How A Disney Executive Ruined His Life Trying To Be A Self Help Influencer | Dave Hollis Documentary

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  • @notthegoodgirl
    @notthegoodgirl  Місяць тому +39

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  • @independencestnola
    @independencestnola Місяць тому +1685

    He gave up his job to prove he could beat his wife at her job

    • @Nat_BLSK
      @Nat_BLSK Місяць тому +137

      By forcing her to give up her ceo position for starters.

    • @independencestnola
      @independencestnola Місяць тому +117

      @ they are a case study in toxic narcissistic relationships.

    • @StaceyBoivin
      @StaceyBoivin Місяць тому +79

      💯 I listened to one of her books (correction almost, couldn’t finish the plagiarized bs and toxic platitudes) but what struck me is how she described meeting Dave and how he treated her. Just gross.

    • @korva_puusti
      @korva_puusti Місяць тому +37

      and it k*lled him lmao.

    • @nejnej4676
      @nejnej4676 Місяць тому +4

      # winning!

  • @SoCalJellybean
    @SoCalJellybean Місяць тому +1348

    My husband is an executive editor for Disney, and he crossed paths with Dave a couple times.
    Said he was truly one of the most obnoxious, unpleasant people he’s ever met in his life, and that’s saying something here in Hollywood. 😬

    • @notthegoodgirl
      @notthegoodgirl  Місяць тому +375

      Makes sense since Dave’s boss told him to shut the fuck up. 😬

    • @SoCalJellybean
      @SoCalJellybean Місяць тому +45

      @@notthegoodgirlRight?! 🤦🏼‍♀️

    • @annemariefrank
      @annemariefrank Місяць тому +237

      He wasn't aware of the immense luck he had in Disney tolerating him there. Threw it away for grandiosity desires.

    • @m.g.2645
      @m.g.2645 Місяць тому +17

      ​@@annemariefrank✨Bingo🧚

    • @soapylulu
      @soapylulu Місяць тому +65

      I can one million percent see him being that way.

  • @donaldharper8632
    @donaldharper8632 Місяць тому +547

    Jealousy is a hell of a drug.

    • @abbynormal206
      @abbynormal206 Місяць тому +6

      AMEN

    • @m.g.2645
      @m.g.2645 Місяць тому +3

      ✨Bingo!🧚

    • @isabellindlind
      @isabellindlind Місяць тому +9

      @@m.g.2645 They're both completely self absorbed and exhausting all their energies into finding themselves, ad nauseam. Not to mention, practicing parental-alienation by talking negatively about their children's other parent either in front of them or behind their back but certainly across they entire stratosphere of SM.
      For all their lecturing about finding happiness, they're just exposing how unwell they both are.

    • @m.g.2645
      @m.g.2645 Місяць тому +2

      @@isabellindlind ✨I'm just finding all this out through Josie🥳 Gosh, I love NTGG!💗💗💗

    • @snakejones9965
      @snakejones9965 Місяць тому +5

      Rick James said cocaine is a hella of a drug!😂

  • @sushi6608
    @sushi6608 Місяць тому +930

    Pressuring her to step aside for him to be CEO of HER COMPANY was a punk ass move.

    • @ricewithaspoon9607
      @ricewithaspoon9607 Місяць тому

      I'm still baffled about the fact that she made space for him... reverse the roles - I'd bet my a** he wouldn't have made her CEO of his 'company'.
      But that's how females are... generally for community, support... and then he turns around and effs everyone up, bc his ego is miserable.

    • @hospitable_ghost
      @hospitable_ghost Місяць тому +63

      As was the fact that she actually let him do so because apparently his feewings and ego were all that mattered. Imagine what their children took away from that.

    • @kittymervine6115
      @kittymervine6115 Місяць тому +14

      I never followed her, but a friend bought the wash your face book and swore it changed her life (she went after a former boyfriend she felt. was right, and they married...she pushed that book so hard). But when Dave did a video on why he needed to be CEO, and Rachel told why...I was "Oh geez, I hope her book is better than this."

    • @drugreen123
      @drugreen123 Місяць тому

      We need to do better at educating women that abuse is more than a fist to the face. Males are no stranger to sabotaging their girlfriends and wives out of insecurity.

    • @StephanieFlint-gf9ei
      @StephanieFlint-gf9ei Місяць тому +4

      @@sushi6608 well in all honesty, Disney was probably going to show him the door.

  • @Hephzibah_n_beulah
    @Hephzibah_n_beulah Місяць тому +1473

    He was her HUGEST hater. A jealous, insecure man that I don’t think, really liked her. Men like him will always self destruct and if you’re not wise enough as a partner, he’ll take you down with him. He just couldn’t stand her success.

    • @2degucitas
      @2degucitas Місяць тому +122

      Exactly. I think he got things together after she dumped him because he didn't ever want to lose, and that was losing. Marrying her wasn't just stepping up, it was regaining control and ego. Taking over her gig was just another round of the same thing.

    • @zarasbazaar
      @zarasbazaar Місяць тому +86

      It's as if he had to prove that she wasn't that great by gaining success in the same venue she did. I'm sure it enraged him when he didn't.

    • @johnsoutdooradventures3293
      @johnsoutdooradventures3293 Місяць тому +46

      ​@@2degucitasOh wow. So true. What a sad way to live. I'd hate a partner like that. I don't care for Rachel, but I feel for her for going thru that with Dave.

    • @m.g.2645
      @m.g.2645 Місяць тому +4

      🎯🎯🎯

    • @kiskakuznetsova503
      @kiskakuznetsova503 Місяць тому +35

      @@2degucitas Right? He was educated, intelligent, far better looking, a Disney exec, he was clearly "better" than her. When I heard about the Hollises via Not the Good Girl, it struck me how soulless he seemed in their videos and especially in those after their divorce.

  • @VisionOfFreedom
    @VisionOfFreedom Місяць тому +513

    Him trying to retrace his then wife’s steps exactly and mimic even her “relatable” mannerisms because he couldn’t stand being overshadowed by her was a train wreck I could not look away from.

    • @mamacito1795
      @mamacito1795 Місяць тому +29

      I had to skip through that live stream section. Him begging people to buy his book was cringeworthy

    • @AB-fc5kl
      @AB-fc5kl Місяць тому +4

      @@mamacito1795 Same here

    • @Ruthy101
      @Ruthy101 Місяць тому +10

      The patio of peace with his daughter repeatedly asking for breakfast is unfortunately seared in my brain forever

    • @positivevibesveda
      @positivevibesveda 4 дні тому

      @@Ruthy101 don’t forget the $18

  • @kelseymeyer7381
    @kelseymeyer7381 Місяць тому +894

    I need a horror movie that centers around a married couple like these two. I really find people like this to be terrifying

    • @ohkaypretty
      @ohkaypretty Місяць тому +70

      It already exists - it's a documentary called American Murder: The Family Next Door, and it's about Chris Watts.

    • @Dominique_99
      @Dominique_99 Місяць тому

      @@ohkayprettythat’s a true story. That actually happened. It’s not a horror movie. Chis Watts is a terrible person. You can google him hes all over YT.

    • @ams197610
      @ams197610 Місяць тому +28

      YES. I don't understand the appeal of this type of media and it creeps me out too.

    • @msmongooseable
      @msmongooseable Місяць тому +33

      I want a horror movie about Daves f"@kass haircut. That high fade gives me the creeps.

    • @karmasauce6288
      @karmasauce6288 Місяць тому +29

      I think Jordan Peele would do a great job with this concept.

