good video, its not to belittle anyone, its to improve one self.
Definitely.
Good video. After reading up on stunted adolescence, developmental trauma and Peter Pan Syndrome, and concluding that I have it, I'm now wondering what to DO about it! 😔
Usually, a dominant aggressive mother that you are afraid of makes you a man-child.
Yes!
I talk about it in this video: ua-cam.com/video/3_1Ov4HKhy4/v-deo.html
@@OliverCowlishaw You can break free from your mother even when you are 12 years old, and you are still going to be a man-child. It's about the psychology that suppressed your masculinity and other psychological factors that are deeply ingrained, like a toxic virus that happened at a very early age.
@@TomeRodrigo yes....but there's a lot you can do about it.
Oh boi is my mom a man child? She not used to getting told no. Then I refuse something I get sweared at and scream sometimes over nothing or don't respect my boundaries and what is important to me just because it isn't to her. Good riddance I ran away and I'm poisoned as I'm man child and gaslighted. She gets and shuts me down whenever I say something that isn't confirmed by her as if she always right. Even tho I always tying looking better ways to get better but I'm man child ok.
Yes I am a man child...at 34
1. I still buy Toys, I buy Disney stuffs
2. I experiment with my life
3. Yes I don't love to commit. Not because I have some issue but because people are self-centred this days.
4. I love to hang out with children more than I hang out with my friends. Yes their sons and daughters enjoy my company a lot. Because people of my age are "adults" busy bitching men or women.
5. I love being there for my parents and even do household works. Know how to cook, sew and a lot more things which are considered "womanly". Also I do have a job that pays extremely well, so I don't have to rely on parents to buy me the toys. I do have my own place but I love staying with my parents. Just Indian things that West will never understand.
Being a child and a man at the same time is not bad at all. So all fuckeroos who are trying to shame people for being a good kid at heart can just fuck themselves.
What the video states is the worst qualities of a man and worst qualities of a child. You may be just the opposite.
If you're genuinely happy and aren't hurting anyone, fuck what anyone (including me) thinks.
If you aren't genuinely happy and are deluding yourself, I'm here to help when you decide to address it.
@@OliverCowlishaw I have been seeing to a psychologist for a long time and he sees no fault in being that. Yes there are peer pressure of being constantly being judged which used to hurt me but now I honestly don't give a fuck.
then you are not man child , man child is like man who cant take responsible for their own life and still depend on their parents like a infant .
watching cartoon, playing lego, video games or staying with parent didnt make you man child .
@maryss8767 agreed. I'm similar to this. A Child at heart, but I still get shit done. Kids love me bc I play when them at THEIR level. Gotta know how to adapt. Adults mostly suck. Life has gotten in the way the same it has for me... I just decide to not lose my inner child. Just gotta know when and how to turn it off and on
This is the kind of men I think we should need right now. Right now, I feel bad living with my parents because there is a career I want to try but opportunities suck so I currently live with my parents.
It's been quite normal for adults to live with their parents until they're married in a lot of cultures for a long time. If anything, I'd say that trend is dying, especially in the West.
In undevelopted countries it remains a trend even in the west
@@splashnskillz37You are probably the same kind of person who also thinks teens and young adults still jumping in a empty bouncy castle sometimes is okay too
so true for me, i mean i wont change but still im a man-child definitely, worst part is i literally dont care, but im watching this so maybe deep down i do
What you said in the end gives hope, God bless you Sir for spreading awareness!!
Thank you!
Ok... So how to "Un-Pan" one self after discovering? Is there a book a method to stick to it and become a MAN! OMG...
Thank you for making things more clearer...
Next video.
A woman at my work asked me if I was married and I casually said That I hadn't grown up yet and still was a kid, not interested in relationships and truthfully that's how I feel as I approach 57 years.
Lol. What she said?
Sounds a little brutal. Some people have trauma, witch makes it hard for them to open up suddenly. Also desiring a romantic partner if you don't have one is a healthy sign from basically everyones perspective, maybe besides some zen monks ;). But generally I find your channel very useful. Keep it going! :)
Thanks brother!
It's not brutal. It's truth. These patterns are not always due to trauma. And he wasn't referring to normal desire for intimacy, but excessive. Its' a pattern we see in the man-child.
Trauma is not an excuse to abuse and mistreat others but that's what these man babies do
Apparently "some" nowadays mean everyone.
Lol, That video really made me feel bad... Luckly mom bought me Ice Cream! :D
Good stuff. These dysfunctional family systems sure a recipe for one hell of a life trying to heal it. Let alone figure it all out.
Man, number 1 resonates with me, though it should resonate with most men. Ones desire for sexual approval comes from ones own sexual inexperience. Meaning any man in his early 20's who lack sexual experience will have a natural need for sexual approval.
I agree
Thank you for improving my life in 8 minutes
Hope it helped, mate
Good, but I am too tired to care in the first place
You know that smirk when you're like ah damn he's talking about me 😩.
I'm calling you forward, man. The world needs you.
Conversation starters as a adult: what's your credit score? FICO score??
Then i'm good, I pay my bills on time.
Nothing wrong with going fast. I don’t have patience for long videos.
1.5 X speed?
@@OliverCowlishaw 1/4
Omg incredibly factual. I hope this reaches men worldwide. So many man children out here.
I’m 21 and I think I’m a bit of a man child. I have adhd and my dad was very controlling and my mom just lets me do whatever I want lol.
This sounds like me 5 years ago. But I think I've evolved. I'm finally settling into a career where, by necessity, I have to be the adult in the room: I'm now a teacher. This career has definitely made me more bold and assertive. That's because if you're not assertive in a classroom with a bunch of 11- and 12 year-olds, those kids will run you over. So you have to stand up and be the authority figure they need. So now I'm always taking the lead when other men are not making a damn decision, and I'm pretty vocal about that to the men I sort have to take the reins for. Previously I would've shied away from this. I clashed with my most recent male roommate who was subletting from me because he was in MY space without following the rules that we set up and agreed together. I got mighty territorial and confrontational about pretty rational things, like him taking MY property without MY permission. He would throw huge, almost-violent hissy fits if he didn't get his way, like taking my property without my permission, and I was about this close to calling the police on him. But I stood my ground and let him know I was the one with the power. He understood, so thank God he left. He was a man-child and for the first time I had very little patience for that crap. I guess I'm an adult now. LOL.
im struggling a bit to see why its labelled as a child. i didnt have many of these features as a kid, but of course my childhood wasnt perfect either. not trying to brag or anything, but i really believe kids can be taught to think for themselves, know real consequences, be in touch with their talents and sense of purpose, etc i could go on and on. sure if some parents dont let kids be independent then this is likely to happen. but honestly i think having some child like features later in life is probably healthy. less stress, not taking things too seriously, in my experience those people even age slower, giving them more youthful appearance in old age. how many of us know stern depressing old men with a stiff face to match that? i would rather just say these are poor qualities that you had as a child and then kept
Great point.
If you're a man-child, you likely have as active SHADOW child which is the inner child part of you that's scared and confused. Part of the process involves healing the SHADOW child and bringing forward the SUN child which is the part of your inner child that's playful, curious, open and spontaneous.
Thanks for your comment.
@OliverCowlishaw Very interesting insight! What helps me with this struggle of the self is to reflect on the dualistic Ying Yang nature of this 'Shadow Child / Sun Child' relationship--when observed will give us a more objective view of ourselves, and further allows us to transcend many of the mental sicknesses of the modern day.
We must also recognize that the shadow is not necessarily our enemy, but like you said, that confused part of ourselves that has likely been neglected since childhood. The problem that I see a lot in the modern world is that people who struggle with their repressed shadows seek to completely destroy it under any circumstances, without fully realizing that our shadows are natural counterparts of our existence, and are thus vital functions in developing an innocent, playful, and meaningful approach to life.