  • @iDislikeNames
    @iDislikeNames Місяць тому +887

    The fact that her first gold bracelet was one she purchased out of spite towards her husband’s negging 😂. The writing was definitely on the wall there.

    • @lesslethalmusic
      @lesslethalmusic Місяць тому +8

      ikr i laughed at that too

    • @WobblesandBean
      @WobblesandBean 25 днів тому +5

      And yet, she still chose to have multiple children with him. As far as I am concerned, the only people I feel sorry for are the kids.

    • @tamuz9633
      @tamuz9633 11 днів тому

      Most husbands marry women that they are envious and jealous of, hate despise and slowly but surely they use, humiliate and humble those dumb and naive women. If she has no financial resources and is burdened with kids, she stays 'for the kids' and slowly dies inside.
      Marriage is a sham from hell 😮

  • @rocky02524
    @rocky02524 Місяць тому +1673

    that 3% bracelet made me so sad. to wear something to remind yourself that even your own husband is wrong about you...that's not a positive thing.

    • @itssyagirld8727
      @itssyagirld8727 Місяць тому +159

      Yeah. Like that’s a red flag. If it was something a teacher in the past or someone from her past said it’s one thing. But for it to be her husband is not as cute as she thought it is.

    • @2degucitas
      @2degucitas Місяць тому +61

      ​@@itssyagirld8727 Her saying he's the most supportive person hits different in hindsight. Seems he was committed to diminishing her efforts while looking supportive.

    • @lassoroot
      @lassoroot Місяць тому +149

      "He loves and supports me so much that he's always making sure to put me down" like YIIIKES. ESPECIALLY since she said he treated her extremely poorly in the past - idk how anyone found that anecdote cute

    • @elliethewriter
      @elliethewriter Місяць тому +164

      Literally came here to say if the person I was married to only had 3% faith in me I’d be getting a 100% divorce

    • @brooklynbuglet
      @brooklynbuglet Місяць тому +57

      Right!!!! RIP and all, but this guy was always trying to humble her and make her doubt herself.

  • @whitneytaylor9067
    @whitneytaylor9067 Місяць тому +908

    I hope that Ana Kendrick plays Rachel for the inevitable Docudrama.

    • @nothere9587
      @nothere9587 Місяць тому +78

      YASSS......I couldn't put my finger on who she reminded me of. It's Anna Kendrik.

    • @GiovannaIwishyou
      @GiovannaIwishyou Місяць тому +6

      @@nothere9587 Who would play Dave and Heidi >.

    • @sarat3913
      @sarat3913 Місяць тому +7

      lol that’s what I kept seeing too

    • @ShaylaMoon1982
      @ShaylaMoon1982 Місяць тому +31

      Yass Anna Kendrick, Billy Zane should play Dave and Heidi should be played by Tricia helfer

    • @nothere9587
      @nothere9587 Місяць тому +27

      @@GiovannaIwishyou 🤔 Jason Segal as Dave and Julianne Hough as Heidi.

  • @Sampa-ut1kj
    @Sampa-ut1kj Місяць тому +207

    Her initial instinct was spot on when she attempted to cut ties with him. May we not ignore that inner feeling that attempts to protect us from danger

    • @madimiss
      @madimiss Місяць тому +31

      Her instincts spoke, but her ambitions spoke louder. He was a powerful guy and she saw the money signs

    • @justine8387
      @justine8387 Місяць тому +29

      ​@@madimissshe was trained to see people with money as inherently good people, regardless of how they treat you. She framed it as how she got someone "better than her" to see her worth.
      That is the only way she could tell that story thinking it was endearing.

    • @hoobeshoobes
      @hoobeshoobes 10 днів тому

      💯

  • @ericaexplainsitall2135
    @ericaexplainsitall2135 Місяць тому +564

    That video of them together giving relationship advice is Onion level parody. I can’t believe that it was real

    • @kbird6208
      @kbird6208 Місяць тому +55

      The key to a successful relationship is constantly interrupting your spouse

    • @cindiwindi
      @cindiwindi Місяць тому +8

      I can’t believe anything out of his face is real.

    • @GiovannaIwishyou
      @GiovannaIwishyou Місяць тому +9

      @@cindiwindi Hers either.

    • @censusgary
      @censusgary Місяць тому +1

      @@ericaexplainsitall2135 So true!

    • @cheesecake134
      @cheesecake134 Місяць тому +14

      He kept looking at her and smiling but with pure hatred behind his eyes. People like…….actually looked to these people for relationship advice?! 😭

  • @longlivebeans
    @longlivebeans Місяць тому +453

    That poor kid just wanted some pancakes. My dad might not have been a professional yapper but at least he fed me.

    • @mariafrmdaBX
      @mariafrmdaBX Місяць тому +12

      Yup you’re absolutely right!!💯

    • @annmariewalker3879
      @annmariewalker3879 Місяць тому +19

      My dad was neither a professional yapper nor a professional cook, but he always made sure I was fed (even if it was one of his oddball concoctions).

    • @reinasherman8009
      @reinasherman8009 Місяць тому

      ​@@annmariewalker3879I would love to hear about your dad's oddball concoctions

    • @censusgary
      @censusgary Місяць тому +6

      Yes, My Dad used to make us pancakes (he called them “hotcakes”) on Saturdays. I wish I could make him some now (he died this May).

    • @annmariewalker3879
      @annmariewalker3879 Місяць тому +1

      @@censusgary My thoughts are with you.

  • @LinwoodBlackmore
    @LinwoodBlackmore Місяць тому +427

    I’ve been waiting for a Dave Hollis doc with solid editing and good production value. Thank you!

    • @notthegoodgirl
      @notthegoodgirl  Місяць тому +25

      Thank you for watching! 🍿

    • @kalyn7220
      @kalyn7220 Місяць тому +18

      ​@@notthegoodgirl Home Run as always! You make some of the best content on YT. You have a gift. ❤

  • @megansslore
    @megansslore Місяць тому +494

    Imagine telling your 4 year-old child to "get a life"

    • @LeahZummo
      @LeahZummo Місяць тому +68

      While she’s asking for food!

    • @lucyorwell
      @lucyorwell Місяць тому +32

      ​@@LeahZummo And when he didn't have one himself and leeched out of other women's lives!

    • @catherinebyrom6307
      @catherinebyrom6307 Місяць тому

      The way that pos spoke to his child made my flesh crawl. What a scumbag

    • @nayivargas3246
      @nayivargas3246 Місяць тому

      He talks to much caca 😂

    • @SheilaV
      @SheilaV 27 днів тому +3

      Get a life…huh? Poor lil 4 yr old girl 😢

  • @melissagastorf3664
    @melissagastorf3664 Місяць тому +298

    I wonder if Disney was shifting towards firing him, so he told Rachel that he "would leave Disney but didn't want a demotion," in an attempt to pretend that he was as powerful as his wife. Because he is really insufferable and the fact his boss told him to "shut the f up," says a lot

    • @notthegoodgirl
      @notthegoodgirl  Місяць тому +133

      This is a very, very interesting theory… He was the type who would never let something like that be known, and I could see him changing the narrative for his own benefit. I always thought it was strange he gave up his executive position in such a powerful company. That being said, I do believe he wanted to outshine his wife… She was being interviewed all over TV and had her face advertised in Times Square… He did not.

    • @ladygeena81
      @ladygeena81 Місяць тому +44

      @@notthegoodgirlit honestly could have been both

    • @karentucker2161
      @karentucker2161 Місяць тому +11

      Wondering the same thing

    • @StephanieFlint-gf9ei
      @StephanieFlint-gf9ei Місяць тому +1

      That sounds about right!