I guess to summarize my main message is to simply have compassion for your shadow and to find a balance, because too much light or darkness will eventually lead to destruction. I also highly suggest to anyone that may read this comment to learn about the Swizz psychiatrist Carl Jung, since his approach to these aspects of the self has personally revolutionized how I see myself and the world around me; more specifically to check out Jung to Live by, since they go into more detail and nuance then most channels I've seen so far.
So what if you have some of these but not all. Also what if your fear of commitment comes from being played or hurt many times, not your inability to be committed?
Elijah Wood is British??
You are who you are. And these days its makes more sense to be this way, especially as a male...Crazy but true.
Just stay away from drugs at any age
I don't agree.
@@OliverCowlishaw why?
Hi Bro! Thanks for this video! I appreciate! Do your best!
I do not it is related depending or laziness, it is emotional side for the man. It is need for internal love and caring especially for who lost this in the Childhood for the man even if he reached 50th or 70th. It is inner feeling as I expect.
Hey 7 for 7!! My first A+ without even trying.
Honestly, I'm 27 years old and I've always been somewhat of a manchild.
At least you can admit it, mate. You can't change something until you can first tell the truth about it. Good luck, brother 🔥
@@OliverCowlishaw thank you.
Not all of these have to be present. But I'd add one more: being jealous of those who are succeeding on the path of becoming a grown-up. It's not restricted to men, though.
This was helpful for me! ~ Thank you
I’m 14 but i still feel like I’m 9 years old. But I don’t know what is wrong with me, I can’t have Peter Pan syndrome since I’m technically still a child but I’m not sure. I just feel lost and confused
I tend to be too harsh on myself and strict when I am going to do daily chores, I am 27 btw. Cuz of my childhood. I was never raised properly, so I had to raise myself, taking on adult responsibilities too early. And today, when I am going to do chores, I tend to get tired very quickly and stress alot.
The reason why I am harsh on myself is the fact that I am a 27 year old man, and deep inside, I know I can do this, I just for some reason lack the strength
Fascinating video. Recalls the great days of Neneh Cherry too.
Well at least in the US, the initiation was move out on your own. Unfortunately this "ritual" is no long as viable as it once was due to the extreme cost of living in most places.
I have noticed many young men are severely depressed because they have been unsuccessful in this, so it makes them feel like they already lost at life from an early point.
Great point. The economic issues are something I didn't cover.
Okay..!
So I'm still a child underneath ರ╭╮ರ
Possibly.
That doesn't give you permission to beat yourself over the head though.
Everyone is. There’s nothing wrong with that. It’s just that you’re an adult too and if you struggle with „growing up“ it probably means that you‘ve no concise connection to your inner child are not able to make it feel safe. Feel free to follow up on this if you want to learn how to change that. Best of wishes and much love!
Funny observation, some of these symptoms fits women I have observed with disorganized attachment issues. Should watch out for these signs regardless of gender.
For sure.
That’s most kids join gangs and stuff even doe it’s bad but it helps you develop your character
1. Sometimes I have romantic and sexual desires but usually in private, may express desire for romantic partner at times, but usually far and in between
2. I perform whatever chores are needed of me, I always to my best to take of customers at the fast food place I work at.
3. I don't trust myself to drive a car of any sort, but I trust myself to be able to walk half a hour to work and back home every day
4. I take any or all blame for the mistakes I made and hold no judgment on anyone when that person makes a mistake unless, it was potentially life threatening.
5. Whenever a insult hits me, I do my best to ignore it and forget it.
6. I have been working at the same job for the better half of 6 years or so, despite low career quality.
7. I view myself to lazy and nice to get mad or upset emotionally about anything that effects me, but will be sadden and angered by the idea of babies being killed before birth, toddlers being harmed or any child put in harm's way.
Those are good points that you mentioned. Good video. Speaking of video, you are not filming when you made a video. Regardless of the ridiculous trendiness, amoungst young people, of saying that you "filmed" something, you haven't filmed anything (unless you loaded film into a camera, like we used to do, and stored the images on film.) You have been VIDEOING.
That's an interesting thing to pick up on.
I'm all of these. What do I do now? What does take responsibility mean?
So basically any one with anxiety is a child...