    • @AntoinetteChanel
      @AntoinetteChanel 23 дні тому +3

      @@notthegoodgirlpiggybacking a bit because this video sent me on a bit of a deep dive this month 😅 the woman who replaced Dave at Disney joined the company a year before Dave did. I found it interesting that him leaving Disney seemed to make way for a woman with more tenure to be promoted. I have no clue what the circumstances were, and I’m probably reaching, but who he was replaced by, and knowing she’d been there for longer than he had, got me thinking more about what Dave said about being the recipient of promotions and privilege he did not earn/deserve.

  • @missmoxie9188
    @missmoxie9188 Місяць тому +626

    Also how his ex wife ruined her whole brand in ONE TikTok

    • @notthegoodgirl
      @notthegoodgirl  Місяць тому +205

      This one is about Dave’s story, but I do have a video on that one! 😉 ua-cam.com/video/vi2aMqXKo1Y/v-deo.htmlsi=ljFSA0ZDudvOQCiv

    • @m.g.2645
      @m.g.2645 Місяць тому +31

      ✨Yessss! Josie, We love you💗💗💗

    • @oliviar9808
      @oliviar9808 Місяць тому +52

      But she was just so... "relatable" 😉🤣😂

    • @missmoxie9188
      @missmoxie9188 Місяць тому +34

      @@oliviar9808then she’s doing it wrong
      Oh and who gets up at 4 in the morning?
      Most people who work harder than you for less money

    • @missmoxie9188
      @missmoxie9188 Місяць тому +11

      @@notthegoodgirlyou are the best thing on UA-cam

  • @censusgary
    @censusgary Місяць тому +320

    “Buy my book, and you’ll have a chance to win my dirty socks.”
    That’s … a very hard offer to resist, but I’m still saying no to it.

    • @ladygeena81
      @ladygeena81 Місяць тому +11

      I could resist it if it was 50 cents on clearance at a garage sale or thrift store.

    • @barbarahayes7441
      @barbarahayes7441 Місяць тому +5

      He couldn't pay me enough money to take his gross sock. Well, everyone has their price, but yeah, wow!

    • @nataliew7372
      @nataliew7372 Місяць тому +6

      That was so hard to listen to, as someone that has mania from
      Bipolar I thought this poor bastard is literally deconstructing in front of a live audience. Hi, WE DO THIS IN PRIVATE SIR.

    • @hanako
      @hanako Місяць тому +8

      HARD PASS

    • @WannaPizzaMe
      @WannaPizzaMe Місяць тому

      They would probably be pretty valuable now. Lol

  • @clarelouiselives
    @clarelouiselives Місяць тому +354

    So Ms.Josie, I just want to say as an early fan….I’m proud of you. With each story, your craft keeps getting better and better. I hope you remain empowered.

    • @kiskakuznetsova503
      @kiskakuznetsova503 Місяць тому +13

      Hear hear!

    • @notthegoodgirl
      @notthegoodgirl  Місяць тому +27

      Thank you so much for the long time support! 🙏🏾

    • @m.g.2645
      @m.g.2645 Місяць тому +7

      ✨Oh yes! Fabulous post! Amen💗💗💗

    • @Mars-cs1ct
      @Mars-cs1ct Місяць тому +3

      I totally see it now!

  • @susannebrown1860
    @susannebrown1860 Місяць тому +195

    I never followed either of them bc of their association with MLMs and the toxic positivity but remember seeing when they divorced. No idea he died. But to answer your question of how many influencers and life coaches cover up their real lives? ALL of them

    • @jamiefrontiera1671
      @jamiefrontiera1671 15 днів тому +3

      they all peddle life can be better, and no one is happy 100% of the time. we all every once in a while, at the very least, can be alexander and have no good verry bad days. but they want to pretend like listen to me, and those wont exist

  • @catierambles
    @catierambles Місяць тому +248

    "GOOP for Redstate Women." OOF. Personally I would have taken that as an insult

    • @ealusaid
      @ealusaid Місяць тому +32

      Let's be real, it was.

    • @censusgary
      @censusgary Місяць тому +7

      @@catierambles It’s hilarious, is what it is.

    • @Ruthy101
      @Ruthy101 Місяць тому +7

      I'm only mad because it perfectly describes my demographic lol

  • @jayelle5375
    @jayelle5375 Місяць тому +189

    Oh how 2018-2019 me thought these two had it all. I thought poorly of my husband and our marriage, thinking that he should be trying to “better”himself and our relationship. Shame on them for making so many feel inadequate while pretty much hating each other behind the scenes. Looking at the older clips now, I cringe thinking why/how I didn’t see right thru them at the time. I’ve learned that my husband and I have a great little life. Perfect? No where close. But perfect for us? ABSO-EFFING-LUTLEY. Great video!

    • @censusgary
      @censusgary Місяць тому +26

      @@jayelle5375 The underlying premises of all this self-help noise are:
      1. You as you are aren’t nearly good enough.
      2. Any harmful thing that happens to you is entirely your own fault.
      Not so “positive” when you think about it, is it?

    • @jayelle5375
      @jayelle5375 Місяць тому +8

      @@censusgary sooo toxic!!

    • @dogsmusicbookstravelscience
      @dogsmusicbookstravelscience Місяць тому +6

      That is exactly what 'toxic positivity' is about. "You're a loser if you don't attain THIS standard." Meanwhile, wealth in the head will always mean more than wealth in the pocket. Nothing wrong with the latter, but the former is criminally neglected - even actively discouraged - in human society nowadays.

    • @kathylovesmk
      @kathylovesmk Місяць тому +4

      No one can make you feel inadequate without your permission.

    • @freshangel1
      @freshangel1 Місяць тому +5

      Not them but another coach couple I idolized made me feel the same way and I later realised they were miserable and felt foolish for being realistic 😊

  • @colleenfreeman540
    @colleenfreeman540 Місяць тому +55

    The story of Rachel and Dave Hollis always makes me proud of myself for getting out of my marriage early. I was married to a man I met at church...I was a grad student about to finish my masters in clinical mental health counseling. In my somewhat small community, I had made a pretty good name for myself and was considered pretty successful. My ex husband was known as a good "Christian" man who was making a name for himself as well. We were a power couple in our small community.
    My ex tried to attach himself to everything I did. He tried to build himself up while tearing me down. He was outwardly full of toxic positivity, but behind closed doors was a negative monster that loved to destroy anything that got in his way.
    When Rachel tells about the 3%...I felt that in my marriage. My ex loved to tell me how stupid I was and what a failure I would be. I don’t know if Dave ever got physically or sexually abusive (something I experienced with my ex)...but you can tell mental/emotional and financial abuse were in his wheelhouse. I think Rachel also displayed her own narcissistic abusiveness, so I think that is why they stuck together so long. That toxic positivity also produces a huge vat of denial. I am glad that I lived with a healthy dose of reality and got the hell out of my marriage.

  • @coachtracey1589
    @coachtracey1589 Місяць тому +147

    Omg! When I was a Beachbody coach they idolized her so much. They pushed her book and her philosophies on to everyone. I felt that they placed an excessive burden on individuals to “fix” their lives without acknowledging systemic challenges or privilege. I’m so glad I left Beachbody! What a total cult!

    • @ladygeena81
      @ladygeena81 Місяць тому +23

      So glad Beachbody (Bodi) shut down. Horrible CEO.

    • @chikFromMTL
      @chikFromMTL Місяць тому +1

      That would be a great documentary idea @notthegoodgirl

  • @mindyobusiness6257
    @mindyobusiness6257 Місяць тому +206

    Shivers down my spine. « That same phone he used to curate a life of authenticity with was found lying on his chest. »

    • @ladygeena81
      @ladygeena81 Місяць тому +13

      You and me both. And I am hard to shock.

    • @Dominique_99
      @Dominique_99 Місяць тому +15

      But his life wasn’t authentic was it?

    • @user-yk9sk7pg6v
      @user-yk9sk7pg6v Місяць тому +7

      yea, it was a great closing line ... she does an excellent job with these videos

    • @_Fluorescent_
      @_Fluorescent_ Місяць тому +4

      That line…😮‍💨

    • @Merrellina
      @Merrellina Місяць тому

      @@Dominique_99note the word “curate”

  • @censusgary
    @censusgary Місяць тому +179

    When Rachel divorced Dave, he almost immediately found another Rachel. This one’s name is Heidi, but otherwise, she’s basically the same woman. She even looks like Rachel.

    • @mizotter
      @mizotter Місяць тому

      Are they Mormon? They have Mormon hair/make-up & obsession with appearance.

    • @wattle2394
      @wattle2394 Місяць тому +24

      Thank you for explaining. I had a little nap and thought they were the same person! I'll rewatch.

    • @asarishepard8171
      @asarishepard8171 Місяць тому

      Shes also just as whacked with her body obsession. Definitely has an eating problem.

    • @lilmcgill2618
      @lilmcgill2618 Місяць тому +3

      Grabbed at familiar coattails.

    • @AntoinetteChanel
      @AntoinetteChanel 23 дні тому +4

      @@lilmcgill2618this part. He literally tried to hijack Heidi’s life the same way he did Rachel’s.

  • @TayThornton-vb3mq
    @TayThornton-vb3mq Місяць тому +192

    Say $18 one more time
    Do you see what we witnessed here? This man had a job with a 500k salary but was jealous enough of his wife that he took what she built for herself.

    • @Silverstar257
      @Silverstar257 Місяць тому +5

      Words!!!

    • @censusgary
      @censusgary Місяць тому +5

      @@TayThornton-vb3mq It reminds me of the story of the rich man who takes the poor man’s ewe lamb (2 Samuel 12: 1-4).

    • @Bizness1st
      @Bizness1st 24 дні тому

      @47:05

  • @Makeupsokayy
    @Makeupsokayy Місяць тому +53

    To get promoted 4 times in 4 years is crazy! He should’ve stayed at Disney…

  • @censusgary
    @censusgary Місяць тому +381

    So, you broke up with the heel because he treated you badly and had no respect for you. Then you married him.
    Good call, Rachel.
    Got any tips for how I can make my life better?

    • @m.g.2645
      @m.g.2645 Місяць тому +25

      😆👏😁

    • @wattle2394
      @wattle2394 Місяць тому +1

      Chic???

    • @chriswiseman3668
      @chriswiseman3668 Місяць тому +14

      Yo lol I’m dying I thought the same thing

    • @hospitable_ghost
      @hospitable_ghost Місяць тому +30

      Seriously, only people who have no idea how to think for themselves would listen to ANYTHING either Hollis ever had to say.

    • @TheVelmanator
      @TheVelmanator Місяць тому +23

      @@hospitable_ghost Ok. I thought I was the only one. Phew. I couldn't stand either of them. I found myself wondering, "who listens to these people?"

  • @EG58577
    @EG58577 Місяць тому +177

    That $18 entitlement rant was UNHINGED. Also very, it’s one banana Michael how much could it cost? $10?

    • @beckahcruz7463
      @beckahcruz7463 Місяць тому +1

      hahahaha the one banana reference 🤣👌🏼

    • @lilmcgill2618
      @lilmcgill2618 Місяць тому +1

      There's always money in the banana stand.

    • @theupwardspiral1580
      @theupwardspiral1580 27 днів тому +1

      Haha the one banana reference is chef kiss
      Lol

  • @pnwgirl4
    @pnwgirl4 Місяць тому +78

    I found Dave Hollis to be profoundly unlikeable in life, but his death was still sad to me in the sense that it showed a person emotionally broken and in a prison of his own making. I can still have compassion for him even though I found him insufferable.

  • @caressmonet
    @caressmonet Місяць тому +164

    The sad part about narcissism is that it's really deep-seated insecurity. It's so deep, in fact, that the person completely loses touch with themself and has to invent and maintain a persona. I can't diagnose anyone, but it seems like some of that may have been happening with this guy. It's too bad his demons won.

    • @Kizzabell
      @Kizzabell Місяць тому +17

      I read its hard to know how common narcissm is because they rarely seek diagnosis. They don't think anything is wrong with THEM.

    • @christinekemp6020
      @christinekemp6020 Місяць тому +16

      Yeah I sense a personality disorder here. It seems he didn’t have much of a sense of self and would adopt the characteristics of the person he was with. That’s a symptom of Borderline- maybe others too.

    • @Orquet-qj2nf
      @Orquet-qj2nf Місяць тому +5

      He walks like a duck, he quacks like a duck, he poops on the lawn like a duck. I'm comfortable with talking about him as if he is a duck.

    • @LouisaWatt
      @LouisaWatt Місяць тому +17

      Yes: identity is a big issue in personality disorders. Cluster B types will steal other people’s life stories (sometimes even forgetting who they pinched it from and telling that person their own anecdotes) to make themselves seem deep, or full of integrity and character. They don’t have ambitions of their own, (asides from general power, wealth, and admiration) because they aren’t creative because that would require authenticity, which is too vulnerable a position to be in, because they are ashamed of the person they really are.

    • @hawkbit3787
      @hawkbit3787 Місяць тому +8

      I think you're right. She says in the beginning that he over achieved to EARN the affection of his parents. That teaches a kid their self worth is only based on what they do. They dont have value just for being alive. It's a sad thing to do to a child and creates a sad insecure adult.

  • @pinkjellybean4019
    @pinkjellybean4019 Місяць тому +86

    I have a memory of Josie I will never forget.. I commented on the video of her interview with Anti-MLM Queen Roberta Blevins, that I was watching to pass time as I sat with my mom while she was sick in the hospital.. Josie and Roberta BOTH commented well wishes and that meant the world to me❤ I am some random on the internet and they took the time to send some kind words in our time of need. My mom recovered that time but passed about a year later. Watching your videos remind me of her and that day. I will never forget. Thanks for getting me thru some tough times 😘 you will always have my support

    • @notthegoodgirl
      @notthegoodgirl  Місяць тому +22

      Thank you for sharing, and I am so sorry for your loss. May she rest in peace. 💛💛💛

    • @pinkjellybean4019
      @pinkjellybean4019 Місяць тому +12

      @ thank you. She’s not suffering anymore and that’s all you can ask for. Happy Holidays to you and your family!

  • @Ailise2123
    @Ailise2123 Місяць тому +59

    That point where they’re talking about how they looked pre-fame/wealth at about 17:00 is just sad as hell. These were two people who hate themselves and each other.

    • @beckahcruz7463
      @beckahcruz7463 Місяць тому +11

      Yes, I found that very sad too. They looked like a normal couple. Maybe at that time they were more invested in their actual lives than just their looks. And they probably only look so much "better" because they had insane amount of money

  • @TheoMcAllister
    @TheoMcAllister Місяць тому +122

    It takes me back to see all of this again. I remember when it all went down - their divorce, pancake gate and when I learned about his death while I was browsing reddit and everyone was shocked.