You are probably the same kind of person who also thinks teens and young adults still jumping in a empty bouncy castle sometimes is okay too -/-.
@@youawesome2068 your comment is dumb, why wouldn't it be okay? It's more okay than driving drunk, and I'm pretty sure you'd think the later is "mature/manly" enough, being silly once (jumping on inflatable castle is completely harmless , maybe goofy, but its fun to do goofy stuff, otherwise you live a life worrying about others judgement...
Literally 🤣🤣🤣
I needa stop watching these men telling *me* what a man is. That's the real problem I have. 🤣🤣🤣
3 out of 7 & I got 3 & 7... Great video, I'm working on it that's why this video popped up
Sounds more like depression and low self esteem.
bananian OMG OMG OMG
Actually it have some things very similar like have a low level of emotional maduration they have a lot of negation in hard moments.
Watched this video and noticed that I HAD all these traits, but they’re all severely cut down. Here’s to MANHOOD
I have met high-functioning versions of this type of man you describe, It is very odd to experience sadly. And yes, we still do rites of passage for men and women and initiation into those cultural practices.
P.E.A.C.E
Point One - WTF
Point Two - Only from severe stress
Point Three - No
Point Four - No
Point Five - somewhat, but I know I have clinical anxiety and I think through it
Point Six - with my mental illnesses I can suffer depression from stress, so I take a walk and destress before I keep going
Point Seven - I've been in rages but only when it was truly warranted - like being attacked or whatever
I'll put my hand up to being guilty of no.6 and no.7
I made a conscious choice not to have children (I don't want the responsibility) and have declined advancement at work (I don't want the responsibility of co-workers) and I can be something of a contrarian if I don't respect the rationale for certain decisions.
However, I think it is inherently responsible to be this way if you KNOW that you are unlikely to commit to fatherhood or Managerial positions. The alternative is to be a sloppy parent or boss, happy to accept the position for the kudos, but without the fortitude to do the role justice.
That sounds like black or white thinking to me. But if it's working for you then all good ✌🏻
7/7 at 24 my life is torn between the man child that takes over when I am alone and the goal driven person when talk to my gf or with my friends or talk to my parents. At the end of the day when I am alone the man child takes over and my messy room poor hygeine and diet lack of organization and so there is a massive cognitive dissonance ast to who I really am. I am fixing it now by making new nural pathways (habits, thoughts, actions and behavior that revolves around my vision for my self that I want to take over both when I am alone and when with others.
Also being aware of when the man child is taking over
One thing for me is about all the pressure of people expecting more from you in every department as you grow older. That resonates with me every single thing you said, I feel the same way. Their's alot of different factors such as adults being very judgemental in a way too.
I've not been able to detach from my youth and when everything was perfect. It brings tears to my eyes every time I think back to my younger days and how I'll never be that age again, I can't accept growing up its so painful for me. I can't let go of my younger self.
But you're expected to act a certain way when you're out and around others, not many people share a similar mind set as me.
I also had a fine upbringing. On the other hand I don't really feel it's a problem being child like as you get older it's society who has decided the terms sort to say.
Another factor is how I've grown and changed in looks wise, I used to be content when I was younger generally with my appearance and didn't care as much but that changed as I grew older.
I do have a mixture of anxiety and depression, diagnosed with both. I do care about what people care about me and I generally feel they'll think of me in a negative sense.
I fear the future and the responsibilities I'll have one day.
I'm wondering if anyone else feels the same way?
Too many people are children that got old. Foolishness is bound in the mind of a child.
Exactly
So most people in our society are men/women child.
A couple of you have mentioned that you collect toys or action figures as a hobby. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this, As long as you keep it in perspective proper place. Meaning that you are a balanced individual who also knows how to take care of life's issues and problems. You know how to maybe install a car battery mow your lawn pay your bills and balance your checkbook. Have appropriate self-control excetera excetera. Being able to balance and think things through logically to a successful conclusion and acting upon this. You respect the rights of others and yourself, and that you are a man of your word integrys one that can be counted upon.
Well said
You are so smart and good looking i swear. The eyebrows are perfect (eyebrow artist here). I apologise if this creeps you out a bit lol. Just observation aloud.