    • @m.g.2645
      @m.g.2645 Місяць тому +10

      ✨"Pancake gate"... What an absolute monster.

    • @casey5683
      @casey5683 Місяць тому +18

      Holy shit he’s dead?! I had no idea til reading this comment right now

    • @aimeem
      @aimeem Місяць тому

      @@casey5683 Drug overdose -- cocaine, fentanyl and alcohol according to the news

    • @mamacito1795
      @mamacito1795 Місяць тому +4

      Watching that live stream clip was excruciating and I'm not surprised he spiralled. That was a man crashing out right there. For 18bucks I could've ubered his poor kid some pancakes.

    • @karentucker2161
      @karentucker2161 Місяць тому +4

      I didn't even know he did or she was even married to begin with. I just seen her books everywhere and all the sudden, it wasn't. I got vibes about those books.

  • @zarasbazaar
    @zarasbazaar Місяць тому +97

    If a guy treats you like crap and only thinks to behave when you dump him, don't take him back.

    • @censusgary
      @censusgary Місяць тому +5

      @@zarasbazaar I know, right?

    • @rachelroberts1880
      @rachelroberts1880 Місяць тому +5

      Do you think she married him for the money?

  • @maritzasanmartin7775
    @maritzasanmartin7775 Місяць тому +299

    The guy is irritating. Trying to outdo his wife, it seems. Total turn off. Didn't realize till the end he died. For that I'm sorry.

    • @minka1781
      @minka1781 Місяць тому +34

      Definitely. He was very succesful in his own area, and suddenly he was outrun by his little wife. I don't think he ever forgave her and this probably is why she divorced him .

    • @karentucker2161
      @karentucker2161 Місяць тому

      😑😐

    • @myeru
      @myeru Місяць тому +3

      @@minka1781forgave her for what? being successful? this comment reeks of jealousy...

    • @minka1781
      @minka1781 Місяць тому +12

      @myeru you mean I'm jealous? On whom? He tried hard and did what she did with very different results. He was nothing without her. It had to damage his ego. I mean he was angry at his followers for not buying his book. Can You imagine how he was to his wife?

    • @Mandelasmind
      @Mandelasmind Місяць тому

      @@minka1781 How was he nothing without her? She was a booty call and he was a disney executive. She starts writing scam books and the poor guy joins her

  • @lisapoulsen5452
    @lisapoulsen5452 Місяць тому +146

    Who dances on a toilet while their teenage son records it!? What the actual eff!?

    • @Addicted2fashion444
      @Addicted2fashion444 Місяць тому +13

      I was searching for this comment 😭 such an odd thing to do.

    • @emusolino2012
      @emusolino2012 Місяць тому +7

      it gets worse. that's just the first half of the video. The other half they switch outfits and her 14 year old son is dancing on the toilet in a bikini.....

    • @Ruthy101
      @Ruthy101 Місяць тому

      @@emusolino2012please say sike

    • @chikFromMTL
      @chikFromMTL Місяць тому +2

      😮‍💨

  • @selunescorpio
    @selunescorpio Місяць тому +157

    The 3% bracelet meaning upset me so much. Everyone deserves a partner who believes in them just as much if not more than they believe in themselves. Always avoid someone like Dave in romantic relationships, because being logical is ok but you should also try to hype up your partner, not bring them down, regardless if you’re being pragmatic.

    • @m.g.2645
      @m.g.2645 Місяць тому +5

      😉👏🎯

    • @xenusaves
      @xenusaves Місяць тому +16

      I wouldn't lose any sleep being sad about poor Rachael. She's been peddling shitty relationship advice and promoting this type of behavior to millions of people (especially young women)and getting filthy rich off of it. They're both awful people.

  • @nataliew7372
    @nataliew7372 Місяць тому +35

    I’m back after downloading and watching. Totally heart wrenching for his children. He drank the cool aide and lost himself. He went from classic people pleaser, border line ego maniac to complete F boy. She thought she did something by leaving him back in the day, she just fed into his insecurities and she became a shiny new thing to conquer. They fed into each others worst qualities and became soulless manipulators with no personal compasses. It’s utterly bizarre and so sad.
    You covered this so well. It is obvious he was very mentally ill towards the end, the video of him during “pancake gate” was clearly mania. But, I can’t fault him as much as I would a few years ago. The “fans”, the onlookers, come on. We keep seeing this, stop tearing these people down in the comments in real time and just be quiet or recommend help. Guys like this are dropping every single day just in the form of tiktokers. People who’s entire identity becomes the online world and they lack all depth, real relationships, sense of self to realize none of it matters. It’s happening right now with JoJo Siwa. She won’t know what to do when the attention stops, most of us would unplug surround ourselves with real people, they don’t have that.
    Beautiful coverage and video as usual.

    • @notthegoodgirl
      @notthegoodgirl  Місяць тому +4

      @@nataliew7372 Thank you so much for the super thanks! 🙏🏾 Very well said. 💛

    • @censusgary
      @censusgary Місяць тому +1

      I’m glad I grew up before the TikTok generation. It would have been so much harder with that glare always in front of me.

  • @princessagatha9991
    @princessagatha9991 Місяць тому +53

    Rachel and Dave Hollis: If pyramid schemes were people.

  • @Jeannine241
    @Jeannine241 Місяць тому +217

    I have loathed Rachael Hollis from the beginning. Even the title of her book rubbed me the wrong way.

    • @username.not.known2473
      @username.not.known2473 Місяць тому +45

      I instinctively disliked the title. Maybe the eye-rolling description of adult women as 'girls', which is an infantilising old trope; maybe the implication that I don't already care about my skin? Just sounded condescending.

    • @Beach_flower
      @Beach_flower Місяць тому +54

      YES THANK YOU! My kids were babies when Girl Wash Your Face was everywhere. I had so many people recommend it to me so I started following her on Instagram before I tried to read it. I was so annoyed at the constant humble bragging, once I left a message saying “must be nice to be able to take date nights” because I had two very small children, no family help, no “girl tribe,” no money to hire a babysitter. She replied to my comment “we just schedule it like everything else, if it’s important to you, you will do it too.” ZERO AWARENESS of how privileged she was. She would constantly talk about how hard she worked to build an empire without ever acknowledging SHE WAS RICH IN THE FIRST PLACE!!!! Ugh she always made me so sick. I’m so glad people finally realized this stuff!!

    • @karentucker2161
      @karentucker2161 Місяць тому +24

      As a Christian, her stuff rubbed me the wrong way. Now I know why. I always walked past her stuff

    • @emadhs1997
      @emadhs1997 Місяць тому +14

      I tried reading a few pages of her book and knew immediately it was garbage and fake…never been a fan and couldn’t understand the hype.

    • @MissPamsPlace1
      @MissPamsPlace1 Місяць тому

      @@karentucker2161 My Bible Study group actually read her first book. The only ones who hated it were me and one other lady. The others thought it was wonderful. Ugh

  • @jova9941
    @jova9941 Місяць тому +79

    omg that video on the “peace patio” is seriously the craziesttttrt thing i have seen on the internet in a while omg how DISTURBING. i know we don’t like Rachel but IMAGINE what that woman went through?!?!?
    edit: wait OMG I had noooo idea he died?!?! that’s crazy!! that’s kind of sad wow i was laughing at this guy the whole video i wasn’t expecting that ending

    • @casey5683
      @casey5683 Місяць тому +7

      I just found out while scrolling the comments at the start of the video. I had literally no idea he died!