I got the best eyebrows on earth I used to have the worse but
Im a manchild. But im independent. I used to cry a lot. Play video games a lot. Hug a teddy. I love my ma a lot. And i dont want to be near any female coz i dont want them to like me. I dont know but i think inside of me, theres a little boy spirit trapped. Hmmm
It's very possible
@@OliverCowlishaw ☺ but im a good fisher
I see many people confuse man child versus having childish harmless hobbies.
Independent
Responsible
Growth
Goals
Self improvement so on discipline.. it's actually not hard to be a man in today lazy world.
Interestingly, you described the human race. I've never met a single person who doesn’t struggle with one or more of these.
I have met a few who claimed to have these all down. They were lying, as was always evident by observing their social interactions. We all bluff to a degree.
I agree.
Fully mature self actualised men are the real 1%. This is what we should strive for.
Thank you bro.
No problem
You have beautiful eyes
are they real?
Thank my mum.
This video is a bit funny to me because I am thinking “Was I even a child at all?”
Being a kid with younger siblings I was given care responsibilities for my younger ones; prepping their food, laundry, homework you name it at a young age of 9, since I had a career oriented mother. I will say it helped me become the individual I am now.
And are you okay with the individual you are now?
Oliver Cowlishaw a very deep question. Ill say he is doing well by all of society’s standards but now he is learning to loosen up a bit. Everything doesn’t have to be a goal, or to-do list
@@romz5330 By "he" are you talking about yourself?
Oliver Cowlishaw yes. Sometimes I try to observe myself in the 3rd person.
Having a hard time differentiating "Peter Pan Syndrome, A Man-Child and a Narcissist".... are they all the same. I know that narcissists have Arrested Development and can't grow up. Can a man child ever grow up?
A man-child can grow up, if he so chooses.
Childhood abuse increase a lot the chance of being a man child.
BOOOOOOOOOM!!! 💣💣💣💣 Straight too the point! Love it!!..
Bravo 👏 👏 👏 👏. A check mark on all of them. Lot of work to do.
Good luck mate
This actually explains alot lol like seriously a weightless moment
By this standard i've literally never met a single person who wasn't a manchild 😂
80% of people are stuck in early-adolescence.
@@OliverCowlishaw Why shouldn't they be? Why should people act like "adults" if they have no reason to? 🤔
Aaah!
What i have been searching for.
I don't wanna be a man child, but i am😔
The first step is realising it. Now accept some responsibility, cut off the bond from your parents and carve your own path.
@@OliverCowlishaw thank you.
I will surely try to do that.
But the thing is that whenever i try to change myself i think that changing myself is not good and that resists me from doing things.
I emphasize that in parenting with a narcicist mother, the chances of being a Peterpan increase. You have to leave the fast nest people!
i am a 25yo man child.
Guilty of fragile ego thats because it was nothing positive but only horrible traumas on daily basis. How i build up ego? Seems its complete zero. But not a toxic one
This is a timeless lesson!
100%
I have a father who definitely fits some of these criteria - but he’s also: (1) the youngest out of the 3 (& I’m not sure how much his mother babied him), & (2) I highly suspect that he’s an on Autistic spectrum, because he definitely displays some attributes associated with Autism…
Here’s a question: How many man-children do you think have an underlying (or maybe several underlying) factor(s) like Autism? (Or some other developmental disorder/disability?)
Thanks for sharing.
As for your question, I have absolutely no idea. But my hunch is that it's in the minority.
There isn't really a clear line between a child and an adult, except where legal statutes are concerned. This gets even muddier where disability and mental illness are concerned. Exactly how much pressure can a disabled person put on themself to grow? How about someone with autism or PTSD? Best answer is it won't look the same for every person.
If you can't define what a child is, what an adult is, and where exactly the difference lies. You'll be hard pressed to determine if you're a man-child or not.
Another funny issue, what's the equivalent for women, or non binary people for that matter? Is there an equivalent or is this something only experienced by men? If so, why is that?