    • @yes3858
      @yes3858 Місяць тому

      I had the same thoughts, deleted my comment after i got to the end out of respect for the dead

  • @TheAntoinetteBailey
    @TheAntoinetteBailey Місяць тому +91

    "A Disney executive who ruined his life trying to be an influencer". This is going to be good!

  • @nicholasschoonbeck6866
    @nicholasschoonbeck6866 Місяць тому +41

    I have to say, as a 50 yr old man, who has been sober for 17 yrs (on the last day of Dec), who is still in therapy, successfully medicated & monitored, with a life I've been very fortunate to design to serve my needs best, which also helps me be a good dad & granddad, but who has an active addict for the majority of my life, who was erratic, chaotic, aggressive, even violent & could be abusive - I could not imagine the struggle I would be in if I was also trying to convince, literally anyone that none of those things were happening or needed. Even with all the tools I've learned, the coping skills, the self analysis with "rigorous honesty," as we say in sobriety, I still don't think I could pull that off for any real length of time. Its so gross the way the biggest gurus will, in a sense, allow a man like this to self destruct, right in front of them, for the tiniest boost to their own brand & ego. It should be criminal in some way.

    • @ScootsMahgoots
      @ScootsMahgoots Місяць тому +3

      Congrats on your sobriety.

    • @censusgary
      @censusgary Місяць тому

      I guess if you’re trying to market yourself as a lifestyle coach, you have to present your own life as super-duper. Not something I’d want to do. My life’s a mess, but at least I don’t have to fake anything.

  • @irinap7852
    @irinap7852 Місяць тому +84

    Rachel is also releasing another book in 2025. In my opinion, she will use any opportunity to write a book, no matter how controversial the content is.

    • @okoala62
      @okoala62 Місяць тому +17

      The more controversial, the better cuz she’ll just get more fame and money out of it, which is all it appears she cares about

    • @mizotter
      @mizotter Місяць тому +13

      Grifters gonna grift!

  • @MeganSin
    @MeganSin Місяць тому +27

    Not him saying there are a lot of snake oil salesmen in the self help community and then literally being the epitome of that statement.

  • @Clarytee217
    @Clarytee217 Місяць тому +106

    Oh wow, I didn‘t expect a deep dive on Dave.
    Such a sad story, such an infuriating story. Very revealing for the selfhelp space.

  • @lynnrn8252
    @lynnrn8252 Місяць тому +25

    The thing that gets me about Rachel stepping down as the CEO of what she built to let Dave take over...isn't that the message that's the exact opposite of her girl power message!

  • @hospitable_ghost
    @hospitable_ghost Місяць тому +27

    These two WOULD make a big show of attempting to adopt a child from a different country (the ultimate "look at me and praise me for how good I am" move).

  • @alaskanbltundra
    @alaskanbltundra Місяць тому +51

    I agree with the commentor that said these two can be a primer for a horror movie that involves family vloggers/couple influencers and the cracks in it. Oh that would be a FILM

  • @annemariefrank
    @annemariefrank Місяць тому +115

    Two mediocre narcissists. What could possibly go wrong??!!

    • @hospitable_ghost
      @hospitable_ghost Місяць тому

      It's crazy what white privilege and pretending to be Christian can do to compensate for a complete lack of talent.

    • @levanaah
      @levanaah Місяць тому +10

      But I always find it heartwarming when they find each other. Could have hurt 2 or more other people.

    • @lilmcgill2618
      @lilmcgill2618 Місяць тому +4

      @@levanaah agree, except they have kids. Being raised by people like that is truly awful.

    • @censusgary
      @censusgary Місяць тому +2

      @@levanaah You made me laugh, but of course, they did hurt other people.

    • @levanaah
      @levanaah Місяць тому +1

      ​@lilmcgill2618 Yeah, of course I agree. I feel so sorry for their kids. The little daughter in the video breaks my heart.

  • @jessking7737
    @jessking7737 Місяць тому +35

    I have experienced how quickly alcoholism can destroy a human being so so quickly. I'm not a Rachel fan but I really felt it when she said its not the actual struggles you're facing, but the lying about it. That is what destroys you and I wouldn't wish that on anyone. This is a sad story.

  • @vickinator
    @vickinator Місяць тому +32

    He’s literally repulsive. What a pathetic excuse for a man; he just couldn’t accept the fact that his wife was more successful than him. His treatment of his daughter was repugnant but both of them used their children as props and I find that disgusting and unforgivable.

  • @taylorpnw612
    @taylorpnw612 Місяць тому +13

    The pancake live is when I realized he was doing Coke. Then when Rachel said the stuff about the double life it just reinforced that. I forgot how many boat metaphors that man would use every time he spoke. As always, this video is incredibly well made. Thank you!

  • @lrs7777
    @lrs7777 Місяць тому +129

    The longer Dave rattles on about his idiotic book, the more I despise him.

    • @censusgary
      @censusgary Місяць тому +6

      @@lrs7777 Me, too. But I must admit I’ll never forget the book’s price.

    • @ladylazulisystem6766
      @ladylazulisystem6766 Місяць тому +2

      @@censusgary ill never forget the jingle lol

  • @andyz2987
    @andyz2987 Місяць тому +63

    Thank you so much for delving into this topic. This entire situation with Dave and Rachel was such a car crash, the dude believed his own hype and drank the kool aid he denounced for so long. Ohh to be so privileged and yet so painfully oblivious to it.

  • @G-L-O-R-I-A
    @G-L-O-R-I-A Місяць тому +61

    I followed his whole journey through the brilliant snark of Keya’s World and Mack Attack. His death was quite the shock on You Tube. I would love more stories on self help gurus who are actually living a lie.

  • @anij80
    @anij80 Місяць тому +79

    the audacity to ask her to step down as CEO is mindboggling to me! and the fact that she did, its even more perplexing to me. Dont get me wrong, both of them are not (were) nice people, but still its wrong on so many levels.

    • @Eviltwin531
      @Eviltwin531 Місяць тому +5

      I wonder so much how that was approached. Did he even try to couch it in nice terms to make it seem like something tolerable... "You thrive in the creative and media stuff, let me handle the nuts and bolts of the business instead..." or if it was just a flat out "Me... Man. You... Woman. Me... Better. Me Do Job Now."

    • @malorieann1150
      @malorieann1150 Місяць тому +2

      When it was going down in 2018ish, it sounded like he wouldn't leave his job for anything less than CEO and Rachel wanted him to join her company so she gave him whatever roll would make him happy. It came across like she pushed him into it and it was her idea 😅

    • @Mandelasmind
      @Mandelasmind Місяць тому +2

      Titles do not matter that much they're made all up. He probably did not want to leave Disney; she likely wanted him to help grow the company since it was growing. Remember they keep saying he likes certainty and she likes growth.

    • @anij80
      @anij80 Місяць тому

      @@Eviltwin531 very good question! I wonder too

    • @anij80
      @anij80 Місяць тому

      All very good questions!!! It's all speculation at this point!

  • @tdsollog
    @tdsollog Місяць тому +89

    He should have stayed at Disney.
    Sadly, all that dream chasing took him down.

    • @ellenicoletv4095
      @ellenicoletv4095 Місяць тому +13

      I was thinking the same; I wonder how different things would have been for him/them if he’d stayed.

  • @kiterafrey
    @kiterafrey Місяць тому +47

    32:09 - I have some advice as a woman working in law, which is a male-dominated field, as a legal editor, at work, I choose to only speak when I have something of value to say or to uplift/praise other's amazing work. I've found when withhold my tongue until important, people put value into my words and my voice will instantly be heard when I do speak. -- It is hard for me, I have ADHD and want to rant by nature. -- And when not giving sound suggestions or asking key questions, I'm uplifting other which encourages my team to feel confident and appreciated in working with me, and that trust also improves my words.
    What Dave was doing was trying to show off, which is counterproductive in the corporate world. Corporate likes results and innovative ideas that save or make money. They do not like ego.

  • @sweetness371
    @sweetness371 Місяць тому +152

    I honestly didn't think he seemed that bad until the $18 book rant. Good Lord. That sounded like satire, and yet I know it wasn't.

    • @jaybee2337
      @jaybee2337 Місяць тому +12

      It was excruciating to watch.

    • @melsky
      @melsky Місяць тому +17

      @@jaybee2337I felt so bad for that child!

    • @lnash4482
      @lnash4482 Місяць тому +18

      It was so desperate sounding yet also condescending. I’m not sure how he was able to do both at the same time.

    • @sallybrite1530
      @sallybrite1530 Місяць тому

      A prime example of a low-intelligence man achieving great success as a corporate clown.

    • @annmariewalker3879
      @annmariewalker3879 Місяць тому

      He was totally unhinged by that time.

  • @Sarah24871
    @Sarah24871 Місяць тому +130

    They're horrible people.

    • @zarasbazaar
      @zarasbazaar Місяць тому +18

      And in love with their own voices.

    • @m.g.2645
      @m.g.2645 Місяць тому

      😆👏🎯

    • @ladygeena81
      @ladygeena81 Місяць тому +3

      Truly.

    • @sallybrite1530
      @sallybrite1530 Місяць тому +5

      Who is following them? Who is buying their books and listening to their advice?

    • @pronoydutta614
      @pronoydutta614 Місяць тому +4

      ​@@sallybrite1530I'd like to know as well. It's a mystery.

  • @D.I.V.A.Journey3758
    @D.I.V.A.Journey3758 Місяць тому +70

    Stop what you're doing, everybody! Our girl has posted!!! Yes! Help me make this work day go by faster!
    🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

    • @notthegoodgirl
      @notthegoodgirl  Місяць тому +6

      haha Hope you get to relax at home soon. Thank you for watching! 💛

    • @TheAntoinetteBailey
      @TheAntoinetteBailey Місяць тому +3

      When I see the blue dot I sprint! Such good content 👌🏾

  • @rpgbx
    @rpgbx Місяць тому +209

    *whispers* “Babe, wake up, NOT THE GOOD GIRL dropped another episode”

  • @jojocaitlin8508
    @jojocaitlin8508 Місяць тому +115

    I was trying to figure out who he reminded me of with that awkward, just a normal guy pretending to be confused on camera thing... Its Jared, he reminds me of Jared Fogle.

    • @notthegoodgirl
      @notthegoodgirl  Місяць тому +38

      I CAN’T UNSEE IT. 😫

    • @jojocaitlin8508
      @jojocaitlin8508 Місяць тому +5

      @notthegoodgirl 😂 I'm sorry.

    • @sassycatenthusiast
      @sassycatenthusiast Місяць тому +12

      OMG YES! IVE BEEN TRYING TO FIGURE THAT OUT FOR YEARS! I’m not sure if I should thank you though 😅

    • @dma69nyc
      @dma69nyc Місяць тому

      OMFG! Now I can't unsee it.

  • @TheMensRea
    @TheMensRea Місяць тому +70

    You're the creator whose content I most eagerly anticipate - great to see this has dropped! Can't wait for the kids to be asleep 😂 x

    • @notthegoodgirl
      @notthegoodgirl  Місяць тому +4

      Thank you so much! 💛💛💛

    • @kennethiavail1719
      @kennethiavail1719 Місяць тому +4

      Same! I love her quality

    • @sushi6608
      @sushi6608 Місяць тому +3

      Yes, I agree the quality and storytelling is engaging.

  • @censusgary
    @censusgary Місяць тому +51

    “Hello, 911. What is your emergency?”
    “Is my brother going to hell?”
    “Whoa, you’re asking the wrong person. That’s way above my pay grade.”

  • @TheeMademoiselle
    @TheeMademoiselle 26 днів тому +8

    I did not expect him passing at the end. He really had a lot going on. It’s just really sad. His kids have to live without their father now.

  • @Elizabeth-ot5rz
    @Elizabeth-ot5rz Місяць тому +48

    my second time saying this but you're telelpathic bc i really needed a video to capture my attention rn. thank you so much for all that you do!!

  • @MW-bv3wu
    @MW-bv3wu Місяць тому +17

    I have learned: be humble; be authentic; don't overvalue prosperity - and you'll never be the subject of one of Josie's cautionary tales.

  • @censusgary
    @censusgary Місяць тому +43

    “Toxic positivity” is an inspired description of a certain line of talk. I’ll remember the phrase.

  • @katyinajam
    @katyinajam Місяць тому +22

    I appreciate you calling attention to him and not her. We know about what she did to garner her downfall, but he is another unexpected tragedy.

  • @usagiikay
    @usagiikay Місяць тому +48

    the entitlement is BAFFLING to me, truly

  • @hospitable_ghost
    @hospitable_ghost Місяць тому +34

    "I thought my wife who had been in labor for 50+ hours needed me to literally blast a Trick Daddy song at a 9 out of 10 to help her push"...good to know he was already on the junk because literally no sober person with a functioning frontal lobe would do what he claims he did. Either that or the story is fake and he thought it would make him seem endearing somehow.

  • @jellyrcw12
    @jellyrcw12 Місяць тому +3

    Your videos are always top knotch and you cover stories with unique perspective ❤

  • @TheAmvforliFe
    @TheAmvforliFe Місяць тому +80

    Your timing is always perfect, I had such a long day and feeling a bit down, this really cheered me up, excited for the watch xo

    • @notthegoodgirl
      @notthegoodgirl  Місяць тому +5

      Hope you feel better soon! 🍿

    • @2degucitas
      @2degucitas Місяць тому +2

      ​@@notthegoodgirl Since Illuminaughti imploded you are my go to.

  • @congratulashuns
    @congratulashuns Місяць тому +7

    I love that you set up how he was when she first met him... it speaks to the. "when people show you who they are...believe them"

  • @FLgurl407
    @FLgurl407 Місяць тому +22

    It took me 7 years to get my Masters in Counseling. Party planner to $1900 retreats. Kill me.

    • @MichieYeo
      @MichieYeo Місяць тому +10

      The way they took money from couples while their marriage was falling apart behind the scenes. Vile.

  • @alostkoi
    @alostkoi Місяць тому +68

    I'm not sure, was the book 18 bucks? American dollars? 18 right?

    • @notthegoodgirl
      @notthegoodgirl  Місяць тому +30

      STINKING DOLLARS!

    • @okoala62
      @okoala62 Місяць тому +3

      @@notthegoodgirl😂😂😂

    • @Silverstar257
      @Silverstar257 Місяць тому +2

      This comment is priceless! 😂

    • @weirdhousewivesclub
      @weirdhousewivesclub Місяць тому +1

      Could've missed it if he hadn't repeated it enough! 😂

  • @carolyncasner4806
    @carolyncasner4806 Місяць тому +36

    Imagine your brand is Authenticity and you say you've been faking the entire time 😮

    • @GizelleQuant
      @GizelleQuant 23 дні тому

      No need to worry… after admitting that, they’re going to be honest. For real this time. 😂

    • @christinelaver942
      @christinelaver942 12 днів тому

      95% of influencers are fake.