My advice? Don't listen to people like this. Growth isn't linear. Growth isn't tied to gender. Most importantly, growth doesn't look the same in every person. It's good to grow and if you have any of the problems listed in the video, you should try your best to grow in those areas as much as you can.
As far as the "manhood" nonsense? You can probably live without it. Just try your best to be a good person.
Being a man child is ok. As long as you dont hurt anyone.
Its all part of life anyway.....no ones perfect. ........
If you're honestly happy and you aren't hurting anyone then of course.
But the fact that you clicked on, watched and commented on this video suggests to me that you aren't 100% okay with where you're at.
@@OliverCowlishaw 😂😂🤣 hahaha your video was a popup on my feed. I came in to tell anyone who wanted to listen.
You are probably the same kind of person who also thinks teens and young adults still jumping in a empty bouncy castle sometimes is okay too
@@youawesome2068 yesh
But how do I change??
I can tell you first hand that excessive comfort/pleasure can cause all of these and more.
100%
Good one legend, good luck with the journey, it's a good one :)
Thanks for this
#1 DEFINITELY not
#2 Not really, think things through
#3 Some degree
#4 Definitely NOT
#5 depends on the situation, anxiety is a factor
#6 oh yes
#7 I have a temper sometimes but volatile definately not
What am I????
A complex human being, like the rest of us.
@@OliverCowlishaw cheers 🍻
Emotional part kinda true but thats only trauma part everything else not. I want people to understand me without telling them
This is what I think a man is: First, they are able to support themselves. Then, they are able to support a wife. (I understand that in today's economy, many women have to work, but a real man does not expect the woman to support him. Thirdly, he can support his wife and his kids. But this altogether is more than monetary support. A real man does not come home, flop in front of the TV, and expect to be waited on. A real man participates in his family. A real man helps with the evening chores and is involved with the children. A male who thinks that it everyone's else's job to earn the money or keep things running, so that he can come and go as he pleases, that is an immature person: a man-child.
This is such a good video.
So far only 1 and a half of those signs apply to me.
Honestly, as long as I have a roof over my head and food in my stomach, I literally do not care. Which makes things a lot easier. Some say "Thats a sad way to live life." I reply "Is it? Is it really?" being content with small things. Stream lining my hygiene enough to make me acceptable in the social area. Lie a bit on a resumé to get that better paying job. Making sure I know enough for the guy hiring me to make me worth the cash.
Thing is I wasn't exactly "gifted" in any capacity growing up. Not great looks, nor intelligence. Eventually it got to a point where I am used to the bare minimum and go on what gets results. Kind of a businessman mentality I'd think. If its unnecessary, get rid of it.
If it works for you and doesn't hurt anyone then live how you want.
As long as you're being honest with yourself.
Otherwise you may reach a point in the future where you're hit with the most intense regret imaginable. Regret at having traded a challenging and meaningful life for an easy one.
Where's the Facebook group?
Well, i am 23 years old, i've had quite a lot of different jobs yet and i basically ended up quitting all of them after not that much time usually.
Like...
I tried man, but every time, i eventually just felt miserable and couldn't see how anyone can bear this kind of existence.
I still don't see how until this day.
(Except because of necessity or media's/society's propaganda on topics like status etc...)
At this point i am just at a loss, because i don't know what to do, since jumping from job to job didn't really help me to find my place and continuing like that is just now option.
*is just no option
Some soul searching is in order, brother. Silence. Spend time in solitude UNDISTRACTED. Just a pen, a blank journal and your thoughts. Good luck
@@Anonym-yr4qnWhat would you like to do for a career?
Yes, but it's like half a decade now, so „some soul searching" isn't really it anymore.
Or at least that's what i think.
@@Anonym-yr4qn if you've been wandering aimlessly for years, then you aren't connected to what you really want.
I would say that healthy male initiaton rituals haven't entirely disappeared but have been replaced in the rampantly fatherless community, (which is perpetuated by the policies in this country) with acts of criminality.
The key is the word "healthy"
Rituals haven't disappeared. But I would argue that conscious rituals and rites of passage have vanished almost entirely.