  • @elisa-beary
    @elisa-beary Місяць тому +7

    It’s like he doesn’t know who he rly is, so he takes on the personality of the people closest to him like those he’s dating.

  • @LawlessDiaries
    @LawlessDiaries Місяць тому +92

    They did a lot of word salads🙄

    • @skunkrat01
      @skunkrat01 Місяць тому +7

      Ain't that the truth!

    • @ellenicoletv4095
      @ellenicoletv4095 Місяць тому +10

      I fast forwarded through theirs and Heidi’s parts 😂😬 I felt my brain cells dying listening to them.

    • @Myartfulmind
      @Myartfulmind Місяць тому

      😂 yeah their "couples talk" was just a bunch of jibberish. Im just surprised but not surprised at the same time they had a HUGE following. 🙃 ​@@ellenicoletv4095

    • @censusgary
      @censusgary Місяць тому +9

      @@LawlessDiaries It’s typical of people trying to convince you they have important things to say despite not knowing what they’re talking about. Remember, they basically entered the therapy business despite having no education in the field and no certifications or licenses.

    • @Rice_peace
      @Rice_peace Місяць тому +1

      I started checking out during the monologue because they didn't make any sense.

  • @AjaVaughn
    @AjaVaughn Місяць тому +17

    Omg I had no idea he died until now!! I’m actually shocked! This is sad. He had everything but clearly his feelings of incompetence was too much for him to bear.

  • @lassoroot
    @lassoroot Місяць тому +44

    Imagine you're four, begging your dad to please make you breakfast & he tells you to GET A LIFE?????

    • @Gwen3344
      @Gwen3344 Місяць тому +4

      @lassoroot Yes, this was painful to watch. At that age, a child understands the themselves and their place within the world by what is or is not happening to them, or for them. What the father did sent a message to the child that her needs don't matter. And by extension, she doesn't matter.

  • @missmoxie9188
    @missmoxie9188 Місяць тому +48

    I’ll never understand how people will charge you thousands of dollars to go to their marriage health seminar and then get divorced
    You were literally charging people thousands of dollars to get answers from you that you didn’t have to begin with

    • @Nothingisreal1737
      @Nothingisreal1737 Місяць тому +1

      Business. Just like people selling exercise programs and they went to the dr

    • @tomorrow4eva
      @tomorrow4eva Місяць тому

      It's why you need to heavily vet any seminars you pay for. This type of person is in every industry.

  • @MP-up8zl
    @MP-up8zl Місяць тому +40

    No one is less qualified to give marriage advice than those who think they are qualified.

  • @C.T.T535
    @C.T.T535 Місяць тому +13

    The irony in all of this is that he was already extremely successful in his original career. It's crazy to see a man go from headlining some of the highest grossing films of all time to spending over an hour ranting about how no one's buying his $18 book. It really demonstrates just how self-defeating the "Self-Help" philosophy can be when pushed too far. This zealous fixation on a positive attitude and improvement for its own sake instead of finding satisfaction in the good or great things he already had going for him...You have to wonder how much easier it would've actually been to improve and address his problems if he hadn't shined a spotlight on himself and his marriage.

  • @ballerman22345
    @ballerman22345 Місяць тому +70

    God these two people are so irritating

    • @Jessicad9304
      @Jessicad9304 Місяць тому +10

      They are sooo cringe and out of touch in their videos 😬😬😬

    • @exboyjr
      @exboyjr Місяць тому +4

      Repulsive …

  • @rainingonyourcharade
    @rainingonyourcharade Місяць тому +23

    I was way too invested in the Hollis debacle. I’ll never forget how utterly shocked I was when he passed. Oddly enough, I still think of him more than I should. I am sure you’ll breach this subject with care and grace always.

    • @francesmcstay
      @francesmcstay Місяць тому

      I can't understand how so many commenters have heard of this guy and his wife. I'm online daily and have never heard of them. Were they an Instagram thing?

    • @rainingonyourcharade
      @rainingonyourcharade Місяць тому

      ⁠@@francesmcstay Hah, the commenters here likely lean toward familiarity with the Hollisverse because, if I recall correctly, Not the Good Girl’s video on Rachel Hollis’s unraveling a few years ago was her first video to really blow up, so a lot of people discovered this channel through that. Unless you were part of the anti-MLM or toxic self-help critique community, you may not have come across them! And yes, I believe she initially blew up on Instagram, but it was their podcasts and her books that really cemented their place in that niche community. If you haven’t seen her first video on Rachel, it’s a good one!

  • @5678efgh3
    @5678efgh3 Місяць тому +30

    Oh dang! A NTGG vid! Whatever else I was about to watch can wait... this is how I'll be spending the evening! Always awesome when you upload!!

  • @5Heliotrope
    @5Heliotrope Місяць тому +36

    Remember "Berger" - the writer/boyfriend Carrie Bradshaw had in SATC...? This is a real life Berger...

    • @ooyo8253
      @ooyo8253 Місяць тому +3

      OMG Yes!

    • @hyur6973
      @hyur6973 Місяць тому +1

      He dumped her on a post it 😅

  • @skimmynyc6165
    @skimmynyc6165 Місяць тому +9

    I didn't know these people but this was fascinating. You somehow captured the sense of immense exhaustion of a life that's entirely monetized- so much so that it gave me slight anxiety watching it

  • @lynseybowe8693
    @lynseybowe8693 Місяць тому +27

    I remember when he passed away. It was definitely a shock!

  • @keithasaur0
    @keithasaur0 Місяць тому +32

    Uploading right before my lunch break??
    Christmas came early💜

  • @frankietower4002
    @frankietower4002 Місяць тому +20

    This is so unexpected, I'm SO excited to see that you covered it!!
    He's not the first, second, third or even fourth, husband of an influencer I've watched sadly end their lives.......

  • @unnamedxx
    @unnamedxx Місяць тому +7

    Dave’s problem is that he was trying to steal Rachel’s audience but failed to realize her audience was majority women. Most women aren’t going to take self help advice from a man. He was never going to get success from that. Jealousy is a hell of a drug.

  • @haleymoses5247
    @haleymoses5247 Місяць тому +12

    Never was a fan of Rachel and Dave Hollis, but it is incredibly sad to watch this. As someone who knows a loved one who struggles with alcoholism, it is devastating how quickly it can go from bad to worse.
    It makes me sad that a lot of influencer couples share so much online....I don't think it helps anyone to build your brand off of over sharing your personal lives.

    • @christinelaver942
      @christinelaver942 12 днів тому

      I agree, some things should remain private. I really dislike family vloggers as well who exploit their children on social media. Influencer lives are 95% fake. I'm not sure why so many people watch their fake content.

  • @AntoinetteChanel
    @AntoinetteChanel Місяць тому +16

    I decided to peruse his Instagram while watching the second half of this. I was struck by how often he seemed to be looking backwards. For example, posts about “three years ago today, I left Disney” “three years ago today, we moved to Texas,” “three years ago today, -insert something nostalgic here-“. I don’t think Dave was ever happy after leaving Disney, and that decision might have been his undoing. I don’t like Dave or Rachel very much, but this documentary explains why Rachel decided to just end things in the manner she did, which I don’t blame her for. She just has no business selling marriage retreats while going through that.